constantly obsessing about the afterlife in my ex Christian church was a huge focus, pastor and prayer groups always reinforcing the bliss of it , ...things like , I cant wait until I die to meet jesus, were all so looking forward to our final day on earth to live with jesus , nothing on this earth matters , only our final destination to meet Jesus.. etc. etc., it got to where I did not care about anything on earth anymore, not my family , my kids , my job , other poor lost humans that wouldn't convert and so on .....its a sick way to live and think , it is so toxic and complete emotional and mental blackmail.....I finally woke up from this obsessive brainwashing because I realized it was causing a symptom in me of broken helplessness which was leading to severe depression , causing reality detachment and disconcern for Humanity, I am so happy since leaving religion but it is been a slow and painful healing process trying to find my real self again , each day gets easier thankful for these types of videos
I can relate to what I heard.I was in a church where the pastor wanted to hurry up my marriage.After 3 months of talking to her we had to get married because the sooner the better.Of course I left the church after nine years of marriage and then my wife left me and she told me it wasnt out of love she just didnt want to be alone.So these foundamentalist groups do wreck people's lives.
That’s the only thing I really miss about church. It was easy to make friends because the church has a lot of opportunities to develop friendships. I’m finding myself searching for Meetup groups or craft clubs to find other people that have similar interests. It’s hard to find craft groups that include people that aren’t religious. It’s like the whole Hobby Lobby experience. Just because I like quilting doesn’t mean I subscribe to conservative politics or evangelical Christianity. I find even Facebook groups like the “Mental health for exvangelicals” is helpful to chat with people that understand what I’m going with. You are so right about not needing a lot of friend making skills in religious circles. I moved to another state and find myself isolated from people except for my coworkers and immediate family. We need more ex religious groups out there.
I like what you said. "Just because I love quilting doesn't mean I have to have conservative values". I came to that same conclusion recent years. For me it's not quilting but canning, gardening, home making all these years I had such a black and white view of things, thinking that if a woman like those kinds of things she must be a conservative Evangelical I was surprised when some of my more liberal secular friends who have careers outside of the home said that they liked knitting and homemaking too.
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constantly obsessing about the afterlife in my ex Christian church was a huge focus, pastor and prayer groups always reinforcing the bliss of it , ...things like , I cant wait until I die to meet jesus, were all so looking forward to our final day on earth to live with jesus , nothing on this earth matters , only our final destination to meet Jesus.. etc. etc., it got to where I did not care about anything on earth anymore, not my family , my kids , my job , other poor lost humans that wouldn't convert and so on .....its a sick way to live and think , it is so toxic and complete emotional and mental blackmail.....I finally woke up from this obsessive brainwashing because I realized it was causing a symptom in me of broken helplessness which was leading to severe depression , causing reality detachment and disconcern for Humanity,
I am so happy since leaving religion but it is been a slow and painful healing process trying to find my real self again , each day gets easier thankful for these types of videos
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I can relate to what I heard.I was in a church where the pastor wanted to hurry up my marriage.After 3 months of talking to her we had to get married because the sooner the better.Of course I left the church after nine years of marriage and then my wife left me and she told me it wasnt out of love she just didnt want to be alone.So these foundamentalist groups do wreck people's lives.
Yes they really do. My sister got married because of a evangelical group hurry.
I was in a similar situation.
That’s the only thing I really miss about church. It was easy to make friends because the church has a lot of opportunities to develop friendships. I’m finding myself searching for Meetup groups or craft clubs to find other people that have similar interests. It’s hard to find craft groups that include people that aren’t religious. It’s like the whole Hobby Lobby experience. Just because I like quilting doesn’t mean I subscribe to conservative politics or evangelical Christianity. I find even Facebook groups like the “Mental health for exvangelicals” is helpful to chat with people that understand what I’m going with.
You are so right about not needing a lot of friend making skills in religious circles. I moved to another state and find myself isolated from people except for my coworkers and immediate family. We need more ex religious groups out there.
I like what you said. "Just because I love quilting doesn't mean I have to have conservative values". I came to that same conclusion recent years. For me it's not quilting but canning, gardening, home making all these years I had such a black and white view of things, thinking that if a woman like those kinds of things she must be a conservative Evangelical I was surprised when some of my more liberal secular friends who have careers outside of the home said that they liked knitting and homemaking too.
So true. Church became a source of social support.