Actually 90% of the time when Americans say "Have a great day" we mean it. We know how it is to have a stressful day so, unless you angered us, we really do wish you well.
Jesse Epperson I totally agree with this. It is social etiquette to say "Have a good day" but I really do wish for someone's day to go better, especially when they are having a bad day
Stop being an idiot ! Get out of my way. Do you hear yourself guy? The more I listen to you two the more I feel disappointed that you seem so nice until the entitled sense sneaks out. I do hope you have a good day. Why is that hard to accept? You see. That is you. You thought that. It is difficult to understand.
Jesse Epperson Yes I agree. Just because we sound too excited when wishing someone well, does not mean it is insincere. Americans are definitely more open than the British which is a huge cultural difference. Whether an American is being fake or real when they say “have a nice day”, I feel that automatically puts a person in a positive mood rather than having a British person be “real” and just stare at you without saying a word acting like they would rather not be there as they are scanning your products. It brings out negative energy.
haha.. hmm.. she's the epitome of how i find english people. actually, yes, i DO care if you're having a good day! some people aren't as self centred as you are, lady
As an American expat living in London for 5 years, I would say Brits are fairly rude and incredibly judgemental. My partner is English, so don't get me wrong, I love the Brits, but I do find it a bit wearing at times. I miss the "small talk" and friendliness of America, it's really not fake at all, we may not want your life story, but saying "have a great day" or "how are you", is part of our culture and not fake! ...Great video!
I agree with you wholeheartedly! I'm British living in the USA and whilst I love to go home on occasion, to soak up the culture, I cannot wait to return to the land of happy people! The Brits have a fantastic sense of humour but my goodness are they negative and as you say, very judgemental. It's a learned trait and it's hard for people to be critical of themselves when you are surrounded by like-minded folk. After 2 weeks in the UK, I am usually more than ready to return home. Although, I have to say I don't put the Scottish in the same bracket (outside of city centers), they're truly wonderful people.
I wayched the video long time ago. I am Russian, i was thinking the guys from Britain i met jusy were to caution about Russia so were too distant and cold😂 as we are breaking all the private distance to their mind as i ask (even ppl in Russia are very polite and sympathetic)
Living with 3 brits and as an Indian I can say all 3 of them are super rude. The problem is brits fail to accept the fact that there are people have different views, cultures, way of living, languages. they are never going to accept anything that is different.
@@ganesanchandran9515 well they at least put up with you, that's more than most countries would do. Also no smoke without fire you probably irritate them and putting on some deodorant will help you too
I am Hispanic my wife is British we have been together for 10 years and she has changed a lot, but her family specially her dad is very rude, arrogant, he always seems mad, he show no love, emotions, compassion, he doesn't use the word please or thank you. Sometimes I feel like they are just miserable and cold at heart.
My husband is in the UK right now, and just told me how people in UK are rude. He told me of a couple of experiences. I really mean it when i say "have a great day." I wont say it if i don't mean it. I am seething if people are not polite back when i am polite. Like... say thank you if i hold the door for you. If you bump, or push me walking by... say excuse me. I will be pretty pissed if you don't apologize or say something in a polite manner...
As an American I do truly mean it when I wish someone a good day, yes we get paid to be nice but we are nicer to the people who are nice to us at work. You can tell the fake forced customer service and the genuine nice interation with a nice customer.
@Crewmate I’m American myself. We have our flaws; some of which are being belittling of others, arrogance, excessive pride that often turns violent, and thoughtlessness. Also, we lash out at others when we don’t get the things that we seek. I’m likely guilty of this as well, but Americans often don’t know when to be quiet and humble. (Especially in the northeast, where folks are basically slave workers who live with the misbelief that if they work overtime and earn $80,000 a year that everything will be flawless and lavish meanwhile they forget that life’s also about living not just working all the time. In closing, we have our flaws
I think that non-Americans don't realize Americans really do care. J and L don't understand the American Psyche especially where a person working in a shop (store) really wishes you to have a good day (To me that's just Cali Love or Hawaiian Islander Love).
When Americans at a store say "how are you?" yes, they don't really want to know any great details, but it is a customary way of saying hello. It's not fake it's just the way we do it. Also, I think it's just more common to speak to and have good conversation with strangers in the US.
I think there's a lot of variation in how genuine Americans are with their greetings. Here in the south many are genuinely sincere about it and really do hope you have a great day, or you're doing well, or whatever it is they are saying, then right next door is the overly rehearsed greeting that you know isn't real.
Jaime Ramos Honestly, it depends on what state the person is from. People in the Southern states and the midwestern states honestly mean it. I’m from the the New York area and I used to think as you do. Trust me they mean it.
It would be fun if we could do something like.. paying 20-30 people to visit a store. And every time Americans say "how are you?", they come up with a reply 10-15 minutes long ranting about how bad the day was. I guess they would probably not say it again :D
@Stacey Raven Exactly. It is difficult to go about your business when idiotic tourists block the entrances to the underground platforms and stand at the bottom of escalators reading maps; oblivious to the hundreds of people coming down behind them.
True, especially when that really annoying dumb person on your English table keeps asking for the answers and you get soo annoyed you say "WORK IT OUT FOR YOUSELF" Maybe, not so true...
I got into international customer service in my late teens. I was in that job for 22 long years. Without a doubt, some of the rudest people I have come across have been British. Their attitudes have effected me so much, to this day, I have bitter memories of that era. When I hear British accent even after so many years of leaving that job, my skin still crawls and bad memories come back. To a very large extent, I feel I have been psychologically effected. If any Brit happens to read this, please teach your children never to ‘be that’ towards another. At least the future generations must stop this rude/judgmental/arrogant and condescending attitude . Folks like us in the receiving end could certainly be damaged in many ways.
What I would do if I were you is journalism... I write down my bad memories and receive closure as I write... Maybe you didn’t receive closure... I’m here because I came from Instagram and some British were super rude, but I know that not all British are like that and many of them are nice
@@nicolen3177 Thanks for the reply, and I agree with you that i did not receive closure nor justice. in customer service it is not possible to have closure often. It has piled up over the years and now, when I even hear British accent, I kinda get angry - Fact! I also know generalizing isn’t right. Sure there are pleasant people out there too.
OMG. I relate to this a lot. My job is a little similar to what you described in your comment. I just freeze and stop breathing when I hear a British accent at my work.
This country is going down the sinkhole and all you can care about is getting some clout for being a victim of what, old grumps that "traumatized" you? Grow a pair, you're pathetic.
@@MytempusIC sorry that you had this bad experience. I’m British and agree with you they are a nation of arrogant dickheads. But in some places they can be alright even though they are a bit closed
As a South African it is our culture to ask someone how’s their day, have a blessed day today. May God bless you, etc. We are very apologetic in almost everything, if you walk in someone’s way, we say sorry, if we need to move through the line we say “sorry, sorry,sorry, lol 😂 , we are a very helpful nation. We love praying for one another as well.
I lived in England for 10 years as an international and work with Brits for many years, they are polite and seems very kind but you know them more you will feel they are COLD, they don't really care about your feeling.
I am Asian woman, just came across a rude old english woman, screaming at me ‘Excuse Me, do not throw any trash on sweet’, i was actually picking up my trash, not throwing. I would hope that lady to educate her own teenager in the country of not throwing trash in tube and train station.
Wait wait wait wait... How is "I hope you're having a great day?" any more or less disingenuous than continually saying, "thank you" while bumping into each person when exiting the "chube" ?
When I was in London I just met super polite people. Even a policeman smiled at me. People always tried to help me if I was lost. The only weird situation was a drunk guy who approached me but he was "sweet" he said "I love you" hahaha Brits
@chrxstiyan Nah London is worse full of fried oiled chicken on the floor with energy drinks and roadmen and gangsters wannabe trying to act cool and have a reason to stab you.
I'm American and naturally very kind, a geniuine friendly person. That said, I live in Texas and I've lived in many states in the US. I find the southern states incredibly warm and friendly (known for Southern Hospitality). I've lived outside Chicago and it's less friendly there. I really feel it depends where you visit.
Anybody who has worked in customer service in Britain can tell you that British people are rude as hell. Although, in my experience, Irish and Welsh people are more polite than English or Scottish people. I am English btw.
Never met ruder people than the English ( I am not talking about the Scots). Cold, condescending and just downright mean. My experience with Americans is that they can really have their heart on their tongue and when they say something they mean it. They are honest but not always know what they are on about. Which is not so strange, since they come from a huge country and we are far away.. All in all, I generally like them a lot better than I like the English. Something in the overall mentality just clicks. (Dutchman here). Now, if the Americans were to live in England and the English in America - Europe would at once seem brighter.
I don't think Brits are rude at all, but I also don't think Americans are overly polite. I think we just accept our social and cultural norms for what they are. But when I ask how you are doing or wish you well, it is never rhetorical, and I know for many of us this is always the case (but we can also spot a fake person from a mile away). I died laughing at Joel's Theresa May impression. I hope you are both doing well!!
Yeah I think the stereotypes have some element of truth to them, but at the same time they're also called stereotypes for a reason! To be fair, most Americans I've met do seem really genuine in their politeness. It's just mainly people who work in customer service that I find a bit insincere. Glad you enjoyed my Theresa May impression! Haha!
These are both very young people, far too young to remember when real politeness and respect was a natural way of civilized life in most countries. The world has become ruder and less respectful everywhere in recent years, and Britain is no exception. Poor manners have spread everywhere with globalization, and is steadily becoming worse , worldwide.
I agree and I was checking on the coupe one time and the guy basically told me to fuck off and I checked with her if she’s fine and he said it’s nothing. Like even I can at least respond not with this guy. Like people are so rude sometimes.
