This is my dad. He is every bit as wonderful as he seems here and then some. I’m so proud of him for doing this interview and so thankful to Mark for making this record for us to cherish. Love you Dad.❤
Awesome 😊 he reminds me of my dad, actually. Jerry has a lot of qualities that likely served him well in his career. I was wondering during the interview what life was like for those who Jerry loved. I imagine he wasn't around much and that had to be hard for you. Are he and your mom still married (I hope that's not too personal of a question- under the circumstances it didn't seem inappropriate to ask)?
I met him several years ago driving for a band called Rehab and Uncle Cracker in Greenville Sc and Charlotte NC We had a long conversation and he seemed engaged in our conversation, asking me aout myself etc. I wasnt part of the bands or anything just a guy who was lucky enough to know someone in the band.
Thank You Mark for the experience. I really appreciate everyone’s kind comments. My book is titled: Tales from the Trails of a Rock n Roll Bus Driver. Cowboy Buddha Publishers… and is available on Amazon
Jerry it was so touching to hear you discuss your mother with forgiveness compassion and empathy..Being a cycle breaker re familial abuse child abuse etc is such hard work and you’ve laid the foundation for your daughters and their children. Thanks for sharing with us 😊with such vulnerability and openness ❤
No axes to grind, no self pity, no blaming or excuses in spite of a tough start in life. He's full of grace and gratitude. This guy is an example of how you can change your life by making different decisions. More of these inspiring interviews please. Learning how to love. He hit the jackpot.
It’s typical ‘recovery’ attitude I did same.. Only thing missing is to acknowledge and grieve the poor little boy who was treated so badly. Bet he’s still wounded from it 😢
He seems like such an intelligent and nice man. I love the way he talks about how he loves his children and has found forgiveness for his mother. A good man!
The way he gets choked up every single time he talks about his children is so beautiful. There truly is nothing better in the world than doing all you can to put some more good, sound, caring people on this Earth.
Jerry lived about 1/2 a mile from us and seeing this makes me realize that the Soft White videos are 100% legit. Jerry is indeed a solid guy and we still miss him since he moved. He does keep that bus spotless.
Love this guy. I’ve been a touring musician off and on my whole adult life. Tour bus drivers are unsung heroes. People don’t realize: that bus is your only home for months on end. You sleep on it, so the driver has a lot of responsibility and often crazy drive schedules (we call it routing). Sometimes I spent 11 months a year on the road. To any drivers reading this: bless you for getting a bunch of adult children around the country just to spread some joy to folks. You’re appreciated by many.
Yes, I;ve done tours, and after you've toured on a proper Tour Bus then you never want to tour any other way. There's nothing like it. Tour Bus Drivers are so needed and should be respected. They need their adequate rest time too and should be lauded for what they do. They get you from A to B safely.
This guy is a legend. When the bus is rolling, the band's life is in the driver's hands. This is the kind of man you want behind the wheel. Bless you, brother Jerry.
he aint never hurt no one even as a youngster when his father n mother were cnuts he done hurt no one,he ran away and had to survive,he was no sinner,his father for joining the military and his mother for being a disturbed cnut were the sinners
@@FuckFeminists no not me . I heard it somewhere it stuck . Just seemed fitting for Jerry here . The guy went from a seemingly dead end road to seeing everywhere. 🤝
This man is so awesome! Amazing story! I was a college professor. I had an incredible microbiology student that told me I was the first person in her life who had ever said they were proud of her. Later in my office I broke down and cried. She’s an ICU nurse now and kicking ass. People all need love and encouragement. A kind word and smile go a long way.
*_Your comment put a lump in my throat. Thanks for sharing your story. Your simple comment ("I'm proud of you.") made such a huge difference in her life!_*
I think young people need a positive word now and then from sensitive adults; at the same time the pursuit of excellence can be harsh ... it's a tough balancing act, but kindness has a way of going a long way ...
“Having children is a high in itself” i couldn’t have said it better. It still surprises me how much I can relate to complete strangers. This guy is a ray of light.
@@DubElementMusicthat is certainly the “plus side” of not having kids, and why many choose not to. However, you also miss out on a love and soul-fulfilling experience that can’t even be put into words. It can be difficult at times, and it’s not for everyone. But for many, it’s something that provides the greatest joy and love one can experience.
I do the same job Jerry does, but I’m based in London UK ( and I drive all over Europe ). I’m female. Not that it makes life easier on the road - It doesn’t. We’re all away from home for very long periods of time and it impacts and affects us in different ways. I’ve been in the industry for 22 years. Still going strong. It’s so nice to hear the stories, and see Jerry chatting about his road experiences. Jerry is honest, no b/s here. Long may he continue! See you along the road, Brother ❤
YYR. Sidemen, too. I've been checking out Otis Gibbs' great interviews with professional sidemen musicians and find it fascinating to hear things from their perspective!
I have the nicest memory of meeting Jerry at SPAC years ago, and spending over an hour sharing stories of our families. My son was nearby and Jerry spotted me as an "elder" among all the younger fans. The next year, we found each other again there. I can fondly remember him spotting me and waving so we could catch up and chat some more. Good, good man. Great interview!
I was a touring musician in my younger days. (It's a young man's sport). I spent many late nights sitting in the jump seat talking with drivers. We would share life stories, find common ground, & build friendships over the duration of a tour. The drivers work somewhat of an opposite shift from the band, sleeping by day and traveling by night. We placed our lives in their hands as we slept away 1000 miles between gigs. The bus is a small home, and the chemistry between people can make or break the experience. Listening to Jerry brought back some great memories. I would have enjoyed touring with him and this interview took me to a special place. Thank you Jerry, and thank you SWB for this interview.
I 've ben driving a tour bus for 26 years now. I've met Jerry a few times over the years, and I'll tell you he's a great guy. He's right about the 80's. It was more about just having fun and that was reflected in the music. Now it's just about the money. You give up a lot being on the road for years, but the things we've experienced and the people we've met have been worth it for me and many of the other old guard drivers. Great interview.
Of course Jerry's stories are watered down... He's too much of a gentleman and professional to go into naming names, and in depth issshhhh that went on @ times..
@@duntGivaF maybe. I am of the mindset that people would not believe them simply because they are outrageous!! ))) They are true though. The year's he talks about were the Glam rock year's and they we insane.
