Haggis Llama It just happens. Strict parents don't REALLY raise their kids to be liars. It's just that kids might lie to parents and you gotta be a good liar to go do things you want. Idk I just found that quote somewhere on the internet
this kid is going to rebel when he's older. No kid should be forced to do all this without a break. wheres his social life?? this kid isn't going to be able to use basic social skills because this freaky woman is keeping him in a tiny little bubble
He will only be able to talk about the things he knows...And even that's a stretch, he will have no friends, and will have a hard time making any form of friends when he's older. His life is being ruined...If he has a choice, when his mom's older and is asking for him to take care of her, he should just leave her or put her through the same things that she put him through....xD
I don't think they care about childhood, i highly doubt that exists over in most Asian countries etc. I'd a runaway if my sisters had such a schedule for me as a kid. My only free time is sleeping to get away from reality.
I'm from China and I grew just like that. To be honest it actually feels quite normal when everyone around you are doing the same thing, and if you look back (I'm 26 now) it's actually kinda funny
Chang Liu i feel sorry for strict parents who raised their under extreme strict rules. Then when the kids get older, the son / daughter they thought they raised would be successful when they get a job. They (child) ends up being a killer. I pray nightly for the those in third world countries and parents raising strict kids, hoping they will become successful doctors ; attorney etc.
I didn't think about the childhood they didn't think about the grandchildren being like oh grandma you're great you brought Daddy/mommy to the fair whatever she was upset or oh my gosh you took her to a Justin Bieber concert I don't think they thought about the fun stories
Awful! I was raised this way and it was terrible. I was stressed and burned out by 14. It's too much for a child. I had no time to relax. I had no childhood. I was expected to act and be like an adult from day one.
Korea is the worst because teachers don't call you by your name but by your grade rank instead so if you are bad you get called your bad rank everyday and are prone to bullying making the bad stay bad. Even kids who graduate from SNU in Korea may even end up being a taxi driver due to a small job market.
I am 13 and I have depression at 7 my parents killed all 12 of my pet chickens at 5-8 I bought fish my dad killed them all I am forced to not use wifi until I was 11 I didn’t get a gadget until I was 10 and it was from my aunt before that when I was 7 I got an iPhone 3 and all I could do was text and call this is only just a few of them Edit: my parents are considering removing all my gadgets cuz I use it too much cuz it’s my only source of happiness
I’ve worked in education in central China. I really appreciate Asian people acknowledging what parents do to their kids is cruel. I’ve literally been reduced to tears over the treatment of some of my students by their parents. Kudos for outing this.
He's 9, right? He's not getting enough sleep. Reccomended that kids 7-13 years get 9-11 hours of sleep a night. If this kid fells asleep the second he was allowed to lay down which is not how sleep actually works for humans he's getting at most 8 hours of sleep but you know that kids too stressed out to do so. This is awful. Why is this allowed?
deadmanz land because i usually can't sleep, i end up just watching anime and playing games but thats nothing new because im pretty much antisocial anyways
And we wonder why they have such a high suicide rate. Look at the kids in Finland and the Netherlands, both top 10 countries in education and because they let the kids be kids. School starts later so they can get more sleep, they are allowed much more play time in the primary years, and most importantly THEY ARE HAPPY. Seriously, happiness is paramount especially to a child, because sadly in this world that is the only time when one is truly happy. Your kid is going to die one day and none of your rigorous training will matter. All that will matter is if they enjoyed the life they lived, and lived it to its full extent. Please think it over, what you are doing to your son.
it's not true that we have more free hours in the Netherlands we get tons of homework and are in school from 8:30 am till sometimes 5:00 pm. but it's true that we're a happy country
Legions Typhoon same what tiger moms are doing is ruining their kid's social life so when the real world comes to them they're gonna become a homeless guy living on the street cuz they are completely unprepared
Same. But I’m not allowed to play on school nights. Only Friday nights and Saturdays. But my weekends are all taken up by marching band. So I basically have no free time. ( on weekdays I have to study and do work, or else I’m called “lazy”. They also call me lazy for getting bad grades. Meanwhile it’s not me being lazy, it’s just me having trouble with the content in the class. To them, bad grades= lazy. Which doesn’t make any sense. If I actually understood the stuff I had in class, and they helped me, my grades would be better. It’s like if I get below and 85, they restrict my free time even more.
ppl have the potential to be great but i wonder if einstein, the curies, and newton were raised like this tho. i think it's a cultural thing and just because you dont kno of any other way to do it doesnt mean it is the best way to do it. it think some asian parents only kno to either totally dote and spoil or being a total psycho life proctor. this stems from the history that mold the regions' way of thinking. plus society ususally depict the image of chill ppl as total failure drug addict trash of society. no middle ground in most cases. // coming from an east asian
This entire "tiger mom" concept does more harm than good. There's no point. American kids who are not subjected to this treatment turn out just fine. In fact, I don't know of any really successful person who grew up doing nothing but studying, especially not in the US. I'm starting to think that parents who do this are just trying to live vicariously through their children, forcing the kids to make up for their parents' own shortcomings. Asian kids are often just bragging points for their parents (and I have experienced this, although I think my parents are fine) to feel better about themselves. They do this for their own pride, and increasingly less for their children's success.
Maybe it's becuase it's not america ? Our culture is different , especially in asia , you can't just judge our culture ...and kids that do well even without studying a lot are the EXCEPTION not the RULE!
+KazMoMachine I heard/saw/read somewhere that kids under 15yo or 18yo needs 10-12 hrs of sleep at night because their body and brain is still developing and cell growing and expanding the best during night sleep. So yeah, tiger moms are skeery :S
You two are blinking right... I have a three-year-old and she does get around 10ish+ hours a night. I think I might end up like Dan's parents (in the best way possible :-D).
KANEISNINJA so true. There was this kid who had a tiger mom and he went to really good university. Then he became lazy and stuff and played video games all day. The school ending up kicking him out.
not sure people who comment like this know what it's like to live in the grinding poverty of an authoritarian communist regime and how it changes your view on survival.
Intelligence cannot be changed. You are born with a certain level of it. He isn't going to become more intelligent, but will be significantly more knowledgeable and a lot smarter than the average child of his age. The social aspect of life is far more important to people of average and low intelligence as they find it hard to enjoy things that require effort i.e: learning, developing etc...
on the building that I live there was a boy whose family was exactly like that, and when he grew up he tried to kill his father multiple times. His life now is miserable, he has developed a scary character and now he undergoes psychological medication. ~WELL DONE PARENTS~
Emma Frost It’s not overprotecting, it’s stress. The parents are giving the child stress, more stress than an average little kid is supposed to have. If they really were gonna actually protect that kid, they wouldn’t have been stressing him out with all those activities, and stress him out with his grades. That’s harming the child mentally, not protecting the child at all.
If this happened over here in the US, that kid wouldn't have the ability to socialize with ANYONE. Hell, he probably won't even have the ability to have a job until he's in his 20's or 30's, that is, if he's even employed at all.
I had zero schedule, as long as my grades were good and I was staying out of trouble, I could do whatever I wanted. I would hang out with my friends until 10:30 and be home at like 11 on a school night and it didn't matter. This kid is going to hate his life.
My Greek mom : You can be anything you want. Me : I want to be a music produce- My Greek mom : YOU ARE TOO SMART TO WASTE YOUR BRAIN, BECOME A DOCTOR OR A SCIENTIST OR I DISOWN YOU
so asian parents want their kids to go to an ivy league school so they try to make their kid exactly like this other kid they heard about that got into Harvard. Lately though, the fact that ivy league schools look for diversity and uniqueness in applicants has become known to asian parents so they try to squeeze in something random along with all the other stuff. For a me it was bicycle repair. For this kids it is latin dance. (I'm Chinese btw. James is an alias. )
The average human needs 8 hours of sleep minimum to be able to function healthily. MINIMUM. Which means over 8 hours is FINE for proper health. You don't need to be a doctor to know this. How about you reply to me when you can spell English properly, dumb ass.
Everybody know that you need 8 hours of sleep lol. Also, its healthily not healthy. Say it out loud with healthy and it doesn't make sense. So you are the one who is supposed to take english classes.
Actually adults can sustain a healthy life with 5-7 hours of sleep. The 8 hours of sleep grew into somewhat of an urban myth. As for children yea I'd say anything under 8 hours is considered pushing the limit of turning into a problem.
***** do you think children should be pressured into this then? that they should sleep only 6 hours a night and work hard all day? without any free time to play with other children and develop their own personalities. making them watch propaganda is horrendous.
I love karate, I go 5 times a week, is on the performance team and tournament team. I do National tournaments and place very well in them, my forte is Sparring. I am testing for my green belt in October, I am a blue-green belt as of right now.
If there is one thing that I am terrible at in school, it would be Swedish. My grades were a little down at the 7th grade but my parents just told me to study more, they didn't pressure me or anything. In the end, I ended up forcing myself to study. Now the grades are only slightly under my GPA and I'm happy with that.
a 9 year old shouldn't be going to bed at 11. and also W H Y he's a kid let him breathe who cares if he isn't an A+ harvard student lmao the only thing important in our short lives as humans is to experience happiness and if this is making the kid happy thats great but otherwise let him be happy thats the greatest gift you could give him as a parent
I can read spelling errors, but I can't stand no full stops or commas otherwise it sounds like and that he did that and this and found him doing this and that and chicken nuggets and up there and happy and sad because of hard work and no fun and too much work
His mother would answer to this by saying that he socializes at school but in school you go for learning, not socializing + this kid sleeps around 6 hours and that amount of sleep for a 9 year old can be dangerous for the physical and mental health...he should sleep AT LEAST 8 hours, poor kid.
I have a tiger mom and when I explain it to my American friends, THEY DON’T ME AT ALL, they think I’m a liar. Even my Asian friends don’t believe me because their parents are westernized. My parents are the first generation to move to America so they are heavily influenced under Chinese culture and they put it on me. I never really had a childhood because that when they really did bad stuff to me like beat me up (Note: this was when I started to learn 911 and I didn’t want to lose my parents because they are still my parents). So you Americans, don’t bully us at school because we already had enough.
I'm not being nice ether, because they don't give schedules for me, they don't push me too hard, they over encourage me though but that's a good thing since I'm always hesitant on choices. They respect my opinions.( except religion, but I really don't care ) So yeah..
