His happiness is so infectious, like i was just crying a second ago because of mold rapidly growing in my kitchen, but now i have a huge dumb smile on my face🥲 thank you Dr Robert and Dr Mike lol💌
I love the fact how Dr. Robert took a pause before answering every question. Guess his mindfulness practice has become so instinctive that he doesn't have to consciously do it anymore. It kinda makes the person who's talking to him feel like he's really paying attention to them. I never knew how amazing it was, until I watched this interview. He also seems so kind and at peace with himself. Another great podcast! ❤
Hmmm wait, is it not completely normal to pause and take a moment to collect your thoughts and formulate a response, before you answer someone’s question ? 😊
@@trilikvlt Yes of course, theoretically! 😊 Most of us do that when we have to 'think' before we have to answer. I have noticed most of us don't pause after a question when we know the answer. Or at least when we assume we know and just answer immediately. In this interview, he pauses almost always, before answering. Even though he is an expert in that subject. I don't mean others don't do it. Sometimes we assume a long pause would be awkward and rush to answer as soon as we know it. His pause seems like he's imagining his answer in his head before he speaks it. That takes a tremendous amount of patience and practice. Again, I don't mean to assume that's what he does. What I mean is the amount of time in his pause. Hope that clears my comment!
I really appreciated the discussion on the over-prescribing of medications. I’m actually a pharmacy technician, and this is something we deal with everyday. As someone who works with medicine, I truly think it can be very beneficial, and we are lucky in the sense that we have access to other alternatives from previous centuries. With that being said, as a patient, I tend to feel invalidated when I’m rushed through an appointment, and given medication as a quick fix for mental and physical issues. I don’t think the provider is at fault because most are passionate about their patients well-being and want to see them thrive. I also think some patients do expect medications to be written and are “let down” when they are told it’s a virus and they won’t necessarily benefit from antibiotic use. It’s a very complex subject that needs to be discussed more to reach the highest potential of patient/provider satisfaction. I enjoyed the video and both insights!
(This is going to be very long) Oooh yes, this is, to me, a big issue…. Actually, when mentioning that issue, I first think of psychiatric medication, aka psychoactive drugs profoundly affecting the brain chemistry… It scares me when I see troubled adolescents too frequently beings prescribed antidepressants or benzodiazepines, often without adequate education on the significance of a treatment with such substances and its implications, and too easily, with some doctors, for example, simply writing a prescription for Prozac when they see a teen in distress. That is horrifying. When did we begin to see psychiatric medication as something benign, and not as an absolute last resort ? When did making very young individuals dependent on mood-regulating psychoactive become normalized, instead of monitoring them and prioritizing healthy regulatory and coping skills - which teens obviously do not have and it is completely normal at that stage…? Their own brain chemistry is blamed, as if it had an imbalance that needs to be adressed with drugs. I say, and to me it is extremely obvious (as well as alarming seeing how unrecognized it is), most of those teens are dealing with difficult things associated with growing up - especially in our extremely, unnaturally fast-paced world - and many have very real stressors like family/relationship/health issues, fear of growing up and increasing expectations/responsibilities places on them. Humans are highly adaptable to many situations, but we’re not robots - we’re vulnerable living beings - something many feel uncomfortable to admit, or worse, are kind of in denial about. It is not abnormal to struggle and not be able to cope with everything that life throws at you at all times. Even periods of extreme suffering is a part of the human experience. It doesn’t mean nothing should be done about them, of course, but when do we start actually looking at life situations and how a person perceives them and is impacted by those (because that is also obviously individual) ?? It is so incredibly sad that we have begun to drug people to induce adaptation to often standardized situations, because systems can’t be adapted to every individual that suffers from their functioning. I increasingly believe that there are indeed too many people on this planet for things to work out appropriately for most…. PS: Many people, when they experience even greater issues upon beginning an antidepressant or antipsychotic medication, think they simply have to find the right one… What if such treatments weren’t actually necessary/appropriate for many at all ? Prescription of such substances should be seen as en extremely serious issue, and unfortunately some doctors (which is already too much, since this impacts a huge amount of people’s lives) do not view it that way. I remember how a psychiatrist tried to push antidepressants on me at 15 y.o, when I wanted to d!e every morning that I had school. I’m on the autism spectrum and the inhumane school system has affected me a lot. I’m normal and valid in the way I am, just different from the expected mold, and I truly got trauma from its functioning and the daily small injustices that I couldn’t take, on top of bullying. Crazy how the system is viewed as “right”, while it’s an artificial constriction, so it’s the individuals to whom it is not suitable, that are deemed “abnormal”. What a sad society…. Sorry for this very long rant, I’m naturally (extremely) long-winded and this video brought on many thoughts. If anyone cared enough to read it all, or even just a part (though they wouldn’t see this final sentence if it’s the case haha), wow thank you. I know this is very, very long haha
Might be a bit random but i work as Historian here in Munich for the IFZ in Germany and work a lot with Family Names originating here, especially around the Alps. And recently i just happened to look into "Waldinger" which is a Austrian Family Name originating near the Voralberg (Famous Mountain) and to be specific in the Town of "Andelsbuch". The Meaning of the Name basically means that the Family the Name originates from was taking Care of the nearby Forests (Wald = Forest), checking Wildlife, fighting Poachers etc. So if Dr Robert Waldinger ever wants to visit the Town his Family originates from in the early 1600s, the Voralberg Area is beautiful and a popular Tourist Spot, especially for Americans. Prost & Cheers from Munich and keep up the Good Work
Those comments about social media really resonate with me because I have been on both sides. I have been in a place where I felt really less than because other people had all these beautiful pictures of their families and their lives seem so great on social media. But then I started changing how I used it and I started commenting on those posts from family members that looked so perfect and actually engaging with them. It enhanced my friendships with those people and I've learned about of course their lives aren't perfect. I've gotten a lot of joy out of interacting with my friends who have kids and just celebrating each other's families. Some of them still post the very beautiful pictures because they are great photographer, and I am not, but my jealousy is gone.
