Anger is one of the most URGENT emotions we feel and often is misunderstood. Using emotional intelligence will help you with strategies for better dealing with anger and stress. Tell us what helps you manage your anger!
Well I'm still here. And I really appreciate the clips to keep me here and the convoys. And I feel like crying. I just don't want to be like this anymore
I’m such a control freak. I want people to talk to me a certain way, treat me a certain way and do things a certain way and if they don’t I get really upset. I know it’s wrong and I try so hard to stop but I’m so deeply hurt somewhere and I just don’t want to be angry anymore.
I'm deeply hurt by things people have done to me in my past. I replay the scenarios in my mind every single day as if its happening right in front of me, wishing I had reacted differently or got the justice I needed in some way or another. But it's no use - its a waste of time because you can't change what's already gone. I struggle to let go of those things and the feelings that accompany them. I was never this way, I was always a calm and collected person. This has been built up over time and my tolerance for things have completely dissipated.
You shouldn't be tolerant with those things that hurt you however don't let them hurt you again by thinking about it constantly I've lived a long time so I can tell you quite honestly there is justice we might not see it it might not even be when we're still alive but there is justice and I believe that with all my heart
Crying can be a good way to feel your anger. Give yourself space and time to feel your feelings-- that way you can begin to understand the messages the feelings are telling you. It can be hard to listen and trust yourself. Practicing feeling big feelings is the only way we can get more skilled with them.
I'm angry/pissed/annoyed all the time. From the moment I woke up to when I decide to sleep due to frustration. Idk why, but what I've noticed is that my stressors are my family members. Especially my mom. I'm not saying it all their fault, maybe mostly it's mine or maybe not but I have some contribution to that anger. IDK if it's due to pandemic. I just want to stop being angry all the time. It ruins my day, my relationships, my character, and my skin.
I know how you feel. I feel the same. And I think my stressors are my family members and my friends too. Idk what to do. I just feel angry, frustrated And annoyed all the time and it's become so toxic that I've actually started to take it out on friends who just ask me how I am and I react in the most rude and disgusting behaviour. I've hurt so many people because of this and while a part of me says that they had it coming or they deserved it but a part of me says that isn't the way. I just want to be the old cheery person I once was and stop hurting everyone :(
I am so much frustrated with my job , I feel sometimes I have stuck around fools who don't understand anything even after multiple request . I fee like my work is got getting appreciate instead I have been blamed for no reason .
Glad you are looking for answers and learning new tools. One of the messages of anger-- "Something is in my way" when you can identify this thing that is blocking you-- you can think about ways to work with that challenge. Its like untangling a knot-- one step at a time.
@@SixSeconds that was an amazing analogy. I'm always angry also and I feel bad for shouting and reacting the way I do. I use to be happy. idk what happened.
@@davidrodriguez894 Life happen lmao. Jesus how can people not be angry!? I get angry the moment I get into my car. Old people make me so angry that maybe 1 day i might end up in prison bc im soooo fed up with the LAW picking and choosing who to pull over! A 21 year old whos going 8 miles over the limit bc hes sooo stressed put and needs to get to work or get shit done in a timely manner. But for some selfish reason ALL of you old geezers just dont get it.. Drive on the right lane! Drive In the right!!!!!!! Lane! Why is this so god dam hard to do! I get angry bc im so fed up with the idea of paying taxes and working my ass!!!! Off ALL my life! And all some Mexican has to do is jump over a fense and now him and his family will get more help then I will ever get in my life time. I HATE USA and its deceptive lies! I HATE blm!! I HATE feminism!! I hate!!!! Litterly Everything!!!!!!! Bout this idea called life. Cant even get married with out fear of the FACT she will most likely cheat and leave you. No matter how much money I make. No matter if im never home or always home. I hate!!! The fact its 2021 yet we still have to worry bout cars breaking down. I hate!!!! The school system I hate!! pig power! Cops! Who are scum bags! I hate bully narcs! What am I suppose to say how utterly happy I am that I have a roof over my head? Lol Im suppose to use law of attraction to help my self feel happy..just so the very same things that will continue happening in this shit hole experience. Just bury my head in the sand..BE happy and ignore all of the scum bags living during this lame ass evolutionary " change" lmao!!
@Seth Dean Yes it doesnt matter when your on your death bed. One looks back and asks him or her self " why did i care so much " uh well bc you were suppose to. I remember my states of being when im at my highest love vibration. However it never lasts long due to PEOPLES low ass egoic states of being. Just shocked that human beings deserve to burn in hell. ( in general ) id be surprise if any body living presently actually will enter the gates of Heaven.
Psychedelic's definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source here.
@Párraga Zambrano I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety because of university stress. Not until I came across Sporeville , a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly
I think I understand why I'm angry all the time (loneliness, no social circles, being cheated and left, panic disorder, ptsd, new scary work, hot small apartment, not liking myself, pressure to succeed..) and it's almost like my anger is my only way to get through my daily life. But it's not a great way to feel either, a bit better than constant terror but still.. I try to take deep breaths, exercise and believe that there's some joy for me left in this life. Not just work and loneliness. Humour helps sometimes but i'm afraid one day I'll explode if i can't get better.
When I was younger I used to go out looking for a fight, I used to hurt people and got it trouble, I managed to stop doing it but after 17 years of keeping it under control I don't think I can anymore I'm angry all the time, very angry, I'm happy I live alone because often I'll go raging through the house smashing stuff up and ranting and raving to myself. My biggest worry is work I don't know how long I can stay in control. I'm 6'3 243 lbs and could really fight in my younger days and really think I'm gonna smash somebody's face in and soon.
Wake up early in the morning, around 4. Lift for an hour, without music. Then afterwards take an hour walk around the neighborhood or park or whatever. Think about what you could be if you got rid of your anger, or think how your life can be 5, 10, or 15 years in the future with and without the anger.
I am always angry and the calm tone of your voice calmed me down and now I'm able to let myself cry thinking it's okay and legitimate I am grieving and this helps so thank you !!
Yes sir really helpful i sometimes forget to observe i am very patient i gather all this shit and than explode i really have to work on that trying to figure it out
I find myself being constantly overwhelmed, anxious and angry throughout everyday and it’s getting worse. I try to calm myself down and take deep breaths but it always comes back. I just want to feel something good again. Haven’t been happy in months
I'm often asked "Why do you look angry all the time?" Or "You look sad all the time." I'm a very angry person thinking I hide it better than I actually don't. I tend to always resort to shouting and swearing A LOT at the person or thing. I've been convicted of battery and assault for letting my temper run free. I really do want change. I really do. It's definitely hard work.
Wow this was incredibly helpful, my anger tends to stem from my hormones, and on heightened days all my traumas in the past pile up at once and that's when I find it extremely hard to control my rage once I'm triggered....
