Sister, know your worth. Yes, it hurts that you can’t bear children for your husband but that is something you cannot control or change. The Love you had with your husband is not there anymore. If his intention is to have children, there are other ways to have children. You can adopt or have someone be a surrogate. He’s just making excuse for wanting a second wife. Don’t punish yourself. You are still young and do not need someone who is not there for you to complete your life. There are a lot of good men out there who would love to be with a good woman like you who can’t have children. The minute your husband got himself a new woman, you no longer have a place in his life. You’re an educated woman, don’t disappoint all the women out there who look up to you. He doesn’t love you anymore. You need to love yourself and move on. You deserve more and will be happier and at peace without him. Good luck to you. Keep us updated.
@@Focky446 Once he marries someone else, it's over. Don't kid yourself that someone can love many different ppl at the same time. LMAO!! If you're a parent, you'd know that even parents also have their favorite son or daughter. Same concept.
Vuag cas koj lub neej yuav tu siab ua luaj li os! Txawm tsis muaj menyuam los txhob tu tu siab mog kav tsij rau siab khwv nyiaj es mus vacation kom tsim nyog ua ib zaug neeg os mog!
Kuv mloog txoj neej neeg no ua rau kuv feel tus niam tsev no txoj kev tu siab, chim siab, mob siab tshaj plaws.💔 Cov muaj txoj hmoo zoo muaj tub muaj ki ces yuav tsis luaj twg, cov tsis muaj hmoo muaj tub muaj ki ces yeej tu tu siab heev. Yog Koj tus txiv hlub koj tiag li hais txawm luag tej yuav hais li cas los nws yuav tswj nws lub siab lub koj ib leeg es yuav tsis mus yuav niam yau los hlub rau koj ntsia os...
Kids are a blessing but to remarry just for kids is a pretty sad excuse. I would never do that to my wife. Love is a mutual respect you must have for one another. If one cheat is another but just to have a lame excuse is pathetic...Mens that use this excuse makes the rest of us look bad. Whatever you choose in your next path will have my blessing and only wish you the best in life.
It's not fair to women. If she can't have children, she's supposed to allow him to marry another woman to have children. If it's the man who can't have children, the woman must stay with him and be faithful to him. Why? It's unfair to women. If men can marry a 2nd woman to give him children, the women should be allowed to have another man to give her children too. Why must only the woman suffer. If we have children, it's a blessing if we don't it's not necessary to complete our marriage/life. Life is what you make out of it. Best wishes to you sister
Niam laus aw cas kuv hnov koj zaj dab neeg tag lawm ca yuav tu tu siab ua luaj os kuv nrog koj quaj quaj tu tu siab ua luaj os hlub hlub koj li os niam laus aw
I am so sick of these men saying I love you but I am going to marry a niam yau. Liars yog nws hlub koj tiag nws yeej tsis yuav ib tug nas. Yog koj tus txiv yog tus tsis muaj mes nyuam nes ws nws puas kam koj yuav ib tus txiv yau mas. Yog vim li cas koj thiaj mus plog teb thiab mas. Let him go.
I feel for you sister. I am going through a similar situation. I know I must leave but its so hard after 30 years. we need yo break free from the chains and live our own life.
Tus viv ncaus pab tu siab kawg li peb cov poj niam aw yog li no mas yog leej twg mus yuav txiv yog tus txiv tsis muaj ni nyuam ces kav tsij mus yuav txiv yau ib yam li cov txiv neej ua rau peb poj niam thiab yog tsis tso cai yuav txiv yau ces nrauj kiag thiab xwb thiab txiv neej ces yeej siab phem heev li ov yog Tim nws m'as muab luag yuam nyob ho yog poj niam muaj tsis tau mi nyuam m'as nws ho mus yuav niam yau thiab yog li no mas tsis ncaj ncees li tus viv ncaus aw tej zaum Docteur hais li tab sis koj yuav tau mus saib cov poj niam hmoob ua lawv txawj xuas tsev mi nyuam seb puas muaj tau mi nyuam kuv twb muaj cov viv ncaus es docteur twb hais tias yeej muaj tsis tau mi nyuam li Tom qab no nws twb muaj mi nyuam lawm thiab txhob tu siab thov kom vaj tswv foom koob hmoov rau koj kom tsuas tau lub neej zoo xwb
Nrog koj tu siab tshaj plaws li os sister, kuv ho txhawj tsam Koj tus txiv mob stroke los yog hlab nrha tawg thiab, vim nws twb tau ib txoj kev mob txawv Koj lawm thiab os, Cas yuav hlub nej sawv daws ua luaj os.
U have such wonderful parents who love u so dearly much. Why didn't u go back? If i have such wonderful parents like yours, i would be content being single forever.
So sad to hear…unfortunately if the tables were turned and he couldn’t give u kids you would’ve done the same thing too. Life is never fair. God bless your heart.
