My dad is Mexican & he is alllllllll about my brother being queer, but has expressed to me that when my fiancé & I start having kids he thinks we would be abusing them by depriving them of a father. He’s only just begrudgingly accepted that I’m a lesbian, but has made it clear he will make it harder for me to raise children in a “homosexual household”. I am very fortunate to have a support system outside of my father & his side of the family. As of now he is no longer a part of my life.
Wow. Really disgusting way for a parent to act. If anything this just proves Hetero couples aren't better at parenting than any other couple, or any given number of parents that raise kids together.
i gave fallen in love with my straight bestie…. it was baaad. i spend my birthday money on them and got a gian box a chocolate and a giant teddy bear… he ended up transitioning into a gay man and im happy for them
As someone who's trans fem and lesbian stuck living in the south, it's really heart-warming to see lgbtq creators that treat us as members of the community. Keep up the great work!
it's gonna be okay! you'll get out of there eventually! i'm a bisexual trans guy and i was lucky enough that my father got a job at the cleveland clinic and we left tennessee for ohio, and luckily it's the more liberal part of ohio. you're gonna be okay and one day you'll be able to be yourself with minimal worry of being attacked. ofc that danger never goes away, but you'll make it to a place where it's so much more safe for you
Hey, I'm a bi person living in thankfully a more progressive state. My parents aren't too accepting, but I've luckily been admitted to an amazing university that is well known for great science programs and acceptance of all. Just know it gets better, and be sure to take any opportunities that are handed to you.
my coming out story is crazy. so basically I first came out as lesbian, but then a year or so later I realized I'm actually a trans man. then for awhile I just thought I was bisexual, but mostly "dated" girls as a middle schooler. now I'm a gay trans guy, it took me some time to figure out who I am, but I think I've figured it out.
@@iisalex333 yeah i know that for sure. i’ve questioned my sexuality so much during my years in middle and high school. but right now i feel content with my identity :)
Remember that time Samantha from ‘Sex and the City’ explored her sexuality and then was mocked for it? Fun times. She’s my favourite character because she predicted pansexuality before anyone else.
I am a bisexual woman, and I've dated men and women. The thing is, I ended up really falling hard for a man. In fact, we are getting married really soon. And I couldn't be happier with this, however it does sadden me to think that if my partner had been a women, it would not have been very accepted in my family. I've come out to my mom and only my mom, and while she says she accepts me. I know deep down she is very happy that I am with a man. To the point that she makes it seem like I am 'fixed'. Sometimes I think, she thinks that my sexuality changed but it hasn't. I would still date a women, if stuff didn't pan out with my current partner. And it makes me even sadder to think that if I had fallen in love with a women and wanted to make a life with her, it wouldn't be treated the way my current relationship is. My mom is so happy, and she is helping a lot with the wedding planning but if I was marrying a women I don't think she'd have the same enthusiasm. Not would the rest of my family. I'm very happy with my partner, I love him to death. Yet a part of my is sadden that in another life, this happiness I feel would be tainted by the unaccepting nature of my family.
This broke my heart. I can’t begin to say how much I admire and appreciate you sharing that and being so open with it. I’m not sure what else to say other than your words really touched me and I feel for you, my friend. Big hugs to you from Texas 💖
The cognitive dissonance of them approving of your current relationship but less so approving of your bisexuality which doesn't change and is You. You'll feel the nonacceptance of your family regardless of what gender you're with.
I’m bi and I felt the exact same way when I was with a man. Now I’m single again and really looking forward to dating women again, but at the same time I’m terrified to seriously date a woman because family is so important to me - and I just don’t think they’d be as cool with it. It sucks. Much love to you, and remember that no matter what, and who you are with, you are a queer person and therefore every relationship you have is a queer relationship. Kisses and hugs!
About the “machismo”…I’m not Mexican but I am Hispanic (Colombian and Peruvian) many times my grandparents have told me how they don’t see gay couples as bad but lesbian couples are just out of the question. Yes because of the lack of a male in the relationship. It really sucks because I’m pansexual (I have a girlfriend) and it scares me to come out to them and not receive their approval. Grandparents are sacred in most Hispanic cultures. 31:42
That's really interesting. I always thought that with toxic masculinity a male/male relationship was always out of the question and female/female ones were considered more acceptable. Crazy how different cultures can be.
@@Zeroshiki wlw are only more “accepted” in the sense that some men feel they’re actually straight. I just felt the need to point that out because people seem to think they face less discrimination than gay men when they actually face high levels of violence too.
Hispanic here as well (Puerto Rican descent) and I can confirm my family treats things pretty similarly. When it comes to gay men my father and grandfather are pretty stand offish about the situation, but they tend to just make a face, shake their head, and ignore the topic; yet when it comes to women in same sex relationships suddenly they're very quick to butt in and tell you all about their opinions on why it's wrong, and a sin, and how those women should get married already and stop "playing around." It's frustrating that in one instance they'll sit and be silently mad, and in the other they feel that they have every right to loudly profess their opinions about and in some cases _to_ women in same sex relationships. (My sister and I had a greeeeeaaaaaat time growing up as we both realized just how shitty that was going to be for us each, for the rest of our lives...) Edit: Realized after typing this up that a lot of it is due to the objectification of women and how men in a lot of Hispanic cultures feel empowered to make decisions for women, but would feel like they were overstepping if they made any comment to a man about his choices of his rights to live his life how he pleases. In many ways the outspoken backlash from Hispanic men (and the culture) seems heavily based in the subjugation of women, and the explicit freedoms men are encouraged to have. It's as if a women having a relationship with another woman is somehow infringing on the rights of men who could potentially be dating/marrying her if she weren't in a same sex relationship. These attitudes seem to make men feel entitled to women in a way that transcends any sense of social decorum. (Much like the fetishization of lesbian relationships, and people feeling empowered to comment on and approach women as if they were somehow entitled to an interactive experience if the see lesbians in the wild.)
I totally relate to the Mexican girl on the thought that gay men are more accepted than lesbian women. When I came out to my dad he started yelling me that "he doesn't want to know anything about my personal life" and he acted like he was disgusted. I was 12
yeah as a latino lesbian i can definitely relate to her experience. hispanic families can be very accepting until it comes to their own family members especially women, it’s a very strange aspect of our culture.
Exactly. Like your family will be okay with a neighbor or an acquaintance being openly queer, but the moment it's actually someone IN the family, SPECIALLY then younger generation, then they'll have a problem with it
I had a straight friend hit on me when she was drunk. I told her no. She got mad, because I was out as bi, so she assumed I would. She asked why I wouldn’t (after basically insulting me) and I said because I have standards.
I had a straight girl chasing me for a while and she wouldn’t take the hint that I just wasn’t attracted to her at all and found her creepy. I call her straight because her mom is a lesbian so she actually did openly try dating women and said she didn’t even like it and that it just confirmed she only likes men…….I’m like, girl I know you think I should feel special for being the exception but I just find it weird 🤣
Considering this was a Jubilee vid, I was expecting to see something cringey and awful, but this truly was one of the most wholesome things I've ever seen. I always love to see women supporting each other. Didn't expect it, but I'm always here for it.
as a bisexual who (in her family) only came out to their mother (and their sister who is also part of the lgbtq+ community) i'm so grateful for validating words. my mom and i don't have the best relationship if it's not on the surface level, and in 2020 the topic of sapphic relationships came up, and i just spit it out that i'm bi. she was accepting, she has always been - but she seemingly forgot that i came out to her. she sometimes talks about lgbtq+ issues (sadly in my country (Hungary) there's a lot of it) and she says "i know i don't have any lgbtq+ friends or family members" or she says to me "i'm happy you don't have to face these issues" .. and it just hurts, because i can't even explain wh she forgets/ignores me coming out to her. But it does put me off of coming out to my dad, even tho i know he'll support me no matter what. so thank you Annamarie this video just really made me feel safe in this community and as a viewer of your videos
I feel you, in a way. My parents growing up told me that they would support me if I were a lesbian. I'm bi, and have more attraction towards women than men. I just can't come out to them because I know even though they said they would accept me, I know they won't. They push so hard for me to get married to a man and have children, neither of which are things I'm interested in. I know if I come out, they will just ignore the part where I'm attracted to women and push the hetero part of my sexuality which I am so much less interested in. Although they're liberal, they're openly disrespectful to the LGBTQ+ community and mock things like pronouns, etc.
@@J_Lynn i’m so sorry you have to face this problem with your parents. being bi is not a 50-50 (i’m more attracted to men for example, but as you said you’re more attracted to women) and people should respect that as well as the choice to have kids or get married. I feel you, i’m hesitant on the idea of having kids or getting married myself. my best advise would be to do what you feel like doing, and don’t feel like you need to come out to anyone at anytime. your sexual orientation is something to know by only you and someone who you plan on having a relationship :) as long as you feel good in who you are that’s what matters
Omg same ! My mom just very conveniently 'forgets' that I came out to her like twice lmao. She isnt violently homophobic, but she'd like it very much if I somehow start liking men (which'll never happen) . She's also like 'when or if you have a husband..' and I'm like no chance???? Coz it seems like she just doesnt take me seriously lmao
The answers to these questions _("Do all _ think the same?")_ should be obvious. I hate being grouped in with everyone that has one thing in common with me.