Alicia Tan My family is strongly Buddhist and they would kill me if I wasn't. I just keep it a secret from them. My parents care about grades, but not as much as other people. In my moms standards, A is amazing, B is awesome, C could be better. F and Ds are a no no. Which is fine because I never get D and Fs anyway. I mainly get A and Bs. So I'm fine with grades.
My dad: A good B good C what the hell you are worthless D gets everything taken away including being in my room F Breaks my I pad with hammer I'm not kidding
Story of my childhood. It was torture. Every night- late at 1am when everyone's asleep, I'd stared for hours more into the night sky and ask myself "Why is this happening? When does this end? "I just want to be free". Follow their orders to the T or get beaten. Sometimes I get beaten even when I don't know why. Practiced piano for 2 hours instead of 3 hours on my birthday......went to school with a swollen face the next day. I had no friends. I had no confidence. Loneliness made my grades drop followed by further wrath and beating. They dragged me out of my room one night when I was asleep and threw me out. I don't know why. I didn't know where to go. I just sat around my backyard. Then they let me back in after a few hours. The moment I thought I was old enough I fought him "The balrog of morgoth" until at least I threw down my enemy and smote his ruin upon the mountainside". Naaa. I didn't win. I did hundreds of pushups every night hoping I would become strong enough. Nope. I didn't get any stronger. Still bones weighing 100ib. When I was 17-18, I became interested in science, saw it as a way out, and it was a way out. Now they're trying to forget and make up for what they did to me now...and while I can tolerate them but I can't forgive them.
I would give the them the cold shoulder... and if you have any kids or are going to, don't ever let your parents see them. Tell your kids they died or went away or something like that. If they get angry and try to hurt you again, call the cops and put those fuckers in jail.
Guys- thanks for the concern. This matter however has been settled for years now. I would not like to dig back up an old and now irrelevant problem. There's no sense going through a lifelong self inflicted torture by refusing to leave the past behind. I am happy now.
Actually, both options apply (on the legal end: this increases the possibility of the so-called 'tiger parent' getting arrested [and sentenced up to {25 years if extremely fierce}] by up to 274% [yes: the percentage is stunning, yet it is true]; on the psychological end: children that are raised by 'tiger parents' are [170% by birth; 295% by adoption] more likely to commit suicide.
I pretty much agree with you guys, and i remember my mother commenting: "but can the child manage itself? if you leave it alone, does it wait for a command, or start building something?" which was what she valued in us, the ability to create a life for ourselves, and be happy.
Interesting. This mom seems to want her kid to have extracurricular activities that she wants, but not really what he does. I think you should push your kids to do things they need academically but let them have a social life and discover what extra activities they are interested in.
well it is a nonspecific, genderless concept, so "it" is as appropriate for a child as for a horse or kitten. as long as it's not a specific horse/kitten/child
unfortunately with the 9999999 different types of 'genders' these days, 'it' is out because the lgbt have perverted that word like they perverted rainbows
I feel like it's situational. You can use it for small children, animals, the like. "It"can be more of a concept. But people do not refer to children they know personally as "it." I didn't see anything wrong with that quote lol
I'm Chinese too, and my mom used to be a tiger mom too (she has slowly let go I guess), and I honestly thank her for it. Without the discipline I was under, I wouldn't have the grades I have today. Nowadays, I do have a social life, but during exam periods I stop going out with my friends... To me, having a tiger mom isn't that bad, but those who are wayyy too much (like this one in the video) .. I don't think this boy will have much of a real childhood.
Same! My mother was extremely hard on me for the first 7-8 years of my life and it set me on the right track afterwards as she slowly stopped being so hard on me.
I kinda wish my parents were strict. I get my work done and stuff but I wish I had someone looking over my shoulder and saying they're proud of me when I do things
... No... That is the exact opposite of what asian parents are doing... They will always say what that you are doing isn't good enough. They will get physical with you and when you dare express some form of independence, they would accuse you of not appreciating them. Now... I just want to join the marines... Guess what? They accuse of me being lazy and only caring for myself and my feelings. Well, I am stuck here cause you guys won't sign the papers for me to enlist and you guys are hiding my documents which I won't be able to get until October 8 (been waiting five months). And guess who was the one with all the visions of me being a business man? YOU! I AM NOT GIVING UP MY DREAMS FOR YOU!
Exactly, parents want there kids to be what they WANT THEM TO BE which causes so much god dam stress. How are we supposed to feel good about ourselves when parents don't congratulate us for getting good grades or just being a good person in general.
My mom has always wanted me to play guitar, do karate, do this , do that. since a young age, now as i am older (11-13) I am realizing i dont always have to follow everything she says if it doesn't make sense. i dropped out of karate almost a year ago cuz i reached black belt like she wanted me to and i didnt like the new instructor (his son hated me). She is trying to get me to rejoin and is saying "If you don't want to do something, just tell me. No point in wasting time and money of you don't want to do it." This might sound great but she has raised me always telling what she wants me to do and i don't want to dissapoint her. So whenever i talk about guitar, or we see a musical intrument on tv, she brings up that guitar is expensive and if you don't want to play it. I feel like she has always made my decisions for me, now when i have some freedom all i want to do i impress her. And i agree with the people above, she never praises me, whenever she asks me to play guiter for her and my dad, she looks unintrested and my dad is on his phone. I feel like I will never have a normal conversation with my parents, they will always bring something up. I think that is why my sister (who has just graduated from college) never calls home.
Ganlas 324 Give it some time. Or, if you go to a school with a lot of other "races" like I do, you can ask the school consolers to speak on your behalf. Never give up. You can pull through it until you reach the magical age of 18 (two more weeks). And don't give up your dreams.
No 9 year old should be running on 6 hours of sleep. That's almost half of what he needs! I get about 5 hours, but I'm in high school so that's normal. He should be going to bed at the LATEST 9 'o clock.
+Sheepdog_ it's a tad of an exaggeration by a hour or so but yeah. Everyone's supposed to get eight, more than that for kids. If he went to bed at 9 and woke up at 5, that's about right. The recommendation for 9 year-olds is 9 - 11 hours.
Yeah, it's a horrible idea. I'm Asian. When I was six, I had about the same amount of sleep, and even less than that on many days. At that young age, I was already frequently thinking about suicide back then. I felt suffocated back then. Later on, my family became poorer and moved into the ghetto in America. That was when my mom had to stop the craziness. I was much happier when my family was poorer. (It's A LOT better than suffocating every day). Thank God, because who knows how messed up I would've turned out if the craziness didn't stop. Ironically, after my mom's craziness stopped, my grades got better, I learned a computer programming language on my own, and I became better at sports.
In Germany you can achieve graduations of different levels. My mom always wanted me to stop at a relatively low level to become a carpenter or something similar. In spring I’ll write the exams for the highest possible graduation from school and I will attend university and be paid for it
@@anniep2837 on what planet? You get a shitty education unless you pay for it, athletes are deified and then you have student loans. This country is fucked compared to Germany
@@birdfriday On Earth, of course. The education is far worse, but here we also can graduate at different levels (no honors, cum laude, magna cum laude, summa cum laude), choose to graduate with only lower credits (no honors courses, AP exams, etc) because you're only interested in a trade (i.e. carpenter), choose whether or not to attend university, and also receive large scholarships that can completely cover or even more than cover your degree so that you are technically being paid to go to school. The details are different, but the framework does have similarities. It is the western model of education that both countries adhere to, after all.
My schedule Mon-Fri is (can't go down to next line idk how): Hear alarm- Go back to sleep for 30 mins- Get ready really quick- Nearly be late for school- Do school- Walk home- Watch RUclips- Forget to do homework- Just go to sleep anyway- Wake up in the middle of the night to do maths homework------- Sat: Sleep- RUclips- Sleep------- Sun: Sleep- Go to dad's- Annoy 2 year old sister- Go home- RUclips- Sleep------- My days are so fascinating :P
In America: 911: what is your emergency: MY MUM IS WIPING ME! 911 : THE SWAT IS COMING In Asian countries: what is your emergency : my mum is wiping me ....... good
As long as my kid is happy in their life i’m not gonna abuse them like my mom did :( I’m not “asian” asian but my family is Indian from Trinidad and Tobago and when I was 4 my mom used to force me to do algebra and would slap me or hit me if I didn’t understand what I was doing. 13 years later and I don’t even have contact with her any more 🙏🏽
U should forgive u mother all she did for u own good . Of course she lost her temper sometimes but it is normal . Raising a child is hardest work ever ! u will understand once u will became parent someday . Call u mother ! think who gave u life in this world !
I am SO glad you guys talked about this. I have so many Asian friends who have emotional troubles because of the way they were raised. Successful but it is really tough relationships with parents. It's so important to remember that you're raising a complete human being and not just a machine who does well in school and on tests. Thanks so much for talking about this.
He wasn't Asian with Asian parents, but I had a friend who put a lot of pressure on himself academically because of his parents. Both his parents were educators. His mom was a high school teacher & his dad was a college professor. His mom had FIVE degrees! She has two bachelors, two masters, & a PhD! He never gave himself a day of rest.
I used to live in Asia and this is my daily schedule: -6:30am wake up and get ready for school etc... -7:30am arrive and start learning at school -3:30pm school finishes/ start walking home -4:00pm arrive home and start homework for every subject -6:00 pm dinner time (I can choose to eat slower so i have time to watch TV -After dinner -I might be able to squish in some iPad time. -10~11:00pm go to sleep. (they'll set extra homework for weekends in order to keep you busy.
Who's "they"? And what do you mean by "you"? The readers aren't on your schedule, you are on your schedule. Some people aren't even in school that are reading your comment, that makes no sense.
Not that bad of a schedule tbh, that would be the schedule of a healthy and responsible human being. Doing homework, going to school, dinner with the family, ect.
My parents were a bit like that, shouting, swearing, homework etc, no games, no saying I love you, no physical contact. to this day I cannot even pat my dad on the shoulder for something. they think my daughters upbringing is a little "liberal", it really does end with US, we will stop this nonsense and it is indeed up to us.
6 hours to sleep on weekdays and those adept at sleeping can get 90% sleep efficiency (average 80%-85%) meaning about 5h to 5h 30m of realistic sleep. Kid is going to crash and burn with that sleep schedule.
