This podcast is a real treasure. Lots of people have podcasts, where they are just yapping about nonses without a real point, or there are podcasts where people without proper education are pretending to heal the world. And here you guys are, telling stories from your life wiht such a meaningful and unforced manner. Such a great time to listening it. Have a great day you, and everyone reading this.
The point made at 17:58 reminded me of a tumblr post I saw, where this person said they always used to get so frustrated driving behind people who were going soooo slow and taking corners wayy too slowly. Until they had to drive with a jar of flowers in the front seat, and they were the one taking corners absurdly slowly and holding everyone else back. They said now they assume every slow driver has a jar of flowers theyre trying to take care of XD
It's actualy funny. Yesterday I was listening to this podcast on Spotify while I was disassambling an IKEA warddrobe. I perfectly stayed calm during the whole process even when everything was going wrong. Later that day I went to work (I'm a male nurse that works in a hospital). During the briefing there was a lot of noise of other nurses and my brain lost its calm. My brain got overstimulated, I was on edge. One hour later one of my patients' situation got worse. I stayed calm and composed. I did everything in my power and ability to save his life. Which I did. I was able to stabilise him and get his parameters back to normal. I think it's remarkable how some "puny" things make me lose my calm, but other "life or death" situations, I take control. My co-workers often say that they, if there is an emergency, want me next to them just because i'm able to block the stress and transfer these calm vibes upon others
"Welp, its about that time."= "I'm leaving in 30 minutes" "Welp, I should be heading out."= "I'm leaving in 20 minutes" "Welp, I gotta get home"= "I'm leaving in 10 minutes" "Welp, it was good seeing ya."= "I'm leaving now"
SCE stands for Signal Conditioning Equipment. It translates raw sensor data to computer data. Switching to Aux (auxiliary) allowed the SCE to run in low voltage mode so that mission control could get accurate telemetry data.
Impulse: I can't remember the last time I lost my cool Me remembering that one naked and scared moment: "SKIZZ GET IN THE BOAT! I SAID GET IN THE BOAT!"
to Skizz: when ever you call a dr office or in a hospital. Anything medical. always get a name of who you talk to. that way if you speak to them again, and know it's a difficult person to deal with you can say " i need to speak to your supervisor, or someone else in the office"
This. It's always okay to ask for someone else. I switched specialists for a shoulder injury because the doc just wasn't listening, and he'd spend about two minutes in the room with me before simply recommending "more PT." This was despite my lack of progress over 3 months of PT. Turns out, I had a bone spur cutting into my tendon that he was dismissing as a "frozen shoulder." Second doctor immediately got an MRI because he suspected the spur and got confirmation right away. My only regret was not switching sooner. Always be an advocate for yourself and your loved ones. You're doing a great job protecting your daughter from obnoxious people who could hinder her recovery.
Also notify the surgeon/doctor you're there to see. They need to know if their staff is not providing good care because it will reflect poorly back on them and their practice.
My son was in a very serious car accident this past New Years. I had the opportunity to hear the 911 calls and there were about 5 of them. (cells phones are smaller and more prevalent now). One of the ladies who was in the vehicle that hit my son called 911 and was screaming, "oh my God we just hit him" over and over again to the point were the 911 operator was not able to get any information from her. One the other callers was very calm and matter of fact and gave all the details. I am sure that the paramedics and firefighters were very calm when they rolled up on to the scene and for that I am very grateful. It takes a very special kind of person who can answer the call and have to extricate a twenty-year old from a car using the jaws of life on a frigid New Years eve. I love your podcast and love your conversation about calm. I have used it to my advantage in many times in my life.
Skizz talking about the everyday calm vs the extreme situations calm is so relatable. I’ve only had to respond to danger a few times but have managed to keep a steady head and respond quickly, whereas in my everyday situations I’m sometimes too anxious to even decide what to eat. It’s very weird!
“I’ve probably been rude to people in the past, it would be foolish to think I haven’t” huh, I hadn’t thought about that before, I normally have very similar views on things when it comes to understanding I’m not a perfect person and giving people the benefit of the doubt, but I just hadn’t thought of that before, but I like it, I definitely can be a people pleaser at times and I have to balance people not having the same view of how exactly you treat others, and if someone is different than me that’s not necessarily a bad thing, but I also think just phrasing it in that way just really helps with the excepting of the idea that I’m not a perfect person and that’s ok.
Working in the medical field really tests how calm or not, you really are. When that Code alarm goes off and you’re the one responsible for removing family members from the room, you need to be urgently calm so they don’t panic and freak out! I remember the Challenger explosion like it was yesterday…Jan 28,1986. My daughter was 3 weeks old and we were napping. I woke up just as it exploded and was wondering what had happened…I cried all day. You guys are naturals at this podcast thing and touch so many lives! What a gift to us, all! 💙
I have this ability to remain totally calm in emergency situations, but the moment the crisis has past, I break! Ether, I start shaking uncontrollably, or I start crying. then everyone is like what is wrong with you? You were fine a minute ago.
im the same way except my breakdown sometimes come days, months, or even years later depending on what happened. i imagine its a sort of coping mechanism to help us survive in terrible situations. we bottle it up and wait til after things are safer before we're finally allowed to process whatever happened to us
I have a moment that I remained calm that I would like to share. I was at work, a tiny convenience store in a small town, and I was on break. I heard this thudding sound and then a yelp of pain. So I go to check it out. There was this kid maybe 18 that had crashed his skateboard and had dislocated his shoulder. By the time I got there there his brother and 3 other people were around him. Again very small community. But they were all just freaking out about him but no one was helping him. I calmly walked up told everyone to move out of my way and give him so room. He told me what had happened and that he had dislocated his shoulder before. I looked at his brother and told him to call his parents and the I looked at him and said. “I can reset it, if your okay with that” all the while I He is wriggling in pain. He agreed, so I set his arm in the right place and turn to say “you know this won’t be comfortable right.” His response was, and I’ll never forget this, “yeah I know do it anyway.” So I did the deed and reset his shoulder. The gasp of relief that came out of him was only drowned out by the gasp of horror from everyone else around us minus his brother who was on the phone with their dad. He calmly sat up moved his arm a bit and said that he felt so much better. I saw him again a monthish later and he, very happily, told me his shoulder was feeling a lot better and even his PT had noticed he was feeling better and he had more strength in his shoulder.
I like them because even though it feels really odd to hear them, it feels like we're being trusted with them. They have a pretty specific, at least semi, pg friendly image they've made for themselves and have to protect. In places like phasmo or that one m rated game, it's to be expected they'd be a little more open and relaxed around us, but the podcast? It's in this weird kind of in between space because they are still primarily known as MCtubers and kids still wander to the podcast so they still have to be careful. It felt pretty good to see them trust us and the warning they gave enough to just cut loose a bit!
I did not know about the SCE to AUX story but I did just watch Apollo 13 yesterday for the first time in a long time and the guy in charge of the group of people who helped solve the air filter problem gets called that in the control room when the contraption they built worked. I believe the IRL man was John Aaron and the man in the Apollo 13 movie is playing him, according to his WIKI he worked the Apollo 12 and 13 missions.
The way that you talk, Skizz, is so calming and intelligent that I take a lot of your advice into my day-to-day life, to my friends and family; thank you for being the amazing dudes you two are! ❤
My family is going through a lot right now. Ill mother in law, Brother in law diagnosed with stage 4 cancer, her dog just died. Extremely overwhelming. Right time for a moment to stop and find the calm to get through the storm. Thank you both for your ongoing brightness in darker times. Love you and appreciate you both
This is a powerful topic and life lesson. I work as a first responder, and trainer for rookies. Being calm is invaluable since most of the time we're on scene, calm has gone out the window for everyone else. Teaching the new guys/gals how to remain calm in the face of relative chaos can be the difference between saving a life or losing our own. Love you guys and the podcast!
