This episode did to me and my wife away more than what our therapist tried in the last 2 years. After watching the full episode we made our commitment even stronger to be there for each other and most important to be there for our kids. I wish that we can contact him for a personal session.
Some divorced parents hate their spouses more than they love their children. It's heartbreaking to watch those children lose so much because of one or both of their parents' hatred towards the other.
I grew up with yonasen schwartz albums. My father passed away when I was 13 years old in 1998. At that time he gave out his gite besirah album and he has a song of a child that sat by his father sick bed and then the father passed away. That song gave me so much chizuk. I was literally crying every time I listened to that song.
The guy is absolutely brilliant. I can't even count how many times I said to myself that this was worth listening just because of this line. So many great lines and amazing wisdom.
Yakov I have been listening to a lot of your podcasts from day 1 and this is the first time I'm commenting on this epic episode. I grew up listening to Yonoson as well as whatch him do so much chesed in the community and I never new his personal life story, this gave me so much more appreciation for this incredible person. May he be blessed with Siyata Dishmaya in all his endeavors.
Possibly the Kindest way possible of saying "Don't let life's problems determine your future happiness".The Brain has to be Stronger the the Heart to prevail.
I agree with him 100% that it is very painful but true. Sorry for the ones who got offended by it it is hard to hear the truth. I heard him in the Yiddish podcast as well he is a brilliant man who went through a lot in his life, and instead of getting depressed he built upon it. I loved this episode it was definitely EPIC!.
What a smart man. I was involved in one shidduch. The mother said no. So, I went directly to the boy and mentioned it to him. When I told him the girl's name he said that it never was mentioned to him and I told him why. I told him that his mother said no. I said it's only one date. If there is no connection then you don't continue. But there is no reason not to go out at least once. They are BH married and have married children.
Yonason Schwartz is EPIC!!! we can learn from him that whatever a person is going through they can go on in life and leave it to hashem to run the world...I totally agree with yonason... Thanks so much for this episode.
This is one of the most inspiring episodes to date. (No pun intended;) Wow I am blown away by his Sumchas Hachaim. Will have to listen to it again BE"H.
EPIC! I think the message was a little bugled because of the language barrier. However, he is a special yid who means well and he's actually trying to make a difference.
The shidduch crisis is a symptom of a much larger issue. We have become the most judgemental community, judging people for silly external things that have no meaning and no basis in Torah. Thats causing families to struggle with getting kids into schools/cheder/yeshivas, kids going OTD, and many more issues were facing. The shidduch crisis is also a product of that. Instead of looking how we can make everything assur, lets focus on the basic halachas like loving your fellow jew instea of being oiver on that in the name of mishigasen
Hear hear!!! Bravo!!! Judgemental is not the word!!! People need to look in the mirror and See they're not as unique and amazing as they're ego leads them to believe.
Epic. Definitely epic...so much wisdom...I feel that today's society has been influenced in subtle ways (as well as not so subtle) to focus on 'what's good for me?' When we think like that we are not a vessel for a mutual relationship. Even if one doesn't agree with every word it's worth listening to. I think he's an amazing man B"H. Blessings to him and to everyone to find their true spouse and their true path.
*Parental alienation is an epidemic growing by leaps and bounds and is destroying entire families! Mr. Schwartz should direct his attention to reverse this trend.*
Why? He is doing something positive that he's passionate about, he can't fix every problem that exists. There are many issues that are getting worse and destroying people/families in our community. Why don't you stand up and work to fix this one if it bothers you so much?
Towards the end, when Yaakov is saying that some people are not going ahead with a shidduch becasue of their fear of divorce, it sounds like Yaakov is trying to decribe what might be more accurately termed as a fear of commitment.
wonderful . thanks for this episode. but... perhaps someone can get to the root of the problem. why? why are parents (or whomever ) being so picky? are they overly concerned of what people will think/say? why do they need to impress others? is it a lack of self esteem? or is it something else?
Wow! The last half an hour or so was life changing. Such חוכמה! When I heard he’s a talmid of Rav Avigdor Miller ZT”L I realized why he’s such a wise person.
Your religion allows divorce (mine Catholicism does not - I got a very very very rare "annulment"). I don't agree divorce is usually worse. My parents were married until they died - 50 years and they really were not happy together . It was so sad for us to see particularly as teenage children. I was not prepared to put my own children through that so we divorced after 20 years and for us it was the best thing.
I wish he was my Shadchan...I worked with people who did not care quite as much... BH I've been married for ten years, but dated for five years and it was terrible...
You didn't understand the chasam soifer! He says that to say hatoiv vihameitiv it has to be considered from hashem, yet since there is only one that you want and you want her to say yes FROM HERSELF , therfore hatoiv vihameotiv isn't the blessing As you want her to say yes Not hashem making her say yes And that's in addition that its how you need to see it from a perspective That's what he adds
Absolutely agree with this fascinating, brilliant, insightful man! He's intuitive to a very positive degree. Which is why his epic success in whatever he chooses to do is not surprising. The ilk of Rabbis Sachs and Wallerstein - and Miller.
