Because there is not fear of intimacy in the beginning. Avoidants want connection at first so they will be VERY responsive for the first couple of months. Then it’s going to be a shift so big you are going to notice it right away.
Because they're probably so limited in what they think. Like a tight box of thoughts and phrases since they repress most of emotion and burned out even positive ones.
If I become avoidant I’m gonna actually avoid people. I’m ND and have trauma. I have every reason to be but I’m not. “I need independence in a relationship” My brother in RUclips, STAY SINGLE. Relationships are interdependent. All this stuff is just “I’m scared you’ll hurt me”.
Where was this video 8 years ago lol but thanks so much anyways. It’s amazing content
Why do they
Start off texting
And then
Avoid texting
Because there is not fear of intimacy in the beginning. Avoidants want connection at first so they will be VERY responsive for the first couple of months. Then it’s going to be a shift so big you are going to notice it right away.
Why do they all say the same things
Because they're probably so limited in what they think. Like a tight box of thoughts and phrases since they repress most of emotion and burned out even positive ones.
You are gorgeous, wow
If I become avoidant I’m gonna actually avoid people. I’m ND and have trauma. I have every reason to be but I’m not.
“I need independence in a relationship”
My brother in RUclips, STAY SINGLE.
Relationships are interdependent.
All this stuff is just “I’m scared you’ll hurt me”.
I'm anxious and use a bunch of these phrases. I;m probably a little disorganized...but either way I'm unavailable lol so it checks.
As an avoidant, ive said a lot of this.l
Mine told me they are not coming back. Nc for 2mo. now. For real have I lost them forever?
Not sure why you are framing avoidants as he. Its not an either or scenario.