When I was a kid I grew up on section 8, food stamps and food banks. I never had toys. Now I collect my toys to reconnect to my lost childhood. Now my sons are into my favorite hobbies. Scale models, Legos, warhammer and gundam. Life is a dream.
I was brought up in woman's refuges and emergency housing, didn't have a childhood really but at 51 I enjoy collecting toys and sharing with my son. It all worked out for me too.
I have a ton of models out right now for a personal project. As much as I’m not wanting to, it warms my heart that they want to grab a bunch and paint them.
Yeah, similar situation. My Dad always denied me toys as a kid. I had to beg him to buy me just one at the store. He would buy it a week later, and sometimes it would go out of stock, and I'd miss out. We weren't even poor he was just cheap and thought I would get over it. So when I started making my own money, I bought whatever the hell I wanted.
Similar here. Only difference is now that I have the money to enjoy hobbies, my kids literally could not care any less about toys, Legos, models, cool cars, knives, or any of my interests! ...Oh well, I'm still happy!
On a second note, I think trauma does play a role, because a hobby replaces trauma but then once the hobby serves it's purpose maybe it's time to shed the skin and grow. Like a crab, the shell protects, but once it had done it's job and the crab has grown, it's time to look for a new shell. I feel like hobbies are a spiritual shell, just like how a house and a car are physical shells.
20 year old female collector here. Always wondered if my childhood full of bullying and depression caused me my love and passion for collecting stuff. Then at the age of 16 I got diagnosed with asperger syndrome, autism. Another option came in. Is it cause I'm weird that I have to compensate my loneliness with plastic I find appealing? Maybe. I collected toys ever since my childhood. Always kept everything in perfect condition and enjoyed displaying stuff. Started with my many many dolls. When I was 9-10 I became a huge fangirl of the Doctor Who and wanted all kinds of figures from the show. Later got into superhero and anime figures, which still continues. And in the last few years got back to collecting dolls again....I can confirm from my side that collecting did definitely caused my at least a bit of a addiction. I may not be the completiontist type who needs every single character from every set, but once something new caughts my attention, I instantly want some of it. Good example - my new interest in Tokusatsu media. Watched just a little, but already ordered 3 figures and already want this Ultraman and that Ultraman in THAT suit....like....I do sometimes wonder if these things will ever fill the lonely hole in my heart. I have severe problem with communicating with others, being around others. My social skills really suck. Always prefer being by myself. The diagnose at least confirmed something for me. Anyways, really enjoyed your video and your opinion on this topic and why you think collecting may be a serious problem for some people. It's good to keep a balance between things you really want to have and love and something you like just because you wanna feel satisfaction. It's also important to ask yourself why you want to buy/collect this specific thing. What's it really for you? That's the question.
I just never buy anything unless I absolutely love everything about it, I like certain shows that have figure lines and I don’t even pick them up cuz they don’t look absolutely perfect or really cool, there’s a Sh figurarts Naruto line and I don’t absolutely love it but I still had an itch to buy it all eventually, the real reason is because I watched it all in 2021 with a friend I haven’t talked to or seen since then, yeah you basically get the point I wanted to fill that void of wanting to be friends with him still but I distanced myself cuz of life problems but that that time has moved on I just haven’t done what I’m telling u to do (accept myself) also with feeling lonley learn to accept yourself, appreciate yourself and stop caring so much about stuff that give you negative thoughts, don’t give those things that your valuing making you suffer in the present value, I don’t like to dwell on it and instead appreciate what I have and what I can change for the better after I learned to accept myself and things around me
Most of the figures I've bought are bc they were on some kind of sale or discount. I rarely buy a figure at full price unless I really really want it or if I know that if I don't it will be more expensive on the secondary market. So yeah, I get what you're saying
The ridiculous prices and the oversaturation of products and product lines has turned me off from collecting. I seldom buy collectibles anymore and I've collected for over 20 years. It just doesn't have the appeal anymore to me.
I've been a collector for about 12 years now and have to say the hobby has been holding me back. I need to move back to Europe, but have developed an attachment to my collection that it is delaying the process. Be it not being able to sell, or being reeled back in by new releases from the Figure sites, RUclips reviewers, and ebay. Its really hard, but it is a neccesary sacrifice to block myself from these sites. Realizing it's an addiction is important. Hopefully I can get over this hump as well. I truly believe in "out of sight, out of mind" since it's worked in the past for me personally. Thanks so much this video helped
Stumbled across this video because it was fed to me by RUclips and had to watch because I'm in the same boat of sorts and this really hit home. I have all the same thoughts: emptiness / lack of purpose to collecting, dopamine addiction, FOMO; all of it. I don't think I'll ever stop collecting completely, but I've curtailed my collecting and my collection immensely. And it definitely feels better. I'm getting more joy out of selling everything than I did in acquiring it 😆
I agree with everything you said man and I've been trying to quit it's an addiction but I've been slowing down, collecting was something that brought me peace and enjoyment since I'm not a very social person but now it's just stressful and kind of shameful having to sneak stuff in without it being seen
You dont take any with you but as long as you live and you see them close to you they fill you out with positive energy, it all comes down on how you balance it
I've seen this video pop up in my feed a few times and have deliberately avoided it because I assumed it was going to be some kind of click bate or whatever. I'm glad I decided to watch this, you've put into words things that I've felt for a while now, thank you for being a real human talking about real things, this was a good video to watch.
Great video, bro. You really cooked. Collecting is something that, much like a vice, should be done in moderation and if it's a problem...then time for an intervention. I never really amped it up but I have come to a time where I realized there are figures in my collection that I don't care for as much as I used to. I'm working on minimizing my collection, not sure if I will quit anytime soon but if I do, so be it. I've come to a point where I'm really picky about what I'm choosing. Nothing wrong at all with slimming down or stopping at all. I wish you much peace and love.
Awesome video homie,very honest and truthful.I know I needed to hear that and for that I’m grateful.There is a fine line between collecting and obsession.Hoarding is what comes after you cross that line lol.Good job at figuring out what you need to do for yourself.A lot of us wade thru life without even achieving that or sometimes is too late.Now let’s end this in a cheerful note by saying welcome to a new direction in your life god bless homie and once again thanx for sharing .😄🤙
I’m not a toy collector, but I’ve been a comic book collector for years and years. As of recent, I’ve been selling off my collection, all high and low end books. A lot of what you spoke about has resonated deeply. I’ve got two toddlers, and life moves fast. As much as I have cherished my collection, family is first and I’ve been allocating my funds from selling back into the family. Much appreciated on putting out the raw content.
Initially, I was not going to watch this video about quitting collecting toys because I wrongfully assumed it was going to be a typical rant of something to the effect of "I'm quitting because the toy company is making what I want" or "I can't find what I want." Nothing wrong for quitting for that reason, but I've watched more than my fair share of those types of video. That being said, I'm glad I clicked on this video because it's very emotional and shines the light on the darker side of toy collecting. I've been collecting for over 45 years, and I've experienced unhealthy collecting habits and attitudes that caused problems financially, emotionally and with family, so I do have an idea how Toypac is experiencing. I'm glad he recognizes his problems with toy collecting and has taken steps to get better. Best of luck Toypac!
I’m 61 and have been collecting since 1992. 32 years! That’s a long haul and quite a bit of coin. We have much in common regarding our formative experiences growing up and early adulthood. I can completely relate to your situation and support your decision to stop and, in essence, cull the herd. I'm pretty much there myself. I would love to see you make progress videos and perhaps document your decision-making process regarding what stays and what goes. Starting is always the hardest part, congratulations on taking that first step. I need to do that myself.
I just recently took a 4 month break from collecting and sold my entire collection too. I just recently picked up some figures and I feel like I’m ready to start again but at an entirely slower rate so I can enjoy it more. Before I stopped I felt like I was just hoarding and not truly collecting, I want to do it over time and not have it consume my life! Someone will always sell that figure/collectible your after! Hope you come back after a break and find enjoyment with it again!
I got into hobbies (in particular card collecting )...not for the things, but to connect with people. I felt lonely. I wanted to be apart of something. But i can see how this can turn into an addiction. Balance is needed. Take care of yourself! Dont be hard on yourself.
appreciate you sharing! do you bro! im in limbo with collecting. been n up and down journey, but slowly working my way to collect only what I love. I also need to stop doubling and sometimes tripling up on figures!
You are absolutely right Sir, and until one realizes or accepts it...they will not be able to get the real grasps on Collecting. I used to buy 3 items a month, now its 1 item in 3 months.
I've been collecting Battletech for 40 years. I enjoy painting the miniatures and inviting friends over and have tabletop game nights and painting workshops. I use all of my collections unlike most others that just sit on a shelf, which I got rid of to make room for more Battletech.
This video really is like finding a gold mine, especially with so many comments. I'm 58 and I've been collecting as far back as I can remember being alive. The only time I didn't was when I was in the military for 4 years. I did the same thing. My drug of choice is figure models and statues. I amassed a huge collection, then had a moment of clarity one day and wondered what I was doing, and sold it all. I did that twice. Nowadays, I probably only have enough to fill 1 curio cabinet, but I still constantly look and search and want. Restraint is very hard. I believe it's something in us that we can never fully depart from.