I am studying transpersonal psychology and firmly believe in holistic health and the mind, body, and spirit connection. So hearing Waldinger talk about his Zen practice was a breath of fresh air. I am also currently learning about adverse childhood experiences, and his idea of focusing care on infants and children and educating parents is something I would advocate for as well, if anything in the healthcare field could be changed. Thank you for bringing important conversations like these to social media and asking questions that really can make a difference in people's lives.
As Buddhist born and raised, I strongly believe in the impermanence and interconnection/interdependence. I am so glad the topic on “happiness” was related to Buddhism. I also believe in the prevention as Dr Robert mentioned, starting with early age. At the end it all comes down to our mind play, if we can learn to discipline that from young age, anything is possible and is definitely a biggest investment. Although momentary happiness is inevitable because of impermanence nature of life! Enjoyed this conversation.
I thoroughly enjoyed this whole conversation. I feel like Dr. Mike really thrives in conversations with these academic types. Idk if it’s because of his medical background or personality type, but these convos just hit different. He asks follow up questions I wouldn’t think of that end up being valuable information from his guests. As always, great work!
I've absolutely enjoyed more academically leaning checkup episodes, like this one, with Dr Matthew Walker and scientists vs doctors! I hope you keep up with these as well, Dr Mike! ❤️
That's PTSD. Post Traumatic Growth isn't just a moment, a couple of reels, giving facts about my heat condition. It's a journey. Thanks for teaching me that, Dr. Mike. This is another podcast that I needed.
This guy seems really impressed by Dr Mike. And Dr Mike was killing it, not just doctor stuff but therapy and social issues he sounded so so knowledgeable. I know he is, but he shined here I felt.
You always ask such good questions… You find the answers that everyone wants/needs to know. Such an amazing scientist,doctor, and human being we are lucky to have you in these difficult times ❤️🙏
I'm only 12 minutes in but I gotta say thank you for this episode. In general the guests you bring into your conversations are wonderful and insightful. I just had a long hard day at work and i thought man, do i have the capacity to listen to this? And then I just tried and both of you have such calm voices and such a genuine dialog that makes it really easy to listen
34:00 I love this, I worked at a store that used to push that as long as you did all the right stuff, you'd be happy at work. And I really struggled to understand later that it's okay to be sad, it's okay to feel other things besides happiness, besides contentness. And that's a concept I think a lot of people struggle to grasp.
Most happiness/unhappiness is correlated to relationships with others and/or ourselves. Building a community of people around us who reflect positivity will inevitably create happiness within us. Feeling like we have a purpose also seems to build happiness. I absolutely agree with Waldinger on this. I love listening to your conversations with others in your show. Thank you, Doctor Mike! :0~
I started watching your video in 2023 itself around April but I'll be honest, finding a person like you making so many knowledgeable videos on a regular basis and they are so much fun to watch.. Hatsoff to you Dr. Mike. Sending lot of positive energy to you and bear ❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much for this interview. An 85 year long study is simply wonderful, and you unpacked a lot about relationships, coping, and the existential crisis that many young people are having.
Feels like I could listen to this conversation forever and ever 😄❤ Both of you are so pleasant to listen to and you have so much valuable input, that time simply melts away 🥰
I agree with most of this. I don't like to think in terms of "happiness." Instead, I like to think in terms of "contentment." I can be "content" when I am more happy than sad the majority of the time. That's all I really ask in life and I think it is fairly easy to recognize when I'm happy and unhappy and keep track of it. If I get to the point of feeling more sadness than happiness (which I'd call "discontent"), then I need to look for ways to relieve and reduce whatever is causing my unhappiness. That includes getting out of whatever situations are adding to my discontent. That might mean getting some kind of therapy or that may mean just rearranging my priorities and cutting things that are making me miserable out of my life.
32:25 I actually found that when speaking with a psychologist I was able to be more vulnerable when only speaking on the phone compared to our zoom calls. Not having someone look at me or have to read their face and input my own ideas of what they were thinking meant I was able to focus better and be freer to speak more truthfully. I’m autistic so it might have been specifically due to that.
When I went to high school (eons ago it feels like), they randomly started making us to mediation sessions. They had us just lie in a quiet room and listen to an audio meditation. I absolutely loved it. Even the most wild kids in the class wanted to do this. We kept asking for it and we'd be allowed to take some time at the end of class to do it. It was a quiet 30 minutes give or take that we could just rest and find some peace in an otherwise over crowded school with busy schedules. I tried to find that audio years later but never could so I found other resources as things started getting more popular and it honestly helps me so much when my mind is racing out of control. Had they not forced this on me this in high school, I don't know if I would have ever bought into it.
I love all the effort you put into your content Mike. Thank you for taking your time and energy into these videos. I’ve enjoyed watching them. You are so engaging and I’m learning many things. Keep at it! Peewoop!
As for someone who only has something to do with the medicine as a patent, this podcast is a huge value added for the general society!! Absolute gem - thank you so much, Dr. Waldinger & Dr Mike
When I was in college, a state school, I went to the psychologist and we would talk a lot, I asked about medication and seeing a psychiatrist and he told me that he didn’t think I needed medication but referred me anyways. He gave me some papers about mindfulness. I hope he’s doing well ❤
21:55 "By the fact of observing people, we are changing them" That has a name in sociology: it's the Hawthorne effect (more specifically, it's when people behave differently because they know they are being watched). The original Hawthorne study looked at changing the amount of light at the Hawthorne Works and its impact on working practices. The increased attention focussed on the workers as part of the study led to temporary increases in production (the Hawthorne effect), as opposed to changes in working practices.
