To Anyone Who Feels Like They Don't Belong
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- Опубликовано: 26 июл 2024
- To anyone who has ever felt out of place, this one's for you. We all go through the experience of feeling alone, but you’re not alone. I think the only way to bridge that gap is by telling our stories, so here is mine.
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Being a free spirit, I don't belong anywhere and don't feel alone either because the feeling of completeness is within me regardless of where I am. Live joyfully🙏
Love this🙌🏻🍑🧡
you belong to the Bank 🏦🏧
Definitely :) ! Enjoy Portugal and please visit Douro! It’s sooo worth it!
So true, We all Belong to ourselves 1st & the rest is just a perception 🙏☮️🇮🇳🙌
@@PeachesSkinCare 🍑💨🎶👃🏽💕 umm yeah give me a nice one babes.
Home is not about a place, is where you feel at peace and loved!
Yes!!
@@MalamaLife You belong not, simply because:
John 15:19
If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you.
you are CHOSEN OUT from this world, TO DO THE WLL OF YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER in this world:
Matthew 7:21
Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven.
Life has taught me that I only need to belong in my own soul and skin. Anywhere else doesn’t matter. Love your vids Malama 💕
So true❤️ the happiest day is when we realize this
Beautiful comment. I fully agree.
This made me cry because I was born in Los Angeles and shipped by train to South Texas as a child. Parents died, siblings split up and I grew up in Houston with a really bad southern accent. Now when I visit family on West Coast I have to repeat myself many times for them to understand me. They laugh and think it's cute cause I'm the only one of my family with an accent. I definitely don't fit in or belong. Deep inside I'm searching for a place to belong. Finally for the first time in many many years I wore my glasses instead of my contacts and no makeup when I went outside, I felt so free. I may not belong anywhere but no one knows but me.
You're not alone my dear.
I'm so sorry to hear about your parents.
@@FirstLast-nz9vo Thank you for your kind words. Life is still good. Hugs from Houston.
Realizing that being a world citizen, owning more than one passports and speaking multiple languages, can actually free our spirits. We don't belong to anyone or anything - we are who we are.
It sounds so beautiful.
"Not try to fit in but embrace the uniqueness in me"🌌
There's something in your words, which gently puts away my fear of taking that one step. ♥️
Home is wherever your heart lies, and heart never stays at one place♥️
It's so true❤️ thank you for watching
I don't think I have ever resonated with anything more. Having left Poland when I was 20 and living for the past 18 years in UK and Canada, I called myself a misfit. Just like you said, in Poland, I am a foreigner and everywhere else an immigrant. I don't think I have ever resonated with anything more. So thank you so much for sharing your experience, this video made me feel less alone 🧡
❤️🙂 glad you can relate!!
Hi, i have the same, actually I'm Italian and polish. I've lived in Italy since I was born. However, even if I feel more Italian than Polish, I can't have peace in my soul, because I feel too polish in Italy and to Italian in Poland. I don't know how to deal with it.
As an Asian male living in Europe, I feel the same..no matter where I travel I feel I don't belong anywhere
Not belonging anywhere means to me that I belong anywhere and everywhere. So if I feel I don’t “fit in”, I am free to go to the loveliest place imaginable. This I did, accepted life as it came at me, and Lo and behold! I’m now in the loveliest place imaginable, AND I belong. It took a lifetime to discover this, and it would make me so happy if someone reading this created their own paradise, too.
❤ where is that place you chose to call home?
Great video! There's nothing wrong with being special and not fitting into any moulds. In fact, it is a blessing to stand out from the crowd, and everyone's life journey is unique anyway.
so true ❤️ it's so hard to accept this when we're growing up. But now I'm embracing it :)
🙌🙌Yes!
I agree
I have taught my children that we are spiritual beings having a human experience. Yes we are born in a place and yes there are certainly different villages. We moved constantly when I was young and I was dark skinned and dark curly hair and I felt like such an outsider. What I learned is that I am unique , I am able to talk to anyone and make them feel special or included.
I have a channel here and I am proud of the character that I have. I am real , when so many are not. I am kind, when so many are not. I am willing to help others when so many are not.
You are a beautiful spirit and I know you have touched so many with your words. As I hope I do.
Blessings 🙌🏻🍑🧡Lisa
That’s a beautiful lesson to teach children! 😍🥹🎊
You are a gifted writer. There's an elegant depth of emotion that neither feels pretentious nor contrived. The pairing of your words with the visuals screams that you are a natural talent: a poet/screenwriter/novelist with whom I'm glad to share this earth. From one introvert to another, thank you.