I just started watching these anger type videos today. I'm so curious if others have found "relief" in the time since they posted. I'm in early menopause and was diagnosed with perimenopausal rage. The pandemic didn't help as being holed up made my social anxiety worse. In addition, I've lost 5 loved ones in as many years and feel like I'm stuck in the anger stage of grief over all of their deaths combined. And to top it off, the man that I know loves me has his own issues and to avoid any sort of negativity or drama, he lies/denies to avoid trouble at any cost. It's too much. I'm in counseling but it's expensive and I can only afford so much; if I could afford it, I really should be in therapy weekly. Thankfully this anger is a recent thing for me so it has only affected one person, my husband. And I find I can justify that anger toward him because he lies to me. I'm in a spiral and it's heartbreaking. This is not who I am. I used to be so calm, level-headed and rational. I have constant panic attacks and on a daily basis you can visibly see me trembling. When I get angry my husband ignores me and it goes on for weeks on end. At one point and I'm ashamed to admit this, we barely spoke for 5 weeks. Not days, weeks.
I wish I could keep my anger to myself. Usually I can but I know eventually I’m gonna pop. Thing is when I do the people I love the most are around to catch most of the flack. Makes me sad as hell once the rage is gone.
Learning to feel things can be really hard. Consider what is behind your anger-- what is in your way? Emotions are messages we are all getting better understanding what they mean.
I really appreciate this video. I'm married to an addict. At this point he is functioning but I'm still angry all the time. I have been in the red zone for years. It has effected my relationships. I'm trying to go down the path of recovery. Videos like yours, that are geared towards me is very helpful. Most content around my situation all go back to the addict. How are they feeling, why are they acting this way, and how you should act around them for their benefit. Your video was made for me and my issues, not his. I also find calm in knowing why and how my brain is working. I like to dig myself into information. It helps me. I found your video to be what I needed today. Thank you.
I’ll say thanks. I’m still pretty pissed but now I know more about anger and I have realized I am very stressed. It shows in my back and neck. I have so much tension and my skin is so rough and I’m only 17, I have acne I feel like I’m large
hang in there- great that you are getting more practice identifying your emotions. Its fantastic that you are able to feel the emotion in your body. For many people the shut out emotions so deeply that they feel numb. Because you are working on this-- next time you feel that tension in your body see if you can relax and exhale just a little bit. Send the anger out of you and release it. Breathing and exercise is a great idea for getting past anger.
I’m so tired of being angry all the time. Crying is a good way to let out your anger but I don’t allow myself to cry. I tell myself if I cry I’m weak and a crybaby so why would I cry? I used to never act like this, now i feel that I cannot cry as I’ll be a weakling. I used to be so happy, i really wonder what happened to me. Why am I always so angry and will never allow myself to cry? That’s a question I think I’ll never be able to have an answer to.
I'm watching this while crying from anger right now... I'm so angry all the time but manage to hide it when I needed to while interacting with others for my security (so people don't hate me of course..) The worst thing is I do know why I'm angry all the time because I feel not in control or helpless in my childhood, not feeling at home in my own home, being disrespected by elders all the time when I was a child and it was frustrating. Now that time has passed but my brain can't get over that kind of anger. Being angry all the time is exhausting. I can't get over things easily. Angry with the same thing/person for years. I'm happy when something bad happens to people who were bad to me over ten years ago, my mind always fantasy about revenge, craving for justice and I feel like a monster for that. I'm feeling hopeless with my attitude.
Practice stopping it until you can turn it OFF. It took me two years and from what I can see that was fast. It is not quick. You have to be DETERMINED.
HI Elizabeth-- you don't have to jump down to green-- just try to build in more resilience into your life so you can gradually come down to a more manageable level of stress.
When youve depended on your anger most of your life and you decide to live without it its like having to learn to walk again. You feel so naked and vulnerable, its mind blowing.
1) set up 🆙 2) trigger 3) interpretation 4) reaction Very important chain of events. It all started when I was seriously bullied as a child 🧒 and physically and verbally assaulted daily in middle and some of high school 🏫
Sometimes I feel like I don’t even have control of my own actions when I’m angry. Is like once I’m up there is not even me anymore. I always try to control my emotions in stressful situations but the anger always wins. I have small children and I see their lil faces everytime I get mad and then I calm down but by the time I do, is too late.
Thank you for creating this content. I find it very valuable as a psychologist and personally. I think an important advance that this approach (like many other models of help and therapy) could make is to talk more about basic psychological needs and not so much about tools. When our needs are recognized and met, we flourish as human beings and have mental health. I see that progress in areas like Deci and Ryan's self-determination theory or Young's schema therapy. Thanks again and best wishes!
I am always so mad and its so draining honestly my hands are shaking as im typing this, im so mad right now and idk why. Im venting to a random ass comment section
I cried listening to you explain how to get out of the reaction cycle and gain consciousness around it. It was so comforting and helpful to what I’m experiencing and I’m so grateful I found this video. I hope you will do a video about when your trigger is a specific person, how to drop the perceived threat when interacting with them or when they come to mind.
I enjoyed the non bias approach of the video, I have gotten stressed and angry at my work the past few weeks, and even though I felt like I had a good reason to be angry, other people noticed, and started treating me differently. This video helped me realize that, yes I did have a good reason to be angry, but also, it gave me some idea of ways to not make a fool out of myself in the process, which makes it worse, (like being angry because I'm angry) lol. Sometimes, I don't even realize that I am coming across as angry, when I really am.
Great reflection! Sometimes giving ourselves that space before reaction can help us see more about the situation and other people's point of view. You are growing your EQ!
After my family abandoned me and left me for dead after they found out I was mentally disabled has impacted my life for the worst and the best.. I'm forever riddled with Hate, Anger, Revenge, and the worst of all Vengeance.. I'm always so mad at myself, and the people who have done the worst things to me in my life. Therapy and medication no longer help me keep my balance, so I'm off everything. Im always looking for answers onto why and how but it could be genetics or it could be that my parents were never around for me which has enraged my anger onto why they never loved me and wanted me as a child... I wish to find my inner peace and happiness no matter how much I lose in life & no matter what the cost is.. I'm currently writing this message in a stair case and I'm praying for better days. Being homeless has brought me to realize having absolutely nothing and still being happy has shown me that it's not money that drives my anger but people.. People have driven me to become insane and it breaks my down every day.. Preventing me from moving forward is my anger towards the world and my ways need to change.. Thank you for the video and showing me an aspect and view on things that can potentially help me understand more on why i'm so unstable with my anger.. I still can't believe I'm 27 coming to 28, I just want to find my inner peace and happiness and show my full roster of colors... I'm tired of seeing the world in black and white.. I want better, I can do better.. As much as I want to give up and end it all my grandparents, Anastacija & Mihajlo(R.I.P to the people who raised me) would have wanted the best for me.. God bless everyone and I hope everyone is taking care of one another..
