Let us not forget the actual point of vows. You’re declaring a promise of love to this person and his pathetic excuse for that was “keep me happy and I won’t leave you unless a celebrity is around”
Especially in comparison to her vows, where not only was she talking about what she'd give him, she was basically constantly boosting him up as a person, meanwhile just like you said, his were literally "cook me a sandwich and give me a blowie while I picture that you're Margo Robbie so I can even mildly tolerate you"
In my fanfic Margot Robbie shows up in this woman's life to teach her self respect and self love and then they both ditch this guy and go to a spa or something.
In my fanfic, Margot Robbie shows up and just straight up marries her. The ex-fiancée continues to exist, somewhere else where we can’t see or hear him.
...15 years from now, that woman's daughters will be able to show their therapists _actual footage_ of their parents' incredibly unhealthy dynamic as a visual aid for how they ended up in therapy.
Ok to be entirely honest I don’t think he’s abusive or emotionally harmful I think he’s just clueless of when and when not to talk abt “certain” topics and is just not a very sentimental person which isn’t bad but does come off as kind of cold but she seems to genuinely love him still
The fact that he opened with “you’re screwed” demonstrates that he knows that what he’s saying is wrong. Your vows are supposed to be a lifelong promise of your commitment to your spouse, it’s not a time to publicly humiliate your wife.
I recently watched Keith’s, from the Try Guys, wedding & omg his & his wife’s vows were so pure & beautiful-made me cry. I truly wish everyone gets to experience that kind of love at least once in their life
idc if she says shes okay with it, the fact that their daughters were exposed to this kind of language and likely hear it daily is so gross and unsettling.
This is so important. She can be “okay” with it, but she should NOT be okay with her daughters being spoken to that way. Would you want your daughter to date someone like your husband? No? Get a new husband.
He seems like the type of to “playfully” touch his children. It is really creepy. Edit: to clarify for SOME people. This playful touching isnt always sexual, but it still makes a child uncomfortable and crosses their boundaries. That was my original meaning behind my comment. Also I never meant that he does just that he reminds me of every person that has done this to me.. sexual or not. btw exposing children to sex is a pedophilic behavior that desensitizes a child to sex making it easier to groom them. Most sexual abusers of children are parents or uncles/aunts or cousins or step-family.
Dude really brought up “gaging” and “headboards” DIRECTLY IN FRONT OF HIS MOTHER but also HER FRIENDS AND FAMILY. The way he smiled at the end was just… 🤦♂️
Bcs he has nothing else to come with so he goes on the OLDEST most cringy sexist "jokes" ever.. No one that's not insecure AF about themselves talks like that.. He sounds like a 11y old boy trying to brag to his friends about things that never happened....
As much as loved to see that, I’m 100% sure he’ll be bitchy, sucky, or extremely offended (or all of em) to her. He’s definitely a glass cannon for sure
Honestly I hope so, she and her daughters need to gtfo from a misogynist like that. They deserve someone who actually respects them for who they are, not just cares for what they can do for him
They’ve been together for ten years. It’s going to either last and she will never realize what’s happening or this will push her into leaving him finally but from what I saw online it’s the former :(
@@hopeadler507 yea agreed it seems like their relationship is more reminiscent of 1923 instead of 2023. I would wager they stay together for a very long time due to her potentially feeling trapped or potentially being abused. I think the only way this relationship ends is if he becomes physically abusive and that might be enough for her to leave.
@@hopeadler507 Perhaps they got married to 'save their relationship'? Some couples really think that's how it works, that if they put a ring on it, it'll get better.
if my partner to be started talking about making me gag and how we "made the headboard slam" in front of my grandmother, the wedding would be ON HOLD for a quick sec
When she apologized for having a temper, it really just sounds like he's probably gaslighted her into thinking she was overreacting over dumb shit he's done. Its just sad
How was he not *UNBELIEVABLY EMBARRASSED* after hearing her vows? Like he listens to her pour her heart out and how does he not just stands there thinking "I am a human piece of garbage and I do not deserve this woman"?
His constant negging was horrible. I didn't see it as abusive, just him being an asshole, until she started speaking, degrading herself. I hope she gets her and her daughters out of there.
it is a form of abuse... but he is also an a-hole ontop of it. like a sunday, his mysogony is the ice cream, his insults is the whip cream, and the cherry on top is the obvious abuse going on behind closed doors.
When she said “I know I’m no model” it made me want to cry. She’s so pretty and she honestly deserves so much better than him. Their families should NOT have let him write his own vows alone.
frankly their families shouldn’t have let her marry him in the first place. if this is the kind of stuff he’s comfortable saying publicly around friends and close family i cannot even imagine what is said behind closed doors. he’s clearly destroyed her self esteem and at the VERY least has little respect for her to have vows that are so brazenly inappropriate.
What man? Sounds like a 11y trying to brag to his friends about loosing his virginity & all the gals he gets 😂 PHATETIC absolutely PHATETIC..... She marries a spoilt insecure brat, not a man..
"I know I'm no model" Girl could have fooled me, shes absolutely stunning. And the fact that more likely than not this man has broken down her self esteem so low that she can't see her own beauty is heart breaking. You can hear her subservience to him in her vows.
@@divine555 Have you been picked yet? You’ve been up and down this comment section defending this man like you’re vying for the opportunity to drain his balls.
@@Athena908 dude what 💀 you act like a couple having a peculiar sense of humor is the worst thing ever, maybe try understanding that everyone has a different kind of joking around and that not everyone is going to like that, like you sadly lol
Even if the sexual jokes he made weren’t wildly demeaning and objectifying and this was just their sense of humor, SIR YOUR MOTHER AND TWO CHILDREN ARE IN ATTENDANCE. THERE IS A TIME AND PLACE AND YOUR WEDDING IS NOT IT.
The fact that his mom let out that reprimanding 'Michael' just goes to show that these people know something's wrong. You don't get the mom scold unless you are messing up, bad.
Especially when you're just chillin in your room and then you here the scary parent scream: "*first name* *middle name*!!!" thats when you know u might as well go start diggin ur grave, you're gonna be taken there either way 💀
Oh. On a rewatch, I just realized what was nagging at me about his vows. Aside from the obvious, the "nice" parts feel like they're copy pasted from a google search. "Nice vows for a groom" or something like that. There's nothing personal in there. Just... generic
If it were just generic, I'd give it a pass. Some people can have all the pretty , romantic words and still be terrible spouses and vice versa. But this? It's like something you'd see in a "How to lose a guy in ten days" type Hollywood concept movie. There is no reasonable explanation for it.
Yeah, like, giving her the autonomy to choose is just a ~treat~ because she agreed to marry him... just a reward. You don't get basic human respect unless you earn it ig.
A twinky is one of those dry, disgusting vanilla-butterflavoured things that never die on you, right? So...I have seen a toaster strudel and that wasn't nice either. Might be because of TellSell's way of displaying it. What..ehm... what is he talking about? Please don't tell me it's about the back-door or baby-door choice?
@@Widdekuu91 A twinkie has the cream inside the treat. A toaster strudel has the cream drizzled on top. The saying refers to where the man ejaculates, a "twinkie" being inside the woman, typically the vagina, and "toaster strudel" being somewhere outside of the body, but on the body, usually back or stomach
@@jadecoolness101 Yeah I googled it on urban-dictionary after I saw nobody responding (yet) and that's just such a..such a low point to end your vows on. I mean, I want a word with his father and mother, I wonder who taught him that this is how you treat the love of your life on her most special day, in front of your little girls.
I went to a wedding where the vows were similar to the groom's in the tiktok. It was vile and misogynistic and the bride looked like she was about to cry. A bunch of guests did a walk out and she followed quickly after. They're not together anymore. Apparently he had written some genuinely beautiful vows but did a last minute switch up as a 'joke'. Also, the bride's vows made me emotional. It's so clear she loves him and it's devastating.
His beautiful vows mean nothing if he decided his wedding was a good time to "joke" around like that. Or ever. I wish this wedding had a walk out. Those people at the wedding you went to proved they were better people than the man who should have been taking such a commitment seriously. I applause them. I'm glad the bride left too.
I attended a wedding similar to this as well; my cousin was the bride. Groom showed up late to the ceremony visibly hung over with the most disinterested expression in the world as he delivered “vows” that sounded like a mixture of every nasty, misogynistic thing he could think of and some random shit generated by a bot. Reception wasn’t any better with the best man making a speech about how he and his friends thought my cousin was too fat for the groom before gesturing to the “better girl”- the woman who was bartending- the woman who was the groom’s ex girlfriend. There was a toast to the ex gf and not the bride and groom. Groom then got sloshed and attempted to assault my cousin outside the reception hall. She spent most of her wedding day outside of the photographed and recorded moments in tears. They’re divorced now.
It took him 10 years and 2 kids to marry her and she’s literally drop dead gorgeous and says she’s no model. Even without his degrading “speech” that says EVERYTHING!
@c0ttage yea it screams she’s in a relationship with a narcissist. That’s she’s saying she’s not good at anything and he just cook and keep my balks empty is gross. She’s literally super model material too and says she’s not. That’s something put in her head to keep her down cause she’s SO beautiful he probably has to make her feel that way so she don’t wise up and leave him.
I was this woman for 8 years. Last year I got run over by a truck, almost lost my leg and could’ve died if I had been more unlucky. This made me realize that I deserve better. So sad but one is really blind to see the emotional abuse :(
honestly, emotional abuse is so tricky,, I know all the signs of it but I still don't realise it's happening until after a relationship (friendship or romantic) has ended
I feel so bad for this girl. She deserves SO much better. The fact she can look that pretty and sit there and demean her own looks to everyone as if she's normalized "being ugly" to herself is just so heartbreaking.
@@thetillerwiller4696Victim blaming strikes again. So insane to me that even the liberal community is so a-okay with victim blaming women for "choosing to be in an abusive relationship" when millions of studies have been done about why these women stay. How progressive of you,really!
@@yuo3670 there hasn't been any abuse found. Giving insanely inappropriate vows at your wedding isn't abuse, it's just an asshole move. Obviously if theirs something more going on I wouldnt think this. She's a grown woman. She stood their as her husband said some vile things about her and did nothing. And she's defending him right now. She obviously wants this man for whatever reason, and has chosen to be with him. So I don't feel bad for her. She seems definitive on her choice. Not victim blaming, she's not a victim.
And he didn't say what he has to offer to make that could make her happy in return. When you want something from a person, you always need to offer something to them in return.
The fact she even mentions her looks in the vows is super depressing. Best case scenario, he doesn't support her working through self esteem issues or is building her up. worst case scenario, he is the f***er making her feel this way. Either way, she could do better.
In my wedding vows, I made reference to my husband’s habits of stealing the blankets and “wrapping himself in a blanket burrito”. You can make jokes in wedding vows but they shouldn’t be degrading. They should be light hearted and cute.
Literally!!! The jokes you tell shouldnt be at the expense of your partner and their comfort :( Vows are literally the main way to display your love to other people in your lives, and the fact that he thought it was appropriate to *just* make crude sexual remarks about her makes me so upset :(((
If I had a partner that did this I would include it too because I do it as well! It can be more of a bonding moment instead of making the other person feel uncomfortable to even be standing in front of all those people
@@ethan_the_alien honestly it's a take i've heard from way too many people that being married/in a relationship means you're entitled to sex whenever you please, i've legit heart a scary amount of people justify cheating by saying things along the lines of "they didn't have enough sex with me so it's their fault i cheated" it's wild
This man is disgusting oh my god. I would have walked- RAN away from the alter. She looks so pretty too and he just ruined her day. She should have slapped him with that paper. He didn't even look up to her!
@@FruityHachiI'm not so sure. With these types of men who are disrespectful of women, they tend to be overprotective of their daughters. Rules for thee but not for me kinda thing. And for all we know her dad could be the nicest man in the world so who's to say 🤷🏾♀️
That’s horrific. You can tell that she was probably an “ugly duckling” in her school days and he took advantage of that lack of self esteem and tore her down to put up with his bs.
