Why This Autistic Girl Moved to Japan
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- Опубликовано: 1 июл 2024
- This should've been a segment of my documentary ("Autistic Adults in Japan"), which doesn't show any perspectives of autistic foreigners.
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0:00 Contexts
0:25 Working in Japan
1:8 Childhood
2:06 Bullying
3:45 Eating disorder/social problems
5:04 Discovery
6:13 Books
6:43 Myths
7:16 Japan
8:31 But how?
9:08 Benefits
10:50 Living in a tiny apartment
12:35 Difficulties
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Japan seems like the perfect place for people with social problems.
Just by the nature of how things are done there.
Benign social problems. American inner city "youth" have social problems but they would ruin Japanese culture.
@@SydneyCarton2085not all American inner city youth would.
@@HeavenlySaviour That's right, not all of them. Just the kind he's describing.
Hikikimoris would like to disagree
No what, Japanese talking requires so much social Que knowledge and reading of the air, they wont speak to you "Directly" and instead hint and such. I swear this is exactly what autistic people have issues with, and from my time living in japan, most of my friends with such issues drown in the social situations, and return to their home countries.
I'm a late diagnosed autistic, but I got my diagnosis after i already had moved to Japan. I haven't been able to articulate why living here feels so comfortable, but she explains it so well! People say that the rules are so difficult but i like how clearly they're laid out. If there is a rule I don't know i feel embarrassed but then afterwards I know it and won't make the mistake again. I also like the order and how easy it is to understand where to go and what to do. And at least in the country side its so quiet and people are very kind. I guess we have privilege being foreigners that native Japanese do not, like she said. I don't hide my diagnosis here and hope we can be advocates for autistics in the community who don't feel comfortable disclosing themselves.
I appreciate your input and thoughts are greatly appreciated
I have autism. I was not diagnosed until I was 36. Japan was so great. People not talking. Most people behaving logically.
I'm glad to hear that foreigners with autistic problems are treated better in Japan than in Europe. No matter what difficulties you encounter, people's kindness can help you live peacefully. Thank you for another great video Nobita-san👍
It's not that you are "treated better". It's just that you don't set off any alarm bells. Anything unusual gets written off as cultural.
As an high functioning autist myself, I've been to Japan three times and will go there for one year soon. The coulture is really perfect for people on the spectrum. No eye contact, no loud behaviour, no loud music in shops, everything just works (like trains are on time, everywhere are clean!!! public toilets etc.), the behaviour is highly ritualised (all those unwritten "rules" are far more standardised than in europe) which makes daily life so much less stressful. Here every time I am in a big city, I get the urge to run away after sometimes just half an hour and I need strong medication to endure being around so many people. And I cant go into the city without my wife who can calm me down. In Japan I could go to Tokyo, literally the most crowded City on earth, for two weeks and alone without any medication.
thank you for talking with someone like this. i’m an autistic person living in australia and i’ve always wanted to move to japan, so it’s good to find others who have done something similar and enjoyed it : )
Dutch girl here, late ASD diagnosed (now 38 but diagnosed at 35 ) and in love with Japan (visisted 5 times). I love how Bianca describes it, its like hearing myself... I now ordered her books as well. Thank you for this amazing video. 😊
Thank you so much for this interview! We talked for 1,5 hours and you managed to edit it down to this video that perfectly tells my story, that's amazing. 😊
Also, thank you to all the people who (pre-)ordered my books, that makes me so happy! 💕
I have ADHD and I'm very proud of having reached half way through the video without clicking on a new one :)
I mean o don’t have ADHD but I do find speeding up the video abit helps with attention
Idk just a tip I guess?
@@woahwonderhoy It make sense in theory, maybe the difficulties in paying attention (that makes you miss parts of a video) makes x2 less appealing, also for a non English mother tongue like me can it turn kinda frustrating.
But I think the attention problem is the main one and yea if you're not mother tongue it's even harder to focus which increases the risk of missing part of it and having to jump back which is very annoying.
Thx for the tip tho 🤗
@@markmuller7962 oh yeah English is my first and only language and I watch with subtitles ( even if their crappy autogenerated ones) because I find the subtitles help sharpen the words ( that doesn’t make sense lol)
But when I’m consuming a lot of information I like to speed it up not because I can’t physically pay attention but because it stops me from going ‘oh but that must be like that’ or something and then I’ve stopped focusing on the video
Also on my phone holding down the screen speeds it up and the little vibratey click it makes is very satisfying
Honestly if you can I recommend subtitles if you don’t already it gives your eyes something to do!
@@woahwonderhoy So I think there are many problems with x2 for ADHD ppl.
1 It forces you to hard focus even when you don't subconsciously want to (most of the times) especially in a foreign language which requires even more focus.
