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I struggle with the loneliness and lack of intimacy but I remind myself that I need to bring my Whole best complete self to a relationship so I attract the person that's best for me
Sending you positive vibes. People don't agree with it, but I truly believe that in order to love others, you really must love yourself first. Get you to your highest-value self, be the person you want in a relationship...and from there you will attract the right woman.
100 sir I too deal with that but God is there to guide better be single with peace and joy a Lady God has for us is there when we're ready our best serves not.perfect but healed
On the flip side: as a financially stable man, don't go be with a woman who doesn't have HER money situation together -- Otherwise you end up potentially becoming a sugar daddy, or if she knows you really care about her beyond sex then you just end up potentially becoming a simp
@@HdHd-hp6qz All the relationships that God has brought together are blessings in 2023 - whenever. I believe your referring to that other stuff built solely on lust.
@EmeraldLuvsYouALL When you start bringing other entities into he conversation it voids any explanation of anything because then we can always say will it is what god would of wanted anyway. How about taking accountability for a relationship failing rather than bringing the invisible man into it.
Needed to hear this been married 22yrs wife just passed 2 months ago gotta get my self back in shape physically and mentally 47yrs old starting a new chapter 👍
110% AGREED! I recently filed for divorce. I'm nearly broke. I haven't found my purpose yet. I need more time to heal. All the more reasons for why I should stay single. Stephan hit every single point for me. I'm in no rush to be dating again even if it's just casual or just trying to meet new people. I'm just not interested. I'm more interested in crafting myself to be a better man and from there I believe everything else should fall into place. 2023 is my year to FOCUS ON ME.
Whether you are broke or rich, relationships in general are draining & distracting. If you are broke, then a relationship is going to drain your time & energy. If you are rich, then relationship is going to drain your finances
You are so right. I learned this the hard way. I wasn't doing so well and my girlfriend at the time wanted to buy a car. I told her I would go to the dealership with her so she wouldn't get ripped off because she was just learning how to drive with her probationary license and didn't know jack about cars. Long story short I had Facebook at the time and I happened to see a post she put up. " Oh I guess I'm not supposed to have my college degree my own car and my own place so I can find a man on my level ". Words can't describe how I felt. When I asked her why she posted that she said " oh you looked mad that I was buying a car ". Mind you I offered my time to go with her to help her. I wasn't mad about a thing. She definitely didn't respect me at all, but she would let me smash. Talk about toxic. Things got better for me financially as I became an hvac technician and we ended up living together but deep down she still saw me as the old me. Man what an experience. I really loved her and she didn't feel the same about me. We're not together after 8 years. Truth be told it nearly broke me. But God is good. I definitely tolerated disrespect from her. I asked her if that was what she wanted to find a man on her level then just say it and I would step. She said no. I left it at that. But going on Facebook to air that out was like wtf? She didn't bother to ask me if and why I was mad. Nope 🏃🏽♀️ 🏃🏽♀️ 🏃🏽♀️ to Facebook. Nuts. Social media is definitely not helping relationships, especially those that involve our people. I would love for you to give me a brief analysis of a woman that does something like what I describe here. Thanks for the work you do brother.
Thank you for your advice! I'm not going to lie... It gets lonely, but in light of what I have been through for the last 5 years with a woman who never really loved me, I would rather be alone than be unhappy. In due time, there'll be another one who will be better for me. Thank you again.
This video popped up in my feeds on RUclips but I didn't realize that it was directed to the men. I skimmed through the comments and was touched by the STRONG men that gave their feedback and agreed with the points Stephan made & some acknowledged their need for improvement. As a lady, I respect that & salute YOU! Keep going!
It goes with the level of respect. If she still respects you even at your lowest and you build yourself up for her and give her the same needs in a relationship, then I don't see what the issue is. However, the same can't be said for every woman. Nowadays people don't want to help others, they rather have everything done for them. We live in a lazy society where people want people to fix all life problems. It also made communication more difficult, and rarely do you see people open up to each other about situations. Shame really, but there's always someone that breaks exceptions. You don't need a supermodel or a overly attractive business woman to find happiness.