Thank you so much ❤️
I think you touch a raw nerve here. in this internet age with the crazy things in the social media, most people will feel they are outsiders.
I relate to this so much. While I did not immigrate to the US from another country, I did not have a stable foundation and was always moving around. I went to 10 different schools in several different states before I graduated high school. I do not have deep roots, I do not have lifelong friends and connections. I have always been the outcast and the new girl. I struggle to find where I belong amongst people that grew up together and already have formed deep roots and tight bonds. I always feel one step removed. I have learned to accept what is and do my best to find and forge new connections so the next half of my life I will have a place where I belong... a place to call home. ❤
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Thanks for sharing this! I am a Canadian living in the USA, and I’ve also lived in Hong Kong and Italy. I feel like everywhere is home but I find that no matter where I am, everyone else always refers to be as being “from away.”
I can so relate ❤️
This is exactly what I feel. I feel everywhere is home and yet wherever I go, people always ask me where I’m from - which says to me that they feel I’m clearly from elsewhere and I don’t belong.
so calming ☺ The roots at the end of the day is only the starting point, where you belong is what you make out of your experience
I am a Mexican, who married a German and moved to Germany in 2010 at the age of 27, I always have this feeling I don't belong here nor there, thanks for sharing your experience, it helped me see another side of it, blessings to you Sophie
I am an Indonesian married to a German, after 8 years living in Germany I'm ready to move back to my homeland
There’s a pretty large Mexican community near Rammstein ❤
I always felt that we have many things in common and now I realise that we have even more that I thought! It's like I wrote this video, word by word, with the only difference that I don't really feel comfortable when I am in Romania. I mean it's a lovely country but I don't really belong there (even if I was born there). I tend to think of me as citizen of the world, belonging nowhere and everywhere! I watch you now from UK, but I watched you from Italy and Switzerland as well. I also lived in Ireland, France, Romania and even spent a month in China trying to find work. I also speak many languages and value experiences over material things :) Loved seeing you again, you are such an amazing human being and a great videographer and storyteller!! Much respect to you Sophie! xxx
I too feel the same way. I think it's important to be detached from labeling and flow through this abundance of life. We are all unique and should embrace it, instead of trying to be like the herd.
before I turned 18 I moved around 7 times . My mum is sicilian, my dad german and they are not ginger but I am. so it always felt weird to say "my people" or "I am from." because honestly there is so much mixed but nothing 100%. Thank you for this video it made me feel that I am not alone
I just want to thank you... I really needed to hear that. I´m Italian, but at young age I moved in Colombia bc my mom is from there. I speak italian with my dad, and, in general in my house and family, but also, I´m trying to adapt to colombian´s life and values, etc. It´s really hard for me since I don´t really fit in italian and colombian culture. I´ve always felt like I´m a "fake" italian" and a "fake" colombian, and when I´m in Colombia, they always treat me as a foreigner ( and even if I lived there for so long, i still without undesrtanding a lot of their culture), and when I go to Italy, they also treat me as a foreigner. I thought I´ll never find a place where I belong to...
So happy to hear you can relate
Hi, i have the same, actually I'm Italian and polish. I've lived in Italy since I was born. However, even if I feel more Italian than Polish, I can't have peace in my soul, because I feel too polish in Italy and too Italian in Poland. I don't know how to deal with it.
Also I don't know where to settle down. I have real loved friends in Italy, but I am not sure if It is okay to choose Italy forever only because of that.
I am Dutch and living in the US,I make my home wherever I live but deep down I am Dutch and miss Holland that’s my home❤
I felt the same 💯. I was born in Korea but was raised in the states and I was always very confused of who I am and where I belong. But without the experiences I’ve gone through, I wouldn’t really be myself. Anyways yes, I agree that we are unique. You are so unique Sophie! In every way. 😊
I got emotional from watching your video 🥹, your voice and your words touch me! As a migrant living in Europe, sometimes I feel lost too. Trying hard to blending in and to connect with my birth-land but it always doesn’t feel 100% fit in. I love your conclusion, anywhere is home as along as we are being who we are and being with the ones who love us and we love them 🥰.
Happy you can relate to me 🙂
I just cancelled a plan to movies my friends planned...
and wrote in my diary "I am in with everyone, but I don't feel like I belong to anyone"...
what a perfect timing.
This is the most relatable video ever , being living away from home for so many years just makes you question of where do you belong to....thanks for making this video ❤️
I think what you feel is normal Sophie, I do feel the same way too.. sometimes even in my own hometown. I think this feeling rooted from the Truth of the Word of God.. that "this world is not our home"..
I don’t think it is important where we are from. Rather, it is important to know that where we are going to go.