I really enjoyed the podcast. When he mentioned the part about meditation it reminded me about the time I once did a meditation class with 3 little kids about 2yrs ago. It was going well until one of the kids started getting rowdy, before I could say anything the other kid (who was 4yrs old ) said can you please be quiet I'm trying to meditate. I was so happy in that moment . 😊
Great video, the guest speaker provided great informational tips for self-happiness. In my opinion, happiness isn't about money, nor owning fancy things. Happiness is about, accepting yourself for you and being true to yourself. Including living your best life possible and seeing where your journey takes you, in life. 😀
Thank you for giving us your definition. Everyone has their own. The definition of happiness can change over a lifetime as we grow and evolve. I think that’s okay.
You can sense how calm he is as an individual in his voice/speech, clearly, the Zen thing is working! Also, great questions. You should've included questions about increase in people's use of brown/white noise, gratitude, affirmations etc these days and what he thinks about them. Also, I wish (selfishly) there were more questions on war-PTSD because I'm researching to talk about it and his viewpoints would help, but anyway, nice job. Efforts put in, showed.
Omg..*thank you*!! I am an Infant Development Consultant in BC, Canada. We keep being under-funded. Such a powerful message about the value of early intervention!
I’m very interested in the medical field and I really want to work in that field. Right now, Doctor Mikes videos are helping me get familiar with medical terms and stuff. I’m interested in being an ultrasound technician.
I can relate to all of these thoughts about social media lately. Dr.Robert rightly said how those content others' posts/comments, when unprincipled create stress and disturbance to the observer who has high values. Even though you are on your right conscience, you're rather not able to act on it and this feeling produces a sense of helplessness. It makes you believe, humanity is diminishing. But, we have to be constantly reminded that social media is not the exact sample of actual people in real life and their actions. Since, "online" is becoming the new world, I personally feel the legal aspects have to be tailored to incorporate the new-age violations. And to calm down my mind mainly from reading and seeing others' thoughts, I have to find a way. I plan on giving meditation a try👍 Thanks for this wonderful session.
This was one of the most fascinating talks on the podcast so far. I've been really loving the experts conversation, I end up learning so much from them.
I absolutely love your topic tonight.just watched a snippet and looking forward watching it later..thanks in taking the time for always wanting to give us the best in content🤗
1. Love your videos. They are literally one of the best things I've encountered in a while. I can't express how much I appreciate your work. Love you and your work!! ❤❤ 2. I know you must be real busy and caught up in work plus have something else planned for the next video. But could you please make a separate video on the new emerging weight loss tablets ( all the three types ) and their effectiveness whenever possible. I know it's completely random but if you could.
Mike, Having Robert on your show was so interesting to watch and listen to. He has completely mastered zen. What a wonderful soul. ☺️ Omg could you imagine if men could be pregnant....... Our world would definitely change. I'm very impressed with your "if looks could kill" face, you have mastered it. Bravo. ❤️ Lilly
This was a much more in your head conversation but I really appreciated the dialogue that went on between the two of you. Thank you for doing this video
I've been doing the same kind of meditation for about 5 years, and everything he says is true. You're not good at it, but it's not about that. It's about reminding yourself to stay present in the moment. It has absolutely changed my life for the better. It changes how you look at the world. Headspace is where I started and I still use it. I have taught my children meditation techniques, and have noticed a huge improvement in their attitudes and how they handle stress and anxiety. I agree, everyone should be doing this. Just try.
52:10 when talking about overprescription of medication, that reminded of an interaction I had with my primary care physician. On my list of health topics I brought up to him, my sleeping issues were among them. He recommended that I see a therapist to ascertain if any part of my sleep troubles is attributable to depression or anxiety. The next time we talked he just about ready to prescribe me some antidepressants. While it’s nice that he’d be ready to do so, I hadn’t reached a point at which I felt I could say with certainty that my sleep issues had some degree of relation to depression, and my therapist hasn’t made any suggestion like that either.
Such a great guest!😁I loved this conversation so much! I love all of the positive energy and so many interesting stats.🥰Dr. Mike keep on doing what you do. Sending good vibes and zen thoughts your way❤️
There is soo many levels of perfection in this video. I love it and I appreciate it. Many moments of just Golden quotes that highlight the truth of human nature and society and the medical system. Thank you for this beautiful interview. More please. 😊❤
I've loved this episode. I appreciate the mention of polyamory. I can hear your skepticism, Dr. Mike, and i would highly recommend you talk to people in healthy polyam relationships. For some people, it's about the sexual experiences, but for others, it absolutely includes those people you can call in the middle of the night. I find it a great comfort that if one of my partners doesn't wake up to my call, i have someone else i can reach out to. My life has been healthier and happier since building my polyam family. It isn't a relationship style that suits everyone, for sure, but for some it's a great option.
the part about subjects having their lives changed by the study just because they knew someone would be checking in on their progress and asking them what they've been doing for their well-being--that's exactly why talk therapy has helped me so much. and why i think it works so much for so many of my friends. i say that i have "teacher's pet syndrome" in that i loved school, and although i tended to hand things in late (lol), i've always done well with assignments. in adulthood, not having benchmarks, check-ins and upkeep re: mental health and well-being has been really hard for me. and knowing that i'll have to "report" to my therapist on what tools i've tried can be really motivating for me, which seems so simple but so effective. nothing really to add to all the eloquently spoken things in here, just thought it was cool to hear that idea shown in the study. thanks for everything in this, i'll definitely be taking a lot of this with me! this episode came to me at a time that i really needed it. both of you are so well-spoken and empathetic, plus just generally have nice voices to listen to!
