I get pretty sick of lying to myself and saying I'm good enough but then society constantly reminds me that I'm not. You're a young, attractive and successful girl. You have no idea what it feels like to be discarded and rejected like trash.
It is different when you're older, as nobody loves you for your wisdom! , I'm 54, but it is possible to feel more valuable at 50 than at 30. Society values young women but we can value ourselves. I'm single and probably always will be at this point, but I don't view myself through the eyes of men who don't want to be with me. Again, caveat, if there were one particular person who I coukd imagine being with who "chose" a younger woman, it would hurt. We don't have to couple up though. I feel braver and more independent than I would feel if I were in a relationship.
Also, one thing to remember. A lot of people are portraying a fake lifestyle online. Many of the things people are envious of does not exist. We don't know what goes on behind the scenes. Some people are delusional, entitled, and have a very narcissistic "the world owes me everything" attitude. And quite honestly, that is not our problem. If we're not good enough, NEXT!
I just have to say, men are not the only ones who act this way. Women can be just as judgmental and cruel towards us for various reasons. The ones I’ve been told are “too skinny, you’re white (enter your race), too weird, too boring, too ugly, size is too small, and, I’m serious, you’re Autistic.” And yes. I’ve been told each of these things so many times by multiple women. So ladies, please don’t think you’re the only ones who ever feel not enough.
I know. I have male friends who are being treated badly by their wives. Women are just vocal that's why our story is out there. Hope you know you are enough!
"Good enough for what, and good enough for who"... You did it again Najwa, and made something remarkable. :) Loved every second of this video, and I cannot even put into words the importance of the message you are sharing in it... Thank you, for everything you do! :)
Always stay true to yourself regardless of what others say or think about you!! Never let others judge your looks, personalities, abilities and beliefs! You have those looks, personalities and abilities because the world needs them! Stand out! Shine! Because if we let others judge us; we loose our true self!
Thank you 🙏🏻 I needed this. A coworker of mine gets off putting me down every chance he gets. He's very insecure & attacks me because I feel good about myself & ignore him.
Veryyyyy well said I am who I am and no one should tell anyone that they r less of a person and it’s true that if ur not good enough in a relation the person is insecure and they don’t respect n love they way they should
I always connected external beauty with Worth_so I struggled with inadequate and feeling not good enough because I had to be like a doll. I've learned everything that shimmers is not GOLD. I'm learning inner quality, having substance. Morals, values, principle, and having a compass of integrity. I feel so much better as a human being. I can't believe that was my perspective for so long. I have value today, and I matter.💟🌊🍀🌿🌿🌾🌱🌿🍃🏵️🍃🌻
Hope you're doing better now....when you're attracted to somebody, you start to look past the way they look and overtime see them differently. I'm here if you need to talk.
Thank you I needed that I'm going through depression right now , my and my lady was fighting last night and it's not a good feeling to feel that way .. but thank you for letting me know iam good enough
Thank you so much for sharing this!!! I so much need it right now 👍👍 it's like, some people had just made me forget I'm lovable regardless of how do I look or what do I achieve. Thank you again!!
Self approval is the way to help this wound,,walk way from anyone that dumps their shame on you!!!!,its not your wound it is theirs,hand it back to them!!!!,this is a pure projection mechanism at play here,,its a curse line that has been handed down to you,which can be broken by learning your power which does not rely on others approval!!!
I have felt like this before too. For me what made it hurt was that I slightly believed it, I was young and unsure. It felt like my vulnerable curiosity was shut down by someone else's insecurities. But I realized that if I was unsure, I should face it head on, but no one should have the right to control my feelings.
Omg I saw someone living lavish and upmarket life and showing her self modern and I got paic attacks that I am not lavish, modern or I don't have a good career although I have the best career I could but she made me believe that, then I saw this and I am feeling so so so releaved you cannot imagine. It's like someone took a huge rock off me, my panic attacks are soothing. Thank you so much 😭 may god bless you genuinely
Hey Najwa, thanks for the video. I needed this for sure. Got off a team morning call, where there were issues addressed that I know I need to work on myself. I acknowledge that there is a lot of work that needs to be done. However, my colleague was direct and made me feel that I wasn't worth the time, and not good enough. I know its not a matter of what was said, but "how it was said". Feeling discarded is the word for it. I feel that she is just tolerating me, I am part of the team but not included. But thank you for the perspective today, I am good enough, and I am progressing there.