+Kayla Bradley 8-9 hours is impossible for students to be honest. Most of my friends including myself sleep 6 hours and below. We can't really afford to sleep much if we want to score well for our exam. but I will surf the Internet for an hour before studying so...I'm wasting 1 hour XD
Chained Trapped Impossible? With the help of Google, kids between 3-6 years old need 10 - 12 hours of sleep per day. And this kid is sleeping for only 6 hours per day!! Like what everyone says, he's gonna crash sooner or later. Let me assume youre around 12-19 years old, you need around 8 - 9 hours per day but sadly thats the idealistic number and like what you said, it can never happen!! (expecially when you waste your time browsing the internet :P lol) Adults tho, we need around 6-7 hours of sleep per day so this mother is total bulls.
Kayla Bradley I'm 16 and I only use 1 hour to surf Internet a day. ( Just sharing so don't have to be mean :D ) In my country , at that age around 6 years only , parents will be set up tuition for their 6 years old children. I sleep around 5 to 6 hours a day , the only bad thing that happen is headache that constantly attacking. My country , when it comes to Chinese New year , all the relatives will be gathering and their favourite thing to do is to ask parents about their child progress and start comparing. Students are constantly being compared so they will rather sleep less and work more with the stress given by our parents. To be honest , when my parents give me stress on my studies , I will burst out and say " why not you study instead " XD
This leaves pretty much no room for any sort of natural social interaction, this kid is going to have a hell of a time later in life trying to form meaningful relationships.
I think the mom is living through her son, wanting him to overachieve in everything, but there is clearly no balance, he needs to take a break and maybe cut down on some activities. Success comes with hard work but also resting.
I am a Westerner, but 3 of my 4 grandparents are half Asian. (on each side one is half Indian, and my paternal grandmother is half Chinese). STILL, I had an extreme eagle father and a (moderate) tiger mother! It is indeed true what you guys say; I am in my 30s now and my parents started with the 'I Love you's a few years ago... it's so weird, but they totally brought it on themselves... especially my dad
Same I wish both of my parents have stage 4 cancer and coronavirus at the same time(ok fine maybe it’s a little too extreme but I still wish they will perish sooner
then he'll hate his life with his parents. try to be closer with his friends more and be more distant with his parents. this is what usually happens around my strictly raised chinese classmates in my chinese school lol
WSJ CEO i live in malaysia and im going to singapore soon. But the main reason i want to go there is to leave home, not because of the edu. Anyway, i heard that the school i, going to emphasizes more on other stuff than academics
Thank you both for speaking out for all those kids suffering and having a tormented childhood under the absolute reign of tiger moms out there! I personally had an unpleasant childhood also due to strict parenting and I just wish someday Chinese parents in general can learn to build friendly/ loving relationships with their children instead of always striving to become an "authority figure" in their children's lives.
+Jayfan Thanks for the comment, the way 'traditional' Asian parents are used to raise their kids is always a interesting and important topic for us to discuss. There's good things they exhibit but also some not so good, and it's important to talk bout it!
+Double Chen I'm Latina, Mexican here in the us. my mother was affectionate either but it didn't stop me from being loving, sweet or kind. I've been called innocent and sheltered, I turned 25 last year and I'm very aware of the world now. I wonder why some Asian Americans are so cold? I don't mean to offend but I just don't get it. I'm daring an Asian guy and he's very caring but not very affectionate or romantic. its hard to explain.
If I didn't have my rebellious personality, I'd think that this is what my schedule would be. Unfortunately for my parents, one skill I did pick up was logical analysis and argumentative debating. So anything that I can logically deem worthless to my schedule, my parents HAVE to accept me not doing it.
Lol same, my parents used to be very strict, I managed to make them believe that grades aren't everything for your life and everyone needs free time to develop their skill, they let me do whatever I want, I have no extra class after school, saturday and sunday is absolutely free..
My mom was on the college acceptance board for Dartmouth College. She knows for a fact that this lifestyle does not work any better than just working really hard in highschool and being sane about your time management.
***** I should have clarified. Working really hard on school work yet only specializing your extra-curricular activities to only one or two things to show commitment to colleges and time managing at the same time.
I think the idea of having a schedule and having activities and other priorities during the day is a good thing to have so children can become discipline but this legit is overboard
When does this poor kid get to play? Use his imagination? And kids need at least 8 hours of sleep a night for their health! That's a lot of pressure to put on a little kid!
8 hours of sleep is recommended for adults...most younger kids need around 10 hours of sleep for optimal health and happiness. Which makes this schedule even worse, in my opinion.
i agree with you. a child need to have a childhood. this parent is indeed a psycho. but i think that every parent should educate the life lessons he or she have learned to their child.
One of my niece's swim mates has a mom like this and it just breaks my heart. That poor little girl has to swim at least 30 extra minutes after their session is done so she can get better. All I see is a 9 year old that will not improve because she's always beyond exhausted. =(
+Sweet y Salado 30 extra minutes really isn't that bad. my friends and I on the swim team used to do half an hour extra before and after swim practice (which was three times a week). and yes, that was around 9 years old too.
+M.R. Yan It's implied that the kid is doing a lot more than swimming to make them exhausted. But regardless, what is the point of this? Emphasising good physical fitness habits is great, but what is the purpose of draconian training? They will never grow as a person if everything they do is scheduled and forced. They will never be creative, interesting, or great. They probably won't even be good. You'll be lucky if they're not resentful and depressed and commit suicide. They're people, not rats.
You will break, will probably be something so minor and insignificant. The reason this will happen is because: your unconscious mind was never taught how to deal with stress - it has no frame of reference. I'd suggest yoga and meditation, so when the unconscious mind is ready to break, you'll have already implemented a way to handle it. I used to be a life coach :-)
i think you should start thinking and do some researches before you comment, if you are talking about "Asians commiting Suicide" i would refer the Japanese. and the video was about "Tiger moms" which is about Most Chinese moms... Most Japanese people do commit suicide because of stress , depression, fatigue and lack of communication with other people because of the technology. So most of them decides to commit suicide instead because they don't know or they don't think of sharing their problems to other people. Kids who were raised with Tiger Moms are either end up crazy or successful. but all i can say that those who were raised by them becomes self-centered, they do have higher expectations and standards, they are good in academics but not with socialization. and there are lots of Asians who aren't Chinese nor Japanese .. so I really find your thought about "Now i understand why so many Asians commit suicide" quite irrelevant.
My mom was a tiger mom when I was younger and I liked my father more, though I did not like either of my parents much, but as I grew older I feel like my father has been getting much stricter than my mother. I appreciate it though, if this is what it takes to succeed in society and get into a nice college then I guess it doesn't matter too much now.
Every parent wants good for the kids. But this mom is going too far. This kid is gonna be abusive and have social issues and trusting issues. Some parents have to love the children thy have and not try to get the children they think they should get. Tiger Moms are cool for me. I mean, my mom is a bit strict but she isn't a tiger. Bit my classmate has a tiger mom and she has a good relationship with her parents. But this kid is gonna think that he or she needs to get good grades because to that child, that's love. They don't really know what true love is. And all throughout their life, they'll think love means getting the best grades and having a lot of talent. I don't like this mom's tactics. This kid is gonna get brainwashed
Also at the part where I say the kid is gonna get abusive, I mean that he or she will copy the mother and think that that's the right way to teach their children which is not completely true
If I was the child, I would probably be dead. 6 hours of sleep is bad for a child. Kids need 8 hours of sleep. In fact, all humans, young or old, need at least 8 or 9 hours of sleep. This child is not gonna be healthy no matter how much fruits or vegetables he or she eats. Sleep is important, especially for children. I'm starting to wonder if the mother knows that or she's an idiot
This mom also needs to learn that she should let her kid make his or her own decisions. Because if they force then to do something they hate, they are going to be miserable... FOREVER
I really loved how you handled this topic. Coming from a Japanese upbringing in Michigan, a lot of points that you brought up (Fear of parents later in life, the face-saving, and the incorrect idea of what would help my kid) are spot on. There's a reason so many Asian kids are in therapy for depression, anxiety, and performance phobia and why in China, Japan, and South Korea so many students are committing suicide. This idea of packing a day full of learning may have worked 1-2 millennia ago, but in this day and age that's not possible, especially with everything getting Westernized
This reminds me of a Supernanny episode where this one Chinese family loaded their seven kids up with at least seven activities apiece. The mother even said her NINE YEAR OLD son wasn't writing nice descriptive paragraphs. She wanted him to stick with a tutor. Jo Frost had to point out he wasn't even in middle school & how he needs some room to breathe.
how does one type sarcasm on?. besides, I'm not a native speaker so I really don't know where I messed up.. I don't have kids either, as I said, it was sarcasm update: just read it again, it's the "did" with the past tense of kill right?. better fix it now
I woke up at five in the morning because my school elementary schedule moved a half hour more, making me miss Sailor Moon when Toonami was during the day and only re-run the episode from the previous day _early_ in the morning. No regrets. This was a time before game clip people.
ChaosPod If I recall I did not have a VCR in my own room. ( If we woke up my mother in the early morning we would have been scolded, she worked around 9am. It was just easier to wake up and watch in my room.) My mother would have killed me if I tape over any of the movies that we had, and no, she wouldn't buy a blank VHS tape so my sis and I could watch one show.
OMG!!! This is HORRIBLE! The expectation that mom is having for her son are incredibly unrealistic and it's cruel. I can't imagine how an adult could keep up with that kind of a schedule. At least having a complete day of rest is very, very important. I can't imagine!
gloos You're born with it, and he will become more clever in the long run. And that means creative thinking, in the future, he most likely will rebel and then develop one. History shows, oppressive forces always are conquered, or simply bypassed all the time, what's the difference with a child who's forced to have something like this imposed on him, so he'll most likely, bypass it.
Im ten hes nine..hes in forth grade im guessing...forth grade you dont have to go through all those, its so easy, and why do we call this tiger mom? Its not even a mom any more, shes like the ruler of slavery or something
I like discipline and making your child the best they can be but this isn't healthy mentally or physically. This can result in pyschological disorders and have a mad genius(literally) on your hands. I feel like it's too far.
A genius. What's your definition of genius. I'll say my personal one, someone who uses their imaginations to gain further knowledge. This kid has no imagination. This is literally forced labor, and forced labor rarely makes geniuses(not statistically true, but you get the point). I agree with you, she's crazy, but what she's doing will drive him mad or have social issues, or if they get talented on the piano or whatever, they'll probably lie about being fine. People aren't getting that this labor, yes Asian parents do that, and yes people do get good and on television saying they're grateful, but out of the 500 million or so kids who experience that, how many say they're fine.
