How to Improve Communication in Your Relationship
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- Опубликовано: 11 июл 2024
- These are 2 powerful ways to improve communication with the one you love. Whether you need to fix a lack of communication or simply want to improve your communication in your relationship, this video is guaranteed to help you.
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./ have Empathy
./ have patience
./be attentive nd listen
./ having common vision
./be patient with yourself
Thank you
I would like to add just 3 points,
1. show interest in their passion
2. appreciate even for a simple things
3. talked about the good memories
I agree❤👏
OhMyGosh! 2mins in, and I'm like "are you right here with me right now?!"
I love this! I noticed for me I tend to just shut down. I definitely will try to breath before responding. Thanks for being so clear and concise! ❤
I'm happy the video was helpful for you. Thank you for watching, Alisha.
Coach Adrian
I have the same issue and it causes so many problems
I am also someone who shuts down. I’ve been working hard to communicate better. Slowly but surely. Thanks for the awesome video!
“I understand why you would see it that way, however, I see it differently”.
“You are awesome at [insert]. Have you considered [insert]?
“Why would you think / say / feel that?”
“I’m on your side, and I want the best for you. Have you considered [insert]?”
Use reflecting skills: “So, what you are saying is…”
If you are in a romantic relationship, this takes work. Plan to have a once a month “state of the union” talk with your loved one. Just to clear the air, of any resentments. Make it casual, and as non-confrontational, as possible. Speak your mind, and be brave. You might hear things, that are hurtful, but ultimately helpful. You are either growing together, or growing apart. Decide which one, you would like.
I've come back to this video countless times. After 6 years we have some really unhealthy communication patterns and this really hits home about where we struggle❤
how are u both doing if i may ask?
Don't worry, its going to be ok, never give.💖❤❤💞💞✨
I felt like you were directly speaking to me. My fiance and I struggle with everything you mentioned. I want to be a better spouse and I really this will really help. Thank you for the helpful tips!
You are so welcome!
I found this video trying to learn how to communicate because it was affecting the relationship I have with someone I truly love. I realized how many mistakes I make in a conversation that I did not realize and would have never realized. Thank you so much for the tips you spoke about in this video, I am really looking forward to keeping these tips in mind in order to communicate properly and not make my partner feel alone. Thank you and God bless.
You are so welcome
I’m going through that phase rt now I don’t want to lose him🥺
Im going through the same thing
I find it hard to communicate with my girlfriend. Sometimes going out for a meal together is uncomfortable because we both just sit there in silence even tho we both just had fun at the water park before hand. I want to hear from actual people who have had bad communication and then managed to turn it around. Need a bit of hope
I don’t know if it’s too late to reply but I will anyway. Given that you have done what is in the video and I feel what you’re asking about is different you could do these things:
- regarding what you mentioned in your comment I think you could in that dinner talk about the activity you just did, how it made you feel, the funny things that happened, memories that you have from your childhood regarding water parks etc.
- in other scenarios you can talk about anything you’re thinking of in that moment. This could be hard if for example you don’t care to hear your partners thoughts and little stories and therefore you think they don’t, or of in the past they gave a negative reaction to you sharing which made you reluctant.
- it’s okay to have silent moments in a relationship.
- try to spend time apart if you’re not, that will give you topics to talk about and share and discuss.
- open up to your partner about your past, your fears, your traumas your memories etc.
All in all, this won’t work if you both don’t deeply like each other (regardless of love) if you’re not both interested in each other, or if you don’t feel safe and heard.
I love this , I have a the love of my life I shared so many memories with them and recently I get frustrated and I don’t take a breather it just gets the best of me and this video has shown me how much I have gotten out of line I will take this advice and apply!!
Had to comment. I like you, you went into details. You dont just tell us what to do but how you do it, and why you do it.
This video has opened my eyes to things i didn’t realize about myself and i wanna do better for my relationship and my amazing woman so i am gonna insert the notes i took into my life and try and grow to be a better man , a better boyfriend, and a better communicater
Great video great advise. Brief, concise and straight to the point
Highly important message.....dont attack someone....but speak in a pleasing manner ...same words if said in a pleasing manners are accepted...if said in a attacking or shouting way are not accepted.....
I watch this video, again and again, to format my brain into communicating this way.
Thank you for watching the video. I hope it was helpful for you!
Coach Adrian
Doing the same
Thank you for this ! I really needed to hear this
So clear, real, and helpful. Thank you.
