Maladaptive Daydreaming is a CURSE!

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  • Опубликовано: 16 ноя 2024

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  • @Mystic_Paths
    @Mystic_Paths Месяц назад +56

    It can become a form of escapism, causing individuals to neglect their responsibilities, relationships, and real-world interactions

  • @may696
    @may696 Месяц назад +120

    I have done this for years. Over the years it has only gotten worse and worse. To the point I would start doing it in public, even near other people. I believe mine developed because of my ADHD and childhood trauma, my step dad didn't like me. AT ALL. He would take all my toys away, he would lock me in my room, so I couldn't go outside and play. I learned to express myself inside my head. To the point it was all I knew how to express myself.

    • @may696
      @may696 Месяц назад +15

      I have kinda controlled it now, but I don't believe it’s something I will ever escape. It's fun. It makes me feel safe. Crazy, but safe. I feel a lot more calmer and normal after I daydream intensely.

    • @dylan.lartey
      @dylan.lartey  Месяц назад +3

      @may696 Keep at it. We will be free of this one day. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I guess we both know that we're not alone in this when it comes to how we got it.
      If the video helped you in any way, please tell and thank you for watching! I really mean it!

    • @gisellethejpeg9898
      @gisellethejpeg9898 Месяц назад +1

      @@may696same here! It SOMETIMES gets in the way of things i need to do(which way better than a couple years ago where i literally did it so much that i would never do anything in favor of that), but i’ve been good at self control. It’s fun especially since i like the stories i make up and i’ve learned to do it AFTER i finish all my work like all my hobbies instead of letting it take over my life.

  • @nezukoyaegerr
    @nezukoyaegerr Месяц назад +94

    WAIT WAIT WAIT WAIT, is this a WHOLE DISORDER? SO I'M STRUGGLING WITH A WHOLE DAMN DISORDER?

    • @lunarspirit4934
      @lunarspirit4934 Месяц назад +3

      No it's not a disorder

    • @lunamig1006
      @lunamig1006 Месяц назад +3

      My brother does that sometimes and l used to do that as a child, Neither of us have any major trauma but we both have autism.
      I'm 90% sure that's not the case, unless it affects your life negatively.

  • @elise.ch4nn
    @elise.ch4nn Месяц назад +17

    How do people live without doing this, what do they think about, nothing?
    This is a disorder? I thought it was just imagination. It’s the reason I’m a artist-

  • @limmitless4062
    @limmitless4062 Месяц назад +36

    Watching this right after I just finished walking around my house while listening to music and making up fake scenarios with my ocs 😭

    • @Nope_999
      @Nope_999 Месяц назад +5

      Same 😭
      I thought everyone was day-dreaming like this at some point in thier home/room

    • @kolpkii
      @kolpkii Месяц назад +2

      DUDE I LITERALLY DO THIS TOO

    • @serenitysubs933
      @serenitysubs933 Месяц назад +1

      Well yh that's normal. Maladaptive daydreaming is where you literally see them

    • @limmitless4062
      @limmitless4062 Месяц назад

      @@serenitysubs933 I just looked, and nowhere does it say you have to “see” the daydreams (which I often do). Maladaptive daydreaming is when you spend copious amounts of time daydreaming and act out the movements/move around.

  • @iyraspusjfzifzocyoyxyoxyoxoy
    @iyraspusjfzifzocyoyxyoxyoxoy Месяц назад +54

    couldnt even finish the video before i maladaptively daydreamt 🤷‍♂️

    • @dylan.lartey
      @dylan.lartey  Месяц назад +11

      @@iyraspusjfzifzocyoyxyoxyoxoy I feel that. I must have said something that triggered that need to daydream.

  • @kolpkii
    @kolpkii Месяц назад +21

    funny thing is i only do this “maladaptive daydreaming” while listening to music

    • @atsuucore
      @atsuucore Месяц назад +2

      same-

    • @dylan.lartey
      @dylan.lartey  Месяц назад +8

      I'm quite sure that 90% of maladaptive daydreamers do it while listening to music. I am one of them.

  • @srehtodnacipE
    @srehtodnacipE Месяц назад +33

    Wow I woke up just about to Maladaptive Daydream my ocs to some random song/scene for no reason but this popped up, I always had this for YEARS knowing I had the disorder, I try my best to turn this insane brain into shows or books or songs- anything to express the newest ideas to lessen everything in my mind. & I'm fresh from Elementary School, I've had it since I dunno, 5-7. Now that I'm 12-13 it's been 2 years since I've been trying to fix the problem...
    Unfortunately, Maladaptive Daydreaming is... Maladaptive. (Sometimes it's a good thing, it creates artists of any kind whether it's music, writing, anything...) I hope it works well for you in the future.