2 We can miss parts of a x1 video because our mind wander so imagine x2
3 Subtitles are even worst when it comes to forced focus, you literally have to read them so if I can avoid them I always do
4 Speeding it up doesn't really help us consuming more information, the opposite so, we might actually miss a lot of information and we actually often miss a lot even at x1 speed.
Remember, there's a tornado in our mind, there's never ever peace, a normal person would lose he's mind after 5 minutes inside our head
P.s. The main problem for adult ADHD is being forced in doing or focusing on something, it's like telling a 4 years old child to stop playing with he's favourite toy when he feels like he's not finished playing.
Our frontal lobe is dysfunctional, we can't really decide to do something or focus on something if the child-brain (subconscious without the frontal lobe control) decides that he doesn't want to. (Same for the opposite, convincing us to *not* do something when the unchecked "child"-brain want to do it and that's the impulsivity symptom)
@@markmuller7962 oh I see so if you don’t like something you wouldn’t really do it then
And I see what you mean about the speed if your brain is so busy all the time
I found this very interesting - thank you!
As an autistic American woman (late-diagnosed at 35) looking to move to Japan, this is exactly the kind of thing I love to see! Thank you for this wonderful content, and for introducing us to this amazing author as well!
I’m autistic, ADHD and blind. I love your videos, especially these ones! Great job!
Thank you for taking on this topic! This and your "Autistic Adults in Japan" interviews are so respectful and educational. As an autistic person, I find it amazing how our experiences of being bullied and feeling out-of-place are so similar no matter where we are from.
Two of my good friends in high school were autistic. They were the best. They were different but not in a bad way. Just different. After we were friends for a while they let me know about the difficulties they faced. They both have families now and seem to be happy.
Thank you so much for posting this. I am an autistic woman from America and this video actually gave me some hope that I could potentially, maybe be able to handle living in Japan on my own.
I completely understand her experience. I was diagnosed at 39, and lived constantly with depression. I still struggle with social interactions but at least I can get through the day.
I am autistic and also my teenage daughter. My child was diagnosed at 6 and I was diagnosed soon after- I had no idea I was autistic but moved through childhood and early adulthood feeling different and experiencing similar experiences as Bianca. My daughter and i travelled to Japan in 2019 first time and loved it- I became very interested in language, culture and living in Japan. I was 43 and daughter was 9. Both my teenager and I learn Japanese language now and I dream of buying an Akiya. Our next visit to Japan will be end of this year. I am a registered nurse with a degree but am looking at how to move to Japan and utilise my skills in some way to work in Japan one day. Japan culture and life is very appealing to us!! Hello from Australia 🇦🇺 we enjoyed this interview very much.
can I just say that your book title is just.... insanely good? you sharing your experience is really like starting a snow ball, that grows big, I know personally diagnosed myself with Social Anxiety, and even though I saw some TV shows and movies where it had an Autistic character, and I just couldn't see my self like them, I can relate 100% to their social issues, but when I look in the mirror I feel like: "But You Don't Look Autistic at All"
which is hilarious now, I related insanely to your talk, and this lead me to search non stop ever since I saw this video when it was released, taking tests, watching every RUclips channel covering ASD and such, and it's insane to know how diverse that ASD can get, it's just not necessarily have to manifest looking like a math genius and have unbeatable memory and such
it's like my Social Anxiety might be a small part of the bigger picture, as it explained more and more stuff, it's just like something out of science fiction like it's a "theory of everything" or something, that explains tones and tones of your life, mentality, feelings and much more.
I can't believe how life changing that might be if I truly went to a professional, and officially got diagnosed with ASD, yes it's not easy to do so, as it's really expensive in the first place, and you can get undiagnosed or something, but at least this encouraged me to seek medical professional, despite those difficulties, I still haven't, but I intend to do so soon
but all I want to say is really THANK YOU
from the bottoms of my heart
even if I was undiagnosed or something, I know this is really close, as I scored very high likelihood in all Autism tests I took online, like in The Aspie, RAADS-R, CAT-Q & The AQ
so there's got to be something going on, it can't be just my imagination after hearing and watching all of those experiences shared by all the people in the ASD community and relating to it very much
What I dislike most from the world is how people on the spectrum and mental disorders are treated.
I've worked with kids who have a lot of different types of the spectrum in high school and found with enough time and structure they can succeed. Even the teachers told me that my style of help made them able to focus in class more and be better students. Wish I had more time with them to really help.
I feel it's hard to have people understand as some still have that mentality of thinking eating or taking a certain medication causes mental health issues when that's false and honestly just hurts those who need the help the most.
Basically to summarize. Like raising kids. Dating or anything else. You don't have a one size fits all for every situation and society especially the east needs to understand that raising up your Lowest members of your country brings up everyone.