The school system in China doesn't allow for geniuses to succeed. They don't put emphasis on understanding what you're learning or critical thinking. It's about memorization and routine responses. A so called genius would fail in school
My dad is a tiger dad, he raised me to be independent, he was strict and he wouldn't take any of my crap; of course, I grew to appreciate him, but my dad wasn't perfect. He was unable to provide me any sort of emotional support, ultimately, this caused our relationship to suffer. All I can say is, just because someone may appreciate their upbringing, doesn't mean that they had the best of parents.
I have a friend with strict parents. We always try to cheer her up and help her. She’s the nicest person you’ll ever meet. We give her support for everything.
After you finish your homework you can go play
the piano
Yay!!!
I would probably end up breaking it somehow XD jk but i still have no idea how to play the piano but i would teach myself
Can you make me some lemonade
THE DAMN PIANO FO' 5 MOA HOUAAAAAS
This reminds me of the anime 'Your Lie in April'
When you punish your kids for their honesty, they begin to lie...
The Weirdos my mom did that
Just Another Human Being its like a survival instinct
Strict parents raise the best liars. It's the truth. That's what happened to me
Amber Ly wait how can we trust you
Haggis Llama It just happens. Strict parents don't REALLY raise their kids to be liars. It's just that kids might lie to parents and you gotta be a good liar to go do things you want. Idk I just found that quote somewhere on the internet
You doctor yet?
No dad I'm 12
TALK TO ME WHEN YOU DOCTOR
this made me laugh way too hard
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this kid is going to rebel when he's older. No kid should be forced to do all this without a break. wheres his social life?? this kid isn't going to be able to use basic social skills because this freaky woman is keeping him in a tiny little bubble
I feel like he wont even know how to have a basic conversation and talk about chinese litterature instead.
He probably does have friends, after all he does go to school everyday
He will only be able to talk about the things he knows...And even that's a stretch, he will have no friends, and will have a hard time making any form of friends when he's older. His life is being ruined...If he has a choice, when his mom's older and is asking for him to take care of her, he should just leave her or put her through the same things that she put him through....xD
It worries me that this kid might end up committing suicide because of this
this is common for them. And he won't rebel, because he wont know that there is such a thing as having a fun, social life
Where on the schedule is time for that child's childhood?
school is the only free time ;-;
I don't think they care about childhood, i highly doubt that exists over in most Asian countries etc. I'd a runaway if my sisters had such a schedule for me as a kid.
My only free time is sleeping to get away from reality.
I'm from China and I grew just like that. To be honest it actually feels quite normal when everyone around you are doing the same thing, and if you look back (I'm 26 now) it's actually kinda funny
Chang Liu i feel sorry for strict parents who raised their under extreme strict rules. Then when the kids get older, the son / daughter they thought they raised would be successful when they get a job. They (child) ends up being a killer. I pray nightly for the those in third world countries and parents raising strict kids, hoping they will become successful doctors ; attorney etc.
I didn't think about the childhood they didn't think about the grandchildren being like oh grandma you're great you brought Daddy/mommy to the fair whatever she was upset or oh my gosh you took her to a Justin Bieber concert I don't think they thought about the fun stories
Awful! I was raised this way and it was terrible. I was stressed and burned out by 14. It's too much for a child. I had no time to relax. I had no childhood. I was expected to act and be like an adult from day one.
Korea is the worst because teachers don't call you by your name but by your grade rank instead so if you are bad you get called your bad rank everyday and are prone to bullying making the bad stay bad. Even kids who graduate from SNU in Korea may even end up being a taxi driver due to a small job market.
@@moonori4595 damn...
I am 13 and I have depression at 7 my parents killed all 12 of my pet chickens at 5-8 I bought fish my dad killed them all I am forced to not use wifi until I was 11 I didn’t get a gadget until I was 10 and it was from my aunt before that when I was 7 I got an iPhone 3 and all I could do was text and call this is only just a few of them
Edit: my parents are considering removing all my gadgets cuz I use it too much cuz it’s my only source of happiness
I’m sorry to hear bro
10 000 subscribers without video challenge hope things gets better mate
I’ve worked in education in central China. I really appreciate Asian people acknowledging what parents do to their kids is cruel. I’ve literally been reduced to tears over the treatment of some of my students by their parents. Kudos for outing this.
So sad to see that video 😑😑😑
Also, the suicide rates of these students are very high because of the pressure and expectations.
He's 9, right? He's not getting enough sleep. Reccomended that kids 7-13 years get 9-11 hours of sleep a night.
If this kid fells asleep the second he was allowed to lay down which is not how sleep actually works for humans he's getting at most 8 hours of sleep but you know that kids too stressed out to do so. This is awful. Why is this allowed?
Rinee-Okumura Hambleton it takes me around 4 hours to fall asleep
I get maybe 5 hours a night
Ark Ian i get around three
Tr1cKZz same
deadmanz land because i usually can't sleep, i end up just watching anime and playing games but thats nothing new because im pretty much antisocial anyways
This kids schedule reminds of a Rhianna song
Work work work work work work
nice
I KNEW IT
that is the best comment I've seen all day
Bleach I think i need you now like now!!
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And we wonder why they have such a high suicide rate. Look at the kids in Finland and the Netherlands, both top 10 countries in education and because they let the kids be kids. School starts later so they can get more sleep, they are allowed much more play time in the primary years, and most importantly THEY ARE HAPPY. Seriously, happiness is paramount especially to a child, because sadly in this world that is the only time when one is truly happy. Your kid is going to die one day and none of your rigorous training will matter. All that will matter is if they enjoyed the life they lived, and lived it to its full extent. Please think it over, what you are doing to your son.
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Good speech your a good person
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it's not true that we have more free hours in the Netherlands we get tons of homework and are in school from 8:30 am till sometimes 5:00 pm. but it's true that we're a happy country
Lucky I have americanized Asian parents. Playing a few hours of video games is no problem for them. Still need decent grades.
aesth i have “lax” asian parents. They dont care how much games i play but my grades must be B or higher
Legions Typhoon same
what tiger moms are doing is ruining their kid's social life so when the real world comes to them they're gonna become a homeless guy living on the street cuz they are completely unprepared
Same
That’s the standard in my home, Mexican mama
Same. But I’m not allowed to play on school nights. Only Friday nights and Saturdays. But my weekends are all taken up by marching band. So I basically have no free time. ( on weekdays I have to study and do work, or else I’m called “lazy”. They also call me lazy for getting bad grades. Meanwhile it’s not me being lazy, it’s just me having trouble with the content in the class. To them, bad grades= lazy. Which doesn’t make any sense. If I actually understood the stuff I had in class, and they helped me, my grades would be better. It’s like if I get below and 85, they restrict my free time even more.
Wait, wait, wait ... stop the presses. Dan was raised by Chinese hippies?? hahaha
Would love to hear more about how that went.
+Kirk Johnson tis true
+Double Chen please tell us more. 😀
+Double Chen I was raised similar to Dan ,funny thing I'm shanghaineese too haha
+Kirk Johnson dan's parents are artists... but also asian... so yea HAHAHHAH
+Alex that makes since if they were artist
That seems like it'd be unsustainable. If that kid snaps (in any number of ways), we know who to blame. That's all that needs to be said.
+FancyKerbloops suicidal.
+mrkuang88 or homicidal
+FancyKerbloops guilt trip away lol
ppl have the potential to be great but i wonder if einstein, the curies, and newton were raised like this tho. i think it's a cultural thing and just because you dont kno of any other way to do it doesnt mean it is the best way to do it. it think some asian parents only kno to either totally dote and spoil or being a total psycho life proctor. this stems from the history that mold the regions' way of thinking. plus society ususally depict the image of chill ppl as total failure drug addict trash of society. no middle ground in most cases. // coming from an east asian
+FancyKerbloops People breaks down from stress related work in China quite frequently, so we can pretty much see where this child is going.
What is the kid actually training for? Commander of the star fleet?
He has to become admiral before he is 30, duh!
no he is gonna be a doctor
Squeeze Asian Captain Picard
He will bring back gabe
Yes. Yes he is.
This entire "tiger mom" concept does more harm than good. There's no point. American kids who are not subjected to this treatment turn out just fine. In fact, I don't know of any really successful person who grew up doing nothing but studying, especially not in the US. I'm starting to think that parents who do this are just trying to live vicariously through their children, forcing the kids to make up for their parents' own shortcomings. Asian kids are often just bragging points for their parents (and I have experienced this, although I think my parents are fine) to feel better about themselves. They do this for their own pride, and increasingly less for their children's success.
Lol so relatable
@GiovannisSanctuary my aunty... She was religious nut case though lol
Maybe it's becuase it's not america ? Our culture is different , especially in asia , you can't just judge our culture ...and kids that do well even without studying a lot are the EXCEPTION not the RULE!
That’s awful I didn’t know that’s the cost of getting top grades
And too add to the controversy, they think it will work. Their children will become smart ass rich bois, and then steal from them.
As soon as he said that he wakes up at 5:00 AM I was done
Me
I have to wake up that early for school
+Edward Rey Same
Yeah I like my sleep lol
It's pretty common in asia not to get much sleep, i just sleep 14 hours a day during the holidays to compensate
I find this to be borderline slavery,
Because it is
It is
Hey! Didn't expect to see you here Taylor!
lith aspct lol hello! :)
How?
The nine year old is going to bed at 11 and waking up at 6? And he isn't acting like Satan from sleep deprivation?
+blatherskitenoir actually he gets up at 5am!
Kids need at least 8 hours of sleep!! Omg... this lady...
+KazMoMachine I heard/saw/read somewhere that kids under 15yo or 18yo needs 10-12 hrs of sleep at night because their body and brain is still developing and cell growing and expanding the best during night sleep. So yeah, tiger moms are skeery :S
+Julianne Brandis your right and children need about 11 to 12ish hours
You two are blinking right... I have a three-year-old and she does get around 10ish+ hours a night. I think I might end up like Dan's parents (in the best way possible :-D).
