I went to the eye doctor once and he spent along time gazing into my eyes and than pronounced them to be beautiful and and perfect. Than he proceeded with my exam!
I have been told that it is very hard to resist my gaze, that people find it hard to look away once they are caught in my gaze (which I do not do intentionally). And I have always heard a lot of times that my eyes are beautiful which is one of the nicest compliments to receive :)
My sister and my brother told me I have an innocent gaze and sometimes attractive elegant gaze 😅 my brother is also INFP and has a warm gaze but serious and friendly at the same time 😊🌺
My "half-laughing" problem when daydreaming actually solved at this pandemic day by wearing mask. Nobody knows I'm daydreaming about weird scenarios anymore 😂
the thing about "forcing" INFP's to do something is so true. It doesn't need to be something big, if I am doing my thing and someone tells me "do this for me, please" even if I was going to do the thing for the person I get so pissed i lose the will to do it.
I know, that's the worst! No... the worst is my boss. She lists a few things to do in no partcular order it seems. So then I'll start doing them in some order that makes sense to me, but she'll get annoyed and say, "No, do *this one first! " When, objectively, it really doesn't matter which one is done first, and incidentally isn't even the order she listed them in. Hate that even more!!
haha when i was a kid, i used to get lost in space. sometimes stare into nothingness with a grin on my face...my father, when he caught me doing that would say: "there she goes again...riding her white unicorn."
I tend to scare people with my eye contact. I have super loving seductive eyes, I just cant help it i fall into everyone's eyes... their souls are just so beautiful... but it freaks people out and then they start acting wierd and treat me like I am either gay or some kind of sexual predator... so I just don't... I try to back waaaaay up with it though... I wonder if this is the case for other infps?
Jay bizness i don’t have a problem with eye contact as well, like if people talk to me i just concentrate sm and keep focusing in their eyes to the point sometimes i can sense that it makes them nervous so i look away immediately , and I don’t like it when i am talking to someone and they are not looking me in the eye cuz i feel like they are not listening
“No matter what you’re doing they’re like ‘sure why not’” hahah omg that’s exactly how it is, I just want to let other people explore their weirdness and I get excited for it; I would never inhibit someone doing something weird lol
Same, and for me, this look is a conscious look 'I need to project outwardly that I'm open-minded and not being critical.' This often feels like a call to action, and I literally perk up confidently because tolerance and understanding is the one thing I feel confident in providing for anyone at a moment's notice. I'm sure this first started in myself when hearing fairy tales where a character meets with something fantastic but doesn't believe, or isn't open-minded enough at first to avoid trouble; I decided as a child, that I would be that person who would believe the fairy in disguise, or take the beggar woman's advice to heart.
@@otheusrex2190 I love this so much! I remember the fairy tale with the young man off to seek his fortune. He shares his small amount of food with a beggar and this person turns out to be very magical and he is rewarded for his selfless generosity!
I dissociate ALL the time, especially when I'm tired or bored and need to relax. Whenever somebody talks to me about something I'm not interested in, I notice myself drifting off and I have to consciously force myself to come back and listen attentively. It frustrates people, because I keep missing parts of what's being said and constantly have to ask the other person to repeat themselves. And it frustrates me as well, because I want other people to feel understood and listened to and when I can't make myself listen actively I feel like a bad person.
INFPs have two sides: 1 ) If you're having a chat with someone about a subject you're not that interested in, you'd normally act a bit interested (At least for me) 2 ) but if someone shows their passion through their voice, we are 100% on board We don't consciously decide it. It's only natural for us
As an INFP I can attest to this 💯 I furrow my brows and grind my teeth when tense or anxious. If I am willingly concentrating or deep in thought I can look cold, detached, or even mad. When relaxed or in flow, I do get the dreamy, ethereal, seductive gaze. People often have stated they feel that I can see into their true selves. I see them blush or squirm. I hate being forced to do something or listen when I don’t want to or feel stressed with other impending deadlines. Ugh I hate deadlines and if someone is slowing me down I’ll shut down, I’ll dissociate. I’ll see through you like you’re a ghost, insignificant. You nailed it again Erik. PS I am a licensed therapist 🙃
I know the difference you mentioned about the intensity. When I'm listening to people, I'm curious and take in everything. But I'm also thinking and also vaguely seeing what's going on around us. But then if I need to listen more closely, it's like I go deep diving Into just them. I don't notice anything around me and I've stopped thinking of anything else and am just listening. It's pretty intense and can only last for short bursts coz it's exhausting.
I feel like I am always trying to see deeper into someone, behind their “mask” and into their soul. I love studying people, their mannerisms and what they say - it intrigues me to unwrap the layers of someone, people are so complex~
That explains why people tend to be awkward with me.. i never realized my eye contact is intense ... I usually meet people in their eyes cause eyes tell me more truth than the mouth says you know? People also usually ask me my eyes are always glassy slash dilated like man can you see my brain in an intense simulation Right Now?
I feel like as an infp (male) when I try to look into peoples eyes they treat me like some kind of sexual predator or something, like... I was trying to seduce them or something
I always get complimented on my eyes and I notice guys say they’re the most mesmerizing thing about me, probably because when I like a guy it’s so obvious in my eyes lol, I’ve read on infp reddit that many other infps are told they have intense eyes too, weird how that works
Yeah, I've been told by numerous people that it's hard for them to tell what I'm actually feeling by my expressions and the fact that I don't voice it, but my eyes give it all away.
I find INFPs have similar eyes. They tend to have the “I’m worried” look even though they’re not feeling that. I’m an INFP and I’ve had people randomly ask me if I’m ok because of it. 😂
I was waiting for the bus recently, made split second eye contact with someone and they asked "oh my gosh are you ok" and I shook my head yes. Makes me wonder what I look like to most people 😅
All very accurate, especially the "Sure, why not?" part lol INFPs are down for anything and don't really find anything weird lol ... I think that really intense hyper-vigilant stare from INFPs pops up when they're forced to focus on something but really WANT to be daydreaming about something or doing whatever they were doing before. They're kind of annoyed that they had to quit what they were doing by themselves. INFPs need so much alone time and time to just be in their head that they can get annoyed when that time is taken up by anything else like, you know, real life lol
7:53 so true, every time someone tells me to listen carefully I am so focused on looking like someone who is listening carefully I don’t have any idea what is being said 😂
When I was younger, people always got uncomfortable under my gaze, I feel like it was just too intense for them. When I started to notice how uncomfortable they got and that it was because I was looking at them, my eye contact skills went down hill because I stopped doing it to avoid making people uncomfortable.
I dunno if it was discussed here and I just missed it but like... what about the eyes of when an INFP is staring at someone they find aesthetically pleasing like they are all that exists in that moment? Or when that same somebody is just doing normal human things and we're just like "Isn't the way they do that just lovely? *loving sigh*"
tbh i rarely make eye contact with anyone, but that may be down to other reasons, i don’t know. seems way too intimate to me. or i’ll talk for five minutes and only look at the person when i get to my point at the end.
“let’s stand on the table” _flashback to when I literally convinced my friends to stand on a picnic table with me during a kindergarten fieldtrip:_ *oh*
I have this habit of like "zoning out" making up my own scenarios in my mind of how certain events could have turned out if something different happened or i just make up my own scenes, of a topic totally different from the situation i am in at tht moment. i do this a lot when i have a conversation thts boring or when the activity im busy with doesnt need a lot of concentration. My mind never shuts up!
