This is an excellent interview. Rabbi Shafier has addressed very key points and literally has hit the nail on the head regarding the gross misunderstanding of how relationships actually work. Not in theory, but in practice. This is really worthwhile to watch if you want to improve your relationship with your spouse.
I read the book THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES by Gary Chapman to determine what my wife’s primary love language is, then I started implementing her primary love language and the outcome was amazing. I was filling up her love tank and I always recommend this book.❤❤
@23:30 - it says in Shulchan Aruch that before yuntif, you have to buy the kids presents and the wives jewelry. In Kesubos, it lays out the responsibilities of the husband in onah.
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Commitment, love, and learning to love together. Hollywood has it backwards; meaning, love is the glue once the marriage is established based on divine determination of said message. “That’s strange…” a good observation to open dialogue to understand the partners reaction/interaction (non-judgmental but just an observation)
Does there not exist some objective measure of proper / improper behavior such as consideration? It seems that there is a great emphasis on acquiescence based on the gender difference escape clause.
He is a rabbi, so there is a whole body of tradition he is working from that has high standards that would address that... however, it is wisdom to understand that if one wants to live happily with a woman, kindness and praise for what is done well needs to be the default, with gentleness the default in conflict. The rabbi knows the Proverbs and Song of Solomon, certainly... so that also would be covered.
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This video should be mandatory viewing in chossen and Kallah classes!! Thanks so much for sharing ❤
This is an excellent interview. Rabbi Shafier has addressed very key points and literally has hit the nail on the head regarding the gross misunderstanding of how relationships actually work. Not in theory, but in practice. This is really worthwhile to watch if you want to improve your relationship with your spouse.
The rabbi is awesome.
Please have him back.
Great episode.
1:02:10 The Rabbi’s advice summarized. Great stuff
I read the book THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES by Gary Chapman to determine what my wife’s primary love language is, then I started implementing her primary love language and the outcome was amazing. I was filling up her love tank and I always recommend this book.❤❤
Im reading The Five Love Languages
"That's strange." (20:05) I'm definitely going to work on thinking that way instead of getting triggered and/or taking things personally. Thank you.
Many thanks for this informative and transformative discussion!
The rabbi is awesome!!
Wonderful episode. Thank you!!
Wow, I learned so much! Thank you for this interview!
The rabbi is awesome
The rabbi is awesome ❤
תודה רבה על השיעור כבוד הרב!
The rabbi is awesome and so are you
Wonderful guest... I'm getting his book today. Thanks and best regards from Mexico City.
The rabbi is awesome!
The rabbi is awesome ❤
The Rabbi is Awesome!
The rabbi is awesome and impressed.
Agreed. Spectacular. Thank you all.
@23:30 - it says in Shulchan Aruch that before yuntif, you have to buy the kids presents and the wives jewelry. In Kesubos, it lays out the responsibilities of the husband in onah.
Thank you Rabbi Shafer.
Gold.
Amazing to hear. Thank you
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My God my God ,praise God.😢😢😢
Great episode!!!
"that's strange" is one way. "yes dear!" also does it.
Cool fact that a lot of people don't know that the Lubavitcher would have tea with his wife every night!!!
It usually was sometime around 4am
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The first item that should be addressed is to keep men intact to make the connection.
Commitment, love, and learning to love together.
Hollywood has it backwards; meaning, love is the glue once the marriage is established based on divine determination of said message.
“That’s strange…” a good observation to open dialogue to understand the partners reaction/interaction (non-judgmental but just an observation)
Awesome
So what can people do before marriage to prepare?
In my opinion is working on thinking that the opinion with which you disagree can be also rational and it can be valid
Does there not exist some objective measure of proper / improper behavior such as consideration? It seems that there is a great emphasis on acquiescence based on the gender difference escape clause.
Excellent question which should have been addresses!
He is a rabbi, so there is a whole body of tradition he is working from that has high standards that would address that... however, it is wisdom to understand that if one wants to live happily with a woman, kindness and praise for what is done well needs to be the default, with gentleness the default in conflict. The rabbi knows the Proverbs and Song of Solomon, certainly... so that also would be covered.
“Hollywood got it 100% right by backwards” 12:20
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Thats guts to say that yeshivas and bais yaakovs educate the wrong way
It’s 💯 true tho.
Not about everything but some specific things
The rabbi is the robbery is awesome
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