I believe that why many don’t feel any grief or loss when their narc dies is because they have already done the mourning/grieving ages ago when they decided to cut out the narc from their life. So people shouldn’t be ashamed about not feeling sadness or loss. You have already done the grieving. That’s how I see it.
@@jothysell912 When my mother passed away it was hard to feel anything much. Very little. That’s not normal or shouldn’t be but yet again that’s just the way it was
I’m sure my narcissistic stepmom will cut me out of everything (she already has). Her “golden child” son is executor of their estate even though it was my biological father was the one who made all the money 💴. I’m so used to not getting any love, understanding, acceptance, or attention, that not getting any resources is just par for the course. I wish I could have something to remember my dad, though.
my covert malignant narc mother died 3 days ago....I experience such feelings of joy, peace, and safety as I've never felt before! It was incredible! The next day I shed a tear because she chose to die full of lies and deceit, never rectifying anything, and that can't be good for your soul. Day 3 and I'm feeling God's peace, it was His decision to take her, He gave her soo many opportunities( as did I) to sort out her wrongdoings and ask for forgiveness, which would have been given if she had asked for it. So now I wait with no expectation on the reading of the will, it will be convoluted and conditional at best. I will not let her break any more of my relationships, so I'm going to go with the flow. This peace of mind and safety I now feel, is priceless, and it's the only thing she has ever given me that wasn't full of conditional suffering. Amen!
Thank you Danish for these videos that reveal a narcissists evil ways. My narcissistic parent died 3 yrs ago but every so often he pops up in my nightmares and still interrupts my peace to this day. And even though I ended a 10 year career to move 3000 miles to take care of him I received nothing but accusations from those who blamed me for his death. I didn't have any help from them just fault finding gossip. But I know that someday I will be free.
Don't care of what people talks they will do it .leave your life for higher purpose god knows everything.abd in the end we have to come alone and go alone ...
Pleading the Blood of Jesus over yourself really works to give you peace in your dreams too. Before bed you tell God, "I plead the Blood of Jesus over my mind so when I lay down to sleep, my sleep will be sweet, In Jesus Name!"
My grandparents were like that. We couldn’t have a funeral for them to say goodbye, because they were cremated. No service of remembrance either was allowed. They didn’t even want their passing to be announced in the obituary column of the local newspaper. I definitely get these things y are describing here. Thank you for sharing this. It has helped.
When my Narc died, I felt strange looks from everyone at the Funeral. I now know they had all been turned into Flying Monkeys against me, so is it even possible to correct them now? Won’t i just reinforce what they have been lead to think about me? This legacy has me (and truth) isolated. I don’t care what many already think but my family is part of this.
Roger just focus on who you are, what you want to do in your life. Anytime you find yourself worrying about others’, check yourself. Focus on yourself. Life is way too short for you to waste it on people who are all going to be dead within the next few decades. Do what makes your soul happy.
The same exact thing happened to me. I knew in advance because I’ve been watching videos like this for years before the death happened. I’m the scapegoat so I knew exactly all the horrible things that would take place if I didn’t sever all ties and bow completely out, which is exactly what I did. I never wanted anything from those people, except for the one thing they could never, ever give me. I loved them all so much but they were just bitter, hateful and envious people who refused to work on their own issues and instead projected everything onto me and criticized every single thing I said or did. Everything was wrong. Everything was my fault. I can remember so many times being accused of this or of that and thinking to myself I live 3000 miles away from these people. They are insane to think I am responsible for any of their issues. It was just too much. It took such a terrible toll on my body. If I had not been watching videos like this, I can’t even imagine how I would’ve survived if I had not severed all ties. They really will destroy you if you stay. They’ve already told the world horrible things about you and people are avoiding you and but you know what those people never had your back or they wouldn’t have believed any of it in the first place. I think living in isolation is just the most peaceful and freeing way to live when you have come out of a family like this. People like us are too prone to continue bringing these types of people into our lives. Best to just walk solo.
I went through all of this as a teenager. Then he would not look at me or talk to me for 8 yrs despite being in same room with him. I tried again to forgive and try to forge some type of relationship/ decency. Much to my disappointment. While visiting my brother, he showed up and he backed away from my greeting. I left and he told my brother that he didn’t know who I was. I was done. Then same brother passed away and as we all gathered-my “father” came up to me as I was talking with another brother and asked me “who are you?” Enough said. There is a time when you have to protect yourself / not allow this anymore.
9:07 this is truly sad, and I'm sure every narcissist snake out there can't wait to poison everyone who has hurt their sick ego with these hateful words.
My mom wasn’t good at following through so her pension papers weren’t submitted. Also I was able to have her to sign the POA papers, and yes I was the scapegoat. I was also able to get her car back from some con artist who took advantage of her while she was ill. I transferred the car to my younger brother. I submitted the paperwork for her pension fund and my siblings and I split it evenly 4 ways. My mom even came to me in 3 dreams after her death. In the first dream she had on a red dress suit but her hair wasn’t done (I used to do my mom’s hair). The interpretation was that she wanted me to hurry up (red dress suit) and give her a proper memorial service honoring her life’s work (hair not done). In the second dream her hair was done like she usually liked it when she was alive so that was her way of showing her approval in my dream. In the 3 dream she called me on the phone. I answered and she said, “Can You Put The Cucumbers 🥒 In?” My mother died of colorectal cancer and one of many ways to heal that type of cancer with nutrition is eating cucumbers for hydration and flushing the system. My mother was well known in the health and wellness industry and I learned a lot being around her. I have my own gift of healing that she was aware but jealous of. She knew that I could help in healing her but it would’ve put the spotlight on me and I would’ve given the glory and praise to The Most High Yah. She didn’t want that so she chose death instead.😔
My narc mom wise very spiteful. She had a provision in her will that her husband would have to move out of their house if he remarried after her death. She wants me to have the house. He remarried and I gave him my blessing to live in the house. My mother forgot one important detail-if he moved out, who would pay the mortgage? My mom wanted to be cremated. She was, but she also wanted no services. She took away any chance I could have to say goodbye. When I was notified of her death, I just sighed with relief. I haven’t shed a tear.
