How to introduce yourself | Kevin Bahler | TEDxLehighRiver
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- Опубликовано: 11 ноя 2014
- This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. How you introduce yourself is usually the weakest explanation of who you really are.
grant writer, Allentown Symphony Association
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Incredible speech with an incredible message performed incredibly within an incredibly boring crowd
The way you said it was perfect for the story and what he was talking about.
Incredible response.
pretty incredible response.
No they are just surprised from the incredible messade
FOR REAL BRO NO CAP, DEAD PEOPLE SIT IN THERE
Is there even anyone there? How is no one laughing? What a boring audience... Proving his point exactly.
Basically because he’s telling a story that they find themselves in there, no one gonna laughs out loud when the story is about them ( especially when the show is more about confession than Ted Talk )... But, I bet with u, many of them are smiling right there ( thinking how wrong they were when they were young ).
I can Relate this with myself :v
No, they didn't have a mic, hear closely around 8:08, you can hear his mic picking up audience laughter for like a second
Maybe they didn’t find him funny
There's no audience., Only a Camera man.
Also Kevin doesn't care about the crowd.. Kevin doesn't care about fitting in, Kevin doesn't care about you negative people. Gooo Kevin
Good one!
😂😂
Absolfuckinglootley
Be like Kevin
Kevin is not a preson, Kevin is an idea
"Allow me to close with my introduction."
That's such a powerful statement idk why
i think its a format advice by ted because many of ted presentations ends that way.
Were the audience microphones turned off or were his jokes' reactions painfully underwhelming?
+John Miller This was so hard to watch that I honestly don't know
+John Miller I feel like it was deliberate.
You do hear a laugh around 8:12 in the video so I believe the audience doesn't have any mic
and over😂
If you heard a laugh how's that mean they don't have a mic
instead of they do
"Hello, my name is meaningless and I am my job" says a lot :(
2019
I come here because of my teacher (Kevin Bahler) .I’m his student at ACE ( Australia Center Education). He’s a good teacher. Teacher You’re Amazing !❤️
I wish he was my teacher
@@PeepoGrantedsame bro same
His advice are so good, we shouldn't make safe choices but choices that we care about. Also, I love the way he waves his hand to say Hi... It looks like he's opening a door by telekinesis
Naïdé Bétis and his smile also
suni choudhury Advice doesn't have a plural form(with the exception of use in business and legal documents) so although I know it sounds weird "advice are" is grammatically correct if the person speaking is referring to multiple advice that were given.
Yeah why do we associate waving a hand and being friendly as I don't know something that we don't do.
I Guess The Crowd Died Of Laughter, That’s a Why No Laughing Was Heard.
😂
😂😂
saddening to see such negative comments. but the whole purpose of this speech is well presented. great job my friend.
I did.
Great content, just not delivery.
@@LuisGonzalez-yv6kn Agreed
But I don't understand at all. What was the message?
@@LuisGonzalez-yv6kn that's the real lesson here. Delivery is how messages get from the mind of one to the minds of many.
Tough crowd
elix909 geez at least they clapped at the end
@@zephaudi they clapped it was over
So what I learned from this video, is that you should not fear rejection, when trying to make a friend. That’s amazing, I have a good amount of respect to this man. ♥️
Kevin, nice job! I'm sorry to read the comments of negativity and immaturity from some viewers. I commend you for your courage to do what you believe in and not worry what people think or say. But, anyway, nicely done. I am going to review the way I introduce myself. All the best. Don't let the nay sayers bring you down.
It is "amusing" to see how comments here are like an echo of the high-school years as described by Kevin Bahler : basically, you are laugh at simply because you do things that other people don't do, because you do them your own way, or simply because of trying to be yourself.
What I see here is an act of courage from a man that overcomes his fears and difficulties to share the scares of his past. And all of that, in the hope he could help at least some of us to have a better life. I would be proud to know Kevin and being among his friends...
I agree with u,cavin you are great i really learned something from your video thank you cavin ignore this hate comments from aggressive people.
exactly right, Charlie and Sylvain
Social Proof dude, Beta Males are not accepted
Exactly right. We have a different paths.