    • @srehtodnacipE
      @srehtodnacipE Месяц назад +4

      The amount of elipses-

    • @dylan.lartey
      @dylan.lartey  Месяц назад +4

      @srehtodnacipE I hope things work out for you too.

  • @pluto780
    @pluto780 Месяц назад +13

    I have ADHD and honestly I am incredibly good at balancing the time I maladaptive day dream and do work for school.
    Maladaptive dreaming is really only bad when it’s your only escape/ the best one available.
    I admit I do it a bit much to escape a stressful situation but I’ve learnt to balance this with doing work and honestly I’m getting the best of both worlds.
    Due to this day dreaming I have a story that I have been crafting for years and I WILL draw it and express these thoughts, without the daydreaming I doubt I’d ever be so inspired or ready to tackle a story :))

  • @cadynextdoorr
    @cadynextdoorr Месяц назад +34

    this was in my recommended and I just wanted to say I can tell you have an amazing mind just by the way you speak. I've also struggled with daydreaming and the way you spoke about it really encapsulates how it feels. thank you for this great six minutes of my day :3

    • @dylan.lartey
      @dylan.lartey  Месяц назад +2

      @cadynextdoorr thank you. Thank you so much for this comment. I'm so happy that I was able to make you feel understood.

  • @p1_dreamin828
    @p1_dreamin828 Месяц назад +10

    I feel like I'm the only person who's managed to turn maladaptive daydreaming into a good thing 😭 I'm an artist and 99% of my ideas come from it, if I stopped maladaptive daydreaming I'd be cooked. edit: Should also probably mention that I am autistic, and I started maladaptive daydreaming since the moment I gained consciousness. Self soothing and stimming is a huge part of autism, so once I finally tried to stop sucking my thumb, I needed to find another way to self soothe. So I basically immediately starting rocking and maladaptive daydreaming (instead of like walking around the room or whatever else other ppl do). It's been about more than a decade, so before I even started kindergarten. Also for additional context, I was extremely isolated my whole life (not to be mistaken for sheltered, I had unrestricted internet access since elementary), my parents never doing anything with me and I never had friends, so it served kind of as a replacement for social interaction before I started making friends online. After I became a kpop stan, providing me with an abundance of music and cool people to talk with, the need to maladaptive daydream so much got weaker and weaker. Now, as ironic as it is, I've gained control over my maladaptive daydreaming (not the rocking though, can't really control stimming like that lol) and only really use it to either recover from social interactions, or if I need to cook up an idea for my art. Or the most common one as of recent, I can't find good media and would rather just entertain myself lmao. Edit #2: Also I *personally* don't see it ever being officially classified as a disorder because of this. Sure it can be worsened with certain mental disorders, but in general it's something that can easily be controlled if you're self aware and emotionally knowledgeable enough, and whether or not it's even a negative thing in the first place relies 100% on the individual. You can't really call something a disorder if the only thing making it a problem in the first place is another disorder you have. Someone who has a mental disorder that causes them to be prone to becoming obsessed and detached from reality is going to have a significantly different experience maladaptive daydreaming from a neurotypical or lower support needs person.

  • @whitney-r5p
    @whitney-r5p 16 часов назад

    2:19 brought tears to my eyes. I didn’t even realise this is why I’ve been doing it until you said it

    • @dylan.lartey
      @dylan.lartey  16 часов назад

      Happy to help.
      Now that you know why, you can solve this problem! I hope the best for you!

  • @Nope_999
    @Nope_999 Месяц назад +10

    HOLD ON! You are telling me this day-dreaming of walking in circles, sometimes even while listening to music, IT'S A WHOLE DISORDER?! 😟

    • @lunarspirit4934
      @lunarspirit4934 Месяц назад +5

      No it's not. Neither in the DSM5 nor in ICD10 or ICD11 is it anywhere classified as a disorder.

    • @Godsfavouritebratz222
      @Godsfavouritebratz222 Месяц назад

      ​@@lunarspirit4934 Good news 🙏

    • @blacksparrow15
      @blacksparrow15 Месяц назад +2

      @@lunarspirit4934 I saw your other comment and dismissed you as ‘one of those guys’. But this comment gives me a better impression that you know what you’re talking about.