About a year and a half ago, I broke my jaw. I've always been a pretty calm person, and i attribute part of that to my tendency to lean into anxiety and stress when it does arise so I can better understand it and resolve it. But the student nurse that helped me that day deserves all the praise. I had fainted chin first onto a hard marble floor, and when I woke up there was blood on the floor, on my glasses that had slid across the floor, and as I tried to speak my jaw crunched back into place and I spit out a bit of tooth. I remember the first thing I said was "oh, my tooth is broken." I fully expected that nurse to be freaking out. I was calm, but getting to the edge of my limits. If she hadn't been calm as well I would have broken and started freaking out. But she called the emt's, and helped me up to walk to a safe room to check me out. That nurse was absolutely able to imbue me with calm, and I still think of her to this day because she made a big difference in how I see that situation. It still sucked, and having a broken jaw has changed a few aspects of how I see myself, but that moment on the verge of breaking, but being shown calm, made a big difference.
It’s crazy every podcast Imp and Skizz tell us more about their lives and they are both just amazing people. I really hope the views pick up for Skizz he deserves this more than anyone he is such a great human! Time to rewatch all his videos multiple times now when they come out let’s get this man some more attention!
My flavor of ADHD, i am super calm during those emergency situations. The adrenaline slows my brain to just logical processing. Its all those small things that trigger my anxiety.
Impulse your jar analogy is really good except for when jars shatter they can't be repaired. You should try thinking of each person starting as a chunk of metal or rock, and life is a mason forging each person into a great sword, life will heat you up, hit you with a hammer and keep working on you, and some times when your hot and dipped in water, the sword shatters. But life always melts you down keeps working on you tell your sword is so strong that it never breaks from heat or damage
Being calm in stressful situations is crucial. I've practiced in my aviation program various simulated emergency scenarios and every CFI will tell you, calmness is key. The moment you panic is the moment you lose control of the aircraft.
I think we all wonder how we would be in the face of adversity. I personally never thought I would be a calm-ish person, just due to my levels on anxiety on things. However, many many years ago, when my now (as of the 28th) 12 year old was only 18 months, they went into a seizure. I just remember walking over to them, rolling them over, saying their name. And then calmly pulling out my phone to call 911. I also had a 4 year old who was witnessing this and I was in this position where I had to balance my seizing child, my other child, the phone call and myself. i will never ever forget that moment, it's ingrained in my head, but the amount of calm, when that moment hit even though you could prob see my heart pounding is also something I won't forget. I now work with kids, and know it will be fine if something happens, just deep breath in first. **Also, side note my youngest is all good. No long term affects and no more seizures. Loving the podcasts, and how we all can relate in some way or other. I am also more or less around your ages, so some of the topics can deff hit more. YAY for being old. Or was it more mature? Ya that's not it. lol.
Here’s not what to do. I have POTS, so if I stand up-especially quickly- I tend to get dizzy, lose my vision, hearing, and then in rare occasions, faint with violent shakes as my body gets my blood circulating again. A week ago now a particularly bad one happened when I was asked to help my older brother and mother with the microwave. I thought I was gonna be okay after a few seconds because the darkness typically goes away by then. Not at all, I lost my ability to perceive anything and I was out. I don’t remember, didn’t see, feel, or hear the following. I fell backwards with my eyes rolling back. I hit my back on our dinning room bench and was crumpled against it as I slid down. My mom sees me beginning to fall from 2 rooms away and bolts over to try to help me, because she thought she saw me slam my head against the bench. My brother was closer and jumped in to try to help too. However my mother and brother both have taken medical school of various levels with our mom being way above him, yet he thinks he knows everything (he’s almost 18.. so.. like usual lmao). So, they are fighting over my body trying to move me and not move me because they think I could be paralyzed or have my skull broken. My mom put a hand under my head and felt a large warm lump through all of my hair and panics thinking it’s my brain matter, it wasn’t it was just the knot of my headband but because I wore it all day it was warm. So she’s freaking out while they are still fighting over what to do as I am slowly waking up, can’t even see or hear and all I can ask is “What happened?” I was told that I fell and I responded immediately “No, I didn’t?” I don’t remember asking it or saying that. I don’t remember hearing anything until I could barely see our white ceiling. I remember having the mindset of “Cool, I’m laying down with my brother on my left, and Mom on my right and little brother staring at us with so much confusion and almost fear normal thing that is happening not even gonna question how I got here… wait, this isn’t normal. I fell and now my mom is yelling at me that I hit my head while my brothers are saying I didn’t. Yet, I don’t feel anything?” So I stayed mostly quiet as I returned to reality. I told them I was fine but she insisted that I wasn’t so I relaxed into her hand as she scolded me further until I could feel the back pain surfacing. I heard the word paralyzed thrown out and that my skull was busted so I had panic coming into to me but I was sure I was fine after a minute. I told them again that I was okay she felt the knot closer through my thick hair and sighed with relief so I sat up still shaky and a little dizzy still. My brother was pumped with the arrogance of being right that I didn’t hit my head and he throws out the comment “Well we know now that you’re not good in stressful situations.” With a chuckle towards my mom- (This woman is the strongest person I know and has carried our family single handily on her back through hell itself to keep us safe) They still won’t stop arguing about it every time it’s brought up. I know both sides like the back of my hand but they won’t hear each other and give them both space to work it out. I’m just worried the next time it inevitably happens (although I am taking precautionary measures to avoid it) that something bad will happen and they will make it worse because both of them are there. I am okay, my back bruised but it’s nothing that bad. I am just glad I didn’t have to see it. Thank you for reading this, and thank you for making this episode.
The power of calm is the whole reason why when you are trying to recall that thing in the moment and you just cannot grab it but 15mins later it pops into your head!
I’m an ER staff member, spent 7 years there. My own personal issues filled my bottle and I couldn’t stay calm anymore at work and had to leave. I really like the bottle analogy. No skizz plushie again this week 😢.
You know, as a nurse I recall early in career being a panic during emergencies and codes. But over time if you work in areas where it is a frequent thing it just becomes instinct. You just automatically start doing what's necessary like without thinking. It's been a benefit when my family has had emergencies, while freaking out about a loved one internally to still have that automatic -ok here is what we do mentality kick in. And Skizz- your gonna be fine! A hard thing when the fam is counting on you, I know, but we are all behind you!
I knew the reference for the hat, but didn't know all the details. Very cool. There are people like that medical scheduler everywhere. And having to pace and control yourself is so hard on those situations. But you're 1000% right that letting your emotions drive almost never help. There's a saying "slow is smooth, and smooth is fast". This is meant to refer to high pressure emergency situations, but applies to a lot of things, including emotional/social situations. That's not to say "walk don't run", just to know that rushing can cause mistakes and mistakes always slow you down.
I've had so many emergencies in my life and I am still learning to stay calm but alert. They range from cut fingers to death, so many different situations... the weirdest one was where I called my mum's boss "My mum isn't coming because I think she died". Like she was very dead, but my mind hadn't processed it yet. Woops!
The difference in control and bottling is how you let out your anger. Holding in anger will just cause pressure to build. To control your anger without bottling it up you need to learn to communicate your feelings of frustration. You can let it out by telling the person how you fell or ranting about it. But you have to let it out in a communicative way.
time for me to work on keeping cool, calm & collected in times of frustration ! thank you AGAIN for another inspiring and eye-opening podcast - you both are always extremely insightful and i admire it !!
Sadly, I had my stay/keep calm moment pretty early in my life when my dad passed away, I was 14 when the doctors asked the family what we should do. We only had 2 options 1) Amputation with only a 20% survival chance 2) Cut life support and let him go peacefully. My family had a split decision and I was the last one, obviously I wanted my dad to live, but I knew that he wouldn't like his life with no legs, so I had to make the decision to pull the plug. It's a horrible choice to make, and I wish no one ever has to go through what I did, but it was a moment that made me who I am today.
When I was in South Korea last year, I got extremely bad heatstroke (it was 45C or 113F), was on my own in a subway/metro, and I could not speak korean well. There was some chilean people nearby and I managed to keep myself calm enough to ask for their help in spanish (im fairly fluent). That pretty much saved my life and ive never really reflected on it! Loved the episode!