No it ain’t normal, the moment that kid becomes independent he’ll become lazy and unmotivated. Speaking from experience
KANEISNINJA so true. There was this kid who had a tiger mom and he went to really good university. Then he became lazy and stuff and played video games all day. The school ending up kicking him out.
or they snap and commit suicide... happened at NYU, Upenn, harvard, Palo Alto schools. so many bright young asians who committed suicide..
It's the darn computer!!1!1!1!1!!1!1!1!1!1!1!1!1!1!1!1!!1!!!!!!1!1!1!1!1!1!1!1!1!1!1!1!1!1!
@@GenericPhantom1 lol relateableeee
As well as being too afraid to fight back when someone physically attacks him.
I understand pushing your child to their best. But when you completely control your kids life to make him smarter is horrible. Kids should be kids
not sure people who comment like this know what it's like to live in the grinding poverty of an authoritarian communist regime and how it changes your view on survival.
Thomas The Pedo agreed
Yea this kid is going to be very intelligent, but he is going to have absolutely no social skills at all.The parent needs to let him just be a kid!
True that !
Intelligence cannot be changed. You are born with a certain level of it. He isn't going to become more intelligent, but will be significantly more knowledgeable and a lot smarter than the average child of his age. The social aspect of life is far more important to people of average and low intelligence as they find it hard to enjoy things that require effort i.e: learning, developing etc...
That is where you're wrong, IQ isn't genetically set. You can get a better IQ with certain daily practices and puzzles.
Pocky Cat You cannot. Your IQ does not increase, you just get better at the games and puzzles the more you practice and play. IQ is fixed.
Doge wow your IQ can only change by 5. Up or down.
on the building that I live there was a boy whose family was exactly like that, and when he grew up he tried to kill his father multiple times. His life now is miserable, he has developed a scary character and now he undergoes psychological medication. ~WELL DONE PARENTS~
Vlad Se Caca :'(
George Karter
yeah it's pretty sad things like these happen
I feel so sorry
I've seen a tiger mom slapped her son in public. Because he was talking to his friends....
This should be categorized as child abuse
Random gooy it is
Random gooy So should overprotecting
Cool Dude They’re just saying how that mental abuse is, like they are overworking that child mentally to the bone. It’s kinda like abuse....
Ruby Gacha Overprotecting is mental abuse but I don’t see any videos about that.
Emma Frost It’s not overprotecting, it’s stress. The parents are giving the child stress, more stress than an average little kid is supposed to have. If they really were gonna actually protect that kid, they wouldn’t have been stressing him out with all those activities, and stress him out with his grades. That’s harming the child mentally, not protecting the child at all.
If this happened over here in the US, that kid wouldn't have the ability to socialize with ANYONE. Hell, he probably won't even have the ability to have a job until he's in his 20's or 30's, that is, if he's even employed at all.
WeTalk440 are you implying the development of schioid personality disorder?
tbh this is why a lot of asian people are introverts.
One of reason why asian dont talk to stranger
Okjuu Pk it's a universal thing
yeah.. tiger parenting creates a lot of socially awkward kids..
I had zero schedule, as long as my grades were good and I was staying out of trouble, I could do whatever I wanted. I would hang out with my friends until 10:30 and be home at like 11 on a school night and it didn't matter. This kid is going to hate his life.
FrostyFooy he already hates his life
FrostyFooy Your mom must be cool.
FrostyFooy ur life is luxury
Same
Same, except my mom doesn't allow me to stay out too long because of so many gang wars breaking out in my area.
Isn't there enough time to be adult when he's adult?
Skeleteor Your profile pic scared the living daylight out of me. I feel so dumb.
Skeleteor Weird profile pic
OMG I LIGET THOUGHT THERE WAS A FLY ON MY COMPUTER GODODD
That's the most realistic insect profile picture I've seen lol. I had to touch my monitor to make sure lol.
your profile scared me
"You can be anything what you want, my child. Doctor or engineer"
- Asian parent 😑
Carltastic Drew trruee
Carltastic Drew and Indian
RK Chellappan Indian is Asian dumbass
My Greek mom : You can be anything you want.
Me : I want to be a music produce-
My Greek mom : YOU ARE TOO SMART TO WASTE YOUR BRAIN, BECOME A DOCTOR OR A SCIENTIST OR I DISOWN YOU
Or lawyer
If your preparing your child for the International Math Olympiad, why the hell does he need to know Latin dancing?
Character? jk idek
No, probably to get girls..LOL
So he can become little Rain Man on the inside and Ricky Martin on the outside.
Isn't IMO like for high schoolers? I tried out for our national team once.
so asian parents want their kids to go to an ivy league school so they try to make their kid exactly like this other kid they heard about that got into Harvard. Lately though, the fact that ivy league schools look for diversity and uniqueness in applicants has become known to asian parents so they try to squeeze in something random along with all the other stuff. For a me it was bicycle repair. For this kids it is latin dance. (I'm Chinese btw. James is an alias. )
Glad I never got this as a kid from my Asian parents. That amount of sleep for a child is not healthy.
The average human needs 8 hours of sleep minimum to be able to function healthily. MINIMUM. Which means over 8 hours is FINE for proper health. You don't need to be a doctor to know this. How about you reply to me when you can spell English properly, dumb ass.
You dont need to be a doctor to know that kids need A LOT more than 8 hours of sleep. Some up to 12 hours of sleep...
Everybody know that you need 8 hours of sleep lol. Also, its healthily not healthy. Say it out loud with healthy and it doesn't make sense. So you are the one who is supposed to take english classes.
Lmao all the seriousness.
Actually adults can sustain a healthy life with 5-7 hours of sleep. The 8 hours of sleep grew into somewhat of an urban myth. As for children yea I'd say anything under 8 hours is considered pushing the limit of turning into a problem.
i think this is cruel. kids need to be kids!
nice profile pic
is it Gerard Way's butt
Leah Mayr yesss!
***** do you think children should be pressured into this then? that they should sleep only 6 hours a night and work hard all day? without any free time to play with other children and develop their own personalities. making them watch propaganda is horrendous.
I disagree.
My mom lost custody of me for being a tiger mom in the US
LUL if this is true im dead
Why?
that good for you
Lmao
Good for you dude
My parents don't brainwash me or my siblings or force us to study. We are still all doing well 😊
The only thing I'm forced to do is go to Karate once a week so I'm fine with that :3 they just want me to be able to defend myself if anything happens
I love karate, I go 5 times a week, is on the performance team and tournament team. I do National tournaments and place very well in them, my forte is Sparring. I am testing for my green belt in October, I am a blue-green belt as of right now.
Don't assume things.
If there is one thing that I am terrible at in school, it would be Swedish. My grades were a little down at the 7th grade but my parents just told me to study more, they didn't pressure me or anything. In the end, I ended up forcing myself to study. Now the grades are only slightly under my GPA and I'm happy with that.
Bacon Skies You sound pretty good, I'm a brown belt with 2 Dans at the moment :) I'M SO FREAKING CLOSE TO BLACK THOUGH LIKE 2 MORE GRADINGS AHH
a 9 year old shouldn't be going to bed at 11. and also W H Y he's a kid let him breathe who cares if he isn't an A+ harvard student lmao the only thing important in our short lives as humans is to experience happiness and if this is making the kid happy thats great but otherwise let him be happy thats the greatest gift you could give him as a parent
Use commas and full stops pls
InFocus no?
grammar nazi
Max_Gamez ikr
I can read spelling errors, but I can't stand no full stops or commas otherwise it sounds like and that he did that and this and found him doing this and that and chicken nuggets and up there and happy and sad because of hard work and no fun and too much work
This kid is probably going to end up not knowing how to socialize with others.
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yea exactly
but i guess he will be Batman
His mother would answer to this by saying that he socializes at school but in school you go for learning, not socializing + this kid sleeps around 6 hours and that amount of sleep for a 9 year old can be dangerous for the physical and mental health...he should sleep AT LEAST 8 hours, poor kid.
Tbh school is a pretty major source of socialization, even if it isn't the main purpose
I have a tiger mom and when I explain it to my American friends, THEY DON’T ME AT ALL, they think I’m a liar. Even my Asian friends don’t believe me because their parents are westernized. My parents are the first generation to move to America so they are heavily influenced under Chinese culture and they put it on me. I never really had a childhood because that when they really did bad stuff to me like beat me up (Note: this was when I started to learn 911 and I didn’t want to lose my parents because they are still my parents). So you Americans, don’t bully us at school because we already had enough.
I feel you. south-asian houses have almost the same upbringing. at least, I did.
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i was just about to say that
Navwhal Guy update 2k
Like, even other tiger moms or eagle dads find this strict
Nav Boloor Make That 3,000 ++
:-^) indeed
That moment when you're Asian but have the nicest parents ever.
I'm not being nice ether, because they don't give schedules for me, they don't push me too hard, they over encourage me though but that's a good thing since I'm always hesitant on choices. They respect my opinions.( except religion, but I really don't care ) So yeah..
Those21Phandoms same for me, except my mom doesn't care about my grades at all and I end up having to push myself
Alicia Tan My family is strongly Buddhist and they would kill me if I wasn't. I just keep it a secret from them. My parents care about grades, but not as much as other people. In my moms standards, A is amazing, B is awesome, C could be better. F and Ds are a no no. Which is fine because I never get D and Fs anyway. I mainly get A and Bs. So I'm fine with grades.
Those21Phandoms 😳
My dad: A good B good C what the hell you are worthless D gets everything taken away including being in my room F Breaks my I pad with hammer I'm not kidding
Story of my childhood. It was torture. Every night- late at 1am when everyone's asleep, I'd stared for hours more into the night sky and ask myself "Why is this happening? When does this end? "I just want to be free". Follow their orders to the T or get beaten. Sometimes I get beaten even when I don't know why. Practiced piano for 2 hours instead of 3 hours on my birthday......went to school with a swollen face the next day. I had no friends. I had no confidence. Loneliness made my grades drop followed by further wrath and beating. They dragged me out of my room one night when I was asleep and threw me out. I don't know why. I didn't know where to go. I just sat around my backyard. Then they let me back in after a few hours.
The moment I thought I was old enough I fought him "The balrog of morgoth" until at least I threw down my enemy and smote his ruin upon the mountainside". Naaa. I didn't win. I did hundreds of pushups every night hoping I would become strong enough. Nope. I didn't get any stronger. Still bones weighing 100ib.
When I was 17-18, I became interested in science, saw it as a way out, and it was a way out.
