I feel like this is helpful learning to set boundries outside of "spicy scenes", too. Like if there's something in life I don't feel comfortable with doing, oftentimes I say "idk not feeling like doing it BUT HEY, MAYBE LATER I'll change my mind" because I don't want to disappoint people. Even if I'm 99% sure I won't change my mind. Learning to say "right now, these are the boundries and let's work within those", even to myself, seems like it would be super helpful for self esteem and such
Thank you for putting all the parts together. This is fantastic and you have such a way for story telling. All of your channel is very interesting and I love learning about all the work you put it! 😊
This is so interesting! I've always wondered about the mechanics behind a love scene and how they make it look realistic. It's a much more involved procedure than I thought. Cheers for giving us this insight.
Having been on stage and set, this is SO GOOD! I really wasn't given a choice in a few productions. It makes me very happy to see YOU and others now helping with this. I cannot say it enough, THANK YOU for sharing what you do, how you do it, and ultimately keep the players safe on set. Thank you.
Five minutes plus video? Hold my merkin okay so its all the parts (heh, parts) together, it's nice to see them as a whole. I hope actors and producers are as pleasant in real life too.
XD ok "hold my merkin" just cracked me up cause I recently had to explain to my mother "Yeah I know what that is" and cited this channel as how I learned some of the finer details via the big bird colored merkin XD SHe unfortunately learned about them from some random realisticly colored article, very "70's grooming" and upsetting apparently XD
I'm asexual and while I dont have an aversion to sex, I don't want to be involved and I find sex scenes to be incredibly boring. I look away because literally anything else in the room is more interesting than sex. But I really appreciate this channel because now I know what goes into making a simulated sex scene l can at least appreciate the process.
I’m freysexual, (under the ace umbrella) but married, and in long term romantic relationships I’m asexual, and I find sex scenes just bizarre, I have no reaction to them. I also write and act, and I feel awkward even writing kissing scenes in my literature… I’ll never be a romance author… but I can act sexy, and kiss on stage, and I think it’s because I have no romantic connection to the other actor. Luckily my husband understands me, and is supportive.
Same, I'm aroace and sex repulsed, but I figured out if there's a bit of lore in the scene I am not as repulsed, just gets me into the "Ooh, lore" part of my brain. Thanks Baldur's Gate 3, I always wish I had popcorn for those scenes because I originally thought it was just for horny neck beards who don't leave their basement but nope, there is lore!
Wow, I could have used your expertise in a play I was in about 15 yrs ago. The scene called for a kiss and the director basically left it up to the actors to figure it out. We were both married (not to each other, ha ha), he was old enough to be my father (weird casting, I know), and it was super awkward. In the final week of rehearsal, the director yelled at us... "are you ever going to do that kiss?" -- so the next time we did the scene, I just closed my eyes and planted one on the poor unsuspecting guy. He wasn't ready and there was WAY too much mouth contact (and saliva) and it was so disgusting. After that, the director decided we'd just go with a tender look, and brush of a finger along the cheek (which worked much better). UGH, what a disaster going through all that discomfort for weeks. Intimacy coordinators are the best invention ever.
Having seen the "behind the scenes" of a scene reinforces what we've been hearing for years, "That shooting the scene wasn't as spicy as it becomes on the screen." Actors repeatedly tell the fans/audience that it's hard to get into character with 25+ crew; but nobody believes them., as they're ACTORS! Actual breakdown of a spicy scene and the boundary/safety conversations align with what the actors are saying. I also realized that fake spicy scenes can have as many, or more, "goofs, uh-ohs , don't touch there" as in real life.
I love the use of spicy instead of sexy or romantic or whatever. It changes the dynamics and makes it less pushy on all sex in acting is sexy. By using spicy it covers non consent of the character with out pressure against the consent of the actor. In general spicy has a neutral feeling rather then positive or negative. While also covering a larger range of actions
Let's ne honest, kissing in Hollywood never looks real. And once you learn that kissing like that doesn't feel sexy, it doesn't look sexy. I always get really excited when actors kiss like normal people, but "sexy kissing" can just stay home.
I love how considerate you are with how you word things. When you tell her to put his hands where it feels good, I know what you are meaning to say, but I heard exactly what you were trying not to say. For me, telling her to put his hands in a good/safe/secure spot would have been the intended message without the sexual connotation. It's probably totally fine in real life, but it hit me weird in these posts.
I'm loving your videos soo much! Really insightful! However I think the director came across waaaay too calm 😂🙈 or I've just been unlucky in the past 😅
You know, the actors could just talk to each others, but I guess we forgot the art of communication so we now need an overpaid "specialist" to do it for us...