Just an idea If you two ever find yourselves in a position where either one or both of you cant make it, I think it would be really cool to have Lizzie, Cleo and Mrs Skizz for a: wanted to be a teacher, was a teacher and is a teacher podcast episode
34:40 I get exactly what Impluse is saying here. With my closest friends I always ask if they have ‘space’ so I can share what’s bothering me (not necessarily something they’ve done) without it weighing them down and making their day worse. If they say no, I don’t add that extra weight to their day. So I guess this fits with the bottle metaphor 🤔
The power of Calm, one of the 3 main keys to a healthy life I learned from Toriyama Sensei while growing up. Hearing these stories have helped in reinforcing that view. And I’m glad to know that just as I had Akira Toriyama as an inspiration and idol while growing up, the next generation has great people like you guys to look up to. Keep up the good work guys 😌.
the podcast is my favorite part of fridays! i always wake up looking forward to hearing stories and advice from you guys. thank you so much for what you do, even if i haven’t changed my life because of the podcast it’s just made friday mornings a little bit better! :)
Unfortunately, I have found that I am very calm when in a crisis. I say unfortunately because there have been crises. Additionally, when anyone needs to "vent" I seem to be the go to. I consider myself a sponge for others and their frustrations. I guess it's because I don't judge them.
Sponge, or sieve, 🤔 perhaps, addressing the things that get caught, that matter, letting the things that don’t matter flow through. I’m like that, too. ❤
in high school I was part of a creative writing program that involved a lot of very intense performance practice and I honestly credit that with my ability to stay calm in situations. Doing theater exercises and performance really builds your ability to react quickly and calmly to any situation. forget the words? a person heckles you in the audience? your scene partner improvises? it's all good if you have the right tool set. and those skills transfer over into real life when you find yourself in unexpected situations.
I was born in 1985 and I never heard of SCE to Aux. But I do know and appreciate the power of calm. It can really tick my wife off, but she wants to express and reciprocate high emotional states.
I don't always have the chance to sit for an hour or so to watch / listen to your podcasts, but every time that I do, man, my respect for both of you grows so much! Thanks for doing this. You two are my generation and you have so much lived wisdom that you are passing on to the younger generations. Thank you! So glad my kids found the Hermits a few years ago and introduced me to the group. So glad that you, Skizz and Impulse, are working together (again) doing what you are great at. Keep going!
Calm in moments like mentioned can be difficult, sometimes it is easier when it isn't something directly related to you, or your family. Your daughter with the issues of communication in NY, that was very personal for you and maintaining calm in that is difficult. The stranger on the street who is stabbed leans into not just calm but empathy. Being calm in itself is a skill, being mindful that you have something to pass onto others in a moment of crisis for them in that calm is entirely different. I was diagnosed with stage IV cancer in January, it is what it is. I'm doing all things the doctors want me to do, but sometimes my test results in the process aren't great. But I still go to work, I try to be as productive as I can, as CALM as I can be (especially working in IT with users). In this case, I don't know if it's really CALM or just stoicism. Thanks for the podcast guys, as always very grateful.
17:50 I think this is great advice for all of us - instead of assuming that someone is acting maliciously, assume that they are struggling. This mindset helps us to have a kinder heart and to have the capacity to act with calm and concern. It doesn't matter if they deserve it - it makes us feel better and act better ourselves.
I am obsessed with singing and musicals etc but I also have high functioning social anxiety which makes it really hard to be myself in front of anyone so I'm really working on being calm and confident and listening to both of your stories' that you tell encourages me even more to be my best self, thank you so much
Your bottle concept is so spot on it's almost scary. I uses to have a really good seal on my box [rather than a bottle] But ever since my friend passed away in 2017, the lid has been a lot looser. I find a lot more of my emotions tend to be closer to the surface than they used to be. It's both a good and bad thing I think. This podcast gave me a lot to be introspective on, and that's a good thing. Thank you both.
(Not quite as graphic, but still TW for blood) I'm a delivery driver and one time came across an older woman who had been taking a walk and fell backwards on the street. Her whole head was caked in blood and she had been crab-walking towards her house, clearly concussed. I had never seen something like that in person before but I was extremely calm when calling 911 and asking her questions, seeing if she was in shock, etc. Afterwards I was pretty shaken up but I was proud and surprised with myself for how well I handled it. I stayed with her until he ambulance arrived and a friend of hers showed up. I didn't see her again but the paramedics seemed to think she'd be alright. I'm so glad I was there, it was complete chance that I was on that street at all.
Skizzleman, when you go into the WOE room, I think of it as the WOW room. You are keeping balance in life, family, kid, friends, work. Sometimes it's chaotic, but to show it to us (even if you say "just, stuff happened"). It may be a woe for the day within your Hermitcraft projects, but you are a ROCKSTAR for what truly matters!
Oh Skizz, you just touched a raw nerve, but in a good way. I just learned the lesson about trusting someone, the wrong someone. And since then I have lost my calmness, the regrets and guilt have shrunk my bottle, more likey filled it up I guess. I am trying hard to release the negative energy about this mistake. I have learned from it and will continue to learn. I think I will have to listen to this podcast multiple times to process everything you and Impulse are saying.
The best thing about talking things out with a good therapist is that they can give a completely outside perspective on things. They have no personal stake in any of the issues you are dealing with. They have no experience with any of the people you talk about. It can be an especially helpful perspective for identifying problems that you or people in your life are blind to.
therapists are the best. its literally their job to be a non-judgmental person to vent to. i honesty think everyone should see a therapist, even if you dont have any specific mental health issue going on. life is hard and its important to confide your worries to friends, but if you find that the majority of your conversations with someone are about how stressful or miserable your life is currently then thats a problem. unless your friend happens to be a therapist, theyre almost certainly not emotionally equipped to deal with your issues, on top of their own, 100% of the time. if things are that rough for you, you need to find a trained professional to help you work through it or youre just gonna make your friend crash along with you. and even if your friend _is_ a licensed therapist, then you should at least be paying them for their time lol
1:04 man I remember when that other shuttle went down not too long ago. Craziest thing ever! I was in a hospital looking out the window with my newborn nephew in my arms when I look and see a fire ball in the air. Normally I'm such a science nerd I'd be eating my way through the glass to get a better look but for whatever reason, and probably because I had the bundle of joy in my arms, it completely zipped by my train of thought and I kept smiling at the baby like a frikin rocket thing didn't just blow up in my field of vision! Crazy stuff lol
I do not have the ability to stay calm in a crisis, but I can act and think level-headed whilst freaking out. I like to joke that you'll only see how affected I was AFTER the emergency is resolved. The first time I ever had a panic attack, I didn’t know what was happening. It was a normal day in choir warming up and suddenly my heart is racing, I’m shaking, can't breath, and tears were silently streaming down my face. My friend asked if I was ok, so I shook my head and told her to follow me. I walked up to the teacher to tell him that I was going to the nurse; I walked out before he could say anything or even write a note. By the time we got to the nurse's office, I couldn’t talk and my friend had to describe what happened with me nodding and shaking my head as needed. Then last year, I had a panic attack while trying to evacuate my class off the playground due to a police chase with an armed suspect in the area. Got everyone inside in less than a minute, including the student I had to carry because they refused to come off the playscape. The man was arrested with no injuries to any party, and thankfully the school was never his target.
One of my favorite quotes is "assume incompetents over malice, except when malice is proven. You will find malice rather hard to prove when a person does not know what wrong is. Teach them wrong first, then prove malice, and then realize that it never really mattered in the first place.
Thank you for this. I remember my kids either falling or hurting myself. I was always the one that stayed calm and focused to be able to assist them. I do remember having that freeze for a split second. Then springing into action. Think it helped my kids too as they saw me calm.
I needed this episode today. I have had a couple of rough moments at work recently (basketball coach and referee) in regards to first aid and how I've responded. Not to say I've responded poorly, but rather that I do need to draw on the power of calm more. Skizz, Impulse, I am growing to respect you both more and more with every podcast episode. Thank you gents.
Oh my god! I'm at the point with the astronauts and the wreckage and you mentioned the exhibit about things that were theirs and it reminded me of the book, "The Things They Carried." These stories you've shared are so good. Thank you for sharing.
I used to punch down on cutting boards to “reset”. not out of anger, frustration sure, but it was a way that helped me move forward through the peaks of a difficult shift. “Used to” is because the last time I did it I broke my hand and for the next two ish hours directed others on the line before going to the ER. Since then in training others I always include that it’s not a good idea to punch cutting boards.
