The UGLY TRUTH about buying our Dream Home
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Loved this! "But the good news here is that: You don't have to wait till you get that dream home, or job, or car, or wife, or husband, or boyfriend. Life is right now. And you have everything that you need to be completely content right now in this moment - if the Holy Spirit is living inside you."
Sooo good 🙏🤍
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Ewwwww, nobody living in me. But please explain how to get a dream home, car without the money. How is having god providing the dream spouse and job? Please explain. All of it is my own success nothing else.
You're talking about true Christianity? Where does that exist in America? No where I'm aware-just pretention masquerading as Christianity
My husband and I went through this at the beginning of this year. We were completely debt free except for our mortgage but weren’t fulfilled. Since then, we sold our house and are living in a one bedroom apartment while planning to build a small house in the country. Our goals have shifted to avoid debt altogether when we do build and saving to help our church plant new churches in spiritually dark places across the country. This change has certainly made an impact on our reason for going to work everyday. We have less than we’ve had in years but couldn’t be happier.
Yes! Owning nice things can be great, but you don't own something you haven't paid for, the creditor does. At least with houses you can usually right yourself if you make a mistake. The insane thing is people who go into debt for things like fancy vehicles, that start dropping in value the second they're driven off the lot!
thats a beautiful testimony! God bless you!
I totally relate to this. We just sold our dream house a month ago and now we are renting, and we couldn't be happier. The peace of mind and getting rid of that burden has been the best decision for us!
Me and my husband paid off our first house within 5 years (650 sq ft. nothing fancy) and now we moved to a bigger house paid with cash that was further away from our family than we would have wanted but it's big enough to start a family
We are both working part-time and always have more than enough money for things. Not having debt has been the best decision we have ever made.
I appreciate how humble you both are. I am a young wife and new mom and it’s easy to aspire for more “things”. Your lesson speaks to me on being truly content with what the Lord provides.
Excellent content! Thanks for your vulnerability. We are completely out of debt, including no mortgage. It definitely frees you up to be way more flexible and very giving! Like Dave Ramsey says, "Live today like noone else so that you can live tmr like noone else." You're very humble, which will bring you much wisdom. ❤️
Wow that’s awesome!
You two are such an inspiration. We had a large amount of money stolen from us last year. I finally realized it was a lesson from God that money is not our idol. Thank you for letting me see that lesson clearly!!
Thank you so much for being so transparent and honest. This is exactly what my husband and I have been rolling with and this really solidifies our reasoning for scaling down than being stressed to make payments to live in a bigger home. Can’t thank you enough for speaking on this and being vulnerable when you didn’t have to be
You hit the nail on the head! My husband and I are in the process of doing the same. Our goal is to be totally debt free (we just have our mortgage) in less than five years. We don’t want to be slaves and pay so much in interest payments over years and years. Mortgage debt is fairly new and they’re laughing all the way to the bank with all of our money. God is enough 🙏🏻Thank you for being so transparent, you will help so many❤
I love that you guys are always trying to better yourselves and not feeling content with just being a good person/a good Christian, but really digging deep and being honest with yourselves and the world about your spiritual struggles, etc! So refreshing! ♥️🙏🏻
You both are so wise beyond your years. Great example to many people. 🙏
thank you soooo much for being vulnerable and sharing this! I am still in college and not about to purchase a home, but I graduate in May. I wanted to sit through this to learn life lessons and wisdom from you all. You are a blessing!
I really appreciate your video because right now I am struggling with a decision to get an expensive masters degree or go to nursing school. The Hudson Taylor quote hit the nail on the head and gave me the right direction that I need to take. I want to go to nursing school, but it won't start for another year, though I can start the masters right now. This video helped me realize I shouldn't take out the debt for the masters and I need to wait for nursing school (what I really want to do). Ya'll are great!
I really love how honest and real you guys are. God bless you in this new year.
I'm not sure I've ever left a comment on RUclips, but I wanted to thank you for sharing your experience. We have a relatively small house for our family size. We also homeschool and often work from home. Buying a larger house was our tentative plan, but just in the last few weeks, I've felt unsure about a new home being what we are called to and have been praying for clarity. Your willingness to openly share your experience almost feels like an answer to my prayers. Thank you so much.