My mother left me and my sisters $5.00 each and left the house and land to her oldest granddaughter. What a hell of a statement. My niece the granddaughter asked me if I wanted that $5.00. I told her I would not take it if I was just eating rice and beans. I told her that’s one hell of a statement to make to your kids. I told her I didn’t blame her because she started crying. I have two narcissist sisters so I can in a way understand that but I never stole from my mom or abused her money the way they did. I told my niece my mother is to blame not her. Now my niece won’t even speak to me because of her narcissist mom who is my youngest sister. It just never ends
I didnt quite notice it at first, but the friend who came to my mother's funeral with me observed later that everyone who did a eulogy was speaking of her in terms of how they helped her, not the other way around.
He used to always say, "I'm worth more dead than alive" After his death, which was about 1 yr and 4 months now and he had nothing. His ex-wife sent him to his mother, stopped paying his way and he crumbled with nothing. He's worth nothing dead or alive.
I know someone who didn’t know his narc mother had passed until his children told him he had two hours to get his things out of her house. He was her only child and she turned his children against him and left him absolutely nothing.
Yes, here I want to share something about my narcissistic husband when I was engaged with him , in starting he was writing me letters and forced me write him back too, after some time he was calling at that time it was landline phones back 36 years, so all those letters were stored , after 4/5 years, I got confused about his behaviour and and one night when I was alone , because mostly he had gone with his friends for partying, I fire all the letters, now strange thing is that till now he has never ever asked me about those letters that when they gone 36 years, I destroyed, make fire in those letters, he didn’t asked me or remember , I find myself so stupid and fool that I fell in love with him, God help me , now I remember and think that it was okay that I fired the letters, he didn’t even remember 🙏🏻🙏🏻. Danish you described all very well 🙏🏻🙏🏻
That’s was I am struggle right now when suddenly he passed away without answering the court. Suddenly left behind with all the problems he left and dealing different people in my life.
What also happened to me with my malignant narc dad is right before he died this awful prostitute past girlfriend came back into the picture and was pretty violent and threatening to me and pushed me out of the pitcure so she could steal our families inheritence. I heard this is also common. It happened so fast that there really was nothing that could be done.
after they are gone...they ARE GONE....they lived a miserable existence, spreading trauma and pain wherever they went and now hell awaits to engulf them. It is no longer my concern.
I stayed with an abusive monster for 10 years. I was A SLAVE, and worse, I cared for him and saved his life a few times. When he felt that his end was near, he made my life so horrible that I had to leave my marital home to save my life. He told the entire city that he was tired of my abuse toward him. He even went with his estranged sons to the local police station, stating that I was not allowed to return to my home. I lived in a hotel for nine months, and then, after taking me off his will and placing his estranged children on it, the devil finally took him. A few of them have inherited what was mine, and they are fighting like mad dogs. His daughter emailed me a copy of her bankruptcy notice.
I wish I could send this back in time to myself, aged ten. My dad still punishes me from beyond the grave. For beating him legally and then handing him back the inheritance to invest for the family. I thought it would gain his respect and I could trust him on a handshake. But not content with stealing all my inheritance and squandering it on fancy toys and whores. He made it fiscally prudent for my sisters to lie and manipulate me to squander what little was left. They still have not told me about his death, they pretend he is alive living with a girlfriend. Deliberately destroying what little family I had managed to hold together at great personal expense. I can barely fathom the deliberate, systematic betrayal for half a century.
My mother in law divided my husband’s part of his parents estate between him and our kids. Fortunately, he was successful enough in business that we didn’t need the money. Of course we didn’t know about the will until after the parents were dead. The only frustration on my part is that she wasn’t around to see that it didn’t upset us. The other siblings are smug about what happened but they don’t know that we had planned to give our kids a portion of the inheritance which actually would have been larger than what the grandparents gave them. 🤭🤭🤭
My mother said that she would give the house to the person who will do the most for her. To have as many people around her as possible who could be considered as supply. As a empath person, I was of course there to help her when she was in need. (I didn't know back then that I was dealing with a narcissist. I didn't even know what that word exactly meant. And only much later did I find out that my mother was actually a covert narcissist. And what that meant...) She sent my flying monkey brother... to ask me if I can buy the house. Then she told me to go to the notary to create a document to buy the house. Of course, it was never planned to give the house to the scapegoat person. Then she called my eldest sister and told me that I wanted to take the house away from her. Yes, my mother must have felt very good that all things were still here dancing according her Manipulation. Because my brother cheated on me and offered me the house without it ever being planned. Of course, my mother also incited my brother and me against each other. To make sure I had no ally. They cheated and lied that I could no longer stay in this dysfunction
They only have power if you think about them and if their material stuff even matters to you. If you can distance yourself from all that, you have defeated them.