When I was about 13-14, I was struggling with my gender identity, and thought I was trans, so I began discussing it with my dad, who has a PHD in psychology. I was essentially trying to come out as believing I was trans, and he straight up thought I was coming out as a lesbian. It was kind of funny, and I found out that my dad has thought I was a lesbian, since I was a little kid. Nowadays, I identify as two-spirit, and pansexual, so I suppose he wasn't too far off. 😂 Anyway, I love your videos Annamarie!❤
@@tingle-tainmentasmr2404 Yes, I'm part of the Nisga'a and Carrier Indigenous nations, in Canada. I'm aware of how the term two-spirit is often appropriated, so thanks for making sure that's not what's happening here. Much love, fellow human. ❤
Oh I‘m so glad for people like you who make micro-labels (if you will) more visible 🙏❤ the ace spectrum is always portrayed as something entirely distinct, like you‘re either ace (or aro or aroace) or you‘re bi or straight or gay etc. I consider myself to be bisexual and have for years now but I‘m starting to feel like I might have ace parts, too. And it‘s a nice feeling to see I don‘t have to decide between these things and that others are a little like me (ironically, I had to go through almost the same emotional process back then when I was figuring out bisexuality). Really hoping to find my footing at some point 🙏
Wow! These lesbians are extremely relatable! I'm a lesbian and I was in denial for a very very long time, my internalized homophobia was so bad. The one person who brought up that their Mexican father was very against them being a lesbian is exactly where I am right now. My Mexican father is so disgusted by all LGBT but he's always shown such a disgust for lesbians and it's what kept me in denial for so long. I will never come out to my parents because I know the outcome and it hurts. Geez, this video brought up so many things. I'm also nonbinary and I've had family acknowledge this fact and still misgender me daily and it drives me insane.
I'm a mlm, and literally just this past weekend some guy asked my bf and I if we were brothers, like, do we look anything alike to you? It started to feel super homophobic, but we just brushed it off. However, that's maybe the second time it's happened to us in 6 months of dating, so, perhaps wlw have it tougher in that regard
Had the opposite experience. My sister (16 at the time) and I (21) got mistaken for a couple . It was... Very uncomfortable. We were at a funeral. We knew those people. They knew us, me only pre coming out tho.
31:34 I’m a Mexican Aromantic woman so I was expected to grow up and have a big family and bring on a new generation. I don’t want children or a romantic partner of any gender so while I’m incredibly glad my immediate family was so accepting, I had a few 2nd cousins who thought it was selfish that I did not want to bring up a new generation. Most of them, I choose not to talk to anymore and my mother, who they are the direct cousins of, agrees with me and I couldn’t ask for more from her.💚
I'm a gay man, and you hit the nail on the head. Homophobia exists for both gay men and lesbians but it just manifests in extremely different ways and one is not more pleasant to deal with than the other. I will also say the question of coming out being more difficult for one or the other really depends on your environment. In my high school, there were a lot more queer women than men, so it felt a lot less normalized when I came out, but I can also see it being the opposite in a different environment.
As a straight male, I honestly need to thank you for giving your experiences as a member of the LGBQT+ community. It help me personally understand the difficulties and struggles the community goes through... I love you and your channel. Ps. KJ broke my fucking heart. I hope nothing but the best for her and the rest of the group, I haven't seen many if these jubilee videos but this was by far the most understand and welcoming group of people I've seen on the show
Not mexican, but brazilian here! I can confirm from my experience people do view lesbian/wlw couples as a threat to womanhood. That will be people (especially straigth man) who will be personally offended by two woman beeing togheter and not wanting a man in a relationship with them. But mlm are not as acceptable either to some conservative brazilians, they are seen as dirty perverted people and people will be more hostile towards anyone who just "looks" gay.
This is relatable in Argentina, although thankfully religious bigotry is getting quieter ever since we got same sex marriage and the gender identity law probably over a decade ago
As an aro-ace person who briefly thought I was bi or pan (like I know a lot of aces have) because I didn’t feel attracted to anyone so that must mean I’m attracted to everyone an equal amount; it’s ducking hilarious to hear lesbians experienced like the weird reverse of that lol.
I went through the exact same thing 🤧🤧 I thought that since I had emotions about people and thought they were aesthetically pleasing meant I had a crush on them. I was a lover boy, a serial dater with enough people in my past to make a small village. I hate myself for it, really. What is life if not making mistakes and learning from them though?
I’m bisexual and my parents have accepted me and even joke around like “ have you found a boyfriend or girlfriend ?” But they still have some bigoted views on trans people and queer people in general so that’s still a bit of a problem but that’s another story for another time
22:18 ever since i found out i was a lesbian i would force myself into liking a man even though i never did even because everyone around me is straight other than maybe 2 people (my lovely friends
My Mexican parents are conservative in their cultural ways. My dad more than my mom. His family is not at all accepting of anything lgbt so it definitely made coming out harder. Until one night during my sophomore year in HS, I was laying down next to my mom on her bed while both on our phones. Next thing I know she’s saying “Can I ask you something? Are you into girls or boys too?” That alone made my heart stop lol…until she followed up with “it doesn’t matter if your are madre I’m just asking because I want you to know that I love you no matter what. You’re my daughter. Eres mi Hija” she then proceeded to tell me that she has a bunch of gay friends and that even her favorite uncle is gay. So she herself grew up very understanding of different life styles. My mom knew I wasn’t straight for sure. So coming out to her was fortunately very easy ❤. It’s because of her that I want to travel to learn about different cultures and lifestyles. She brought so many great and interesting people in to our lives growing up, Black people, Asian, Russian etc. My mother is an easy and fun person to talk to. So making friends with people even with different backgrounds than her’s, wasn’t a surprise to me. I’m glad she brought up my sexuality because I probably wouldn’t have came out until much much later. Thanks ma
Good! I wish I had more queer people in my life to look up to when I was a kid and teen. I had a few, and it was nice, but you kids these days are spoiled for options and I love it. We've done a lot of work to get to this point, and pretty soon we'll be passing the torch to you. Before you know it you're going to be someone a young queer person looks up to! 😊
I am not mexican but my boyfriend is. He recently went to Texas to visit family and there were two very obviously out men who were part of the community and there were also a couple stories about men getting with other men when he was catching up with the people from this town. Not sure how they might’ve felt about lesbians but they seemed generally somewhat okay with gay men.
as someone who is a cis bi female, this video was insanely informative. i learned a lot about lesbian relationships that i never knew about before. thank you for being so open and honest about your personal experiences
The way you speak about bi and pan people is so inclusive and wholesome. I have some serious internalized biphobia that I’ve struggled with my whole life, especially now being an adult queer woman married to a man. But the way you talk about it makes it seem so…normal. Thank you for speaking about bi and pan people the way you do, it’s helped me move closer to accepting myself. ❤
I think something I've realised is kind of a special situation for me as a trans person is that I was dating a guy before I started HRT, and I felt attracted to him, and I can look back at the memories I have of us dating and see the points where I felt the attraction, but a few months after starting E I stopped feeling that, and I thought it was just a common side effect of losing your sex drive (even though we never actually had sex lol) and tried to push through, and when he eventually broke it off because it was pretty clear I didn't like him anymore (I didn't realise, I was kinda just waiting for the feelings to come back). I stopped for a sec and realised I like women exclusively now
my coming out experience was so funny, i was 16 and showing my mom new clothes i got and out of nowhere she goes “are you a lesbian?” and i was like LMAO YES- it caught me so off guard that i just started crying laughing. she was like yeah i’ve been knew… she’s asexual so she understands that sometimes people are just not straight. that was the only time i sat down and told someone i was lesbian, coming out is so embarrassing to me i hate being the center of attention lmao- my dad dead so idk how he would’ve reacted but knowing his character i wouldn’t be surprised if he tried to burn me at the stake.
dang i remember in junior high school i had a crush on a girl for the first time ever (or for the first time ever i realized those feelings were like romantic) and i decided to tell a close friend of mine about it. she was like shocked and started avoiding me cuz she was afraid i'd develop a crush on her as well. it was really sad, we got along so well, too. fortunately this was only a one time thing for me, all my new friends have been awesome and supportive :)
all my friends were “straight” in high school and we grew up in a low socioeconomic area so we were all really homophobic (uneducated about gay culture) and then after school almost all my friends came out as queer. one of the straight couples from school both ended up coming out as being gay
i have very recently came out as lesbian after identifying as bisexual for years, sleeping with a few men, and struggling massively with comp. het. it feels isolating almost to have been identifying as gay for so many years (i’m 22; came out originally at 15) but to have seemingly very limited experience with women, and i am so terrified (but excited) to start dating women.
my great aunt Gracie, who was my first introduction to the concept of trans people (shout out to her, I hit my one year anniversary on T two days ago and she was a part of that), had been married to a woman and had two children before splitting up and trying to live as a gay man, and eventually realised she was trans. it took so long, but last I spoke to her she was so happy. it's never too late to be yourself (although it may be harder, but i believe in you 💚)
My favourite kind of Straight Man is someone who gives me the space to be a ridiculous flirt. I’ve been told to stay away from that demographic many times haha P.S. Queer People do attract each other and it hits different.
I have had a rough relationship with my father all of my life. I feel so strongly for KJ, since I was 11 we have lived hours away from each other and since moving to the same city as him 3 years ago we have gone 6 months without contact multiple times. He’s always been one to yell, not express his feelings in a healthy way, belittle and poke fun, and has cheated on a majority of his partners. After coming out as a trans woman end of 2021 he has never really acknowledged it. I’ve tried so many times to reach out, we had a conversation in a restaurant a few months ago and I broke the news I started HRT after easing into the conversation talking about Missouri’s attempt to ban hormone therapy for adults. I still told him happy Father’s Day today and he hit me with a “thank you son, I love you.” It’s just a never ending struggle with him, I fear there is no getting him to understand. His expressions of love always feels disingenuous and performative. My only solace is the queer community I have here, and I am eternally grateful for those people I have in my life.
I think that with the scissoring question specifically, it's so important to emphasize that it does exist but like everything else in adult videos, it's not as idealized or played up. Adult videos are specifically entertainment, they're made to be as entertaining as possible without it having to be accurate to real life and how it would play out with real couples.