Thank you for sharing this video and your story with us Vimal 🙏🏾 At first I paused the video and made some assumptions that you were stopping collecting because maybe you associated the figures with being stuck in the mindset of being a kid…but 15min in and hearing the way you spoke about that “dopamine” hit when you get a new figure or hear about one…that honestly hits way closer to home than you know. And it’s a hard pill to swallow for some folk. Cause on one end you feel justified in chasing that dragon, it feels good and you feel like you’re also apart of that community when you can comment on post or even share the figure in real life with friends/family who understand and share your interest. But ultimately it’s the sharing part and community that sometimes, inevitably take a backseat when we least expect it. When you said “look around and see how your relationship is with X or Y” I really thought to myself…”damn I really have talked to X or Y in a while..like REALLY talked or hung out” And that hit me much harder…especially being at home alone currently. I’m really just here with my thoughts as I type them out here in this comment section…but then I look up at my SH Figuarts Goku and I’m like “well at least I have this cool figure” But then immediately I also think “fuck that. I should call Y and see how they’re doing” And as you said this goes beyond just toys. It’s entertainment in general and I’m sure a host of other things really. When you do them too much you can sometimes, as they say, get “lost in the sauce”. I’ve done this heavily with a mobile game and I know it’s pretty much apart of my daily routine now. Hell, I log in on the reset every day and it lets me know basically when I’m almost done with my work-shift lol But it’s also brought a sense of calm and regularity. That “purposeful sway” you mentioned earlier in the vid. It’s a sense of control over something I quite literally can’t control…cause ironically at anytime, the company can just stop making toys or stop hosting the servers for the mobile game …and then poof. There goes your comfy safety net 🤷🏾♂️ This can also happen in the real world with friends and family, but usually less as most family and friends as you get older typically won’t change too often. They move around, sure….but the people I know now are actually still the same ones I met 10 years ago. Just, older, wiser, fatter (I am too, so ima take your advice about getting in shape cause that shit do help!) …but ultimately they are all still the same precious people I respect and care about dearly and I wouldn’t want to lose them to some plastic renditions of beloved characters. I know damn well if Goku were real, he’d be pulling me out my computer chair from trying to preorder a figure just so he and I can go train together lol I think for me. Ultimately I love figure collecting as it reminds me of those characters I hold dear, but I also can see your words in this video and know I’ve likely given the figures more attention than the characters they are inspired by. For that, I am truly grateful to have finally clicked on your video and watched it to completion. May you and whomever reading this have a blessed day. Stay safe and be true 🙏🏾❤️
I sold a lot of things I owned in 2011 and moved out of the USA. It felt good to reduce my useless things... but I also felt the pull of the things I regretted selling and hunted down waya to get those few things back. I have since bought new things as well, but with far more caution and thought. I never care about completing a set or army building like some do [which I respect and understand]. I just know what I like and try to think over how much I actually want something versus just fascination of seeing something new. Watching toy reviews and videos helps me see what I really want versus what is just a passing interest.
This is something many of us have gone through. Good for you man. It is an addiction and an expensive one. I have also stopped and am working on selling my collection, slowly....I don't wan to spend too much of my life selling either. I packed it all up. If you are like me the temptation to fall back in is strong. If you can't stay away I recommend selling them all and just removing the temptation from sight.
Definitely there with you, it does feel super relieving to purge and not get sucked into the vortex. I find my collecting happiness comes from when it's an extra, like everything else in life is good and taken care of and then I can treat myself and not feel that guilt
Right there with you. I have 5 totes in front of me to get rid of. It does consume you. It’s ridiculous. I’ve wasted to much time on this as well. Done. Good video.
It is how some of us deal with depression. I was collecting sports cards when I first started going through my bout and it eventually turned into high end collectibles then to just stuff I can find at Target, Gamestop etc. I started selling my stuff and it feels liberating. I've kept the few sentimental value items.
What a sharp, introspective take! I'm the same way with video gaming, and plan to only keep one shelf of what I truly love, and sell all the rest, I'm thinking it'll bring me another $400 - $500 a month in extra disposable income from eBay. Just post 5 - 10 figures a week, don't make it seem like a second job.
I downsize regularly and have particular tastes which keeps the hobby in control and affordable since I regularly make profit off of selling items at aftermarket prices that I got at retail. It really comes down to what you are wanting to collect as some properties are endless and predatory. I feel for Marvel, Star Wars, Wrestling figure collectors etc. There’s so much they keep throwing at you guys with no end in sight.
I love it, but in moderation after going overboard as well and it's a phase for sure. I think a few grail pieces that don't take up the whole house is ultimately the best in the end.
Good job on seeing through your addiction. With being a RUclipsr it must be especially hard as there is the compulsion to acquire things that you might not even like, just so you can create content. I think with all hobbies, the most important thing is striking a balance, so that it won't cause financial hardship or strain in relationships. When collecting, I try to make sure that not only is it a good deal but also it must be special in some way. My other restrictions are to limit one item per character and to not buy things just to "complete the set" (not hard and fast rule but I adhere to it most of the time). NEVER buy things "in case it goes up" -- go put that money in an index fund.
I am 47, my habit, really sometimes takes a toll, I do not have that many "friends" if at all, most people are phony anyways. That is why I decided to go to the gym at least 3 days a week to better my health and keep my mind occupied to avoid the impulse of buying toys once a month.
I started very late in collecting after I am financially stable.. it doesn't cause any issues at all to my family members... so far I can say I'm still very discipline to collect only a certain particular line... I won't be able to take this with me after I die but I think my collection will still bring some value to my kids in future if they decide to sell it... in summary, just do what makes you happy... it used to make you happy in the past but if it doesn't anymore now, just sell it off and you'll feel better for sure getting rid of them... you can always come back again to collect new ones in future... 😄
I feel this way all the time. I feel like you have to put things in perspective. Long as its treated as a hobby or a means of extra income I don’t think theres anything wrong. Long as toy collecting doesn’t consume you or your bank account. Ive always been into art some people collect paintings sculptures i collect figures.
I was this way with retro video games. I credit the overall retro market with me stopping. It’s too expensive and difficult to even find these things but I feel free when I stopped collecting. It was an addiction. Because I never played any of it even though I said I would.
You can't take it with you. It doesn't love you back. To make collecting more than just obsession and money lech. You have to put yourself in it. Like customization, diorama building and photographing. May be inspire you to learn new skills. The less you buy the more time you have for each item. So put yourself first and don't let anyone make you buy things you don't really like and waste time and money on them.
Once we digitize it it makes since that the last physical copies of a media should go to a library, preserved or not preserved, it’s better than 10 collectors getting everything and keeping it in their basement for no one to see or admire. Really what’s the point of being a collector if it’s all about yourself and not the young audience who don’t know about this retro era and MIGHT LIKE IT IF THEY KNEW? We would do them a disservice to keep in basements away from the world, so one way or another accessibility to future generations will be the priority. to put it back into our history and truly become a symbol of our culture. Because that’s what it is, we can’t let it die because it’s one of the reasons we became who we are.
I started collecting around 8 years ago and said only Spiderman figures. That led to more and more because it was fun to have a variety of stuff. Now I'm only collecting like 2 to 3 lines mostly. I have the most of Marvel Legends but I got bored and stopped collecting them a few years ago.
There’s a balance in life and collecting is part of it and seeing people and enjoying hobbies go hand in hand… just make sure you balance both that’s it 👍🏼
For young adults it is best to be mobile. Believe it or not pets, toys, video game collections will make you think twice to move to a better place or take a better job because of how much work and money to move your stuff. Only start collecting or having pets when you find a place you really want to settle. I know I experienced this before but I'm kinda lucky that I only have a small collection.
At least your addiction isn't hardcore drugs. I can respect toy collectors. I just dislike the people who take all the cool toys from the toy aisle, and resell them for higher prices. As a kid I could never find the cool action figures and it wasn't until i grew yp and witnessed the reason why I'd always miss out.
I limit my collection to a few hundred, its a toxic hobby but i”ve other hobbies that are my main focus. New designs is what i buy and old designs (limited articulation / weak engineering) i do sell to keep toy collecting balance.
I shifted to the cheapest figures out there and focused on getting the bestest deal versus the latest release Guess im speaking at a stage that i can still purchase - should priority hits, family, retirement, maybe i will quit too
Some good points, but it's all relative. For me it's no different than collecting art. Toys allow me to enjoy aesthetics that appeal to me, but also touch a bit deeper when nostalgia etc, is involved. My collecting is governed by what pulls at my heart strings & aesthetic tastes. I don't concern myself with what others are pursuing or the latest shiny new toy. Maintaining a manageable sized collection also ensures I don't become a slave to the collection, or end up hoarding. It's about how one approaches this hobby and what they make of it; be it good or bad.
I’m 44. When I was 12 we couldn’t afford buying toys. So when I started working when I was 24 that’s when I got my first toybiz action figures, it didn’t progress from there because of “adulting” stage and I don’t know where to buy they and haven’t heard about Hasbro and other companies. Until when I was 35 I got exposed to how big is the toy community. I’m from buying every marvel legends wave I see even if I only need 1 character also got introduced with HotToys! I came to a certain point where I started to streamline my collecting hobby coz it’s getting out of hand and man this hobby is not cheap! Now I’m wiser as a collector, sold out most of the figures I don’t need and kept the ones I really like. Quality over Quantity and most importantly fun factor! It’s like the excitement is always there even after you have unboxed and displayed it. Like always the first time when you play with it again or even just by staring at it on your shelf. That’s the fun factor! So from Hasbro marvel legends I moved to Mafex the pricier ones but I don’t mind it’s the fun, satisfaction, and contentment out of it. At present I don’t buy loads of toys I cherry pick them and I built the discipline not to end up buying and buying. My trick is, if I see a new toy featured I go back to what I have and play with them so the urge of buying dies eventually. You see, everything is worthless until we give it value. These companies don’t sell products they sell emotions and that’s what makes us want for more! I learnt also to work on my ability to balance things in my life. I do like toys not just because of childhood reasons but because of what I get from them not just the feeling of having to own them toys but how they can make me feel happy coz sometimes people suck 😅! I am happy for you to come to that realization so just go for it.