@@magicseahorse being a serial killer is not a thing you are born as. Please don't ever try to do this again.
wow jsut watching her I can name at least 10 people I ment at school etc in germany and japan who were not dignozed but had the same charactaristic features ... indeed having an enterpreneur /startup visa needs a solid biz plan and cash...
speaking of the coltural simmularities netherlands are quite simmular to germany.
I knew duch guy back in the days and have seen many german features in him
Indeed ASD and ADHD are extremely underdiagnosed especially in women
it feels like it's more of difference than "disorder"
As someone on that spectrum too, the aspects of Japan covered in this video feel very appealing to me. Part of me would love to make the same move as Bianca. One thing I'll say to Bianca: learning some skills to be able to get by more easily is helpful but don't ever feel that you need to change who you are inside.
This is one of the few interviews i have ever fully watched, i am also from the Netherlands and would like to be able to experience Japan because In many ways i can relate to her and there for Japan seems to be the perfect place in my eyes.
Thank you for this interview!
Thank you for sharing this. As an autistic person this video felt so relatable in the feelings she expressed. As a person from the UK, hugging/kissing family or even a handshake: it's so easy to get them muddled or even know what one to do when interacting with family members. Noises when travelling is such a crucial problem as well when people are too loud it feels to you like it's even louder than it actually is and you can't at all concentrate or even think your own thoughts. When your at a restaurant or out somewhere the waiter is all over the place and you kind-of expect them to come to you but knowing when to call them over - you don't want to make it feel rude to them but at the same time you want to feel like a normal customer and respect the waiter and not come across as impatient or an abnormal customer - on top of that there's eye contact which some people can get the wrong idea or assumptions that lack of eye contact is rude (which is usually the case). I've always admired the culture of Japan, maybe it would be a nice change of pace to visit Japan and see what it's like there.
What a beautiful person.
I am 55 and I also am autistic. I was officially diagnosed as a very young child but my parents and therapists kept it a secret from me all my life. I found out for myself through the wonderful internet about 10 years ago and confronted my mom about it 6 years ago. Nowadays you hear so mush about autism but go back less than 20 years and there was close to nothing to find.
Probably didn’t happen
My bf is an SLP in elementary school and still meets with parents/guardians who don’t want their children to know about their diagnosis even in middle school and high school. I’m glad you found out eventually though! :-(
Many years ago, a Nobita video taught me to say sumimasen. It has been very useful.
Autistic cute girl: Everyone goes "Awwww 💓"
Autistic guy: Everyone goes "Ewwww 😅"
thank you a lot for sharing your experience, while I'm not diagnosed with anything as of now, since where I live it's not.... lets say, easy to have anything with mental health care, but I'm sure I'm struggling with communication and SAD, so it's been a dream of mine, to travel to Japan for that reason, I imagined I would fit there more, or get accepted in a way, but you basically summed up all of those imaginations, into reality!! you made me feel hope in a way, yes with difficulties, but it could work in a way.
also the fact that you could be diagnosed with Autism, even when you are old, not a small kid is a surprise to me too, since SAD, ADHD & Autism, could have similar signs, it's hard to actually know if you have what or even something else, since it may not be on the either ends of the spectrum, you may not be completely obvious, but you have some disorder to a degree
so thank you both Nobita-san and Bianca-san.
It's so sad that people aren't diagnosed earlier when they are on the autistic spectrum. This young lady is so frank and focused it was a joy to watch this interview and he was really good in allowing her a free rein in expressing herself . She seems a really special person who acknowledges the difficulties and finds her own coping straregies . She deserves every success in her life.
My mom dropped me off on my first day of kindergarten relieved to have a break. She got a call shortly after to come pick me up. I think this kind of autistic is pretty common in the way it manifests. I myself am the same. You have so many bad experiences with people that you eventually become self reliant just to not hear somebody correcting the mistakes you make. It's a hard niche. You need a job that doesn't recognize your faults. I myself do better dating foreigners. Unfortunately, the fact you tend to be hated by most people and teachers means you get poor outcomes as far as grades and mental health go. I'm near 40 now, I realized that people have a hard time hating an eccentric but will become uneasy around you if you don't respond correctly. So I always meet people with energy so they just think I'm crazy, and don't think different.
I love the video though. At work my main gripes have been people wearing colognes. Wrote the prior paragraph before i watched the video. I was diagnosed back in the early 90's. Unfortunately my issues manufested into chronic depersonalization at the age of 13 or so. I had step-grandparents who would lock me in a room with nothing but a cott, and not allow me to do anything. Otherwise they'd punish me by making me write what I did wrong that week over and over the entire day. Otherwise they'd do things like feed me food I found unpalatable then dump it out of my head when I couldn't finish it and make me stand outside. They were actually really nice people though, it's just that that part of the spectrum makes people turn to anger in my experience.
Know you at least aren't alone.