Your husband doesn’t love you enough to stick with you through thick and thin. Like you say, we women can share anything but we cannot share our husbands. It’s good that you let him go so it won’t hurt so much.
Why do Hmong men that marry 2nd wife always think the 1st wife will be their babysitter and their therapist when things go wrong with the 2nd wife??? This lady is right, when he comes around, loos kev nyuaj siab ntxiv rau kiag xwb!
They think that way because a lot of the women allowed themselves to be treated that way. Can't blame the men entirely if the women can't respect themselves.
Tell your husband to legally divorce you and give you everything. So that way when his wife leaves him she doesn’t take everything you worked so hard for. That lady is going to take everything you guys own. That’s just what they do.
It is your choice whether or not to stay..there are options like adopt kids..you dont have to resort to 2nd wife. but its your life and you can choose how ever you want to make you happy.
Divorce him go to court to get your divorce from court nothing he can do to stop you if that’s want you wanted do yourself a favor free yourself from him and live your life! you will find love again!
Viv ncaus aw kuv mloog koj zaj neej neeg no mas kuv nrog kojj tu siab kawg li os kuv yeej nrog kojj quaj txog twg li nawb, kuv hlub koj tshaj plaws li os me Viv ncaus aw
Txhob Tu siab o poj hmoob tus ntxim hlub e...koj mas tseem hais tias tsis muaj me nyuam es nws thiaj li tshob Cuab...kuv ces muaj 3 leej tub 1 leej ntxhais ...thiab lawv twb loj tiav neeg tag lawm Los niag txiv lem ntawd tseem tshob Cuab thiab Neej puas tag li lawm thiab o lo...cov niag niam mos iab ntawd lawv tsuas yog khib nyiab thiab xwb o....yus lub peev xwm Los muaj peev xwm Los muaj txhob khuv xim tus neeg siab dub quav Dev li ntawd o mog
Tus niam tsev aw, koj yeej paub ntsoov tias ib tug neeg nws hlub koj nws yeej tsis yuav dua tus tshiab os mog. Teb chaws vam meej no tsis yog yuav mus khwv hauv liaj teb los noj es tsam laus mus khwv tsis taus, teb chaws no yus khwv tau hluas yav laus yus yeej muaj nyiaj noj es yog koj tus txiv hlub koj tiag nws yeej kom neb mus yuav menyuam los tu los yog tias neb nyob li ko mus tas ib sim ntawm neb lub neej txoj hmoo. Ib tug neeg twg thaum lawv sawv kev mus yuav tau ib tug Tshiab los puag pw lawm ces nws yeej tsis muaj koj nyob hauv nws lub siab lawm os mog. Txhob muab koj tus kheej yuam nyob lub neej tu siab saib lawv sib hlub li ko ces yuav ua rau poj niam los yog cov ntxhais poob nqi qis nawb. Tseem hluas2 es yus nyob yus los yog mam nrhiav tus tshiab uas yog yus tsis muaj menyuam los nws yeej hlub yus es mam yuav os nawb. Good luck to you and wishing you all the best!
Nrog tus viv ncaus nov tu siab kawg li o. Kj tus txiv yog neeg siab phem tshaj o nws lub neej yeej yuav liam thiab tsis zoo li. Npam nws lawm es nws tus poj niam thiaj li muab nws tsim pauj rau kj mas.
I don’t think it’s about not having children, he just doesn’t love you enough. Hmong men will find and use any excuse to get another woman. I cried for you sister! I hope you find happiness in your future.
Hold up I thought you are an educated woman how did you allow your husband to get a second wife this is ridiculous but nobody really knows unless they walk a mile in your shoes but really in this day and age none of that shit is acceptable period.
Gotten a school degree doesn’t mean that the person will see self value. She valued herself base on the dude she was with. No him mean no worth, in her mind. Even more, when it’s her that can’t bear children. Many people are like that.
Sister txhob tu siab mog, you made the right decision, vim koj hlub nws es tsis khuv cia nws tuag es koj mus nrhiav hauv lub ntiaj teb no tsis tau……yog koj hlub nws tso nws ces yog li no mog. Kuv tus wb sib sib hlub nws tuag lawm kuv nim xav tias yog nws mus yuav dua ib tug ces kuv paub tias nws tseem taug kev hauv ntiaj teb xwb ces kavliam ib yam li koj no os mog………but I felt your pain
Tus ntxhais aw! Koj tsis kam nyob nrog nws tab sis koj ho nrauj tsis tau nws thiab yus twb tsis ruam yus twb khwv tau yus es txhob nyob li ko kav tsij mus nrhiav tus menyuam los tu lwm hnub koj thiaj muaj menyuam look after koj nawb koj tsis need the man pab koj naj you can do it. Kuv ua hauj lwm nyob tsev laus yeej muaj cov niam tsev suav tsis muaj txiv lawv tu menyuam yuav los yeej hlub2 lawv kawg yog koj txawj hlub lawv tiag nawb.txhob tas kev cia siab mog.
