It was a lighthearted comment and there was clearly no malice in your heart. I could tell by your tone. It shows your character since you decided to clarify and apologize, but I still believe that some people are too sensitive. ❤
Aww thank you Luv for seeing my heart and true intentions! I appreciate it tremendously!🥰 I just needed her to know I heard her and was sorry for any hurt my statement and response may have caused. 💖🙏🏽
Shelly your sisters know you would not intentionally try to hurt someone… in my opinion no apology was necessary; so much more could be said, but I am going to keep it simple. Love your content Sis and you are hilarious 😂. Keep putting a smile on our faces ❤
@@Iamfava0811 I’m so glad and relieved that y’all can see that! I just want to have fun and talk in my videos the way I would if we were hanging out. 😅 Either way, I’ll just try and be more mindful so I hopefully don’t offend anyone else! 😬 Sending lots love and healing prayers up for your beautiful mom. May God heal her and deliver her from any illnesses invading her body! 💖🙏🏽
If she called herself a bald headed baddie.... Wouldn't that be a complement... As she was complementing her new look.... There's a tone and a space for people that have dealt with alopecia and hairloss but let's also allow space for people to enjoy and celebrate their acceptance of their loss of hair in whatever form that comes in. Both Shelly and the commenters feelings are valid but one shouldn't impose over another when the tone and intent was jokingly and playful. Just my thoughts as a bald headed baddie 🧑🏾🦲
Hmmmmm great point. I didn’t think about it like that but that’s exactly how I was thinking and feeling about it all. I definitely like to thinking of it as someone saying you’re still just as beautiful short, or bald. It doesn’t matter! 😍 You are a baddie-zaddie Rada‼️😍💯✨
It seems that the commenter is still dealing with some insecurities surrounding hair loss… I get it but please don’t let that stop you from being you ❤ Your sense of humor and knowledge is what keeps us coming back! Your hair looks great. I don’t like bothering in my hair much so I try to find styles that don’t require much work!
Thank you Luv and I pray she’s not. 💖🙏🏽 Wearing my hair straight is easier to maintain daily but it’s a lot to do because of how short it is. So wearing it curly is easier to do but then I have to refresh it daily for it to look right. 😅 I’ve been leaning towards wearing it curly more often right now but I might switch it up soon. ✨💖
Very true but in her case it had to do with a sensitivity about a life threatening illness. I should have been more mindful about my comment and I’m sorry that I wasn’t. 😤 I appreciate you wanting to stand up for me but I was obviously wrong in what I said. You’re so sweet though and thank you. 💖😘
You cannot please everyone. It isn't your fault she reacted negatively towards your obviously light-hearted comment. I will send her prayers of strength and healing because cancer is a hard battle to fight.
I tend to wet my hair in the shower. I still haven’t been doing wash and go’s a lot lately. I have some new Design Essential products I want to test out so hopefully more to come. As far as the bald headed baddie comment, it’s not a new term. There is no way of knowing who you might offend or why since everyone has different sensitivities and triggers. You are doing a great job and please continue to be your funny silly self. 😂❤❤❤
I love the way you rock your hair TamZ. It almost like you can’t pick a bad style even if you tried! 😍 I honestly wasn’t trying to offend or hurt anyone’s feeling when I made that statement. As I prepared to cut my hair I heard it used so many times in several big chop videos. However that didn’t mean it didn’t hurt someone’s feelings. So for that I’m very sorry. 😩 I can’t wait to see you use DE’s because you do a mean Wash & Go! 😍 Btw, if anyone else is reading this comment. Please go check out @SimplyTamZ Her RUclips channel is a great resource and her personality is awesome!!! 💖💯
@@shelly.v.247 Shelly you have so much class and you are so kind. Even in responding to me you’re lifting up another Black woman and content creator. It’s hard to imagine someone would think you are being unkind or malicious. Thank you for another great video and I can’t wait to see your full wash day. P.S. I can’t wait to show off my new favorite brand.
It's flat but cute in a way. The filter had me in the floor, I almost choked on my smoothie!🤣 Gurl, I've named you THE FACE because you have the most beautiful bone structure IMO and I adore the shortie cut on you.
You said flat but in a cute way! 😂Chile the way I be running to that bathroom during love hours to fluff this mess up if you know what I mean! 👀🤣 Sometimes it be a struggle and a mental battle because I all can see is that flat curly helmet I be having!🤣🤣 Aww you’re so sweet! 🤗Thank you for the lovely compliment.💖You got me over here cheesing 🤣 AND…..that filter be having me so weak! I’ve seriously thought about putting her in every video 🤣🤣🤣
Yes! Cute flat-I’d like to drop a little comment here for ladies with coils and kinks. We may feel like we can’t finger our hair apart like she did, but I found use cool blow dryer puts me right back to the shape. Now this is for ladies with a cut like hers because mine is the same. Don’t know for longer hair
4:36 you heard so many people say it because it's such a massive thing in our community to call people bald-headed when they clearly aren't bald headed. ever since i was born black in America all you ever hear is other black people calling other black people bald headed for having short hair or saying that people are bald-headed under their wigs and weaves. it's such common place in black American spaces that it makes sense two jokingly call yourself bald-headed for having short hair since for a long time (and even still nowadays) people still use that as an insult against black women with short hair or who they assume to have short hair or even all of us as a whole.
You know, you’re so right about everything you said! I never even stopped to think about it in those terms. However, I will say that presently I hear it used in a much different context. I hear people say it as a very positive way and highlight it to mean you look extremely stunning! For example, when I was talking about big chopping several of my friends told me to come on over and join them in bald headed baddie world! They said girl you’re going to be super sexy fly with short hair! So I just repeated what I was hearing because I thought it meant something positive. 😬 But you raise a great point and I think it can honestly go both ways because I’ve heard it positioned as such. So I’m just gonna stick with saying I’m a short haired baddie now. However, at this point I might even just drop it all together 👀🫣😝
Yeah, had me thinking I was bald headed as a teenager. I looked back at those photos and thought "WHAT?". We hate ourselves and each other but will pick up pitchforks when someone else attacks us. It's a demonic spirit.
I’ve been going back to the big poppa gel too! I always liked it but sometimes it can get sticky but I like the look it gives me. The slip is okay but it’s good with a spray leave in 😊
I love it! It’s one of my favorite stylers. I’ve noticed the Hawaiian Silky makes it less sticky when I used that underneath it. Thank you Selena for sharing your thoughts! 💖🤗
@@shelly.v.247 that's the great thing about curly hair! You can grip it to braid or flat twist even at very short lengths. The straight haired sisters just have to tough it out through the awkward phase but us curly girls can style our way through it 😁
I’m here for it Shelly ( No judgement zone) love the informative videos! I’m noizey keep em coming 😂😂. Your curls are curling 😃 pretty. I prefer definition over volume too.