I started to get angry so easily and scream at ppl so much and say such mean things I don’t mean , then I feel guilty the next minute , I swear I get angry at myself for being angry , I don’t know what’s wrong with me , I’ve never been like this? All my family always ask me what’s wrong and why I always get mad and I just try so hard to control my self but I can so I just lock my self up all day in a room and cry to not get mad at anyone anymore please help
I recommend listening to this and journaling at the same time. I had a huge breakdown today & lashed out on my partner. I’ve come to realize that I’m beyond exhausted. Mentally, physically and emotionally. Still, it’s no excuse to treat others or even myself like that. I’ve come across the ‘meditating and practicing gratitude’ a lot lately & maybe I should give it a go. I do notice that when I wake up late and rush, that sets the wrong tone for the day. Anyway, thanks for the vid!!!
I bet so angry especially to my family, friends and I feel I have a chip on my shoulders. Be reactive to the world and be in my toes in case anyone messes with me. I am constantly on guard all the time and feel like I need to be respected and listen but I am a speck. I can’t shake these feelings
How do you avoid anger when you get a $2,800 cell phone bill and a $1,300 electric bill when your electric is normally about $350 mo and your phone is about $400 month and you are not behind on your payments and your income is less than either one of those bills and it seems like everyone keeps ripping you off?
That sounds pretty hard Dink182 Joho. But we are not talking about avoiding anger-- one of the biggest lessons here is to FEEL your feelings. Repressing them or avoiding them is actually terrible for your wellbeing. Feeling your feelings and listening to the message lets you have the information. Once you have the message you can review your options and make choices. I hope that you find your way through these tough times ahead.
That would make me very angry also. I’m really sorry about your predicament and wish there was something I could do to help you. Sending you positive thoughts 💭 and prayers
The problem is I enjoy anger. I enjoy the bulldozing, bull headed power of it as it consumes me. I’m quick to label myself a victim of issues of my own creation. I blame my past, my circumstances, even the people I love. What I don’t enjoy is how I hurt others. In the moment I don’t care, the only thing that matters is hammering my point home. Then the aftermath - the sight of good, kind hearted people in emotional anguish because of me. I hate myself for that and I’m TERRIFIED I can’t beat this. I’m 33 and I still have this problem, among many others. I wish I had the answer, but it seems there’s no easy way out. It’ll be hard, painful work to get where I want to me.
I look angry, I remember one time, a couple of years ago, while sitting at a park with my son he said you need to smile more, I laugh alot when I'm with my friends but I have a serious expression all the time. I've been through a lot though, but I even prayed that I wouldn't wear what I've gone through on my face! I loss my Mother 3 years ago
Well..I don't really look angry what I meant to say is that I have a serious expression but I've been through a lot and so, I think I wear that on my face. Even though I'm a nice person! When people get to know me they love me!☺️
That really amazes me all the time because I was actually looking for a different video and had nothing to do with this topic and he knows I needed it so somehow I ended up seeing this video and it's a really good video and I learned a lot and I need to continue to keep watching because when you've been through trauma it's not easy but I'm blessed!!!
Thank you for this video! I'm in early menopause and was diagnosed with perimenopausal rage. The pandemic didn't help as being holed up made my social anxiety worse. In addition, I've lost 5 loved ones in as many years and feel like I'm stuck in the anger stage of grief over all of their deaths combined. And to top it off, the man that I know loves me has his own issues and to avoid any sort of negativity or drama, he lies/denies to avoid trouble at any cost. It's too much. I'm in counseling but it's expensive and I can only afford so much; if I could afford it, I really should be in therapy weekly. Thankfully this anger is a recent thing for me so it has only affected one person, my husband. I find I can justify that anger toward him because he lies to me. I'm in a spiral and it's heartbreaking. This is not who I am. I used to be so calm, level-headed and rational.
Omg this is me. I'm 59 and I've never been so angry. It's giving me headaches and stomach aches. I'm pretty sure menopause has a lot to do with it. I just need it to stop but don't know how!
Usually I’m pretty go with the flow. I like making others happy and I like being a source of relentless positivity. I’ll take everything and more with a smile. But sometimes something will happen where my mind just snaps and I want to yank my head off and chuck it across the room. Making sure that I recognize when this is happening, why it’s happening, and forcing myself to get up and go for a walk helps so much.
Is it okay to bottle it up?like sometime when i feel i would loose control during arguement or works under pressure im bail out go smoking and try to let go but the anger is still there so i wait it to vent it on gym punching bag once or two times a week
I just want to find that one things which will tone down my emotions just one things that will helpe release all of them and by so far i have failed miserably ...i have reached to a point where i have become doubtful about my sheer existence in this society as a social animal....co now i comsoder myself incapable to building a relationship be it romantic family friendship social casual anything..i just feel i cant now....nit that i dont want to ..but i just cant put in those efforts and nihilistic feelings just take over ...and i just dont feel at peace
Yeah same here. I can’t have any normal or healthy relationships and I can always find something that irritates me and I can’t find any working solution. But I’m trying.❤
really angry here as I simply can't get any respect at work and they keep treating me like a dog, always telling me to do what nobody else wants to do and I end up being the only person working hard when others are sitting and chatting, looking at their fake nails.. my knees and ankles are sore from the job, but they pay more than other places, which are usually more physically demanding as well.. I come home and housemates have their entertainment on loud speaker and I just yelled at them.. I also got dumped recently, not to mention coming from a narcissistic home and other frustrations and threats in life.. I feel terrible right now
I just said sorry to the girl.. but to be honest, I'm glad I let her know (once again) that I don't want to hear her sh*t.. I've never learnt to set boundaries and I pretty much hate confrontation, but eventually I explode.. where can I learn more about this before I burn any more bridges?
You did set boundrys when ya lost ya shit . I do the same always have im a rager . Anyone at anytime if they deserve it . My daughter said once , dad your like a big ape and they not listening , ill ring the cops myself . But I was moraly right in the situation.? For me anyway . But there's a reason I'm watching this . Make up with everyone ?
Sorry to hear that you are having a tough time at work. It can be very hard to work with people who have different priorities. Don't forget that we can't change other people, only our own thoughts feeling and actions. So think about what you can have influence on-- what can you do to help yourself in the situation? Hope things get better soon.
I love all these shows, and I am so mad all the time I have always been so mad since I was a kid I hate being like this I can’t do literally anything without getting mad
I think my progressive diseases made me an angry person for the past 2yrs I’ve been in such a state of anger and bitterness. Snapping at everyone to only run and hide to sob and scream at myself for being a bitch. I don’t know what’s happening to me I’ve tried to get help from doctors for my health issues in the past and they couldn’t help me or wouldn’t even look into more options I had found and started looking into myself. So I gave up fixing my body but I feel so gross and angry thank you for your video I now understand why I have all this angry and I really do need to try and get my health issues fixed as I feel that’s my source of anger and stress ❤️🙏
The only person I can't get away from is my Daughter, she makes me really angry, I'm learning to deal with my anger better and better. I think believe you can conquer it. Believe Ur capable of getting put of the red zone daily. Let things go, it's not worth it.