When I was in London in 2004, I don't remember any British people being rude. However, they did seem cold and distant. Later in the week, I went to a pub with my wife and we heard a few British people laughing and having a good time. I thought it was really nice, but then I heard their accents better and realized they were Australians.
The Brits do pretend to be more sensitive than they really are I.e. appearing to be pissed off at the most innocuous thing. It’s a sort of narcissistic strategy and they all use it. If you want survive emotionally around a Brit, don’t take anything that do to heart - they are culturally “full of shi*”, always have been. Even British kids are full of crap.
Really? 😢Disney is a lying to me then. I was so impressed that characters inside even the vallian use politeness (those movies that speak in UK English)
It's not about the country... It's about the people... If your parents raised you well ... then you become good person.. If not.. then you become bad person... Every country are the same.. you have rude and polite people..
My conclusion, after living four years in Britain, is that British politeness is inversely proportional to the amount of alcohol they've consumed. However, Brits are a lot more fun when tipsy. P.s.: Joel's Theresa is on point and his smile is goals
I've always found people in London generally a bit more rude than elsewhere in UK. But my opinion is the reason why Brits are NOT rude is the same reason why they are not truly polite either: we are reared from a young age to never reveal our true emotions or intentions or anything personal really. Especially in public. Americans on the other hand love to display all their colours at any given chance. They tend to be more individualistic, but we tend to like conformity and not sticking one's head out. But what do I know? Great video as always (being genuinely nice here fyi xxx)
That's an interesting observation. I think you're probably right. It's definitely something instilled in us as children. Maybe we can all afford to be a bit more American. (But not too much!!!) haha x
That's an interesting observation. I think you're probably right. It's definitely something instilled in us as children. Maybe we can all afford to be a bit more American. (But not too much!!!) haha x
thombran Im american I was in a cafe today and I asked the barista what spices were in the English breakfast tea. I was acting surprised and fascinated by what she told me and realized how american I was being "oh wow!" " cool" "oh!" everyone in there probably thought I was a loon 😁
As someone who has worked customer service I 100% mean it when I say I hope you’re having a great day. Or anything of that nature. I think most of us genuinely mean it haha
Why say "thank you" when you can say "excuse me"? Makes no sense...they're in your way, don't thank them for being in your way. We just go, "excuse me, pardon me, coming through, look out" and if they don't get out of the way, "get out of my freaking way! MOVE!"
What you don't understand is Americans depended on each other in order to survive in the American frontier. It was a hard life, and without the help of others they could not build a cabin, clear the land, and all other things that they needed to survive. In the 80s I was a school psychologist in Northern Minnesota right after graduate school. I worked in 3 counties each week and had to drive 40-60 miles to work each day. As it was, the first year was the coldest winter they had on record which is extremely cold given the area has the coldest winters in the continental US. One day I pulled over to the shoulder of the road so that I could get something from my trunk, but what I didn't know was that the shoulder was really 2 feet of snow that was plowed flat. Of course I got stuck, but I did not panic even though it was 40 degrees below zero fahrenheit (below -20 celsius) because I knew that as soon as someone drove by, they would help me, although very few cars were on the road out there. Sure enough, the fist guy that drove by got out and hooked a chain to the back of my car and pulled me out. While he was doing that, someone else came by and helped him, It was in the morning and they were on their way to work so it was not something that they wanted to do and they did not know each other. As soon as they got me out of the ditch, they took off. I felt bad that I delayed them and very foolish for pulling my car in a ditch, but I will never forget how I relied on them for my life. This is the way we were brought up. You can poke fun at us, but we understand that we are all connected by a common bond, and we have been taught that by those who came before us. BTW, please don't respond with "Aw that's good to know!" because that is condescending and rude, and we DO know it.
I’m a Midwestern American and I think it’s all socially ingrained either from when you’re young by your parents and teachers, or by just trying to fit in where you’re from. In Ohio, maybe 75% of people smile at you when you pass (strangers), or they’d say something quick and friendly or hold doors for people or go out of their way to help someone... but when I go to NYC I have to train myself to not be an Ohioan essentially! I can’t smile at strangers or talk to anyone. You have to look more standoffish or you’re a weirdo. But if we acted New York in Ohio, we’d be seen as rude or impolite
Lol I'm a New Yorker and you're right. Saying hi to random people here is a big no no. We're always on the look out for weirdos and smiling and saying hi isn't essentially weird, it's just that it doesn't really go well in a big, busy city with lots of psychos running around. I have family in Cleveland and everytime I go there, the neighbors say hi and strangers say hi and I get all creeped out lol. But I try to be nice about it. But luckily, I'm not from Manhattan. Manhattan is the worst borough for politeness. Every other borough is chill and quiet-ish and a bit more friendly. Just a bit lol.
As a foreigner who has been living in Lancashire for about 10 years , I'll say "Yes , people in this region are incredibly rude even with each other. They don't greed, don't really say Hi, Sorry , Can I help you and so on . Additionally, they behave badly with the European people! They look at you all the time as I owe them something 😀🤦 Also, it's hard to see young people outside!
All in all, we Americans were taught to be polite. You speak when spoken to, or you show a visitor a warm welcome. You never make anyone feel uncomfortable when they are visiting. But be rude to us, and we will be happy to show you the border. Simple as that.
As someone who has to deal with British people daily in a huge theme park and there are the worst people to deal with there so entitled and bossy if you work in the service industry you know
As a Singaporean from Asia, I find the Poms love to nitpick & humiliate on others & embarrass them in the front of everybody for fun sake, even on a very vulgar level for a few big laughs. They even dared to mock foreigners in their own countries, my country Singapore included, how very bold. Some hate it, some love it. Very contraversial. Respect is not in their vocabulary. They can either make your day miserable, filled with furious anger or they can made your day with full of laughs without a care in the world. Hate them or love them. Choose your pick.
I can't stand when people are "snobby polite" like what they are saying is polite in context, but they say it in a way that makes them snarky. Also, I do hope anyone I say "have a good day" to, actually has a good day.
Hey, Joelia(I just made this up for you guys and found it is cute!)There is something I want to talk about what you said regarding the States. I used to live in the States and what I still think impressive is that American people are really friendly and easy going(I am here talking about things with generalising, you know, not everything is the same but mostly..) and when they say “Have a good day!” or “I hope you have a lovely day.” they do really mean it from their heart to some extent. You can tell that from their faces and smiles, and tell it better if you live in States for a few years and truly understand or come across what these people really are like. I consider myself more British cuz I am trying to be polite to people and so when I say things to people it is mainly for being polite. But when it comes to American, what they have in their mind is not ‘being polite’ but ‘being friendly’. You will notice how free, liberal, and easy going they are, and in being so, manner or politeness are factors that are less considered or prioritised. It is either being polite or being friendly as it is hardly possible to be polite(formal manner) and friendly(relieved from manner) at the same time, vice versa. And moreover, that friendliness is not the one they try to make but rather from their natural and genuine heart and soul, by which I became to realise how mentally healthy American are. I am in UK now, the country that I love the most, but sometimes I do miss American’s ‘real’ friendliness and kindness when I am among very polite but stiff British people(but very warm heart inside.)
My first impression with the interviewer was her question to your Prime Minister. Would she have asked that question to a male Prime Minister? I just don't think it was an appropriate question to a public figure. Loved the video! Thank you for sharing.
South African here who has communicated with various British people, the people in that country are so RUDE, omw. In my langauge, loosely translated we call people like that 'people who don't know another human being'. People in the UK do not know another human being, and they don’t care. In my culture its the total opposite. We live by philosophy called 'Ubuntu', which means 'a humanbeing is only a human because of other humans.' I used to think Germans were rude, British people are on another level 📈📈📈
Yes they are especially the older generation Britons that still holds onto the colonialist mentality and that they are better than the rest, easy to spot Britons overseas whether be it Spain or Bali.
My brother was stationed over there for 4 years, and he said Britts are extremely rude, and big time douche bags. I've never been, but the ones I've meet are nice!
Simon Cowell went to a British public school. This experience often creates a deep sense of insecurity and poor self-esteem, which to mask you learn to use a front of arrogance and self-superiority. This bluster is a common attribute of the British middle classes. It permeates our society and has a negative impact on the world's perception of the people and country. Brexit is a product of this insecurity and shows we are still trapped in our colonial past.
Today a British person was trying to find out where they were going and said to me, excuse me is this the M building? And I said yes… you mean M as in Mouse right? And he’s like no I mean M as in Elephants… I got confused because I thought he was looking for the “L” building after that and didn’t realize he was making fun of me… I was literally just trying to figure out if he said “M” or “N” because they are right next to each other… why would you be so rude to someone when you asked them for help
@@padfoot3014 well when I said oh I was saying that because I didn’t know if you meant “M” or “N” he ignored me, then I told him okay have a nice day, he ignored me again. So if he was not making fun of me, still rude to ignore someone who just helped you
As a Brit, I think at a young age we were all taught to never show your emotions in public and get on with your day, even if you’re fed up with everything and everyone. I think that’s why we get the rep of being ‘cold-hearted and rude’ we just don’t show what we truly feel. Americans on the other hand, I think they were taught to show their emotions (even in a public area)and be nice to everyone they meet, which to some (Europeans mainly) they come off as ‘fake’
Like burn with your frustrations and don't show up and also expect the same from others. Lambast them badly if they fail to meet the British sort of expectations (i.e. to not show emotions and frustration) and cast them as inferior ugly third world people.