Hello Miss Shelly! Your hair looks fabulous. It’s good to know that I'm not the only one to refresh my wash go every day. Thank you, and have a blessed day
lol I have the same spray bottle. I spray my pixie cut every morning after styling it after my wash and go for 3 to 4 days. I just wake up in the morning spray don’t touch it, and it would poop out on its own with my curls still popping. This method helps me from touching my hair so much. Try this and see it will help you. It is so much easier. You share so much with us so I wanted to share this with you. ❤
Your hair is beautiful, ❤❤❤❤❤ I'm 62 after stop using relaxers over 20 years, I forgot what my hair looks like. Started relaxers when I was middle school. I love the products out there for curly hair. I have 3 big bottles of the Hawaiian silky. I saw that 1999 I went to school for cosmetology. It smells nice. I like the fact wet it, oily it and go.❤❤❤😂😂😂😂 6/19/2024
Oh wow, that’s so awesome! 😍 It’s so amazing to explore and experience our natural hair once we decide to go that route. Yeah Hawaiian Silky is the truth for me. I absolutely am loving it! Plus it plays so well with my other products I’m paring it with. ✨ Stay blessed and thank you for your comment! 💖🤗😘
Finally found someone w my hair type!!!! Yay🎉 That cut looks GREAT on you! I've been doing a daily wash n go 20yrs. The last 10yrs, I've been keeping it in a tapered cut, but even when it was on my back I drenched in the shower daily. My hair just loves water and its always too flat in the AM to not drench it. The Hawaiian Silky spray has been in my arsenal since the 90s! Extremely underrated. The Doux mousse made my hair feel like straw so I was turned off from the brand, but seeing your results makes me wanna try the gel! So glad to have found you! New Subscriber 💚💕
Omgoodness welcome Sis❣️ I wish I had known about the Hawaiian Silky a long time ago! It’s the truth and just like you said, it’s very underrated! I’m curious, what have you been told your hair type is? I think I’ve figured it out but it can still be a little confusing. I also now think it’s important to know because it helps in eliminating products that won’t work. Speaking of products. I love Big Poppa because it holds my curls without the crazy crunch. I prefer soft and flexible curls. What’s your styler of choice that you reach for daily? So glad you’re here!!!! 💖😘
@@shelly.v.247 Thanks for the welcome sweetie! I'm a baby fine textured 3C/4A. I have the shrinkage of type 4 and the texture usually seen in type 3. Stylists and other naturals always say it's 3C, but it shrinks way too much to really be. I like the LOIS hair typing system bc it focuses on curl shape/pattern and texture vs curl size. That's what really matters when it comes to how your hair will respond to products and ingredients. My hair hates silicones and heavy oils. I like hydrating ingredients like water, glycerin, and aloe. All the products I love have those in the first few ingredients. My daily go-to is Cantu Care for Kids Leave in. It's thick, moisturizing, and hydrating. My fave foam is Elite Hair Care USA, and my favorite soft gel is Pattern Beauty Styling Custard. Firm gel is 4UByTia. When my hair was long, I loved the clear Fantasia IC Gel w Sparklelites.
@@JG_SmileSOBright I did a refresher on LOIS. It definitely makes better sense to figure out your hair’s elements because you’re right about the size of the curl not being helpful at all. I’m still learning what my hair does and doesn’t love since my ordeal with the no oils & butters method jacked me up! 😅 Thank you for taking the time to respond to my questions and sharing all those gems! I’ll definitely have to check out those products. 💖😘
Your hair/curls just continue to outdo themselves! So healthy and beautiful! You're lucky that you can refresh your hair every day like that. If I tried to do all that, my hair would just turn into a frizz ball. 😂
Haha that what another one of my friends said. She said her hair wouldn’t do well being refreshed like that. So I think the important takeaway is to always do what works best for your hair! Lawd knows I done learned that the hard way! 😅 And….thank you for the extremely sweet compliment Sis! I appreciate you! 🥰😘
The excitement I got from seeing a new video from you🤩 Love the information & demonstration you showed❣️ Can you explain what made you choose the specific leave in and cream styler you used? Just getting input on how to go about choosing products (it’s sooooo many to choose from). I don’t have any social medias (keeps me out of trouble😄) so I’m not able to view your IG lives😔
Aww you’re so dang sweet and thank you! 💖 Yes I can explain what I’m looking for when selecting products because chile there are so many!!! 😅 Leave-in: I’m just looking for something that pairs well with my styling products. Meaning it won’t cause flaking or for it to bead up. 😝 I also realize my hair loves thick and creamy products. So I reach for stuff like that now. Unless I’m silk pressing my hair. Then I want a very light leave-in. Creamy Styler: I have been trying different ones out (on IG 😛) to help capture a more moisturized wash and go. Especially since I want soft, touchable and flexible curls. The issue is you have to find one what doesn’t cause flaking or beading up with a gel styler. Gel Styler: I look for something with a medium to soft flexible hold. If I use Big Poppa by itself, it’s a little too hard drying for me. So I’ve added in a cream styler to help soften it. Lastly, I live a in very dry climate. So I also pick my stylers to accommodate that part of the equation. However, I currently am in a semi humid climate for vacation and my hair is loving the humidity with this combo. Hope that all makes sense and is helpful. 💖🤗
Hey Shelly! New nosy subscriber here 😂 I’m loving the new short hair do!! Thanks for the tip on using bobby pins to secure the flat twists. My flat twists always get bulky and misshaped at the crown. I’m going to try using mini bobby pins. Thanks again!! I wish you continued success on your new hair journey!!
call me crazy but idk this short hair is EVERYTHING!! i will say if you are wetting your hair almost every day maybe one a week or two weeks use a bonding conditioner to keep the elasticity in check!! but i also wet my hair a lot and it just works lol
Thanks for the tip and awesome advice! I’ve been using K18 and other bond builders since last year. I also have started to love the Dove Bond Building peptide shampoo and conditioner. It leaves my hair feeling very silky. Lastly I do protein treatments regularly too. How do you feel about implementing them along with the bond builders? 💖
Your hair looks great!! l may have to do another big chop myself by following that no oils/butter method..I cut my hair into a bob...it started growing out and I'm still getting those flicky bits that you call them..its driving me crazy.