Great!! Awesome video! So many people need to hear this!!! It's so nice to see you learning and growing , and taking care of your family along with your emotional needs. I will be praying for the process of selling and moving in 2023
Thank you 💛🙏🏽
Thank you for sharing and being open. My fiance and I are currently in the market for a house and this video has pushed me to make sure we only buy a house we can comfortably afford versus something outrageous that we would have to work our butts off daily for. Time and how I spend it is very important to me and honestly we don't need as big of a house as our brain makes us thing. We don't need all the stuff we have. We could live on the bare minimum and be perfectly fine. But this world tricks us and distracts us and greed is definitely an underlying problem that not a lot of us know we even have. Thanks again.
I love your true honesty. And I couldn't agree more. Life is about being happy, making memories, your time is more valuable to your family than any luxury item. Denzel Washington made a great comment when he said "He's never seen a U-Haul following a hearse." Next year is the best year! Praying for your sweet family. ✝️💖
Thank you guys so much for your vulnerability and obedience to God.
I’ve been struggling a lot with contentment. My husband and I live in an apartment and I’ve dreamed of living in a home for a long time. I would be very envious of those who have the home I desire, which I know is sin. Seeing you guys talk about this has helped me to remember that true satisfaction can only come from God. If I can’t be content in an apartment I can’t be content in a house, I’ll always want more. Thank you guys, I pray God will continually help us to be content in him only in Jesus’ name.
Your other home was just as beautiful ❤️ Great testimony guys and yes I am sure many can benefit from your honesty!
I love this. Thank you so much. As much as I love seeing beautiful houses on Social Media, I hate that I get so caught up with the desire to have a beautiful dream house. I’m so grateful you shared your experience!
Thank you for sharing this experience with us. Lots of growth you are going through. It is amazing to see your how you both are on the same page and supporting one another👏🏻
Very good and eye-opening discussion. Love what you said about contentment about 8 minutes in Nate. It's challenging me to reconsider where I place my hopes, dreams and happiness. It is a comfort to be reminded that we have everything we need right now. :)
Thank you so much for doing this!!!! My husband and I have literally been praying about this and your video/information is an answer to prayers!!
Your videos are always so timely! Love this so much. So often I want to skip to the "good part" that I miss the present.
Super PROUD of you guys. What a hard, but amazing lesson to learn at this point in your lives. And even though it may seem CRAZY to sell your dream house, especially so soon after buying it...often the Lord calls us to do crazy things that don't make sense to others 🧡 I believe you will be blessed for making this decision. Excited to see what's next!
The message was on time for me. The conviction and the obedience you both have are inspiring. Sutton, your response to Nate of so what was perfection. Thank you both for sharing this with the world. ❤
Thank you for this real and honest video! I was inspired by your story that I shared a small clip of it in my new series I have started on my channel about anxiety and worry. Thankful for your story!
Merry-x-mas you guys, thank you so much, for sharing that new app, I enjoy watching movies out of it.
Thank you so much for your honesty. My husband and I are thinking about doing the same thing. Debt robs us of our joy and no home is worth your joy. Peace be with you’ll.
Best vlog and testimony. I think we all sometime come to this realization but you have made it it reality for us..not to worry we have a beautiful example in you, thank you so much, love you and many blessings to you and your family. Thank you for letting God use you in this way. Wishing you a very holy Christmas ✝️🎄💕
Appreciate how honest and humble you guys are!
Great video Nate and Sutton! Thank you for sharing with us!
Needed this today!
Love you guys! God bless!
You guys are the best!!! Thank you for being so real and helping others with your story ♥️
Thank you for sharing! My husband and I are young, and we just paid off all of our debt. This was a confirmation for me that living frugally and staying out of debt is worth the emotional/spiritual peace. One day we’ll get to the point where we can help others, guilt-free. Love you guys!
Thank you for sharing! As a child of you, we go to the father with authority for everything. You two’s agreement is powerful! Blessings! Praying for you guys
Praise God He is delivering you🙏
Love the way you guys are handling this and humbling yourselves😊Can’t wait to see where the Lord takes you!🙏
Thank you for your humility and honesty. I think this will speak to many people and I pray the Lord convicts the hearts of those with ears to hear. My husband and I bought our home 20 years ago and paid it off in 7 years. It took some self control and sacrifice, but it was one of the best decisions we made. We are free from the bandage of debt and we can work as little or as much as we desire now. It has left us open to spend time and witness Christ to people. Time is such a valuable commodity and it should be protected and cherished. Now more than ever, people are hurting and scared. They need someone to talk to and they need to hear the hope that lies within us which is Christ. The world doesn't offer any hope and what a lesson you've learned with this home. There is no lasting satisfaction in anything this world has to offer. God bless you and your beautiful family. This is a decision you will never regret. Much respect to you both. God is definitely glorified as well.