Thank you for watching, Mozhgan. Hope the video was helpful for you.
Coach Adrian
3 people got in a fight after watching the video.
Lmfao
Thank you so much for sharing this information. I will be studying this!
What a great talk.
We had trouble talking about how we felt as a couple. We pointed fingers at each other a lot. We were about to give up when we figured out a better way to talk. Thought about telling other couples because it might help them. It's through games for couples like lovify. Where you tell your partner what you like, and then they have to guess what it is. It was a fun way to learn more about my partner.
Good video. Your channel is a 'must see' regarding marriages. I think communication is extremely important, and is in my opinion the most important aspect of any relationship. I dedicated my ministry to that cause.
Thank you for watching the video! I agree, communication is key!
Coach Adrian
You have some excellent points here. I've saved this so I can listen to it again from time to time as a reminder.
Very nice and clear suggestions. Thank you Adrian a lot.
Thanks a lot man, this video is very helpful. Subscribed!
You're welcome, Daniel. Thank you for watching!
Coach Adrian
Thank you so much. Got a lot from this. God bless
Thank you!
Coach Adrian
You don't know what you have done for me brother.....❤❤ Thanks so much
Glad I could help!
thank you so much. Bless you sir
Gracias ☺️
Great video! Thank you! ❤
Worth a Subscribe ✊🏼 Doesn’t work when one doesn’t have empathy ... some people just see it as foreign and weak ...,
Thank you for watching, Steve.
Coach Natalie
❤ thanks a lot! And thanks for not talking a lot about other things in the beginning 😂it makes me stay!
I’m trying to better communicator with my partner. I really want to improve for my partner and myself. I want a healthy relationship with her. Thanks for the tips.
Thank you!😊
You're welcome 😊
Great video!!!
Ok Thanks for clear explanation 🎉
So true!
Thank you for watching, Jess!
Coach Adrian
Thank you man this helps a lot
Glad it helped!
Thank you!!
You're welcome. Thank you for watching Shayan.
Coach Adrian
Thank you, thank you very much 🥰 I was really indeed of this 😊😊
Thank you so much for watching!
Thank you for this amazing video
You're welcome Bridgette. Thank you for watching the video!
Coach Adrian
Liked subscribed and commented keep up the great work man 💪💪♥️💪💪
Thanks so much for the kind words!
- Coach Danny
YES YES YES !!
Thank you for watching!
Coach Adrian
I liked this video. I struggle with empathy, because I am a non emotional person. My wife is ready to move on from me. He has checked out of our relationship. She has requested a deeper emotional connection, and I am unable to provide that to her right now. I am "all in" in learning how to do this, which is why I subscribed to this channel, however she told me she doesn't believe me anymore. I promise to commit to this is unheard. How can I get started? Any books I can read? Thank you.
How to win friends and influence people is a good book to learn how to communicate better. Which is big on being empathetic. People need to be heard.. and the book talks a lot about listening. It’s at least a good start. 👌🏼 Hard work, but extremely helpful.
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Coach Adrian
K Smith I would recomend the Gottmans.
Thank you for this. My girl went on to state that this video was made specifically for me😂❤Thanks for the help
Glad I could help!
Thank you, thank you, thank you 🥰🙏
You are so welcome!
Excellent first point
Glad you think so!
Thank you
You're welcome, Nevada.
Coach Adrian
Question: Can you go to marriage counseling by yourself? I want to go to marriage counseling but my husband doesn't think he needs it. But I know that we do.
Wish ive seen this video before our break up, i could have prevented it
Effective communication is so very important, thank you for this. I did a video as well on the importance of effective communication for healthy relationships.
My bf is a narcissist… he has zero empathy towards me. I try so hard to communicate but he just turns the blame on me every time
That doesn't sound healthy at all, is he even willing to improve? Or if you brought that up would he just try to tell you you're the "problem"? If so you truely deserve better
Ouuf
I don't attack my partner, but I definitely have problems with empathy as, like @K Smith, I tend to be a more non-emotional person. I don't lash out, and I try my damndest to be non-confrontational. It's seen as me not caring enough.
Me and my partner have polar opposite communication styles. So, while I take more time to compose my thoughts and then come back to effectively communicate, he wants to instantly solve the problem. But the problem is, in the process of composing my thoughts I start to invalidate my feelings and hold myself accountable for starting obnoxious rifts between us and end up being distant towards him. It feels like a constant struggle because neither can I talk to him in the heat of the moment nor do I effectively do so later. This is causing a lot of issues in our relationship and I don't know how to resolve them. Appreciate the video!