Hey Dr. Mike! I love your videos! I’ve learned so much from your channel and you’ve saved so many lives! Thank you for being the best doctor in the world!!❤❤
I really appreciate your handling of polyamory. As someone who is, I've also noticed the same thing. People seem less willing to form close connections and dedicate the time required to relationships. So even among people who are polyamorous, a lot of us are experiencing that negative shift too. I hear it from my monogamous friends too. If anything that lack of commitment shows up in more immediately difficult ways in polyamory than in monogamy in my experience. So It's not a polyamory issue, it's a connection issue. It's painful and I wish we could figure out how to create spaces where genuine connection is possible regardless of preferred relationship style.
I'm no doctor (prob because I'm 12) but I went to medical detective class, and what he says is true (smacks table) so so true and inspirational to me and probably to all of these people that love this guy (and you). Plus my dad is trying to stop smoking cigarettes so this also helps, Thanks, BEE WOOP
Im sad these videos are getting 10% if views as “TOP 10 if…” dopamine filled videos. These are so much deeper and informative. A totally new side of Dr.Mike
This was fascinating; thank you! High quality content can be entertaining. Regarding COVID... it was not a negative thing for me; it was the opposite. It gave me the perfect 'excuse' for isolating (not doing the things that I didn't want to do anyways); my finances were not affected at all (I got to set my own work schedule re: working at home vs. office); no one close to me died (or was even seriously ill), my grandchildren's quality of life improved via government issued benefits. This was a time for me during which I discovered the on line personalities that remain my favorites. 😉
Doctor Mike is the one who always have proofs to everything and be ready to knock down BS with fruitful facts. i really like this about him...love ya❤❤❤
He was wrong on every level concerning the j a b. Peer reviewed studies now show it causes heart attacks, auto immune disease and encourages cancer growth. He will be wrong next time when it matters as well. You should watch the h I g h w I r e.
This was so interesting, a bit more serious/scientific then your regular pod interviews/videos but a really captivating conversation - please do more like this
Happiness is temporary, this I know to be true. When I'm happy I try to enjoy every minute because it won't last. And it reminds me when I'm sad that sadness doesn't last either.😊
As someone with ADD I disagree at least on social media about there being a skew. There seems to be a lot more ND people and people with chronic health problems because they can not keep a normal work schedule and so this is an option that they can make work.
I am loving these podcasts and can't wait to listen to this one on my long drive tomorrow! Could you please interview Nikko Ortiz and Micarah Tewers (if they want to)? It would be great as they are also some of my favourite youtubers!
Thank you for the interesting video Dr. Mike. and Dr. Robert Waldinger! I'm happy to see a conversation between two kind scientist that has supporting data and a lot of thought to create richer lives.
I think happiness is very interesting... I used to want to find happiness, but I was exhausted... Later, I realized and realized that happiness is, when you experience After you don't want, have experienced pain, and stick to your beliefs, the opportunities around you will lead you to happiness. It's true, I have experienced many low tides, but I always believe that as long as I work hard and have kind thoughts, God will lead you to the right place, and at that time, will feel "happiness"
"I felt that no one would take me seriously," I feel this. I can't be honest with people about wanting to be a DO like Dr. Mike, because people think I want to learn snake oil magic. It is so sad how much our society judges without having understanding and compassion. How do we change our field and the way they view mind and body being one?
You can see how genuinely happy he is just by looking at him❤️
His happiness is so infectious, like i was just crying a second ago because of mold rapidly growing in my kitchen, but now i have a huge dumb smile on my face🥲 thank you Dr Robert and Dr Mike lol💌
Doesn't seem very scientific based, but nice observation
@@thekumamedia uhm thanks,!
Honestly, the guy is glowing
@大胖豬 huh
I love the fact how Dr. Robert took a pause before answering every question. Guess his mindfulness practice has become so instinctive that he doesn't have to consciously do it anymore. It kinda makes the person who's talking to him feel like he's really paying attention to them. I never knew how amazing it was, until I watched this interview. He also seems so kind and at peace with himself.
Another great podcast! ❤
Soo true
Hmmm wait, is it not completely normal to pause and take a moment to collect your thoughts and formulate a response, before you answer someone’s question ? 😊
@@trilikvlt Yes of course, theoretically! 😊 Most of us do that when we have to 'think' before we have to answer. I have noticed most of us don't pause after a question when we know the answer. Or at least when we assume we know and just answer immediately. In this interview, he pauses almost always, before answering. Even though he is an expert in that subject.
I don't mean others don't do it. Sometimes we assume a long pause would be awkward and rush to answer as soon as we know it. His pause seems like he's imagining his answer in his head before he speaks it. That takes a tremendous amount of patience and practice. Again, I don't mean to assume that's what he does. What I mean is the amount of time in his pause. Hope that clears my comment!
Two highly intelligent people having an enlightening conversation, it is a joy to watch.
I love how this guy makes Dr. Mike smile, just by him smiling...so cool. His happiness is almost contagious...❤
Exactly
I really appreciated the discussion on the over-prescribing of medications. I’m actually a pharmacy technician, and this is something we deal with everyday. As someone who works with medicine, I truly think it can be very beneficial, and we are lucky in the sense that we have access to other alternatives from previous centuries. With that being said, as a patient, I tend to feel invalidated when I’m rushed through an appointment, and given medication as a quick fix for mental and physical issues. I don’t think the provider is at fault because most are passionate about their patients well-being and want to see them thrive. I also think some patients do expect medications to be written and are “let down” when they are told it’s a virus and they won’t necessarily benefit from antibiotic use. It’s a very complex subject that needs to be discussed more to reach the highest potential of patient/provider satisfaction. I enjoyed the video and both insights!