Ugh 😑😩‼️‼️‼️‼️ I just hate that for you so much because you know that I know exactly what you’re going through! It makes me so upset every time I hear it! 😭 If I could do it all over again I think I would have just done a big chop because that damage has a way of running through your hair. I think I’ve mentioned this a few times but I think I still have a little in the front of my hair because it eventually gets into the healthy hair. I’d cut mine even more but I just can’t right now because I’m supposed to be getting married. 😤 I’m praying for you Sis and just do what you feel is right for you and your hair. 💖 I don’t think there are any wrong answers. Especially since we are all having to start over! 😓
I’m sorry as I am not trying to be rude or insensitive but I’m trying to help someone. Please stop getting on these social media’ platforms attacking the content creators for saying things that might hurt your feelings. Bruhhhh they just talking about what they talking about!!! Did they say your name in the mist of that…. NO!! So if you are going through something or feeling sensitive don’t get on social media until you are in a better mental state. Social media is for entertainment not for distressing. Dang … can’t say anything. Shelly is a light hearted sweet person who likes to crack jokes in her videos and who doesn’t love that. And we nosey.. lol😉💕
Haha I do be cracking jokes but maybe I need to be more mindful but I just love talking like I would if yall were in front of me. 👀😅😆 Chile, I’m not gonna lie though, feeling like you’re walking on eggshells when sharing out makes you want to throw in the towel some days and just call it a day. However, I can understand how this particular comment could have been taken wrong and for that I’m sorry. 😩
@@shelly.v.247 Exactly!!! And I understand the feeling of wanting to throw in the towel after you have shared so much of yourself and trying to walk on eggs all at the same time. Being a content creator is not easy. I know you are very apologetic , but you’re human too Shelly. Girl we understand.
Yay! Thank you and welcome to the fam! We are super excited to have you here with us! 💖 Girl I gotta refresh this mess daily because otherwise I’ll be sitting up here looking like I got electrocuted in my sleep! 🤣🤣🤣
@@shelly.v.247 KMSL! 😂 Me too! I just did a second big chop in April and I’m just finding my niche on styles and maintenance! This vid helped me more than you know! Keep em coming! 🫶🏽💯
Love the curls and the growth. And those teeny bobby pins, I didn't know they came that small, thanks for showing those. I like your spray bottle, what brand is it? It seems to mist better than mine does.
Yeah I was surprised to find them that small. I got the. Target 🎯 😁 I don’t know the brand for that misting bottle but I got it at CosmoProf (a professional beauty supply store). I’ll check when I get back from out of town and see if there’s a brand name and circle back to let you know. 🥰
@@hopew6979 Okay I’m back home and looked at the bottle. The brand is called “ColorTrak” I looked it up on Amazon for you and found it. Here’s the link so you can check it out if you’d like. Also, I will say, it’s probably the best and most quality misting spray bottle I’ve tried to date. 💖 amzn.to/3VS8Rqx
@lawandawhite8469 Totally makes sense. I think starting on short hair makes it way easier to learn and understand how to handle your hair. It’s almost like you grow in your skills as your hair grows with you.
I too just finished with breast cancer treatment. Lost both my breast after a failed reconstruction then lost my hair. I called myself a bald baddie and dared anyone to say different😂. A little make up and earrings will do that sometimes. I thought I was a baddie just for surviving. Not offended here. I know having to big chop was hurtful to you also.
First of all, you are the REAL TRUE BADDIE FrFr!!! 💯💯💯 Congratulations on finishing your treatment and I pray that this is all behind you! 💖🙏🏽 Yes, I can’t lie and say my big chop hasn’t been a hard pill to swallow but hearing your story puts it all into perspective for me. So thank you for taking the time to share your story and for also not taking offense to my comment. I truly didn’t mean anything bad by it but I still understand how Ms. Renee could have taken it that way. 🥺 Anyways, thank you again and may God continue to carry you and all the other breast cancer warriors fighting this awful disease! 💖🙏🏽
Nothing to do with the video but I'm back to lifting weights at the gym and I have a question..how do you do to avoid fatigue and exhaustion? I'm always tired and can't keep up with my job 😭.
When was the last time you had your Vitamin D and Ferritin/Iron levels checked? If either is deficient or on the lower end of normal, you will feel exhausted. Also, make sure you have a regular nighttime schedule, and if you drink coffee during the day, that you stop around 11am-12pm. Caffeine stays in your system for 12 hours.
Great question! So I would say you need to look at 3 things to start with. 1. Depending on how long ago you started working out you could just be tired from starting a new workout routine. That can last 1-3 weeks. 2. You could have 1 or more vitamin deficiencies. I’d check vitamin D, Iron and Ferritin (stored iron) for starters. 3. It could also be your thyroid or sex hormones (estrogen, testosterone, progesterone etc.). So you might want to consider getting everything fully checked out. There could definitely be other reasons why but these would be a great place to start. Hope it’s helpful and great job on getting back into the gym! ✨💪🏽✨
@shelly.v.247 I big chopped last August and have been keeping it in a curly taper cut. I am thinking about doing a short pixie and wearing it straight for about 6 months before I grow it back. I've never gone that short before, so I say why not before I grow it back out. It's easier to go shorter when your hair is already short.
@anissacorbin32 I say do it and get the experience of all that short hair can be! I’ve enjoyed it so much and I’ve been have so much fun with it! And you’re right, it’s so much easier to go shorter when you’re already there. Going from long to short now that can be a tad more challenging to do. lol 😆
I have a TWA (1.5”) and I’ve been adding my moisturizer every other day. On the other days, I find that spraying my hair with water and running my hands over my hair is all I need to do. I can still feel the moisturizer on my hair. I’m also not focused on curl definition, so maybe that’s the thing. Considering your question, I might even be able to go longer in between applications.