I've only had one person at work decipher what i actually was. He was very angry at me, and so angry he went home to Google what was wrong with me. So the next day he walked in and literally said, "do you have aspergers?". I looked at him for a few seconds, and said that would be an accurate diagnosis. Then he said "Oh, sorry. I've e been so mad at you but now that i understand we're cool".
I have autism (diagnosed at 3, I believe) and I find this video to be fascinating. I would not mind visiting Japan one day but I would have to figure out how to make it work (also am a diabetic)
Hi, I'm a type-1 diabetic living in Japan and I have kind of borderline autism, so I just can't resist the urge to cheer you up!
You can make it work! I'm autistic and live in Japan. It may be helpful to establish some kind of support system before coming over here unless you speak the language fluently. For example, an employer who will help you get set up with an apartment and bank account, etc. And local friends who can help you if you need it. I had that kind of support and it was crucial for me my first couple of years.
Being as an autism could move to Japan. I am autistic man and I could move from USA to Japan. I could work there in Japan someday. But I was feared is that they were bullying me for no reason. I could not understand some ways. Sometime I have social anxiety disorder compares to Hikikomori. I have supported good autistic people. I’m also a good civil rights activist. My IQ is little smarter.
Japan is high-context culture, so in general, I think Japan is harder place to live for autistic people than US which has lower-context culture than Japan.
Even worse for you, activists are not considered as good citizens in recent years in Japan. Japanese people don't like people to claim their rights, so they think activists are awkward.
@@lespic Actually, I’m defending Japanese people and culture. I have supports Asian people especially Japanese people. I’m also defending good autistic people but I’m not defending bad autistic people including Chris-Chan/CWC who is worst and hated. Remember those idiots such as Johnny Somali and Fidias who were disrespectful against Japanese and committed crimes. I don’t do stupid ways and I will never committing a crimes.
@@lespic Actually I’m defending a Japanese people and culture. I am also supporting Asian people including Japanese because I’m Asian living in USA. I only supporting good autistic people but I don’t support bad autistic people who were messing things up including committing a crime. I don’t do committing a crime nor stupid things. I did obeying a laws, not a dramas.
You might misunderstand that Japanese people don't like activists who make destructive actions on the demo such as destroying the shops or other things on the street.
Of course almost all Japanese don't like such people, but in the last several ten years, there are almost no such activists in Japan. Almost all social activities are legally and peacefully done.
Japanese people even hate such activism. They just hates people who claims rights because it breaks the balance. They hope the minorities to be quiet.
If you stop any activism after immigrating Japan, there should be no problem.
However, if you claim any rights to solve the descrimination against people from overseas for example, some Japanese people would say "Go back your country if you don't like Japanese way."
@@MasterChiefSnake19910128 You might misunderstand Japanese people dislike activists who make illegal and violent actions such as destroying shops, cars, or other things on the street.
Of course, Japanese people should dislike such activists if there were, but there are almost no such activists in the last several ten years in Japan.
Almost all Japanese activists do not violate the laws. They do not destroy the things. Some of them may criticize others or current social systems in a bit strong tone on X (Twitter), but that's all. Their activisms are peacefull.
Japanese people even don't like such activisms. They don't like people who tries to break the balance.
If you stop any activism after you immigrated to Japan, that should be OK. However, if you are involved in activism such as anti-racism activities to protect Chinese and Koreans in Japan, you would be considered stupid person.
To protect minorities' rights in Japan, activists must carefully treat majority's emotion.
The successful activists also silently negotiate with politicians to make a new law without being notified by the majority. It makes nothing to claim the rights loudly on social media.
I think that's what autistics are not good at.
That is what I wanted to explain.
I hope I understand what you mean correctly, but apologies if my comment is pointless 🙏
I do believe that Japan has now passed a law or something like that that allows foreign businesses or prospective businesses start ups to get residency visa you just need to meet very reasonable requirements I believe it’s like the cost of a new car in the US to start the business and you do need to in the end get a place and hire like 2 employees Don't know the specifics but maybe a video on that if you haven't done so
To be honest I think her case is too special. I was diagnosed with autism and adhd here in Japan just over a year ago and i did work in japanese companies and tried to date in japan etc. It was actually so much harder because I had to life up to Japanese standarts which I did not understand plus the things I already did not understand about human interactions and in Japan people will not correct you because they do not want you to feel bad but they will still judge you. I was ghosted so much by companies and private people an it gave me severe trauma.
She is working from home in her own bubble and chooses when she wants to interact with people.
Japan is a great country if you just want to be "left alone" but if you want to be part of the society with a mental disorder it is much much harder than other places because of the unwritten rules and high expectations
I think Japan is a paradise for people who love silence.
As a Japanese autistic person, I don't recommend people on autism to immigrate to Japan in general.
Japan is definitely NOT autism-friendly.
Reportedly, there are more people diagnosed as neurodevelopmental disorders in Japan than other countries. That implies that Japan has severer culture to autistic people.