Love your hearts you guys! Thanks for being real and sharing the revelation God has given you! Praying for you as you sell your home and seek God's next step for your lives! Praying also that you don't lose money on the sale of your house!
Thank you guys! This was very insightful! I was convicted by what Nate said about "your strongest desires may not be your deepest" as I just bought a new car that I've been wanting and I've felt since then that maybe I acted on what my mind wanted and not what my soul needed
Happens to the best of us! If you feel led you can always sell your car and get a different one!
Praise God this is so true! You two are just amazing!
Thank you so much for this video and your transparency. It really helps me seeing things in a different perspective when it comes to dept. Such a valuable lesson. The lesson that you've learned is definitely more valuable than any house or gold. God bless finding not your dream house, but your dream HOME.
We sold our very modest home in March as it was our only debt and hubby was fired for not wanted medically penetrated. The house was our only debt and now have been traveling with hubby’s new job ever since. We went into a tiny amount of debt so as not yo touch our house cash for hubby to take classes for his new job but nowhere near as much debt as a mortgage! We should be buying a house for cash in the next few weeks Lord willing in a new state and then paying off our little debt with his new job since we finally won’t have travel expenses anymore. 😮💨 yes we are all feeling this way.
I’m so glad you guys are so open about the emotional component of debts! Super video, thanks so much!!
I agree with this so much! The joy and freedom that comes from living a debt free life has been robbed from so many in my generation because as soon as we stepped out of college we became slaves to the lender. I wish someone would have sat down with me at that age and made me realize how much debt I was really getting into. I will certainly counsel my children in this growing up and am thankful that we now have more affordable ways to be educated in niche courses online. Thank you for swallowing your pride and sharing this lesson with all of us
Amazing lesson! Thank you for sharing!🙌🏼
Wow! Thank you for sharing! You are all such an inspiration!
Needed this 👏🏻 so much respect. I agree I think the tide is shifting off of the dream home or life into more contentment
Debt has enslaved our family too. We’re in process to sell. Praying we can liquidate our properties & be “debt free & available”. T/u for speaking on this. It is such a vital topic today!
This is going in the “good words” playlist for sure!
Thank y’all for being so set apart from everyone I have seen on RUclips. It’s really cool to see yalls take on what God is speaking to y’all!
A teaching moment for All. We are 70ish and we live way below our means. There are too many challenges in life to attend to without having a ginormous mortgage payment. Well done young ones. Thank you for teaching! Christ set us freeeeeee!
Guys, you are so young and so full of wisdom! Thanks for your testimony ! It’s not our possessions that will make us happy! In fact it’s the opposite! More stuff makes us anxious !
My parents are 62 and 57 and have never bought a house because of debt and serving two masters. And I always thought that that was their loss, and they were crazy. But hearing it from someone else really has caused me to have a change of heart. I appreciate your transparency. Thank you for that ❤️
Well renting is also like slavery as you have to make payments to the landlord.. and will they be able to live till 100 or more if they live that long with monthly payments for rent?
So good, thank you for your honesty! Honestly, so freeing!
Loved this, and truly appreciate your honesty. We also have big dreams of real estate, but we've chosen to take the long route (one at a time, saving with diligence) for the very reason you guys discussed, "the borrower is slave to the lender" and the stress is not worth it. No worldly object in life is worth more than an emotional toll. I truly appreciate y'all's honesty and are really excited about your future.
This is so good!! Thanks for sharing!!!
Thank you for this. Such a valuable lesson. I've learnt a greater lesson from Sutton. How to truly be a supportive partner. It certainly takes a lot of love and selflessness to be willing to let go of something you hold dear for the sake of your loved one's peace of mind. I'm taking this into my soon coming marriage. God bless💕
Good for you guys! My husband and I have been completely debt free for a year and the sense of peace and freedom that we have is amazing. We would like to get a bigger house in a nicer area, but we are saving up until we are in a position to do so. If you are not familiar with Dave Ramsey, I strongly recommend listening to his show and his books. Also, my husband is a realtor, and he always says there is no such thing as a “dream house” because dreams change and people change. Best of luck to you guys and God bless you!
Great reminder. Thanks for sharing! It's not talked about often enough.
