The Heartbreaking Saga of a Hasidic Matchmaker

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  • Опубликовано: 22 дек 2024

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  • @TzippyTzippy-fx9iq
    @TzippyTzippy-fx9iq Год назад +89

    This episode did to me and my wife away more than what our therapist tried in the last 2 years. After watching the full episode we made our commitment even stronger to be there for each other and most important to be there for our kids. I wish that we can contact him for a personal session.

  • @ralphfenortner3026
    @ralphfenortner3026 Год назад +6

    What an inspiring interview! So much good advice and direction for a happier life from a man who seems to walk the walk. Thank you so much!

  • @annonimiss6422
    @annonimiss6422 Год назад +7

    Some divorced parents hate their spouses more than they love their children. It's heartbreaking to watch those children lose so much because of one or both of their parents' hatred towards the other.

  • @shimonrosenberg1943
    @shimonrosenberg1943 Год назад +28

    I grew up with yonasen schwartz albums. My father passed away when I was 13 years old in 1998. At that time he gave out his gite besirah album and he has a song of a child that sat by his father sick bed and then the father passed away. That song gave me so much chizuk. I was literally crying every time I listened to that song.

  • @avideblinger2492
    @avideblinger2492 Год назад +16

    The guy is absolutely brilliant. I can't even count how many times I said to myself that this was worth listening just because of this line. So many great lines and amazing wisdom.

  • @surimutterperl2525
    @surimutterperl2525 Год назад +5

    I’m blown away by this podcast. I would love to speak with Mr Schwartz. This was EPIC

  • @shimonsurkis9626
    @shimonsurkis9626 Год назад +7

    Yakov I have been listening to a lot of your podcasts from day 1 and this is the first time I'm commenting on this epic episode.
    I grew up listening to Yonoson as well as whatch him do so much chesed in the community and I never new his personal life story, this gave me so much more appreciation for this incredible person. May he be blessed with Siyata Dishmaya in all his endeavors.

  • @angusseletto1511
    @angusseletto1511 Год назад +1

    So so many lessons to take away.A Very wise man.
    Epic show.
    I hope you read these comments.
    Im lucky to have found your channel.God Bless You

  • @angusseletto1511
    @angusseletto1511 Год назад +2

    Possibly the Kindest way possible of saying "Don't let life's problems determine your future happiness".The Brain has to be Stronger the the Heart to prevail.

  • @yaffadonath953
    @yaffadonath953 Год назад +30

    I agree with him 100% that it is very painful but true. Sorry for the ones who got offended by it it is hard to hear the truth. I heard him in the Yiddish podcast as well he is a brilliant man who went through a lot in his life, and instead of getting depressed he built upon it. I loved this episode it was definitely EPIC!.

  • @judithfleischer1531
    @judithfleischer1531 Год назад +25

    What a smart man. I was involved in one shidduch. The mother said no. So, I went directly to the boy and mentioned it to him. When I told him the girl's name he said that it never was mentioned to him and I told him why. I told him that his mother said no. I said it's only one date. If there is no connection then you don't continue. But there is no reason not to go out at least once. They are BH married and have married children.

    • @Tali5899
      @Tali5899 Год назад +1

      What a wonderful start to married life.I hope his mother gets along with his wife and everyone lives happily ever after.

    • @danielsmith-mm2qj
      @danielsmith-mm2qj 6 месяцев назад

      you are right.i agree with you

  • @ChayaFellerman
    @ChayaFellerman Год назад +9

    So inspirational. Thank you!

  • @josephklein8692
    @josephklein8692 Год назад +4

    Yonason Schwartz is EPIC!!! we can learn from him that whatever a person is going through they can go on in life and leave it to hashem to run the world...I totally agree with yonason... Thanks so much for this episode.

  • @aaronminz8829
    @aaronminz8829 Год назад +4

    Epic
    Thank you
    I love Yonesen, my old neighbor and a friend.

  • @bobgross3183
    @bobgross3183 Год назад +3

    EPIC guy, EPIC singer, EPIC lyric writer, EPIC interview, EPIC podcast.

  • @d.l7457
    @d.l7457 Год назад +2

    This is one of the most inspiring episodes to date. (No pun intended;) Wow I am blown away by his Sumchas Hachaim. Will have to listen to it again BE"H.