When he mentioned how we listen TENSELY focused I laughed. And how we are prone to disappearing into a daydream state... It’s like we are trying to be in control of our mind but it’s so difficult 😂
Ahah yeah I'd get those eyes when I feel connected to someone, which nearly never happens, as an INFP I feel it's super super hard to create connections, some work but are not long- lasting. And when I'm not connected to someone I just don't wanna talk to them anymore. For the INFP, it's very important to feel connected ASAP or there will never be any connection, coz of beliefs about the other person...But mostly it's the responsability of the INFP to set up the connection in such a way where you can see the depth of someone ASAP too, which I struggle a lot with
It’s going to be amazing when the INFP is apart of your life - it’s a chance to explore what’s inside/outside the being. Being a INFP girl is very curious for me because I explore the aliveness of life.
A lot of my coworkers take the “you do you anything goes” trait as “I don’t give a shit” and I feel very misunderstood when I’m perceived. It’s really frustrating honestly but I always tell myself it doesn’t matter, the right people will understand me. I think.
Nailed it. Apparently, INFP's are actually able to listen consistently longer than other types just with how we use our brains. If I am interested in something, I can laser focus for a really long time. I've had people call me "dreamy" and thought it was strange, but I do the whole 'gazing into nothing' expression frequently just when thinking and after seeing photos/video, it does look like I'm not with it. haha Also I say "sure" and "sure, why not" all the time when people suggest or tell me things.
When you talked about how our eyes appear when we concentrate I remembered my teacher used to tell me that 😂😂 that I appear really really concentrated because I was really trying so hard in maths.
Yes to all of this about an very attractive INFP at my work. He has brown eyes and his firmer gaze is so hot to me, his eyes seem very dark without direct daylight. But then he has this very open soft dreamy gaze and in daylight his eyes turn the most beautiful golden amber color, I have never ever seen eyes as beautiful as his and I want to stare at them, I have to force myself to look away because they are so hypnotic. Everything went slow motion the last time I looked at him. I guess there are rumors about us being in love now... Also I've seen him walk around at work with this amused kind of expression on his face. Is this just the expression of a happy INFP existing?
Me an INFP imagining the song I listen to every single time... and dancing, gesticulating and imitating singing on ofc when I'm completely alone. It's so typical xd
i had to laugh so many times, because all the things you said are true hahaha when i was younger everybody told me that i have a mean look in my face & i should laugh more. but it's just my face when a i have to focus on things, otherwise my daydreaming would take over hahahaha
When I'm listening, I've been told I have this fierce intense look, I tend to squint my eyes. I really tend to be kind within conversation, but there are times that I feel totally not there. I'm thinking about so many different things, like I'm not at all interested feeling like when will this conversation end. I can feel the end of a conversation coming, but most times I will ask a question about whatever the conversation was to seem interested, im really thinking omg I need to run away or someone please interrupt this conversation. Lol!
" No matter what you’re doing they’re like ‘sure why not... Perfectly reasonable... " as long as it doesn't interrupt my social anxiety. Or as long as I don't have to do it myself. I have an open mind as long as it doesn't concern me doing stuff. As the extreme focus goes, yes definitely. Because "daydreaming" is unintentional, I need to put in the energy to focus. That's because when someone tells me something, I get associations from what they're saying. It's designed, I guess, to help them from whatever experience I can draw from.
I'm an INFP and this makes a lot of sense now. My friends have always told me how my eyes express so much of what I'm feeling even when i tried to hide it lol! And once i was in a public transpo, i was so sad that day and i wanted to cry, and the passengers were looking at me like they wanted to comfort me lmao i guessed they saw through my eyes as well
Omg this is 100% me even more so during these times especially dreamy eyes!!!! With the always happy person narrative which has always been my life. So when I do get angry people either think its a joke or I've gone bonkers.
I adore your channel. I truly enjoy it. You are so perceptive. Sometimes I’m not sure if I’m an INFP until I watch one of your INFP videos then I know for sure I must be one. The intense glare is something I do often and it’s because I’m trying not to let my mind wander kind of like smacking myself to stay awake. I do it mostly with people who love to talk and I know they will want a response from me. If I don’t do it, I will take short trips into my imagination. Then I will have to piece together what they were saying.
When I was younger one of the only compliments I ever got were that I have really pretty eyes, at least that's what the people who looked at me close enough said. These days my hair is more pronounced so people notice that more but I'll always have a little pride in my heart knowing people think i have pretty eyes.
Why does this go perfectly with my sign - Cancer, and my being an empath....and a Tarot card reader......it can't be a coincidence that I'm an INFP and how you've depicted us! Daydream galore!!!
@@aethericphoenix3423 I'm a cancer and I checked on my Facebook with my friends and there's one that's a Cancer and on my Rant video (check it out please) a guy in the comments is a Scorpio so I think that it's VERY prevalent with water signs 💖
I'm an INFP (cancer) and my three best friends are all INFP as well (virgo, gemini, leo). TBH I feel INFP is totally cancer - maybe some pisces but that feels more xSFJ to me. So in summary, I agree with your assessment intuitively, though real life has shown me that INFPs are spread across all signs (seeing how my three best friends and I literally are earth, air, fire and water, haha!) 🥰 Edit: I just realized, the Gemini and Virgo friend are both Cancer risings and the latter even is cancer moon as well! Maybe you are onto something after all 🤓😇
2:59 This is so true! I'm from Croatia. Mornings here are really quiet and everytime I walk I feel like I'm in a fantasy movie. My parents are both INFP so believe me, there is a lot of dreamy eyes here haha. I always loved looking at people through school windows and imagine what their job is or where are they going now. It really is never boring. I mean, I will always have imagination, little fairies and dwarfs playing and talking with me...
This is hilarious! So true though! I find almost every day I struggle with forcing myself to listening, making myself LOOK like I'm listening but not wanting to look like I'm staring too much, so I look away more than I need to which means I then struggle to listen properly, and I miss vital information, then I feel bad and worry about how I look and that I'm not listening whilst trying desperately to listen, all the while if I'm at work or aware of my surroundings and things around me and feeling a little anxious about time or something I'm thinking about that too.. it's frustrating and I usually miss important information unless someone is talking very passionately about something with emotions etc, and I'm enjoying the conversation and get caught up in smiling with them, that's when I am truly moved and want to listen to everything and it's easier. I've got an enfp friend and we often find when they do all the talking and talk about their exciting stories we completely lose time and forget out surroundings and float into this conversation world 😁
It happened to me once . I was waiting in a line for something. It was a long wait so I zoned out . I think I unconsciously smiled cause after a while a super cuteboy came to talk to me cuz he thought I smiled at him . Didn't really corrected him but got his number .never called him though. Now I try to be more aware of my facial expression in public
Only in the past week have I discovered that people's personality types have been catagorised this way. I have got this far into my life feeling like an alien honestly, and now I hear you so well describe my own traits, it strikes to the core. So many things I thought were flaws and faults in my character, but when you give talk to them, it all sounds beautiful and ok to be this way! Thanks for brilliant videos.
So true about that unexpected back swing. Anytime someone is rude, mean trying to control or push me around, I get that look and speak up for myself if needed in a pointed way and I can always see that I was underestimated by the reaction that gets.
