Are You Ready for a Fixer Upper? Interview with He Holds Dearly
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Ok, kids- I’m a grandma, having grown up in the country, and raising kids your age in the country- I applaud you. Your world view, protection of your children is heartwarming. God bless you all. Elizabeth
Thanks for the video with your husband. You're a team. I follow multiple vloggers who are raising children. I appreciate that it cannot be managed with one person. Thanks for including your husband. It's honorable.
The Chimichanga story was so hysterical! We remodeled too and that was so relatable I burst out laughing!
I totally loved your honest reality of owning a fixer upper. I am living through this now, bought a house I had never seen in person in a state that I had never been to. This house had good bones, but it was the stuff you can’t see in the pictures that was so overwhelming at times. Waking up before the sun came up everyday scraping the linoleum off the concrete slab, tearing out old carpet, painting every wall and ceiling in this house then working a full time job. A year later, all of that hard work really shows and I am so happy with my home. I’m 63, and looking forward to this house being my retirement home.
My husband and I lived in a fixer upper for 25 years. We just sold it. Everyone said, "you finally got your house done, and decided to sell it?!" No we decided to sell it, so we finally got it done. 😊. Now we are in an even bigger fixer upper. Meaning a lot more work. No systems....we need septic, a well, roof, siding, windows, insulation....basically we are keeping the studs and nothing else. We are living in an RV on site. We don't have a garage, and we are building that right away. We didn't build one in our last house, and it was a mistake. One advantage to living in a fixer upper while you're doing the work....you figure out what works and what doesn't. In this house, we can't live in it....so everything had to be figured out on paper, and we hope in the end, we did it right. And even though a butt load of money won't go to the pretties....I always love knowing my utilities are RIGHT. I'd rather have new wiring, than the prettiest chandelier. And hopefully with thrifty shopping, I'll have both. Wonderful video.
I’m still living in our old cottage home, it’s over a hundred year old! And we lived in the whole time evening having a baby in it! There were times where we just had to stop and just worry about our children and meeting their needs! But I just don’t think your ever finished with a fixer upper! Now painting the outside again!!!!!! And now redoing the bathroom again! But Sarah’s right nothing is straight not one wall! And the mess! But gee would I do this again!!??!! Huh? I really don’t know it’s hard! Maybe if we didn’t have to live in the mess and have children! But it’s been funny, and rewarding, but will there ever come a place where your not redoing something on an old house???? We have been doing and living in ours for 25 years now!!!
Fun and rewarding
I thought I was going to need to get a fixer-upper for what I wanted in my new (to me) home. I got so incredibly lucky when I found someone else's build/fixer-upper completed. After watching this video I am so grateful to have my (almost) dream home without the angst AND expense. I believe I CAN live with the inadequate shower stall and the large footed tub in a master bathroom with almost no storage.
You both have given us great insight and wisdom ... a very gracious and generous gift. Thank you!
We have been renovating in a more cosmetic way for 28 months, and it is really depressing by now. I have kind of stopped caring. If we had hired more done that would have helped for sure. My husband works full time, is in his late 60's and hates to hire things done. Our neighbours said, you hire someone, go on vacation, come home, and it's done! I wish!! Yours looks lovely! and worth it too. Thank you for validation my frustrations.
We built a home 50 years ago and still live in it. We have added on, built one garage, tore that down and build a humongous garage. Remodeled several times. No matter where you live it becomes a fixer upper at one time or another. Sometimes just for maintenance sake. A roof, gardens, driveway. A house evolves just like life itself. Love your video, thank you!
Okay through all the money through all the dust through all the frustration. It was worth it. Look how beautiful and cozy it is now. I just love your home.