Thank you and great question! I use the Hawaiian Silky as my leave-in so I don’t consider it a styler. I live in the desert and desire a very soft and moisturized wash and go so I used a cream based styler for that reason. Hence the CurlDaze creamy curl styler. Next, I need something with some hold because the cream styler doesn’t offer enough to hold my curls fully. I also wanted something that doesn’t dry hard and crunchy. Big Poppa is the perfect styler to top it all off! Lastly, the reason I don’t just use Big Poppa alone is it dries down too hard and stiff for my hair when I use it alone. I hope that all makes sense. 🥰
@@michelleej Yeah you just might be able to especially if you don’t care about definition. I also personally think that’s probably the better approach too. 💖
So I take it that your hair thrives when you wet it daily? My hair seems to absolutely love it! 😍 I get what you’re saying but I was wrong and just needed her to know I heard her loud and clear. I’m thankful she received my apology. 🥹🙏🏽
OMG Really???? People too sensitive. You can not transfer YOUR issues on other people. They don’t know you and are speaking from their experience. PLEASE stop it with this whole victimization position and then try to guilt trip people due to YOUR personal issues. Jesus ask God to help you if you find offense in something someone has said. The reality is OFFENSES may come. Did anyone call your name specifically? NO? Then keep it MOVING.
Ugh I feel you but I understand where she was coming from. Like she said, I’m not bald and there is a difference between that and having a short styled haircut. So I just wanted her to know I heard her and was sorry for any offense taken. Hopefully I can do a better job of not repeating what happened. 😅 Thank you for your love who support Sis! 💖
I’m super late (obviously), but can we stop pushing our personal beauty standards on other people?…that’s not their responsibility to adhere to them…. And what I’m speaking to is less of this video specifically and more to a long-standing perspective of American men and women when it comes to women with short hair and bald heads. I’m quite over it if you can’t tell. There are whole cultures, older cultures, black cultures, where women and girls wear bald heads, femininity and beauty unbothered. They would never see their baldness in a negative or masculine light, it would be unheard of. It’s perfectly fine to appreciate the long-haired woman beauty standard. I’m an active participant myself. What does that appreciation have to do with other women choosing to explore another standard? Is it not their right? It certainly isn’t unhealthy to cut your hair. Who are we to take away a beauty and confidence that they never gave up? Just because you might in the same scenario due to your personal beliefs. Can we not just celebrate each other and call it a day? Honestly, in her situation, it truly sounded like she was grieving a loss of something important to her. I recognize that. Though I don’t see that as a reason to impress your grief upon other people, especially via the internet. Personally I think that’s reserved for your Circle. Nobody else is responsible for someone else’s grieving process. They have a right to offer you support or leave you be. It was very understanding, gracious and unnecessary for you to apologize.
It was a lighthearted comment and there was clearly no malice in your heart. I could tell by your tone. It shows your character since you decided to clarify and apologize, but I still believe that some people are too sensitive. ❤
Aww thank you Luv for seeing my heart and true intentions! I appreciate it tremendously!🥰 I just needed her to know I heard her and was sorry for any hurt my statement and response may have caused. 💖🙏🏽
Shelly your sisters know you would not intentionally try to hurt someone… in my opinion no apology was necessary; so much more could be said, but I am going to keep it simple. Love your content Sis and you are hilarious 😂. Keep putting a smile on our faces ❤
@@shelly.v.247your tone was not intentional and I tease my mother all the time who is bald (treatments) 🙏🏽
@@Iamfava0811 I’m so glad and relieved that y’all can see that! I just want to have fun and talk in my videos the way I would if we were hanging out. 😅 Either way, I’ll just try and be more mindful so I hopefully don’t offend anyone else! 😬
Sending lots love and healing prayers up for your beautiful mom. May God heal her and deliver her from any illnesses invading her body! 💖🙏🏽
@@shelly.v.247 thank you for your prayers and she is doing well 🥰🙏🏽.. now keep moving forward Sis
If she called herself a bald headed baddie.... Wouldn't that be a complement... As she was complementing her new look.... There's a tone and a space for people that have dealt with alopecia and hairloss but let's also allow space for people to enjoy and celebrate their acceptance of their loss of hair in whatever form that comes in.
Both Shelly and the commenters feelings are valid but one shouldn't impose over another when the tone and intent was jokingly and playful. Just my thoughts as a bald headed baddie 🧑🏾🦲
Hmmmmm great point. I didn’t think about it like that but that’s exactly how I was thinking and feeling about it all. I definitely like to thinking of it as someone saying you’re still just as beautiful short, or bald. It doesn’t matter! 😍
You are a baddie-zaddie Rada‼️😍💯✨
And you ARE still beautiful!!🥰
@@Iamfava0811 Aww!!!! 🥹💖🤗😘
It seems that the commenter is still dealing with some insecurities surrounding hair loss… I get it but please don’t let that stop you from being you ❤ Your sense of humor and knowledge is what keeps us coming back!
Your hair looks great. I don’t like bothering in my hair much so I try to find styles that don’t require much work!
Thank you Luv and I pray she’s not. 💖🙏🏽
Wearing my hair straight is easier to maintain daily but it’s a lot to do because of how short it is. So wearing it curly is easier to do but then I have to refresh it daily for it to look right. 😅 I’ve been leaning towards wearing it curly more often right now but I might switch it up soon. ✨💖
People who want to be offended will find offense with anything.
Very true but in her case it had to do with a sensitivity about a life threatening illness. I should have been more mindful about my comment and I’m sorry that I wasn’t. 😤
I appreciate you wanting to stand up for me but I was obviously wrong in what I said. You’re so sweet though and thank you. 💖😘
You cannot please everyone. It isn't your fault she reacted negatively towards your obviously light-hearted comment. I will send her prayers of strength and healing because cancer is a hard battle to fight.
I receive everything you stated and thank you for offering prayers for her. You’re so kind! 💖🙏🏽
I tend to wet my hair in the shower. I still haven’t been doing wash and go’s a lot lately. I have some new Design Essential products I want to test out so hopefully more to come.
As far as the bald headed baddie comment, it’s not a new term. There is no way of knowing who you might offend or why since everyone has different sensitivities and triggers.
You are doing a great job and please continue to be your funny silly self. 😂❤❤❤
I love the way you rock your hair TamZ. It almost like you can’t pick a bad style even if you tried! 😍
I honestly wasn’t trying to offend or hurt anyone’s feeling when I made that statement. As I prepared to cut my hair I heard it used so many times in several big chop videos. However that didn’t mean it didn’t hurt someone’s feelings. So for that I’m very sorry. 😩
I can’t wait to see you use DE’s because you do a mean Wash & Go! 😍
Btw, if anyone else is reading this comment. Please go check out @SimplyTamZ Her RUclips channel is a great resource and her personality is awesome!!! 💖💯
@@shelly.v.247 Shelly you have so much class and you are so kind. Even in responding to me you’re lifting up another Black woman and content creator. It’s hard to imagine someone would think you are being unkind or malicious.
Thank you for another great video and I can’t wait to see your full wash day.
P.S. I can’t wait to show off my new favorite brand.
