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I relate to your story in kind of a different way. Im about to graduate from a good school in a difficult stem field myself, but The issues that have prevented my happiness are more mental than physical. I think I've kind of known I was trans for a while, but I put off all the transitioning stuff in a large part because I knew and still know it will make finding a good job that much harder. I have only begun to come to terms with it recently. But as I get close to finishing my degree I find I almost dread finishing school, even though every semester makes me more misrible than the last. and the thought of going back to working a 9-5 for years like I did on my internships instills a level of despair on me that i find difficult to put into words. I too have thought about crashing out, just because its so hard to care about 'staying the course' or 'making a career' when it feels mutually exclusive with just 'being happy'
I go to an ivy; I think one of the most liberating things for me has just been to accept early on that I won’t be getting straight As anymore. I think at a certain point when people try to force themselves through a school like Penn, Mich, MIT, etc with the same mindset they had in HS, it’s just doomed to fail because they’re literally stuck in the class. Bravo to you for emphasizing health of all sorts (mental, physical, etc). I basically just approach every assignment with an “I’ll do my work, but if I don’t quite meet the bar/cutoff for an A, then oh well! Academics just don’t matter like they once did.” The expectations and stress culture are fs still here, but the kids who irrationally obsess over 4.0s when they aren’t even premed or whatever are honestly just losers. I think my friends and I have embraced the new challenge of developing ourselves as PEOPLE rather than students. With college admissions we only got one shot - but with the fancy named secured, we’ve got so many opportunities and attempts to do all the other things that matter to us. Yesterday, “holistic admissions” had us in the trenches. Today, we’re looking to be holistic humans. You’re right on. I cannot emphasize how important it is to just let the damn 4.0 sink a little. You’ll survive - and you’ll be better for it.
The way you explained that was perfect. I'm glad you also came to the same conclusions and seem to be in a good place. Sometime we gotta let that 4.0 go, and like you said, develop ourselves as people rather than students
The major issue is the educational system in its entirety. Everything is focused on min-maxing a bunch of superficial attributes. Learning to actually read and think is discouraged as doing well on exams becomes the sole goal. Another issue is that most elite students had elite opportunities. Their parents were, at least, comfortable middle class and could afford to send them to prep classes. There are always outliers, but many of these kids have always had guard rails around them for their entire lives. Therefore, the moment struggles comes around they may be unable to cope. A genuine liberal arts education is needed, especially for highly technical subjects. It is important to learn how to read books, engage in communication, and tackle alternative points of view. Most professors don't train as teachers and are utterly insufficient in the classroom. Finally, students are trained to be overspecialized. Well-roundedness is not favorable... anywhere. I'm educated in multiple disciplines and my background is a disadvantage for many hiring managers and committees. I have wanted to become a researcher, but I never did have the financial opportunity to afford working with a professor in a research lab. Only in my mid 30s have I acquired enough independence to begin following this dream. Hands down: the educational system needs a massive overhaul. It is rotting the minds of most, if not all, students no matter their background or privilege.
Not exercising enough leads to cortisol buildup, which causes anxiety, low self-esteem, and the "dark place" mode. I felt this during my junior year of high school when I was taking 4 AP's and 3 PreAP classes and I decided to stop doing my running and jogging since those classes were very difficult. In my 2nd semester, however, I started playing tennis and my body felt much better. My performance also improved in classes. COVID came over and health improved overall. So yeah, some sort of exercise is important daily (unless a heavy workout was done the day before in which a recovery day is necessary.)
