"Those threats to self harm are just the patients way of communicating that distress to us." Thank you so much for this. The hardest part is after a while you become afraid to get just thrown in a psych ward if you try to communicate your distress because that's the only way you know how to do it when you're in that heightened state.
I came here to understand it more. I got diagnosed with this 4 years ago, didn't get told until 1 year ago, and they literally just told me and haven't explained what it is or how to cope with it. So thank you for this video
I was diagnosed with this nearly a year ago after suffering since my teenage years. I have been on a waiting list for two years with no end in sight and no help or explanation as to what it is or how to deal with it. This has been genuinely helpful to make me realise I’m not alone in this, thank you for the information!
That diagram from 7:20, is what I'm trying to explain therapists and psychiatrists and not sure they get it (maybe sometimes they do). That what you call "crisis" I usually experience as desperation, and this is the term I'm usually using to explain it to therapists. Thank you, this video gives me validation, I don't feel so alone anymore with this now. I don't think I qualify for the diagnosis now, but I'm there on the BPD spectrum for sure.
Hallucinations (mainly auditory) is a big thing for me when I’m struggling with stressful situations That then sets off the self harming as that usually shuts it up for a bit It doesn’t work anymore tho and I’m still self harming hoping it’ll all go away I do often reach out for help but the Drs don’t really know what to do with me I’ve been passed around so many different organisations Every time I answer the phone it’s for another appointment with a different group of doctors etc It’s never ending I’ve been sectioned under the mental health act 4 times in the space of 18 months and spent 7 months admitted at one time It didn’t stop me doing what I was doing, my brain never switches off Locking me away won’t stop that
Constant VALIDATION without any discussion of RESPONSIBILITY turns into ENABLING behavior. I know that from personal experience. The only BPDs that show improvement are those that start understanding healthy boundaries and consequences of not observing those boundaries to avoid distress and harm to themselves and others.
I absolutely agree with this point wholeheartedly. We do more harm by avoiding difficult subjects of personal responsibility for fear of triggering the person. But is it then realistic to expect them to learn of consequences to actions and behaviours for self improvement?
@@kimpham1274 hi guys, I have EUPD and would like to add to your point. I have to say first that I do agree with what you said. It can lead to enabling. But with bpd and especially recovery, removing triggers is almost necessary. The brains are wired in a strange way that sends you into a really scary spiral that can almost instantly undo any work you have built up. Videos like these will never show how frustrating and oppressive this disorder is
Continuing- there is a problem with enabling. But that ultimately comes down to the loved one of the person with bpd. It's a tricky disorder that does affect everyone around them. But with good healthy boundaries it'll work and we are usually awesome lol! However someone that has bpd and is abusive or malicious, that's not the disorder, that's an abusive and malicious person.
I am very difficult too read I don’t go into acute crises very often every few years starting in my 30’s, very extreme life change, I have great insight to my emotions which makes Drs think I’m safe to ignore in a rare crisis, hate myself I would rather be not seen & pain hidden x😢
I apparently had this diagnosed 10 years a go they didn't even tell me till 2 years ago as well. I am so off my head mentally and its such a struggle 😩
I don’t attention seek I don’t self harm or try to commit suicide! I don’t ever go to AE wtf everyone is different this is just one persons experience it’s to complex to understand unless your a professional
Video 2 may be useful - helps to explain how general healthcare professionals sometimes get a skewed view as they are more likely to see the more “severe” end of the spectrum in practice, with self harm often being a feature but not always. Hopefully this course can educate healthcare professionals (and others) so they recognise this
Some of us are covert and undercover. I personally was raised different and my crisis are behind closed doors. It's unfortunate that for insurance and professionals, the squeaky wheel gets oiled. You're not any less BPD
@@krisha58 there is a lot more symptoms that can make it severe just because I don’t cut myself doesn’t mean I have it any less severe than someone who does
No one is saying that. Self harm also doesn't mean solely cuttin or burning yourself. It can be engaging in risky behaviors, like getting involved in situations that are dangerous, it could be drinking too much alcohol or taking extra medication, it can be starving yourself or binge eating, it can be exercising to excess, engaging in unsafe sex, and so forth.
As I was growing up I also had learning difficulties, strangely it was the Catholic schools that loved nurtured and educated me, see I wa a child being treated with dignity and respect unlike the secular school I had attended!
Frustrating to live with I'm the patient I truly hate this illness. It affects my relationships and mostly with the Lord Jesus Christ I'm so unstable in my relationship with Him and I HATE it
Many Personality Disorders don't have an insight into their issues, in most cases it happens within four walls of the house. Narcissitic personality disorders is one among and is very notorious, very hard to treat them
@malayalikada - Well done - you reduce a person down to just a diagnosis. Not a person living with a personality disorder - they are just personality disorders to you. I really hope you are not in practice or interact with people living with a mental health issue. Perhaps you need some insight into your insensitivity.
@@rowstone3019 yvw 🙂 I think you may be in the wrong therapy as the only 4 that I’ve herd of for BDP is dialectical behaviour therapy. Mentalization based therapy. Schema focused therapy and one more I can’t remember the name now
"Those threats to self harm are just the patients way of communicating that distress to us."
Thank you so much for this. The hardest part is after a while you become afraid to get just thrown in a psych ward if you try to communicate your distress because that's the only way you know how to do it when you're in that heightened state.
I came here to understand it more.
I got diagnosed with this 4 years ago, didn't get told until 1 year ago, and they literally just told me and haven't explained what it is or how to cope with it.
