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It's Tough Being a Man | EXCLUSIVE
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- Опубликовано: 15 фев 2016
- A group of men reveal why it’s tough to be a man in Britain today. Men face huge pressure to be ‘strong and silent’ - in this film, 13 men break that silence.
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Everyone struggles but women get groups, hotlines, sympathy, movies are made about it, TV shows address it. It's tough in this world for everyone, but it's a hard pill to swallow knowing you are on your own. Men are expected to overcome their issues.
Check out the movies Mary and Max (AUS 2009) and Snowtown (AUS 2011), two Australian films that talk about male victims of depression, abuse and rape. Very rare topics to be discussed in cinema but they exist. Keep on looking for resources and encouragement. It's out there. You're not alone in the search.
No, men just feel like they can't express their feelings. Women are more open. Men need to be taught to show emotions.
@@porgiepugson4489 Are you a man?
Men expectations were created by men women expectations were created by men so really we should be mad but we cant even talk about it cause' then " the boys " will talk
@Harry Potter exactly we were basically forced to agree and if men agreed to well then why yall getting mad
In my class one girl is an introvert and other girls treat her the same and give her compliments, I’m an introvert and the girls in my class think I’m a school shooter, I don’t have much support in my class with only 4 other boys
Yeh fat girls get called plus size and beautiful and fat guys get called fat asses
I feel you man, same as you. Shit sucks
Im a girl and im sorry for You males Because some people just think You guys have no feelings. I hope people get being male is hard too
It really hurts because the ones with "bad faces" get treated like crap and people wouldn't approach 'cause they think we would bite! But you still get a true friend.
I hope this doesn't happen anymore and I know that's impossible but just keep holding on you'll find that one Beautiful Daisy for you!!
(even tho its just a crush it motivates us to keep living.
I wish you luck!!)
Aaaah yes equality
People tell us to show our emotions but look down on us when we do
@@crweewrc1388 I was a kid and I struggled with the same. It took me too many years to know one thing: You only have one life, don't waste it in other people and what they can think about you.
@Janiya Gowdy Thanks Janiya. You're a great person :)
Very true when my boy classmate cried he was called gay
Exactly
My advice to you brother. Don't ever show your weaknesses to a woman.
Your bros maybe
I have started talking to my younger brother about his feeling and he enjoys the talks.
Well done
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Good. Everyone needs someone to talk to
No he does not trust me
@@marcynados I don't. I don't have to talk if I don't want to.
Thank you for letting me be a part of this and giving me a voice. So many incredibly important topics raised that we need to talk about more x
+Calum McSwiggan You are awesome. I wish there was more empathy in the world. If everybody could express their feelings without being judged, the world would be a safer place.
+Calum McSwiggan - Thank you for being apart of it and taking the time to provide useful content for the public!
Calum McSwiggan I had no idea it was like this im def woke now on for the men,thank God for yall!
Spencer Key i wish more guys did this
Calum McSwiggan amazing work Calum
Telling a man to “man up” is like telling a woman to go back to the kitchen.
Exactly it’s so wrong and invalidating
In my opinion it’s worse, because “go back to the kitchen” is just insulting. But “man up” is insulting someone who’s already hurt, since you would only tell someone to man up if they’re upset about something and complaining.
nah its worse because someone will stand up for a woman if shes told to go back to the kitchen
man up is the opposite
no one gives a damn about mens emotions
(i do see that changing though...slowly)
I wish I could believe that. "Maning up" is the best advice I could follow. What's the alternative? If I express my thoughts and feelings, I don' have confidence people and the broader society would be receptive. In fact, today's culture condemns men from expressing their concerns - just look at how Men's Rights Activists are treated...
Feminist be like: oh but men created that men tell u to man up
One of the hardest things I've come to accept is that no one is on your side, not even the police. My biological mother was abusive, my current step mother is verbally abusive, all my sisters are very uncaring towards other siblings and when one of them literally attempted to kill me by setting my room on fire, the police just treated it as a domestic conflict and didn't even bother coming to the house to see what had happened. And I've been demonized by my step mom, my girlfriend (at the time) and many other women for being on antidepressants. Not to mention that half the world (women) won't even talk to you most of the time. Only about 1% of women will give certain men the time of day. And that 1% doesn't really care about you beyond some companionship. I've been taken to the hospital for attempted suicide once and self-harmed for two years and when my grandparents and aunt found out, it was seen as more of a joke than anything serious. I've honestly considered joining the military because if I'm going to die, it might as well be for a good reason.
NevaehBeatez bruh make a police report on attempted murder there's no statue of limitations for that. You could shed light on your situation that way.
NevaehBeatez I wish can give you hugs. Lots of it.
I've dealt with similarities. But I hope things get better for you. My sister from a very young age, she would turn everyone against me in school (we are twins). So, I made no friends in school, kindergarten through 12th grade. I was always nice to people. Yet, no one wanted to talk to me. Even now, she has this strong hatred towards me. Refuses to talk or accept me. We are in our 20's now. We are both smart and went through college with decent grades. But chooses not to acknowledge that I am smart. Always calling me stupid. Cursing at me, etc. She went through military training to become an officer in the reserves as a nurse. Yet, still doesn't acknowledge me as family...
This one person I finally started talking to, hoping for friendship(i'm in my last semester of college for a bachelor's degree), he would knit pick me for relating to people's situations. He would think I was trying to one-up them or compete for whatever reason. I told him no, that is not my intention. I thought, if intentions didn't matter then, I could commit a crime and get away with it.... I was only trying to relate to their situation. And all I wanted to say was that I twitch sometimes at this one door way because I don't expect people to be walking through it from the other side.... He told me I was mean to people intentionally or unintentionally that it did not matter. And I told him fine, if they have a problem, tell them to talk to me. Several weeks go by, and no one has talked to me that I supposedly hurt them.... Well, I guess no one's feelings were hurt.
I told my co-worker I was going to help him the other week, his face turned cherry red, said no you are not. Throwing a tantrum in front of the other co-workers and then called the day supervisor I guess you would call the position, and the day supervisor kindly told me to not help him. I'm just like sure- whatever. The guy is 66 years old, can't clean the classrooms properly. And expects everyone to clean his classrooms properly over the summer in order to prepare for September.... But doesn't want someone to help him for one day out of 365 days... I feel sorry for the kids being in a dirty classroom.
I just want people to accept me.... It isn't difficult to treat a person with respect. I just want someone who would listen me.