For sure, our bodies are literally built to exercise and be moving around. I also used to have a sedentary lifestyle and noticed that once I started going to the gym and taking more steps during the day, things got better, both physically and mentally. Always good to see you brotha
I also went to a top tier university, quit my STEM career, moved to Arizona, and crashed out. The sad thing is, one of the biggest health issues I'm dealing with is severe heat intolerance. Like I crank my AC and keep the temperature indoors in the high 50s (deg F) most of the time (if my AC can even achieve that, which it can't in the summer), so this state is HORRIBLE for my health. I couldn't have anticipated this happening when I moved here a few years ago. In fact I used to spend hours outdoors in the heat and sun the first summer I was here and I was fine but now there's no way! So I need to move out ASAP or else I might just die here. Like if an extended power outage happens it might just do me in, but even with electricity the heat still kills all my energy. The problem is I don't have the health to move, so basically I'm screwed.
i’m in the same boat, i’m even a brother of the fraternity luigi was a part of (different school.) i decided to go to law school instead of tech, but fitness and long-term significant injury is part of my story too (i got cancer and had to get multiple surgeries/radiation.) i dropped out of society after a couple years of being a lawyer in chicago. i moved out to colorado and haven’t really looked back. i had a little while where i got into the writings of ted. i’m not so into him anymore, but i really identify with this story
Another amazing upload. I love ur videos so much. Imam Shafi said that good health is like a crown that the healthy wear but only the sick can see. We can have so many problems but when we become sick, they all disappear and we have only have one. It’s important to remain grateful for what you have and do as much possible in this life whilst you are still able.
I absolutely wasted my first 2 years of college grinding harder on my academics now. I’m a junior now and have completely checked out and am basically living up on the strong academic base I built the passed 2 years. I put no effort in anymore and have never been happier in my life. My social life is vibrant for the first time in 6-7 years and I am seeing a girl for the first time after abstaining for essentially my entire youth. Don’t buy into the grind set mind set because these companies just wanna ship our jobs off anyways. I see a lot of myself in Luigi. I graduated near top of my class in hs and was always very academically strong and even had violent fantasies almost identical to what Luigi carried out no less than a year ago. I’m doing better tho
alex. i just wanted to tell you that you are really brave for sharing your story and it inspired me and a lot of others. u are really inspiring and beautiful person and it's really unfortunate what has happened to you in the past but i really think you are a strong individual for overcoming that. you are strong enough to reflect on your past experiences and now sharing your learned knowledge upon others :)
i went to boarding school with a superbly built classic country boy..when it came to sports, he was a natural- we stood in awe of him....I suspect he did something to his back while wrangling a steer- he was a born cowboy...anyway, I ran into him when we were in our 30's: he looked like an old man with pain etched deeply in his once handsome face...he is no longer with us
Life is not easy! Another thing is the dude possibly had a very high expectation of himself due to his academic success and maybe he was disappointed about his life after graduation from ivy league school. Managing expectation is important for your mental health. Academic success does not equal constant wins in real life. Stay humble, cut expenses and manage expectations. The modern society is crazy overall! Life is not easy! I had academic success and I have been working for 20 years as an invisible guy in corp world. All we can do is to do our best and lower our expectations. Not everything is under our control. Taking walks helps too. Sitting for too long or driving too much is not healthy. Take care there!
I graduated with a physics bachelors in 2011 and dropped out of a Physics PhD in 2013. Long story short, I think academia is hyper competitive and the main issue is there's no balance between studying/work and being a normal person and having fun (hanging out with friends, dating, going to the gym, etc..). A lot of it is also luck, getting onto the right projects with the right research groups, correct timing when a particular research topic is hot, etc... I transitioned from academia to the software engineering industry and I'm currently a SWE in a big tech company, so feel free to reach out if you want my story or any advice! Essentially it boils down to getting used to life after school where you're not always meeting new people, with new classes, with zero guidance. And also balance between having fun and grinding on your own career/projects.
I'm no doctor but I did suffer from a similar series of tendinopathies in my elbows and knees when I was 19. One thing that really helped me was incorporating slow eccentrics into my lifting routine. After spending months out of the gym, I started back training with high reps / low weight whilst really focusing on a slow eccentric (around 3 seconds). These have helped my elbows and knees immensely and I would say they are back to around 90-95% now. I am not sure if this will work for hamstrings but it might be worth trying some lightweight hamstring curls or RDLs with slow eccentrics?
Absolutely... I actually also had biceps tendonitis at one point and did eccentric curls with low weights, which actually seemed to help. So maybe it would be worth it to try with hamstring exercises as well. Thanks for the advice.
