Mistakes Men Make In Relationships - R Spot mail
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The Three Biggest Mistakes Men Make In Relationships - Mailroom
No one's fault & everyone's responsibility. I love that.
Agreed!
What if one of them cheats without any reason or cause? I don't think that's the responsibility of the other person
absolutely. Well said!
If one person is loose and always cheating, it will be impossible for them to completely hide their conduct (in a normal relationship) so that would one persons fault and the others responsibility to stay or go
But for those that have always been faithful then begin to cheat, the wise saying still applies that it is not one person's fault but both of their responsibility
In a faithful relationship, cheating generally begins because they are not keeping the flame alive and cherishing the other with meaningful affection, conversation, and those early relationship attentions
Shouldn't he feel the same way
He feel about his partner as he
Do his mother
A lot of people rely on their physical, human self and not on their spiritual self. So so true! Thank you Ms. Iyanla!
It's really difficult to be in a relationship with a man who is unable to admit his fears and faults. It's even more difficult to try and ride that out, in hopes that he will get passed them, as he incessantly blames and projects onto you. Constantly being on the defensive in a relationship is very damaging to the spirit. Women cannot continue to be held responsible for the imbalance that this behavior brings to a relationship, nor can we continue to be expected to mitigate it. Yes... I've had some bad run-ins! Can you tell? LOL
Well... you are responsible for accepting such a man in the first place (why did you? that's an important question) and he is responsible for his behavior. Those men lack self-awareness, there are tons of women who do too... you cannot outperform your level of self-esteem and you'll accept what you're willing to put up with. So in conclusion, that's being in the 'wrong relationship'. Take care of yourself.
lavidavi86 I just had to walk away from a relationship like this. I was always at fault for something , it was so exhausting
Ty Sade exhausting is an understatement
Tiddly Winks same here
It’s hard alright. Though a man in his 20s is not the same in his 30s, 40s, or 50s in terms of maturity, intellect, and abilities not to mention confidence and experience. So, life sometimes is like a box of chocolates, it is short. Best of luck to each one of us whichever journey we decide to make.
Yessss!!Truth!!👏👏👏 Tell me the truth and let me decide if I want to stay or go...It may hurt but I would respect him more for keeping it 💯.😊😊
Ms Robyn Exactly!!
Yes!
Completely agree👍🏼 honesty is the best policy
Exactly what I live by
MsGntlebrzz you are so Right however some women dont have the guts to respect the truth weather it will hurt them or not. Its hard to find a women that will let a man know that they respect and aporeciate the truth. Instead some of them will just do more nagging than respecting the truth itself.
Thank you Iyanla. " love people enough and respect them enough to tell them the truth".
It helps with trust. See this with relationships
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Iyanla you are soo on it! I find all of what you said deeply helpful in allowing me to locate within myself how those shortcomings mentioned affect my relationships with others. And vice versa. Clarity and critical awareness helps us in choosing to break patterns! Thank you!
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A solid spiritual foundation is very crucial
so true! because we learn real love from God as we self improve and follow principles and not our wild feelings (= we become less selfish)
Mankind without God is like and employee without a boss and understanding of his duty.
(if there is no boss with guidance we shouldn't really be surprised when the employee fails)
Toxic
It comes from a godly wisdom!
Being spiritual does not necessarily involve god
@@llararulens8895 Indeed
Your response to the woman was EXCELENT! Numbers 1 and 2, most women eventually figure out. Number 3, is something I've never heard anyone say before. It "blew me away"! This is what BM should be telling other BM. It's what fathers should be telling their sons. This advice is the best ever. I only hope men accept it.
Yaaassss!
1) Fail to tell the truth
2) Mask insecurities, hide inadequacies
3) Limiting or denying spiritual self
I also have performed these behaviors
You hit the nail on the head with that 3rd one. God and spirituality provide you with a set of principles from which accountability stems from. Such a major point. Plus you don't have to wait for him to tell you, you can SEE it by the way he lives his life. Ego-centered or grounded in God?
Thanks Iyanla!
Get real, be intelligent to think for yourself and realize no god exists.