Inspiring speech. From now on I'm going to stop trying to 'teach' my autistic daughter the normal way of introducing herself and just allow her to say "hi I'm Lucy and I love Five Nights at Freddies"
At the end, I thought he was going to say "Hi, I'm Kevin, and I like finger painting."
I will die
I love your energy Kevin! I am forever on the lookout for people exactly like yourself, people willing to deep dive into conversation, be authentic, even if that means not being popular -thank you for sharing your wisdom and your dose of humor, both very much appreciated.
I watched this tedtalk +2 years ago and i have been trying to find it for a few days now, I live in Iraq and the community here doesn’t really celebrate differences, no matter how brave, bold, confident you are as a person, you will most certainly-always- have a hard time introducing yourself, let alone to be yourself. This ted talk is eye opening, yes it is challenging to put your true self out there but if that is the cost of getting REAL people in your life, be it. 💜
I feel the same as the rest of you. WTF is up with that audience? I fell in love with this man. His charisma, his charm, the entirety of his demeanor. He's so precious. And I understood him. I wonder why we could barely hear them but you could hear see laughter from the distance. He made so many valid points. Definitely took notes on this man's advice. We need more Kevin's. Xx
Hey. I am Micah Hobson and I adore music. I spent years learning various instruments and i'm going out into the world to share my compositions
I never introduce myself in that way unless I'm forced to by probing questions. I like to remain mysterious. A name should suffice.
Micah Hobson
Ahmed Rasheed Yes?
Micah Hobson that's impressive!
chemicals collider eh. All I did was pick these things up. You can be impressed when I learn how to fly
One of my favorite TEDx talks. Thanks Kevin for giving voice to what we need to say, but have been afraid to.
"I would never have my true friends if I wasn't willing to be rejected by everybody else"
-Kevin Bahler
Once you let go, you get ready recieve (:
It's years later and I wished RUclips allowed us to like a video twice. I'm so sad past me already gave this video a like. Somehow this presentation feels more epic watching it again. This time I wish I was in the audience so I could do a standing ovation for this talk!! Kevin's points here really helped change not only how I introduce myself to people, but more importantly how I define my personality. Every college student needs to watch this!! Bravo! Just bravo, point so wonderfully made!!
Hi, my name is Lauren, and I like to secretly pretend that I go to Hogwarts instead of regular muggle school.
xD
AHHSAHAHAHH
Wish there was one😄
Hi
Hi Lauren. I'm Arham, and I used to pretend that whenever I went to the railway station that if I run into the pillar, I'll actually get to the other side :D
Great TED talk, this was just what I needed for this week, thank you for sharing.
me too
This is simple but so powerful. Personally I'm struggling with introducing myself to new faces or friends because I care too much about how they think about me and I'm afraid of giving out a bad first impression. But it is exactly this fear that stops me from being a passionate speaker as I can recall how dispassionate I have been talking to new friends, playing all the safe cards. They could only think of me as a dispassionate, low-energy guy who doesn't like to talk or socialize with people. I think it is time that I should stop caring so much what others think of me, and just be open and passionate about the things I truly love.
I love love love this Ted Talk. Kevin is wonderful, as I look back, I used to always think to myself during introductions "how can I introduce myself and not sound boring?" because let's be honest, most introductions or "name a fun fact about you" usually aren't as interesting as everyone tries to fit in or sound the same. It always falls down to thinking "what do I love to do?" and it always stands out to people. I love being what people today call weird. Embracing myself attracts those alike and keeps those who aren't away! Subhan'Allah. Be yourself!
Bro you are so excellent perso5 I want to your contact number so please pin your mobile number
That was an inspiring speech. Good points were made that will help me in my speech class.
Came on said the truth
Thank you Kevin, I'm going to work on this from now on! We usually tend to respond automatically, but we're in a real world crowded with real people
Kevin this talk was awesome! It warmed my heart. Thanks for sharing your experience on self-love and being yourself :)
Perfect timing for me to come across this talk. Blown away by it's simple and incredible message. Thank you Kevin.
you can see how passionate he is about his last statement. the way his facial expression becomes so focused, you can see the fire in his eyes
Great speech. I totally agree that in our day and age, we are losing the authenticity and become a grey mass. Everyone is talking the same way, commenting the same way, lives life the same way, and very few dare to break free and pursue their uniqueness in spite of everything. Go Kevin!
