Life or Death? ~ Suicidal, Depression, PTSD, Real Life Veteran Mental Health Vlog
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- Опубликовано: 18 май 2024
- Join us in this emotional, raw episode as we hear about Bobby’s real life struggle with Suicide and Depression. Learn about the tools he uses to battle against PTSD, he got while serving in the U.S. Military. Watch as he shows it is okay to be vulnerable, hopefully to help other Veterans and First Responders to come forward and ask for Mental Health help.
Help us spread the word about Mental Health Awareness during this month of May. Plus, we announce that Grandma Gloria will be leaving us. Don't forget to hit subscribe for more real life vlogs.
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You are no failure, Bobby. You are a brave and strong man, you fought for all of us and your family is proud of you. The fact that you are seeking mental health care speaks volumes. This community stands with you. Prayers for you and family.
Prayers to you such a brave soul 💙🙏
I’m so sorry you are struggling with this. You are so brave to share this with others. I’m praying the VA continues to support you and ask that the Lord keeps his healing hands on you. This video may save someone’s life!! I’m so glad you are still here with us Bobby!!❤❤
I am hoping this video can help others, or at the very least help bring more awareness to mental health.
I am a silent watcher. I don't comment because most of the time I use your videos to motivate cleaning with Living with Cambria or Cambria and Bobby. It's hard to comment with soapy hands or a living room full of laundry. Any who, watching this video, I want to first start by saying BOBBY THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR SERVICE! Our military personnel do NOT get the card and credit they deserve after their time served. You all should be treated with HIGH regards for everything you put yourselves through for the sake of this country and the people in it. Second, no one can say that Cambria does not Love her man! It takes a STRONG, DEVOTE WIFE to not only see the signs but take the steps of preventative measures in cases like these. I applaud you two for being a real family! It's actually what attracted me to your channel. You all are raw! Bobby please know that your life on this planet at this time in life matters, not just to Cambria, your babies and your animals but for yourself as well. There is only 1 you and YOU MATTER! Cambria I have such a refound respect for you as a wife and mother. I am so proud of you and know that I understand that it is hard, especially being pregnant, but you are the Angel sent for this! Be proud that your awareness and guidance is what kept Bobby here to seek the help he needed. The love you have for each other is strong and you both have such a beautiful foundation between you. I am so glad I found your channel and am able to witness your accomplishments. My strength and heart is with you both at this time. Always your silent watcher.
Bobby, know this, you have not failed your Grandma. You gave her precious time with her great grandchildren, and that special bond can never be removed from their hearts and their memories. I know you get some weird messages on RUclips, but family, that's just deranged and cruel. You are a very brave man Bobby, and my heart goes out to you. We are here for you, and i wish i could wrap you in my arms and make the pain go away. You are loved by so many of us. We only want what's best for you, Cambriea and the children, so take as much time as you need, we'll be here for you when you're ready. Keeping you all in my heart, thoughts and prayers 💞
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Huge improvement in Grandma’s physical health has been very obvious since she arrived. Wonderful memories for all of you to look back on. This has been a wonderful time for her to share with you all. She loves you all. A nice transition from moving out of her house. xxoo
Beautiful comment 💖💖
Any time you feel the need to vent you know your youtube community is here for you and your family. We watch because we feel like part of your family and enjoy your content. Take all the time you need. Praying for you all❤
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Bobby - from New Hampshire - thank you for your service. You haven't told us the details but it is due to soldiers like you that we live in a free country today. God bless you. What it must have taken you Bobby to open up and tell us your story and your current struggles must have been enormously painful. You yelled at your dad and you reached out to Cambriea - two tough tasks and you said 'I need help'. You have to do what's best for you. Grandma knows how much you love her and she will be okay. To see the smiles on your face when you talk about the animals and the kids shows how much you care. Now's the time to take care of you. Bless you all.
🙏thank you for your kind words and your support 🥰
Please win Bobby!! Were pulling for you!! ❤❤
Thank you for your support.
It takes a lot of strenght to put your life out in the public and have everyone judge your actions, even more when talking about such topic. My heart goes out to you guys in those tough times. Keep breathing! One breath at a time.. better days will come
I feel terrible because on that laundry makeover video I made a joke about how you looked like you were going to call HR to report workers abuse because you looked wiped. To find out you were literally going through something like this behind the scenes makes my heart hurt for you. Thank you for your honesty and allowing us a glimpse into your mindset. It could save a life. And yes, Grandma leaving is sad.. BUT, you already know YOU come first. I know I speak for everyone here when I say we are all giving you the biggest virtual hug ever. WE LOVE YOU GUYS 💜
My husband served in the U S. Army and combat in Vietnam, earned his doctorate when he returned to the U.S., and helps fellow veterans suffering from PTSD. 🇺🇸
A big thanks to your husband and all he does ❤️
@@cambrieabobby4162 Thank you.