Think of it another way: Sure, you can get a house built with a general contractor, and maybe do some electrical work with the help of a handyman, but if you want stuff up to code, you *need* to hire a licensed, bonded & insured electrician who really knows what they're doing. Plus, intimacy coordinators are not only specialists in simulated intimacy and in discussing consent and boundaries, they're also *advocates* for the actors and their needs. A director could demand an actor do a particular action stunt, and try to ignore the actor when they say "No, I don't think so..." but when a stunt coordinator--an industry professional--says "Uh, NO, they are NOT going to do that particular stunt," the directors & producers are much more likely to pay attention. (it's a legal lawsuit issue if they don't.) Actors do NOT specialize in discussing simulated intimacy, consent issues, and boundaries. They're too busy specializing in being an actor! It's far easier to have a specialist on hand. Let the professional electrician help you get the energy safely & reliably to all the corners of the house that you need that energy to go!
@@ladyofthemasque Before I respond to your comment, I need to talk to my comment coordinator to insure that it's safe for me and that I don't say anything I didn't want to say but that I would feel compelled to tell you! It might take a while because my comment coordinator is currently waiting for his payment coordinator to finish talking to the cashier at the gas station so he can safely pay for his gas, but the cashier requested that his coordination coordinator be present too...
I feel like this is helpful learning to set boundries outside of "spicy scenes", too. Like if there's something in life I don't feel comfortable with doing, oftentimes I say "idk not feeling like doing it BUT HEY, MAYBE LATER I'll change my mind" because I don't want to disappoint people. Even if I'm 99% sure I won't change my mind. Learning to say "right now, these are the boundries and let's work within those", even to myself, seems like it would be super helpful for self esteem and such
This was fascinating!!!
Thank you for putting all the parts together. This is fantastic and you have such a way for story telling.
All of your channel is very interesting and I love learning about all the work you put it!
😊
This had me glued to the edge of my seat
Or tied to it with a clear string in case you're allergic to adhesive 😁
This! 😂😂
So amazing!! Thank you for posting the full version of this!!!
This is so interesting! I've always wondered about the mechanics behind a love scene and how they make it look realistic. It's a much more involved procedure than I thought. Cheers for giving us this insight.
Having been on stage and set, this is SO GOOD! I really wasn't given a choice in a few productions. It makes me very happy to see YOU and others now helping with this. I cannot say it enough, THANK YOU for sharing what you do, how you do it, and ultimately keep the players safe on set.
Thank you.
Five minutes plus video? Hold my merkin
okay so its all the parts (heh, parts) together, it's nice to see them as a whole. I hope actors and producers are as pleasant in real life too.
XD ok "hold my merkin" just cracked me up cause I recently had to explain to my mother "Yeah I know what that is" and cited this channel as how I learned some of the finer details via the big bird colored merkin XD
SHe unfortunately learned about them from some random realisticly colored article, very "70's grooming" and upsetting apparently XD
@@mousepariah3884 my intention was to give someone a laugh, I'm happy to hear I succeeded!
I'm asexual and while I dont have an aversion to sex, I don't want to be involved and I find sex scenes to be incredibly boring. I look away because literally anything else in the room is more interesting than sex. But I really appreciate this channel because now I know what goes into making a simulated sex scene l can at least appreciate the process.
I'm also ace! Though I personally actively avoid sex scenes and juicy content, being on the repulsed side of things :) I find the theory fascinating
ANother ace agreeing
I’m freysexual, (under the ace umbrella) but married, and in long term romantic relationships I’m asexual, and I find sex scenes just bizarre, I have no reaction to them. I also write and act, and I feel awkward even writing kissing scenes in my literature… I’ll never be a romance author… but I can act sexy, and kiss on stage, and I think it’s because I have no romantic connection to the other actor. Luckily my husband understands me, and is supportive.
I'm sex-averse asexual too! Hi club! Love this channel.
Same, I'm aroace and sex repulsed, but I figured out if there's a bit of lore in the scene I am not as repulsed, just gets me into the "Ooh, lore" part of my brain. Thanks Baldur's Gate 3, I always wish I had popcorn for those scenes because I originally thought it was just for horny neck beards who don't leave their basement but nope, there is lore!