I really don't care if I would have been the only one in the audience but I would have given a standing ovation to this guy.
Thank you Kevin! That was awesome ! I am happy for that thought. Everybody is wonderfully unique!
His speech makes sense on what is the sad but real truth about today's society. Good job Kevin!
hey I'm aigerim. I'm from Kazakhstan and I like music. I'm not a musician, but I feel every melody :) I want to travel all around the world, take weird photos and meet interesting people. Also I love God and my biggest wish is to meet Him on a heaven. I'm lazy, but a little bit motivation and I can do a lot work. Yep ...these words are from my heart
대단히 유용한 연설.강의 감사합니다
hiee
chemicals collider superb
riti dwivedi yaaaas :)
chemicals collider super
Kevins message is sincere and pure ......what I find sad are people who are quick to voice negativity and judgment ....is it any wonder the incidence of bullying is on the rise ...as I said "sad". Thank you Kevin your message has been absorbed.
Your speech is so creative Kevin, not everyone has the courage to apply your advices, people now hide behind brands/family name and so on, we're unable to value the Human's spirit anymore , we need arguments to admire people we need materialistic evidences to love people and that's sad.
Honesty brings it own satisfaction than the safety of comfort zone. I wish everybody starts sharing their passion, and what makes them happy after watching this.
Following what makes you passionate always reaps in the best rewards and the friends that are passionate about the same things are a great echo of that.
It's clear the audience was filled with muggles/basics/robots/I don't understand why you don't want to sheep people. I laughed every time he said a joke. It was pretty much the reflection of everything he was discussing, it's just those people don't have anything about them that they would like to share without an alcoholic beverage or the right timing. So they will act like they don't understand strange, they will seem above it. But they all know they are weird and strange and by that I simply mean unique and do something a bit off the path from others around them. I think this was great.
Jay Lupin Yeah!
Hello Jay,
I couldn't agree more with your comment. Most people can't even walk up to another person unless they have an alcoholic beverage in their hand. The audience was definitely, not adequate for this speech and gave Kevin a hard time. Hopefully, they learned something from him and became better people themselves.
Thank you Kevin. Your talk was shared at TEDx Kuala Lumpur today and the audience really appreciated it. I watched it again afterwards and found inspiration in your message. Thanks again.
First of all, congratulations to the guy for at least having a go.
And sure he lacks the charisma of Bill Clinton and Barack Obama, but this is a TED Talk.
What can he do to make himself 'be alive' and full of enthusiasm?
What can he do to better connect with his audience?
It was interesting to see he started off with closed gestures and later warmed up to so big wide open ones.
Many have commented that his humour failed or missed the mark...If I had more time, I'd watch it again to see if he closed off when the joke appeared to bomb. This closed gesture is a protective one, a secure one.
It does take a lot of practice and hard work over multiple presentations to pull off a great presentation. Given time, I sure this guy can nail one in the future. I wish him well.
Murray Farrell MC I also noticed that he does not move his legs or if he did, it's only occasional.
He's a product of Toastmasters and my guess is that he's locked into a
style he learnt in that environment standing behind a lectern. There are
many who advocate "The Speaker Stance" and this is what he has
adopted. It's not wrong, but it's a great approach to grow speaker
skills.
I searched unsuccessfully to find his Toastmasters 'level'. Maybe he
will demonstrate another style later on as he hones his skills. But
please give him credit for not rocking or displaying aimless movement
due to nervous energy.
Ted X is different from Ted.
My favorite TED so far! Thank you Kevin, I’m glad this was recommended to me! ♥️
The crowds smile and chuckles but remain much quieter for respectful reasons. They showed their appreciation after the talk with an applause
Hey man, thank you for sharing that, I guess the talk of letting go of the safety of conformity is something truly important, because one of the best qualities anyone can have is an autonomous thought, and being honest about it makes it a lot easier to relate to others (at least with those willing to welcome any diversity of opinion)
The title of this talk is so simple but the social pyche grounds it covers is phenomenal
engaging. loved it, some really challenging thoughts delivered in an entertaining way. Wish there was more content of Kevin, he's a natural presenter!
Your speech inspired me Kevin. I will surely rephrase the way I introduce myself next time. Thank you!
