How I Almost Fell For a Narcissist // The Nona Jones Show

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  • Опубликовано: 13 янв 2025

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  • @jdsutherland7695
    @jdsutherland7695 6 месяцев назад +25

    I married one. As the years went by, God started to open my eyes to the lies, lack of empathy, compassion, and' subtle ' abuse to rage. God revealed the damage he was doing to our now 15 yrs old daughter to get to me. God is a preserver and restorer!

  • @mmabathodorcasmakotanyane6454
    @mmabathodorcasmakotanyane6454 6 месяцев назад +23

    "I missed how I had imagined him to be...the person he wasn't is who I missed."
    That spoke volumes. I know the feeling so well. That's who they are. You will go crazy with them.

  • @toshastavern8191
    @toshastavern8191 6 месяцев назад +12

    The crazy thing about it, is all types of narcissists are interchangeable.

    • @mysweetlife388
      @mysweetlife388 6 месяцев назад +2

      That's what I was wondering. The narc I know seems to be a combo platter of crazy.

    • @niccivictorious5594
      @niccivictorious5594 6 месяцев назад +1

      Scary

  • @BETTERTIPSFORYOU
    @BETTERTIPSFORYOU 6 месяцев назад +13

    Lady Nona’s telling of her narcissistic boyfriend stabbed at me. I remember calling this dude over and over, waiting for him to reach out. I remember seeing him on the road as I was driving on campus, he looked at me and IGNORED me. I was waiting for him to stop and acknowledge me. He drove on. I could not understand what I did to this man to have him straight out ignore me!!!!
    This was decades ago and it’s clear in my head TODAY!!!
    This episode is further confirmation that we must believe GOD’s promises: ‘we are royalty. we are masterpieces.’ Once we walk in this, nothing or no one can topple us.
    Narcissists are bullies, mass shooters😢

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 6 месяцев назад

      They are demonized. Try not to take anything personally.

    • @BETTERTIPSFORYOU
      @BETTERTIPSFORYOU 6 месяцев назад

      @@danilaroche1156 NOW i don’t. But THEN I did.

  • @armelle08
    @armelle08 6 месяцев назад +3

    Jekyll and Hyde Personalities. You love the charming personality so much it's hard to leave but the bad personality eventually gets so bad you are trying to escape and hide. I moved out of state.

  • @zackeryjasmine
    @zackeryjasmine 6 месяцев назад +9

    This was so good! I wouldn't call my baby daddy is a narc but maybe there are some narc-like characteristics. He does a really good job at making everyone else the issue and never accountable for himself. When I asked for help paying childcare throughout the summer while I work, he asked me for sex in exchange for money, and I was asking him to support his child. When I said no, he flipped everything on me like I was wrong. I felt so degraded. He sent all kind of long text messages saying crazy stuff about me. I keep my distance from him because he's exhausting, and I don't like the person I become around him. It's easy because unfortunately, he doesn't care to see his daughter at all. He cares more about trying to sleep with me. I reject him and he insults me.

    • @NonaNotNora
      @NonaNotNora  6 месяцев назад +1

      So sorry you’re dealing with that. 🩷

  • @RosegoldC
    @RosegoldC 6 месяцев назад +12

    Whewww the description of the communal narcissist has me on the floor I felt like I was crazy for so long. Having to deal with one of those over the last 10 yrs

    • @NonaNotNora
      @NonaNotNora  6 месяцев назад +1

      So sorry you’ve had to deal with that. 🩷

  • @ashleynicolelatimore
    @ashleynicolelatimore 6 месяцев назад +12

    This is what my sister said: same spirit, different face.
    The same spirit can come back around through another person.
    The same spirit that can be in a family member can be in a romantic partner, coworker, “friend,” even a church leader,
    but praise God: we become wiser & get away from the people who attempt to steal our peace, our minds, & our destinies.
    Thanks for sharing, Nona.