@@SimplyTamz Always Sis! That’s what we are suppose to do! Love, respect and appreciate you beyond words!!!! ❣️💯🤗😘
😂😂😂 you are hilarious. Those faces have be cracking up. I live your videos and hair. Long, medium or short. You rock❤❤❤❤
Haha I so glad you like all my goofiness chile! 🤣🤣🤣 Thank you for all of your love and support! 💖🤗😘
It's flat but cute in a way. The filter had me in the floor, I almost choked on my smoothie!🤣 Gurl, I've named you THE FACE because you have the most beautiful bone structure IMO and I adore the shortie cut on you.
You said flat but in a cute way! 😂Chile the way I be running to that bathroom during love hours to fluff this mess up if you know what I mean! 👀🤣 Sometimes it be a struggle and a mental battle because I all can see is that flat curly helmet I be having!🤣🤣
Aww you’re so sweet! 🤗Thank you for the lovely compliment.💖You got me over here cheesing 🤣
AND…..that filter be having me so weak! I’ve seriously thought about putting her in every video 🤣🤣🤣
Yes! Cute flat-I’d like to drop a little comment here for ladies with coils and kinks. We may feel like we can’t finger our hair apart like she did, but I found use cool blow dryer puts me right back to the shape. Now this is for ladies with a cut like hers because mine is the same. Don’t know for longer hair
@ADavis-xw6uv Yes! Thank you for sharing that little gem because I know it will help one of our curl friends❣️✨🥰
4:36 you heard so many people say it because it's such a massive thing in our community to call people bald-headed when they clearly aren't bald headed. ever since i was born black in America all you ever hear is other black people calling other black people bald headed for having short hair or saying that people are bald-headed under their wigs and weaves. it's such common place in black American spaces that it makes sense two jokingly call yourself bald-headed for having short hair since for a long time (and even still nowadays) people still use that as an insult against black women with short hair or who they assume to have short hair or even all of us as a whole.
You know, you’re so right about everything you said! I never even stopped to think about it in those terms. However, I will say that presently I hear it used in a much different context. I hear people say it as a very positive way and highlight it to mean you look extremely stunning!
For example, when I was talking about big chopping several of my friends told me to come on over and join them in bald headed baddie world! They said girl you’re going to be super sexy fly with short hair! So I just repeated what I was hearing because I thought it meant something positive. 😬
But you raise a great point and I think it can honestly go both ways because I’ve heard it positioned as such. So I’m just gonna stick with saying I’m a short haired baddie now. However, at this point I might even just drop it all together 👀🫣😝
Yeah, had me thinking I was bald headed as a teenager. I looked back at those photos and thought "WHAT?". We hate ourselves and each other but will pick up pitchforks when someone else attacks us. It's a demonic spirit.
Really pretty!! Always looking for little tips here and there.
Glad it was helpful! It’s the little things that sometimes make the biggest difference 😍
That squished face and voice is beyond hilarious 😂😂😂😂
It be having me so weak! 🤣🤣🤣
Yes, have me hollering over here 🤣🤣🤣
@@Iamfava0811 I might have to include her in more videos 🤣🤣🤣
I’ve been going back to the big poppa gel too! I always liked it but sometimes it can get sticky but I like the look it gives me. The slip is okay but it’s good with a spray leave in 😊
I love it! It’s one of my favorite stylers. I’ve noticed the Hawaiian Silky makes it less sticky when I used that underneath it.
Thank you Selena for sharing your thoughts! 💖🤗
Love the growth! The flat twists really elevate the style IMO! 👏🏼
Thanks so much! 🥰One of my bestie boos suggested I do them like that. I love the look and it’s going to be clutch once I enter the awkward phase 😅😆
@@shelly.v.247 that's the great thing about curly hair! You can grip it to braid or flat twist even at very short lengths. The straight haired sisters just have to tough it out through the awkward phase but us curly girls can style our way through it 😁
@@esthertjones FACTS‼️🤣💯
Layering leave in, cream and gel❤❤ Looking healthy and moisturized 🤗🤗
Come through moisturized hair!!! 🤣✨🥳
And thank you Sis! 😍💖😘
I have fine hair. I ALWAYS wet my hair down and shake it out. Works for me.
It’s great to hear that you’re doing that too! My hair seems to really love it! 😍
Watching you do your hair is so relaxing. Thanks for the video!
Aww thank you and you’re so welcomed Sis! 💖🤗😘
I’m here for it Shelly ( No judgement zone) love the informative videos! I’m noizey keep em coming 😂😂. Your curls are curling 😃 pretty. I prefer definition over volume too.
Yay! Thank you! We be having so much fun over on IG! 👀🫣🤣
I feel you on the definition verses volume especially with this shorter cut I’m rockin! ✨💖
I need a You to teach me because I’m terrible at doing flat twists.
I can’t wait to see the full potential of your beautiful hair
Will do and guess how I learned? 👀……RUclips university 🤣🤣🤣
Hello Miss Shelly! Your hair looks fabulous. It’s good to know that I'm not the only one to refresh my wash go every day.
Thank you, and have a blessed day
Thanks for sharing and I’m so happy to know I’m not alone! I love how my hair looks and feels by refreshing it daily. 😍
Have a blessed day as well my beautiful Sis! 💖🙏🏽😘
lol I have the same spray bottle. I spray my pixie cut every morning after styling it after my wash and go for 3 to 4 days. I just wake up in the morning spray don’t touch it, and it would poop out on its own with my curls still popping. This method helps me from touching my hair so much. Try this and see it will help you. It is so much easier. You share so much with us so I wanted to share this with you. ❤
Oh I will definitely give it a try! Thank you so very much Sis! 💖🥰😘
I had to come back to say I tried this combo and love it!! I’m not an every day wetter but I love my results
So glad you love it too! It’s the bomb! 😍
You are hilarious and I love your videos. The hair is fabulous ❤️.
You're the best! 💖Thank you beautiful and can I just say that your hair is looking so bomb! I absolutely love it! 😍
Your hair is beautiful, ❤❤❤❤❤ I'm 62 after stop using relaxers over 20 years, I forgot what my hair looks like. Started relaxers when I was middle school. I love the products out there for curly hair. I have 3 big bottles of the Hawaiian silky. I saw that 1999 I went to school for cosmetology. It smells nice. I like the fact wet it, oily it and go.❤❤❤😂😂😂😂 6/19/2024
Oh wow, that’s so awesome! 😍 It’s so amazing to explore and experience our natural hair once we decide to go that route.