I've gone to therapy, doesn't help. Police don't do anything unless there is an actual situation.
Hopefully, at least after this semester, i'll be done with college and hopefully moving onto something better.
Actually, the funny thing is, Police love to pull me over. But never give me a ticket. I get pulled over at least every 6 months. I have no criminal history and no trouble with police. I get out of work at 11pm, and they pull me over in the parking lot of my work. And I tell them- IVE BEEN WORKING HERE FOR 5 YEARS. I behave myself of course and show ID and the proper paperwork. then they let me go home after my exhausting work.
But i'm glad that you are caring for others. And i'm sure those people are glad to have you.
+Repent but I wouldn't say it is very necessary. I think others need prayers more than me.
Feminists blaming this on men in 3....2....
+AnimationTeam1 Not men, patriarchy. Not the same thing. Toodles.
+Rocky183 Yup that thing with FATHER in the definition. Chow!
+Rocky183 No you use words like "toxic masculinity". Feminists will tell you that you are a toxic person just because you happen to be a man.
Rocky183 patriarchy is akin to original sin lol.. takes faith to believe in it
Rocky183 what is patriarchy except MEN holding each other up and tricking women into doing it too. ALL while also crushing men under the boot of the law in favor of women who have political privledge... chew on that
Men: Gets body shamed
Society: Who gives a damn
Woman: Gets body shamed
Society: makes videos on how to hurt men physically and emotionally
what
F..ck society
If any gender gets body shamed the top comments are telling them to get a diet and if im being honest its the truth fatty 💁♂️
Sad truth
So true
This is the first video I've seen which doesn't demonize men and actually sheds light for those ignorant people who think it's a privilege being a man. As a man, you are never expected to show weakness, you can never be a victim, you always have to take a higher road, build your own career, you can't go to anyone to cry it out, you can't approach a woman just to have a sane conversation like the old days they'll pretty much call you a stalker, you are supposed to just give your possessions away in a divorce, your kids probably hate you most times because your wife demonized you, you don't have emotions, you're supposed to just obey, you can't hit a woman back even if she hits you, no one will give a shit if you are being abused by a woman, no one will ever give a rat's ass about you unless it's associated to them in some way, where do you go for help? is that a joke?, your appearance will be objectified and judged by every woman you see but you can't do that in return that will make you mysoginistic, you'll be expected to take most of the dangerous jobs in the world and be paid a lousy wage. Drive trucks on ice, scrape coral off a 4 ton anchor, go underground in a mine which will collapse any minute, install an electrical power line, work in a melting metal factory, clean the windows of the tallest buildings in the world, endanger your limbs for some lumber, work on an oilfield, ride bulls in stadiums for entertainment, defuse a burning building. These are just some of the dangerous jobs ONLY men do, you won't see a feminist near this. You will have to go through so much shit as a man in your life, but you'll be expected to never show those feelings for you'll be considered a FAG or PUSSY. Had a break-up? your fault. Divorced? your fault. Got cheated on? your fault!!!!
You killed yourself? No one cares, you were just depressed. Trying to find love? You're desperate. Don't own property? You don't have a status. You are poor? Get ready to be laughed at by your friends. Out on a date? You're supposed to pay for all she ate, there is no equality.
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These are still just some of the things I could remember. I'm just 23 years old but by now I've had several nervous breakdowns, been depressed all along, couldn't pay for a good university even though I wanted to. I'm not even doing good at a shit college I'm at right now I had to stay at home cause my family went broke(still are kind of). Could never find a good friend to talk even, I was always blamed for the way people treated me. And when I see feminists talking men down like they're levitating above the rest all I can think is that they don't have the balls to take on life as men do, no courage, only a safespace.
Well I guess unless a woman tries being a man for just once she would never get to know the hardships of it and the same goes the other way round. I’m just 17 and starting to realise the hardship women have to face and it’s literally giving me all stress and depression,, learning them made me feel prejudice against men like “how come they get to live better” it wasn’t until I watched the video (searched it up out of curiosity) and read the comments I realised that each gender has hardships…
Some privilege can't even find a scholarship without finding tons of female scholarship still privileged I still have to earn more than a women cause women don't date down still privilege a men can't throw away his sperm without having a fear of women impregnating herself
Men's problem are not about expressing their feelings, its male disposability due to gynocentrism where men are rendered powerless, degraded and dehumanised by the legal system that favours women over men and how they abuse it. Men are also being rendered powerless, degraded and dehumanised by society, which is gynocentric where men are expected to define their masculinity based on female expectations, which women set too high. If men fail to meet those standards, they are viewed as not "real men" they are therefore ridiculed and demonised. This is really about making men docile enough to be manipulated and disposable as well as preventing rebellions by suppressing or eliminate mens’ natural masculine urge to rebel.
Well stated....
You're basically describing hypergamy. Women strategizing to crawl up to the next rung on the socioeconomic ladder....
Men are naturally disposable though. That's how we evolved.
We fight wars and break our bodies working. We need as many women as possible to repopulate, while we only need a few men.
Once you realize you're disposable, work towards not being disposable.
Remember, women are the problem makers and men are the problem solver.
@@Lordturisas1 so ur saying men are less than women and we aren't important.
@@Lordturisas1 cant wait until technology helps men make babies then you ppl will shut tf up
I love my husband and my son, I don't want life to be hard for them. I cry for my son because I don't want him to go through all the things my husband has gone through. I'm scared for my baby boy. my husband has had a hard life just like so many men. but he is so strong and I love him so much. I wish life wasn't so hard for our boys to grow up.
Jazmin Vigil what happened to your husband? Late comment I know
Jazmin Vigil besides crying what do you do to help them?
@ exactly, brother
@@Aakash_Goswami1 i am just telling facts
Míchele Cobré wtf?? She can’t change society’s standards!
You see, telling a man to be strong and “man up” is like telling a woman to go make a sandwich, it’s messed up but true.
@zusboi dude you took up a whole thread to write bullshit
Yeah society normalized that’s for some reason
No , because telling her to make a sandwich won't tell her to suffer in silence .
@@shieldshield7385 why you talking tp yourself?
@@abderrahimyoestoy3100 I don't understand what you're saying ... What's a tp and how does it taste like ?