Thank you for your advice. It really does mean alot to me. I admit that I am not good at this. But I want to do better so i can be a better husband to my wife.
Wow
Wonderful
Thank you for watching the video.
Coach Adrian
Sick room bro
How do I communicate with someone when every time I try they tell me not to tell them what they are thinking or feeling, when I'm not trying to tell them what they are thinking or feeling. I'm simply trying to communicate something I have perceived because of their own words, actions, worries, etc. that is causing an issue. It's so frustrating. I feel he is impossible to talk to because no matter how I try to approach an issue, he gets defensive or tells me not to tell him what he's thinking or feeling, when what I'm trying to do is tell him how I'm thinking and feeling. Instead of communication it almost always becomes an argument. I'm about to give up because you cannot have a good relationship without good communication. And I've never struggled so much to try to communicate with people as I do with him. Help.
I'm sorry for you because that's very toxic and unfortunately if he's not open to receive what you say, he won't change that because he doesnt understand the issue.
At least you have the option to leave. I can't leave my girlfriend because she has no place to go due to burning every bridge she's crossed. Sad thing is that I love her too much to let her try and survive on her own.
@@mcgirtICreality find a couples bible study where you and she can grow spiritually and maybe some healing can begin. Or at least a good biblical church where hearing about and encountering God can begin to
Change hearts.
Is there a video on how to apply these? Like what does it look like? I'm gonna search videos for answers but I have a similar but different problem and I can't find anyone to help
I find it hard to communicate with my partner because I grew up with no one to communicate with
What about better communication with bicultural relationships?
Very enlightening thank you
You're welcome, Ayanna.
Coach Adrian
My ex sucked at this. Guess she never watched this 😂 good video man.
I don't claim to know everything about relationships but I used to believe that I was advanced in dating. I don't like to argue or fuss but I hear disagreement is healthy. I can listen 👂 more and I tend to get a little loud 🔊 only out of frustration. Truth be told it's like a freaking merry go round and I don't know if she's happy or not.😢😢😢 It's been five years and I wanna marry her but the way life is set up I don't know.
I want to communicate better
We hope this video was able to help you!
hi im just new and i just want to share about my relationship is not going well i help like some tips of urs
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I wish i would have seen this video earlier
What can I say to help her understand that her actions are putting up barriers between us ?
How do you communicate when you have ptsd and your communication skills shut down when in a heated discussion?
my bf feels as if my feelings for him faded and that my feelings r different the beginning of the relationship yet i felt as if it’s been the same so now i’m here trying to figure out how to show my efforts and my feelings
but i don’t rlly know what i’m doing differently, he just says i act uninterested now
Just do some of the same things you did earlier in the relationship, self reflect and think, you might feel like you’re still doing the same things however maybe he feels different. You could also just go ahead and ask him, if there’s anything he feel like you do differently, that’s what this video is about communication. Goodluck
i'm the one who keeps saying "u always do that" "u always don't do that" and nothing changes even is i say it a million times what should i do it makes us argue until we fight please respond
My wife and I are to the point where I will be moving out of the house for some time to let her think and give her space. So I won’t be able to apply this method in that time frame. What should I do while we are living separate having two children?
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Coach Adrian
I'm in a long distance relationship... Communication is tricky
U looks so handsome
What if your running out of patience?
I am having the same issues, lack of communication, im a very emotional person.
We are married for 12 years, and i still dont know him well.
How to make him happy, when to communicate, how to approach him, how to be romantic, i guess its too broken oevr the years.
Due to this, we still have no kids. We fail to connect
What about if I want to communication, He tells me he is not really good in communication
Yes. Pride gets me in a bad place. I wish I had had cognitive BELIEFS that would keep me from being more lovable to my man from Virginia. I want to KNOW what these core beliefs are and replace them with BELIEFS that are good for my relationship with him. How to anticipate what we will go through to create them???
How much patience??? To what extant??? Partner does not set goals and dose not care about wasting time...
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Coach Adrian
Sometimes my partner gets upset. I always try to be supportive, but she gets annoyed by it. I don't know what to do. every single time she gets angry. She believes that I am not emotionally available. I really want to help. I want to understand her. but I fail every time. Help me, please.
I recently just got broken up from a 2 year relationship because I wasn’t listening that well. I was too busy focusing on Principals and getting revenge. About trying to make a point.