80% of shiduchim always happens thru friends and family. That's something that has always been. One day I will also discuss shadchan abuse stories. Yuh yuh
Granted that Shidduchim may be a crisis, but parental alienation is an epidemic growing by leaps and bounds and is destroying entire families. Mr. Schwartz should direct his attention to reverse this trend
There are sadly many terrible travesties that are becoming widespread in our community. He's focusing to correct one that he's passionate about. He can't fix everything
"Obviously I was taken advantage of physically emotionally and sexually etc". Is it obvious that a kid is gonna be abused if there are no parents involved in the ultra frum community, what a shanda!
Anyone else would have blamed his father or grandparents. Just because he said ' obviously' that doesn't mean it is really obvious. There were plenty people left in the world who could and should have protected him
Another thing; its ironic how R'Yonason says he went through a bitter divorce yet cauations others against it.Either he should have taken his own advice or accept its easy to saywith hindsight. Third, does he think maybe his doing gigs every night and gallivanting all over the world on the first few years of marriage may have contributed to its demise? How about a few words to the young about priorities? Kids look up to singers in the Jewish world yet many seem to have serious unresolved issues in their personal lives.
I know few girls,who are ready, over 23 and loosing confidence because they are unable to get married. Good,successful,pretty girls. How to find a husband ? I remember,my grandmother started to loose for match for me,when I had reached 18. Now , I’m a grandmother.I want every Jewish girl finds a sole mate,have many children and fulfill her dreams 😊
2:40 - what??? In 1969? And you have such a large white beard? Wowww! I'm just comparing myself because i was born 1974 but i don't have much gray hair myself as yet.
Sometimes a person makes a nader for example he tells an poor person i will give you money and forgets about it and punishment the talmud says that chas vosholim his child dies or his wife HASHEM could sweeten it by making the child instead of that person not married or poor or finicky witch is is like death becouse being poor is like death ect.
This episode did to me and my wife away more than what our therapist tried in the last 2 years. After watching the full episode we made our commitment even stronger to be there for each other and most important to be there for our kids. I wish that we can contact him for a personal session.
That's nice
Wow. Thats wonderful
Wooow, keep to your commitment 💕
What an inspiring interview! So much good advice and direction for a happier life from a man who seems to walk the walk. Thank you so much!
Some divorced parents hate their spouses more than they love their children. It's heartbreaking to watch those children lose so much because of one or both of their parents' hatred towards the other.
I grew up with yonasen schwartz albums. My father passed away when I was 13 years old in 1998. At that time he gave out his gite besirah album and he has a song of a child that sat by his father sick bed and then the father passed away. That song gave me so much chizuk. I was literally crying every time I listened to that song.
The guy is absolutely brilliant. I can't even count how many times I said to myself that this was worth listening just because of this line. So many great lines and amazing wisdom.
I’m blown away by this podcast. I would love to speak with Mr Schwartz. This was EPIC
Yakov I have been listening to a lot of your podcasts from day 1 and this is the first time I'm commenting on this epic episode.
I grew up listening to Yonoson as well as whatch him do so much chesed in the community and I never new his personal life story, this gave me so much more appreciation for this incredible person. May he be blessed with Siyata Dishmaya in all his endeavors.
So so many lessons to take away.A Very wise man.
Epic show.
I hope you read these comments.
Im lucky to have found your channel.God Bless You
Possibly the Kindest way possible of saying "Don't let life's problems determine your future happiness".The Brain has to be Stronger the the Heart to prevail.
I agree with him 100% that it is very painful but true. Sorry for the ones who got offended by it it is hard to hear the truth. I heard him in the Yiddish podcast as well he is a brilliant man who went through a lot in his life, and instead of getting depressed he built upon it. I loved this episode it was definitely EPIC!.
What a smart man. I was involved in one shidduch. The mother said no. So, I went directly to the boy and mentioned it to him. When I told him the girl's name he said that it never was mentioned to him and I told him why. I told him that his mother said no. I said it's only one date. If there is no connection then you don't continue. But there is no reason not to go out at least once. They are BH married and have married children.
What a wonderful start to married life.I hope his mother gets along with his wife and everyone lives happily ever after.
you are right.i agree with you
So inspirational. Thank you!
Yonason Schwartz is EPIC!!! we can learn from him that whatever a person is going through they can go on in life and leave it to hashem to run the world...I totally agree with yonason... Thanks so much for this episode.
Epic
Thank you
I love Yonesen, my old neighbor and a friend.
EPIC guy, EPIC singer, EPIC lyric writer, EPIC interview, EPIC podcast.
