Lost one of my transgender friends earlier this year. So I’m going to say this: You are valid. People say “It gets better” and though at this time in life it may not seem true. It is. There is always someone out there who loves you, who supports you. So my brothers, sisters, siblings: Well done. You’re still here, you are an amazing person. I support you.
This made me cry 1. For your loss. I am so sorry about that. 2 for saying you support me and I am valid. I never hear that and I needed to. So thank you
I asked how my dad would react to me being trans, and he started explaining about how he would most likely give me up to a family member, and how it’s “It’s so disrespectful that people just decide to give up the body that god gave them” so I just nodded and said I was going to go to sleep. For a bit of backround information, I am a transgender male who has depression, anxiety, and a lot of tramua. My mother died right in front of me, and I got kidnapped when I was 5. Recently my grandmother died, and my best friend has started to bully me. They managed to get 4 more people to bully me as well. But back to the point, The day after I asked my dad about the trans thing, I went to school and got bullied again, so I went into the bathroom and cried for about 10 minutes, the teacher sent my girlfriend to go check on me, (She didn’t know we were dating, she just knew we were close) and she found me crying in one of the handicap stalls. She asked what was wrong and I explained everything. She got angry at my dad but comforted me, which helped but I was still a mess, but we went back to class, I had my hood on and she had her arms wrapped around me while she explained why I was upset. But the teacher, decided to say that my dad was in the right, and That I should be “A normal kid your age” Then sent me to the discipline office. I didn’t get in trouble but I got sent to the school counselor, and spent most of the day there. When I got home my dad said that we were going to my grandparents house with my cousins. I’m mentioning my cousins because of what happens next. We get there and almost immediately my grandpa starts to talk to my dad about how one of my younger cousins was transgender and how it was “Disgraceful, and really F*cking stupid that she decided it would be a good Idea to cut her hair and identify as a guy” and he was upstairs with his brother crying. So I went up there and said I was trans as well. She told me that I should stay strong, and Never tell anyone in the family. I agreed and we spent the rest of the time upstairs hanging out. We went home and my dad started calling him a “Disgrace” and saying things like “She was a mistake anyway”. I went to my room and cried. A few days later I tried to come out as gay, and he starts to yell at me about how “You’re too young to know.” “I didn’t know If I was gay at your age!” And the worst one was “You say anything like that again and you’re out of the house” He left my room and I called my girlfriend and explained what happened while crying like crazy. I don’t think I’m going to make it now. To all of our trans brothers, sisters, and siblings, please know you are perfect no matter what people say. Just hold on as long as you can. And to the homophobic parents out there, please take our feelings into consideration before you barade us with hurtful judgement. Try to be open minded? -A brother with support
> “You’re too young to know.” “I didn’t know If I was gay at your age!” Well, even if your oldman got mad, he's still make sense at some point... 🤔 Such things should not be determined in seconds by a poor living experience and a few examples that are stay out of line. Of course if you not gonna make irreparable decisions that you are going to regret when it's too late. 🌚
My best friend committed suicide a few days ago over stress and not being accepted as a transgender from his parents... Why can’t parents be more accepting to prevent things like this? This is the reason I lost my best friend.
I'm so sorry that happened to you, I'm trans myself and my friend has attempted suicide from it, I know how it feels, I'm here if you ever need to talk.
I’m transgender and my dad committed suicide cause when he came home From the military I was a girl now and i tried to commit suicide and I have scars on my arms. Stay strong it will get better even thought it haven’t for me it will soon. I support lgbtq. I am still not excepted
I am a TransParent. You are worthy Love. We loving hearts are out here, accepting & devotedly supporting Trans Folx.. I’m on IG..... @proudtransparent. 💛
My Grandparents are supporting of the LGBT community, my Aunt's are Lesbian, and I have a cousin(Mom's Cousin) who is gay, so I was able to come out as Pansexual, but I came out as Trans not too long ago, and they did say that they support me, but they just want me to know if I am to go through the transition that it's not reversible. And I know that.. I was finally able get a buzzcut, and I feel so much better, but I still deal with hating my body everyday, I look at my brother and just think about how lucky he is to feel like he's in the right body, while I'm not, I have a friends who is also Trans and his parents are Transphobic. I just hope that hate will go away for not just towards the LGBT community, but for everyone. And to anyone who goes through hate from the people around you for being different, just remember, you are not alone, you do have people who care and love you, everyday that you deal with being different makes you stronger, you may not feel like it, but you are. You are loved for who you are, try your best to remember that, you are never alone.
People need to know the difference between a "phase" and someone who isn't really meant to be trans. Not everyone will figure themselves out so easily, I've had loved ones find out late in transition that being transgender wasn't meant for them, but that's okay. It doesn't make it a phase. To say someone is "in a phase" is belittling for them. Be safe, don't pressure yourself, and don't listen to those pressuring you 💜
Exactly! You're able to tell gender and sexuality at so young! I'm a trixic person (person who is only attracted to girls but identify as non-binary) and I remember there being a picture of me dancing with a boy and my parents saying we'd get married someday, but when I told them I like girls they just told me it was a phase, and when my mom asked me if I was non-binary (I got my haircut and the person whose hair I was referencing was another trixic who is an actor [Bex Taylor-Klaus]) I told her no, not being ready to come out, knowing she probably wouldn't accept me at all (she's more transphobic than homophobic) and might kick me out. She then went on to talk about how she "doesn't believe in" non-cis people, and then taking about how her side of the family is "busted" (her words, not mine).
I cried during this, Because swallowing the feeling that you'll never become who you want hurts, and the thought of being told "It's just a phase" or "you'll get over it" or 'NO ONE WILL LOVE YOU" or "God doesn't makes mistakes" because it mean that people don't believe you or they only want you to be the way they want you to be, and it feels like a knife in my back hearing those words. and I know i'm not the only one and the beauty of this songs shows that. - Connor, Female To Male. (Sorry if the beginning sound kinda rude or confusing I didn't know how to word it!!!)
Suhana M I accept & support you Love. My son ended his life in June. I am on IG.....@proudtransparent I am proud of you for living your authentic life💛
I’m transgender my brother and dad ended there lives all cause of me being transgender and I have to lock myself in my room and I cry all night and I am not supported by anyone but my boyfriend
@@rydendavis3704 i’m so so sorry, you did not deserve that :( it was not your fault at all, never think it was. i hope everything gets better for you and you will be accepted by the people you love ❤️
If its a phase then why has it been going on for years? Years of torture that i can barely get out of, im confused and mad Why do people expect me to be who they want me to be? Let me be who i want to be! This is my body! I am my own person!
I have never met one of my brothers (sister) my dad couldnt get in contact with him and resently found out he was a trans mal, That really helped me as i have been FTM for years before we know he was and it helped my dad understand that its not a Phase, its how we are.
I'm 20 y/o mtf and I just started hrt yesterday. Stay strong my fellow trans-sisters, trans-brothers and trans-enbys, better times WILL come. There is light at the end of the tunnel ❤
Hey! Sir! Yeah, you! I heard you feel insecure about your voice and chest! Who cares about what others think about your voice or how your chest is? You are valid and don't you forget it!
Mom told me today “Cutting your hair won't make you a boy, even if you do that you'll always be a girl. I don't know what you're trying to demonstrate”. I haven't even told them I'm trans yet...
Dont listen to them. I dont think you should come out to them, or anyone that isnt safe to. You are you and thats ok. 100% ok. I accept you. You are a boy and if someone has a problem with thats just saying how closed minded they are. Stay strong and stay proud
Hugs to all my Brothers and Sisters, don't ever give up, and keep fighting to be you. Thank you @Lyric guy for posting this video. Id love to know who Sang the song though.
@@theyluvvalyx Always Rembered never forgoten, And All inclusive, thats what my message is, and my Hugs are for ALL my brothers and sisters no matter the walk of life that they lead, Skin Color, Creed, Sexualtiy, or Gender, etc. The list goes on. Never give up on being you. Hugs
sorry that i didn't heart/reply to your comment, i didn't see it when looking through the comments. and the original video is linked at the top of the description, or this; ruclips.net/video/YZJBvJEIzjo/видео.html
I told my dad I wanted to be addressed as a boy and he yelled at me. My mom found out and laughed at me. I laughed along so she doesn’t feel bad. It hurts me to remember this, I wish I never asked my dad that.