I appreciate you saying infps aren’t actually always “nice” every single moment because they do know how to set their boundaries. i believe my drive to be authentic and stand up for myself (or someone else) is my drive for letting somebody know what my boundaries are if they’re crossing the line with me. I avoid doing it disrespectfully or obnoxiously. Basically, if somebody is being cruel to me or repeatedly crossing the line with me after I’ve had some patience for a while on the matter, I will stand up for myself.
Whenever i am listening to a person who is giving information about my interests and my ethics i am super focused . I just cant let anything get between me and that information i demand . So i listen so carefuly but whenever someone is talking about something quite new to me i try to relax and take my judging in the shadows of my mind . And i just listen to that person i try to get their perspective try to understand them with zero judgment. I always want to feel their true feelings within my heart too . So i stop my gathering information and listening intensely mode. Then i relax , i stop my judging and activate my curiosity open my heart , open my mind to not just one thing but whatever thing that other person says .
As an infp artist I don’t like work around people because I will have a huge smile on my face when I am really into what I am doing. If anyone catches me like this I get very self conscious.
My father values eye contact too much when talking. I typed him to be xSTJ. Functions-wise: he has Te, Si, Fi and Ne. (For all ya who think I'm one of those meme vibe-typists who didn't do their homework.) Yeah... Let's say we do not get along. At all. Him constantly forcing me to listen or to make eye contact has lead me to become withdrawn. If you want to lose the INFP's respect, just force them to make eye contact with you or listen to you. They'll love you for it. 👍
A teacher once looked at me and asked my class teacher "Does she stay depressed often?" Me:"why?" "Her eyes tell so they are like dead stars" And everyone around me was like "Y E S" Last year a teacher said i have glass eyes like im looking but my mind isnt present...lol
I get dreamy-eyed so often, I forget I'm even doing it. Or that I have the capability to do it, when I was watching this I was like "Oh yeah I forgot I get dreamy-eyed sometimes." It's like 2nd nature now. And I feel bad when I do it when talking to someone because they are just like "Are you hearing me" Or say my name, and I never intended to hurt them. They often think when I get dreamy I'm uninterested, bored, or distracted, but sometimes it just happens and I can't control it. Luckily I'm getting a better handle on it now, but when a good interesting imagination comes up I can't resist.
INFP here! I relate to this so much! I love your videos and the way you explain yourself. + Your videos have helped me understand cognitive functions a lot more :) thank you for your great work. xox
My regular expression is similar to my listening one. People always say I always look so angry so they are afraid to talk with me. Though that usually melts away if they make me smile. People like my eyes though. My eyes and my smile are the things I get complimented on the most. I think INFP is a funny duality, they judge yet they don't judge. It is like the subconscious is often jotting down aspects of a person to see if we'd want to be around them an assess their character, yet the INFP often doesn't criticize what others do if it doesn't fully align with them. I guess it is part of avoiding conflict. This makes it so they try to look at any conflicting words and actions to spot out hypocrisy. And also the judging to be turned onto the INFP themselves thinking that they should be better than what actions they are currently taking and turn around and rectify it, to that criticism comparing you to the perfect and ideal you that you'll never attain. I may not be an INFP, I don't know, but there is plenty of experiences that resonate with me that I can't think of anything but being so.
I love this video!! For me, I find that when I'm listening to someone and I want to be there for them emotionally, I'm great at that understanding kind of eye contact - but as soon as conversation turns around and it's about me, thats when my eyes tend to wonder and I have no control haha!
Lol yeah my subtle facial expressions is all it takes to let people know I’m irritated or that they crossed a line without a word being said. It’s just a relaxed, short, steady glare that apparently is more expressive than I feel it is cause people always jump back lol. I think the extra impact it has is just due to the fact that my tolerance is pretty high nowadays for people stepping around my value boundaries so I don’t commonly show serious / irritation expressions towards it all (which is also a psychological means to show it doesn’t affect me and people go away from poking that nerve). However, when I do finally crack I don’t have to flail about and scream...just a “back off glare” generally does the trick... Thanks for the vid Mr. Thor 🤙🏻 Sean
Yeah for sure Erik that would be fun! I’m digging all this collab stuff, and I’ve watched you for a loooong time so it would be an honor (where’s the curtsy emoji at 🤔...). I’m not the best at planning stuff as I like to just shoot from the hip, but yeah I’m always open for collab stuff..talking about what..uhhh yeeeeah 🤯. I’ll email you, but also if you ever see me as someone who could help you out at any given time on your channel I will adapt and fit into your schedule...
Yeah, it's all in the eyes for us INFP's! I get told all the time that it's hard for people to know how I'm feeling, but one look in my eyes (especially when I'm mad) and it's a dead giveaway, hahaha.
This is So funny!!!! I had no idea we had a look. Or lookS for that matter. But you are dead on! Hilarious. I guess I need to be more cognizant about how I wear my feelings on my sleeve when I dealing with very sensitive info.
It's funny how often people at work have given me feedback and then apologised afterwards because they think they've upset me when all I did was the open eyed "I'm listening" stare. (I suspect my stare is more intense than necessary because I'm so used to people talking to me like I'm stupid if I'm not look looking at them and I can't look at them too much because I'm anxious about being rude and being treated like I'm dumb is such a trigger. 😭)
That thing you said about us getting anxious at an event over something we think we did wrong happened to me last week. I was at a friends house I thought I messsed up and went into my hand pulling on my lip when I go into over thinking mode and kept freaking out about whether I should go up and apologize for it or not. Finally ended up doing it and turned out it was all in my head.
When you pee me off, I feel like you either broke my morales, or you’ve judged me unfairly. If that’s the case, in both circumstances I’m mad at you, and I judge you for being judgemental/ disrespectful to who I am... but if you judge me as weird ect... I don’t care... I can take alot of judgement normally 😅 (just don’t offend my character, or disrespect my morales and I’ll love u :3 )
"Because even when they are looking at you like this, that doesn't necessarily mean they are listening. it can just mean they are so focused on APPEARING like they are listening that they are really not listening at all. " LOL get out of my head ahaha this killed me. this whole video is so accurate I can't even believe it
I'm really grateful about this Video because it exactly explains me and it is just so realating. I also love having eye contact with others, it is something very beautiful for me but if I learn for school I get easily distracted by dreaming of other people, which I like because of there natural beautifulness and I really like to say non sense stuff as well instead of always saying just yes.
I always day dreamed in high school, never listening to the teacher, while doodling in my binder. The dreamy eyes reflect the day dreaming mind.... but cross my sense of right and wrong, and I am grounded in reality..