Oh my gosh, I can’t thank you enough for sharing your story and giving your advice. This morning I prayed for strength and guidance to help me in my newly purchased little cottage fixer upper. Then your video came into my cue! I was diligently filling in bead board gaps, deciding which of the overwhelming, thousands of tasks I need to address next, yet longing to get to the fun decorating part that comes later. I have a beautiful vision for this cottage and I’m so determined to make it happen. Hearing about your journey reassured me that I’m on the right path. Your encouragement and reminder to be patient, knowing it will all come together, was just what I needed. So many thanks. ❤️
You're so welcome, Kamala! I hope you get to see your vision coming to live sooner than you imagine! Enjoy the more mundane parts, (like filling in bead board gaps!) too if you can! :)
🙂😂you guys are so cute! Yes WE had a fixer upper for 23 yrs and it never totally got fixed up! we never had the right amount of money for it, so a lot was done by ourselves. But I will tell you it was a journey that I feel I really grew in and now appreciate so much more, when I watch you or someone else going through the process, I feel better knowing we did our best and had really nice outcome for the most part! I loved your video of you refinishing the floors, we did that as well and we have put in a wood floor by ourselves.We had scheduled someone to put them in and when they got to our house, they didn't speak English and when we showed them the wood, they couldn't do it. because it was not an engineered floor. We had explained what it was to the owner of the company and he assured us they had done it before and it was no problem. So when these guys walked off the job we had to finish it ourselves or disinvite thanksgiving people! So we began,,I held the boards and my husband, drilled a pilot hole then put a hand forged nail into the hole. What a back breaking experience! But learned a lot! But when it was done it felt so good! SO I look for ward to your kitchen ideas being put into place,,, because in or newer house I would like to implement some of the charm of an old house. Thank you guys for the interview, so fun, and I enjoy you so much! keep up the great work, Kellene Limpert
Sarah, we purchased our fixer upper ten years ago as well. I can totally relate to all your lessons learned (home schooling during renovations, etc.) and many other things that you shared! One thing that helped my husband and I to press on was to look at "before" pictures, and then look at the "after" results - we were amazed by what we had accomplished. And that still helps us moving forward in the present!
So true!
Thank you for this advice! I need to take more photos as I go to actually see my progress, rather than continually looking at what still needs to be installed, etc. ❤️
The hard work you did sure did pay off!!!! Your home is beautiful!
I can relate to a lot of what you said. We have a 1934 colonial house that we've lived in for 15 years and the projects are never over. When I get down on that fact, I think back to all that we've done, which is a ton, inside and out. You have to have a vision if you buy a fixer upper. I'm lucky to have a super handy husband for the construction and then I do most of the painting and of course the decorating.😉 We have subbed out occassionally when we needed to have a professional. We've been doing all this while raising our two kids and working. It definitely is not for the faint of heart and you need to be willing to persevere because it's a journey. I'm super proud of what we've accomplished!😊
We really enjoyed our fixer upper, we had the mobile home for the first year. My father and two brothers sure we're a big help, kitchen from raw lumber, recycled wood trim. Spent almost 20 years in our 1890 home such an experience great fun.
Beautiful Home...looks like all the dust and all the little Cesar's pizza was well worth it! Thank you for sharing!
Love the beginning! We're gonna have to rate this. LOL!!!! Thanks for the honesty and dose of reality.
Thank you for honesty..you have a beautiful home..keep enjoying😊
Great insight... my husband is 71 and I’m 64 and we have been doing my “family home” for over 10 years.... For me, it was changing my parents home and feeling guilty. After doing the first room there was NO STOPPING ME! Most of what we were doing was necessities because my Dad was too sick to do repairs and he was a contractor his whole life. .... but they both had terminal Cancer...why spend the money to fix it...I didn’t want them to!
So after 7 years and I was forced into retirement with health issues... I cashed in my Retirement Money to fix it up! It cost us twice the amount of money that the home was valued at. Of course we had to hire the work done. So the contractor would come ...tear out walls, windows, then insulate and leave for 4, 5, 6 months ...( and we are in Central New York...so weather was always a factor...). return and fix something more. FIXER UPPERS are not for those who want it NOW! Yup, we ate sawdust... yup, we climbed ladders to the second floor...all bedrooms and BATHROOM were on the 2nd floor! LOLL! Crawled in windows because doors were boarded up! LOL!, ( maybe that is why my back is bad? )
Still have things to do..... things unfinished, unpainted.... but now we are old and hurting. Having heart issues....
So do not get a fixer upper LATER IN LIFE.... do it young! But I had to get my dream house a sad way...losing both parents the same year to cancer.
Your husband is right...then you have the upkeep of the outside, painting, etc! We had a new roof put on...we are good for the rest of our life! But we have Cedar Shake siding...painting every 6-8 years! My husband will not be doing it the next time....! Lawns, picket fences to rebuilt ...we finely took them down! 😢 Lovely stonewalls around flower beds....
So our dream home came late in life and now I would love to “downsize”.... it is too much, especially with my husband working full time still. I’m sad! Hard decisions to be made.
Your husband is right it never ends. 33 years into an old house and we always find something we want to add or change.
Thank you! I appreciate your honesty, even if "Mr. He Hold Dearly" felt it may have come across too negative. We're 4 years in to a 1970s "fixer upper", with some structural, and many cosmetic changes we knew going into it. Neither of us had many applicable skills, except my stubbornness, and that really is what continues to encourage me.
This video was incredibly reassuring, as I want to make our house feel homey as we work through changes & not miss out on my kids time at home, that the mentality of "this is a marathon, not a sprint" is absolutely necessary.
You're so welcome! I'm glad it was helpful as you are working through a similar journey!
