Tus me tub ceev xwm, koj yog ib tug neeg uas ntse tshaj plaws, peb thov qhuas. Cov ruam ces zam txim ib zaug tas los ib zaug tuaj, thaum zam tsis tau txim lawm ces muab hlais kiag pov tseg, thaum kawg 2 lub neej liam tas nrho tib si - ib tug tuag lawm hos ib tug mus pw nkuaj lawm. Tos koj tau ib lub zoo luag hauj lwm los koj yeej ntse heev❤❤
Again, cheating is NOT a mistake. It's a CHOICE!!! Quit making excuses for your poor behaviors! A mistake is made by not thinking about it. When you decided to cheat, you thought about all the possible consequences you will face and how you will weasel your way out. I don't blame the author of this story. He did what's right instead of staying with a cheater and torturing himself. She made her choice. Let her go.
Cheaters are only remorseful when caught. I never believe when they said, "i made a mistake." Uh, sorry. A mistake is only a one time thing. If it's more than that then it's a choice.
You are wrong when u say put your own well being first, kids are innocent and are incompetent to make decisions. If you feel like they deserve a better chance than you, then you would stick by them.....
kids needs to be love and support. the two of them can do that afterward. they gets hurt more by staying with parent that don't love each other anymore. I see there also a great step mom and step dad that love or support their step kids too. if you can't love but at least support their kids when you decided to marry someone with kids then don't. else, women can tolerate but men, most will divorce you again.
Anybody can cheat, there are those who chooses not to. We choose to not cross the line. Marriage is sacred to us. There is never a big reason or excuse to have an affair. You want to be with someone else, DIVORCE YOUR SPOUSE FIRST!!! I agree, the second they choose to cheat they don’t love you anymore. How can you say you still love when that love was given to someone else besides your spouse. Don’t fall for sweet talks. People like them will never learn. Keep taking them back. Keep forgiving them, they keep taking advantage of you only. Good for putting your foot down and moving on openly. Rather then hearing news of domestic violence/ suicide killing.
Zoo kawg... peb cov txiv neej thiab pojniam ua tau ua siab tawv li koj is. Yuav ntxiv los tsis muaj qhov zoo lawm. Trust is broken and hard to repair. Dub neeg ces qub siab xwb os.
I like how the cheater is always the one saying it is a mistake, forgive them, and they still do it again. CHEATING ON YOUR SPOUSE IS A DELIBERATE ACT not a mistake. It is intentional meant to cause pain. Good for you man.
Betrayal is scary and ultimate. No one can forgive the ultimate betrayal it’s better to let them go than torture yourself. Because at the end you are torturing yourself, the one who betrayed you will never feel the pain. It’s never ok to stay for the sake of your children. I’m glad you’re able to move on. Grass is never greener on the other side.
Yoglawm txawm yog poj niam li peb txiv neej li nej los yog muaj ib nplooj siab qias neeg li ntawv lawm ces yeej txias siab tu siab tshaj li os tus nus aw
You did the right thing. Save you a lot of headaches down the road. Qub neeg qub siab, qub dev qub ntxhiab! It's a shame; she will continues to endure a miserably life...
Kwv Ntxawg koj yog txiv neej hmoob tiag tiag mog thov kom koj coj li ko xwb mog yus yog neeg tsim txiaj txhob cia tej tug niag maum dev zoo li ntawv los muab koj tsuj mog thov qhuas koj nawj mi kwv Ntxawg koj ua yog yog lawm
Dear brother: Thank you sincerely for handling the situation in a proper manner instead of being another statistic within spousal domestic violence/death. I don’t relate to this story but when I was a adolescent, I’ve made a bold statement that relationship/marriage is not for me. It’s not that I’m unsure about myself, I’m unsure how committed is the other party (partner) way before getting involved with my husband. Marriage is a commitment to honor & to love in sickness & good health till death due us part. I prayed about this with all my heart....I knew in my heart as a child that I need God in my life to guide me through this aspect in life if ever God has a marriage/family planned for me. The last thing I want is betrayal or heart broken like this story. Back to the story: You covered everything, you were available and met her needs in every way through juggling with work and family. You gave her 100% of your love, trust and commitment to give your children a better life and not repeat your family childhood experiences. I believe your wife fell out of love with you. I wish she had communicated her feelings with you and let you go instead of disrespecting you by inviting another man into your bedroom. She fell into lust/temptation with the biggest sin in God’s eyes. It takes time to forgive.....the Bible teaches that when it comes to unfaithful spouse & adultery, one may forgive the other individual but is NOT obligated to stay in that relationship because it’s no longer sacred. You made a wise choice on closing that chapter in your life and start a new chapter. I wish you all the best brother. May your new partner shower you with ample love and treat you 10x better....when you find the right woman you’ll know the difference. When you find an honest woman who loves and treat you right, life is smoother and better. Thank you for sharing this.