  • @wholovesyababy5574
    @wholovesyababy5574 Год назад

    Fabulous interview! Thank you!

  • @TheGoverdi
    @TheGoverdi Год назад +1

    EPIC! Though this is a word used way too often to describe events that may merit lesser descriptions, this podcast is truly EPIC! AND TRULY INSPIRING!

  • @Hadas705
    @Hadas705 Год назад +1

    תודה על השיתוף, סיפור ממש עצוב. יישר כח

  • @tuvylemberg
    @tuvylemberg Год назад +4

    Incredible interview

  • @FrankyJew
    @FrankyJew Год назад +3

    EPIC! I think the message was a little bugled because of the language barrier. However, he is a special yid who means well and he's actually trying to make a difference.

  • @merrynhopkins1162
    @merrynhopkins1162 Год назад +1

    Fantastic interview
    Thank you

  • @טליהגרינברג-ה3נ
    @טליהגרינברג-ה3נ 9 месяцев назад

    Thank you so much!!! So insightful ❤

  • @yitzchokroth6168
    @yitzchokroth6168 Год назад +5

    Amazing powerful episode !! Keep it up!!

  • @beans4853
    @beans4853 Год назад +10

    The shidduch crisis is a symptom of a much larger issue. We have become the most judgemental community, judging people for silly external things that have no meaning and no basis in Torah. Thats causing families to struggle with getting kids into schools/cheder/yeshivas, kids going OTD, and many more issues were facing. The shidduch crisis is also a product of that. Instead of looking how we can make everything assur, lets focus on the basic halachas like loving your fellow jew instea of being oiver on that in the name of mishigasen

    • @Tali5899
      @Tali5899 Год назад

      Hear hear!!! Bravo!!! Judgemental is not the word!!! People need to look in the mirror and See they're not as unique and amazing as they're ego leads them to believe.

  • @letsgettserious
    @letsgettserious Год назад +7

    How does someone get in touch with Reb Yonasan?

  • @rochelbrown6597
    @rochelbrown6597 Год назад +3

    Epic. Definitely epic...so much wisdom...I feel that today's society has been influenced in subtle ways (as well as not so subtle) to focus on 'what's good for me?' When we think like that we are not a vessel for a mutual relationship. Even if one doesn't agree with every word it's worth listening to. I think he's an amazing man B"H. Blessings to him and to everyone to find their true spouse and their true path.

  • @oraclehaveacookie9737
    @oraclehaveacookie9737 Год назад +5

    Nothing surprising that adults abuse kids thinking they wont be called out. It happens everywhere. 😢

  • @sabineelvirejung8121
    @sabineelvirejung8121 9 месяцев назад

    Epic!
    Thank you.

  • @newsigmundfreud3023
    @newsigmundfreud3023 Год назад +5

    *Parental alienation is an epidemic growing by leaps and bounds and is destroying entire families! Mr. Schwartz should direct his attention to reverse this trend.*

    • @beans4853
      @beans4853 Год назад +2

      Why? He is doing something positive that he's passionate about, he can't fix every problem that exists. There are many issues that are getting worse and destroying people/families in our community. Why don't you stand up and work to fix this one if it bothers you so much?

    • @144Donn
      @144Donn Год назад +1

      A very painful terrible thing which I underwent for 6 years.

    • @IJK205
      @IJK205 Год назад +1

      Btw, he actually does speak & address this very sad topic. I follow him on certain platforms. Its a known thing, If you follow him closer. God Bless

  • @ciuzdamm
    @ciuzdamm Год назад

    Rabbi Yonason Schwartz has the most wonderful voice and music. Shalom over Israel

  • @jlabmaster1722
    @jlabmaster1722 Год назад +3

    Great video thank you so much

  • @artbya613
    @artbya613 Год назад +1

    Epic. Make sure to always remember that Hashem is the One and Only Shadchan!

  • @Brenda-is9mo
    @Brenda-is9mo Год назад

    Epic! I appreciate you enlightening us on this subject.

  • @brethenson3
    @brethenson3 Год назад +2

    He is a briiliant mind burech hashem thanks for bringing him on . Indeed epic . !