Loved this interview. My hubby owns his own construction company as well....and we considered a fixer upper, but even he was leary of the idea. Especially with 2 little boys, 4 and 2. We considered a 100 yr old farmhouse, but in the end, the price was too high for only a farmhouse and land. So, we ended up buying a 10 acre horse farm with a fully renovated ranch style home, with no character! Hopefully I can convince hubby to change a few things to add some character and make it more "ours". Thank you for all your design advice on this channel! I particularly enjoy your "styling thrifted finds" series!! Always watching for those videos!!!
Oh thank you! I bet you two could have some fun adding character! I'm glad you like the thrifted find videos! Working on the next one for this week now! :)
I absolutely remember taking our 10 month old to the house to work on things and being so determined to keep him away from any and everything. By the time we were a month into the renovation we looked down and found him 😊eating a paint chip. We were so tired. I think we decided not to worry bc it wasn’t oil based, just latex! Your standards change for sure. Luckily it was a small house so we finished the reno soon after. No more paint chips.
Sarah, your husband is a treasure. Just to start off with! I am sure you have encountered the Giannettis and Patina Style. I have two of their books and love their vision. When I bought their second book, Patina Farm, I was truly gobsmacked. They built from scratch the most marvellous place that looks as though it has been there for decades, with ... yes ... patina. Of course, it helps that they clearly have truckloads of money so this is becoming a specious sort of comment but their vision as to what they want out of their living environment is similar to yours. The vision is the real deal. Anyhoo, from Canada, watching the snow falling (I hate snow) and also watching your wonderful blogs, stay safe and healthy and keep up the excellent work!
Ohhhh my gosh!!! You are adorable!! What a GREAT video!!!! I currently LIVE in a fixer upper with six kids and I'm single. What you explained is spot on!! It's sooo much time, patience, money and dedication!! Obviously it really was worth it for your family! Your house is darling! Thank you for being so candid and truthful! :)
Lol! Living in your fixer upper as you fix it up is the best cure ever for a perfectionist!
Now I know why I get you. We are you. I felt this connection and it all makes sense now. We bought our “fixer upper” in ‘96 and our house was built in 1906. We are still restoring! Thank you for sharing your story. You have brought back my inspiration. Bless you!
P.S. For us it was Hamburger Helper cooking on a propane stove!
We bought our fixer upper 24 years ago; as I’m writing this my husband is working on the wiring for our expanded mud room! Ours was built in 1896 and had been vacant for 2 years when we bought it. The house is in my husband’s home town and he had wanted to move here ever since we married (small town pop 1500!). After selling our previous home and moving 300 miles away (career move, we thought) I was ready to return to a place where we had family. 24 years later, I can’t imagine living anywhere else. The only thing we hired done was a bathroom, and that was only b/c a licensed plumber was required to tie in to city sewer lines. My husband and I (mostly him) have done all the reconstruction ourselves. This is my dream house (Victorian) and now can’t imagine living anywhere else!
We also did a pay as we go plan!
We’ve done this for four homes for nearly 40 years of marriage. My biggest advice is to enjoy the process.
Yeah! Thanks. We bought my in-laws home, the home my husband was raised in, the home his father was raised in and the home his parents built with the help of her father who was a stone mason. It’s built out of native sand stone. We added on and fixed up 26 yrs ago. Then recently we’ve had built an apt for my mom into the home. Now, we are in the plans to sell this old stone farmhouse to one of our sons and his wife and almost 4 littles. We are building new, (ourselves)but smaller. And yikes! I’m scared! But excited as well. I enjoyed this! Reminded me of what I need to expect and maybe I can act accordingly.😄
I love that your house is going on to a new generation! And I hope your new build goes smoothly! Always an exciting adventure.
I agree with the amount of time it takes. We are a time obsessed society and want it now. There's something to be said about the stages of a house turning into a home. When you have grandkids u can show them the pictures & tell
the stories. Thanks for sharing!
We are right in the middle of a huge renovation/ restoration. We bought a 1901 farmhouse in May of this year and began gutting it right away. A month after we closed on the farmhouse we had an opportunity to sell the house we were living in - we took advantage of selling it so we had more money to put into the farm house, so then we had to move out of the old house... that was defiantly an experience. We moved into a 36ft RV, bc we have 4 kids! So far we have removed all the plaster and lathe from the farmhouse ( so gross!!) and fixed the foundation, rebuilt the back of the house, ripped up the old gross tiles to expose the hardwood floors- that I am currently in the process of using a wall paper steamer to steam off the black gross glue that’s still on the floors. My husband is rebuilding & reglazing all the old windows ... our goal is to be in the house by middle of October, but it’s defiantly an expensive & time consuming process!!! The farmhouse had been abandoned for 10 years and before that very very neglected. Every sq inch of the house needs to be fixed.... including plumbing, electrical, septic, roof etc. 😱
Oh man, what a labor of LOVE! Excited for you to be on the other side and enjoying the fruits of all your hard work!