I knew someone who got a STEM degree from an Ivy League. He couldn’t compete with the flood of HB-1 Visa holders and interns/slaves. The company where he worked was streaming by downsizing the hell out of the place, all so the higher ups could watch their stocks climb another point. Finding another job was nearly impossible, even with his supposedly “indispensable skills”.
I can relate. CorpoRATS are currently crushing most software engineers, I'm burning out slowly and I feel like i have zero alternative. Even if i go the freelance way, corporats will still expect for the same results. It ain't worth the squeeze. I borderline want to throw my life savings at becoming an electrician or welder.
hey man, I can really relate to the health problems you are going through, I am studying physics in uni and have chronic headache for a long time and even had suicidal thoughts, from my personal experience you should really try the carnivore or high fat ketogenic diet, all pains comes down to inflammations and this diet helps tremendously with that.
In this whole story I don't understand one thing: if he was that wealthy, why didn't he go abroad to get good treatment instead of doing what he did? There are countries where you can get a treatment or surgery and what not even without any type of insurance there, and it would cost a fraction of what you would pay here.
I guess but I don’t think going out country is thought about in cost benefit analysis to a lot of people and honestly just speaks to problem if you have to even think about going out of county to lower costs. Should he have thought about probably but I personally don’t expect someone to consider every possible option especially when you should realistically be able to get decent care in US even if that’s not the case now.
@@rickyrivera3623 I meant he wasn't cornered. I would have 100% understood his actions if he hadn't been smart and had been poor. He still had options: go somewhere and get relatively healthy, come back and fight the system the smart way by sharing your story with the media and making a fuss about it by showing that you were treated somewhere outside better than in your country... Now his life is over.
Its a super fascinating story. The most interesting take I've seen on Luigi is this vid. ruclips.net/video/qMtGgnAMGk0/видео.html Have you ever heard of integral theory?
It doesnt make sense that he had to rely on insurance limitations. His family was wealthy. His family could pay out of pocket for the best care. This is the one facet of the story which doesnt make sense.
Just because a family can pay for something doesn’t mean there obligated to do so sometimes a family may leave you on your own for various reasons or you may leave your family. In particular is wierd dynamic with rich people because there successes can be seen as unearned so it may make sense to cut them off earlier to help them with work ethic and actually earning something on there own rather then it just being parents money (or seen as that way)
4:30 Let me brush up some previous old knowledge that you probably forgotten from your Economic 101 class 🤓☝️, that’s called ‘Microeconomic,’ the concept of Marginal Utility. I personally think that ideally, it’s your life goal, your life long mission to reach at least a 1-2 million dollar, where you’re no longer constantly stressed 24/7 about this green imaginary ‘paper’ thing that isn’t even tied to ‘the gold standard.’ You’re probably thinking that this is already the beginning of the end 🤡, let me imagine you pay attention to your history class, and you’re a man of culture, someone who studied Roman History, you’re likely aware of Nero’s dilution of the denarii; the beginning of the end. Wait where am I 🤔uhh but yeah… it’s not worth the $$$ if your body becomes a wreck, you can’t even enjoy the hard earn money, but yeah never trade your body’s health for money, because it’s not worth it.
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I relate to your story in kind of a different way. Im about to graduate from a good school in a difficult stem field myself, but The issues that have prevented my happiness are more mental than physical. I think I've kind of known I was trans for a while, but I put off all the transitioning stuff in a large part because I knew and still know it will make finding a good job that much harder. I have only begun to come to terms with it recently. But as I get close to finishing my degree I find I almost dread finishing school, even though every semester makes me more misrible than the last. and the thought of going back to working a 9-5 for years like I did on my internships instills a level of despair on me that i find difficult to put into words. I too have thought about crashing out, just because its so hard to care about 'staying the course' or 'making a career' when it feels mutually exclusive with just 'being happy'
The US medical system will never cure you, just drugs to manage symptoms.