1- you have to be strong
2- you must always be the man of the house ( even when you’re only 5 years old )
3- you must never cry or show a sign of weakness
4- you must figure everything out on your own and never ask for help
5- you must never express your feelings even to your best friend
6- you must disrespect women and only love them because of their bodies
7- you must never watch my little pony or any show that gives a lot of creativity and imagination just because its lead character is a girl
8- you must not be afraid of anything
9- you must.....
10- you must......
11- you must.......
12- you must........
You must and you must and you must........
I mean we’re human beings we have feelings too and believe it or not men face more problems than women about their own identities and this world needs a masculinity update rights more than feminism rights now I know that because I’m a guy and I’m still struggling😢
With No2 I remember when I was a kid and my brother would hit me, naturally I would start to cry and go to my mum, then he would tell me to stop being a cry baby, even though everyone needs to cry at some point.
Fouad The Crystal Gem im sorry to hear that whats your name?
@puca I don't really think that he referred to literal grown-ass men watching My Little Pony, but rather little boys. Gender stereotyping starts from the moment of your birth and lasts until your death. Little girls are usually accepted if not, encouraged to like boyish things. They are even seen as "cool", and many girls are proud of that they were sort of "tomboys" as a child (of course after puberty it's not considered cool anymore in their case either), while boys are bashed for liking girly stuff from the start.
mpl is a good show for kids not for teens tho
True. You must be perfect otherwise women won't like you at all.
Being a man means that it will be years inbetween compliments...meanwhile young women are making $100k a year off of pictures of their bodies.
Only a minority of women have this amount of money for pictures of their body
@@kosuzumotoori The minority is those who have no dignity , but that's off subject .
@@kosuzumotoori so now this is a men's problem too, that we don't pay for the pictures of like 99% women? The point is yet: a lot of women WANT and CAN live off men's money, while most men neither can nor would want to live off women's money!
@@kosuzumotoori tf, you're arguments don't make sense, in this specific case it's the men's fault for paying and encouraging underage girl's, in every way its the persons fault.
That's so f*kn real .
I'm a teenaged girl, and although I know men have tons of social pressure put upon them, I had no idea how impactful it becomes. I am a feminist, but not the "I hate men" kind of feminist. I just want everyone to be equal. So I'm glad this video was created, because men's issues need to be addressed, just like women's issues. Great job.
Drop the feminism
Lame Memes
Woohooooo look at that a hateful comment by a person who allwaysss trusts the internet I mean like ALL feminists are terrible am i right? It's not like that men who compare feminists to Nazis are comparing normal humans who want to be equal with murderers haha
Looks like the lame memes alt acc lived it up to their "lame" name catchphrase so they ultimately retreated and changed their username.
Egalitarian
Allison Driscoll if your for equality don’t label your self a feminit
Why can't the world be peaceful and equal :(
😭
People are trash 💩👎👎 I hate society but I'm a part of society too guess (☞͡͡°͜ʖ͡͡°)☞ I should make change 😁
can't think bout a good name yeah me too. Society is bad.
Because we haven't revived the soviet union...
Because the world is an inperfect place, everything imaginable and unimaginable are bound to happen at some point in time. Peace and Chaos coexists in their own places hence, one cannot exist without the other.
Feminists: *I'll pretend that I didn't see that*
Fr TikTok feminism has gotten out of hand
Huh?? Feminism isnt about ignoring/hating on other sexes??
@@asta1597 it is about hating on man
Literally when they talk about rapee they exclude all male victims
@@adi4032 not gay and tran they get free pass but strength men are getting oppressed to some extend because of extrem feminism.
No feminist says that, in fact I am gonna share this video
My heart is breaking from this 😢 You never really know someone's story until it's told ...
It's been five years since your comment. What's changed? Nothing. It's gotten worse, actually.
Words of encouragement and nice comments under YT videos mean nothing. We'll have to deal with it like we always have: quietly and in solitude. We'll manage somehow.
But it's getting harder given the relentless and ever increasing barrage of belittlement and outright hate that's leveled against us.
If a girl gets hit by 1 soccerball in my class an ambulance came and if 10 times a soccerball hit my face, people said dont be a crybaby, like wtf
I got hit by a soccer ball to my face. I am a female. I used to play soccer. No damn ambulance came after me. I didn't even had time to think about it really. I was just shocked. And bam. Tears came rolling down. It really did hurt tho., right to my face too. Which kind of is a wonder. I mean, I've seen dudes cry. But its like they hold their tears back more and idk how they do that sh.
Sometimes I cry and im like idk
Maybe the crazy/typical female. Idek y im crying for. I mean, kind of. Just sometimes when im not being numb even I am like idk where the river came from. And then sometimes I dont cry when I think I should and im just like it surely has to do w/ my issues. I never know how to process life's emos & tragedies and sh
I think one of the biggest kick in the balls of being a man is the fact that we are so desperate for attention it’s painful but we do it in silence because we are men, I don’t even remember one time I was ever complimented or made to feel good, and I really do mean ever, I just can’t think of a time at all.
I'm sorry to read that. I am so grateful for my men friends. I hope I tell them a lot how much they brighten my life. They are so smart and funny and generous and brave. I always wanted a brother, but since I don't have one, I've sort of collected "brothers" all my life. Every man of good character, I think of that way, and I feel privileged to know. And I bet you have been a hero to so many people in ways you may never know - a willingness to listen, to do kind things, to smile at someone who needed it. Times when *you* gave someone a compliment, and didn't even realize how important it was. Hang in there!
Oh no dude I just had a tough realization. I also can't recall a single time I've been complimented, it really be like that for us huh.
*Men's mental health *
Society :^^Be A MaN ^^
In the same realm of "why don't homeless people just buy a house?"XD
Some men: *Dies before His wife*
Society: *Says that men live less*
Also society: Who are You? Who are so wise, in the ways of science?
@@mr.mirage3986 wait I’m pretty sure women live longer due to different chromosomes and hormones. I don’t think they intend to make an advance on men with scientific facts.(please don’t take this the wrong way I believe both genders deserve equal action and attention to their rights)
Men get refused into abuse shelters because of their gender and they don't get their children when they get divorced even if the dad is a good father.
@@quenchycactusjuice1921 Maybe that it that men make up 80% of suicide cases.