Such an incredible TED talk. One of the best I've seen
What an endearing talk. And so spot on. Well done Kevin! Will share this with several friends without hesitation
Thanks for this, Kevin! I've always thought this way but always thought it was just my personality. I love what you said about giving up fear of rejection by everyone else in order to meet your true friends. I DO wish you would have given some coaching on how to do my own intro though!
This was an interesting speech. We should always introduce ourselves by saying what we are passionate about, yet we all mention our jobs and our position. It is a sort of comparison we quickly make between individuals we meet. We automatically view people a certain way dependant on how they make a living rather than how they spend their free time.
This is fantastic! Spoken clearly, message well received, and displayed courage honestly sharing his story.
As for some of the comments that are from people more focused on criticism then growth, you have a new introduction you can use "Hi, my name is...... and I have such low self esteem that I feel the need to try put others down to make myself look better using contrast" which I think is incredibly fitting.
There's nothing wrong with your speech, that isn't cancelled out by what's right with your speech.
You have a great message, and you shared it.
The trolls here are simply people who have low self esteem, are insecure, and lack purpose in their lives.
Keep up the great work Kevin.
The structure of his talk was very powerful and complimented his eloquence.
Excellent talk. It´s all about fitting in and peer pressure. As you grow old, you let go of all your ¨shoulds¨and ¨musts¨, and you are finally telling the truth about yourself and you are also finally making friends with the people you truly like, That´s why introductions are so important. The truer they are, the better the communication and the more thruthful the friendships become.
Hi! My name is Sima and I kept thinking there wasn't an audience
Hi Kevin. it is absolutely well said. Your talk definitely inspired me how to introduce myself from now and on. I am also tired of introducing myself in a way to fit in. Cheers.
Saying what are truly happy to you, and looking for others whose have these commons and love it!
Great message by Kevin. To 'be a kid' and not hide your humanity. Generally not being afraid to do the right thing.
Very interesting, Kevin Bahler. I will use it. Thanks.
That's nice
I enjoyed this. Two thumbs up!
I loved this! So many times, I never say what's on my mind for fear of judgment. That's going to stop.
Hi Kevin. I love the way you are and what you stand for. My name is Reuben and I love being grateful for everything God has given me and like putting smile on people's faces.
Wow, Kevin. You did a great job! I really liked your talk!
Here's a poem for my appreciation. Thank you!
Empathy
Amidst the shadows that taunt my soul,
Demons beckon, their allure taking its toll.
In the darkest corners, they seductively sway,
As I battle my demons day by day.
Emotional turmoil and unbearable stress,
The weight upon my heart, I confess.
The darker side of my personality lures,
Whispering temptations, offering no cures.
In moments when all seems lost,
When darkness engulfs, consuming the most,
A flicker of light, a belief holds true,
In empathy’s power, I find strength anew.
Through shattered dreams and broken trust,
Empathy lingers, a shield of just.
In understanding others, I see my own plight,
A connection that guides me towards the light.
But in the depths of despair, doubts creep,
Will empathy alone be enough to keep?
In this chaotic world of pain and sorrow,
Can it withstand the trials we must borrow?
I question the depth of my belief,
As demons whisper, sowing seeds of grief.
Yet deep within, a glimmer remains,
A flickering flame that steadfastly sustains.
For empathy, though fragile in its grace,
Holds the power to heal, to erase.
It bridges the gap between our hearts,
In moments of darkness, it imparts.
So, I shall fight against the raging tide,
Embracing empathy, I will not hide.
Though wavering at times, I will be strong,
Finding solace in the understanding song.
For even when demons clamor loud,
I know empathy can break through the shroud.
It binds us together and helps us mend,
A force capable of bringing darkness to an end.
So, let empathy be my guiding light,
A beacon of hope in the darkest night.
With it, I’ll navigate this troubled shore,
And find my way to peace once more.
By The New Aged Diogenes ( After Rehab )
He really grows on you by the end. What a great guy.
his way of speaking is so easy to understand. wonderful speech.
I think his speech was very well delivered. The audience was fine. I don’t think he was looking for laughs. His timing was perfect.
Thanks for the great tips Kevin.
Wow, that was fantastic! Kevin Bahler, you are added to my list of people I admire.