It's interesting to hear about what led him to become a Rock Tour bus driver and while he was no angel it sounded like his work ethic really made him stand out at a very young age and set him apart . His other great accomplishment was becoming a great dad despite his own troubled childhood . He's really come full circle and Kudos for all his accomplishments !
Such an amazing interview with such an amazing guy. It feeds your soul to hear from a guy who came from a rough home, then made his own mistakes and traveled down a bad path, but then got on the right track and got his life together. The fact that he acknowledges the opportunities he was given along the way, and forgives people for the hurt they caused him, and has found happiness with his own family... I'll be rewatching this one. This is my favourite interview for sure.
The depth and level of understanding he has for what his mother did to him is amazing. No bitterness, just understanding. The love he has for his children is palpable. Lovely interview
As a music lover who lives for live shows, thank you Jerry, for getting the bands to their next venue safely. Life on the road is exceedingly hard and I don’t think fans understand just how rigorous a tour is on musicians, roadies and the drivers. And Jerry, you are a real mensch! What an uplifting interview! Thanks Mark for showing us something so positive!
I have been in The guitar repair business for almost 25 years. I got the opportunity to tour as a guitar tech for doyle bramhall jr in 05 just as he was being invited to be Eric Claptons backing guitar player .I thought I got the jackpot and was going to party and live the good life. I was in my early 20’s and very naive. It literally was the most brutal and exhausting jobs I’ve ever had. The perks were very cool when we got a few moments to just sit down. The first month I don’t think I slept a restful nights sleep. It was nonstop. And the sad thing was that some of Claptons roadies were in their 60’s and have been with him since Derrick and the dominos and they ran circles around me doing ALL the heavy lifting and keeping track of things that just seemed impossible to do night after night. There was absolutely zero dugs and alcohol on anything that travels with Clapton. In fact there were AA meetings that Eric and some of the crew would attend in certain cities. I learned a lot on that tour and had the opportunity to continue but I just couldn’t mentally handle it. I’m glad I did it but don’t recommend it to anyone expecting to hang with rock stars. Sure, you met very cool people and it’s neat that I’m on a first male basis with several rock legends but you find out almost immediately that these people are no different than you or me but with much larger egos. I’m perfectly content being a small town guitar and amp tech making a decent living. Although, the one thing I really loved about that gig was literally being feet away from the performance and frequently doing sound check in the largest and most famous venues in the world. The feeling of plugging in a strat at full volume in a 50,000 seat stadium is better than any drug
Those 60 year olds we're running around you because they learned, learned how to work hard and how not to burn yourself on alcohol and drugs probably even hookers too.
Great story.....did Doyle ever correct u wen u called him Jr.....he goes by the 2nd not Jr....saw him correct Sheryl crow on a crossroads festival DVD,,
This is my favorite Soft White Underbelly interviews so far. Jerry is a person with so much understanding of human nature and compassion, with amazing life happenings and memories to talk about.
I loved every second of this one. The genuine tears for not only the sadness of life, but also the joy & bittersweet. You can feel the wisdom that comes from LIVING. Thank you for sharing his story.
I just love this dude, his emotions are right there at the surface. A guy like that is genuine because his face would betray any lie he said. I know guys like this and they're very few and we need more like them.
Extremely difficult to do. He said that he needed counselling. I always thought my mother was angry, but I was 10 times crankier. Just words though. Psychology is a strange thing.
I was thinking that your breaking the cycle, in addition to learning to love, is another huge accomplishment in your life. You've saved generations from the bullshit you suffered. Seems heroic to me.
I can so relate to him, my step dad was a tour driver, he was in partnership with Jerry Calhoun outta Florida, it all started with him leasing buses then into a partnership with Jerry. Such a great time in the mid 80s. Everyone thinks its all fun! No your responsibility is over whelming. My dad did security played babysitter. Had to chase band members down, keep gfs, wife's seperated, then you got the drugs. Some of my fav memories cones from the long nites, in the back of the tour bus life's low and that's when rock and rollers can be themselves. Missing family, break ups, battling demons. My step dad never did the drug part but he drank. I saw him a many of time throw a singer over his shoulders and put them in a bunk bc had to roll to next city. He left quit a few too. Then you got the fame aspect. Ego's. And time off y dad always brought road crew and band members home to using Tennessee for a few days rest. Having so much fun going to the grocery store people starring in shock. It all changed when music did in the90s. I came off the road as a makeup artist. My step dad passed in mis 2010. Thank you for this interview it took me back to good times.
When he gets teary eyed every time he talks about his kids/fatherhood makes me tear up. What an awesome man! I would love for him to come back and tell more stories.
I'm only a few years younger than him and lived a pretty crazy life myself. Just like you, when he would start to tear up, my eyes filled tears as well. 😂 After I finish writing this, I'm going to search for any interviews he may have done. 😅
Thank you Jerry for sharing your story in such an authentic and heart felt way. I really admire you for your tears and am sorry for the lack of love you experienced as a kid. Every child deserves to feel love and safety at home.
my uncle was a tour bus driver and drove some serious names like Jerry, including every genre from Madonna to the Police. he's got some awesome stories just like Jerry - but i love hearing other peoples' stories because my uncle's is the only one i've heard! thank you!
I really enjoyed this interview. What a genuine guy. So many people seem to have an agenda, but this guy is confident and grateful for who and where he is.
I love this interview. As an avid rock concert-goer myself, Jerry is fascinating. There is nothing like watching live music. What a kind soul Jerry is. I'd love to hear more from him!
What a beautiful man! He was very lost at some Points in His Life, but he Always was a good Person with poor decisions. And now, look how strong He became, breaking the cycle, taking responsibility. Loved this Interview. Very inspiring.
@@gunsquawk4443 They are song lyrics from a band called Primus. The good lord may ask you to be less judgemental of others & focus more on yourself & your own spirituality.✌️💕
This man’s interview touched my heart. The way he talks about his children makes me feel so grateful for my children and to give them a better life than I had, I hope I can talk about parenting the way he does at his age when I am at that stage. He reflects on his life through the trials and troubles so eloquently. I so enjoyed this video.
Jerry, you are truly a gentleman with an old soul. The way you carry yourself and take responsibility for your past is truly inspiring. You’ve got charisma…write a book about the lessons you’ve learned and obstacles you’ve overcome. Your family must be very proud.