The juice ain’t worth the squeeze
I go to an ivy; I think one of the most liberating things for me has just been to accept early on that I won’t be getting straight As anymore. I think at a certain point when people try to force themselves through a school like Penn, Mich, MIT, etc with the same mindset they had in HS, it’s just doomed to fail because they’re literally stuck in the class. Bravo to you for emphasizing health of all sorts (mental, physical, etc). I basically just approach every assignment with an “I’ll do my work, but if I don’t quite meet the bar/cutoff for an A, then oh well! Academics just don’t matter like they once did.” The expectations and stress culture are fs still here, but the kids who irrationally obsess over 4.0s when they aren’t even premed or whatever are honestly just losers. I think my friends and I have embraced the new challenge of developing ourselves as PEOPLE rather than students. With college admissions we only got one shot - but with the fancy named secured, we’ve got so many opportunities and attempts to do all the other things that matter to us. Yesterday, “holistic admissions” had us in the trenches. Today, we’re looking to be holistic humans. You’re right on. I cannot emphasize how important it is to just let the damn 4.0 sink a little. You’ll survive - and you’ll be better for it.
The way you explained that was perfect. I'm glad you also came to the same conclusions and seem to be in a good place. Sometime we gotta let that 4.0 go, and like you said, develop ourselves as people rather than students
The major issue is the educational system in its entirety. Everything is focused on min-maxing a bunch of superficial attributes. Learning to actually read and think is discouraged as doing well on exams becomes the sole goal.
Another issue is that most elite students had elite opportunities. Their parents were, at least, comfortable middle class and could afford to send them to prep classes. There are always outliers, but many of these kids have always had guard rails around them for their entire lives. Therefore, the moment struggles comes around they may be unable to cope.
A genuine liberal arts education is needed, especially for highly technical subjects. It is important to learn how to read books, engage in communication, and tackle alternative points of view. Most professors don't train as teachers and are utterly insufficient in the classroom.
Finally, students are trained to be overspecialized. Well-roundedness is not favorable... anywhere. I'm educated in multiple disciplines and my background is a disadvantage for many hiring managers and committees. I have wanted to become a researcher, but I never did have the financial opportunity to afford working with a professor in a research lab. Only in my mid 30s have I acquired enough independence to begin following this dream.
Hands down: the educational system needs a massive overhaul. It is rotting the minds of most, if not all, students no matter their background or privilege.
Very insightful... Agree with basically everything you brought up
This man will never miss 👑🎗️
Much appreciated!
@@official_awei My pleasure!
Not exercising enough leads to cortisol buildup, which causes anxiety, low self-esteem, and the "dark place" mode. I felt this during my junior year of high school when I was taking 4 AP's and 3 PreAP classes and I decided to stop doing my running and jogging since those classes were very difficult. In my 2nd semester, however, I started playing tennis and my body felt much better. My performance also improved in classes. COVID came over and health improved overall. So yeah, some sort of exercise is important daily (unless a heavy workout was done the day before in which a recovery day is necessary.)
For sure, our bodies are literally built to exercise and be moving around. I also used to have a sedentary lifestyle and noticed that once I started going to the gym and taking more steps during the day, things got better, both physically and mentally. Always good to see you brotha
I also went to a top tier university, quit my STEM career, moved to Arizona, and crashed out. The sad thing is, one of the biggest health issues I'm dealing with is severe heat intolerance. Like I crank my AC and keep the temperature indoors in the high 50s (deg F) most of the time (if my AC can even achieve that, which it can't in the summer), so this state is HORRIBLE for my health. I couldn't have anticipated this happening when I moved here a few years ago. In fact I used to spend hours outdoors in the heat and sun the first summer I was here and I was fine but now there's no way! So I need to move out ASAP or else I might just die here. Like if an extended power outage happens it might just do me in, but even with electricity the heat still kills all my energy. The problem is I don't have the health to move, so basically I'm screwed.
i’m in the same boat, i’m even a brother of the fraternity luigi was a part of (different school.) i decided to go to law school instead of tech, but fitness and long-term significant injury is part of my story too (i got cancer and had to get multiple surgeries/radiation.)
i dropped out of society after a couple years of being a lawyer in chicago. i moved out to colorado and haven’t really looked back. i had a little while where i got into the writings of ted. i’m not so into him anymore, but i really identify with this story
Another amazing upload. I love ur videos so much. Imam Shafi said that good health is like a crown that the healthy wear but only the sick can see. We can have so many problems but when we become sick, they all disappear and we have only have one. It’s important to remain grateful for what you have and do as much possible in this life whilst you are still able.