Stephan, this hit for me.. I just went through a break up after 2.5 years - really thought I had the one but was definitely letting a lot of things slide. My broken - ness and her broken - ness definitely matched. Crazy thing is there were/are still positives there that now got me all twisted up. We broke up on what was mutual terms only to for me to find myself really falling now into all my pain. Full on codependant break down, fearful, needy, unworthy shame.. Feels like I'm coming out of this worse than when I went in so I'm really fighting that right now. Trying to tell myself this is a good thing - full rebuild. I'm 38 so it's later in the game for me, maybe that's a good thing cuz I know I am more equip to deal then when I was younger but it feels like I'm being confronted by every demon I've ever had through every past break up I've been through. 2 things - is it possible to get a coaching session w you? And what's the best book you've written for me right now that can help me turn this corner.
For coaching and more, visit my site www.stephanspeaks.com/ or ❤️ Join my FREE text community. Text "LOVE" to 770-373-4246 or click here 👉 my.community.com/stephanspeaks I recommend my book Love After Heartbreak. You can get your copy of "Love After Heartbreak" here 👉 www.loveafterheartbreak.com. This book will lead you to find peace and happiness in your life.
Even when you heal, it doesn't mean that you won't face negativity. Healing is always spiritual before its physical. Healing means knowing how to respond than to react. In my healing journey myself. I've been reading self-help books. Can't really afford therapy right now but have found other ways to help me and not rushing the process of it. No microwave healing.
Stephan, good that you clarified what 'stay single' means because a lot of men see it as being with multiple women with no responsibilities or accountability. But most men let the little head control them and they are not able to stay away from women.
I'm just 3min into the video and im already hitting my head hard in agreement.Listening to this on a Sunday and it felt like a sunday service of relationship....Bro pls start a relationship service...lol
Another GREAT message for the guys because some just don’t know they’re value and definitely settle for what they think they can get because where they are in life. Healing is truly important because if they heal they definitely will choose better. And what should be casual end up in a marriage don’t shoot the messenger
Wow. Stephan it’s almost like you made this video tailored to me. Watched to the very end. Great information and didn’t make me feel bad about myself for having some issues.
I need to stay single for a long time. I need to figure out what I need in my life, if that means being selfish then so be it and not so much trying to figure out what the other person needs.
More and more I am okay with being single. Right now I am just trying to figure out when is a good time to date. I pray to God and ask "Am I ready? I feel ready?" But I know God isnt gonna give a big neon sign saying "yes" or "no". He can but I understand I have to know myself. I hope this can be a video done soon "Am I ready to get back out there?" Anyways, thank you Stephan! Always bringing a lot to me and sources to find to better myself and myself with God.
So what if he did all these things, then got into a loving relationship, but he ended up derailing personally and having to do this all over again? Is it fair for him to break up with me? I know that life isn’t fair. I know that at the end of the day it is his choice and it doesn’t matter what anyone says. But I need some comfort for my heart. In your opinion, what should a man do in a situation like that? This feels like it broke me. He said he hasn’t been present in our relationship because of it. So to prevent me from being “hostage to this relationship” and to show that I “deserve a presence,” he broke up with me. I feel like this is bullshit. Why couldn’t he work on himself while being with me? He’s my love and I miss him. I just feel so defeated. I really want to be there for him but he won’t let me. I know how to give him space too but he didn’t even give it a chance. Idk idk
Why are people so afraid of being single. Your NOT alone if you don't have a partner, why do people think that? I can't wrap my head around that. Why do guys want to be owned? Every person I know that's in a relationship lead stressfull low quality reduced lives. They are miserable. It's so self destructive. I've been observing these depended and owned people from the sideline all my life, never seen a healthy case of slavery. No thank you. We arrive alone and we die alone. Learn to know yourself I say.
Yuh I’m on that masculine walk right now brother , it’s getting hard tho ian gon lie be wanting some female attention but my God and my purpose the main focus
The problem with this is if you are never in a relationship, you, your values and family upbringing are never tested. By getting burned men are forced to grow, learn, and evolve. It took me 15 years of assorted relationships to figure out myself, women and what I needed to do to grow as a man. After this I knew myself much better, I learned what to look for and what to avoid in women. On top of this I learned that growing as a man is a life long process and project. The wife and I have been married for 30 years now. Are things perfect? No, however, we are working on it.
Wisdom does exist and if they’re elders in young man’s life that guides him and teaches him, he may need to bump his head less by growing with God and his community. He can learn communication skills through conflict with people, he can learn how to live with people by having roommates, and he could learn what personality traits women have that he doesn’t want through the women is his community. I’m not saying there’s no value in dating but let’s not act like a man needs 15 year or heck more than 5 year to figure out what type of helpmate he wants when he has developed already.
