The problem with this is .. some folks just run with that and take advantage further and so the other person should just ignore their own needs for however long and remain in a one sided relationship? Hmmm sounds healthy 😒
I undestand the logic, it is the logic of the mind. But we do not connect with our soulmate on that level if we want to experience love and joy. The advice I give works, period. I have seen our formulas work for almost a quarter of a century for thousands of people.
I agree with you wholeheartedly. I don’t think that God is okay with a husband being habitually unaffectionate. Husbands are supposed to love their wife as Christ loved the church. I’m sure that Jesus wants husbands to hug and kiss their wives. The husband is the leader. It’s supposed to be his move first. For a non-Biblical example: you can’t go to the bank and expect to withdraw money if you never made deposits into the account in the first place. It’s common sense.
@@TheMarriageFoundationno doubt it works but there’s a problem that’s not being addressed. The woman is changing her way of thinking but the man is not. That’s not exactly helping a relationship just bc we have the ability to change easier than men.
Very compassionate angle you take. It is easier said then done. Sometimes I take it very personally. I need to think about it/ approach it in this way. There is definitely some expectation tied to affection especially in the US. My husband is from another culture where this is not the case. God Bless you ❤
I’ve asked my husband for compliments … the one time I confronted him about it he said that he wouldn’t because I would let the compliment go to my head. I never asked again. Years later he accused me of an affair which was not true. To this day been married 19years no complients, no presents on anniversary,birthday, or even Christmas. I have learned to offer it up to the lord . It’s hurts every time. He claims that I have what i need and I can’t say I don’t. I can buy what I want with his $ of course… six kids Sahm and homeschool. Somehow I still feel like crap. Since I’ve had no compliments ever… just feels my body when he wants it. I get nothing from that. I let him do it cuz I know it helps him. Not planning to leave since I took my vows seriously. I’ve gained weight since it doesn’t matter how big or how small I am. Nothing helps. And now I’m just sad. .. I really do hope you can respond to this comment. Or anyone for that matter. Is the problem still me??? Probably but please explain to me how.
I certainly wouldn't praise your husband, but that doesn't mean you cannot live in joy and love. Remember that the more you open your heart the more you know His love. Don't think that you need outer confirmation. When your mind tells you that you do turn to God with deep longing for His love.
After having a few drinks one evening, my husband tells me I have gained weight and he Loves me but is NOT in love with me. He says he does not remember saying this to me. I have heard alchohol is like a truth serum, rather that be true or not, I can not seem to get passed those words I CLEARLY heard him say. How should I deal with this ? Please help !
A few words are enough for you to take heed that you are not living up to your vows as a wife, otherwise you would not be affected. Get the course for women.
Tina, dear. You are worthy of love at ANY size. If he truly loved you, he would have never said that to you. That is so incredibly hurtful, I hope that you didn't define yourself by any of his uncaring words.
@@TheMarriageFoundationcan you explain this? It sounds like you are telling women to be a door mat. How do we know when our emotions matter? What was her vows as a wife to not gain weight?! Where is the for better or for worse come into play? Sighh.
@@TheMarriageFoundationWOW how dare you say that it’s her fault her husband said that to her! What a stupid course you offer. Want nothing to do with advice like yours. Your marriage foundation is stupid if that’s the kind of advice you offer! What a joke 😂.
He knew how to share affection with me before we got married. I’m begging God to help me fight Temptations, but good news is I don’t want to go to hell. Never been a cheating kind. I don’t want to do it now. really starting to get ticked off now because I feel very ripped off been married 15 years
Readiing your three comments just reminds me of how far from the truths of marriage and how wonderful marriage can be our worldly teachings are, filled with such non-helpful advice and lore. I pray you are led to our wonderful marriage help courses 🙏
Sometimes, when you've been lacking love/affection your entire life, you try a new relationship and hope that will provide some of what you missed. But unfortunately when you're young you don't always know yourself and don't choose wisely. The husband should learn to love his wife the way she needs, anything else is quite selfish. I can accept no affection and be happy bc the Bible tells husbands to live their wives. This undoubtedly involves affection. Marriage is an interchange of love.
I’m always the giver of affection. I am tired of always giving it and never getting it FIRST. If I don’t reach out, I get nothing. My love language is touch 🥲
Long before I even had a dog for companionship, he has been the same way for years and now he says it’s the dog because I hug and kiss the dag on dog that he does not want to touch me. I keep my cool and I usually don’t show my anger. But I would like to get a punching bag just so I can take my frustrations out.
He sure was okay with being extremely affectionate in the beginning and said that's how we would always be. Now he's not because he said "he changed" and I should accept that and love him more because he's a man?
It isn't what is or was said. When marriages decay it is not mysterious. It is learnable and so is how to make your marriage into the shing star of life themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
How do I watch the course for women? I’ve ordered one of the books written by Paul Friedman. My 31 year marriage is in trouble, and has been for years. I need help. I’m enjoying the information I’ve been hearing. I’m trying to apply these practices.
I totally disagree. Everyone deserves to feel loved and should not just accept not feeling loved. I have been in relationships with men I feel very loved and I have also been in relationships that I do not feel loved. Relationship are work and both sides need to put in the work to make sure their partner feels loved. This is why people have affairs and get divorced
The problem with this is .. some folks just run with that and take advantage further and so the other person should just ignore their own needs for however long and remain in a one sided relationship? Hmmm sounds healthy 😒
I undestand the logic, it is the logic of the mind. But we do not connect with our soulmate on that level if we want to experience love and joy. The advice I give works, period. I have seen our formulas work for almost a quarter of a century for thousands of people.