Im always on edge but my family is scared when i burst but if they only knew i would never hurt them or anything but my dad was worse he would beat us for tiny things so now their terrified of anger especially a mans anger
I get a lot of road rage 😡 and one time someone chased me because of it which was extremely stressful and scary 😟. My dad is an alcoholic and my mom has bipolar schizophrenia and diabetes and I’m usually pissed off at strangers although I’ve never crossed the line into doing anything against the law. I could definitely though lose my license driving aggressively and I will then have to rely on public transportation. Not worth losing my driving privileges over.
I feel bitter & angry 😡 & I hope this feeling passes but I think it never will. When I was young I was a positive, optimistic person & I consider myself resilient. I have spent most of my life helping my mom, dad, sister, friends, community on and on. I ask for very little. And everyone seems to move on & forget about me. It seems like the most narcissistic, self centered people get the most out of life. My sister is an example. Ever since she was a child she has gotten everything. I have helped her so much & she always complains about something or someone. I feel like every time I help her she treats me worse. I feel like I want to die. Even my ex boyfriend tread me like garbage & wanted my sister because she would parade in front of him. My life is just one disappointment after another. The only saving grace has been my education, job & God & other things that make me happy.
I just snapped at someone from work and everyone was afraid that I would snap at them too. I am still practicing to choose because stress, anger, and being numb was normalized to me for over 20 years. It has been a battle because I couldn't just snap out of it.
@@keniaalvarez5623 I respect your opinion, however to accept and deal with my own issues will probably take a lifetime for me as they are already deeply rooted and normalized. My brain was already conditioned to certain reactions and it is not easy to have something for almost 3 decades to just snap out of it. Moving on, as much as I would love to get them out of my system, I can only start loving myself. Love is my battlecry no matter how hard and painful it is. In time, we will evolve.
I'm super angry and super pissed from the moment I wake up and it prevents me from going to bed. I'm currently going threw major financial struggles I can hardly eat. That might be why
I needed a process to deal with my ridiculously angry reactions to simple irritations. I think this video might be the process I was looking for. Thank you for laying it out so clearly.
My grandma asked me if I had her phone plug while I was cooking and I just instantly blacked out. I argued about how small of a thing it was and that it could have waited for like 20 minutes. I have no idea what I should do like “let me stop what Im doing for something that you don’t even need” I should not have been pissed but idk little things like that really get me.
The little things tick me off for some reason, like my wifi for instance, it disconnects randomly, and it ruins how well I was doing Ina game or if I watching something. Or if someone says something, or has opinions that are completely idiotic to me, thank you for helping me
This is a very good video - the advice and the way it's edited with funny clips so it doesn't feel like rambling. I feel one of the most important thing is accept when we are disproportionately angry. Managing your emotions is so important - I am starting to damage so many relationships because of anger and the numerous nasty comments i have posted on the internet in volatility is so shameful.
im now 16, my dad told me to man up and not to be a b but now that nothing at all (not even gre) scares me dad tells me to chill out, it makes me mad how i finally became strong and fear nothing but see people near me that all act and are so lazy, i worked everything and years for nothing, all the depression and sh all for nothing
Anger is one of the most URGENT emotions we feel and often is misunderstood. Using emotional intelligence will help you with strategies for better dealing with anger and stress. Tell us what helps you manage your anger!
Food
Cant nothing helps
Self reflection and isolation
hope this helps im ready to throw the refrigerator on the front lawn
Well I'm still here. And I really appreciate the clips to keep me here and the convoys. And I feel like crying. I just don't want to be like this anymore
I’m such a control freak. I want people to talk to me a certain way, treat me a certain way and do things a certain way and if they don’t I get really upset. I know it’s wrong and I try so hard to stop but I’m so deeply hurt somewhere and I just don’t want to be angry anymore.
I can relate to this so much!
This is exactly how I am🥲
Ugh 😣 I dislike the way I am
@@masonloup8934 I’m not a girl
Unfortunately, I'm in the same trouble!😥
I'm deeply hurt by things people have done to me in my past. I replay the scenarios in my mind every single day as if its happening right in front of me, wishing I had reacted differently or got the justice I needed in some way or another. But it's no use - its a waste of time because you can't change what's already gone. I struggle to let go of those things and the feelings that accompany them. I was never this way, I was always a calm and collected person. This has been built up over time and my tolerance for things have completely dissipated.
Why do I relate to this so much?
Wow, i relate so much
It felt like there is a vessel inside waiting to burst
You shouldn't be tolerant with those things that hurt you however don't let them hurt you again by thinking about it constantly I've lived a long time so I can tell you quite honestly there is justice we might not see it it might not even be when we're still alive but there is justice and I believe that with all my heart
Me too
YOu have truly artuiculated where I am in life right now.
Im watching this pissed off. Sadly
Ill still be pissed afterwards
This video and the comments make me even angrier im way too angry
Me too!
same, i hope i can work my way out of this i can't stand it
Relatable
Me too,
I just can't container my anger anymore,
I used to be very collected and patient
When my anger level reaches to the top i just start to cry because i feel like the anger and irritation never gets out of me
@iicocaxcola can't relate more..
Crying can be a good way to feel your anger. Give yourself space and time to feel your feelings-- that way you can begin to understand the messages the feelings are telling you. It can be hard to listen and trust yourself. Practicing feeling big feelings is the only way we can get more skilled with them.
Same here
This happened to me tonight
Me too. Yesterday I was screaming in anger. I really wanted to cry but I didnt. I should try to cry.
I'm angry/pissed/annoyed all the time. From the moment I woke up to when I decide to sleep due to frustration. Idk why, but what I've noticed is that my stressors are my family members. Especially my mom. I'm not saying it all their fault, maybe mostly it's mine or maybe not but I have some contribution to that anger. IDK if it's due to pandemic. I just want to stop being angry all the time. It ruins my day, my relationships, my character, and my skin.
Fuck it being angry is the way
I know how you feel. I feel the same. And I think my stressors are my family members and my friends too. Idk what to do. I just feel angry, frustrated And annoyed all the time and it's become so toxic that I've actually started to take it out on friends who just ask me how I am and I react in the most rude and disgusting behaviour. I've hurt so many people because of this and while a part of me says that they had it coming or they deserved it but a part of me says that isn't the way. I just want to be the old cheery person I once was and stop hurting everyone :(
I tried to sleep but i am so mad right now i cant even sleep tbh idk why im mad
I relate to this heavily. It’s exhausting to think about.
I am so much frustrated with my job , I feel sometimes I have stuck around fools who don't understand anything even after multiple request . I fee like my work is got getting appreciate instead I have been blamed for no reason .