Repressing your feelings is unnatural, unnecessary and unhealthy. We are not in the Victorian era anymore. Forget about the 'don't show people your weaknesses ' cr@p... c'mon we're not all spies and secret agents, it's unrealistic and just stupid 😂 repressing feelings leads to some very serious anger problems - like a pressure cooker without valve.
That’s the thing. You don’t show what you mean and communication with you guys seems so fake. It’s like people have to pretend they feel okay otherwise if they show how they feel you will label them impolite and rude..
I used to work for a broadband company's collections department in the UK. As per my experience, brits would always say kind words like "thank you" and such. But they were 70% rude in actual conversations(for me). Well my job had me forced to listen to brits asking for their broadband services to be restored though they haven't paid for months and will go all the way rude for it. They will even get angry for you declining their requests as if they're only really expecting us to approve it. I was actually still getting surprised everyday through that 2 years of experience. That doesn't happen at all in my country and people would be so polite to collections advisors. People here will not even have the audacity to call up and ask for a payment extension. And brits will dispute their bills without even looking at them or knowing they exist. They also used to always talk over when you were in the middle of explaining something important as if they do not mind what you were saying. Well that was just my experience and I haven't met all brits of course but I was just a little disappointed of how they could get
American here! Most people I know here (myself included) genuinely do mean it when we wish you well! It actually kind of sucks so many people assume we are being insincere. I think the best policy is to give people the benefit of the doubt (within reason) and try to take them at their word. Unless someone gives you reason to believe they are insincere, why would you go and get yourself all irritated by assuming they are? Seems like a very negative way to live if you ask me
Been through British airlines and they are very rude! Not as bad as the Germans, oh gosh. But in general, European people are more blunt than Americans in the west coast. (My opinion is that, even east coast Americans have British manners) I prefer Americans style of people saying hi (hope ur having a good day, etc), because I don't consider it "fake", its not as if I know them personally. But that opens conversation and its just a plain nice gesture. Also I noticed in people in Germany people are much quieter and don't engage in conversations with strangers, which is very common in the USA.
Ah yeah, Europeans don't tend to make conversations with strangers. So it's very odd to us when Americans start chatting to us! haha! Interesting you've found Germans to be more rude than Brits!
Kenna N It’s strange. I’ve heard Americans and Australians say brits are rude and reserved, whilst I’ve heard Norwegians, the Dutch, Swedish, Germans, Finns, and Danish say we’re open and friendly. I think it depends on what country you’re from and how reserved or introverted it is.
Not all Americans speak to random strangers, I have never just started chatting to people, I don't know. I am the kind of person, that will not speak to you until, I have been around you long enough to know you and, I am not being mean, it is just that I don't know what to say to the individual until I have been around the person long enough to know them.
I always get insulted by british people here on RUclips, I legit just said “America has fast trains.” And he gives me some lecture that Im not smart at all and Americans think they are the best, and etc.
I mean so many of the worlds greatest inventions of the 18th-21st century came from the US to be honest. I'm not saying we're the best but they need to recognize that we're not stupid like they claim we are.
I think there is a lack of openness in England, a lack of vulnerability. I think there’s a bit of a guarded nature there for some reason. If you want to experience REAL hospitality come to the American south. Southern hospitality is a real thing. I also experienced that level of genuineness in Southern Ireland. I have some very close English friends whom I love dearly. We’ve had conversations about this. Politeness doesn’t always translate into genuine caring. Here’s a study from the bbc itself that sheds light on the subject: www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-37762753
I found Brits to be more condescending than rude. It always seem like they're trying to smell their upper lip.... In fairness, I'm not only American I'm also from the South so I approach and talk to everyone (it comes naturally). I think I sent the Brits into sensory overload.
When I was in Germany with my study abroad class. We were on the train on our way to Belgium. This British guy yelled at someone sitting in his seat. "Get out my seat!" Like so freaking loud and so aggressive it scared me. Dude needed anger management classes.
As a Brit myself, I think it has gradually gotten worse since the 2016 EU Leave or Remain referendum. I also agree about some of the Brits when they’re abroad, being rowdy, fighting etc... It really paints us in a bad brush. Always remember your P’s and Q’s!
I'm American and personally I do mean it when I ask someone how their day is going or to have a nice one. That beep beep thing was hilarious! I love watching you guys. It maybe weird, but I put a loop of your shows on while I'm picking up around the house, i like hearing you two talk about things :D
I came to watch this video, because I just had a bad experience with some British people on a Facebook group. They were rude and judgmental toward me. Before this experience, I was sort of under the impression Brits were fairly polite overall. I'm an American, and I think the proper English accent you all have made me think that. Now I'm questioning that; however, I've never been to Britain. Perhaps they were rude just because it was Facebook, or maybe it is true that Brits are rude. At the very least, you two, Joel and Lia, seem perfectly sweet 💙
Sorry to hear about that some people over here can be quite hostile towards Americans because the only views they have on America is based on what the news tells them and so they seem to have this narrow minded view that “all Americans” are evil just because they hear about things on the news and take stereotypes way too seriously most people in Europe seem to forget that there are nice and lovely individuals living in America that just want to be friends with the world and it saddens me because you guys are enthusiastic people
@@rektified4508 Thank you for the thoughtful reply! That makes me feel better. I think we all fall victim to stereotyping, and it's important to get out of that habit. I agree that some Americans truly do fit the stereotype, but it's really a relatively small number.
I found them really really ride! The majority of them don't smile at all!! I don't live in the UK but I just studying here, And I regret to myself that I choose UK actually🤦🏻♂️💔
I'm considering a move to the UK but what gives me pause is the rude behavior from Brits I've seen online. I've been told by people who travel quite often that they have experienced anti Americanism in the UK, and to be very honest I just don't want to spend time in a cultural that is not inclusive, and based on my time online chatting with Brits they do have a entitled attitude and believe they have a right to say things that are extremely aggressive. I just don't want to miss out on living in the UK if it's a great country to live in but I also don't want to regret going to the expense of moving to the UK if it's the wrong place to live in. My question, is the UK anti American or just a rude society toward Americans?
Uk is a bit safer than usa since there is less guns the health care system is better and that’s about it. Less ghetto rap culture but still not perfectZ people can be very nasty and rude in London.
When I walk into a shop here in the U.S. and a shopkeeper or clerk says something like "hi" or "welcome," I don't see that as necessarily "fake" at all. In the first place, in order to get and keep a job like that, one tends to be a "perky" person in the first place. Sometimes it may be insincere and required by the job, but not necessarily. Likewise when Americans enter into casual friendly conversation with perfect strangers. It's quite pleasant and you are quite likely to not only have a nice conversation but either learn something you didn't know before about local goings on or also be pleasantly surprised to find out you have much in common with that person. Marriages or other lifelong friendships often begin that way. Conversely you may also find that you never want to have anything further to do with the person, although even we Americans may not say that directly and continue and end with pleasantries. Perhaps that's why sometimes it's perceived as "fake" by others. You are quite right about "that's not bad" being interpreted as less than a ringing endorsement by Americans, but we're just as guilty as you are when it comes to saying "let's get together sometime" as a meaningless exit phrase, and we can also say things like "interesting" or "I'll keep that in mind" and mean just the opposite. Our social conventions are a bit different from each other, so "when in Rome do as the Romans do" might be the best way for all of us to get along.
I've noticed that Brits use the rude in a way we don't. Offensive language and sex talk are called crude, not rude, here. What is off-putting about some Brits is that they can be polite(?) until they are at full boil, then will give you a litany of offenses that could have been avoided if stated in the first instance. Americans are very poor at mind reading but most of us like to be accommodating even if some are not without a certain gruffness.
If you think Americans are fake for asking how are you, it's because you yourself would know you're fake if you did it. It is an American standard greeting and it also the same as showing someone a smile. It tells the other person, I'm friendly and you can engage me if you'd like. If you don't want someone to speak to you, i.e. a creepy guy, you'd never ask, how are you", you just might find out. You don't understand American culture. We do not have the British arrogance of people being below our class. American have a very hard time understanding that kind of thinking. We know when someone is educated, rich or poor but we can still engage with them. The kind of class arrogance the British suffer from comes from your 'titled" class, all of you want to be better than someone else.. You bash your Monarchy and yet you all want to think yourself higher than someone else, and that is where it come from; a centuries of Lords and Ladies. Well, every few of you are any of that. But you can't escape your own culture and the best you can do is be honest with yourself and others.
When y'all say Americans are fake, that's not totally true. Now yes, when your in a shop, yes some employee's really couldn't care less if you had a good day or not. But i think that's all over the world really. Overall, if your meeting someone, making friends,etc; We are very genuine in expressing feelings.
I am Canadian. I married a Brit, and my daughter lives in London. I think Brits are rude and fake. For example, while volunteering in Ghana I shared a house with Brits. They never put their chair back under the table upon leaving it. They were so colonial in their attitude to other volunteers and the people they were there to help. Thing is they are oblivious.
I am German, but have also lived in England, and have found that British rudeness has mostly happened in recent decades, and I think is partly because of bad education at schools and also from their bad home-life, where respect and discipline is seldom taught for each other either. England is also extemely over-populated (a city-culture) and has a huge recent immigrant problem both of which tends to encourage unfriendliness....I have been to Canada and it is extremely under-populated by comparison! Corrupt British society leaders also preach selfishness and self-survival instead of a moral and unified society....I feel sorry for the British, to be honest as they have become the toilet of Europe.
London is full of people from different countries and backgrounds so they are generally rude. Brits living in London are polite and kind. Dont mix Brit Londoners with So called Londoners
Hello Joel and Lia, I consider myself to be a polite person. But, when done wrong, I'm a rude monster. Though I've never said "pardon me", I normally say "excuse me". As far as Brits being rude, it's all a matter of perception. Perhaps it has something to do with keeping a stiff upper lip, which I don't like. I prefer people to be honest and open about their emotions.