I’m not gonna come out to my family until I get too surgery because they won’t help me get it so I’ll save money and get my hair cut and once I’m good enough to sustain myself and pay for it that’s why I’ll tell them. “Is it still a phase?”
Friendly reminder, to my brothers, sister and siblings alike, you're valid no matter what anyone says. No matter what happens you have to stay strong, the world may seem cruel and bitter but it'll eventually get better. - A fellow brother.
Hey! Mx! Yeah, you! I heard you feel insecure about your voice and chest! Who cares about what others think about your voice or how your chest is? You are valid and don't you forget it!
My mom loves having her little girl and I don’t think she would be very accepting so I’m coming out when I have enough money to move out (probs going to Cali cus it’s the most lgbt friendly state)
For those of you who have parents that pretend to be accepting, and are subtilty transphobic YOU ARE YOU AND THERE OPINION IS STUPID It's okay to be okay and it's also okay to not be okay remember self love is a long road and hard to work towards and I know you're perfect just they way you feel is right And for those who can't wear a binder or pack(is that right sorry I don't know much about mtf) you still matter and you are handsome/beautiful I love and support each and every one of my trans brothers and sisters and especially the trans poc
@@davidjimenez7258 actually being a trans girl means being a guy isn't easy That's kind of the whole reason people transition It's easier to accept oneself rather than "just be a guy"
My mom doesn't accept me as her son but luckily I'm in foster and my foster mom supports me alot she cut my hair and she's getting me a binder and she calls me Noah and not my dead name and I never felt more like myself :)
I'm a trans girl and earlier this year I was put into a psych unit due to an attempted suicide, and while the deadnaming and misgebdering hasn't changed alot of other things have so I'm hopeful for the future! and I wanted to thank everyone who helps people going through similar things as myself and to the others going through this too : your not alone and I promise you it'll get better!
@@coronaman4887 "I'm bullied constantly for simply living as myself and every hour of every day I'm bombarded with hatred from strangers and family alike who think I deserve to burn in hell" "Attempted suicide" It makes perfect sense, but not for the reasons you might think.
Hey! Ma'am! Yeah, you! I heard you feel insecure about your voice and chest! Who cares about what others think about your voice and how your chest is? You are valid and don't you forget it!
I just wanted to point out that the lyrics clearly show that this song is made specifically and specially for FTM and MTF trans people, people in the binary.
@@remitafh I put it here so that people who aren’t in the binary could know, just so they didn’t get put off if they only talked about guys and girls in the song. At the time, I was dating an enby person and they felt disconnected from the song because they didn’t know until they listened to it. There isn’t a need to be rude. I don’t see why your comment was needed? But I’m not being rude about it.
@@Nuh_uh37 Welll then its just not a song for them. Then they have to find one that fits, If this song is made for Transmale and Transfemale then it is and its allowed to be. Not everything has to be gender neutral. And im just saying my opinion, a bit harsh maybe but im not insulting anyone or whatever. All i wanna say is that yea its for people in the binary and if its intended to be like this then its fine.
Sarah Bastien, I know how you feel, it’s like this for me, my mom is accepting of me but she won’t call me by my perfered pronouns. But try to be yourself.
I'm so scared that if I come out as nonbianry then my parents won't accept me and just make me feel so much worse about myself honestly idk what to do because I also want them to stop misgendering me and making me feel like shit
you should try and come out maybe bring up nonbinary role models or some topic about it and see what they think and see if its safe for you to come out
yeah, i feel like they'll try and push me back into femininity, as well as misgender me and out me to people to make some sort of joke. but on the other hand, i keep transgender su!c!de rates and other things like that saved on my phone for that reason, including accepting vs. non-accepting parents
I know this comment was made 2 years ago, but let me give you a tip anyway: get a group on non-binary and trans friends, they can help you feel validated and less alone in your life.
2020:5 years until I move out! I've come out to two people in real life. My hair is shortish I'm starting high school next year which means no siblings or parents there to stop me from asking to be called Logan. Life's getting better. I'm going to update every year. Edit 2021 January : I have the haircut I’ve wanted since the third grade. I have at least 9 friends who accept me for who I am, my family doesn’t know a thing (thank god). 2021 April: I got my binder from a friend back in February. I’m trying to convince my grandma to give me a more masculine cut. The new trans bills that were passed in my state are freaking terrible. Its been tough, I just wish I was born a cis guy. I feel like ill never be accepted. Edit: September 2021 it’s been awhile… I lost my binder and I’m growing out my hair so the kids at school will leave me alone. But I’ve came out to more friends. And only 4 years left now!! November 2021: still haven’t found my binder, but I didn’t have the courage to speak up in highschool im in 9th grade rn and bloody terrified for someone to discover my secret. My hair is getting to my shoulders.. I hate it. I hate everything. My boyfriend loves me, Logan Xavier S. Not the girl everyone else thinks I am. The wait feels so fucking long tho I’m sick of having tits.
I know the feeling of wishing to be born the other gender. But I am sure that you will be excepted eventually, even if it's when you fly the coop. And I agree that the bills are horrid (don't know if we are in the same state, but mine passed bills earlier this spring that restrict trans rights). Keep your spirits up, it won't be this way forever!
Trans male here. !trigger warning! Hey im Jezze. im a 13 year old transgender ftm, with parents that refuse to accept i am trans, i have severe depression and am suicidal. im trying to stay strong but its hard when you cant be yourself in your own house. im so sorry and feel deep sympathy for trans sisters, brothers, and siblings who have to deal with unaccepting parents, just know that it will get better and there are people in this world who does accept you.
Stay strong bro, your excepted by alot more people than you think. Hang in there for me. I'm also trans but I don't have to deal with trans phobes that often so I cant talk from experience and I cant imagine the hell you have to go through everyday, but I know that it must be hard, I dont know how much this means to you, but I support you.
Trans male here and I know what the song means, I've experienced all these feelings so many times and I know how people that don't have anyone feel, my family isn't supportive at all but my friends and teachers are, if yall are reading this and need someone to talk to I'm here for you with open loving arms dudette!
I'm glad someone remembered Lelah. The rest, of course, as well. Her in particular, got to me as she was someone more talked about when it happened. It was the same year when I had made multiple attempts. Thanks for this as a whole. It's not easy, but please hang in there, everyone struggling too
I am trans ftm. My dad is constantly telling me it's a phase bc he doesn't believe that I can know just because I am young (I'm 13). and my mom just straight up said no and told me I'm not a boy. I feeling like leaving this world behind every day, but then I remember the reason I kept myself alive for so long. Hope. Hope that things will get better, home that people will come to their senses and accept me for me. And hope that I can finally make someone proud. I am also staying for people I care for. My sister, who was like my mother my entire life when my mom forgot how to be a parent. My sister was always the one to help me when I was upset. She was the first person to take action and help convince my dad to let me cut my hair (he said no). I cut my hair myself and my sister might have been states away but she was still texting me constantly. She is in the navy and I hardly ever see her. But she promised to come home, and she made me promise to still be here when she got home. I am doing my best to keep my promise even if it is really difficult. I am also staying for my "best friend" even though I don't think he gives a shit about me. I don't even really consider him my best friend anymore. We have been best friends for 6yrs and suddenly he started treating me horribly. But I do have my actual best friend. She means the world to me and I could never imagine life without her. She called my dad when I was laying on the floor in tears after taking an entire bottle of pills. She literally saved my life. She is also always there to talk when I need her and never lets me down. I am also staying for my boyfriend. Tbh we are not as close as we used to be. We don't know each other irl but I assure you he is not some 60yr old man lol. But he is still there to talk whenever I need him. Sorry about the long rant, but just remember you are needed, you are wanted, and you are enough
This comment made me tear up. I'm 13, trans mtnb, and I'm not out to anyone in my personal life, and I don't think I will be until highschool which is just another 14 months of hating myself and being trapped in a bubble which I can't escape. All of my friends are homophobic and transphobic, and they treat it as some kind of sick joke. Sometimes I think about killing myself, but I never follow through for the hope that everything will get better, but at this point I don't know that it ever will. I also live in an extremely transphobic state which not only depresses me but makes me fear if I ever do get outed that I could be taken from my family or even arrested and forced into some kind of conversion therapy. Every time I see myself in a mirror I get mad at how I look and I get reminded of my dysphoria and unaccepting environment. Yesterday I told my mom I was sad, and she asked me about it. I tried to avoid the conversation but she kept pressing me, so I had to decide between coming out then and there or lying. I chose to lie. Even now, writing this comment, I'm starting to feel worse and worse about myself. I just want friends who I don't have to put on an ugly mask around just so I can be seen as socially acceptable in their eyes. I just want friends who will accept me for who I am and are like me. But I can't have that because of where I live. I loathe everything about my life right now, and I wish I could just disappear or stop existing entirely. I can empathize with you, and I'm so sorry for what you had to go through. Thank you for this comment, and I hope you're doing okay.