This podcast is amazing. Skizz- calmness can be transfered over the phone. I have a story that is about exactly that. My grandad was in hospital due to hitting his side when he fell out of a bath and with dementia he couldn't articulate whether is was in pain etc.My nan was due to visit him when she got a phone call to say something had happened. My nan called me and said "He is gone" whilst on the verge of a panic attack. Just through talking to my nan in the space of 3 mins my nan went from nearly having a panic attack to being able to call my mum to say she was needed at the hospital calmly. I dont know how I would of reacted if I had thought "He is gone" was my grandad had died rather than he had gone on another wander (he was fond of doing that) which is what I thought had happened. My nan used to tell me that I really helped her that day by being able to bring her from the brink of a panic attack to calm enough to have a plan and put it in action. She said that how quickly I managed to calm her over the phone was the reason my mum was calm enough to drive 25mins to the hospital.
I always check RUclips on Friday to listen to music or something, but then I see this, and I listen to it and it makes my day go either from bad to neutral, neutral to good, or good to great. Unfortunately, I don't have time to listen to this three times on previously bad fridays.
I almost watched this video when It came out. And I didn't. I happened to wait untill now Saturday night. And I'm happy I did. As of right now as I'm listening to this, I'm fixing my refrigerator that when out today and spoiled everything I just bought for the family yesterday. This may seem like a small thing, but thank you guys for helping me with this little moment.
I never ever panic when there is a crisis, emergency, etc. I stay perfectly calm as if I am incapable of emotion. Once the situation has been resolved, I go off by myself somewhere and sob, literally cry so hard I can barely breathe. Typically, I'm not a person that cries, but once the crisis is over, it's like my body has to expel all emotion at one time. I blow my nose, wipe my eyes and go back in. I don't know if this is healthy or not, but it has been my way to handle things for over 50 years now. My sister is the same way. Although I am the eldest sister, if she is with me during a crisis, I tend to let her be the calm zombie and I'm allowed to worry a little until she tells me to "suck it up buttercup." lol When I was young (late teens, twenties), I let things trigger me easily. Not medical emergencies, but arguments with the (ex-)husband. During one argument, I got so angry I literally hit my fist on the table so hard I cracked my own wrist. It wasn't until I was mid- to late 30s that I finally got a grip and found my calm in those situations. I would tell my argument counter part that I was going for a walk and we could have a calm adult conversation when I came back. I had thankfully, eventually learned that you can NOT take back words said in anger even if you didn't mean them and that I could not think straight when I was seeing red making the situation worse, not better. I am so grateful for these podcasts. Sometimes you discuss lessons I have already learned through my own life, but the reminders are always good every single time. We are all human. Sometimes we need those bumper rails to keep us on track from time to time. Thank you both for everything you do. Know you are loved and appreciated. Love your faces. :)
I can definitely relate to the power of calm. I had an incident years ago where I was injured to the point of needing 7 stitches. When the initial injury occurred I was by myself, my mind went into a state of slow motion and hyper-awareness. Managed to turn the machine that injured me off, grabbed towels to apply pressure, phone someone else to drive me to the hospital, grab keys and wallet, lock the door, and run to meet the person driving me. All while in a calm super-focused state. That experience taught me that when something bad happens, I will be alright. Then once at the hospital everything went down the drain and I let myself break down 😆 you know, once I was in medically capable hands.
This Podcast is helping me get through school so much. I can relate to the bottling things up. I am constantly struggling around some not nice people and I just bottle it to keep from bursting on them. Thank you two for all that you guys do.
I have to thank you both. I have been struggling at work and having anxiety attacks on the daily. It’s definitely not as bad as the car crash. But I can definitely tell you to that your calm come through to the other side.
i honestly started watching these podcast because of the hermits and stuff but i ended up loving them... honestly truly good content, i genuinely couldnt believe there where actually that good
sometimes i have teachers (who talk too much and get off topic) who tell so many stories (that im not sure i believe)and its always surreal cuz how can someone have so many stories and know them in such detail. The dads are like those teachers and ill never get sick of them telling their thousands of stories
so re: training yourself to react differently in stressful situations: Dialectical Behavior Therapy can help with these sorts of things! It's essentially getting asked a lot of questions about what panic feels like and how you respond to situations, and running simulations in your head (with the proper guidance) so that when your brain DOES go into crisis mode, you're not just relying on the experience of the few times your life is on the line. It also involved taking inventory of the things and people you have around you to help IF the worst does happen. If you can find a therapist that's the right fit for you and you feel comfortable being vulnerable to, it can do wonders, even if the worst hasn't happened yet.
2:07 OMG I CANT BELIEVE YOU HAVE THAT HAT I’m like the biggest rocketry and space nut haha it’s so crazy always hearing people from your other interests talk about things you’re also interested in!!
I heard Skizz mention on stream that this video didn't perform well. Impulse, if you are reading this, ignore the metrics on this one. The work you guys do on this podcast is so impactful and so meaningful and so healing in more ways than you could ever know. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
I just read the Apollo 13 book so I got super excited when you flashed the SCE to Aux hat and I think I need it on a shirt now. I was an EMT for five years and another type of calm is dissociation. Life and death moments for people became somewhat routine for me in my life and a year in, I don’t think major trauma or resuscitations raised my heartbeat anymore. Of course that was pretty easy since I didn’t know my patients but even when a friend I was really calm. In any event, I’m super grateful for that experience it taught me a lot about dealing with sudden and high intensity situations.
Ya definitely know the power of claim, a few weeks ago. I got my hand pulled into equipment at work. Luckily, I just ended up with some broken fingers. When it happened, there was some panic from the people looking after at the start. I had to pull myself together enough to claim them and try and stop myself from going farther into shock.
Omg, I do not have this calm, but my father and uncles have it. The kind of "car crash calm" and ready to action in a second you talked about. That was really impressive to see them up and running before the car final crash. It happened so frequently because of the messed up road that they new just by the speed of the car approaching. The calm that saves lives.. You guys are incredible story tellers and this podcast was great as always!
Great episode gents, this was a really good conversation and a lot of people are likely to benefit from these stories. It gave me a good opportunity to reflect on the situations when I needed calm and how those played out.
As an adult recently diagnosed with aspergers I've always found it difficult when plans don't go exactly how I expected them, especially following a particularly difficult few years. Therapy, yoga and just trying to be kinder to myself has helped me to stop the rising panic and frustration, but it is still so hard sometimes. But I keep going and each time it gets easier. Not easy, but at least easier.
I really think that's a key point around all of this is learning. For learning from situations helps improve, such as getting a bigger bottle or a better release valve based on what is happening
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This podcast is a real treasure. Lots of people have podcasts, where they are just yapping about nonses without a real point, or there are podcasts where people without proper education are pretending to heal the world. And here you guys are, telling stories from your life wiht such a meaningful and unforced manner. Such a great time to listening it. Have a great day you, and everyone reading this.
❤ Thanks. And you, too!
Y'all are just dropping the craziest dad lore in this podcast
Yeh, lol, it's like they are the entire internets dads
The point made at 17:58 reminded me of a tumblr post I saw, where this person said they always used to get so frustrated driving behind people who were going soooo slow and taking corners wayy too slowly.
Until they had to drive with a jar of flowers in the front seat, and they were the one taking corners absurdly slowly and holding everyone else back.
They said now they assume every slow driver has a jar of flowers theyre trying to take care of XD
same! that's such a good post
It’s seriously underrated how great of a storyteller these two are
Yeah, especially Skizz
It's actualy funny. Yesterday I was listening to this podcast on Spotify while I was disassambling an IKEA warddrobe. I perfectly stayed calm during the whole process even when everything was going wrong.
Later that day I went to work (I'm a male nurse that works in a hospital). During the briefing there was a lot of noise of other nurses and my brain lost its calm. My brain got overstimulated, I was on edge. One hour later one of my patients' situation got worse. I stayed calm and composed. I did everything in my power and ability to save his life. Which I did. I was able to stabilise him and get his parameters back to normal.