I'm pretty sure I'm an INFP because I've taken many tests and always came out as INFP, but: I find it super awkward to make eye contact and I hate it, but I also love it because it's weird and cute. But the thing is, I didn't even know that making eye contact was a thing till a few years ago, when my therapist told me to do it, lol. No one had ever told me that people make eye contact when talking with each other! How would I have known! Ever since I started looking more at people while having a conversation, I noticed that people really do look at you right in your eyes, some even stare right into your soul and won't break eye contact, that's the most uncomfortable thing you could do, why the hell would you do that to anyone anyway? And I start to overthink, thinking I should keep the eye contact but also break it and look around to not make it awkward, but also make eye contact again to make sure that they know I'm listening because apparently that's what people do...and I start to get nervous and think I'm doing everything wrong. I also keep wondering what the other person is thinking of me, and why they're staring at me: am I saying something stupid? Are they silently judging me, unaware that I see them staring at me like that? Anyway, I find this making eye contact thing very weird but also very romantic, I mean, how cool is that? But also, why is it a thing? Who came up with it and why is it the norm here where I live? It must be a cultural thing, I mean, I'm pretty sure it depends on what country you're in because to me this is way too specific of a thing, it's not that natural. I'd write about how in my opinion, aliens would not understand such thing either, but I'm going to stop writing because I've already let my INFP tendency to write a lot in youtube comments for too long. That's a thing, right? At least that's the impression I've got from scrolling through comments under INFP related videos haha lmao I'm so pathetic. The point I was trying to make is, I think I'm an INFP but I definitely don't make such eye contact and don't have sparkly eyes with no judgement. I do tend to think a lot in my head about what the person I'm talking to is really thinking while saying things and what their true motives are or whatnot. Bye person reading this, have a wonderful day and life, and remember that it's okay to not be okay, and you're entitled to feel whatever way you might be feeling, there's no right or wrong way of living, anything you do and are is right, so don't overthink yourself and be you, full of imperfections and full of both darkness and light, the way it should be and the way it is. EDIT: about the judging only if the other person judges, that's so true, I really can't stand people that can't stand me and don't treat me with respect!
Making eye contact is a norm and people start doing it as babies. There are cultures where people learn making eye contact with certain people, like elders, is disrespectful but in general making eye contact with those you’re talking to comes naturally to most and is considered respectful. However, I’m autistic and autistic people often avoid eye contact and it often makes us more uncomfortable. I usually look over someone’s shoulders next to their head so it looks like I’m looking at them even though I’m not really. A lot of autistic people watch people’s mouths instead. Another reason for that is that most people look at eyes because it helps them to read emotion better in facial expressions, but autistic people often pick up more on mouth expressions, like a subtle smile, when reading facial expressions. For the record, there is inappropriate intense eye contact too but Idk when it becomes that. I think in general looking at people and occasionally looking away casually before looking back avoids that. Most people don’t think about that stuff though.
I don’t like it when someone wants my undivided attention. I’m able to multitask. I don’t feel I should need to stare into your soul when your talking. 🤷♀️If t’s something that’s very important I do tend to look deeply at you because I’m trying to focus on what your saying.
It is so nice to feel understood. I just gave my pink cowboy hat away to my niece, but putting it on & dancing in the street sounds fine. And I do say the craziest things in the most serious tone, but honestly that's part of the fun. People are always going to think I'm weird. Might as well just go with it.
7:0 it's so true, I am an INFP and I tend to be always in my mind, daydreaming, and from time to time when someone is talking to me and it's important I have to focus 1000% to catch everything the guy is saying to me cause it's not natural to me
7:34 thats so true! I remember, beeing in school and my teacher ask us, to concentrate on the topic and I remember thinking: oh i am so concentrated, if she ask, I will tell her everything. Then she asked me, I couldnt say anything, she got angry, that I didnt listen, I told her, I were absolutly concentrated. Later, I saw, I was concentrated on beeing focused, so I didnt pay attention to my teacher ;D
When I 10 yrs old (give or take) we had someone come in to talk to our class in a few groups of 6 or 7 people. He was explaining some concept to us and he was sitting immediately to my right at the head of the small rectagular table we were around. So I was mostly staring ahead at the centerpiece on the table while he talked. Then he stopped, annoyed, and asked if I was listening. I said yes, so he told me to repeat it, which I did perfectly. I think only one other person has ever called me out about that. Maybe because I become aware of my wandering eyes and look at the person for a while?
Bruh as an infp 9 i feel the thing where I can switch from being open and understanding to hard and critical in an instant... I'm bad at being direct about what i want so i often shut down when people push my boundaries and hope they'll be able to read my body language 😬 I'm working on it though 😭
I'm an INFP and this video just described so many things I do subconsciously but didn't realise people notice! Wow I'm so amazed but I also can't tell if it's just my confirmation bias
The part about the frowning focused gaze made me realize one funny thing : at the end of my last year at university, I was talking with my favorite teacher. And he said to me : "I noticed you often looked confused, or were frowning in class". That felt weird, because I didn't really had trouble understanding his classes. Now I understand it's just because it was the most interesting subject to me (the one I worked on in my thesis) and I was just really focused, for once xD
I am INFP, have half shutted eyes and people tell me that I look like I am daydreaming all the time, or think that I am falling in love or they think that I am not present, not listening them.
With eyes like these, it's a miracle there are any single INFPs out there... 😁How have people described your eyes, INFP?
I went to the eye doctor once and he spent along time gazing into my eyes and than pronounced them to be beautiful and and perfect. Than he proceeded with my exam!
I have been told that it is very hard to resist my gaze, that people find it hard to look away once they are caught in my gaze (which I do not do intentionally). And I have always heard a lot of times that my eyes are beautiful which is one of the nicest compliments to receive :)
Like pools of water, always moving, able to shape and mold to anything. People always tell me my energy is so contagious!
My best friend one time described my eyes like rainbows--but I think that was just because of their two-toned nature. 😂
My sister and my brother told me I have an innocent gaze and sometimes attractive elegant gaze 😅 my brother is also INFP and has a warm gaze but serious and friendly at the same time 😊🌺
My "half-laughing" problem when daydreaming actually solved at this pandemic day by wearing mask. Nobody knows I'm daydreaming about weird scenarios anymore 😂
Perfect! 👌
Just told my bestfriend about this. Now, I can go talking to myself while walking without people looking at me like I've gone mad. 😂
I was thinking of this walking down my road when I realised I was smiling underneath my mask😂
I totally relate. ♥️
This is soooooo true
the thing about "forcing" INFP's to do something is so true. It doesn't need to be something big, if I am doing my thing and someone tells me "do this for me, please" even if I was going to do the thing for the person I get so pissed i lose the will to do it.
I know, that's the worst! No... the worst is my boss. She lists a few things to do in no partcular order it seems. So then I'll start doing them in some order that makes sense to me, but she'll get annoyed and say, "No, do *this one first! " When, objectively, it really doesn't matter which one is done first, and incidentally isn't even the order she listed them in. Hate that even more!!
True. Screw that shit
Same!
In this comment, I have found my kin
Yeees!!! I feel stressed sometimes when people push or force me to do it.
haha when i was a kid, i used to get lost in space. sometimes stare into nothingness with a grin on my face...my father, when he caught me doing that would say: "there she goes again...riding her white unicorn."
😂😂😂😂
Are you a writer?
Just like a movie dialogue........
hahaha this sounds like a movie dialogue. U are hilarious this made my day
Cute
I'm an INFP and I really struggle with eye contact. When I do though, it's more meaningful.
Same I suck with eye contact 😅
I tend to scare people with my eye contact. I have super loving seductive eyes, I just cant help it i fall into everyone's eyes... their souls are just so beautiful... but it freaks people out and then they start acting wierd and treat me like I am either gay or some kind of sexual predator... so I just don't... I try to back waaaaay up with it though... I wonder if this is the case for other infps?