OMG.. I understand completely. I love her so much, I love how she gets it and breaks it down.
I love this woman's wisdom!!! She is so on point!!! 💕
I needed to hear this. Thank you so much. My ex fiancé told me "I acknowledge God but I have to do what I have to do." It ended because there was no forgiveness, no communication, or sacrifice.
Focus Christie
from a man... i agree with everything u mentioned my dear Iyanla
S E thanks for your reply. It helps us women
This woman is amazing!! full of knowledge, spot on everything she says is nothing short of the TRUTH !
Thanks Iyanla! I also think a lot of men are busy riding their ego ( I believe you did mention the ego ) and they are not humble.
A lot could be worked through if they had more humility. I suppose that can go for both sexes but the man supposed to take the lead as the head but they are too busy being proud and defensive. Shame really.
Truth can be very elusive when people treat it like it doesn't exist or matter...I truly enjoyed this...you break things down so we may all be able to process and digest the amount of information provided... Namaste...Blessings
Spiritual foundation is important because man is connected to God and if he’s not connected to God he’s going to make his own rules and regulations
I love every word of this, Miss Iyanla ❤️
Truth A spiritual foundation is very important
Wooooooooo Iyanla always leaves nothing left but to speak the truth, amen!
Telling the truth also goes for women as well. But this was a great video nonetheless
The point of the video was to PURPOSELY focus on men.
Humility(or lack of) is basically what she's talking about
so true.. thank you iyanla... spiritual practice & connection is so imperative
they fail to tell the truth
Men attempt to hide their feelings or experiences of inadequacy and insecurity with acting tough,they talk rough,they talk loud and avoid difficulties,they blame and project and they make you wrong very often because they are afraid to say; iam scared,i cant,i dont know how.The real does not cover up his weaknesses
Limiting and denying his spiritual self,while attempting to rely totally on his physical and his human self
Accountability is high for all. Spiritual accountability is even higher.
well my blessed dear sister, once again your discernment triumphed and edified my heart and mind ; as the Lord continues to funnel down knowledge to and through you to open up closed minds and to educate-empower your disciples and others that we may learn a new technique of communication to our partners by way of creating understanding in order to maximise a peaceful harmonious loving relationship. Iyanla vanzant I have been your biggest fan and I hope to meet you one day. Your wisdom has brought me out of many valley experiences and has empowered me on so many levels, I am still evolving, but thank God I am not were I was emotionally and I am grateful for the spurts of wisdom from these seasonal people such as yourself and Professor Kenshasa Shabaka. Thank you❤❤❤
Thank you for your spiritual wisdom. You have a well balanced and realistic out look. You are absolutely spot on!
Greatly Stated Beloved. I Love Who You Are and What You Do For Others.
Third was the first to me. I love you Iyanla yes it helps.
this is so powerful! thanks so much....
Thank you Iyanla. I️ struggle deeply with number 1. I️ was raised by an unloving Father that I️ was afraid to tell the truth to for very valid reasons. I️ then married a woman very similar to him... brilliant! It reinforced that I️ was “never good enough.” It’s so entrenched. She always beat me down emotionally and had to “keep me in my place.” She had at least three long term affairs. I️ am now divorced. My faith got me through it. I’m closer to God than ever. However I️ struggle to trust people. I️ have a woman in my life I️ love deeply. She loves me for who I️ truly am. She pushes me to always be open and honest. I️ want to be. I️ still struggle though. I️ don’t want to be this way. I️ pray. I️ try. I️ still find myself terrified to upset her. In my core I’m terrified she won’t like me or love me if I️ tell the truth. I️ haven’t done anything large to lie about. I️ tend to omit things, or polish the truth. What do I️ do??? Help! I️ love her and want to be the best man I️ can be for her. She’s amazing.
thank you Iyanla.. you're doing amazing job... my relationships are better because I always try to do what you say.. God bless you....
Thank you for answering my questions! I am so relieved watching this video! 🙏😍
I would have to disagree with the criticism you received as well. You are as brilliant as you are charismatic. Thank you for imparting your wisdom. I totally agree with what you've said in this installment. I especially like what you said about our fear. I personally believe that true courage is not the absence of fear but the will to overcome it.