I think it's remarkable how some "puny" things make me lose my calm, but other "life or death" situations, I take control. My co-workers often say that they, if there is an emergency, want me next to them just because i'm able to block the stress and transfer these calm vibes upon others
“It’s one of those goodbyes where you’re leaving for an hour.” Average goodbye in the mid west
"Welp, its about that time."= "I'm leaving in 30 minutes"
"Welp, I should be heading out."= "I'm leaving in 20 minutes"
"Welp, I gotta get home"= "I'm leaving in 10 minutes"
"Welp, it was good seeing ya."= "I'm leaving now"
@@PartialDemonexactly 😂😂
It’s the same way in the South
SCE stands for Signal Conditioning Equipment. It translates raw sensor data to computer data. Switching to Aux (auxiliary) allowed the SCE to run in low voltage mode so that mission control could get accurate telemetry data.
I thought it was Electronics (?)
Impulse: I can't remember the last time I lost my cool
Me remembering that one naked and scared moment: "SKIZZ GET IN THE BOAT! I SAID GET IN THE BOAT!"
my favorite Naked and Scared moment, gosh I miss the series, I hope they make one again now that Skizz is full time!
a rewatch cure against any low spirit moment. Epic.
On the stream where he did cubs labrynth, he lost his cool on a discord impersonator lol
YES!!! 😂
did anyone else read the caps in impulses voice😂
My physics teacher randomly told the class the SCE to aux story once.
to Skizz: when ever you call a dr office or in a hospital. Anything medical. always get a name of who you talk to. that way if you speak to them again, and know it's a difficult person to deal with you can say " i need to speak to your supervisor, or someone else in the office"
This. It's always okay to ask for someone else. I switched specialists for a shoulder injury because the doc just wasn't listening, and he'd spend about two minutes in the room with me before simply recommending "more PT." This was despite my lack of progress over 3 months of PT. Turns out, I had a bone spur cutting into my tendon that he was dismissing as a "frozen shoulder." Second doctor immediately got an MRI because he suspected the spur and got confirmation right away. My only regret was not switching sooner.
Always be an advocate for yourself and your loved ones. You're doing a great job protecting your daughter from obnoxious people who could hinder her recovery.
This is something i didnt know you could do 😅
Also notify the surgeon/doctor you're there to see. They need to know if their staff is not providing good care because it will reflect poorly back on them and their practice.
26:39 "I am the furthest thing from not flawed" you are flawlessn't
My son was in a very serious car accident this past New Years. I had the opportunity to hear the 911 calls and there were about 5 of them. (cells phones are smaller and more prevalent now). One of the ladies who was in the vehicle that hit my son called 911 and was screaming, "oh my God we just hit him" over and over again to the point were the 911 operator was not able to get any information from her. One the other callers was very calm and matter of fact and gave all the details. I am sure that the paramedics and firefighters were very calm when they rolled up on to the scene and for that I am very grateful. It takes a very special kind of person who can answer the call and have to extricate a twenty-year old from a car using the jaws of life on a frigid New Years eve. I love your podcast and love your conversation about calm. I have used it to my advantage in many times in my life.
Skizz talking about the everyday calm vs the extreme situations calm is so relatable. I’ve only had to respond to danger a few times but have managed to keep a steady head and respond quickly, whereas in my everyday situations I’m sometimes too anxious to even decide what to eat. It’s very weird!
“I’ve probably been rude to people in the past, it would be foolish to think I haven’t” huh, I hadn’t thought about that before, I normally have very similar views on things when it comes to understanding I’m not a perfect person and giving people the benefit of the doubt, but I just hadn’t thought of that before, but I like it, I definitely can be a people pleaser at times and I have to balance people not having the same view of how exactly you treat others, and if someone is different than me that’s not necessarily a bad thing, but I also think just phrasing it in that way just really helps with the excepting of the idea that I’m not a perfect person and that’s ok.
That's called "Emotional Clarity", and your Sister definitely has it.
Working in the medical field really tests how calm or not, you really are. When that Code alarm goes off and you’re the one responsible for removing family members from the room, you need to be urgently calm so they don’t panic and freak out! I remember the Challenger explosion like it was yesterday…Jan 28,1986. My daughter was 3 weeks old and we were napping. I woke up just as it exploded and was wondering what had happened…I cried all day. You guys are naturals at this podcast thing and touch so many lives! What a gift to us, all! 💙
I have this ability to remain totally calm in emergency situations, but the moment the crisis has past, I break! Ether, I start shaking uncontrollably, or I start crying. then everyone is like what is wrong with you? You were fine a minute ago.
im the same way except my breakdown sometimes come days, months, or even years later depending on what happened. i imagine its a sort of coping mechanism to help us survive in terrible situations. we bottle it up and wait til after things are safer before we're finally allowed to process whatever happened to us
same
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It's like the mind knows when you're no longer in danger and can safely let out all the frantic thoughts and emotions.
coming down from adrenaline
I have a moment that I remained calm that I would like to share.
I was at work, a tiny convenience store in a small town, and I was on break. I heard this thudding sound and then a yelp of pain. So I go to check it out. There was this kid maybe 18 that had crashed his skateboard and had dislocated his shoulder. By the time I got there there his brother and 3 other people were around him. Again very small community. But they were all just freaking out about him but no one was helping him. I calmly walked up told everyone to move out of my way and give him so room. He told me what had happened and that he had dislocated his shoulder before. I looked at his brother and told him to call his parents and the I looked at him and said. “I can reset it, if your okay with that” all the while I
He is wriggling in pain. He agreed, so I set his arm in the right place and turn to say “you know this won’t be comfortable right.” His response was, and I’ll never forget this, “yeah I know do it anyway.” So I did the deed and reset his shoulder. The gasp of relief that came out of him was only drowned out by the gasp of horror from everyone else around us minus his brother who was on the phone with their dad. He calmly sat up moved his arm a bit and said that he felt so much better.
I saw him again a monthish later and he, very happily, told me his shoulder was feeling a lot better and even his PT had noticed he was feeling better and he had more strength in his shoulder.
I love the uncensored swears
I don't.
whyyyyyyyyyyyyy!
@@estherclawson6876 Tough.
@@estherclawson6876why so sensitive
I like them because even though it feels really odd to hear them, it feels like we're being trusted with them. They have a pretty specific, at least semi, pg friendly image they've made for themselves and have to protect. In places like phasmo or that one m rated game, it's to be expected they'd be a little more open and relaxed around us, but the podcast? It's in this weird kind of in between space because they are still primarily known as MCtubers and kids still wander to the podcast so they still have to be careful.
It felt pretty good to see them trust us and the warning they gave enough to just cut loose a bit!
I did not know about the SCE to AUX story but I did just watch Apollo 13 yesterday for the first time in a long time and the guy in charge of the group of people who helped solve the air filter problem gets called that in the control room when the contraption they built worked. I believe the IRL man was John Aaron and the man in the Apollo 13 movie is playing him, according to his WIKI he worked the Apollo 12 and 13 missions.
The way that you talk, Skizz, is so calming and intelligent that I take a lot of your advice into my day-to-day life, to my friends and family; thank you for being the amazing dudes you two are! ❤
My family is going through a lot right now. Ill mother in law, Brother in law diagnosed with stage 4 cancer, her dog just died. Extremely overwhelming. Right time for a moment to stop and find the calm to get through the storm. Thank you both for your ongoing brightness in darker times. Love you and appreciate you both
I wish you and your family the best through this difficult time, and may your dog rest in peace.
@@poypleyoshi Thank you very much for your kind words. They are appreciated
This is a powerful topic and life lesson. I work as a first responder, and trainer for rookies. Being calm is invaluable since most of the time we're on scene, calm has gone out the window for everyone else. Teaching the new guys/gals how to remain calm in the face of relative chaos can be the difference between saving a life or losing our own. Love you guys and the podcast!
Thank you for your invaluable service. God bless
About a year and a half ago, I broke my jaw. I've always been a pretty calm person, and i attribute part of that to my tendency to lean into anxiety and stress when it does arise so I can better understand it and resolve it. But the student nurse that helped me that day deserves all the praise. I had fainted chin first onto a hard marble floor, and when I woke up there was blood on the floor, on my glasses that had slid across the floor, and as I tried to speak my jaw crunched back into place and I spit out a bit of tooth. I remember the first thing I said was "oh, my tooth is broken."