Wow! You have such a beautiful way of describing your thoughts and emotions. And this sense of belonging or not belonging. As an immigrant I completely relate. You are right about adaptability and embracing who you are. In the end, home is the place where you find comfort, your soft place to land. Your arrival back to Portugal is the perfect example of home. Home is where you find those you love. Thank you for sharing this beautiful video. 🌸
Thank you for watching ❤️ I'm so happy you can relate!
@@MalamaLife you’re most welcome Sophie. 🌸
All of your videos are so so so calming. They bring me back to the most basic thoughts and make me forget life.
Thank you so much ❤️
Life motto: I don't belong anywhere so I must go everywhere.
I'm italian, currently living in the UK, where my fiancé is from.
Wben I saw Rome, my hometown, in the video, my heart jumped, as I miss it so much.
And also, when I can go and visit, I miss my home in the UK.
And so I'm constantly divided between two homes 🥲💖
Yes. The same. Have moved so many times growing up, throughout my life, and now.....I know home should be felt inside, where you are, but I don't. I still feel like an outsider....everywhere.
Damn! Your videos keep getting better and better each time! Ten years an immigrant in North America to the point where it does feel like we don’t belong anywhere, only to remind ourselves that this space right here right now is home, and that’s all that matters… because no one knows what tomorrow holds
This is exactly how I feel, I don't feel like I belong to anywhere. I was born in one country, but grew up and have lived in other 4 countries. I often describe myself to others as a Global citizen.
As your fan in Korea, I am so happy to hear that you felt like home, and felt the sense of comfort here 😊!
Sense of belonging is something we all struggle to find. And feeling like an outcast is not only limited to ethnicity or where you come from. I love how you share your deep thoughts and outlooks in your videos. It feels like watching a movie! I can't agree with you more on your thoughts. At some point you feel like you don't belong where you are even though you are from exactly where you are. I believe that the idea of 'home' is not singular, and maybe is not only defined by borders... For me it's more related to people whom I love. When I travel I feel like at home when I see my friends, even though I can only see them shortly. And even when I'm in my home country, I feel isolated easily. I think it's good to have as many 'homes' as possible!! It's somewhere you can feel warm in harsh world ! Thank you for your wonderful videos !
We missed you, so welcome back this is your home, the one that you’ve created for yourself & us (online family) 🏡. With love from South Africa 🇿🇦 ❤️🙏🏽.
No matter what the causative factors, some, like myself, also have lived with outsider status. In my case, early childhood social dislocation set me up for a lifetime of feeling unwanted, alone, and as the 'other'. My first sight of the sign in my new gym brought me to tears: "You belong!". As social animals, we need to belong in order to thrive. We may survive without community...but we can never thrive without it.
I was born and raised in California, USA, but I have never been someone who fits in or belongs. I’m used to being a misfit, but still long for a close tribe sometimes. Oh well, I belong to God and that’s sufficient for me.😂
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Omg! I’ve been your supporter for quite a long time now, but this one is different. The way you tell the story, the shots, and all the words, it’s emotional and deep. I love this video Sophie, you did so good on this one. It’s worth the wait ❤️
Yay I'm so glad you're back Sophie, I really missed seeing your videos and this one was well worth the wait. It spoke to me deeply about how anywhere and nowhere can feel like "home" and that its ok if you feel like you don't belong by not fitting in to the regular molds of society, you are still worthy and special. Thank you for this and congratulations on being so close to 600k, you deserve it.
I was overcome with an intense emotional wave of feeling like I was listening to a friend talk about her feelings. Thank you 🫂❤️
You are such an incredible storyteller Sophie. I get engulfed in your videos and can feel your emotions. I’m always left saying out loud “wow wow wow” or “that was very very good!” Thank you for creating these masterpieces ❤
Merci pour ça! My roots are Welch, my DNA is mostly Viking, my father was a US southerner and I was raised as a francophone! I was adopted at birth and my identity was very muddled. It took me years to make peace with who I am, I now realize that I am all of that, but mostly I am unique! I fought hard for who I am am, And what I have become and I am proud of me!
Un gros câlin à toi. Je suis mauricienne. J'ai étudié en Inde (nord et sud!). Et maintenant je suis en Australie. Our home is where we are loved. :)
I so appreciate you talking about navigating your identity as a Korean American through life! I can feel the sense of love and warmth you and your little family are experiencing in Portugal, thank you for helping us see the world through a beautiful and calming lens!
You are so stunning!! Inside and out. It is so beautiful to see your growth in truly accepting everything that you are.. and in that self- acceptance, you start to belong, to yourself! I definitely have been on the same journey, and it is so comforting and inspiring to see beautiful people like yourself on the same path. So proud of us all :)
this is exactly what I need right now. thank you for uploading this video, Sophie.