So thank you for this video
You’re very welcome :)
I was diagnosed with this nearly a year ago after suffering since my teenage years. I have been on a waiting list for two years with no end in sight and no help or explanation as to what it is or how to deal with it.
This has been genuinely helpful to make me realise I’m not alone in this, thank you for the information!
“We're all sentenced to solitary confinement inside our own skins, for life.”― Tennessee Williams.
haha DID go brrrrrrrr
The main ones? You should've included ANGER in that
That diagram from 7:20, is what I'm trying to explain therapists and psychiatrists and not sure they get it (maybe sometimes they do). That what you call "crisis" I usually experience as desperation, and this is the term I'm usually using to explain it to therapists. Thank you, this video gives me validation, I don't feel so alone anymore with this now. I don't think I qualify for the diagnosis now, but I'm there on the BPD spectrum for sure.
Thank you for making a video which has made my diagnosis easier to accept.
Hallucinations (mainly auditory) is a big thing for me when I’m struggling with stressful situations
That then sets off the self harming as that usually shuts it up for a bit
It doesn’t work anymore tho and I’m still self harming hoping it’ll all go away
I do often reach out for help but the Drs don’t really know what to do with me
I’ve been passed around so many different organisations
Every time I answer the phone it’s for another appointment with a different group of doctors etc
It’s never ending
I’ve been sectioned under the mental health act 4 times in the space of 18 months and spent 7 months admitted at one time
It didn’t stop me doing what I was doing, my brain never switches off
Locking me away won’t stop that
Constant VALIDATION without any discussion of RESPONSIBILITY turns into ENABLING behavior. I know that from personal experience. The only BPDs that show improvement are those that start understanding healthy boundaries and consequences of not observing those boundaries to avoid distress and harm to themselves and others.
I absolutely agree with this point wholeheartedly. We do more harm by avoiding difficult subjects of personal responsibility for fear of triggering the person. But is it then realistic to expect them to learn of consequences to actions and behaviours for self improvement?
@@kimpham1274 hi guys, I have EUPD and would like to add to your point. I have to say first that I do agree with what you said. It can lead to enabling. But with bpd and especially recovery, removing triggers is almost necessary. The brains are wired in a strange way that sends you into a really scary spiral that can almost instantly undo any work you have built up. Videos like these will never show how frustrating and oppressive this disorder is
Continuing- there is a problem with enabling. But that ultimately comes down to the loved one of the person with bpd. It's a tricky disorder that does affect everyone around them. But with good healthy boundaries it'll work and we are usually awesome lol! However someone that has bpd and is abusive or malicious, that's not the disorder, that's an abusive and malicious person.
I am very difficult too read I don’t go into acute crises very often every few years starting in my 30’s, very extreme life change, I have great insight to my emotions which makes Drs think I’m safe to ignore in a rare crisis, hate myself I would rather be not seen & pain hidden x😢
I apparently had this diagnosed 10 years a go they didn't even tell me till 2 years ago as well. I am so off my head mentally and its such a struggle 😩
Living in the nw of Iowa. Its like you get diagnosed but then there is no help after that. So I have to look every thing up on the internet.
I don’t attention seek I don’t self harm or try to commit suicide! I don’t ever go to AE wtf everyone is different this is just one persons experience it’s to complex to understand unless your a professional
Video 2 may be useful - helps to explain how general healthcare professionals sometimes get a skewed view as they are more likely to see the more “severe” end of the spectrum in practice, with self harm often being a feature but not always. Hopefully this course can educate healthcare professionals (and others) so they recognise this
Some of us are covert and undercover. I personally was raised different and my crisis are behind closed doors. It's unfortunate that for insurance and professionals, the squeaky wheel gets oiled. You're not any less BPD
@@krisha58 there is a lot more symptoms that can make it severe just because I don’t cut myself doesn’t mean I have it any less severe than someone who does
No one is saying that. Self harm also doesn't mean solely cuttin or burning yourself. It can be engaging in risky behaviors, like getting involved in situations that are dangerous, it could be drinking too much alcohol or taking extra medication, it can be starving yourself or binge eating, it can be exercising to excess, engaging in unsafe sex, and so forth.
As I was growing up I also had learning difficulties, strangely it was the Catholic schools that loved nurtured and educated me, see I wa a child being treated with dignity and respect unlike the secular school I had attended!
Frustrating to live with I'm the patient I truly hate this illness. It affects my relationships and mostly with the Lord Jesus Christ I'm so unstable in my relationship with Him and I HATE it
I guess I know, understand my mental health gnosis because I have got EUPD.
Many Personality Disorders don't have an insight into their issues, in most cases it happens within four walls of the house. Narcissitic personality disorders is one among and is very notorious, very hard to treat them
@Moody Girl I don't think so. Have you read anything on it to prove your point
@malayalikada - Well done - you reduce a person down to just a diagnosis. Not a person living with a personality disorder - they are just personality disorders to you. I really hope you are not in practice or interact with people living with a mental health issue. Perhaps you need some insight into your insensitivity.
What type of therapy helps?
Dialect therapy that’s what I’m having
Video 5 may help
@@fortnitefun2404 Appreciate it. I'm familiar but have experience only with CBT.
@@krisha58 Ok, appreciate it. I'll check it out.
@@rowstone3019 yvw 🙂 I think you may be in the wrong therapy as the only 4 that I’ve herd of for BDP is dialectical behaviour therapy. Mentalization based therapy. Schema focused therapy and one more I can’t remember the name now