@cmck3843 In one of the comments he (Jerry) said he has a book called "Tales from the Trails of a Rock 'n Roll Tour Driver," and it's available on Amazon.
This man's heart is as large as his hands. The end of his talk returns to the first part where his life's beginnings-the suffering of abuse from his mother-is reconciled and overcome by his feelings of love and forgiveness. Humility in its' greatest proportion. A sliver of light and hope in a mean world, becoming more vicious. Fantastuc interview!
As a touring musician, this is every question answered I'd ever want to ask about drivers. This is so heartfelt and heartwarming and the kind of conversation you'd never really get from "the driver." Jerry your a legend and I hope our paths cross one day I'd love to give you a hug and thank you.
One of the best interviews I’ve seen yet. You broke the cycle Jerry and you did so with love in your heart. You now have a sincere understanding of why your Mother abused you. Thank you Jerry for sharing your experience. Blessings to you and your family.
As the wife of a long time roadie, the drivers are caring for my most precious person. Thank you for your work and for telling such a vulnerable part of your life.
I’m a mental health therapist for children and you Jerry are an inspiration. It really is difficult to break the cycle of abuse and you have done it❤❤ Thank you for sharing your story! And keep rocking 🤘🏽
Jerry, first of all, thank you for your service...secondly, you should be so so proud of where you are now. You genuinely seem like a kind, optimistic soul. You're truly a success story. Congratulations. You made it. I wish you all the luck in the world.
Gotta be a part 2 with Jerry in the future. More interviews with entertainer Tour bus drivers please. He and many other drivers make the music and entertainment world go round everyday. The true unsung hero’s of the industry.
Came here for the groupie stories and stayed for the love. Jerry, you are an incredibly principled, wise man. The world is a better place because you’re part of it. Thanks for sharing your story with us. ✌️❤️
Same. I would have liked more groupies & gossip, but what an amazing human being! I watched all the way through to the end, something I rarely do on Mark's interviews.
Hands down one of my favorite interviews on this channel. A man of great intellect, strength and character, resilience, integrity, honesty….all of the things. A man rich with knowledge from life experiences both good and bad. He’s worked hard physically and emotionally, fought and scratched for everything he’s got, and he has succeeded. He put an end to the cycle. Bravo, sir! I wish you and your family the best of everything.
What an incredibly genuine & interesting man. If only there were more men like him out there! Thank-you so much for interviewing such a beautiful soul; it was a real pleasure to listen to him open up & hear his life story. Please have him back again? Definitely the best interview you've yet to have. I wish him nothing but the best; it's so rare these days to come across such a diamond. God bless you Jerry ❤
I was a stagehand and roadie for many years...I am old and broken, but it was worth every second ! I miss it daily since those last days. Thank you for your testimony Jerry, I had great relations with our drivers, great guys.
I did 43 years as a DT, and the last 23 as a tour manager, I can totally relate. Unless you've lived it (and I know you have bro) you'll never understand. I sit back and reminisce on how the hell i made it through all of it? From one survivor to another. Yes man, it was worth every second of it and I wouldn't trade any of it for the world. Quake, Murphy NC.
…and THIS is why I love the comment section! Out of respect for your privacy I won’t even ask who but interesting just the same dear. Thank you for sharing. And you remind us all that recognizing the real importance of what Jerry (and folks just like him) do simply getting so many working entertainers to their respective destination’s safely for so many years truly is something to commend and something that maybe even drivers themselves and the industry as a whole need to be just as mindful of the integral role they play every day on behalf of them all. It’s no small thing and they should wear it with pride but I’ll bet it can easily be forgotten or overlooked ALOT of the time. Respect to you. Cheers darling.
First time listener, and the whole interview blew me away....great questions and you let Jerry answer...it was perfect. I'm 60...my youth wasnt like Jerry's, but my god...his life descriptions brought tears to my eye's, and smiles along the way....Brother Jerry....thank you for sharing your heart and soul...BIG man hug to you.
Great story teller. What an honest, good man. One thing I took from the story is how decent people kept having faith in him, giving him opportunities without dismissing him off the bat. He took them and turned his live around. Good job, Jerry.
If you see this Jerry it was so interesting listening to you talk about your life and your career. I appreciated your honesty and openness in expressing your emotions and how you talked about both the good and bad experiences you have had in your life. You have such a good and kind heart and it's heartwarming to hear how much you love your family. Thank tou for telling your story Jerry 💖.
My cousin drove tour bus for many top performers and for many years. They have to sign disclosures to maintain privacy for the acts. Jerry held the line! He seems to have had a great life, especially for stopping the generational trauma, albeit his own learning experiences. Well done.
In many ways this man is anthropologist with specialization in the popular music culture. He has a true behind the scenes understanding of that culture.
Its good to see the people behind the scenes get some recognition for the bands and shows that we enjoy. They bust their asses and really are the unsung heroes..
Jerry, great interview as a 62 year old man, classic rock fan that has been going to concerts since i was 15. I love your story. I always wanted to join the rock and roll circus. You tales remind of growing up in the 70s in a dysfunctional family. i too join the Corps best decision i ever made. My alcohol and drug use caused me some problems but i learn i had to leave those habits behind me. My kids and wives help me to out grow that destructive part of my life! The joys of a misspent youth. Semper Fidelis brother! David
This guy should be traveling the country telling his story to young people. Jerry is the perfect example of overcoming the odds that life deals you, and recognizing the power in your personal decisions along the way.
Either that or write a book about his journey. I’d certainly buy a copy! I’ll bet it would be fascinating. Publishers are missing the boat (so to speak) in regards to the inspiring story he could share with folks. Would make a great retirement plan for when he chooses to slow down and take life somewhat easier.
Jerry, Jerry, Jerry ... Your heartfelt recounting of your childhood experiences and their integration into your working life struck a chord that resonates deep within the human spirit. Your authenticity and raw emotion not only tell a personal story but also invite us to reflect on our own journeys. Your narrative is a powerful reminder that our past, with all its complexities, shapes the unique, intricate weave of our present selves. Thank you, Mark, for the transformative window that 'Soft White Underbelly' is undertaking in revealing the raw, unfiltered realities of the human experience on this planet. Your dedication to showcasing the more, shall I say, delicate aspects of life is both courageous, deeply moving.