Yes I think that's definitely a major part of it. It seems to be instilled in all of us since we were children to just bottle things up and get on with it. So then the anger bubbles over all at once in rude outbursts!
A lot of people here where I live in America will say "how are you" because they're trying to strike a conversation a lot of times, at least that's how I am and it's not in any way trying to be intrusive because I consider myself to be anti-social and don't trust a lot of people but when I do say it, it's a genuine act of communication or wanting to communicate. A lot of times what I'll do is after buying something from a store or doing a business transaction I'll say things like "take it easy" or "I hope you have a good one". Are brits generally like that or does it weird them out?
I find it ironic how some British people accuse Americans of their fake friendliness, yet don't British people say "sorry" often, like do they really mean sorry?
As an Australian, I can say that us Aussie are really chills. We do says stuffs like "awesome", "great", "amazing" might sounds fake but we really means it. My maths teacher is British and her accent is so polite yet she scares me 😭 passive aggressive
The Brits that I encountered were so nice and helpful to our group of confused American tourists. We really appreciated the assistance that they offered.
Ahhhhh...suddenly I understand some aspects of your "Things Americans Say Wrong" video. Well, in the States, it can be considered rude or downright harsh to pass judgment on someone and tell them that they're wrong or bad, without first considering whether or not it was absolutely necessary to say so, or, without considering holding your tongue to spare hurt feelings. To be blunt without consideration as to how it might affect someone is definitely considered impolite, at least, or even sign of bad character. 'Tact' is a good word in context to what I'm saying. At that, wishing someone well or telling them you hope they have a good day can be considered, in the same manner, as an attempt to actually make someone feel good or better. Consider it an act of love, even from a complete stranger. If you were to snap back at them in quick judgment, accusing them of being disingenuine, it would be as if that love was not shown back. Again, a possible sign of bad character according to American society, as far as I've seen. After watching other youtubers that have traveled to America, I've noticed that it's becoming a common sentiment that we're so polite or nice that it kinda creeps them out. They're not prepared for it. I don't know if that's true or not. I also don't know if that should be considered a point of pride or weakness. All I know is that, according to how I was raised, you try to start off relating to someone else with more openness than defensiveness. I've heard it's a little more towards the opposite, in other countries. I can see how that could be considered 'fake'. As far as I know, though, usually, it's pretty warm and genuine. I can go up to complete strangers on the street and start a conversation...well, as long as they're not in a hurry. Then again, that could be a regional thing. Don't take it as an absolute, lol. I hear Canadians have us beat in this regard though, heheh. I'd love to go see that for myself. Maybe these are signs of a decadent society? Maybe it's more a bad thing than we know? Who knows. Thoughts?
I wonder if asking how people are doing related to the history of settlers the US (the South and Midwest especially). We tend to ask questions about how or what you're doing. Maybe that culture began because settlers were so isolated from each other. When you did travel into town or meet your neighbors, you needed to know if they were safe, secure, and doing alright or if they needed some help. Actually, that behavior is still pretty common in the small towns I've visited. Over time, the act of checking up on people became unnecessary, with technological and urban developments, but it's so ingrained in our culture that it's just what you do. European civilization developed so long ago and in very different circumstances, so it wouldn't be surprising that it's different.
when my wife and I were living in Exeter for a year, we were so impressed by the local people, they were so helpful, obsessed with queueing and holding the door of course. and now we are no longer living in Exeter and I am still doing what Brit people had done to us in my country, though it is not really working in here and people are shaking their heads probably it is unusual 😂
I’m a Brit and I wouldn’t say that we’re rude, we’re rather polite with our please, thank you, sorry, pardon. A lot of British people tend to have quite a crude sense of humour and are a bit blunt sometimes which probably comes off as rude to other people...
I think it is the mixture between the passive-aggressive sorry/excuse me/pardon, the excessive thank yous not always followed by a smile, and the casual racism or swift that occasionally happens when they know/realise you're a foreigner. However, I’ve met some of the most genuine and nicest people there.
J & L, every time I met a Brit was mostly on vacation, and they were always so polite. As someone born and raised in New England, but has spent time Southern America I can let you know that there is a HUGE difference. Would love to do a reply video for you guys!
Just wanted to say that you two are hilarious. 👍 I'm waiting for the Theresa May impersonation now. Hope you find the right wig. 😂 Maybe Lia could try Boris Johnson. 😂😂
There aren’t any queues in China either, trying to board a train or bus is very aggressive! For the first few days we tried to be polite and wait for our turn to board only to be left behind. We finally just did what everyone else was doing and pushed and shoved our way on board.
I don't get paid to greet my coworkers or my neighbors or people who walk past me on the street......and they don't get paid to greet me either. So, I don't find the American politeness to be "ingenuine or insincere" as you both have so often said on your channel. Now from the perspective of my religion, it is said that the smiling (and even greeting someone) is a form of charity and it's the easiest charity. I do believe that our body language and tone has an impact on others. For example, when my partner at work has an unfriendly body language toward me, it does turn me off to her and this happened frequently and it made me (and other coworkers of different cultures and backgrounds) less inclined to engage with her. Conversely, other teammates on my team that have a more friendly tone/body language ...had a more positive impact on me. This did not mean that their friendliness led me to jump up and down and do cartwheels, but it did not make me feel anxious or annoyed or putt off within myself. There have been times I've been turned off by the coldness of the receptionist at the doctor's office and even the doctor too. I'm not saying that people need to be grinning and ecstatic and talk your ear off as that can be annoying and can come across as over-the-top or insincere. But I just don't find it to be the worst thing in the world for someone (even a stranger or a server/cashier) to smile at you or greet you or bid you a good rest of the day.
“Thank you, thank you, scuse me! Sorry, thanks! So-s-sorry thank you! Ooh, whoops! Calm down, I told you I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to push you into the tracks, thanks, ooh, let’s just, uh, slither in there, okaayyy thanks sorry ooh sorry, scuse! Thanks! Ah, ooh, excuse me there sorry!!” AND I’m out of school.
Actually 90% of the time when Americans say "Have a great day" we mean it. We know how it is to have a stressful day so, unless you angered us, we really do wish you well.
Aw that's good to know!
Jesse Epperson I totally agree with this. It is social etiquette to say "Have a good day" but I really do wish for someone's day to go better, especially when they are having a bad day
Hmmmm... I guess Im the only one acting & pretending to care after saying literally 100’s of “buh-byes”&” enjoy your day!!” 😐Bad American!
Stop being an idiot ! Get out of my way. Do you hear yourself guy? The more I listen to you two the more I feel disappointed that you seem so nice until the entitled sense sneaks out. I do hope you have a good day. Why is that hard to accept? You see. That is you. You thought that. It is difficult to understand.
Jesse Epperson Yes I agree. Just because we sound too excited when wishing someone well, does not mean it is insincere. Americans are definitely more open than the British which is a huge cultural difference. Whether an American is being fake or real when they say “have a nice day”, I feel that automatically puts a person in a positive mood rather than having a British person be “real” and just stare at you without saying a word acting like they would rather not be there as they are scanning your products. It brings out negative energy.
"I'm not rude, but everyone else is" That is the very definition of arrogance and snobbish rudeness.
Thanks
haha.. hmm.. she's the epitome of how i find english people. actually, yes, i DO care if you're having a good day! some people aren't as self centred as you are, lady
Everybody is rude and it's ok if you feel like that. Being fake is annoying and unhealthy af.
I can pretty much guarantee these two presenting are stuck up rude English snobs.
That is the most arrogant thing I’ve ever heard I agree with you
I have been lived england for 3 years as I'm hungarian, they all insulted me, there are so many 10 year old kid are swearing and fighting
As an American expat living in London for 5 years, I would say Brits are fairly rude and incredibly judgemental. My partner is English, so don't get me wrong, I love the Brits, but I do find it a bit wearing at times. I miss the "small talk" and friendliness of America, it's really not fake at all, we may not want your life story, but saying "have a great day" or "how are you", is part of our culture and not fake! ...Great video!
R F People from London are VERY different from the rest of the UK
I agree with you wholeheartedly! I'm British living in the USA and whilst I love to go home on occasion, to soak up the culture, I cannot wait to return to the land of happy people! The Brits have a fantastic sense of humour but my goodness are they negative and as you say, very judgemental. It's a learned trait and it's hard for people to be critical of themselves when you are surrounded by like-minded folk. After 2 weeks in the UK, I am usually more than ready to return home. Although, I have to say I don't put the Scottish in the same bracket (outside of city centers), they're truly wonderful people.
Thats strange because in most parts of the UK people will talk to you and wish you a good day. Unless you're in London.
I wayched the video long time ago. I am Russian, i was thinking the guys from Britain i met jusy were to caution about Russia so were too distant and cold😂 as we are breaking all the private distance to their mind as i ask (even ppl in Russia are very polite and sympathetic)
@@JamesSmith-cm7sg Not in the southern home counties they won't.
I think British people come off as rude and they tend to pick on people. There is nothing wrong with being polite to people.
Or being like a british, nothing bad about that. ;)
I'm English & I couldn't agree more! I think a lot of Brits are mean & do pick on people
I am English living in Spain and British community can be judgemental, most US are nice in general
@@tarotbyamber7233 I don't understand why they are this way, Amber.
@@SashaMoniqueTalks yes as the saying goes good manners cost nothing
Living with 3 brits and as an Indian I can say all 3 of them are super rude. The problem is brits fail to accept the fact that there are people have different views, cultures, way of living, languages. they are never going to accept anything that is different.