Najwa, I love listening all this wisdom. Thank you for helping me see life from a much more pleasant perspective. Sometimes we just need to restructure our internal speech to conect and feel that our power and our worth really exist within us.
Im 44 in a relationship that is sham. Ive always been the third wheel I remember watching all my friends have girlfriends and how they would get gifts hold hands and I so desperately wanted to feel that. I didn't have any kind of relationship until my 20s and I wanted to be held and have someone to call my girlfriend that allowed myself to be humiliated and cheated on. I have faith ill eventually find happiness my best wishes to everyone out there. I have a beautiful family that loves me. I want to make shorts confessing my experiences because man ive had some kinda a way to vent.
When I was 17 my biology teacher had a private talk with me to tell me I wasn't good enough to take her advanced higher class. It was before the previous higher grades had been released. I listened to her and dropped out of high school. When my grades came in I had earned a high A but I had already listened to someone elses opinion of me that I wasn't good enough. This pattern has repeated throughout my life in various jobs and with how my family view me and it has effected my self esteem and self worth. Only now with reflection I see I shouldn't have let people dictate to me what I am capable of.
I just wanted to reach out to you and say I've just started reading The Book of Healing and it is absolutely wonderful as if you were saying those words from my own heart. Thank you!!!!
... what if i just dont feel good enough, not for someone, just not good enough. End, not for someone, not to do anything in particular, just not good enough to exist. How do i stop that? And to be clear this isnt a 24/7 thing, its just burst of depression.
I am a last year medical student. Doctors/ teachers ask lot of questions suddenly to learn if you are studying or not. Mostly I answer correctly and sometimes I don’t remember or I answer incorrectly . That’s okay of course. But this doctor I just met in nephrology rotation, he asked me and my friend questions about some renal disorders, my friend answered all of them correctly but I didn’t able to answer correctly… so he started getting angry with me when I try to say something to answer his questions but I was saying wrong things so he got mad at me and started shouting to me , “ please shut up, don’t talk anymore “ and he also said “ I don’t want to listen when you are talking, please shut up “ and he said “ you are not enough”. Imagine you are a last your student and a doctor called you that. I always feel like I am not enough because medicine is very difficult. But now the thought in my brain was in front of me as a doctor saying to me “you are not enough, you don’t know anything “. Of course , when some doctors asked questions and if we answer wrongly, they just say nothing or say to us “study more” . That’s it . But this doctor literally makes me feel bad. This happened on monday . And today is Wednesday, he did the same thing also . And I came home , I cried. After that , I tried to study but my brain was only repeating his words to me , so I couldn’t concentrate on my studies. I don’t know what to do. I don’t think I will be a good doctor. I will graduate in 2 months from med faculty , I will be a doctor . But after what this doctor said to me , I just don’t have any motivation or believe in myself. I never failed in a test , I always got one of the highest marks in the class during my exams. After what this doctor said to me I don’t believe myself anymore. I don’t want this thing to effect me but it has effected me . I am just hearing his voice in my head over and over again. That I am not enough… everyday I try to motivate myself but he ( the doctor) messed up everything . I just felt the worst.
You are so good. I THINK YOU ARE SO SMART. The smartest woman I have heard . You helped me soooo much. I hope and pray YOU actually get my message. 3:23 THANKS.
My study partner keeps telling I m not good enough for her and she cannot continue studying with me any more . And it was hurtful but I stopped expecting anything from her after a while and we stopped studying .
He doesnt say that but doesnt spend time with me but does others and doesnt give a chance to know me and I loved him and he has pretty excuses after chasing me. I slept with him but I've known him for a long time
What if it’s from viewing media images of celebrities and people who look stunning physically? When you compare yourself to all of those celebrities and wish you looked attractive like them instead of being stuck with how you look because of your familial genetics? Nobody seems to have an answer to this, Russel Brand got it the closest but nobody else touches on this issue.