Koj ua yog lawm kwv tij cov poj niam zoo li ko cia nws khuv xim yus mus kom tag nws tiam neej lawm xwb ho yus ces rau siab ntso rau yus lub neej tshiab lawm xwb...
Kj tsi yog ib tus neeg siab me os tus kwv ua li kj ua thiaj li yog ib tus txiv neej yawg muaj peev xwm, ua li kj ua ko ces kv ntseeg tau haistias kj yeej paub qab hau txau2 lawm vim kj ua dabtsi kj tsi muaj lo lus haistias but no li remember what is right and wrong tab txawm yog kv los yeej yuav taug tib txoj kev kj taug ntawm ko es kv ruas yog xa cov lus no tuaj txhawb kj zog xwb thaum xau no thov vajtswv foom koob hmoov rau kj lub neej tshiab nawb. Ua tsaug ntau
Great story. When you are old enough to know what is right and what is wrong, but still claimed as it a mistake. Good, you let her go and won't take her back. Thank you for sharing.
👏 one story where there is self love and self respect. Show your kids that they should not take crap and tolerate betrayal and to not live according to the pressure of others! Great job! You’re a respectable man!
Tus nus aw ua cas kuv yuav pab koj tu siab ua luaj li os, ua neeg ces xav kom lub neej zoo zoo xwb tabsis sis peb ua neeg ces lam ua niam txiv xwb nyias muaj nyias siab nawb mog, koj tsis muaj hmoo es koj thiaj li tau ib niag maum dev tsis tsim txiaj los ua neej es tsis xav kom lub neej plam los yuav tau plam os mog. Koj ua yog lawm os ib tug neeg ntxeev siab ces txawm koj yuav zam txim rau nws pes tsaug zaus los yog av tsis muab tus neeg liam no lim ib zaug ces nws yeej yuav ua dua es muab laig kiag li koj ua no ces thiaj li yog qhov zoo nawb. Poj niam tus zoo zoo tseem muaj coob heev, mam li nrhiav dua tsis lig.
Peb poj niam hmoob yuav tsum ua kom tau li thaub no ua mas thiaj li pob. Thaum lawv coj lawv rab mus chob tus ub tus no, poj niam hmoob yuav tsum xa loo thaub tau rau txiv yawg. Ua neeb quas neej, thov Vajtswv lawb dab kiag li cov bros no ua mas thiaj tsim nyog hu tus kheej tias niam tsev pob.
You are the first man in these stories that is a real man and do the right thing. I agree with everything you say. If a you take a woman back, some may see it as you have a big heart or you are a person that can forgive, but truth is if you forgive someone who stepped all over your head, all that does is show your weakness. She will have no respect for you going forward. And if you take her back and live with the pain, all you’re doing is hurting yourself. Truth of the matter is that it’s easier to take them back and forgive, it’s actually harder to let go and move on, this is fact. The man that can let go and move on is the stronger one. Hope the best for you brother!! Blue lives matter!
Brother, thanks for sharing your story. I understand and feel your pain. Forgiveness is a choice. Mistake is only the first time, after that it's pure evil heart. Move forward with your life and be happy.
I had soo many “yog” moments during this story. I think it hurts the most when you put in 110% and yet, it’s not good enough for them. He did the right thing by moving forward without her because she clearly doesn’t deserve him.
You could only forgive but you will never forget if a person cheat on you do you level of respect and trust will never be there again. You did the right thing sir A cheater will always be a cheater and their lives will always be in turmoil
Wow ..... zaj neej neeg no mas zoo tiag tiag! Thov qhuas tus mi txiv tsev no, neeg phem yuav tsum tau tso nyob rau chaw phem, koj ua yog lawm. Tus poj niam no tsis sawm zoo
Koj mas thiaj yog txiv neej tiag li mog me tub kuv thov qhuas kojmog poj niam muaj ntau thaum zoo li ko lawm txhob yuav xwb yog nws hlub yus tiag tej kev phem ko nws yeej tsis ua li nawb nej cov txiv neej na thaum poj niam ua li ko lawm ces lawv tsis hlub nej ov lawv xav siv nej xwb nawb mas txhob khuv xim poj niam muaj ntau 2 mam yuav dua xwb
Bc some hmong women are too soft hearted, not siab tawv. I have heard of some women siab tawv where they're able to let go and move on, but the majority are not.