My narcissistic covert egg donor finally passed. I was originally going to attend the memorial service. I started to talk to a few people about her death, and it reminded me of things that I should never forget. I told my sister that I would not be going to the Gaslighting Ceremony. I feel as if in many ways my sister is continuing the gas lighting that she was taught as a child. I asked her what she would say in the eulogy, and she got a little defensive and said that she wasn't going to lie. Sad as it is, I need to back off seeing my sister. Or communicating much with her. Similar to my covert narcissistic egg donor. I had minimal communication with my covert narcissist egg donor the last 20 years. My sister tries to fix everything. She even said to me that she likes being liked by other people. Well who doesn't for goodness sake? But I won't do it anymore at the expense of the truth. It makes me angry, but each person has to decide for themselves how to live their own life.
My mother is clearingout the house after my N father’s death. She is selling all his expensive stuff she can gladly do without. And she is sharing all her stories about her long past with this difficult man.
If something were to happen to mine, I’d probably go home that night and clear out most his closet ..donate it. Leave just enough so our kids wouldn’t freak out as they don’t see what I see. Eventually, soon, I redo my home inside, frugally, decorate it like I want to, etc., asap id plan a nice little trip for myself ( safe place to travel to) as my ns hates to travel., I’d grieve the wonderful man he could’ve been if he wasn’t so messed up by his mother,,I can’t stand her , knowing she treated him so. I really get irritated when his sister posts how much she misses her mother and I think, omg, that monster,, why do you think your brother was so disordered? Mommie dearest..his sister is in denial as I remember his sister talking about how mean their mother was..
One more thing I want to share. When my mother had already died, and so this narcissistic person was out of my life. Then it happened that I was with another old woman. She was over 90 years old and I accompanied her. She had to, she wanted to buy a chair that tilts so she can stand up. She mistreated me in exactly the same way my mother had done. I think this demon has entered her body. The demon that had already worked as a spirit in my mother. The saleswoman felt compassion for me. That's why I was able to understand what was going on here. I say it was exactly the same spirit using exactly the same methods as my mother had done.
Danish, I’ve experienced the deaths of 3 of my family members and I’m on the verge of experiencing the death of a 4th one. I was the only one not even shedding a tear at their funerals. I was doing this not out of insensitivity but because death is natural. I’ve even had to think about my own death already. At 13 years old before I went in for my Second Open-Heart Surgery I had to contemplate the possibility of my death because death is a possible risk of Open-Heart Surgery. I was like you know what just whatever I’m gonna do whatever it takes to get through this surgery and if I do die whatever that’ll be fine because I’ve already been to Heaven before. Strangely on March 18th, 2007 the day before my Second Open-Heart Surgery instead of feeling anxious or scared, I was happy and even thought this is cool. I would not know though that March 18, 2007 would be my last truly happy day for about 12 years. I did not know that a side effect of Open-Heart Surgery was depression. Which I experienced shortly after starting 8th Grade.
My mother was so materialistic and narcissistic. She only favored one daughter and the rest of us were just s***! She did ALL these things and just favored the kissass in the end. I'm the youngest daughter of 6 and don't even think I was supposed to happen! Imagine your mother telling you when you were a teenager that "She wished that she would have killed you, when you were born." Yep! That's just ONE hurtful thing she said to her accident daughter. I was left feeling resentful and probably will take that to my OWN grave. I hope I can find peace and continue to accept authentic self, flaws and all.
I went no contact before my grand narcs died, they wwre desperate to get me to admire them when i was little and would constantly use manipulation and abuse strategies. Not sure when they died, its not worth memorising but i do know they are now dead and good riddance to them. I know they spent their last moments desperately trying to get someone to admire them and for it to be for nothing and they die alone never amounting to or doing anything positive with their lives. What a waste of existence
The shock you feel when they behave and say the unforgettable, is more than the shock of death itself. We know we'll die someday, but the false hope of expecting them to somehow convert to caring in life, is unpredictable, that day didn't come. A disappointment overrides the grief.
The Shins have a hilarious music video about this for their song called Simple song. Y’all gotta see it. The dad leaves a trick will to make everyone fight. My mom and stepdad have already told me they’ll pull some kind of stunt like this. My golden child little brother can just have it all. I hope you folks out there can just laugh and not get pulled into the pigpen to roll around in the mud when the day comes. Narcs got jokes.
Gave away everything for free after the narc died not even a sheet of paper.... Had to go to the law for his money... fought and got that... A challenge I took because he donated the money of my children's maintenance... Now waiting to sell the house... Praying that the Lord helps me with that...
Mine too , it's terrible to try to live because of them when they continue to suck the life out of you be it thieving your money , they are thieves of your life
@ it’s tough, I do understand after all the years of being in that situation. Break free from the fear of loosing what is not good for you. Blessings and honesty, I send you a heart 💙 felt prayer. God be with you honey. Sincerely, Colleen
Mine too. I asked her who will take care of her 50 year old alcoholic son(brother). She replied that"You left me!) I got married and moved away. Had one child and another on the way. That spoiled her plan of me getting divorced and coming home to take care of him. She told me everything belongs to him including my doll collection ( she claimed they were hers. I guess these birthday gifts were meant for her!) What is an alcoholic man to do with them? Play with them! No sell them and everything else in the house behind my back and the other brother's. Lost many memories and keepsakes. I consider that as a price to pay for freedom and sanity. When he died, no body wanted to pay for his funeral. Not even his children! This was my mother's last dirty trick!