I fully expected that nurse to be freaking out. I was calm, but getting to the edge of my limits. If she hadn't been calm as well I would have broken and started freaking out. But she called the emt's, and helped me up to walk to a safe room to check me out. That nurse was absolutely able to imbue me with calm, and I still think of her to this day because she made a big difference in how I see that situation.
It still sucked, and having a broken jaw has changed a few aspects of how I see myself, but that moment on the verge of breaking, but being shown calm, made a big difference.
It’s crazy every podcast Imp and Skizz tell us more about their lives and they are both just amazing people. I really hope the views pick up for Skizz he deserves this more than anyone he is such a great human! Time to rewatch all his videos multiple times now when they come out let’s get this man some more attention!
My flavor of ADHD, i am super calm during those emergency situations. The adrenaline slows my brain to just logical processing. Its all those small things that trigger my anxiety.
Everyday i hope and pray that iskall will come on the podcast oneday
Loved this episode
Impulse your jar analogy is really good except for when jars shatter they can't be repaired.
You should try thinking of each person starting as a chunk of metal or rock, and life is a mason forging each person into a great sword, life will heat you up, hit you with a hammer and keep working on you, and some times when your hot and dipped in water, the sword shatters. But life always melts you down keeps working on you tell your sword is so strong that it never breaks from heat or damage
This was actually super informative about healthy friendships too! Great podcast!
Being calm in stressful situations is crucial. I've practiced in my aviation program various simulated emergency scenarios and every CFI will tell you, calmness is key. The moment you panic is the moment you lose control of the aircraft.
Dude the pod this week HIT on so many levels, thanks for always being so earnest in your story telling m'dudes.
I think we all wonder how we would be in the face of adversity. I personally never thought I would be a calm-ish person, just due to my levels on anxiety on things. However, many many years ago, when my now (as of the 28th) 12 year old was only 18 months, they went into a seizure. I just remember walking over to them, rolling them over, saying their name. And then calmly pulling out my phone to call 911. I also had a 4 year old who was witnessing this and I was in this position where I had to balance my seizing child, my other child, the phone call and myself. i will never ever forget that moment, it's ingrained in my head, but the amount of calm, when that moment hit even though you could prob see my heart pounding is also something I won't forget. I now work with kids, and know it will be fine if something happens, just deep breath in first.
**Also, side note my youngest is all good. No long term affects and no more seizures.
Loving the podcasts, and how we all can relate in some way or other. I am also more or less around your ages, so some of the topics can deff hit more. YAY for being old. Or was it more mature? Ya that's not it. lol.
Kenedy space center is awesome. My wife and I saw that wreckage. Its very emotional.
Here’s not what to do.
I have POTS, so if I stand up-especially quickly- I tend to get dizzy, lose my vision, hearing, and then in rare occasions, faint with violent shakes as my body gets my blood circulating again.
A week ago now a particularly bad one happened when I was asked to help my older brother and mother with the microwave. I thought I was gonna be okay after a few seconds because the darkness typically goes away by then.
Not at all, I lost my ability to perceive anything and I was out. I don’t remember, didn’t see, feel, or hear the following. I fell backwards with my eyes rolling back. I hit my back on our dinning room bench and was crumpled against it as I slid down. My mom sees me beginning to fall from 2 rooms away and bolts over to try to help me, because she thought she saw me slam my head against the bench. My brother was closer and jumped in to try to help too. However my mother and brother both have taken medical school of various levels with our mom being way above him, yet he thinks he knows everything (he’s almost 18.. so.. like usual lmao). So, they are fighting over my body trying to move me and not move me because they think I could be paralyzed or have my skull broken. My mom put a hand under my head and felt a large warm lump through all of my hair and panics thinking it’s my brain matter, it wasn’t it was just the knot of my headband but because I wore it all day it was warm.
So she’s freaking out while they are still fighting over what to do as I am slowly waking up, can’t even see or hear and all I can ask is “What happened?” I was told that I fell and I responded immediately “No, I didn’t?” I don’t remember asking it or saying that. I don’t remember hearing anything until I could barely see our white ceiling. I remember having the mindset of “Cool, I’m laying down with my brother on my left, and Mom on my right and little brother staring at us with so much confusion and almost fear normal thing that is happening not even gonna question how I got here… wait, this isn’t normal. I fell and now my mom is yelling at me that I hit my head while my brothers are saying I didn’t. Yet, I don’t feel anything?” So I stayed mostly quiet as I returned to reality.
I told them I was fine but she insisted that I wasn’t so I relaxed into her hand as she scolded me further until I could feel the back pain surfacing. I heard the word paralyzed thrown out and that my skull was busted so I had panic coming into to me but I was sure I was fine after a minute. I told them again that I was okay she felt the knot closer through my thick hair and sighed with relief so I sat up still shaky and a little dizzy still. My brother was pumped with the arrogance of being right that I didn’t hit my head and he throws out the comment “Well we know now that you’re not good in stressful situations.” With a chuckle towards my mom- (This woman is the strongest person I know and has carried our family single handily on her back through hell itself to keep us safe)
They still won’t stop arguing about it every time it’s brought up. I know both sides like the back of my hand but they won’t hear each other and give them both space to work it out. I’m just worried the next time it inevitably happens (although I am taking precautionary measures to avoid it) that something bad will happen and they will make it worse because both of them are there.
I am okay, my back bruised but it’s nothing that bad. I am just glad I didn’t have to see it. Thank you for reading this, and thank you for making this episode.
The power of calm is the whole reason why when you are trying to recall that thing in the moment and you just cannot grab it but 15mins later it pops into your head!
I’m an ER staff member, spent 7 years there. My own personal issues filled my bottle and I couldn’t stay calm anymore at work and had to leave. I really like the bottle analogy. No skizz plushie again this week 😢.
You know, as a nurse I recall early in career being a panic during emergencies and codes. But over time if you work in areas where it is a frequent thing it just becomes instinct. You just automatically start doing what's necessary like without thinking. It's been a benefit when my family has had emergencies, while freaking out about a loved one internally to still have that automatic -ok here is what we do mentality kick in. And Skizz- your gonna be fine! A hard thing when the fam is counting on you, I know, but we are all behind you!
I knew the reference for the hat, but didn't know all the details. Very cool.
There are people like that medical scheduler everywhere. And having to pace and control yourself is so hard on those situations. But you're 1000% right that letting your emotions drive almost never help. There's a saying "slow is smooth, and smooth is fast". This is meant to refer to high pressure emergency situations, but applies to a lot of things, including emotional/social situations. That's not to say "walk don't run", just to know that rushing can cause mistakes and mistakes always slow you down.
I've had so many emergencies in my life and I am still learning to stay calm but alert. They range from cut fingers to death, so many different situations... the weirdest one was where I called my mum's boss "My mum isn't coming because I think she died". Like she was very dead, but my mind hadn't processed it yet. Woops!
Guys, this is such a powerful episode. Thank you so much
The difference in control and bottling is how you let out your anger. Holding in anger will just cause pressure to build.
To control your anger without bottling it up you need to learn to communicate your feelings of frustration. You can let it out by telling the person how you fell or ranting about it. But you have to let it out in a communicative way.
14:12 “you don’t have to be okay with it”
That, for some reason, just flipped a giant switch in my head
time for me to work on keeping cool, calm & collected in times of frustration ! thank you AGAIN for another inspiring and eye-opening podcast - you both are always extremely insightful and i admire it !!
If you want to slow time during stress, Impulse, meditation will definitely help. Remember, when all else is chaos, you can still control your breath
Sadly, I had my stay/keep calm moment pretty early in my life when my dad passed away, I was 14 when the doctors asked the family what we should do. We only had 2 options
1) Amputation with only a 20% survival chance
2) Cut life support and let him go peacefully.
My family had a split decision and I was the last one, obviously I wanted my dad to live, but I knew that he wouldn't like his life with no legs, so I had to make the decision to pull the plug. It's a horrible choice to make, and I wish no one ever has to go through what I did, but it was a moment that made me who I am today.
When I was in South Korea last year, I got extremely bad heatstroke (it was 45C or 113F), was on my own in a subway/metro, and I could not speak korean well. There was some chilean people nearby and I managed to keep myself calm enough to ask for their help in spanish (im fairly fluent). That pretty much saved my life and ive never really reflected on it! Loved the episode!