@@bu3asalli That’s literally what an ugly duckling is. Either someone who is originally not “pretty” or doesn’t feel they are due to lack of self esteem. Why you felt the need to comment this after 2 months is beyond me. As someone who was an ugly duckling on both sides of that kindly fuck off.
@@bu3asalli True but usually an attractive teen will know their "worth" (ew, I'm sorry, I hope y'all know how I meant it) towards boys, be popular because of pretty privilege and have many options to choose from. Doesn't sound like she had that experience. But however it had gone down, I pray that she sees her true worth in the near future and either enforces boundaries towards her husband or divorces him and finds someone who's treating her right.
I'm not just worried about the bride but for their DAUGHTERS. They're going to grow up and see this man as an example of how men "should" treat them. Which obviously not. I hope she leaves him because c'mon, why would he ruin their supposed perfect day
Not to mention the fact that talking very sexually in front of your children can be quite damaging. I feel like the way my mother talked about/to my dad in front of me was one of the reasons I became asexual.
This guy is such a creeper I'm scared for their physical safety at puberty. He could easily already be molesting them, but he seems like an 'act like breast development is a permission slip' type.
Can confirm. My dad has been constantly sexual with my mom in front of me, from when I have my first memories to even now. I. Hate. It. My mom is constantly embarrassed by his remarks, and she has had to quite literally fight him off of her sometimes. Once again. I. Hate. It. With. Everything. I. Have. Earnestly, I think it was one of the large factors that led to me being s3xu4lly 4ss4ulted as a teenager. I grew up thinking love was screaming matches or that. So, I thought how my romantic partners treated me was normal. I still have trauma from how my dad was and what happened to me because of that, that I have yet to overcome. I'm just thankful to now live far away from him, so it's no longer an everyday occurrence, and I can begin to heal properly. :)
My husband and I first exchanged our vows privately in our bedroom ahead of the ceremony (cuz I was nervous about how they would sound). And that private moment is one of my favorite memories. The idea of your wedding vows being THIS is heartbreaking.
The saddest part about the "husband is so clearly misogynistic even in a short video" trope (can I call it a trope? I feel like it is) is that the wife will always defend them to the grave, saying "you don't know him" "he's funny like that" "ugh it was just a two minute clip." When in reality, we don't need any more context to see that was super not okay and uncomfortable. In fact, we've seen this dynamic many, many times with other super shitty men! Hope she wakes up and realizes he is not the one for her. Yuck.
If he was secretly a nice dude, I feel like he would've had a behind the curtains moment where he dropped the "act" and gave really sincere, heartfelt vows. Like yes, I know it's just one clip -- also, the stark contrast between his and hers is ALL the info I need lmao.
@@EMan753 yeah, plus the tone he uses makes it sound like it's not an act, he sounds 100% serious, if it were a joke you think he'd have a joking/sarcastic tone, or expression on his face, but he doesn't even look at her or anything, he sounds like he'd rather be anywhere else
@@EMan753 I think this comment kind of sums up my feelings pretty well. It kept feeling like I was waiting for the other shoe to drop, for him to say “all jokes aside” or “but seriously” and talk about how he’s lucky to have her in his life, or how she makes him the happiest man in the world etc. and he sorta half flirts with that than immediately reverts back to “joking”/degrading her. Like I get that they’re country and he had a confederate flag shirt and maga hat (🤢). So I get that his “humor” might be more crude. But honestly I feel like the odds that he is not at worst abusive and at best manipulative are pretty high. Even though her vows were a million times better calling your partner a pain in the ass on your wedding day during your vows is just not something I’d ever want in a partner. But also calling him a pain in the ass is probably actually a compliment for how he is/behaves 😂.
"Life gets even better when the kids fall asleep..." With the kids right there. He said that with the kids right there. As a kid, I would have seen this as my dad saying he would rather me not be around him. It would have crushed me as a child, and I bet I would have had those words playing in my mind for the rest of my life. Some things my parents said a decade ago still affect me in adulthood.
100% right, growing up my parents constantly reminded me how much i enriched their lives and how thankful they were to have me, and made it a point to never make me feel like a burden (unlike those parents who joke about celebrating the end of summer break and having to be around their kids) - and now as a 22 year old i can tell that has shaped so much of my positive self worth, confidence, and standards for love in all forms... i can only imagine what growing up with the opposite does to a person
And to follow it with how he preferred his wife sexually pleasing HIM (he never talked about his wife's sexual fulfillment, not once, although sex shouldn't have been spoken about AT ALL). Dude sounds selfish as can be. Made it all about him, degraded the bride, embarrassed her by talking about their sex life, only talking about the blowys she was giving him and nothing else, not talking about their children ONCE (note that he NEVER mentioned their kids except when to say he preferred when they WEREN'T around, which is a massive, flashing, siren blasting red flag).
Listening to his vows I thought they’d known each other for 6 months and this was an ill-advised quickie wedding with two kids from a previous marriage dragged into it. Then I heard her vows. Holy shit.
I would literally rush the altar/stage and tackle him if he said this about my daughter in front of her grandparents, children, friends, coworkers, etc. This was HUMILIATING and a calculated move on his part. You can tell that her self esteem has been chiseled away at and there’s almost nothing left now. Also, his “vows” were NOT appropriate for the children they mentioned were in the audience! Not OK!!
RIGHT?! Like it’s awful that she doesn’t understand that this is wrong, but it’s also awful that her family and friends didn’t set the precedent that it’s not okay for him to treat her like this
They've been together for 10+ years and the bride is so goddamn brainwashed that she doesn't realise how abusive this is. I hope she comes to her senses soon Edit: also I have to disagree, we absolutely should get hemmroids over this because he has _two daughters_ and they're gonna grow up seeing their mom being abused and they'll think treating women like this is okay. And he's probably gonna treat them like shit too
your edit is honestly what makes this even more harrowing in my opinion. they're *both* setting up these little girls for a life of accepting every kind of treatment their dad gives their mom. bride/mom has been with groom/dad for a decade, around half the time they will probably be living with him, and already has been abused into *hating herself*. can you imagine how much quicker, and deeper, that teaching will run with twice the time and twice as many people hammering it home? it makes me sick.
@@sleepymothpup you're so correct. I'm so scared for these girls and we can only hope the internets outrage can have some sort of positive or helpful impact,
Yeah I think the biggest thing is that if they both had of had crass lines it probably still would have blown up in a "why the fuck would you do this at your wedding" way, but without the back and forth it very quickly became a "that is a man child who is actively degrading you in front of all your friends and family and you need to run" situation.
Whether she is being, abused or not, this was just horrible hers was so heartfelt and his was so inconsiderate and awful. Not to Mention incredibly embarrassing. It’s your wedding day, It’s not time to try and be funny it’s time to spread love and especially to the person you’re marrying.
I think making jokes in your vows is fine but they gotta be good (and not put downs of your partner ). This man doesn't have the charisma to make a basic ass knock knock.joke
The largest issue here is not only were HIS vows degrading to her but SO WERE HERS! she said she felt like she wasn’t good enough for them when they met and she degraded her own looks even though she’s gorgeous. This isn’t a joke. She feels that way about herself and HE’S PERPETUATING IT! Even if your partner says they love dark/demeaning humor a good partner would not make jokes that explicitly prey on insecurities of their SO. You are allowed to draw lines on what you will say to someone about them, regardless of their sense of humor.
Man she sounded like she was trying so hard not to cry when she was talking about the meatloaf. Its like he confirmed every insecurity she has about not being good enough for him. She deserves better.
He probably says it in a more degrading and louder way at home. It’s all smiles for the public but this kind of put down talk is normal and on a constant basis if they’re both bringing it up. It’s how my parent’s relationship was. Make jokes in public but get in her face and say horrible degrading things on a daily basis when it’s not up to your standards.
@faithpearlgenied-a5517 Judging by your comment (and the fact you haven't made loads all over the page like trolls do) I am going to assume you are ignorant on abusive relationships, or more specifically how abusers work. Abusers (or at least the smart ones) don't start the abuse straight away. At the beginning they act nice, overly nice (which is called love bombing) to make them appear really sweet so when they do start acting out (which will be slow and covert, not straight into the deep end) you question if you done something wrong, not them. They gradually isolate you from your friends and family (assuming you have them in the first place, since abusers usually pick out those that are vulnerable) and put you in a position where you can't leave so easily (like they'll marry you, move in with you, baby-trapping). They start gaslighting (which is lying in a way to make you seem like your misrembering things/going crazy). They play the victim, they neg (subtle back-handed compliments purposefully designed to lower your self esteem), they compare you to others. Considering how far abusers go to 'hunt down' the victim and keep them 'in place' it's not really fair to claim that the victim chose them (since they weren't showing their true selves until long into the relationship) and considering many abuse victims grew up in abusive families they see the abuse as 'normal' or 'better than normal' because abuse is all they known. Claiming that a young woman that was often beaten half to death almost daily by her parents when she was a child deserves to be with someone that punches her daily because 'she chose him' is pretty f*cked up. I know that's not what you are saying but a comment like 'you deserve who you choose' could be seen that way (by someone like the young woman in my example.) Honestly I didn't need to write an essay about this but I really hate victim blaming. There's so much more to abusive relationships then a 'she chose the bad boy/he chose the bad girl' rhetoric.
I feel like she has a massive lost cost fallacy, she knows little else other than trash that gaslights and degrades her, and thinks there's nothing better. I fear, FEAR for the daughters, no one who treats their wife like that and then suddenly doesn't treat their kids like complete shit.
I'm not gonna lie, this is part of why I won't date anymore. This sort of thing is all I know of too and now I'm 32 and never gonna be able to navigate something healthy with all the traumas I got.
Her speech: “but thank you for loving me ‘still’, ‘the way you do’”; “You are literally making the fairytale I always dreamed of come true, well, ‘maybe a little funnier than I imagined”; And finally: “but it’s still way more than I could ever ask for”. He’s been putting her down all these years 100%
Even drunk I tell everybody I have the best man in the world. Drunk only removes inhibitions, it doesn't change your personality. It only shows your true colours.
Imagine growing up dreaming of being a cute princess with a loving kind knight you date and this is your wedding. Her defending him is so sad. She‘s so clearly been groomed.
@@FruityHachi so true, makes me think he was probably popular in high school and so she idolized him, then they entered the real world where he isn't shit, but yet she still sees him through that lens and he's trying everything he can to keep it that way, which includes tearing her down so she doesn't realize her real worth one day
The fact that he delivered the most hateful, gross, and disrespectful vows with the indifference he did, just disgusts that anyone like that can find love in this day and age. I wish her the best, she's just got to break out of it. "It's her journey, not ours."
This is definitely a narcissistic, emotionally abusive, incredibly manipulative relationship, and it just crushes me to hear her degrade herself like she would be absolutely nothing without this sorry excuse of a man. I really hope she’s able to get out of it sooner rather than later, but like you said, it’s her journey to take, not ours, so we can only hope for the best. It makes me so sad for her though.
The self-righteous relationship expert is here, passing judgment because the bride finds humor in her husband's unconventional wedding vows. Your unsolicited pity and hope for her to escape the relationship are projections of your insecurities and lack of understanding.
@@jpeg..I mean, he spent his whole vows talking shit about her, and she spent her vows talking shit about herself. It's absolutely possible that they're happy with this and it's not a big deal to them, but let's not act like it's a completely left field baseless assumption to say that something seems off here, she never reciprocated that energy, I really think if she was telling jokes at his expense too nobody would really care, bur it just came off like a monotone dude talking shit about his new bride who's all weepy talking shit about herself. There's am automatic cringe factor that's kind of impossible to avoid at a surface level observation. Which is maybe why it wasn't a good idea to whip out this sense of humor as part of the filmed vows and then put it on the internet, that's the kind of thing you say amongst friends in a more adult space if its really something everyone is cool with. I really sincerely hope we're all wrong and they were laughing about it the whole ride home, but the whole thing just seems so one sided and sad from what we do see. It's hard not to feel pity when you see someone being talked down to. Even if there's context behind the scenes that changes things it's a normal response to feel this way when seeing things like this.