Some people claims that much less Japanese autistic people should be diagnosed as autism if they immigrated to other countries because their autistic characteristics are not so problematic outside Japan.
I hear some autistic people who has immigrated to other countries, especially US or some European countries, have better life because they have a bit more autism-friendly culture than Japan (while I understand there are still a lot of autism-exclusive problems in those countries too.)
I wanted to immigrate to North America or (Western?) Europe if I still had oral English skills and good tech skills as a software engineer...
In Japan, people expects guessing what they want you to do even they don't explicitly ask you. You have to read between the lines.
People also prefer non-verbal communications to describing their ideas using the words. That's also the reason why many Japanese companies stop allowing WFH after coronavirus crisis.
Common sense, which is unclear and not written, is regarded as sacred. If you don't follow the common sense, you are considered stupid. You can say "You don't have common sense!" to criticize others in the strongest tone in Japanese.
If you delay even for 1 minute for your appointment, you are considered an unreliable person at all.
It is important to dress up well when you go outside. If you are a woman, you have to make up and wear heels even if you feel unconfortable and unsafe. That's the business etiquette. (Sexism? Not important at all if it conflicts to our "tradition" and common sense.)
I wonder if she is suffered from such autism-exclusive culture in Japan.
However, if she didn't experience the problems in Japan, I guess that is because she is considered as a "foreigner", or "outsider". Since Japanese people treat her a "different" person from them, they might not expect her to follow such Japanese cultures.
If you are non-Japanese, (i.e. does not speak Japanese in the native-level, and/or does not have Japanese racial characteristics) immigrating to Japan might improve your QOL even if you are on autism.
Note that autistic people diagnosed outside Japan might have stronger autistic characteristics than autistics diagnosed in Japan. Even if you are non-Japanese, Japanese nurotypicals, or even Japanese autistics who might have weaker autistic characteristics, might not accept you because of your too-strong autistic characteristics.
Anyway, I am a Japanese (i.e. was born and have grown up in Japan, speaks Japanese as a native language, and has Japanese racial characteristics), unfortunately. Therefore, the neurotypical Japanese expect me to behave as a "normal" Japanese. Since I can't and don't want to be "normal", I am a weired, rude, hard-to-communicate, and unperformant disabled person in Japan.
I'm sure that Japan is NOT a good place for autistic people.
True, Japanese give the 外人 pass :), if I went to Japan and was expected to upheld all the rules, it would've not been a good trip when I went to Japan.
I don't think autistic people will ever find a place that is accepting of them, as everyone is expected to be "normal" whatever that arbitrary measure is.
If going to europe Come to Denmark or Germany or northern europe : Requests are much more direct and "cold" and pratical business culture.
I live in Denmark and people do not care about your private time. 生き方どうにやればいいんです.
Trains have quiet sections, wearing earphones everywhere is socially accepted.
pretty much all of the government services are accessable online.
My first job was very informal business culture, you talk plainly with your boss, as if he was a fellow colleage. A few times I was confused on what he meant, so I asked for clarification, this is seen as being plus, as it shows that you care about completing the task in a good manner.
A big negative point, is that it is preferable if you are able to speak danish, or else you will have a hard time getting a job at a smaller business or building friendships with your colleagues.
If you are going to a european country it is stupid to not learn the native language, as it also makes you learn alot about the cultural attitudes and norms, and opens up more choices.
@@Mathias-bz2kr Sounds nice. Denmark may be a good place to immigrate for me.
The problem is the language. By getting old, I feel like it gets more difficult to learn new things. I don't think I can start learning Danish from now... 😵💫
@@a.ny. Thanks, I'm glad if my comment is useful for you.
Year, I can still recommend autistic people to visit Japan as tourists or enjoy Japanese subculture such as anime and manga, but IMO Japan is not good place to live for autistics.
I'm sorry that you have experienced so much abuse and discrimination. Autistic people are usually given more patience when we live in a foreign country. I am autistic and I've enjoyed my life in Japan. People are kind to me because I'm a foreigner. Your English is good, so I hope you can have a chance to live abroad in the future.
Like her I went to a montasory school too.
I haven't been able to receive a life saving medication for the majority of my life. Because drug abuse is so rampant here they treat everyone as drug addicts by default. Meanwhile all of the drug addicts on the street would have no problem smoking crack until their hearts explode or shooting heroin until they die. No disability money. No medication. Just endless gaslighting and abuse. I just want to live in a country where I can receive my medication so that I can at least live a semi-normal life.
Oh my...! Yes! Thanks for the video. As a german woman, maybe autistic too, I can really relate to most of all points why it is so comfortable to live in japan.
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I did not know dutch as so ....