THE HAUNTING , THE HURTING WORDS RUNS LIKE A TOTAL DEFECT WASHINGMACHINE. UNABLE TO STOP AND NEGLECT ... ITS JUST SITTING THERE LIKE A NEEDLE IN YOUR HEART... AND NOW ITS 12 YEARS ALLMOST AFTER SHE DIED.. BUT HER EVIL PROGRAMMING AND WORDS / DISGUST IS STIIL TORMENTING ME.. AM STILL ANGRY , BUT I TRY TO CONTROL THAT ANGER... I CAN ONLY TRUST GOD... NOT PEOPLE....
Yes...I had a chance to look at that written inheritance by my mother..she's still alive...I was chocked...even my spiritual teacher and psychic said..and you're her only daughter...and she does like this..? I couldn't understand ..but my first reaction was: she did this to control even after her Death. She stated something that my teacher said will be difficult to get even after her death...so many things hidden and rules..and big part according to her she wants for my children only for educational use when they adults...when I tried to confront her at a time...she first said..she'll change it...then became angry..trying to use it to manipulate ...I stopped all contact and don't respond when she mentions she's trying to hand it over to me..sometimes she transfers me money partially so that I answer I received..impossible to deal with...
I didn't go to either of my parent's funerals, nor did I cry or have any emotions or care. Normally, when a psychopath dies, I'd feel peace, joy, safety, and RELIEF. But the only reason I don't feel full peace, joy, safety, and relief is because I still have psychopath siblings. They are still around and are able to cause anxiety (the panic attacks I've had because of it), turmoil, fear, and pure H3LL. (I only have one good sibling, and we stay in close contact.) I wonder what happens after a psychopath dies. I wonder if they actually meet Jesus, who is Love, and discover Love for the first time in their life. I wonder if they find out how much of a loser they were, and realize how much goodness they missed out on, and regret it. Just my thoughts.
Its bad to say it but i always thought i wont see any hope in life while my father is still alive and persistent in his sins towards God. However he died and i never felt any relief, not emotional not physical. Actually last two years after his death has been a climax of desperation, anxiety financial and work and health problems, i used to get him in my dreams so often, feeling irritated or sad all the time, no time for rest. Not sure if his poor soul was able to find peace, I started praying for that snd he stopped coming into my dreams. It feels like his anger still surrounds me and brings problems into my life much of the time. Not sure if that is correct but i hope its just my paranoia
You may be dealing with generational curses but you don't have to suffer. God will remove anything tormenting you, just ask in Jesus name and it will be done.
My MoMster decided my every childhood misery would be the destiny of my elder years by making my sibling the trustee of my "Special NEEDS" inheritance if she ever dies...
My mother already told me I’m not in her will. But my sister & grandchildren are . She’s all about material items . Her husband passed away & set money aside for his funeral & tomb .. years later he still has no tomb .. my sister is waiting for her to die & inherit money . Our mother wants to be buried by her husband in their plot. I bet she gets cremated lol .
I believe that why many don’t feel any grief or loss when their narc dies is because they have already done the mourning/grieving ages ago when they decided to cut out the narc from their life. So people shouldn’t be ashamed about not feeling sadness or loss. You have already done the grieving. That’s how I see it.
💯 % true
For some people, this is absolutely true🤷🏾♀️
Wow.
@@jothysell912 When my mother passed away it was hard to feel anything much. Very little. That’s not normal or shouldn’t be but yet again that’s just the way it was
I’m sure my narcissistic stepmom will cut me out of everything (she already has). Her “golden child” son is executor of their estate even though it was my biological father was the one who made all the money 💴. I’m so used to not getting any love, understanding, acceptance, or attention, that not getting any resources is just par for the course. I wish I could have something to remember my dad, though.
Even your enemies will have to praise your courage...... people don't talk on this topic but you share your personal experiences fiercely......🙏🏻
Donate everything given by them
I will not take a penny from ill-gotten gains.
They spread so much negativity against you which works long after they are dead
my covert malignant narc mother died 3 days ago....I experience such feelings of joy, peace, and safety as I've never felt before! It was incredible! The next day I shed a tear because she chose to die full of lies and deceit, never rectifying anything, and that can't be good for your soul. Day 3 and I'm feeling God's peace, it was His decision to take her, He gave her soo many opportunities( as did I) to sort out her wrongdoings and ask for forgiveness, which would have been given if she had asked for it. So now I wait with no expectation on the reading of the will, it will be convoluted and conditional at best. I will not let her break any more of my relationships, so I'm going to go with the flow. This peace of mind and safety I now feel, is priceless, and it's the only thing she has ever given me that wasn't full of conditional suffering. Amen!
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My mother’s legacy: The world is a better place without her in it! Amen!
Yes, here too!
Dies 5 years ago, sadly I never missed her. Peace now.
It’s sad but true that’s how I feel about my boyfriends Mom:( she ruined him and I resent her- and she’s still alive:(
@ Sadly they do all the can to destroy people… I can recommend treatment for trauma, that is calles EMDR. It is amazing, and it works
@@tonewilhelmsen2425 I recommend prayer. Jesus is the true healer and alchemist of my life
@@tonewilhelmsen2425 thanks for your input
You mean the demons in them leave their bodies and try to haunt you. Truth.
Throw away every cursed thing they gave you.
This💯
I completely agree, dispose of all things associated with them.
If we free ourselves from our fear of abandonment, narcissists lose all their power over us. Danish please talk on this topic.
Thank you Danish for these videos that reveal a narcissists evil ways. My narcissistic parent died 3 yrs ago but every so often he pops up in my nightmares and still interrupts my peace to this day. And even though I ended a 10 year career to move 3000 miles to take care of him I received nothing but accusations from those who blamed me for his death. I didn't have any help from them just fault finding gossip. But I know that someday I will be free.