Thank you for sharing your hearts with everyone and I’m so happy God revealed this to you. ❤️
You guys do have what I would call a dream life but it has nothing to do with your house. Y'all are such an inspiration ❤ God is definitely using you guys to really help and inspire so many people.
Thank you for your transparency, I really needed to hear this, I felt like this was for me, God is so good, thank you again for sharing.
What a powerful message that is rare to hear. Thank you! I feel lighter 😀
Y’all. This is amazing. Thank you for sharing. 100% truth. I have felt the pressure of making more money to chase the illusive American dream of health, wealth, and happiness, but deep down I know once I get past a certain threshold (maybe 70-90k annually), I actually won’t feel happier! Very encouraged by your obedience to the Word and humility to share. May it spur many of us on to the good works that God is calling us to!
Thank you so much!!! This is an amazing video! I have learnt so much
Thanks so much for sharing !!! Now I can understand this better our strongest desires are not the same as our deepest ones.
I appreciate this info so much.
I think this resonates with so many ppl these days. Those of us who have been burnt out by busy and keeping up with the Jones’. I went through something similar back in 2017 and am so much happier and content now. It wasn’t worth the stress or peace of mind. Slower Living followed shortly after that.
And you guys telling us this is soo inspiring and helpful I'm telling you! Your decision to share this with the world is gonna have massive ripple effects. Thankyou for your humility and honesty ✨️
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Thank you so much for speak it out loud, what so many of us feel every day. Now I feel inspired to take another way that makes me really satisfied!
God bless you
Thank you for being vulnerable ❤
Excited for you in your next season 😊
Great lesson. Thank u for sharing guys 🙏🏻 God bless u 💙
Was hoping you guys came to this conclusion when you first showed the house! You guys are the real deal! God bless you
been thinking about this all week. thanks for sharing!
I felt like that with hosting... always waiting for nicer counteracts, backslash etc. Until God said "just host anyway and be content!" So we do and we have a great nice house. Not huge but perfect to love people in! I really think you guys are making the right decision ❤️❤️❤️
It is SO freeing to live debt free! My husband and I payed on our home loan for 9 months before we payed off or mortgage. It was a stressful and exhausting time of life but now it's over and we are grateful and blessed.
We've started our own RUclips channel sharing our story and progress to hopefully encourage others who want to live debt free. You have a beautiful family and are such an encouragement!
Thank you guys for being so open and honest on this subject!!
Me and my husband actually are praying for a house, we live with my in laws temporarily and are saving as much as possible. This just confirms to me what we NEED to be looking for. A house is a need yes, but I don’t want more than what we need. And you can STILL have your dream design in a smaller home too! That’s the best part of it. Anyways, thank y’all!!
My sister and I came to understand this same lesson just recently to!!! So I found this confirming. And what a freeing lesson to learn!
What a wonderful honest video.... Nate thank you for allowing God to guide you and share with others 💚💚
We are going through something similar. We are being humbled but my husband is still in the phase of anxiety. I’m like u Sutton, I just want him to have peace.
Thank you very much for your honesty!
This hit hard. Thank you so much for sharing. I love the quote from Hudson Taylor's book.
We must learn to receive God's blessings through His Grace, which has nothing to do with our efforts to "conquer" what we want. Thanks for sharing! Brazil present here. God bless your family 🙏
Haha yep, we're definitely in that same boat LOL Since we moved into the house Oct 2021(literally since we walked through the doors) we've been under a weight... To the point that within 6 months I was so stressed about the repairs/maintenance that I ended up with a HORRIBLE case of shingles (on my scalp, in my ear, on my eye...horrible). When we were searching we had put offers into homes across several states, over list price, the whole gambit, and God kept shutting doors. God opened a door for this house and we knew God brought us here; just didn't know *why*. We too see that God was using it to teach us lessons we couldn't have learned otherwise. For us it's not the cost of the mortgage/debt, we pay less now than we did for our rental; for us it's being tied down and feeling like we don't have the freedom to go and do *when* God puts things on our hearts. God told us to prepare for a move, so that's what we're doing... We have no idea when or how, but trust that when God gives the directive He'll provide the means; even if we take a loss on the house. I'll be praying for you guys!
Thanks for sharing the video. It has made me really think about what I should do in this next phase of my life.