Amazing stuff. Seriously, the pressure we put on ourselves to suffer in silence is insane. Don't be afraid to get help guys. I want you all to be okay.
i've tried getting help before and when i went to get help from a doctor they basically just ignored wverything that i said (that i'd attempted to take my own life and felt i was going to try it again) qnd told me i'd be fine qnd when i went to therapy i got an email sayimg they didnt feel they could help me but hoped id find help with other therapists,
fortunatly i had supportive friends, family and pets that helped me through it and im in a better place now but worry for all the guys out there that dont have what i had
I circle through these comments and I literally see no damn woman supporting
I support them, I see them eye to eye, men and women have it tough in life and I don't deny any struggles, someone faces :)
@@CinematicPenguin thank you. Really
The reason why you don’t see that is because if we support woman then we are considered predators
@@yugiwitastick I’m a women and I’m trying to understand
@@jaaaanee1316 i dont even remember making this comment
maybe men wouldn't be so "bad" if they weren't assigned all the (financial & social) responsibility and told to act manly and fit a stereotype. men are human too.
You're right we should treat male homelessness being that male homelessness is also way higher than female homelessness also males shouldn't be forced to pay for child support ( his wallet, his choice) we should have more domestic abuse shelter for men being that men are 40% of all domestic abuse, we should criticize females for the way they treat their children being that female commit the majority of child abuse and boys are more likely to die for it, we should stop treating men like default rapists( men know rape is bad), selective service should be optional or at least females should be forced to do it too, men shouldn't be criticized for silly stuff like mansplaining,manspreading or maninterrupting, if something is dominated by men (like violent video games) we shouldn't assume that it's because of sexism,if men avoid women we shouldn't assume that is because of sexism rather we need to look why they did it, schools should be more tolerant with males hyperactive behavior and encourage them to do some sports to unleash their full potential, also the notion that there is male privilege should be put away because it makes males feel bad for being successful.
Society overall needs to be softer with man so men don't feel the necessity to be tough.
@James StoutingburgI'm glad you agree.
@@heracrossz7701 It's his child too men SHOULD pay child support. Women don't make children by themselves
@@porgiepugson4489 if having a baby should be women's Choice then being fully responsible for that baby should be entirely on their own as well.
@@heracrossz7701 Correction: Society overall needs to be suffering with men constantly revolting so men will have as much big rights as women.
Western society is horrible towards men. Feminism seems to care more about if a main character of a film is a male, which in no way is bad, than the fact that women get less harsh sentences, less time on prison, the court will almost always side with them and a lot of other stuff I can't be arsed to get into.
Not only Western..... It's here in India too..
Western society is horrible towards men. Eastern societies embrace brotherhood
@@HOTSHOTGAMING-eb3ds I think in India it's equal either there are male or female both have many problems...
I'm from E.U My dude. Not only western.
It goes both ways but what ur failing to understand is we literally get criticism for being to fat or being to skinny. Or to have our to have to feel like ur not good enough to take care of ur child and nobody would listen to u. Or how man think that their allowed to say on what WE should do with our bodies. I understand what your saying but it goes both ways I’m sorry that the law didn’t want to make it equal
Yeah and I today in 2018 saw a commercial wishing happy Father's Day to women. I guess father's and men are replaceable in the eyes of modern society.
WTF How come I didn't see this sooner?? This deserves to go viral more than those weird cat videos (no matter how much I love cats). Good job BBC! Keep 'em coming :)
Cuz you were busy doing man-hating rallies
Aakash Goswami what
@@Aakash_Goswami1 wtf was the point of that
May the Lord bless you and your family and your stuggles as a HUMAN
@@Aakash_Goswami1 calm down
I've seen my mother's tear multiple times, my grandma's tears multiple times. But I've see my father's tear only once in my life that too because my mother was sad for something, I've seen my grandfather tear only once that is when he lost his last brother. My father is an retired army man still he is going for job his age is 52 he also have diabetes unfortunately I still didn't got any job he is the only man who is working for my family he never showed his pain but one day at night 1 AM he returned from his work my mother and sister were sleeping I was studying he sat near me and told that "I couldn't able to stand for long time my leg were paining a lot it will be easier if you get some job" he didn't shared those pain to my mother and sister I don't know what to do I just cried when he went back to bed, even I won't show my tears in front of my family but I cry a lot no people know that I'm crying in the terrace daily...........
But what these feminist says is men have more privilege than Woman. Man where is my privilege? I'm crying daily. Is this the Privilege are you talking about? Female says if there is a rebirth they need to be a man they think men are happy this is the most sad thing I'm hearing. Remember Only a Rich man are happy because they have Money to buy anything and that's few percentage of men population. You females will automatically get support (Not all But enough) even if you fail in your dream or studies but we men need to work through out our life we have no excuse to reject/ Fail.
Women want everything without downsides.
They want equal pay as men but not the same hours.
They want the treatment that men are given without realizing that it may be worse than their own.
They want all that equality and yet men will be the ones serving their country in war while women lay down lavishly in their houses.
It's tough being a man
It's tough being a woman
Don't blame gender,
Blame society, culture and religion
Sadly on this society white women have all the power where as we should all be equal
PRECISELY!
Gender has a huge part in this. Genders define us, and it makes us into monsters. Stop trying to level the playing fields.
@@mercy3765 and what exactly inspires/influences gender? No one is born male or female mentally. The sexual organs and the mind grow seperately. All ideas regarding gender are implemented from our own preferences and those enforced on us by society, culture, and religion.
@@nytesla_punk3327 Grow seperately? Sorry but WTF !? Go study some biology
i've seen everyone saying, "it's hard being a woman, try living in a woman's world," but never have i once seen anyone say, "it's hard being a man, try living in a man's world."
its simple, a woman is born while a man is made.
True
oof... deep.
Some guys are consumed by anger, depressed and crying alone in the dark.
@@thefirstsin that is probably going to be alot of men not just some.Especially in this toxic feminist western society which seeks to undervalue and destroy men.
@@araarmo even here in asia, but here it starts horribly in junior high they just don't care about your emotions.
(what they see is what they perceive)
for example I'm ugly but they see me as an aggressive student because of my looks but in reality I'm just a guy trying to be friends with others.
When I was a kid my mother abandoned me and my father, When I asked my father why he answered me:
"Because we are disposable"
I did not understand and I asked him if we had no value, and he answered me:
"Sure we have, but even valuable things can be thrown away over time."
How true it is.