Me vivncaus pab hlub koj kawg tiamsis cas koj ho uv nyob nrog nws ntev ua luaj os kuv muaj ib tug nus nws tus niam nkauj txhav qaib yuav nws tau 15 xyoo tsis muaj me nyuam kho tag txhua yam tiamsis tsis muaj me nyuam li nws txiav txim yuav niam yau los tsis ntev ces muaj me nyuam lawm nws nrog niam yau tu2 cov me nyuam loj zujzus los tus txiv hlub niam yau dua nws ces nws tu2 siab es nws nrauj kiag kuv tus nus mus tsis ntev nws mus yuav txiv tshiab nws yuav kiag mus xwb nws cia li muaj me nyuam coob2 kawg li lawm thiab tej zaum yus thiab nws rojnrha tsis sib haum thiab xwb os txhob tu2 siab mog hlub yus tus kheej nawb
Tsis yog yus roj yus ntshav, tsis txhob tshaw2 mog. Tswv ntuj pub li cas rau yus ces yus tau li ntawv xwb os mog. Not everyone is fortunate enough okay, life is all about compromise sister you win something you loose something. Life is all about it, you cannot have everything your way. Life is not fair for some people, but others are OK too. Just live your life and be happy what you have.
Cov tsis muaj me nyuam los txhob tu tu siab. Txhob muab me nyuam los ua teeb meem rhuav yus lub neej. Muaj los yug ib ob tug tsis muaj los yog yus lub neej muaj txhij muaj txhua. 401k xwb thiaj pab tau yus rau yav laus. Tej laus ib txwm hais tias cog nplej lig ces nplej ua npluag, yug tub lig ces tub ua ntsuag no. Cov me nyuam teb chaws no lawv hais tias yog thaum lawv age yog teenager es lawv niam lawv txiv twb laus li lawv grandparents lawm ces lawv txaj muag tsis xav lees paub lawv niam lawv txiv li no.
Cannot and should not live this kind of life. Better to separate. Please don't torture your heart like that sister. Leave him and go find your own happiness.
Your SIL was wrong for given you hope that she was going to give you her child. Totally understand but why would she make a promise she could not keep it was just wrong.
Why not just find someone to carry their baby for them. I would carry it for anyone that wants a baby they just have to pay for everything and give me tummy tuck in return hehehe
Hmoob meskas ces neej kawg pluag tag tuag tag rau nkauj mos ab. Yuav nkauj mos ab tuaj ces yog tuaj khawb nyiaj khawb kub xa rov rau nplog teb. Lawv tsi yog tuaj ua neej, tsi yog tuaj pab kwv pab tij... lawv tuaj ua neeg tuaj khawb nyiaj xa rau neej tsa tim nplog xwb. Yog tsi muaj qhov no ces lawv xum yuav cov tub hluas zoo2 nraug tim nplog lawv tsi xum yuav cov yawg nrauj yawg ntsuag hmoob meskas laus li lawv txiv thiab lawv yawg, muaj me nyuam loj tshaj lawv.
Zoo rau qhov niam hlob nkawv tsis muab nkawv tus me nyuam rau koj. Nkawv yeej paub koj siab me heev yuav hlub tsis taus. I don’t care about the rest. The decision is up to you and your husband as to what is most important for your future.
I thought that was allowed in the Hmong culture/religion? What if that’s karma? What if that’s his real partner in the past life time that was meant to find him in this life? What if that’s in his “fate” to have two wives. What if it’s your fate to have a husband with two wives? It can’t simply be because of his evil heart being selfish and just wanting another sexual partner and to have children regardless if it’s without his own wife can it?
I don't understand why women like u kept letting this happen to u especiallyu said u started with high education. First...u opened the door by letting him go to Laos then U went with him. U shouldn't complaint n just go along as u already did. Women who don't allow will not even ok their husb.
Sister, love yourself. You are better than being the first wife. If the tables were turned and it is the husband is unable to have a child, we all know men will not accept being a second husband.
Me viv ncaus yog yus tus txiv twb yuav dua ib tug lawm ces xam tias yus tag nqis rau nws lawm es ua ib siab txhob yuav lawm mog xyum ua poj nrauj zoo dua nrog nws nyob os
Sister, why did you tortured yourself by following him? The minute he decided that he wants to have a second wife, you're no longer important to him. Cut ties with him and move on. There are other men who will love you so continue to live your life to the fullest. Divorce is easy in this country, you don't need Hmong people's approval. File the paperwork and if he does show up, court will divorce him for you.
Sister, he already crossed the line! Red flag, he doesn’t love you anymore once the thoughts of marrying a niam yau was on his mind. Leave him for good and go find a real man to love you! Go seek helps from fertility professionals and look into IVF or surrogacy, there is still hopes!!! Best wishes to you.
Txhob tu siab. You should have hired a surrogate to have babies for u. You have money you should be able to pay for it. It is not too late if you still want to be with him.