@@maryly09 I completely agreed with you there. I only hope as well. It seem like more women in America are becoming more independent and strong to leave cheaters behind.
Brother you are real my brother you did very good job I want the world men to learn from you. Nws yuav zoo kauj npauj lis cas los yuav tsiv tau lawm tias2.
It hurts!!! I applaud those who can take his or her back whether it’s good or bad. It’s obvious One cannot tolerate it if a partner cheats on one! It’s better to let her go and move on.
Thov qhuas tus txiv neej no nws lub siab zoo heev nws tus poj niam mus deev hluas nraug nws twb g ntaus g cem li nws cia li muab nrauj lm xwb ,xav kom cov txiv neej hmoob nplog siab tsiaj ntaus poj niam nej los mloog zaj neej neeg no es nej hloov nej cov siab dev siab tsiaj ntaus poj niam deev hluas nraug ,es hloov nej cov siab los cov zoo li tus txiv tsev no nawb
Marriage is so sacred. What she did was the biggest “BETRAYAL” between a husband and wife. She needs to realize, beauty fades honey. Make better choices!
ua li cas nej cov txiv zoo pheej tau poj niam pheem cas peb twb ua siab zoo rau peb tus txiv los cas peb tej txiv ua hluas ib sim neej thaum peb tag kis los tu siab ua luaj li os
Koj ua yog lawm nawj tus me tub ceev xwm, koj yog ib tug txiv neej yawg uas muaj siab muaj ntsws thiaj li paub tu siab zam tsis tau txim rau ib tug neeg ntxeev siab rau yus, cov neeg ntxeev siab rau yus lub tebchaws ces raug lub txim tuag, ib tug neeg twg ntxeev siab rau yus tus txij nkawm ces kawg nrauj xwb thiaj li tsis muaj tus kab mob siab rau lub neej yav pem suab, qub neeg ces qub siab txawm koj zam tau zaum no los nws yuav hloov tsis tau nws tus cwj pwm ces yuav rov muaj dua ntxiv, Luj yaj zaj nkauj haistias daim iav uas tawg lawm tsis txhob muab khaws cia yuav mob lub siab, txawm koj yuav muab ciab ntab ciab mes coj los lo los tseem pom kab pleb uas xwb ntawd ces cia li muab pov tseg mam li yuav dua daim tshiab. Tsis hais pojniam los sis txiv neej los ib yam nkaus tus twg uas ntxeev siab rau nws tus txij nkawm ces yog cov uas hlwb tsis txwm 100 nkaus xwb nws yeej yuav mus tsis txog qhov twg ! tus sab tod luag yeej tsis yuav nws ib zaug luag tsuas yog lam ntxias nws siv ua si xwb, yog leej twg muaj hlwb yuav tau txhob ntseeg cov neeg dag nyiam haub ntxias lwm leej lwm tus, cov pojniam muaj nej daim nqaij plees ib tug zoo tsis thooj li ib tug yuav tau xyuam xim tiag2 lub neej thiaj li tsis piam.
Outside looks doesn't matter. You need to see her bad heart from the inside. I am so proud of you brother for letting her go and not let her betray you anymore.
I hate it when people say it’s a “mistake” when they get caught cheating. Having an affair with someone is not a mistake. It’s an intentional act of deception, disregard and disrespect towards your spouse/significant other. You did right brother.
Brother you did the right thing 👏🙌.. grass is always greener on the otherside, never looked back or step it on the ground and move on find some1 who care and love you for who you are... goodluck and best wishes my brother...👍
Poj niam muaj txiv nyob tsis tau txiv neej muaj poj thaj chaw ua hluas vim poj niam lub siab hlub nws tus txiv txawv dua li txiv neej lub siab hlub nws tus poj niam. Txiv neej muaj poj tham hluas nkauj yog kev ua si ntau thiab thaum kawg rov los nyob tus hauv nkawv lub neej. Tab sis poj niam muaj txiv deev hluas yog completely opposite lawm. Yog li no thaum tus poj niam muaj txiv twg deev hluas lawm, nws tus txiv thiaj tsis kam yuav nws ntxiv vim yog kev rhuav plhu thiab qhau tus txiv lub hwj chim meej mom poob qes heev.
Tus txiv tsev kuv txawm yog ib tug poj niam thiab los kuv twb nrog koj mob siab tu siab kawg lawm thiab. qhov zoo nkauj tsis tseem ceeb dab tsi yuam kev tsuas yog ib zaus ua tas ua dua tso mus li koj ko zoo txhob thab tsam ho muab koj lom thiab ho ua koj plawv nres sawv ntsug thiab.koj ua yog lawm nawb.