Omg!! As a lesbian this entire video feels SOOO VALIDATING!! I always knew i was one, but it was so repressed in my memory that in middle school, i went so far as to give a girl i admired flowers on valentines day, and thought nothing of it!! I somehow still thought i was straight 💀😭 Fast forward to now, im 20, and couldnt be happier with being with my sexuality 🙏🏿🍓💙 SHOUTOUT MY FELLOW SAPPHICS N LESBIANS 💞💞💞
So many lesbian things happening. My school is putting on The Prom (first to do so in our region 💅) and the musical/plot is not perfect ofc but it’s kinda cute so I like it, at least my school’s version. It was funny because I was there front and center to support my friends and they dramatically sang lesbian SO MANY times it felt like a personal attack 💀😭😭 My voice instructor and I are like the same person in many ways but sadly they didn’t allow themselves to identify as a lesbian openly until their late 20s and even was married to a man for a bit before I met them to satisfy their parents. Whereas I’m a teen lesbian and sometimes they joke about their past self and it’s just a very interesting conversation to have. They’re great and one of my biggest mentors in life. We both sing (obviously), we both have queer religious trauma, and we both have ADHD and (potential for me) autism so we function exactly the same. They even graduated from the school I go to, so we can bully the teachers together.
Really nice to see such a productive, understanding conversation. Jubilee videos usually make me feel like my soul is leaving my body, but this was wholesome and nice.
I am bi and I'm terrified of the straight women around me finding out lmao. They always act like I'm gonna jump them or something. Things get so weird.
surprisingly, today i'm not eating a frozen pizza (not even unfrozen....)! i'm actually eating a hot pocket and clementines! finished my puzzle, working on glueing it down😜
I've never fallen for one of my "straight best friends" cuz that's weird to me. I always looked at them like sisters buuuut regular degular friends ? definitely. Especially in hs , shwoo.
I can really relate to what Jennie said, my dad as well does now accept me as I’m still his daughter and he says he’ll always love me but he was also upset because he said he had envisioned a future for me and I destroyed it after tell him I was lesbian. I feel extremely privileged especially coming from Russian immigrant parents.
Not gay men, but bi men seemingly are seen as not straight enough and not gay enough. I have seen a lot of straight women and gay men say they would never date or be with a bi man. A lot of straight women also see it as a massive flaw.
Bisexual people tend to have it hard either way, guy, girl, or anywhere else in the gender sphere. If you're a dude, gay men will insist you're just gay but still have a weird insecurity based on you liking women (even though they lowkey don't believe you), straight women will also often insist you're gay as well, even if there's clearly evidence to the contrary. For bi girls, many lesbians don't want to date you because they have an insecurity about being left for a man or you being more likely to cheat, and then straight men are either also insecure about being left for another woman, OR they have an off-putting fetish. Ofc keep in mind that this dosen't apply to everyone of course, but it happens often enough that it's a shared experience between tons and tons of bisexual people.
this made me feel so much better wanting to come out as a lesbian despite having a longer history of relationships with men than most other lesbians, makes me feel like i have to say i'm bi/pan by default when i am very much a sapphic..
So, while I am not criticizing you at all, please do know that sapphic is a label that bi and pan women* can use as well as it is a general term for women who are attracted to other women. It's like the general umbrella term for women who are bi, pan, lesbian, or any other sexuality that involves attraction to women! *This includes people with more fem leaning genders. Also, do know that you can be a lesbian and still have had sex with men. Those two things aren't mutually exclusive, and you and your sexuality is not defined by your sexual history in the slightest.
Turns out, my bestie from kindergarten who I’ve hung out with my whole life, was the first queer person I ever met, and helped me realize my own sexuality :) Up until middle school or so, I didn’t even consider the concept of a woman liking another woman, and I finally understood all those feelings I deemed “incorrect”
I think in many adult films....it's not true to what it is in reality. As a queer person who's dated someone the same sex as me as well as also just dating cis men, sex is not as sensationalized as those films in general make it out to be. But especially in lesbian adult films it's less for lesbians and more for men who fetishize the act.
KJ seems so nice i wanna offer her a hug 😭when i came out as trans, i lost my parents and shortly afterward i lost most of the stuff i still owned in a massive flood, and didn't think i'd ever be ok, but now i live with found family, all queer and so so supportive (and three cats). i'm a gay trans guy, so similar but very different experience, but i still relate so much
Even tho I grew up in super red ND, almost all the girls I’ve been friends with have went from homo*phobic, conservative, etc: they have grown to realize they are lesbian, bi, etc and have opened up more about how they were scared to come out bc the boys would sxulize them and etc. now my old school has a GSA, and I’ve very proud of how far they’ve come! But also I was like “finally” bc this trans person in the grade below me came out as trans & non-binary to their classmates and their classmates threw trash and pencils at them. So I’m hoping the town will have more growth and that that person is doing better and that those mean kids will learn to grow tf up
First of all, this genuinely wholesome jubilee video has reinvigorated my hope for humanity. Secondly you are so validating and kind and I love your content so much ❤️ lots of love to anyone reading this!
My parents are both Salvadoran and old, so they initially were very much against my sister coming out as gay. My dad used to make a lot of awful remarks against her often until a few years after my sister got married and he realized that she won't change. Both my parents never fully accepted it and my other sister had also come out as gay. This time, my mom was truly the only one who was upset about it. My dad just said nothing aside from the usual old people shit. For years my mom worried that I would come out as gay too and she just implied it on me one day despite me making it clear that I was talking about another person as a friend and not a potential love interest. I came out as demisexual to my mom, didn't bother to tell my dad. My mom was so confused and assumed being demi also meant I was straight, but I told her it was actually a bit more complicated than that and that I'm not sure if I am only sexually attracted to just men because I would need to meet someone with whom I can build a strong emotional bond before ever feeling any sexual attraction for them. My mom is still confused and she tries too hard to hide that she's still a homophobic piece of shit. She'll call it an illness and used to not allow me to hang out with my sisters alone when I was a teen minor because she was scared they would magically turn me gay too (even though that's not even how it works). But my dad, a few months before he passed away (he was very sick), he said, "look, I honestly couldn't care less who you want to fuck with, just be safe and use protection". I think he finally gave up trying to be a villain and just desperately wanted his daughters to come back to see him before he passed. It makes me sad he wasn't able to watch his youngest daughter (I am the youngest of five daughters and no brothers) graduate college or ever find a partner I would like him to meet (not that I need my parents approval for any potential partners). Although I know my youngest older sister (who came out second) wouldn't give a shit to tell him anything about her marriage with her now wife if he was still alive, I'm sure he wouldn't care to hold any animosity towards her anymore.
8:51 THIS IS SO TRUE!! I met my (best) friends in high school and we met when we all thought we were straight but now there is only one straight guy left😂
i have been very lucky with both of my coming outs, first as bisexual and then as trans. i came out as bi at 13 and my mom said she actually had known and had a bet with my sister on when i would come out (my mom won), she also had been loudly talking about how supportive she is of our distant gay cousin who lives in san fran w his partner, and the charities she donates to, trying to get me to understand that she was a safe person lol. it was still so scary and i cried cause i was so anxious. i did have family members who didnt understand but were willing to learn and others who were not accepting but i wasnt close to them anyways so it wasnt a loss in my eyes. and then when i came out as trans at 19 my mom also said she knew, i had been shopping in the boys section for years and had short hair and she said she saw me mirroring the men around me so it wasnt a surprise there. very lucky to have my mom honestly! she helped me start a GSA in my tiny little conservative town and then was willing to fight and protest for me to be able to wear a tux to prom/graduation and take a same-sex date cause it wasnt allowed but i was too anxious lol sorry for the ramble :) i just like sharing these stories since it's very positive moments in my life
i completely agree with pretty much all in this video! a little personal story from me, and part reason why i strongly believe in not supporting the term gold star, and in past experiences as well as future experiences NOT invalidating your sexuality. so i had a pretty good coming out, very supportive environment, although i was very comphet and kept taking baby steps. "i think i may be a little bit bi" "im 50/50 bi" "ok maybe 70f/30m bi" "ok maybe 90f/10m bi" "ok ok im full lesbian" with which i then identified for a long time, feeling at home in the community, under this label. i had been in relationships with guys 2 times, but i never had sex. the most was some foreplay-like touching and exploring, bc i always believed i probably was more on the ace spectrum. recently though i had developed a strong emotional connection with a guy, a very strong friendship which then turned into a kind of f plus (focused on kink stuff though, not bc of sex, but eventually it also turned into having sex bc of the huge trust i built up) and eventually i actually fell in love with him hard. i suppose its a mix of sapphic, pan, and demi, but i dont really know yet. however, even though i dont believe i get to call myself a lesbian with this new information, i do still know it was completely valid when i believed it was the case. you always try to do the best you can with the information you have, and future information may have you wanting to have acted differently, but you just didnt have that additional information at the time, so it is important to not beat yourself up over it. it is still taking me time to accept atm that i have fallen in love with a guy, but the progress is there. in the end, you just love who you love, and labels are just words. sometimes it's forever correct, yeah, but if you realize a label is 'wrong', that's alright, it happens. you are not an impostor for labelling yourself with it previously, you just love who you love ❤
30:00 this is a hard question because while on one hand lesbians more frequently experience fetishization, sexual assault, or being invalidated gay men more often experience violence and lynching and stuff like that. I think that both sides have their own privileges and issues.