@jpeg.. personally I have some reservations that go beyond that, subjecting kids/ older folks present to this kind of language for one thing seems like a massive moral line to cross for a lot of people, not to mention he clearly didn't give anyone attendiany warning that this kind of thing would be discussed, giving any family members with kids the ability to choose notbto be involved with something like that. And since she didn't seem to be directly involved, people responded with pity because they wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt in the scenario. Plus, I doubt many people knew she publicly responded, especially since this video is their first time hearing of the situation. And it's always important to remember that although we have to be careful not to act like we know for certain what their private lives are like, it's not baseless to consider this kind of behavior a massive red flag. People are just doing their best to express kindness and support for someone who seems at least at a surface level to be a really kind person who dealt with a shitty situation. And just as we can't assume abuse is DEFINITELY taking place, we can't make the opposite assumption either based on the info we have. It's entirely possible for someone who is being abused to lie to defend their abuser, especially with this much public scrutiny on them. And its also entirely possible for someone who's being abused to not be mentally ready to come to terms with whats happening to them, so they block it down and push away those emotions and might genuinely think that all is well right now. I'm just weary of assumptions either way given the nature or emotional and mental abuse and how difficult it can be to spot until someone comes forward with proof either way.
@cole Yeah I wouldn't be surprised seeing as he said all of those sexual things with the knowledge that his young daughters were in the audience watching. Major fucked up vibes coming from this whole thing.
@@pissapocalypse Fr, parents with no boundaries like that deeply worry me. My mother had made very nasty comments in a sexual manor about me and or talked about me in a sexual manor at 14 years old. A parent with no filter and or boundaries is a parent who cannot be trusted.
God I'm in love with this commentary. Truly felt seen and heard when you said Pattinson in the front. Christ tier content for my christian minecraft channel thank you.
@@SeriouslySeriousGrim not if you sweep it away like they did in that one part of 101 Dalmatians And if you have a noose around your neck when the fbi come in
Even worse that the bride in this video later put out a TikTok justifying the groom and his vows and saying 'that's just his sense of humor'. The copium. 🤐
I’d like to point out that while he, in his “vows”, made that “unless Margot Robbie gave me a chance” comment, she, in her vows, made the exact opposite comment and said that she would continue to choose him every day for the rest of her life. Even if his was just an awkward and tone deaf joke, that’s still really gotta hurt.
Weddings are so cringy nowadays, or maybe they always have been and I’m just seeing them more on social media. Last year I went to a wedding and literally every family member’s speech was telling the bride and groom to hurry up and start boning so they could pop out some kids. Several times it was implied the groom wouldn’t be a man if he couldn’t impregnate his wife. The grooms brother could barely get through his speech because he was laughing/crying so hard about if his bro couldn’t knock up his wife he’ll get him a Turkey baster to get the job done. All of the speeches were cringe and gross and kind of took away from the wedding.
That's insanely insulting to that poor man. I hate people who do that. I'll never understand why people are always so focused on a couple having kids as soon as they're married! Like geez, a lot of things have to be done before they even *think* about kids! Like going on their honeymoon (if they had one) and moving and housing, expenses, groceries, possibly even medical bills. The list goes on. Believe it or not, having a baby is expensive and can be a *huge* financial burden that the couple may not be equipped for so to those people I say: Shut up and let them have their day darn it! And saying "He won't be a man if he can't get his wife pregnant" isn't funny at all, it's demeaning. I hope things get better for them!
@@idontknowhowtochangemyusername insanely insulting to the bride too. Who would want to sit there while all your loved ones laugh about the image of you getting impregnated via turkey baster
thats so strange..i’ve only been to a few weddings but they (fortunately) have been such beautiful moments. The speeches were about the couple coming together as a unit, the couples speeches about each other were about love and their vows were such lovely promises. But this wedding sounds like a 2nd hand embarrassment you had to sit thru
Maybe it's an American thing? I've never been to a wedding that has bawdy sex jokes or "pop a kid out already!" comments. Like an embodiment of this is the garter tradition which just isn't a thing here
If this is how he treats her publicly and on their wedding day, i could only imagine how he treats her alone. Were her parents there? Her daddy should have spoken up and knocked the man child out.
@@FruityHachi A classic abuser move is isolation of the abused: make them cut ties with their friends and family, pretty much get rid of the person's support group, so that there's nobody there to help her fight against gaslighting, grooming, and other such. Even if the father was a great person, she might've already cut ties with him because "her dad can't understand her love!" or the likewise. It definitely didn't seem like she had family present (unlike the groom's mother), which could be a flag in and of itself.
13:20 I just know this marriage is ending in divorce. He's joking around and constantly brings up sex to embarrass her. He's only marrying her to shut her up😂😂
His vows really bring me back to the whole "the gays can't stop talking about sex and want to indoctrinate the kids!!" when he's objectifying and stereotyping his wife in front of his two daughters and everyone is just laughing it off... Also, it's not a good sign when she said "Thank you for loving me still....in the way that you do..."
The bit where she said “sleeping beauty with a temper” made me wince. 100% he’s made her believe any type of standing up for herself is her having a “temper problem”
Can we just take a moment to recognize how beautiful that woman looked. Like that dress was perfect for her and she had an adorable smile, she deserves someone better
Imagine being gorgeous and kindhearted but thinking you’re garbage because you’re with some heinous excuse for a man. She deserves better. *I hope her second husband treats her how she should be*
I hope she heals herself & doesn’t search for love & validation outside herself especially from massive douche bags. I hope she becomes a good example of a high value woman if only for her daughters.
the fact she knew he would've included models in his vows is so sad. I feel bad that she has to deal with his selfishness. Regardless if it was a joke, that was supposed to be one of the best days of their lives and he turned it into a haha silly moment and actively sexualized and insulted her while she sweetly and adoringly proclaimed her love for him
Her comment didn't say anything about why it wasn't a red flag, it was like she assumed that because they had been together for 10 years there's no way there is simply a red flag missed, honestly? Terrifying. Yes it's her journey, but there are also two afab children she has brought into the world of that man, speaking from the experience of being a child of a raging sexist, that part I do not find ok, no matter how conditioned and/or groomed she was.
@Devilsadvocate23 the other day I was having a conversation with someone and they said sunken cost fallacy is the reason for like half of the world's issues. I believe they are right. When you see people do that, you just want to shake them out of it, like you can reach for something better TODAY
@@emmamcmahon1738 nobody's being mad at her, it's just she needs to take into account that she has two little girls that she needs to protect, when your husband is so comfortable bringing up your sex life at the alter infront of each and everyone of your loved ones while he also has your two KIDS there talking about how he wants to drain his balls into the bride then there is a serious problem. When 4290+ comments have replied to your post about why your relationship is toxic as well as unhealthy for the kids then that needs to serve AT LEAST as a reminder that something's up instead of blatantly dismissing it. It's not just about her anymore as sad as her situation is, she has two kids that are being conditioned to think treating people like this is okay, not even people let's just be for real he views women this way. Bro is describing her like a hormonal teenage boy.
Ewww. No! My husband was almost in tears choking out how much he loved me during his vows. I felt the same, said the same, though I wanted to scream "I sucked at being a wife during my first marriage! Run away, sweetheart! Run away!" I didn't say it. After four truly wonderful decades together I'm glad I put my self doubt on hold. Pity this guy didn't rethink his wedding roast.🙄 A little self doubt would have served him well.
@@wiswc Imagine being so delusional you think this behavior is normal at a *wedding* and on top of that have an anime profile pic. You're the last person to be calling someone chronically online, dude.
the icing on the (wedding) cake for me is the extremely subtle look of shame and embarrassment on the husband’s face when he heard the wife’s beautiful and genuine vows. im hoping that was his personal moment of clarity
Yes ofcourse I think he is seriously emotionally immature and doesn't know exactly how to be appropriate situations. He needs to mature and I hope that he sees his wrongs in his words/actions
I'm loving the enthusiasm cause all I see happening is him later on convining himself and her that it actually was pretty fun and just "him being him" 🥴
I don’t have much hope for people like him. I have personal experiences with those types as my relatives and they never see anything wrong with their actions but will point the finger at anyone but themselves for the shame they feel.
I remember seeing only one time a short and jokey wedding vow was okay, and it was a post on Tumblr. The poster’s aunt was known for long and very dry speeches, and on the aunt’s wedding day, she pulled out notecards. Everyone internally groaned, ready for a long speech. She unfolded the cards into a piece of paper to read her wedding vows, with dark, big letters. “Hot damn.” Those were her wedding vows. A fake out to ensure that everyone got a laugh.
Except for me they just use a bunch of ptsd triggering words, so I can't seem to watch either. I wanted to try this video because I was hoping she'd censored them, but no.
He didn't even look at her while he was saying them. This dude only cares about sex and what she can do for him. He doesn't love her. No sane person would look at this and say "now that's true love"
What really hurts me is that there were people in the audience laughing at the grooms joke, laughing at her expense. I'm willing to bet they were mostly on the groom's side of the family
Exactly, I've been in relationships pretty close to what theirs seems like (at least from this admittedly limited perspective) and I've been in emotionally healthy stable ones, namely the long term one I'm in now. I was just lucky that things didn't go on as long or as far as it did for her. Makes me grateful for where I'm at and kinda sad that I know first hand that you can't force someone to realize how much better things could be. They have to come to that conclusion on their own or else they'll always think it's jealous people interfering with true love. And unfortunately some people waste years of their life coming to that realization, sometimes so many years that they think their time has passed and it's hopeless to do better, some people spend their whole lives in denial and ignorance. It's sad
same... I'm SUPER grateful for my partner and the life we are creating together and how supportive we are of each other . If we ever joke like this, it's to each other and superficial to make a laugh, not hurt each other either.... I hope this lady sees the comments and internet and realizes that everyone here wants her to find true happiness and not settle for this D-bag..
That girl can do SOOOOO MUCH BETTER!! It’s so sad that she literally settled for this loser, because she has low self esteem and he keeps her emotionally chained to his side by “funny” threats of leaving her for someone more attractive and then love bombs her when her feelings are hurt. I used to be married to a jerk exactly like him!
Whether she was okay with it or not... this is how you want this day to be remembered? Your family won't remember your beautiful dress, how nice everyone looked, how nice the venue was. No they're going to forever talk about how you get gagged and can't cook. Disgusting.
You know that idea about one person in a relationship being "the settler"? They both seem to think he's settling for her when she's the one settling for him. I usually don't like to talk about people this way but she is much hotter than her husband and in a short amount of time has also proven to be kinder, more humble, respectful, have decorum and to value those around her. Every nice and normal thing he put in his vows felt like something a sister or cousin had to make him add in so it sounded more legit. I usually don't like reading too deeply into clips but the fact that he did this at their wedding speaks volumes. I just hope she's happy and safe.
Yeah, I'm genuinely praying that all the people in the comments defending him and saying we don't know what things are like behind closed doors/ if she was actually ok/ happy with those vows are somehow right and that this looks a lot worse than it is. I sincerely doubt it, but I really HOPE things aren't nearly as bad as thus makes them appear. I'd never wish for anyone to go through this kind of relationship/ humiliation. I'd be much happier if we could all find out that he's just really bad at social ques/ was nervous when he wrote them or SOMETHING.
@@salemcrow5078 true but if someone is at the point where even they can't understand what's happening, nothing we can do or say as outsiders is ever gonna help. You can't force awareness on someone, you can't force help on someone who doesn't want it or doesn't even know it can help them. And I always leave the tiny shred of hope that things aren't how they appear, and that there's some background thing we can't even think of as outsiders that cam have an innocent explanation. Do I hope? Yes, do I genuinely believe it, I don't think so. Does that make any sense? I'm pretty exhausted rn so I have no idea how well im expressing my thoughts.
@@miaironstone6783 You're all good! I totally understand what you mean. Ultimately, you can't force understanding on someone - nor can you force them to leave.