There are times when you watch an interview like this one… and there is a direct heart to heart connection. This is one of them! Thank you and Gods Blessings.❤️🙏
Such a caring and compassionate man. His children are very lucky to have a father like him. He lights up when he speaks of his children.. and is honestly grateful to have them❤❤
I've listened to loads of your interviews, but this is my favorite! What a gem of a man. It just goes to show you that life can throw it's curve balls, but the core of what it is to be a "good person" always remains. Thanks for this!
Travel def opens the mind. Talking to people who are well traveled and well read are always the most interesting to talk with and spend time with. Being open minded helps you stay young. And fresh. They don’t grow stale.
This interview was both heartwarming and so cool. As a dad and a teacher I loved his feelings about his children and life. As a child of the 60s and 70s who also played in rock bands my mind is spinning thinking about how cool it must have been to hang with the musicians I revered as a teenager. Thanks for this interview Mark. It was amazing!
What a wonderful interview with a kind, sweet, fantastic soul. It elevates me to know there are such good people out there who will show they are vulnerable and teach us we are all worthy. I'm so glad he found his path and learned to love and that he has love, he deserves it.
I love this man. He's like a great cross between Woody Harrelson and Willie Nelson, and I could listen to him talk for hours. This interview was a gem. I'm really glad his life has worked out so well for him despite the unfortunate circumstances of his upbringing. You'd never guess he did time or had it so rough unless he told you because he became such a genuine good hearted person at the end of it, and that's the kind of wonderful transformations we all hope to see in everyone.
Hi Jerry! I enjoy watching the Soft White Underbelly interviews and I was surprised to see you on here! Nice surprise, we met in Southern Oregon when Dave Matthews family went Ziplining at my park. I arranged for the tour bus to get cleaned on two occasions when you guys were passing through. You called it "Getting The Gorge Out!" lol... I still tell the story about how I thought someone stole a set of Dave's sheets out of one of the laundromat dryers. You knew I was a fan and I was so scared to tell you that a set of sheets went missing! I thought, he is never going to believe me! I started telling you the story about how a set had been stolen and you started counting them and told me they were all there. I was so relieved and glad to not make the local news for something so crazy! Ha ha :) I'm happy you shared your story, glad to see that you broke the cycle and that you are loved and loving others!
Excellent interview! I’m willing to bet my fiancée, who plays all over the country (and world) with the band may know him. I used to ride on the bus when we were on tour, now they’ve slowed down since they’ve been playing for decades so they fly. The guys in the industry like him are truly special people. They are family to us!
Great interview. He has had his own journey...turned his life around & changed the direction of his life. Good for him. It's never too late. 👍😊 Thank you for sharing this video with us. 👍🇨🇦😊
This is my dad. He is every bit as wonderful as he seems here and then some. I’m so proud of him for doing this interview and so thankful to Mark for making this record for us to cherish. Love you Dad.❤
Awesome 😊 he reminds me of my dad, actually. Jerry has a lot of qualities that likely served him well in his career. I was wondering during the interview what life was like for those who Jerry loved. I imagine he wasn't around much and that had to be hard for you. Are he and your mom still married (I hope that's not too personal of a question- under the circumstances it didn't seem inappropriate to ask)?
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@@TaylorRaineAwesome, congrats to Jerry!🎉Really enjoyed his interview; seems like a great guy😁
Convince him to write a book. Awesome Dad. “I’m the COOL Dad.” He definitely is.
I met him several years ago driving for a band called Rehab and Uncle Cracker in Greenville Sc and Charlotte NC We had a long conversation and he seemed engaged in our conversation, asking me aout myself etc. I wasnt part of the bands or anything just a guy who was lucky enough to know someone in the band.
Thank You Mark for the experience. I really appreciate everyone’s kind comments.
My book is titled: Tales from the Trails of a Rock n Roll Bus Driver.
Cowboy Buddha Publishers…
and is available on Amazon
Thanks Jerry. Congratulations on your Hall of fame induction! That's the BIG one. Grace is good and your where given a nice amount. Bryan P. Lex Ky.
Jerry it was so touching to hear you discuss your mother with forgiveness compassion and empathy..Being a cycle breaker re familial abuse child abuse etc is such hard work and you’ve laid the foundation for your daughters and their children. Thanks for sharing with us 😊with such vulnerability and openness ❤
Roll easy roll safe peace 🇺🇲
happy new year Jerry, thank you for all the miles driven . A roadie .
Thank you for sharing yourself and your tough background so openly. I'm a cycle breaker too, and I'm giving you a big high five. Well done.
No axes to grind, no self pity, no blaming or excuses in spite of a tough start in life. He's full of grace and gratitude. This guy is an example of how you can change your life by making different decisions. More of these inspiring interviews please. Learning how to love. He hit the jackpot.
❤ Very well said. Agreed 💯
It’s typical ‘recovery’ attitude
I did same.. Only thing missing is to acknowledge and grieve the poor little boy who was treated so badly. Bet he’s still wounded from it 😢
He seems like such an intelligent and nice man. I love the way he talks about how he loves his children and has found forgiveness for his mother. A good man!
He has access to, and is not afraid to show, his feelings.There's a REAL MAN!
The way he gets choked up every single time he talks about his children is so beautiful. There truly is nothing better in the world than doing all you can to put some more good, sound, caring people on this Earth.
My daughter won't let it go. Her Mom. Wow,.
Jerry lived about 1/2 a mile from us and seeing this makes me realize that the Soft White videos are 100% legit. Jerry is indeed a solid guy and we still miss him since he moved. He does keep that bus spotless.
I am curious to know what is Jerry's last name. I can't imagine why it would be a mystery. He need to write a book.
He did write a book, he posted the name of it in the comments above.
Another great interview thumbs up 👍 brother.
God bless you! Jesus saves sinners!
Love this guy. I’ve been a touring musician off and on my whole adult life. Tour bus drivers are unsung heroes. People don’t realize: that bus is your only home for months on end. You sleep on it, so the driver has a lot of responsibility and often crazy drive schedules (we call it routing). Sometimes I spent 11 months a year on the road. To any drivers reading this: bless you for getting a bunch of adult children around the country just to spread some joy to folks. You’re appreciated by many.
Yup they're outlaws and cowboys in themselves. On the road just like the Rockstars
I Love live music and appreciate the hell out of the people who make it happen!