As to coming out, I've always felt super lucky that my parents were accepting especially since my mums mum raised her to be definitely more open minded as she was a white woman who date multiple black men back in the 1960s/70s and maybe even earlier and had kids with them so she had a lot of backlash to do with that (including losing her family and everything). I don't think she was totally accepting at first but my oldest sibling definitely paved the way by challenging her views and everything constantly and made her open up more and since my mum has made a somewhat effort to be more of people (even if there's still a long way to go especially when it comes to trans which sucks but she's made some changes). I can't imagine what it would be like for others who go through life scared that their parents might kick them out for who they are, I even have a friend who asked me to bring home their pride flag and keep it at my house cus they were too scared to take it to their own and that's just an awful thing to think about. I wish every LGBTQ person the best and if any of you need support I am always here for you guys
My sexuality was all over the place, I’m 27 and now fully identify as pansexual but for a while I was openly bisexual and most people didn’t care but at one point came out as lesbian and got lots of backlash, my best friend at the time (who knew I was already bisexual) basically stopped talking to me and said sleeping over with me would be inappropriate bc it was “like sleeping over with a guy”. Like I’m still a girl, also she had spent the night with me multiple times and I had never made a move or anything on her, she wasn’t my type. Thankfully most of my other friends supported me and were mad when she had that reaction
In highschool I was strongly trying to deny that I was lesbian. Dated three dudes (not at the same time 😂). I had this huge crush on a girl since freshman year. She also went out with guys and I just took solace in her speaking to me 😂. Long story short it's 2023 now and we're both 27 now and we've been together for four years. Edit: we're both Mexican and my mom excepted me right away that we both cried. I think it was helped that my dad came out as trans years before. But I'm so very fortunate that my family doesn't view me any different cause I do know people who were kicked out.
The Jubilee video that's something like Do All Feminists... I'd love to hear your wholesome, comedic perspective. I'm a cishet GenX dude and this channel is a very fun way to enculturate myself to other's experiences. Thank you for it.
I grew up LDS too. When I came out as bisexual, my mom wasn’t initially fully accepting and claimed to “act upon it” is still considered a sin. My dad, on the other hand, didn’t really care (I think because he was reading up on a lot of anti-Mormon stuff, he grew up with strict parents already in the church so his sort of rebellion against that was heavily delayed). Eventually we all left the church, and my parents were fully accepting, though still learning about the queer community and what kind of comments/questions are appropriate. Unfortunately my mom is a chatterbox and told a lot of church members about my identity, claiming that they would learn that their own kid could be lgbt even if they’re a church member and they should be accepting too. So I kinda dealt with both sides of homophobia vs tokenism and overstepping boundaries with the whole savior complex. Like no, it’s not anyone else’s business about my gender or sexuality unless I decide to come out to them. You’re not making someone “eat their words” when you out a person that they know, if anything they are more likely to direct their prejudices onto that person who otherwise would’ve had the choice not to deal with that had you just let that be their business.
Brooo Annamarieee 32:47 I was the exact same growing up. Like to the point where if we accidentally touched arms, I was scared of being found out orrr just tremendously guilty for enjoying a human touch because of the internalized homophobia. I also grew up in a household with emotionally unavailable parents who didn't hug me lol
In my experience, the Christofascist communities I grew up in were full of violent and dangerous men who had a specific kind of hatred for gay men in particular. As you mentioned in the video, gay men do have male privilege however in certain communities gay men are often the targets of violence while lesbian women are simply dismissed in those same communities. Bigoted Christian men absolutely hate gay men because they see “gayness” as being weak and they see weakness are something almost degenerate.
In my experiences my parents have always been very supportive as me coming out as les, bi, and now pan. But when they found out im trans they were not pleased. They threatened to cut people out of my life who supported me because they thought i was being manipulated and there was pressure being put on me to be someone im not and they called me stupid a lot and criticized me for ever thinking i am a boy, but they dropped it after they realized i wasn’t going back on it and im still not really out to them but they know they just don’t wanna acknowledge it.
Having lived with TERF lesbians while closeted and getting actual PTSD from them bullying me over dating a man I was bracing for some seriously awful takes on trans people. Thankfully, these people were such a breath of fresh air.
i'm a closetet gay trans man and i dont think i will ever come out to my family because i know they wont accept me. they say they love me and shit but i KNOW their love is conditional to who they want me to be... like that girl said... if you're not gonna love me for who i am, don't love me at all. KJ, broke me in a million pieces
@@NotVille you've made multiple comments saying "being gay is a choice" under this video, which makes you look a bit obsessed with this subject and getting affirmation. Don't worry tho! While being gay is not a choice, if you feel that you'd really like to be gay, you probably are! Just be yourself! 🥰
I love KJ! She’s a hilarious comedian in Chicago and we’ve been on a few shows together in the past. This is so cool to see her in this video! I’ll give her a hug for you next time I see her.💜
growing up i mistook wanting male validation as being straight and even bi at one point because of the heteronormativity i grew up around. and tbh i’m still struggling with it cuz it’s a lot of years of brainwashing to let go of. i’ll see an attractive man and my thoughts are “i want them to notice me”, “do they think i’m cute”, etc. instead of “i wanna be with them” “i think they’re cute”, etc. but i’ll really think about actually being with that man and i really just don’t feel anything i even still catch myself tryna in a way “hide” my gayness to make straight girls feel comfortable cuz it’s so common for straight girls to be grossed out. i won’t say certain compliments, i won’t look em in the eyes too long, i’ll try not to touch them in anyway, etc. cuz i don’t want them to think i like them or i’m perving on them. when it’s like babe i have standards, i don’t go for straight girls and i’m literally just tryna be nice 😭 plus ik that it doesn’t help that i’m not conventionally attractive so automatically straight girls are going to be harsher with me than they would if i was. cuz it’s like i see how they react to unconventionally attractive men and i’m not tryna be hate crimed 😩😭
Being a lesbian with fully Mexican background I do think gay men are much more seen in media and telenovelas and therefore are more accepted. Also I was in Querétaro this winter and I saw at least 5 gay couples but not one lesbian couple. When I came out, my dad didn't say much and kept treating me exact same but my mom really went off and said slurs I didn't even know she knew. However we've been VERY close my entire life, like so close other girls have told me they wish they got along that well with their mom. She's never stopped loving or caring for me, not sure if it's because she thinks I'll change or she's just changed but I do agree gay men have privilege in the aspect they have more audacity and less to lose in our culture. At least from my experience, men are generally expected to break off from their family while women aren't
Just wanna say, this video of your reactions combined with the wholesomeness of everyone in the Jubilee video made me feel a little less alone💕 I love your candidness and openness, shows me I still have ways to go when it comes to my own relation with my gayness, but also that it is 100% possible to achieve some form of peace and comfort with it
i would not put a scissor in there if i were you.
It’s too late for that
@@NotVille yup and I would never choose a man 😂
@@NotVille yes.
the correct choice
wow did not think this would get pinned or such good reception from this community!
Anyways huge respect to everyone here I love you all MWAH
Don't please
I'm a gold star lesbian. The gold star has nothing to do with me being a lesbian, I've just been really good today and deserve one.
*hands out a sticker* lol good job ⭐
Omg this should have more likes, I'm laughing so hard. 👍
I heard gold star is fucked up
Like I’ve heard many “gold star lesbians” will refuse to date any lesbian who isn’t one and will see them as lesser.
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We support lesbians rights ❤
And lesbians wrongs ☠
I support lesbian rights, lesbian lefts, lesbian ups, and lesbian downs.
Lesbians: Two Wrongs make our rights
What do you mean by lesbian wrongs?
@@derekb4977 she said that in the first 30 secs of the vid bro, you new?
@@ashleyawol8529 but what do you define as lesbian wrongs, what's wrong with being a lesbian women standing for women rights?
My dad is Mexican & he is alllllllll about my brother being queer, but has expressed to me that when my fiancé & I start having kids he thinks we would be abusing them by depriving them of a father. He’s only just begrudgingly accepted that I’m a lesbian, but has made it clear he will make it harder for me to raise children in a “homosexual household”. I am very fortunate to have a support system outside of my father & his side of the family. As of now he is no longer a part of my life.
The double standards are so rediculous
His loss. Good on you for protecting your future children if you decide to have them!
Yeah, I should say so!
You’re ok if it’s my brother but you’re going to purposely make it hard for me??!? Well then don’t expect to see me anymore.
Wow. Really disgusting way for a parent to act. If anything this just proves Hetero couples aren't better at parenting than any other couple, or any given number of parents that raise kids together.
My family members are like that but opposite, don’t care that my cousin is a big ol lesbian don’t like that I’m gay
Lesbians are actually a hive mind: we act as one being, for instance, when one of us tastes the forbidden fruit, we all taste it.
… dare I ask what the forbidden fruit is?
@@Bread16091 😈
@@Chib_Lee ???
So lesbians are like the Borg from Star Trek?
That's kinda scary.
i was wondering why i sometimes taste heaven for no reason
i gave fallen in love with my straight bestie…. it was baaad. i spend my birthday money on them and got a gian box a chocolate and a giant teddy bear… he ended up transitioning into a gay man and im happy for them
good for them! i hope you find someone who will give you the same loving energy back
As someone who's trans fem and lesbian stuck living in the south, it's really heart-warming to see lgbtq creators that treat us as members of the community. Keep up the great work!
it's gonna be okay! you'll get out of there eventually! i'm a bisexual trans guy and i was lucky enough that my father got a job at the cleveland clinic and we left tennessee for ohio, and luckily it's the more liberal part of ohio. you're gonna be okay and one day you'll be able to be yourself with minimal worry of being attacked. ofc that danger never goes away, but you'll make it to a place where it's so much more safe for you
Hey, I'm a bi person living in thankfully a more progressive state. My parents aren't too accepting, but I've luckily been admitted to an amazing university that is well known for great science programs and acceptance of all. Just know it gets better, and be sure to take any opportunities that are handed to you.