WOW !! You spoke nothing but the Whole truth !
I TOTALLY AGREE WITH ALL 3 POINTS. THE 3RD POINTS IS IMPORTANT ONE. WE HUMAN FORGETS THE CREATOR AND WHAT HE HAS WRITTEN FOR US ON HOW WE HUMAN SHOUL LIVE . HE WROTE, "MAN SHALL NOT LIVE BY BREAD ALONE BUT BY HIS WORD TOO" SO WE SUPPOSED TO BALANCE OUR LIFE BOTH SPIRITUALLY AND PHYSICALLY THAT WILL HELP TO MINIMIZE PROBLEMS IN OUR LIVES. I BELIEVE.
Beautifully Said...You are such an inspiration!
Yes the truth Hurts but let it out let me know i will decide what next
Oh, you just described my covert narcissist ex. I had to leave, I'm devastated. I'm an empath and learned the hard way about narcissism and the attraction to empaths. I learned pushing back, standing up for myself fueled him. I wasn't hard boundaried. I have a lot of healing of trauma to do.
He doesn't have any spiritual practice you said they will turn to their ego without it. It makes so much sense now. The hurt..oh my. :(
yes, yes & yes! Preach Iyanla... So love her! She keeps it 💯
Amen to that, I as a young woman struggle to even be with a man who does not have a spiritual foundation ts a problem I even fail to converse and understand them generally because most of the time ts like they dont know where they going nor understand their purpose and who they are.
Very correct.Very true . 👏 Wonderful
Oh oooh...my Iyanla. You hit it right on the head. I believe #3 is of the utmost importance.
Ayanla I love you 💜💜💜 i am not afraid to be vulnerable and let my best friend see me cry in the movies 😁😁😁😁 i cant stand fake male postering behind a brittle ego. my female friends honor me and even call me to talk im a very good listener sincerely .Vulnerability leads to deeper Intimacy !!!!!
george duncan...lmao..intimacy for the other men not doing what you are..why do you think they talk to you so much..the sex and loving going to another mans home..smh
lady lady thank God for your wisdom,love and knowledge.
Your information was useful to me in owning up to yet another gaffe. Very useful tips. Many thanks.
Wow!!! I was just pondering over the ego this morning and arrived at the same conclusion. Profundity!!!
Ooooh yasssssss i agree with Iyanla 100% a man with no spiritual foundation becomes dangerous i so agree with her on all 3
This is right on time. I just broke up with someone. I have a feeling he will come to his senses and reach out to me. My response will be the link to this video =)
typical woman doings, lol did he ever?
@@jarretpalmer3953 Not all women...
Beautifully said! So true and diving deep. It is a pleasure to listen to you. Much love and blessings to you, beautiful soul! 💗💗💗
Thank you for the knowledge! It helps a lot to share with our your generation now at crossroads
So profound my sister......
iyanla, you, you my sister, are an amazing woman. you have unknowingly given me guidance for years now. you are a true angel in this world place. With that I thank you, you teach me how to be a better woman, mother, and friend. You will always be a mentor for this soul right here xoxoxo
You couldn't have said it any better..thank you for giving us the confirmations and guidance needed🌍💚💚💙👼👼
1. They fail to tell the truth
2. They attempt to hide their feelings or experiences of inadequacy with acts of bravado.
3. They limit and deny their spiritual self while attempting to rely on their physical and human self.
You are so good at what u do, I speak blessing unto.
Ms. Iyalna you are speaking truth nothing but. I love it thank you for sharing
AMEN!!!! You totally NAILED it!
I needed to hear this. My fiance broke up with me because he says that I'm imbalance and I'm not able to handle difficult times. I believe that he is more afraid and that he I'd unhappy about his life. I dont care what he has n don't have I love him regardless. My love for him has never died down
wow, the 3rd one 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
most people, men and women don't like to see the bad only the good. they don't want to see the runny snot and tears. ..lololo
You are balance with your views. She just ain't ready to take responsibility @iyanla
Loving that hair do. Your the best.
