Why You Can't "Be Yourself" (The Power Of Being Alone)
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- Опубликовано: 27 июл 2024
- "Be yourself" is terrible advice for 99% of the population. But, the world is changing. Those that master their minds, master themselves. Those that master themselves, can master the world. In this video I try to make you aware of your conditioning, programming, and lack of authenticity. I also give you steps to start your journey to acting from a place of authenticity, creativity, and value.
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0:00 Just Be Yourself
3:00 Work Is Changing
5:48 In A World Without Others, The Self Would Not Exist
6:30 Who You Really Are
9:14 The Focus Matrix
11:44 What Does This Have To Do With Being Yourself?
12:52 You Are Somebody Else
14:15 The Problem With Social Media
21:12 Be Selfish
23:44 Go On A Walk
25:55 Weekly Self-Reflection
27:35 Writing To Clarify Your Thoughts
29:32 Question The Story That Your Ego Fabricates
Video title ideas (for the algo!):
Who you really are and how to be your authentic self
You are programmed. Here's how you reprogram your mind
If you want to thrive in the future, you must master your mind
“To exist is to change, to change is to mature, to mature is to go creating one’s self endlessly”
- Henri Bergson
I like your funny words magic man Henri..
Dude, you're a walking stream of shower thoughts. The way you've organized those perspectives, structure them in a way that makes sense and put it out into the world is just breath-taking. Please, for the sake of humanity, keep doing what you're doing.
Lmfao
Late to this, but will do brother. Having a lot of fun doing it. Thank you for watching🙏
I second this! Amazing content
Dan for president! ❤ this is all so good. Binging the entire channel and telling all my friends
Epic content and human🎉
There is no "real self" to be.
Ding ding
In other words, the only true self that's real is your “nobody self”… RIGHT⁈
Yesss exactly, we are constantly evolving and learning. It’s impossible to be one “true self” since to other’s perspective we’re copying others, when in reality we are complex creatures which are influenced by a vast diverse range of sources. We do not live in solitary confinement, we are social beings that do things.
Having Social Anxiety, being alone is fully comforting and I never have an issue being myself. As soon as I add society into my life, things seem to crumble..
Killing the fear of FOMO is the most powerful thing any human can do.
Love this. Walking and audiobooks, thinking, visualizing, working through stuff…that’s been a habit for decades. Once it clicks, it sticks.
I agree with most of what you say in this video. I have realised that I am solely responsible for my own well-being and mental health, and that has freed me from the weight of the burden of other people's opinions. I love being by myself because I am at my most productive and creative then. Only when I confront myself, I grow as a person. I treat life as a game now, where every day I need to score a little bit better than I did yesterday. It's fun and challenging, and I'd rather be by myself and be a little better everyday, than be around people and stagnate 💕
What game do u play and what are u getting better at everyday ?
@@onetime3137 I think she meant that life is a game in itself, levelling up in self development
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i love how people leave comments that should've been the realisation like when you are 15 or something
@@AndreyRubtsovRU Andrey is a BIG BOY and he's happy about it 😭
I've started to listen to myself more and more each day. Hearing my own voice in my head sometimes scares me, but it saves from pushing myself way too far. Understanding who I am, is a lifelong journey.
😂 Love your content, Dan.
I isolated myself for ~6 years. I isolated myself because I became self-aware; I was finally honest with myself, and a flood of insecurity destroyed my sense of self.
I used those 6 years to learn everything I could about myself.
Why do humans do the things they do? What is spirit? Why is religion a superpower in this world? What is God?
It was when I re-integrated back into society that I truly tested myself. The battleground where your understanding comes to play is when you connect with others. It's also where I regained my confidence by seeing my understanding flourish.
Thanka
same for 2 year, the extrem minimalism volcel nofap striaght edge vegan went far.. now what..
back to real life.. some coffee some video game.. some ego trip of music drawing writing.. some dream of becoming ascetic monk
even the wish to become ascetic is ironic
I like your funny words magic man.
@@f4llenstarr just don’t think you’re better than others just because you became “self-aware”. 💀
Went through something similar. I’m very happy that Jesus called me, and drew me close to Him in that time. I’m working on integrating back into community at the moment 🙌🏼 without losing God or myself this time around
As Schopenhauer said, “A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free.”
Love this: "… got a job and accepted the company's goals as their own and created an identity around the job title that they were given. And that unconscious misalignment leads to dread, despair, and the death of a soul that leaves a robotic, animalistic corpse of a human being that lives in a perpetual state of survival."