@salemcrow5078 exactly what I mean when I say she might be happy, abuse may still be happening but if she's not seeing it, that's where our ability to do anything ends
At my sisters wedding, after she had said her vows she ended it with “I love you thiiiiiisss much!” and she stretched her arms out as far as she could. I thought it was adorable
He reads it like he doesn't even wanna read it, and it sounds like he didn't write anything but the sexual and crude jokes by the tone in his voice. I feel so bad for the wife, and the poor mother of the groom, they both were probably so embarrassed, and making those jokes with their own CHILDREN in the audience. Plus the entire audience was probably so embarrassed as well. On an unrelated note to that, I love the way you do your commentary! And to anyone who reads this, I hope you have an amazing day! You're doing great, and just do your best!
Ok just, I can only guess she grew up around people like I did where she was very much taught "boys will be boys" and to, among other things, prioritize the males happiness and pleasure above all else, and that she's just inherently going to have more ~emotions~ than a man, so she doesn't have the right to feel its unfair if he's detached and focused on sex. I hope to high high heaven she gets the fuck out of that marriage ASAP, it's not even balanced by most traditionalists perspective much less in any other framework, jfc. Dude is trash and doesn't deserve a partner in his current state.
i was exposed to sexual concepts when i was very young (5 or 6), and although it was always verbal and never visual or physical, it impacted my perspective of sex and it still does today. my case was pretty severe, but even then, kids are malleable. they pick up on shit, and things affect them into their later life, even if they don't always understand or even remember it. knowingly exposing your children to this is disgusting and is most certainly going to affect them when they get older.
Honestly this video just drums up every single heterosexual Midwestern wedding I was forced to go to as a kid. And as a gay person, I would like to say "Straight people. Please try harder."
The heck are you talking? Us "straight people's weddings" aren't like this, if they actually care and love each other it's not like this, and gay or lesbians, or lbt whatever people's weddings can be like this too, they don't only have "good" weddings or whatever 🤔
This guy is that one dude in the big friend group that all the women hate because he’s inappropriate and makes them uncomfortable, and all the men hate because he thinks sex is a whole personality trait. The bride is oblivious to everyone being like “oh I hope Stacy doesn’t bring Michael, I hope- CRAP he’s here! 💀”
I get more the vibe that she's the type who has this beauty and the beast mindset of being so enamored with the idea that she thinks he's good deep down, just a little rough around the edges, and being self sacrificial and humble will help bring him closer to his humanity, and anyone who tries to tell her he makes them uncomfortable or they think she could do better just "doesn't understand what he's really like the way she does" and "they should be more patient/ understanding, he went through a lot and needs time to heal" I've met women like this, hell I've BEEN one, I was just lucky enough that I was too young to get married to that creep and had the time/ support to mature away from his shit.
my father forgot his written script for his vows for my mom during their vow renewal. so he made one up on the fly and said some of the most beautiful and romantic things i’ve ever heard. friends and family in tears, it was wonderful. i can’t imagine ever hearing this at a wedding or anything
I truly hope she’s okay and the relationship doesn’t get worse.. as someone who was in an emotionally abusive relationship for two years, you truly cannot see the extent of how terrible it was until you’re out. I hope that, at the very least, she can someday see the inherent value she has. She deserves so much better.
"we really need to get you some cooking lessons" instant divorce, on the spot, I'm running away from my own wedding. Not to mention his monotone voice and expressionless face would make me want to cry, and not the good kind of cry
No literally because her vows were so sweet but sadly self deprecating but then his weren’t even vows, just being a disrespectful horndog with no sense genuine love and respect for his wife.
He's reading his vows like the way an uninterested 7th grade boy reads through a copy of The Giver
😭😭
THE ACCURACY. YES.
As someone who read The Giver in seventh grade, I can confirm that this was my first thought while listening to this
I laughed so damn hard
Literally the only time he read things enthusiastically was when he was degrading her or talking about sex
Let us not forget the actual point of vows. You’re declaring a promise of love to this person and his pathetic excuse for that was “keep me happy and I won’t leave you unless a celebrity is around”
I feel like this summary puts that whole trainwreck into a better perspective
Especially in comparison to her vows, where not only was she talking about what she'd give him, she was basically constantly boosting him up as a person, meanwhile just like you said, his were literally "cook me a sandwich and give me a blowie while I picture that you're Margo Robbie so I can even mildly tolerate you"
Maybe for your vows. Those are his vows. Or should every wedding just be a charade just to keep your sensibilities satisfied?
@@alfredo1valenzuelawhat do you think vows are???
@@Toadstoolthefroggo obviously the perfect time to practice your skills to be a stand up comedian!
"it's just a joke" actually it is a wedding. Not a rehash of your failed comedy career
EMOTIONAL DAMAGE
GOT HIM GOOD
omfg xd, that wasn't a ligth roast you fucking torched him
Oh damn, that burned and im not even that guy
violated him
In my fanfic Margot Robbie shows up in this woman's life to teach her self respect and self love and then they both ditch this guy and go to a spa or something.
oh dude where is this i NEED to see it
yesss oh my god like in Barbie
In my fanfic, Margot Robbie shows up and just straight up marries her.
The ex-fiancée continues to exist, somewhere else where we can’t see or hear him.
@@kent5627 so basically: the lesbian variety of my fanfic 😁
Margot would never touch this guy in the first place 😂
...15 years from now, that woman's daughters will be able to show their therapists _actual footage_ of their parents' incredibly unhealthy dynamic as a visual aid for how they ended up in therapy.
like actually...... imagine them watching this back for the first time when they're like 15 or something
Yep😢
Hell, even a few years from now. The bride (now wife) can show this to a judge at the eventual divorce proceedings.
All because he made sexual comments in his own wedding.... Will you ever grow you chronically online dimwits?
Ok to be entirely honest I don’t think he’s abusive or emotionally harmful I think he’s just clueless of when and when not to talk abt “certain” topics and is just not a very sentimental person which isn’t bad but does come off as kind of cold but she seems to genuinely love him still
The fact that he opened with “you’re screwed” demonstrates that he knows that what he’s saying is wrong. Your vows are supposed to be a lifelong promise of your commitment to your spouse, it’s not a time to publicly humiliate your wife.
I quite frankly agree with that. It is unacceptable for someone to say that to their wife in front of their whole family.
I recently watched Keith’s, from the Try Guys, wedding & omg his & his wife’s vows were so pure & beautiful-made me cry. I truly wish everyone gets to experience that kind of love at least once in their life
idc if she says shes okay with it, the fact that their daughters were exposed to this kind of language and likely hear it daily is so gross and unsettling.
This is so important. She can be “okay” with it, but she should NOT be okay with her daughters being spoken to that way. Would you want your daughter to date someone like your husband? No? Get a new husband.
He seems like the type of to “playfully” touch his children. It is really creepy.
Edit: to clarify for SOME people. This playful touching isnt always sexual, but it still makes a child uncomfortable and crosses their boundaries. That was my original meaning behind my comment. Also I never meant that he does just that he reminds me of every person that has done this to me.. sexual or not. btw exposing children to sex is a pedophilic behavior that desensitizes a child to sex making it easier to groom them. Most sexual abusers of children are parents or uncles/aunts or cousins or step-family.
@@Nilufar_Nasha_Luvs_Catzz um don’t say shit like this
Ikr :((
@@fern1550 i agree , but he would in a "adult simon says with the chipmunk simon".
Dude really brought up “gaging” and “headboards” DIRECTLY IN FRONT OF HIS MOTHER but also HER FRIENDS AND FAMILY. The way he smiled at the end was just… 🤦♂️
and his two kids
A pornfried brain is a broken brain
@@spotlightanimation6719that are little girls! It just keeps getting worse
he was *so* damn proud🤮
Bcs he has nothing else to come with so he goes on the OLDEST most cringy sexist "jokes" ever..
No one that's not insecure AF about themselves talks like that..
He sounds like a 11y old boy trying to brag to his friends about things that never happened....
My uncle married a cuban woman, he wrote his vows in Spanish for her and her family.
This! This is the amount of effort to put into wedding vows! Good guy!
Ima cuban woman and I think I would cringe to death but probably also laugh my ass off xd
@@FlowerSong606 he'd been learning Spanish for a while before then but yeah she was definitely laughing at whatever he said along with her family.
Oh that’s so sweet
@@LamisonJamison your uncle is a real one.🤗
She's so beautiful. It's so sad to hear her say she's "no model" when like. She absolutely could be
Hope she gets a successful small model career just to prove him wrong on that part
Ikr?
She literally looks like a model, that statement made me so sad
who?
So sad, as soon as I saw her I was like damn she is gorgeous especially her hair, she deserves better 😔
She could have changed her vows to telling him how much she wished she dated Ryan Renolds.
No I deadass hoped in response that she would say ,"your definitely not Ryan Reynolds." in response to the Margo Robby line.
@@witchiesthufflepuff8574 GREAT MINDS THINK ALIKE LES GOOOO 🤝🤝🤝
@@spunchbopsquarpant LETS GOOOOO!
As much as loved to see that, I’m 100% sure he’ll be bitchy, sucky, or extremely offended (or all of em) to her. He’s definitely a glass cannon for sure
god, i fuckin would have. i would have changed my vows right then and there.
Her: I’m no model… also her: literally the most gorgeous, flawless majestic person I’ve ever seen.
Right? This is so painful to see.
I get the feeling either he's the reason why she has low confidence, or he knows she has low confidence and is keeping it that way
She was 100 % gaslighted by him and his insecurities
If anything it is him who's out of her league. He took a charismatic woman and gaslit her to the point of thanking him.
IKR!
The groom sounds like he's extremely bored when he's reading his vows💀 something tells me this marriage isn't going to last
As soon as she doesn't want to fuck, that's it...
Honestly I hope so, she and her daughters need to gtfo from a misogynist like that. They deserve someone who actually respects them for who they are, not just cares for what they can do for him
They’ve been together for ten years. It’s going to either last and she will never realize what’s happening or this will push her into leaving him finally but from what I saw online it’s the former :(
@@hopeadler507 yea agreed it seems like their relationship is more reminiscent of 1923 instead of 2023. I would wager they stay together for a very long time due to her potentially feeling trapped or potentially being abused. I think the only way this relationship ends is if he becomes physically abusive and that might be enough for her to leave.
@@hopeadler507 Perhaps they got married to 'save their relationship'? Some couples really think that's how it works, that if they put a ring on it, it'll get better.
He 100% has emotionally abused this woman into believing she’s nothing without him.
definitely
yep
I think that’s pretty obvious
Hey now, hey now, that's a bit presumptuous!
I'm more like 103% sure he has.
Yup, he had 10 years to get her to this point...
if my partner to be started talking about making me gag and how we "made the headboard slam" in front of my grandmother, the wedding would be ON HOLD for a quick sec
I hope you'd have the DJ start some boss fight music right before the ass beating
@@kaydwessie296 "DJ... start the boss fight playlist..." *pushes up sleeves*
Yeah I'd be like "hey dude, maybe tone it down. There's kids in the audience"
She has no honor, that’s it.
@@kaydwessie296 “DJ, HIT IT”
When she apologized for having a temper, it really just sounds like he's probably gaslighted her into thinking she was overreacting over dumb shit he's done. Its just sad
How was he not *UNBELIEVABLY EMBARRASSED* after hearing her vows? Like he listens to her pour her heart out and how does he not just stands there thinking "I am a human piece of garbage and I do not deserve this woman"?
And the officiant is his MOM. That’s why she said his name like that. In front of his MOM and she didn’t even like it!
Unfortunately he probably enjoyed that the wedding was all his
@@hopeadler507 and his KIDS
Pretty sure he just thought "Yeah that's right. I'm amazing. You're so lucky to have me." 🤮
I assume he's real dumb.
His constant negging was horrible. I didn't see it as abusive, just him being an asshole, until she started speaking, degrading herself. I hope she gets her and her daughters out of there.
Negging is abuse
it is a form of abuse... but he is also an a-hole ontop of it. like a sunday, his mysogony is the ice cream, his insults is the whip cream, and the cherry on top is the obvious abuse going on behind closed doors.