To all trans folks, as well as all members if Queer Community, especially teenagers and young adults: There is a huge worldwide community waiting for you, to be your friend, your chosen family and more. Don't give up little brothers and sisters because you are LOVED by people you haven't even met yet.
“You might not see the finish line but I promise you its there.” -Jaime Raines Please stay strong❤️ I believe in you I support you I wish you the best I hope you find yourself I love you.
I am a transgender FtM and I was kicked out of my moms house at 17 and was homeless for a while and living with my best friend until i couldn't stand it and tried to take my own life... I ended up in the hospital and in my second ever group home, Im in my third now and will be leaving in 5ish months to transitional housing and won't graduate highschool until im 20... Im about to start testosterone in a couple weeks/months and It's given me more of a reason to live. life gets better, thats a promise... To anyone who needs this... You matter. Don't give up. Love, Karter
“It’s justa phase” … “your to young to even be thinking about this!” I got scolded by my aunt for being a trans boy and she screamed and I will never forgive her that caused me so much pain
I know what it feels like I'm a trans male too and your valid please if you're thinking about it don't I love you I love you for who you are no matter what
Leelahs story made me cry. She will forever be missed. And so will taylor,zander and jude(p.s if anybody could tell me whos jude and whats their story it'll be very nice).
I came.out to my mom and she told me it was just a phase and I'll learn to love myself as a woman. It's been 5 years since i started feeling this way and my dysphoria gets worse and worse i need therapy but my mom thinks I'm fine she doesn't believe anything can be wrong with me I'm tired of being called a she or her, girly or even viewed as a woman. I just want to live my life. Sadly I've experienced enough abandonment and abuse that i formed a system but now im thankful they help me and i have Amazing support from ym trans alters. Angie especially she's a trans woman and helps me with dysphoria when i need to be seen as feminine for my family.
Hey, if you’re reading this then just remember it’s going to be ok, life can be hard but I am SO proud of you, you are braver than a lot of people because you are brave enough to be you despite adversity, you are always valid, you are NOT alone and there will always be people who love you. No matter how bad things get remember you’ve got a sister here in this comments section who will always have your back xx Stay healthy, Stay Valid, Stay You
I’m so sorry I’ve known I wasn’t rlly a girl since I was 3 to 5 and I knew I was trans when I was 10 I’m currently 10 and I’m so happy for u that u started t!
It's a constant struggle but I'm still here and next year I turn 18, I can finally be myself without my family judging (edit; one year later now and i'm one month on testosterone and feel like my true self)
That’s so awesome, I am so happy for you! Congratulations man! -A questioning trans-ish non-binary teen who doesn’t really know what’s going on anymore.
I know i am really late but for all my trans sisters, brothers and just siblings you all need to stay strong and even if we have trasofobic parents/siblings/friends remember there is nothing wrong with you❤ you are amazing and there are ppls like you love you all and stay strong❤❤❤❤
I'm a trans girl, pre-op, andi gotta deal with being called transphobic and homophobic names ALL THE TIME. it hurts a lot. There are some who will fight against us. But trust me when I say this... It will get better. Just hope, pray, and use ur support group to ur advantage. I love you all, LGBTQ+ community. 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️
Listening to this on Transgender Day of Remembrance. To anyone who's ever lost someone because of the hatred in this world, I'm so sorry. I know we don't get the same thoughts and prayers that others do, but it'll be okay someday. You'll find peace, and you'll find your voice to fight and keep us all here.
I'm adopting you all! I'll pay for your haircuts and buy ya'll some binders. and my beautiful mtf lovelies we can get you some makeup, dresses and cute outfits :)
Not transgender, but I like to change the lyrics a bit for me personally. I cant come out to my mother that I'm bi. She thinks it's just a phase, and I'm "too young" to think that way.
It startles me how much some encouragement from random comments can help raise mood. This speaks to a little kindness can go so far. Mad Respect & Much Love -Lala
I’m transgender FTM, but my mom isn’t really a big fan of the lgbtq+ and then my dad doesn’t even know what that is- and the thing that bothers me the most is that my mom is so nice to me and I love her but idk if she will still care abt me if I come out. I’m 11, the only person I came out to is my sister, I get tired of hearing “it’s just a phase” or “your too young”. And yea I may be a little different from the other kids in my school, but I’m proud of that, and your never too young to know who you really are. So just remember to never give up hope, and stay safe everyone
But in due time the people we know will have to accept it, we're not going anywhere anytime soon. Also i recommend to start as soon as you can in the job department even if it's chores or mowing the neighbors lawn and if your family doesn't provide jobs for you to do the second best option is to wait 'till your legal age to work in your state. as being transgender is pretty expensive you've gotta be determined to work hours of the day for that payoff it really does suck that some people have to work harder for the body they want it's just like bodybuilding only.. more depressing and dysphoric. You don't have to get surgery to be a transgender male/them/female though so don't think i'm implying you HAVE to it's just most of us do you are valid no matter what got it? If you're looking into surgery early which is completely fine just don't think about it till your about 16 same with HRT (Hormonal Replacement Therapy) as we stop puberty at about 15-16 i believe? and it's best not to stunt our growth as it could cause us issues in the future. Surgerys for FTM Top Surgery www.insider.com/what-is-top-surgery Bottom Surgery www.healthline.com/health/transgender/bottom-surgery#choosing-a-provider And HRT (Not really a surgery) www.femaletomale.org/ftm-transitioning-guide/testosterone-hrt/ Btw you are way more mature than i was when i was 11 x,D
@@noahpouncey9785 No problemo ^^ Age is indeed limiting but there are ways to work around the system! being patient IS an important part of transitioning.. but that doesn't mean you can't find a way to speed up the process a bit. Here is a resource for binders in case you're in need. pointofpride.org/chest-binder-donations/
Update: so I sorta came out to my mom on accident, u see I wrote her a letter but it wasn’t meant for know. I was gonna give it to her on my bday cuz it’s soon, but I left in the back of her car...she read it and I didn’t know. But the next day she talked to me about it, know that she knows how I really feel she’s acually very supportive. And I’m very thankful she supports me, but she said it’s gonna take her awhile to get used to calling me he/him. But I’ll just correct her when she doesn’t. But my dad, I may just wait till next year to come out to him. And thank u again because I really need a binder.
@@noahpouncey9785 Not an issue, and congragulations! i hope for the best in your social transition. I should probably take advice from you. my mother say's she's supportive but wouldn't even call me he/him or son, she told dad but nothing came out of it they're both trump supporters and conservatives though my mother is less on the political side my father talks about it all the time. She won't allow me to get a binder 'till i'm 17 because she thinks it's gonna cause issues with my lungs in growth, that doesn't happen unless you follow the rules and put it on right. I'm about 13 turning 14 this year i'll try doing the same with a letter once my birthday rolls around if this doesn't work i'll keep trying. -Thanks for the idea xD
I had an argument with my dad about my identity earlier today, he kept trying to explain why he didn't want to call me by my name (and instead deadname me) and then it turned into my identity being outside influence and a phase. I've cried twice tonight, and honestly I don't know how much longer I can take living like this. He says he cares and then invalidates me. I have so much going on already, why the fuck can't I just be cishet. I know I'm not the only one going through this, so I encourage everyone else dealing with it all to stay strong, you're not alone, never have been and never will be.
Once I was watching a movie with a trans man character as protagonist and my mom started to argue with me about "how I'm so easily influenced by internet and that I needed to stop it" I still kinda lucky because I don't have dysphoria and accept all pronouns, but even that way is not easy... You're loved and you deserve kindness and happiness. Don't you ever forget that.