I agree with you wholeheartedly. I don’t think that God is okay with a husband being habitually unaffectionate. Husbands are supposed to love their wife as Christ loved the church. I’m sure that Jesus wants husbands to hug and kiss their wives. The husband is the leader. It’s supposed to be his move first. For a non-Biblical example: you can’t go to the bank and expect to withdraw money if you never made deposits into the account in the first place. It’s common sense.
@@TheMarriageFoundationno doubt it works but there’s a problem that’s not being addressed. The woman is changing her way of thinking but the man is not. That’s not exactly helping a relationship just bc we have the ability to change easier than men.
Very compassionate angle you take. It is easier said then done. Sometimes I take it very personally. I need to think about it/ approach it in this way. There is definitely some expectation tied to affection especially in the US. My husband is from another culture where this is not the case. God Bless you ❤
What happened to the affection shown when there was overflow with courting,,,no affection brings loneliness
That is right, neither learned how to continuously improve the connection, til now themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
I’ve asked my husband for compliments … the one time I confronted him about it he said that he wouldn’t because I would let the compliment go to my head. I never asked again. Years later he accused me of an affair which was not true. To this day been married 19years no complients, no presents on anniversary,birthday, or even Christmas. I have learned to offer it up to the lord . It’s hurts every time. He claims that I have what i need and I can’t say I don’t. I can buy what I want with his $ of course… six kids Sahm and homeschool. Somehow I still feel like crap. Since I’ve had no compliments ever… just feels my body when he wants it. I get nothing from that. I let him do it cuz I know it helps him. Not planning to leave since I took my vows seriously. I’ve gained weight since it doesn’t matter how big or how small I am. Nothing helps. And now I’m just sad. .. I really do hope you can respond to this comment. Or anyone for that matter. Is the problem still me??? Probably but please explain to me how.
I certainly wouldn't praise your husband, but that doesn't mean you cannot live in joy and love. Remember that the more you open your heart the more you know His love. Don't think that you need outer confirmation. When your mind tells you that you do turn to God with deep longing for His love.
@@TheMarriageFoundation thank you for your response. At least I know I was heard.🙏🏻
I was about to give up. Thank you so much for this.
After having a few drinks one evening, my husband tells me I have gained weight and he Loves me but is NOT in love with me. He says he does not remember saying this to me. I have heard alchohol is like a truth serum, rather that be true or not, I can not seem to get passed those words I CLEARLY heard him say. How should I deal with this ? Please help !
A few words are enough for you to take heed that you are not living up to your vows as a wife, otherwise you would not be affected. Get the course for women.
Tina, dear. You are worthy of love at ANY size. If he truly loved you, he would have never said that to you. That is so incredibly hurtful, I hope that you didn't define yourself by any of his uncaring words.
@@TheMarriageFoundationcan you explain this? It sounds like you are telling women to be a door mat. How do we know when our emotions matter? What was her vows as a wife to not gain weight?! Where is the for better or for worse come into play? Sighh.
@@simplykacy134 Well said❤
@@TheMarriageFoundationWOW how dare you say that it’s her fault her husband said that to her! What a stupid course you offer. Want nothing to do with advice like yours. Your marriage foundation is stupid if that’s the kind of advice you offer! What a joke 😂.
I need a whole lot more than just my monetary needs met. :”0(( I’m SO lonly.
He knew how to share affection with me before we got married. I’m begging God to help me fight Temptations, but good news is I don’t want to go to hell. Never been a cheating kind. I don’t want to do it now. really starting to get ticked off now because I feel very ripped off been married 15 years
Readiing your three comments just reminds me of how far from the truths of marriage and how wonderful marriage can be our worldly teachings are, filled with such non-helpful advice and lore. I pray you are led to our wonderful marriage help courses 🙏
Sometimes, when you've been lacking love/affection your entire life, you try a new relationship and hope that will provide some of what you missed. But unfortunately when you're young you don't always know yourself and don't choose wisely. The husband should learn to love his wife the way she needs, anything else is quite selfish. I can accept no affection and be happy bc the Bible tells husbands to live their wives. This undoubtedly involves affection. Marriage is an interchange of love.
I’m always the giver of affection. I am tired of always giving it and never getting it FIRST. If I don’t reach out, I get nothing. My love language is touch 🥲
Long before I even had a dog for companionship, he has been the same way for years and now he says it’s the dog because I hug and kiss the dag on dog that he does not want to touch me. I keep my cool and I usually don’t show my anger. But I would like to get a punching bag just so I can take my frustrations out.
He sure was okay with being extremely affectionate in the beginning and said that's how we would always be. Now he's not because he said "he changed" and I should accept that and love him more because he's a man?
It isn't what is or was said. When marriages decay it is not mysterious. It is learnable and so is how to make your marriage into the shing star of life
themarriagefoundation.org/reviews/
Yeah, ladies, let’s do more! Lmao! Nothanks
People who are sure they are perfect generally have to wait for a perfect partner. But there aren't any
How do I watch the course for women? I’ve ordered one of the books written by Paul Friedman. My 31 year marriage is in trouble, and has been for years. I need help. I’m enjoying the information I’ve been hearing. I’m trying to apply these practices.
Our website offers it for purchase themarriagefoundation.org/
Beautiful answer.
I agree but women don’t want to hear this. I’m gonna do better t being affectionate. All this Logic stuff don’t irk other women
We need to understand cause and effect so we do smart things but mostly it is about opening our hearts to our soulmate that matters
I totally disagree. Everyone deserves to feel loved and should not just accept not feeling loved. I have been in relationships with men I feel very loved and I have also been in relationships that I do not feel loved. Relationship are work and both sides need to put in the work to make sure their partner feels loved. This is why people have affairs and get divorced