Iyanla: Fix My Broken Family Part 2 | Full Episode | Iyanla: Fix My Life | OWN
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- Опубликовано: 22 окт 2020
- PART 2: Iyanla spends a second day helping to heal the Henry family and discovers that the root of Dwight's problems run far deeper than his marriage. (Original air date: October 15, 2016) // Don’t miss the two-hour premiere of “Iyanla: Fix My Life,” on Saturday, October 31 at 9/8c on OWN. For more on #FIXMYLIFE, visit WatchOWN.tv/Iyanla
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This is a old episode. She DIVORCED him, went back to school and was accepted into MEDICAL SCHOOL🥳🥳 She is truly loving her best life 🥰
I'm glad
Wow! Proud of her.
I'm so happy to see this update!!!!!!
Never felt so genuinely happy bf it someone 😫❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ she deserves it
Amazing this is great news cause he didn’t value her nor his children which are also young black women, I’m praying over them also. 🙏🏽
This makes me seriously want to heal myself before entering a relationship
Please do. Or you will end up with an equally broken person and won’t have anyone else to blame but yourself.
Always do.
We all need to
True! Even when you think you’re healed, a deep love brings out all the trauma you thought you had fixed and sorted out. It takes a patient and understanding man to be ready . This is my story
Plz do, been single for 4 year's and I'm still in the healing process.I can feel in my heart that my Mr right is waiting on me to heal 100%.
Also, this man was a minister. Can you imagine going to him for counseling? We have to be careful about where we seek help. Sheesh!
😂😂😂😂
Yep
Those are the evilest ones
Speak!!!! 💯
Religious people are the biggest hypocrites.
The wife is absolutely stunning , he’s not deserving of such beauty .
And still looks young. I am surprised the stress didn't age her!
Yes she is! anyone know if they showed her when she was bigger?
It’s more to a relationship than looks Mathida. If you haven’t found that out believe me, life will show u!
Even if she was a hideous troll, he doesn't deserve her!
Fr, her beauty is more than skin deep, her spirit... resilient. I wish her the best in her career
At some point “How I was raised” is no longer an acceptable excuse.
Exactly. Just because it's what your parents did and said is no excuse for your actions.
Like the saying goes, things may not be our fault, but everything in our lives we are responsible.
Some people use it as an excuse, however we all need to analyze the patterns throughout our lives and take responsibility to do the inner work
Facts, it explains the behavior, it doesn't excuse it.
It's not an excuse however, the way were or weren't raised has everything to do with how we evolved into adults and respectively has to be taken into account... Must be unraveled, sorted through & understood to move forward with good results.
“People don’t use crutches unless something is broken” ... very powerful
But they are also are used to help that crooked path that was made an now theirs no way to fix this bad behavior. I watched this to the end and I still feel that the husband/ father is still a controlling state, his mom at that point wasn't being truthful or remorseful, the baby has some real deep rooted problems that were not spoken. I hope everyone gets some kind of closure.
So true
Did you notice he let go of everything except the 'crutch'? That too was powerful. Made a statement that either he acknowledges he's going to rehab or he's in denial
That just hit different!
@@aquanettaspeight3819 aaaaaaa
The wife needed this so she could leave the marriage.
Agreed!!
A way out...someone to help her out. I completely understand. When u been stuck for 19yrs, a lot of help is required to step out of that gutter.
No she didn’t... she could left even before they got married... I mean he had the “extramarital child” before they were married.
Cladius It’s not that easy. We build habits that can sometimes be our own prisons. Those habits can be so hard to break, especially on our own.
@@cladius2292 he had the child while they were married. Their kids were like 7 & 11 when he had his side baby
Make sure that you don’t mistake wound mates for soulmates
Interesting
Wheeww I felt that in my spirit
Some deep words
😂😂😂😂🤣 June lord help us all!
Been there sis.
This man is sooooooooooo manipulative!!!!! They said he was a Bishop and then an Ordained minister of WHAT exactly?????????? I loved seeing Iyanla's son ready for whatever for his momma in that first episode!!!!
Crazy to hear he is an ordained minister yet having children outside his marriage. So gross.
Right! Smoking Mary J and coco smh 🤦🏿♂️
@Haya Glamazon... That's actually much more common that one would think! People who are manipulative and abusive THRIVE in pulpits...