Just an idea
If you two ever find yourselves in a position where either one or both of you cant make it, I think it would be really cool to have Lizzie, Cleo and Mrs Skizz for a: wanted to be a teacher, was a teacher and is a teacher podcast episode
omg this is such a good idea, i recall them wanting to do an episode of teaching with skizzles wife
Agreed.
34:40 I get exactly what Impluse is saying here. With my closest friends I always ask if they have ‘space’ so I can share what’s bothering me (not necessarily something they’ve done) without it weighing them down and making their day worse. If they say no, I don’t add that extra weight to their day.
So I guess this fits with the bottle metaphor 🤔
Imp and Skizz in the morning❤
Best way to start the Day!
The power of Calm, one of the 3 main keys to a healthy life I learned from Toriyama Sensei while growing up.
Hearing these stories have helped in reinforcing that view. And I’m glad to know that just as I had Akira Toriyama as an inspiration and idol while growing up, the next generation has great people like you guys to look up to.
Keep up the good work guys 😌.
the podcast is my favorite part of fridays! i always wake up looking forward to hearing stories and advice from you guys. thank you so much for what you do, even if i haven’t changed my life because of the podcast it’s just made friday mornings a little bit better! :)
Unfortunately, I have found that I am very calm when in a crisis. I say unfortunately because there have been crises. Additionally, when anyone needs to "vent" I seem to be the go to. I consider myself a sponge for others and their frustrations. I guess it's because I don't judge them.
Sponge, or sieve, 🤔 perhaps, addressing the things that get caught, that matter, letting the things that don’t matter flow through. I’m like that, too. ❤
in high school I was part of a creative writing program that involved a lot of very intense performance practice and I honestly credit that with my ability to stay calm in situations. Doing theater exercises and performance really builds your ability to react quickly and calmly to any situation. forget the words? a person heckles you in the audience? your scene partner improvises? it's all good if you have the right tool set. and those skills transfer over into real life when you find yourself in unexpected situations.
I was born in 1985 and I never heard of SCE to Aux. But I do know and appreciate the power of calm. It can really tick my wife off, but she wants to express and reciprocate high emotional states.
I don't always have the chance to sit for an hour or so to watch / listen to your podcasts, but every time that I do, man, my respect for both of you grows so much! Thanks for doing this. You two are my generation and you have so much lived wisdom that you are passing on to the younger generations. Thank you! So glad my kids found the Hermits a few years ago and introduced me to the group. So glad that you, Skizz and Impulse, are working together (again) doing what you are great at. Keep going!
Calm in moments like mentioned can be difficult, sometimes it is easier when it isn't something directly related to you, or your family. Your daughter with the issues of communication in NY, that was very personal for you and maintaining calm in that is difficult. The stranger on the street who is stabbed leans into not just calm but empathy. Being calm in itself is a skill, being mindful that you have something to pass onto others in a moment of crisis for them in that calm is entirely different.
I was diagnosed with stage IV cancer in January, it is what it is. I'm doing all things the doctors want me to do, but sometimes my test results in the process aren't great. But I still go to work, I try to be as productive as I can, as CALM as I can be (especially working in IT with users). In this case, I don't know if it's really CALM or just stoicism.
Thanks for the podcast guys, as always very grateful.
❤ Hugs
Wish you the best through this difficult time, I believe in you.
17:50 I think this is great advice for all of us - instead of assuming that someone is acting maliciously, assume that they are struggling. This mindset helps us to have a kinder heart and to have the capacity to act with calm and concern. It doesn't matter if they deserve it - it makes us feel better and act better ourselves.
I am obsessed with singing and musicals etc but I also have high functioning social anxiety which makes it really hard to be myself in front of anyone so I'm really working on being calm and confident and listening to both of your stories' that you tell encourages me even more to be my best self, thank you so much
Your bottle concept is so spot on it's almost scary. I uses to have a really good seal on my box [rather than a bottle] But ever since my friend passed away in 2017, the lid has been a lot looser. I find a lot more of my emotions tend to be closer to the surface than they used to be. It's both a good and bad thing I think. This podcast gave me a lot to be introspective on, and that's a good thing. Thank you both.
(Not quite as graphic, but still TW for blood) I'm a delivery driver and one time came across an older woman who had been taking a walk and fell backwards on the street. Her whole head was caked in blood and she had been crab-walking towards her house, clearly concussed. I had never seen something like that in person before but I was extremely calm when calling 911 and asking her questions, seeing if she was in shock, etc. Afterwards I was pretty shaken up but I was proud and surprised with myself for how well I handled it. I stayed with her until he ambulance arrived and a friend of hers showed up. I didn't see her again but the paramedics seemed to think she'd be alright. I'm so glad I was there, it was complete chance that I was on that street at all.
Skizzleman, when you go into the WOE room, I think of it as the WOW room. You are keeping balance in life, family, kid, friends, work. Sometimes it's chaotic, but to show it to us (even if you say "just, stuff happened"). It may be a woe for the day within your Hermitcraft projects, but you are a ROCKSTAR for what truly matters!
Oh Skizz, you just touched a raw nerve, but in a good way. I just learned the lesson about trusting someone, the wrong someone. And since then I have lost my calmness, the regrets and guilt have shrunk my bottle, more likey filled it up I guess. I am trying hard to release the negative energy about this mistake. I have learned from it and will continue to learn.
I think I will have to listen to this podcast multiple times to process everything you and Impulse are saying.
The best thing about talking things out with a good therapist is that they can give a completely outside perspective on things. They have no personal stake in any of the issues you are dealing with. They have no experience with any of the people you talk about. It can be an especially helpful perspective for identifying problems that you or people in your life are blind to.
therapists are the best. its literally their job to be a non-judgmental person to vent to. i honesty think everyone should see a therapist, even if you dont have any specific mental health issue going on. life is hard and its important to confide your worries to friends, but if you find that the majority of your conversations with someone are about how stressful or miserable your life is currently then thats a problem. unless your friend happens to be a therapist, theyre almost certainly not emotionally equipped to deal with your issues, on top of their own, 100% of the time. if things are that rough for you, you need to find a trained professional to help you work through it or youre just gonna make your friend crash along with you. and even if your friend _is_ a licensed therapist, then you should at least be paying them for their time lol
I 100% agree and I wish mental health care could be destigmatized , accessible, and affordable for everyone.
1:04 man I remember when that other shuttle went down not too long ago. Craziest thing ever! I was in a hospital looking out the window with my newborn nephew in my arms when I look and see a fire ball in the air. Normally I'm such a science nerd I'd be eating my way through the glass to get a better look but for whatever reason, and probably because I had the bundle of joy in my arms, it completely zipped by my train of thought and I kept smiling at the baby like a frikin rocket thing didn't just blow up in my field of vision! Crazy stuff lol
I do not have the ability to stay calm in a crisis, but I can act and think level-headed whilst freaking out. I like to joke that you'll only see how affected I was AFTER the emergency is resolved. The first time I ever had a panic attack, I didn’t know what was happening. It was a normal day in choir warming up and suddenly my heart is racing, I’m shaking, can't breath, and tears were silently streaming down my face. My friend asked if I was ok, so I shook my head and told her to follow me. I walked up to the teacher to tell him that I was going to the nurse; I walked out before he could say anything or even write a note. By the time we got to the nurse's office, I couldn’t talk and my friend had to describe what happened with me nodding and shaking my head as needed.
Then last year, I had a panic attack while trying to evacuate my class off the playground due to a police chase with an armed suspect in the area. Got everyone inside in less than a minute, including the student I had to carry because they refused to come off the playscape. The man was arrested with no injuries to any party, and thankfully the school was never his target.
One of my favorite quotes is "assume incompetents over malice, except when malice is proven. You will find malice rather hard to prove when a person does not know what wrong is. Teach them wrong first, then prove malice, and then realize that it never really mattered in the first place.
I've seen them all, this pod was the best!
Thank you for this. I remember my kids either falling or hurting myself. I was always the one that stayed calm and focused to be able to assist them. I do remember having that freeze for a split second. Then springing into action. Think it helped my kids too as they saw me calm.