Jay bizness i don’t have a problem with eye contact as well, like if people talk to me i just concentrate sm and keep focusing in their eyes to the point sometimes i can sense that it makes them nervous so i look away immediately , and I don’t like it when i am talking to someone and they are not looking me in the eye cuz i feel like they are not listening
I struggle only if you are good looking 🤣
I always feel like I'm staring and feel creepy
“No matter what you’re doing they’re like ‘sure why not’” hahah omg that’s exactly how it is, I just want to let other people explore their weirdness and I get excited for it; I would never inhibit someone doing something weird lol
i love it, because i'm always weird, so it's nice that you're not going to roll your eyes about it 😄
Same, and for me, this look is a conscious look 'I need to project outwardly that I'm open-minded and not being critical.' This often feels like a call to action, and I literally perk up confidently because tolerance and understanding is the one thing I feel confident in providing for anyone at a moment's notice. I'm sure this first started in myself when hearing fairy tales where a character meets with something fantastic but doesn't believe, or isn't open-minded enough at first to avoid trouble; I decided as a child, that I would be that person who would believe the fairy in disguise, or take the beggar woman's advice to heart.
oh my gosh yes, it's the best thing
@@holyspark5438 He described me down to a tee.
@@otheusrex2190 I love this so much! I remember the fairy tale with the young man off to seek his fortune. He shares his small amount of food with a beggar and this person turns out to be very magical and he is rewarded for his selfless generosity!
I keep laughing bc it's so weird hearing someone describe my facial expressions and I'm trying to recreate it but I can't do it seriously 🤣
Haha Same here and it is so weird!!! I'm like wow I do my looks because I'm an INFP Haha makes so much since but so weird
SAME HAHAHHAHHAHA
I'm doing the same 😂
me too omg hahahaha
Lol same!!
I dissociate ALL the time, especially when I'm tired or bored and need to relax. Whenever somebody talks to me about something I'm not interested in, I notice myself drifting off and I have to consciously force myself to come back and listen attentively. It frustrates people, because I keep missing parts of what's being said and constantly have to ask the other person to repeat themselves. And it frustrates me as well, because I want other people to feel understood and listened to and when I can't make myself listen actively I feel like a bad person.
Same
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2019 in school that's my entire experience day by day and worse that I have ,let say, bad moments in doing so. Ha.
Feel that 100%
That’s me 100% lol
INFPs have two sides:
1 ) If you're having a chat with someone about a subject you're not that interested in, you'd normally act a bit interested (At least for me)
2 ) but if someone shows their passion through their voice, we are 100% on board
We don't consciously decide it. It's only natural for us
Literally! That’s why it’s wild living with my istj roommate. He’s the opposite of me Si Te Fi Ne
Im told my intense focus is what other humans call "resting bitch face"
Any other infp's relate???
As an INFP I can attest to this 💯
I furrow my brows and grind my teeth when tense or anxious.
If I am willingly concentrating or deep in thought I can look cold, detached, or even mad.
When relaxed or in flow, I do get the dreamy, ethereal, seductive gaze. People often have stated they feel that I can see into their true selves. I see them blush or squirm.
I hate being forced to do something or listen when I don’t want to or feel stressed with other impending deadlines. Ugh I hate deadlines and if someone is slowing me down I’ll shut down, I’ll dissociate. I’ll see through you like you’re a ghost, insignificant.
You nailed it again Erik.
PS I am a licensed therapist 🙃
Ha, nice to hear you are pursuing a career that stimulates your flow function, Introverted Feeling! 🌼
I love this!!
I relate so so much to everything you said wow and today noticed I was grinding my teeth when I was feeling anxious and tense lol
"If I am willingly concentrating or deep in thought I can look cold, detached, or even mad" oh god why do I feel so called out lmao
Holy shit everything u said is true 😂😂 esp bout the thinking part, people think I'm pissed. Nah fam, I'm just deep in thought
Taking the MBTI test and finding my people as to be one of the best thing I did in life
Yeah 💜
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Yasss
anytime I listen deeply to any guy he automatically accuses me of flirting with them... I swear im not- its just my 'paying attention' gaze
I know the difference you mentioned about the intensity. When I'm listening to people, I'm curious and take in everything. But I'm also thinking and also vaguely seeing what's going on around us. But then if I need to listen more closely, it's like I go deep diving Into just them. I don't notice anything around me and I've stopped thinking of anything else and am just listening. It's pretty intense and can only last for short bursts coz it's exhausting.
I feel like I am always trying to see deeper into someone, behind their “mask” and into their soul. I love studying people, their mannerisms and what they say - it intrigues me to unwrap the layers of someone, people are so complex~
That explains why people tend to be awkward with me.. i never realized my eye contact is intense ... I usually meet people in their eyes cause eyes tell me more truth than the mouth says you know?
People also usually ask me my eyes are always glassy slash dilated like man can you see my brain in an intense simulation Right Now?
omg i relate. my eye contact is intense too. i feel like im kinda making ppl nervous bc my gaze is so intense. but i cant help it lmao
I feel like as an infp (male) when I try to look into peoples eyes they treat me like some kind of sexual predator or something, like... I was trying to seduce them or something
@@radioheadphonez yep because our eyes are kind of either unfocused or dilated or just drowse like eyes? Frok i relate to this...
These comment making me laugh so hard, I can’t. 😂😂😂😂
HAHAHAHAHAH THE DAYDREAMING IS SO ON POINT and people get shocked when I suddenly laugh by myself 🤣
U know more about me than I know about myself. I am astounded.
Same.
I always get complimented on my eyes and I notice guys say they’re the most mesmerizing thing about me, probably because when I like a guy it’s so obvious in my eyes lol, I’ve read on infp reddit that many other infps are told they have intense eyes too, weird how that works
It is so obvious in our eyes
Yes same here.
Yeah, I've been told by numerous people that it's hard for them to tell what I'm actually feeling by my expressions and the fact that I don't voice it, but my eyes give it all away.
me too!
Yesssssss!!! We can't hide it! Our eyes and facial expressions tell it ALLLLLLLLLLLL 🤣🤣🤣
I find INFPs have similar eyes. They tend to have the “I’m worried” look even though they’re not feeling that. I’m an INFP and I’ve had people randomly ask me if I’m ok because of it. 😂
Same😂
yeah, I think that's how my ENFP ex girlfriend found me
Yes I’ve been asked that many times
I was waiting for the bus recently, made split second eye contact with someone and they asked "oh my gosh are you ok" and I shook my head yes. Makes me wonder what I look like to most people 😅
All very accurate, especially the "Sure, why not?" part lol INFPs are down for anything and don't really find anything weird lol ... I think that really intense hyper-vigilant stare from INFPs pops up when they're forced to focus on something but really WANT to be daydreaming about something or doing whatever they were doing before. They're kind of annoyed that they had to quit what they were doing by themselves. INFPs need so much alone time and time to just be in their head that they can get annoyed when that time is taken up by anything else like, you know, real life lol
the comment section is so infp. Every other comment is a paragraph 😂
7:53 so true, every time someone tells me to listen carefully I am so focused on looking like someone who is listening carefully I don’t have any idea what is being said 😂
Yooo exactly
Lol. Me too!
When I was younger, people always got uncomfortable under my gaze, I feel like it was just too intense for them. When I started to notice how uncomfortable they got and that it was because I was looking at them, my eye contact skills went down hill because I stopped doing it to avoid making people uncomfortable.
hahah same, maybe it’s because we don’t smile? did u smile?
Same.
@samanbhat3219 I used to smile and blink a lot but it was frequently pointed out, now I barely smile or make eye contact
I dunno if it was discussed here and I just missed it but like... what about the eyes of when an INFP is staring at someone they find aesthetically pleasing like they are all that exists in that moment? Or when that same somebody is just doing normal human things and we're just like "Isn't the way they do that just lovely? *loving sigh*"
tbh i rarely make eye contact with anyone, but that may be down to other reasons, i don’t know. seems way too intimate to me. or i’ll talk for five minutes and only look at the person when i get to my point at the end.