This brought some comfort of some sort. Thank you Uncle Stefan for reassuring me. God bless you sir. Looking forward to more videos from this channel. Blessings sir.
This resonates with me. I wish I'd heard all this 30 odd years ago & stayed single instead of going into a relationship I never wanted. Too young, too emotional & too easily manipulated + limerence which I've only just discovered I suffer with!
The idea that one should improve his or herself while being single is not a bad thing to accomplish, but it does not guarantee you will find a spouse. We are not promised marriage. There are many men and women who did improve themselves and still remain single, and there are married couples who did not improve themselves but rushed right into marriage.
I do agree with establishing yourself as a single man. No doubt about it. However this is honestly a pretty debatable subject. seeing people for years together before they were successful couples etc. It's crazy that mostly blacks do this because other race of people are married before 30 still getting financial help from their parents until they are able to help themselves on their own. But in black culture it's mainly about a man doing everything on his own and hope he's making 6 figures before he can date. This leaves out a lot of experience with being with women when he does succeed. He still will lack experience on what to do with a woman emotionally, sexually etc.
💪🏾❤🙏🏾 MY Goodness, he nailed every single one….I love this brotha man…..I agree wholeheartedly with every video I seen so far….got some catching up to do…I needed this
Relationships are alright..but not for me at this moment maybe later on I'm to focus on my health,Worrying about money and traveling Plus I want to get my passport cant stay in one place for to long...I'm trying base my life around fun and entertainment..
First thing First, Draw closer to God And seek his wisdom and guidance. You will never be Alone ever again. There is a Big difference between being alone & Being Lonely 💯👊👑🛡️
i think it's ok if some want to stay single forever and some choose to not be single forever but for me i think there is nothing wrong at all if some want to stay single forever as long it makes some of us happy that's all that matters i think it's not bad thing at all if some want to be single forever i have to be honest i want and love to be single forever because it makes me happy
True on needing to be financially stable and before you said it was a recipe for disaster, I thought that. It’s like buying a new car and not having money for gas. It’s not going to work unless you plan on robbing banks. Lots of ppl. that buy expensive sneakers when they are broke get caught up thinking that’s normal and why always broke.
Basically, before you start a relationship with someone, be stable and it’ll be better going into a relationship. And not only financially stable, but also emotional and mentally stable.
Well I guess there are always exceptions to the rule. I met my wife when was both young and broke, got married, started our family and after 29yrs of marriage raised 2 successful sons and haven't stopped building to this day
it has been well researched that people who marry young and without a baggage of past experiences are more motivated to retain the joy of their marriage. I'm very happy for you. my (likely soon to be ex) boyfriend's parents also married young and broke, now they are going through a messy divorce. we are both also quite young, I'm a few years older though. he's as vulnerable emotionally as s cardboard cutout and follows all of the steps that lead to the destruction of his parents' relationship. he's not ready and doesn't want to be ready, yet loves when i undress and spread my legs for him.
Maturity and responsibility goes a long way. You know what you wanted from each other and you made compromises even if the situation seemed dire. I'm glad your wife appreciated you enough to consider giving you the support. I'm going through a similar experience, although her situation is a little more complex since she has come from a past relationship. You never know what you'll come across, but there's always a possibility to find peace and happiness. If there's one thing I desire from a woman out of anything else, it's maturity and respect.
I struggle with loneliness an I do my best to be confident but being rejected a lot it gets me self doubting sometimes im jus doing my best to work on myself an I created a plan.why are nice guys get rejected a lot.its also hard to be patient on the right woman to come in my life because I'm fearful that since I never had a relationship not only will I feel I get rejected an emotionally hurt even by that woman.thats one reason I'm afraid to approach women to ask out an am skeptical of being vulnerable even having female friends because most women most won't understand
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I struggle with the loneliness and lack of intimacy but I remind myself that I need to bring my Whole best complete self to a relationship so I attract the person that's best for me
Indeed, it'll be helpful when you embrace that 🙏
Sending you positive vibes. People don't agree with it, but I truly believe that in order to love others, you really must love yourself first. Get you to your highest-value self, be the person you want in a relationship...and from there you will attract the right woman.