Yeah Hawaiian Silky is the truth for me. I absolutely am loving it! Plus it plays so well with my other products I’m paring it with. ✨
Stay blessed and thank you for your comment! 💖🤗😘
Your hair is beautiful, Shelly. I, too, have to wet my hair everyday to refresh it. Love your videos. Keep them coming!!
My hair just doesn’t look right if I don’t. Plus I love how it makes my hair feel. I’m glad I’m not alone in doing that! 💖😅
I ❤ your videos Shelly because you are so funny and your personality really shines thru! I look forward to more of your content
You're the best! Thank you Luv! 🥰🤗😘
Finally found someone w my hair type!!!! Yay🎉 That cut looks GREAT on you! I've been doing a daily wash n go 20yrs. The last 10yrs, I've been keeping it in a tapered cut, but even when it was on my back I drenched in the shower daily. My hair just loves water and its always too flat in the AM to not drench it. The Hawaiian Silky spray has been in my arsenal since the 90s! Extremely underrated.
The Doux mousse made my hair feel like straw so I was turned off from the brand, but seeing your results makes me wanna try the gel!
So glad to have found you! New Subscriber 💚💕
Omgoodness welcome Sis❣️ I wish I had known about the Hawaiian Silky a long time ago! It’s the truth and just like you said, it’s very underrated!
I’m curious, what have you been told your hair type is? I think I’ve figured it out but it can still be a little confusing. I also now think it’s important to know because it helps in eliminating products that won’t work.
Speaking of products. I love Big Poppa because it holds my curls without the crazy crunch. I prefer soft and flexible curls. What’s your styler of choice that you reach for daily?
So glad you’re here!!!! 💖😘
@@shelly.v.247 Thanks for the welcome sweetie! I'm a baby fine textured 3C/4A. I have the shrinkage of type 4 and the texture usually seen in type 3. Stylists and other naturals always say it's 3C, but it shrinks way too much to really be. I like the LOIS hair typing system bc it focuses on curl shape/pattern and texture vs curl size. That's what really matters when it comes to how your hair will respond to products and ingredients.
My hair hates silicones and heavy oils. I like hydrating ingredients like water, glycerin, and aloe. All the products I love have those in the first few ingredients.
My daily go-to is Cantu Care for Kids Leave in. It's thick, moisturizing, and hydrating. My fave foam is Elite Hair Care USA, and my favorite soft gel is Pattern Beauty Styling Custard. Firm gel is 4UByTia. When my hair was long, I loved the clear Fantasia IC Gel w Sparklelites.
@@JG_SmileSOBright I did a refresher on LOIS. It definitely makes better sense to figure out your hair’s elements because you’re right about the size of the curl not being helpful at all.
I’m still learning what my hair does and doesn’t love since my ordeal with the no oils & butters method jacked me up! 😅
Thank you for taking the time to respond to my questions and sharing all those gems! I’ll definitely have to check out those products. 💖😘
I love the progress of your hair. The curls are popping!
Thank you Luv! They have really come a long way from that dry, damaged haystack mess I had on my head Chile! 👀😝🤣
Your hair/curls just continue to outdo themselves! So healthy and beautiful!
You're lucky that you can refresh your hair every day like that. If I tried to do all that, my hair would just turn into a frizz ball. 😂
Haha that what another one of my friends said. She said her hair wouldn’t do well being refreshed like that. So I think the important takeaway is to always do what works best for your hair! Lawd knows I done learned that the hard way! 😅
And….thank you for the extremely sweet compliment Sis! I appreciate you! 🥰😘
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The excitement I got from seeing a new video from you🤩 Love the information & demonstration you showed❣️
Can you explain what made you choose the specific leave in and cream styler you used? Just getting input on how to go about choosing products (it’s sooooo many to choose from). I don’t have any social medias (keeps me out of trouble😄) so I’m not able to view your IG lives😔
Aww you’re so dang sweet and thank you! 💖
Yes I can explain what I’m looking for when selecting products because chile there are so many!!! 😅
Leave-in: I’m just looking for something that pairs well with my styling products. Meaning it won’t cause flaking or for it to bead up. 😝 I also realize my hair loves thick and creamy products. So I reach for stuff like that now. Unless I’m silk pressing my hair. Then I want a very light leave-in.
Creamy Styler: I have been trying different ones out (on IG 😛) to help capture a more moisturized wash and go. Especially since I want soft, touchable and flexible curls. The issue is you have to find one what doesn’t cause flaking or beading up with a gel styler.
Gel Styler: I look for something with a medium to soft flexible hold. If I use Big Poppa by itself, it’s a little too hard drying for me. So I’ve added in a cream styler to help soften it.
Lastly, I live a in very dry climate. So I also pick my stylers to accommodate that part of the equation. However, I currently am in a semi humid climate for vacation and my hair is loving the humidity with this combo.
Hope that all makes sense and is helpful. 💖🤗
Very helpful & it’s appreciated❣️
Hey Shelly! New nosy subscriber here 😂 I’m loving the new short hair do!! Thanks for the tip on using bobby pins to secure the flat twists. My flat twists always get bulky and misshaped at the crown. I’m going to try using mini bobby pins. Thanks again!! I wish you continued success on your new hair journey!!
Thanks for subbing Sis! I truly appreciate it and welcome to the family! 😍🤗
Yeah those tiny bobby pins are the truth! I got them at Target. 🎯 💖
I have a big bottle of that Hawaiin Silky. I bought and never used it actually forgot about it.
I honestly wish I had known about it sooner because it keeps my hair so nice and moisturized 😍
Love the style! Curly or straight …it’s all good !!😊
Thank you! I love how versatile our hair can be! ✨🥳
This is beautiful! I’m with you I’m wetting mine every day. It’s summer for one lol.
Right!!🤣🤣🤣
And thank you Luv! 🥰
Hey Shelly, I just love your hair. I bet in a year you are going to see sooooo much growth. It suits you.
Aww thank you so very much beautiful and I hope so too!💖🙏🏽
Your hair is gorgeous! Short styles looks so good on you😊
Wow, thank you so very much! I appreciate your sweet compliment Luv! 😍🤗😘
call me crazy but idk this short hair is EVERYTHING!! i will say if you are wetting your hair almost every day maybe one a week or two weeks use a bonding conditioner to keep the elasticity in check!! but i also wet my hair a lot and it just works lol
Thanks for the tip and awesome advice! I’ve been using K18 and other bond builders since last year. I also have started to love the Dove Bond Building peptide shampoo and conditioner. It leaves my hair feeling very silky. Lastly I do protein treatments regularly too. How do you feel about implementing them along with the bond builders? 💖
I love the curldaze products. My hair is so moisturized
Me too! Have you tried the gel yet? If so, is it worth getting too? Thanks💖
The curldaze gel is amazing.