  • @chulenttup1
    @chulenttup1 Год назад +4

    Amazing and true words

  • @YochyMiller
    @YochyMiller Год назад +2

    Brilliant man listen carefully and nothing still is being done about the age gap

  • @ttee6990
    @ttee6990 Год назад +3

    Yup, rav a, Miller said rule #1 be realistic in marriage. We’re human, give space for others shenanigans. You have them as well.

  • @juliebabaev2826
    @juliebabaev2826 Год назад

    Amazing speaker
    Very talented,wise and inspiring!!

  • @havivahgoldsmith8052
    @havivahgoldsmith8052 Год назад +6

    Yona san is right on u have to believe. It cuz I'm a Savta Rabba who knows about love at first sight! Been there done that and it worked for 60+yrs 🎉

  • @MottyTeitelbaum
    @MottyTeitelbaum Год назад +6

    Agree 101% with Yonason EPIC!!!

  • @ramban1
    @ramban1 Год назад

    Epic. Another really great episode.

  • @KhinMarWin-nn6vp
    @KhinMarWin-nn6vp Год назад +5

    Please, mention the song title by Mr Yonasan Schwartz....
    Be Blessed the team....Mr Elli
    Always watching from Myanmar

    • @SH-yo6em
      @SH-yo6em Год назад +1

      I think he said it's menchen

  • @relaxingcalmmusic
    @relaxingcalmmusic Год назад

    Incredible and amazing lessons. Well said

  • @mottyfrankel3823
    @mottyfrankel3823 Год назад +3

    EPIC (He had me up on till he said It's OK the lie especially on this topic when the truth is vital)

  • @alsnov19
    @alsnov19 Год назад

    Gr8 episode thanks for having him on

  • @shelleyshub3593
    @shelleyshub3593 Год назад

    Eye opening. Tragic. But needs to be said and heard. Thanks for highlighting this.
    #FOLLOWFORLIFE!

  • @MsMuradova
    @MsMuradova Год назад

    Amazing as always!!

  • @annonimiss6422
    @annonimiss6422 Год назад

    Towards the end, when Yaakov is saying that some people are not going ahead with a shidduch becasue of their fear of divorce, it sounds like Yaakov is trying to decribe what might be more accurately termed as a fear of commitment.

  • @bonnieschechner9476
    @bonnieschechner9476 Год назад +1

    EPIC! A most fascinating man.

  • @annonimiss6422
    @annonimiss6422 Год назад

    Wow, really an incredible episode.
    Edit: Epic! (haha almost forgot that 😂)

  • @user-nc2wh1un8h
    @user-nc2wh1un8h Год назад +3

    wonderful . thanks for this episode. but... perhaps someone can get to the root of the problem. why? why are parents (or whomever ) being so picky? are they overly concerned of what people will think/say? why do they need to impress others? is it a lack of self esteem? or is it something else?

    • @Tali5899
      @Tali5899 Год назад

      Ratrace.
      Keep up with the Jones's.
      "What will people say".
      "But we are baalabatishe people".
      "We are choshuv".
      .....take your pick!

  • @antoniajane5442
    @antoniajane5442 Год назад +1

    Those people that abuse others need to be named and shamed to the police.

  • @sr3676
    @sr3676 Год назад

    Epic! Very inspiring!

  • @Shanestarr100
    @Shanestarr100 Год назад

    Wow! Thank you

  • @chanierapoport8628
    @chanierapoport8628 Год назад

    any way to get in touch with R' Yonasan personally?

  • @kalesdesign
    @kalesdesign 11 месяцев назад

    amazing episodes (please continue the hebrew/expression translations throughout whole episode)

  • @bsimcha690
    @bsimcha690 Год назад

    Is there anyway I can contact R' Yonasan?

  • @tottymommy8197
    @tottymommy8197 Год назад

    Absolutely amazing...

  • @SouthAfricanIBTeacher
    @SouthAfricanIBTeacher Год назад

    Wonderful!!!!

  • @שושיסגל-ה4ח
    @שושיסגל-ה4ח Год назад

    תודה רבה

  • @ShuiHaber
    @ShuiHaber Год назад +5

    the TW was totally unnecessary - his presentation is very good - not harsh at all, more realistic and honest

  • @louigm
    @louigm 5 месяцев назад

    Wow! The last half an hour or so was life changing. Such חוכמה! When I heard he’s a talmid of Rav Avigdor Miller ZT”L I realized why he’s such a wise person.