Sister, why would you put up with something like this? You said that you both were college educated. I too did not have kids but I wont put up with things like this. I told my husband that if he finds someone new then I would leave him and he know that I would. Don’t depend on a man to love you. You have to love yourself
Sis we all women felt you pain .your are no alone many Sis walks your shoes too cia kom Donald Trump txhob hloov txoj cai tos niam mos ab tuaj pw 1 sab 6 peb ntsia os
I have one question to those hmoob mens who a CHEATER on his loving wife. For better or worse, thick to thin since you decided to marry a girl you didn’t know that she is going to bearing children, are you married the children only or the beautiful woman in front of you? If just the children than there are so manies childrens out there that needed a loving parent, why just adopt them instead!! Shamed on Hmoob mens plains excuse wanted to be polygamy!!!!!! Sick of being a hmoob woman in this world!!
Wow woman, it's 2021. Wake up. Stop wasting time on ppl who don't love you. You already knew he was going to break your heart and you still waste your time to fly to Laos just to see him break your heart? Pls be smarter!
Life ain’t fair ya shoulda divorce the 2-3yr of ya marriage if ya can’t have kids together don’t stay too long in the marriage ya just Creating misery and torture for each other
Sister, know your worth. Yes, it hurts that you can’t bear children for your husband but that is something you cannot control or change. The Love you had with your husband is not there anymore. If his intention is to have children, there are other ways to have children. You can adopt or have someone be a surrogate. He’s just making excuse for wanting a second wife.
Don’t punish yourself. You are still young and do not need someone who is not there for you to complete your life. There are a lot of good men out there who would love to be with a good woman like you who can’t have children.
The minute your husband got himself a new woman, you no longer have a place in his life.
You’re an educated woman, don’t disappoint all the women out there who look up to you. He doesn’t love you anymore. You need to love yourself and move on. You deserve more and will be happier and at peace without him. Good luck to you. Keep us updated.
I agree with you 100%
Yes
. .Wrong. In the story he still love her. Even live them two wives equally. Listen to it.
@@Focky446 Once he marries someone else, it's over. Don't kid yourself that someone can love many different ppl at the same time. LMAO!! If you're a parent, you'd know that even parents also have their favorite son or daughter. Same concept.
Vuag cas koj lub neej yuav tu siab ua luaj li os! Txawm tsis muaj menyuam los txhob tu tu siab mog kav tsij rau siab khwv nyiaj es mus vacation kom tsim nyog ua ib zaug neeg os mog!
Kuv mloog txoj neej neeg no ua rau kuv feel tus niam tsev no txoj kev tu siab, chim siab, mob siab tshaj plaws.💔 Cov muaj txoj hmoo zoo muaj tub muaj ki ces yuav tsis luaj twg, cov tsis muaj hmoo muaj tub muaj ki ces yeej tu tu siab heev. Yog Koj tus txiv hlub koj tiag li hais txawm luag tej yuav hais li cas los nws yuav tswj nws lub siab lub koj ib leeg es yuav tsis mus yuav niam yau los hlub rau koj ntsia os...
Zoo siab lo koom kj
Kids are a blessing but to remarry just for kids is a pretty sad excuse. I would never do that to my wife. Love is a mutual respect you must have for one another. If one cheat is another but just to have a lame excuse is pathetic...Mens that use this excuse makes the rest of us look bad. Whatever you choose in your next path will have my blessing and only wish you the best in life.
Both of you are college graduates but don't think about adoption or surrogacy?
Dumb +dumb = Dumb. You can’t escape it. Book smart is not the real intelligence
That’s what I’m saying!
It's not fair to women. If she can't have children, she's supposed to allow him to marry another woman to have children. If it's the man who can't have children, the woman must stay with him and be faithful to him. Why? It's unfair to women. If men can marry a 2nd woman to give him children, the women should be allowed to have another man to give her children too. Why must only the woman suffer. If we have children, it's a blessing if we don't it's not necessary to complete our marriage/life. Life is what you make out of it. Best wishes to you sister
That's what I say! 😄
Niam laus aw cas kuv hnov koj zaj dab neeg tag lawm ca yuav tu tu siab ua luaj os kuv nrog koj quaj quaj tu tu siab ua luaj os hlub hlub koj li os niam laus aw
Cas yuav hais raug kuv lub neej ua luaj li os tu siab tiag2
I am so sick of these men saying I love you but I am going to marry a niam yau. Liars yog nws hlub koj tiag nws yeej tsis yuav ib tug nas. Yog koj tus txiv yog tus tsis muaj mes nyuam nes ws nws puas kam koj yuav ib tus txiv yau mas. Yog vim li cas koj thiaj mus plog teb thiab mas. Let him go.
Zaj sab sij huam tu siab heev li os
Zoo
I feel for you sister. I am going through a similar situation. I know I must leave but its so hard after 30 years. we need yo break free from the chains and live our own life.