“let’s stand on the table”
_flashback to when I literally convinced my friends to stand on a picnic table with me during a kindergarten fieldtrip:_ *oh*
I have this habit of like "zoning out" making up my own scenarios in my mind of how certain events could have turned out if something different happened or i just make up my own scenes, of a topic totally different from the situation i am in at tht moment. i do this a lot when i have a conversation thts boring or when the activity im busy with doesnt need a lot of concentration. My mind never shuts up!
When he mentioned how we listen TENSELY focused I laughed. And how we are prone to disappearing into a daydream state... It’s like we are trying to be in control of our mind but it’s so difficult 😂
I did a lot of laughing in this vid. Pretty much everything he said
Ahah yeah I'd get those eyes when I feel connected to someone, which nearly never happens, as an INFP I feel it's super super hard to create connections, some work but are not long- lasting. And when I'm not connected to someone I just don't wanna talk to them anymore. For the INFP, it's very important to feel connected ASAP or there will never be any connection, coz of beliefs about the other person...But mostly it's the responsability of the INFP to set up the connection in such a way where you can see the depth of someone ASAP too, which I struggle a lot with
It’s going to be amazing when the INFP is apart of your life - it’s a chance to explore what’s inside/outside the being. Being a INFP girl is very curious for me because I explore the aliveness of life.
A lot of my coworkers take the “you do you anything goes” trait as “I don’t give a shit” and I feel very misunderstood when I’m perceived. It’s really frustrating honestly but I always tell myself it doesn’t matter, the right people will understand me. I think.
Nailed it. Apparently, INFP's are actually able to listen consistently longer than other types just with how we use our brains. If I am interested in something, I can laser focus for a really long time. I've had people call me "dreamy" and thought it was strange, but I do the whole 'gazing into nothing' expression frequently just when thinking and after seeing photos/video, it does look like I'm not with it. haha Also I say "sure" and "sure, why not" all the time when people suggest or tell me things.
When you talked about how our eyes appear when we concentrate I remembered my teacher used to tell me that 😂😂 that I appear really really concentrated because I was really trying so hard in maths.
I met 4 INFP in my class, and I can quickly recognize them as INFPs because of their eyes.
I’m an INFP and I approve this message 👍
Yes to all of this about an very attractive INFP at my work.
He has brown eyes and his firmer gaze is so hot to me, his eyes seem very dark without direct daylight.
But then he has this very open soft dreamy gaze and in daylight his eyes turn the most beautiful golden amber color, I have never ever seen eyes as beautiful as his and I want to stare at them, I have to force myself to look away because they are so hypnotic. Everything went slow motion the last time I looked at him. I guess there are rumors about us being in love now...
Also I've seen him walk around at work with this amused kind of expression on his face. Is this just the expression of a happy INFP existing?
Me an INFP: laughing about something in my mind.
My family: 😒 what’s wrong with her
Me an INFP imagining the song I listen to every single time... and dancing, gesticulating and imitating singing on ofc when I'm completely alone. It's so typical xd
i had to laugh so many times, because all the things you said are true hahaha
when i was younger everybody told me that i have a mean look in my face & i should laugh more. but it's just my face when a i have to focus on things, otherwise my daydreaming would take over hahahaha
I'm an INFP and I get a lot of comments about my eyes. My hubby says I can express everything with my eyes.
When I'm listening, I've been told I have this fierce intense look, I tend to squint my eyes. I really tend to be kind within conversation, but there are times that I feel totally not there. I'm thinking about so many different things, like I'm not at all interested feeling like when will this conversation end. I can feel the end of a conversation coming, but most times I will ask a question about whatever the conversation was to seem interested, im really thinking omg I need to run away or someone please interrupt this conversation. Lol!
" No matter what you’re doing they’re like ‘sure why not... Perfectly reasonable... " as long as it doesn't interrupt my social anxiety. Or as long as I don't have to do it myself. I have an open mind as long as it doesn't concern me doing stuff.
As the extreme focus goes, yes definitely. Because "daydreaming" is unintentional, I need to put in the energy to focus. That's because when someone tells me something, I get associations from what they're saying. It's designed, I guess, to help them from whatever experience I can draw from.
I'm an INFP and this makes a lot of sense now. My friends have always told me how my eyes express so much of what I'm feeling even when i tried to hide it lol! And once i was in a public transpo, i was so sad that day and i wanted to cry, and the passengers were looking at me like they wanted to comfort me lmao i guessed they saw through my eyes as well
Omg this is 100% me even more so during these times especially dreamy eyes!!!! With the always happy person narrative which has always been my life. So when I do get angry people either think its a joke or I've gone bonkers.
Same when I get angry. Although I do get hangry more often.
I adore your channel. I truly enjoy it. You are so perceptive. Sometimes I’m not sure if I’m an INFP until I watch one of your INFP videos then I know for sure I must be one. The intense glare is something I do often and it’s because I’m trying not to let my mind wander kind of like smacking myself to stay awake. I do it mostly with people who love to talk and I know they will want a response from me. If I don’t do it, I will take short trips into my imagination. Then I will have to piece together what they were saying.
When I was younger one of the only compliments I ever got were that I have really pretty eyes, at least that's what the people who looked at me close enough said. These days my hair is more pronounced so people notice that more but I'll always have a little pride in my heart knowing people think i have pretty eyes.
Why does this go perfectly with my sign - Cancer, and my being an empath....and a Tarot card reader......it can't be a coincidence that I'm an INFP and how you've depicted us! Daydream galore!!!
I wonder if all the infp's are water sign🤔
My sun is on piscis,moon on escorpio and asc on virgo
@@aethericphoenix3423 I'm a cancer and I checked on my Facebook with my friends and there's one that's a Cancer and on my Rant video (check it out please) a guy in the comments is a Scorpio so I think that it's VERY prevalent with water signs 💖
I'm an INFP (cancer) and my three best friends are all INFP as well (virgo, gemini, leo). TBH I feel INFP is totally cancer - maybe some pisces but that feels more xSFJ to me. So in summary, I agree with your assessment intuitively, though real life has shown me that INFPs are spread across all signs (seeing how my three best friends and I literally are earth, air, fire and water, haha!) 🥰
Edit: I just realized, the Gemini and Virgo friend are both Cancer risings and the latter even is cancer moon as well! Maybe you are onto something after all 🤓😇
@@SuperTank121212 Yaaasssssss ♥️♥️♥️🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
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This is so true! I'm from Croatia. Mornings here are really quiet and everytime I walk I feel like I'm in a fantasy movie. My parents are both INFP so believe me, there is a lot of dreamy eyes here haha.
I always loved looking at people through school windows and imagine what their job is or where are they going now. It really is never boring. I mean, I will always have imagination, little fairies and dwarfs playing and talking with me...
samee.
INFP parents and child? that sounds like the most wholesome fairy cottage ever 🧚🏼♀️🧚🏽🧚🏻♂️🦋
Im an infp and i really relate to that sure why not thing!!!!!