You deserve to be loved exactly the way you are ❤️. Hurt PPL only hurt PPL. That soul which said like that to you has something going on inside it which we can't see. They need compassion. Their statement was about them. You deserve to be respected and loved without a doubt.
For such people every other person who they cannot make theirs or want to leave is annoying and stupid...you are enough and unique in your own way... everyone has ups and downs...we are wise...we don't point out at their true colours... they're stupid... they're ugly...tell them that..and being successful, bro, there were others before you and will be after you too...they are stupid and hopeless... u're beautiful and lovely
Im 45 been married 28 years But im not worth his love,always been compared to others,im not slim,not tall ,got ugly hands and feet, even my kids are ashamed of me , i pray to Allah for death coz they wont miss me and all got Great friends ,Mum and wife is non existant in their lives
Thank you for reminding me that "I am good enough!" 🤗
Someone just told me " I thought you are a better person" when I was being too kind to him than he even deserves.
I get pretty sick of lying to myself and saying I'm good enough but then society constantly reminds me that I'm not. You're a young, attractive and successful girl. You have no idea what it feels like to be discarded and rejected like trash.
Good enough is per perspective
It is different when you're older, as nobody loves you for your wisdom! , I'm 54, but it is possible to feel more valuable at 50 than at 30. Society values young women but we can value ourselves. I'm single and probably always will be at this point, but I don't view myself through the eyes of men who don't want to be with me. Again, caveat, if there were one particular person who I coukd imagine being with who "chose" a younger woman, it would hurt. We don't have to couple up though. I feel braver and more independent than I would feel if I were in a relationship.
Also, one thing to remember. A lot of people are portraying a fake lifestyle online. Many of the things people are envious of does not exist. We don't know what goes on behind the scenes. Some people are delusional, entitled, and have a very narcissistic "the world owes me everything" attitude. And quite honestly, that is not our problem. If we're not good enough, NEXT!
I tell myself everyday that I'm amazing!!
I just have to say, men are not the only ones who act this way. Women can be just as judgmental and cruel towards us for various reasons. The ones I’ve been told are “too skinny, you’re white (enter your race), too weird, too boring, too ugly, size is too small, and, I’m serious, you’re Autistic.” And yes. I’ve been told each of these things so many times by multiple women. So ladies, please don’t think you’re the only ones who ever feel not enough.
Yeah
But rejection is better than
Telling u u don't dsrve one such person
I know. I have male friends who are being treated badly by their wives. Women are just vocal that's why our story is out there. Hope you know you are enough!
Absolutely, I wouldn’t be here watching this if it wasn’t true
I’m praying for you and anyone that feels this way. I’m God’s eyes we’re more than enough. He has a plan for everyone 😊
"Good enough for what, and good enough for who"... You did it again Najwa, and made something remarkable. :) Loved every second of this video, and I cannot even put into words the importance of the message you are sharing in it... Thank you, for everything you do! :)
Always stay true to yourself regardless of what others say or think about you!! Never let others judge your looks, personalities, abilities and beliefs! You have those looks, personalities and abilities because the world needs them! Stand out! Shine! Because if we let others judge us; we loose our true self!
Thank you 🙏🏻
I needed this. A coworker of mine gets off putting me down every chance he gets. He's very insecure & attacks me because I feel good about myself & ignore him.
Veryyyyy well said I am who I am and no one should tell anyone that they r less of a person and it’s true that if ur not good enough in a relation the person is insecure and they don’t respect n love they way they should
I always connected external beauty with Worth_so I struggled with inadequate and feeling not good enough because I had to be like a doll. I've learned everything that shimmers is not GOLD. I'm learning inner quality, having substance. Morals, values, principle, and having a compass of integrity. I feel so much better as a human being. I can't believe that was my perspective for so long. I have value today, and I matter.💟🌊🍀🌿🌿🌾🌱🌿🍃🏵️🍃🌻
“Who makes u feel not good enough “ my parents 😁
He chose another woman over me. I can't sleep, at first I even thought he was a little ugly.