@@ganesanchandran9515 well they at least put up with you, that's more than most countries would do. Also no smoke without fire you probably irritate them and putting on some deodorant will help you too
being rude is like breathing for them.. lol
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Good one 😂😂😂
You are absolutely right!
Bruts are a rude bunch.
I am Hispanic my wife is British we have been together for 10 years and she has changed a lot, but her family specially her dad is very rude, arrogant, he always seems mad, he show no love, emotions, compassion, he doesn't use the word please or thank you. Sometimes I feel like they are just miserable and cold at heart.
What part of Britain? I find Liverpool people quite rude nowadays.
I'm English and sorry to hear about this, I can assure you most of us are polite
Any conversations that I have engaged in the involves a person from the UK has always been nega tive, ru de people.
Notice that even the word 'please'. might come from french language.
The weather in the UK sends people loopy. They are a horrendous nation
I wouldn't say rude per se. I just think brits in general like being really passive aggressive.
Extremely.
Yes very! haha. We seem to be experts at that!
Just my people.
I agree that it's got to do with the passive aggressive vibe.
because no sun and no vitmin D lol
My husband is in the UK right now, and just told me how people in UK are rude. He told me of a couple of experiences.
I really mean it when i say "have a great day." I wont say it if i don't mean it. I am seething if people are not polite back when i am polite. Like... say thank you if i hold the door for you. If you bump, or push me walking by... say excuse me. I will be pretty pissed if you don't apologize or say something in a polite manner...
As an American I do truly mean it when I wish someone a good day, yes we get paid to be nice but we are nicer to the people who are nice to us at work. You can tell the fake forced customer service and the genuine nice interation with a nice customer.
Breanne Nichols no Americans are fake
@Crewmate yeah right
@Crewmate it’s alright to say have a good day or night overall.
@Crewmate not everybody.
@Crewmate I’m American myself. We have our flaws; some of which are being belittling of others, arrogance, excessive pride that often turns violent, and thoughtlessness. Also, we lash out at others when we don’t get the things that we seek. I’m likely guilty of this as well, but Americans often don’t know when to be quiet and humble. (Especially in the northeast, where folks are basically slave workers who live with the misbelief that if they work overtime and earn $80,000 a year that everything will be flawless and lavish meanwhile they forget that life’s also about living not just working all the time. In closing, we have our flaws
I find that most Americans really want you to have a great day...
Lol I genuinely want you to have a great day
So true. We, Americans, really are optimists and well wisher.
Diego Fianza they’d think I was super fake af
I think that non-Americans don't realize Americans really do care. J and L don't understand the American Psyche especially where a person working in a shop (store) really wishes you to have a good day (To me that's just Cali Love or Hawaiian Islander Love).
We really do!
When Americans at a store say "how are you?" yes, they don't really want to know any great details, but it is a customary way of saying hello. It's not fake it's just the way we do it.
Also, I think it's just more common to speak to and have good conversation with strangers in the US.
I think overall Americans are a lot friendlier than Brits. Which is why it comes across as fake to us, because we're not used to it!
British English with Joel & Lia
Well...we are, except for introverts.
I think there's a lot of variation in how genuine Americans are with their greetings. Here in the south many are genuinely sincere about it and really do hope you have a great day, or you're doing well, or whatever it is they are saying, then right next door is the overly rehearsed greeting that you know isn't real.
Jaime Ramos Honestly, it depends on what state the person is from. People in the Southern states and the midwestern states honestly mean it. I’m from the the New York area and I used to think as you do. Trust me they mean it.
It would be fun if we could do something like.. paying 20-30 people to visit a store. And every time Americans say "how are you?", they come up with a reply 10-15 minutes long ranting about how bad the day was. I guess they would probably not say it again :D
The passive aggression is real
i feel Uneasy Round British poeple
I'm a Brit, and I don't blame you.
Americans in general truly are super friendly. So yes, I do feel we are sincere when we say "have a nice day!"
Except in New york .New Yorkers are actually rude .
I went to NYC and definitely didn't get a friendly vibe
Brits especially in London, can be very snobby and arrogant.
John Otuwehinmi from London, and that is so true^
I would say outside the South East Brits are not snobby at all but are in the South East, Essex for example
Stacey Raven actually depends, Ive been in proper oldskool east London pubs and the guys there are as chilled out as anyone
@Stacey Raven Exactly. It is difficult to go about your business when idiotic tourists block the entrances to the underground platforms and stand at the bottom of escalators reading maps; oblivious to the hundreds of people coming down behind them.
We’re proud
It's so true on the outside they're so nice and polite but underneath they're pissed😂☺️
haha, yep! We are experts at that!
Noor then you have Russians who are just constantly letting you know that they’re pissed 24/7 😂😂😂
True, especially when that really annoying dumb person on your English table keeps asking for the answers and you get soo annoyed you say "WORK IT OUT FOR YOUSELF"
Maybe, not so true...
@@ThoseTwoBrits1 Not something to be proud of.
I got into international customer service in my late teens. I was in that job for 22 long years. Without a doubt, some of the rudest people I have come across have been British.
Their attitudes have effected me so much, to this day, I have bitter memories of that era. When I hear British accent even after so many years of leaving that job, my skin still crawls and bad memories come back. To a very large extent, I feel I have been psychologically effected. If any Brit happens to read this, please teach your children never to ‘be that’ towards another. At least the future generations must stop this rude/judgmental/arrogant and condescending attitude . Folks like us in the receiving end could certainly be damaged in many ways.
What I would do if I were you is journalism... I write down my bad memories and receive closure as I write... Maybe you didn’t receive closure... I’m here because I came from Instagram and some British were super rude, but I know that not all British are like that and many of them are nice
@@nicolen3177 Thanks for the reply, and I agree with you that i did not receive closure nor justice. in customer service it is not possible to have closure often. It has piled up over the years and now, when I even hear British accent, I kinda get angry - Fact! I also know generalizing isn’t right. Sure there are pleasant people out there too.
OMG. I relate to this a lot. My job is a little similar to what you described in your comment. I just freeze and stop breathing when I hear a British accent at my work.
This country is going down the sinkhole and all you can care about is getting some clout for being a victim of what, old grumps that "traumatized" you? Grow a pair, you're pathetic.
@@MytempusIC sorry that you had this bad experience. I’m British and agree with you they are a nation of arrogant dickheads. But in some places they can be alright even though they are a bit closed
As a South African it is our culture to ask someone how’s their day, have a blessed day today. May God bless you, etc. We are very apologetic in almost everything, if you walk in someone’s way, we say sorry, if we need to move through the line we say “sorry, sorry,sorry, lol 😂 , we are a very helpful nation. We love praying for one another as well.
When people say “excuse me” they usually say it at a volume that directly correlates to how much they need you to move
haha! That's so true!! 😂
I agree with that.
I'm an introvert so I just say it quietly ; NOBODY EVER hears me!!!!!!!
Fuck the Tories this system is fucked you make me sick you rude jokers
I lived in England for 10 years as an international and work with Brits for many years, they are polite and seems very kind but you know them more you will feel they are COLD, they don't really care about your feeling.
I am Asian woman, just came across a rude old english woman, screaming at me ‘Excuse Me, do not throw any trash on sweet’, i was actually picking up my trash, not throwing. I would hope that lady to educate her own teenager in the country of not throwing trash in tube and train station.
Wait wait wait wait... How is "I hope you're having a great day?" any more or less disingenuous than continually saying, "thank you" while bumping into each person when exiting the "chube" ?
Tube, not chube. It's another name for the London Underground.
When I was in London I just met super polite people. Even a policeman smiled at me. People always tried to help me if I was lost. The only weird situation was a drunk guy who approached me but he was "sweet" he said "I love you" hahaha Brits
So are you white or black / mixed race then?
@chrxstiyan Nah London is worse full of fried oiled chicken on the floor with energy drinks and roadmen and gangsters wannabe trying to act cool and have a reason to stab you.
Ok thats cool
I'm American and naturally very kind, a geniuine friendly person. That said, I live in Texas and I've lived in many states in the US. I find the southern states incredibly warm and friendly (known for Southern Hospitality). I've lived outside Chicago and it's less friendly there. I really feel it depends where you visit.
Anybody who has worked in customer service in Britain can tell you that British people are rude as hell. Although, in my experience, Irish and Welsh people are more polite than English or Scottish people. I am English btw.
Welsh are lovely I was there last year all store staff very warm. Liverpool?!! Ugh !! Rude As Hell!!
The Brit I dealt with weren't rude at surface. They are rather arrogant and rude inside.
That is the fakeness that I hate 🙂↕️
Never met ruder people than the English ( I am not talking about the Scots). Cold, condescending and just downright mean. My experience with Americans is that they can really have their heart on their tongue and when they say something they mean it. They are honest but not always know what they are on about. Which is not so strange, since they come from a huge country and we are far away.. All in all, I generally like them a lot better than I like the English. Something in the overall mentality just clicks. (Dutchman here).
Now, if the Americans were to live in England and the English in America - Europe would at once seem brighter.
I don't think Brits are rude at all, but I also don't think Americans are overly polite. I think we just accept our social and cultural norms for what they are. But when I ask how you are doing or wish you well, it is never rhetorical, and I know for many of us this is always the case (but we can also spot a fake person from a mile away). I died laughing at Joel's Theresa May impression. I hope you are both doing well!!
Yeah I think the stereotypes have some element of truth to them, but at the same time they're also called stereotypes for a reason! To be fair, most Americans I've met do seem really genuine in their politeness. It's just mainly people who work in customer service that I find a bit insincere. Glad you enjoyed my Theresa May impression! Haha!