Never seen this before. I colect video games and just play them with my kids all the time. Ive drastically cut down since having kids though. Only buy like 10 games a year at this point. It was more money for me to have and spend treating my family to experiences. Never had an issues with any of them being anti space or anything. Maybe ... I just didnwhat you did and prioritized kids. I just havent sold my backlog. Anyway, good luck to you!
If you love toys then buy them and feel happy about it I'm 48 and a big wrestling fan and YES I collect Figures and do not have a problem with it at all what is the big deal anyway
Damn watching you describe what you're going through makes me think and realize my own collection, but yeah bro I see what you mean as an this isn't healthy.
For me i cannot stop. But i am targeting unique pieces of resin and actuin figures. And finishing my old collection. Still i have a daughter, trying to convert new generatiins to it 😢
I think we get to a certain point as collectors saying we having enough I think that we should begin going through our stuff and down sizing our collections .
Ya gotta buy things that ya love and not get carried away and let it control ya.. I see lots of legends.. so I already kinda relate.. I stopped buying domestic stuff for the most part... usually collect mezco stuff.. they are expensive but I buy less.. and theres nothing to me that beats getting a new mezco. They come with so much stuff.. their original line comes with comics some times and I fell in love with customs and kitbashes of original characters.. everyone collects super hero stuff so. It's nice to expand beyond that. Best wishes on ya journey. It's OK to put them away for a while.. you say where has my life gone.. its gone to thousands in plastic.. ya money isn't where ya life goes.. but if it's lead to turbulent relationships then yea. Maybe it's a problem
You know it is possible to be a "healthy" collector right?. To collect things and still have a healthy relationship with people. They can co-exist, doesn't have to be one extreme to the other. This is why i am never impressed with a persons collection based on volume and numbers of things they own. Thats when it appears to be a fine line between obsession and hording. People just need to self check more and when things like relationships and money get effected its time to pull it back in a bit and not lose yourself in collecting, this does not mean you have to go a complete 180 and completely give up something that you enjoy.
OP clearly reached the unhealthy stage and realized that the only way to become healthy again is to let it all go. Cliche, but sometimes you have to die to be born again.
I quitted in 2016, I used to collect 1:4 scale and realized it was just garbage, useless.. It was an addiction yes. I flipped all of it and made a decent amount of money. There are more things more valuable in life to do. Glad you made that choice.
I stopped collecting last year,i was tired of dealing with resellers and working 60 hrs a week and the bums who dont work get to all the deals first so i said f it im done just now focusing on building my retirement up
Except for how people look at you or how people think of you….to me, that is the last thing on my list……do what you like regardless, being true to yourself is the important thing to me……but if that’s important to you, then I agree with that too😊, just not for me though
Don't be too hard on your self. This plastic crack be addicting .But ??? It's not alcohol or drugs .I'm a doll collector in my 40s so i know the hobby. But you can sell/trade/donate ? Your only 31 , do whatever the hell suits you ,You haven't hurt anyone. Go easy on your self ✨️
They re released the neca robocop figure i was excited an got it..opened it to my disappointment no thigh gun holster..no bueno lol..the best action figures were the marvel legends 12 inch because they were articulated and detailed like the 6-7 inch figs..then they stopped making them and went back to the small figs..im over 7 inch figures so im out..plus i got neca Raphael with the coat im retired now.im not selling them either.
I'm 30 and absolutely feel you. My collection is nowhere near yours as i've only been collecting for under 3 years, but I have similar thoughts like you. For the most part, i've accepted my love for figures and the hobby. But over those 2 years i've always had bothersome thoughts in the back of my head that while I value my happiness, I can't help but think of the negative aspects to toy collecting: the stigma behind it, it's costly, it's weird, it's taking away from time spent elsewhere, and with every new figure you add your hobby gets more and more finite due to shelf space. And one of the worst parts is also ironically the best part. While being able to budget my spending is immensely satisfying and rewarding, it's also REALLY stressful cause it takes a lot of willpower out of me to NOT impulse buy, to WAIT for a sale, to WAIT for that new month to hit so I can finally buy something new, etc. I'm not saying these things are fact, but these ideas naturally come to mind for me. If it doesn't for others, then i'm happy for you. But fighting these natural thoughts and feelings makes this hobby both a fun one and a chore for me. I look at my collection with both admiration and guilt. Anyways, i'm happy you're making a change you feel is necessary in your life. Who knows it may reinvigorate collecting a figure here and there so you still get to experience it but also not let it consume you. Wishing you the best!
I'm 45 and stopped collecting comics n video games years ago. I joined the Army, traveled the world, fought in wars, etc. Got out in 2010 and came back to collecting. There's a time and place for everything. You are a young man,and it's time to reflect and move forward. You can still buy toys now and then. But yes,socialize n get your life where you want it. When you are ready to come back, the toys will still be there waiting for ya. And you won't have to stress as much. FOMO is a killer. For sure. You are making a great choice for your future. I've seen people who collect so much,that they live alone with no friends just cats,and all thier things. We don't want to live like that.
Definitely have felt every bit of emotion you have bro, sometimes I’d lay in bed and think why am I spending money on plastic that won’t come with me when I die. I have sold stuff and spent that money on experience life with family. Now I buy toys for me and my son, I collect very selectively and ensure that I prioritize my mental health first over any hobby. Thank you for posting this and being so vulnerable! Much love brother
It’s a hobby but unlike booze or weed you can always resell it and make some money back. For drinking or drugs that money is gone. Not to mention bad on your body. So there are definitely worse vices out there.
What hobby can you take to the grave? The only thing you take to the grave is your regrets and the close that the caretaker will dress on you. I guess you had an obsessive disorder that is a bit diferent from healthy collecting
@@ilikepancakes2368 jeez dark man well if you make art or have kids behind then you leave a part of yourself to live on in the world so to speak. Not literally you, but your legacy/lasting impact.
@@laughslapproductions4690 This is like the sweet temptation that gets you in or keeps you going with the hobby. Reality is that it is not so easy to resell. The entire act of selling can be stressful. Some buyers try to scam you, some try to haggle it down to nothing etc. But, there is definitely the silver lining that it doesn’t outright damage your organs or brain cells, so there is that difference for sure. I think the key point is that buying toys like anything else in life has to be moderated.
Im in the same boat but I have Christ he gives me the peace an Anchor in life that toys and collectibles can’t there only temporary earthy things they won’t fill void in your hearts
Life-long toy collector here (with a few a few breaks here and there) and I truly appreciate your honesty and candor on this difficult topic. Another RUclipsr said recently his toy collection: "Is about memories...it can increase joy or pull him out of a funk." Which is true BUT many collectors, myself at times too, have gone too far and it can be unexcesary stress, financial burden and distance between yourself and family. I suppose its about balance but we have to remember, its not the end of the world of we can't acquire something. There were toys I wanted desperately then totally forgot about later on. Crazy how it works.
Golden statement "Its not the end of the world", Literally they often remake the same figure, change the paint and body mold and boom second or third chance to buy what came out 4-5 years ago. For instance look how many White outfit Storm costumes have been released since 2019. A retro card back, the vhs cel-shaded version, the mafex and X-men 97 Mohawk wave. Literally 4 chances to get virtually the same figure within a 4 year span. I've been practicing putting it out of my mind. Like The new Cable and Warbird figures being sold out everywhere is kind of annoying me, but Its not the end of the world. Eventually they will restock and I'll get lucky.
Agreed 100%. It's part of the industry, of course...if a company is gonna invest all that capital to tool and sculpt a character, they sure as hell are gonna amoritze it to make back their investment with slight repaint, variants, etc 👍
I feel ya. I love action figures cuz they are like posable sculptures. But if you got so many you don't really appreciate the art of them cuz there's so many and they are bunched close together.
I totally understand that. Some new things I thought i would love endlessly I'll touch once or haven't open yet. That let's me know it's time to take a pause for the cause.
That, and I think it also has to do with the frequency of how many new versions are coming out recently, so the older ones lose their appeal. "Woah, this Spider-man figure is great"... "Nvm... the new one that is coming out next year is even better" aaaand it's and endless cycle.
Brother I have been collecting toys for basically my whole life. To answer your question about what the meaning of life is, I have learned that it is to know God and to make God known. Even if you quit collecting, there will still be something in you that is empty. I know this because I stopped for a while, but while I stopped I found that Jesus is the only one who can truly satisfy. God bless you brother.
Man it’s so crazy that your saying this, I’m trying to move closer to Jesus and wondering about my hobbies and then this video pops up out of nowhere. God is amazing and having a personal relationship with Jesus is the most important thing.
Turning 40 and started collecting again last year. It’s all about discipline and reevaluating what you love vs like. Do what makes you happy. You don’t have to care what people think. For me the collecting addiction has kept me from drinking. It’s become too much for me but I’ve slowed down and will only buy what I love and stop with the completionist stuff.
1) do what makes you happy 2) dont care what others think. Did you even listen to what the man was saying? He opened up on how the toy habit is an ineffective Band-Aid over a large pain/trauma and that over years he believes it has hindered him from having more meaningful relationships/experiences with friends or family. Sesh dude, no where did he say he feels pressured to not collect toys.
Yo Iam 45 and collecting slowed my drug addiction big time, yes I can see why people say I swapped one for the other but atleast I got stuff to sell instead of it disapearing. I hear ya.
@@jackrussell3084 The man above said that it helped deal with a worse addiction and that he also slowed down with the replacement, so I don’t see the issue here.