Lady you choose to cheat without considering the consequences live with your choice. Stop coming back to hurt him. Let him go have a good life. You had your chance. You deserve what you got. Betrayal cuts deep and I don't blame him for letting you go. The saying goes once a cheater always a cheater. Hopefully you change.
pojniam ces kuv yeej yaim nws pim, ple, qhov quav, tsoob nws qhov ncauj, pim, pob tw tes nrho vim nws los yeej nyiam ... txaj muag dabtsi tej no neeg cov tsis yog npab nauj yeej ua tas tus.
After hearing so many Hmong couples killing each other, it’s good to hear your story. Not very many Hmong men are capable of this kind of self discipline, but you are in law enforcement! Good luck to you and hope you find an amazing woman that really deserves you!
Cia tus lom zem mus raws siab nyiam nawb
Tus me tub ceev xwm, koj yog ib tug neeg uas ntse tshaj plaws, peb thov qhuas. Cov ruam ces zam txim ib zaug tas los ib zaug tuaj, thaum zam tsis tau txim lawm ces muab hlais kiag pov tseg, thaum kawg 2 lub neej liam tas nrho tib si - ib tug tuag lawm hos ib tug mus pw nkuaj lawm. Tos koj tau ib lub zoo luag hauj lwm los koj yeej ntse heev❤❤
Zam tsis taus cais kuj kawg nrauj xwb muaj gab ntxiab dab tsi ?
Txawj xwb tsis ntse ne !
You are a real man. Not take her back once a cheater will always a cheater.
Cheater is always a cheater is like a pig you cleans the pig give the pig good place to stay but the end the pig will go back to plays with mud 👍👍👍
Dang! Hoping Hmong women can do the same too
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Again, cheating is NOT a mistake. It's a CHOICE!!! Quit making excuses for your poor behaviors! A mistake is made by not thinking about it. When you decided to cheat, you thought about all the possible consequences you will face and how you will weasel your way out. I don't blame the author of this story. He did what's right instead of staying with a cheater and torturing himself. She made her choice. Let her go.
Totally agree...its never a fucken mistake...
Cheaters are only remorseful when caught. I never believe when they said, "i made a mistake." Uh, sorry. A mistake is only a one time thing. If it's more than that then it's a choice.
“I made a mistake “. Means “Damn, I got caught!”
@@maicha4809 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂👍👍✌✌
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Great story. No matter how much you love your kids, please put your own well being first. Kids grow up and they have their own life eventually.
You are wrong when u say put your own well being first, kids are innocent and are incompetent to make decisions. If you feel like they deserve a better chance than you, then you would stick by them.....
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kids needs to be love and support. the two of them can do that afterward. they gets hurt more by staying with parent that don't love each other anymore. I see there also a great step mom and step dad that love or support their step kids too. if you can't love but at least support their kids when you decided to marry someone with kids then don't. else, women can tolerate but men, most will divorce you again.
Brother, thanks for sharing such a moving story. You're a good role modle that lot of us could learn from.
Anybody can cheat, there are those who chooses not to. We choose to not cross the line. Marriage is sacred to us. There is never a big reason or excuse to have an affair. You want to be with someone else, DIVORCE YOUR SPOUSE FIRST!!!
I agree, the second they choose to cheat they don’t love you anymore. How can you say you still love when that love was given to someone else besides your spouse. Don’t fall for sweet talks. People like them will never learn. Keep taking them back. Keep forgiving them, they keep taking advantage of you only. Good for putting your foot down and moving on openly. Rather then hearing news of domestic violence/ suicide killing.
Tus npawg koj hias yog, 100%
Thiab koj ua yog 100%
Ua tsaug ntau rau koj zaj neej neeg zoo heev ua kev kawm.
Yeej yog lawm, yuam kev rau ntawm yus txoj kev niam txiv yog ib qhov zam txim nyuaj tshaj plaws li os.
Txij no mus yog txiv neej tham hluas nkauj cov poj niam yuav tau txhob yuav ib yam nkaus thiab nawb...!
Brother, you're a real man...I wish you many years of happiness. It's her Lost...
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Brother you did the right thing if it was me I would do the same thing too.
Koj niam lub neeg tu tu siab li koj kawg,2zaj dab neeg no hai tau tu siab hev 😭😭😭😭😭😭
Real hmong man bro...👍👍
HEY! Bro. U did it perfectly the way it should be, that's the way a smart man all about keep up the good work. I respect you.
Easier said then done...you have a strong mindset. Love hurts, glad you moved on. Bless you and your family, Happiness....