I know someone who’s husband did the same thing❤ Thank you to you husband for his service🇺🇸 Proud Air Force mom here💙
I know the decision to share was a giant leap of faith, thank you.
I’m going to share your video with my husband, because not two days ago his friend called early in the morning on the brink of suicide. He spent hours on the phone, not letting him go until his head space was better. My heart goes out to all you veterans.
And I have to recognize Cambria for being a wonderful military wife. Not everyone can handle it. Please know there many of us who are walking in your shoes right now. We live to support. 💚
Retired VA nurse here…Bobby you are so respected and appreciated for all you have done. I cared for many combat Veterans. You are incredibly brave to share this to help others. And you’re insightful to see the signs of trouble.
Stick with good old Bailey; keep him around you when you can; he can really help you more than you think.
Hug him a lot, he loves ya.
Thank you for your service. ❤️
All the best to you and Cambriea.
Darla
Right on, retired VA nurse.
Bobby, I never understood how someone could want to unalive, how being gone would be better. Until it was me. Last year I was pregnant with my 4th baby and I was at the lowest mental point I’ve ever been. I felt like such a failure in every aspect and I felt everyone would be better without me around. The only thing that was keeping me from doing anything was my kids. I absolutely could never leave my kids without a mother. My husband was getting frustrated with me not doing things at home that really needed done. I told him while he was complaining that the dishes weren’t done, I was doing my best to just be alive. He had no idea I was feeling that way and immediately gave me his full support. You are so right that when you feel that way, you are selfish.
I don’t know you personally, but from what I see from y’all’s pages, you are a wonderful husband and father. You must stay here to continue to teach the boys and Freya so future generations will have more men like you. Your RUclips family loves you!
I’m praying for you and your family in this hard time. ❤
Thank you for sharing and for your support 🤗🥰
See Bobby you just helped yourself here, we need more people like you just to help people with these thoughts and troubles to know they're not alone! You are an amazing person - you and all of you have helped me in my depression - I know, I have tried several times, but God has always stopped me. I really love you guys, you're going to get better again❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing🥰 it is not easy asking for help. Keep on fighting and I will too.
I absolutely cannot fathom saying those things about anyone and their family, but about your own family. The horror and poison that human is clearly made out of..disgusting. Love you guys.
It seems that family member has mental issues of their own. Unfathomable to treat family like this.
ditto
This happens in so many families
As a 44-year-old daughter of a father who committed suicide 13 years ago, I can only say that it is the very worst thing that can happen for those left behind. please bobby, stay strong and fight! I know how hard life can be and how evil thoughts can affect you. Get your strength from your wonderful family and don't worry about grandma... you have to take care of yourself, you can be so selfish in such a situation! God bless you and your family! Lovely greetings from Germany! Petra
Thank you for your support in this time of need 🥰
Is 2:00 am here in Nairobi, Kenya. Just came across your video 'by chance'. You literally just saved my life! I was that one life you spoke of impacting. 😢 Retired L.E.O.
I am glad to hear that the video helped. Hope all is well, feel better soon.
I am so glad that you and Cambria realized that you needed help and reached out before anything devastating happened. My brother committed suicide in 1985 just before he turned 25. Then, my ex-husband committed suicide a couple of years later soon after he remarried. I've been on the other side hurting for a long time after they stopped their hurt and it is a pain that the ones left behind will never get over or forget. I'm keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Keep thinking of the good things in life you have to live for, Bobby.
🙏thank you for sharing and for your support🥰
Bobby,
The world will not be better without you in it. Please know you and your family are in my prayers.
I can see the pain in your eyes. Being a grandmother myself, I know without a doubt that your grandma wants nothing more than your health and happiness! You’ve got to do what you know in your heart is best for yourself and your family including your grandmother! You are doing what you need to do for your own mental health. You are in my prayers!
I speak from experience... I lost my brother May 21, 2011 from suicide. In his letter he thought that we would be better off without him. I can not tell you enough.... this is NOT true!!! Your loved ones will always wonder what they could have done to save you and a part of them will always blame themselves. Your family loves you and they would never be better off without you.
She or he, should be blocked from every social media source! They are hateful people!😡
Praying the Lord will keep you strong.
Dear Lord, my heart is breaking for what you guys are going through. I wish I had the right words for you Bobby, but all I can say is that I am so proud of you for reaching out, getting help and fighting that voice in your head. You are not a failure you are winner because you are fighting your demons and you have told that voice to F off which many have not been able to do. You are strong and you have now become an inspiration to others going through the same. Please, please remember that you are so loved by not just your family but this RUclips community. Take care of yourselves we are praying for you guys. Come back and talk to us soon Bobby. Take care Cambriea. ❤️
🥰thank you for your support 🙏
Amen❤🙏
Happy Sunday Cambriea and Bobby,
May the sun shine brightly on you today and everyday. I pray 🙏🏾 you come out stronger and lighter on the other side of this.