This is one of the most inspiring episodes to date. (No pun intended;) Wow I am blown away by his Sumchas Hachaim. Will have to listen to it again BE"H.
Fabulous interview! Thank you!
EPIC! Though this is a word used way too often to describe events that may merit lesser descriptions, this podcast is truly EPIC! AND TRULY INSPIRING!
תודה על השיתוף, סיפור ממש עצוב. יישר כח
Incredible interview
EPIC! I think the message was a little bugled because of the language barrier. However, he is a special yid who means well and he's actually trying to make a difference.
Fantastic interview
Thank you
Thank you so much!!! So insightful ❤
Amazing powerful episode !! Keep it up!!
The shidduch crisis is a symptom of a much larger issue. We have become the most judgemental community, judging people for silly external things that have no meaning and no basis in Torah. Thats causing families to struggle with getting kids into schools/cheder/yeshivas, kids going OTD, and many more issues were facing. The shidduch crisis is also a product of that. Instead of looking how we can make everything assur, lets focus on the basic halachas like loving your fellow jew instea of being oiver on that in the name of mishigasen
Hear hear!!! Bravo!!! Judgemental is not the word!!! People need to look in the mirror and See they're not as unique and amazing as they're ego leads them to believe.
How does someone get in touch with Reb Yonasan?
Epic. Definitely epic...so much wisdom...I feel that today's society has been influenced in subtle ways (as well as not so subtle) to focus on 'what's good for me?' When we think like that we are not a vessel for a mutual relationship. Even if one doesn't agree with every word it's worth listening to. I think he's an amazing man B"H. Blessings to him and to everyone to find their true spouse and their true path.
Nothing surprising that adults abuse kids thinking they wont be called out. It happens everywhere. 😢
Epic!
Thank you.
*Parental alienation is an epidemic growing by leaps and bounds and is destroying entire families! Mr. Schwartz should direct his attention to reverse this trend.*
Why? He is doing something positive that he's passionate about, he can't fix every problem that exists. There are many issues that are getting worse and destroying people/families in our community. Why don't you stand up and work to fix this one if it bothers you so much?
A very painful terrible thing which I underwent for 6 years.
Btw, he actually does speak & address this very sad topic. I follow him on certain platforms. Its a known thing, If you follow him closer. God Bless
Rabbi Yonason Schwartz has the most wonderful voice and music. Shalom over Israel
Great video thank you so much
Epic. Make sure to always remember that Hashem is the One and Only Shadchan!
Epic! I appreciate you enlightening us on this subject.
He is a briiliant mind burech hashem thanks for bringing him on . Indeed epic . !
Amazing and true words
Brilliant man listen carefully and nothing still is being done about the age gap
Yup, rav a, Miller said rule #1 be realistic in marriage. We’re human, give space for others shenanigans. You have them as well.
Amazing speaker
Very talented,wise and inspiring!!
Yona san is right on u have to believe. It cuz I'm a Savta Rabba who knows about love at first sight! Been there done that and it worked for 60+yrs 🎉
Agree 101% with Yonason EPIC!!!
Epic. Another really great episode.
Please, mention the song title by Mr Yonasan Schwartz....
Be Blessed the team....Mr Elli
Always watching from Myanmar
I think he said it's menchen
Incredible and amazing lessons. Well said
EPIC (He had me up on till he said It's OK the lie especially on this topic when the truth is vital)
Gr8 episode thanks for having him on
Eye opening. Tragic. But needs to be said and heard. Thanks for highlighting this.
#FOLLOWFORLIFE!
Amazing as always!!
Towards the end, when Yaakov is saying that some people are not going ahead with a shidduch becasue of their fear of divorce, it sounds like Yaakov is trying to decribe what might be more accurately termed as a fear of commitment.
EPIC! A most fascinating man.
Wow, really an incredible episode.
Edit: Epic! (haha almost forgot that 😂)
wonderful . thanks for this episode. but... perhaps someone can get to the root of the problem. why? why are parents (or whomever ) being so picky? are they overly concerned of what people will think/say? why do they need to impress others? is it a lack of self esteem? or is it something else?
Ratrace.
Keep up with the Jones's.
"What will people say".
"But we are baalabatishe people".
"We are choshuv".
.....take your pick!
Those people that abuse others need to be named and shamed to the police.
Epic! Very inspiring!
Wow! Thank you
any way to get in touch with R' Yonasan personally?
amazing episodes (please continue the hebrew/expression translations throughout whole episode)
Is there anyway I can contact R' Yonasan?
Absolutely amazing...
Wonderful!!!!
תודה רבה
the TW was totally unnecessary - his presentation is very good - not harsh at all, more realistic and honest
Well said
Wow! The last half an hour or so was life changing. Such חוכמה! When I heard he’s a talmid of Rav Avigdor Miller ZT”L I realized why he’s such a wise person.