Hope you're doing better now....when you're attracted to somebody, you start to look past the way they look and overtime see them differently. I'm here if you need to talk.
Thank you I needed that I'm going through depression right now , my and my lady was fighting last night and it's not a good feeling to feel that way .. but thank you for letting me know iam good enough
u are a goddess thank u i needed to hear this to tell my girl she feels so unworthy while she is great
Damn, men like you exist ?
Amen girl. I need to listen to this on repeat.
Your messages are beyond healing 😌
Brilliant. So simple and yet so effective!
Thank you so much for sharing this!!! I so much need it right now 👍👍 it's like, some people had just made me forget I'm lovable regardless of how do I look or what do I achieve. Thank you again!!
Women and ex's are masters of this
Great message for all of us
Thank you. direct. clear. It's good to be reminded.
I adore you Najma. What you say resonates so much with me.
Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom.
Wonderful reminder right now thank you and Namaste
Such a pure angel with a beautiful soul🪐✨🌷
All love to u najwa. Best message ever ❤️😍
This did help. Thanks so much! Especially that part about constructive critisism in the workplace. 🙏❤
Self approval is the way to help this wound,,walk way from anyone that dumps their shame on you!!!!,its not your wound it is theirs,hand it back to them!!!!,this is a pure projection mechanism at play here,,its a curse line that has been handed down to you,which can be broken by learning your power which does not rely on others approval!!!
I have felt like this before too. For me what made it hurt was that I slightly believed it, I was young and unsure. It felt like my vulnerable curiosity was shut down by someone else's insecurities. But I realized that if I was unsure, I should face it head on, but no one should have the right to control my feelings.
That’s amazing thank you 🙏🏽
Thank you so much! ☺️💕
Thank you so much. It made me feel more assured about myself
Omg I saw someone living lavish and upmarket life and showing her self modern and I got paic attacks that I am not lavish, modern or I don't have a good career although I have the best career I could but she made me believe that, then I saw this and I am feeling so so so releaved you cannot imagine. It's like someone took a huge rock off me, my panic attacks are soothing. Thank you so much 😭 may god bless you genuinely
Well said mam! I really need it
Omg this is so powerful ❤️
Hey Najwa, thanks for the video. I needed this for sure. Got off a team morning call, where there were issues addressed that I know I need to work on myself. I acknowledge that there is a lot of work that needs to be done. However, my colleague was direct and made me feel that I wasn't worth the time, and not good enough. I know its not a matter of what was said, but "how it was said". Feeling discarded is the word for it. I feel that she is just tolerating me, I am part of the team but not included. But thank you for the perspective today, I am good enough, and I am progressing there.
Thank you so much ❤️ much needed today
Thanks a lot for your advice! You are of great help! I love you for your help in making our lives better! Million thank you! 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🤗🤗🤗
Najwa, I love listening all this wisdom. Thank you for helping me see life from a much more pleasant perspective. Sometimes we just need to restructure our internal speech to conect and feel that our power and our worth really exist within us.
Thank you so much!!! 😭😭😭🙏
Thank you, this made me cry 😭
if they care about you. yeh exactly. always done something wrong.
Thank you Najwa 💙
Najwa thankyou 🙏 I appreciate your kind words ❤️
Omg
College bullies made me not good enough
Thank u so much mam for wonderful message
Thanks a ton ⭐
Thank you for sharing! This a great video!
Im 44 in a relationship that is sham. Ive always been the third wheel I remember watching all my friends have girlfriends and how they would get gifts hold hands and I so desperately wanted to feel that. I didn't have any kind of relationship until my 20s and I wanted to be held and have someone to call my girlfriend that allowed myself to be humiliated and cheated on. I have faith ill eventually find happiness my best wishes to everyone out there. I have a beautiful family that loves me. I want to make shorts confessing my experiences because man ive had some kinda a way to vent.
When I was 17 my biology teacher had a private talk with me to tell me I wasn't good enough to take her advanced higher class. It was before the previous higher grades had been released. I listened to her and dropped out of high school. When my grades came in I had earned a high A but I had already listened to someone elses opinion of me that I wasn't good enough. This pattern has repeated throughout my life in various jobs and with how my family view me and it has effected my self esteem and self worth. Only now with reflection I see I shouldn't have let people dictate to me what I am capable of.