In my country , if kid at 4 yo wants and tryes to write , everyone will support and teach the kid
This is such an encouraging video, Nobita. Bianca is a great example of what people on the autistic spectrum can achieve. My 5 year old son has autism. He and I are alike in many ways. I discovered I am probably on the spectrum too, so this gives me a lot of hope👍🙂
As an autistic girl too, I fell in love with japanese culture at first glance : I thought I understood more the people there, because japanese people have more social distance in overall, just like I need (less touch, less loud, less everything!). It just makes me more comfortable with others
I suffered a lot from being unknowingly autistic for 20 years; nowadays I try to reconciliate with my country's social customs, but japanese culture helped me a lot to get through my youth with the concept of tatemae especially
Reminder that autism presents differently in everyone. We all have different personalities, skills, and likes. This video was very fascinating, and I'm grateful you guys conducted this, but for viewers unfamiliar with autism; please don't base your entire view on autism because of one person. Keep an open mind. ❤️
I dont have a diagnosis but have always felt a kind of kinship with autistic folks. I feel like i "get" them. I hope more societies become accepting of their talents
5th October 2004 was a tuesday 😄 . Autism high five btw
love her
I liked during the pandemic when they had spots for people to stand on. People get way to close to me while Im trying to shop for groceries and it always makes me anxious.
japan has these rent a person services, i feel like an integration buddy service would be nice, just someone who goes outside with you to do mundane things, shopping for groceries, riding the train, going to a restaurant, showing you cool places, or whatever. they could teach you japanese and point out these unspoken rules when you two come across them. they could also make japanese only phone calls for you.
I’m autistic and I’m so nervous about going to visit Japan I don’t want to come across as rude and dismissive cause I don’t know the social norms.
よかったですね…
Hey Nobita, if you get a chance to speak with Bianca again, please let her know that she can use the Google Lens app to translate in real time. Please let me know how it works for her
this is really interesting. I'm pretty sure at this point that I am on the autism spectrum, and I always related more to eastern cultures. I imagine that I would feel more comfortable in a society like Japan or Korea rather than America. it makes me question to what extent are these disabilities created or mediated by culture/society
Too, its weird (and i know that japan is very weird and has its own maybe worse problems, that if you can accept, ok special breed of person there fits apearently.
I'm very keen and interested of seeing autism in Japan. How are the viewpoints about mental health conditions in Japan 🗾 I'm also disabled myself and autistic. In America, mental health is a joke and they don't care about disabled and vulnerable communities at all
Well i can tell in traditional Asian families, mental health isn’t taken seriously. Especially autism is shown as a weakness and lack of identity
Well ask them about Nanking first
Japan is rather notorious for ignoring mental health problems
Doctors and teachers in the US aren't educated about ASD at all. They only try to understand it if it affects their own families. Since the D in ASD stands for "disorder," I think we have a long way to go until autism is accepted. If it was called "Inventor's Syndrome," it would get free college grants, but alas. There is still a stigma attached to any "disorder," even in Japan. Awareness and acceptance is spreading, but in our lifetimes we're going to have to deal with plenty of people who don't know better and some who don't care to.
@@magicseahorse thank you for your time and consideration for those living with autism/disability as much as possible. I'm an disabled recording artist and songwriter with autism. You're correct on how people with disabilities awareness aren't fully adopted and acceptable in America/Western culture. Yet, let alone Japan/Asia isn't keen to understand the people with disabilities are looked down upon as social failures and rejects via bringing shame and dishonor among themselves and families
Even introverts can greatly expand their scope of activities in Japan.
In most cases, this leads to self-confidence.
On the other hand, Japan is not suitable for people with strong personalities who have repeatedly clashed with others and become ill.
Their symptoms will only get worse.
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8:19 - The frames on the glasses in the painting look so much better than the real ones! 😁
very german no austrian accent :D , and its fun, accents are fun.
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If someone started boycotting an adult illustration featuring girls from the eastern Balkans, we would want to support the company that made the product.
I like socializing, eye contact, touch... Japan (although cool) would be a very difficult place for me to live long-term. I would become depressed & lonely
My younger brother is autistic and while he sucks at social communication, give him a computer and its game over for you. We've failed the autistic community by allowing them to fester the worst parts of their disability without trying to hone their advantages. Most autistic in America have found themselves embracing the LGBT and other communist ideas because we treat them like babies instead of recognizing their weakness, and focusing on their strengths.
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I been diagnosed with autism when I 3. I don't mind the idea of going to Japan as a tourist or take a few weeks or months on vacation. But I'm not going to move away from the freedoms I have in the US. The kind of freedom Europeans can seem to understand.
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It's no freedom in America at all
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@@MrMartellSincere go live in a country without freedom of speech. Or most countries in the east. Americans take for granted that ability to criticize their own leaders, that isn't a thing in allot of countries. America sucks in areas like healthcare, and education, but allot of asian countries like japan, can be even more hostile to people who aren't neurotypical.