Your daddy kind of sux. I tell my youngen when she h8s what she sees in adults, regardless of who it is, she has to promise to herself always she has to use that as motivation on what not to become. Your dad sounds like a confidence killer
In thr past, I always thought men had it easier. That's exactly why I wanted my nephews to be males. I was always thinking women are more likely to be kidnapped, etc. And now that I see that neither my nephew's mom or dad allow my 3.7 yr old nephew to cry when he falls and gets hurt because they "don't want him to be a crybaby". I am honestly and utterly disgusted that they do not allow a toddler to cry just because he is a male.
Pretty sure your nephews are male tbh.
It is hard to be both a man and women. I think society has over corrected in trying to make thing equal for women, and as a result men are discriminated against more than they used to be.
Greysmdl I see more ads about women and children than men.kinda wierd
You couldn't have described it any better
Can You please shut up? Women have equal right as men. JUST KIDDING THEY HAVE MORE RIGHTS
That fedora hat in your profile picture truly speaks a thousand words
I'm a 29 year old male. I was told constantly from a young age men are men. You are strong. We do not cry we do not fall. I got to 27 and realised that it was bullshit. I've been suicidal since my teens on and off. I lost my mom at sixteen and didn't speak. Please lads speak up because to be honest with you? It's ruined me. Don't ever ever suffer in silence. Hell inbox me on here and I'll do my utmost to help. Take care.
I’m really sorry, & compassionate for your mother’s demise, I give out all my condolences to you, I know these words may seem nothing, but I’m really trying to express myself as much as I can to you, I understand it causes distress, I cannot relate to losing someone as close as a mother, especially at the age of sixteen, also, please don’t be suicidal, be at least glad that we all here stick up for you, & there’s always gonna be people who you can turn to, no one wants to see you in that state, men are humans, & no one deserves to be gender stereotyped, do not suffer in silence, it makes it harder to reach out to those who are in silent. I hope all the best for you.
the only time i ever told anyone i was depressed they didnt say anything about and never mentioned it again. made me feel even more like nobody cares about me. still kinda feel like that but im not thinking about suicide as a good choice anymore
UGSDIT Hey man. Glad things turned out for the best.
SeaBird thank you. and a little update, i have now gotten closer with one of my friends that has gone through something similar and we have talked about it a lot which has helped quite a bit.
Hope you're okay!
When I was 14, I had Psychology classes at high school. She saw I had problems myself and asked me what happened. When I told her, she told me I was a lost cause, so I understand you.
@@Skaxarrat who's she
The dislikes are feminists not liking the facts.
yeah feminists are dumb 😒
Ok but like men aswell probably dont just blame all the dislikes on us!
@@Jorapoza1721 most likely is us girl disliking because they are women gonna say that boys has an easier life
Then they are not fuckn feminist .
Don't use the word feminist without knowing the meaning.
I'm a feminist and this breaks my heart.
@@Sam-gw9ut my brain broke years ago got any tips how to get rid of depression for eternity without using lust? Just asking btw
Whats sad is that the Mens Rights movement approaching issues like this are not taken seriously. People even try to silence those who speak out about the problems facing men in our society. Its always about the women and children. No one ever asked or cared about the men. It is because this society depressingly treats men as disposable things to be replaced or thrown away when they no longer are seen to serve a purpose.
Darkslayer Ryuu ikr
Yeah its sad
Darkslayer Ryuu holy shit thats sad
Darkslayer Ryuu yep they even got rid of the first male abuse victim shelter in Canada
Yah it hurts I’m young and don’t usually like talking about this but that’s rly true and it hurts and I feel like if I tell anyone they’ll just laugh It kills me to know my future means nothing and is pointless and other people will just criticize and abuse my emotions and me as a person and the word disposable is one of the worst words in the world cus if I died then it feels like it wouldn’t matter but if a feminist complained about not being in the Boy Scouts everybody would care and I’m just hurt by that I feel that imma die alone I’m not suicidal it’s just painful to think about and always just lays in the back of my mind
Thank you so much for bringing light to this situation! This was so powerful and I got quite emotional. It's stupid how society think having emotions is a sign of weakness when one is a bloke! (Coming from a nearly 21 year old girl!) So again thank you BBC Three for putting this on RUclips (this should go viral!)
+emmybm15 - Thank you for supporting the content.
I think us as men need to unite and take care of eachother, I can’t open up at all to anybody but my mind has been dying to do so for years, it’s just not easy
Woman don’t realise, telling a male to man up is so unbelievably hurtful, it crushes us
Careful don't tell them that they will use it against you.
feminists: men need to show their emotions more! we care about men too
men: *shares problems and shows emotions*
feminists: LMAOOO cry more wallet youre not oppressed
If girls lives are harder then Why more boys suicide??!!?
Feminists are a complete joke nowadays
And say men are useless
@@lilscottrocky834 without us men they wouldn’t of existed or had social media to make these stupid comments on
@@adi4032 because men are more emotional
Society: "men need to share their emotions more"
Men: *shares horror stories that we have faced*
Society: *pulls fire alarms to interrupt talks of male suicide* "aahhhhhh I love the taste of their male tears."
Just like we have a mouth to eat, we have a brain to show our emotions.
Pepe, The Saddest Frog in History of Memes
Brother
But the brain does the thinking and we can't tell others what they think telepathically...
@@samg8452 but we have brain to show off our emotion but their just don't care about it...
Men don’t have to be physically towering and an emotionalless beasts, they are humans and deserve love and care and just as much equal support as any other gender , respect for everyone !!
People are like IT IS SO EASY BEING A GUY try stepping In a guys mind and body for a day see how hell it is(I threw my phone at the end I am so mad)
Yo.. They don't know nothing... They're saying we are treating them like trash.. Though, we are getting treated like shit.
@@lightstar9897 yes we do get treated like shit everyday
@Meme of All society is not even grateful for the fact that men fought to save our country
I also seen some women say they rather be in a mans body than a women for having periods and dealing with birth, I'd bet a single day in a mans body would make them crying saying " I want to be a women again!"
@@user-zw2wq8jo2r LOL it would
It's not difficult to be a man. it's not difficult to be a woman. *It's difficult to be me in this society.*
its difficult to be a woman naturally but it difficult to be a man cuz of society
We males go through so much that it doesn't take us time to understand how it feels to be a female..... this might hurt the feminists and Karen...but it's the fact and learn to accept it
some women think they have wayy harder lives
@@mikelitrous6474 yea !
@@mikelitrous6474 also, men die or get killed way more then women.
From 2016 til the end of 2019, it's harsh to see 81000 views in this video. A female talking about her depression might hit a mil in just days. Why men are just degraded so much from their manhood? Why narcissit parents make and blame the very essence of a man's spirit? That's a real world issue in all war countries.