Bishop,minister,pastor etc they are all titles.don't let the titles fool you
That’s why you can’t trust noone especially in the church unless you are lead by the Holy Spirit and don’t let anyone lay they hands on you that you don’t know personally and trust, coz they will put that spirit right on you Chile.
The younger girl seems to resent the mom. She's so cold to her. I truly pray she doesn't date someone like her father because she seems to idolize him.
My mom and step dad are having bad martial issues . I notice my sister and moms relationship is strained because she makes my sister feel bad for being nicer to her dad. That’s wrong to do because she’s telling her to basically hate her dad but my moms so unhappy in a bad mood 😟 .It’s hard when they live inside the home .
i agree
Yeah, that younger one is not having it.
Yesss!!! I noticed that too 😩
The younger one seems to be more open to the fathers apology than her mothers. She's very cold to her mother. I hope she sees how important her relationship with her mother is.
i really wish iyanla wouldve worked more with the younger daughter because her future scares me
She is troubled, but she got the perfect excuse to move in with her bf... sad.
Keisha hates her mother. And creepily adores her abusive, manipulative father. I pray these daughters have a good therapist.
Mother is pretty and it’s more obvious how childish and broken he is but both are dysfunctional
How is it creepy to love your father? U must be fatherless
She see her mother as the weak one and her weak mess of a father as the strong one but baby was that momma laying and waiting but i dont want to get to preachy but im happy for her. She needed to get away from him
She will end up being with a man like her father!
@@blwtheblue I am fatherless, A lot of people are. Having a absentee parent doesn't negate a person from making observations. The creepy part is not her loving him. I think her loving him is actually endearing, and shows the true nature of children. I actually love that she still loves him. What is "creepy" or sad, is that without guidance, she will date a man who will treat her poorly, just like he treated her mother, because that is what love looks like to her, and subconsciously it will feel familar.
The wife is 41 yrs old. Kids are all grown up. She should divorce this man and get her grove back.
She did.👏👏👏
@@OneLoveRSR Good for her👍🏼
@@OneLoveRSR I thought she wanted a divorce but reconciled with her husband
its funny when a black man going though something the black woman ready to kick him out, his wife admitted the wrong she did to her daughters i dont her any feeback on that we as black people we have to learn to love even in the pain and mistakes
@@intrinsiccinema7374 Stop. About going through something. Going through too many damn women. If anything, Black women always stay too long . If she had had a baby outside of him, you would've called him a fool if he had stayed with her. Never mind how he has continued to cheat on her for 19 years.
Iyanla is brilliant in her evaluation and insight. She truly has a gift for helping to heal brokenness. Amazing woman.
Believe it or not Ms. Iyanla went through it but came through it with fine colors and look at her now without the smell of smoke. I only read her book.Blessed to be a blessing . Bless your heart!
So true this lady has a Devine gift of helping people
If folks are open to her help
Her patience &choice of words are always sOo gOod. She kNows what to say
She is, it saddens me to learn that she isn’t gonna continue on with the show after this last season 🥺🥺🥺
I died when his mom said " I hope so" 💀 to going to rehab and he got mad 😭🤣🤣🤣🤣
Was funny asl 😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭!
@@des_Ays I was dying 😭 💀 🤣
Mama: "I'm sorry, I don't have tact."
😭😭😭
@@MrDJCue 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 lmao she sure don't
The younger sibling needs help. She needs to heal. Her weight is a result of using food to deal with her emotions.
Yes YES & YES....!!!!
I totally agree
So true. 🙏🏾
💯✅
You’re so right, she probably use food to cope her stress 💔
That younger daughter needs serious help.
Naw foreal
she’s emotionally scar at a young age . Thus is not over Iyanla. Despite all the help that he needs the marriage is still over and I pray that she don’t go back to him🧐
Yes, she does. Seems like she doesn’t really care for her mom.
She is in pain , i know cause i used to br like her. I punished my self by eating and masking my emotions. I grew soo big!
Yes!!! I felt the same way! She cannot even feel. She is like a blank piece of paper and does not even respond to emotion. It’s very scary.
I feel so bad for the youngest girl. She 1,000,000% will date, be abused by, taken advantage of and more than likely procreate with a male exactly like her father. She looks at him with such admiration in her eyes and it's sad because there is nothing admirable about that "man".