You are definetly valid!! Of course you'd be included if you're a lesbian, you're a lesbian!
the south fr the WORST place to be gay 😭I'm in SC lol
Bless you! I hope you can eventually move to a more liberal place where you can more safely live your life and enjoy it to the fullest.
my coming out story is crazy. so basically I first came out as lesbian, but then a year or so later I realized I'm actually a trans man. then for awhile I just thought I was bisexual, but mostly "dated" girls as a middle schooler. now I'm a gay trans guy, it took me some time to figure out who I am, but I think I've figured it out.
are we the same person?? but seriously I went through the exact same thing except I'm pan not gay
and if that changes too that’s okay!! (not saying it should just that gender and sexuality are a spectrum and can change)
@@Romaine_Letttuce love that for you!! and i’ve met quite a few people who also experienced the same story or similar
@@iisalex333 yeah i know that for sure. i’ve questioned my sexuality so much during my years in middle and high school. but right now i feel content with my identity :)
omg, so you've been every letter of LGBT. your power is unmatched!
Remember that time Samantha from ‘Sex and the City’ explored her sexuality and then was mocked for it? Fun times. She’s my favourite character because she predicted pansexuality before anyone else.
omgg !!
Same! Sam is a pansexual icon and that’s only one of the many reasons why I love her!
I am a bisexual woman, and I've dated men and women. The thing is, I ended up really falling hard for a man. In fact, we are getting married really soon. And I couldn't be happier with this, however it does sadden me to think that if my partner had been a women, it would not have been very accepted in my family. I've come out to my mom and only my mom, and while she says she accepts me. I know deep down she is very happy that I am with a man. To the point that she makes it seem like I am 'fixed'. Sometimes I think, she thinks that my sexuality changed but it hasn't. I would still date a women, if stuff didn't pan out with my current partner. And it makes me even sadder to think that if I had fallen in love with a women and wanted to make a life with her, it wouldn't be treated the way my current relationship is. My mom is so happy, and she is helping a lot with the wedding planning but if I was marrying a women I don't think she'd have the same enthusiasm. Not would the rest of my family. I'm very happy with my partner, I love him to death. Yet a part of my is sadden that in another life, this happiness I feel would be tainted by the unaccepting nature of my family.
This broke my heart. I can’t begin to say how much I admire and appreciate you sharing that and being so open with it. I’m not sure what else to say other than your words really touched me and I feel for you, my friend. Big hugs to you from Texas 💖
The cognitive dissonance of them approving of your current relationship but less so approving of your bisexuality which doesn't change and is You. You'll feel the nonacceptance of your family regardless of what gender you're with.
I’m bi and I felt the exact same way when I was with a man. Now I’m single again and really looking forward to dating women again, but at the same time I’m terrified to seriously date a woman because family is so important to me - and I just don’t think they’d be as cool with it.
It sucks. Much love to you, and remember that no matter what, and who you are with, you are a queer person and therefore every relationship you have is a queer relationship. Kisses and hugs!
It's sexual preference, why is it that a bodily sexuality is so in people's heads
this was heartbreaking to read :( im sorry you have to feel this way
About the “machismo”…I’m not Mexican but I am Hispanic (Colombian and Peruvian) many times my grandparents have told me how they don’t see gay couples as bad but lesbian couples are just out of the question. Yes because of the lack of a male in the relationship. It really sucks because I’m pansexual (I have a girlfriend) and it scares me to come out to them and not receive their approval. Grandparents are sacred in most Hispanic cultures. 31:42
That's really interesting. I always thought that with toxic masculinity a male/male relationship was always out of the question and female/female ones were considered more acceptable. Crazy how different cultures can be.
Tell them to take the L when you come out or something
@@Zeroshiki wlw are only more “accepted” in the sense that some men feel they’re actually straight. I just felt the need to point that out because people seem to think they face less discrimination than gay men when they actually face high levels of violence too.
Hispanic here as well (Puerto Rican descent) and I can confirm my family treats things pretty similarly. When it comes to gay men my father and grandfather are pretty stand offish about the situation, but they tend to just make a face, shake their head, and ignore the topic; yet when it comes to women in same sex relationships suddenly they're very quick to butt in and tell you all about their opinions on why it's wrong, and a sin, and how those women should get married already and stop "playing around." It's frustrating that in one instance they'll sit and be silently mad, and in the other they feel that they have every right to loudly profess their opinions about and in some cases _to_ women in same sex relationships. (My sister and I had a greeeeeaaaaaat time growing up as we both realized just how shitty that was going to be for us each, for the rest of our lives...)
Edit: Realized after typing this up that a lot of it is due to the objectification of women and how men in a lot of Hispanic cultures feel empowered to make decisions for women, but would feel like they were overstepping if they made any comment to a man about his choices of his rights to live his life how he pleases. In many ways the outspoken backlash from Hispanic men (and the culture) seems heavily based in the subjugation of women, and the explicit freedoms men are encouraged to have. It's as if a women having a relationship with another woman is somehow infringing on the rights of men who could potentially be dating/marrying her if she weren't in a same sex relationship. These attitudes seem to make men feel entitled to women in a way that transcends any sense of social decorum. (Much like the fetishization of lesbian relationships, and people feeling empowered to comment on and approach women as if they were somehow entitled to an interactive experience if the see lesbians in the wild.)
@@Alexis-tx5en according to studies lesbians percentage of getting r4p3d to death are huge
I totally relate to the Mexican girl on the thought that gay men are more accepted than lesbian women. When I came out to my dad he started yelling me that "he doesn't want to know anything about my personal life" and he acted like he was disgusted. I was 12
im brazilian, and ye, i had my dad telling me that when i was 14... it was very depressing...
yeah as a latino lesbian i can definitely relate to her experience. hispanic families can be very accepting until it comes to their own family members especially women, it’s a very strange aspect of our culture.
Exactly. Like your family will be okay with a neighbor or an acquaintance being openly queer, but the moment it's actually someone IN the family, SPECIALLY then younger generation, then they'll have a problem with it
I had a straight friend hit on me when she was drunk. I told her no. She got mad, because I was out as bi, so she assumed I would. She asked why I wouldn’t (after basically insulting me) and I said because I have standards.
I had a straight girl chasing me for a while and she wouldn’t take the hint that I just wasn’t attracted to her at all and found her creepy. I call her straight because her mom is a lesbian so she actually did openly try dating women and said she didn’t even like it and that it just confirmed she only likes men…….I’m like, girl I know you think I should feel special for being the exception but I just find it weird 🤣
Considering this was a Jubilee vid, I was expecting to see something cringey and awful, but this truly was one of the most wholesome things I've ever seen. I always love to see women supporting each other. Didn't expect it, but I'm always here for it.
lol same
Thank you for being nice to us bi folks, as always.
As a gay guy, I'm here just for the drama but everyone is sweet this time I love it 😂❤
as a bisexual who (in her family) only came out to their mother (and their sister who is also part of the lgbtq+ community) i'm so grateful for validating words.
my mom and i don't have the best relationship if it's not on the surface level, and in 2020 the topic of sapphic relationships came up, and i just spit it out that i'm bi. she was accepting, she has always been - but she seemingly forgot that i came out to her. she sometimes talks about lgbtq+ issues (sadly in my country (Hungary) there's a lot of it) and she says "i know i don't have any lgbtq+ friends or family members" or she says to me "i'm happy you don't have to face these issues" .. and it just hurts, because i can't even explain wh she forgets/ignores me coming out to her.
But it does put me off of coming out to my dad, even tho i know he'll support me no matter what.
so thank you Annamarie this video just really made me feel safe in this community and as a viewer of your videos
I feel you, in a way. My parents growing up told me that they would support me if I were a lesbian. I'm bi, and have more attraction towards women than men. I just can't come out to them because I know even though they said they would accept me, I know they won't. They push so hard for me to get married to a man and have children, neither of which are things I'm interested in. I know if I come out, they will just ignore the part where I'm attracted to women and push the hetero part of my sexuality which I am so much less interested in. Although they're liberal, they're openly disrespectful to the LGBTQ+ community and mock things like pronouns, etc.
@@J_Lynn i’m so sorry you have to face this problem with your parents. being bi is not a 50-50 (i’m more attracted to men for example, but as you said you’re more attracted to women) and people should respect that as well as the choice to have kids or get married. I feel you, i’m hesitant on the idea of having kids or getting married myself. my best advise would be to do what you feel like doing, and don’t feel like you need to come out to anyone at anytime. your sexual orientation is something to know by only you and someone who you plan on having a relationship :)
as long as you feel good in who you are that’s what matters
Omg same ! My mom just very conveniently 'forgets' that I came out to her like twice lmao. She isnt violently homophobic, but she'd like it very much if I somehow start liking men (which'll never happen) . She's also like 'when or if you have a husband..' and I'm like no chance???? Coz it seems like she just doesnt take me seriously lmao
The answers to these questions _("Do all _ think the same?")_ should be obvious. I hate being grouped in with everyone that has one thing in common with me.
Do all blonde people think the same?
When I was about 13-14, I was struggling with my gender identity, and thought I was trans, so I began discussing it with my dad, who has a PHD in psychology. I was essentially trying to come out as believing I was trans, and he straight up thought I was coming out as a lesbian. It was kind of funny, and I found out that my dad has thought I was a lesbian, since I was a little kid. Nowadays, I identify as two-spirit, and pansexual, so I suppose he wasn't too far off. 😂
Anyway, I love your videos Annamarie!❤
I’m assuming you’re indigenous? Just because two-spirit is specific to that community and probably shouldn’t be appropriated.
@@tingle-tainmentasmr2404 Yes, I'm part of the Nisga'a and Carrier Indigenous nations, in Canada. I'm aware of how the term two-spirit is often appropriated, so thanks for making sure that's not what's happening here. Much love, fellow human. ❤
@@MugsisDank ❤️
We need to normalize changing labels so I'm glad you mentioned it's okay. I initially came out as bisexual and now identify as bi oriented aroace.