Wow, I could have used your expertise in a play I was in about 15 yrs ago. The scene called for a kiss and the director basically left it up to the actors to figure it out. We were both married (not to each other, ha ha), he was old enough to be my father (weird casting, I know), and it was super awkward. In the final week of rehearsal, the director yelled at us... "are you ever going to do that kiss?" -- so the next time we did the scene, I just closed my eyes and planted one on the poor unsuspecting guy. He wasn't ready and there was WAY too much mouth contact (and saliva) and it was so disgusting. After that, the director decided we'd just go with a tender look, and brush of a finger along the cheek (which worked much better). UGH, what a disaster going through all that discomfort for weeks. Intimacy coordinators are the best invention ever.
Wow, I'm learning so much. It is hard to imagine respect and understanding without peer pressure or fear of losing your job.
I just wanted to take this opportunity to appreciate the phrase "tongues uh flying"😂
I love the little extra bits that didn't make it to the shorts!
Having seen the "behind the scenes" of a scene reinforces what we've been hearing for years, "That shooting the scene wasn't as spicy as it becomes on the screen." Actors repeatedly tell the fans/audience that it's hard to get into character with 25+ crew; but nobody believes them., as they're ACTORS!
Actual breakdown of a spicy scene and the boundary/safety conversations align with what the actors are saying.
I also realized that fake spicy scenes can have as many, or more, "goofs, uh-ohs , don't touch there" as in real life.
“No, I just want to stay here and drink water.”
I love the use of spicy instead of sexy or romantic or whatever. It changes the dynamics and makes it less pushy on all sex in acting is sexy. By using spicy it covers non consent of the character with out pressure against the consent of the actor.
In general spicy has a neutral feeling rather then positive or negative. While also covering a larger range of actions
5:46 that "yyyyep" cracks me up every time
Alright, this really helped in gauging how exactly an intimacy coordinator operates and this is really amazing! 😄
I can see how your role would be invaluable on a set. Nice job. 👍
Let's ne honest, kissing in Hollywood never looks real. And once you learn that kissing like that doesn't feel sexy, it doesn't look sexy. I always get really excited when actors kiss like normal people, but "sexy kissing" can just stay home.
As an aspiring actor I've found this to be so informative, thank you for all that you do!
Why is this my new favorite channel? I had so many questions about all of these things!
Would you consider making a vid discussing what got you into this area and how someone might go abt exploring career opportunities?
These are fun. I would love more long-form content.
I am so curious to know what movies you have actually worked on. Are you employed by a particular studio or just strictly freelance?
Great vid! Such a fascinating industry.
I got exhausted just watching this.
Needs a psychology degree at this point
You're doing the Lord's work
I love how considerate you are with how you word things. When you tell her to put his hands where it feels good, I know what you are meaning to say, but I heard exactly what you were trying not to say. For me, telling her to put his hands in a good/safe/secure spot would have been the intended message without the sexual connotation. It's probably totally fine in real life, but it hit me weird in these posts.
are tongues actually used on set? i was told that onscreen kisses were lips only and each tongue stayed firmly inside its own mouth?
I'm loving your videos soo much! Really insightful! However I think the director came across waaaay too calm 😂🙈 or I've just been unlucky in the past 😅
Hi I love your videos
lol “Scoop”
Cómo estás?
Why teach people how to simulate sexual acts for other people to watch??
You know, the actors could just talk to each others, but I guess we forgot the art of communication so we now need an overpaid "specialist" to do it for us...
Think of it another way: Sure, you can get a house built with a general contractor, and maybe do some electrical work with the help of a handyman, but if you want stuff up to code, you *need* to hire a licensed, bonded & insured electrician who really knows what they're doing. Plus, intimacy coordinators are not only specialists in simulated intimacy and in discussing consent and boundaries, they're also *advocates* for the actors and their needs. A director could demand an actor do a particular action stunt, and try to ignore the actor when they say "No, I don't think so..." but when a stunt coordinator--an industry professional--says "Uh, NO, they are NOT going to do that particular stunt," the directors & producers are much more likely to pay attention. (it's a legal lawsuit issue if they don't.) Actors do NOT specialize in discussing simulated intimacy, consent issues, and boundaries. They're too busy specializing in being an actor! It's far easier to have a specialist on hand. Let the professional electrician help you get the energy safely & reliably to all the corners of the house that you need that energy to go!
We don't need stut coordinators the actors could just communicate
@@ladyofthemasque Before I respond to your comment, I need to talk to my comment coordinator to insure that it's safe for me and that I don't say anything I didn't want to say but that I would feel compelled to tell you!
It might take a while because my comment coordinator is currently waiting for his payment coordinator to finish talking to the cashier at the gas station so he can safely pay for his gas, but the cashier requested that his coordination coordinator be present too...