I've been there. I've had depression since highschool but it hit me like a ton of bricks after my back surgery in the Fall of 2015. When I had to recover at home with no proper aftercare, no family support, no financial assistance from my job and staring at my walls in that silence, it got real. Life hit me hard (still at home on disability in 2024), pair that with being in an abusive relationship I didn't know how to get out of and I was still trying to "show up" for everyone around me and repair my body in this process physically and mentally. The medication for depression is just a band aid. You have to get to the root cause(s). That stuff just made me dizzy, nauseous, I wasn't high functioning at all, and dependent on it. Once I got off of it my results were better. Think of therapy as a lifelong relationship. In the beginning I was going weekly for a year then it got shifted to once a month. Even if it's periodical, you're still getting a "check in" with a professional. Think of it as you're dropping by to give a life update this month with the therapist and you can release for that session and feel lighter going home. (If you're going in person, I know nowadays online is an option).
Ways to improve mood; working out helps to release stress, having hobbies, gathering with friends outside the home, creating a routine for yourself, learning something new (it doesn't have to be complicated it can be as simple as a new recipe), being involved with your kids. I don't have any so I spent a lot of time with my many nieces and nephews. The "Family" mouthing off and input on your life choices..... Sounds like jealousy, a few haters, projection, bitterness and nothing to do with you. Please don't feel bad about "no contact". You have to set boundaries for your household, you as an individual and you're teaching your children not to accept abuse from anyone including family members. I believe that I'm related because we share D.N.A but that doesn't make you my family there's a difference. My family is who I choose and whom I have a deep level of care, love, loyalty and respect for. Everyone doesn't get invited into that circle and it's an exclusive club. My relatives have preyed on me, betrayed me, physically assaulted me and verbally abused me to no end so I don't claim them. I've been "no contact" with my Father and his whole family for three years now and it's the best peace and gift I've ever given myself. Self love is very important.
I live in Canada so I don't know the laws in Florida or your county but if you have a neurologist let them know about your nerve pains, back pains and complain to high ends. Get a medical Mary Jane card and get CBD oil to rub and edibles if you can. They can get you the prescription. The GP is not specialized so it'll take longer for approval especially with insurance. I hope I was helpful. Sorry it was so long. Just know I look forward to your videos every week it doesn't matter what you post. This channel is REAL LIFE, relatable and raw. That's rare in these RUclips streets. Bobby, please don't feel guilty about Grandma you, Cambriea and the children have a wonderful relationship with her and that's what's important. When you can visit, send something in the mail, Skype, FaceTime (whatever) you can and will. Right now the focus is you, getting back on track and in the right direction. We have a new baby on the way. Since I have no children I claim my bonus RUclips family like yours as mine so I have a new niece/nephew on the way and we all need you to be healthy/happy for that moment and every one after that. Get well soon 🙏🏾😊.
❤ Janelle 🇨🇦
😥I don’t think I could have said it any better myself. You understand me and the pain and struggles. 🙏 Thank you for being strong and sharing, it means a lot to me. 🙏🙏🙏coming your way. Thank you so much for your support, it means more than you know.🥰
I know someone that has gone through this. The need to keep busy to stop overthinking and need to feel like things are getting done is a normal sign. I strongly suggest a holistic healer. The meds that they have you on are taking a toll on you even though you just started back. They change your body’s natural ability to take care of itself. If y’all do not have a church family, please find one. Sending love to all of you.❤️
Bobby, (fellow vet here), please know that we hear you and are thinking of you. Thank you both for sharing this important video on the signs and how to help a loved one. You are doing all the right things to take care of you and your family. Don’t second guess it and just know you are doing the right thing. You have the support of your wife and loving kids by your side….the rest is honestly unnecessary noise…you got this and we’re all rooting for you.
My prayer for Bobby and family:
Heavenly Father I come to you in prayer asking for you to restore peace to Bobby in any area of his life where he needs it. Bless him and his family that no harm comes to them and protect them from any negativity. Give him the strength Lord to deal with the ups and downs of PTSD, anxiety, and depression. We can take rest in the fact that our strength comes from you Lord and we know that Bobby can do all things in Christ who strengthens him. You have blessed him with his wife and we pray for her as she continues to support him. Keep her strong Lord and provide her with peace in her time of need. Those of us that are praying people we collectively pray this prayer and thank you in advance. Amen 🙏🏾❤
Thank you for the kind words and the support 🙏🥰🤗
Bobby sweetheart you need to take care of yourself first and foremost you do that and your family will take care of you that’s how a true family works. You work together and at least your father will be taking care of your grandma I know it hurts but it will all work out in the end and those 😊 family who support you will always have your back. Please keep your faith in God and pray for his help as well . I’ll will continue to pray for you all.❤️🙏
🙏thank you for your support 🥰
I was suffering towards the end of 2020. In 22 I was in bed for 6 months. I ate, worked, everything was from bed. Then I found y’all. Stay strong Bobby. We do get better.