Watched this four times. You. Are. Awesome.
This is so ‘spot on’ and relevant. I had to subscribe
Amen!!!! you just gave me a grand idea on how to work on our relationship
U r truly a gift from above may u b forever n ever blessed!
This is so true.. This describes my ex husband who honestly I still love but doesn't have a spiritual path which is holding him back in life.
wow well spoken, i love my man but the withholding of info seroiusly is drawing me down. i wish he will let me be the judge for my self not him diciding which is good for me.God bless us
They want their cake and eat it to. give me the option to stay or leave.
Wow! Wow! Wow!..sooo true.
Thankyou for that fact.
I could listen 2 u all day.
God bless u🙏❤
Auntie I was feeling the same, I felt like the relationships always seems to fall on women 💁🏽♀🤷🏾♀
Wow love this lady!💙💜❤she keeps us to keep a strong foundation for our selves as the women we r to be strong . and to take on our own stuff and to face our own fears not others or pin it off on others. I just hope that one day the man that deal with this type of inner personal stuff and setvthere pride to aside and deal with it . and that a men will overcome it .and become Kings and put on that crown and deal with it in a good spiritual foundation that he makes for them self . thank you so much for this !👍👍👍❤💜💙❤
Your so good, you know just what to say and how to say it thank you
Girl, 2 snaps for your advice. So true... we go in too blindly
Ms Robyn has a very good point...men often make these "mistakes" in the hopes that women will respect them more for it when, really, it does the opposite. These are the choices or tactics that make women LOSE respect for men. Men need to ask themselves "how much would I respect someone who did this to me?" It is the worst kind of wishful thinking that other people are going to be THAT fundamentally different from yourself. Not incidentally, same thing goes for the "mistakes women make..." video.
love this topic & the one about women. both can be used interchangeably.
Yes, Yes, Yes to all 3. Sound advice. Remain bless my sister 🤗
You’re a certified Badass. #3 was heavy
HEAR, HEAR, YLANLA, VERY WELL SAID!!!!!!!!
Every man needs to see this 💯🙌🙏💜
thank you so much.
I have been in doubt for years now but thank God I understood u well.
At least my doubt is now clear
So...true...sometimes I want to breakup with him just to let him see that he had a good woman. I feel that's the only way he is going to find out what he had. A person can ruin a relationship by being insecure & afraid.
Verline Hobbs. hey... my husband ...when we were married... would get in the car and go to his momma Who lived in another town every time I wanted to talk about issues. he would get so mad at me for bringing up the issue. I divorced him. he can stay with mommy.
Halleluyah this was solid advice the rest will come together
Facts they fail to tell the truth!
Thank you Iyanla! You're a wonderful help 💗
Iyanla, my sister women can't handle let alone believe the truth. Women believe in how there feeling not the truth.
I think you literally described my husband! Geez!!!!
BAM! Tell it, completely agree !
It pisses me off because I’m watching this shit thinking I’m doing something wrong to come to the conclusion that while I’m not perfect I’m not the one who creates the issue I just feed the fire because I can’t control my anger
1. Men fail to tell the truth
2. Hide their feelings of insecurities and inadequacies with acts of bravado and make you wrong instead
3. Limiting and denying his spiritual self while relying totally on his physical self (It helps to keep him accountable)
Is true we all need to be responsible for our relationship.
Wow Iyanla, fantastic and balanced assessment and input🍬🙏🏽🦋🍇❤️👑
Finger snap on that question lol
This is great stuff I wish I saw this earlier on it would've helped me with my marriage!
inspirational thank you I needed to hear and see this video . because I was going through this with my inner self.. known the decision an it's my decision to deal with my other half .. thank you iyanla Vanzant
Every thing but the connect to God. Just shows me most don't know enough about the soul
wish I had someone like u as my friend, already praying 4 it ;)
This was is very good. Agree with everything she said.
I like both videos on woman mistakes and Men mistakes me as a man I made some of these mistake you said thank you for the information