I can SINCERELY relate Fam...💯✌🏿
100 sir I too deal with that but God is there to guide better be single with peace and joy a Lady God has for us is there when we're ready our best serves not.perfect but healed
I like when men are open and we can compare notes about life. Not being open creates insecurities in the other person.......it's a waste of time.
"Putting her so high on a pedestal that you diminish yourself..." That right there.....
On the flip side: as a financially stable man, don't go be with a woman who doesn't have HER money situation together -- Otherwise you end up potentially becoming a sugar daddy, or if she knows you really care about her beyond sex then you just end up potentially becoming a simp
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤ 🙏
A relationship can either be distraction or a blessing Absolutely 😇
💯 Yes!
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Name one relationship in 2023 that’s a blessing.
@@HdHd-hp6qz All the relationships that God has brought together are blessings in 2023 - whenever. I believe your referring to that other stuff built solely on lust.
@EmeraldLuvsYouALL When you start bringing other entities into he conversation it voids any explanation of anything because then we can always say will it is what god would of wanted anyway. How about taking accountability for a relationship failing rather than bringing the invisible man into it.
Needed to hear this been married 22yrs wife just passed 2 months ago gotta get my self back in shape physically and mentally 47yrs old starting a new chapter 👍
I'm happy this has been helpful to you, and I pray that you heal all you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏
Sending prayers to you Ron Black. 🙏 love ❤️
God bless u ❤️
You can do it. I am 58 and still trying to get better. As long as you are living and have a reasonable portion of health it is never to late.
Be strong and be happy in your new chapter of life!
110% AGREED! I recently filed for divorce. I'm nearly broke. I haven't found my purpose yet. I need more time to heal. All the more reasons for why I should stay single. Stephan hit every single point for me. I'm in no rush to be dating again even if it's just casual or just trying to meet new people. I'm just not interested. I'm more interested in crafting myself to be a better man and from there I believe everything else should fall into place. 2023 is my year to FOCUS ON ME.
Whether you are broke or rich, relationships in general are draining & distracting. If you are broke, then a relationship is going to drain your time & energy. If you are rich, then relationship is going to drain your finances
Or disabled if ur disabled might as well give up dating money won't help nothing would
I'm disabled nothings going to help
You are so right. I learned this the hard way. I wasn't doing so well and my girlfriend at the time wanted to buy a car. I told her I would go to the dealership with her so she wouldn't get ripped off because she was just learning how to drive with her probationary license and didn't know jack about cars. Long story short I had Facebook at the time and I happened to see a post she put up. " Oh I guess I'm not supposed to have my college degree my own car and my own place so I can find a man on my level ". Words can't describe how I felt. When I asked her why she posted that she said " oh you looked mad that I was buying a car ". Mind you I offered my time to go with her to help her. I wasn't mad about a thing. She definitely didn't respect me at all, but she would let me smash. Talk about toxic. Things got better for me financially as I became an hvac technician and we ended up living together but deep down she still saw me as the old me. Man what an experience. I really loved her and she didn't feel the same about me. We're not together after 8 years. Truth be told it nearly broke me. But God is good. I definitely tolerated disrespect from her. I asked her if that was what she wanted to find a man on her level then just say it and I would step. She said no. I left it at that. But going on Facebook to air that out was like wtf? She didn't bother to ask me if and why I was mad. Nope 🏃🏽♀️ 🏃🏽♀️ 🏃🏽♀️ to Facebook. Nuts. Social media is definitely not helping relationships, especially those that involve our people. I would love for you to give me a brief analysis of a woman that does something like what I describe here. Thanks for the work you do brother.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
Agree. You don't need all that baggage that a relationship brings.
Nothing but the truth , im single and happy cos im still trying to fix my life
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
Thank you for your advice! I'm not going to lie... It gets lonely, but in light of what I have been through for the last 5 years with a woman who never really loved me, I would rather be alone than be unhappy. In due time, there'll be another one who will be better for me. Thank you again.
"I feel a sense of Shame when I can't provide."
Stephan what I appreciate most about you is bringing God in the picture.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much, I appreciate that!
This video popped up in my feeds on RUclips but I didn't realize that it was directed to the men. I skimmed through the comments and was touched by the STRONG men that gave their feedback and agreed with the points Stephan made & some acknowledged their need for improvement. As a lady, I respect that & salute YOU! Keep going!