Hey Shelley love your so pretty and healthy enjoy your channel ❤
Aww thank you Luv! 💖🙏🏽
Could you do a video of your current deep conditioners, Shelly?
Absolutely and thank you for the suggestion! 🥰
Your hair looks great!! l may have to do another big chop myself by following that no oils/butter method..I cut my hair into a bob...it started growing out and I'm still getting those flicky bits that you call them..its driving me crazy.
Ugh 😑😩‼️‼️‼️‼️ I just hate that for you so much because you know that I know exactly what you’re going through! It makes me so upset every time I hear it! 😭
If I could do it all over again I think I would have just done a big chop because that damage has a way of running through your hair.
I think I’ve mentioned this a few times but I think I still have a little in the front of my hair because it eventually gets into the healthy hair. I’d cut mine even more but I just can’t right now because I’m supposed to be getting married. 😤
I’m praying for you Sis and just do what you feel is right for you and your hair. 💖 I don’t think there are any wrong answers. Especially since we are all having to start over! 😓
@shelly.v.247 thank you for the support Shelly!!
Shelly such a great video 🥰💙.. your hair is 🔥 .. 🥰
Thank you Luv! 💖🤗
@@shelly.v.247 🤗
I’m sorry as I am not trying to be rude or insensitive but I’m trying to help someone. Please stop getting on these social media’ platforms attacking the content creators for saying things that might hurt your feelings. Bruhhhh they just talking about what they talking about!!! Did they say your name in the mist of that…. NO!! So if you are going through something or feeling sensitive don’t get on social media until you are in a better mental state. Social media is for entertainment not for distressing. Dang … can’t say anything. Shelly is a light hearted sweet person who likes to crack jokes in her videos and who doesn’t love that. And we nosey.. lol😉💕
Haha I do be cracking jokes but maybe I need to be more mindful but I just love talking like I would if yall were in front of me. 👀😅😆 Chile, I’m not gonna lie though, feeling like you’re walking on eggshells when sharing out makes you want to throw in the towel some days and just call it a day. However, I can understand how this particular comment could have been taken wrong and for that I’m sorry. 😩
@@shelly.v.247 Exactly!!! And I understand the feeling of wanting to throw in the towel after you have shared so much of yourself and trying to walk on eggs all at the same time. Being a content creator is not easy. I know you are very apologetic , but you’re human too Shelly. Girl we understand.
@@lilady04 Yup, see you totally get it! 💖😩
That cut and your w n g looks so cute. I love it.❤
Thank you so much! I’m enjoying playing in this short hair! 😍✨🥳
Thank you Shelly V. Apology received ❤ Blessings to you and your channel 💐💜
You are truly a gift 🙏🏽
You are so welcome and thank you for accepting my apology! 💖🙏🏽😘
Cry baby.
Love your hair Shelly.
Aww thank you Luv! 🥰
New Subie here! I’m so glad I came across your channel! I love this refresh vid! ❤
Yay! Thank you and welcome to the fam! We are super excited to have you here with us! 💖
Girl I gotta refresh this mess daily because otherwise I’ll be sitting up here looking like I got electrocuted in my sleep! 🤣🤣🤣
@@shelly.v.247 KMSL! 😂 Me too! I just did a second big chop in April and I’m just finding my niche on styles and maintenance! This vid helped me more than you know! Keep em coming! 🫶🏽💯
@@lionessbeauty727 That’s so awesome to hear! Please share your tips and tricks too because that’s how we all learn and get better! 💖🤗😘
Beautiful!
Thank you!🤗💖😘
I gotta give you my ‘like’ aka love!
Aww thank you Sis! 🤗💖😘
Love the curls and the growth. And those teeny bobby pins, I didn't know they came that small, thanks for showing those. I like your spray bottle, what brand is it? It seems to mist better than mine does.
Yeah I was surprised to find them that small. I got the. Target 🎯 😁
I don’t know the brand for that misting bottle but I got it at CosmoProf (a professional beauty supply store). I’ll check when I get back from out of town and see if there’s a brand name and circle back to let you know. 🥰
@@shelly.v.247 Thank you!
@@hopew6979 Okay I’m back home and looked at the bottle. The brand is called “ColorTrak”
I looked it up on Amazon for you and found it. Here’s the link so you can check it out if you’d like.
Also, I will say, it’s probably the best and most quality misting spray bottle I’ve tried to date. 💖
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@@shelly.v.247 Thanks Shelly! You're the best!
I love your beautiful hair ❤❤❤
Thank you so much! 💖🤗
I love your hair Iam doing a big chop this weekend
Thank you so very much! 🥰What’s making you decide to big chop? Is it due to damage or you’re just wanting a change? 💖
@@shelly.v.247 because my hair has different length so I just want to start over and learn the process because I really don’t know what I’m doing
@lawandawhite8469 Totally makes sense. I think starting on short hair makes it way easier to learn and understand how to handle your hair. It’s almost like you grow in your skills as your hair grows with you.
So beautiful! Where did you get your Deman brush and type of brush is it? I love your hair style 😊
Thank you so very much! 🥰 It’s the Denman D38 (petite paddle brush). You can get it through Amazon or Ulta. 💖
Thanks!!
I too just finished with breast cancer treatment. Lost both my breast after a failed reconstruction then lost my hair. I called myself a bald baddie and dared anyone to say different😂. A little make up and earrings will do that sometimes. I thought I was a baddie just for surviving. Not offended here. I know having to big chop was hurtful to you also.
First of all, you are the REAL TRUE BADDIE FrFr!!! 💯💯💯
Congratulations on finishing your treatment and I pray that this is all behind you! 💖🙏🏽
Yes, I can’t lie and say my big chop hasn’t been a hard pill to swallow but hearing your story puts it all into perspective for me.
So thank you for taking the time to share your story and for also not taking offense to my comment. I truly didn’t mean anything bad by it but I still understand how Ms. Renee could have taken it that way. 🥺
Anyways, thank you again and may God continue to carry you and all the other breast cancer warriors fighting this awful disease! 💖🙏🏽
@@shelly.v.247 Thank you so much for the support😘. You are allowed to feel your feelings also.