Zoo kawg... peb cov txiv neej thiab pojniam ua tau ua siab tawv li koj is. Yuav ntxiv los tsis muaj qhov zoo lawm. Trust is broken and hard to repair. Dub neeg ces qub siab xwb os.
I like how the cheater is always the one saying it is a mistake, forgive them, and they still do it again. CHEATING ON YOUR SPOUSE IS A DELIBERATE ACT not a mistake. It is intentional meant to cause pain. Good for you man.
I totally agreed! It’s absolutely INTENTIONAL and SELFISH!
@@kaxiong3318 so
Betrayal is scary and ultimate. No one can forgive the ultimate betrayal it’s better to let them go than torture yourself. Because at the end you are torturing yourself, the one who betrayed you will never feel the pain. It’s never ok to stay for the sake of your children. I’m glad you’re able to move on. Grass is never greener on the other side.
Yoglawm txawm yog poj niam li peb txiv neej li nej los yog muaj ib nplooj siab qias neeg li ntawv lawm ces yeej txias siab tu siab tshaj li os tus nus aw
Nrog tus txiv tsev zoo siab uas koj yog thawj tug txiv neej hmoob siab me thiab siab tawv heev li nyob li ib txhua ces twb qaug quav dua lawm
Tu siab ua luaj os cas ua tsij nkawm nyob es txiv siab zoo ces niam siab plem hos niam siab zoo ces tviv siab plem
You did the right thing. Save you a lot of headaches down the road. Qub neeg qub siab, qub dev qub ntxhiab! It's a shame; she will continues to endure a miserably life...
Ntse tiag tiag, koj mas thiaj li yog the real man. Totally support your sacrifice!
Me tub koj thiaj yog txiv neej yawg tiag2👍👍👍👍
Kwv Ntxawg koj yog txiv neej hmoob tiag tiag mog thov kom koj coj li ko xwb mog yus yog neeg tsim txiaj txhob cia tej tug niag maum dev zoo li ntawv los muab koj tsuj mog thov qhuas koj nawj mi kwv Ntxawg koj ua yog yog lawm
Dear brother: Thank you sincerely for handling the situation in a proper manner instead of being another statistic within spousal domestic violence/death. I don’t relate to this story but when I was a adolescent, I’ve made a bold statement that relationship/marriage is not for me. It’s not that I’m unsure about myself, I’m unsure how committed is the other party (partner) way before getting involved with my husband. Marriage is a commitment to honor & to love in sickness & good health till death due us part. I prayed about this with all my heart....I knew in my heart as a child that I need God in my life to guide me through this aspect in life if ever God has a marriage/family planned for me. The last thing I want is betrayal or heart broken like this story. Back to the story: You covered everything, you were available and met her needs in every way through juggling with work and family. You gave her 100% of your love, trust and commitment to give your children a better life and not repeat your family childhood experiences. I believe your wife fell out of love with you. I wish she had communicated her feelings with you and let you go instead of disrespecting you by inviting another man into your bedroom. She fell into lust/temptation with the biggest sin in God’s eyes. It takes time to forgive.....the Bible teaches that when it comes to unfaithful spouse & adultery, one may forgive the other individual but is NOT obligated to stay in that relationship because it’s no longer sacred. You made a wise choice on closing that chapter in your life and start a new chapter. I wish you all the best brother. May your new partner shower you with ample love and treat you 10x better....when you find the right woman you’ll know the difference. When you find an honest woman who loves and treat you right, life is smoother and better. Thank you for sharing this.
Koj ua yog lawm kwv tij cov poj niam zoo li ko cia nws khuv xim yus mus kom tag nws tiam neej lawm xwb ho yus ces rau siab ntso rau yus lub neej tshiab lawm xwb...
Pab koj tu siab kawg os..tabsis kawg luag tsis yeem nrog yus nyob lawm ces kav liam nam nrhiav dua mog!
Kuv qhuas koj lawm kwv tij koj Yog ib tus uas coj tau zoo thiab Yog heev. Es kuv xav Kom peb cov txim neej hmoob coj li tus no nawb
Kj tsi yog ib tus neeg siab me os tus kwv ua li kj ua thiaj li yog ib tus txiv neej yawg muaj peev xwm, ua li kj ua ko ces kv ntseeg tau haistias kj yeej paub qab hau txau2 lawm vim kj ua dabtsi kj tsi muaj lo lus haistias but no li remember what is right and wrong tab txawm yog kv los yeej yuav taug tib txoj kev kj taug ntawm ko es kv ruas yog xa cov lus no tuaj txhawb kj zog xwb thaum xau no thov vajtswv foom koob hmoov rau kj lub neej tshiab nawb. Ua tsaug ntau
Sacrifices made for the love ones to only be betrayed. Many won’t understand the struggles to uphold the thin blue line.