Wheeww you said it !
Unfortunately, that will most likely be correct.
Hopefully she goes for healing before that!!!
Man I hope not but that's prob going to be the case.
😥😥😥
Does anyone think he’s faking it even when he apologizes?
Leslie K. I think so too.
me🖐🏾
🙋🏻♀️
Definitely
💯%
The youngest likes her dad more cause he’s not around for the hard stuff. Mom has to be the disciplinary one and so she gets looked at like the enemy.
It's normal for 2 siblings to have their own 'closest' parent.
@@realSimoneCherie true, but the only reason they like him better is that he doesnt discipline them or ACTUALLY parent them.
@@pinkkam Please stop making assumptions.
"It's not even important to me if she had to be searched or not." This man doesn't love or care about his wife...only about what she'll do for him and put up with. He's filth.
That set me off
Right! That was wild. It wasn’t even about that yet he felt the need to say such a thing.
💯💯💯
Exactly. He told us all who he is.
I don't like using the "n word " but... that's a full fledged one if I never saw one!
He is a CHILD. A horrible husband and a horrible father. The fact that he managed to hold onto his wife so long is beyond me. All the temper tantrums, throwing himself back in the chair, crossing his arms and rolling his eyes... eurghhhh he is a mess. But his wife is also partly to blame she created no boundaries with him and so he continued to abuse her and continue with his childish ways. Im glad Iyanla was able to help her know she is worth so much more. He is no example of a man, deacon or minister.
Omgosh🤣🤣 girl, you left ur chill at the doe (door) he does lack maturity.....stuff like this...is why I dont even make it to relationships🤣
He's broken
And was ill equipped.
Let's give him/them the chance they deserve.
They married young
Didn't really get a chance to go /grow
Up.
He's STRONG...He's BIG made the first step.
He showed up, he apologized, he took rehab.
GOOD JOB DAD, MOM, And the pretty little Girls.
Let's pray for them.
I trust God will heal them, and ALL will be just fine.
He did GOOD.
WE LOVE YOU FAM.
SONG SALON she divorced him. So obviously he didn’t do too good. Looked her up on fb she looks amazing. Dropping him is what she needed to flourish.
SONG SALON also being broken and ill equipped is no excuse. Plenty of people go through worse in life and do better than he did. 50 affairs if i heard right plus an outside baby and with all the forgiveness and patience she has shown him this is how he shows up. Disgusting. What really set me off is him not giving a damn about his wife having to be searched to visit him in jail. He has no respect for her. But yes pray for him. He needs it.
@@callmedee35 I'm glad she finally found her way out. I'm sure she feels free.
People don't use crutches unless something is broken. Damn it, I felt that!!!
“That’s what’s wrong with y’all. Y’all be having Christmas without grandma that’s what’s wrong” Lmfaoo I love Iyanla!!
3 Minutes in and this grown man won't even stand up a greet someone who walks into the room, the childishness is embarrassing.
He is emotionaly damaged..
@@lanis57 damaging
And he was a deacon and minister! What a joke!!!
I am a little worried about the youngest daughter something isn't right
Same. Poor girl
I said the same thing. There is something going on with her
I thought about that too, she is 17 and speak like a 5years old
@@soky3067 She's likely still stuck mentally as that young girl seeking her daddy's approval sm
Its also a bit hard being entirely vulnerable on camera.
This is a reason why I don’t let anybody just pray for me. You never know what demons they have within them
Preach....
The older daughter is so reflective and insightful to her emotions and her experiences. Y
Yeah! Despite everything, she seems extremely emotionally intelligent. I even got glimpses of it in the mom, but she just doesn’t know how to set boundaries with her husband.
Lakesha's eyes are so powerful. Like do ya'll see that look when shes looking at her mother?? Ooh my gosh i am terrified. Its sad to see what broken adults can do to their children. God help me to learn so that i can fix my emotions and my life for the sake of my daughter.
My dear you shall receive the help ☝🏽💙
👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾
She barely hugged her mother back.
Aunty Iyanla be serving looks hunny!!❤
Yasssssss
Yas. I peeped those heels.
The younger daughter has serious issues with the mother. I wish they could have addressed that.