(This is going to be very long) Oooh yes, this is, to me, a big issue…. Actually, when mentioning that issue, I first think of psychiatric medication, aka psychoactive drugs profoundly affecting the brain chemistry…
It scares me when I see troubled adolescents too frequently beings prescribed antidepressants or benzodiazepines, often without adequate education on the significance of a treatment with such substances and its implications, and too easily, with some doctors, for example, simply writing a prescription for Prozac when they see a teen in distress. That is horrifying.
When did we begin to see psychiatric medication as something benign, and not as an absolute last resort ? When did making very young individuals dependent on mood-regulating psychoactive become normalized, instead of monitoring them and prioritizing healthy regulatory and coping skills - which teens obviously do not have and it is completely normal at that stage…?
Their own brain chemistry is blamed, as if it had an imbalance that needs to be adressed with drugs.
I say, and to me it is extremely obvious (as well as alarming seeing how unrecognized it is), most of those teens are dealing with difficult things associated with growing up - especially in our extremely, unnaturally fast-paced world - and many have very real stressors like family/relationship/health issues, fear of growing up and increasing expectations/responsibilities places on them.
Humans are highly adaptable to many situations, but we’re not robots - we’re vulnerable living beings - something many feel uncomfortable to admit, or worse, are kind of in denial about.
It is not abnormal to struggle and not be able to cope with everything that life throws at you at all times. Even periods of extreme suffering is a part of the human experience.
It doesn’t mean nothing should be done about them, of course, but when do we start actually looking at life situations and how a person perceives them and is impacted by those (because that is also obviously individual) ??
It is so incredibly sad that we have begun to drug people to induce adaptation to often standardized situations, because systems can’t be adapted to every individual that suffers from their functioning.
I increasingly believe that there are indeed too many people on this planet for things to work out appropriately for most….
PS: Many people, when they experience even greater issues upon beginning an antidepressant or antipsychotic medication, think they simply have to find the right one… What if such treatments weren’t actually necessary/appropriate for many at all ?
Prescription of such substances should be seen as en extremely serious issue, and unfortunately some doctors (which is already too much, since this impacts a huge amount of people’s lives) do not view it that way.
I remember how a psychiatrist tried to push antidepressants on me at 15 y.o, when I wanted to d!e every morning that I had school. I’m on the autism spectrum and the inhumane school system has affected me a lot. I’m normal and valid in the way I am, just different from the expected mold, and I truly got trauma from its functioning and the daily small injustices that I couldn’t take, on top of bullying.
Crazy how the system is viewed as “right”, while it’s an artificial constriction, so it’s the individuals to whom it is not suitable, that are deemed “abnormal”. What a sad society….
Sorry for this very long rant, I’m naturally (extremely) long-winded and this video brought on many thoughts.
If anyone cared enough to read it all, or even just a part (though they wouldn’t see this final sentence if it’s the case haha), wow thank you. I know this is very, very long haha
Might be a bit random but i work as Historian here in Munich for the IFZ in Germany and work a lot with Family Names originating here, especially around the Alps.
And recently i just happened to look into "Waldinger" which is a Austrian Family Name originating near the Voralberg (Famous Mountain) and to be specific in the Town of "Andelsbuch".
The Meaning of the Name basically means that the Family the Name originates from was taking Care of the nearby Forests (Wald = Forest), checking Wildlife, fighting Poachers etc.
So if Dr Robert Waldinger ever wants to visit the Town his Family originates from in the early 1600s, the Voralberg Area is beautiful and a popular Tourist Spot, especially for Americans.
Prost & Cheers from Munich and keep up the Good Work
So kind of you to offer this information to him!
My maiden name is Mohr.
Those comments about social media really resonate with me because I have been on both sides. I have been in a place where I felt really less than because other people had all these beautiful pictures of their families and their lives seem so great on social media. But then I started changing how I used it and I started commenting on those posts from family members that looked so perfect and actually engaging with them. It enhanced my friendships with those people and I've learned about of course their lives aren't perfect. I've gotten a lot of joy out of interacting with my friends who have kids and just celebrating each other's families. Some of them still post the very beautiful pictures because they are great photographer, and I am not, but my jealousy is gone.
I am studying transpersonal psychology and firmly believe in holistic health and the mind, body, and spirit connection. So hearing Waldinger talk about his Zen practice was a breath of fresh air. I am also currently learning about adverse childhood experiences, and his idea of focusing care on infants and children and educating parents is something I would advocate for as well, if anything in the healthcare field could be changed. Thank you for bringing important conversations like these to social media and asking questions that really can make a difference in people's lives.
Hey Mike, please do more of these interviews. As a researcher myself, I find them very intriguing on a personal and professional level!
Right? I’m glad I’m not the only one!
“If men got pregnant, a lot of things would change In healthcare as well” the realest thing I’ve ever heard
"I'm so unfamiliar with social media" That's why he's so happy lmao.
With every one of these I watch, I’m more and more impressed at Dr. Mike’s intelligence and articulation. Such a dynamic conversation!
As Buddhist born and raised, I strongly believe in the impermanence and interconnection/interdependence. I am so glad the topic on “happiness” was related to Buddhism. I also believe in the prevention as Dr Robert mentioned, starting with early age. At the end it all comes down to our mind play, if we can learn to discipline that from young age, anything is possible and is definitely a biggest investment. Although momentary happiness is inevitable because of impermanence nature of life! Enjoyed this conversation.