Hey Bobby. You didn’t fail at all. You stepped in to help family when they needed it because your grandma was no longer safe living on her own. Cleaning out her home and selling it was inevitable. Now it’s time for family to step in and help you because you need that right now. That’s what family does. No shame in that at all. Let any shame and negativity go and give yourself the same love and understanding that you would show to someone else in your position. Caretaking is no joke. Cambreia, take care of yourself as you take care of your family. Wishing you peace of mind and much love.
If you are into nature or gardening at all.... one thing that rings in my heart is that no one expects the plants to be the same all year. They have their time for rest and renewal, like in the winter, and then they flush back and thrive. We as humans need to take this from nature that you don't have to flourish all of the time. There are times when we can shine and times when we need to rest and lay low and recover. You are not meant to be 100% all of the time. Sometimes, you need to rest and recover so you can flourish in the next season or in our case, in a bit. Everything will still be there when you come back to it.
You are BOTH so very brave to discuss this stressful situation with us. Although not of a military background, my son has gone through many of the stages you discussed, has experienced a breakdown and also, like yourself, Bobby, is experiencing a relapse. As always you have been open and honest with us all and I'm sure that many more like myself, appreciate it and wish you well on your journey back to a kinder, gentler place in your own mind. 💗
GOD BLESS YOU BOTH. My ex husband was a Vietnam vet who suffered flashbacks and no one had heard of PTSD. He never went to the VA for help. He left his family and we never heard from him again. My son's God father was also a Vietnam vet and eventually committed suicide in his fifties. But I'm so glad you're getting help. The relative who wrote the nasty emails has psychological problems and they are envious of your success. Keep strong and take your meds. Also stay as busy as you can. If you can't sleep at night make sure you take a nap during the day. Hopefully the VA can change your meds because the ones you are taking may be too strong. If you can enroll in a yoga class it will help you learn to relax and breath. Good luck.
Our parents come from a different generation that don’t understand mental health. It was suck it up buttercup. I hope everything gets better for you.❤🇨🇦
that's y they have the saying don't let the family u come from ruin the family U have created !!!! family can be the most toxic people because of jealousy, your doing better then they are in life and they feel obligated to have what u have, and they see u happy and they're not. Don't let it stress you block as much as you can.... 💚💚💚💚
This is very very true
My husband is a Vietnam Navy vet. We totally understand! We also have a very dysfunctional family!! Makes life very difficult! Love you guys!!❤❤
I’m so sorry America was so terrible to your husband, I have a great respect for any veteran ❤
So do I! ❤
Bobby you said you had to figure things out, you have have figured it out. I'm so glad that you reached out for help. You are giving Grandma a place that can take care of her, like your father. Love your family, and pray for you guys always.
I’m am amazed at the fact that you faced those excruciating conversations with your grandma and your dad. My heart was racing as you talked about how hard it was! BUT YOU FACED IT!! I really, really hope you at least give yourself credit for having those conversations and facing it. You deserve a million pats on the back for that- and for working so hard on getting better. You rock.
You are not a failure Bobby. I'm just glad you recognized something was wrong and asked for help. Take care of yourself. ❤
Bobby you are in my prayers. I was praying after I watched the laundry video as that was not your normal self. I am so thankful you are getting help. You are so brave and full of love to share your struggle.
Please know that you are loved and appreciated by not only your family but your internet family as well. As someone who has had experience with losing more than 1 person to suicide, I am so heartbroken you are feeling this way. You are not a failure, you are human and it’s ok to need help.
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story and bringing awareness to something a lot of people don’t understand. You are loved and appreciated.
Prayers
Thank you so much for your kind words and support 🙏🥰🤗
Oh my gosh! I'm SO sorry you and Cambriea are going through this!! And to have a family member attacking you like this is just so heartbreaking!! My prayers are with your whole family. You will come through this and it will be better and you will be stronger on the other side. I promise you that, Bobby!! ❤🙏
Thank you so much!!🙏🥰
Bobby and Cambriea, so sorry that a family member attacking you. 😢 Bobby, caregiving is difficult at best. I was caregiver for my parents when they were diagnosed with cancer... It definitely changed me. You didn't fail Grandma Gloria. You recognized how difficult caregiving is. Take care of you, Bobby. You matter. ❤ Love ❤ and HUGS 🫂
Dear Bobby and Cambria, this was such a powerful video. It should be shared at least throughout the military mental healthcare community. Thank you so much for sharing. I love you both.
What an incredible video. Raw and Honest. I feel you have helped many people by doing this. I know you will see the sunshine again Bobby. I consider this a BIG WIN. Grand ma will be fine. Glad your Dad will care for her. You are NOT a failure. You are a hero. Facing the hardest things that most of us have not experienced. God Bless Our Vets. It took such courage to have such hard conversations with your Dad and Grand ma. Your immediate family needs you healthy and present. You and them are what matters right now❤❤❤ I will be here when you are back. Take all the time you need. Big hug Bobby and Cambria❤❤
Bobby..it took SO much strength to ASK for help..SO thankful Cambria was aware that something was off
Anyone who has ever dealt with ANY form of PTSD or mental health issues UNDERSTANDS
You are NOT a failure by any means..don't even think that!!