Oh my god
It's ab*se babes don't sugar coat it
probably emotionally abusive
When she said “I know I’m no model” it made me want to cry. She’s so pretty and she honestly deserves so much better than him. Their families should NOT have let him write his own vows alone.
frankly their families shouldn’t have let her marry him in the first place. if this is the kind of stuff he’s comfortable saying publicly around friends and close family i cannot even imagine what is said behind closed doors. he’s clearly destroyed her self esteem and at the VERY least has little respect for her to have vows that are so brazenly inappropriate.
hi
The fact that she said that during her vows then he brings up Margot Robbie… he has totally brought down her self esteem …
Changing vows wouldn't change the fact hes is a misogynistic trash ans should not get married...
They way he’s reading it sounds like he didn’t write them. Just talked and someone else put into a paragraph for him. I’m embarrassed for the bride.
The fact that this man has two daughters, scares the fuck out of me.
I am utterly terrified of those two little girls 😢
I'm the 1k like
Hahahahahaha 😂
What man? Sounds like a 11y trying to brag to his friends about loosing his virginity & all the gals he gets 😂
PHATETIC absolutely PHATETIC.....
She marries a spoilt insecure brat, not a man..
@@GalaxyNekorekoegocentric much?
"I know I'm no model" Girl could have fooled me, shes absolutely stunning. And the fact that more likely than not this man has broken down her self esteem so low that she can't see her own beauty is heart breaking. You can hear her subservience to him in her vows.
It's called humbleness dude
@@divine555 Have you been picked yet? You’ve been up and down this comment section defending this man like you’re vying for the opportunity to drain his balls.
@@Athena908 dude what 💀 you act like a couple having a peculiar sense of humor is the worst thing ever, maybe try understanding that everyone has a different kind of joking around and that not everyone is going to like that, like you sadly lol
she down played herself to end up with this human MESS.
@@divine555 does up voting your own comment make you feel better about it?
Even if the sexual jokes he made weren’t wildly demeaning and objectifying and this was just their sense of humor, SIR YOUR MOTHER AND TWO CHILDREN ARE IN ATTENDANCE. THERE IS A TIME AND PLACE AND YOUR WEDDING IS NOT IT.
It was so trashy
I just wish the guy the best because I want him to change for the better
@@nehalarafa8260 I want him to live alone in a box until he learns how to treat women and children properly.
@@Ilikefrogs.. yea but I still wish him the best (as in to learn how to behave in a matter of weeks)
all people can be dumb, as a straight based white man, alot of us mf's be stupid as hell and think we funny
The fact that his mom let out that reprimanding 'Michael' just goes to show that these people know something's wrong. You don't get the mom scold unless you are messing up, bad.
Especially when it is the FULL NAME
That is a sign that something REALLY bad has occurred
@@Archiver_Studioabsolutely
Especially when you're just chillin in your room and then you here the scary parent scream: "*first name* *middle name*!!!" thats when you know u might as well go start diggin ur grave, you're gonna be taken there either way 💀
@@th3k1ngdr4ws you know it's deadly when you also add the last name
@@natasha6395 oh hell yeah. Your grave aint six feet under anymore its twelve 💀💀💀
Oh. On a rewatch, I just realized what was nagging at me about his vows. Aside from the obvious, the "nice" parts feel like they're copy pasted from a google search. "Nice vows for a groom" or something like that. There's nothing personal in there. Just... generic
If it were just generic, I'd give it a pass. Some people can have all the pretty , romantic words and still be terrible spouses and vice versa. But this? It's like something you'd see in a "How to lose a guy in ten days" type Hollywood concept movie. There is no reasonable explanation for it.
the whole “choose whether tonight ends with a toaster strudel or a twinkie” thing implies that he usually DOESNT let her choose, which is… Yikes.
Yeah, like, giving her the autonomy to choose is just a ~treat~ because she agreed to marry him... just a reward. You don't get basic human respect unless you earn it ig.
EWWWWW
A twinky is one of those dry, disgusting vanilla-butterflavoured things that never die on you, right?
So...I have seen a toaster strudel and that wasn't nice either. Might be because of TellSell's way of displaying it.
What..ehm... what is he talking about? Please don't tell me it's about the back-door or baby-door choice?
@@Widdekuu91
A twinkie has the cream inside the treat. A toaster strudel has the cream drizzled on top. The saying refers to where the man ejaculates, a "twinkie" being inside the woman, typically the vagina, and "toaster strudel" being somewhere outside of the body, but on the body, usually back or stomach
@@jadecoolness101 Yeah I googled it on urban-dictionary after I saw nobody responding (yet) and that's just such a..such a low point to end your vows on.
I mean, I want a word with his father and mother, I wonder who taught him that this is how you treat the love of your life on her most special day, in front of your little girls.
I went to a wedding where the vows were similar to the groom's in the tiktok. It was vile and misogynistic and the bride looked like she was about to cry. A bunch of guests did a walk out and she followed quickly after. They're not together anymore. Apparently he had written some genuinely beautiful vows but did a last minute switch up as a 'joke'.
Also, the bride's vows made me emotional. It's so clear she loves him and it's devastating.
His beautiful vows mean nothing if he decided his wedding was a good time to "joke" around like that. Or ever. I wish this wedding had a walk out. Those people at the wedding you went to proved they were better people than the man who should have been taking such a commitment seriously. I applause them. I'm glad the bride left too.
@Eckertainment you say that as if ppl wont jump on the bride and call her a "Karen" for not taking a joke.
@@krack-a-lacker some would. others won't. It weeding, thus the people there are her firends and family not strangers on the internet.
I attended a wedding similar to this as well; my cousin was the bride. Groom showed up late to the ceremony visibly hung over with the most disinterested expression in the world as he delivered “vows” that sounded like a mixture of every nasty, misogynistic thing he could think of and some random shit generated by a bot. Reception wasn’t any better with the best man making a speech about how he and his friends thought my cousin was too fat for the groom before gesturing to the “better girl”- the woman who was bartending- the woman who was the groom’s ex girlfriend. There was a toast to the ex gf and not the bride and groom. Groom then got sloshed and attempted to assault my cousin outside the reception hall. She spent most of her wedding day outside of the photographed and recorded moments in tears. They’re divorced now.
@@adawong9585 God that's so fucking sad. I'm glad she's divorced but fuck, to have to even sit through a second of that....
It took him 10 years and 2 kids to marry her and she’s literally drop dead gorgeous and says she’s no model. Even without his degrading “speech” that says EVERYTHING!
@c0ttage yea it screams she’s in a relationship with a narcissist. That’s she’s saying she’s not good at anything and he just cook and keep my balks empty is gross. She’s literally super model material too and says she’s not. That’s something put in her head to keep her down cause she’s SO beautiful he probably has to make her feel that way so she don’t wise up and leave him.
I was this woman for 8 years. Last year I got run over by a truck, almost lost my leg and could’ve died if I had been more unlucky. This made me realize that I deserve better. So sad but one is really blind to see the emotional abuse :(
im so sorry, sending you so much love
i'm so sorry, hope you're better now 💞
Wait, was he driving the truck, or was it that he showed little to no care?
@smolvaxxednezuko I mean, either way, it's awful.
honestly, emotional abuse is so tricky,, I know all the signs of it but I still don't realise it's happening until after a relationship (friendship or romantic) has ended
I feel so bad for this girl. She deserves SO much better. The fact she can look that pretty and sit there and demean her own looks to everyone as if she's normalized "being ugly" to herself is just so heartbreaking.
I don’t really feel bad for her. She chose this man and let him demean her in front of her audience. She has no spine
It’s less “to herself” and more that man has clearly torn her down over 10 years
@@thetillerwiller4696 I imagine you don't say the same to the man in the case of an unfair (to him) divorce.
@@thetillerwiller4696Victim blaming strikes again. So insane to me that even the liberal community is so a-okay with victim blaming women for "choosing to be in an abusive relationship" when millions of studies have been done about why these women stay. How progressive of you,really!
@@yuo3670 there hasn't been any abuse found. Giving insanely inappropriate vows at your wedding isn't abuse, it's just an asshole move. Obviously if theirs something more going on I wouldnt think this. She's a grown woman. She stood their as her husband said some vile things about her and did nothing. And she's defending him right now. She obviously wants this man for whatever reason, and has chosen to be with him. So I don't feel bad for her. She seems definitive on her choice. Not victim blaming, she's not a victim.
Her: you're so selfless
Literally all of his vows: me me me, this is what I need to be happy
Bride: "You're so selfless!"
Groom: "If you don't keep my fatass full I'll leave you for Margot Robbie."
@@wiggard ALMOST LITERALLY HIS EXACT WORDS
And he didn't say what he has to offer to make that could make her happy in return. When you want something from a person, you always need to offer something to them in return.
@@kalinaribic6383 He's offering her HIS name🤷♀️...the name of champions 👀
@@politereminder6284"Lentini"
“i’m no model” i want to cry. i hope she is okay :/
Saying that to a man looking like the penguin from gotham
@@rebeccanater LMAO
@@rebeccanater god DAM (accurate tho)
she actually could be
The fact she even mentions her looks in the vows is super depressing. Best case scenario, he doesn't support her working through self esteem issues or is building her up. worst case scenario, he is the f***er making her feel this way. Either way, she could do better.
In my wedding vows, I made reference to my husband’s habits of stealing the blankets and “wrapping himself in a blanket burrito”. You can make jokes in wedding vows but they shouldn’t be degrading. They should be light hearted and cute.
Literally!!! The jokes you tell shouldnt be at the expense of your partner and their comfort :(
Vows are literally the main way to display your love to other people in your lives, and the fact that he thought it was appropriate to *just* make crude sexual remarks about her makes me so upset :(((
they also should NOT BE SEXUAL IF CHILDREN ARE IN ATTENDANCE
Awww! That's so adorable! I hope you two have endless two-person blanket burritos for life 💕
@@kingosnake7158 EXACTLY!!!!
If I had a partner that did this I would include it too because I do it as well! It can be more of a bonding moment instead of making the other person feel uncomfortable to even be standing in front of all those people
I feel so bad for this woman. You make jokes about the Margot Robbie thing in private, or with friends. NOT ON YOUR WEDDING DAY. NEVER IS THAT OKAY
Definitely not front of your mom too 💀
@@parkchimmin7913 And let's not forget the children in the audience too
If i was her i would say no and break up with him
@@soulnightingale9443 And among those children are their kids!
@@ethan_the_alien honestly it's a take i've heard from way too many people that being married/in a relationship means you're entitled to sex whenever you please, i've legit heart a scary amount of people justify cheating by saying things along the lines of "they didn't have enough sex with me so it's their fault i cheated" it's wild
This man is disgusting oh my god. I would have walked- RAN away from the alter. She looks so pretty too and he just ruined her day. She should have slapped him with that paper. He didn't even look up to her!
Fr 😭 she deserves to have a much better wedding
Bc he can’t read more than one word without having to look at the paper like a second grader 🙄
@@swtlikecndy4119 He's very dumb.
They apparently have kids. It makes running away a little harder.
if i were her, i'd say no to the i dos and walk away with a smile.
Could you imagine what her parents were thinking. I know damn well the father wanted to punch that 'groom' in the face
That would have been so satisfying. FUCK that guy
My father literally would kill a man if they talked about me like that, especially on my wedding day
or most likely he thought it was funny, my guess is that her father was the first man who crushed her self-esteem
@@FruityHachiI'm not so sure. With these types of men who are disrespectful of women, they tend to be overprotective of their daughters. Rules for thee but not for me kinda thing. And for all we know her dad could be the nicest man in the world so who's to say 🤷🏾♀️
I think the mother as well. I know i would.
They already have kids AND he's belittling her in public like this? That man gave her a 'shut-up' ring.
That’s horrific. You can tell that she was probably an “ugly duckling” in her school days and he took advantage of that lack of self esteem and tore her down to put up with his bs.
And now she is beautiful and he is just ugly
Not necessarily, she could’ve always been beautiful. Self esteem doesn’t discriminate, look at how many beautiful people are with awful people.