Now they're trying to forget and make up for what they did to me now...and while I can tolerate them but I can't forgive them.
Oliver Roy don't!
Nathaniel Zhu feels bad man, good luck for the future
I would give the them the cold shoulder... and if you have any kids or are going to, don't ever let your parents see them. Tell your kids they died or went away or something like that. If they get angry and try to hurt you again, call the cops and put those fuckers in jail.
Guys- thanks for the concern. This matter however has been settled for years now.
I would not like to dig back up an old and now irrelevant problem.
There's no sense going through a lifelong self inflicted torture by refusing to leave the past behind.
I am happy now.
Nathaniel Zhu good :)))
These kinds of parents get more of a chance of
A: giving their child more of a chance of suicied
B: Getting aressted for child abuse
Actually, both options apply (on the legal end: this increases the possibility of the so-called 'tiger parent' getting arrested [and sentenced up to {25 years if extremely fierce}] by up to 274% [yes: the percentage is stunning, yet it is true]; on the psychological end: children that are raised by 'tiger parents' are [170% by birth; 295% by adoption] more likely to commit suicide.
I pretty much agree with you guys, and i remember my mother commenting: "but can the child manage itself? if you leave it alone, does it wait for a command, or start building something?" which was what she valued in us, the ability to create a life for ourselves, and be happy.
Interesting. This mom seems to want her kid to have extracurricular activities that she wants, but not really what he does. I think you should push your kids to do things they need academically but let them have a social life and discover what extra activities they are interested in.
Nice quote just can you not call the child a "it"
well it is a nonspecific, genderless concept, so "it" is as appropriate for a child as for a horse or kitten. as long as it's not a specific horse/kitten/child
unfortunately with the 9999999 different types of 'genders' these days, 'it' is out because the lgbt have perverted that word like they perverted rainbows
I feel like it's situational. You can use it for small children, animals, the like. "It"can be more of a concept. But people do not refer to children they know personally as "it." I didn't see anything wrong with that quote lol
there, i watched it youtube. Now get it out of my recommended
6 hours sleep is way too little for a 9 year old
Im 11 and I barley sleep at all
Right..lol
my sources say no.
14, any less than 9 and I'm tired all day.
Is this kid allowed to have a social life with people his age? Does his mom even let him play? Poor kid. :/
no you gotta study and become a doctor
Why you no doctor yet?
U doctor yet? Talk to me when you doctor.
Family guy ref
You think she cares about his 'social life'?
I'm Chinese too, and my mom used to be a tiger mom too (she has slowly let go I guess), and I honestly thank her for it. Without the discipline I was under, I wouldn't have the grades I have today. Nowadays, I do have a social life, but during exam periods I stop going out with my friends... To me, having a tiger mom isn't that bad, but those who are wayyy too much (like this one in the video) .. I don't think this boy will have much of a real childhood.
same
Same! My mother was extremely hard on me for the first 7-8 years of my life and it set me on the right track afterwards as she slowly stopped being so hard on me.
How cares ? Tiger moms are awfull!
You’re dumb for that
Strictness can be good if it isn't taken to the extreme.
I kinda wish my parents were strict. I get my work done and stuff but I wish I had someone looking over my shoulder and saying they're proud of me when I do things
That's not how strict Asian parenting works. My parents have never said that they were proud of me , much less an i love you.
... No... That is the exact opposite of what asian parents are doing... They will always say what that you are doing isn't good enough. They will get physical with you and when you dare express some form of independence, they would accuse you of not appreciating them.
Now... I just want to join the marines... Guess what? They accuse of me being lazy and only caring for myself and my feelings.
Well, I am stuck here cause you guys won't sign the papers for me to enlist and you guys are hiding my documents which I won't be able to get until October 8 (been waiting five months). And guess who was the one with all the visions of me being a business man? YOU! I AM NOT GIVING UP MY DREAMS FOR YOU!
Exactly, parents want there kids to be what they WANT THEM TO BE which causes so much god dam stress. How are we supposed to feel good about ourselves when parents don't congratulate us for getting good grades or just being a good person in general.
My mom has always wanted me to play guitar, do karate, do this , do that. since a young age, now as i am older (11-13) I am realizing i dont always have to follow everything she says if it doesn't make sense. i dropped out of karate almost a year ago cuz i reached black belt like she wanted me to and i didnt like the new instructor (his son hated me). She is trying to get me to rejoin and is saying "If you don't want to do something, just tell me. No point in wasting time and money of you don't want to do it." This might sound great but she has raised me always telling what she wants me to do and i don't want to dissapoint her. So whenever i talk about guitar, or we see a musical intrument on tv, she brings up that guitar is expensive and if you don't want to play it. I feel like she has always made my decisions for me, now when i have some freedom all i want to do i impress her. And i agree with the people above, she never praises me, whenever she asks me to play guiter for her and my dad, she looks unintrested and my dad is on his phone. I feel like I will never have a normal conversation with my parents, they will always bring something up. I think that is why my sister (who has just graduated from college) never calls home.
Ganlas 324 Give it some time. Or, if you go to a school with a lot of other "races" like I do, you can ask the school consolers to speak on your behalf.
Never give up. You can pull through it until you reach the magical age of 18 (two more weeks). And don't give up your dreams.
No 9 year old should be running on 6 hours of sleep. That's almost half of what he needs! I get about 5 hours, but I'm in high school so that's normal. He should be going to bed at the LATEST 9 'o clock.
He needs 12+ hours of sleep?
+Sheepdog_ it's a tad of an exaggeration by a hour or so but yeah. Everyone's supposed to get eight, more than that for kids. If he went to bed at 9 and woke up at 5, that's about right. The recommendation for 9 year-olds is 9 - 11 hours.
Sheepdog_ almost half I said. 10 is good for his age, and 6 is almost half of that.
Erin Corcoran Usually when someone uses almost, the numbers go up. I see now.
Sheepdog_ ok, and yes I see what you mean
what bothers me is that this nine year old is getting only six hours of sleep...
he'll soon snap and burn the house down with the mom inside. she's making a monster.
Yeah, it's a horrible idea. I'm Asian. When I was six, I had about the same amount of sleep, and even less than that on many days. At that young age, I was already frequently thinking about suicide back then. I felt suffocated back then. Later on, my family became poorer and moved into the ghetto in America. That was when my mom had to stop the craziness. I was much happier when my family was poorer. (It's A LOT better than suffocating every day). Thank God, because who knows how messed up I would've turned out if the craziness didn't stop. Ironically, after my mom's craziness stopped, my grades got better, I learned a computer programming language on my own, and I became better at sports.
Thanks for sharing! It just goes to show that overbearing parents may be hurting their child way more than helping.
I can sleep how ever long I want. Yeah sometimes I can wake up late and sleep the next day
In Germany you can achieve graduations of different levels. My mom always wanted me to stop at a relatively low level to become a carpenter or something similar. In spring I’ll write the exams for the highest possible graduation from school and I will attend university and be paid for it
Kinda similar in USA in some ways.
@@anniep2837 on what planet? You get a shitty education unless you pay for it, athletes are deified and then you have student loans. This country is fucked compared to Germany
@@birdfriday On Earth, of course. The education is far worse, but here we also can graduate at different levels (no honors, cum laude, magna cum laude, summa cum laude), choose to graduate with only lower credits (no honors courses, AP exams, etc) because you're only interested in a trade (i.e. carpenter), choose whether or not to attend university, and also receive large scholarships that can completely cover or even more than cover your degree so that you are technically being paid to go to school. The details are different, but the framework does have similarities. It is the western model of education that both countries adhere to, after all.
@@brianbethea3069 the scholarships go to athletes
My schedule
Week day
-Wake up
-school
-homework
-chill
-bed
This kid is WOW
His schedule
- wake up
- school
- work
- work
- work
- work
- slee...
- never mind work
+Enchantress lol that's my schedule and I am Asian XD
My schedule
Whatever is happening
nothing else
My schedule Mon-Fri is (can't go down to next line idk how): Hear alarm- Go back to sleep for 30 mins- Get ready really quick- Nearly be late for school- Do school- Walk home- Watch RUclips- Forget to do homework- Just go to sleep anyway- Wake up in the middle of the night to do maths homework------- Sat: Sleep- RUclips- Sleep------- Sun: Sleep- Go to dad's- Annoy 2 year old sister- Go home- RUclips- Sleep------- My days are so fascinating :P
Tiger Mom VS Soccer Mom
Round 1
Who will win? You decide!
Asia will always win
tiger mom she the one w the belt
Soccer mom has minivan so she will run over tiger mom
+Rua Tin I agree with this fine man
the abusive deadbeat dad comes in and hits both of the moms before the fight starts. that just got fucked up...
In America:
911: what is your emergency:
MY MUM IS WIPING ME!
911 : THE SWAT IS COMING
In Asian countries:
what is your emergency
: my mum is wiping me
....... good
Good Civilians *whipping
PS one of the Chinese teachers at my school's name is Tingting
Worfin no one cares
Asians whip their kids?
whipping*
As long as my kid is happy in their life i’m not gonna abuse them like my mom did :( I’m not “asian” asian but my family is Indian from Trinidad and Tobago and when I was 4 my mom used to force me to do algebra and would slap me or hit me if I didn’t understand what I was doing. 13 years later and I don’t even have contact with her any more 🙏🏽
Good, what a horrible mother you had.
U should forgive u mother all she did for u own good . Of course she lost her temper sometimes but it is normal . Raising a child is hardest work ever ! u will understand once u will became parent someday . Call u mother ! think who gave u life in this world !
@@helen7829 no, this person's mother clearly did not show him any respect or mercy. She doesn't deserve him.
@@helen7829 uhhhh if it's hard for you, then why do it?
-You doctor yet?
-No dad I'm 12
-Talk to me when you doctor!
Lmaoooo
+Armin Arlert the Rebellious Blonde Lol! xD
+Armin Arlert the Rebellious Blonde Ahhhhhh attack on titan!
I don't get it plz tell me wasn't it is
LMFAO
I am SO glad you guys talked about this. I have so many Asian friends who have emotional troubles because of the way they were raised. Successful but it is really tough relationships with parents.
It's so important to remember that you're raising a complete human being and not just a machine who does well in school and on tests.
Thanks so much for talking about this.