To every transgender: LBGTQ+ is supporting you where ever you go. You are loved. Don't commit suicide. Stay strong for yourself and every other transgender and non binary person 💙💖⚪💖💙
im a 14 yo transfem and the only person in my family ive told is my brother, at first when i told him he hated it and told me id "never be a woman" but now he's just barely getting okay with it, he doesnt call me sis or by my preferred name, but tbh its okay ig.. i hate ghe fact that i cant do anything like grow out my hair or wear makeup, i get bullied in school cuz im the weird and chubby guy, and it hurts me so fucking much to be deadnamed all day long, i just wished i had the courage to come out and be myself... i hate experiencing gender dysphoria on the daily, at times (and even still now) ive contemplated de-transitiong... im tired and cant fucking rest...
Hey it'll get better, there will be people to help you along! If you need to talk to someone I'll be here I can be your trans big brother (I'm 15), I'm sure you're a beautiful girl just waiting to be let out of the closet. Stay strong
Watched this when I first figured it out, when i started to self harm, and again now that it's getting better. It's helped me a lot, and it also got more and more relatable. But from a trans guy who attempted, it probably will get better at some point, and try to set goals that you have to finish far in the future that keep you alive. You got this.
So...im transgender ftm and i went in my brothers room because he was scared because there was noise coming from there and my sister was yelling aceoss the house to my bro and she said "go help your sister or brother or whatever" and then turned to my mom and said "i don’t know anymore"... i think my mom yelled at her for saying im her brother....
A student at my school committed suicide. Nobody told anyone, no announcement, no nothing. The teachers had to break the news. A year and a half later and I learned that she was transgender and killed herself because she was bullied. I feel horrible for waiting this long but I’m going to do everything in my highschooler power to share what I know now
I'm not accepted as transgender by my parents. I came out as a member of the Transgender Youth a few years ago. I am not addicted to alcohol and am underage, I try to find it however I can.
My parents who are “not transphobic” refuse to call me he and yet they still get called great parents because no one knows how broken everyone in my family is
Hi! MTF Non-Binary here, 13yo. I’ve felt really hopeless for a long, long time. But yesterday, I finally felt like my transition had some hope. I struggle extraordinarily with anxiety on things like this, but I finally managed to talk to my mom about this. She’s supportive and says she’ll get me whatever I want. My best friend is also supportive and well… even if it sounds cheesy, just know that the past few months, I felt like my life was going nowhere. I wanted to die, but I got a support network. I’m finally in a place where I can transition. I wish we lived in a world where everyone could have my experience of support, but for those who haven’t found it yet, know that each and every one of US support you. It’s gonna be tough, it’s always tough, and I may not be having exactly the same experience as you, but I know you will all grow into the wonderful of people. Looking back, it’ll be just that. A hard part of your life, but a part that’s over. In time, you’ll be surrounded by people who support you. You’ll look to your future and know there are many happy years ahead. Even if it doesn’t seem like it now, you feel hopeless, like giving up… I promise you, things will get better. 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵 Wishing you all the best!
"He said I cut off my circulation end my bitterness or cut off my hair so I can breath in hopefullness" I wish my school, teachers, family could just call me a boy and stop telling me i'm a "female"
(TW) "Just a phase" that is What My Mother always says and it hurts alot.. and this song just helps me alot i just wish My family would accept me :/.. i have tought about ending it.. but im tryning to stay strong
Trans guy here, (i’m a teen) i came out to my mom back in June 2021 and she and I had a talk about it. She had the audacity to say “it’s just a phase.” (TW) And between that time - to two months ago, i tried to commit twice. Neither of which worked obviously. But now i have fellow trans friends, i have accepting friends that call me Lucas instead of my deadname and use he/him for me, and i have a loving boyfriend who is as well trans. So now i see that i shouldn’t let a few people’s opinions ruin everything. because my sister, brothers, siblings, and i should be able to liv our lives as our selves, not someone else.
Lost one of my transgender friends earlier this year. So I’m going to say this:
You are valid. People say “It gets better” and though at this time in life it may not seem true. It is. There is always someone out there who loves you, who supports you.
So my brothers, sisters, siblings: Well done. You’re still here, you are an amazing person. I support you.
i am so sorry for your loss
i believe that together we can build a future where no one will have to get trough this
@@ioanavornicita2021
Yeah, I hope one day everything will change and be able to just exist without hate
thank you and sorry for you lose
This made me cry 1. For your loss. I am so sorry about that. 2 for saying you support me and I am valid. I never hear that and I needed to. So thank you
I am so so sorry for your lost, i hope one day, the world would accept lgbt+ people more
I asked how my dad would react to me being trans, and he started explaining about how he would most likely give me up to a family member, and how it’s “It’s so disrespectful that people just decide to give up the body that god gave them” so I just nodded and said I was going to go to sleep. For a bit of backround information, I am a transgender male who has depression, anxiety, and a lot of tramua. My mother died right in front of me, and I got kidnapped when I was 5. Recently my grandmother died, and my best friend has started to bully me. They managed to get 4 more people to bully me as well. But back to the point, The day after I asked my dad about the trans thing, I went to school and got bullied again, so I went into the bathroom and cried for about 10 minutes, the teacher sent my girlfriend to go check on me, (She didn’t know we were dating, she just knew we were close) and she found me crying in one of the handicap stalls. She asked what was wrong and I explained everything. She got angry at my dad but comforted me, which helped but I was still a mess, but we went back to class, I had my hood on and she had her arms wrapped around me while she explained why I was upset. But the teacher, decided to say that my dad was in the right, and That I should be “A normal kid your age” Then sent me to the discipline office. I didn’t get in trouble but I got sent to the school counselor, and spent most of the day there. When I got home my dad said that we were going to my grandparents house with my cousins. I’m mentioning my cousins because of what happens next. We get there and almost immediately my grandpa starts to talk to my dad about how one of my younger cousins was transgender and how it was “Disgraceful, and really F*cking stupid that she decided it would be a good Idea to cut her hair and identify as a guy” and he was upstairs with his brother crying. So I went up there and said I was trans as well. She told me that I should stay strong, and Never tell anyone in the family. I agreed and we spent the rest of the time upstairs hanging out. We went home and my dad started calling him a “Disgrace” and saying things like “She was a mistake anyway”. I went to my room and cried. A few days later I tried to come out as gay, and he starts to yell at me about how “You’re too young to know.” “I didn’t know If I was gay at your age!” And the worst one was “You say anything like that again and you’re out of the house” He left my room and I called my girlfriend and explained what happened while crying like crazy. I don’t think I’m going to make it now.
To all of our trans brothers, sisters, and siblings, please know you are perfect no matter what people say. Just hold on as long as you can.
And to the homophobic parents out there, please take our feelings into consideration before you barade us with hurtful judgement. Try to be open minded?
-A brother with support
Edit- *He told me
I hope you're doing better now, sorry that you had to go through that.
Just remember you are valid and nobody can say otherwise
I’m so sorry you had to deal with that. You’re valuable, valid and you matter. I hope you’re doing well now
> “You’re too young to know.” “I didn’t know If I was gay at your age!”
Well, even if your oldman got mad, he's still make sense at some point... 🤔 Such things should not be determined in seconds by a poor living experience and a few examples that are stay out of line. Of course if you not gonna make irreparable decisions that you are going to regret when it's too late. 🌚
My best friend committed suicide a few days ago over stress and not being accepted as a transgender from his parents...
Why can’t parents be more accepting to prevent things like this? This is the reason I lost my best friend.
I'm sorry to hear that, I'm here if u need to talk
*happy* not healthy
I'm so sorry that happened to you, I'm trans myself and my friend has attempted suicide from it, I know how it feels, I'm here if you ever need to talk.
Stay strong!
I’m transgender and my dad committed suicide cause when he came home From the military I was a girl now and i tried to commit suicide and I have scars on my arms. Stay strong it will get better even thought it haven’t for me it will soon. I support lgbtq. I am still not excepted
Trans girl here, Here to support the trans guys stay strong through everything life is worth living xo
wait ik this is 5 months old but isnt isaac a boy name? im a trans male named isaac
@@isaxeleven yes it is a boy name but nobody knows I'm trans yet and my mum knows mu account so in just using my borthname for now!
@@Lilith-jh3lc oh!
@@Lilith-jh3lc what’s your preferred name?