I am tired of being angry like i dnt understand what's wrong with me 😒 i used to b happy all the time not no more i got so much in my mind
Glad you are looking for answers and learning new tools. One of the messages of anger-- "Something is in my way" when you can identify this thing that is blocking you-- you can think about ways to work with that challenge. Its like untangling a knot-- one step at a time.
@@SixSeconds that was an amazing analogy. I'm always angry also and I feel bad for shouting and reacting the way I do. I use to be happy. idk what happened.
@@davidrodriguez894 Life happen lmao. Jesus how can people not be angry!? I get angry the moment I get into my car. Old people make me so angry that maybe 1 day i might end up in prison bc im soooo fed up with the LAW picking and choosing who to pull over! A 21 year old whos going 8 miles over the limit bc hes sooo stressed put and needs to get to work or get shit done in a timely manner. But for some selfish reason ALL of you old geezers just dont get it.. Drive on the right lane!
Drive
In the right!!!!!!! Lane!
Why is this so god dam hard to do!
I get angry bc im so fed up with the idea of paying taxes and working my ass!!!! Off ALL my life! And all some Mexican has to do is jump over a fense and now him and his family will get more help then I will ever get in my life time. I HATE USA and its deceptive lies! I HATE blm!! I HATE feminism!! I hate!!!! Litterly
Everything!!!!!!! Bout this idea called life. Cant even get married with out fear of the FACT she will most likely cheat and leave you. No matter how much money I make. No matter if im never home or always home. I hate!!! The fact its 2021 yet we still have to worry bout cars breaking down. I hate!!!! The school system
I hate!! pig power! Cops! Who are scum bags!
I hate bully narcs!
What am I suppose to say how utterly happy I am that I have a roof over my head? Lol Im suppose to use law of attraction to help my self feel happy..just so the very same things that will continue happening in this shit hole experience. Just bury my head in the sand..BE happy and ignore all of the scum bags living during this lame ass evolutionary " change" lmao!!
@Seth Dean Yes it doesnt matter when your on your death bed. One looks back and asks him or her self " why did i care so much " uh well bc you were suppose to. I remember my states of being when im at my highest love vibration. However it never lasts long due to PEOPLES low ass egoic states of being. Just shocked that human beings deserve to burn in hell. ( in general ) id be surprise if any body living presently actually will enter the gates of Heaven.
And I see how you get angry. I don’t want to be involved with you. I don’t trust angry people.
Psychedelic's definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source here.
@Párraga Zambrano I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety because of university stress. Not until I came across Sporeville , a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly
@Torres Andrade Sporeville
@lG
Came across the comments about Sporeville and I must say he is a genius.
Does Sporeville ship?
I see somebody on the street doing something stupid and it bothers me like im involved in the situation, while im actually not, and shouldn't care
then mind your own
I think I understand why I'm angry all the time (loneliness, no social circles, being cheated and left, panic disorder, ptsd, new scary work, hot small apartment, not liking myself, pressure to succeed..) and it's almost like my anger is my only way to get through my daily life. But it's not a great way to feel either, a bit better than constant terror but still.. I try to take deep breaths, exercise and believe that there's some joy for me left in this life. Not just work and loneliness. Humour helps sometimes but i'm afraid one day I'll explode if i can't get better.
When I was younger I used to go out looking for a fight, I used to hurt people and got it trouble, I managed to stop doing it but after 17 years of keeping it under control I don't think I can anymore I'm angry all the time, very angry, I'm happy I live alone because often I'll go raging through the house smashing stuff up and ranting and raving to myself. My biggest worry is work I don't know how long I can stay in control. I'm 6'3 243 lbs and could really fight in my younger days and really think I'm gonna smash somebody's face in and soon.
Lol
It’s not funny man😔
Have you considered counseling and medication to help you through this?
Smoke a blunt and meditate
Wake up early in the morning, around 4. Lift for an hour, without music. Then afterwards take an hour walk around the neighborhood or park or whatever. Think about what you could be if you got rid of your anger, or think how your life can be 5, 10, or 15 years in the future with and without the anger.
Seems like anger is all I feel nowadays, I've been angry for almost a year now
I am always angry and the calm tone of your voice calmed me down and now I'm able to let myself cry thinking it's okay and legitimate
I am grieving and this helps so thank you !!
I was so incredibly furious your vid made me laugh and i learned a lot from it thank you i appreciate it
Great to hear the video was helpful!!
Yes sir really helpful i sometimes forget to observe i am very patient i gather all this shit and than explode i really have to work on that trying to figure it out
I find myself being constantly overwhelmed, anxious and angry throughout everyday and it’s getting worse. I try to calm myself down and take deep breaths but it always comes back. I just want to feel something good again. Haven’t been happy in months
Continuous efforts will eventually bring it under control. Have a plan (mine was banishing rituals) and stick to it until you get results.
For months? I haven't been happy for a couple of years.
I am so tired of being angry all the time. Thank you for this video.
I'm often asked "Why do you look angry all the time?" Or "You look sad all the time." I'm a very angry person thinking I hide it better than I actually don't. I tend to always resort to shouting and swearing A LOT at the person or thing. I've been convicted of battery and assault for letting my temper run free. I really do want change. I really do. It's definitely hard work.
Wow this was incredibly helpful, my anger tends to stem from my hormones, and on heightened days all my traumas in the past pile up at once and that's when I find it extremely hard to control my rage once I'm triggered....
Food always helps me, like a milk shake
I just started watching these anger type videos today. I'm so curious if others have found "relief" in the time since they posted. I'm in early menopause and was diagnosed with perimenopausal rage. The pandemic didn't help as being holed up made my social anxiety worse. In addition, I've lost 5 loved ones in as many years and feel like I'm stuck in the anger stage of grief over all of their deaths combined. And to top it off, the man that I know loves me has his own issues and to avoid any sort of negativity or drama, he lies/denies to avoid trouble at any cost. It's too much. I'm in counseling but it's expensive and I can only afford so much; if I could afford it, I really should be in therapy weekly. Thankfully this anger is a recent thing for me so it has only affected one person, my husband. And I find I can justify that anger toward him because he lies to me. I'm in a spiral and it's heartbreaking. This is not who I am. I used to be so calm, level-headed and rational. I have constant panic attacks and on a daily basis you can visibly see me trembling. When I get angry my husband ignores me and it goes on for weeks on end. At one point and I'm ashamed to admit this, we barely spoke for 5 weeks. Not days, weeks.
@@beachgirl8420 that’s how it was with my husband & still is at times. He gives me the silent treatment. I feel very dehumanized & has given me PTSD
I can't contain my anger anymore, I used to be very patient.
I wanna cry but I can't, and as I'm writing this my heart is pounding and I'm furious.
Thank you so much for such a helpful video. 3 cycles helped me out in understanding it
I wish I could keep my anger to myself. Usually I can but I know eventually I’m gonna pop. Thing is when I do the people I love the most are around to catch most of the flack. Makes me sad as hell once the rage is gone.