+Tadzio5050 It gets real tough when I grew up in Asia and come to the US to study. Feel completely 100% social awkward in the beginning
+Tadzio5050 And trust me this is the typical schedule LOL
+Jenny Hoang I am sure it most be a difficult adjustment. Hugs!
He wasn't Asian with Asian parents, but I had a friend who put a lot of pressure on himself academically because of his parents. Both his parents were educators. His mom was a high school teacher & his dad was a college professor.
His mom had FIVE degrees! She has two bachelors, two masters, & a PhD!
He never gave himself a day of rest.
I used to live in Asia and this is my daily schedule:
-6:30am wake up and get ready for school etc...
-7:30am arrive and start learning at school
-3:30pm school finishes/ start walking home
-4:00pm arrive home and start homework for every subject
-6:00 pm dinner time (I can choose to eat slower so i have time to watch TV
-After dinner -I might be able to squish in some iPad time.
-10~11:00pm go to sleep.
(they'll set extra homework for weekends in order to keep you busy.
Clickbaiter mine is kinda similar but different timing and I have some free time sometimes I don't get homework 📚
St joseph?
Who's "they"? And what do you mean by "you"? The readers aren't on your schedule, you are on your schedule. Some people aren't even in school that are reading your comment, that makes no sense.
"they" probably mean teachers, tution teachers, parents, in general....
Not that bad of a schedule tbh, that would be the schedule of a healthy and responsible human being. Doing homework, going to school, dinner with the family, ect.
My parents were a bit like that, shouting, swearing, homework etc, no games, no saying I love you, no physical contact. to this day I cannot even pat my dad on the shoulder for something. they think my daughters upbringing is a little "liberal", it really does end with US, we will stop this nonsense and it is indeed up to us.
6 hours to sleep on weekdays and those adept at sleeping can get 90% sleep efficiency (average 80%-85%) meaning about 5h to 5h 30m of realistic sleep. Kid is going to crash and burn with that sleep schedule.
Yeah!! This is insane! Kids need around 8-9 hours of sleep!!
+Kayla Bradley 8-9 hours is impossible for students to be honest.
Most of my friends including myself sleep 6 hours and below.
We can't really afford to sleep much if we want to score well for our exam.
but I will surf the Internet for an hour before studying so...I'm wasting 1 hour XD
Chained Trapped Compare your age though. The amount for restful sleep needed tends to decrease as you become older.
Chained Trapped Impossible? With the help of Google, kids between 3-6 years old need 10 - 12 hours of sleep per day. And this kid is sleeping for only 6 hours per day!! Like what everyone says, he's gonna crash sooner or later. Let me assume youre around 12-19 years old, you need around 8 - 9 hours per day but sadly thats the idealistic number and like what you said, it can never happen!! (expecially when you waste your time browsing the internet :P lol) Adults tho, we need around 6-7 hours of sleep per day so this mother is total bulls.
Kayla Bradley
I'm 16 and I only use 1 hour to surf Internet a day.
( Just sharing so don't have to be mean :D )
In my country , at that age around 6 years only , parents will be set up tuition for their 6 years old children.
I sleep around 5 to 6 hours a day , the only bad thing that happen is headache that constantly attacking.
My country , when it comes to Chinese New year , all the relatives will be gathering and their favourite thing to do is to ask parents about their child progress and start comparing. Students are constantly being compared so they will rather sleep less and work more with the stress given by our parents.
To be honest , when my parents give me stress on my studies , I will burst out and say " why not you study instead " XD
This leaves pretty much no room for any sort of natural social interaction, this kid is going to have a hell of a time later in life trying to form meaningful relationships.
and we definitely notice it with Asian people because this isn't a unique case.
yup. Asian people may be smart but socially they have a harder time.
If I had a mom like that,I would have ran away from home at the age of 7 already
Mr. Serious China has a growing homeless population which isn't being tortured or killed. Idk what you're talking about.
China isn't communist
It's for the mum not the kid.
I think the mom is living through her son, wanting him to overachieve in everything, but there is clearly no balance, he needs to take a break and maybe cut down on some activities. Success comes with hard work but also resting.
Plus, it’s important to remember that a jack of all trades is a master of none
:^) most chinese moms are tiger moms. I know my mom was like that.
Hey i saw you on ross booms socks video
Ayy lmao aly
Most Asian moms in general.
why do i always see you bleach you have so many names jeez i see you in so many vods
I'm REALLY lucky mine isn't
I'm 43 I need me a Tiger Mom, I need her to kick me up the bum to get in gear. Where can I hire my tiger mom????
***** Oh right, very plausible thanks!! *facepalm*
+Fun Creatives What about a dominatrix for hire? lol
+Fun Creatives You mean a dominatrix?
elizabeth escobar Yeah I'm a female, so nope, kinda wouldn't work for me.
+Fun Creatives craigslist
my mom tried to be a tiger mom but my stubborn ass wouldn't let her
Saaaaaaaaame (y) *brofist*
lol relatable
Lol sammeee😂
This is so relateable
😂😂😂😂😂
I am a Westerner, but 3 of my 4 grandparents are half Asian. (on each side one is half Indian, and my paternal grandmother is half Chinese). STILL, I had an extreme eagle father and a (moderate) tiger mother!
It is indeed true what you guys say; I am in my 30s now and my parents started with the 'I Love you's a few years ago... it's so weird, but they totally brought it on themselves... especially my dad
New word : Eagle father
does he go to that weird place called "OUTSIDE"
Do u? Cause I don't
neither do I ^^
What's the server IP?
LMAO
Fatass
what our mom says: kids this day
what we say: moms this day
이선우 Don't you mean these?
"these days". Now you go back to your room, Ming Jao, and study more English!
@@adiksadiatabs Their name is actually more along the lines of Sunwoo (Seonwoo?), but hey, who am I to stop you―
Did u use google translate or something?
my parents are the contrary of this lmao, i even wished they were stricter to me
same lol
Not for me cuz my parents moved to america when I was born, and I guess that's where I got the fast adapter trait.
I don't think being moved to a different country right after birth constitutes fast adaptation.
Maybe it's just because I was born in Asian Mexico (Philippines)
I live in Asian Mexico. It's probably just in your genes.
The crying boy in the thumbnail, sort of made me want to cry
Same I wish both of my parents have stage 4 cancer and coronavirus at the same time(ok fine maybe it’s a little too extreme but I still wish they will perish sooner
BryanDoesASMR Are you feeling alright
@@bryandoesasmr7033 have they perished
This entire "Tiger Mom" Concept is pretty much just abuse.
Deflated Balloon Tiger moms are normal
In the video we were talking about a Dragon mom xD
to the western culture yeah but it's normal with Asia ??
it's not that normal. it's still considered abuse at least for my family.
Exactly
Yes, it is complete abuse of your child
I think this kid when he figures out what other people lives are like he'll be so surprised
A possible outcome.
then he'll hate his life with his parents. try to be closer with his friends more and be more distant with his parents. this is what usually happens around my strictly raised chinese classmates in my chinese school lol
kids are kids. not trophies pretty slaves
Epic Cool Tiger Tell that to Helena Yuan, one of my classmates whose mom hates me for making a simple choice of not going to a party.
Sounds like a typical Singaporean students day.
Hah. Best education in the world my ass.
WSJ CEO we do have the best education but also high suicide rates
WSJ CEO i live in malaysia and im going to singapore soon. But the main reason i want to go there is to leave home, not because of the edu. Anyway, i heard that the school i, going to emphasizes more on other stuff than academics
@@donovantan5962 I wonder why....
The thumbnail. Just looking at it makes me cry :( 😭😪
Me too
Poor little asian kid 😢😭😭😭
Thank you both for speaking out for all those kids suffering and having a tormented childhood under the absolute reign of tiger moms out there! I personally had an unpleasant childhood also due to strict parenting and I just wish someday Chinese parents in general can learn to build friendly/ loving relationships with their children instead of always striving to become an "authority figure" in their children's lives.
+Jayfan Thanks for the comment, the way 'traditional' Asian parents are used to raise their kids is always a interesting and important topic for us to discuss. There's good things they exhibit but also some not so good, and it's important to talk bout it!
Thanks for responding! Love your channel very much, please keep up your great work!
+Double Chen I'm Latina, Mexican here in the us. my mother was affectionate either but it didn't stop me from being loving, sweet or kind. I've been called innocent and sheltered, I turned 25 last year and I'm very aware of the world now. I wonder why some Asian Americans are so cold? I don't mean to offend but I just don't get it. I'm daring an Asian guy and he's very caring but not very affectionate or romantic. its hard to explain.
+Marcy was not*
+Marcy dating* oops I guess I need sleep, lol.
So... When does death appear on the schedule?
The child gets to choose that! It's called SUICIDE!!!!!!
If I didn't have my rebellious personality, I'd think that this is what my schedule would be. Unfortunately for my parents, one skill I did pick up was logical analysis and argumentative debating. So anything that I can logically deem worthless to my schedule, my parents HAVE to accept me not doing it.
Amber Knight Teach me your ways ;-; I don't even have a tiger mom I just need to stop being so shy and awkward
That's the exact same thing for me
Lol same, my parents used to be very strict, I managed to make them believe that grades aren't everything for your life and everyone needs free time to develop their skill, they let me do whatever I want, I have no extra class after school, saturday and sunday is absolutely free..
I learned to mentally block everything in life
I know things, Remember?
You can start by saying no and giving a proper reason why.
No point in that whole method if the kid itself has massive social problems and stress throughout life.
True
Ksjsj
I was thinking the same thing
spork l
Also unless it nets you a massive salary over the average salary what's the damn point?! Odd. Plp with no schedules are some of the richest plp.
My mom was on the college acceptance board for Dartmouth College. She knows for a fact that this lifestyle does not work any better than just working really hard in highschool and being sane about your time management.
Michael Yang Yup.
That's because colleges nowadays care more about hippies than geniuses.
I dont necessarily think its just about college, but life in general. The skills they believe will help you "succeed" in life.
***** I should have clarified. Working really hard on school work yet only specializing your extra-curricular activities to only one or two things to show commitment to colleges and time managing at the same time.
hello world! Your mom was one woman on one college acceptance committee. She doesn't represent anyone but herself.
SIX HOURS OF SLEEP? IM TIRED FROM 8 HOURS
6 hours of sleep would be a blessing. I'm lucky if I get more than 4.