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Sorry to be a bit of a downer but i live here so do have one "warning" i guess, remember that Japanese people, language and so many other things are done indirectly with a lot of reading of subtle body/expressive language. Now im aware autism is indeed a spectrum but a fairly common issue amoungst autistic friends here is exactly that, im not on the spectrum and can still find difficulty in it. I'm sure some come and really enjoy japan, but from what ive seen it can be incredibly difficult for people on the spectrum to make friends or navigate these situations, and the Japanese still dont really account for mental issues and can see it as an "excuse". Anyway i hope you love it if you do move here, just some observations from living here :)
You make a good point, however keep in mind that autistic people struggle to understand the social rules of their native country. That out-of-place feeling you have trying to conform to a foreign culture is typically how we feel all our lives. I still feel awkward here, as I did in the U.S. But what I've found as an autistic foreigner in Japan is that I've been given grace and patience on a level I usually didn't receive at home, because Japanese don't really expect foreigners to understand their culture. They usually appreciate any attempt, even if imperfect. As some of the comments here attest, that grace unfortunately isn't given to autistic Japanese.
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I read her book “But You Don't Look Autistic at All. I didn't like it because she seems to be successful in her career and talks about being able to fly to Paris or Tokyo on a whim. That made the book unrelatable because many autistic people struggle with employment and are unable to do that.
I think that's understandable, and one of the downsides of having autism be on a spectrum. The spectrum can vary widely, so the differences between people and their experiences can too, even if a few traits are shared.
I mean if she has a job on a specialized niche that has deman everywhere, especially in it, i can imagine that helps. People are different and in her field of very specialized work its probably easier.
Men with autism live very different lives with women with autism. For women it's just a minor inconvenience, but for men they kill themselves at alarming rates.
Hi! Even though travelling as an autistic person with an autistic teenage child too, it is an assault on the senses to travel anywhere- its a massive sensory overload. We find we go into our own world so to speak, as there is two if us, we travel comfortably as we understand eachother well. Because we plan so intricately we accustomise ourselves prior by watching travel videos, 4D walks on videos to understand and plan pathways/journeys etc. We really enjoyed Japan but yes, our first holiday was definitely a sensory overload, but feeling very accomplished after we succeeded. In saying this, autism is different in every single person, and where I can cope with the overloads, my teen is better at not overloading herself with research prior and making plans at a whim- where I pre plan everything. So what is okay for one autistic would not be okay for another.
Autistic or a very smart out of the box thinker? The spectrum is quite wide these days.
She doesn’t seem autistic to me😂
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Nobita-San, I would appreciate alot if you make one video on Muslims community in Japan as well, because you have never talked about them and I know many viewers will be curious on this topic as well. 😊
Her book had portions where she said she was living in New York and was feeling stressed out, so she flew to Paris. The truth is most people with Autism struggle with employment and can't afford such luxuries.
Have you actually read the book? She never lived in New-York or fly to Paris from there 😅
Sir I never lived in New York? 😅 You may have me confused with someone else? I visited New York once to visit a friend and I'm not sure that's even in the book?
Yes, I read the book a while back. My memory is foggy, so I am sorry for saying the author lived in New York.
My problem with the book is that the author talked about travelling to different places to get away from the stresses of modern life. Good for her (and good for you Bianca). But having autism can make employment difficult, which in turn can make money difficult. Yet Bianca talked about taking trips and moving around as it it's nothing. It made me feel a bit alienated from the book as many on the spectrum struggle with ability to do such things due to finances.
@@andrewpowell1734 Bianca IS the author AND the lady in the video. Pay attention. Every autistic person is different, but yet you pass judgement on her for simply living the life that suits her best.
Some random ass paid for doctor gave her an autism diagnosis when she was 26 but is actually just a plain white woman desperate to feel unique she is quite capitalistic however enjoy illusion you have created to fool yourself and others
Japan tends to be immaculately clean, orderly, quiet, and safe. The perfect environment for someone who's a wealthy, privileged white woman going through a phase.
Autism is a lifelong neurodevelopmental disorder though, not some temporary phase. So I don't think your comment applies to her, if that's what you mean.
4:36 She even wears one of those (unhygienic) face mask.
So glad I do not see any sane people wear such mask in Europe anymore.
Autistic is a word that is thrown around online too much. A lot of "autistic" peo0le are just personality divergent. Autism is a learning disability or a very serious mental disability. Someone who has a passport, has written a book, and moved to Japan i wouldn't call autistic I'd call them divergent personality. I'm slightly autistic and sympathize with people with downs syndrome. She's well adjusted.. she reminds me of Björk. Maybe she had it as a kid but she's definitely grown into her own..... well those are just my 2 cents. I think autism is a dangerous word to throw around abd self-diagnose as. I feel it's the same as calling someone handicapped or downs syndrome. Or hard R word..some people are just "NEURO DIVERGENT" and I think it's important to make this distinction. I wish her all the best in Japan! ❤🇯🇵
Your statements about autism are objectively wrong. Don't deny this woman her diagnosis because you want to play word police. One can have a passport and still have autism. You're stigmatizing the word, not helping anyone. You won't even let this successful adult identify herself and open up about what she deals with in her life without trying to tell people not to speak like her when she speaks about herself.