  • @abbyk36
    @abbyk36 Год назад +5

    Epic. More chassidish guests please.

  • @dowhatisright
    @dowhatisright Год назад

    Please let us know how we can reach Reb. Schwartz about shidduchim. I have several older singles I am trying to help. An interesting interview.

  • @feigyshtein1207
    @feigyshtein1207 Год назад +1

    Amazing!!!!!!!!!!

  • @janesmith9024
    @janesmith9024 Год назад +2

    Your religion allows divorce (mine Catholicism does not - I got a very very very rare "annulment"). I don't agree divorce is usually worse. My parents were married until they died - 50 years and they really were not happy together . It was so sad for us to see particularly as teenage children. I was not prepared to put my own children through that so we divorced after 20 years and for us it was the best thing.

  • @eliblum9461
    @eliblum9461 Год назад +1

    Amazing

  • @catsun90805
    @catsun90805 Год назад +6

    I love mitzvah kinder! So cute !When we shop I always want to order a set for my son. Would you ever make a Sephardi tamani set. ? 😊

    • @rrm41
      @rrm41 Год назад +2

      He dose kinder velt. Mitzvah kinder is someone else. It's kinda the same. Competition.

    • @Valdesgreen
      @Valdesgreen 10 месяцев назад

      Hello, what is mitzvah kinder, kinder velt? Are they toy stores? thanks! I'm a teacher.

  • @davidlanger5272
    @davidlanger5272 Год назад +2

    Epic and excellent

  • @TheSureled
    @TheSureled Год назад

    how can i contact Yonasan Schwartz

  • @borsht321
    @borsht321 Год назад

    Can you please send me the contact information for Yonasan Schwartz?
    I would like to contact him in regards to shidduchim.

  • @EliM100
    @EliM100 Год назад +1

    On this person Chazal said, כל מילה בשקל!
    Every word worth its weight in silver

  • @kingsleyunogaozirigbo8901
    @kingsleyunogaozirigbo8901 Год назад +1

    well spoken my dear Rabbi

  • @cslurzberg
    @cslurzberg Год назад

    I wish he was my Shadchan...I worked with people who did not care quite as much... BH I've been married for ten years, but dated for five years and it was terrible...

  • @miriamkayman1846
    @miriamkayman1846 Год назад

    He is a great person

  • @PearlLandau
    @PearlLandau Год назад

    Epic!

  • @LL-mj5ij
    @LL-mj5ij Год назад

    EPIC 😊

  • @CheskySchwartzProductions
    @CheskySchwartzProductions Год назад

    Epic❤

  • @lulmul4698
    @lulmul4698 Год назад

    You didn't understand the chasam soifer! He says that to say hatoiv vihameitiv it has to be considered from hashem, yet since there is only one that you want and you want her to say yes FROM HERSELF , therfore hatoiv vihameotiv isn't the blessing
    As you want her to say yes
    Not hashem making her say yes
    And that's in addition that its how you need to see it from a perspective
    That's what he adds

  • @itsnotme-x3f
    @itsnotme-x3f 2 месяца назад

    I cant understend how can some one not get divorce if no love

  • @d.rothenberg8295
    @d.rothenberg8295 Год назад +2

    Absolutely agree with this fascinating, brilliant, insightful man! He's intuitive to a very positive degree. Which is why his epic success in whatever he chooses to do is not surprising. The ilk of Rabbis Sachs and Wallerstein - and Miller.

  • @danielrosenberg887
    @danielrosenberg887 Год назад

    Epic🎉

  • @Ozziemisha745
    @Ozziemisha745 Год назад

    Needed to be reminded that Hashem runs the world. EPIC interview.

  • @rileyfox4001
    @rileyfox4001 Год назад

    Positive!

  • @irothman9269
    @irothman9269 Год назад

    80% of shiduchim always happens thru friends and family. That's something that has always been. One day I will also discuss shadchan abuse stories. Yuh yuh

  • @arsalanmirza3411
    @arsalanmirza3411 Год назад +1

    A very sad story indeed.