This is hilarious! So true though! I find almost every day I struggle with forcing myself to listening, making myself LOOK like I'm listening but not wanting to look like I'm staring too much, so I look away more than I need to which means I then struggle to listen properly, and I miss vital information, then I feel bad and worry about how I look and that I'm not listening whilst trying desperately to listen, all the while if I'm at work or aware of my surroundings and things around me and feeling a little anxious about time or something I'm thinking about that too.. it's frustrating and I usually miss important information unless someone is talking very passionately about something with emotions etc, and I'm enjoying the conversation and get caught up in smiling with them, that's when I am truly moved and want to listen to everything and it's easier. I've got an enfp friend and we often find when they do all the talking and talk about their exciting stories we completely lose time and forget out surroundings and float into this conversation world 😁
It happened to me once . I was waiting in a line for something. It was a long wait so I zoned out . I think I unconsciously smiled cause after a while a super cuteboy came to talk to me cuz he thought I smiled at him . Didn't really corrected him but got his number .never called him though.
Now I try to be more aware of my facial expression in public
Only in the past week have I discovered that people's personality types have been catagorised this way. I have got this far into my life feeling like an alien honestly, and now I hear you so well describe my own traits, it strikes to the core. So many things I thought were flaws and faults in my character, but when you give talk to them, it all sounds beautiful and ok to be this way! Thanks for brilliant videos.
So true about that unexpected back swing. Anytime someone is rude, mean trying to control or push me around, I get that look and speak up for myself if needed in a pointed way and I can always see that I was underestimated by the reaction that gets.
I'm an INFP and this describes me well! Good work Erik
You are a beautiful person. I’ve never heard such an accurate description explained in such a sensitive yet honest way. You have a gift.
I appreciate you saying infps aren’t actually always “nice” every single moment because they do know how to set their boundaries. i believe my drive to be authentic and stand up for myself (or someone else) is my drive for letting somebody know what my boundaries are if they’re crossing the line with me. I avoid doing it disrespectfully or obnoxiously. Basically, if somebody is being cruel to me or repeatedly crossing the line with me after I’ve had some patience for a while on the matter, I will stand up for myself.
"Sure why not" that's totally me haha
Whenever i am listening to a person who is giving information about my interests and my ethics i am super focused . I just cant let anything get between me and that information i demand . So i listen so carefuly but whenever someone is talking about something quite new to me i try to relax and take my judging in the shadows of my mind . And i just listen to that person i try to get their perspective try to understand them with zero judgment. I always want to feel their true feelings within my heart too . So i stop my gathering information and listening intensely mode. Then i relax , i stop my judging and activate my curiosity open my heart , open my mind to not just one thing but whatever thing that other person says .
They describe my eyes as smart, smiley and friendly
As an infp artist I don’t like work around people because I will have a huge smile on my face when I am really into what I am doing. If anyone catches me like this I get very self conscious.
My father values eye contact too much when talking. I typed him to be xSTJ.
Functions-wise: he has Te, Si, Fi and Ne. (For all ya who think I'm one of those meme vibe-typists who didn't do their homework.)
Yeah... Let's say we do not get along. At all. Him constantly forcing me to listen or to make eye contact has lead me to become withdrawn. If you want to lose the INFP's respect, just force them to make eye contact with you or listen to you. They'll love you for it. 👍
Eye contact is overrated
@@alegria1813 Yeah I actually have better focus when I'm not making any eye contact
People perceive me as unapproachable because my expression is usually “don’t talk to me”
this is so accurate and I feel I can love myself more because of the way you speak about us like we're completely adorable!
A teacher once looked at me and asked my class teacher
"Does she stay depressed often?"
Me:"why?"
"Her eyes tell so they are like dead stars"
And everyone around me was like "Y E S"
Last year a teacher said i have glass eyes like im looking but my mind isnt present...lol
ugh. one of my classmate says my eyes looks sad. haha, but some of them like my eyes tho.
I get dreamy-eyed so often, I forget I'm even doing it. Or that I have the capability to do it, when I was watching this I was like "Oh yeah I forgot I get dreamy-eyed sometimes." It's like 2nd nature now.
And I feel bad when I do it when talking to someone because they are just like "Are you hearing me" Or say my name, and I never intended to hurt them. They often think when I get dreamy I'm uninterested, bored, or distracted, but sometimes it just happens and I can't control it. Luckily I'm getting a better handle on it now, but when a good interesting imagination comes up I can't resist.
INFP here! I relate to this so much! I love your videos and the way you explain yourself. + Your videos have helped me understand cognitive functions a lot more :) thank you for your great work. xox
"becoming more soft as they normaly are"
I hate that state xD
I feel like Erik is flirting with me ☺️
Learning I'm an infp explains so much 😭 the fact that it extends even to my mannerisms is crazy 😂
My regular expression is similar to my listening one. People always say I always look so angry so they are afraid to talk with me. Though that usually melts away if they make me smile. People like my eyes though. My eyes and my smile are the things I get complimented on the most.
I think INFP is a funny duality, they judge yet they don't judge. It is like the subconscious is often jotting down aspects of a person to see if we'd want to be around them an assess their character, yet the INFP often doesn't criticize what others do if it doesn't fully align with them. I guess it is part of avoiding conflict. This makes it so they try to look at any conflicting words and actions to spot out hypocrisy. And also the judging to be turned onto the INFP themselves thinking that they should be better than what actions they are currently taking and turn around and rectify it, to that criticism comparing you to the perfect and ideal you that you'll never attain.
I may not be an INFP, I don't know, but there is plenty of experiences that resonate with me that I can't think of anything but being so.
I love this video!! For me, I find that when I'm listening to someone and I want to be there for them emotionally, I'm great at that understanding kind of eye contact - but as soon as conversation turns around and it's about me, thats when my eyes tend to wonder and I have no control haha!
My 3rd grade report card, "____ enters class every day and looks around like he's never been here before."
I always looked worried as a child and rarely smiled
Lol yeah my subtle facial expressions is all it takes to let people know I’m irritated or that they crossed a line without a word being said. It’s just a relaxed, short, steady glare that apparently is more expressive than I feel it is cause people always jump back lol. I think the extra impact it has is just due to the fact that my tolerance is pretty high nowadays for people stepping around my value boundaries so I don’t commonly show serious / irritation expressions towards it all (which is also a psychological means to show it doesn’t affect me and people go away from poking that nerve). However, when I do finally crack I don’t have to flail about and scream...just a “back off glare” generally does the trick...
Thanks for the vid Mr. Thor 🤙🏻
Sean
Thanks Sean! Send me an e-mail if you ever wanna chat about anything. :)
Yeah for sure Erik that would be fun! I’m digging all this collab stuff, and I’ve watched you for a loooong time so it would be an honor (where’s the curtsy emoji at 🤔...). I’m not the best at planning stuff as I like to just shoot from the hip, but yeah I’m always open for collab stuff..talking about what..uhhh yeeeeah 🤯. I’ll email you, but also if you ever see me as someone who could help you out at any given time on your channel I will adapt and fit into your schedule...
Yeah, it's all in the eyes for us INFP's! I get told all the time that it's hard for people to know how I'm feeling, but one look in my eyes (especially when I'm mad) and it's a dead giveaway, hahaha.
As an INFP: That was accurate! Nice Video :)
I never thought about it before but i guess I will start to spot INFPs from now on
Good luck catching one! :)
This is So funny!!!! I had no idea we had a look. Or lookS for that matter. But you are dead on! Hilarious. I guess I need to be more cognizant about how I wear my feelings on my sleeve when I dealing with very sensitive info.