Maybe she had it as a kid? Please do at least a little bit to look like you're trying to know what you're talking about. That's not how it works, or it's not autism.
You're not slightly autistic. You don't even know what the word means and you just said it's thrown around on the internet too much. By you.
There's nothing dangerous about spreading awareness about autism. Spreading ignorance, identifying with a group you don't respect or understand, and telling other people how to have discussions you don't relate to or understand in regards to their own lives is far worse.
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Neuro-divergency includes autism, so you'd be making less of a distinction. Calling a square a rectangle doesn't tell you that it has sides of equal length.
@@magicseahorse eh, I see thier point. the difference between high and low functioning autism is vast and with how little we understand the conditions they may not even have the same mechanisms behind them. It may be a mistake to lump them all together under a vague umbrella term despite the radically different challenges they would face. There's also the growing tendency to pathologize every psychological difference in people, listing them as dysfunctional despite the ability to live independently. The narrowing of "normal" seems like a bad trend that will only further ostracize and divide people, while pushing focus further away from those who genuinely need specific care.
But it's cool to be diagnosed with autism these days
You are wrong, that its a mental disorder, unless its very extreme cases, its surprising ewasy to adapt, if the environment would. Like kids and people can adapt to anything, just autists do harder, and do, why the ris so much mental health issues due the stress of habvi ng so much more emotional work to somewhat not standing out.
But thats bbecause well, if you accept that with a few changes and not expeczting uniformity, all that, would be not hard to learn to communicate with other ways of communicating, not hard. Just be more frank and precise.
Seriously, you just renamed neurodiverent to personality divergent and think people should take you serious? The brain and how it works, is the personality , .
Whats next, denying lefthanded people exist?
@@NamekSaiyan Yeah, but only because you finally got a word to know what you thought was wrong with you , has a name, and pretty common, and like can be managed fine for the most part, and has strenghs, and it havin a name, is a relief.
Thats why its cool, because its a big step toward self discovery. And a relief to know , and notr not know.
Like if you had a source of chronic migraine, all your life, and you get a reason why, you would like too and how to deal better with it. Ok autism isnt exactly migraine, but you would be happy to have a name for the migraine thing, and proof you arent just crazy.
doesnt look auti\stic to me, lying for attention?
She does to me, in so far as that is possible. Autism is a neurodevelopmental disorder. So of course it doesn't have a 'look' per se.
@@Marescio No I meant her behavior not appearance, Any weird things she described were just a socially awkward teen so about half of them. Not actual symptom\s of autism.
@@Marescio Also the very late diagnosis age i\s strange to \sy the least, didnt the parents notice anything ever?
@@thdotaku I don't know. But I only got diagnosed at 31, and some people get diagnosed after 50 or 60. Similar to Bianca, I was also considered 'gifted' at some point. Autistic people tend to cope by masking their autism in public/social situations. That doesnt mean they don't suffer from it, it just means they try to fit in (often to their own detriment).
@@Marescio Again doesnt the age of diagnosis strike you as strange, I suggest opening a real medical psychiatry book from a uni and judging for yourself. You lived your whole life and suddenly got diagnosed at 30,50? Sounds like prescription happy docs putting people on pills tome, especially common in Amerikastan. There are also docs who ignore children with REAL OBVIOUS signs like hysteria,lack of awareness/pereception , just plain repeated stupidity.
Sounds like a narcissist.
Exactly!!...Autism is really an exhausting problem for parents and the environment. I have seen people fake this condition and it is not at all close to the real behavior of those who have autism, the shouting, babbling and disruptive behavior, lethargy, problems learning certain subjects, social problems... lately teenagers try to diagnose themselves as autistic a lot. .
@@svenlou7094 I've observed that there's a sort of technologically induced "autism" & "ADHD" that spreads. Becoming terminally online and interfacing with algorithms designed to hijack executive functioning, along with endless novelty, seems to create similar symptoms. People running simulations of other people in their head through a screen, diving down endless rabbitholes, being fed a narrative of "neurodivergence" to explain the symptoms of their internet addiction. Remove the internet, and I believe many symptoms would go away, but that's not easy in the modern world where other structures have deteriorated.
Either way, people are struggling in general. The root causes are often obfuscated.
Exactly! She came across that way in her book. See my comment above.
There is no way this is your actual accent, lmfao. Dude, add some subtitles. I have no idea what you're trying to say. Don't use a fake accent.