Don't care of what people talks they will do it .leave your life for higher purpose god knows everything.abd in the end we have to come alone and go alone ...
Pleading the Blood of Jesus over yourself really works to give you peace in your dreams too. Before bed you tell God, "I plead the Blood of Jesus over my mind so when I lay down to sleep, my sleep will be sweet, In Jesus Name!"
My grandparents were like that. We couldn’t have a funeral for them to say goodbye, because they were cremated. No service of remembrance either was allowed. They didn’t even want their passing to be announced in the obituary column of the local newspaper. I definitely get these things y are describing here. Thank you for sharing this. It has helped.
My late Narc mother left behind her ridiculous hoarding and her two daughters ill and tired.
When my Narc died, I felt strange looks from everyone at the Funeral. I now know they had all been turned into Flying Monkeys against me, so is it even possible to correct them now? Won’t i just reinforce what they have been lead to think about me? This legacy has me (and truth) isolated. I don’t care what many already think but my family is part of this.
Me too ♥️
Flying monkeys don’t listen especially when they knew the whole time the narc was lying.
Roger just focus on who you are, what you want to do in your life. Anytime you find yourself worrying about others’, check yourself. Focus on yourself. Life is way too short for you to waste it on people who are all going to be dead within the next few decades. Do what makes your soul happy.
The same exact thing happened to me. I knew in advance because I’ve been watching videos like this for years before the death happened. I’m the scapegoat so I knew exactly all the horrible things that would take place if I didn’t sever all ties and bow completely out, which is exactly what I did. I never wanted anything from those people, except for the one thing they could never, ever give me. I loved them all so much but they were just bitter, hateful and envious people who refused to work on their own issues and instead projected everything onto me and criticized every single thing I said or did. Everything was wrong. Everything was my fault. I can remember so many times being accused of this or of that and thinking to myself I live 3000 miles away from these people. They are insane to think I am responsible for any of their issues. It was just too much. It took such a terrible toll on my body. If I had not been watching videos like this, I can’t even imagine how I would’ve survived if I had not severed all ties. They really will destroy you if you stay. They’ve already told the world horrible things about you and people are avoiding you and but you know what those people never had your back or they wouldn’t have believed any of it in the first place. I think living in isolation is just the most peaceful and freeing way to live when you have come out of a family like this. People like us are too prone to continue bringing these types of people into our lives. Best to just walk solo.
I get it 100%.. they saw even if it was covert. They chose to look the other way. They don't get to matter to me anymore.
I went through all of this as a teenager. Then he would not look at me or talk to me for 8 yrs despite being in same room with him. I tried again to forgive and try to forge some type of relationship/ decency. Much to my disappointment. While visiting my brother, he showed up and he backed away from my greeting. I left and he told my brother that he didn’t know who I was. I was done. Then same brother passed away and as we all gathered-my “father” came up to me as I was talking with another brother and asked me “who are you?” Enough said.
There is a time when you have to protect yourself / not allow this anymore.
If you ever have the chance to respond to this contemptuous person just tell them it's none of their business who you are and to stop caring about it.
You mean the demons in them leave their bodies and try to haunt you. Truth.
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Plz explain
@@ItsAJdazzlingJazzy a demon can't operate through a dead corpse. They operate through living vessels, when a narc is alive.
I do believe these narcissist spirit stays on items they gave you .
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Which is why I would not take anything mother personally liked or wore after she passed
9:07 this is truly sad, and I'm sure every narcissist snake out there can't wait to poison everyone who has hurt their sick ego with these hateful words.
My mom wasn’t good at following through so her pension papers weren’t submitted. Also I was able to have her to sign the POA papers, and yes I was the scapegoat. I was also able to get her car back from some con artist who took advantage of her while she was ill. I transferred the car to my younger brother. I submitted the paperwork for her pension fund and my siblings and I split it evenly 4 ways.
My mom even came to me in 3 dreams after her death. In the first dream she had on a red dress suit but her hair wasn’t done (I used to do my mom’s hair). The interpretation was that she wanted me to hurry up (red dress suit) and give her a proper memorial service honoring her life’s work (hair not done).
In the second dream her hair was done like she usually liked it when she was alive so that was her way of showing her approval in my dream.
In the 3 dream she called me on the phone. I answered and she said, “Can You Put The Cucumbers 🥒 In?” My mother died of colorectal cancer and one of many ways to heal that type of cancer with nutrition is eating cucumbers for hydration and flushing the system.
My mother was well known in the health and wellness industry and I learned a lot being around her. I have my own gift of healing that she was aware but jealous of. She knew that I could help in healing her but it would’ve put the spotlight on me and I would’ve given the glory and praise to The Most High Yah. She didn’t want that so she chose death instead.😔
You were very lucky. Most narcs will give POA to the golden child.
I experienced this with my Dad
My GC sister moved into my parent's million dollar home while the trust states we each own 50%. I'm talking to a lawyer today!
Keep a of incident involving a narcissist.
I'm now free from my narc partner with the help of*_Top_notech*…..
They are on instagram and telegram
My narc mom wise very spiteful. She had a provision in her will that her husband would have to move out of their house if he remarried after her death. She wants me to have the house. He remarried and I gave him my blessing to live in the house. My mother forgot one important detail-if he moved out, who would pay the mortgage? My mom wanted to be cremated. She was, but she also wanted no services. She took away any chance I could have to say goodbye. When I was notified of her death, I just sighed with relief. I haven’t shed a tear.