I’m a trans guy
Who else here is FTM
Yes, hi I am also female to mistake lmao
@@Feldsparb420 same bro
@@Feldsparb420 same man, no one understands that I'm a mistake not a female 😥
Yassss
Heya
I love this song
I'm a Transgender male and I feel this
omg same all of wut u commented
Same
Same here bro
I am a transgender 13 year old girl who ran away from my grandma’s house
sadly same
I’m crying I felt like this and struggle a lot with this stuff
I am a TransParent. You are worthy Love.
We loving hearts are out here, accepting & devotedly
supporting Trans Folx..
I’m on IG..... @proudtransparent.
💛
My Grandparents are supporting of the LGBT community, my Aunt's are Lesbian, and I have a cousin(Mom's Cousin) who is gay, so I was able to come out as Pansexual, but I came out as Trans not too long ago, and they did say that they support me, but they just want me to know if I am to go through the transition that it's not reversible. And I know that.. I was finally able get a buzzcut, and I feel so much better, but I still deal with hating my body everyday, I look at my brother and just think about how lucky he is to feel like he's in the right body, while I'm not, I have a friends who is also Trans and his parents are Transphobic. I just hope that hate will go away for not just towards the LGBT community, but for everyone. And to anyone who goes through hate from the people around you for being different, just remember, you are not alone, you do have people who care and love you, everyday that you deal with being different makes you stronger, you may not feel like it, but you are. You are loved for who you are, try your best to remember that, you are never alone.
My mom thinks it's just a phase .. my dad accepts me but I barely see him .. ;-;
do see him more you need to be around people that accept you for you
Im an only child my mom mentally abuses me im stuck with her it sucks
@@xRawritzRyderx shit I’m sorry I’m kind of the same hope u get 18 and get out and be urself
People need to know the difference between a "phase" and someone who isn't really meant to be trans. Not everyone will figure themselves out so easily, I've had loved ones find out late in transition that being transgender wasn't meant for them, but that's okay. It doesn't make it a phase. To say someone is "in a phase" is belittling for them. Be safe, don't pressure yourself, and don't listen to those pressuring you 💜
“It’s just a phase” 🙄 it’s so STUPID “you’re to young to know” YOURE NEVER TO YOUNG TO KNOW 🙄
Exactly! You're able to tell gender and sexuality at so young! I'm a trixic person (person who is only attracted to girls but identify as non-binary) and I remember there being a picture of me dancing with a boy and my parents saying we'd get married someday, but when I told them I like girls they just told me it was a phase, and when my mom asked me if I was non-binary (I got my haircut and the person whose hair I was referencing was another trixic who is an actor [Bex Taylor-Klaus]) I told her no, not being ready to come out, knowing she probably wouldn't accept me at all (she's more transphobic than homophobic) and might kick me out. She then went on to talk about how she "doesn't believe in" non-cis people, and then taking about how her side of the family is "busted" (her words, not mine).
@@pidgeymon2353 I'm 12 7 YEARS ISN'T A PHASE why so they say it...
When you feel that spark of joy and happiness when someone uses the right name and pronouns you know it’s not a phase.....
My mom says I'm to young to choose my gender but yet she chooses to be straight ever since five-
@@blueberrypi3103 Bitch how
spread this message all around youtube #notaphase.
Thank you so much ☺️
#notaphase
#notaphase
#notaphase
#notaphase
#notaphase
I cried during this, Because swallowing the feeling that you'll never become who you want hurts, and the thought of being told "It's just a phase" or "you'll get over it" or 'NO ONE WILL LOVE YOU" or "God doesn't makes mistakes" because it mean that people don't believe you or they only want you to be the way they want you to be, and it feels like a knife in my back hearing those words. and I know i'm not the only one and the beauty of this songs shows that. - Connor, Female To Male. (Sorry if the beginning sound kinda rude or confusing I didn't know how to word it!!!)
finally someone wo made the lyrics!💕
The lyrics are in the description of the original
•wo•
No one literally no one would ever understand completely how much pain we face every single day not being ourselves
Suhana M I accept & support you Love. My son ended his life in June.
I am on IG.....@proudtransparent
I am proud of you for living your authentic life💛
Taking a shower is one of the hardest things
@@Theduckdaddy12 it's like being on a high bridge. don't look down
I’m transgender my brother and dad ended there lives all cause of me being transgender and I have to lock myself in my room and I cry all night and I am not supported by anyone but my boyfriend
@@rydendavis3704 i’m so so sorry, you did not deserve that :( it was not your fault at all, never think it was. i hope everything gets better for you and you will be accepted by the people you love ❤️
If its a phase then why has it been going on for years? Years of torture that i can barely get out of, im confused and mad
Why do people expect me to be who they want me to be? Let me be who i want to be! This is my body! I am my own person!
#notaphase
I have never met one of my brothers (sister) my dad couldnt get in contact with him and resently found out he was a trans mal, That really helped me as i have been FTM for years before we know he was and it helped my dad understand that its not a Phase, its how we are.
Same, but according to my mom, my body belongs to her..
Hey!
You!
Yeah, you!
I heard you haven't been binding in a safe way!
Take a break!
Let your lungs get some air.
No matter what, you are valid!
How did you kno-
Im not aloud to bind and I dont have anything to bind with eather way 🥲
Jokes on you, I was born male! 🥲
I'm 20 y/o mtf and I just started hrt yesterday. Stay strong my fellow trans-sisters, trans-brothers and trans-enbys, better times WILL come. There is light at the end of the tunnel ❤
❤❤❤❤❤❤
Hey! Sir!
Yeah, you!
I heard you feel insecure about your voice and chest!
Who cares about what others think about your voice or how your chest is?
You are valid and don't you forget it!
Thank you for this it made my day and made me feel like I'm accepted by someone other that me best friend❤.
I really needed this after having to report transphobia to my general manager today.
Needed this
Mom told me today “Cutting your hair won't make you a boy, even if you do that you'll always be a girl. I don't know what you're trying to demonstrate”.
I haven't even told them I'm trans yet...
Dont listen to them. I dont think you should come out to them, or anyone that isnt safe to. You are you and thats ok. 100% ok. I accept you. You are a boy and if someone has a problem with thats just saying how closed minded they are. Stay strong and stay proud
@@tired_goth826 thank you 😭 it means a lot
@@RV-fc3mr ofc!
Hugs to all my Brothers and Sisters, don't ever give up, and keep fighting to be you. Thank you @Lyric guy for posting this video. Id love to know who Sang the song though.
Mena Angelfire don’t forget you nb siblings
@@theyluvvalyx Always Rembered never forgoten, And All inclusive, thats what my message is, and my Hugs are for ALL my brothers and sisters no matter the walk of life that they lead, Skin Color, Creed, Sexualtiy, or Gender, etc. The list goes on. Never give up on being you. Hugs
sorry that i didn't heart/reply to your comment, i didn't see it when looking through the comments. and the original video is linked at the top of the description, or this; ruclips.net/video/YZJBvJEIzjo/видео.html
I told my dad I wanted to be addressed as a boy and he yelled at me.
My mom found out and laughed at me.
I laughed along so she doesn’t feel bad.
It hurts me to remember this, I wish I never asked my dad that.
That’s terrible! I’m sorry you went through that
Fellow string cheese it’s alright
Dear,im so sorry this happened.I hope you are doing fantastic,keep being you
Shoosuma Thank you so much! I hope you’re doing well and you keep being yourself too
@@FoulMan Awe Thankees
I’m not gonna come out to my family until I get too surgery because they won’t help me get it so I’ll save money and get my hair cut and once I’m good enough to sustain myself and pay for it that’s why I’ll tell them. “Is it still a phase?”
Friendly reminder, to my brothers, sister and siblings alike, you're valid no matter what anyone says. No matter what happens you have to stay strong, the world may seem cruel and bitter but it'll eventually get better.
- A fellow brother.
Hey! Mx!
Yeah, you!
I heard you feel insecure about your voice and chest!
Who cares about what others think about your voice or how your chest is?
You are valid and don't you forget it!
I don't mind my chest, but my voice is way too deep for my liking
-Sincerely, a mtnb young person
Yay :D I needed this. You are loved. Don’t commit suicide, it’s unslay
I can't tell my mom I'm trans..