@@bu3asalli That’s literally what an ugly duckling is. Either someone who is originally not “pretty” or doesn’t feel they are due to lack of self esteem.
Why you felt the need to comment this after 2 months is beyond me. As someone who was an ugly duckling on both sides of that kindly fuck off.
@@bu3asalli True but usually an attractive teen will know their "worth" (ew, I'm sorry, I hope y'all know how I meant it) towards boys, be popular because of pretty privilege and have many options to choose from. Doesn't sound like she had that experience. But however it had gone down, I pray that she sees her true worth in the near future and either enforces boundaries towards her husband or divorces him and finds someone who's treating her right.
She still is lol
I'm not just worried about the bride but for their DAUGHTERS. They're going to grow up and see this man as an example of how men "should" treat them. Which obviously not. I hope she leaves him because c'mon, why would he ruin their supposed perfect day
Not to mention the fact that talking very sexually in front of your children can be quite damaging.
I feel like the way my mother talked about/to my dad in front of me was one of the reasons I became asexual.
This 😢
This guy is such a creeper I'm scared for their physical safety at puberty. He could easily already be molesting them, but he seems like an 'act like breast development is a permission slip' type.
Can confirm. My dad has been constantly sexual with my mom in front of me, from when I have my first memories to even now. I. Hate. It. My mom is constantly embarrassed by his remarks, and she has had to quite literally fight him off of her sometimes.
Once again. I. Hate. It. With. Everything. I. Have. Earnestly, I think it was one of the large factors that led to me being s3xu4lly 4ss4ulted as a teenager. I grew up thinking love was screaming matches or that. So, I thought how my romantic partners treated me was normal. I still have trauma from how my dad was and what happened to me because of that, that I have yet to overcome. I'm just thankful to now live far away from him, so it's no longer an everyday occurrence, and I can begin to heal properly. :)
My husband and I first exchanged our vows privately in our bedroom ahead of the ceremony (cuz I was nervous about how they would sound). And that private moment is one of my favorite memories.
The idea of your wedding vows being THIS is heartbreaking.
Oohhh that is so cute! :D
i love that for you! Glad you've found the one & are in a better relationship than those two ever will...
Oh that sounds so lovely. I couldn’t do that unless i was wearing zero Make-up because i would cry waterfalls
This is so lovely and made me smile, I will do this with my partner when we marry. Thank you for sharing the story!!!
That honestly sounds beautiful
The fact that she sounded like she was about to burst into tears while reading her vows is sad as hell. She deserves better.
The saddest part about the "husband is so clearly misogynistic even in a short video" trope (can I call it a trope? I feel like it is) is that the wife will always defend them to the grave, saying "you don't know him" "he's funny like that" "ugh it was just a two minute clip." When in reality, we don't need any more context to see that was super not okay and uncomfortable. In fact, we've seen this dynamic many, many times with other super shitty men! Hope she wakes up and realizes he is not the one for her. Yuck.
If he was secretly a nice dude, I feel like he would've had a behind the curtains moment where he dropped the "act" and gave really sincere, heartfelt vows. Like yes, I know it's just one clip -- also, the stark contrast between his and hers is ALL the info I need lmao.
@@EMan753 yeah, plus the tone he uses makes it sound like it's not an act, he sounds 100% serious, if it were a joke you think he'd have a joking/sarcastic tone, or expression on his face, but he doesn't even look at her or anything, he sounds like he'd rather be anywhere else
@@EMan753 Also he has a Confederate flag and MAGA hat 😰
@@girlfailure_69 doesn’t surprise me
@@EMan753 I think this comment kind of sums up my feelings pretty well. It kept feeling like I was waiting for the other shoe to drop, for him to say “all jokes aside” or “but seriously” and talk about how he’s lucky to have her in his life, or how she makes him the happiest man in the world etc. and he sorta half flirts with that than immediately reverts back to “joking”/degrading her. Like I get that they’re country and he had a confederate flag shirt and maga hat (🤢). So I get that his “humor” might be more crude. But honestly I feel like the odds that he is not at worst abusive and at best manipulative are pretty high. Even though her vows were a million times better calling your partner a pain in the ass on your wedding day during your vows is just not something I’d ever want in a partner. But also calling him a pain in the ass is probably actually a compliment for how he is/behaves 😂.
"Life gets even better when the kids fall asleep..." With the kids right there. He said that with the kids right there. As a kid, I would have seen this as my dad saying he would rather me not be around him. It would have crushed me as a child, and I bet I would have had those words playing in my mind for the rest of my life. Some things my parents said a decade ago still affect me in adulthood.
Meaning he probably yells at them all the time or complains he’s babysitting his own kids.
100% right, growing up my parents constantly reminded me how much i enriched their lives and how thankful they were to have me, and made it a point to never make me feel like a burden (unlike those parents who joke about celebrating the end of summer break and having to be around their kids) - and now as a 22 year old i can tell that has shaped so much of my positive self worth, confidence, and standards for love in all forms... i can only imagine what growing up with the opposite does to a person
Yeah it's all about you buddy
@@wiswcBro your so obsessed commenting under literally ever comment your actually chronologically online 💀🙏
And to follow it with how he preferred his wife sexually pleasing HIM (he never talked about his wife's sexual fulfillment, not once, although sex shouldn't have been spoken about AT ALL). Dude sounds selfish as can be. Made it all about him, degraded the bride, embarrassed her by talking about their sex life, only talking about the blowys she was giving him and nothing else, not talking about their children ONCE (note that he NEVER mentioned their kids except when to say he preferred when they WEREN'T around, which is a massive, flashing, siren blasting red flag).
Listening to his vows I thought they’d known each other for 6 months and this was an ill-advised quickie wedding with two kids from a previous marriage dragged into it.
Then I heard her vows. Holy shit.
Like dude, I feel so bad for her. She deserves better.
I can't believe they've been together for *10 years* and that's the relationship he wants to portray to the world
"I know I'm no model" GIRL YOU LOOK SO GOOD WHAT DO YOU MEAN her hair looks so good, her face, she seems so nice he doesn't deserve her
How does she knows it? He tells her every day!
I would literally rush the altar/stage and tackle him if he said this about my daughter in front of her grandparents, children, friends, coworkers, etc. This was HUMILIATING and a calculated move on his part. You can tell that her self esteem has been chiseled away at and there’s almost nothing left now. Also, his “vows” were NOT appropriate for the children they mentioned were in the audience! Not OK!!
I would too. Gross pig. Then again I wouldn't want to frighten the children, so i I'd attack him later.
RIGHT?! Like it’s awful that she doesn’t understand that this is wrong, but it’s also awful that her family and friends didn’t set the precedent that it’s not okay for him to treat her like this
That’s what I was confused about… where is her family and why didn’t they let him have it way before now!
Who the fu*k are you to decide for them what's appropriate for THEIR kids? also tackling anyone gets you an assault charge genius
Super late, but not only her but also both families are teaching the daughters thats the way they need to behave for their future parterns. Eww :(
They've been together for 10+ years and the bride is so goddamn brainwashed that she doesn't realise how abusive this is. I hope she comes to her senses soon
Edit: also I have to disagree, we absolutely should get hemmroids over this because he has _two daughters_ and they're gonna grow up seeing their mom being abused and they'll think treating women like this is okay. And he's probably gonna treat them like shit too
your edit is honestly what makes this even more harrowing in my opinion.
they're *both* setting up these little girls for a life of accepting every kind of treatment their dad gives their mom.
bride/mom has been with groom/dad for a decade, around half the time they will probably be living with him, and already has been abused into *hating herself*. can you imagine how much quicker, and deeper, that teaching will run with twice the time and twice as many people hammering it home? it makes me sick.
@@sleepymothpup you're so correct. I'm so scared for these girls and we can only hope the internets outrage can have some sort of positive or helpful impact,
I agree if this is how he is OUTside how vile is he to her Inside their home?!?! she looks use to this but embarrassed I hope she is safe
@@Gothymothmoth omg this 😭
Thank you. This is exactly what bothers me about it. I know how that ends up for the daughters.
Yeah I think the biggest thing is that if they both had of had crass lines it probably still would have blown up in a "why the fuck would you do this at your wedding" way, but without the back and forth it very quickly became a "that is a man child who is actively degrading you in front of all your friends and family and you need to run" situation.
The bride seems so kind and loving. She is also absolutely GORGEOUS. She deserves better, that much is obvious.
Whether she is being, abused or not, this was just horrible hers was so heartfelt and his was so inconsiderate and awful. Not to Mention incredibly embarrassing. It’s your wedding day, It’s not time to try and be funny it’s time to spread love and especially to the person you’re marrying.
I think making jokes in your vows is fine but they gotta be good (and not put downs of your partner ). This man doesn't have the charisma to make a basic ass knock knock.joke
The largest issue here is not only were HIS vows degrading to her but SO WERE HERS! she said she felt like she wasn’t good enough for them when they met and she degraded her own looks even though she’s gorgeous. This isn’t a joke. She feels that way about herself and HE’S PERPETUATING IT! Even if your partner says they love dark/demeaning humor a good partner would not make jokes that explicitly prey on insecurities of their SO. You are allowed to draw lines on what you will say to someone about them, regardless of their sense of humor.
Man she sounded like she was trying so hard not to cry when she was talking about the meatloaf. Its like he confirmed every insecurity she has about not being good enough for him. She deserves better.
He probably says it in a more degrading and louder way at home. It’s all smiles for the public but this kind of put down talk is normal and on a constant basis if they’re both bringing it up. It’s how my parent’s relationship was. Make jokes in public but get in her face and say horrible degrading things on a daily basis when it’s not up to your standards.
Does she really deserve better though? I'd say we deserve the people we CHOOSE.
@@faithpearlgenied-a5517 That's a really messed up take.
@faithpearlgenied-a5517
Judging by your comment (and the fact you haven't made loads all over the page like trolls do) I am going to assume you are ignorant on abusive relationships, or more specifically how abusers work.
Abusers (or at least the smart ones) don't start the abuse straight away. At the beginning they act nice, overly nice (which is called love bombing) to make them appear really sweet so when they do start acting out (which will be slow and covert, not straight into the deep end) you question if you done something wrong, not them.
They gradually isolate you from your friends and family (assuming you have them in the first place, since abusers usually pick out those that are vulnerable) and put you in a position where you can't leave so easily (like they'll marry you, move in with you, baby-trapping).
They start gaslighting (which is lying in a way to make you seem like your misrembering things/going crazy). They play the victim, they neg (subtle back-handed compliments purposefully designed to lower your self esteem), they compare you to others.
Considering how far abusers go to 'hunt down' the victim and keep them 'in place' it's not really fair to claim that the victim chose them (since they weren't showing their true selves until long into the relationship) and considering many abuse victims grew up in abusive families they see the abuse as 'normal' or 'better than normal' because abuse is all they known.
Claiming that a young woman that was often beaten half to death almost daily by her parents when she was a child deserves to be with someone that punches her daily because 'she chose him' is pretty f*cked up. I know that's not what you are saying but a comment like 'you deserve who you choose' could be seen that way (by someone like the young woman in my example.)
Honestly I didn't need to write an essay about this but I really hate victim blaming. There's so much more to abusive relationships then a 'she chose the bad boy/he chose the bad girl' rhetoric.
I feel like she has a massive lost cost fallacy, she knows little else other than trash that gaslights and degrades her, and thinks there's nothing better. I fear, FEAR for the daughters, no one who treats their wife like that and then suddenly doesn't treat their kids like complete shit.
I'm not gonna lie, this is part of why I won't date anymore. This sort of thing is all I know of too and now I'm 32 and never gonna be able to navigate something healthy with all the traumas I got.
it makes me sad knowing she probably has low self esteem and thinks she doesn't deserve any better :(
@@jasperjazzie She even thinks she's not a model... This girl is one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen... oO
@@grenade8572 Literally. She's hella pretty and attractive, she is way out of this guy's league.