The youngest daughter just wants her mother to get over it, and forgive so she (the daughter) can go back into the fantasy: of her daddy being a good man because he comes home. Her mother ruin that for her. The daughter uses food to comforted her. Most likely her dad made her believe she was his cuddle bear with rosey cheeks, as long as he was there... . But that being there depended on the mother cooperating and tolerating all kinds of crap. Since the mother no longer wanted to cooperate, I the mother get the daughter's heat.
I am the same with my Mother. I resent her for not leaving my abusive father because we had to witness and go through it. I blame her for my lack of trust on men because every-time a guy shows his controlling true colors I run. I am 41 and single with no child. My parents are still married and I don’t talk to my father. I only go home once a year and have never stayed there for more than a day.
@@bokani79 That is sad to hear. Hope you find a resolution and learn to move on from the trauma
@@ant123924 you got it!!
You never know. They probably didn’t air that part
After I lost my cousin lol. What does that have to do with anything!? This man is too much! Get out Sis
Like??? No connection lol
Thank you for the second half! -Speaking for all RUclipsrs! 💛
I watched this when it aired and was still sitting on ready for part 2.
This man was disgusting 🤮
I sooo agree with thanks for second half...this is an example of so many black families 💯👊🏾
Thank you sis🦋
Wanna see a 3 to know how the wife and kids are doing
Yes cuz I been looking
“Not soulmates...but woundedmates”. I got goosebumps 😣
Avante seems like the healthiest person in the family. I pray that God will give her the strength to overcome.
The wife looks so drained unhappy and tired.
“That’s not even important to me whether she was searched or not” ......how could you fix your mouth to say that about his wife?! Smh
I don't like to use the "n word "... but that is a full fledged one if I ever saw one.
He's been screaming it with his actions, I'm not surprised.
He’s rude af smh
That baby girl some no fault in her Daddy he’s her world.... every time she spoke about him she smiled
But she’s so cold towards her Mom
I saw that and she was the opposite equally cold to her mother. I hope she is okay now.
Probably undercover blames her for the times when he leaves the home. Bless her heart
@@tammyharry5663 I was thinking that
@@tammyharry5663 probably does
She is showing signs of narcissism, just like her dad. These kids have been raised by a broken codependent mother and a narcissistic father. I think both sisters will end up in abusive relationships. One will be the abused, the other, the abuser.
The younger girl looks like she have more unresolved hurt than the older one.
Yes. Her pain is carried on her weight.
Sorry, but the way the younger daughter looks at mom, mom better sleep with the door locked.
Frr
lool
That look was scary as hell. Like she had evil in her eyes
@@liunknownil2072 right
What’s the look y’all talking bout? Anyone have a time stamp?
I Feel sorry .
But the man is around 14 years of age.
He did not reach adulthood yet .
That’s because his development was arrested
Happens. Aging isn't maturing.
Please do not insult 14 year old!😉
🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😁
Why that baby girl looking at her mother with such hate? But she light up like a Christmas tree with her father.
Exactly
Because the mother sewed the disdain against her own blood... of the man was sick, he needed help. And as a wife, she failed him.
@@florpayan8788 he probably hates women just like him birds of a feather flock together
I know it’s so sad that we continue to be hurt by those who don’t care and the ones to do we are mean to 🤬we need to do better !!!!
@Hloni * I know how can we help them ???? Please like right now !!!!!!!!!
They way Keisha changes from when her Daddy is brung up than when her mom has the floor is TERRIFYING😟
Generational curses that need to be broken.
💯truth! Thank u for mentioning that.
When one parent is a narcissist, usually one of the children will be also. Smh. If there are multiple children, one will be codependent and take after the codependent parent. I know from experience. It’s all about survival. If one parent is constantly being abused and mistreated, some children will see that as weakness, so they take on the narcissist traits. Other children, who are empathetic and feel for the mistreated parent will become a codependent, always taking care of others and shielding them.
@ wow...this sounds like me!
I grew up like that but as we grew older my dad no longer held that power. He is soo damn confused and now he is trying to separate us siblings to hate each other smh what a looser!
Well said... Mario...