  • @AishesChayil
    @AishesChayil Год назад +5

    Granted that Shidduchim may be a crisis, but parental alienation is an epidemic growing by leaps and bounds and is destroying entire families. Mr. Schwartz should direct his attention to reverse this trend

    • @newsigmundfreud3023
      @newsigmundfreud3023 Год назад

      *YES!*

    • @beans4853
      @beans4853 Год назад

      There are sadly many terrible travesties that are becoming widespread in our community. He's focusing to correct one that he's passionate about. He can't fix everything

    • @IJK205
      @IJK205 Год назад

      He Does! people should do just a bit more research before commenting blindly out of emotion.

  • @rileyfox4001
    @rileyfox4001 Год назад

    Face facts. Some people just don't want to get married and will shoot down all proposals.

  • @zsavetsky
    @zsavetsky Год назад +4

    "Obviously I was taken advantage of physically emotionally and sexually etc". Is it obvious that a kid is gonna be abused if there are no parents involved in the ultra frum community, what a shanda!

    • @myopinions1
      @myopinions1 Год назад +1

      Yeah! There aren't any good or organizations that help or protect orphans.

    • @חיזוקלפרשתהשבועריונתןשווארץחיז
      @חיזוקלפרשתהשבועריונתןשווארץחיז Год назад +5

      There is good and bad everywhere, Focus on the positivity. The real Shanda is being negative.

    • @tamarfischer283
      @tamarfischer283 Год назад +2

      Anyone else would have blamed his father or grandparents. Just because he said ' obviously' that doesn't mean it is really obvious. There were plenty people left in the world who could and should have protected him

    • @zsavetsky
      @zsavetsky Год назад +1

      @@tamarfischer283 the people who should've protected him were the ones who abused him. His roshei yeshiva and rabbeim!

    • @ShuiHaber
      @ShuiHaber Год назад +1

      This was in the 70's. No one spoke about these things then.

  • @Gil-n1n
    @Gil-n1n Год назад

    My wife zichranah livracha made 3 shiduchim i think. She died 3 mothes ago
    I need a shuduch

  • @cslurzberg
    @cslurzberg Год назад

    Also need more education for Shalom Bayis, pre-marriage.

  • @courtcounselor
    @courtcounselor Год назад +3

    His story is not "tragic"... Quite the contrary.

  • @Tali5899
    @Tali5899 Год назад +1

    Another thing; its ironic how R'Yonason says he went through a bitter divorce yet cauations others against it.Either he should have taken his own advice or accept its easy to saywith hindsight.
    Third, does he think maybe his doing gigs every night and gallivanting all over the world on the first few years of marriage may have contributed to its demise? How about a few words to the young about priorities? Kids look up to singers in the Jewish world yet many seem to have serious unresolved issues in their personal lives.

  • @rivkagurevitz9019
    @rivkagurevitz9019 Год назад

    How is his toy different from Mitzva Kinder?
    It's also Chaseedish

    • @beans4853
      @beans4853 Год назад

      Competition. His is slightly uglier

  • @OsnielRozen
    @OsnielRozen Год назад

    EPICCCCCCC

  • @steveneumann32
    @steveneumann32 Год назад

    Epic

  • @lyubovzaslavskaya2915
    @lyubovzaslavskaya2915 Год назад +2

    I know few girls,who are ready, over 23 and loosing confidence because they are unable to get married. Good,successful,pretty girls. How to find a husband ? I remember,my grandmother started to loose for match for me,when I had reached 18. Now , I’m a grandmother.I want every Jewish girl finds a sole mate,have many children and fulfill her dreams 😊

    • @coney2010grads
      @coney2010grads Год назад

      Why can't they find a husband ?

    • @Tali5899
      @Tali5899 Год назад

      ​@@coney2010grads😂 maybe they need glasses.

  • @rogermoore27
    @rogermoore27 Год назад

    2:40 - what??? In 1969? And you have such a large white beard? Wowww! I'm just comparing myself because i was born 1974 but i don't have much gray hair myself as yet.

  • @Gil-n1n
    @Gil-n1n Год назад

    Sometimes a person makes a nader for example he tells an poor person i will give you money and forgets about it and punishment the talmud says that chas vosholim his child dies or his wife
    HASHEM could sweeten it by making the child instead of that person not married or poor or finicky witch is is like death becouse being poor is like death ect.