As a childhood educator I'm so thankful that Dr Waldinger emphasized the importance of early childhood relationships and work!
I thoroughly enjoyed this whole conversation. I feel like Dr. Mike really thrives in conversations with these academic types. Idk if it’s because of his medical background or personality type, but these convos just hit different. He asks follow up questions I wouldn’t think of that end up being valuable information from his guests. As always, great work!
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Thank you. As a mother of two under 4, this validates what has been on my mind and heart recently.
I've absolutely enjoyed more academically leaning checkup episodes, like this one, with Dr Matthew Walker and scientists vs doctors! I hope you keep up with these as well, Dr Mike! ❤️
That's PTSD. Post Traumatic Growth isn't just a moment, a couple of reels, giving facts about my heat condition. It's a journey. Thanks for teaching me that, Dr. Mike. This is another podcast that I needed.
Your heat condition?
@@suzanneemerson2625 Yeah. I'm extremely sensitive to the heat.
This guy seems really impressed by Dr Mike. And Dr Mike was killing it, not just doctor stuff but therapy and social issues he sounded so so knowledgeable. I know he is, but he shined here I felt.
You always ask such good questions… You find the answers that everyone wants/needs to know. Such an amazing scientist,doctor, and human being we are lucky to have you in these difficult times ❤️🙏
We appreciate Dr Mike's consistency and dedication. God bless him.
I'm only 12 minutes in but I gotta say thank you for this episode. In general the guests you bring into your conversations are wonderful and insightful. I just had a long hard day at work and i thought man, do i have the capacity to listen to this? And then I just tried and both of you have such calm voices and such a genuine dialog that makes it really easy to listen
34:00 I love this, I worked at a store that used to push that as long as you did all the right stuff, you'd be happy at work. And I really struggled to understand later that it's okay to be sad, it's okay to feel other things besides happiness, besides contentness. And that's a concept I think a lot of people struggle to grasp.
Most happiness/unhappiness is correlated to relationships with others and/or ourselves. Building a community of people around us who reflect positivity will inevitably create happiness within us. Feeling like we have a purpose also seems to build happiness. I absolutely agree with Waldinger on this. I love listening to your conversations with others in your show. Thank you, Doctor Mike! :0~
Dr. Robert has the most peaceful and calming voice i've ever heard, i've never heard a voice like that.
I started watching your video in 2023 itself around April but I'll be honest, finding a person like you making so many knowledgeable videos on a regular basis and they are so much fun to watch.. Hatsoff to you Dr. Mike. Sending lot of positive energy to you and bear ❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much for this interview. An 85 year long study is simply wonderful, and you unpacked a lot about relationships, coping, and the existential crisis that many young people are having.
Feels like I could listen to this conversation forever and ever 😄❤ Both of you are so pleasant to listen to and you have so much valuable input, that time simply melts away 🥰
I love this study, and his Ted Talk, I've watched it like once a year since it came out!!
It's the reason I started my healing journey. 💜
I agree with most of this. I don't like to think in terms of "happiness." Instead, I like to think in terms of "contentment." I can be "content" when I am more happy than sad the majority of the time. That's all I really ask in life and I think it is fairly easy to recognize when I'm happy and unhappy and keep track of it.
If I get to the point of feeling more sadness than happiness (which I'd call "discontent"), then I need to look for ways to relieve and reduce whatever is causing my unhappiness. That includes getting out of whatever situations are adding to my discontent. That might mean getting some kind of therapy or that may mean just rearranging my priorities and cutting things that are making me miserable out of my life.
Exactly!
Very very well said! 😊
32:25 I actually found that when speaking with a psychologist I was able to be more vulnerable when only speaking on the phone compared to our zoom calls. Not having someone look at me or have to read their face and input my own ideas of what they were thinking meant I was able to focus better and be freer to speak more truthfully. I’m autistic so it might have been specifically due to that.
When I went to high school (eons ago it feels like), they randomly started making us to mediation sessions. They had us just lie in a quiet room and listen to an audio meditation. I absolutely loved it. Even the most wild kids in the class wanted to do this. We kept asking for it and we'd be allowed to take some time at the end of class to do it. It was a quiet 30 minutes give or take that we could just rest and find some peace in an otherwise over crowded school with busy schedules. I tried to find that audio years later but never could so I found other resources as things started getting more popular and it honestly helps me so much when my mind is racing out of control. Had they not forced this on me this in high school, I don't know if I would have ever bought into it.
This was one of your best videos yet. Entertaining, thought-provoking, and extremely informative. Thanks for this.
How did I miss this awesome episode?? This was beautiful!
I love it, a simple conversation between two doctors, nothing hard to keep up with, and also very informative.
I love all the effort you put into your content Mike. Thank you for taking your time and energy into these videos. I’ve enjoyed watching them. You are so engaging and I’m learning many things. Keep at it! Peewoop!
As for someone who only has something to do with the medicine as a patent, this podcast is a huge value added for the general society!! Absolute gem - thank you so much, Dr. Waldinger & Dr Mike
When I was in college, a state school, I went to the psychologist and we would talk a lot, I asked about medication and seeing a psychiatrist and he told me that he didn’t think I needed medication but referred me anyways. He gave me some papers about mindfulness. I hope he’s doing well ❤
21:55 "By the fact of observing people, we are changing them" That has a name in sociology: it's the Hawthorne effect (more specifically, it's when people behave differently because they know they are being watched). The original Hawthorne study looked at changing the amount of light at the Hawthorne Works and its impact on working practices. The increased attention focussed on the workers as part of the study led to temporary increases in production (the Hawthorne effect), as opposed to changes in working practices.
This is my favorite episode so far. I just smiled hearing and watching him talk!