Because when I told her I was bi she had a talk with me about "being straight"
You are valid :)
I love you all my Trans people🙆♂❤💙
love u 2 friend ✌️✌️✌️
My granddad doesn't care that I'm transgender but he accepts me
I just want to be the girl I want to be I don't want to have to hide this for my grandad thank you for the song I loved it
You are a girl, stay strong💗.
I'm genderfluid, but mostly I feel like a girl so we are sisters :> Girl don't give up ;>
My mom loves having her little girl and I don’t think she would be very accepting so I’m coming out when I have enough money to move out (probs going to Cali cus it’s the most lgbt friendly state)
Good luck! hope things are well.
As a youth transmasc who had attempted a few times when I was alone, the line about trying to keep going brought me to tears
This song helps me feel I'm not alone. Im only out to a couple people. This song means so much.
For those of you who have parents that pretend to be accepting, and are subtilty transphobic
YOU ARE YOU
AND
THERE OPINION IS STUPID
It's okay to be okay and it's also okay to not be okay remember self love is a long road and hard to work towards and I know you're perfect just they way you feel is right
And for those who can't wear a binder or pack(is that right sorry I don't know much about mtf) you still matter and you are handsome/beautiful
I love and support each and every one of my trans brothers and sisters and especially the trans poc
Packers and binders are for mainly ftm
@@Alexander-ck8xv funny enough I ended up coming out after this 👀
@@violet_875 ha, lol, Welcome to the trans team
I wish my Grandad would accept me for the girl that I am
What’s the flag in the background of your profile picture sorry to bother you
Hey whats the flag in your picture? 🥰
@@acepennington4075 It kind of looks like the lipstick lesbian flag, I'm not sure
Please just be a guy and life will be so easy
@@davidjimenez7258 actually being a trans girl means being a guy isn't easy
That's kind of the whole reason people transition
It's easier to accept oneself rather than "just be a guy"
My mom doesn't accept me as her son but luckily I'm in foster and my foster mom supports me alot she cut my hair and she's getting me a binder and she calls me Noah and not my dead name and I never felt more like myself :)
I'm so happy for u :')
I wish bro.. I’m so happy u can be urself! Stay strong
Hmmmmmm
your foster mom is awesome.
I'm a trans girl and earlier this year I was put into a psych unit due to an attempted suicide, and while the deadnaming and misgebdering hasn't changed alot of other things have so I'm hopeful for the future! and I wanted to thank everyone who helps people going through similar things as myself and to the others going through this too : your not alone and I promise you it'll get better!
"im a trans girl"
"attempted suicide"
Makes sense
@@coronaman4887 very few things make more sense when put together sadly
@@coronaman4887 "I'm bullied constantly for simply living as myself and every hour of every day I'm bombarded with hatred from strangers and family alike who think I deserve to burn in hell"
"Attempted suicide"
It makes perfect sense, but not for the reasons you might think.
I'm scared to tell my parents..... But I'll do it soon.
good luck!
Staystrong your amazing 😀❤️
Theres no need to rush, do it when you're ready! If you already did it, howd it go?
Hey! Ma'am!
Yeah, you!
I heard you feel insecure about your voice and chest!
Who cares about what others think about your voice and how your chest is?
You are valid and don't you forget it!
I just wanted to point out that the lyrics clearly show that this song is made specifically and specially for FTM and MTF trans people, people in the binary.
Oh ok, now that I see this it clicked lol.
Ok so
@@remitafh huh?
@@remitafh I put it here so that people who aren’t in the binary could know, just so they didn’t get put off if they only talked about guys and girls in the song. At the time, I was dating an enby person and they felt disconnected from the song because they didn’t know until they listened to it. There isn’t a need to be rude. I don’t see why your comment was needed? But I’m not being rude about it.
@@Nuh_uh37 Welll then its just not a song for them. Then they have to find one that fits, If this song is made for Transmale and Transfemale then it is and its allowed to be. Not everything has to be gender neutral. And im just saying my opinion, a bit harsh maybe but im not insulting anyone or whatever. All i wanna say is that yea its for people in the binary and if its intended to be like this then its fine.
I love this song ❤️ My mom is transphobic and doesent except me for me so I can not be myself unless I’m alone in my room.
Sarah Bastien, I know how you feel, it’s like this for me, my mom is accepting of me but she won’t call me by my perfered pronouns. But try to be yourself.
It's MY dysphoric breakdown and *I* get to choose the music.
I'm so scared that if I come out as nonbianry then my parents won't accept me and just make me feel so much worse about myself honestly idk what to do because I also want them to stop misgendering me and making me feel like shit
you should try and come out maybe bring up nonbinary role models or some topic about it and see what they think and see if its safe for you to come out
@@dustyextra1378 thanks ill try that
I did come out and it got much worse but I don’t regret it cuz now they stop asking why and I can tuck my hair in my beanie without them asking
yeah, i feel like they'll try and push me back into femininity, as well as misgender me and out me to people to make some sort of joke.
but on the other hand, i keep transgender su!c!de rates and other things like that saved on my phone for that reason, including accepting vs. non-accepting parents
I know this comment was made 2 years ago, but let me give you a tip anyway: get a group on non-binary and trans friends, they can help you feel validated and less alone in your life.
2020:5 years until I move out!
I've come out to two people in real life.
My hair is shortish
I'm starting high school next year which means no siblings or parents there to stop me from asking to be called Logan.
Life's getting better.
I'm going to update every year.
Edit 2021 January : I have the haircut I’ve wanted since the third grade.
I have at least 9 friends who accept me for who I am, my family doesn’t know a thing (thank god).
2021 April: I got my binder from a friend back in February. I’m trying to convince my grandma to give me a more masculine cut. The new trans bills that were passed in my state are freaking terrible. Its been tough, I just wish I was born a cis guy. I feel like ill never be accepted.
Edit: September 2021 it’s been awhile… I lost my binder and I’m growing out my hair so the kids at school will leave me alone. But I’ve came out to more friends. And only 4 years left now!!
November 2021: still haven’t found my binder, but I didn’t have the courage to speak up in highschool im in 9th grade rn and bloody terrified for someone to discover my secret. My hair is getting to my shoulders.. I hate it. I hate everything. My boyfriend loves me, Logan Xavier S. Not the girl everyone else thinks I am. The wait feels so fucking long tho I’m sick of having tits.
I hate to be a bother but...how did you come out to those 2 people? My friends would never judge me but I just CANNOT bring myself to come out
Good luck!
good luck Logan, i believe in you :)
I know the feeling of wishing to be born the other gender. But I am sure that you will be excepted eventually, even if it's when you fly the coop.
And I agree that the bills are horrid (don't know if we are in the same state, but mine passed bills earlier this spring that restrict trans rights).
Keep your spirits up, it won't be this way forever!
Trans male here.
!trigger warning!
Hey im Jezze.
im a 13 year old transgender ftm, with parents that refuse to accept i am trans, i have severe depression and am suicidal. im trying to stay strong but its hard when you cant be yourself in your own house. im so sorry and feel deep sympathy for trans sisters, brothers, and siblings who have to deal with unaccepting parents, just know that it will get better and there are people in this world who does accept you.
Stay strong bro, your excepted by alot more people than you think. Hang in there for me. I'm also trans but I don't have to deal with trans phobes that often so I cant talk from experience and I cant imagine the hell you have to go through everyday, but I know that it must be hard, I dont know how much this means to you, but I support you.
@@PrinceofWalesUnitedRailroads Stay strong. I am 12 and I'm depressed and suicidal, I'm trans and I really wish I was a girl.
Trans male here and I know what the song means, I've experienced all these feelings so many times and I know how people that don't have anyone feel, my family isn't supportive at all but my friends and teachers are, if yall are reading this and need someone to talk to I'm here for you with open loving arms dudette!