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
If someone wants you when you're broke she's not looking at what you got because you don't have anything she's probably a keeper
It goes with the level of respect. If she still respects you even at your lowest and you build yourself up for her and give her the same needs in a relationship, then I don't see what the issue is. However, the same can't be said for every woman. Nowadays people don't want to help others, they rather have everything done for them. We live in a lazy society where people want people to fix all life problems. It also made communication more difficult, and rarely do you see people open up to each other about situations. Shame really, but there's always someone that breaks exceptions. You don't need a supermodel or a overly attractive business woman to find happiness.
This hit some major points for. One reason I'm single now. I never healed.
Stephan, this hit for me.. I just went through a break up after 2.5 years - really thought I had the one but was definitely letting a lot of things slide. My broken - ness and her broken - ness definitely matched. Crazy thing is there were/are still positives there that now got me all twisted up. We broke up on what was mutual terms only to for me to find myself really falling now into all my pain. Full on codependant break down, fearful, needy, unworthy shame.. Feels like I'm coming out of this worse than when I went in so I'm really fighting that right now. Trying to tell myself this is a good thing - full rebuild. I'm 38 so it's later in the game for me, maybe that's a good thing cuz I know I am more equip to deal then when I was younger but it feels like I'm being confronted by every demon I've ever had through every past break up I've been through. 2 things - is it possible to get a coaching session w you? And what's the best book you've written for me right now that can help me turn this corner.
For coaching and more, visit my site www.stephanspeaks.com/
or
❤️ Join my FREE text community. Text "LOVE" to 770-373-4246 or click here 👉 my.community.com/stephanspeaks
I recommend my book Love After Heartbreak. You can get your copy of "Love After Heartbreak" here 👉 www.loveafterheartbreak.com. This book will lead you to find peace and happiness in your life.
Did it occur to you ever, to go to COUPLES COUNSELING????
I like your video man I decided to stay single again because my exgirlfriend was very rude to me she abused me disrespected me I am intrested in women
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
if you accept that relationships begin and end then there’s nothing wrong with dating broke
everything is temporary
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
Even when you heal, it doesn't mean that you won't face negativity. Healing is always spiritual before its physical. Healing means knowing how to respond than to react. In my healing journey myself. I've been reading self-help books. Can't really afford therapy right now but have found other ways to help me and not rushing the process of it. No microwave healing.
Stephan, good that you clarified what 'stay single' means because a lot of men see it as being with multiple women with no responsibilities or accountability.
But most men let the little head control them and they are not able to stay away from women.
This is the video where I say "ok. I'ma keep tapping in." Feels like God is speaking through you. Appreciate the wisdom.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
I'm just 3min into the video and im already hitting my head hard in agreement.Listening to this on a Sunday and it felt like a sunday service of relationship....Bro pls start a relationship service...lol
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!
Another GREAT message for the guys because some just don’t know they’re value and definitely settle for what they think they can get because where they are in life. Healing is truly important because if they heal they definitely will choose better.
And what should be casual end up in a marriage don’t shoot the messenger
Thank you for sharing, healing is definitely key ❤
Thank you and you’re welcome
This video needs to go viral
These are some hard pills to swallow but something that every single man needs to hear!!
Wow. Stephan it’s almost like you made this video tailored to me. Watched to the very end. Great information and didn’t make me feel bad about myself for having some issues.
I'm a woman who name is Yawadayath. I totally understand and agree. It's tight but it's right🙏🏾📖👑
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Wonderful message. Thank you as always for spreading the knowledge brother 🙏🏾 Can’t wait to see the channel grow even more.
Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback 🙏 ❤
I need to stay single for a long time. I need to figure out what I need in my life, if that means being selfish then so be it and not so much trying to figure out what the other person needs.
Hey man, just stumbled on your RUclips channel & I can’t get enough of all the wisdom you’re spitting out.
Finally, someone speaking for the bros 🙏🏾
I needed to hear this! Right on time and confirmation.
Great video it gives me peace of mind that I’m doing the right thing
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
More and more I am okay with being single. Right now I am just trying to figure out when is a good time to date. I pray to God and ask "Am I ready? I feel ready?" But I know God isnt gonna give a big neon sign saying "yes" or "no". He can but I understand I have to know myself. I hope this can be a video done soon "Am I ready to get back out there?" Anyways, thank you Stephan! Always bringing a lot to me and sources to find to better myself and myself with God.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
The truth hurts. Great video.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching!