Throughout the day I’m just angry and bothered but at night it’s like that anger emotion went to sleep and I’m just numb
Learning to feel things can be really hard. Consider what is behind your anger-- what is in your way? Emotions are messages we are all getting better understanding what they mean.
that word numb.... to describe feelings is so overplayed..... FACTS 9/10 people will say they are NUMB.,.. if you are NUMB you wouldnt feel angry
I really appreciate this video.
I'm married to an addict. At this point he is functioning but I'm still angry all the time. I have been in the red zone for years. It has effected my relationships.
I'm trying to go down the path of recovery.
Videos like yours, that are geared towards me is very helpful. Most content around my situation all go back to the addict. How are they feeling, why are they acting this way, and how you should act around them for their benefit. Your video was made for me and my issues, not his.
I also find calm in knowing why and how my brain is working. I like to dig myself into information. It helps me. I found your video to be what I needed today.
Thank you.
I’ll say thanks. I’m still pretty pissed but now I know more about anger and I have realized I am very stressed. It shows in my back and neck. I have so much tension and my skin is so rough and I’m only 17, I have acne I feel like I’m large
Be easy on yourself, you're doing the best you can🙏🙏🙏
hang in there- great that you are getting more practice identifying your emotions. Its fantastic that you are able to feel the emotion in your body. For many people the shut out emotions so deeply that they feel numb. Because you are working on this-- next time you feel that tension in your body see if you can relax and exhale just a little bit. Send the anger out of you and release it. Breathing and exercise is a great idea for getting past anger.
I’m so tired of being angry all the time. Crying is a good way to let out your anger but I don’t allow myself to cry. I tell myself if I cry I’m weak and a crybaby so why would I cry? I used to never act like this, now i feel that I cannot cry as I’ll be a weakling. I used to be so happy, i really wonder what happened to me. Why am I always so angry and will never allow myself to cry? That’s a question I think I’ll never be able to have an answer to.
I'm watching this while crying from anger right now...
I'm so angry all the time but manage to hide it when I needed to while interacting with others for my security (so people don't hate me of course..) The worst thing is I do know why I'm angry all the time because I feel not in control or helpless in my childhood, not feeling at home in my own home, being disrespected by elders all the time when I was a child and it was frustrating.
Now that time has passed but my brain can't get over that kind of anger. Being angry all the time is exhausting. I can't get over things easily. Angry with the same thing/person for years. I'm happy when something bad happens to people who were bad to me over ten years ago, my mind always fantasy about revenge, craving for justice and I feel like a monster for that. I'm feeling hopeless with my attitude.
Practice stopping it until you can turn it OFF. It took me two years and from what I can see that was fast. It is not quick. You have to be DETERMINED.
Wow, Im impressed. .t. This guy really hits the nail on the head, when he let me know I've been living in the red.
HI Elizabeth-- you don't have to jump down to green-- just try to build in more resilience into your life so you can gradually come down to a more manageable level of stress.
I keep reminding my Anger "You'll always be heard". That helps... sometimes.
Thank you for making this content bro, Right now I'm eliminating nicotine from my system I quit cold turkey, and now I just feel angry all the time.
Stay strong
Take up weed. It harms less.
When youve depended on your anger most of your life and you decide to live without it its like having to learn to walk again. You feel so naked and vulnerable, its mind blowing.
1) set up 🆙
2) trigger
3) interpretation
4) reaction
Very important chain of events. It all started when I was seriously bullied as a child 🧒 and physically and verbally assaulted daily in middle and some of high school 🏫
This is so good I was crying as I watched this cause I’m so angry.
May God bless you sir! You have broken down a problem that is very hard to recognize.
Sometimes I feel like I don’t even have control of my own actions when I’m angry. Is like once I’m up there is not even me anymore. I always try to control my emotions in stressful situations but the anger always wins. I have small children and I see their lil faces everytime I get mad and then I calm down but by the time I do, is too late.
Thank you for creating this content. I find it very valuable as a psychologist and personally. I think an important advance that this approach (like many other models of help and therapy) could make is to talk more about basic psychological needs and not so much about tools.
When our needs are recognized and met, we flourish as human beings and have mental health.
I see that progress in areas like Deci and Ryan's self-determination theory or Young's schema therapy.
Thanks again and best wishes!
Thank you for this
I am always so mad and its so draining honestly my hands are shaking as im typing this, im so mad right now and idk why. Im venting to a random ass comment section
I cried listening to you explain how to get out of the reaction cycle and gain consciousness around it. It was so comforting and helpful to what I’m experiencing and I’m so grateful I found this video. I hope you will do a video about when your trigger is a specific person, how to drop the perceived threat when interacting with them or when they come to mind.
I enjoyed the non bias approach of the video, I have gotten stressed and angry at my work the past few weeks, and even though I felt like I had a good reason to be angry, other people noticed, and started treating me differently. This video helped me realize that, yes I did have a good reason to be angry, but also, it gave me some idea of ways to not make a fool out of myself in the process, which makes it worse, (like being angry because I'm angry) lol. Sometimes, I don't even realize that I am coming across as angry, when I really am.
Great reflection! Sometimes giving ourselves that space before reaction can help us see more about the situation and other people's point of view. You are growing your EQ!
After my family abandoned me and left me for dead after they found out I was mentally disabled has impacted my life for the worst and the best..
I'm forever riddled with Hate, Anger, Revenge, and the worst of all Vengeance.. I'm always so mad at myself, and the people who have done the worst things to me in my life. Therapy and medication no longer help me keep my balance, so I'm off everything.
Im always looking for answers onto why and how but it could be genetics or it could be that my parents were never around for me which has enraged my anger onto why they never loved me and wanted me as a child...
I wish to find my inner peace and happiness no matter how much I lose in life & no matter what the cost is..
I'm currently writing this message in a stair case and I'm praying for better days. Being homeless has brought me to realize having absolutely nothing and still being happy has shown me that it's not money that drives my anger but people.. People have driven me to become insane and it breaks my down every day.. Preventing me from moving forward is my anger towards the world and my ways need to change.. Thank you for the video and showing me an aspect and view on things that can potentially help me understand more on why i'm so unstable with my anger..
I still can't believe I'm 27 coming to 28, I just want to find my inner peace and happiness and show my full roster of colors... I'm tired of seeing the world in black and white.. I want better, I can do better.. As much as I want to give up and end it all my grandparents, Anastacija & Mihajlo(R.I.P to the people who raised me) would have wanted the best for me..
God bless everyone and I hope everyone is taking care of one another..