My entire family actually…
mine 2 EX FAMILY
My mother left me and my sisters $5.00 each and left the house and land to her oldest granddaughter. What a hell of a statement. My niece the granddaughter asked me if I wanted that $5.00. I told her I would not take it if I was just eating rice and beans. I told her that’s one hell of a statement to make to your kids. I told her I didn’t blame her because she started crying. I have two narcissist sisters so I can in a way understand that but I never stole from my mom or abused her money the way they did. I told my niece my mother is to blame not her. Now my niece won’t even speak to me because of her narcissist mom who is my youngest sister. It just never ends
I didnt quite notice it at first, but the friend who came to my mother's funeral with me observed later that everyone who did a eulogy was speaking of her in terms of how they helped her, not the other way around.
They recruit before they die and the abuse continues, it never ends. Going no contact has created phycopaths in my life.
He used to always say, "I'm worth more dead than alive" After his death, which was about 1 yr and 4 months now and he had nothing.
His ex-wife sent him to his mother, stopped paying his way and he crumbled with nothing. He's worth nothing dead or alive.
I know someone who didn’t know his narc mother had passed until his children told him he had two hours to get his things out of her house. He was her only child and she turned his children against him and left him absolutely nothing.
Yes, here I want to share something about my narcissistic husband when I was engaged with him , in starting he was writing me letters and forced me write him back too, after some time he was calling at that time it was landline phones back 36 years, so all those letters were stored , after 4/5 years, I got confused about his behaviour and and one night when I was alone , because mostly he had gone with his friends for partying, I fire all the letters, now strange thing is that till now he has never ever asked me about those letters that when they gone 36 years, I destroyed, make fire in those letters, he didn’t asked me or remember , I find myself so stupid and fool that I fell in love with him, God help me , now I remember and think that it was okay that I fired the letters, he didn’t even remember 🙏🏻🙏🏻.
Danish you described all very well 🙏🏻🙏🏻
You are helping me so much. Thank you so very much for sharing.I could sit and talk to you for hours ❤
You are very brave mashALLAH!
Believe me, when my narcmom die, I won't cry, but peace tears. Thank you for saying this. So, I will be prepared. 👊
This reminds me of the end scene in Mommy Dearest- where the adopted daughter is told she won't get anything and she knows what she did.
That’s was I am struggle right now when suddenly he passed away without answering the court. Suddenly left behind with all the problems he left and dealing different people in my life.
Wow, powerful. Thank you. Spot on. Please make more content like this. Your channel is fantastic.
_SHAME, SHAME ON THEM!_
Demons have no shame!
What also happened to me with my malignant narc dad is right before he died this awful prostitute past girlfriend came back into the picture and was pretty violent and threatening to me and pushed me out of the pitcure so she could steal our families inheritence. I heard this is also common. It happened so fast that there really was nothing that could be done.
So sorry to hear of Your father behaving like this, please stay strong Mister, I am deeply sorry, why such people get children?
That is so true and so sad. I hope people realize the dangers of the relationship 😢
after they are gone...they ARE GONE....they lived a miserable existence, spreading trauma and pain wherever they went and now hell awaits to engulf them. It is no longer my concern.
I stayed with an abusive monster for 10 years. I was A SLAVE, and worse, I cared for him and saved his life a few times. When he felt that his end was near, he made my life so horrible that I had to leave my marital home to save my life. He told the entire city that he was tired of my abuse toward him. He even went with his estranged sons to the local police station, stating that I was not allowed to return to my home. I lived in a hotel for nine months, and then, after taking me off his will and placing his estranged children on it, the devil finally took him. A few of them have inherited what was mine, and they are fighting like mad dogs. His daughter emailed me a copy of her bankruptcy notice.
I wish I could send this back in time to myself, aged ten.
My dad still punishes me from beyond the grave.
For beating him legally and then handing him back the inheritance to invest for the family.
I thought it would gain his respect and I could trust him on a handshake.
But not content with stealing all my inheritance and squandering it on fancy toys and whores.
He made it fiscally prudent for my sisters to lie and manipulate me to squander what little was left.
They still have not told me about his death, they pretend he is alive living with a girlfriend.
Deliberately destroying what little family I had managed to hold together at great personal expense.
I can barely fathom the deliberate, systematic betrayal for half a century.
My mother in law divided my husband’s part of his parents estate between him and our kids. Fortunately, he was successful enough in business that we didn’t need the money. Of course we didn’t know about the will until after the parents were dead. The only frustration on my part is that she wasn’t around to see that it didn’t upset us. The other siblings are smug about what happened but they don’t know that we had planned to give our kids a portion of the inheritance which actually would have been larger than what the grandparents gave them. 🤭🤭🤭
Even in the grave a narc cannot rest in peace...
Because they are literally in hell. Truth
My mother said that she would give the house to the person who will do the most for her.
To have as many people around her as possible who could be considered as supply.
As a empath person, I was of course there to help her when she was in need.
(I didn't know back then that I was dealing with a narcissist.
I didn't even know what that word exactly meant.
And only much later did I find out that my mother was actually a covert narcissist. And what that meant...)
She sent my flying monkey brother...
to ask me if I can buy the house.
Then she told me to go to the notary to create a document to buy the house.
Of course, it was never planned to give the house to the scapegoat person.
Then she called my eldest sister and told me that I wanted to take the house away from her.
Yes, my mother must have felt very good that all things were still here dancing according her Manipulation.
Because my brother cheated on me and offered me the house without it ever being planned.
Of course, my mother also incited my brother and me against each other.
To make sure I had no ally.
They cheated and lied that I could no longer stay in this dysfunction
They are on instagram and telegram
They only have power if you think about them and if their material stuff even matters to you. If you can distance yourself from all that, you have defeated them.