Im 22, never had a relationship. Not planning on it anytime soon.
You speak the Truth 🙏🙏
So what if he did all these things, then got into a loving relationship, but he ended up derailing personally and having to do this all over again? Is it fair for him to break up with me?
I know that life isn’t fair. I know that at the end of the day it is his choice and it doesn’t matter what anyone says. But I need some comfort for my heart.
In your opinion, what should a man do in a situation like that? This feels like it broke me. He said he hasn’t been present in our relationship because of it.
So to prevent me from being “hostage to this relationship” and to show that I “deserve a presence,” he broke up with me.
I feel like this is bullshit. Why couldn’t he work on himself while being with me? He’s my love and I miss him. I just feel so defeated. I really want to be there for him but he won’t let me. I know how to give him space too but he didn’t even give it a chance. Idk idk
F*CK! That's some real truth bombs right there.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Educate these men Stephan.
🙏
Why are people so afraid of being single. Your NOT alone if you don't have a partner, why do people think that? I can't wrap my head around that. Why do guys want to be owned? Every person I know that's in a relationship lead stressfull low quality reduced lives. They are miserable. It's so self destructive. I've been observing these depended and owned people from the sideline all my life, never seen a healthy case of slavery. No thank you. We arrive alone and we die alone. Learn to know yourself I say.
Loved this video , big motivation
It’s like having my angels speaking aloud 🙌🏽
I’m practicing this now
This was awesome. Thanks brother.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
I've been saying these things a long time. Great video
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
Yuh I’m on that masculine walk right now brother , it’s getting hard tho ian gon lie be wanting some female attention but my God and my purpose the main focus
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation and I pray you're able to do what is truly best 🙏
The problem with this is if you are never in a relationship, you, your values and family upbringing are never tested. By getting burned men are forced to grow, learn, and evolve.
It took me 15 years of assorted relationships to figure out myself, women and what I needed to do to grow as a man. After this I knew myself much better, I learned what to look for and what to avoid in women. On top of this I learned that growing as a man is a life long process and project.
The wife and I have been married for 30 years now. Are things perfect? No, however, we are working on it.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Exactly! Through experiences, failures, mistakes, you know yourself, you learn what you really want, etc...
Wisdom does exist and if they’re elders in young man’s life that guides him and teaches him, he may need to bump his head less by growing with God and his community. He can learn communication skills through conflict with people, he can learn how to live with people by having roommates, and he could learn what personality traits women have that he doesn’t want through the women is his community. I’m not saying there’s no value in dating but let’s not act like a man needs 15 year or heck more than 5 year to figure out what type of helpmate he wants when he has developed already.
May God bless you brother. I love you, your channel, and your sincere good advice. Wish you all the best
You’ve become my personal Hero brother …
Glad I could help 🙏
This brought some comfort of some sort. Thank you Uncle Stefan for reassuring me. God bless you sir. Looking forward to more videos from this channel. Blessings sir.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏
Real Talk. ..100% TRUE
💯 yes!
God bless you...I needed this Stephan
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Love your videos, so much inspiration! Thank you 🙏
My pleasure ❤️
This resonates with me. I wish I'd heard all this 30 odd years ago & stayed single instead of going into a relationship I never wanted. Too young, too emotional & too easily manipulated + limerence which I've only just discovered I suffer with!
The idea that one should improve his or herself while being single is not a bad thing to accomplish, but it does not guarantee you will find a spouse. We are not promised marriage. There are many men and women who did improve themselves and still remain single, and there are married couples who did not improve themselves but rushed right into marriage.
So when they come thru and suck you dry and break the bank just remember you listened to this guy
Trying to convince my son he needs to grow and be his best self before a relationship
This was very hard to hear HOWEVER this is neccessary to my soul and state as a man. GOD please help me focus on my UPGRADE!
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Thanks brother
Good is the rock of salvation. Revelation from above.
Yes this is exactly what I needed to hear!🤕 Thank you 👍
Very informative and impactful! Thank you Steph! GOD IS GREAT!