Hope you have came up some since you posted this . and dont question things you know the answer to anyone who does you bad wasnt good enough for u
I started to get angry so easily and scream at ppl so much and say such mean things I don’t mean , then I feel guilty the next minute , I swear I get angry at myself for being angry , I don’t know what’s wrong with me , I’ve never been like this? All my family always ask me what’s wrong and why I always get mad and I just try so hard to control my self but I can so I just lock my self up all day in a room and cry to not get mad at anyone anymore please help
Thanks man. Saddest thing is that most people don't understand this and think that what we say in anger we actually mean..
I recommend listening to this and journaling at the same time.
I had a huge breakdown today & lashed out on my partner. I’ve come to realize that I’m beyond exhausted. Mentally, physically and emotionally. Still, it’s no excuse to treat others or even myself like that. I’ve come across the ‘meditating and practicing gratitude’ a lot lately & maybe I should give it a go. I do notice that when I wake up late and rush, that sets the wrong tone for the day. Anyway, thanks for the vid!!!
I’m so glad I know I’m not alone with these feelings
I bet so angry especially to my family, friends and I feel I have a chip on my shoulders. Be reactive to the world and be in my toes in case anyone messes with me. I am constantly on guard all the time and feel like I need to be respected and listen but I am a speck. I can’t shake these feelings
This is a brilliantly put together video. I"m using it with my clients. Thanks for your work!
How do you avoid anger when you get a $2,800 cell phone bill and a $1,300 electric bill when your electric is normally about $350 mo and your phone is about $400 month and you are not behind on your payments and your income is less than either one of those bills and it seems like everyone keeps ripping you off?
That sounds pretty hard Dink182 Joho. But we are not talking about avoiding anger-- one of the biggest lessons here is to FEEL your feelings. Repressing them or avoiding them is actually terrible for your wellbeing. Feeling your feelings and listening to the message lets you have the information. Once you have the message you can review your options and make choices. I hope that you find your way through these tough times ahead.
That would make me very angry also. I’m really sorry about your predicament and wish there was something I could do to help you. Sending you positive thoughts 💭 and prayers
i get so angry that i can feel it take over my whole body
Finally someone that understands, anger is a natural human emotion. Great video! Great information!
I’ve found out what helps me is excepting I am this way. This world wants you to let shit slide. Fuck them embrace your anger.
The problem is I enjoy anger. I enjoy the bulldozing, bull headed power of it as it consumes me. I’m quick to label myself a victim of issues of my own creation. I blame my past, my circumstances, even the people I love. What I don’t enjoy is how I hurt others. In the moment I don’t care, the only thing that matters is hammering my point home. Then the aftermath - the sight of good, kind hearted people in emotional anguish because of me. I hate myself for that and I’m TERRIFIED I can’t beat this. I’m 33 and I still have this problem, among many others.
I wish I had the answer, but it seems there’s no easy way out. It’ll be hard, painful work to get where I want to me.
i feel #disrespected
I am polit with everyone why can't everyone be polit too
#Thanks this video was great and helpful
They never learned that... But never accept bad behavior!!
I am angry now lol
It feels like my duty to turn rude people around, i'm doing a bad job lol
I look angry, I remember one time, a couple of years ago, while sitting at a park with my son he said you need to smile more, I laugh alot when I'm with my friends but I have a serious expression all the time. I've been through a lot though, but I even prayed that I wouldn't wear what I've gone through on my face! I loss my Mother 3 years ago
Im sorry for your loss-- but the grief you have for your mom is also a form of love for her. Be well.
@@SixSeconds Thank you so very much!
Well..I don't really look angry what I meant to say is that I have a serious expression but I've been through a lot and so, I think I wear that on my face. Even though I'm a nice person! When people get to know me they love me!☺️
So how do I relieve my anger without hurting anyone or myself
Thank you for your concern, compassion and help. ❤
For a positive direction of negative thinking.
Great post. Helped me today.
That really amazes me all the time because I was actually looking for a different video and had nothing to do with this topic and he knows I needed it so somehow I ended up seeing this video and it's a really good video and I learned a lot and I need to continue to keep watching because when you've been through trauma it's not easy but I'm blessed!!!
I meant God not he.
I am so glad this video was helpful! Sometimes we get what we need at just the right time!
Thank you for this video!
I'm in early menopause and was diagnosed with perimenopausal rage. The pandemic didn't help as being holed up made my social anxiety worse. In addition, I've lost 5 loved ones in as many years and feel like I'm stuck in the anger stage of grief over all of their deaths combined. And to top it off, the man that I know loves me has his own issues and to avoid any sort of negativity or drama, he lies/denies to avoid trouble at any cost. It's too much. I'm in counseling but it's expensive and I can only afford so much; if I could afford it, I really should be in therapy weekly. Thankfully this anger is a recent thing for me so it has only affected one person, my husband. I find I can justify that anger toward him because he lies to me. I'm in a spiral and it's heartbreaking. This is not who I am. I used to be so calm, level-headed and rational.
Omg this is me. I'm 59 and I've never been so angry. It's giving me headaches and stomach aches. I'm pretty sure menopause has a lot to do with it. I just need it to stop but don't know how!
I'm literally pissed off right now of the smallest reason. I hope this can help me. I'm as mad as hell rn
I needed this because whenever my computer acts up i have a nearly overwhelming desire to throw it into a brick wall as hard as i can.
me too
Homie me too
Usually I’m pretty go with the flow. I like making others happy and I like being a source of relentless positivity. I’ll take everything and more with a smile. But sometimes something will happen where my mind just snaps and I want to yank my head off and chuck it across the room. Making sure that I recognize when this is happening, why it’s happening, and forcing myself to get up and go for a walk helps so much.
I was betrayed and mistreated by a former roommate they took advantage of my kindness, then they destroyed my personal belongings out of spite.🎉
Is it okay to bottle it up?like sometime when i feel i would loose control during arguement or works under pressure im bail out go smoking and try to let go but the anger is still there so i wait it to vent it on gym punching bag once or two times a week
I’m very angry when I’m home and your voice has calmed me thank you
I just want to find that one things which will tone down my emotions just one things that will helpe release all of them and by so far i have failed miserably ...i have reached to a point where i have become doubtful about my sheer existence in this society as a social animal....co now i comsoder myself incapable to building a relationship be it romantic family friendship social casual anything..i just feel i cant now....nit that i dont want to ..but i just cant put in those efforts and nihilistic feelings just take over ...and i just dont feel at peace
Yeah same here. I can’t have any normal or healthy relationships and I can always find something that irritates me and I can’t find any working solution. But I’m trying.❤
There is no ONE Thing. You must learn control. Every time you get angry - shut it down. It worked for me.
really angry here as I simply can't get any respect at work and they keep treating me like a dog, always telling me to do what nobody else wants to do and I end up being the only person working hard when others are sitting and chatting, looking at their fake nails.. my knees and ankles are sore from the job, but they pay more than other places, which are usually more physically demanding as well.. I come home and housemates have their entertainment on loud speaker and I just yelled at them.. I also got dumped recently, not to mention coming from a narcissistic home and other frustrations and threats in life.. I feel terrible right now
I just said sorry to the girl.. but to be honest, I'm glad I let her know (once again) that I don't want to hear her sh*t.. I've never learnt to set boundaries and I pretty much hate confrontation, but eventually I explode.. where can I learn more about this before I burn any more bridges?