Oh I‘m so glad for people like you who make micro-labels (if you will) more visible 🙏❤ the ace spectrum is always portrayed as something entirely distinct, like you‘re either ace (or aro or aroace) or you‘re bi or straight or gay etc.
I consider myself to be bisexual and have for years now but I‘m starting to feel like I might have ace parts, too. And it‘s a nice feeling to see I don‘t have to decide between these things and that others are a little like me (ironically, I had to go through almost the same emotional process back then when I was figuring out bisexuality). Really hoping to find my footing at some point 🙏
Wow! These lesbians are extremely relatable! I'm a lesbian and I was in denial for a very very long time, my internalized homophobia was so bad. The one person who brought up that their Mexican father was very against them being a lesbian is exactly where I am right now. My Mexican father is so disgusted by all LGBT but he's always shown such a disgust for lesbians and it's what kept me in denial for so long. I will never come out to my parents because I know the outcome and it hurts. Geez, this video brought up so many things. I'm also nonbinary and I've had family acknowledge this fact and still misgender me daily and it drives me insane.
My white dad thought lesbian was the dirtiest curse word, the worst thing a person could be. Male insecurity, women are for them.
same here :(
Bless you both, that sounds really hard and traumatic, I hope you can live your life the way you're meant to and everyone else stfu
I'm a mlm, and literally just this past weekend some guy asked my bf and I if we were brothers, like, do we look anything alike to you? It started to feel super homophobic, but we just brushed it off. However, that's maybe the second time it's happened to us in 6 months of dating, so, perhaps wlw have it tougher in that regard
i think it's a semi-common experience for mlm and wlw 😅
Meanwhile everybody thinks you and your gay friend are dating just because you’re both gay 💀
Had the opposite experience.
My sister (16 at the time) and I (21) got mistaken for a couple .
It was... Very uncomfortable. We were at a funeral.
We knew those people. They knew us, me only pre coming out tho.
that's when you kiss him with tongue just to freak them out
you're a multi-level-marketing?
31:34 I’m a Mexican Aromantic woman so I was expected to grow up and have a big family and bring on a new generation. I don’t want children or a romantic partner of any gender so while I’m incredibly glad my immediate family was so accepting, I had a few 2nd cousins who thought it was selfish that I did not want to bring up a new generation. Most of them, I choose not to talk to anymore and my mother, who they are the direct cousins of, agrees with me and I couldn’t ask for more from her.💚
“Can we say ****?”
“No not on this video unfortunately”
“So in porn…”
I'm a gay man, and you hit the nail on the head. Homophobia exists for both gay men and lesbians but it just manifests in extremely different ways and one is not more pleasant to deal with than the other. I will also say the question of coming out being more difficult for one or the other really depends on your environment. In my high school, there were a lot more queer women than men, so it felt a lot less normalized when I came out, but I can also see it being the opposite in a different environment.
As a straight male, I honestly need to thank you for giving your experiences as a member of the LGBQT+ community. It help me personally understand the difficulties and struggles the community goes through... I love you and your channel.
Ps. KJ broke my fucking heart. I hope nothing but the best for her and the rest of the group, I haven't seen many if these jubilee videos but this was by far the most understand and welcoming group of people I've seen on the show
A wholesome Jubilee video!?!
A rare treat! HECK YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEESSS 🔥
All the love to our lesbians sisters! 💜🤍🧡❤🌈
Not mexican, but brazilian here!
I can confirm from my experience people do view lesbian/wlw couples as a threat to womanhood. That will be people (especially straigth man) who will be personally offended by two woman beeing togheter and not wanting a man in a relationship with them. But mlm are not as acceptable either to some conservative brazilians, they are seen as dirty perverted people and people will be more hostile towards anyone who just "looks" gay.
This is relatable in Argentina, although thankfully religious bigotry is getting quieter ever since we got same sex marriage and the gender identity law probably over a decade ago
as a lesbian im very honored to be so early oh my lord
And for the deal 😼
As an aro-ace person who briefly thought I was bi or pan (like I know a lot of aces have) because I didn’t feel attracted to anyone so that must mean I’m attracted to everyone an equal amount; it’s ducking hilarious to hear lesbians experienced like the weird reverse of that lol.
I went through the exact same thing 🤧🤧 I thought that since I had emotions about people and thought they were aesthetically pleasing meant I had a crush on them. I was a lover boy, a serial dater with enough people in my past to make a small village. I hate myself for it, really. What is life if not making mistakes and learning from them though?
I'm an aro-ace myself and we kinda had a similar experience lmao
I’m bisexual and my parents have accepted me and even joke around like “ have you found a boyfriend or girlfriend ?”
But they still have some bigoted views on trans people and queer people in general so that’s still a bit of a problem but that’s another story for another time
22:18 ever since i found out i was a lesbian i would force myself into liking a man even though i never did even because everyone around me is straight other than maybe 2 people (my lovely friends
My Mexican parents are conservative in their cultural ways. My dad more than my mom. His family is not at all accepting of anything lgbt so it definitely made coming out harder. Until one night during my sophomore year in HS, I was laying down next to my mom on her bed while both on our phones. Next thing I know she’s saying “Can I ask you something? Are you into girls or boys too?” That alone made my heart stop lol…until she followed up with “it doesn’t matter if your are madre I’m just asking because I want you to know that I love you no matter what. You’re my daughter. Eres mi Hija” she then proceeded to tell me that she has a bunch of gay friends and that even her favorite uncle is gay. So she herself grew up very understanding of different life styles. My mom knew I wasn’t straight for sure. So coming out to her was fortunately very easy ❤. It’s because of her that I want to travel to learn about different cultures and lifestyles. She brought so many great and interesting people in to our lives growing up, Black people, Asian, Russian etc. My mother is an easy and fun person to talk to. So making friends with people even with different backgrounds than her’s, wasn’t a surprise to me. I’m glad she brought up my sexuality because I probably wouldn’t have came out until much much later. Thanks ma
As a young lesbian, Anna has helped me feel so valid
Good! I wish I had more queer people in my life to look up to when I was a kid and teen. I had a few, and it was nice, but you kids these days are spoiled for options and I love it. We've done a lot of work to get to this point, and pretty soon we'll be passing the torch to you. Before you know it you're going to be someone a young queer person looks up to! 😊
@@ChristopherSadlowskithis is so sweet help 😭
This was literally the nicest, calmest jubilee video I have ever seen. Didn't have heart palpitations once.
I am not mexican but my boyfriend is. He recently went to Texas to visit family and there were two very obviously out men who were part of the community and there were also a couple stories about men getting with other men when he was catching up with the people from this town. Not sure how they might’ve felt about lesbians but they seemed generally somewhat okay with gay men.
as someone who is a cis bi female, this video was insanely informative. i learned a lot about lesbian relationships that i never knew about before. thank you for being so open and honest about your personal experiences
The way you speak about bi and pan people is so inclusive and wholesome. I have some serious internalized biphobia that I’ve struggled with my whole life, especially now being an adult queer woman married to a man. But the way you talk about it makes it seem so…normal. Thank you for speaking about bi and pan people the way you do, it’s helped me move closer to accepting myself. ❤
I think something I've realised is kind of a special situation for me as a trans person is that I was dating a guy before I started HRT, and I felt attracted to him, and I can look back at the memories I have of us dating and see the points where I felt the attraction, but a few months after starting E I stopped feeling that, and I thought it was just a common side effect of losing your sex drive (even though we never actually had sex lol) and tried to push through, and when he eventually broke it off because it was pretty clear I didn't like him anymore (I didn't realise, I was kinda just waiting for the feelings to come back). I stopped for a sec and realised I like women exclusively now
Tbh I’ve heard of A LOT of stories of people starting T or E and their sexuality changes lmao, hasn’t happened to me but its def an interesting thing
that's a bit creepy, tbh. hormones influence so much .. even our sexual preferences... dang!
That happens a lot, actually. Idk what it is about hormones that make us transes start loving our people of our own gender
my coming out experience was so funny, i was 16 and showing my mom new clothes i got and out of nowhere she goes “are you a lesbian?” and i was like LMAO YES- it caught me so off guard that i just started crying laughing. she was like yeah i’ve been knew… she’s asexual so she understands that sometimes people are just not straight. that was the only time i sat down and told someone i was lesbian, coming out is so embarrassing to me i hate being the center of attention lmao- my dad dead so idk how he would’ve reacted but knowing his character i wouldn’t be surprised if he tried to burn me at the stake.
dang i remember in junior high school i had a crush on a girl for the first time ever (or for the first time ever i realized those feelings were like romantic) and i decided to tell a close friend of mine about it. she was like shocked and started avoiding me cuz she was afraid i'd develop a crush on her as well. it was really sad, we got along so well, too. fortunately this was only a one time thing for me, all my new friends have been awesome and supportive :)
my lesbian ass ain't NEVER watched a RUclips sponser more intently than this one
all my friends were “straight” in high school and we grew up in a low socioeconomic area so we were all really homophobic (uneducated about gay culture) and then after school almost all my friends came out as queer. one of the straight couples from school both ended up coming out as being gay
i have very recently came out as lesbian after identifying as bisexual for years, sleeping with a few men, and struggling massively with comp. het. it feels isolating almost to have been identifying as gay for so many years (i’m 22; came out originally at 15) but to have seemingly very limited experience with women, and i am so terrified (but excited) to start dating women.
my great aunt Gracie, who was my first introduction to the concept of trans people (shout out to her, I hit my one year anniversary on T two days ago and she was a part of that), had been married to a woman and had two children before splitting up and trying to live as a gay man, and eventually realised she was trans. it took so long, but last I spoke to her she was so happy. it's never too late to be yourself (although it may be harder, but i believe in you 💚)
anna delivering with the gay content
My favourite kind of Straight Man is someone who gives me the space to be a ridiculous flirt. I’ve been told to stay away from that demographic many times haha
P.S. Queer People do attract each other and it hits different.