I'm happy this has been helpful to you ❤ 🙏
Wow! I’ve never been so glued in a video like right now. ❤❤❤
It hurts to know you're so right
I do agree with establishing yourself as a single man. No doubt about it. However this is honestly a pretty debatable subject. seeing people for years together before they were successful couples etc. It's crazy that mostly blacks do this because other race of people are married before 30 still getting financial help from their parents until they are able to help themselves on their own. But in black culture it's mainly about a man doing everything on his own and hope he's making 6 figures before he can date. This leaves out a lot of experience with being with women when he does succeed. He still will lack experience on what to do with a woman emotionally, sexually etc.
All I can say is thank you
My pleasure ❤️
Great message.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
💪🏾❤🙏🏾 MY Goodness, he nailed every single one….I love this brotha man…..I agree wholeheartedly with every video I seen so far….got some catching up to do…I needed this
wow this hit differently, was hard to hear but i cant argue with the facts
Relationships are alright..but not for me at this moment maybe later on I'm to focus on my health,Worrying about money and traveling Plus I want to get my passport cant stay in one place for to long...I'm trying base my life around fun and entertainment..
💜💜💜💜💜 thank you
really clear and important
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
U hit it on the money
A hard pill to swallow, but much needed
Thank you for this message.
He speaks the truth.
Mic drop ! Well said.
Good word brother.
Real words of wisdom. Keep it up
I agree totally. ..Great advice..❤❤❤
Thank you brother
I like your videos Stephan👊🏼
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Dead on! My girl has all those red flags i got drained left her
I speak for myself when I need to stay alone. I know from experience.
Needed this, preciate King !
Glad I could help 🙏
Thanks bro
Thanks it’s just hard man I get tired of being alone
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
@@StephanSpeaksforMen That’s real I’m 35 no kids and I’m all in with god so I just gotta focus on my relationship with him
First thing First,
Draw closer to God
And seek his wisdom and guidance.
You will never be Alone ever again.
There is a Big difference between being alone & Being Lonely 💯👊👑🛡️
i think it's ok if some want to stay single forever and some choose to not be single forever but for me i think there is nothing wrong at all if some want to stay single forever as long it makes some of us happy that's all that matters i think it's not bad thing at all if some want to be single forever i have to be honest i want and love to be single forever because it makes me happy
Thank you!
I love your videos great info and wisdom, I was wondering what are some things I can do to start finding my purpose
Awesome video....
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
AMEN. Guided by you and the Top G. Life is good.
TRUE! TRUE! TRUE!
💯 Yes!
Yup!!
💯👁️👑very true I'm on my way out as we speak
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True on needing to be financially stable and before you said it was a recipe for disaster, I thought that. It’s like buying a new car and not having money for gas. It’s not going to work unless you plan on robbing banks.
Lots of ppl. that buy expensive sneakers when they are broke get caught up thinking that’s normal and why always broke.
Basically, before you start a relationship with someone, be stable and it’ll be better going into a relationship. And not only financially stable, but also emotional and mentally stable.
Well I guess there are always exceptions to the rule. I met my wife when was both young and broke, got married, started our family and after 29yrs of marriage raised 2 successful sons and haven't stopped building to this day
it has been well researched that people who marry young and without a baggage of past experiences are more motivated to retain the joy of their marriage. I'm very happy for you.
my (likely soon to be ex) boyfriend's parents also married young and broke, now they are going through a messy divorce. we are both also quite young, I'm a few years older though. he's as vulnerable emotionally as s cardboard cutout and follows all of the steps that lead to the destruction of his parents' relationship. he's not ready and doesn't want to be ready, yet loves when i undress and spread my legs for him.
Maturity and responsibility goes a long way. You know what you wanted from each other and you made compromises even if the situation seemed dire. I'm glad your wife appreciated you enough to consider giving you the support. I'm going through a similar experience, although her situation is a little more complex since she has come from a past relationship. You never know what you'll come across, but there's always a possibility to find peace and happiness. If there's one thing I desire from a woman out of anything else, it's maturity and respect.
*poetic snaps*
I struggle with loneliness an I do my best to be confident but being rejected a lot it gets me self doubting sometimes im jus doing my best to work on myself an I created a plan.why are nice guys get rejected a lot.its also hard to be patient on the right woman to come in my life because I'm fearful that since I never had a relationship not only will I feel I get rejected an emotionally hurt even by that woman.thats one reason I'm afraid to approach women to ask out an am skeptical of being vulnerable even having female friends because most women most won't understand
@513ChrisHeltzer I feel the same about making male friends. Keep your head up and stay strong. Join some meet-ups the right girl will come along.