Kuv nyiam2 koj hais neej neeg
Koj ua yog lawm kwv tij, tsis txhob cia nws tsim txom yus thiab yus rov tsim txom yus tus kheej.
Great story. When you are old enough to know what is right and what is wrong, but still claimed as it a mistake. Good, you let her go and won't take her back. Thank you for sharing.
Koj ua tau yog kawg os koj thiaj yog txiv neej cov poj niam liam li ko ces zoo kawg rau nws twb yog qhov nws xav tau ne
👏 one story where there is self love and self respect. Show your kids that they should not take crap and tolerate betrayal and to not live according to the pressure of others! Great job! You’re a respectable man!
Koj ua yog tshaj thiab qhia rau peb cov me tub hluas lub Neej Tom ntej no nawj Thov qhua koj
Separation hurts the kids most. Unfortunately we can't stay in some relationship.
Tus nus aw ua cas kuv yuav pab koj tu siab ua luaj li os, ua neeg ces xav kom lub neej zoo zoo xwb tabsis sis peb ua neeg ces lam ua niam txiv xwb nyias muaj nyias siab nawb mog, koj tsis muaj hmoo es koj thiaj li tau ib niag maum dev tsis tsim txiaj los ua neej es tsis xav kom lub neej plam los yuav tau plam os mog. Koj ua yog lawm os ib tug neeg ntxeev siab ces txawm koj yuav zam txim rau nws pes tsaug zaus los yog av tsis muab tus neeg liam no lim ib zaug ces nws yeej yuav ua dua es muab laig kiag li koj ua no ces thiaj li yog qhov zoo nawb. Poj niam tus zoo zoo tseem muaj coob heev, mam li nrhiav dua tsis lig.
So proud of you my brotherhood. You're a great man
Peb poj niam hmoob yuav tsum ua kom tau li thaub no ua mas thiaj li pob. Thaum lawv coj lawv rab mus chob tus ub tus no, poj niam hmoob yuav tsum xa loo thaub tau rau txiv yawg.
Ua neeb quas neej, thov Vajtswv lawb dab kiag li cov bros no ua mas thiaj tsim nyog hu tus kheej tias niam tsev pob.
You are the first man in these stories that is a real man and do the right thing. I agree with everything you say. If a you take a woman back, some may see it as you have a big heart or you are a person that can forgive, but truth is if you forgive someone who stepped all over your head, all that does is show your weakness. She will have no respect for you going forward. And if you take her back and live with the pain, all you’re doing is hurting yourself. Truth of the matter is that it’s easier to take them back and forgive, it’s actually harder to let go and move on, this is fact. The man that can let go and move on is the stronger one. Hope the best for you brother!! Blue lives matter!
Brother, thanks for sharing your story. I understand and feel your pain. Forgiveness is a choice. Mistake is only the first time, after that it's pure evil heart. Move forward with your life and be happy.
Thaj duab no mas niam ntsuab teev zoo nkauj heev os
Kuv yog ib tus neeg zoo li koj thiab os tij yog kuv tus hlub ua lub siab Tsis zoo rau kuv lawm ces kuv yeej hlub Tsis tau nws li lawm thiab os
Yog lawm kuv siab me li koj thiab ntag yog ntshe nkawg twb raug tua lawm
Txhob yuav lawm nawb qub dev qub ntxhiab qub neeg qub siab
Thanks for submitting your story. Hope everyone can learn from stories like this and don’t make the same mistake, myself included.
I had soo many “yog” moments during this story. I think it hurts the most when you put in 110% and yet, it’s not good enough for them. He did the right thing by moving forward without her because she clearly doesn’t deserve him.
Cov neeg hmoob nyob me kas mas sib nrauj coob tshaj cov hmoob nyob lwm teb chaws vim cov poj niam hmoob mekas nws ntshaw cov muaj nyiaj heev xav mus thab cov muaj nyiaj xwb tsis xav nrog cov pluag nyob .
Kuv los kuv yuav zam tsi tau txim ib yam thiab vim yus hlub nws tshaj yus txojsia lawm
What a good story! You did the right thing brother!
You made the right decision. Cheating is never a mistake or an accident. You're a strong person and stand up for yourself.
Lub ntiaj teb lwj siab lwj taw...
Tus txiv tsev koj yeej made the right choice lawm.
You could only forgive but you will never forget if a person cheat on you do you level of respect and trust will never be there again. You did the right thing sir A cheater will always be a cheater and their lives will always be in turmoil
Wow ..... zaj neej neeg no mas zoo tiag tiag!