@@kaydwessie296 God same. I’m 27 and at this point I’m gonna take the L and just be single
Her speech: “but thank you for loving me ‘still’, ‘the way you do’”;
“You are literally making the fairytale I always dreamed of come true, well, ‘maybe a little funnier than I imagined”;
And finally: “but it’s still way more than I could ever ask for”. He’s been putting her down all these years 100%
Her vows are so beautiful and sweet, sweetheart run run as fast as you can 🏃♀️
Hey dude, is it possible that i saw you on the comments of bertra's video?
“You can’t catch me bicth I shall remain a single Man”
I've definitely seen you around!
@@tiktokcompilation1568 YES!!
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I swear he must have written these vows while drunk at his bachelor party. This is just so heartbreaking.
Not even, my partner gets drunk and talks about our future 😭
This man is just an asshole
it would be worse if he were drunk tbh
Even drunk I tell everybody I have the best man in the world. Drunk only removes inhibitions, it doesn't change your personality. It only shows your true colours.
Imagine growing up dreaming of being a cute princess with a loving kind knight you date and this is your wedding. Her defending him is so sad. She‘s so clearly been groomed.
100% emotional grooming.
definitely groomed, she met him in high school and was obsessed with him, she had low self-esteem then and didn't know any better
I wonder if this is where the term "groom" comes from - hmm
@@Cleopatress_tarotis here another type of grooming?
@@FruityHachi so true, makes me think he was probably popular in high school and so she idolized him, then they entered the real world where he isn't shit, but yet she still sees him through that lens and he's trying everything he can to keep it that way, which includes tearing her down so she doesn't realize her real worth one day
The fact that he delivered the most hateful, gross, and disrespectful vows with the indifference he did, just disgusts that anyone like that can find love in this day and age. I wish her the best, she's just got to break out of it. "It's her journey, not ours."
This is definitely a narcissistic, emotionally abusive, incredibly manipulative relationship, and it just crushes me to hear her degrade herself like she would be absolutely nothing without this sorry excuse of a man. I really hope she’s able to get out of it sooner rather than later, but like you said, it’s her journey to take, not ours, so we can only hope for the best. It makes me so sad for her though.
The self-righteous relationship expert is here, passing judgment because the bride finds humor in her husband's unconventional wedding vows. Your unsolicited pity and hope for her to escape the relationship are projections of your insecurities and lack of understanding.
@@jpeg..I mean, he spent his whole vows talking shit about her, and she spent her vows talking shit about herself. It's absolutely possible that they're happy with this and it's not a big deal to them, but let's not act like it's a completely left field baseless assumption to say that something seems off here, she never reciprocated that energy, I really think if she was telling jokes at his expense too nobody would really care, bur it just came off like a monotone dude talking shit about his new bride who's all weepy talking shit about herself. There's am automatic cringe factor that's kind of impossible to avoid at a surface level observation. Which is maybe why it wasn't a good idea to whip out this sense of humor as part of the filmed vows and then put it on the internet, that's the kind of thing you say amongst friends in a more adult space if its really something everyone is cool with. I really sincerely hope we're all wrong and they were laughing about it the whole ride home, but the whole thing just seems so one sided and sad from what we do see. It's hard not to feel pity when you see someone being talked down to. Even if there's context behind the scenes that changes things it's a normal response to feel this way when seeing things like this.
@@miaironstone6783 the bride actually made a response to it explaining that she's fine
@jpeg.. personally I have some reservations that go beyond that, subjecting kids/ older folks present to this kind of language for one thing seems like a massive moral line to cross for a lot of people, not to mention he clearly didn't give anyone attendiany warning that this kind of thing would be discussed, giving any family members with kids the ability to choose notbto be involved with something like that. And since she didn't seem to be directly involved, people responded with pity because they wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt in the scenario. Plus, I doubt many people knew she publicly responded, especially since this video is their first time hearing of the situation. And it's always important to remember that although we have to be careful not to act like we know for certain what their private lives are like, it's not baseless to consider this kind of behavior a massive red flag. People are just doing their best to express kindness and support for someone who seems at least at a surface level to be a really kind person who dealt with a shitty situation. And just as we can't assume abuse is DEFINITELY taking place, we can't make the opposite assumption either based on the info we have. It's entirely possible for someone who is being abused to lie to defend their abuser, especially with this much public scrutiny on them. And its also entirely possible for someone who's being abused to not be mentally ready to come to terms with whats happening to them, so they block it down and push away those emotions and might genuinely think that all is well right now. I'm just weary of assumptions either way given the nature or emotional and mental abuse and how difficult it can be to spot until someone comes forward with proof either way.
@@miaironstone6783 You're making stuff up without any proof. Cut it out with your baseless claims and pretend to know things you don't.
I am scared for their daughters. He doesn't strike me as the type to hold back from emotional abuse just because they're "sensitive little girls".
and his mind is so set on sex, wouldn't be surprised if he was attracted to them too.
@cole Yeah I wouldn't be surprised seeing as he said all of those sexual things with the knowledge that his young daughters were in the audience watching. Major fucked up vibes coming from this whole thing.
@@pissapocalypse
Fr, parents with no boundaries like that deeply worry me. My mother had made very nasty comments in a sexual manor about me and or talked about me in a sexual manor at 14 years old. A parent with no filter and or boundaries is a parent who cannot be trusted.
@@murmirr😭😭😭😭😭
God I'm in love with this commentary. Truly felt seen and heard when you said Pattinson in the front. Christ tier content for my christian minecraft channel thank you.
I looked it up, but for some reason I wasn’t able to find any pictures of Willem Dafoe’s co-
9:30 I love the way they says in the old man voice “*b A L l s*”
Edit: changed she to they
@@Spingus_Rongong_III Same, I only found articles saying it was extra large 😢
…. I just remembered I have a digital footprint
@@SeriouslySeriousGrim not if you sweep it away like they did in that one part of 101 Dalmatians
And if you have a noose around your neck when the fbi come in
Even worse that the bride in this video later put out a TikTok justifying the groom and his vows and saying 'that's just his sense of humor'. The copium. 🤐
I’d like to point out that while he, in his “vows”, made that “unless Margot Robbie gave me a chance” comment, she, in her vows, made the exact opposite comment and said that she would continue to choose him every day for the rest of her life. Even if his was just an awkward and tone deaf joke, that’s still really gotta hurt.
Weddings are so cringy nowadays, or maybe they always have been and I’m just seeing them more on social media. Last year I went to a wedding and literally every family member’s speech was telling the bride and groom to hurry up and start boning so they could pop out some kids. Several times it was implied the groom wouldn’t be a man if he couldn’t impregnate his wife. The grooms brother could barely get through his speech because he was laughing/crying so hard about if his bro couldn’t knock up his wife he’ll get him a Turkey baster to get the job done. All of the speeches were cringe and gross and kind of took away from the wedding.
That's insanely insulting to that poor man. I hate people who do that. I'll never understand why people are always so focused on a couple having kids as soon as they're married! Like geez, a lot of things have to be done before they even *think* about kids! Like going on their honeymoon (if they had one) and moving and housing, expenses, groceries, possibly even medical bills. The list goes on. Believe it or not, having a baby is expensive and can be a *huge* financial burden that the couple may not be equipped for so to those people I say: Shut up and let them have their day darn it!
And saying "He won't be a man if he can't get his wife pregnant" isn't funny at all, it's demeaning. I hope things get better for them!
@@idontknowhowtochangemyusername insanely insulting to the bride too. Who would want to sit there while all your loved ones laugh about the image of you getting impregnated via turkey baster
@@cascharles3838 Not only insulting, disgusting. What kind of sense of humor even is that? I hope they cut ties.
thats so strange..i’ve only been to a few weddings but they (fortunately) have been such beautiful moments. The speeches were about the couple coming together as a unit, the couples speeches about each other were about love and their vows were such lovely promises. But this wedding sounds like a 2nd hand embarrassment you had to sit thru
Maybe it's an American thing? I've never been to a wedding that has bawdy sex jokes or "pop a kid out already!" comments. Like an embodiment of this is the garter tradition which just isn't a thing here
If this is how he treats her publicly and on their wedding day, i could only imagine how he treats her alone. Were her parents there? Her daddy should have spoken up and knocked the man child out.
her daddy is probably the original man-child that made her accustomed to this behavior from men
@@FruityHachi A classic abuser move is isolation of the abused: make them cut ties with their friends and family, pretty much get rid of the person's support group, so that there's nobody there to help her fight against gaslighting, grooming, and other such.
Even if the father was a great person, she might've already cut ties with him because "her dad can't understand her love!" or the likewise. It definitely didn't seem like she had family present (unlike the groom's mother), which could be a flag in and of itself.
13:20 I just know this marriage is ending in divorce. He's joking around and constantly brings up sex to embarrass her. He's only marrying her to shut her up😂😂
yeah 🤦♀️
This 👆👆👆👆
His vows really bring me back to the whole "the gays can't stop talking about sex and want to indoctrinate the kids!!" when he's objectifying and stereotyping his wife in front of his two daughters and everyone is just laughing it off... Also, it's not a good sign when she said "Thank you for loving me still....in the way that you do..."
The bit where she said “sleeping beauty with a temper” made me wince. 100% he’s made her believe any type of standing up for herself is her having a “temper problem”
I WAS HOPING THERE WOULD BE COMMENTS ABOUT THAT those are my thoughts exactly, not just objectifying and stereotyping, but GRAPHICALLY at that
both can be true
@@valorie444 What?
It's almost like it has nothing to do with you and bigotry is what leads to attack something you know very little about
It’s the way she tries to excuse his actions.. she needs to run
make like forrest gump and run across america
I am. So worried for her
Can we just take a moment to recognize how beautiful that woman looked. Like that dress was perfect for her and she had an adorable smile, she deserves someone better
Who the hell cares if she looked pretty or not. Even if she looked terrible she would still deserve better
@@lexa2310 absolutely
@@lexa2310 totally! I only meant that in edition too
@@lexa2310 fr
@@lexa2310thank you for saying this
The bride is probably almost crying because she feels so humiliated and is regretting every decision she ever made
Nah she's in way too deep. She's genuinely excited about being tied to this crusty, dusty, musty jerk.
And the laughing is the typical 'woman laughing to try an ease an awkward situation for a toxic and abusive male'
Imagine being gorgeous and kindhearted but thinking you’re garbage because you’re with some heinous excuse for a man. She deserves better. *I hope her second husband treats her how she should be*
I hope she heals herself & doesn’t search for love & validation outside herself especially from massive douche bags. I hope she becomes a good example of a high value woman if only for her daughters.
wait did she divorce him?
@@q_0191she should
@@q_0191I hope so
the fact she knew he would've included models in his vows is so sad. I feel bad that she has to deal with his selfishness. Regardless if it was a joke, that was supposed to be one of the best days of their lives and he turned it into a haha silly moment and actively sexualized and insulted her while she sweetly and adoringly proclaimed her love for him
Her comment didn't say anything about why it wasn't a red flag, it was like she assumed that because they had been together for 10 years there's no way there is simply a red flag missed, honestly? Terrifying. Yes it's her journey, but there are also two afab children she has brought into the world of that man, speaking from the experience of being a child of a raging sexist, that part I do not find ok, no matter how conditioned and/or groomed she was.
This, people have to remember these girls are gonna grow up and think women being treated this way is normal. That's horrifying
Exactly, her defense of their relationship is literally an example of the sunken cost fallacy.
@Devilsadvocate23 the other day I was having a conversation with someone and they said sunken cost fallacy is the reason for like half of the world's issues. I believe they are right. When you see people do that, you just want to shake them out of it, like you can reach for something better TODAY
Aw yes let's get mad at a brainwashed victim. Makes sense🙄
@@emmamcmahon1738 nobody's being mad at her, it's just she needs to take into account that she has two little girls that she needs to protect, when your husband is so comfortable bringing up your sex life at the alter infront of each and everyone of your loved ones while he also has your two KIDS there talking about how he wants to drain his balls into the bride then there is a serious problem. When 4290+ comments have replied to your post about why your relationship is toxic as well as unhealthy for the kids then that needs to serve AT LEAST as a reminder that something's up instead of blatantly dismissing it. It's not just about her anymore as sad as her situation is, she has two kids that are being conditioned to think treating people like this is okay, not even people let's just be for real he views women this way. Bro is describing her like a hormonal teenage boy.