Dan, your third eye is wide open! I literally was just telling someone this and I learned it from watching a movie. I kept telling them "Don't be yourself". When we do things that we normally don't do thats when our lives usually change for the better.
Can I ask what movie?
@@molianiem Everything everywhere all at once.
As someone who has been isolated almost all my life (22 now), it is nice to finally be able to resonate with the thought of being able to question the norm. I am also a very visual learner, and you are one of the few people who are able to explain this in a diagram which is far more effective for me than anything else. Just stumbled across your channel, this is probably some of the best advice out there. Thank you!
Im a 16 year old aspiring musician/ artist. Your video has completely changed my means of thinking about my authenticity and how I value it so much. Its given me so much insight to what i should do and work on, as well as how I should simply be authentic. Thank you so much 🖤🖤🖤
dude. grow up. stop watching weird videos. you probably won't be able to make a living from your music hustle.
I think this is why travelling for 6 months away from anyone who ever knew you is incredibly powerful. You ditch potential paradigms that are not you and embrace new ones or potentially old ones that you had buried due to conditioning. I even take it a step further and think back to how I was when I wa sa child before conditioning then I work from there.
That's profound! Not practical to everyone, but very true.
Another reason why we can never truly be ourselves, because our brains are always self-monitoring. We pay way more attention to how others come across and adjust our presentation and behavior based on the circumstances. You’ll never meet the same person twice sadly.
Beautifully said. This video came to me at the right time. I'm seventeen, and I have about a week left until I can apply to university/college. I want to take a break. I want to unlearn the path of becoming a slave. I feel lost, I've been thinking about how I don't like the systems in which we live in. It's not soul fulfilling. I want to free myself from these programs, I don't know where to start but I am trying. I really appreciate the things you are bringing up, especially with the spiritual aspect (I think in the same way when you said at the beginning " to have an open mind towards the the spiritual way of saying these things and not writing it off as like hippie or new age", you organized it so perfectly, I am always afraid of being labeled like that.) I laughed at that analogy of the room with friends and social media, made my day haha!
Move off the grid, until then your screwed.
Sending you good energy. Wish you luck on your journey 🤗✨
Dan, you're authenticity is really fun to listen to and get inspiration from. You've been a digital mentor of mine for a few months now, so thank you for the content you put out like this. You've been a huge inspiration for my videos and YT channel here as well. God bless and keep going!!
I’m just 21 and I have been so inspired by you. Especially with my tbi it’s great to hear
I think you can be yourself but not around others. It’s not really fair to be yourself around others. I think being yourself is feeling authentic emotion and thinking authentic insights in the moment and that’s not what the other person needs depending on what I feel or what I’m thinking. With other people you have to be “authentic enough” so the relational field between you is “positive enough.” Without other people you can’t individuate. You can’t help them and they can’t help you see, think, feel and experience in different ways. You just recycle your past and it gets stale.
This episode made me think of a quote “ the strong man is strongest when he is alone “
. Good stuff thank you .
I love how deep you dive into these concepts. Truly stimulating and motivating.
I just found you a few days ago and I love every video I’ve watched so far! I’m like, “this dude gets my brain.” 🎉😂❤ I’m a 35 year old, homeschooling mom of three, in a completely different stage of life- but your perspective is totally on point for me. Thanks for making this content! I appreciate it! 💪🎉
home schooling three kids!? wow! that's a lot of work 💪
Right?! So awesome! I'm a 31 year old homeschooling mom of one (homeschooling for the past 8.5 years), and I totally agree!
Wonderful!!!
Another cracking insightful video. You said to get obsessed with one thing, I think you are it (in a healthy way). Your way of thinking is so inspiring and is definitely helping me as I navigate my desired path. What I like is that you are backing up what you are saying with good wholesome stuff. As a dopamine chaser and dopamine dealer (great way to introduce yourself at a party, thanks for that), I am always looking for a quick fix, but I am beginning to rethink that way of thinking, so thank you. 🙏🏽
I don’t know if I’ll ever start a business but your advice on personal development has found me at a major fork in the road and I’m very thankful for your organized expressions of valuable information.
It's interesting how lately I've been putting into practice most of the things you tell almost unconsciously, as if I was timidly sketching new habits but now watching your videos where you expose and explain I see everything much more clearly. New follower Dan!
Same!
Thank you for the reminder and divine insights. I’m ready to stop resisting the game I’ve created from internalized subconscious limitations. 🙏🏾
You're awesome brother, I love you and your content. I hope you find lots of success and can truly help others change for the better.