One last thing. Having the kids there, they learned how to paint, hammer, design, decorate, use tools. My son never learned any of that. My girls decorate like professionals. Im so proud of them.
Oh my God you two are so cute. I like he holds dearly, LOL I absolutely love your Channel. I can only imagine how much time and how much money it takes to refurbish old beautiful building turn into a comfy cozy loved home.🍂🍁🍂
Here I am watching all your videos and I loved this One. My husband is a contractor that does remodel a I am a dreamer and we are buying a fixer and uper here in Portugal. It's a dream come true, i've been collecting your pins on Pinterest for years now . Our 3 girls are excited too. let's see how it goes! Thanks for the advice. 💚
New subscriber here for your antiquing and thifting advice. But wow! We are so you! I agree with all you've said! We are still remodeling( it's almost a year only, but it's our second fixer upper, haha), homeschooling with 7 children, wanting to homestead, and the list goes on. I think we're made for this lifestyle. We love it, it's rewarding in spite of the challenges. We've learned to be make a list of things we need to get done and plan to get it done in a certain timeframe so we can live our life while remodeling. I'm more sane and it's given me more peace and patience through the process. I definitely agree it's a journey, and we're enjoying it.
I am not ready for a fixer upper. I'm too old for one thing, and I lack the necessary DIY skills for another. I went the "new build" route, creating my forever home twenty-five years ago. Ironically, even the best maintained house becomes a fixer upper after twenty-five years, so there I am. I loved your video, and what you have done with your farmhouse. I'm glad it was you doing a gut job remodel and not me!
We've been "fixing up our house" for 45 years. Raised 8 amazing kids, now successful adults. My home is still the biggest disappointment of my life. Nothing ever got "finished" in any room. I'm reluctant to have any one over ever. I'm 65 and my husband is 70. Now he says there's no need to fix this or that, we aren't going to live that long........If I had my life to live over, I would never have moved into this house. It's depressed me for over 4 decades. I'm glad your husband and you are "finishers."
Your home is really lovely. Enjoy it.
Oh, Kay - that hurts my heart to read! I hope that the memories and joy of a long, family filled life and marriage helps heal the sadness caused by the unmet expectations. And just know, the people who love you, love you for YOU. Not because your house looks this way or that. Have friends over and enjoy their company, even in the midst of un-finished projects. I can assure you they probably don't even notice the things that bother you most.
Even though there is much to accomplish in a fixer upper; once you've reached one part of it, it's rewarding and lovely. Gives you the motivation to press on step by step, knowing now some what to expect~so pushing onward it's a tiny bit easier if you will let that ride🚗 haha... everything you both spoke is definitely pure truth of and in the process. Like you also mention any house always is in a renovate mentality... like a add on room, porch, extension, etc... appreciate what you shared, thank you both so much🍃🌻🍃
Great advice! Thank you for sharing your family story. It's always a work in progress
Been there, done that, several times. Famous last words, I am not doing this again. Hahahaha
I was so so blessed to find the home I did. This home was built in 1858 but was well maintained and not falling apart. Yes there's things I've done to it and will still do to it as time goes on but I'm not rushed because it was built very well and maintained very well. The floors are next on my list. I need this carpet out of here. How long do you think it would take to refinish an old wood floor. Btw the wood is in excellent shape too!
I think. you did it right. Someone said to me once (or several times) "don't should on yourself." We can all waste a lot of time thinking we should have done this or we shouldn't have done that. It is what it is. Embrace where you are right now and move forward with where you want to be. Anyway, you guys did great and in God's perfect time! As an almost empty nester (youngest is grown but is still living at home) I don't have the energy anymore to do all that work. I'm ready to move out of my suburban fixer upper (which is still a fixer upper) into a completely done small cottage (with about 2 acres to garden. LOL). :) We've lived in this home for 6 years and last year had to replace the heating and cooling system. They found about a dozen dirty (oily) bath towels and a men's t-shirt in the main duct. WHAT?!!! We were breathing that in for all that time. Yuck! Love your home. God bless!!
New subscriber here. Just found you through your thrifting video and keep watching to catch up. For the first time, I feel like there is someone who speaks my language in home decor and sees the same beauty in the things I love, vintage style.
You really have given me a fresh breath of new hope. Thank you so much. And best of all, you give glory and honour where it is due. You're a good example of Proverbs 31. :)
God bless you and your family.
Thank you so much! I'm glad you're here!