Ewww. No!
My husband was almost in tears choking out how much he loved me during his vows. I felt the same, said the same, though I wanted to scream "I sucked at being a wife during my first marriage! Run away, sweetheart! Run away!" I didn't say it. After four truly wonderful decades together I'm glad I put my self doubt on hold.
Pity this guy didn't rethink his wedding roast.🙄 A little self doubt would have served him well.
The bride isn’t crying out of happiness…
She’s crying because she realized she’s marrying the wrong dude
unfortunately she’s still married
@@김구슬-d1iseriously?
It’s never too late to divorce that dude, I HOPE that she divorces him
Chronically online mfs
@@wiswc Imagine being so delusional you think this behavior is normal at a *wedding* and on top of that have an anime profile pic. You're the last person to be calling someone chronically online, dude.
the icing on the (wedding) cake for me is the extremely subtle look of shame and embarrassment on the husband’s face when he heard the wife’s beautiful and genuine vows. im hoping that was his personal moment of clarity
Yes ofcourse I think he is seriously emotionally immature and doesn't know exactly how to be appropriate situations. He needs to mature and I hope that he sees his wrongs in his words/actions
I'm loving the enthusiasm cause all I see happening is him later on convining himself and her that it actually was pretty fun and just "him being him" 🥴
I don’t have much hope for people like him. I have personal experiences with those types as my relatives and they never see anything wrong with their actions but will point the finger at anyone but themselves for the shame they feel.
The fact that she decided to put "I know I'm no model" in her vows is heartbreaking.
I bet, he berates her every day for it.
I remember seeing only one time a short and jokey wedding vow was okay, and it was a post on Tumblr. The poster’s aunt was known for long and very dry speeches, and on the aunt’s wedding day, she pulled out notecards. Everyone internally groaned, ready for a long speech. She unfolded the cards into a piece of paper to read her wedding vows, with dark, big letters. “Hot damn.”
Those were her wedding vows. A fake out to ensure that everyone got a laugh.
she and penguinz0 both have that witty dry humor that I love. they would be an unstoppable duo
omg yes i would love to see that colab
Y’all are crazy if you think I’m even a blip on the almighty Charlie’s radar but I appreciate it
I will hold out hope for this anything could happen
i also feel like if them and chad chad did a collab they'd mesh really well
Except for me they just use a bunch of ptsd triggering words, so I can't seem to watch either. I wanted to try this video because I was hoping she'd censored them, but no.
I just don’t understand why ON THE WEDDING DAY. 10 years of love and work and you come up with THAT for your wedding vows?😭
If I waited TEN YEARS for THAT? I’m literally leaving before we sign the certificate.
He didn't even look at her while he was saying them. This dude only cares about sex and what she can do for him. He doesn't love her. No sane person would look at this and say "now that's true love"
idk abt love fam
@@ember9361 😭😭
It’s not love, it’s lust and control.
The only way she says “im no model” when she’s a literal goddess
Also, not that it matters, she is absolutely stunning. She can 100% do better, physically and personality-wise, than this man.
What really hurts me is that there were people in the audience laughing at the grooms joke, laughing at her expense. I'm willing to bet they were mostly on the groom's side of the family
Or maybe it’s a lough out of pure pain
Couples like these help me to remember how blessed I am to have a supportive partner and a healthy relationship. I am so grateful for that.
Exactly, I've been in relationships pretty close to what theirs seems like (at least from this admittedly limited perspective) and I've been in emotionally healthy stable ones, namely the long term one I'm in now. I was just lucky that things didn't go on as long or as far as it did for her. Makes me grateful for where I'm at and kinda sad that I know first hand that you can't force someone to realize how much better things could be. They have to come to that conclusion on their own or else they'll always think it's jealous people interfering with true love. And unfortunately some people waste years of their life coming to that realization, sometimes so many years that they think their time has passed and it's hopeless to do better, some people spend their whole lives in denial and ignorance. It's sad
Fuckin same dude
same... I'm SUPER grateful for my partner and the life we are creating together and how supportive we are of each other . If we ever joke like this, it's to each other and superficial to make a laugh, not hurt each other either.... I hope this lady sees the comments and internet and realizes that everyone here wants her to find true happiness and not settle for this D-bag..
Me too!
Reminds me how blessed I am to be single. Even the most “healthy” relationship can end up like this.
You wanna bet that this dude is a follower of Andrew Tate's, and literally sits at home watching his stuff on how to get a proper lady
he's a alt right asshole so I wouldn't be surprised if he deepthoats Tate too
I'd bet my right kidney on that.
@Cairn Owl I'd bet both and a liver
@@ckaa21 Can I meet that and also toss in a few ovaries and some of the large intestine?
i bet a leg
That girl can do SOOOOO MUCH BETTER!! It’s so sad that she literally settled for this loser, because she has low self esteem and he keeps her emotionally chained to his side by “funny” threats of leaving her for someone more attractive and then love bombs her when her feelings are hurt. I used to be married to a jerk exactly like him!
The bride is actually way to goodhearted and attractive for his weird and creepy self.
He’s not even attractive in any sense.
@@cjselvey2360 Exactly! I would have to be held back by my family if this was my sister's man!
Whether she was okay with it or not... this is how you want this day to be remembered? Your family won't remember your beautiful dress, how nice everyone looked, how nice the venue was. No they're going to forever talk about how you get gagged and can't cook. Disgusting.
You know that idea about one person in a relationship being "the settler"? They both seem to think he's settling for her when she's the one settling for him. I usually don't like to talk about people this way but she is much hotter than her husband and in a short amount of time has also proven to be kinder, more humble, respectful, have decorum and to value those around her. Every nice and normal thing he put in his vows felt like something a sister or cousin had to make him add in so it sounded more legit. I usually don't like reading too deeply into clips but the fact that he did this at their wedding speaks volumes. I just hope she's happy and safe.
Yeah, I'm genuinely praying that all the people in the comments defending him and saying we don't know what things are like behind closed doors/ if she was actually ok/ happy with those vows are somehow right and that this looks a lot worse than it is. I sincerely doubt it, but I really HOPE things aren't nearly as bad as thus makes them appear. I'd never wish for anyone to go through this kind of relationship/ humiliation. I'd be much happier if we could all find out that he's just really bad at social ques/ was nervous when he wrote them or SOMETHING.
@@miaironstone6783 I feel like people forget you can be "happy" and still be abused
@@salemcrow5078 true but if someone is at the point where even they can't understand what's happening, nothing we can do or say as outsiders is ever gonna help. You can't force awareness on someone, you can't force help on someone who doesn't want it or doesn't even know it can help them. And I always leave the tiny shred of hope that things aren't how they appear, and that there's some background thing we can't even think of as outsiders that cam have an innocent explanation. Do I hope? Yes, do I genuinely believe it, I don't think so.
Does that make any sense? I'm pretty exhausted rn so I have no idea how well im expressing my thoughts.
@@miaironstone6783 You're all good! I totally understand what you mean. Ultimately, you can't force understanding on someone - nor can you force them to leave.
@salemcrow5078 exactly what I mean when I say she might be happy, abuse may still be happening but if she's not seeing it, that's where our ability to do anything ends
At my sisters wedding, after she had said her vows she ended it with “I love you thiiiiiisss much!” and she stretched her arms out as far as she could. I thought it was adorable
Awww 😊❤
the audience is NOT laughing with him, they're laughing at him
They're definitely laughing uncomfortably
@@pissapocalypse Not sure... A woman and a man (the two that laugh harder than everyone else) seem to find him funny...
@@grenade8572 Okay but the rest of the audience is laughing uncomfortably
@@pissapocalypse there was definitely second hand embarrassment laughter in there as well.
I couldnt even uncomfortably laugh, I would be holding down vomit
He reads it like he doesn't even wanna read it, and it sounds like he didn't write anything but the sexual and crude jokes by the tone in his voice. I feel so bad for the wife, and the poor mother of the groom, they both were probably so embarrassed, and making those jokes with their own CHILDREN in the audience. Plus the entire audience was probably so embarrassed as well.
On an unrelated note to that, I love the way you do your commentary!
And to anyone who reads this, I hope you have an amazing day! You're doing great, and just do your best!
Ok just, I can only guess she grew up around people like I did where she was very much taught "boys will be boys" and to, among other things, prioritize the males happiness and pleasure above all else, and that she's just inherently going to have more ~emotions~ than a man, so she doesn't have the right to feel its unfair if he's detached and focused on sex.
I hope to high high heaven she gets the fuck out of that marriage ASAP, it's not even balanced by most traditionalists perspective much less in any other framework, jfc.
Dude is trash and doesn't deserve a partner in his current state.
It's really sad and disgusting like he literally spoke like shit and she was literally shaking while reading her vows
i was exposed to sexual concepts when i was very young (5 or 6), and although it was always verbal and never visual or physical, it impacted my perspective of sex and it still does today. my case was pretty severe, but even then, kids are malleable. they pick up on shit, and things affect them into their later life, even if they don't always understand or even remember it. knowingly exposing your children to this is disgusting and is most certainly going to affect them when they get older.
ESPECIALLY if it includes your parents and isnt only like some vague concept you picked up on the internet ... Yikes. Biggest yikes.
Honestly this video just drums up every single heterosexual Midwestern wedding I was forced to go to as a kid. And as a gay person, I would like to say "Straight people. Please try harder."
Fr, I’ve been so desensitized to this bullshit that it took someone pointing it out for me to realize truly how fucked it is
Same here. South Dakota weddings are essentially this. It sounded like a normal wedding, everyone being shocked was definitely an eye opener
FR like broski if you really love this woman for more than her body ACT LIKE IT
The heck are you talking? Us "straight people's weddings" aren't like this, if they actually care and love each other it's not like this, and gay or lesbians, or lbt whatever people's weddings can be like this too, they don't only have "good" weddings or whatever 🤔
@@Ash_NuggTato the YAP+ community doesn't know anything. Just because they groom doesn't mean they know about weddings 🎉🎉
This guy is that one dude in the big friend group that all the women hate because he’s inappropriate and makes them uncomfortable, and all the men hate because he thinks sex is a whole personality trait. The bride is oblivious to everyone being like “oh I hope Stacy doesn’t bring Michael, I hope- CRAP he’s here! 💀”
I get more the vibe that she's the type who has this beauty and the beast mindset of being so enamored with the idea that she thinks he's good deep down, just a little rough around the edges, and being self sacrificial and humble will help bring him closer to his humanity, and anyone who tries to tell her he makes them uncomfortable or they think she could do better just "doesn't understand what he's really like the way she does" and "they should be more patient/ understanding, he went through a lot and needs time to heal" I've met women like this, hell I've BEEN one, I was just lucky enough that I was too young to get married to that creep and had the time/ support to mature away from his shit.
my father forgot his written script for his vows for my mom during their vow renewal. so he made one up on the fly and said some of the most beautiful and romantic things i’ve ever heard. friends and family in tears, it was wonderful. i can’t imagine ever hearing this at a wedding or anything
I truly hope she’s okay and the relationship doesn’t get worse.. as someone who was in an emotionally abusive relationship for two years, you truly cannot see the extent of how terrible it was until you’re out. I hope that, at the very least, she can someday see the inherent value she has. She deserves so much better.
Imagine your fiance's wedding vows are just him describing you as a walking fleshlight
"we really need to get you some cooking lessons" instant divorce, on the spot, I'm running away from my own wedding. Not to mention his monotone voice and expressionless face would make me want to cry, and not the good kind of cry
He has likely watched porn since he was a kid, so he is guaranteed dead inside
Her degrading herself saddens me.
No literally because her vows were so sweet but sadly self deprecating but then his weren’t even vows, just being a disrespectful horndog with no sense genuine love and respect for his wife.