Thov qhuas tus mi txiv tsev no, neeg phem yuav tsum tau tso nyob rau chaw phem, koj ua yog lawm. Tus poj niam no tsis sawm zoo
Koj mas thiaj yog txiv neej tiag li mog me tub kuv thov qhuas kojmog poj niam muaj ntau thaum zoo li ko lawm txhob yuav xwb yog nws hlub yus tiag tej kev phem ko nws yeej tsis ua li nawb nej cov txiv neej na thaum poj niam ua li ko lawm ces lawv tsis hlub nej ov lawv xav siv nej xwb nawb mas txhob khuv xim poj niam muaj ntau 2 mam yuav dua xwb
Koj yog neeg muaj txiv koj tseem ntshab ceeg rau lwm tus txiv neej ua koj nws tsi yog yuam kev
Txiv neej lub siab ce yeej zoo li no tsis hai leej twg li os
I wish more Hmong women can do what this guy does when their husband cheat on them.
Bc some hmong women are too soft hearted, not siab tawv. I have heard of some women siab tawv where they're able to let go and move on, but the majority are not.
@@maryly09 I completely agreed with you there. I only hope as well. It seem like more women in America are becoming more independent and strong to leave cheaters behind.
Brother you are real my brother you did very good job I want the world men to learn from you. Nws yuav zoo kauj npauj lis cas los yuav tsiv tau lawm tias2.
It hurts!!! I applaud those who can take his or her back whether it’s good or bad. It’s obvious One cannot tolerate it if a partner cheats on one! It’s better to let her go and move on.
Siv neej poj niam ntxeev siab tsi muaj hnub yuav ua zoo rau yog thaum pom kiag li koj pom
Cheater will remain a cheater you cannot change them that’s in the DNA you did the right thing bro
I love to meet a kind man like you some day.
Kwv koj ua yog lawm os mog:
Thanks brother for serving your community. Keep your head up and thanks for sharing your story....BAS.
Thank you Officer hmong.. I support brother in blue to hold your cool..
Thov qhuas tus txiv neej no nws lub siab zoo heev nws tus poj niam mus deev hluas nraug nws twb g ntaus g cem li nws cia li muab nrauj lm xwb ,xav kom cov txiv neej hmoob nplog siab tsiaj ntaus poj niam nej los mloog zaj neej neeg no es nej hloov nej cov siab dev siab tsiaj ntaus poj niam deev hluas nraug ,es hloov nej cov siab los cov zoo li tus txiv tsev no nawb
Niam.Hlua.Koj.Hai.Tau zoo.Heev
Vim yog txiv neej thiaj zam tsis tau txim,
Marriage is so sacred. What she did was the biggest “BETRAYAL” between a husband and wife. She needs to realize, beauty fades honey. Make better choices!
Nws lam kawm txawj xwb tsis ntse. Yog nws hlub koj, txawm qi muag 😌xyuas xwb los yeej tsis yuam kev. Vim yog nws txhob txwm rua muag tsuas nyiag deev li siab ntshaw kom tau ntau xwb.
ua li cas nej cov txiv zoo pheej tau poj niam pheem cas peb twb ua siab zoo rau peb tus txiv los cas peb tej txiv ua hluas ib sim neej thaum peb tag kis los tu siab ua luaj li os
Koj ua yog lawm nawj tus me tub ceev xwm, koj yog ib tug txiv neej yawg uas muaj siab muaj ntsws thiaj li paub tu siab zam tsis tau txim rau ib tug neeg ntxeev siab rau yus, cov neeg ntxeev siab rau yus lub tebchaws ces raug lub txim tuag, ib tug neeg twg ntxeev siab rau yus tus txij nkawm ces kawg nrauj xwb thiaj li tsis muaj tus kab mob siab rau lub neej yav pem suab, qub neeg ces qub siab txawm koj zam tau zaum no los nws yuav hloov tsis tau nws tus cwj pwm ces yuav rov muaj dua ntxiv, Luj yaj zaj nkauj haistias daim iav uas tawg lawm tsis txhob muab khaws cia yuav mob lub siab, txawm koj yuav muab ciab ntab ciab mes coj los lo los tseem pom kab pleb uas xwb ntawd ces cia li muab pov tseg mam li yuav dua daim tshiab.
Tsis hais pojniam los sis txiv neej los ib yam nkaus tus twg uas ntxeev siab rau nws tus txij nkawm ces yog cov uas hlwb tsis txwm 100 nkaus xwb nws yeej yuav mus tsis txog qhov twg ! tus sab tod luag yeej tsis yuav nws ib zaug luag tsuas yog lam ntxias nws siv ua si xwb, yog leej twg muaj hlwb yuav tau txhob ntseeg cov neeg dag nyiam haub ntxias lwm leej lwm tus, cov pojniam muaj nej daim nqaij plees ib tug zoo tsis thooj li ib tug yuav tau xyuam xim tiag2 lub neej thiaj li tsis piam.