Yes, I;ve done tours, and after you've toured on a proper Tour Bus then you never want to tour any other way. There's nothing like it. Tour Bus Drivers are so needed and should be respected. They need their adequate rest time too and should be lauded for what they do. They get you from A to B safely.
I bet your father's name was Ricky nelson.
Yep.
Able to get you 1k miles in a night to the next venue while you sleep.
This man has heart.
It's a beautiful thing to see in a man.
This guy is a legend. When the bus is rolling, the band's life is in the driver's hands. This is the kind of man you want behind the wheel. Bless you, brother Jerry.
True. Metallica found this out the hard way.
@@HeimirTomm RIP Cliff.
“Every saint has a past every sinner has a future “. Thanks for the story Jerry .
Good one!
he aint never hurt no one even as a youngster when his father n mother were cnuts he done hurt no one,he ran away and had to survive,he was no sinner,his father for joining the military and his mother for being a disturbed cnut were the sinners
@@TheMicturation you are taking that pretty literal . Happy new year
I really like that phrase Walter. Who said it? You could claim it was you of course :)
@@FuckFeminists no not me . I heard it somewhere it stuck . Just seemed fitting for Jerry here . The guy went from a seemingly dead end road to seeing everywhere. 🤝
This man is so awesome! Amazing story! I was a college professor. I had an incredible microbiology student that told me I was the first person in her life who had ever said they were proud of her. Later in my office I broke down and cried. She’s an ICU nurse now and kicking ass. People all need love and encouragement. A kind word and smile go a long way.
Absolutely!!♥
Amen!! Just that little (Big) moment in time that you can boost someone’s confidence and show you care is PRICELESS
*_Your comment put a lump in my throat. Thanks for sharing your story. Your simple comment ("I'm proud of you.") made such a huge difference in her life!_*
I think young people need a positive word now and then from sensitive adults; at the same time the pursuit of excellence can be harsh ... it's a tough balancing act, but kindness has a way of going a long way ...
I agree.
“Having children is a high in itself” i couldn’t have said it better. It still surprises me how much I can relate to complete strangers. This guy is a ray of light.
I agree 💖
i love to not have children :D you can do whatever you want, anytime, going everywhere. 😄
@@DubElementMusicthat is certainly the “plus side” of not having kids, and why many choose not to. However, you also miss out on a love and soul-fulfilling experience that can’t even be put into words. It can be difficult at times, and it’s not for everyone. But for many, it’s something that provides the greatest joy and love one can experience.
@@LongStrangeTrip3 i totally get your point, but no, thanks 🫣😅
@@LongStrangeTrip3I miss the freedom sometimes but a kid always keeps a space filled in the heart. You don’t get lonely.
I do the same job Jerry does, but I’m based in London UK ( and I drive all over Europe ). I’m female. Not that it makes life easier on the road - It doesn’t. We’re all away from home for very long periods of time and it impacts and affects us in different ways. I’ve been in the industry for 22 years. Still going strong. It’s so nice to hear the stories, and see Jerry chatting about his road experiences. Jerry is honest, no b/s here. Long may he continue! See you along the road, Brother ❤
This guy gets it. What a kind, fascinating human. For me, one of Mark's most interesting interviews.
Life-long drummer here. Great interview! Guys like this are the true unsung heroes of the music world. ❤
So true🙏
YYR. Sidemen, too. I've been checking out Otis Gibbs' great interviews with professional sidemen musicians and find it fascinating to hear things from their perspective!
As a driver of the stars, this man has had some huge experiences. What a good hearted man. Great interview.
I have the nicest memory of meeting Jerry at SPAC years ago, and spending over an hour sharing stories of our families. My son was nearby and Jerry spotted me as an "elder" among all the younger fans. The next year, we found each other again there. I can fondly remember him spotting me and waving so we could catch up and chat some more. Good, good man. Great interview!
I was a touring musician in my younger days. (It's a young man's sport). I spent many late nights sitting in the jump seat talking with drivers. We would share life stories, find common ground, & build friendships over the duration of a tour. The drivers work somewhat of an opposite shift from the band, sleeping by day and traveling by night. We placed our lives in their hands as we slept away 1000 miles between gigs. The bus is a small home, and the chemistry between people can make or break the experience. Listening to Jerry brought back some great memories. I would have enjoyed touring with him and this interview took me to a special place. Thank you Jerry, and thank you SWB for this interview.
Ditto . Rode shotgun on a 45 for 3 yrs playing rock roll country guitar w my bud Billy driving. Great memories and many sights and stories.
Same situation but as an audio engineer. Mad respect for the drivers.
I 've ben driving a tour bus for 26 years now. I've met Jerry a few times over the years, and I'll tell you he's a great guy. He's right about the 80's. It was more about just having fun and that was reflected in the music. Now it's just about the money. You give up a lot being on the road for years, but the things we've experienced and the people we've met have been worth it for me and many of the other old guard drivers. Great interview.
10 minutes in, captivated, one of the best interviews i've seen. Nice to see someone that faced difficulties, succeeded and was a decent human.
Sometimes the humblest folks lead the most interesting lives. I could listen to Jerry's stories for hours! Such a wonderful interview.
Trust me, they're watered down.😊😊😊
I agree
Of course Jerry's stories are watered down... He's too much of a gentleman and professional to go into naming names, and in depth issshhhh that went on @ times..
@@duntGivaF maybe. I am of the mindset that people would not believe them simply because they are outrageous!! )))
They are true though. The year's he talks about were the Glam rock year's and they we insane.
It's interesting to hear about what led him to become a Rock Tour bus driver and while he was no angel it sounded like his work ethic really made him stand out at a very young age and set him apart . His other great accomplishment was becoming a great dad despite his own troubled childhood . He's really come full circle and Kudos for all his accomplishments !
Such an amazing interview with such an amazing guy. It feeds your soul to hear from a guy who came from a rough home, then made his own mistakes and traveled down a bad path, but then got on the right track and got his life together. The fact that he acknowledges the opportunities he was given along the way, and forgives people for the hurt they caused him, and has found happiness with his own family... I'll be rewatching this one. This is my favourite interview for sure.
The depth and level of understanding he has for what his mother did to him is amazing. No bitterness, just understanding. The love he has for his children is palpable. Lovely interview
Without knowing the guy personally, I'm gonna chalk that one up to psychedelics.