I definitely appreciate seeing someone with the same mindset, outlook, and conscious🙏🏽 defiantly subscribed and can’t wait for more 💚
Weirdly relevant to where I’m at in life right now, this stuff is so helpful to hear. Also brilliantly laid out verbally
been following you on twitter and it's crazy the amount of value you shared. Your youtube feels like a high-value course, but free!
Wow, give this man a gold medal in communication. His articulation of his thoughts and ideas into words is immaculate.
Insane value Dan, that framework on focus is an amazing concept. To be yourself REALLY does take being with yourself. You're killing the game right now
I’m also a couple toes still in the global programming but it’s quickly dissolving. But it’s an upriver battle to achieve the flow, but I’m experiencing it more and more. But beyond that upriver battle is a downwards stream of constant refinement.
Stumbled across this video during my quiet time Dan, at 4am. Profound timing and reinforcement that I'm not as crazy as my peers think (not that I care). I cut out the news and social media addiction/distraction 10 months ago to free up time to design the day/life I want to create. I'm still working on it, but with much less stress and more control than ever before. Really appreciate your work. My synapses are firing. I'll need to check if that is just because I like that your views align with mine. We believe what we want to believe right?
Great stuff. I'm going through it now. It's a time of self discipline and discovering.Being betrayed and ghosted by friends into making new connections from scratch to find productive purposes.
It's the hardest thing there is and raw true masculinity.
Something I'm always thinking about as well haha "we believe what we want to believe" and that shapes what content we produce, who follows along, and who believes it. Neverending battle I suppose
@@DanKoeTalks I think it's easier to manage if the goal is to find the truth. Ego always has something to say about that though. So, I try and put a gag around mine when it's too noisy 😷
After power of now, life became a magical Synchronicity and i am sure u showing up on my feeds and the 100% resonance with u shows i am on the way to my next stage. Thank u for everything u do.
What you are highlighting resonates with me on another level, especially the words and expression you used, which confirms me to be on the right path in my own journey. Thanks and keep it up!
Whether you like it or not , your going to be my mentor for the future I want . Sadly, I’m already 45 , but I can’t live another year without improving . I have always had great ideas and writings but gave up on myself and became an addict 15 years ago . I can’t waste another year, so I will start by consuming everything you have out here. You make perfect sense. Thank you so much for existing !
I’ve said this like 4 times in other videos but somehow you always manage to say exactly what was on my mind in the current week. The fact you said that you’re also still bogged down by the programming is a level of self reflection that most don’t have.
have you said it like 4 times in other videos? wow
"I think everyone just wants to feel understood; for their soul to be sanctioned in the safety of acceptance. But why? Don’t they see how infinite the world is? What is an ant to matter in a pool of magma? Does that answer even matter? Wouldn’t it solve that endless mystery to our miscellaneous existence? These are questions that may define one’s reality, and to obey such knowledge shall lead one down the narrow path. Let me ask you this: in the endless war of water against rock, who wins? I think canyons would know.."
I wrote this in February 2016... you reminded me instantly of it when you said "neural networks are carved out in your brain like the Grand Canyon with flowing water..." and I didn't remember what my message was until I pulled it up to paste it here.
man, you've been really breaking my coefficient of static friction 💨💨
thank you 🙏
This a great find. Loving your channel, Dan. ✊🏾
Its truly amazing to see how many lives you touch positively.
I love to hear it! As a creator trying to pave a way your content is really helpful, good luck bro 👏🏽
Personally, I am awear of the thought patterns that brought me here, and as you said, I am not used to being "myself" I was a mega mix of different notions opinions and beliefs .... Most people live in autopilot until something clicks. The act of reprogramming is completely worthy yet daunting. Habits and rituals is what I am working on, to become sovereign to my complete being. Thank you for this video.
Truly love what you are creating. This is absolutely the universe placing you in front of me
It's good to see someone cut through the ways some of these "emergent paradigm" resources are often misused or lack clarity and just rehashed into shit by other content creators. The qualify of content in most places is so low where a relaitvely common sense quote by some Twitter user or current "spiritual" guru is seen as wisdom. I think the outer dissolution in the world is creating this hunger for structure and meaning among the debree.
I feel like your videos speak directly to my soul, thanks a lot for your work, I'm getting more and more motivated on starting my own thing, all my life I've been struggling with "impostor" syndrome but I'm getting better at believing in my own skills as a web developer.
Thank you for your conversation and message!