Thank you. 😊
I am so happy you are a Christian. So relieved. I feel like I can trust what you say unlike some of these real estate investor renovations done in a week. Please please can you show us your exterior before and after? I see it was dark red and now light grey or a white tone. It is gorgeous. I was staying away from homes that looked like your before because it was so ugly. You really turned it into a dream home.
Hey Sara! Our very first home we remodeled..... then we decided to build so this is our second custom home build our first home took 9 months, we are currently about 8 weeks from finishing our 2nd home, which has been over a year our foundation fell 4 times due to various product issues, there have been many stressful times, esp now with this pandemic, we have invested our own time along side our contractor to do some work in our home...it is REALLY frustrating when work is supposed to be getting done but something comes up and it doesn't...if I had to choose a remodel like yours and a home build like ours..side by side...they both have there pros and cons..but I ABSOLUTELY LOVED every minute of the details of designing our custom home from every aspect! 😊
My parents purchased our present Farmhouse Cottage (Oma house; built 1927) for rental property, so they gutted it and fixed up most of the house before we traded for it with my mother. We have had to do some remodeling to it - the wings of the house that used to be porches now rooms needed some work and we've since had it re-roofed. We've also had a new concrete porch and sidewalk added to the front of the house and before my accident, I did all the gardening on our 2 lot yard. We didn't have any garages or sheds for my parents tore those down as they were leaning (the garage was fastened to a tree with a chain. smile!). We've had some surprises too, like the time a microburst knocked down an elm tree that took out our son's playhouse - right through the middle of it. The tree was so big, it took all summer to get it cut up and hauled away. Another time, the same neighbor that cut down my lilac bush, was mowing our side yard and his leg sank down into a sinkhole up to his thigh (sudden letdown, huh?). Then his kids lost their softball into the dinner plate size hole and came to complain about it. The top of an old metal septic tank had rusted through and the hole was 8 ft deep x 4 ft wide and it was dark down in there. One summer, we had to replace the iron water and sewer pipes underground and had a stray puppy fall in the 6 foot trench. The water company didn't tell us we had a crack in the water pipe until two weeks after we ran up a huge water bill which of course we had to pay. We have a creepy old storm cellar with a concrete roof in our yard. Do you have one of those? I just realized that my husband and I, even though we both grew up in the city, have always wanted a farmhouse like our grandparents had, so when I told him about the farmhouse décor style of decorating, he's actually been helping me with some projects. grin! I've enjoyed watching your videos, swapping stories and hearing the stories of the process on your lovely farmhouse.
When we were renovating, had very little money and my daughter decided to put sand in the electric drill.. I think I saw steam come out of my husband's ears..hahaa
Excited for this! I so appreciate learning many good things from you (plural).
Hello.....My husband and I have been married 38 yrs❣️We started in a brand new 3 bedroom ranch....approximately 1200 square feet and 1/4 acre...we lived there maybe two years....added a fireplace and screened in back porch, fence landscaping etc....then we literally switched houses with a guy we knew getting a divorce and we just had our first child....we moved the same day! Our settlements were back to back! My house was so clean you could eat off the floor and well the larger beautiful modern home needed a whole house cleaning ( which I charged to them) and we remodeled, fixed, changed many things in the home,,,, we slept in the smallest bedroom for 7 months while doing the master suite! We lived there just two years and sold it for 65,000 more then we paid for it...spent most of the time working ..but oh so worth it....it had many desirable features....not kid friendly! We then built a new house Victorian style home 2500 sq ft with a wrapped porch in a neighborhood on 1/3 acre ....on a culdesac facing main road with parkland next door....I have to say that was the most stressful thing I ever did😱 and I do not recommend it...lol we finished the basement, build a in ground pool, landscaped, fencing....we lived there 10 years...close to my then young children’s private school and friends....then my father died...quit my job of 13 years and just wanted to slow down! Our kids were in every activity, we lived in a college town...so crowded in town always and I wanted a farm and horses and a garden and just wanted something that no matter what I did it was an improvement instead of watching my new house get old!! I have OCD and I couldn’t relax in my own home...trying to keep it new. We had been married 16 years then...house was done and I wanted to move to a farm....my husband thought I was nuts!! I longed for simplicity in my life and slowing down...my husband said it has to have AC lol...I searched for a year and finally found the perfect house....we are both born and raised in Delaware and we wanted to stay in Delaware...our kids then 9 and 12 weren’t thrilled with the idea but we made it desirable and they were okay with it...we were only 25 minutes south of the other home but let’s just say we had sleepovers almost every weekend....they went to their previous school for two years so I drove them up there all the time...just brought friends home on