I really enjoyed the podcast. When he mentioned the part about meditation it reminded me about the time I once did a meditation class with 3 little kids about 2yrs ago. It was going well until one of the kids started getting rowdy, before I could say anything the other kid (who was 4yrs old ) said can you please be quiet I'm trying to meditate. I was so happy in that moment . 😊
Great video, the guest speaker provided great informational tips for self-happiness. In my opinion, happiness isn't about money, nor owning fancy things. Happiness is about, accepting yourself for you and being true to yourself. Including living your best life possible and seeing where your journey takes you, in life. 😀
Thank you for giving us your definition. Everyone has their own. The definition of happiness can change over a lifetime as we grow and evolve. I think that’s okay.
I could listen to this guy forever, his voice is so soothing!
You can sense how calm he is as an individual in his voice/speech, clearly, the Zen thing is working! Also, great questions. You should've included questions about increase in people's use of brown/white noise, gratitude, affirmations etc these days and what he thinks about them. Also, I wish (selfishly) there were more questions on war-PTSD because I'm researching to talk about it and his viewpoints would help, but anyway, nice job. Efforts put in, showed.
Omg..*thank you*!! I am an Infant Development Consultant in BC, Canada. We keep being under-funded. Such a powerful message about the value of early intervention!
I’m very interested in the medical field and I really want to work in that field. Right now, Doctor Mikes videos are helping me get familiar with medical terms and stuff. I’m interested in being an ultrasound technician.
I also want to be an ultrasound technician. I think a lot of this stuff is intriguing. Dr Mike is awesome for this content
I can relate to all of these thoughts about social media lately. Dr.Robert rightly said how those content others' posts/comments, when unprincipled create stress and disturbance to the observer who has high values. Even though you are on your right conscience, you're rather not able to act on it and this feeling produces a sense of helplessness. It makes you believe, humanity is diminishing. But, we have to be constantly reminded that social media is not the exact sample of actual people in real life and their actions.
Since, "online" is becoming the new world, I personally feel the legal aspects have to be tailored to incorporate the new-age violations.
And to calm down my mind mainly from reading and seeing others' thoughts, I have to find a way. I plan on giving meditation a try👍
Thanks for this wonderful session.
This was my favorite interview yet. I've never met this man, but he made my whole day. This was a great conversation all the way around.
"And even recently I had Deepak Chopra sitting in the chair where you're sitting. " (42:36) did he post the interview? i would love to see this
Dr Waldinger has such an infectious smile!! What a lovely person😊
I love his final answer! It starts with the children.
This was one of the most fascinating talks on the podcast so far. I've been really loving the experts conversation, I end up learning so much from them.
I absolutely love your topic tonight.just watched a snippet and looking forward watching it later..thanks in taking the time for always wanting to give us the best in content🤗
The best podcast dr Mike has ever done . Balanced and admitting where he falls short . Well done
1. Love your videos. They are literally one of the best things I've encountered in a while. I can't express how much I appreciate your work. Love you and your work!! ❤❤
2. I know you must be real busy and caught up in work plus have something else planned for the next video. But could you please make a separate video on the new emerging weight loss tablets ( all the three types ) and their effectiveness whenever possible. I know it's completely random but if you could.
Mike,
Having Robert on your show was so interesting to watch and listen to. He has completely mastered zen. What a wonderful soul. ☺️ Omg could you imagine if men could be pregnant....... Our world would definitely change. I'm very impressed with your "if looks could kill" face, you have mastered it. Bravo.
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Lilly
This was a much more in your head conversation but I really appreciated the dialogue that went on between the two of you. Thank you for doing this video
True happiness sometimes come and go but we have to make sure that hold and feel the happiest feel when it comes to us and enjoy the moment
I've been doing the same kind of meditation for about 5 years, and everything he says is true. You're not good at it, but it's not about that. It's about reminding yourself to stay present in the moment. It has absolutely changed my life for the better. It changes how you look at the world. Headspace is where I started and I still use it. I have taught my children meditation techniques, and have noticed a huge improvement in their attitudes and how they handle stress and anxiety. I agree, everyone should be doing this. Just try.
Thank you soooooo much Dr.Mike for making video on this beautiful topic 😊😊
I see happiness as not feeling bad, so for me it's not an accident to be happy and in theory it can be constant.
52:10 when talking about overprescription of medication, that reminded of an interaction I had with my primary care physician.
On my list of health topics I brought up to him, my sleeping issues were among them. He recommended that I see a therapist to ascertain if any part of my sleep troubles is attributable to depression or anxiety.
The next time we talked he just about ready to prescribe me some antidepressants. While it’s nice that he’d be ready to do so, I hadn’t reached a point at which I felt I could say with certainty that my sleep issues had some degree of relation to depression, and my therapist hasn’t made any suggestion like that either.
Such a great guest!😁I loved this conversation so much! I love all of the positive energy and so many interesting stats.🥰Dr. Mike keep on doing what you do. Sending good vibes and zen thoughts your way❤️
There is soo many levels of perfection in this video. I love it and I appreciate it. Many moments of just Golden quotes that highlight the truth of human nature and society and the medical system. Thank you for this beautiful interview. More please. 😊❤
I've loved this episode. I appreciate the mention of polyamory. I can hear your skepticism, Dr. Mike, and i would highly recommend you talk to people in healthy polyam relationships. For some people, it's about the sexual experiences, but for others, it absolutely includes those people you can call in the middle of the night. I find it a great comfort that if one of my partners doesn't wake up to my call, i have someone else i can reach out to. My life has been healthier and happier since building my polyam family. It isn't a relationship style that suits everyone, for sure, but for some it's a great option.
the part about subjects having their lives changed by the study just because they knew someone would be checking in on their progress and asking them what they've been doing for their well-being--that's exactly why talk therapy has helped me so much. and why i think it works so much for so many of my friends. i say that i have "teacher's pet syndrome" in that i loved school, and although i tended to hand things in late (lol), i've always done well with assignments. in adulthood, not having benchmarks, check-ins and upkeep re: mental health and well-being has been really hard for me. and knowing that i'll have to "report" to my therapist on what tools i've tried can be really motivating for me, which seems so simple but so effective.
nothing really to add to all the eloquently spoken things in here, just thought it was cool to hear that idea shown in the study. thanks for everything in this, i'll definitely be taking a lot of this with me! this episode came to me at a time that i really needed it. both of you are so well-spoken and empathetic, plus just generally have nice voices to listen to!