I hate the phrase man up
Hayley Robison that pisses me off more than anything
@@jeremys3951 I don't blame you
You need to man up and get used to it!!!
Jk 😂😂😂
I been hearing that my entire life
Today I’m going to count how many times I get that told to me I’ll comment back at 10:00 PM EST
it makes me so sad to hear these things. i struggle with mental illness issues so i know how it feels, and while i do feel occasionally ashamed to let out my emotions and feel a need to be secretive (mostly that’s just my personality), i don’t have to be afraid of being seen as less of what i am, or someone seeing me as weak. guys, not all women will shame you for sharing and expressing your emotions. actually, i think it’s a beautiful thing, most especially when a man does it. and i know plenty of girls who feel the same way. and if a girl puts you down for that, or for any other reason GET OUT OF THAT SITUATION WHILE YOU CAN, YOU DESERVE BETTER!! if you’re in a relationship where a woman is abusing you, get out while you can please! it is especially bad for men because while men are usually physically stronger, they are afraid to defend themselves out of fear or doing even more damage than the abuser. if you’re dealing with any problems mentioned in the video, please get help, forget what society or friends or family say, your well being is so much more important ♥️
Great video - we all have a role in breaking the silence. I know that when I took the risk and spoke about my experiences in a safe community, then some of the feelings of being toxic decreased. We need to do something AND we need to do so TOGETHER
it's time you learned what it means to be a man
Quote - Batman to Superman , how i hated hearing that line bro "sigh" 😔
@@Pistonhammer It was the most badass line of the movie.
It's time you got your life fucked up
@@Pistonhammer it's not about being a literal man I feel like, it's telling you to toughen up and be strong
It is time yes just wish sum woman would stom saying k*ll all men all the time
This makes me so sad. Understanding that men in general encounter a lot throughout this lifetime is important. Check up on the men in your life!
Nobody cares about the men in their life..
@@dennyshaji5907 They pretend to care on youtube to get likes. In real world we all know what happens.
@@Ghost-vg6iq exactly they wants attention and validation
@@hanma7966 damn bulls eye
its like , MEN ONLY MUST GO AND EARN THE BREAD.. !! THOUGH IN MY FAMILY ,BOTH MY MOM AND DAD WORKS OUTSIDE AND EARN MONEY..!! BUT STILL IN MAJORITY " THE THINKING IS LIKE THAT ONLY MEN MUST WORK AND EARN THE BREAD"..
I think men and woman both have enough problems without society and ourselves always trying to put them blame in eachother. Truth is we all need to be better. It’s time for us to talk as people and not men and women. Men deserve to be heard and women deserve to be respected.
"Men don't deserve to be respected beacause they are heard about."
-Sonia Martinez, 2020.
Here comes the triggered feminists saying: “GuYs dOn’T hAvE iT hArDeR, gIrlS hAvE pErIoDs”
Well man have periods in their emotions that they cant express
@@sadiegellasch2192 they do. Know that every women experience is different.
a study once showed that women who experienced both giving birth and kidney stones all(or mostly) said kidney stones hurt way more and men are much more susceptible to kidney stones than women
Iminyourcloset bruh ikr
@@kk7420 bro bro bro no need for the insults
It is hard to be a man, but it is even harder when you are a man and you try to leave a relationship where you have kids and are told you are not seeing your kids. I have seen some if the toughest men crumble at this impossible nightmare situation that women are so cruel and power freaks why would anyone want to be a dad in this day and age ?
Being a man means no one cares about you or your problems.
Shut up, man up and be useful.
Also listen to women's problems and gripes. Be ready to solve problems, listen and provide for others.
You will rarely be complimented, thanked or appreciated, but always blamed, ridiculed and insulted.
It's like sex, a woman gets points just for allowing it to happen but the man gets judged on performance and held responsible for both of their orgasms.
I was yelled at school by a teacher and was told to man up.... Life as a man is really hard... I have long hair and everyone around me insisting for me to cut it...
I suggest for you to search for Liberation Y, its a RUclips channel gonna answer some of your questions, sadly the channel owner died last year but hes videos are still on the platform
@@Liberation1_0_1 thanks friend
@@JohnSmith-pl4sf how is it going bro made any progress?
It's unfortunate man..
I am sad coz i have no friends and if it were for me to be a girl i would've surely had friends and express my feelings and could at least cry freely
I am truly sorry to hear that
lol men don't have friends 😂😂😂 only allies. you been raised wrong.
@@KallusGarnet I didn't get it???
Kallus Garnet no ? Wtf
@@cantthinkboutagoodname7292 it's about the relationship men have with other men. Girls will easily have "besties" who they open up about all aspects of life (think talking in the bathroom for example. It seems girls have an easier time interacting as sisters. There's more distance between men. I think subconsciously you never know if he's going to be an enemy or not, so guys are "cool" with each other. Sure good friendships do happen and sometimes are as close as brothers, but I feel like in general there's always a shield between guys.
People says: women are cute , they are not supposed to be hit not even with the flowers because they are angels , but no one say this for men . why ?
Because this world is made for women men are here just to service them .........basically
Beacuse man suppose to be strong , heroic , some kind of a god father figure .. the expections is set to high
@@andreitalpos842 fr the problem is the expections for men are near impossibe and for women are barely exist
just 180.000 clicks in 5 years? If it was about women it would've gotten 2 million in 2 weeks
As a woman and as a feminist, I can empathize with men and say that it is tough being a man. Just as tough as it is to be a woman. To all the men out there, keep being awesome. And to everyone who is feeling suicidal, things will get better. Coming from a suicidal person, I know how hard it is, but we will get through this pain.
+Michelle Murphy So what are the feminists going to do to help men? Feminists say that they are about equality and that they help men...PROVE IT!!!
+Michelle Murphy If you empathized with men I don't think you'd be a feminist.
It is hard to believe that it is just as tough when men are attacked aggressively for even suggesting that there may be some bias against them in society. To even suggest that there are issues and problems being swept under the rug. In many parts of the world especially the US men are treat as disposable and replaceable. Everyone always thinks about the women and children but no one ever bothers to ask how the men are doing.
Some Rando I think you mean feminazi.