I hear ya
You did set boundrys when ya lost ya shit . I do the same always have im a rager . Anyone at anytime if they deserve it . My daughter said once , dad your like a big ape and they not listening , ill ring the cops myself . But I was moraly right in the situation.? For me anyway . But there's a reason I'm watching this . Make up with everyone ?
Sorry to hear that you are having a tough time at work. It can be very hard to work with people who have different priorities. Don't forget that we can't change other people, only our own thoughts feeling and actions. So think about what you can have influence on-- what can you do to help yourself in the situation? Hope things get better soon.
OMG!!! The most underrrated video on RUclips right now. Sharing this.
Anger is easier to cope with than feeling anxiety. Truth.
Anger makes s person feel strong, anxiety makes a person feel weak. I go between both in a power struggle.
@@lisaslifestyle personally I disagree. Anger makes me feel weak like I can’t control the situation and I just get angry and frustrated about it
It was helpful to find real reason for crankiness
It is even more helpful to find there is no "reason".
I love all these shows, and I am so mad all the time I have always been so mad since I was a kid I hate being like this I can’t do literally anything without getting mad
I really love how you used many shorts to meaningfully rellay the message and bring some fun to the topic as well 😊!
I have to say I usually skip videos like this but it was spot on. Great use of the video clips to keep it interesting. Would be amazing to meet you!
I am more angry after watching this video i dont know why
thank you so much for this video,
best video on this topic in my opinion
been dealing with chronic stress anxiety depression for more than 10 years.
I think my progressive diseases made me an angry person for the past 2yrs I’ve been in such a state of anger and bitterness. Snapping at everyone to only run and hide to sob and scream at myself for being a bitch. I don’t know what’s happening to me I’ve tried to get help from doctors for my health issues in the past and they couldn’t help me or wouldn’t even look into more options I had found and started looking into myself. So I gave up fixing my body but I feel so gross and angry thank you for your video I now understand why I have all this angry and I really do need to try and get my health issues fixed as I feel that’s my source of anger and stress ❤️🙏
The only person I can't get away from is my Daughter, she makes me really angry, I'm learning to deal with my anger better and better. I think believe you can conquer it. Believe Ur capable of getting put of the red zone daily. Let things go, it's not worth it.
I usually get irritated because I can't handle pressure and then my anger reaches a very high level .I hurt almost everyone the re in my office...
I’m a very irritable teenager. I was bullied in the past which has contributed to low self esteem. When I feel shamed in anyway, I lash out.
Im always on edge but my family is scared when i burst but if they only knew i would never hurt them or anything but my dad was worse he would beat us for tiny things so now their terrified of anger especially a mans anger
How do you deal with feeling anger and irritated/resentful over being overworked at work? Ideas and strategies? Thx! 😀
I’m so sick of being angry, but I also live in it.
Best anger management video ! Much Gratitude ...
I get a lot of road rage 😡 and one time someone chased me because of it which was extremely stressful and scary 😟. My dad is an alcoholic and my mom has bipolar schizophrenia and diabetes and I’m usually pissed off at strangers although I’ve never crossed the line into doing anything against the law. I could definitely though lose my license driving aggressively and I will then have to rely on public transportation. Not worth losing my driving privileges over.
I feel bitter & angry 😡 & I hope this feeling passes but I think it never will. When I was young I was a positive, optimistic person & I consider myself resilient. I have spent most of my life helping my mom, dad, sister, friends, community on and on. I ask for very little. And everyone seems to move on & forget about me. It seems like the most narcissistic, self centered people get the most out of life. My sister is an example. Ever since she was a child she has gotten everything. I have helped her so much & she always complains about something or someone. I feel like every time I help her she treats me worse. I feel like I want to die. Even my ex boyfriend tread me like garbage & wanted my sister because she would parade in front of him. My life is just one disappointment after another. The only saving grace has been my education, job & God & other things that make me happy.
I feel hopeless to control my emotions...
I keep getting into fights someone says something and I just see red and become furious it’s scary because it’s getting worse.
I just snapped at someone from work and everyone was afraid that I would snap at them too. I am still practicing to choose because stress, anger, and being numb was normalized to me for over 20 years. It has been a battle because I couldn't just snap out of it.
Maybe they deserved it
@@keniaalvarez5623 I respect your opinion, however to accept and deal with my own issues will probably take a lifetime for me as they are already deeply rooted and normalized. My brain was already conditioned to certain reactions and it is not easy to have something for almost 3 decades to just snap out of it. Moving on, as much as I would love to get them out of my system, I can only start loving myself. Love is my battlecry no matter how hard and painful it is. In time, we will evolve.
Did you end up getting fired from your job? I feel very bad for you
Awesome work Joshua 💪🙏🏻
I'm super angry and super pissed from the moment I wake up and it prevents me from going to bed. I'm currently going threw major financial struggles I can hardly eat. That might be why
My mum is a very angry person and she hasn't changed in about 40 years,she never sees the good in things.
Thanks this is very helpful. I was very angry before watching the video. I’m still angry, but the amount of anger has been receded a little
This is such a phenomenal video. So insightful. One of the best videos that I have come across on anger management! ❤️
I needed a process to deal with my ridiculously angry reactions to simple irritations. I think this video might be the process I was looking for. Thank you for laying it out so clearly.
thank you. this sounds ridiculous but i never even related my stress levels to how fast i blow up at little things.
My grandma asked me if I had her phone plug while I was cooking and I just instantly blacked out. I argued about how small of a thing it was and that it could have waited for like 20 minutes. I have no idea what I should do like “let me stop what Im doing for something that you don’t even need” I should not have been pissed but idk little things like that really get me.
The little things tick me off for some reason, like my wifi for instance, it disconnects randomly, and it ruins how well I was doing Ina game or if I watching something. Or if someone says something, or has opinions that are completely idiotic to me, thank you for helping me
This is a very good video - the advice and the way it's edited with funny clips so it doesn't feel like rambling. I feel one of the most important thing is accept when we are disproportionately angry. Managing your emotions is so important - I am starting to damage so many relationships because of anger and the numerous nasty comments i have posted on the internet in volatility is so shameful.
Thank you for helping me today.
im now 16, my dad told me to man up and not to be a b but now that nothing at all (not even gre) scares me dad tells me to chill out, it makes me mad how i finally became strong and fear nothing but see people near me that all act and are so lazy, i worked everything and years for nothing, all the depression and sh all for nothing
Angry ass mom and wife here. Thanks for these tips.
When I heard the bells ringing I wanted to throw my phone that’s playing this video. What an intrusive sound. Thanks for the trigger, dude.
This was so helpful, thank you.