weekends....this property is 6.5 acres with a huge dairy barn and double silos, 5 car garage (full stand up storage above total space), 2 story tack room, and a 1000 sq foot little ranch carriage house.....and a milk house and a big run in for the horses...the main house was originally built in 1847 ....so sorry already long...now this is going to be longer...let’s just say the interior of house decor may not have been exactly to my liking....it was sound and safe and the barn needed attention....we worked our way from the back of the property...fixing old outbuildings and barn, replacing roofs, rebuilt horse stalls, we turned carriage house 1/2 band room for my son and half dance room for my daughter. The main house had unfortunately burnt down in 1988 ( 10 years prior to our moving in) so it’s a two story colonial brick house with 5 fireplaces all hardwood floors, rooms are huge with really tall ceilings and deep window sills....everything was about 10 years old in the house so I didn’t like it ...but it could wait...the house was re built in 1988 and it was reflected in choices for finishes! We have now been here 22 yrs I’m 58 and he is 59....empty nester for years...kids now 32 and 35 both married 4 grandchildren between the two and another on the way! We have enjoyed the property...big barn parties...cool birthday parties....2 weddings, we hosted every holiday for our families as we had the space.....kids hung out here...bc they wanted to and made some friends closer to home....we got our first horse 6 months after moving in! Ended up with 3 and one has since passed....we had lots of fun learning to ride etc....after both kids in college....I got sick with Lyme Disease Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue 10 years ago and have been home on disability since 2010I worked full time up until then....since 2013 we have been steady going room to room making her pretty in a way that fits the house now ...with plenty of nods to the past! I have designed it all myself and have shopped online for just about everything! We are now in the kitchen😱 since March....80% done and have only dining room redo after kitchen! I said I won’t move for at least another 10 years so we can enjoy the fruits of all our labor...funny thing is...the day we came to see the house I walked in the kitchen U shaped med oak cabinets and a 9 ft peninsula....all counters and back splash were baby blue Formica....I said this has to go! but I put up with it...until now....we gutted it and I am so proud of how it is coming together...custom takes time! Throughout the house we have replaced all the moldings 6-7” mop boards and larger simpler molding around doors and windows....we have replaced just about everything now...in past 7 years including roof, hot water heater,heat pump and furnace...now purchasing all new windows and front door as well....I told my husband when we first bought it...it’s not a year project ...or a 5 year project it’s a lifelong project...of love....we enjoyed staying home on weekends and completed projects...still had a life...we are very proud of the property and house will be paid off in 3 years! Imagine 150 year old trees and boxwood lined brick sidewalk...it’s my dream home...huge side porch...lined with big windows and has separate heat system, huge back porch screened in, brick knee wall and. Looks out over horse pastures...my kids say you guys should move and we say where? We do have help....as long as I can stay here I will....we never regret our purchase as it will surely help with retirement as it has at least tripled in price...we keep resale in mind as we remodel...I know I over shared but so few people really understand what it is to take on a project like this...we do...and I love it every inch of it! Thanks for sharing your story...I kept saying yes, yes yes...I could really relate😊❣️k
I wish you could post pictures of this!
Love love love this house!
We purchased a 2007 colonial sold as is! My son-in-law put our barnwood laminate floors in while I painted all the trim! 3 to four coats😳 He painted the ceiling and walls that took 3 coats😳 The walls and ceiling just sucked the paint. The easiest part was removing the old 69 cents laminate floors! Lol Yes it took me at least three weeks to paint my stars and banisters. Let's not even talk about painting my kitchen cabinets and lighting. Which all this I did...not my husband. Lol Hey don't be surprised if putting on a face plate will give you a challenge! Who thought lol. Stripping the basement stairs because you can not afford treads took weeks and painting and staining well need I say how long! But the difference here is through all of the grumbling I did truly love renovating. I had to just not look at the end. But take it step by step. Yes and have a plan. Next is a budget friendly master bath makeover. HMMMM remove ceramic tile and put down peel and stick floor pops or just stick on top! Lol. Well I'll do.it right. So where is the jackhammer. Lol
Oh you homeschooled, I homeschooled in the 80s and we were underground because people were always threatening to call the police on me and my group we were in. What curriculum did you use? Your home looks fantastic you guys did a great job!
I'm a very Charlotte Mason teacher, so very eclectic and often write my own curriculum.
In my subscriptions right below this video I have magnolia, “are you ready for a fixer-upper announcement” post. So I clicked on this video expecting to see Joanne, then I thought oh how awesome you’re doing a collaboration with the Gaines! Lol
Awesome video thank you. 🤗
We're in the midst of a remodel... I have dust on my dust! With the covid, much of what we're waiting for is on backorder and the stress level might be a smidge high... Waiting for the wooooohoooo part!