So true
Everything you just described is my mother and her siblings. Her brothers are the narcissists, taking after their father (my grandfather). He makes my skin crawl. I'm so proud of her for breaking the cycle (albeit after being married to my father for 20 years).
lakesha don’t even wanna hear her moms yo , she smiles when she says “daddy” but to her mom chile 🙇🏽♀️
Yeah I saw that she wasn't very compassionate with her mom so she might be a daddy's girl
OK! You seen. that church hug she gave her mom? Over it!
She is not beat for her mom which is sad!!!
I noticed also. 😩😩😩 There was a huge difference between the way she hugged her mother and father.
I think the father is a narcissist and usually one of the children will become one. It’s all about survival. Mom is codependent and children will be one or the other. To children, codependent parent make appear weak and taken advantage of, so they take on narcissistic character traits.
“Your mother, an elder, got out of her home from in front of her soap operas-“ 😂
Iyanla's shaaaaady 🤣🤣
That made me chuckle when she said that.
🤣🤣🤣
@@maganblair2005 Me Too That Tickled Me I'm Rolling 😆 😆 😆 😆
I came for this comment. She is missing her stories. 🤣
Young girl is acting like she dnt like her mom and giving weird vibes when they say anything bout the dad this family is just different
She probably blamed the mom for her dad acting this way. Hopefully when she gets older she'll see it differently
It's hard being the daughter of a narcissist father... I see how badly baby girl wants his approval and he will always manipulate her with her. Other men will manipulate her need for approval. Ms. Iyanla is right... This is a critical time for her.
This dude reminds me SO MUCH of my biological father. Thank GOD I didn’t meet my biological father till I was 30. I can’t imagine where I would be if I grew up under a man child like this.
Mine too, but I was the other way around. Mine was in my life until I was 11 or 12, mom couldn't take the childishness and substance abuse anymore so she kicked him out and I saw just how dependent on her he was all that time. Went from one gov housing to another because he'd break stuff, not pay for stuff when he had the money because it went on drink, couldn't hold down a job, offered me drugs at 12. Then he disappeared when I was about 14 with no word. Thankfully my stepdad came into my life shortly after and I've healed a lot from having him and seeing what a real father figure is. It honestly did break my heart and traumatise me though, I felt like I had another sibling and not a father growing up. He w so volatile and irresponsible, no ownership or accountability. I was always ashamed of him and embarrassed that he was my father. I felt lesser than my peers who had functioning dads. And yet I felt so unworthy and betrayed when he left because I still lived him and tried to do right by him in all the chaos.
See that baby girl is just still holding everything in.
Update: I found the husband, Dwight Henry is now Thelisha Glover’s ex. He’s recently married too it seems to an ‘Undrea Henry’. He posts a lot of scriptures & about being a king with a plan for his queen. The younger daughter is now a hair stylist & not so big anymore.
This family was a mess.
That wife doesn't know what she's in for. She better put on her seatbelts bc she in for a rocky ride. He may have changed some which I hope he did, but hes got patterns now and they aren't good ones from what I saw.
Drop some links to the accounts I’m very Curious to see
heartfulenergy lol I had to laugh about this comment. I guess there is always someone for everybody😭
Did the new bride not see this? Good grief 🙄
@Daughter of TMH Wow so happy for her 🙌🙌🙌🙌
This beautiful wife and mother shouldn't have to put up with this.
Just found out today that she divorced him and went back to medical school and got her Master of Science in Physician Assistant Studies from Morehouse School of Medicine. Greatest news ever!
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He’s so manipulative 😭✌🏾
They gotta get it from somewhere
Black families really need this kind of therapeutic intervention especially today with so much domestic violence cases rising. The availability and affordability is just not there in many neighborhoods and communities. There's so much mental health issues and deep darkness in so many families. 💥🙏🙏🙏👑
AMEN I PRAY WE AS BLACK PEOPLE AND BLACK FAMILIES GET THE HELP WE NEED BEFORE IT'S TO LATE🙏😞
Need Jesus
@@bluecross4237 better to get therapy, jesus is not here to help
There is a mental health epidemic because everyone isn't getting good therapy and intervention or any at all.
@@bluecross4237 if the teachings of Jesus aren't reaching those not in the church, how do you suppose that will happen? Sitting behind closed church doors isn't going to reach them!!!