  • @tamtamz8733
    @tamtamz8733 6 месяцев назад +4

    Nona, thank you for being so candid in sharing your experience. In my experience, it’s very hard to get over narcissists because they are usually handsome and charming. Their abuse is done “behind the scenes” while they play the charismatic role in public. And as you noted, you often long for the person they showed you 10% of the time. Wanting them to be that, but they really are not. It’s best to not get involved with them at all, so thank you for sharing some of the warning signs to spot them from the beginning. ❤

  • @aljehi
    @aljehi 6 месяцев назад +4

    Can definitely relate to your situation. He was a wolf in sheep's clothing. It was hard for me to reconcile the two different personalities. I'm happy you got out of that situation ❤

    • @reginag.a.4187
      @reginag.a.4187 4 месяца назад

      Two personalities. Split person. Sick spirit.

  • @jareya
    @jareya 6 месяцев назад +4

    Thanks for this video, it's so important to learn about narcissism. Dr Ramani's content was such a blessing to me at a time when I was dealing with three narcissists at work a few years ago - two bosses and someone who was reporting to me. She helped me understand what was going on and how to protect my mental health better.

  • @tamtambenson-berry5752
    @tamtambenson-berry5752 6 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you Nona! At 64 I am still learning about who I am. I’ve known God all my life but I NEED HELP!

  • @karadaniel6334
    @karadaniel6334 6 месяцев назад +5

    Narcissistic people DO treat wait staff and other people in public service nicely if they are trying to project that image. Be aware

  • @BH4H
    @BH4H 6 месяцев назад +2

    I appreciate You!💖 Thanks so much for sharing! You've already been granted favor by me because of your name which was my beloved mother's name whom I miss so deeply.....So it saddens me to hear that you suffered greatly at the hand of your mother.😥 My mother Nona, would have loved you so dearly and genuinely with an open heart and open home inviting you into our family indefinitely.☺ Sadly, she was also living under the hand of Narcissm from close people in her life which (I believe her lack of identifying it and knowing how to deal with it) contributed to her premature death and opened up Gates of Narcissim in my life. I wasn't aware of it then (Normalized Behavior) but definitely dealing with the effects of it now. God recently highlighted the need for me to return back to therapy to continue the work needed to assist with my healing. Thank You for being vulnerable enough to share your story to help us identfy the toxic behaviors which creates opportunity for us to seek healing. God Bless You!💖

  • @lisachaunceytullis8205
    @lisachaunceytullis8205 6 месяцев назад +2

    Pastor RC Blakes has a great book, christian based, to check out.
    Me, My, Mine is the title. Helped me so much after a 17 year narc/alcoholic relationship.

  • @AndreaPorterfield
    @AndreaPorterfield 6 месяцев назад +5

    OH MY GOODNESS
    I have experienced all of these things in so many relationships. There was a time I thought something was really wrong with me. The more I learn about this behavior the better I am doing with being able to recognize it and seeking God for wisdom on how to navigate it.
    Thank you for this. I really appreciate it.

  • @LaKymana
    @LaKymana 5 месяцев назад +1

    I definitely believe the mother wound contributes to partner and relationship choices.

  • @crystalgrant5360
    @crystalgrant5360 6 месяцев назад +5

    God has anointing you to bless several individuals and thanks 🙏🏽

  • @nancyschmitz4055
    @nancyschmitz4055 6 месяцев назад +1

    I had no idea there were different types of narcissist. I felt like my late husband was a narcissist, but would question it because he did't have "all" of the traits that I thought were narcissistic. Thank you Nona!!!!

  • @breaunarawls7555
    @breaunarawls7555 6 месяцев назад +3

    Me my WHOLE LIFE .
    Which equated me to moving through life not knowing me and being pushed and pulled by everyone in my life .
    I’m learning tho through GOD. Thank you Nona for being a lite in this silent/unspoken world

  • @AA-nl2ut
    @AA-nl2ut 3 месяца назад

    You are so beautiful Nona, with such soothing voice I will buy all your books because I can relate to you so much. The Lord is truly using you

  • @MrsCelinaDelacruz
    @MrsCelinaDelacruz 6 месяцев назад +2

    Love how you break it down and give tips on what to look out for so good. thank you for sharing ❤

  • @jamietucker345
    @jamietucker345 2 месяца назад

    This is so powerful and exactly what I needed today!