Leave! The sooner the better ur heart will be.
Zaj no tu siab heev I
Hai dab neeg g txau mlg li o
Ua neeg nyob ce tsi tham xwb os ib leej yeej muaj ib txog dab neeg os txhob tus siab os mog tu me niam tsev xuj xuj nawb
Tus viv ncaus pab tu siab kawg li peb cov poj niam aw yog li no mas yog leej twg mus yuav txiv yog tus txiv tsis muaj ni nyuam ces kav tsij mus yuav txiv yau ib yam li cov txiv neej ua rau peb poj niam thiab yog tsis tso cai yuav txiv yau ces nrauj kiag thiab xwb thiab txiv neej ces yeej siab phem heev li ov yog Tim nws m'as muab luag yuam nyob ho yog poj niam muaj tsis tau mi nyuam m'as nws ho mus yuav niam yau thiab yog li no mas tsis ncaj ncees li tus viv ncaus aw tej zaum Docteur hais li tab sis koj yuav tau mus saib cov poj niam hmoob ua lawv txawj xuas tsev mi nyuam seb puas muaj tau mi nyuam kuv twb muaj cov viv ncaus es docteur twb hais tias yeej muaj tsis tau mi nyuam li Tom qab no nws twb muaj mi nyuam lawm thiab txhob tu siab thov kom vaj tswv foom koob hmoov rau koj kom tsuas tau lub neej zoo xwb
Hmong men will always use the no kids excuse to have another woman. Love yourself and move on.
Nrog koj tu siab tshaj plaws li os sister, kuv ho txhawj tsam Koj tus txiv mob stroke los yog hlab nrha tawg thiab, vim nws twb tau ib txoj kev mob txawv Koj lawm thiab os, Cas yuav hlub nej sawv daws ua luaj os.
Txaus hlub ua luaj nas me koj niam tus zoo
Hai tau zoo kawg li
Hlub koj dhau lawm sister txoj kev ua neeg ca yuav txawj mob npaum no hlub koj os
Tu siab tshaj li os sister aw.... cas koj thiab kuv es nim raug ib tug lej li os.
Kuv los ib yam os
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Why do Hmong people always resort to second wife? Why not try IVF, surrogacy or adoption? 🤦🏾♂️
tus siab ua luaj os niam laus kuv los tsis muaj me nyuam thiab os tus siab heev os
U have such wonderful parents who love u so dearly much. Why didn't u go back? If i have such wonderful parents like yours, i would be content being single forever.
So sad to hear…unfortunately if the tables were turned and he couldn’t give u kids you would’ve done the same thing too. Life is never fair. God bless your heart.
Poj niam hmoob nolog ces yuav tau tsawg2 tu thiaj zoo dua ki ces tib cov niam ntiav tuaj xwb ner
Hlub koj kawg li os mi niam laus aw
Man! I would rather adopt than let my husband marry a 2nd wife! You both are well educated couple you could have adopted!
Hmong men don’t look or accept pass adoption .
If you love eachother, without kids you would still be whole...Hmong men, SOME ONLY, is an excuse to get a 2nd wife...
I would have done surrogacy. My co worker had done 3 and each only cost 60 to 70k.
She wanted to adopt but her husband said no. :(
Me vivncaus kj yuam ke lawm nawb, kj tus txiv tseem hlub kj heev ces tuav neb lub neej kom niam yau yug menyuam rau kj tu, niam yau Nyob taus los Nyob Nyob tsis taus niam yau mus nim yau ntsuav kj tus txiv tseem hlub kj xwb. Niam yau cov menyuam yog kj tus txiv li rob ntsa thiaj hlub neb nawb mog, pab kj tusiab yog kj nrauj nws
ua li ko yog lawm
Pab koj tu siab kawg, tus txawj hlub thiaj txawj tsim kom koj tuag kiag. Thaum laus lawm, kaj tsij khawg yus tij nyiaj kub xwb thiaj yuav pab thiab hlub tau yus thaum yav yus laus ntawv xwb. Es txhob cia2 siab rau lwm leej lwm tus yuav hlub yus.
Tus siab tshaj yog yus tus txiv mus yuav dua ib tug mas tu siab tshaj phaws li
Tas plaub lawd koj ua koj ris xwb uv tsis tuag nawb
Your husband doesn’t love you enough to stick with you through thick and thin. Like you say, we women can share anything but we cannot share our husbands. It’s good that you let him go so it won’t hurt so much.
Why do Hmong men that marry 2nd wife always think the 1st wife will be their babysitter and their therapist when things go wrong with the 2nd wife???
This lady is right, when he comes around, loos kev nyuaj siab ntxiv rau kiag xwb!
They think that way because a lot of the women allowed themselves to be treated that way. Can't blame the men entirely if the women can't respect themselves.
Txiv Neej ces Tab Tom xav xav muaj me nyuam ces tab tom haum xwb ntag. Good luck don’t have stroke.