@@wigit2510 what an awful assumption to make
@@wigit2510without knowing you I'd chalk up your attitude to ignorance
As a music lover who lives for live shows, thank you Jerry, for getting the bands to their next venue safely. Life on the road is exceedingly hard and I don’t think fans understand just how rigorous a tour is on musicians, roadies and the drivers. And Jerry, you are a real mensch! What an uplifting interview! Thanks Mark for showing us something so positive!
I have been in The guitar repair business for almost 25 years. I got the opportunity to tour as a guitar tech for doyle bramhall jr in 05 just as he was being invited to be Eric Claptons backing guitar player .I thought I got the jackpot and was going to party and live the good life. I was in my early 20’s and very naive. It literally was the most brutal and exhausting jobs I’ve ever had. The perks were very cool when we got a few moments to just sit down. The first month I don’t think I slept a restful nights sleep. It was nonstop. And the sad thing was that some of Claptons roadies were in their 60’s and have been with him since Derrick and the dominos and they ran circles around me doing ALL the heavy lifting and keeping track of things that just seemed impossible to do night after night. There was absolutely zero dugs and alcohol on anything that travels with Clapton. In fact there were AA meetings that Eric and some of the crew would attend in certain cities. I learned a lot on that tour and had the opportunity to continue but I just couldn’t mentally handle it. I’m glad I did it but don’t recommend it to anyone expecting to hang with rock stars. Sure, you met very cool people and it’s neat that I’m on a first male basis with several rock legends but you find out almost immediately that these people are no different than you or me but with much larger egos. I’m perfectly content being a small town guitar and amp tech making a decent living. Although, the one thing I really loved about that gig was literally being feet away from the performance and frequently doing sound check in the largest and most famous venues in the world. The feeling of plugging in a strat at full volume in a 50,000 seat stadium is better than any drug
Those 60 year olds we're running around you because they learned, learned how to work hard and how not to burn yourself on alcohol and drugs probably even hookers too.
that's wild....I did cocaine with slowhand back in the 80's in a NC venue called the Double Door.
@@scottwwsithat was me, I was there. Double door was the shit.
Great story.....did Doyle ever correct u wen u called him Jr.....he goes by the 2nd not Jr....saw him correct Sheryl crow on a crossroads festival DVD,,
@@stevewight1409 nope. We just called him Doyle.
This is my favorite Soft White Underbelly interviews so far. Jerry is a person with so much understanding of human nature and compassion, with amazing life happenings and memories to talk about.
I loved every second of this one. The genuine tears for not only the sadness of life, but also the joy & bittersweet. You can feel the wisdom that comes from LIVING. Thank you for sharing his story.
I just love this dude, his emotions are right there at the surface. A guy like that is genuine because his face would betray any lie he said. I know guys like this and they're very few and we need more like them.
Bus drivers are the true unsung heroes of rock'n'roll history. What a brilliant man. Everyday people are wonderful.
Jerry you did it ! You broke a cycle ❤ Something we can all aspire to
That's a true statement.
Amen and Amen💖
He stole mines
Extremely difficult to do. He said that he needed counselling. I always thought my mother was angry, but I was 10 times crankier. Just words though. Psychology is a strange thing.
I was thinking that your breaking the cycle, in addition to learning to love, is another huge accomplishment in your life. You've saved generations from the bullshit you suffered. Seems heroic to me.
Humility and gratefulness just pour out of this guy. The world needs more like him. Great Interview!
Thank you for breaking the cycle. Thats the most important thing you could do in this life... much love brother
What a sensitive, amazing human.
More stories like this Mark, please.
I'm blessed to know him personally and he truly is. To know Jerry, is to admire and love Jerry. God broke the mold after him.
I can so relate to him, my step dad was a tour driver, he was in partnership with Jerry Calhoun outta Florida, it all started with him leasing buses then into a partnership with Jerry. Such a great time in the mid 80s. Everyone thinks its all fun! No your responsibility is over whelming. My dad did security played babysitter. Had to chase band members down, keep gfs, wife's seperated, then you got the drugs. Some of my fav memories cones from the long nites, in the back of the tour bus life's low and that's when rock and rollers can be themselves. Missing family, break ups, battling demons. My step dad never did the drug part but he drank. I saw him a many of time throw a singer over his shoulders and put them in a bunk bc had to roll to next city. He left quit a few too. Then you got the fame aspect. Ego's. And time off y dad always brought road crew and band members home to using Tennessee for a few days rest. Having so much fun going to the grocery store people starring in shock. It all changed when music did in the90s. I came off the road as a makeup artist. My step dad passed in mis 2010. Thank you for this interview it took me back to good times.
When he gets teary eyed every time he talks about his kids/fatherhood makes me tear up. What an awesome man! I would love for him to come back and tell more stories.
I'm only a few years younger than him and lived a pretty crazy life myself.
Just like you, when he would start to tear up, my eyes filled tears as well. 😂
After I finish writing this, I'm going to search for any interviews he may have done. 😅
I think his ability to cry and feel emotion has kept him from letting his abuse ruin his life.
Totally agree Jenn!
@@1chumley1 Good observation.
Thank you Jerry for sharing your story in such an authentic and heart felt way. I really admire you for your tears and am sorry for the lack of love you experienced as a kid. Every child deserves to feel love and safety at home.
One of the top interviews on this channel...Jerry is fabulous, and what a great manner he has in speaking and relating his experiences
my uncle was a tour bus driver and drove some serious names like Jerry, including every genre from Madonna to the Police. he's got some awesome stories just like Jerry - but i love hearing other peoples' stories because my uncle's is the only one i've heard! thank you!
I really enjoyed this interview. What a genuine guy. So many people seem to have an agenda, but this guy is confident and grateful for who and where he is.
Definitely one of my favorite interviews in here. Such a cool, down to earth guy.
I wish him nothing but the best.
Exactly my thoughts. I even watched it twice. The world is a better place for people like Jerry.
I love this interview. As an avid rock concert-goer myself, Jerry is fascinating. There is nothing like watching live music. What a kind soul Jerry is. I'd love to hear more from him!
What a beautiful man! He was very lost at some Points in His Life, but he Always was a good Person with poor decisions. And now, look how strong He became, breaking the cycle, taking responsibility. Loved this Interview. Very inspiring.