  • @R4TT33TH
    @R4TT33TH Месяц назад +5

    Me who does this daily NOT REALIZING IT IS FUCKING HORRIBLE 😭💀

  • @Swiftmakesrandomstuff
    @Swiftmakesrandomstuff Месяц назад +13

    Wait.. So it's not normal to create entire storylines in your head with your OCS for hours on end??

    • @dylan.lartey
      @dylan.lartey  Месяц назад +2

      @@Swiftmakesrandomstuff no...especially if it gets in the way of you doing other things. Important things even.

    • @Swiftmakesrandomstuff
      @Swiftmakesrandomstuff Месяц назад

      @@dylan.lartey oh. *OH.*

  • @blacksparrow15
    @blacksparrow15 Месяц назад +1

    My first grade teacher use to constantly get on my case about day dreaming but I had no idea what day dreaming was. I just called it “the story in my head.” Over the years it evolved into stories and now it’s a full on multiverse

  • @brainchildren7140
    @brainchildren7140 Месяц назад +1

    I’ve done this my whole life, but it’s genuinely not maladaptive anymore. I’m autistic and have ocd which a probably why I do this. My whole life people wanted me to stop and I think I thought it was bad and felt guilty about that, but now that I’m an adult with better coping skills, I let myself “daydream” when I want and I love it. It doesn’t take over my life anymore. I do it when I want and stop when I want. I’ve realized it’s actually my favorite thing about myself, bc it helps me think and process things and come up with new creative ideas. If I don’t do this for some time each day I feel really uncomfortable and stressed. I genuinely feel like I have harnessed this “symptom” as a power of sorts lol, I wouldn’t trade it for the world

  • @sk_lxr2920
    @sk_lxr2920 Месяц назад +2

    I've noticed my maladaptive daydreaming has been getting worse lately. it's been pretty bad for a long time, years and years wasted into it, but lately they just blend into my dreams at night, and then I can't get up and out of bed if I'm not doing it either. this goes on throughout the day, I have to use it as motivation for things. at least I'm aware of the problem though. I think I'll be following your journey, while I try to figure out what to do with my problems too. best of luck bro!

  • @khanhchi486
    @khanhchi486 Месяц назад +5

    so you're telling me i've been struggling with a mental disorder...

  • @theraPISSED_1
    @theraPISSED_1 Месяц назад +2

    having this recommended to me after maladaptive daydreaming for like five hours was the algorithm targeting me

  • @looptexxpage569
    @looptexxpage569 Месяц назад

    You actually gave me a whole new perspective on my art and also art in general, thank you!

  • @chrisiscool
    @chrisiscool Месяц назад +1

    When I was younger I convinced myself that my friends from a different reality (my girl group I made in my maladaptive daydreams) will meet me when I die. I made up a religion, that said ill meet these girls if I die, I WAS 13! And I have REAL bad memory so I genuinly DONT remember how I was before, I dont remember being without my friends they feel like they always been here! And I mean I think of them when I walk somewhere, when I fall asleep, when listening to songs, when watching movies, when class gets boring and so much more....I think its related to me being on the ´tism spectrum :D

  • @Lottieiscool
    @Lottieiscool Месяц назад +1

    Thank you for the video! I’ve been daydreaming since I was a really little kid. As a kid I would run around in circles in my house all the time while “watching tv in head” as I called it. I’m 14 now and still do it for about an hour (maybe more idk) everyday. My parents always say I’m too old for it so I’m trying to stop but I really don’t want to. I don’t think it’s quite “maladaptive daydreaming” right now but there was a time in my life where I’d rather be watching tv in my head than be in the real world. I’ve been doing better since then thankfully and I still really enjoywatching tv in my head but it’s not really hurting me anymore it’s just something I find fun. I’m going to stop doing it altogether soon though because my family already thinks I’m weird for running around in circles in my house lmao

  • @ash_g8st944
    @ash_g8st944 Месяц назад +3

    Idk if I have a childhood trauma adhd or stuff and idk but I think I do maladaptive daydreaming I make a story or continue the story to go to sleep but it’s gotten so bad that i imagine reacting to videos in my story when I watch these things in irl or when I draw or crochet I do it in my story too just a little differently and idk how to stop (it’s gotten like that because I can’t really go outside because of some mental issues) and I don’t do it with different characters I do it with me and imaginary people I often bring up things that happened in irl and stuff or I imagine horrible stuff (I almost completely gotten away with the horrible stuff) sorry for the long comment or the grammar I just wanted to tell my story and stuff and my grammar is not good so I’m sorry if it’s not understandable with what I wrote
    Edit: i forgot to mention that I had times that I self like the person is next to that imagen in my head

    • @dylan.lartey
      @dylan.lartey  Месяц назад +1

      Don't worry. I understood what you said. Thank you for telling your story.