I'm glad someone remembered Lelah. The rest, of course, as well. Her in particular, got to me as she was someone more talked about when it happened. It was the same year when I had made multiple attempts. Thanks for this as a whole. It's not easy, but please hang in there, everyone struggling too
This helps a lot, thank you
Your trans and pan can I talk to u some time I'm trans ftm and gay I found it out me being gay before trans so I like girls
your non-binary pan too!!! 💛🤍💜🖤 💖💛💙 and I know what you mean over here crying because this song hit
@@meeplol802 ye
I am trans ftm. My dad is constantly telling me it's a phase bc he doesn't believe that I can know just because I am young (I'm 13). and my mom just straight up said no and told me I'm not a boy. I feeling like leaving this world behind every day, but then I remember the reason I kept myself alive for so long. Hope. Hope that things will get better, home that people will come to their senses and accept me for me. And hope that I can finally make someone proud. I am also staying for people I care for. My sister, who was like my mother my entire life when my mom forgot how to be a parent. My sister was always the one to help me when I was upset. She was the first person to take action and help convince my dad to let me cut my hair (he said no). I cut my hair myself and my sister might have been states away but she was still texting me constantly. She is in the navy and I hardly ever see her. But she promised to come home, and she made me promise to still be here when she got home. I am doing my best to keep my promise even if it is really difficult. I am also staying for my "best friend" even though I don't think he gives a shit about me. I don't even really consider him my best friend anymore. We have been best friends for 6yrs and suddenly he started treating me horribly. But I do have my actual best friend. She means the world to me and I could never imagine life without her. She called my dad when I was laying on the floor in tears after taking an entire bottle of pills. She literally saved my life. She is also always there to talk when I need her and never lets me down. I am also staying for my boyfriend. Tbh we are not as close as we used to be. We don't know each other irl but I assure you he is not some 60yr old man lol. But he is still there to talk whenever I need him. Sorry about the long rant, but just remember you are needed, you are wanted, and you are enough
This comment made me tear up. I'm 13, trans mtnb, and I'm not out to anyone in my personal life, and I don't think I will be until highschool which is just another 14 months of hating myself and being trapped in a bubble which I can't escape. All of my friends are homophobic and transphobic, and they treat it as some kind of sick joke. Sometimes I think about killing myself, but I never follow through for the hope that everything will get better, but at this point I don't know that it ever will. I also live in an extremely transphobic state which not only depresses me but makes me fear if I ever do get outed that I could be taken from my family or even arrested and forced into some kind of conversion therapy. Every time I see myself in a mirror I get mad at how I look and I get reminded of my dysphoria and unaccepting environment. Yesterday I told my mom I was sad, and she asked me about it. I tried to avoid the conversation but she kept pressing me, so I had to decide between coming out then and there or lying. I chose to lie. Even now, writing this comment, I'm starting to feel worse and worse about myself. I just want friends who I don't have to put on an ugly mask around just so I can be seen as socially acceptable in their eyes. I just want friends who will accept me for who I am and are like me. But I can't have that because of where I live. I loathe everything about my life right now, and I wish I could just disappear or stop existing entirely. I can empathize with you, and I'm so sorry for what you had to go through. Thank you for this comment, and I hope you're doing okay.
To all trans folks, as well as all members if Queer Community, especially teenagers and young adults: There is a huge worldwide community waiting for you, to be your friend, your chosen family and more. Don't give up little brothers and sisters because you are LOVED by people you haven't even met yet.
“You might not see the finish line but I promise you its there.”
-Jaime Raines
Please stay strong❤️
I believe in you
I support you
I wish you the best
I hope you find yourself
I love you.
I am a transgender FtM and I was kicked out of my moms house at 17 and was homeless for a while and living with my best friend until i couldn't stand it and tried to take my own life... I ended up in the hospital and in my second ever group home, Im in my third now and will be leaving in 5ish months to transitional housing and won't graduate highschool until im 20...
Im about to start testosterone in a couple weeks/months and It's given me more of a reason to live. life gets better, thats a promise...
To anyone who needs this...
You matter. Don't give up.
Love, Karter
“It’s justa phase” … “your to young to even be thinking about this!” I got scolded by my aunt for being a trans boy and she screamed and I will never forgive her that caused me so much pain
I know what it feels like I'm a trans male too and your valid please if you're thinking about it don't I love you I love you for who you are no matter what
Leelahs story made me cry. She will forever be missed. And so will taylor,zander and jude(p.s if anybody could tell me whos jude and whats their story it'll be very nice).
Just a phase that has been here since I was five and I’m now eighteen
Same but I’m a young teen
I came.out to my mom and she told me it was just a phase and I'll learn to love myself as a woman. It's been 5 years since i started feeling this way and my dysphoria gets worse and worse i need therapy but my mom thinks I'm fine she doesn't believe anything can be wrong with me I'm tired of being called a she or her, girly or even viewed as a woman. I just want to live my life. Sadly I've experienced enough abandonment and abuse that i formed a system but now im thankful they help me and i have Amazing support from ym trans alters. Angie especially she's a trans woman and helps me with dysphoria when i need to be seen as feminine for my family.
same here. not she/her, they/them.
Omg this song so awesome it gave me chill good news just got my first binder yesterday just hang in there we will all make it
Its Transgender Awarness week! I love all my trans sisters and brothers!
Hey, if you’re reading this then just remember it’s going to be ok, life can be hard but I am SO proud of you, you are braver than a lot of people because you are brave enough to be you despite adversity, you are always valid, you are NOT alone and there will always be people who love you. No matter how bad things get remember you’ve got a sister here in this comments section who will always have your back xx
Stay healthy, Stay Valid, Stay You
@Elixy76 🤍
This is a actual goosebump song
Gives me goosebumps to. I just wish I was a girl.
I've known since I was 8 and I'm 20, still pre everything and in abusive household, encouragement is necessary
Update: I started T!!! finally!!!!
I’m so sorry I’ve known I wasn’t rlly a girl since I was 3 to 5 and I knew I was trans when I was 10 I’m currently 10 and I’m so happy for u that u started t!
It's a constant struggle but I'm still here and next year I turn 18, I can finally be myself without my family judging (edit; one year later now and i'm one month on testosterone and feel like my true self)
That’s so awesome, I am so happy for you! Congratulations man!
-A questioning trans-ish non-binary teen who doesn’t really know what’s going on anymore.
I’ve always loved this song
I know i am really late but for all my trans sisters, brothers and just siblings you all need to stay strong and even if we have trasofobic parents/siblings/friends remember there is nothing wrong with you❤ you are amazing and there are ppls like you love you all and stay strong❤❤❤❤
Enby here! Fully support my trans friends!
If you kid lays awake at night wishing they were dead because you don't support them then you have failed as a parent
God, I just heard ,,Leelah"... i'm crying now
I'm a trans girl, pre-op, andi gotta deal with being called transphobic and homophobic names ALL THE TIME. it hurts a lot. There are some who will fight against us. But trust me when I say this... It will get better. Just hope, pray, and use ur support group to ur advantage. I love you all, LGBTQ+ community. 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️
I came out only to my sister and she says its a phase
i'm sorry she reacted that way, i hope one day she'll understand that it's *not* a phase and will accept you for who you truly are.
Ya same..
#notaphase
@@weaverwealthmanagement67 lol its been 6 years 7 months 😂 it ain't no phase. Homophob
Listening to this on Transgender Day of Remembrance. To anyone who's ever lost someone because of the hatred in this world, I'm so sorry. I know we don't get the same thoughts and prayers that others do, but it'll be okay someday. You'll find peace, and you'll find your voice to fight and keep us all here.
I'm adopting you all! I'll pay for your haircuts and buy ya'll some binders. and my beautiful mtf lovelies we can get you some makeup, dresses and cute outfits :)
Not transgender, but I like to change the lyrics a bit for me personally. I cant come out to my mother that I'm bi. She thinks it's just a phase, and I'm "too young" to think that way.
It startles me how much some encouragement from random comments can help raise mood.
This speaks to a little kindness can go so far.
Mad Respect & Much Love
-Lala
I’m transgender FTM, but my mom isn’t really a big fan of the lgbtq+ and then my dad doesn’t even know what that is- and the thing that bothers me the most is that my mom is so nice to me and I love her but idk if she will still care abt me if I come out. I’m 11, the only person I came out to is my sister, I get tired of hearing “it’s just a phase” or “your too young”. And yea I may be a little different from the other kids in my school, but I’m proud of that, and your never too young to know who you really are. So just remember to never give up hope, and stay safe everyone
But in due time the people we know will have to accept it, we're not going anywhere anytime soon.
Also i recommend to start as soon as you can in the job department even if it's chores or mowing the neighbors lawn and if your family doesn't provide jobs for you to do the second best option is to wait 'till your legal age to work in your state.
as being transgender is pretty expensive you've gotta be determined to work hours of the day for that payoff it really does suck that some people have to work harder for the body they want it's just like bodybuilding only.. more depressing and dysphoric.