These are both very young people, far too young to remember when real politeness and respect was a natural way of civilized life in most countries. The world has become ruder and less respectful everywhere in recent years, and Britain is no exception. Poor manners have spread everywhere with globalization, and is steadily becoming worse , worldwide.
I agree and I was checking on the coupe one time and the guy basically told me to fuck off and I checked with her if she’s fine and he said it’s nothing. Like even I can at least respond not with this guy. Like people are so rude sometimes.
When I was in London in 2004, I don't remember any British people being rude. However, they did seem cold and distant. Later in the week, I went to a pub with my wife and we heard a few British people laughing and having a good time. I thought it was really nice, but then I heard their accents better and realized they were Australians.
You had me in the first half NGL
I guess that Australians are of English origin.
So true! I am a Canadian married to a Brit. You can annoy a Brit by simply saying ”Hello”. 👌 I do it all the time. 😅
Hello I'm English lol
The Brits do pretend to be more sensitive than they really are I.e. appearing to be pissed off at the most innocuous thing. It’s a sort of narcissistic strategy and they all use it. If you want survive emotionally around a Brit, don’t take anything that do to heart - they are culturally “full of shi*”, always have been. Even British kids are full of crap.
Really? 😢Disney is a lying to me then. I was so impressed that characters inside even the vallian use politeness (those movies that speak in UK English)
It's not about the country... It's about the people... If your parents raised you well ... then you become good person.. If not.. then you become bad person... Every country are the same.. you have rude and polite people..
My conclusion, after living four years in Britain, is that British politeness is inversely proportional to the amount of alcohol they've consumed. However, Brits are a lot more fun when tipsy. P.s.: Joel's Theresa is on point and his smile is goals
Hahaha that's probably true!!! Aw thanks 😄
I've always found people in London generally a bit more rude than elsewhere in UK. But my opinion is the reason why Brits are NOT rude is the same reason why they are not truly polite either: we are reared from a young age to never reveal our true emotions or intentions or anything personal really. Especially in public. Americans on the other hand love to display all their colours at any given chance. They tend to be more individualistic, but we tend to like conformity and not sticking one's head out. But what do I know? Great video as always (being genuinely nice here fyi xxx)
thombran The same goes in Moscow. ☺
That's an interesting observation. I think you're probably right. It's definitely something instilled in us as children. Maybe we can all afford to be a bit more American. (But not too much!!!) haha x
That's an interesting observation. I think you're probably right. It's definitely something instilled in us as children. Maybe we can all afford to be a bit more American. (But not too much!!!) haha x
thombran Im american I was in a cafe today and I asked the barista what spices were in the English breakfast tea. I was acting surprised and fascinated by what she told me and realized how american I was being "oh wow!" " cool" "oh!" everyone in there probably thought I was a loon 😁
yes. i get really hurt because I express my emotions and my colleagues in US love it and colleagues in UK don't like it.
I've came across some very rude Brits online. I have to admit.
@catarina jerez A Brit is a Brit. Online or offline makes no difference.
Excessively polite with cruel intentions. All over the internet.
As someone who has worked customer service I 100% mean it when I say I hope you’re having a great day. Or anything of that nature. I think most of us genuinely mean it haha
Why say "thank you" when you can say "excuse me"? Makes no sense...they're in your way, don't thank them for being in your way.
We just go, "excuse me, pardon me, coming through, look out" and if they don't get out of the way, "get out of my freaking way! MOVE!"
What you don't understand is Americans depended on each other in order to survive in the American frontier. It was a hard life, and without the help of others they could not build a cabin, clear the land, and all other things that they needed to survive. In the 80s I was a school psychologist in Northern Minnesota right after graduate school. I worked in 3 counties each week and had to drive 40-60 miles to work each day. As it was, the first year was the coldest winter they had on record which is extremely cold given the area has the coldest winters in the continental US. One day I pulled over to the shoulder of the road so that I could get something from my trunk, but what I didn't know was that the shoulder was really 2 feet of snow that was plowed flat. Of course I got stuck, but I did not panic even though it was 40 degrees below zero fahrenheit (below -20 celsius) because I knew that as soon as someone drove by, they would help me, although very few cars were on the road out there. Sure enough, the fist guy that drove by got out and hooked a chain to the back of my car and pulled me out. While he was doing that, someone else came by and helped him, It was in the morning and they were on their way to work so it was not something that they wanted to do and they did not know each other. As soon as they got me out of the ditch, they took off. I felt bad that I delayed them and very foolish for pulling my car in a ditch, but I will never forget how I relied on them for my life. This is the way we were brought up. You can poke fun at us, but we understand that we are all connected by a common bond, and we have been taught that by those who came before us. BTW, please don't respond with "Aw that's good to know!" because that is condescending and rude, and we DO know it.
I’m a Midwestern American and I think it’s all socially ingrained either from when you’re young by your parents and teachers, or by just trying to fit in where you’re from. In Ohio, maybe 75% of people smile at you when you pass (strangers), or they’d say something quick and friendly or hold doors for people or go out of their way to help someone... but when I go to NYC I have to train myself to not be an Ohioan essentially! I can’t smile at strangers or talk to anyone. You have to look more standoffish or you’re a weirdo. But if we acted New York in Ohio, we’d be seen as rude or impolite
Lol I'm a New Yorker and you're right. Saying hi to random people here is a big no no. We're always on the look out for weirdos and smiling and saying hi isn't essentially weird, it's just that it doesn't really go well in a big, busy city with lots of psychos running around. I have family in Cleveland and everytime I go there, the neighbors say hi and strangers say hi and I get all creeped out lol. But I try to be nice about it. But luckily, I'm not from Manhattan. Manhattan is the worst borough for politeness. Every other borough is chill and quiet-ish and a bit more friendly. Just a bit lol.
As a foreigner who has been living in Lancashire for about 10 years , I'll say "Yes , people in this region are incredibly rude even with each other. They don't greed, don't really say Hi, Sorry , Can I help you and so on .
Additionally, they behave badly with the European people!
They look at you all the time as I owe them something 😀🤦 Also, it's hard to see young people outside!
All in all, we Americans were taught to be polite. You speak when spoken to, or you show a visitor a warm welcome. You never make anyone feel uncomfortable when they are visiting. But be rude to us, and we will be happy to show you the border. Simple as that.
It's not being fake, it's called being a decent human being.
As someone who has to deal with British people daily in a huge theme park and there are the worst people to deal with there so entitled and bossy if you work in the service industry you know
As a Singaporean from Asia, I find the Poms love to nitpick & humiliate on others & embarrass them in the front of everybody for fun sake, even on a very vulgar level for a few big laughs. They even dared to mock foreigners in their own countries, my country Singapore included, how very bold. Some hate it, some love it. Very contraversial. Respect is not in their vocabulary. They can either make your day miserable, filled with furious anger or they can made your day with full of laughs without a care in the world. Hate them or love them. Choose your pick.
I can't stand when people are "snobby polite" like what they are saying is polite in context, but they say it in a way that makes them snarky. Also, I do hope anyone I say "have a good day" to, actually has a good day.
Hey, Joelia(I just made this up for you guys and found it is cute!)There is something I want to talk about what you said regarding the States. I used to live in the States and what I still think impressive is that American people are really friendly and easy going(I am here talking about things with generalising, you know, not everything is the same but mostly..) and when they say “Have a good day!” or “I hope you have a lovely day.” they do really mean it from their heart to some extent. You can tell that from their faces and smiles, and tell it better if you live in States for a few years and truly understand or come across what these people really are like. I consider myself more British cuz I am trying to be polite to people and so when I say things to people it is mainly for being polite. But when it comes to American, what they have in their mind is not ‘being polite’ but ‘being friendly’. You will notice how free, liberal, and easy going they are, and in being so, manner or politeness are factors that are less considered or prioritised. It is either being polite or being friendly as it is hardly possible to be polite(formal manner) and friendly(relieved from manner) at the same time, vice versa. And moreover, that friendliness is not the one they try to make but rather from their natural and genuine heart and soul, by which I became to realise how mentally healthy American are. I am in UK now, the country that I love the most, but sometimes I do miss American’s ‘real’ friendliness and kindness when I am among very polite but stiff British people(but very warm heart inside.)
My first impression with the interviewer was her question to your Prime Minister. Would she have asked that question to a male Prime Minister? I just don't think it was an appropriate question to a public figure. Loved the video! Thank you for sharing.
South African here who has communicated with various British people, the people in that country are so RUDE, omw. In my langauge, loosely translated we call people like that 'people who don't know another human being'. People in the UK do not know another human being, and they don’t care. In my culture its the total opposite. We live by philosophy called 'Ubuntu', which means 'a humanbeing is only a human because of other humans.' I used to think Germans were rude, British people are on another level 📈📈📈
Yes they are especially the older generation Britons that still holds onto the colonialist mentality and that they are better than the rest, easy to spot Britons overseas whether be it Spain or Bali.
My brother was stationed over there for 4 years, and he said Britts are extremely rude, and big time douche bags. I've never been, but the ones I've meet are nice!
The foreigners in London pretending to be British with the accent are some of the biggest scammers and cunts I ever met. Nasty.
Simon Cowell went to a British public school. This experience often creates a deep sense of insecurity and poor self-esteem, which to mask you learn to use a front of arrogance and self-superiority. This bluster is a common attribute of the British middle classes. It permeates our society and has a negative impact on the world's perception of the people and country. Brexit is a product of this insecurity and shows we are still trapped in our colonial past.