Tell your husband to legally divorce you and give you everything. So that way when his wife leaves him she doesn’t take everything you worked so hard for. That lady is going to take everything you guys own. That’s just what they do.
Sounds like they aren’t/weren’t legally married the whole time.
They didn’t have to legally divorce for him to bring his baby mama over
Karma for him. Leave and start a new life. My heart aches for you.
It is your choice whether or not to stay..there are options like adopt kids..you dont have to resort to 2nd wife. but its your life and you can choose how ever you want to make you happy.
Cas yuav tu siab tshaj os viv ncaus hmoob
Divorce him go to court to get your divorce from court nothing he can do to stop you if that’s want you wanted do yourself a favor free yourself from him and live your life! you will find love again!
Viv ncaus aw kuv mloog koj zaj neej neeg no mas kuv nrog kojj tu siab kawg li os kuv yeej nrog kojj quaj txog twg li nawb, kuv hlub koj tshaj plaws li os me Viv ncaus aw
Txhob Tu siab o poj hmoob tus ntxim hlub e...koj mas tseem hais tias tsis muaj me nyuam es nws thiaj li tshob Cuab...kuv ces muaj 3 leej tub 1 leej ntxhais ...thiab lawv twb loj tiav neeg tag lawm Los niag txiv lem ntawd tseem tshob Cuab thiab Neej puas tag li lawm thiab o lo...cov niag niam mos iab ntawd lawv tsuas yog khib nyiab thiab xwb o....yus lub peev xwm Los muaj peev xwm Los muaj txhob khuv xim tus neeg siab dub quav Dev li ntawd o mog
This story doesn't surprise me what the baby mama is doing to him. It will always happen unless marrying an older woman.
Tus niam tsev aw, koj yeej paub ntsoov tias ib tug neeg nws hlub koj nws yeej tsis yuav dua tus tshiab os mog. Teb chaws vam meej no tsis yog yuav mus khwv hauv liaj teb los noj es tsam laus mus khwv tsis taus, teb chaws no yus khwv tau hluas yav laus yus yeej muaj nyiaj noj es yog koj tus txiv hlub koj tiag nws yeej kom neb mus yuav menyuam los tu los yog tias neb nyob li ko mus tas ib sim ntawm neb lub neej txoj hmoo. Ib tug neeg twg thaum lawv sawv kev mus yuav tau ib tug Tshiab los puag pw lawm ces nws yeej tsis muaj koj nyob hauv nws lub siab lawm os mog. Txhob muab koj tus kheej yuam nyob lub neej tu siab saib lawv sib hlub li ko ces yuav ua rau poj niam los yog cov ntxhais poob nqi qis nawb. Tseem hluas2 es yus nyob yus los yog mam nrhiav tus tshiab uas yog yus tsis muaj menyuam los nws yeej hlub yus es mam yuav os nawb. Good luck to you and wishing you all the best!
Nrog tus viv ncaus nov tu siab kawg li o. Kj tus txiv yog neeg siab phem tshaj o nws lub neej yeej yuav liam thiab tsis zoo li. Npam nws lawm es nws tus poj niam thiaj li muab nws tsim pauj rau kj mas.
Laj2 mloog tej niag kev mob sb no li o
Hai rau tus niam hlau kos kom txob tus siab mog yog nus ntshaw me nyuam thiag2 yog kv nyob rau teb chaw kos ce kv muab ib tug rau nw tus ua nw tug mog
Nws muaj peex xwm yuav tus tshiab ces nws yeej tsis hlub yus lawm os viv ncaus. Hlub koj tus kheej.
Koj tsi muaj me nyuam los txhob tu siab o mus nrhiav dua 1 tug tshiab rsi tos tus neeg siab phem lawm mog
I don’t think it’s about not having children, he just doesn’t love you enough. Hmong men will find and use any excuse to get another woman. I cried for you sister! I hope you find happiness in your future.
Hold up I thought you are an educated woman how did you allow your husband to get a second wife this is ridiculous but nobody really knows unless they walk a mile in your shoes but really in this day and age none of that shit is acceptable period.
Gotten a school degree doesn’t mean that the person will see self value.
She valued herself base on the dude she was with. No him mean no worth, in her mind. Even more, when it’s her that can’t bear children.
Many people are like that.
Txiv neej ces yeej zoo li ko nws cov ntshav siab hlob xav tau coob leej nyob nrog nws lub cev txog hnub tuag xwb
Sister txhob tu siab mog, you made the right decision, vim koj hlub nws es tsis khuv cia nws tuag es koj mus nrhiav hauv lub ntiaj teb no tsis tau……yog koj hlub nws tso nws ces yog li no mog. Kuv tus wb sib sib hlub nws tuag lawm kuv nim xav tias yog nws mus yuav dua ib tug ces kuv paub tias nws tseem taug kev hauv ntiaj teb xwb ces kavliam ib yam li koj no os mog………but I felt your pain
When they talk about someone else then you are nothing to them... move on,
Lady, you should never let him married her at the first place.