@eliasmcclellan7940 💖🤗
Love your hair 😊
Aww thank you so very much! 🤗🥰😘
13:30 yes you do
Yes to the growth we are getting in 2024! 🙏🏽💖🥳
I refresh my hair with water too. Spray spray spray and then start shaking like a salt shaker 🤣🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣 Girl don’t give me no material because you will hear that in a video! 🤣🤣🤣
What shampoo and conditioner do you use?
I have different shampoos and conditioner I’m liking. My current fav is the Dove Peptide Bond Builder because it leaves my hair feeling very silky. 💖
How do you know when your lipid layer is gone ?
Great question! I could personally tell because my texture change dramatically. My hair also became discolored and it didn’t feel like it use too.
Nothing to do with the video but I'm back to lifting weights at the gym and I have a question..how do you do to avoid fatigue and exhaustion? I'm always tired and can't keep up with my job 😭.
When was the last time you had your Vitamin D and Ferritin/Iron levels checked? If either is deficient or on the lower end of normal, you will feel exhausted. Also, make sure you have a regular nighttime schedule, and if you drink coffee during the day, that you stop around 11am-12pm. Caffeine stays in your system for 12 hours.
Great question! So I would say you need to look at 3 things to start with.
1. Depending on how long ago you started working out you could just be tired from starting a new workout routine. That can last 1-3 weeks.
2. You could have 1 or more vitamin deficiencies. I’d check vitamin D, Iron and Ferritin (stored iron) for starters.
3. It could also be your thyroid or sex hormones (estrogen, testosterone, progesterone etc.). So you might want to consider getting everything fully checked out.
There could definitely be other reasons why but these would be a great place to start. Hope it’s helpful and great job on getting back into the gym! ✨💪🏽✨
@@shelly.v.247 Thank you for your anwser. 🙏🏾 ❤️
I'm going to check everything with my doctor.
@@jdbailey442 Thank you for your answer 🙏🏾 I'll take an appointment to get my blood checked.
@@jdbailey442 Yup‼️💯
I big chopped and I have to refresh everyday. I have low density and fine strands so my hair be flattttt in the morning.
How long ago did you big chop? Girl you saw how my hair be looking in the morning. It’s giving straight helmet! 👀🤣
@shelly.v.247 I big chopped last August and have been keeping it in a curly taper cut. I am thinking about doing a short pixie and wearing it straight for about 6 months before I grow it back. I've never gone that short before, so I say why not before I grow it back out. It's easier to go shorter when your hair is already short.
@anissacorbin32 I say do it and get the experience of all that short hair can be! I’ve enjoyed it so much and I’ve been have so much fun with it! And you’re right, it’s so much easier to go shorter when you’re already there. Going from long to short now that can be a tad more challenging to do. lol 😆
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Looks great and glad it works. As a matter of education, why do you think you need all 3, though.
I have a TWA (1.5”) and I’ve been adding my moisturizer every other day. On the other days, I find that spraying my hair with water and running my hands over my hair is all I need to do. I can still feel the moisturizer on my hair.
I’m also not focused on curl definition, so maybe that’s the thing.
Considering your question, I might even be able to go longer in between applications.
Thank you and great question! I use the Hawaiian Silky as my leave-in so I don’t consider it a styler.
I live in the desert and desire a very soft and moisturized wash and go so I used a cream based styler for that reason. Hence the CurlDaze creamy curl styler.
Next, I need something with some hold because the cream styler doesn’t offer enough to hold my curls fully. I also wanted something that doesn’t dry hard and crunchy. Big Poppa is the perfect styler to top it all off!
Lastly, the reason I don’t just use Big Poppa alone is it dries down too hard and stiff for my hair when I use it alone.
I hope that all makes sense. 🥰
@@shelly.v.247 It does! Your curls look juicy so it must be the right combo for them to thrive. Thank you
@@TheRenee115 Yeah I think I’ve finally found my perfect combo! However you know I’m a product junky and still want to try other stuff! 👀🫣🤣
@@michelleej Yeah you just might be able to especially if you don’t care about definition. I also personally think that’s probably the better approach too. 💖
Min mark 2:18!😂😂😂😂
Wait why do you have me going to go watch my own video to see what’s at min mark 2:18 Lol 👀🤣
❤❤ you cute girl
Ditto Luv! 💖😍🤗
I drench my hair every day. Also, stop apologizing for how people take things. Move on and forget them.
So I take it that your hair thrives when you wet it daily? My hair seems to absolutely love it! 😍
I get what you’re saying but I was wrong and just needed her to know I heard her loud and clear. I’m thankful she received my apology. 🥹🙏🏽
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OMG Really????
People too sensitive. You can not transfer YOUR issues on other people. They don’t know you and are speaking from their experience. PLEASE stop it with this whole victimization position and then try to guilt trip people due to YOUR personal issues.
Jesus ask God to help you if you find offense in something someone has said. The reality is OFFENSES may come. Did anyone call your name specifically? NO? Then keep it MOVING.
Ugh I feel you but I understand where she was coming from. Like she said, I’m not bald and there is a difference between that and having a short styled haircut. So I just wanted her to know I heard her and was sorry for any offense taken. Hopefully I can do a better job of not repeating what happened. 😅
Thank you for your love who support Sis! 💖
I’m super late (obviously), but can we stop pushing our personal beauty standards on other people?…that’s not their responsibility to adhere to them….
And what I’m speaking to is less of this video specifically and more to a long-standing perspective of American men and women when it comes to women with short hair and bald heads. I’m quite over it if you can’t tell. There are whole cultures, older cultures, black cultures, where women and girls wear bald heads, femininity and beauty unbothered. They would never see their baldness in a negative or masculine light, it would be unheard of.
It’s perfectly fine to appreciate the long-haired woman beauty standard. I’m an active participant myself. What does that appreciation have to do with other women choosing to explore another standard? Is it not their right? It certainly isn’t unhealthy to cut your hair. Who are we to take away a beauty and confidence that they never gave up? Just because you might in the same scenario due to your personal beliefs. Can we not just celebrate each other and call it a day?
Honestly, in her situation, it truly sounded like she was grieving a loss of something important to her. I recognize that. Though I don’t see that as a reason to impress your grief upon other people, especially via the internet. Personally I think that’s reserved for your Circle. Nobody else is responsible for someone else’s grieving process. They have a right to offer you support or leave you be. It was very understanding, gracious and unnecessary for you to apologize.
People are way too sensitive
I know I can be very sensitive about certain things so I get it. 💖🙏🏽