Epic video you are one of the few out there that put in the time into themselves, to as you said it be yourself. Huge respect to that.
ahh the video just keeps getting better and better! "Balance does not mean split down the middle. Balance means a conscious effort to prevent either extreme from taking over."
Very well said. Having an open mind is important, alot of things will test you daily in your grind for solution. The good future belongs to the people that can create the power of their mind. I enjoyed watching
This is so important. If a person watches influencers everyday all day and I can speak for myself, it really does distort your ability to make up your own mind about life. Don't get me wrong, it really is good to follow people that share the same values as you and gain inspiration, thought provoking ideas, and to challenge ones thinking. But if one depends on an influencer to make their mind up, then that's not good.
All and all this is good stuff you are putting out there Dan!
Excellent video as always. Excited to see your next video about the Matrix !!
Clear cut, engaging, densely valuable and highly integrable. You are quickly becoming my favourite creator. Thanks man.
Funny how that works man, your reels are the only short form vid I'll watch. We needa get you on YT
Thanks for the content bro. Podcast at work then action after work. Appreciate your work
Bro... I get to that point living on NYC.. Understanding my on culture, my roots and ultimately human being... Still on this awake moment where I'm figuring out my new being based on my old behaviors and beliefs tho... I'm a martial Artist fan of bruce lee like he says " Absorb what is useful, Discard what is not, Add what is uniquely your own"...
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Thanks to share your thoughts and knowledge I really appreciate it 🙏
i listened to alot of others (yt videos) and i just started recording myself about my thoughts, what i thought about, motivating myself, etc... and i listen to myself moreso now than in the past. i normally talk to myself out loud... my best self comes from talking to myself...
This is some very powerful discussion. Priceless
so much value from this video, thanks Dan. i deeply appreciate you sharing your insights.
You are a diamond and quite refreshing. Loved this video, and keep up the wonderful work. ❤️
This is super helpful. Thank you Dan.
I never had the chance to practice or really discover my self
For the sake of my survival I had to sacrife that
I kept bottling up my emotioms
I don't even know how many nights I spent crying in silence
I got used to hiding myself and being invisible,
It got to a point I started experiencing derealisation
Because I was always Alone
When I felt helpless, when I felt hurt, afraid or genuenly happy everything.. It wasn't the obvious for me that I could just share that and expect to receive comfort no..in fact the opposite so mostly kept everything to myself I understood its what I should do
But the more you keep things to yourself, your doubts, your fears, your emotions, your thoughts... The more you lose yourself
And one day you look in the mirror and you realize how empty you really are,
You realize what you've been doing all this time
You realize you've might lost yourself forever and ll just have to live with the pain for the rest of your life
The pain of being the killer of your unborn self and the pain of knowing youre not the real you every time you wake up and might never will be
I didn't chose to become numb
I didn't chose to be this person
What a wonderful mind and articulate concise. Brilliant way to share your gift of understanding. We need you thank you for your selfless contributions to the good of humanity. I want to share my mind too but I don't know how to organize it all like you so efficiently and beautifully do. Wow. I'm a forever fan! Underlying...I heard nothing but pure good intentions pouring from your heart. With a deeply engrained intent tattooed on your soul. Purity through karmic understanding is something you have found. humanity needs your precious jewels of priceless wisdom so they can help confirm the messages they are receiving through coincidences and cosmic clues that indeed there soul has led them wisely to the truth. Truth is felt because it has a vibrational frequency pattern that is recognized easily when one becomes or embodies the truth and trains the mind to find alternatives to lying and creating false realities they themselves did not actually experience there for is not in the mind as a memory. One can also sense the vibrations of factual occurances being recalled by another vs the energetic signatures one creates around himself when he is creating from imagination or memorized script. One can even sense the vibrations of false information before it is even thought up by the thinker intending to stear your mind away from the areas that make them uncomfortable to focus on. I learned there is an entire hidden world of truth and hidden information you can unlock the door to by doing all you can to speak truthful words only. The thing moms used to say about not saying anything if you don't have anything nice has more power than we could of ever known. Don't say words that can harm you or others. It made me more gentle with delicate information that is uncomfortable to share. Tell others of thier negative traits as you yourself would want to be informed of something others didn't like about you. Kindly and gently. Calmly and with compassion
Thanks Dan. Well put in relation to writing cementing the learnings. I listen to so much content, but attempt to commit to memory… overwritten time and time again.
your content really resonates with me, trying to make sense of all this human experience
dude, this videos is great! Thanks!