Michelle Murphy A true feminist acknowledges the battles that men face too.
thanks for making this video. i struggle a lot myself, and i deal with suicidal thoughts a lot. and people don't really listen, talking about it doesn't really help much. but watching this, i know there are people who understand. eventhough i wish no one has to go through the same shit as me. but seing other men who deal with it gives me hope, that atleast someone would care to just listen and understand.
I was in an abusive relationship with a nurse, physically and emotionally abusive. When I tried to get help, there was none, only amusement from people who couldn't believe it.
I have 4 friends and a brother all currently bankrupting themselves fighting to get custody of their children because their exes decided they couldn't see them unless on her terms and whims.
Fathers are pushed from homes - harming children in ways people won't admit, marriage and family are now a risk for men as their children, home and assets can be torn away at the whim of his wife.
Society is so anti-male that its staggering most of us get out of bed.
The suicide epidemic is evidence that society is no longer conducive to male wellbeing, when so many are choosing death over existence in this society.
Gyno-centrism and 3rd Wave Feminism has tipped the balance too far, society isn't equal any more, it favours women.
This is a blatant propaganda piece by yet another feminist, blaming others for the ruin they create.
Men are just sick of being the bad guy, the dumb guy, the useless one, the historic and current "oppressors", uncontrollable sexual deviant, the list goes on....
We worked to end discrimination but all we've done is change punching bags.
We've made no progress.
A new scapegoat has been named.
The rise of MGTOW men is an indication of what will follow - we will abandon women entirely if needed.
I'd prefer we put aside our differences and worked together, bringing our unique skills and perspectives to bear on a grander project for a better future.
Men and women need each other but the distribution of power is out of balance.
Feminism isn't required for the next step foward, cooperation and mutual respect is.
how about we keep to ourselves and stop reproduction with women and let society see that without us men,they are about as dead as a rat in the sights of ten owls
Of course is harder being a man. U have to be perfect and u have to be successful, u can't make mistakes.
Seferino its hard being either gender don’t compare them everyone has their struggles
@@user-kq7qt8lf1g is normal for women to be weak or strong but man should only be strong 😒 duh!
@@user-kq7qt8lf1g eat shit jenna
@@cantthinkboutagoodname7292 there things women go through aswell.... but I agree feminism tends to compare women’s struggles to men’s so they can undermine their feelings. Personally I think we’d achieve more if we stopped saying “women have it harder than men....” or “men have it harder than women...” as it just creates competition and division
@@quenchycactusjuice1921 Yes, I agree we need to reduce comparisons and focus on men's and women's issues individually. Both have their own struggles and both deserve a voice and change. I'm not sure if Feminism as a whole compares men's and women's issues, but some feminists do, that's true.
And I'd say Feminism does help men too sometimes. For example, I know this word gets misinterpreted and hated, but I think that the patriarchy influences both men's and women's lives. For men, for example, the system expects them to be strong regardless of what happens, not express emotions, essentially not to be like a "girl". They're expected to be breadwinners and shoulder the responsibility of the entire family and so on.
Wow. Such a powerful film. Credit to the creatives behind this!
Girl: you have to be strong
Big
Rich
Be happy that I’m a gold digger
Boy: I don’t what her to be fat
Girl: that’s so mean go die!!!
@Asperger y Vida agreed
I didn't get it?? 😅
Big? You mean tall?
Girls don't like fat boys too
@@sarithajagajith6568 one more to the unlimited list then
Wait, BBC doing something for men? What the fuck is this, am I in an alternate dimension?
GREAT!!! A step in the right direction!! Well done BBC n.n
+Guðrún Saga - Thank you for supporting the content.
in childhood boys suffer because of sisters . After growing men suffer because of wife.
Yeah ,but If Both sisters and Wife are Understanding your problems and Sufferings then I Think Life Will Be Better.
@@ankitakashyap2278 they do not understand
Modern womens do not have that much maturity
@@mahendarreddy9421 I know a lot of women who are very mature
Before any angry feminists start getting triggered. We aren't saying the life of a female is easy. We are merely saying the struggles men have.
If a woman gets "triggered" by this video, they aren't a feminist. Feminists advocate for equality not supremacy.
@@xenoshunn8965 well the text book definition would describe feminists as people who advocate women's rights toward the standard of gender equality. But seeing how long the "feminism=equality" thing has been going on....eh oh well that doesnt matter. I agree with you is what I mean.
@@xenoshunn8965 explain the word "femine" in "feminism"
At age 17 i already had back pain because of all the hard labour i had already gone trough to take care of my family i had already been working for over 5 years
Congratulations
thank you for making this video
I hate that we can't just all be compasionate with eachother. No matter if you're a man or a woman. I know we both have it hard. Yes we are different, but we also have a lot in common. I wish we could listen to eachother a little bit more and sympathise with one another. I was actually searching for a video about hating to be a woman. Because I find myself struggeling with expectations I cannot reach and it made me so angry towards men, because I feel they don't see the pain or even care. Instead I found this one. It somehow made me feel less alone. To all the men out there struggeling with pain, stress, shame, guilt, anything really, I hope you can find the courage to talk, to allow yourself to feel, to cry, to ask for help, love and/or attention. Because we all need that sometimes. Take care!
Same here, I was just searching the same thing since I always thing being a women is a curse but seeing this video makes me feel less lonely and understand that all genders have their own problems and it made me realize how important it is to be compassionate with each other
Yeah great video but who's idea was it to put that hip hop beat while they were talking 😂
when i went through a really bad set of events back in 2019, i went to the doctor and told them id attempted to take my own life and was worried id do it again and what he got from that was "so you're a little sad" and was just getting aggrovated when i kept saying i neeeded some help, after the 5th time of correcting him by saying replying to his "so you think you'll be ok to be home tonight" with "no i feel theres a very strong chance i mighf do something" i just stormed out
this was later in the year from when i went to see a therapist who after yhe first session sent me an email saying they didnt believe they could help me and that they hoped id find help with another therapist
if it hadnt been for the fact i had supportive friends, family and pets i dont think if be here today,
i worry for the people who dont have my support network and get fobbed off as it genuinly feels like my mental health as a male doesnt matter
i remember a sign that said "1 in 4 homeless are women" showing the 3/4 men dont matter and hearing stories of mens shelters getting protested into shutting down and the person in charge of setting them up getting death threats
we really need to start taking mems issues more seriously,
yes women have hard lives but they have government and societal support, i was just lucky my personal relationships were healthy
Finally someone speaks about this
Video on point, I hope those markers didn't have any solvents that could be absorbed by the dude's skin though
Great vid! Feminism shouldn't be comparison, just solving peoples' problems!... ok that's enough deep hippie quotes from me today :)
+Robeenio bt - Thank you for supporting the content. You're right that this should be separate from a discussion on feminism.
i wonder how triggered feminists are by watching this
No feminists got triggered by this.