Just KEEP being YOURSELVES!!❤❤❤
Believe me...I UNDERSTAND!!
Send love, hugs & prayers for ALL of you
Praying for you, Bobby. Also, praying for your family 🙏🏼✝️
I appreciate that
You are a VERY wise and well-spoken young man. You are so brave to verbalize your issues to your wife, your counselor and most of all ...US, your viewers. You are doing such a public service with this video. I applaud and salute you sir! You have an amazing wife and family. You will get through this because of your amazing self-awareness. As a nurse I have to say one thing, PLEASE do not discontinue your medication without the knowledge and advice of the prescriber! You mentioned that you stopped it and did not mention whether or not your prescriber was aware or not. I have a great deal of admiration for you, Bobby.>>>JUST A GRANDMA IN ARKANSAS
Bobby, the hardest thing to do is to ask for help. You can do that, and that's so much of the battle. Take care.❤🙏🏾
I’m here to say… you are not alone Bobby... 27 years for me, thank goodness I have support from a few great people and good meds ( I’m still taking). I commend you Bobby with the strong awareness that the #1 thing is to speak to someone, as with you my spouse of 45 years this year has been my #1 from the first day. Helping me looking things up, helping me try and understand, assuring me, taking my hand to the bathroom to brush my teeth after days of laying on the couch. I too could not sleep, would lay there all night, eyes wide open and not sleep and feel nothing.. not even tired the next day. Our kids too did not understand but we tried as best we could to explain what was happening .. I have good and bad days, some still involve no motivation but I’m in a place where I know as long as I stay on my meds I’ll be fine again in a few days.. I read a lot of affirmations , still do, tried to work on my inner peace as someone once said “that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem…” and that stuck, and my kids and the thought of what I’d put the people through that REALLY mattered in my life.
Over the years I have learned who they are and just how easy it is to let go when you put yourself first.
I am sending you both strength and ((Hugs)) .. will look forward to updates over time. Grandma I know understands, just sorry Freda will miss her “walker rides”..
One day at a time Bobby.. ❤️
Cambriea … take care of you too.
My husband retired from the Air Force. We had a good life while he was in the service and still have a good life. We’ve been blessed. My daughter now works as a counselor because she wants to help people.
Bobby you are doing people who watch your videos a service by sharing your story.
Please people, don’t be afraid to seek help!
It takes a lot of strength to reach out for help. I admire you did do that. You are so right. You have to focus on your health first. I’m so sorry Bobby you’re hurting. We will all be here when you’re ready to come back to RUclips. I’m sending you prayers and positive vibes to you and your family. Take care. ❤🤙
Stay strong Bobby! Keep the faith! Thank you for sharing.. you don’t know how many lives you could possibly touch by being vulnerable.
You are winning for your family Bobby❤️. You are showing strength to your kids and wife that many people don't have. It is never a failure to take care of yourself, NEVER! God bless you!!!
Thanks so much
My Husband has ptsd and depression from a mining accident and having a brain injury from it he has a hard time take care of yourself Bobby if anyone thinks bad of you they just don’t understand
Bobby and Cambria......I am a mum, a grandmother and a great -grandmother. Bless your dear hearts for opening up the way you have. Having suffered with depression, anxiety and at times, also very serious suicidal thoughts, on and off throughout my life, my heart broke while watching this video. Please keep on with your counselling, your meds and staying close to those who love you so much. I liken my bad times to that of trying to swim through mud. It's so, so hard to put ourselves first when we need to when we've been brought up to do the opposite. You are being so brave to do so. We also have a couple of family members who have caused and continue to cause so much heartbreak and stress to me at 81 and my dear 97 year old husband. We thank God for the rest of our family who love and support us. You, Cambria, your children, grandma, your dad and your precious fur and feathered people will be in my prayers, hearts and thoughts always. God Bless. Love, Dorothy.
My heart goes out to you and Cambriea. This is a very hard thing to go through. Grandma's always say the right things to make us feel better. God bless her heart and God bless you Bobby. This community is strong and we stand with and behind you. I'll be praying for you 🙏
You've got this 😊💪
My heart and prayers are with you, Bobby. Life is difficult, especially dealing with depression. you deserve every bit of peace and happiness. Continue to reach out and accept the support you need. I hope things level out for you soon.
Hey Bobby, I get you. I have been where you are now. It feels as though you have fallen down a well. So far down that you can’t see any light and then as you get better you start to see a tiny bit of light and then a bit more and a bit more as you climb back up out of the well. Well done for asking for help. As for your Dad, someone who has never suffered with depression can’t even start to understand what you go through. We are here for you when you feel ready to come back. Sending you all my love and hope you start to see more light soon xx
Thank you🥰 My Dad understands now and has been very supportive in helping me get through this. Thank you for support.