Tus ntxhais aw! Koj tsis kam nyob nrog nws tab sis koj ho nrauj tsis tau nws thiab yus twb tsis ruam yus twb khwv tau yus es txhob nyob li ko kav tsij mus nrhiav tus menyuam los tu lwm hnub koj thiaj muaj menyuam look after koj nawb koj tsis need the man pab koj naj you can do it. Kuv ua hauj lwm nyob tsev laus yeej muaj cov niam tsev suav tsis muaj txiv lawv tu menyuam yuav los yeej hlub2 lawv kawg yog koj txawj hlub lawv tiag nawb.txhob tas kev cia siab mog.
Es yog poj mus yuav txiv yau no koj puas txaus siab maj.txiv neej hmoob ces yog dev xwb os
Me ntxgais nrog koj tu siab thiab hlub koj jawg li os koj twb rau siab kawm ntawv muaj degree thiab nyob teb chaws vam meej lawm yus yuav tsum hlub yus ntxawm tsis muaj me nyuam los mam mus adopted los tu xwb os mog thov ntuj pab tsom kwm rau koj lub neej nawb
Me vivncaus pab hlub koj kawg tiamsis cas koj ho uv nyob nrog nws ntev ua luaj os kuv muaj ib tug nus nws tus niam nkauj txhav qaib yuav nws tau 15 xyoo tsis muaj me nyuam kho tag txhua yam tiamsis tsis muaj me nyuam li nws txiav txim yuav niam yau los tsis ntev ces muaj me nyuam lawm nws nrog niam yau tu2 cov me nyuam loj zujzus los tus txiv hlub niam yau dua nws ces nws tu2 siab es nws nrauj kiag kuv tus nus mus tsis ntev nws mus yuav txiv tshiab nws yuav kiag mus xwb nws cia li muaj me nyuam coob2 kawg li lawm thiab tej zaum yus thiab nws rojnrha tsis sib haum thiab xwb os txhob tu2 siab mog hlub yus tus kheej nawb
Tseem tshuav ib cov txiv neej xav tau cov poj niam tsis muaj menyuam los mus nrog lawv tus lawv cov thiab. Txhob nyob nrog tus neeg tsim txom koj lub nrog cev kom koj muaj mob.
it's sad story but also part of life. Learn how to moving on a new life. Wish I can find this lady for myself
There is only 10% of these women. Hard to find. They don’t go out like the other extra.
Tsis yog yus roj yus ntshav, tsis txhob tshaw2 mog. Tswv ntuj pub li cas rau yus ces yus tau li ntawv xwb os mog. Not everyone is fortunate enough okay, life is all about compromise sister you win something you loose something. Life is all about it, you cannot have everything your way. Life is not fair for some people, but others are OK too. Just live your life and be happy what you have.
Cov tsis muaj me nyuam los txhob tu tu siab. Txhob muab me nyuam los ua teeb meem rhuav yus lub neej. Muaj los yug ib ob tug tsis muaj los yog yus lub neej muaj txhij muaj txhua. 401k xwb thiaj pab tau yus rau yav laus. Tej laus ib txwm hais tias cog nplej lig ces nplej ua npluag, yug tub lig ces tub ua ntsuag no. Cov me nyuam teb chaws no lawv hais tias yog thaum lawv age yog teenager es lawv niam lawv txiv twb laus li lawv grandparents lawm ces lawv txaj muag tsis xav lees paub lawv niam lawv txiv li no.
Cannot and should not live this kind of life. Better to separate. Please don't torture your heart like that sister. Leave him and go find your own happiness.
Well, karma got your husband sister. He deserves it. It is better to be by yourself than watching him loving the other woman.
You should of adopted when you were younger, now he wants someone younger and children. Leave him, and love yourself.
What a beautiful story
Your SIL was wrong for given you hope that she was going to give you her child. Totally understand but why would she make a promise she could not keep it was just wrong.
Yep I agree. Don’t agree to something you know you can not do. That’s a big sacrifice.
Why not just find someone to carry their baby for them. I would carry it for anyone that wants a baby they just have to pay for everything and give me tummy tuck in return hehehe
This sounds like a old one we listened to
Hmoob meskas ces neej kawg pluag tag tuag tag rau nkauj mos ab. Yuav nkauj mos ab tuaj ces yog tuaj khawb nyiaj khawb kub xa rov rau nplog teb. Lawv tsi yog tuaj ua neej, tsi yog tuaj pab kwv pab tij... lawv tuaj ua neeg tuaj khawb nyiaj xa rau neej tsa tim nplog xwb. Yog tsi muaj qhov no ces lawv xum yuav cov tub hluas zoo2 nraug tim nplog lawv tsi xum yuav cov yawg nrauj yawg ntsuag hmoob meskas laus li lawv txiv thiab lawv yawg, muaj me nyuam loj tshaj lawv.