Jackman 360 I'm personally not triggered at all. I think this video is very eye-opening, and men's issues shouldn't be pushed down
Jackman 360 one emoticon discribes it 💯
Jackman 360 Third wave feminism is okay actually...
+Sara Third wave feminism is full of selfish women. Not all of course. But they do it out of their own agenda to put them in a better egotistical position. If a feminist doesn't want to bury a man 6 feet under and can treat people equal, then they are not a feminist. But rather a human.
And I'm Watching this on Woman's day!! Noone talks about us. How we suffer the pain we go through and the responsibilities. More power to you all who are silently suffering, grinding and doing their level best. Remember this will pass too. Believe in yourself.
I’m a 14 year old male and I agree with everything in this video.
Same but I'm 12
I want to be malr
@@aoinightcore7498 for?
@@allovertheplacepeople7814 i don't know why, i just want it
Same but I’m 15
This breaks my heart as a woman 💔😭.
@Jaster unicorns my friend but the thing about this life is that even unicorns change to demons with time. Most divorces happen at 20 year mark. They don't stay unicorns for long
Women go through these problems too but society seems to care about it more and respond to them, man isn't the patriarchy weird making life difficult for the men 😂
This was amazing. I cried at the end when he just kept the darkness on himself, put the clothes back on and went on with his day. I feel that everyday myself.
Men have so few resources to get help. I'm a Social Worker and I've advocated for men's discussion groups, men's mental health lines and support for young men who feel alone. I was completely ignored. Instead the agencies I've worked for added more resources for women's support groups, training for women, empowerment for women and fast tracking female social workers to management positions. There are already so many resources for them but nothing for us. Society does not care about us so we have to look out for each other.
A man's life has no value in today's World. Masculinity is considered toxic, men are expected to be doormats and serve the world. A man is not trusted easily and respect is hard to earn! For no reason many innocent men are labelled as unworthy if they aren't successful and Powerful. Let men live.
And i agree!
@@arandomflyingcat5952 same
whos looking for feminist hate comments?
So then i can prove em wrong
James Sparks same
Same bois
Me
Divorce rates,
Raising a child that's not yours.
Accused of rape, sexual assult, harassment, stalking.
Self defense aka domestic violence.
Family court doesn't want the father to take custody of his own kids.
Police don't care if a man life is in danger.
Walking through a rough area and knowing you could be stabbed.
Schools educate men to be more feminine.
A boy being a boy is punished for being a boy.
Treat her like a celebrity, she'll treat you like a fan.
Men are becoming more feminine,
Woman are becoming more masculine,
Men don't like masculine woman,
Woman don't like feminine men.
I actually pray for movements like this. Superb. Well done. A flick of fire to a huge fuse can hopefully go a long way. Men need to talk.
Funny how when women are in pain everyone lends their shoulder, but when men are in pain, we're supposed to suck it up and not be pussies. If anybody remembers the 1960 horror suspense film Psycho, Norman Bates says and I quote "a boy's best friend is his mother". I used to think that was bullshit, but as a young adult I realize that it's kinda true. My mother is a very easy person to talk to when it comes to letting my feelings(or lack thereof) out in the open, and it's not because I don't have my father in my life or he wouldn't understand, but because a mother is there to care for and nurture her child, no matter their age. A mother should always be there to listen to her child and help them cope with their feelings. That's the only time a man should talk to a woman about his feelings, and/or if he has a sister or his brother/best friend, both of which I'm very fortunate to have.
It took me years to speak about my anxiety and depression because of how embarrassed i was
I knew that depression manifests itself differently in men than in women, but never really thought about how. it tends to make you feel alone in general, but not feeling like you can talk about it and not hearing people like you talk about it triples the feeling i think. im glad this video was made, i hope a cultural shift is coming where men (me included) dont feel less masculine for talking about these things.
Strongest video that I'd ever seen. Men can be the victim of sexual assault in childhood and too many other problems which we can't even talk about to keep ourselves making vulnerable. the world even takes away our ability to cry about it.
I dont think they're less than if it happens. Its just that toxic reaction or wever that comes after
It's nice to see a video that shows how how men suffer as much as women do.
I've known two men who hanged themselves because nobody would listen to them, and I too had to suffer in silence for more than 5 years because of fucked up things happening in my life.
I think the problem is that society evolved for women, but men have been left behind. We still expect men to be, well, men. Women are no longer expected to find a single man to be tied and have a family with, yet men are still expected to provide for theirs, if they can have one of course, since women no longer are pressured into being with them.
Men are expected to work and be a pillars for society when many lack any real incentive to do so.
We are being molded into tools and yet nobody wants to use us as we are meant to be used.
Good video spreading awareness for what males go through
7 Feminists down voted this so far... How vile and hateful.
CodeMonkey
Sweetheart, feminism is equalism.
Noted Eclipse not modern day feminism B
+Noted Eclipse Sweetypoo, Feminism is not equality. Equality is equality. Otherwise if feminism meant equality, then the word equality would not be necessary. Feminism is about gaining power for women that can lead towards equal power of men. Modern day feminism leads to the arrogance of women who want to bury men alive in their own selfishness. Rather than trying to treat everyone equal.
CodeMonkey this video is good wow
@@notedeclipse9297 damn if only that were true
I think men put high standard on men. If men shows any emotion they are mocked by their peers. Please men help your bros. No one will help you if you don't help each other.
Common man, men just dont like to show there emmotions because its instinct, not because people mock them
I haven't watched your whole video because I think it might make me too sad - but I really love men, and I wish they heard more often how awesome they are, the enormous good that is inside them. They do have a lot to worry about, and they don't have many outlets these days. I'm so glad women have more opportunities in modern society, and both my parents supported me as a girl going into a male dominated field - but I wish support and praise for the goodness in men had kept up in parallel. I am so blessed by good men in life - family and friends - who are smart, funny, generous, kindhearted, brave. I always wanted to have a brother, and I always wished I'd had little boys if I'd had kids, because I just think they are wonderful human beings. If you are a male person feeling unappreciated, I hope this makes you feel better. There are loads of us women out here who love and admire you, and want you to know it.