Thank you for your words and insights. Like you and many others I too struggle with mental illness. There really can be a measure of peace and support felt when you know you’re not alone. The fact you reach out and ask for help when you struggle shows just how strong you are, please give yourself grace for that alone!! There is NO shame EVER in asking for help. This is a part of life for so many and the highs and lows are our challenge to learn how to work through and deal with via any means necessary, therapy, medication, support groups, loving family etc. Just today I heard a quote that struck a cord with me relating to this as well. “Just because something is hard does NOT mean you’re doing something wrong.” Prioritizing your health and immediate family is always going to be first. While people often feel like they can/should express their (negative or hurtful) opinions does not make their words true or helpful. As you stated this affects everyone within your sphere of influence and by addressing this head on via this platform, I can’t even imagine how many people will be blessed. Thank You and Cambria for being willing to share. Here’s a virtual hug for your whole family 🤗 Wishing you much peace.❤
You got your Gramma out of a situation where she was not safe to live on her own. You saw that and got the ball rolling. She's had a wonderful winter with your family..and now your Dad and the family in Wisconsin can take over and keep her safe there. You and your family will always have the best memories of the time spent with Gramma in your home. Take care
Bobby you are smart, you are caring, you are important. Please never take your life, your family will feel like failures. May God help you through this difficult time.
Kudos to you both for sharing today. My heart is broken for your family. My family also has issues with mental health. I will keep you all in my prayers & the heck with the crummy family members & others that want to be evil. You know what is best for you. Love this family whom ive never met. Keep, keeping it real. ❤❤❤❤❤
So glad you and Cambria have each other. I'm only half way through the video but I'm certain your Grandmother and Everyone Else SHOULD understand. Thank you for sharing with us. Prayers for you all❤️
Thank you so much!
Bobby you are one of the very best. You deserve to be well. If you had cancer it wouldn’t be your fault. You have a mental illness that is not your fault. You truly have tried to help grandma. It’s just not your fault if you are not able to do that. Please Bobby take care and take all the help you can get. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Please Bobby please don’t leave us. Please don’t take your life. Your children and wife would never be able to live without you. Losing you would completely destroy them. I named my depression. Her name is Edie. She is a miserable hateful thing. When she try’s to interrupt my life I always tell her to F off. She cannot steal my peace. Try giving it a name and understand that you are in control not your Edie. I love you and your precious family. Please know that you truly matter to all of us.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
It takes a lot to do a video like thins. I’m proud of you for knowing you needed to use the tools. I don’t have PTSD but I do also deal with depression and suicidal tendencies. This is such an important video. You probably helped save someone. My prayers are with y’all and know that you’re in my thoughts. ❤️
Taking care of the elderly takes a lot out of you I was my moms caregiver for awhile fortunately she's doing good now
I suffered all winter with depression and anxiety this year. It can get soooo bad. I get it. I'm so sorry you have this problem. Was feeling great before my big drop over the winter too. Sometimes you just need the meds. I think you guys are amazing, and your channels bring me so much joy. Please know you are not alone and so many people love you. Most of all, your wife and kids.
As someone who has clinical depression and PTSD watching this is hard, but I'm so glad I am able to watch it. I'm proud of you for being here and making this video. You are amazing for recognising the signs and actively moving towards a positive outcome. Being on medication isn't a weakness, it's a strength to recognise what's necessary. While you will miss grandma you need to do what is right for you and your mental health. I'm sure grandma doesn't think you failed. She's had an awesome adventure and now she is ready for the next chapter of her life. I'm so glad you asked for help. Thankyou for sharing. Will be thinking of all of you xxx
Bobby, it has taken me 5 days to have the courage to watch this video. I am so proud of you and myself for allowing this. We don’t pick our family but we do pick their involvement in our lives. You are the most important person to yourself! Please find a way to love that person, you are worthy of your own self love. It’s hard to forgive, many things in life will always make the past reappear. Take care of you!
Canadian fans support you! As a Veterans wife our family stands with you and Loves and supports you with our prayers ❤
Your strength is amazing, Bobby. Thank you for having the courage to take time and tell others about your issues. Many won't understand, but think about the ones who will and be helped by being vocal. Thank you for speaking up and speaking out. PTSD, depression, and anxiety are real. You are no less strong because you need help. Hugs and love to you and your family. Reach out if you need help. (Wife of retired USAF veteran)
This is a terrible subject to discuss, but it is absolutely needed. You are amazingly brave and have probably helped a lot of people either to pull themselves away from those thoughts or to know what to look for in someone they love. Thank you for your service. Stay strong. We’re all behind you both.
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Thanks Bobby. My husband DID give in to that voice in his head. It DID mean that the struggle was over for him... but for me... I am still coming to terms with the loss (and I was angry with him for a long time). Grateful to you for talking about your struggles. And don't listen to ignorant people who think they know better.