  • @DMGDwelling
    @DMGDwelling 6 месяцев назад +2

    Girl!! Testimonies throughout 🙏🏾🙌🏾

  • @geanabryant6638
    @geanabryant6638 5 месяцев назад

    Thank you for sharing this message, it has opened my eyes.

  • @Donchelle
    @Donchelle 6 месяцев назад

    I always enjoy listening to your life stories so much wisdom in them. Thank God for your strength to endure. To God be the Glory for his faithfulness in your life.

  • @aljehi
    @aljehi 6 месяцев назад

    Wow, what a way to bring it home at the end with that scripture. I amm actually meditating on that verse this week. Thanks for sharing your insights and experiences

  • @jsh3223
    @jsh3223 3 месяца назад

    Thank you as I have never had Anyone describe the communal narcissist! My childhood on steroids!

  • @Cali001
    @Cali001 6 месяцев назад +2

    #NarcFreeLoving #NoContact
    Delivered Healed Whole and now loving my Bold Life 🙏🏽🙌🏽🕊️

  • @chloelageaux769
    @chloelageaux769 6 месяцев назад

    This was wonderful!

  • @IvyChigalau
    @IvyChigalau 6 месяцев назад +1

    Wow am learning alote from this platform looking forward to another episode thank you so much woman of God am blessed by your words

    • @NonaNotNora
      @NonaNotNora  6 месяцев назад

      Glad to read that! Thank you for watching! 🩷

  • @ammcgowan
    @ammcgowan 6 месяцев назад

    This is soo very good!! I recognize the connections in several of my challenging relationships within my family. Hence, I love at a distance in love. Boundaries are soo very important! Best gift 🎁 💕 to myself!

  • @lexiefromvenus
    @lexiefromvenus 6 месяцев назад +4

    My boyfriend had an incredibly narcissistic and abusive friend who actually tried to manipulate him into breaking up with me. This friend didn’t want to meet me or get to know me yet talked badly about me anyways 🙄 thankfully, my bf cut her off and we’re happier than ever 💕

    • @NonaNotNora
      @NonaNotNora  6 месяцев назад

      Awesome! Sounds like a smart man! 🩷

  • @dtjisdivine
    @dtjisdivine 6 месяцев назад

    You explained this so well.

  • @preciousrushwaya4640
    @preciousrushwaya4640 6 месяцев назад +1

    This was so good Nona. Thank you for sharing.

  • @carlettejohnson2965
    @carlettejohnson2965 2 месяца назад

    I believe I was married to a narcissist for 5 years the soul tie is so hard to break God woke me up to what I was dealing with and awakening me ❤🙏🏽to my true identity

  • @BornToCreate38
    @BornToCreate38 6 месяцев назад

    Very enlightening video! Thank you for sharing! The most I’ve experienced this narcissistic personality trait is in church…

    • @NonaNotNora
      @NonaNotNora  6 месяцев назад

      Unfortunate, but not uncommon!

  • @maureenkirby2356
    @maureenkirby2356 6 месяцев назад

    You nailed it!

  • @danilaroche1156
    @danilaroche1156 4 месяца назад

    My parents, siblings and most family are narcs. I had to maintain distance or else I'd have lost my mind.

  • @deeliteful1brown593
    @deeliteful1brown593 2 месяца назад

    Dealing with a daughter who is a narcissist. It’s a struggle emotionally.