Jerry was a tour bus driver
He drove so goddam fast
He never did win no checkered flag
But he never did come in last
Jerry was a race car driver and he'd say yes Im number 1
With a Bocephus sticker on his 442s, hed light em up just for fun
GO!!
Don't need your cussing on here. Seek the Lord.
@@gunsquawk4443 They are song lyrics from a band called Primus. The good lord may ask you to be less judgemental of others & focus more on yourself & your own spirituality.✌️💕
Did he drive a Primus tour?
Primus Sucks
Life rocked - and he rolled. A true original in a world that increasingly feels like an imitation.
Short and sweet, best comment.
Agreed, best comment
What a sweet man. I hope the scars he has from his childhood continue to heal. Awesome person.
This man’s interview touched my heart. The way he talks about his children makes me feel so grateful for my children and to give them a better life than I had, I hope I can talk about parenting the way he does at his age when I am at that stage. He reflects on his life through the trials and troubles so eloquently. I so enjoyed this video.
This was one of the best interviews ever. So moving, honest and truly gave insight into his unique life and LOVE for his family.
Jerry, you are truly a gentleman with an old soul. The way you carry yourself and take responsibility for your past is truly inspiring. You’ve got charisma…write a book about the lessons you’ve learned and obstacles you’ve overcome. Your family must be very proud.
A book and would be a great movie!
@cmck3843
In one of the comments he (Jerry) said he has a book called "Tales from the Trails of a Rock 'n Roll Tour Driver," and it's available on Amazon.
This man's heart is as large as his hands. The end of his talk returns to the first part where his life's beginnings-the suffering of abuse from his mother-is reconciled and overcome by his feelings of love and forgiveness. Humility in its' greatest proportion. A sliver of light and hope in a mean world, becoming more vicious. Fantastuc interview!
A stellar comment !!
As a touring musician, this is every question answered I'd ever want to ask about drivers. This is so heartfelt and heartwarming and the kind of conversation you'd never really get from "the driver." Jerry your a legend and I hope our paths cross one day I'd love to give you a hug and thank you.
* you're
One of the best interviews I’ve seen yet. You broke the cycle Jerry and you did so with love in your heart. You now have a sincere understanding of why your Mother abused you. Thank you Jerry for sharing your experience. Blessings to you and your family.
His kids are blessed with this kind and grounded human as their father.
As the wife of a long time roadie, the drivers are caring for my most precious person. Thank you for your work and for telling such a vulnerable part of your life.
Seriously one of the best interviews you’ve done. He seems like a great guy who wears his heart on his sleeve.
I’m a mental health therapist for children and you Jerry are an inspiration. It really is difficult to break the cycle of abuse and you have done it❤❤ Thank you for sharing your story! And keep rocking 🤘🏽
🌹🪻🌸🌺🌷🌻🌼💐
I’m sorry for this little boy who was tortured by the people who should have cared for him. Never ever ever hit or belittle any child.
Ever...they are innocent show them love always
Jerry, first of all, thank you for your service...secondly, you should be so so proud of where you are now. You genuinely seem like a kind, optimistic soul. You're truly a success story. Congratulations. You made it. I wish you all the luck in the world.
This guy is the type you feel you have known for years within 5 minutes. A really genuine dude.
Gotta be a part 2 with Jerry in the future. More interviews with entertainer Tour bus drivers please. He and many other drivers make the music and entertainment world go round everyday. The true unsung hero’s of the industry.
I agree!
Came here for the groupie stories and stayed for the love. Jerry, you are an incredibly principled, wise man. The world is a better place because you’re part of it. Thanks for sharing your story with us. ✌️❤️
Same. I would have liked more groupies & gossip, but what an amazing human being! I watched all the way through to the end, something I rarely do on Mark's interviews.
Lots of honkin bobos
@@user-vs6hx9ib2oSame. But I’ll buy his book on Amazon and read all the juicy stories.
Jerry, what a lovely man you are. I am so glad to have found your interview.
Ty, ty!
Hands down one of my favorite interviews on this channel. A man of great intellect, strength and character, resilience, integrity, honesty….all of the things. A man rich with knowledge from life experiences both good and bad. He’s worked hard physically and emotionally, fought and scratched for everything he’s got, and he has succeeded. He put an end to the cycle. Bravo, sir! I wish you and your family the best of everything.
What an incredibly genuine & interesting man. If only there were more men like him out there! Thank-you so much for interviewing such a beautiful soul; it was a real pleasure to listen to him open up & hear his life story. Please have him back again? Definitely the best interview you've yet to have. I wish him nothing but the best; it's so rare these days to come across such a diamond. God bless you Jerry ❤
I was a stagehand and roadie for many years...I am old and broken, but it was worth every second ! I miss it daily since those last days. Thank you for your testimony Jerry, I had great relations with our drivers, great guys.
I did 43 years as a DT, and the last 23 as a tour manager, I can totally relate. Unless you've lived it (and I know you have bro) you'll never understand. I sit back and reminisce on how the hell i made it through all of it? From one survivor to another. Yes man, it was worth every second of it and I wouldn't trade any of it for the world. Quake, Murphy NC.
What a likeable man! Soft spoken and genuine, I enjoyed hearing his story.
As the girlfriend of a retired 80's rock musician, I can concur. God bless you Jerry. Thank you for keeping our acts safe on the open road.
…and THIS is why I love the comment section! Out of respect for your privacy I won’t even ask who but interesting just the same dear. Thank you for sharing. And you remind us all that recognizing the real importance of what Jerry (and folks just like him) do simply getting so many working entertainers to their respective destination’s safely for so many years truly is something to commend and something that maybe even drivers themselves and the industry as a whole need to be just as mindful of the integral role they play every day on behalf of them all. It’s no small thing and they should wear it with pride but I’ll bet it can easily be forgotten or overlooked ALOT of the time. Respect to you. Cheers darling.
It ain’t called the Rock N Roll lifestyle for nothing.
I’m gonna guess it’s Wild Mick Brown!
First time listener, and the whole interview blew me away....great questions and you let Jerry answer...it was perfect. I'm 60...my youth wasnt like Jerry's, but my god...his life descriptions brought tears to my eye's, and smiles along the way....Brother Jerry....thank you for sharing your heart and soul...BIG man hug to you.