Today a British person was trying to find out where they were going and said to me, excuse me is this the M building? And I said yes… you mean M as in Mouse right? And he’s like no I mean M as in Elephants… I got confused because I thought he was looking for the “L” building after that and didn’t realize he was making fun of me… I was literally just trying to figure out if he said “M” or “N” because they are right next to each other… why would you be so rude to someone when you asked them for help
Hmmmm i don't think he was making fun of u but oh well
@@padfoot3014 well when I said oh I was saying that because I didn’t know if you meant “M” or “N” he ignored me, then I told him okay have a nice day, he ignored me again. So if he was not making fun of me, still rude to ignore someone who just helped you
@@marinajean oh ok sorry my bad then
@@padfoot3014 Yeah maybe I should have talked about it in the original comment
@@marinajean ok brother
OMG, Joel! That impersonation was dead on and SO funny! 😂😂😂
As a Brit, I think at a young age we were all taught to never show your emotions in public and get on with your day, even if you’re fed up with everything and everyone.
I think that’s why we get the rep of being ‘cold-hearted and rude’ we just don’t show what we truly feel.
Americans on the other hand, I think they were taught to show their emotions (even in a public area)and be nice to everyone they meet, which to some (Europeans mainly) they come off as ‘fake’
Like burn with your frustrations and don't show up and also expect the same from others. Lambast them badly if they fail to meet the British sort of expectations (i.e. to not show emotions and frustration) and cast them as inferior ugly third world people.
Repressing your feelings is unnatural, unnecessary and unhealthy. We are not in the Victorian era anymore. Forget about the 'don't show people your weaknesses ' cr@p... c'mon we're not all spies and secret agents, it's unrealistic and just stupid 😂 repressing feelings leads to some very serious anger problems - like a pressure cooker without valve.
I rather be “fake” than to deal with rudeness
That’s the thing. You don’t show what you mean and communication with you guys seems so fake. It’s like people have to pretend they feel okay otherwise if they show how they feel you will label them impolite and rude..
When I tell someone I hope they have a great day, even if they are a stranger, I REALLY mean it.
I used to work for a broadband company's collections department in the UK. As per my experience, brits would always say kind words like "thank you" and such. But they were 70% rude in actual conversations(for me). Well my job had me forced to listen to brits asking for their broadband services to be restored though they haven't paid for months and will go all the way rude for it. They will even get angry for you declining their requests as if they're only really expecting us to approve it. I was actually still getting surprised everyday through that 2 years of experience. That doesn't happen at all in my country and people would be so polite to collections advisors. People here will not even have the audacity to call up and ask for a payment extension. And brits will dispute their bills without even looking at them or knowing they exist. They also used to always talk over when you were in the middle of explaining something important as if they do not mind what you were saying. Well that was just my experience and I haven't met all brits of course but I was just a little disappointed of how they could get
No one likes paying bills lol
And which country are you from, lovely soul? Thank you for sharing your experience
American here! Most people I know here (myself included) genuinely do mean it when we wish you well! It actually kind of sucks so many people assume we are being insincere. I think the best policy is to give people the benefit of the doubt (within reason) and try to take them at their word. Unless someone gives you reason to believe they are insincere, why would you go and get yourself all irritated by assuming they are? Seems like a very negative way to live if you ask me
Brits really never came off as rude IMO. That's just the way they are, at least in London.
Been through British airlines and they are very rude! Not as bad as the Germans, oh gosh. But in general, European people are more blunt than Americans in the west coast. (My opinion is that, even east coast Americans have British manners) I prefer Americans style of people saying hi (hope ur having a good day, etc), because I don't consider it "fake", its not as if I know them personally. But that opens conversation and its just a plain nice gesture. Also I noticed in people in Germany people are much quieter and don't engage in conversations with strangers, which is very common in the USA.
Ah yeah, Europeans don't tend to make conversations with strangers. So it's very odd to us when Americans start chatting to us! haha! Interesting you've found Germans to be more rude than Brits!
Kenna N because Germans are by far more rude than brits haha but it's alright. That's how we germans are 🙈
As an American, I can say that you are spot-on!! We just want to open the atmosphere for conversation, like you said.
Kenna N It’s strange. I’ve heard Americans and Australians say brits are rude and reserved, whilst I’ve heard Norwegians, the Dutch, Swedish, Germans, Finns, and Danish say we’re open and friendly. I think it depends on what country you’re from and how reserved or introverted it is.
Not all Americans speak to random strangers, I have never just started chatting to people, I don't know. I am the kind of person, that will not speak to you until, I have been around you long enough to know you and, I am not being mean, it is just that I don't know what to say to the individual until I have been around the person long enough to know them.
I always get insulted by british people here on RUclips, I legit just said “America has fast trains.” And he gives me some lecture that Im not smart at all and Americans think they are the best, and etc.
Lmao yeah and on kik
I mean so many of the worlds greatest inventions of the 18th-21st century came from the US to be honest. I'm not saying we're the best but they need to recognize that we're not stupid like they claim we are.
I think there is a lack of openness in England, a lack of vulnerability. I think there’s a bit of a guarded nature there for some reason. If you want to experience REAL hospitality come to the American south. Southern hospitality is a real thing. I also experienced that level of genuineness in Southern Ireland. I have some very close English friends whom I love dearly. We’ve had conversations about this. Politeness doesn’t always translate into genuine caring. Here’s a study from the bbc itself that sheds light on the subject: www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-37762753
I found Brits to be more condescending than rude. It always seem like they're trying to smell their upper lip.... In fairness, I'm not only American I'm also from the South so I approach and talk to everyone (it comes naturally). I think I sent the Brits into sensory overload.
No, the British are quite simply indifferent to you.
they are ludicrous and still believe they are the empire on which the sun never sets
The flight attendants treated me really bad... I had a connection in the UK 🇬🇧 from Madrid to LA... They looked at me like a peasant!!! Not cool
When I was in Germany with my study abroad class. We were on the train on our way to Belgium. This British guy yelled at someone sitting in his seat. "Get out my seat!" Like so freaking loud and so aggressive it scared me. Dude needed anger management classes.
In Canada its pretty normal to make small talk with strangers, but most of my European friends find that really strange.
As a Brit myself, I think it has gradually gotten worse since the 2016 EU Leave or Remain referendum. I also agree about some of the Brits when they’re abroad, being rowdy, fighting etc... It really paints us in a bad brush. Always remember your P’s and Q’s!
Can you explain those things you said?? The EU leave or remain refenderum??
I'm American and personally I do mean it when I ask someone how their day is going or to have a nice one. That beep beep thing was hilarious! I love watching you guys.
It maybe weird, but I put a loop of your shows on while I'm picking up around the house, i like hearing you two talk about things :D
I came to watch this video, because I just had a bad experience with some British people on a Facebook group. They were rude and judgmental toward me. Before this experience, I was sort of under the impression Brits were fairly polite overall. I'm an American, and I think the proper English accent you all have made me think that. Now I'm questioning that; however, I've never been to Britain. Perhaps they were rude just because it was Facebook, or maybe it is true that Brits are rude. At the very least, you two, Joel and Lia, seem perfectly sweet 💙
Do worry about it,at least you Americans beat the British back in the war of independance.
@@andrewbarrett42 Thanks! I try to let things slide. We did beat the Brits! But I still think of them as our cousins across the pond.
@@stephaniecrahal5336 Really when an American think of Brits they are going to think losers.
Sorry to hear about that some people over here can be quite hostile towards Americans because the only views they have on America is based on what the news tells them and so they seem to have this narrow minded view that “all Americans” are evil just because they hear about things on the news and take stereotypes way too seriously most people in Europe seem to forget that there are nice and lovely individuals living in America that just want to be friends with the world and it saddens me because you guys are enthusiastic people
@@rektified4508 Thank you for the thoughtful reply! That makes me feel better. I think we all fall victim to stereotyping, and it's important to get out of that habit. I agree that some Americans truly do fit the stereotype, but it's really a relatively small number.
I found them really really ride! The majority of them don't smile at all!! I don't live in the UK but I just studying here, And I regret to myself that I choose UK actually🤦🏻♂️💔
I find the foreigners in London really nasty and rude the London people born here are ok
I'm considering a move to the UK but what gives me pause is the rude behavior from Brits I've seen online. I've been told by people who travel quite often that they have experienced anti Americanism in the UK, and to be very honest I just don't want to spend time in a cultural that is not inclusive, and based on my time online chatting with Brits they do have a entitled attitude and believe they have a right to say things that are extremely aggressive. I just don't want to miss out on living in the UK if it's a great country to live in but I also don't want to regret going to the expense of moving to the UK if it's the wrong place to live in. My question, is the UK anti American or just a rude society toward Americans?
Young British are rude. Years ago ppl used to have more respect but these days all ppl care about is how they look.
Uk is a bit safer than usa since there is less guns the health care system is better and that’s about it. Less ghetto rap culture but still not perfectZ people can be very nasty and rude in London.
When I walk into a shop here in the U.S. and a shopkeeper or clerk says something like "hi" or "welcome," I don't see that as necessarily "fake" at all. In the first place, in order to get and keep a job like that, one tends to be a "perky" person in the first place. Sometimes it may be insincere and required by the job, but not necessarily.
Likewise when Americans enter into casual friendly conversation with perfect strangers. It's quite pleasant and you are quite likely to not only have a nice conversation but either learn something you didn't know before about local goings on or also be pleasantly surprised to find out you have much in common with that person. Marriages or other lifelong friendships often begin that way. Conversely you may also find that you never want to have anything further to do with the person, although even we Americans may not say that directly and continue and end with pleasantries. Perhaps that's why sometimes it's perceived as "fake" by others.