  • @Whatisthisgremlin
    @Whatisthisgremlin Месяц назад +4

    Bro…do I got maladaptive daydreaming?…I think of different stories & characters every few years.

  • @dylan.lartey
    @dylan.lartey  Месяц назад +1

    Someone made a comment about how they thought that they were super creative the whole time. They quickly deleted it.
    All I have to say is.
    I thought the same...

  • @bplovelove3119
    @bplovelove3119 Месяц назад

    I think I stopped daydreaming when I lived in my self rent paying apartment for 2 years and during those 2 years I somehow woke up and stop daydreaming after I got into a severe car accident and needed to focus on making money. But I use to daydream a lot because I didn’t like have oily acne skin, boyfriendless, lazy didn’t want to do work, etc.

  • @melchiorsmokes
    @melchiorsmokes Месяц назад

    im tired of ppl treating like something quirky it ruins my life

  • @Rosie333Sophia
    @Rosie333Sophia Месяц назад +1

    I kinda wanna talk about this on RUclips but I’m scared to show my face lol 😂I mean my face is fine but some people are mean. I have so much to say and I keep reminding myself it could help someone.

    • @dylan.lartey
      @dylan.lartey  Месяц назад +2

      @Rosie333Sophia
      Your voice matters more than someone's opinion on your face. If you want help, someone, hate comments stop you.
      I hate my facial hair, and yet I still uploaded and it I've gotten comments saying that I've helped people.
      Focus on helping people. That's more important than anything.
      I'd watch your video. DO IT!

  • @looptexxpage569
    @looptexxpage569 Месяц назад +1

    Do yall also sometimes have these like.. Nightmare daydreams with the absolute worst personal horror? Like the last things you'd ever want to happen. Or is it just me?

    • @dylan.lartey
      @dylan.lartey  Месяц назад

      i guess i do sometimes. the whole belly of the whale or darkest hour thing. Imagining myself come out of that dark places made me feel stronger.
      for like 15 seconds.

  • @asamicat8323
    @asamicat8323 Месяц назад

    I've never heard this condition

  • @theraPISSED_1
    @theraPISSED_1 Месяц назад +1

    I HAVE ANOTHER DISORDER?!???!?!
    edit: nvm it's just the ptsd lol

  • @cakethedude
    @cakethedude Месяц назад +1

    Dunno, if that counts, but I rethink the story of the games that had a potential and lost it all with terrible execution. I do that qutie alot.

    • @dylan.lartey
      @dylan.lartey  Месяц назад +1

      @cakethedude that 100% counts. I'm quite maladaptive daydreaming triggers when your passionate about something.

  • @SleepyHollowKnight
    @SleepyHollowKnight Месяц назад

    Does it count if I just think about my characters for my book to get a better idea of them? No, I’m not in the story. I don’t have any mental disorders and I don’t THINK I have trauma. I’m totally fine!

    • @dylan.lartey
      @dylan.lartey  Месяц назад

      @SleepyHollowKnight I used to do that. Think about characters. But when I started to write them. I realised now how bad the ideas are.
      I had those bad ideas for 2 years...
      You'd only get a real idea of what you're thinking about when you write it down.

    • @SleepyHollowKnight
      @SleepyHollowKnight Месяц назад

      @@dylan.lartey I’ve done this since I was 9, how is it bad exactly? For me, I feel like it just helps me empathize with my own characters more

    • @dylan.lartey
      @dylan.lartey  Месяц назад +1

      @SleepyHollowKnight your just think about the character not writing them. In a way your making headcanons for characters that don't actually have canon.
      You should have book to write them in and also watch youtube videos about writing.
      Channels like hello future me abbie emmons, jenna moreci , alexa donne and overlysarcasticproductions would be the best for this.

    • @SleepyHollowKnight
      @SleepyHollowKnight Месяц назад

      @@dylan.lartey oh I do! I just usually lose motivation for one story and then move into the next before it can get to the writing stage 😅

    • @dylan.lartey
      @dylan.lartey  Месяц назад

      @SleepyHollowKnight I talked about what a story should have and what would probably help stick with it in the second to last second, the 'fraud' one.
      You should rewatch that part unless you haven't gotten to it.

  • @GoodluckSubscription
    @GoodluckSubscription Месяц назад

    Thank you for talking about this