Fascinating, especially that the INFPs that I read all felt the same as I did: you nailed it. Yep, that's exactly how I am!
It's funny how often people at work have given me feedback and then apologised afterwards because they think they've upset me when all I did was the open eyed "I'm listening" stare. (I suspect my stare is more intense than necessary because I'm so used to people talking to me like I'm stupid if I'm not look looking at them and I can't look at them too much because I'm anxious about being rude and being treated like I'm dumb is such a trigger. 😭)
That thing you said about us getting anxious at an event over something we think we did wrong happened to me last week. I was at a friends house I thought I messsed up and went into my hand pulling on my lip when I go into over thinking mode and kept freaking out about whether I should go up and apologize for it or not. Finally ended up doing it and turned out it was all in my head.
Funny how that works isnt it? If you can be aware that it is just anxiety and focus on your breath that may help. 😊
I am best as a listener to the point that i don't know how to start a conversation
I'm infp
When you pee me off, I feel like you either broke my morales, or you’ve judged me unfairly. If that’s the case, in both circumstances I’m mad at you, and I judge you for being judgemental/ disrespectful to who I am... but if you judge me as weird ect... I don’t care... I can take alot of judgement normally 😅 (just don’t offend my character, or disrespect my morales and I’ll love u :3 )
"Because even when they are looking at you like this, that doesn't necessarily mean they are listening. it can just mean they are so focused on APPEARING like they are listening that they are really not listening at all. " LOL get out of my head ahaha this killed me. this whole video is so accurate I can't even believe it
I'm really grateful about this Video because it exactly explains me and it is just so realating. I also love having eye contact with others, it is something very beautiful for me but if I learn for school I get easily distracted by dreaming of other people, which I like because of there natural beautifulness and I really like to say non sense stuff as well instead of always saying just yes.
How can this be so accurate, i am an infp my self😳😳😳
I do that! I think of something funny and smile and people ask what's going on.
I always day dreamed in high school, never listening to the teacher, while doodling in my binder. The dreamy eyes reflect the day dreaming mind.... but cross my sense of right and wrong, and I am grounded in reality..
I'm pretty sure I'm an INFP because I've taken many tests and always came out as INFP, but:
I find it super awkward to make eye contact and I hate it, but I also love it because it's weird and cute. But the thing is, I didn't even know that making eye contact was a thing till a few years ago, when my therapist told me to do it, lol. No one had ever told me that people make eye contact when talking with each other! How would I have known! Ever since I started looking more at people while having a conversation, I noticed that people really do look at you right in your eyes, some even stare right into your soul and won't break eye contact, that's the most uncomfortable thing you could do, why the hell would you do that to anyone anyway? And I start to overthink, thinking I should keep the eye contact but also break it and look around to not make it awkward, but also make eye contact again to make sure that they know I'm listening because apparently that's what people do...and I start to get nervous and think I'm doing everything wrong. I also keep wondering what the other person is thinking of me, and why they're staring at me: am I saying something stupid? Are they silently judging me, unaware that I see them staring at me like that? Anyway, I find this making eye contact thing very weird but also very romantic, I mean, how cool is that? But also, why is it a thing? Who came up with it and why is it the norm here where I live? It must be a cultural thing, I mean, I'm pretty sure it depends on what country you're in because to me this is way too specific of a thing, it's not that natural. I'd write about how in my opinion, aliens would not understand such thing either, but I'm going to stop writing because I've already let my INFP tendency to write a lot in youtube comments for too long. That's a thing, right? At least that's the impression I've got from scrolling through comments under INFP related videos haha lmao I'm so pathetic. The point I was trying to make is, I think I'm an INFP but I definitely don't make such eye contact and don't have sparkly eyes with no judgement. I do tend to think a lot in my head about what the person I'm talking to is really thinking while saying things and what their true motives are or whatnot. Bye person reading this, have a wonderful day and life, and remember that it's okay to not be okay, and you're entitled to feel whatever way you might be feeling, there's no right or wrong way of living, anything you do and are is right, so don't overthink yourself and be you, full of imperfections and full of both darkness and light, the way it should be and the way it is.
EDIT: about the judging only if the other person judges, that's so true, I really can't stand people that can't stand me and don't treat me with respect!
Making eye contact is a norm and people start doing it as babies. There are cultures where people learn making eye contact with certain people, like elders, is disrespectful but in general making eye contact with those you’re talking to comes naturally to most and is considered respectful. However, I’m autistic and autistic people often avoid eye contact and it often makes us more uncomfortable. I usually look over someone’s shoulders next to their head so it looks like I’m looking at them even though I’m not really. A lot of autistic people watch people’s mouths instead. Another reason for that is that most people look at eyes because it helps them to read emotion better in facial expressions, but autistic people often pick up more on mouth expressions, like a subtle smile, when reading facial expressions.
For the record, there is inappropriate intense eye contact too but Idk when it becomes that. I think in general looking at people and occasionally looking away casually before looking back avoids that. Most people don’t think about that stuff though.
I don’t like it when someone wants my undivided attention. I’m able to multitask. I don’t feel I should need to stare into your soul when your talking. 🤷♀️If t’s something that’s very important I do tend to look deeply at you because I’m trying to focus on what your saying.
It is so nice to feel understood.
I just gave my pink cowboy hat away to my niece, but putting it on & dancing in the street sounds fine.
And I do say the craziest things in the most serious tone, but honestly that's part of the fun. People are always going to think I'm weird. Might as well just go with it.
7:0 it's so true, I am an INFP and I tend to be always in my mind, daydreaming, and from time to time when someone is talking to me and it's important I have to focus 1000% to catch everything the guy is saying to me cause it's not natural to me
7:34 thats so true! I remember, beeing in school and my teacher ask us, to concentrate on the topic and I remember thinking: oh i am so concentrated, if she ask, I will tell her everything.
Then she asked me, I couldnt say anything, she got angry, that I didnt listen, I told her, I were absolutly concentrated. Later, I saw, I was concentrated on beeing focused, so I didnt pay attention to my teacher ;D
When I 10 yrs old (give or take) we had someone come in to talk to our class in a few groups of 6 or 7 people. He was explaining some concept to us and he was sitting immediately to my right at the head of the small rectagular table we were around. So I was mostly staring ahead at the centerpiece on the table while he talked. Then he stopped, annoyed, and asked if I was listening. I said yes, so he told me to repeat it, which I did perfectly. I think only one other person has ever called me out about that. Maybe because I become aware of my wandering eyes and look at the person for a while?
Bruh as an infp 9 i feel the thing where I can switch from being open and understanding to hard and critical in an instant... I'm bad at being direct about what i want so i often shut down when people push my boundaries and hope they'll be able to read my body language 😬 I'm working on it though 😭
You have spoken the truth!!!
Thanks!
I'm an INFP and this video just described so many things I do subconsciously but didn't realise people notice! Wow I'm so amazed but I also can't tell if it's just my confirmation bias
The part about the frowning focused gaze made me realize one funny thing : at the end of my last year at university, I was talking with my favorite teacher. And he said to me : "I noticed you often looked confused, or were frowning in class". That felt weird, because I didn't really had trouble understanding his classes.
Now I understand it's just because it was the most interesting subject to me (the one I worked on in my thesis) and I was just really focused, for once xD
I am INFP, have half shutted eyes and people tell me that I look like I am daydreaming all the time, or think that I am falling in love or they think that I am not present, not listening them.
Ugh aight, that thumbnail sold me