I lost all my toys, drum set pieces etc. in the fire in 2018 and I have since collected my ass off to replace the void and reclaim those childhood memories . Now I am selling stuff. Been sober three years too… addictive personality is a real pain.I hope things turn around for you man.
Damn.. all this psychologie behind collecting sure takes out the fun for me...Not! No way i,m giving up my collection. Made my social life even better because everyone wants to see it. Thinking of opening a gallery or something and expand big time.
I agree like it has been addiction for me. Sometimes like I find myself obsessed with it on my phone looking for the next thing never being satisfied with what I have and I keep buying buying. I have a new born coming and when you said you can’t take this with us that hit me hard bro.
Your life is about to change once you become a parent. Your priorities are gone change .
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Im trying to finish off my collecting too ,but im not selling anything . Its becoming too expensive ,the best part of hunting toys in the wild is dead ,and its become a way for too many ppl to come in and grift off the hobby who barely know anything about toys or the media it came from . Its become a hobby i dont really recognize as fun anymore .
I totally get what you are saying here, I met a 21 year old kid selling vintage MOTU that knew nothing about them except that 50 year olds like me were buying them. Still picked up a battle damage He-Man and Man-E-Faces though. If I sell my stuff, I would love to sell it to people my own age that remember watching the cartoons and commercials.
I'm 51 I'm just started collecting two years ago, I never thought of this Hobbie like an addiction! Reading so many comments of people talking about this like an issue amazed me. I don't think I'm addicted, but I can see how this situation can become a problem. I wish you luck for everybody an it's wonderful to speak about this. It's the first step to control our behavior
But its bad for the toy industry. Many people rely on this guy for job security. He needs to be more materialistic to be happy. Otherwise he will be sad and start a more dangerous addiction like smoking crack. He is probably thinking about quitting because someone made fun of him and now he wants to prove to someone that he isn't a nerd and that he can be one of the cool kids too. It's sickening. He has to like himself the way he is. It's part of life: accept that you are not able to achieve everything you wish and that this hobby is here to keep your calm.
I think the reason you probably don't understand is because you're fairly new . I started collecting in 2005 and I kinda understand this, dude . I mainly collect vintage stuff, and I pretty much accumulated all the stuff I want. The problem I see now is that a lot of vintage stuff has gone up in price and I have a 4 year old son that has become priority 1.Now, I don't really have time like I use to. Don't get me wrong, I still love toys, but I don't really have the desire to obtain super expensive rare pieces or anything .
It's all arbitrary. No one blinks if you spend 100 k on a camper or a boat but if you spend a few grand a year on collectible it's an addiction. Boo. Do what you love.
I'm 19 years old and i just got back into collecting lego minifigures, your video inspired me to stop listening to my lust for collecting and just go out and enjoy life! Thank you brother. Keep being strong, its a fight. The memories aren't in the toys, they're in you so its okay to let the material go just don't let yourself go.
I went through this before. Sold my whole collection then only bought the maybe 20 figures that meant the most to me, stuck them on my bookcase and haven’t really regretted my decision at all.
Thank u so much for sharing. Much needed in the community. Bringing awareness to metal health and how collecting affects us is so important. Wishing u the very best on ur journey.
me and my old man didn't have the greatest relationship growing up, i didn't like, having to go over to his house for the summer, as a kid, it was hot and boring, and he was the Stern silent type makin me study all day, but one summer in my teens, i came across his huge collection of toys and figures, and it was impressive, from dbz figures, tech decks, model cars, star wars, marvel, etc. and we suddenly had a whole lot to talk about. he even helped me start my 1st collection. have you ever thought about saving your collection and one day, use the "plastic" to play with your own kids, and make friendship with them?
I have witnessed many people struggling with their mental health unintentionally cope with toy collecting because it momentarily lures them out from the darkness but the underlying issues go untreated. Unbeknownst to them, there’s a slow downward spiral of unhealthy behaviors and negative emotions that begin to affect their quality of life and the joy eventually dissipates. There are several similarities between toxic toy collecting and substance abuse/addictions that we should recognize to help prevent falling into depression from something we love to do. I say all this because I know where you’re coming from. I recently rekindled my connection with my figs after truthfully feeling a false sense of fulfillment every time i looked at them. Keep your head up dude. I’m 41 now and if I know anything it’s that tough times don’t last. Situations change, people change, but the world doesn’t stop moving. We only live once so enjoy the time you have doing what you love. Hope you get yourself in a good place dude, and good luck!
I appreciate you being so open, this is definitely something I don't see many people talk about in the community. I'm 19 and over the past few years I've spent hundreds and likely thousands collecting figures. I've had thoughts about how that money could've been better used elsewhere helping my family or even just prioritizing necessities. I've fallen down the rabbithole of placing preorders, using pay in 4 plans to have figures even though I couldn't afford them at the moment, etc. I resonate with some of the other things you said in this video, like buying things just for the sake of the dopamine despite not even wanting the item. I've downsized my collection significantly and I want to continue to since I have more than I'm comfortable with. I also began unfollowing social media accounts about toy news and collecting since I feel like seeing them are a major trigger for me. I'm still young, but I definitely have other priorities that I should pay attention to. I really needed to hear this. Thank you and I wish you luck
I love videos like this. I think it's so important for us to regularly assess where we are psychologically and emotionally with this hobby because it's all too easy to get caught in the empty cycle of buying more and more but feeling less satisfied. I wish collectors were more vocal about topics like this (even if they aren't quitting collecting) just to maintain a healthy outlook and balance
...people collect toys to try and recapture their youth, but the fun part wasn't owning the toy, it was playing with the toy, by yourself and with friends. You gotta bust them out of their plastic cell and play with them, take pictures, do dioramas, let your kids play with them, that's how you build new fun memories, that;s the point of having toys. A box on a wall is just depressing.
I used to collect as a kid but I told my myself during my middle school year I'm too grown to be collecting toys and stop collecting completely. COVID-19 comes around and I started collecting again but I was just buying a bunch of random stuff so now I'm buying certain stuff I really like or rare stuff and selling the stuff I really don't care about.
Same. Oddly enough, I discovered toy hunting and toy collecting videos during the Pandemic. Damn that Matt Cardona! 😂😂 I just wish I knew HOW to collect when I started again. I was also picking up random stuff here and there. Finally, I got to the point where I sold stuff I no longer wanted. And trimmed down my collection to where it made sense.
The first time I quit collecting toys I was 16. I told myself I was entering the "adult world". I didn't need that stuff anymore. I'm 51 now. And I have quit collecting toys many times, Now just called it purging. Because it always comes back. Something is always going to pull you back in. I wish you all the strength that I don't have. But if you say you're now only gonna be a minimal collector. That's like an alcoholic going into a bar and saying he's only gonna have one drink from now on. It just doesn't work that way. I have filled an entire room just cherry picking. It's just who we are. But I wish you luck.
@@scottishdude9682 OK. It's like going into a casino and saying you're only going to play one hand of Black Jack. It's like saying you only going to smoke one cigarette after quitting for only a day. It's like going to Pornhub and saying you're only going to watch 1 video. Or it's like saying you're going to take one Oxycodone just for the pain. Take your pick. My point was... addiction is addiction. Anything that stimulates the pleasure senses can become a dependency. Have some compassion for others.
Good points made here. I would also add, if not toys, what? We all have a collecting bug in us, if we stop toys does it become watches, coins, video games, guns, books? For some of us, it's a hard wired behavior that brings a certain level of satisfaction.
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When I was a kid I grew up on section 8, food stamps and food banks.
I never had toys. Now I collect my toys to reconnect to my lost childhood.
Now my sons are into my favorite hobbies. Scale models, Legos, warhammer and gundam.
Life is a dream.
I was brought up in woman's refuges and emergency housing, didn't have a childhood really but at 51 I enjoy collecting toys and sharing with my son. It all worked out for me too.
I have a ton of models out right now for a personal project. As much as I’m not wanting to, it warms my heart that they want to grab a bunch and paint them.
Yeah, similar situation. My Dad always denied me toys as a kid. I had to beg him to buy me just one at the store. He would buy it a week later, and sometimes it would go out of stock, and I'd miss out. We weren't even poor he was just cheap and thought I would get over it. So when I started making my own money, I bought whatever the hell I wanted.
You are awesome. How did you lift yourself up?
Similar here. Only difference is now that I have the money to enjoy hobbies, my kids literally could not care any less about toys, Legos, models, cool cars, knives, or any of my interests!
...Oh well, I'm still happy!
On a second note, I think trauma does play a role, because a hobby replaces trauma but then once the hobby serves it's purpose maybe it's time to shed the skin and grow. Like a crab, the shell protects, but once it had done it's job and the crab has grown, it's time to look for a new shell. I feel like hobbies are a spiritual shell, just like how a house and a car are physical shells.
20 year old female collector here.
Always wondered if my childhood full of bullying and depression caused me my love and passion for collecting stuff. Then at the age of 16 I got diagnosed with asperger syndrome, autism. Another option came in. Is it cause I'm weird that I have to compensate my loneliness with plastic I find appealing? Maybe. I collected toys ever since my childhood. Always kept everything in perfect condition and enjoyed displaying stuff. Started with my many many dolls. When I was 9-10 I became a huge fangirl of the Doctor Who and wanted all kinds of figures from the show. Later got into superhero and anime figures, which still continues. And in the last few years got back to collecting dolls again....I can confirm from my side that collecting did definitely caused my at least a bit of a addiction. I may not be the completiontist type who needs every single character from every set, but once something new caughts my attention, I instantly want some of it. Good example - my new interest in Tokusatsu media. Watched just a little, but already ordered 3 figures and already want this Ultraman and that Ultraman in THAT suit....like....I do sometimes wonder if these things will ever fill the lonely hole in my heart. I have severe problem with communicating with others, being around others. My social skills really suck. Always prefer being by myself. The diagnose at least confirmed something for me.