I think that this is a perfect lesson for the season of Christmas, especially for me. When asking for what I wanted for Christmas I put down what I mostly wanted and thought I needed (ex: cute trendy clothes for senior year). But the things that I desire aren't what my soul truly needs. More than the external my soul needs God. My soul needs His direction. His wise words. His peace and joy. His patience.
Through y'all amazing video I can take away that I have everything I need to be content right now. And getting some cute clothes isn't going to make me more content than spending this moment today with the Lord. I am not going to be happy when Christmas day arrives, or when I eat or when I watch tv or when I go to a party or when something happens in the future. Let's be content today. Let's live today and not depend on anything or anyone other than GOD for our joy/happiness!
Amazing revelation! 👏 I am so overwhelmed with how much you are both learning in your walks with the Lord. Thank you so much for sharing this valuable lesson that you have learned. The Lord is definitely using this to speak to many in the body of Christ. We are all in the process of waking and preparing for the return of our soon and coming King. No thing and no person must stand in our way. This is so beautiful. Keep exalting the name of Jesus. I too thought that if I could just get that dream home,etc. I surrender Lord. Thank you. I will keep you in my prayers. God bless you both and those precious boys. 🙏
I just went through the same experience. My husband and I both have paid off cars but I was unhappy driving the truck we have so we traded it in and now we have an 8k loan on a mid size car. I realized having the car payment which isn’t much made me feel like I have to work more and harder to pay the payment we have now. I realized it wasn’t worth the stress and wish we didn’t trade in the very nice payed off truck we had. Lesson learned here for me and my family. We have recently thought of scaling down on the house as well and buy something smaller to have a paid off house.
Thank you sooo much guys. When I seen the house you guys lived in before this one, I was like that's my dream home lol and I don't think I will ever to be able to afford that. Anyways god is so good and you guys are amazing true people of the lord and truly want to do his will!! You are going to help so many people with this video! I believe God did use this too And this house. Thank you for your obedience and vulnerability. God-bless.
I truly have the feeling of simplicity of life also I'm so glad yall shared this video
It's great that you are both so supportive of each other. Money and things are not what is most important. It's the love of God , peace of mind and the Love you share between the two of you that is what is most important.
I know two couples that busted their butts for years, years, working OT like crazy.. away from kids, etc.. and they’re saying from both of them was, I just have 4 more years and my house ( my dream home i built, etc..) will be paid off and then and only then i can rest ( take it easy). One of the wives ended up dying of brain cancer and the other wife died unexpectedly from a flu virus that led to complications (both before retiring). Now their beautiful home they busted their ass for. Those bricks and things, are being enjoyed by the 2nd wife. Live your life man!!! Live your life! Stop looking and wanting what’s on the other side of the fence.
I totally get this!!!!!! I feel a call for a simpler life! ❤good job guys!
I am in agreement with you guys about how our Lord used this experience to teach a beautiful life lesson! A lesson you can share with many! We worship an Awesome God who loves us and only wants what is good and profitable for us. My hubby and I have a ministry where we minister to the homeless in our home. Every Saturday we have church in our house and have been doing this for around 15 years. We invite the homeless to our home to take a shower, get clean clothes, have a hot meal and hear the word of God. When we got this home it was an answer to prayer. We had prayed and asked the Lord if He would give us a home we would bring Him Glory with the home. We had no idea that we would be ministering to the homeless in this home. We have done it only because He has work through us to will and do of His good pleasure! The Lord shows us all the time how this ministry is important to Him. We do not have social media, we do not advertise this ministry and yet we have people who hear about us and bring offerings and gifts for the homeless. I am here to testify that God is good! I am so happy for you guys Nate and Sutton! I look forward to seeing what God has planned for you! If anyone is interested in seeing a video of our homeless ministry, there is a video on my RUclips page. The video starts in the park with the homeless and then to our home. It was from Christmas a few years ago.
Thank you so much for sharing this.
Thank you Guys for sharing it.
That vibrating anxiety is intuition, sometimes you can’t put your finger on it, but once you find the crux, then a lightbulb goes off. I think that time in between helps us become sure that the decision will be welcomed. Blessings!
Spot on video!!! A "little house on the prairie" sounds so nice 🤗 Thank you both for bring so vulnerability in sharing what God's been up to in your lives... He is SO good, and truly leads us, knowing our human minds/flesh won't naturally have the wisdom on its own. In His infinite wisdom, He leads us in paths of righteousness even if our non-infinitely-wise, human minds need time to adjust & accept His higher ways 😉 Praying for you & the beautiful adventure God has you on!!!