Great message man, couldn't have said it better myself. And glad to see you on a lot of my videos!
I absolutely wasted my first 2 years of college grinding harder on my academics now. I’m a junior now and have completely checked out and am basically living up on the strong academic base I built the passed 2 years. I put no effort in anymore and have never been happier in my life. My social life is vibrant for the first time in 6-7 years and I am seeing a girl for the first time after abstaining for essentially my entire youth. Don’t buy into the grind set mind set because these companies just wanna ship our jobs off anyways. I see a lot of myself in Luigi. I graduated near top of my class in hs and was always very academically strong and even had violent fantasies almost identical to what Luigi carried out no less than a year ago. I’m doing better tho
Glad ur doing better. Hustle culture ain't worth it.
alex. i just wanted to tell you that you are really brave for sharing your story and it inspired me and a lot of others. u are really inspiring and beautiful person and it's really unfortunate what has happened to you in the past but i really think you are a strong individual for overcoming that. you are strong enough to reflect on your past experiences and now sharing your learned knowledge upon others :)
Really appreciate the kind words, hope everything is well with you too
i went to boarding school with a superbly built classic country boy..when it came to sports, he was a natural- we stood in awe of him....I suspect he did something to his back while wrangling a steer- he was a born cowboy...anyway, I ran into him when we were in our 30's: he looked like an old man with pain etched deeply in his once handsome face...he is no longer with us
Life is not easy! Another thing is the dude possibly had a very high expectation of himself due to his academic success and maybe he was disappointed about his life after graduation from ivy league school. Managing expectation is important for your mental health. Academic success does not equal constant wins in real life. Stay humble, cut expenses and manage expectations. The modern society is crazy overall! Life is not easy! I had academic success and I have been working for 20 years as an invisible guy in corp world. All we can do is to do our best and lower our expectations. Not everything is under our control. Taking walks helps too. Sitting for too long or driving too much is not healthy. Take care there!
Point about managing expectations is so true. Happiness equals reality minus expectations.
im so glad dr goobis story got brought up, its screams that this issue is not an isolated event
I graduated with a physics bachelors in 2011 and dropped out of a Physics PhD in 2013. Long story short, I think academia is hyper competitive and the main issue is there's no balance between studying/work and being a normal person and having fun (hanging out with friends, dating, going to the gym, etc..). A lot of it is also luck, getting onto the right projects with the right research groups, correct timing when a particular research topic is hot, etc...
I transitioned from academia to the software engineering industry and I'm currently a SWE in a big tech company, so feel free to reach out if you want my story or any advice! Essentially it boils down to getting used to life after school where you're not always meeting new people, with new classes, with zero guidance. And also balance between having fun and grinding on your own career/projects.
Agree with everything you said here
I'm no doctor but I did suffer from a similar series of tendinopathies in my elbows and knees when I was 19. One thing that really helped me was incorporating slow eccentrics into my lifting routine. After spending months out of the gym, I started back training with high reps / low weight whilst really focusing on a slow eccentric (around 3 seconds). These have helped my elbows and knees immensely and I would say they are back to around 90-95% now. I am not sure if this will work for hamstrings but it might be worth trying some lightweight hamstring curls or RDLs with slow eccentrics?
Absolutely... I actually also had biceps tendonitis at one point and did eccentric curls with low weights, which actually seemed to help. So maybe it would be worth it to try with hamstring exercises as well. Thanks for the advice.