I have had a rough relationship with my father all of my life. I feel so strongly for KJ, since I was 11 we have lived hours away from each other and since moving to the same city as him 3 years ago we have gone 6 months without contact multiple times. He’s always been one to yell, not express his feelings in a healthy way, belittle and poke fun, and has cheated on a majority of his partners. After coming out as a trans woman end of 2021 he has never really acknowledged it. I’ve tried so many times to reach out, we had a conversation in a restaurant a few months ago and I broke the news I started HRT after easing into the conversation talking about Missouri’s attempt to ban hormone therapy for adults. I still told him happy Father’s Day today and he hit me with a “thank you son, I love you.” It’s just a never ending struggle with him, I fear there is no getting him to understand. His expressions of love always feels disingenuous and performative. My only solace is the queer community I have here, and I am eternally grateful for those people I have in my life.
fr cried when KJ said " i miss my dad,i tried,it's done" like it made me so so sad,wish her the best
im so glad they included a trans fem lesbian because im so tired of trans women being excluded from lesbian and sapphic spaces
who could've thought that including men in videos about lesbians would make somebody fucking happy
@@Hal-fx9xx are you really that dumb? Trans women are women.
@@Hal-fx9xxdon't waste your breath on a bunch of extremely homophobic crowd.
@@user-leavemealone actually yeah,you're right
so close! that is a man
I think that with the scissoring question specifically, it's so important to emphasize that it does exist but like everything else in adult videos, it's not as idealized or played up. Adult videos are specifically entertainment, they're made to be as entertaining as possible without it having to be accurate to real life and how it would play out with real couples.
the fan swipe was so much louder this time 😭😭 i was startled
Omg!! As a lesbian this entire video feels SOOO VALIDATING!! I always knew i was one, but it was so repressed in my memory that in middle school, i went so far as to give a girl i admired flowers on valentines day, and thought nothing of it!! I somehow still thought i was straight 💀😭 Fast forward to now, im 20, and couldnt be happier with being with my sexuality 🙏🏿🍓💙 SHOUTOUT MY FELLOW SAPPHICS N LESBIANS 💞💞💞
So many lesbian things happening. My school is putting on The Prom (first to do so in our region 💅) and the musical/plot is not perfect ofc but it’s kinda cute so I like it, at least my school’s version. It was funny because I was there front and center to support my friends and they dramatically sang lesbian SO MANY times it felt like a personal attack 💀😭😭
My voice instructor and I are like the same person in many ways but sadly they didn’t allow themselves to identify as a lesbian openly until their late 20s and even was married to a man for a bit before I met them to satisfy their parents. Whereas I’m a teen lesbian and sometimes they joke about their past self and it’s just a very interesting conversation to have. They’re great and one of my biggest mentors in life. We both sing (obviously), we both have queer religious trauma, and we both have ADHD and (potential for me) autism so we function exactly the same. They even graduated from the school I go to, so we can bully the teachers together.
Really nice to see such a productive, understanding conversation. Jubilee videos usually make me feel like my soul is leaving my body, but this was wholesome and nice.
The only time that Jubilee video was Normal without any fight
I am bi and I'm terrified of the straight women around me finding out lmao. They always act like I'm gonna jump them or something. Things get so weird.
surprisingly, today i'm not eating a frozen pizza (not even unfrozen....)! i'm actually eating a hot pocket and clementines! finished my puzzle, working on glueing it down😜
that sounds like the perfect afternoon!!
Mother is back again
I've never fallen for one of my "straight best friends" cuz that's weird to me. I always looked at them like sisters buuuut regular degular friends ? definitely. Especially in hs , shwoo.
I think is normal, we tend to be attracted to people around us, at least to have a crush on them
I can really relate to what Jennie said, my dad as well does now accept me as I’m still his daughter and he says he’ll always love me but he was also upset because he said he had envisioned a future for me and I destroyed it after tell him I was lesbian. I feel extremely privileged especially coming from Russian immigrant parents.
Not gay men, but bi men seemingly are seen as not straight enough and not gay enough. I have seen a lot of straight women and gay men say they would never date or be with a bi man. A lot of straight women also see it as a massive flaw.
Bisexual people tend to have it hard either way, guy, girl, or anywhere else in the gender sphere. If you're a dude, gay men will insist you're just gay but still have a weird insecurity based on you liking women (even though they lowkey don't believe you), straight women will also often insist you're gay as well, even if there's clearly evidence to the contrary. For bi girls, many lesbians don't want to date you because they have an insecurity about being left for a man or you being more likely to cheat, and then straight men are either also insecure about being left for another woman, OR they have an off-putting fetish. Ofc keep in mind that this dosen't apply to everyone of course, but it happens often enough that it's a shared experience between tons and tons of bisexual people.
Let’s go lesbians!🏳️🌈
this made me feel so much better wanting to come out as a lesbian despite having a longer history of relationships with men than most other lesbians, makes me feel like i have to say i'm bi/pan by default when i am very much a sapphic..
So, while I am not criticizing you at all, please do know that sapphic is a label that bi and pan women* can use as well as it is a general term for women who are attracted to other women. It's like the general umbrella term for women who are bi, pan, lesbian, or any other sexuality that involves attraction to women!
*This includes people with more fem leaning genders.
Also, do know that you can be a lesbian and still have had sex with men. Those two things aren't mutually exclusive, and you and your sexuality is not defined by your sexual history in the slightest.
Turns out, my bestie from kindergarten who I’ve hung out with my whole life, was the first queer person I ever met, and helped me realize my own sexuality :)
Up until middle school or so, I didn’t even consider the concept of a woman liking another woman, and I finally understood all those feelings I deemed “incorrect”
I think in many adult films....it's not true to what it is in reality. As a queer person who's dated someone the same sex as me as well as also just dating cis men, sex is not as sensationalized as those films in general make it out to be. But especially in lesbian adult films it's less for lesbians and more for men who fetishize the act.
KJ seems so nice i wanna offer her a hug 😭when i came out as trans, i lost my parents and shortly afterward i lost most of the stuff i still owned in a massive flood, and didn't think i'd ever be ok, but now i live with found family, all queer and so so supportive (and three cats). i'm a gay trans guy, so similar but very different experience, but i still relate so much
the representation of lesbians in this video is great! they’ve got fem lesbians, masc lesbians, lesbians who dress like gonzo…
Even tho I grew up in super red ND, almost all the girls I’ve been friends with have went from homo*phobic, conservative, etc: they have grown to realize they are lesbian, bi, etc and have opened up more about how they were scared to come out bc the boys would sxulize them and etc. now my old school has a GSA, and I’ve very proud of how far they’ve come! But also I was like “finally” bc this trans person in the grade below me came out as trans & non-binary to their classmates and their classmates threw trash and pencils at them. So I’m hoping the town will have more growth and that that person is doing better and that those mean kids will learn to grow tf up
First of all, this genuinely wholesome jubilee video has reinvigorated my hope for humanity. Secondly you are so validating and kind and I love your content so much ❤️ lots of love to anyone reading this!
girl when u pulled out the THRUST my jaw was on the floor i need it LMAOOOO
My parents are both Salvadoran and old, so they initially were very much against my sister coming out as gay. My dad used to make a lot of awful remarks against her often until a few years after my sister got married and he realized that she won't change. Both my parents never fully accepted it and my other sister had also come out as gay. This time, my mom was truly the only one who was upset about it. My dad just said nothing aside from the usual old people shit. For years my mom worried that I would come out as gay too and she just implied it on me one day despite me making it clear that I was talking about another person as a friend and not a potential love interest. I came out as demisexual to my mom, didn't bother to tell my dad. My mom was so confused and assumed being demi also meant I was straight, but I told her it was actually a bit more complicated than that and that I'm not sure if I am only sexually attracted to just men because I would need to meet someone with whom I can build a strong emotional bond before ever feeling any sexual attraction for them. My mom is still confused and she tries too hard to hide that she's still a homophobic piece of shit. She'll call it an illness and used to not allow me to hang out with my sisters alone when I was a teen minor because she was scared they would magically turn me gay too (even though that's not even how it works). But my dad, a few months before he passed away (he was very sick), he said, "look, I honestly couldn't care less who you want to fuck with, just be safe and use protection". I think he finally gave up trying to be a villain and just desperately wanted his daughters to come back to see him before he passed. It makes me sad he wasn't able to watch his youngest daughter (I am the youngest of five daughters and no brothers) graduate college or ever find a partner I would like him to meet (not that I need my parents approval for any potential partners). Although I know my youngest older sister (who came out second) wouldn't give a shit to tell him anything about her marriage with her now wife if he was still alive, I'm sure he wouldn't care to hold any animosity towards her anymore.