It's something about the way she delivers her message... just brings you to tears
Yes. This is why I love auntie. lol
She's channeling 💜
The oldest daughter is SHUT DOWN, she has probably seen so much that the younger one hasn't, so sad.
Don’t involve children in marital affairs.
@Lovely Love There’s a difference between invoking children in FAMILY matters and MARITAL matters. You don’t marry your children so they do not need to be in the mix. I am sorry you had to go through that.
@Lovely Love
This is true, a lot of adults don’t realize how much children sponge up subconsciously what is going on around them. That’s part of a reason many “generational curses” go on without ppl knowing. Glad you realize this for your future legacy.
You are correct. Marital affairs IS family affairs
@@phyliciawagner1628 so you marrying your children ??? .......ok, cool. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and ways of life and I respect that.
@Soul Empress factsssssdddsssssssss
He started crying because he doing coke 🤣🤣🤣
Bruh 😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣 like took me tf out 💀💀😫😫 it's real crackish behavior
I’m so excited I’m so excited ....I’m so scared 💯🤣
😂 😂 😂 😂
@@myvideos420 lmfao
He started crying because he wants more😂😂
I wonder why his son didn't come, that would have been interesting . He is an outside child and probably has a lot of hurt inside of him.
Riiiiiiiggghhtt ! That would have been interesting
He said "I had an extramarital affair that has afforded me to have a son outside of my marriage". Was that an accomplishment?
I can imagine how he used that blatantly disrespectful truth to hurt Thelisha repeatedly in unimaginable ways.
Girl my mind was BL🤯WN
I also took issue with the fact that he said his extramarital affair "afforded him the opportunity to have a son"... how hurtful & disrespectful is this man!
@@latyliaclemmons95 lol!! I actually commented on that too. He acted like that was an accomplishment. People really have no clue as to the power of words. This guy on the other hand seems to know exactly what he does and says.
Yes he said "afforded" because he always wanted a boy and all they had were girls in his marriage. Some parents value one gender over the other. Toxic
I was annoyed with that wording as well. Not only does it downplay his actions and behavior, it implies that he values having sons more than he does his daughters.
Something is wrong with the youngest daughter, she might be just like her daddy, they're both immature, she's stuck at 5, and he's 12
Well spotted 👏
Lmfao 😅 yes your right
@@girlanonymous she's 17 and a senior in high during this filming
Iyanla is such a phenomenal therapist!! The wife is gorgeous and so humble. I hope God gives her the strength to put herself and her kids first. They don't need him.
Great insight from most of the comments glad she divorced mr Dwight cuz she could have wound up on cold case files. Mr Dwight did not learn or really change any negative behavior. I’m proud of iyanla son the Dwight dude needed a beat down from someone on his level and not a helpless female
You can’t communicate how you feel to a narc. They shut you down.
He was high when he showed back up the first day in the car
Yup!
As a kite!!!
I don't like how he said in Part 1 that having an affair "afforded" him a son! 😳
Very ignorant, he’s a joke
🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
Afforded him but devalued his wife. He is Master Narcissist.
FACTS
I thought I was the only one who peeped that! Like what the hell “afforded”....like he was entitled to this child. I can’t! 🤦🏽♀️
The youngest daughter is completely numb and in a bad emotional state.
There must be something more that happened between the baby and mother because their dynamic is extremely cold.
My understanding is that dad started being unfaithful while mom was pregnant with her. Must have affected the mother psychologically, and the baby felt every negative feelings her mom felt. There must be a link with how their relationship evolved.
The youngest daughter is broken to pieces bro
Something isn’t right with the youngest and grandma knows it.. the youngest looks at her mother like she is the other woman..
One is the "golden child" and one is the "scapegoat". The golden child usually looks up to and admires the narcissistic parent and the scapegoat usually sees all the dysfunction and feels helpless or bitter.
@@goodgracious6364 scapegoat also gets blamed for the dysfunction. It's weird.