It was particularly thought-provoking to hear about how one's very identity of themselves and their life is related to how one introduces themselves, or at least their attitude when they do it. Which would seem to be a no-brainer, but it really isn't, because as Kevin said, people want to fit in, instead of being who they are.. o.O
I want to be Kevin's friend he's super awesome!😄 Too much anxiety in this world already, thank you for throwing in some positivity spice.
this was great, especially the ending. The crowd was wack but God rewarded you through the outreach of the people that weren't in the room for years to come. (Feb.21, 2024)
I wish I had a friend like Kevin!
Thanks Kevin, it's reassuring we share the same values, An awesome presentation!
The message is to be real and honest and the right ones will choose you for who you are. :)
Great talk!
for someone who always made the choice from my heart i have few but great friends, and im happy!
Thank you Kevin for such an inspiring speech. I enjoyed it so much
Is it just me or did the introduction in the end give you chills. How does such a simple statement still feel so powerful?
I totally agree with you. Your examples are so accurate and the sentences are so easy to understand. You are so good at having speeches :)
How one sentence can change one's life ! I enjoyed this talk a lot
This was awesome!! Great speech! I'm currently working on my into speech for Toastmasters and am having a world wind of trouble focusing on simplifying.
Interestingly, I feel Kevin is funny! While he could use work on his speech and public speaking skills; he had clear expression and a sense of humor in conveying his experiences and points. I was laughing throughout and his message gave me a new perception on social settings, he got dealt a poor audience here! Keep going Kevin and thank-you.
Kevin! Thank you so much! You inspired and motivated me a lot to be myself! 🙂💯
Great TED talk, I'm sure your speech get deep in people’s mind and definitely can change their lives, thanks for sharing
to me there was no audio on the crowd. He’s amazing
I am watching this today and it was all I was looking for ☺️ thank you!
Very heart touching. Going back to past in childhood how honest were we. Now the status and materialization overtake us and our purity.
Wow! I learnt something here, and laughed a few times too. Honesty, honesty, honesty. Thank you for the wonderfully laid out speech. It's time for practical now.
The audience are like the students in the online class who doesn't turn on their mic for anythin
Hi Kevin, loved your speech so much, thank you. I think we have so much in common!
why are these people even allowed to be a part of audience
this mans delivered such a good speech and they didn't even laugh
Kevin has a heart of gold
Very interesting and revealing about fear that people don't like to show but have, and interesting the answer that Mr. Kevin Bahler gave. Even on the comments we can see that fear in the words of the one's who didn't dare to be on TED stage. And so they think it's a brave act to make not very helpful and clever remarks.Just reveal the lacking of listening.
Who's Kevin?
+olemew why Who is he?
I mean, that name rings a bell.
Not sure if we watched the same TED talk or we have vastly different experiences that resulted in vastly different interpretations of the same TED talk.
P.S. Cute passive aggressiveness.
Charles Smith Great If you have a different experience by watching this ted! That's good! and that why people are different and all points of view are welcome.You should share you idea would enlarge our difeerence experience
but thanks
Hi I am Marshall Mathers and I am alcoholic
lol
Hi Marshall
You are a genius. Thank you for this.
Lmao
Ермек Исенгалиев .....Honest
"I would never have my true friends , if i wasn't willing to be rejected by everybody else"
~ kevin
Thankuu took my notes
I loved it! It is actually great! I Myself and a Friend was saying Just the other Day How people are not truthful or Want to be so much. I was just thinking about this a few weeks ago because I have been seeing alot of people from my past and I hate to start talking about where you work or what education I have. I always thought that sounded like the I need to be important sound and I do not like people Who need to feel that as a person. This video is so needed and people need to use it just to say I am Who I am take it or leave it. You are boring when you introduce yourself like that. Thank you for this!
This was honestly such a great help. I was having trouble until Tedtalk finally helped me on one problem again. Thank you Tedtalk and especially for your speech, Mr. Kevin Bailer.
You’ve got this!
@@lachyj8344 Thank you for your support Lachy! Yeah! I got this!!
@@suchstyleandswag keep on keeping on brother, one step at a time. Proud of you!
Hi, my name is Gorden and i loved the speech. It was touching. It was honest. And i felt pretty damn inspired by it.
this is definitely my favorite ted talk
Thank you, what you said made me feel how easy it is to make friends and more importantly how to introduce yourself.