8:51 THIS IS SO TRUE!! I met my (best) friends in high school and we met when we all thought we were straight but now there is only one straight guy left😂
i have been very lucky with both of my coming outs, first as bisexual and then as trans.
i came out as bi at 13 and my mom said she actually had known and had a bet with my sister on when i would come out (my mom won), she also had been loudly talking about how supportive she is of our distant gay cousin who lives in san fran w his partner, and the charities she donates to, trying to get me to understand that she was a safe person lol.
it was still so scary and i cried cause i was so anxious. i did have family members who didnt understand but were willing to learn and others who were not accepting but i wasnt close to them anyways so it wasnt a loss in my eyes.
and then when i came out as trans at 19 my mom also said she knew, i had been shopping in the boys section for years and had short hair and she said she saw me mirroring the men around me so it wasnt a surprise there.
very lucky to have my mom honestly! she helped me start a GSA in my tiny little conservative town and then was willing to fight and protest for me to be able to wear a tux to prom/graduation and take a same-sex date cause it wasnt allowed but i was too anxious lol
sorry for the ramble :) i just like sharing these stories since it's very positive moments in my life
W Mom, she sounds amazing. I'm so jealous bruh 😢
i completely agree with pretty much all in this video!
a little personal story from me, and part reason why i strongly believe in not supporting the term gold star, and in past experiences as well as future experiences NOT invalidating your sexuality.
so i had a pretty good coming out, very supportive environment, although i was very comphet and kept taking baby steps. "i think i may be a little bit bi" "im 50/50 bi" "ok maybe 70f/30m bi" "ok maybe 90f/10m bi" "ok ok im full lesbian" with which i then identified for a long time, feeling at home in the community, under this label.
i had been in relationships with guys 2 times, but i never had sex. the most was some foreplay-like touching and exploring, bc i always believed i probably was more on the ace spectrum.
recently though i had developed a strong emotional connection with a guy, a very strong friendship which then turned into a kind of f plus (focused on kink stuff though, not bc of sex, but eventually it also turned into having sex bc of the huge trust i built up) and eventually i actually fell in love with him hard. i suppose its a mix of sapphic, pan, and demi, but i dont really know yet.
however, even though i dont believe i get to call myself a lesbian with this new information, i do still know it was completely valid when i believed it was the case. you always try to do the best you can with the information you have, and future information may have you wanting to have acted differently, but you just didnt have that additional information at the time, so it is important to not beat yourself up over it.
it is still taking me time to accept atm that i have fallen in love with a guy, but the progress is there. in the end, you just love who you love, and labels are just words. sometimes it's forever correct, yeah, but if you realize a label is 'wrong', that's alright, it happens. you are not an impostor for labelling yourself with it previously, you just love who you love ❤
labels can be validating, but also limiting. love is love, and as long as you're happy then that's all that matters
This was a good watch. I felt safe in this video
26:43 “it’s seen as emasculating to date another man as a man”
But remember, what’s manlier than TWO men?? Take that, societal norms!
30:00 this is a hard question because while on one hand lesbians more frequently experience fetishization, sexual assault, or being invalidated gay men more often experience violence and lynching and stuff like that. I think that both sides have their own privileges and issues.
Whenever there is major lesbian discourse, I’m reminded of Kate McKinnon on SNL in that sketch on ‘Cherry Grove’.
“That’s a Wolf Sanctuary, alright!”
As to coming out, I've always felt super lucky that my parents were accepting especially since my mums mum raised her to be definitely more open minded as she was a white woman who date multiple black men back in the 1960s/70s and maybe even earlier and had kids with them so she had a lot of backlash to do with that (including losing her family and everything). I don't think she was totally accepting at first but my oldest sibling definitely paved the way by challenging her views and everything constantly and made her open up more and since my mum has made a somewhat effort to be more of people (even if there's still a long way to go especially when it comes to trans which sucks but she's made some changes). I can't imagine what it would be like for others who go through life scared that their parents might kick them out for who they are, I even have a friend who asked me to bring home their pride flag and keep it at my house cus they were too scared to take it to their own and that's just an awful thing to think about. I wish every LGBTQ person the best and if any of you need support I am always here for you guys
I really liked how positive this is
My sexuality was all over the place, I’m 27 and now fully identify as pansexual but for a while I was openly bisexual and most people didn’t care but at one point came out as lesbian and got lots of backlash, my best friend at the time (who knew I was already bisexual) basically stopped talking to me and said sleeping over with me would be inappropriate bc it was “like sleeping over with a guy”. Like I’m still a girl, also she had spent the night with me multiple times and I had never made a move or anything on her, she wasn’t my type. Thankfully most of my other friends supported me and were mad when she had that reaction
girl im watching your video at my ALL GIRLS CATHOLIC SCHOOL and the vibrator ad came up and I was like *intense mute button clicking*
In highschool I was strongly trying to deny that I was lesbian. Dated three dudes (not at the same time 😂). I had this huge crush on a girl since freshman year. She also went out with guys and I just took solace in her speaking to me 😂. Long story short it's 2023 now and we're both 27 now and we've been together for four years.
Edit: we're both Mexican and my mom excepted me right away that we both cried. I think it was helped that my dad came out as trans years before. But I'm so very fortunate that my family doesn't view me any different cause I do know people who were kicked out.
Awwwww!! Im so happy for you
The Jubilee video that's something like Do All Feminists...
I'd love to hear your wholesome, comedic perspective.
I'm a cishet GenX dude and this channel is a very fun way to enculturate myself to other's experiences. Thank you for it.
I grew up LDS too. When I came out as bisexual, my mom wasn’t initially fully accepting and claimed to “act upon it” is still considered a sin. My dad, on the other hand, didn’t really care (I think because he was reading up on a lot of anti-Mormon stuff, he grew up with strict parents already in the church so his sort of rebellion against that was heavily delayed). Eventually we all left the church, and my parents were fully accepting, though still learning about the queer community and what kind of comments/questions are appropriate. Unfortunately my mom is a chatterbox and told a lot of church members about my identity, claiming that they would learn that their own kid could be lgbt even if they’re a church member and they should be accepting too. So I kinda dealt with both sides of homophobia vs tokenism and overstepping boundaries with the whole savior complex. Like no, it’s not anyone else’s business about my gender or sexuality unless I decide to come out to them. You’re not making someone “eat their words” when you out a person that they know, if anything they are more likely to direct their prejudices onto that person who otherwise would’ve had the choice not to deal with that had you just let that be their business.
Brooo Annamarieee 32:47 I was the exact same growing up. Like to the point where if we accidentally touched arms, I was scared of being found out orrr just tremendously guilty for enjoying a human touch because of the internalized homophobia. I also grew up in a household with emotionally unavailable parents who didn't hug me lol
In my experience, the Christofascist communities I grew up in were full of violent and dangerous men who had a specific kind of hatred for gay men in particular.
As you mentioned in the video, gay men do have male privilege however in certain communities gay men are often the targets of violence while lesbian women are simply dismissed in those same communities. Bigoted Christian men absolutely hate gay men because they see “gayness” as being weak and they see weakness are something almost degenerate.
In my experiences my parents have always been very supportive as me coming out as les, bi, and now pan. But when they found out im trans they were not pleased. They threatened to cut people out of my life who supported me because they thought i was being manipulated and there was pressure being put on me to be someone im not and they called me stupid a lot and criticized me for ever thinking i am a boy, but they dropped it after they realized i wasn’t going back on it and im still not really out to them but they know they just don’t wanna acknowledge it.
Having lived with TERF lesbians while closeted and getting actual PTSD from them bullying me over dating a man I was bracing for some seriously awful takes on trans people. Thankfully, these people were such a breath of fresh air.
god i hope your okay💗
stay strong ml
girl my vibraotor broke litteraly this morning. thank you
i'm a closetet gay trans man and i dont think i will ever come out to my family because i know they wont accept me. they say they love me and shit but i KNOW their love is conditional to who they want me to be... like that girl said... if you're not gonna love me for who i am, don't love me at all. KJ, broke me in a million pieces
LETS GO LESBIANS!!!💖💖💖 Everyone in the video are so lovely. Nothing but good vibes (despite some hard topics)🫶🏻
Let's go being gay is a choice
@@NotVille you've made multiple comments saying "being gay is a choice" under this video, which makes you look a bit obsessed with this subject and getting affirmation. Don't worry tho! While being gay is not a choice, if you feel that you'd really like to be gay, you probably are! Just be yourself! 🥰
I Support women’s rights
But most importantly
I support women’s wrongs ‼️
I love KJ! She’s a hilarious comedian in Chicago and we’ve been on a few shows together in the past. This is so cool to see her in this video! I’ll give her a hug for you next time I see her.💜
growing up i mistook wanting male validation as being straight and even bi at one point because of the heteronormativity i grew up around. and tbh i’m still struggling with it cuz it’s a lot of years of brainwashing to let go of. i’ll see an attractive man and my thoughts are “i want them to notice me”, “do they think i’m cute”, etc. instead of “i wanna be with them” “i think they’re cute”, etc. but i’ll really think about actually being with that man and i really just don’t feel anything
i even still catch myself tryna in a way “hide” my gayness to make straight girls feel comfortable cuz it’s so common for straight girls to be grossed out. i won’t say certain compliments, i won’t look em in the eyes too long, i’ll try not to touch them in anyway, etc. cuz i don’t want them to think i like them or i’m perving on them. when it’s like babe i have standards, i don’t go for straight girls and i’m literally just tryna be nice 😭 plus ik that it doesn’t help that i’m not conventionally attractive so automatically straight girls are going to be harsher with me than they would if i was. cuz it’s like i see how they react to unconventionally attractive men and i’m not tryna be hate crimed 😩😭
As someone just discovering my queerness in my 30’s, thank you for this video!!!
Being a lesbian with fully Mexican background I do think gay men are much more seen in media and telenovelas and therefore are more accepted. Also I was in Querétaro this winter and I saw at least 5 gay couples but not one lesbian couple. When I came out, my dad didn't say much and kept treating me exact same but my mom really went off and said slurs I didn't even know she knew. However we've been VERY close my entire life, like so close other girls have told me they wish they got along that well with their mom. She's never stopped loving or caring for me, not sure if it's because she thinks I'll change or she's just changed but I do agree gay men have privilege in the aspect they have more audacity and less to lose in our culture. At least from my experience, men are generally expected to break off from their family while women aren't
Just wanna say, this video of your reactions combined with the wholesomeness of everyone in the Jubilee video made me feel a little less alone💕 I love your candidness and openness, shows me I still have ways to go when it comes to my own relation with my gayness, but also that it is 100% possible to achieve some form of peace and comfort with it