I found my happiness. Listening to and watching Dr. Mike’s content makes me happy 😊🙌🏼
This has been vary eye opening, and I had fun with this one. For sure, I will be picking up that book too.😊
Hey Dr. Mike! I love your videos! I’ve learned so much from your channel and you’ve saved so many lives! Thank you for being the best doctor in the world!!❤❤
I really appreciate your handling of polyamory. As someone who is, I've also noticed the same thing. People seem less willing to form close connections and dedicate the time required to relationships. So even among people who are polyamorous, a lot of us are experiencing that negative shift too. I hear it from my monogamous friends too. If anything that lack of commitment shows up in more immediately difficult ways in polyamory than in monogamy in my experience. So It's not a polyamory issue, it's a connection issue. It's painful and I wish we could figure out how to create spaces where genuine connection is possible regardless of preferred relationship style.
Love how much I get to learn from you Dr. Mike very inspirational, you are so intellectual and bring so many great teachers to learn from!! ❤❤❤
Dr. Mike, I love your channel! If you ever want to have a chat about the current state of Audiology, just let me know!
It’s nice this Dr Robert Waldinger can easily make Dr Mike smile and he is very happy ❤❤❤❤❤
Great and valuable conversation!
I'm no doctor (prob because I'm 12) but I went to medical detective class, and what he says is true (smacks table) so so true and inspirational to me and probably to all of these people that love this guy (and you). Plus my dad is trying to stop smoking cigarettes so this also helps, Thanks, BEE WOOP
Im sad these videos are getting 10% if views as “TOP 10 if…” dopamine filled videos. These are so much deeper and informative. A totally new side of Dr.Mike
its hard to stay happy at times but i stay strong for my older brother
This was fascinating; thank you! High quality content can be entertaining.
Regarding COVID... it was not a negative thing for me; it was the opposite. It gave me the perfect 'excuse' for isolating (not doing the things that I didn't want to do anyways); my finances were not affected at all
(I got to set my own work schedule re: working at home vs. office); no one close to me died (or was even seriously ill), my grandchildren's quality of life improved via government issued benefits. This was a time for me during which I discovered the on line personalities that remain my favorites. 😉
Doctor Mike is the one who always have proofs to everything and be ready to knock down BS with fruitful facts.
i really like this about him...love ya❤❤❤
He was wrong on every level concerning the j a b. Peer reviewed studies now show it causes heart attacks, auto immune disease and encourages cancer growth. He will be wrong next time when it matters as well. You should watch the h I g h w I r e.
This was so interesting, a bit more serious/scientific then your regular pod interviews/videos but a really captivating conversation - please do more like this
Excellent program Blessings doctor thank you very much Landa greets you from Cuba
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You are a very good Doctor and RUclipsr. ❤
So informative and feel good video, I love your choice of guests Doc, each guest have taught me something new about myself and life
Happiness is temporary, this I know to be true. When I'm happy I try to enjoy every minute because it won't last. And it reminds me when I'm sad that sadness doesn't last either.😊
Excellent interview! As a nanny of young children I wholeheartedly agree with his magical fix.
This was a fantastic and very insight conversation. I really enjoyed listening to both of you.
Dr. Mike, I love your podcasts, and this is one of my favorites.❤
Really great talk between you two. Loved this!
As someone with ADD I disagree at least on social media about there being a skew. There seems to be a lot more ND people and people with chronic health problems because they can not keep a normal work schedule and so this is an option that they can make work.
Thank you for doing this interview
I am loving these podcasts and can't wait to listen to this one on my long drive tomorrow!
Could you please interview Nikko Ortiz and Micarah Tewers (if they want to)? It would be great as they are also some of my favourite youtubers!
Watching this video is probably one of the best things for yourself on the internet. Thank you
Thank u so much, Mike and Doctor Robert this really helped me through out a hard time of mine .
Thank you for the interesting video Dr. Mike. and Dr. Robert Waldinger! I'm happy to see a conversation between two kind scientist that has supporting data and a lot of thought to create richer lives.
I think happiness is very interesting... I used to want to find happiness, but I was exhausted... Later, I realized and realized that happiness is, when you experience After you don't want, have experienced pain, and stick to your beliefs, the opportunities around you will lead you to happiness. It's true, I have experienced many low tides, but I always believe that as long as I work hard and have kind thoughts, God will lead you to the right place, and at that time, will feel "happiness"
Watching this interview contributed to my happiness. It was such an interesting conversation.
your videos inspire me to become a doctor😊
"I felt that no one would take me seriously," I feel this. I can't be honest with people about wanting to be a DO like Dr. Mike, because people think I want to learn snake oil magic. It is so sad how much our society judges without having understanding and compassion. How do we change our field and the way they view mind and body being one?
I want Dr. Waldinger to read books to me on Audible.
What a voice.
Enjoyed listening to podcasts like this, I look forwards to more