Brother there plenty of fish in the ocean you don't need that cheater..once a cheater always a cheater...
Outside looks doesn't matter. You need to see her bad heart from the inside. I am so proud of you brother for letting her go and not let her betray you anymore.
I hate it when people say it’s a “mistake” when they get caught cheating. Having an affair with someone is not a mistake. It’s an intentional act of deception, disregard and disrespect towards your spouse/significant other. You did right brother.
Brother you did the right thing 👏🙌.. grass is always greener on the otherside, never looked back or step it on the ground and move on find some1 who care and love you for who you are... goodluck and best wishes my brother...👍
Tus phooj ywg koj ua yog lawm,peb ua neeg nyob yeej zam tsis tau rau txoj kev no.Nco ntsoov tias feem coob neeg ntsej muag zuag siab yeej nkhaus...
Poj niam muaj txiv nyob tsis tau txiv neej muaj poj thaj chaw ua hluas vim poj niam lub siab hlub nws tus txiv txawv dua li txiv neej lub siab hlub nws tus poj niam. Txiv neej muaj poj tham hluas nkauj yog kev ua si ntau thiab thaum kawg rov los nyob tus hauv nkawv lub neej. Tab sis poj niam muaj txiv deev hluas yog completely opposite lawm. Yog li no thaum tus poj niam muaj txiv twg deev hluas lawm, nws tus txiv thiaj tsis kam yuav nws ntxiv vim yog kev rhuav plhu thiab qhau tus txiv lub hwj chim meej mom poob qes heev.
Yog lawm peb cov txiv neej yawg mas muaj peev Xwm li no mas kuv Yeej tsis cem nws kiag li nawb kuv tsuas muaj txhawb nqa nws xwb, Tus me kwv kuv thov qhuas koj nawb yog peb txhua Tus muaj peev Xwm li koj luag thiaj saib taus yus nawb, yog kuv paub koj yog leej twg yuav xa ib nyiaj me me tuaj ua khoom plig pub rau koj, tu siab tsis paub koj yog leej twg xwb vim kuv tsuj tib tug hneev taw ib yam li koj mog, thov qhuas koj nawb
Me tub txiav txim siab tiag2 nawv qub neeg qub siab xwb os
Tus txiv tsev kuv txawm yog ib tug poj niam thiab los kuv twb nrog koj mob siab tu siab kawg lawm thiab. qhov zoo nkauj tsis tseem ceeb dab tsi yuam kev tsuas yog ib zaus ua tas ua dua tso mus li koj ko zoo txhob thab tsam ho muab koj lom thiab ho ua koj plawv nres sawv ntsug thiab.koj ua yog lawm nawb.
Good thinking. You did good. I wish you the best of life.
Koj hais yog lawm os kwv tij txawj hais tiag koj tus poj niam zoo lo dua mob lub siab nawb
Koj ua tau zoo kawg. Thov qhuas koj
Tus txiv neej no nws yog tus ntse tshaj plaws
Tos koj cov neej neeg heev li os niam ntsuab teev aw
Yog
Bravo! Finally a story worth listening!
You made the right choice. I'm glad you stand up for yourself.
Qhov kj ua mus yog lawm
Tus brotherkoj hais yog lawm .
Zoo siab nrog koj, thaum kawg, koj yog ib tug txiv neej lawm tiag 2!!! Nws muab koj tsuj thiaj mus tham tus lawyer lawm,. Cia nws mus raws li nws Xaiv....
Lady you choose to cheat without considering the consequences live with your choice. Stop coming back to hurt him. Let him go have a good life. You had your chance. You deserve what you got. Betrayal cuts deep and I don't blame him for letting you go. The saying goes once a cheater always a cheater. Hopefully you change.
Good to move fwd brother.
pojniam ces kuv yeej yaim nws pim, ple, qhov quav, tsoob nws qhov ncauj, pim, pob tw tes nrho vim nws los yeej nyiam ... txaj muag dabtsi tej no neeg cov tsis yog npab nauj yeej ua tas tus.
After hearing so many Hmong couples killing each other, it’s good to hear your story. Not very many Hmong men are capable of this kind of self discipline, but you are in law enforcement! Good luck to you and hope you find an amazing woman that really deserves you!
Only if women can learn men’s thinking there wouldn’t be niam hlob niam yau.