You got this! I can only imagine the added delays due to the climate of our world right now. :( I hope you get to see some progress soon!
My husband and I have eight children and always rented houses - we knew the fixer upper life was not for us! Prayed for years for God to provide a home of our own. Our youngest is now 11 and we moved into our dream home this past December. My biggest fear was that we wouldn’t be able to find something in good condition with character within our budget. It made me sad to think about living in a bland builder home, but we also knew it was a top priority that we find something move-in ready that didn’t need work. So...we found a 24-year-old home that was built with all the old-house features, built by a couple now in their 80s, in immaculate condition!! And just within our budget!! Ticked all 8 boxes on my wish list. The waiting paid off and we are still pinching ourselves. So you’re right, it’s best to figure out the right path for you and then be willing to persevere and be patient no matter which journey you’re on. Love your blog - I refer to it often for resources and ideas. 💕
This is Jenny not Rob btw lol 😅
Been there Done that Loved it #Homesweethome
Would you say though that overall, your decision to take the route you've taken was worth it? Are you still thinking of building one day and giving up the farm house?
We bought my husband's family's farm 20 years ago. The farm had been in continuous operation since his ancestors purchased it in 1864. Ours is the 3rd house built on the same footprint. It was built in the 70s, but my father-in-law incorporated many of the old doors and windows in that house. At the time we were both working full-time jobs and had 5 kids 7-15. The 1st year we owned it, we gutted the kitchen and livingroom. I cooked all our meals in an electric skillet--on a counter made of sawhorses and plywood. We worked every evening and weekend that we weren't attending a band concert, football, basketball, or baseball game for one of the kids. We chose to just paint the bedrooms--(they were all wallpapered--different colors of the same rose wallpaper.) We didn't have any other social life than kid activities for a year. My husband is a welder and we had friends who did rockwork and electrical. They would advise us, or we would barter work. After that first push, kid activities--and weddings--graduate courses, grandkids, etc.--stopped any major work on the house for over 10 years...mistake--just as you say. We are finally redoing some pathetic bathrooms--with 7 people, we just couldn't be down a bathroom--ugly or not! We are trying to get back in the remodeling groove again, but not we are 60!-- and stuff takes a lot longer! So many projects to get done before we are too old to complete them, or enjoy them! Just commenting to concur--we can certainly attest that all your points are very valid!
You’ve made a beautiful home. What are your exterior paint colors?
Sherwin William - Mindful Grey!
We put every penny (okay well centime) into our place when we bought it even though it had no kitchen or bathroom, just a water-closet and sink. We ended up cooking on an electric stove and bathing in the sink for three years, I never ever expected it to be that long and would have passed had I known. But for twenty years we’ve had a great place in central Paris that we couldn’t have afforded otherwise. Would I do it again? Only if we had that 20-30% contingency budget you mentioned, and my husband’s signature in blood that we’d have a bathroom with months...
hahaha - so I see who's the talker in the family.
That Colby! I can hardly get a word in otherwise. ;) ;) ;)
@@SheHoldsDearly True, so true. harhar
I wanted so badly to hear what he had to say. I have been a Carpenter since 88. Looking to by a 1908 farmhouse. Needs EVERYTHING!!! But there is over a 100 years of love on this 13 acres. I think the rewards your talking about will out way the trials and tribulations. I am fully aware of the mysteries hidden behind the layers ovisual
Cut myself off, oh the irony hahahaha.
It’s very scary. The investment of time and money and what’s the pay off? Hard decisions. Let’s get to work.
Great job you guys.
Can't wait!
This is great. Thank you! My daughter will be moving in a few weeks. To their fixer upper. They will be on an acre. But surrounded by stores, etc. I am curious how far are you from favorite grocery stores, or places you like to go? Or are there any bike trails near you? I’d love to move out farther to get more land, but don’t want to give up our conveniences near us. TIA!
We're not too far from the city at all! (Within 10 minutes of our nearest grocery store). We just happened to find a great quiet spot with this property!
This was so interesting and informative. Although I am a new subscriber, I think this is my favorite video. That's saying a lot because before this video, I didn't think I would be able to narrow it down to one. Your home has so much charm and personality. I know achieving that charm was intentional and didn't just happen. I figured it took blood, sweat, tears and years. Thanks for sharing. xoxo
I have bought my house for cash and now I save for the jobs to be done. I am sixty so its not easy. I am so thankfull that I have a home that waiting for jobs to be done is a breeze. My friends all tell me I am so patient I'm not I am so thankfull xx
We’re fixing up our 213 year old home. I noticed you have baseboard heat in the bathroom. Do you have it elsewhere?