I'm tired and sluggish if I don't get AT LEAST 8 hours.
u need 8 hours of sleep to grow LOL, i guess that mom likes her kid to be short
I usually get 5 hours, although it's cause I wake up at 5 am to do my homework and go to sleep at like 1am because Netflix
Is this why I'm short
I think the idea of having a schedule and having activities and other priorities during the day is a good thing to have so children can become discipline but this legit is overboard
Agree
When does this poor kid get to play? Use his imagination? And kids need at least 8 hours of sleep a night for their health! That's a lot of pressure to put on a little kid!
At least a bright future is upon them..
+Ugo Kun That's not for certain. Don't mix causation with correlation.
+Ugo Kun a bright future is open to kids who get to enjoy some play time too
A good job, maybe, but being unhappy for a lifetime could also be possible.
8 hours of sleep is recommended for adults...most younger kids need around 10 hours of sleep for optimal health and happiness. Which makes this schedule even worse, in my opinion.
If you don't raise your child society will.
Or by the wrong crowd and learn some other nonsense.
wow a great saying. i am an exampel of that.
i agree with you. a child need to have a childhood. this parent is indeed a psycho. but i think that every parent should educate the life lessons he or she have learned to their child.
so true
One of my niece's swim mates has a mom like this and it just breaks my heart. That poor little girl has to swim at least 30 extra minutes after their session is done so she can get better. All I see is a 9 year old that will not improve because she's always beyond exhausted. =(
+Sweet y Salado 30 extra minutes really isn't that bad. my friends and I on the swim team used to do half an hour extra before and after swim practice (which was three times a week). and yes, that was around 9 years old too.
+M.R. Yan It's implied that the kid is doing a lot more than swimming to make them exhausted. But regardless, what is the point of this? Emphasising good physical fitness habits is great, but what is the purpose of draconian training? They will never grow as a person if everything they do is scheduled and forced. They will never be creative, interesting, or great. They probably won't even be good. You'll be lucky if they're not resentful and depressed and commit suicide. They're people, not rats.
This woman should not be a mom but be should be the CEO of a robot company...
Thank you so much for that 30 second unskipable add
That's what you get for using adblock
So glad I decided to get RUclips Red :D
Neon Pegasus lol just wait, eventually RUclips red will have ads, they will just be in the vid and not before
My schedule every day
-wake up
-eat pizza
-Go to school
-go home
- eat
-sleep
-eat
-sleep
-sleep
-sleep
-eat
-eat
-eat
-go to sleep
lol no time for friends apparently
XShock who needs friends when you can have pizza?
That's a great way to create a future unhappy adult, now I understand why so many Asians commit suicide, the stress level is too high.
IKR
Right?
and those of us who survive are unbreakable.
You will break, will probably be something so minor and insignificant. The reason this will happen is because: your unconscious mind was never taught how to deal with stress - it has no frame of reference. I'd suggest yoga and meditation, so when the unconscious mind is ready to break, you'll have already implemented a way to handle it. I used to be a life coach :-)
i think you should start thinking and do some researches before you comment, if you are talking about "Asians commiting Suicide" i would refer the Japanese. and the video was about "Tiger moms" which is about Most Chinese moms... Most Japanese people do commit suicide because of stress , depression, fatigue and lack of communication with other people because of the technology. So most of them decides to commit suicide instead because they don't know or they don't think of sharing their problems to other people. Kids who were raised with Tiger Moms are either end up crazy or successful. but all i can say that those who were raised by them becomes self-centered, they do have higher expectations and standards, they are good in academics but not with socialization. and there are lots of Asians who aren't Chinese nor Japanese .. so I really find your thought about "Now i understand why so many Asians commit suicide" quite irrelevant.
I'm Asian but my parents let me play video games at 12 in the morning
Anzhe Huang hmm no way your ass would get put on a auto slapper for that.
same but only after my exams lol
I have a question.....
when does he eat? :V
When does he think?
If it's not in the schedule I bet she'd go crazy if he does think.
When does he sleep?
He probally eats and does his work at the same time :/
he eats once a day probably
My mom was a tiger mom when I was younger and I liked my father more, though I did not like either of my parents much, but as I grew older I feel like my father has been getting much stricter than my mother. I appreciate it though, if this is what it takes to succeed in society and get into a nice college then I guess it doesn't matter too much now.
Taehyung
Jungkook.
Why are we ARMYs everywhere???
i see you v
+Cindy Li OML.. FELLOW ARMYYY
Every parent wants good for the kids. But this mom is going too far. This kid is gonna be abusive and have social issues and trusting issues. Some parents have to love the children thy have and not try to get the children they think they should get. Tiger Moms are cool for me. I mean, my mom is a bit strict but she isn't a tiger. Bit my classmate has a tiger mom and she has a good relationship with her parents. But this kid is gonna think that he or she needs to get good grades because to that child, that's love. They don't really know what true love is. And all throughout their life, they'll think love means getting the best grades and having a lot of talent. I don't like this mom's tactics. This kid is gonna get brainwashed
Also at the part where I say the kid is gonna get abusive, I mean that he or she will copy the mother and think that that's the right way to teach their children which is not completely true
If I was the child, I would probably be dead. 6 hours of sleep is bad for a child. Kids need 8 hours of sleep. In fact, all humans, young or old, need at least 8 or 9 hours of sleep. This child is not gonna be healthy no matter how much fruits or vegetables he or she eats. Sleep is important, especially for children. I'm starting to wonder if the mother knows that or she's an idiot
This mom also needs to learn that she should let her kid make his or her own decisions. Because if they force then to do something they hate, they are going to be miserable... FOREVER
LunaEclipseAce 36 true
LunaEclipseAce 36 the mother is either desperate for his kid to succeed in life or she's just straight up doing abuse
I really loved how you handled this topic. Coming from a Japanese upbringing in Michigan, a lot of points that you brought up (Fear of parents later in life, the face-saving, and the incorrect idea of what would help my kid) are spot on. There's a reason so many Asian kids are in therapy for depression, anxiety, and performance phobia and why in China, Japan, and South Korea so many students are committing suicide. This idea of packing a day full of learning may have worked 1-2 millennia ago, but in this day and age that's not possible, especially with everything getting Westernized
This reminds me of a Supernanny episode where this one Chinese family loaded their seven kids up with at least seven activities apiece.
The mother even said her NINE YEAR OLD son wasn't writing nice descriptive paragraphs. She wanted him to stick with a tutor. Jo Frost had to point out he wasn't even in middle school & how he needs some room to breathe.
why did my kid kill himself?... go figure
bc you can't use grammar
HAHAHHAH u just made my day
u realise that makes it ur fault bc u made him work too hard xD
how does one type sarcasm on?. besides, I'm not a native speaker so I really don't know where I messed up.. I don't have kids either, as I said, it was sarcasm
update: just read it again, it's the "did" with the past tense of kill right?. better fix it now
+liviestar365 Lol, how is that sarcasm
I woke up at five in the morning because my school elementary schedule moved a half hour more, making me miss Sailor Moon when Toonami was during the day and only re-run the episode from the previous day _early_ in the morning. No regrets. This was a time before game clip people.
+Karen Diaz
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hahah. I use to skip 2 periods so I could watch Sailor Moon...priorities. hehe
Lol you didn't learn how to program a VCR back then to tape it?
ChaosPod If I recall I did not have a VCR in my own room. ( If we woke up my mother in the early morning we would have been scolded, she worked around 9am. It was just easier to wake up and watch in my room.) My mother would have killed me if I tape over any of the movies that we had, and no, she wouldn't buy a blank VHS tape so my sis and I could watch one show.
OMG!!! This is HORRIBLE! The expectation that mom is having for her son are incredibly unrealistic and it's cruel. I can't imagine how an adult could keep up with that kind of a schedule. At least having a complete day of rest is very, very important. I can't imagine!
It's not cruel. tell me how it is, and I'll prove you wrong.
When does the child get the chance to play or make art or feel like he has no obligation? Where will his imagination come from?
gloos You're born with it, and he will become more clever in the long run. And that means creative thinking, in the future, he most likely will rebel and then develop one. History shows, oppressive forces always are conquered, or simply bypassed all the time, what's the difference with a child who's forced to have something like this imposed on him, so he'll most likely, bypass it.
it develops too
this is half of asia
Im ten hes nine..hes in forth grade im guessing...forth grade you dont have to go through all those, its so easy, and why do we call this tiger mom? Its not even a mom any more, shes like the ruler of slavery or something
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Exactly!
In foreign countries school is a lot harder and more rigorous
@@sadia9061 no no it's not lol no forth grade is hardcore
That 9 year old prolly was in Collage... not 4th grade
When I was nine, I didn't even hear of this method of mental torture...
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Normal mom: Hey honey, make sure to pack your bag.
Tiger mom: Go do humwok
I like discipline and making your child the best they can be but this isn't healthy mentally or physically. This can result in pyschological disorders and have a mad genius(literally) on your hands. I feel like it's too far.
A genius. What's your definition of genius. I'll say my personal one, someone who uses their imaginations to gain further knowledge. This kid has no imagination. This is literally forced labor, and forced labor rarely makes geniuses(not statistically true, but you get the point). I agree with you, she's crazy, but what she's doing will drive him mad or have social issues, or if they get talented on the piano or whatever, they'll probably lie about being fine. People aren't getting that this labor, yes Asian parents do that, and yes people do get good and on television saying they're grateful, but out of the 500 million or so kids who experience that, how many say they're fine.
The school system in China doesn't allow for geniuses to succeed. They don't put emphasis on understanding what you're learning or critical thinking. It's about memorization and routine responses. A so called genius would fail in school
I am a Asian my mom is also a asian but she is not a tiger mom
Irene Wan It's like programming a computer,no thinking,just obey and practice,killing off every creativity cell in one's body
Lucky the absol True,but I meant someone extremely smart
All work and no play, can be seriously damaging for children.
I've heard a lot of Asians grow up to appreciate their upbringing!
My dad is a tiger dad, he raised me to be independent, he was strict and he wouldn't take any of my crap; of course, I grew to appreciate him, but my dad wasn't perfect. He was unable to provide me any sort of emotional support, ultimately, this caused our relationship to suffer.
All I can say is, just because someone may appreciate their upbringing, doesn't mean that they had the best of parents.
I have a friend with strict parents. We always try to cheer her up and help her. She’s the nicest person you’ll ever meet. We give her support for everything.