Jerry is the kind of guy you'd love to spend time with. What a story and what a job !!! Loved hearing his tale.
Great story teller. What an honest, good man. One thing I took from the story is how decent people kept having faith in him, giving him opportunities without dismissing him off the bat. He took them and turned his live around. Good job, Jerry.
If you see this Jerry it was so interesting listening to you talk about your life and your career. I appreciated your honesty and openness in expressing your emotions and how you talked about both the good and bad experiences you have had in your life. You have such a good and kind heart and it's heartwarming to hear how much you love your family. Thank tou for telling your story Jerry 💖.
My cousin drove tour bus for many top performers and for many years. They have to sign disclosures to maintain privacy for the acts. Jerry held the line! He seems to have had a great life, especially for stopping the generational trauma, albeit his own learning experiences. Well done.
In many ways this man is anthropologist with specialization in the popular music culture. He has a true behind the scenes understanding of that culture.
This is one of the best interviews from SWU!
What a wonderful interview. Jerry, I bet you have wonderful children, the love you have for them radiates with such warmth. Your a great man!!!!!!!!
This gives me faith in humanity - the spirit is strong with this one
Its good to see the people behind the scenes get some recognition for the bands and shows that we enjoy. They bust their asses and really are the unsung heroes..
Jerry, great interview as a 62 year old man, classic rock fan that has been going to concerts since i was 15. I love your story. I always wanted to join the rock and roll circus. You tales remind of growing up in the 70s in a dysfunctional family. i too join the Corps best decision i ever made. My alcohol and drug use caused me some problems but i learn i had to leave those habits behind me. My kids and wives help me to out grow that destructive part of my life! The joys of a misspent youth. Semper Fidelis brother! David
This guy should be traveling the country telling his story to young people. Jerry is the perfect example of overcoming the odds that life deals you, and recognizing the power in your personal decisions along the way.
Either that or write a book about his journey. I’d certainly buy a copy! I’ll bet it would be fascinating. Publishers are missing the boat (so to speak) in regards to the inspiring story he could share with folks. Would make a great retirement plan for when he chooses to slow down and take life somewhat easier.
Jerry, Jerry, Jerry ... Your heartfelt recounting of your childhood experiences and their integration into your working life struck a chord that resonates deep within the human spirit. Your authenticity and raw emotion not only tell a personal story but also invite us to reflect on our own journeys. Your narrative is a powerful reminder that our past, with all its complexities, shapes the unique, intricate weave of our present selves. Thank you, Mark, for the transformative window that 'Soft White Underbelly' is undertaking in revealing the raw, unfiltered realities of the human experience on this planet. Your dedication to showcasing the more, shall I say, delicate aspects of life is both courageous, deeply moving.
There are times when you watch an interview like this one… and there is a direct heart to heart connection. This is one of them!
Thank you and Gods Blessings.❤️🙏
Such a caring and compassionate man. His children are very lucky to have a father like him. He lights up when he speaks of his children.. and is honestly grateful to have them❤❤
Love this man’s tender heart, vulnerability & honesty. What a beautiful soul. To find forgiveness & to treasure LOVE in this life is precious. ❤
I've listened to loads of your interviews, but this is my favorite! What a gem of a man. It just goes to show you that life can throw it's curve balls, but the core of what it is to be a "good person" always remains. Thanks for this!
Travel def opens the mind. Talking to people who are well traveled and well read are always the most interesting to talk with and spend time with. Being open minded helps you stay young. And fresh. They don’t grow stale.
This interview was both heartwarming and so cool. As a dad and a teacher I loved his feelings about his children and life. As a child of the 60s and 70s who also played in rock bands my mind is spinning thinking about how cool it must have been to hang with the musicians I revered as a teenager. Thanks for this interview Mark. It was amazing!
This was very uplifting. This guy seems so real and transparent. Best wishes to him going forward.
What a wonderful interview with a kind, sweet, fantastic soul. It elevates me to know there are such good people out there who will show they are vulnerable and teach us we are all worthy. I'm so glad he found his path and learned to love and that he has love, he deserves it.
One of my favorite SWU videos so far. This guy is so raw and real. And there isn’t as much gimmicky pull to watch this video as some of the others.
You know Mark I occasionally watch your interviews and always come away thinking - never judge a book by its cover... What a tremendous guy Jerry is.
I love this man. He's like a great cross between Woody Harrelson and Willie Nelson, and I could listen to him talk for hours. This interview was a gem. I'm really glad his life has worked out so well for him despite the unfortunate circumstances of his upbringing. You'd never guess he did time or had it so rough unless he told you because he became such a genuine good hearted person at the end of it, and that's the kind of wonderful transformations we all hope to see in everyone.
God bless this articulate, gentle soul. He obviously wears his heart on his sleeve and it is very refreshing to listen to. Thank you!
I love this man. What a genuinely good person. Taylor Raine, I'm so happy for you and your family. Much love.
I was born in little Rock in 78, lived in Jacksonville my whole life. Loved hearing your story. Thanks for sharing with us brother
Hi Jerry! I enjoy watching the Soft White Underbelly interviews and I was surprised to see you on here! Nice surprise, we met in Southern Oregon when Dave Matthews family went Ziplining at my park. I arranged for the tour bus to get cleaned on two occasions when you guys were passing through. You called it "Getting The Gorge Out!" lol... I still tell the story about how I thought someone stole a set of Dave's sheets out of one of the laundromat dryers. You knew I was a fan and I was so scared to tell you that a set of sheets went missing! I thought, he is never going to believe me! I started telling you the story about how a set had been stolen and you started counting them and told me they were all there. I was so relieved and glad to not make the local news for something so crazy! Ha ha :) I'm happy you shared your story, glad to see that you broke the cycle and that you are loved and loving others!
Excellent interview! I’m willing to bet my fiancée, who plays all over the country (and world) with the band may know him. I used to ride on the bus when we were on tour, now they’ve slowed down since they’ve been playing for decades so they fly.
The guys in the industry like him are truly special people. They are family to us!
The kindness in this man just radiates out of him. He was a joy to listen to. His children are so lucky to have him as their father.
Love this guy, he's great and lives such an interesting life! Bless him
Great interview. He has had his own journey...turned his life around & changed the direction of his life. Good for him. It's never too late. 👍😊 Thank you for sharing this video with us. 👍🇨🇦😊