  • @LS-cr2ek
    @LS-cr2ek 6 месяцев назад +3

    Do you take my insurance? 😂

  • @monadeberry9060
    @monadeberry9060 6 месяцев назад

    Thanks for sharing, i experienced that for many many years, just came out a relationship in February with a narcissist

  • @LS-cr2ek
    @LS-cr2ek 6 месяцев назад

    This episode just hit two separate situations im going through right now

  • @RomonaFoster
    @RomonaFoster 6 месяцев назад +7

    I keep running into those men over the course of my life. The most recent being a Christian if you can imagine that. 🤦🏾‍♀️🙏🏾

    • @emilymorgan3364
      @emilymorgan3364 6 месяцев назад +2

      Same girl!! It’s insane

    • @RomonaFoster
      @RomonaFoster 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@emilymorgan3364 I don't know why it keeps happening when my parents were married for 50 years, went on dates, loved each other, etc. It is insane.

    • @NonaNotNora
      @NonaNotNora  6 месяцев назад +4

      Unfortunately they’re more common than you’d think!

    • @RomonaFoster
      @RomonaFoster 6 месяцев назад

      @@NonaNotNora , I see. that's why I'm done. 🙏🏾 Something is obviously in the bloodline that I don't see.

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 6 месяцев назад +3

      Just because someone claims to be Christian doesn't make it so. Even Jesus talks about this. A true Christian is humble and obeys the Lord.

  • @dorothywest2053
    @dorothywest2053 26 дней назад

    All four narcissist traits can be in one person. I experienced it.

  • @aminataossanatuconteh5089
    @aminataossanatuconteh5089 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you so much ma,very timely and definitely fr me.. I need your help..how do I get to talk to you one on one

  • @dorothywest2053
    @dorothywest2053 26 дней назад

    Sad to say, my daughter is a narcissist. Which means no daughter and now grandbabies relationship. I cry daily. Trauma one. I have more Trauma. My whole life is sad.

  • @wonderfully_made423
    @wonderfully_made423 6 месяцев назад +1

    Coming from someone who would encounter the same spirit in a different body, I am content just waiting on God for that person. However, I want to know if there is something in me that is attracting them to me. I have no problem recognizing the characteristics quickly and ending it. But why do I encounter them so much?

  • @danilaroche1156
    @danilaroche1156 4 месяца назад +1

    I suppose I was a bit of a narc before Christ rescued me. I had self hatred & treated people badly. I was oblivious. This narc stuff is spiritual. Demons obscure your thinking. Wreak havoc & use you to harm others. Read Ephesians 6:12.

  • @theultimatefoodie2666
    @theultimatefoodie2666 6 месяцев назад +3

    I married one & was married for 7 years! 😪😭

    • @NonaNotNora
      @NonaNotNora  6 месяцев назад +1

      Praying for peace 🩷

  • @LS-cr2ek
    @LS-cr2ek 6 месяцев назад

    Where do i find these other resources?

  • @EvolvingMama_
    @EvolvingMama_ 6 месяцев назад

    3:33 that part ‼️😩

  • @IamReginaGorman
    @IamReginaGorman 4 месяца назад

    This sound exactly like my mom and ex husband. That probably why they ended up together.

  • @LS-cr2ek
    @LS-cr2ek 6 месяцев назад

    Omg can you get a order of protection from these people?

    • @belinokidz9716
      @belinokidz9716 6 месяцев назад

      You can but it wont work, he will just break it .These people are really dangerous

  • @AA-nl2ut
    @AA-nl2ut 3 месяца назад

    Narcisisim is reallly the spirit of Jezebel but the world gave it a cute name lol

  • @veronicabell4120
    @veronicabell4120 6 месяцев назад

    My daughter feels like I owe Herat 47

  • @HisSunshine1983
    @HisSunshine1983 5 месяцев назад

  • @inspiringyoutobecompletely9948
    @inspiringyoutobecompletely9948 6 месяцев назад

    💯💯💯💯🙏🏽

  • @nyimbiri
    @nyimbiri 6 месяцев назад

    They are crazy ❤ they need God 🙏

  • @PeaceBeStill-l9i
    @PeaceBeStill-l9i 6 месяцев назад

    Myyyyyyyyy God smh

  • @IvyChigalau
    @IvyChigalau 6 месяцев назад

    Wow am learning alote from this platform looking forward to another episode thank you so much woman of God am blessed by your words