My narcissistic covert egg donor finally passed. I was originally going to attend the memorial service. I started to talk to a few people about her death, and it reminded me of things that I should never forget. I told my sister that I would not be going to the Gaslighting Ceremony.
I feel as if in many ways my sister is continuing the gas lighting that she was taught as a child. I asked her what she would say in the eulogy, and she got a little defensive and said that she wasn't going to lie. Sad as it is, I need to back off seeing my sister. Or communicating much with her. Similar to my covert narcissistic egg donor. I had minimal communication with my covert narcissist egg donor the last 20 years.
My sister tries to fix everything. She even said to me that she likes being liked by other people. Well who doesn't for goodness sake? But I won't do it anymore at the expense of the truth. It makes me angry, but each person has to decide for themselves how to live their own life.
Little bits and pieces of their shenanigans surface here and there - you know right away, their signature is unmistakeable .
Eye opener indeed! thank you
I is so painfully true in so many ways Danish.
My mother is clearingout the house after my N father’s death. She is selling all his expensive stuff she can gladly do without. And she is sharing all her stories about her long past with this difficult man.
Sorry to hear this, but I totally relate..
If something were to happen to mine, I’d probably go home that night and clear out most his closet ..donate it. Leave just enough so our kids wouldn’t freak out as they don’t see what I see. Eventually, soon, I redo my home inside, frugally, decorate it like I want to, etc., asap id plan a nice little trip for myself ( safe place to travel to) as my ns hates to travel., I’d grieve the wonderful man he could’ve been if he wasn’t so messed up by his mother,,I can’t stand her
, knowing she treated him so.
I really get irritated when his sister posts how much she misses her mother and I think, omg, that monster,, why do you think your brother was so disordered? Mommie dearest..his sister is in denial as I remember his sister talking about how mean their mother was..
One more thing I want to share.
When my mother had already died, and so this narcissistic person was out of my life.
Then it happened that I was with another old woman.
She was over 90 years old and I accompanied her.
She had to, she wanted to buy a chair that tilts so she can stand up.
She mistreated me in exactly the same way my mother had done.
I think this demon has entered her body.
The demon that had already worked as a spirit in my mother.
The saleswoman felt compassion for me.
That's why I was able to understand what was going on here.
I say it was exactly the same spirit using exactly the same methods as my mother had done.
No I refused to be the scape goat when I got older. I speak my mind and that seems to be an issue with my extended family
yes, i am in this space now. this was most helpful to me.
exactly what my mom did to me the Scapegoat. I didn't go to her funeral. I have no family or family friends now> She destroyed her own children.
Shall we start a whatsapp group/ community to share these emotions and trauma ?
Danish, I’ve experienced the deaths of 3 of my family members and I’m on the verge of experiencing the death of a 4th one. I was the only one not even shedding a tear at their funerals. I was doing this not out of insensitivity but because death is natural. I’ve even had to think about my own death already. At 13 years old before I went in for my Second Open-Heart Surgery I had to contemplate the possibility of my death because death is a possible risk of Open-Heart Surgery. I was like you know what just whatever I’m gonna do whatever it takes to get through this surgery and if I do die whatever that’ll be fine because I’ve already been to Heaven before. Strangely on March 18th, 2007 the day before my Second Open-Heart Surgery instead of feeling anxious or scared, I was happy and even thought this is cool. I would not know though that March 18, 2007 would be my last truly happy day for about 12 years. I did not know that a side effect of Open-Heart Surgery was depression. Which I experienced shortly after starting 8th Grade.
3:29 Danish Lawyers do ask those Questions but they know it. They ask these Qs to learn more about the dead Narc.
Lawyers know it straight away.
Leave their property just to have peace of mind..
This is exactly true, all of it.
They are on instagram and telegram
Keep a of incident involving a narcissist.
I'm now free from my narc partner with the help of*_Top_notech*…..
My mother was so materialistic and narcissistic. She only favored one daughter and the rest of us were just s***! She did ALL these things and just favored the kissass in the end. I'm the youngest daughter of 6 and don't even think I was supposed to happen! Imagine your mother telling you when you were a teenager that "She wished that she would have killed you, when you were born." Yep! That's just ONE hurtful thing she said to her accident daughter. I was left feeling resentful and probably will take that to my OWN grave. I hope I can find peace and continue to accept authentic self, flaws and all.
I went no contact before my grand narcs died, they wwre desperate to get me to admire them when i was little and would constantly use manipulation and abuse strategies.
Not sure when they died, its not worth memorising but i do know they are now dead and good riddance to them.
I know they spent their last moments desperately trying to get someone to admire them and for it to be for nothing and they die alone never amounting to or doing anything positive with their lives. What a waste of existence
I have had such miserable existence since last 25 years…I think I am the narc
The shock you feel when they behave and say the unforgettable, is more than the shock of death itself. We know we'll die someday, but the false hope of expecting them to somehow convert to caring in life, is unpredictable, that day didn't come. A disappointment overrides the grief.
Perfectly stated!
The way Danish described the situation.. just so funny..:) he is very good..
Thanks, very true, very deep knowledge.
The Shins have a hilarious music video about this for their song called Simple song. Y’all gotta see it. The dad leaves a trick will to make everyone fight. My mom and stepdad have already told me they’ll pull some kind of stunt like this. My golden child little brother can just have it all. I hope you folks out there can just laugh and not get pulled into the pigpen to roll around in the mud when the day comes. Narcs got jokes.