@@goodgracious6364 Tell it y'all better call the thing a thing as iyanla says better preach it🙏🤔
The way she said I love my daddy 🥴🥴🥴 in the first part ... I think iyanla right about the younger daughter being numb like the mom but this man is weird I wouldn’t be surprised if something inappropriate is going on between father and daughter
@@missondo4887 omgggg I thought it was just me...narcissists are known to groom their “supplies”...they have no boundaries so family is included😱🤢🤮
Him rolling his eyes just boils my blood. He is a trip! Whew chile! 😩
If looks could kill the way that baby girl Lakesha is looking at her mother...She'd be dead....she doesn't understand what her father has really put her mother through but that oldest girl Avante' knows even though she loves her dad she's not proud of what he does...Lakesha need a wake up call...Sorry but not sorry
her smug look is kinda scary
Yes... I had to scroll comments to see if anyone else noticed that. That's serious and needed to be addressed. I mean did Iyanla miss that? Something is seriously unresolved there.
She seems to be off to be honest. I could be wrong but she come off as special; reason why she is receiving things differently.
@@cind4846 i caught that, too. She doesn’t seem to aware of what’s going on. I do pray for this family to find peace & happiness.
My story with my 9 yr old. & me finally deciding to leave my 13yr marriage😏
Keisha is a girl that needs to see the proof in the pudding before she can come back from her shut down. She needs to see what she is opening up to. That is why even when both of her parents hugged her and apologized and stated what they will do from now on. She still didn't even bat an eye. Her soul is not ready to come back yet. And its gonna be a long time before that happens
Exactly. You can see it all over her face.
THATS what u call CHECKED OUT/ NUMB. Her eyes are dead DEAD. Like she doesnt even blink. Omg - tears fell outta my eyes for her❤
Yes the damage is done. She is way, way too young to have the eyes of a 50 old who is tired and done with life.
I grew up like this and slowly but surely I am allowing myself to feel. It is an excruciatingly painful process though I hope i get to a point where i naturally enjoy life instead of living only through my mind and being alone 👍🏾
@@caitlovesasmr I did too.💙
Watching Iyanla fml always gives me insight into cases and aspects in my life where abuse has been blatant but I just kind of took it because I felt I had no choice, I am really over it. Mama Iyanla is a doctor and she really does surgery of the soul ❤❤❤
Sorry, I don't believe his claims that he was unaware that he was hurting his family.
He is definitely a wounded little boy and it's deeply rooted. It's a generational cycle that probably stemmed way before his mother. I pray the both heal but I don't believe they can heal together....😢
You’re very kind!
Very true
The young girl is so messed up. The way she adores her father goshhhhh and resents the mum with an eye
"Not soul-mates but wound-mates" that was deep
I got chills looking at how the little girl was looking at her mom. She's holding back stuff she doesn't want to tell her. She loves her daddy more.
Iyanla is one blessed woman. I would love to have the chance to talk to her.
She's absolutely wonderful. Feel free to watch more of Iyanla Fix My Life here: bit.ly/2By1PMx
OWN ~ Molly
@@OWN Every time I watch her, she reduces me to tears, she's that powerful.
Me too.. I'd really love for her to my family
@@callmemamamufasa1377 my family And i had the opportunity to be guests years ago but two of my sisters refused to sign the waiver. Those same 2 sisters are still the cause of toxicity. Im not even talking to my family right now
@@glowuplife oh noooo, I'm sorry about that ♥️♥️
As long as you have breath in your body you can heal and make mends with your loved ones!!!🥰
I'm concerned that he's under the influence and behind the wheel.
I'm glad that everyone started their journey of healing. I was married to a man who allowed his MOTHER to have too much say-so in his life, yep I divorced him with less than 6 months in the marriage and moved to another state and worked on myself. To Yahweh be the glory.
I hope his wife is able to leave, because at this point it’s like she has three children
Someone commented in the first video that they did divorce and he remarried. She graduated from a physician assistant program in 2019
@@natashabrooks4188 I’m happy for her and her kids.. good lord who would marry him? They must’ve wanted to be First Lady of a Church.
michelle elmore right!? I think she lost her self worth and ended up feeling that she didn’t matter, couldn’t do better and didn’t know how to cut him off as he seems to be very manipulative and controlling. Probably made tons of empty promises.
But these grown children have a mind, an know how to use it so they can help their mother out of this web of stuff🤨🤬
@@natashabrooks4188 q1q1qq
He faking it with the tears because he’s trying to look like his life issues is a pity party for why he act the way he do. He never said why his cousin dying have to do with drugs or infidelity.
Because is infidelity and drug addictions has nothing to do with what he was trying to serve...
