Thank you for the warmhearted discussion about such an impotant and basic topic. I think this book will help a lot of women to understand and have compassion for themselves.
I resisted thinking of what I went through as third degree but I think the combination of a neglectful immature and strict mother, a completely self absorbed father and a bullying older sister has produced the third degree effects. I’ve been making great progress in therapy and managed to move out of my parents place and into a new town and healthy work situation but this past month an abusive ex’s messages have triggered a complete breakdown of my eating system. I’m unable to eat a full meal without feeling nauseous and I’ve stopped cooking which used to regulate me and give me joy. I’m also in very limited to no contact with my parents right now. In therapy today memories of being forced by my mother to eat no matter whether I was hungry or liked the food came up. These things run deep. Thank you for being such a great interviewer ❤; I’m an committed fan of Kelly’s and you really get her book.
Wow, it looks like I’m going to have to get this book. I’m a textbook example of how these wounds can be damaging to your life. My mother’s severe mental illness and eventual abandonment (she refused to comply w court orders to maintain custody)lead me to have anxiety disorder and cptsd… that lead me to a decade of heroin addiction and homelessness. I’ve never really fully processed the things I experienced in childhood, and then the things I did to myself or happened to me due to my struggles with substance use. the second I think about my mom and the yearning for something that wasn’t possible the tears just flow. Becoming a mom myself really brought a lot of anger to the forefront, but I’ve really just compartmentalized to keep going. It’s my goal to really explore this topic in therapy. From one 3rd degree-er to another, I’m sending you love.
Thank you for the warmhearted discussion about such an impotant and basic topic. I think this book will help a lot of women to understand and have compassion for themselves.
so grateful you could listen. thanks so much for your kind words!
I resisted thinking of what I went through as third degree but I think the combination of a neglectful immature and strict mother, a completely self absorbed father and a bullying older sister has produced the third degree effects. I’ve been making great progress in therapy and managed to move out of my parents place and into a new town and healthy work situation but this past month an abusive ex’s messages have triggered a complete breakdown of my eating system. I’m unable to eat a full meal without feeling nauseous and I’ve stopped cooking which used to regulate me and give me joy. I’m also in very limited to no contact with my parents right now. In therapy today memories of being forced by my mother to eat no matter whether I was hungry or liked the food came up. These things run deep. Thank you for being such a great interviewer ❤; I’m an committed fan of Kelly’s and you really get her book.
these things do run so deep. sending you so much warmth. I'm so happy you're a big fan of Kelly's! She is revolutionizing this important body of work.
Wow, it looks like I’m going to have to get this book. I’m a textbook example of how these wounds can be damaging to your life. My mother’s severe mental illness and eventual abandonment (she refused to comply w court orders to maintain custody)lead me to have anxiety disorder and cptsd… that lead me to a decade of heroin addiction and homelessness. I’ve never really fully processed the things I experienced in childhood, and then the things I did to myself or happened to me due to my struggles with substance use. the second I think about my mom and the yearning for something that wasn’t possible the tears just flow. Becoming a mom myself really brought a lot of anger to the forefront, but I’ve really just compartmentalized to keep going.
It’s my goal to really explore this topic in therapy.
From one 3rd degree-er to another, I’m sending you love.
sending you so much love right back. I am so grateful to know this episode was supportive. Definitely get the book - it changed my life!
Thank you for speaking on food as a coping mechanism.
Your work combined with Winnicot and John Bowlby is revolutionary.
Yes! I bet both Kelly and I studied them both in Grad school. Such important bodies of work.
Thanks Kelly and Shelby for talking about this heartbreaking topic in a kind way! You are making a difference.
thank YOU so much for listening and taking the time to write.
Wonderful discussion! Thanks for posting ❤️
Thank you so much for listening!!!