@@rubbernecker13 seriously depraved people who feel cheated their whole lives = narcissist
My old family dies with lots of more money but without tears or we'd miss them, as they ' ve never been there. Isn't,t it sad? A waist of time .
Yes every point resonate with me.today I got to know my father did all this .🙏
Yes, u are absolutely right
Gave away everything for free after the narc died not even a sheet of paper.... Had to go to the law for his money... fought and got that... A challenge I took because he donated the money of my children's maintenance... Now waiting to sell the house... Praying that the Lord helps me with that...
My Mother.
Mine too , it's terrible to try to live because of them when they continue to suck the life out of you be it thieving your money , they are thieves of your life
@ it’s tough, I do understand after all the years of being in that situation. Break free from the fear of loosing what is not good for you. Blessings and honesty, I send you a heart 💙 felt prayer. God be with you honey. Sincerely, Colleen
Mine too. I asked her who will take care of her 50 year old alcoholic son(brother). She replied that"You left me!) I got married and moved away. Had one child and another on the way. That spoiled her plan of me getting divorced and coming home to take care of him. She told me everything belongs to him including my doll collection ( she claimed they were hers. I guess these birthday gifts were meant for her!) What is an alcoholic man to do with them? Play with them! No sell them and everything else in the house behind my back and the other brother's. Lost many memories and keepsakes. I consider that as a price to pay for freedom and sanity. When he died, no body wanted to pay for his funeral. Not even his children! This was my mother's last dirty trick!
THE HAUNTING , THE HURTING WORDS RUNS LIKE A TOTAL DEFECT WASHINGMACHINE.
UNABLE TO STOP AND NEGLECT ...
ITS JUST SITTING THERE LIKE A NEEDLE IN YOUR HEART...
AND NOW ITS 12 YEARS ALLMOST AFTER SHE DIED..
BUT HER EVIL PROGRAMMING AND WORDS / DISGUST IS STIIL TORMENTING ME..
AM STILL ANGRY , BUT I TRY TO CONTROL THAT ANGER...
I CAN ONLY TRUST GOD...
NOT PEOPLE....
You are very right mine as turned me against his family
Oh yes!!!
My mother…
It is all true.
And much worse.
Mine is doing this right now. He died in April from his own doing
I had lost all the property from my narc parents.
For me all of the good ones are gone.
You nailed it.
This is really scary even after death already fed up in present life 😂
It can be a difficult time!
Yes...I had a chance to look at that written inheritance by my mother..she's still alive...I was chocked...even my spiritual teacher and psychic said..and you're her only daughter...and she does like this..? I couldn't understand ..but my first reaction was: she did this to control even after her Death. She stated something that my teacher said will be difficult to get even after her death...so many things hidden and rules..and big part according to her she wants for my children only for educational use when they adults...when I tried to confront her at a time...she first said..she'll change it...then became angry..trying to use it to manipulate ...I stopped all contact and don't respond when she mentions she's trying to hand it over to me..sometimes she transfers me money partially so that I answer I received..impossible to deal with...
Yes she made for me this power of attorney in case of her incapacity only..
Yes My ex husband recently deceased , haunts me.
You are describing what I saw
I didn't go to either of my parent's funerals, nor did I cry or have any emotions or care. Normally, when a psychopath dies, I'd feel peace, joy, safety, and RELIEF. But the only reason I don't feel full peace, joy, safety, and relief is because I still have psychopath siblings. They are still around and are able to cause anxiety (the panic attacks I've had because of it), turmoil, fear, and pure H3LL. (I only have one good sibling, and we stay in close contact.)
I wonder what happens after a psychopath dies. I wonder if they actually meet Jesus, who is Love, and discover Love for the first time in their life. I wonder if they find out how much of a loser they were, and realize how much goodness they missed out on, and regret it. Just my thoughts.
Its bad to say it but i always thought i wont see any hope in life while my father is still alive and persistent in his sins towards God. However he died and i never felt any relief, not emotional not physical. Actually last two years after his death has been a climax of desperation, anxiety financial and work and health problems, i used to get him in my dreams so often, feeling irritated or sad all the time, no time for rest. Not sure if his poor soul was able to find peace, I started praying for that snd he stopped coming into my dreams. It feels like his anger still surrounds me and brings problems into my life much of the time. Not sure if that is correct but i hope its just my paranoia
You may be dealing with generational curses but you don't have to suffer. God will remove anything tormenting you, just ask in Jesus name and it will be done.
Via their enablers! Scary!
Such narc ists misbehave even in dreams
My MoMster decided my every childhood misery would be the destiny of my elder years by making my sibling the trustee of my "Special NEEDS" inheritance if she ever dies...
My sisters…
EX Sister s
My parents did it they did not write the will properly and have started a family feud 😢
Keep a of incident involving a narcissist.
I'm now free from my narc partner with the help of*_Top_notech*
My in-laws were exactly like this
And this is why I don’t count on any inheritance.
Yeah don’t hold your breath it wouldn’t be a surprise right? He’s right - cruel even in their grave!
Narcissist in-laws prepare their children to harass you after they are gone
Truth
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My mother gave my half brothers who were not my
I saw the caption. Omg.
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My mother already told me I’m not in her will. But my sister & grandchildren are . She’s all about material items . Her husband passed away & set money aside for his funeral & tomb .. years later he still has no tomb .. my sister is waiting for her to die & inherit money . Our mother wants to be buried by her husband in their plot. I bet she gets cremated lol .
I can attest to that. I'm just glad I'm at the other side of the world, out of the bloody way. Pathetic old bag, my mother