This was a rough episode for me. First of all Bobby I want you to know I am praying for you and thinking about you. Sharing your thoughts, feelings, and very private issues out on the world wide web is not easy but, I am so glad that you are sharing and reached out for some help! And, please do not beat yourself up over your Grandma. I know you wanted this to work out so badly but, your mental health comes first. My mom passed away last May. She was on hospice care the last 5 weeks. And, I was her caregiver. That was the hardest and most rewarding job all rolled into one. I will keep my story short as I can. I lost my dad, sister, and mom in 6 short years. Back in 2020 my sister passed away in January. My aunt and uncle who were snowbirds and lived in Arizona part time finally moved back home to Washington state that September. My uncle had cancer and really was not doing well. Time went on and I began to do their errands for them here and there. Well, on December 24th. I showed up to their home and my uncle was in their bedroom and my aunt and I was in the living room and he unalived himself right at that moment. He did not give any clues that he was depressed, did not show any signs that you spoke about. Although he knew because of the cancer he had maybe a couple of months left at the very least. It is going on 4 years now and I still cannot find all the words to say on how we all felt on that day. Just know you are not alone . In fact, I went to seek some councel of my own after this. Stay the course, you got this!!!
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Thank you for sharing your story, and thank you for the support 🤗🥰
Hi Bobby, i work in MH and have to give you credit for speaking up in this video. MH is an illness but you are taking the right steps and things will get better. One day at a time. You will laugh and smile again 🙏💚
My heart has just literally broke watching this the sadness in Bobby's eyes is just awful and being attacked by family is just so cruel Bobby and cambria you are both an inspiration speaking out on this and I pray that you will both get the help and support you both need right now it cannot of been easy sharing this aspect of your private life but Bobby you are no failure your so brave even if it doesn't feel like it now with medication councillors and the love of your family and pets and just knowing we are all behind you should give you hope knowing your not alone keep fighting Bobby you got this ❤
This talk will help you and others. Mental Health is a crisis in this country. More people need to share their stories and not sweep it under the rug. Even though Grandma is returning to Wisconsin, the work you did in cleaning out her house is still a great thing. Hopefully, you can find a group of vets to meet with regularly even with the counseling.
Thank you for sharing, Bobby. And thank you for pushing the vet center for an appointment. Some people would have accepted an appointment for the following week or later when they were in dire need like you and experienced major devastation while waiting. Great job advocating for yourself and letting them know exactly what was going on and how you were feeling. As far as grandma, just know that caregiving is a full time job that is very stressful. You are making the best choice for your mental health and for her care.
Life is so hard as it is you don't need the negativity from family. Bobby there are so many people that have to take medication for depression it's frightening. Remember you can't just stop any meds, you must wean yourself off, which I'm sure you must have done.
I cannot even imagine what you are going through. You are incredible for.being so raw and transparent about your personal struggles. You dont even know how many prople this will help. Please take csre of yourself and continue to fight against these internal struggles. You are enough, you are strong, you can do this! One day at a time. Cambriea you are incredible for being the steady in this storm for him. You guys can get through this!
Guys.. I also have severe mental health issues so I can understand most of this.. all I am going to say is look after yourself and each day is a day closer to getting back to normal (normal for people like us ).. thank you for sharing Bobby my heartfelt love to you all. Cambria keep being yourself lovely and look after yourself and baby .you will both get through this bad time .take care x
Thank you Bobby and Cambria for sharing with us your Utube family/friends about the awareness of your family situations etc.. That healing for yourself on speaking about it, knowing about it and reaching out for help. It’s not a sign on weakness, you care and you are a human being. I thank you so very much for serving this great country and I am truly sorry you go through this. My father was a Korean vet that he says was the forgotten war. My daughter was a MP in Iraq and also has PTSD, nite terrors, survivors guilt. I am glad there is some help out there but there’s never enough help for the ones that want or need it. I’m honored you spoke out to us because we do care about you and your family!🥰 That’s fine if you do not put out another video for awhile…..you take care of you first! 🙏
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This sounds like the hardest decision to make. Knowing when to put yourself first and do what needs to be done to get the appropriate help. I hope the best for you and your family, especially dealing with mental health issues. I believe if it has worked out before it will happen again. Give yourself grace and patience during this time.
Oh man Bobby. I could tell you were not feeling well mentally & physically during that laundry room makeover. You have been so busy these past few months & it was really a lot for 1 person to take on. The travel, the move, the work, etc..... And your back hurting. Time to take care of you. Your family loves you so much & I am so glad you spoke up & let Cambriea know. They would miss you so bad. I have dealt with depression off & on most of my life & did try to end it all in 2005. Now ever since I got back to my faith, I am good. I know all of us who watch you, feel much love for yall as a family. We will keep you in our thoughts & prayers. You are so right about animals knowing. I am so glad you have kids & animals. They do bring so much joy. PLEASE keep taking care of yourself & take it easy for awhile. The good thing is: there is now baby stuff that Cambriea can talk about here when you are away from the channel. We all understand. Much love and prayers. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 PLEASE take care. ❤🫂
Thank you for sharing this with us. Prayers for all of you!