Anyways, really enjoyed your video and your opinion on this topic and why you think collecting may be a serious problem for some people. It's good to keep a balance between things you really want to have and love and something you like just because you wanna feel satisfaction. It's also important to ask yourself why you want to buy/collect this specific thing. What's it really for you? That's the question.
I just never buy anything unless I absolutely love everything about it, I like certain shows that have figure lines and I don’t even pick them up cuz they don’t look absolutely perfect or really cool, there’s a Sh figurarts Naruto line and I don’t absolutely love it but I still had an itch to buy it all eventually, the real reason is because I watched it all in 2021 with a friend I haven’t talked to or seen since then, yeah you basically get the point I wanted to fill that void of wanting to be friends with him still but I distanced myself cuz of life problems but that that time has moved on I just haven’t done what I’m telling u to do (accept myself) also with feeling lonley learn to accept yourself, appreciate yourself and stop caring so much about stuff that give you negative thoughts, don’t give those things that your valuing making you suffer in the present value, I don’t like to dwell on it and instead appreciate what I have and what I can change for the better after I learned to accept myself and things around me
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With the ridiculous prices these days I'm surprised that ANYONE still collects.. I stopped years ago.
Unless you’re a millionaire, collect them all right?
It's super expensive anymore...
Most of the figures I've bought are bc they were on some kind of sale or discount. I rarely buy a figure at full price unless I really really want it or if I know that if I don't it will be more expensive on the secondary market. So yeah, I get what you're saying
The ridiculous prices and the oversaturation of products and product lines has turned me off from collecting. I seldom buy collectibles anymore and I've collected for over 20 years. It just doesn't have the appeal anymore to me.
I've been a collector for about 12 years now and have to say the hobby has been holding me back. I need to move back to Europe, but have developed an attachment to my collection that it is delaying the process. Be it not being able to sell, or being reeled back in by new releases from the Figure sites, RUclips reviewers, and ebay. Its really hard, but it is a neccesary sacrifice to block myself from these sites. Realizing it's an addiction is important. Hopefully I can get over this hump as well. I truly believe in "out of sight, out of mind" since it's worked in the past for me personally. Thanks so much this video helped
Stumbled across this video because it was fed to me by RUclips and had to watch because I'm in the same boat of sorts and this really hit home. I have all the same thoughts: emptiness / lack of purpose to collecting, dopamine addiction, FOMO; all of it. I don't think I'll ever stop collecting completely, but I've curtailed my collecting and my collection immensely. And it definitely feels better. I'm getting more joy out of selling everything than I did in acquiring it 😆
I agree with everything you said man and I've been trying to quit it's an addiction but I've been slowing down, collecting was something that brought me peace and enjoyment since I'm not a very social person but now it's just stressful and kind of shameful having to sneak stuff in without it being seen
You dont take any with you but as long as you live and you see them close to you they fill you out with positive energy, it all comes down on how you balance it
I've seen this video pop up in my feed a few times and have deliberately avoided it because I assumed it was going to be some kind of click bate or whatever.
I'm glad I decided to watch this, you've put into words things that I've felt for a while now, thank you for being a real human talking about real things, this was a good video to watch.
@@axel.1358 really appreciate that
Great video, bro. You really cooked. Collecting is something that, much like a vice, should be done in moderation and if it's a problem...then time for an intervention. I never really amped it up but I have come to a time where I realized there are figures in my collection that I don't care for as much as I used to. I'm working on minimizing my collection, not sure if I will quit anytime soon but if I do, so be it. I've come to a point where I'm really picky about what I'm choosing. Nothing wrong at all with slimming down or stopping at all. I wish you much peace and love.
Awesome video homie,very honest and truthful.I know I needed to hear that and for that I’m grateful.There is a fine line between collecting and obsession.Hoarding is what comes after you cross that line lol.Good job at figuring out what you need to do for yourself.A lot of us wade thru life without even achieving that or sometimes is too late.Now let’s end this in a cheerful note by saying welcome to a new direction in your life god bless homie and once again thanx for sharing .😄🤙
I’m not a toy collector, but I’ve been a comic book collector for years and years. As of recent, I’ve been selling off my collection, all high and low end books. A lot of what you spoke about has resonated deeply. I’ve got two toddlers, and life moves fast. As much as I have cherished my collection, family is first and I’ve been allocating my funds from selling back into the family. Much appreciated on putting out the raw content.
Initially, I was not going to watch this video about quitting collecting toys because I wrongfully assumed it was going to be a typical rant of something to the effect of "I'm quitting because the toy company is making what I want" or "I can't find what I want." Nothing wrong for quitting for that reason, but I've watched more than my fair share of those types of video. That being said, I'm glad I clicked on this video because it's very emotional and shines the light on the darker side of toy collecting. I've been collecting for over 45 years, and I've experienced unhealthy collecting habits and attitudes that caused problems financially, emotionally and with family, so I do have an idea how Toypac is experiencing. I'm glad he recognizes his problems with toy collecting and has taken steps to get better. Best of luck Toypac!
I’m 61 and have been collecting since 1992. 32 years! That’s a long haul and quite a bit of coin. We have much in common regarding our formative experiences growing up and early adulthood. I can completely relate to your situation and support your decision to stop and, in essence, cull the herd. I'm pretty much there myself.
I would love to see you make progress videos and perhaps document your decision-making process regarding what stays and what goes. Starting is always the hardest part, congratulations on taking that first step. I need to do that myself.
I just recently took a 4 month break from collecting and sold my entire collection too. I just recently picked up some figures and I feel like I’m ready to start again but at an entirely slower rate so I can enjoy it more. Before I stopped I felt like I was just hoarding and not truly collecting, I want to do it over time and not have it consume my life! Someone will always sell that figure/collectible your after!
Hope you come back after a break and find enjoyment with it again!
I got into hobbies (in particular card collecting )...not for the things, but to connect with people. I felt lonely. I wanted to be apart of something. But i can see how this can turn into an addiction. Balance is needed. Take care of yourself! Dont be hard on yourself.
Appreciate you sharing! If it doesn’t make you happy it’s time to move on. Much love to you, brother 🙏🏽
I appreciate that
appreciate you sharing! do you bro! im in limbo with collecting. been n up and down journey, but slowly working my way to collect only what I love. I also need to stop doubling and sometimes tripling up on figures!
You are absolutely right Sir, and until one realizes or accepts it...they will not be able to get the real grasps on Collecting.
I used to buy 3 items a month, now its 1 item in 3 months.
I've been collecting Battletech for 40 years. I enjoy painting the miniatures and inviting friends over and have tabletop game nights and painting workshops. I use all of my collections unlike most others that just sit on a shelf, which I got rid of to make room for more Battletech.
This video really is like finding a gold mine, especially with so many comments. I'm 58 and I've been collecting as far back as I can remember being alive. The only time I didn't was when I was in the military for 4 years. I did the same thing. My drug of choice is figure models and statues. I amassed a huge collection, then had a moment of clarity one day and wondered what I was doing, and sold it all. I did that twice. Nowadays, I probably only have enough to fill 1 curio cabinet, but I still constantly look and search and want. Restraint is very hard. I believe it's something in us that we can never fully depart from.
Been feeling like this for a while! Thanks for the vid 🙏👍
Thank you for sharing this video and your story with us Vimal 🙏🏾
At first I paused the video and made some assumptions that you were stopping collecting because maybe you associated the figures with being stuck in the mindset of being a kid…but 15min in and hearing the way you spoke about that “dopamine” hit when you get a new figure or hear about one…that honestly hits way closer to home than you know.
And it’s a hard pill to swallow for some folk. Cause on one end you feel justified in chasing that dragon, it feels good and you feel like you’re also apart of that community when you can comment on post or even share the figure in real life with friends/family who understand and share your interest.
But ultimately it’s the sharing part and community that sometimes, inevitably take a backseat when we least expect it.
When you said “look around and see how your relationship is with X or Y” I really thought to myself…”damn I really have talked to X or Y in a while..like REALLY talked or hung out”
And that hit me much harder…especially being at home alone currently.
I’m really just here with my thoughts as I type them out here in this comment section…but then I look up at my SH Figuarts Goku and I’m like “well at least I have this cool figure”
But then immediately I also think “fuck that. I should call Y and see how they’re doing”
And as you said this goes beyond just toys. It’s entertainment in general and I’m sure a host of other things really. When you do them too much you can sometimes, as they say, get “lost in the sauce”.
I’ve done this heavily with a mobile game and I know it’s pretty much apart of my daily routine now. Hell, I log in on the reset every day and it lets me know basically when I’m almost done with my work-shift lol
But it’s also brought a sense of calm and regularity. That “purposeful sway” you mentioned earlier in the vid. It’s a sense of control over something I quite literally can’t control…cause ironically at anytime, the company can just stop making toys or stop hosting the servers for the mobile game …and then poof. There goes your comfy safety net 🤷🏾♂️
This can also happen in the real world with friends and family, but usually less as most family and friends as you get older typically won’t change too often. They move around, sure….but the people I know now are actually still the same ones I met 10 years ago. Just, older, wiser, fatter (I am too, so ima take your advice about getting in shape cause that shit do help!) …but ultimately they are all still the same precious people I respect and care about dearly and I wouldn’t want to lose them to some plastic renditions of beloved characters.