But both people HAVE to do the same, don’t they? Why is it what I’m hearing is always towards one person? How do we know who the one is to listen to this?
Imma lose the best thing that ever to me becuase I can't communicate I just want her to drop it and lest go back to being happy.. not working tho
I know this is 3 years ago. But my best friend and partner are dealing with this. He shut down on me, because I reacted rather than took that step back. I want to be better. I want to communicate with him better. I react in my own emotions rather than stepping into his shoes. He said the volatile will break us. I don't want that. Please direct me into what books. WHERE can I continue to get help?
I found thiw video trying to imprive my relationship, 'cause sadly im very bad
Hey I'm 18 and I really need some advice, please respond to this.
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Coach Adrian
Hi! What advice were you looking for?
@@danielleanita4988 well it was 6 months ago, I really liked this girl and she kinda didn't wanted to be in a relationship but she liked me tho. Anyways I moved on so I don't think I need help anymore haha. I completely cut contact with the person so we good.
@@teenypi6960 Okay! I'm glad that it worked out for you!
I’m
Am only 22 and am dating to improve, am I too young to focus on that?
Why are there so many relationship coaches on RUclips giving relationship advice but that are single?
I tried to communicate several times. But it always goes wrong :( If your tips gonna help I ll be very thankful 😅
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Coach Adrian
@@HappilyCommitted I watched 👍 we both had so much fights and that caused him to change. He never like to share his feeling he never like to communicate about anything. When I asked him if you living the sake of living wd me then leave on that he replied OK. This is the he always hert me. I dnt understand what to do😞
If they can’t reciprocate good bye 👋 lmao
She keeps on doing things that I ask her not to, what can I say that will help her to understand me?
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I have this hard time to my fiance . Like im trying to talk to him on somethings is just giving me a answer like nodding head and say okay or what ate you saying or what are you talking about. I really dont know how to talk like its so boring not talking . Also he dont like telling some story like sharing it with me. Is it normal that guy like this from america? He been like this since we meet . But now i realize that its looks so boring and i feel that he dont love me even i know he make time to come visit me in my country monthly , but when we are together we just have hugging or watching on phone without talking. Talking only for question.😢 so sad
My boyfriend thinks it makes u weak to talk about feelings
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Coach Natalie
The "phone" lol again technology......
My girl wont speak to me when she is sad. She cant explain why she is sad....
I know that must be hard to know what to do in those moments. But, you just being there for her is more than enough!
My ex didn't have any empathy.
how do i send this to my boyfriend without sending it to my boyfriend
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Play at 1.75x.
Thanks.
Can anyone please tell me how I can improve my communication skills in my relationship.
My partner and I have been together for 4 years now and I am still having a hard time trying to communicate. Whether it’s pain she has caused me or pain I have trouble trying to get across whatsoever. This causes a lot of problems and pain for us both and I still haven’t found anything inside me to fix it.
For example, she will communicate how she feels about pain I’ve caused for her and automatically inside me I can’t find the feelings and words to understand how she feels. Instead I will be completely silent and blank or I will use her time time to voice my problems on top to match that we have both caused each other pain. With this I see it’s disregarding how she feels, how it’s affected her and I see it’s selfish that she is brave bringing a problem that I’ve caused to the table and I can’t solve it.
So please can anyone tell me how I can fix this please.
Sorry this may be late, but I hope it’s still relevant.
My best advice would be try and remember it’s you guys against the problem, not what problems you’re finding within each other. Instead of accusing them and saying “you’re doing this” try communicating how their action has affected you. For example; instead of “I can’t believe you hung out with them without telling me or went out without telling me” try saying something like “it hurt me when you decided to go out and didn’t tell me, I felt left out and it hurt”.
This way you’re addressing the action and how it made you feel, not blaming them.
As far as your response I’d try to breathe a moment, recognize how they’re feeling (are they hurt, mad, etc) and apologize that your actors have cause these emotions. This can help them be heard and like you’re not brushing it off. Then try to have an open mind, let them tell you the action that hurt them. Right or wrong it hurt them and their feelings are still valid. It can be hard to hear mistakes sometimes, the biggest thing is to talk through it. What can you do better? Why was your action okay, and are they over reacting (don’t accuse them of that just recognize it and try to explain that they’re not thinking rationally about it) but if you’re in the wrong try to reflect on how you’ve reacted and acted, then move on and see what you can do better. This can be done through communicating their needs as well as yours, taking about boundaries, expectations and doing research to better yourself.
I hope this was helpful