Praying for you Bobby and for your family. Putting yourself first when you need help is NOT selfish! Do what you need to do to get through this time. You're a strong, sensitive man. You CAN overcome these thoughts and feelings. God bless you. ❤🙏
🙏🥰thank you for your support.
Your family needs you! You need to do what you have to do in order to be there for them. Bless you ❤️❤️ take care.
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Bobby, l know what your talking about. Please just keep talking. You have people who love you.❤
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I’m so sorry for the experience you and your family are going through right now. I’m a therapist in private practice and I want you to know that I know there is plenty of room for improvement in my profession. I’m proud of you for reaching out for help. I’m curious about the trigger for your recent situation. I’m hearing parallel narrative that involves your family of origin. Dad being dismissive and invalidating *could* be a factor to explore more deeply in a therapy setting. I’m a childhood trauma therapist so obviously I’m inclined to want to know more about your childhood experience and how that might be affecting current functioning. You’re a good person to be open and honest about what you’re going through. Unfortunately this is more common than you might think. Being real makes this experience a conduit to make your audience feel comfortable being honest too ❤ personal disclosure: both my parents are from Wisconsin and I LOVE hearing the Wisconsin accent and relate to that as “home” despite also living in the south like you all do now. You WILL work through this, you are doing all the right things.
Thank you for your support. I am sure talking about growing up and my Dad is on the list of what we will be going over.
Thank goodness you and Canbriea recognized your depression and you sought help. Stay strong, you two. The family that is bad mouthing you on social media is hiding behind the social media to do this, coward. I'm sorry to hear grandma is going back to Wisconsin, but it is the right decision for all at this time. I'm glad you shared your battle with depression with us, it makes you and all of us more aware and stronger. I wish for you and your family the best. My strength to you. ❤
Oh Bobby praying for you and Cambria and your sweet family! You are definitely not a failure! We all will be here when you are ready!!!!
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I lost my oldest sibling and nephew to depression. Thanks for sharing your insight. I'm sorry to hear about your Grandma and family discord. I hope things get better for you.
Sorry to hear about your nephew and sibling. Thank you for sharing and thank you for your support 🥰
This is my life too, Bobby. So, I truly get it... especially staying busy to save myself from myself. You're not alone! This took an amazing amount of bravery!
You have to take care of you! You did take care of grandma. Now someone else can help. So you can take care of your illness for you and your family.
You bobby are already a brave winner. Because being aware and responsable like you need very huge courage + sharing with us is an amazing service for your community and humanity. Winner can honestly ask help and support. We love you, proud of you and your wife + kids + pets. Thank you for trying to solve the transformation of your grandma. Take care feel always our support and love and pray of us on your heart🙏🏻🤍
I appreciate that!
My dad was in the army and suffered with ptsd. We lost him 5 years ago to suicide. The difference here is he would never go talk to anyone, and nobody really knew what he was going through mentally. Im so glad that you are in tune with yourself and are getting the help that you need ❤ hopefully things get better for you soon!
My heart hurts for you. I know its not easy to live with that. My husband still has nightmares and wakes up screaming. He has good days and bad days. Its very hard. I pray you get back to good days and can put this bad time away in the shadows. ❤❤❤🙏🙏
I'm so sorry you're going through this difficult time in your life. I totally get it and have passed through it. I will pray for you and your family. Take it one moment at a time and take time for you to feel better. It's not easy, and those who never felt the way you feel right now don't understand and can't understand to no fault of their own. I truly believe that you will get through it, and I will support you and Cambriea in this chapter of your life. God bless you and keep you safe and healthy. 🙏❤
Thank you for your support 🙏🥰
I am so sooooo sorry that you two have to go through this B.S. You do not deserve this at all. Please please stay strong, God will pull you all through this. 😢😢 Family can hurt you more than anything else on earth. I know this. It has been part of my daily life for the past 7 years. I can truly empathize with you Bobby. I have no one like you do but my Dr. and she's my saving grace. Stay strong and God will bless you all. Luv u guys ❤❤❤❤❤
You are so brave to share this private side of your life. You WILL save lives. Prayers for you and your family.
I didn’t watch all of this because of my own depression is so bad right now, but I want both of you to know, I understand. I’ll come back and watch the whole video when I’m mentally able. Just know you are loved and appreciated.
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Bobby, you saved Grandma Gloria when she needed saving. The time will come when you do it again. You are not a failure. You gave her time with the kids to get to know them, and. You gave your kids the time to know her and to learn that there will come a time when they will have to step up for one of their elders. Job well done! Grandma will do fine back at home with her son and good friends i pray. Please keep us up to speed on your emotions and progress..we care! Cambria,hang in there Z, rest and get as much relaxation as you can.❤❤