This was so beautiful Sophie ❤️ i'm happy you found the feeling of ''home'' in Portugal and it shows ! Just like you said , our roots don't really determine who we are as people because we have many sides to us...we're all from planet earth and we're free to try and explore until we feel content 😊
I love the shots in this video and the story you shared is powerful! Everyone at some point in life feels like an outsider or that they don't belong but its best to see how they can adapt and thrive when placed in new environments!!
Thanks Kayla ❤️
Always delivers. One of the YTs where I can go back and rewatch. Clear messaging and POV.
I just wanna say thank u for being so kind and share your deepest feelings with us. I can listen to u all day ❤.
I have lived in the southern united states' and northern.... even here the cultures are very different. It's easy to get stuck thinking about not belonging, instead of being ourselves and enjoying the life God has given us to live.
Thanks for the video! I just wanted to say thank you for thoughtful, calming and thought provoking videos. I do not agree with you on everything, but I have learned a lot and really enjoy your videos!
Blessings!
Sophie, I caught myself today, that I opened your (long anticipated) video and gave it a 👍 immediately, before even starting to watch it. The video and Storey telling is BRILLIANT! And I even cried after watched it, because I can totally relate to it and it came to me at the very perfect moment!
I am Russian, seven years ago I moved with my kids and husband to US, during the pandemic we moved back to russia and now we are in the process of reallocating to Italy. Your video gives me a great support and additional perspective on what I am experiencing in the last seven years. I am really grateful to you! ❤️
Your video has touch me in many ways. I left my home country when I was 18 - live in the states for over 6 yrs. I live in different states and cities, until my husband and I decided to move to Italy, we’ve been living the best time here, connecting to the local, buying our food from local markets, and I was very touched by your words. Brazil will always be where I came from, the states the place I’ve matured and learned the greatest lesson so for and Italy has already won my heart ❤
i've moved around a lot in my life. i've felt like an outsider so many times but i'm grateful to always feel so welcomed and loved by my family whenever i come home after a long day meeting so many new faces.
I can completely relate to that!. I never felt that i belong anywhere.
It is difficult sometimes, but i leant how to accept that. But seeing your video and knowing that you and many other people propably feel the same makes me think that i am not alone after all.
I wish you love and peace always and to everyone who feels the same.
Home is where your heart is. Where your heart smiles to you. 💚
You described it so well. Just what I needed to hear ❤️
Hi beautiful Sophie, thank you for sharing this with us.
I love that you refer to our organic self, if we are able to find our way back to our proper roots, with no impressions or pressure from society, then that’s such a beautiful thing.
Take care and sending love as always 🙏❤️ xx
Beautiful Video! Thank you! I have never felt at home anywhere but I have found many places that feel so comforting. There is so much peace in that. ❤
Gosh, Sophia, that was beautiful and masterful. Message and delivery, and always with such artistic cinematography. Great to see you settling in, in more than one way. You seem happier and more at peace, yet still pushing your boundaries not afraid to keep growing and taking risks. This was very sweet.
I completely get you. There is only acceptance that helped the aloneness I felt. Not everyone gets you. And I keep searching for people to understand me and me understanding those who have not experienced what I have.
Thank you! Your videos always come at the perfect times in my life. ❤❤ It’s so nice to hear stories about our struggles with identity. It deeply resonates with me.
I’m’so glad I found this video as I’m struggling with feeling like I belong nowhere but just knowing that so many people feel the same at least makes me feel less alone.
I love exploring belongings. This reminds me of one of my early on videos. I also don’t belong to the countries my parents are from. It’s funny to feel belonging to a country that I’m living in now, even though only living here for 5 yrs
That is so interesting! I do have a home where I'm "from", but having lived abroad for a couple of years, we sometimes forget, that the home from a few years back has changed. Culture evolves, language evolves and I as well have changed of course. Other places become a part of you and you find yourself becoming a bit stranger to your own home with the years passing.
Thank you so much ❤. I needed to hear this now more than ever. I feel like I have a similar story, just different countries. I heard from someone that we don’t necessarily need a perfect home, as long we feel at home with ourselves, we’ll be fine ☺️
This video is a breath of fresh air that I needed 🍃. Thank you for sharing Sophie.