You don't have to get surgery to be a transgender male/them/female though so don't think i'm implying you HAVE to it's just most of us do you are valid no matter what got it?
If you're looking into surgery early which is completely fine just don't think about it till your about 16 same with HRT (Hormonal Replacement Therapy) as we stop puberty at about 15-16 i believe? and it's best not to stunt our growth as it could cause us issues in the future.
Surgerys for FTM
Top Surgery
www.insider.com/what-is-top-surgery
Bottom Surgery
www.healthline.com/health/transgender/bottom-surgery#choosing-a-provider
And HRT (Not really a surgery)
www.femaletomale.org/ftm-transitioning-guide/testosterone-hrt/
Btw you are way more mature than i was when i was 11 x,D
Ty for telling me all this, and yea I’m not like any other typical 11 year old
@@noahpouncey9785 No problemo ^^
Age is indeed limiting but there are ways to work around the system!
being patient IS an important part of transitioning.. but that doesn't mean you can't find a way to speed up the process a bit.
Here is a resource for binders in case you're in need.
pointofpride.org/chest-binder-donations/
Update: so I sorta came out to my mom on accident, u see I wrote her a letter but it wasn’t meant for know. I was gonna give it to her on my bday cuz it’s soon, but I left in the back of her car...she read it and I didn’t know. But the next day she talked to me about it, know that she knows how I really feel she’s acually very supportive. And I’m very thankful she supports me, but she said it’s gonna take her awhile to get used to calling me he/him. But I’ll just correct her when she doesn’t. But my dad, I may just wait till next year to come out to him. And thank u again because I really need a binder.
@@noahpouncey9785 Not an issue, and congragulations! i hope for the best in your social transition.
I should probably take advice from you. my mother say's she's supportive but wouldn't even call me he/him or son, she told dad but nothing came out of it they're both trump supporters and conservatives though my mother is less on the political side my father talks about it all the time.
She won't allow me to get a binder 'till i'm 17 because she thinks it's gonna cause issues with my lungs in growth, that doesn't happen unless you follow the rules and put it on right.
I'm about 13 turning 14 this year i'll try doing the same with a letter once my birthday rolls around if this doesn't work i'll keep trying.
-Thanks for the idea xD
I had an argument with my dad about my identity earlier today, he kept trying to explain why he didn't want to call me by my name (and instead deadname me) and then it turned into my identity being outside influence and a phase. I've cried twice tonight, and honestly I don't know how much longer I can take living like this. He says he cares and then invalidates me. I have so much going on already, why the fuck can't I just be cishet.
I know I'm not the only one going through this, so I encourage everyone else dealing with it all to stay strong, you're not alone, never have been and never will be.
"Its heaven or hell with mum and dad" To those dealing with these parents like me, stay strong. From your ftm friend
Trans boy here (FtM) and I support everyone and I think staying strong and staying alive means Everything
Everything will get better
Stay strong
I'm a transgender man and I feel this
Same
Once I was watching a movie with a trans man character as protagonist and my mom started to argue with me about "how I'm so easily influenced by internet and that I needed to stop it"
I still kinda lucky because I don't have dysphoria and accept all pronouns, but even that way is not easy...
You're loved and you deserve kindness and happiness. Don't you ever forget that.
To every transgender: LBGTQ+ is supporting you where ever you go. You are loved. Don't commit suicide. Stay strong for yourself and every other transgender and non binary person 💙💖⚪💖💙
This song is making me cry right now
Im a trans man and im working up the courage to tell my parents. To all the trans men/women ot there your beautiful the way that you decide to be
It isn’t a phase. It is you
Im crying late at night under my covers texting my friends and watching videos
I'm crying late at n- ACK!
How could transphobic people see this and still not feel bad... Idk
dilate
XOXO ❤❤
im a 14 yo transfem and the only person in my family ive told is my brother, at first when i told him he hated it and told me id "never be a woman" but now he's just barely getting okay with it, he doesnt call me sis or by my preferred name, but tbh its okay ig.. i hate ghe fact that i cant do anything like grow out my hair or wear makeup, i get bullied in school cuz im the weird and chubby guy, and it hurts me so fucking much to be deadnamed all day long, i just wished i had the courage to come out and be myself... i hate experiencing gender dysphoria on the daily, at times (and even still now) ive contemplated de-transitiong... im tired and cant fucking rest...
Hey it'll get better, there will be people to help you along! If you need to talk to someone I'll be here I can be your trans big brother (I'm 15), I'm sure you're a beautiful girl just waiting to be let out of the closet. Stay strong
I’m sorry girl, it hurts like hell but I hope it gets better. I’ll be your other trans big brother (18) and I support you
Haha....I just asked my dad what non binary means (I’m an enby) and he said it was a phase kids go through...
:’)
Watched this when I first figured it out, when i started to self harm, and again now that it's getting better. It's helped me a lot, and it also got more and more relatable. But from a trans guy who attempted, it probably will get better at some point, and try to set goals that you have to finish far in the future that keep you alive. You got this.
So...im transgender ftm and i went in my brothers room because he was scared because there was noise coming from there and my sister was yelling aceoss the house to my bro and she said "go help your sister or brother or whatever" and then turned to my mom and said "i don’t know anymore"... i think my mom yelled at her for saying im her brother....
A student at my school committed suicide. Nobody told anyone, no announcement, no nothing. The teachers had to break the news. A year and a half later and I learned that she was transgender and killed herself because she was bullied. I feel horrible for waiting this long but I’m going to do everything in my highschooler power to share what I know now
That horrid school system messed up for that
So sorry I had to go through that
I'm not accepted as transgender by my parents. I came out as a member of the Transgender Youth a few years ago. I am not addicted to alcohol and am underage, I try to find it however I can.
i just feel like it is a phase , that im doing it because its trendy , but whenever people call me “he” i feel so comfortable .
…Same
My parents who are “not transphobic” refuse to call me he and yet they still get called great parents because no one knows how broken everyone in my family is
FR I had a friend who was kinda like this.she said she supported trans rights but she still called me and my other trans bestie she and our deadnames
Damn that’s messed up
Trans boy here, please stay strong trans siblings. One day you will start being yourself, I want you to know that you are valid.
Thanks bro
Hi! MTF Non-Binary here, 13yo. I’ve felt really hopeless for a long, long time. But yesterday, I finally felt like my transition had some hope. I struggle extraordinarily with anxiety on things like this, but I finally managed to talk to my mom about this. She’s supportive and says she’ll get me whatever I want. My best friend is also supportive and well… even if it sounds cheesy, just know that the past few months, I felt like my life was going nowhere. I wanted to die, but I got a support network. I’m finally in a place where I can transition. I wish we lived in a world where everyone could have my experience of support, but for those who haven’t found it yet, know that each and every one of US support you. It’s gonna be tough, it’s always tough, and I may not be having exactly the same experience as you, but I know you will all grow into the wonderful of people. Looking back, it’ll be just that. A hard part of your life, but a part that’s over. In time, you’ll be surrounded by people who support you. You’ll look to your future and know there are many happy years ahead. Even if it doesn’t seem like it now, you feel hopeless, like giving up… I promise you, things will get better.
🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵 Wishing you all the best!
The fact that parents think they're protecting their kids
do they still feel that way when their children are DEAD because of them????
"He said I cut off my circulation end my bitterness or cut off my hair so I can breath in hopefullness" I wish my school, teachers, family could just call me a boy and stop telling me i'm a "female"
These comments make me feel safe
(TW) "Just a phase" that is What My Mother always says and it hurts alot.. and this song just helps me alot i just wish My family would accept me :/.. i have tought about ending it.. but im tryning to stay strong
Trans guy here, (i’m a teen) i came out to my mom back in June 2021 and she and I had a talk about it. She had the audacity to say “it’s just a phase.” (TW) And between that time - to two months ago, i tried to commit twice. Neither of which worked obviously. But now i have fellow trans friends, i have accepting friends that call me Lucas instead of my deadname and use he/him for me, and i have a loving boyfriend who is as well trans. So now i see that i shouldn’t let a few people’s opinions ruin everything. because my sister, brothers, siblings, and i should be able to liv our lives as our selves, not someone else.
All of the 39 dislikes must be from transphobes
Agreed
has to be no other reason