I knew someone who got a STEM degree from an Ivy League. He couldn’t compete with the flood of HB-1 Visa holders and interns/slaves. The company where he worked was streaming by downsizing the hell out of the place, all so the higher ups could watch their stocks climb another point.
Finding another job was nearly impossible, even with his supposedly “indispensable skills”.
bro when you said you went to one of the top high schools and showed BCA I nearly jumped cuz I also went there lmfao.
That's crazy, which Academy?
@@official_awei AAST
Same bro, AAST '20. Wish I didn't go there.
I can relate. CorpoRATS are currently crushing most software engineers, I'm burning out slowly and I feel like i have zero alternative. Even if i go the freelance way, corporats will still expect for the same results. It ain't worth the squeeze. I borderline want to throw my life savings at becoming an electrician or welder.
It's really a tough situation huh
hey man, I can really relate to the health problems you are going through, I am studying physics in uni and have chronic headache for a long time and even had suicidal thoughts, from my personal experience you should really try the carnivore or high fat ketogenic diet, all pains comes down to inflammations and this diet helps tremendously with that.
In this whole story I don't understand one thing: if he was that wealthy, why didn't he go abroad to get good treatment instead of doing what he did? There are countries where you can get a treatment or surgery and what not even without any type of insurance there, and it would cost a fraction of what you would pay here.
I guess but I don’t think going out country is thought about in cost benefit analysis to a lot of people and honestly just speaks to problem if you have to even think about going out of county to lower costs. Should he have thought about probably but I personally don’t expect someone to consider every possible option especially when you should realistically be able to get decent care in US even if that’s not the case now.
@@rickyrivera3623 I meant he wasn't cornered. I would have 100% understood his actions if he hadn't been smart and had been poor. He still had options: go somewhere and get relatively healthy, come back and fight the system the smart way by sharing your story with the media and making a fuss about it by showing that you were treated somewhere outside better than in your country... Now his life is over.
Its a super fascinating story. The most interesting take I've seen on Luigi is this vid. ruclips.net/video/qMtGgnAMGk0/видео.html Have you ever heard of integral theory?
All of it really is fascinating...
thank you.
We need artificial super intelligence asap
If you think that will improve anything in society then you’re insane. It will make things worse
Yeah this stuff is not told to much😢😊
It doesnt make sense that he had to rely on insurance limitations. His family was wealthy. His family could pay out of pocket for the best care. This is the one facet of the story which doesnt make sense.
That's a really interesting point that I never thought about before
Just because a family can pay for something doesn’t mean there obligated to do so sometimes a family may leave you on your own for various reasons or you may leave your family. In particular is wierd dynamic with rich people because there successes can be seen as unearned so it may make sense to cut them off earlier to help them with work ethic and actually earning something on there own rather then it just being parents money (or seen as that way)
8:08 you look cool here, just saying )
4:30 Let me brush up some previous old knowledge that you probably forgotten from your Economic 101 class 🤓☝️, that’s called ‘Microeconomic,’ the concept of Marginal Utility. I personally think that ideally, it’s your life goal, your life long mission to reach at least a 1-2 million dollar, where you’re no longer constantly stressed 24/7 about this green imaginary ‘paper’ thing that isn’t even tied to ‘the gold standard.’ You’re probably thinking that this is already the beginning of the end 🤡, let me imagine you pay attention to your history class, and you’re a man of culture, someone who studied Roman History, you’re likely aware of Nero’s dilution of the denarii; the beginning of the end. Wait where am I 🤔uhh but yeah… it’s not worth the $$$ if your body becomes a wreck, you can’t even enjoy the hard earn money, but yeah never trade your body’s health for money, because it’s not worth it.
Bruh the university of michigan has 0 brand recognition outside of america why you call it an ivy league?
I remember Michigan more for the Fab 5 than anything academic. No disrespect.
"top school" =/= Ivy League.
3:00 Have you ever entertained the idea that someone potentially ‘spiked’ you? Have you ever entertained this idea? 🦝
How does someone spiking a person lead to hamstring tendinopathy?