I know damn well if Goku were real, he’d be pulling me out my computer chair from trying to preorder a figure just so he and I can go train together lol
I think for me. Ultimately I love figure collecting as it reminds me of those characters I hold dear, but I also can see your words in this video and know I’ve likely given the figures more attention than the characters they are inspired by.
For that, I am truly grateful to have finally clicked on your video and watched it to completion.
May you and whomever reading this have a blessed day. Stay safe and be true 🙏🏾❤️
I sold a lot of things I owned in 2011 and moved out of the USA. It felt good to reduce my useless things... but I also felt the pull of the things I regretted selling and hunted down waya to get those few things back. I have since bought new things as well, but with far more caution and thought.
I never care about completing a set or army building like some do [which I respect and understand]. I just know what I like and try to think over how much I actually want something versus just fascination of seeing something new. Watching toy reviews and videos helps me see what I really want versus what is just a passing interest.
This is something many of us have gone through. Good for you man. It is an addiction and an expensive one. I have also stopped and am working on selling my collection, slowly....I don't wan to spend too much of my life selling either. I packed it all up. If you are like me the temptation to fall back in is strong. If you can't stay away I recommend selling them all and just removing the temptation from sight.
Definitely there with you, it does feel super relieving to purge and not get sucked into the vortex. I find my collecting happiness comes from when it's an extra, like everything else in life is good and taken care of and then I can treat myself and not feel that guilt
Right there with you. I have 5 totes in front of me to get rid of. It does consume you. It’s ridiculous. I’ve wasted to much time on this as well. Done. Good video.
It is how some of us deal with depression. I was collecting sports cards when I first started going through my bout and it eventually turned into high end collectibles then to just stuff I can find at Target, Gamestop etc. I started selling my stuff and it feels liberating. I've kept the few sentimental value items.
Thanks for sharing your experiences in toy collecting. I'm also at the point when I need to streamline my collection to prioritize more impt stuff.
One *GOAL* Reached = 1 Figure (that you've wanted) as a *_REWARD._*
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What a sharp, introspective take! I'm the same way with video gaming, and plan to only keep one shelf of what I truly love, and sell all the rest, I'm thinking it'll bring me another $400 - $500 a month in extra disposable income from eBay. Just post 5 - 10 figures a week, don't make it seem like a second job.
I downsize regularly and have particular tastes which keeps the hobby in control and affordable since I regularly make profit off of selling items at aftermarket prices that I got at retail.
It really comes down to what you are wanting to collect as some properties are endless and predatory. I feel for Marvel, Star Wars, Wrestling figure collectors etc. There’s so much they keep throwing at you guys with no end in sight.
I love it, but in moderation after going overboard as well and it's a phase for sure. I think a few grail pieces that don't take up the whole house is ultimately the best in the end.
It's the hyperfixation on objects as a coping mechanism we developed from childhood.
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Good job on seeing through your addiction. With being a RUclipsr it must be especially hard as there is the compulsion to acquire things that you might not even like, just so you can create content.
I think with all hobbies, the most important thing is striking a balance, so that it won't cause financial hardship or strain in relationships. When collecting, I try to make sure that not only is it a good deal but also it must be special in some way. My other restrictions are to limit one item per character and to not buy things just to "complete the set" (not hard and fast rule but I adhere to it most of the time). NEVER buy things "in case it goes up" -- go put that money in an index fund.
@@cottonycloud- it definitely is tough. Because you want to make reviews. Ya know?
Thank you. I needed to hear this today.
I am 47, my habit, really sometimes takes a toll, I do not have that many "friends" if at all, most people are phony anyways. That is why I decided to go to the gym at least 3 days a week to better my health and keep my mind occupied to avoid the impulse of buying toys once a month.
I started very late in collecting after I am financially stable.. it doesn't cause any issues at all to my family members... so far I can say I'm still very discipline to collect only a certain particular line... I won't be able to take this with me after I die but I think my collection will still bring some value to my kids in future if they decide to sell it... in summary, just do what makes you happy... it used to make you happy in the past but if it doesn't anymore now, just sell it off and you'll feel better for sure getting rid of them... you can always come back again to collect new ones in future... 😄
This shit never ends once your addicted to it. Once it becomes your source of happiness or sadness.
I feel this way all the time. I feel like you have to put things in perspective. Long as its treated as a hobby or a means of extra income I don’t think theres anything wrong. Long as toy collecting doesn’t consume you or your bank account. Ive always been into art some people collect paintings sculptures i collect figures.
you don't need it all just a small collection. probably just tommy tbh. very relatable. thank you for sharing peace be with you
I was this way with retro video games. I credit the overall retro market with me stopping. It’s too expensive and difficult to even find these things but I feel free when I stopped collecting. It was an addiction. Because I never played any of it even though I said I would.
You can't take it with you.
It doesn't love you back.
To make collecting more than just obsession and money lech. You have to put yourself in it. Like customization, diorama building and photographing. May be inspire you to learn new skills.
The less you buy the more time you have for each item. So put yourself first and don't let anyone make you buy things you don't really like and waste time and money on them.
Once we digitize it it makes since that the last physical copies of a media should go to a library, preserved or not preserved, it’s better than 10 collectors getting everything and keeping it in their basement for no one to see or admire.
Really what’s the point of being a collector if it’s all about yourself and not the young audience who don’t know about this retro era and MIGHT LIKE IT IF THEY KNEW? We would do them a disservice to keep in basements away from the world, so one way or another accessibility to future generations will be the priority.
to put it back into our history and truly become a symbol of our culture.
Because that’s what it is, we can’t let it die because it’s one of the reasons we became who we are.
I started collecting around 8 years ago and said only Spiderman figures. That led to more and more because it was fun to have a variety of stuff. Now I'm only collecting like 2 to 3 lines mostly. I have the most of Marvel Legends but I got bored and stopped collecting them a few years ago.
There’s a balance in life and collecting is part of it and seeing people and enjoying hobbies go hand in hand… just make sure you balance both that’s it 👍🏼
For young adults it is best to be mobile. Believe it or not pets, toys, video game collections will make you think twice to move to a better place or take a better job because of how much work and money to move your stuff. Only start collecting or having pets when you find a place you really want to settle. I know I experienced this before but I'm kinda lucky that I only have a small collection.
@@Nemesis_T_Type man, never thought of it like that. Great insight. Ty!
Thank you I can relate to all of this!
At least your addiction isn't hardcore drugs. I can respect toy collectors. I just dislike the people who take all the cool toys from the toy aisle, and resell them for higher prices. As a kid I could never find the cool action figures and it wasn't until i grew yp and witnessed the reason why I'd always miss out.
I limit my collection to a few hundred, its a toxic hobby but i”ve other hobbies that are my main focus. New designs is what i buy and old designs (limited articulation / weak engineering) i do sell to keep toy collecting balance.
I shifted to the cheapest figures out there and focused on getting the bestest deal versus the latest release
Guess im speaking at a stage that i can still purchase - should priority hits, family, retirement, maybe i will quit too
Collecting has gotten out of control with all the exclusives. Companies telling you when its time to spend. Its rarely fun anymore.
The company execs are definitely fully clued in now to the fact that adult collectors are a serious demographic. They want that money!
Some good points, but it's all relative. For me it's no different than collecting art. Toys allow me to enjoy aesthetics that appeal to me, but also touch a bit deeper when nostalgia etc, is involved.
My collecting is governed by what pulls at my heart strings & aesthetic tastes. I don't concern myself with what others are pursuing or the latest shiny new toy.
Maintaining a manageable sized collection also ensures I don't become a slave to the collection, or end up hoarding.
It's about how one approaches this hobby and what they make of it; be it good or bad.
One of the most real videos I've seen
I’m 44. When I was 12 we couldn’t afford buying toys. So when I started working when I was 24 that’s when I got my first toybiz action figures, it didn’t progress from there because of “adulting” stage and I don’t know where to buy they and haven’t heard about Hasbro and other companies. Until when I was 35 I got exposed to how big is the toy community. I’m from buying every marvel legends wave I see even if I only need 1 character also got introduced with HotToys! I came to a certain point where I started to streamline my collecting hobby coz it’s getting out of hand and man this hobby is not cheap! Now I’m wiser as a collector, sold out most of the figures I don’t need and kept the ones I really like. Quality over Quantity and most importantly fun factor! It’s like the excitement is always there even after you have unboxed and displayed it. Like always the first time when you play with it again or even just by staring at it on your shelf. That’s the fun factor! So from Hasbro marvel legends I moved to Mafex the pricier ones but I don’t mind it’s the fun, satisfaction, and contentment out of it. At present I don’t buy loads of toys I cherry pick them and I built the discipline not to end up buying and buying. My trick is, if I see a new toy featured I go back to what I have and play with them so the urge of buying dies eventually. You see, everything is worthless until we give it value. These companies don’t sell products they sell emotions and that’s what makes us want for more! I learnt also to work on my ability to balance things in my life. I do like toys not just because of childhood reasons but because of what I get from them not just the feeling of having to own them toys but how they can make me feel happy coz sometimes people suck 😅! I am happy for you to come to that realization so just go for it.
Never seen this before. I colect video games and just play them with my kids all the time. Ive drastically cut down since having kids though. Only buy like 10 games a year at this point. It was more money for me to have and spend treating my family to experiences. Never had an issues with any of them being anti space or anything. Maybe ... I just didnwhat you did and prioritized kids. I just havent sold my backlog. Anyway, good luck to you!
If you love toys then buy them and feel happy about it
I'm 48 and a big wrestling fan and YES I collect Figures and do not have a problem with it at all
what is the big deal anyway
Damn watching you describe what you're going through makes me think and realize my own collection, but yeah bro I see what you mean as an this isn't healthy.