You are quite right about "that's not bad" being interpreted as less than a ringing endorsement by Americans, but we're just as guilty as you are when it comes to saying "let's get together sometime" as a meaningless exit phrase, and we can also say things like "interesting" or "I'll keep that in mind" and mean just the opposite.
Our social conventions are a bit different from each other, so "when in Rome do as the Romans do" might be the best way for all of us to get along.
Icily polite. Friendly, rarely.
I've noticed that Brits use the rude in a way we don't. Offensive language and sex talk are called crude, not rude, here. What is off-putting about some Brits is that they can be polite(?) until they are at full boil, then will give you a litany of offenses that could have been avoided if stated in the first instance. Americans are very poor at mind reading but most of us like to be accommodating even if some are not without a certain gruffness.
If you think Americans are fake for asking how are you, it's because you yourself would know you're fake if you did it. It is an American standard greeting and it also the same as showing someone a smile. It tells the other person, I'm friendly and you can engage me if you'd like. If you don't want someone to speak to you, i.e. a creepy guy, you'd never ask, how are you", you just might find out. You don't understand American culture. We do not have the British arrogance of people being below our class. American have a very hard time understanding that kind of thinking. We know when someone is educated, rich or poor but we can still engage with them. The kind of class arrogance the British suffer from comes from your 'titled" class, all of you want to be better than someone else.. You bash your Monarchy and yet you all want to think yourself higher than someone else, and that is where it come from; a centuries of Lords and Ladies. Well, every few of you are any of that. But you can't escape your own culture and the best you can do is be honest with yourself and others.
When y'all say Americans are fake, that's not totally true. Now yes, when your in a shop, yes some employee's really couldn't care less if you had a good day or not. But i think that's all over the world really. Overall, if your meeting someone, making friends,etc; We are very genuine in expressing feelings.
I am Canadian. I married a Brit, and my daughter lives in London. I think Brits are rude and fake. For example, while volunteering in Ghana I shared a house with Brits. They never put their chair back under the table upon leaving it. They were so colonial in their attitude to other volunteers and the people they were there to help. Thing is they are oblivious.
I am German, but have also lived in England, and have found that British rudeness has mostly happened in recent decades, and I think is partly because of bad education at schools and also from their bad home-life, where respect and discipline is seldom taught for each other either. England is also extemely over-populated (a city-culture) and has a huge recent immigrant problem both of which tends to encourage unfriendliness....I have been to Canada and it is extremely under-populated by comparison! Corrupt British society leaders also preach selfishness and self-survival instead of a moral and unified society....I feel sorry for the British, to be honest as they have become the toilet of Europe.
London is full of people from different countries and backgrounds so they are generally rude. Brits living in London are polite and kind. Dont mix Brit Londoners with So called Londoners
Hello Joel and Lia, I consider myself to be a polite person. But, when done wrong, I'm a rude monster. Though I've never said "pardon me", I normally say "excuse me". As far as Brits being rude, it's all a matter of perception. Perhaps it has something to do with keeping a stiff upper lip, which I don't like. I prefer people to be honest and open about their emotions.
Yes I think that's definitely a major part of it. It seems to be instilled in all of us since we were children to just bottle things up and get on with it. So then the anger bubbles over all at once in rude outbursts!
Absolutely rude
A lot of people here where I live in America will say "how are you" because they're trying to strike a conversation a lot of times, at least that's how I am and it's not in any way trying to be intrusive because I consider myself to be anti-social and don't trust a lot of people but when I do say it, it's a genuine act of communication or wanting to communicate. A lot of times what I'll do is after buying something from a store or doing a business transaction I'll say things like "take it easy" or "I hope you have a good one". Are brits generally like that or does it weird them out?
I find it ironic how some British people accuse Americans of their fake friendliness, yet don't British people say "sorry" often, like do they really mean sorry?
Number one in rudeness
I think Brits are lovely, at least those we encountered in London were. Much more polite than many Americans.
I'm sorry but you can be direct with people without being cocky, snobby and rude.
As an Australian, I can say that us Aussie are really chills. We do says stuffs like "awesome", "great", "amazing" might sounds fake but we really means it. My maths teacher is British and her accent is so polite yet she scares me 😭 passive aggressive
The Brits that I encountered were so nice and helpful to our group of confused American tourists. We really appreciated the assistance that they offered.
Ah that's great! Glad they treated you nicely!
Ahhhhh...suddenly I understand some aspects of your "Things Americans Say Wrong" video.
Well, in the States, it can be considered rude or downright harsh to pass judgment on someone and tell them that they're wrong or bad, without first considering whether or not it was absolutely necessary to say so, or, without considering holding your tongue to spare hurt feelings. To be blunt without consideration as to how it might affect someone is definitely considered impolite, at least, or even sign of bad character. 'Tact' is a good word in context to what I'm saying.
At that, wishing someone well or telling them you hope they have a good day can be considered, in the same manner, as an attempt to actually make someone feel good or better. Consider it an act of love, even from a complete stranger. If you were to snap back at them in quick judgment, accusing them of being disingenuine, it would be as if that love was not shown back. Again, a possible sign of bad character according to American society, as far as I've seen.
After watching other youtubers that have traveled to America, I've noticed that it's becoming a common sentiment that we're so polite or nice that it kinda creeps them out. They're not prepared for it. I don't know if that's true or not. I also don't know if that should be considered a point of pride or weakness. All I know is that, according to how I was raised, you try to start off relating to someone else with more openness than defensiveness. I've heard it's a little more towards the opposite, in other countries. I can see how that could be considered 'fake'. As far as I know, though, usually, it's pretty warm and genuine. I can go up to complete strangers on the street and start a conversation...well, as long as they're not in a hurry. Then again, that could be a regional thing. Don't take it as an absolute, lol.
I hear Canadians have us beat in this regard though, heheh. I'd love to go see that for myself.
Maybe these are signs of a decadent society? Maybe it's more a bad thing than we know? Who knows.
Thoughts?
I wonder if asking how people are doing related to the history of settlers the US (the South and Midwest especially). We tend to ask questions about how or what you're doing. Maybe that culture began because settlers were so isolated from each other. When you did travel into town or meet your neighbors, you needed to know if they were safe, secure, and doing alright or if they needed some help. Actually, that behavior is still pretty common in the small towns I've visited. Over time, the act of checking up on people became unnecessary, with technological and urban developments, but it's so ingrained in our culture that it's just what you do. European civilization developed so long ago and in very different circumstances, so it wouldn't be surprising that it's different.
when my wife and I were living in Exeter for a year, we were so impressed by the local people, they were so helpful, obsessed with queueing and holding the door of course. and now we are no longer living in Exeter and I am still doing what Brit people had done to us in my country, though it is not really working in here and people are shaking their heads probably it is unusual 😂
Now the rude thing makes sense too! A Brit called me rude the other day when I was being funny and I didn’t get it. Now I do! Thanks!
I’m a Brit and I wouldn’t say that we’re rude, we’re rather polite with our please, thank you, sorry, pardon. A lot of British people tend to have quite a crude sense of humour and are a bit blunt sometimes which probably comes off as rude to other people...
I think it is the mixture between the passive-aggressive sorry/excuse me/pardon, the excessive thank yous not always followed by a smile, and the casual racism or swift that occasionally happens when they know/realise you're a foreigner. However, I’ve met some of the most genuine and nicest people there.
J & L, every time I met a Brit was mostly on vacation, and they were always so polite. As someone born and raised in New England, but has spent time Southern America I can let you know that there is a HUGE difference. Would love to do a reply video for you guys!
You should make one!! Yeah we've heard that there is a huge difference of politeness within parts of America!
I feel Brits are a bit arrogant in my experience.
Just wanted to say that you two are hilarious. 👍
I'm waiting for the Theresa May impersonation now. Hope you find the right wig. 😂
Maybe Lia could try Boris Johnson. 😂😂
Thank you Nando! We will have to go wig shopping! 😂
YES!! I'm going to get Lia to practice!
There aren’t any queues in China either, trying to board a train or bus is very aggressive! For the first few days we tried to be polite and wait for our turn to board only to be left behind. We finally just did what everyone else was doing and pushed and shoved our way on board.
I don't get paid to greet my coworkers or my neighbors or people who walk past me on the street......and they don't get paid to greet me either. So, I don't find the American politeness to be "ingenuine or insincere" as you both have so often said on your channel.
Now from the perspective of my religion, it is said that the smiling (and even greeting someone) is a form of charity and it's the easiest charity. I do believe that our body language and tone has an impact on others. For example, when my partner at work has an unfriendly body language toward me, it does turn me off to her and this happened frequently and it made me (and other coworkers of different cultures and backgrounds) less inclined to engage with her. Conversely, other teammates on my team that have a more friendly tone/body language ...had a more positive impact on me. This did not mean that their friendliness led me to jump up and down and do cartwheels, but it did not make me feel anxious or annoyed or putt off within myself. There have been times I've been turned off by the coldness of the receptionist at the doctor's office and even the doctor too. I'm not saying that people need to be grinning and ecstatic and talk your ear off as that can be annoying and can come across as over-the-top or insincere. But I just don't find it to be the worst thing in the world for someone (even a stranger or a server/cashier) to smile at you or greet you or bid you a good rest of the day.
“Thank you, thank you, scuse me! Sorry, thanks! So-s-sorry thank you! Ooh, whoops! Calm down, I told you I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to push you into the tracks, thanks, ooh, let’s just, uh, slither in there, okaayyy thanks sorry ooh sorry, scuse! Thanks! Ah, ooh, excuse me there sorry!!”
AND I’m out of school.
In Barbados it’s the opposite. Customer service in most local places is very laid back and honest. The people look like they don’t really care.