The great mixing content. technology, psychology, spiritual all the things i love and want to learn more.
Ive suffered along time. and trying to firgure out myself. trying to go inside to ask myself about the things happen and what the world is
And your work make me more open up and clearly in my mind. it helps me alot.
When i watched previous videos, i think that have you ever read or learn about Buddha. In this video, you noticed about Buddha.
I feel my thoughts similar to your thought in some points.
I'm going to keep following you to learn more great things.
Thank you for your work.
The Hawkin's Scale is a beautiful rendering of the different "baseline stages" we can have, from shame to enlightenment, it's useful to give clarity to where our baseline is compared to what's basically possible.
Some call this baseline stage our "core vibration" and, as you're saying that we can have different temporal states, our vibration can be anywhere on the scale at any time while our "core vibration" remains as that consistent baseline stage. Raising our core vibration is moving our baseline up. For me, a practice that gives me significant results is the practice of gratitude. Comparing my approach with yours, it seems like the "practice of gratitude" is the process of becoming aware with an intention to expand
found you from your dopamine video, loving the content brother it inspires me. it's awesome to see how fast your channel is growing, 100k within a couple months for sure.
Appreciate you brother, thank you for watching! Stoke about the recent growth
if we didn't have phones, or at least the internet, then we would be subjected to a life of (almost predetermined) conditioning with barely any chance of seeing the world from radically different perspectives. Social media can enable us to take the power into our own evolution by giving any of us a viable channel to express ourselves with.
Previously, when televised media was the standard, the only things we could watch were being broadcasted on select channels, with other channels even at a premium, yet still no control over the content.
Now, I can constantly challenge the stimuli I'm presented with against countless different views to gain alternative perspectives and see how they resonate with my own inner truths
I do not usually subscribe. The way you ended the video with watching how the ego fabricates a story was great! Keep up the good work!
The first 1:23 is one of the truest and most powerful statements ever.
I was just thinking about this. Seeing Posters that say Be Yourself fucked with me for years, I was thinking all such posters should have a collection of ammendments like, if you don't love what you are doing and what you are, envision your ideal self and refer & interpret it daily for further instruction.Collective Unconscious bro
heavily inspired, thank you!
Deep! Thank you 😊
Bro, this is gold. Thanks
Fantastic video, it makes complete sense.
This was beyond brilliant! Thank you!
Thank you thank you! Love your 🧠
The walking tip is something I'm doing lately as well. I used to not like to walk (well, to say that I didn't like to walk), but I don't remember where that came from. Probably from being forced to do it, or to preferring cars and riding even as a passenger in cars. But lately I've been walking a bit and I enjoy it and it does have this "alone time" effect that I can't get even when alone in my room (because I'm not really alone, social Media is there on my many screens, and family is on other rooms in the house).
I think in my particular case I probably ought to spend more time with other people and cultivate relationships instead of taking more numerical time to myself but you do have a point in that i probably ought to take more real alone time for myself instead of these half-alone half-connected life of scrolling
❤ love the deep approach of this channel
Great video! I really like the depth of your videos! :)
So much value 🔥🙏
Thank you for your insights!!
Love the content!!!
Delightful. Thank you from Asperger's planet 🙏
Killing it man, you were 10k subs when I subscribed!
We gained a good amount of traction last week, stoked. Glad to have you here bro
You explained it really well..
High value content, deep and applicable. 💡👌
iam watch all your video that 's great and it make change my life thank so much god bless you
Dan koe may God bless you for the good work you are doing😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
Everytime I watch Dan Koe I get ideas for my business so I make it a point to watch at least 2 20-30minutes videos of his everyday as I walk to college and back
Sensacional, thanks, appreciated.
What a great video, it’s sad because the people that really need it won’t watch it
Such a treasure to know these things...
Thank you for your Videos and Voice.
1:16 Holy Moley I love you brother!
hey dan, just want to say, legit it feels like yesterday that you were at 1k subs. Thanks for answering all of my comments that I left at that time. I know that you are at that point where you can't do that anymore, but I think that's a beautiful thing for some reason. your growth on this channel has inspired me to start my own channel(not this one) and just want to thank you.
Hell yeah man, thanks for being here for the journey. Stoked you started a channel, its a crazy personal growth journey
Man i love you bro. You are so speaking my language right here 💯💯💯💯💯
What is the meaning of life?
-What is the intension to convey a relationship with the existing being-
Love your videos!
Great video. Useful and interesting. Grab some food for my mind. Thanks Dan