Zoo rau qhov niam hlob nkawv tsis muab nkawv tus me nyuam rau koj. Nkawv yeej paub koj siab me heev yuav hlub tsis taus. I don’t care about the rest. The decision is up to you and your husband as to what is most important for your future.
heev neeg muaj heev neeg tswm hlub koj tug kheej xwb mos dhau koj niam koj txiv koj nyab koj nug tsw muaj leej twg hlub koj lawm kuv xav paub tiag yog tim cov txiv neej tsw muaj me nyuam peb cov poj niam yuav dua puas mob cov txiv neej thiab
Sad that we live in America but Hmong women still can’t leave their toxic relationship because of the “Hmong laws”
I thought that was allowed in the Hmong culture/religion? What if that’s karma? What if that’s his real partner in the past life time that was meant to find him in this life? What if that’s in his “fate” to have two wives. What if it’s your fate to have a husband with two wives? It can’t simply be because of his evil heart being selfish and just wanting another sexual partner and to have children regardless if it’s without his own wife can it?
I don't understand why women like u kept letting this happen to u especiallyu said u started with high education.
First...u opened the door by letting him go to Laos then U went with him. U shouldn't complaint n just go along as u already did. Women who don't allow will not even ok their husb.
Sister, love yourself. You are better than being the first wife. If the tables were turned and it is the husband is unable to have a child, we all know men will not accept being a second husband.
Me viv ncaus yog yus tus txiv twb yuav dua ib tug lawm ces xam tias yus tag nqis rau nws lawm es ua ib siab txhob yuav lawm mog xyum ua poj nrauj zoo dua nrog nws nyob os
Sister, why did you tortured yourself by following him? The minute he decided that he wants to have a second wife, you're no longer important to him. Cut ties with him and move on. There are other men who will love you so continue to live your life to the fullest. Divorce is easy in this country, you don't need Hmong people's approval. File the paperwork and if he does show up, court will divorce him for you.
Sister, he already crossed the line! Red flag, he doesn’t love you anymore once the thoughts of marrying a niam yau was on his mind. Leave him for good and go find a real man to love you! Go seek helps from fertility professionals and look into IVF or surrogacy, there is still hopes!!! Best wishes to you.
Txhob tu siab. You should have hired a surrogate to have babies for u. You have money you should be able to pay for it. It is not too late if you still want to be with him.
I agree. Many people don’t look into this option or doesn’t know about surrogating mother.
Yes…agree
I would seek surrogacy. Sorry but I can't share my significant other to others.
Sister, why would you put up with something like this? You said that you both were college educated. I too did not have kids but I wont put up with things like this. I told my husband that if he finds someone new then I would leave him and he know that I would. Don’t depend on a man to love you. You have to love yourself
Ntuj aw yus nim tsis muaj hmoo tsis muaj me nyuam es yus nim yog tus swb os kuv los twb g muaj thiab tu22 siab os lub neej tsis muaj me nyuam os
Sis we all women felt you pain .your are no alone many Sis walks your shoes too cia kom Donald Trump txhob hloov txoj cai tos niam mos ab tuaj pw 1 sab 6 peb ntsia os
How sad
Children bone is dangerous for dog never gave chickens to your dog
Tus viv ncaus aw , pab koj tusiab thiab chim siab cov hmoob nplog ces yog ibtug ( cancer ) uas yeej kho tsis tau nej cov txiv neej hmoob ameka ces yog siab dev xwb yeej hnov txhij hnov tshua los yeej tsij tobhau mus zujzu xwb ces nej thiaj muaj kev nyuaj siab tasli .
Umm yeah this is a old story retold
I have one question to those hmoob mens who a CHEATER on his loving wife. For better or worse, thick to thin since you decided to marry a girl you didn’t know that she is going to bearing children, are you married the children only or the beautiful woman in front of you? If just the children than there are so manies childrens out there that needed a loving parent, why just adopt them instead!! Shamed on Hmoob mens plains excuse wanted to be polygamy!!!!!! Sick of being a hmoob woman in this world!!
Ntuj yeej muaj qhov muag mas lawv aw... yug muab lub li cas luj rau lawv ces ntuj yuav muab lub luaj cas luj rau yus os
Koj tus niam tij ces xav Noj koj tej khoom qab2 Tsis xav pub tus me nyuam rau neb… saib ces paub kawg… txhob tu siab os mog
The Hmong cultural practices has always been unfair towards women. Really pathetic!
I think the story is not possible in the US. You can’t marry the second wife before divorcing the first.
Wow woman, it's 2021. Wake up. Stop wasting time on ppl who don't love you. You already knew he was going to break your heart and you still waste your time to fly to Laos just to see him break your heart? Pls be smarter!
Life ain’t fair ya shoulda divorce the 2-3yr of ya marriage if ya can’t have kids together don’t stay too long in the marriage ya just Creating misery and torture for each other
Have you thought of adoption or seri gate mother in Thailand