Iyanla wears some nice clothes beautiful colors 😍
I'm 31. I got married at 24. Had two kids in my marriage. My husband was a covert narcissist that marriage was so painful. At 28 I threw him out of the house, in munich, no job, an apartment to pay 1500 euros every month, but Because I didn't want my kids to be affected by this kind of abuse. However, as a single mother I don't know if I will do the best I can to raise my kids in a way that they're not damaged. Which is my major goal.
I pray you & your family will thrive and heal. You can do this. God won't put more on you than you can bear!🙏
they are gonna be damaged either way. The best thing you can give them is therapy and explain the relationship between you and their father
@@conolivia the world is full of damaged people anyway, raised by both parents or not, lovingly or not. So basically we can only do much too much..
Iyanla said, "Your life as you know it, is over." This episode was so deep & enlightening! In the begining, Dwight was really getting on my nerves with the childish behavior...you could really see by Dwight's behavior that he had 'mommy issues' & because his wife was dealing with her own stuff they, as a family, just remained 'stuck' in the dysfunction & burdened their daughters with it...with no way out! I definitely think Dwight needs to work on relationship with his mother before he can work on relationship with wife. Shows how very important that if the foundation is not solid & strong, it all falls apart...everyone is impacted. The representation of their 'baggage' in the dirt was so effective! Thank you Iyanla! ✌
Sabrina Graham - Hi, name twin! 🥰 And yes, I completely agree. Beautifully articulated.
I'm still disgusted with "Mr. Dwight" and his attitude. He refused to return the producer's calls, when the LEAST he could've done was apologize to Ms. Iyanla for his profound display of jack-assery on the first day, and thank her for paying for the rehab service 🙄.
Imagine..Maaad!
Everyone in this family is so well spoken and good at expressing their emotions. Even the manipulative father. I hope they all heal as individuals.
"she got up from in front of her soap operas' LMAO!! I am screaming
Keysha - the youngest daughter, her silnce spoke the loudest imo & you can tell that she uses food as comfort maybe when mom & dad was fighting or when she was left alone to fend for herself. I just pray that she can heal from this because it broke my heart to see how she has completely shut down.
People can only love you in the way they know how - based on what they SAW growing up!!!
The young one loves her dad soooooooo much it breaks me
To me the husband exposed his Narcissistic behavior.
His son should of been invited into the conversation... Interesting to see his and his mother's point of view. I wonder if he is manipulative to them as well.
@PressPause 2Play We don't if she was a fling or not, for all we know she could still be with him. I just think it would of been good to have all cards on the table and seen how his behavior changed with them being present. And I don't know why they are pretending he doesn't exist, she stayed so she needs to accepted it and include him in their family. You can't be one foot in and one out 🤷🏾
Horrible suggestion. The outside son and outside woman have no inside points of view about this family's innerworkings. The way he behaves with them is irrelevant to the way he behaves in the ONLY household he's failing at heading.
@@OneLoveRSR I disagree
@@Natalia-ns7jf this definitely wouldn’t have been the time to do that. They would need to talk about their circle first then bring them in. But it still not the time. I don’t think this was enough for Dwight or the baby girl.... they needed more all of them. Got fix your house before you fix another house!
@PressPause 2Play 100 per cent agree. The son and his mother have nothing to do with this family's specific problems. How would having the son there help in any way to Thelisha's growth?
I looked them up yesterday when I watched the first! They are not together! I didn't see his individual page, but he was on a picture on hers! She's doing very good! She looks great! She's in the medical field!!
Girl where did you find them? Which platform and I need usernames 😂😂😂
@@queendomgaming Hi Love! I Googled them first to see their update!! Then I went to Facebook! Her name is Thelisha Glover on Facebook! She's something with Moorehouse!!
@@mrs.reddics
Ah, that's my last name😘
@@norahsg7908 😍And she looks nice!!
@@mrs.reddics Thelisha is gorgeous
They married way too young
She grew up but he got stuck sometime in the 90s. I think they should both try and build a better relationship with the daughters because the marriage is over. The only thing worth saving and that can be saved is the life of the kids. I really do hope and wish them all the best.
I love how transparent and assertive the older daughter is... she may have a temper, as she has admitted to, but once she learns to conquer that... she'll be even more powerful