This will hit home for so many people. Also the video/story was so well-written. Can't wait to read your book/ watch your movie Sophie (when it comes out) 😁
Love your RUclips Videos! Thank you for being yourself & sharing your heartfelt thoughts. ❤
It’s good to have you back. Thank you for sharing this part of your story ☺️
You’re videos are amazing!! So outstanding !! Thank you for sharing all these jems 🥰🥰
Hi Sophie! Thank you for such a great video and reflection! I'm a Colombian living in the US and I have felt the same way so many times! I completely relate with your feelings, and I appreciate your deep analysis, I agree with everything you said. Take care and welcome 🏡🤗🌺💛💙❤️!
It makes me happy that you can relate
Needless to say, this has been one of my favorite message by you. I’m so lucky to have shared this journey with you- and keep sharing the journey. Thanks for being my constant sis. Love you ♥️
Love you❤️❤️❤️
As we live on with our lives, we will keep discovering and keep learning our individuality, because at the end of the day, we only live for nobody except ourselves and every individual has a different and unique life story.
Sometimes, it can be difficult to accept at times to think that you don't completely fit in or conform to anything, but just remember, you are unique in the most beautiful way!
😢 mebe u right say dear 😘😍
Thank you making this video. I share the same feel of where home is to me.
In our circumstances, we just need to create our own sense of belongings wherever we end up week by week, month by month, year by year
Living a slow low life is peaceful and healthy instead of being surrounded by a crowd wc leads in stress, living in a different environment or country can't stop u from loving ureself. Thanks for the video dia.💕💕
I am 55 and still trying to figure out where I belong. I am Mexican and American Indian, parents never married and when staying with my Father he would immerse us in both cultures but, mostly the Mexican culture and while living with my Mother, we were immersed mostly in the Indian and white cultures. So, I felt like a loner and still do. However, I have grown to except that I am an introvert and home to me is where my pets are. The home I have created for us. I am now struggling to figure out where to go in my retirement years. Portugal is an area I would like to check out and why I was attracted to your vids. Please tell us more of how you are adapting there to the Portuguese culture. I realize this video is one expression of that and is very important. 🙂
Omg😭😭😭 you speak for many lovely humans, thank you for telling us about your feelings!
As you can see you have a lot of support. My daughter is half British and Thai. I brought her up to be proud of herself. Stay strong
Thank you for this video. It means so much to me. I feel like in 6 minutes you have described my life.
The title grabbed my attention. It made me feel less alone. I grew up in 5 USA cities from MD to LA, Chicago to Houston by the time I was 7. Where are you from people would ask and I would be stymied. Existential detachment by 7. As I became an adult its been my choice, not the imposed industrial nomadism of my folks. That helped some. Investing in the community helped. The realization that life will carry on without me is an acceptance of transcendence. I’m grateful that my parents stayed together, that it was violence that propelled us unlike so many on earth. It makes me open to the value of diversity. Thank you. I’m glad you see your husband as home.
It's comforting to know that I am not alone when it comes to my feelings and way of life.
I really love your videos. They bring me peace. This video made me very emotional. Because right now that is my biggest insecurity. Not feeling like I belong, not feeling like really going home when I go home… but this made me feel better ❤
All the shots are so outstanding in this video is just such a wholesome video ❤️
Simply Thank u Sophie! This Video creates a feeling of Home and freedom for me
So deep. Sophie, you are an inspiration to me, thank you 🙏🏼
thank you sooo much :)
Wow. I can't tell you how much I identify with your story. Thanks for sharing...what you do. Your talents, your vision, your life.
I can relate to this. Thank you Sophie for this beautiful video ❤️
Thank you for such a lovely and thought-provoking video.
I appreciate this video so much! I have never felt like I belong to one certain place because I have moved around so much. Thank you❤
Fascinating video. This is a dilemma that many people face, even if they don’t leave their country. Moving from a rural area to a large city can create the same feelings.
As a perpetual nomad, I feel this. I am the outsider. I'm learning to be ok with this feeling, but thanks for this video.
A beautiful narrative that I completely relate to. Thank you Sophie 💫
Wherever I feel the most comfortable is home. The place I can let my guard down and simply be. Watching your video enlightened me! I now know that my current home is a person - the closest person in my life. They are my safe place - where I can truly trust, grow, love, and be loved! ❤🥰
Home is where the heart lives.
So true
Left the city for a small town and been feeling out of place and not knowing where I truly want to be. Needed this thank you
Know thyself and be free! Wishing you all the very best in your quest!
Thanks for sharing, Sophie!
Beautiful 💙 and so deep. I think we belong wherever we are in life. I've been in Asia for over 30 years and never have found a place to truly call home except in my heart. I do feel that we all long for that special place of peace and comfort. Looking within sure helps. The world is such a busy place. I love your perspective on life. Lovely content. 💜💕🌺 Earth is our home.