For me i cannot stop. But i am targeting unique pieces of resin and actuin figures. And finishing my old collection. Still i have a daughter, trying to convert new generatiins to it 😢
I think we get to a certain point as collectors saying we having enough I think that we should begin going through our stuff and down sizing our collections .
I feel the same way brother.
Ya gotta buy things that ya love and not get carried away and let it control ya.. I see lots of legends.. so I already kinda relate.. I stopped buying domestic stuff for the most part... usually collect mezco stuff.. they are expensive but I buy less.. and theres nothing to me that beats getting a new mezco. They come with so much stuff.. their original line comes with comics some times and I fell in love with customs and kitbashes of original characters.. everyone collects super hero stuff so. It's nice to expand beyond that. Best wishes on ya journey. It's OK to put them away for a while.. you say where has my life gone.. its gone to thousands in plastic.. ya money isn't where ya life goes.. but if it's lead to turbulent relationships then yea. Maybe it's a problem
Where are your listings for the stuff you are selling?
You know it is possible to be a "healthy" collector right?. To collect things and still have a healthy relationship with people. They can co-exist, doesn't have to be one extreme to the other. This is why i am never impressed with a persons collection based on volume and numbers of things they own. Thats when it appears to be a fine line between obsession and hording.
People just need to self check more and when things like relationships and money get effected its time to pull it back in a bit and not lose yourself in collecting, this does not mean you have to go a complete 180 and completely give up something that you enjoy.
OP clearly reached the unhealthy stage and realized that the only way to become healthy again is to let it all go. Cliche, but sometimes you have to die to be born again.
I quitted in 2016, I used to collect 1:4 scale and realized it was just garbage, useless.. It was an addiction yes. I flipped all of it and made a decent amount of money. There are more things more valuable in life to do. Glad you made that choice.
I stopped collecting last year,i was tired of dealing with resellers and working 60 hrs a week and the bums who dont work get to all the deals first so i said f it im done just now focusing on building my retirement up
It comes down to materialistic possessions take a hold of you. It’s not worth it. Be happy with what god gives you. I been there. Started with yugioh
Very good points, I agree with all of them.
Except for how people look at you or how people think of you….to me, that is the last thing on my list……do what you like regardless, being true to yourself is the important thing to me……but if that’s important to you, then I agree with that too😊, just not for me though
Dude, I figured out who you looked like to me…..Amir Khan, British Boxer
I gave away $400 worth of legends. It was the best feeling.
Thank you man, this is how I feel too
Don't be too hard on your self. This plastic crack be addicting .But ??? It's not alcohol or drugs .I'm a doll collector in my 40s so i know the hobby. But you can sell/trade/donate ? Your only 31 , do whatever the hell suits you ,You haven't hurt anyone. Go easy on your self ✨️
These toys also hold a piece of us that we wished we moved on from.
They re released the neca robocop figure i was excited an got it..opened it to my disappointment no thigh gun holster..no bueno lol..the best action figures were the marvel legends 12 inch because they were articulated and detailed like the 6-7 inch figs..then they stopped making them and went back to the small figs..im over 7 inch figures so im out..plus i got neca Raphael with the coat im retired now.im not selling them either.
Have you had the same emotions with comics or games that you have?
Not sure if you do
I'm 30 and absolutely feel you. My collection is nowhere near yours as i've only been collecting for under 3 years, but I have similar thoughts like you.
For the most part, i've accepted my love for figures and the hobby. But over those 2 years i've always had bothersome thoughts in the back of my head that while I value my happiness, I can't help but think of the negative aspects to toy collecting: the stigma behind it, it's costly, it's weird, it's taking away from time spent elsewhere, and with every new figure you add your hobby gets more and more finite due to shelf space. And one of the worst parts is also ironically the best part. While being able to budget my spending is immensely satisfying and rewarding, it's also REALLY stressful cause it takes a lot of willpower out of me to NOT impulse buy, to WAIT for a sale, to WAIT for that new month to hit so I can finally buy something new, etc.
I'm not saying these things are fact, but these ideas naturally come to mind for me. If it doesn't for others, then i'm happy for you. But fighting these natural thoughts and feelings makes this hobby both a fun one and a chore for me. I look at my collection with both admiration and guilt.
Anyways, i'm happy you're making a change you feel is necessary in your life. Who knows it may reinvigorate collecting a figure here and there so you still get to experience it but also not let it consume you. Wishing you the best!
I’m 45, been through multiple waves of collecting and taking a break. Do what brings you peace and happiness. Good luck.
If I had a dollar for every time............
@@ernestmuric6719please finish the sentence I’m curious on how many dollars you’d have
I'm 45 and stopped collecting comics n video games years ago. I joined the Army, traveled the world, fought in wars, etc. Got out in 2010 and came back to collecting. There's a time and place for everything. You are a young man,and it's time to reflect and move forward. You can still buy toys now and then. But yes,socialize n get your life where you want it. When you are ready to come back, the toys will still be there waiting for ya. And you won't have to stress as much. FOMO is a killer. For sure. You are making a great choice for your future. I've seen people who collect so much,that they live alone with no friends just cats,and all thier things. We don't want to live like that.
@@jamesgavin8366 I’m 67,000 years old and I do this for fun
@@saladinbryant3653 wise words!
Definitely have felt every bit of emotion you have bro, sometimes I’d lay in bed and think why am I spending money on plastic that won’t come with me when I die. I have sold stuff and spent that money on experience life with family. Now I buy toys for me and my son, I collect very selectively and ensure that I prioritize my mental health first over any hobby. Thank you for posting this and being so vulnerable! Much love brother
It’s a hobby but unlike booze or weed you can always resell it and make some money back. For drinking or drugs that money is gone. Not to mention bad on your body. So there are definitely worse vices out there.
What hobby can you take to the grave? The only thing you take to the grave is your regrets and the close that the caretaker will dress on you. I guess you had an obsessive disorder that is a bit diferent from healthy collecting
To be technical, you don’t really take anything with you to the grave. When you die, so does your memories and experiences.
@@ilikepancakes2368 jeez dark man well if you make art or have kids behind then you leave a part of yourself to live on in the world so to speak. Not literally you, but your legacy/lasting impact.
@@laughslapproductions4690 This is like the sweet temptation that gets you in or keeps you going with the hobby. Reality is that it is not so easy to resell. The entire act of selling can be stressful. Some buyers try to scam you, some try to haggle it down to nothing etc. But, there is definitely the silver lining that it doesn’t outright damage your organs or brain cells, so there is that difference for sure. I think the key point is that buying toys like anything else in life has to be moderated.
Im in the same boat but I have Christ he gives me the peace an Anchor in life that toys and collectibles can’t there only temporary earthy things they won’t fill void in your hearts
Amen bro, only Jesus can give us this purpose, and healing. 🙏
Life-long toy collector here (with a few a few breaks here and there) and I truly appreciate your honesty and candor on this difficult topic. Another RUclipsr said recently his toy collection: "Is about memories...it can increase joy or pull him out of a funk." Which is true BUT many collectors, myself at times too, have gone too far and it can be unexcesary stress, financial burden and distance between yourself and family.
I suppose its about balance but we have to remember, its not the end of the world of we can't acquire something. There were toys I wanted desperately then totally forgot about later on. Crazy how it works.
Golden statement "Its not the end of the world", Literally they often remake the same figure, change the paint and body mold and boom second or third chance to buy what came out 4-5 years ago. For instance look how many White outfit Storm costumes have been released since 2019. A retro card back, the vhs cel-shaded version, the mafex and X-men 97 Mohawk wave. Literally 4 chances to get virtually the same figure within a 4 year span. I've been practicing putting it out of my mind. Like The new Cable and Warbird figures being sold out everywhere is kind of annoying me, but Its not the end of the world. Eventually they will restock and I'll get lucky.
Agreed 100%. It's part of the industry, of course...if a company is gonna invest all that capital to tool and sculpt a character, they sure as hell are gonna amoritze it to make back their investment with slight repaint, variants, etc 👍
I agree with the 1 toy thing. It always felt special having just some toys. Now that I have so many they begin to lose their appeal.
I feel ya. I love action figures cuz they are like posable sculptures. But if you got so many you don't really appreciate the art of them cuz there's so many and they are bunched close together.
I totally understand that. Some new things I thought i would love endlessly I'll touch once or haven't open yet. That let's me know it's time to take a pause for the cause.
That, and I think it also has to do with the frequency of how many new versions are coming out recently, so the older ones lose their appeal. "Woah, this Spider-man figure is great"... "Nvm... the new one that is coming out next year is even better" aaaand it's and endless cycle.
Brother I have been collecting toys for basically my whole life. To answer your question about what the meaning of life is, I have learned that it is to know God and to make God known. Even if you quit collecting, there will still be something in you that is empty. I know this because I stopped for a while, but while I stopped I found that Jesus is the only one who can truly satisfy. God bless you brother.
God bless bro
Man it’s so crazy that your saying this, I’m trying to move closer to Jesus and wondering about my hobbies and then this video pops up out of nowhere. God is amazing and having a personal relationship with Jesus is the most important thing.
Facts, and he’s the number one Super Hero.
Corny 🌽
@@donnykiin GOD Bless you
Turning 40 and started collecting again last year. It’s all about discipline and reevaluating what you love vs like. Do what makes you happy. You don’t have to care what people think. For me the collecting addiction has kept me from drinking. It’s become too much for me but I’ve slowed down and will only buy what I love and stop with the completionist stuff.
1) do what makes you happy
2) dont care what others think.