I needed this episode today. I have had a couple of rough moments at work recently (basketball coach and referee) in regards to first aid and how I've responded. Not to say I've responded poorly, but rather that I do need to draw on the power of calm more. Skizz, Impulse, I am growing to respect you both more and more with every podcast episode. Thank you gents.
Oh my god! I'm at the point with the astronauts and the wreckage and you mentioned the exhibit about things that were theirs and it reminded me of the book, "The Things They Carried." These stories you've shared are so good. Thank you for sharing.
I used to punch down on cutting boards to “reset”. not out of anger, frustration sure, but it was a way that helped me move forward through the peaks of a difficult shift. “Used to” is because the last time I did it I broke my hand and for the next two ish hours directed others on the line before going to the ER.
Since then in training others I always include that it’s not a good idea to punch cutting boards.
This podcast is amazing. Skizz- calmness can be transfered over the phone. I have a story that is about exactly that. My grandad was in hospital due to hitting his side when he fell out of a bath and with dementia he couldn't articulate whether is was in pain etc.My nan was due to visit him when she got a phone call to say something had happened. My nan called me and said "He is gone" whilst on the verge of a panic attack. Just through talking to my nan in the space of 3 mins my nan went from nearly having a panic attack to being able to call my mum to say she was needed at the hospital calmly. I dont know how I would of reacted if I had thought "He is gone" was my grandad had died rather than he had gone on another wander (he was fond of doing that) which is what I thought had happened. My nan used to tell me that I really helped her that day by being able to bring her from the brink of a panic attack to calm enough to have a plan and put it in action. She said that how quickly I managed to calm her over the phone was the reason my mum was calm enough to drive 25mins to the hospital.
I dont know why but this episode on the imp and skizz podcast is so good and I cant thank you both for being so great.
Thanks for always making my Fridays~
What a great way to start this 3 day weekend… calmly.
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I always check RUclips on Friday to listen to music or something, but then I see this, and I listen to it and it makes my day go either from bad to neutral, neutral to good, or good to great. Unfortunately, I don't have time to listen to this three times on previously bad fridays.
This is one of the best podcasts I’ve listened to, and I can guarantee that it helped me realize how important being calm is!
I almost watched this video when It came out. And I didn't. I happened to wait untill now Saturday night. And I'm happy I did. As of right now as I'm listening to this, I'm fixing my refrigerator that when out today and spoiled everything I just bought for the family yesterday. This may seem like a small thing, but thank you guys for helping me with this little moment.
Thank you… again.. I need to listen to my soul and heart more.. find that inner calm…
Your podcast is awesome I love both of your channels congratulations on going whole time
I never ever panic when there is a crisis, emergency, etc. I stay perfectly calm as if I am incapable of emotion. Once the situation has been resolved, I go off by myself somewhere and sob, literally cry so hard I can barely breathe. Typically, I'm not a person that cries, but once the crisis is over, it's like my body has to expel all emotion at one time. I blow my nose, wipe my eyes and go back in. I don't know if this is healthy or not, but it has been my way to handle things for over 50 years now. My sister is the same way. Although I am the eldest sister, if she is with me during a crisis, I tend to let her be the calm zombie and I'm allowed to worry a little until she tells me to "suck it up buttercup." lol When I was young (late teens, twenties), I let things trigger me easily. Not medical emergencies, but arguments with the (ex-)husband. During one argument, I got so angry I literally hit my fist on the table so hard I cracked my own wrist. It wasn't until I was mid- to late 30s that I finally got a grip and found my calm in those situations. I would tell my argument counter part that I was going for a walk and we could have a calm adult conversation when I came back. I had thankfully, eventually learned that you can NOT take back words said in anger even if you didn't mean them and that I could not think straight when I was seeing red making the situation worse, not better. I am so grateful for these podcasts. Sometimes you discuss lessons I have already learned through my own life, but the reminders are always good every single time. We are all human. Sometimes we need those bumper rails to keep us on track from time to time. Thank you both for everything you do. Know you are loved and appreciated. Love your faces. :)
I can definitely relate to the power of calm. I had an incident years ago where I was injured to the point of needing 7 stitches. When the initial injury occurred I was by myself, my mind went into a state of slow motion and hyper-awareness. Managed to turn the machine that injured me off, grabbed towels to apply pressure, phone someone else to drive me to the hospital, grab keys and wallet, lock the door, and run to meet the person driving me. All while in a calm super-focused state. That experience taught me that when something bad happens, I will be alright. Then once at the hospital everything went down the drain and I let myself break down 😆 you know, once I was in medically capable hands.
You guys bring so much positivity and I love just listening to you guys talk about life- so inspiring hearing you’re guys stories
This Podcast is helping me get through school so much. I can relate to the bottling things up. I am constantly struggling around some not nice people and I just bottle it to keep from bursting on them. Thank you two for all that you guys do.
Ive been especially enjoying the podcast lately, because it feels pike we are getting a bit more of the raw, unreserved imp and skizz
I have to thank you both. I have been struggling at work and having anxiety attacks on the daily. It’s definitely not as bad as the car crash. But I can definitely tell you to that your calm come through to the other side.
I did know that the hat was related to one of the Apollo missions & have definitely heard of the Steeley-Eyed Mission Man.
i honestly started watching these podcast because of the hermits and stuff but i ended up loving them... honestly truly good content, i genuinely couldnt believe there where actually that good
sometimes i have teachers (who talk too much and get off topic) who tell so many stories (that im not sure i believe)and its always surreal cuz how can someone have so many stories and know them in such detail. The dads are like those teachers and ill never get sick of them telling their thousands of stories
Nice work, love the topic regarding calm. ❤
so re: training yourself to react differently in stressful situations: Dialectical Behavior Therapy can help with these sorts of things! It's essentially getting asked a lot of questions about what panic feels like and how you respond to situations, and running simulations in your head (with the proper guidance) so that when your brain DOES go into crisis mode, you're not just relying on the experience of the few times your life is on the line.
It also involved taking inventory of the things and people you have around you to help IF the worst does happen. If you can find a therapist that's the right fit for you and you feel comfortable being vulnerable to, it can do wonders, even if the worst hasn't happened yet.
2:07 OMG I CANT BELIEVE YOU HAVE THAT HAT I’m like the biggest rocketry and space nut haha it’s so crazy always hearing people from your other interests talk about things you’re also interested in!!
Excellent episode!
I heard Skizz mention on stream that this video didn't perform well. Impulse, if you are reading this, ignore the metrics on this one. The work you guys do on this podcast is so impactful and so meaningful and so healing in more ways than you could ever know. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
I just read the Apollo 13 book so I got super excited when you flashed the SCE to Aux hat and I think I need it on a shirt now. I was an EMT for five years and another type of calm is dissociation. Life and death moments for people became somewhat routine for me in my life and a year in, I don’t think major trauma or resuscitations raised my heartbeat anymore. Of course that was pretty easy since I didn’t know my patients but even when a friend I was really calm. In any event, I’m super grateful for that experience it taught me a lot about dealing with sudden and high intensity situations.
Ya definitely know the power of claim, a few weeks ago. I got my hand pulled into equipment at work. Luckily, I just ended up with some broken fingers. When it happened, there was some panic from the people looking after at the start. I had to pull myself together enough to claim them and try and stop myself from going farther into shock.
Omg, I do not have this calm, but my father and uncles have it. The kind of "car crash calm" and ready to action in a second you talked about. That was really impressive to see them up and running before the car final crash. It happened so frequently because of the messed up road that they new just by the speed of the car approaching. The calm that saves lives..
You guys are incredible story tellers and this podcast was great as always!
This podcast has made me enjoy you guys as people and not just your content! Love seeing another side of you guys!
Great episode gents, this was a really good conversation and a lot of people are likely to benefit from these stories. It gave me a good opportunity to reflect on the situations when I needed calm and how those played out.
As an adult recently diagnosed with aspergers I've always found it difficult when plans don't go exactly how I expected them, especially following a particularly difficult few years. Therapy, yoga and just trying to be kinder to myself has helped me to stop the rising panic and frustration, but it is still so hard sometimes. But I keep going and each time it gets easier. Not easy, but at least easier.
I really think that's a key point around all of this is learning. For learning from situations helps improve, such as getting a bigger bottle or a better release valve based on what is happening