Epic. More chassidish guests please.
Please let us know how we can reach Reb. Schwartz about shidduchim. I have several older singles I am trying to help. An interesting interview.
Amazing!!!!!!!!!!
Your religion allows divorce (mine Catholicism does not - I got a very very very rare "annulment"). I don't agree divorce is usually worse. My parents were married until they died - 50 years and they really were not happy together . It was so sad for us to see particularly as teenage children. I was not prepared to put my own children through that so we divorced after 20 years and for us it was the best thing.
Amazing
I love mitzvah kinder! So cute !When we shop I always want to order a set for my son. Would you ever make a Sephardi tamani set. ? 😊
He dose kinder velt. Mitzvah kinder is someone else. It's kinda the same. Competition.
Hello, what is mitzvah kinder, kinder velt? Are they toy stores? thanks! I'm a teacher.
Epic and excellent
how can i contact Yonasan Schwartz
Can you please send me the contact information for Yonasan Schwartz?
I would like to contact him in regards to shidduchim.
On this person Chazal said, כל מילה בשקל!
Every word worth its weight in silver
well spoken my dear Rabbi
I wish he was my Shadchan...I worked with people who did not care quite as much... BH I've been married for ten years, but dated for five years and it was terrible...
He is a great person
Epic!
EPIC 😊
Epic❤
You didn't understand the chasam soifer! He says that to say hatoiv vihameitiv it has to be considered from hashem, yet since there is only one that you want and you want her to say yes FROM HERSELF , therfore hatoiv vihameotiv isn't the blessing
As you want her to say yes
Not hashem making her say yes
And that's in addition that its how you need to see it from a perspective
That's what he adds
I cant understend how can some one not get divorce if no love
Absolutely agree with this fascinating, brilliant, insightful man! He's intuitive to a very positive degree. Which is why his epic success in whatever he chooses to do is not surprising. The ilk of Rabbis Sachs and Wallerstein - and Miller.
Epic🎉
Needed to be reminded that Hashem runs the world. EPIC interview.
Positive!
80% of shiduchim always happens thru friends and family. That's something that has always been. One day I will also discuss shadchan abuse stories. Yuh yuh
A very sad story indeed.
Granted that Shidduchim may be a crisis, but parental alienation is an epidemic growing by leaps and bounds and is destroying entire families. Mr. Schwartz should direct his attention to reverse this trend
*YES!*
There are sadly many terrible travesties that are becoming widespread in our community. He's focusing to correct one that he's passionate about. He can't fix everything
He Does! people should do just a bit more research before commenting blindly out of emotion.
Face facts. Some people just don't want to get married and will shoot down all proposals.
"Obviously I was taken advantage of physically emotionally and sexually etc". Is it obvious that a kid is gonna be abused if there are no parents involved in the ultra frum community, what a shanda!
Yeah! There aren't any good or organizations that help or protect orphans.
There is good and bad everywhere, Focus on the positivity. The real Shanda is being negative.
Anyone else would have blamed his father or grandparents. Just because he said ' obviously' that doesn't mean it is really obvious. There were plenty people left in the world who could and should have protected him
@@tamarfischer283 the people who should've protected him were the ones who abused him. His roshei yeshiva and rabbeim!
This was in the 70's. No one spoke about these things then.
My wife zichranah livracha made 3 shiduchim i think. She died 3 mothes ago
I need a shuduch
Also need more education for Shalom Bayis, pre-marriage.
His story is not "tragic"... Quite the contrary.
Another thing; its ironic how R'Yonason says he went through a bitter divorce yet cauations others against it.Either he should have taken his own advice or accept its easy to saywith hindsight.
Third, does he think maybe his doing gigs every night and gallivanting all over the world on the first few years of marriage may have contributed to its demise? How about a few words to the young about priorities? Kids look up to singers in the Jewish world yet many seem to have serious unresolved issues in their personal lives.
How is his toy different from Mitzva Kinder?
It's also Chaseedish
Competition. His is slightly uglier
EPICCCCCCC
Epic
I know few girls,who are ready, over 23 and loosing confidence because they are unable to get married. Good,successful,pretty girls. How to find a husband ? I remember,my grandmother started to loose for match for me,when I had reached 18. Now , I’m a grandmother.I want every Jewish girl finds a sole mate,have many children and fulfill her dreams 😊
Why can't they find a husband ?
@@coney2010grads😂 maybe they need glasses.
2:40 - what??? In 1969? And you have such a large white beard? Wowww! I'm just comparing myself because i was born 1974 but i don't have much gray hair myself as yet.
Sometimes a person makes a nader for example he tells an poor person i will give you money and forgets about it and punishment the talmud says that chas vosholim his child dies or his wife
HASHEM could sweeten it by making the child instead of that person not married or poor or finicky witch is is like death becouse being poor is like death ect.