Did you even listen to what the man was saying?
He opened up on how the toy habit is an ineffective Band-Aid over a large pain/trauma and that over years he believes it has hindered him from having more meaningful relationships/experiences with friends or family.
Sesh dude, no where did he say he feels pressured to not collect toys.
Yo Iam 45 and collecting slowed my drug addiction big time, yes I can see why people say I swapped one for the other but atleast I got stuff to sell instead of it disapearing. I hear ya.
@@jackrussell3084 The man above said that it helped deal with a worse addiction and that he also slowed down with the replacement, so I don’t see the issue here.
Completion-ist stuff? Ohhhh… wait until you hear about comic books 😀
Not me listening to this halfway while driving to a store to pick up some toys at a discounted rate😂😂😂
beautiful
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grow up
Never grow up mate.
Happy collecting to you.
I lost all my toys, drum set pieces etc. in the fire in 2018 and I have since collected my ass off to replace the void and reclaim those childhood memories . Now I am selling stuff. Been sober three years too… addictive personality is a real pain.I hope things turn around for you man.
“You can check out anytime you like but you can never leave”
you can definitely leave if your will is strong enough. With God we can do anything...i'm rooting for you guys!
*epic guitar solo starts playing
Damn.. all this psychologie behind collecting sure takes out the fun for me...Not!
No way i,m giving up my collection.
Made my social life even better because everyone wants to see it.
Thinking of opening a gallery or something and expand big time.
I agree like it has been addiction for me. Sometimes like I find myself obsessed with it on my phone looking for the next thing never being satisfied with what I have and I keep buying buying. I have a new born coming and when you said you can’t take this with us that hit me hard bro.
Your life is about to change once you become a parent. Your priorities are gone change .
Im trying to finish off my collecting too ,but im not selling anything . Its becoming too expensive ,the best part of hunting toys in the wild is dead ,and its become a way for too many ppl to come in and grift off the hobby who barely know anything about toys or the media it came from . Its become a hobby i dont really recognize as fun anymore .
I totally get what you are saying here, I met a 21 year old kid selling vintage MOTU that knew nothing about them except that 50 year olds like me were buying them. Still picked up a battle damage He-Man and Man-E-Faces though. If I sell my stuff, I would love to sell it to people my own age that remember watching the cartoons and commercials.
Don’t prioritize toys , just enjoy them
I'm 51 I'm just started collecting two years ago, I never thought of this Hobbie like an addiction! Reading so many comments of people talking about this like an issue amazed me. I don't think I'm addicted, but I can see how this situation can become a problem. I wish you luck for everybody an it's wonderful to speak about this. It's the first step to control our behavior
But its bad for the toy industry. Many people rely on this guy for job security. He needs to be more materialistic to be happy. Otherwise he will be sad and start a more dangerous addiction like smoking crack. He is probably thinking about quitting because someone made fun of him and now he wants to prove to someone that he isn't a nerd and that he can be one of the cool kids too. It's sickening. He has to like himself the way he is. It's part of life: accept that you are not able to achieve everything you wish and that this hobby is here to keep your calm.
It's so easy to buy stuff now...just bc I'm bored. Lol I'm glad my lack of finances has slowed me down. I dont really want a massive collection.
The problem firstly comes when you become a completionist where you need everything from certain series and so on.
I think the reason you probably don't understand is because you're fairly new . I started collecting in 2005 and I kinda understand this, dude . I mainly collect vintage stuff, and I pretty much accumulated all the stuff I want. The problem I see now is that a lot of vintage stuff has gone up in price and I have a 4 year old son that has become priority 1.Now, I don't really have time like I use to. Don't get me wrong, I still love toys, but I don't really have the desire to obtain super expensive rare pieces or anything .
It's all arbitrary. No one blinks if you spend 100 k on a camper or a boat but if you spend a few grand a year on collectible it's an addiction. Boo. Do what you love.
I'm 19 years old and i just got back into collecting lego minifigures, your video inspired me to stop listening to my lust for collecting and just go out and enjoy life! Thank you brother. Keep being strong, its a fight. The memories aren't in the toys, they're in you so its okay to let the material go just don't let yourself go.
1 Reached = 1 Figure (that you've wanted) as a *_REWARD._*
(⚖is 🔑)
very true your savings can become all about lego and spending on stuff can feel like your missing out on a cool set you would've wanted
I went through this before. Sold my whole collection then only bought the maybe 20 figures that meant the most to me, stuck them on my bookcase and haven’t really regretted my decision at all.
That sounds like a great middle thing!
Best way.
I'm do this with my hot wheels I need stop and I'm just keep like 200 I like trying trim down 800 cars 😢
Thank u so much for sharing. Much needed in the community. Bringing awareness to metal health and how collecting affects us is so important. Wishing u the very best on ur journey.
me and my old man didn't have the greatest relationship growing up, i didn't like, having to go over to his house for the summer, as a kid, it was hot and boring, and he was the Stern silent type makin me study all day, but one summer in my teens, i came across his huge collection of toys and figures, and it was impressive, from dbz figures, tech decks, model cars, star wars, marvel, etc. and we suddenly had a whole lot to talk about. he even helped me start my 1st collection. have you ever thought about saving your collection and one day, use the "plastic" to play with your own kids, and make friendship with them?
Same here with me and my scary old man. I didn't realize how much of the same stuff we liked or knew how much peace it brought him until the end.
I have witnessed many people struggling with their mental health unintentionally cope with toy collecting because it momentarily lures them out from the darkness but the underlying issues go untreated. Unbeknownst to them, there’s a slow downward spiral of unhealthy behaviors and negative emotions that begin to affect their quality of life and the joy eventually dissipates. There are several similarities between toxic toy collecting and substance abuse/addictions that we should recognize to help prevent falling into depression from something we love to do. I say all this because I know where you’re coming from. I recently rekindled my connection with my figs after truthfully feeling a false sense of fulfillment every time i looked at them. Keep your head up dude. I’m 41 now and if I know anything it’s that tough times don’t last. Situations change, people change, but the world doesn’t stop moving. We only live once so enjoy the time you have doing what you love. Hope you get yourself in a good place dude, and good luck!
I can tell you first hand that there are similarities between substance abuse and collecting..it’s an ongoing battle every single day. 🙏
I have scaled back my collecting, and have felt great about it.
I appreciate you being so open, this is definitely something I don't see many people talk about in the community. I'm 19 and over the past few years I've spent hundreds and likely thousands collecting figures. I've had thoughts about how that money could've been better used elsewhere helping my family or even just prioritizing necessities. I've fallen down the rabbithole of placing preorders, using pay in 4 plans to have figures even though I couldn't afford them at the moment, etc. I resonate with some of the other things you said in this video, like buying things just for the sake of the dopamine despite not even wanting the item. I've downsized my collection significantly and I want to continue to since I have more than I'm comfortable with. I also began unfollowing social media accounts about toy news and collecting since I feel like seeing them are a major trigger for me. I'm still young, but I definitely have other priorities that I should pay attention to. I really needed to hear this. Thank you and I wish you luck
I love videos like this. I think it's so important for us to regularly assess where we are psychologically and emotionally with this hobby because it's all too easy to get caught in the empty cycle of buying more and more but feeling less satisfied. I wish collectors were more vocal about topics like this (even if they aren't quitting collecting) just to maintain a healthy outlook and balance
...people collect toys to try and recapture their youth, but the fun part wasn't owning the toy, it was playing with the toy, by yourself and with friends. You gotta bust them out of their plastic cell and play with them, take pictures, do dioramas, let your kids play with them, that's how you build new fun memories, that;s the point of having toys. A box on a wall is just depressing.
This is the correct answer.
Agreed. I am amazed how some you often you see people sell completely sell of their collection with many figures being MIB or only been “on display”.
I used to collect as a kid but I told my myself during my middle school year I'm too grown to be collecting toys and stop collecting completely. COVID-19 comes around and I started collecting again but I was just buying a bunch of random stuff so now I'm buying certain stuff I really like or rare stuff and selling the stuff I really don't care about.
Same. Oddly enough, I discovered toy hunting and toy collecting videos during the Pandemic. Damn that Matt Cardona! 😂😂 I just wish I knew HOW to collect when I started again. I was also picking up random stuff here and there. Finally, I got to the point where I sold stuff I no longer wanted. And trimmed down my collection to where it made sense.
The first time I quit collecting toys I was 16. I told myself I was entering the "adult world". I didn't need that stuff anymore. I'm 51 now. And I have quit collecting toys many times, Now just called it purging. Because it always comes back. Something is always going to pull you back in.
I wish you all the strength that I don't have. But if you say you're now only gonna be a minimal collector. That's like an alcoholic going into a bar and saying he's only gonna have one drink from now on. It just doesn't work that way. I have filled an entire room just cherry picking. It's just who we are. But I wish you luck.
Buying toys is not even closely compared to alcoholism. FFS.
@@scottishdude9682 OK. It's like going into a casino and saying you're only going to play one hand of Black Jack. It's like saying you only going to smoke one cigarette after quitting for only a day. It's like going to Pornhub and saying you're only going to watch 1 video. Or it's like saying you're going to take one Oxycodone just for the pain.
Take your pick. My point was... addiction is addiction. Anything that stimulates the pleasure senses can become a dependency. Have some compassion for others.
Sounds like something somebody whos addicted to toys would say@@scottishdude9682
right lol 😂i can buy a toy and not get a dui
Good points made here. I would also add, if not toys, what? We all have a collecting bug in us, if we stop toys does it become watches, coins, video games, guns, books? For some of us, it's a hard wired behavior that brings a certain level of satisfaction.