No one really stops remodeling ever. Remember, this life on earth is about the journey not the finish line. Enjoy life as much as you can with your children. When your children leave, they are gone. Gone. They come back for visits. Really enjoy them right now.
My husband and I bought a 1972 manufactured home to remodel then live in. We had an RV camper to live in during the remodel process. BUT One hour after the manufactured home was set in its spot, I hopped 14 inches from a trailer into mud with crocs on and broke both my legs. 🥺🥵.
We had to move into the manufactured home because of my wheelchair. Shag lime green carpet, dark wood paneling walls, and leaking windows was all I looked at for four months....
I think God often uses home remodels as symbolic life remodels.
I’ve owned my home for 11 years now and I love it!
Oh my goodness, what a story! Glad you love it now!
I know this is an older video, but I had to laugh about your house being so crooked that the drawers used to come out. Our fixer was just like that! Yup... 10 years is what it took.
What does “She holds dearly,” mean?
After 30 years of living in suburbia, it's still a fixer upper. My illness stopped it all for a long time. At 64, I feel like moving into a place that is already fixed. I didn't want this place. I was told he was handy, NOT. What a total nightmare for me. My main thought is that you just never know what's going to happen in the future.
I'm sorry your place has not turned out how you had planned and hoped. :( That's always discouraging. I hope you can find some good to focus on in the process, or that you get a chance to move into somewhere that is already fixed up and feels like home!
I love that your project took time.. love how the story evolves & unfolds when you move slowly..
Septic on our new 2 bed build is 25000.😬
btw, isn't dust just fiber in your diet? what a wonderful pair you are! ox
As much I love old houses I don’t think I’d buy one unless it’s refinished. It’s a lot of work not meant for me.
That's a great thing to know about yourself! The trouble comes when people realize that after they've jumped in! :(
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Your home is lovely now. Do you follow JamiRayVintage...kind of reminds me of her story. She has a fun channel.
Is this your forever home? Why or why not?
We're about 50/50! We LOVE our house, but have dreams about possibly moving into a more rural area and building.
You have a beautiful home, but I always admire with caution as I've lived through massive renovations. My husband and I own a small 1958 bungalow that was a fixer upper when we bought it 19 years ago. We have paid contractors who have regutted, changed out all the windows, flooring, siding, baseboards, deck, fence etc. etc. etc. on this property. We've also repainted every room in this house. Here's why I would never do it again:
1. do not renovate if you have a highly sensitive personality. You have strange people in your house all day long, for weeks and weeks who can be loud, smelly, talk to you too much, and are just downright annoying and even rude. Also, it's difficult for a sensitive person because you live in a constant state of mess and chaos--seriously, it destroyed my mental health for weeks at a time. At one point we were all living in our main living room---beds, kids toys, dining room table, not easy for a sensitive personality who thrives in living in a calm, private environment.
2. do not renovate if you are are homeschooling and/or if your children are as introverted and sensitive as you are. Like me, it was extremely difficult on my children's mental health and they still talk about how hard it was and how much they hated having strange men and huge messes in our home. For weeks they hid in their bedrooms (when they had bedrooms, that is lol) and it affected their behaviour, they often acted out and became angry and aggressive because they hated living through the renovations and the strange people in our house so very much.
3. seriously considere a big renovation project if you have cats. My poor babies had to be locked up in a room from 8-5 Monday to Friday while the contractor was here. They hated it and whined and meowed to get out, and were extremely happy to then run and jump through all the drywall mess and chaos when the contractor went home at 5.
4. do not renovate if you are a person who can easily be taken advantage of. Almost every single contractor we had in took advantage of us. We still have botched baseboards upstairs because of this. My husband had to repaint bathroom ceilings because of this (after we paid a contractor huge amounts of money to do it in the first place!!), and at one point, we had to pay a different contractor to come in and fix up the mess from another contractor's bad work. My husband and I both found they were all super, super nice and acted like they actually cared about doing a good job, until we paid them and then off the ran with our money, and not one bit willing to back up their work when they had done a mistake. Not fun.
Yes, we now have a beautiful little character home with a nice yard that has been fixed up the way we wanted, but if I had to to it over again, I would have spent more money on a property that was even semi-fixed up and just been content with it. We would have avoided the mental stress it took on our family. In fact, our kitchen cupboards are the original to the house. They are painted white and solid wood but they are old and worn out. We have decided to keep them and realize the house is good enough, because we know that we cannot endure the mental stress of going through any more renovations. At the end of the day, a home is what you make of it, it's nice to look at pretty baseboards and flooring etc etc---but most importantly, it's a place to live in, create memories with your family, and provide shelter, and the basic comforts of life, no matter what it looks like. =)
Thank you for sharing your experiences!
@@SheHoldsDearly you are welcome =)