What you said helped me a lot :) thanks a lot❤️
Every word makes sense , specially on looks part .Be happy who you are
I'm good enough nothing can change that.
Woot! Woot! Shine on Superstar!
thank you
I am 55 years old and a professional driver and I'm NEVER GOOD ENOUGH FOR THIS OR ANY JOB!!!
I just wanted to reach out to you and say I've just started reading The Book of Healing and it is absolutely wonderful as if you were saying those words from my own heart. Thank you!!!!
I told myself I’m not good enough.
Thank you for this video. I share this to my doughter.❤
Its not easy when oure children go true ,,that,, emotional years.. im feel like im not good enought..
thank you 😭💔
Thank you....I love you❤️
I am good enough!
my always life saver
... what if i just dont feel good enough, not for someone, just not good enough. End, not for someone, not to do anything in particular, just not good enough to exist. How do i stop that?
And to be clear this isnt a 24/7 thing, its just burst of depression.
Refreshing 👌🏽😊
I am a last year medical student. Doctors/ teachers ask lot of questions suddenly to learn if you are studying or not. Mostly I answer correctly and sometimes I don’t remember or I answer incorrectly . That’s okay of course. But this doctor I just met in nephrology rotation, he asked me and my friend questions about some renal disorders, my friend answered all of them correctly but I didn’t able to answer correctly… so he started getting angry with me when I try to say something to answer his questions but I was saying wrong things so he got mad at me and started shouting to me , “ please shut up, don’t talk anymore “ and he also said “ I don’t want to listen when you are talking, please shut up “ and he said “ you are not enough”. Imagine you are a last your student and a doctor called you that. I always feel like I am not enough because medicine is very difficult. But now the thought in my brain was in front of me as a doctor saying to me “you are not enough, you don’t know anything “. Of course , when some doctors asked questions and if we answer wrongly, they just say nothing or say to us “study more” . That’s it . But this doctor literally makes me feel bad. This happened on monday . And today is Wednesday, he did the same thing also . And I came home , I cried. After that , I tried to study but my brain was only repeating his words to me , so I couldn’t concentrate on my studies. I don’t know what to do. I don’t think I will be a good doctor. I will graduate in 2 months from med faculty , I will be a doctor . But after what this doctor said to me , I just don’t have any motivation or believe in myself. I never failed in a test , I always got one of the highest marks in the class during my exams. After what this doctor said to me I don’t believe myself anymore. I don’t want this thing to effect me but it has effected me . I am just hearing his voice in my head over and over again. That I am not enough… everyday I try to motivate myself but he ( the doctor) messed up everything . I just felt the worst.
I Love you Najwa!!!!
Thank you
Loved your video.
IM GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME !!! IM ENOUGH!!
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! 😘🙍🏻♀️❤️🎁
Really need this reminder 💢
Someone made me feel not good enough. Hehe. That person was me :)
I love this. How do you deal when this is your Mother in Law? And is it really her or am I just projecting those feelings on myself
You are so good. I THINK YOU ARE SO SMART. The smartest woman I have heard . You helped me soooo much. I hope and pray YOU actually get my message. 3:23 THANKS.
My study partner keeps telling I m not good enough for her and she cannot continue studying with me any more . And it was hurtful but I stopped expecting anything from her after a while and we stopped studying .
You’re pretty
He doesnt say that but doesnt spend time with me but does others and doesnt give a chance to know me and I loved him and he has pretty excuses after chasing me. I slept with him but I've known him for a long time
Same with me🙃 he shows number of girls following him
So good
What if it’s from viewing media images of celebrities and people who look stunning physically? When you compare yourself to all of those celebrities and wish you looked attractive like them instead of being stuck with how you look because of your familial genetics? Nobody seems to have an answer to this, Russel Brand got it the closest but nobody else touches on this issue.
You know what,you deserved 6 million views or even more than that
❤️❤️❤️❤️
Oh wow
i felt that all of other students are smarter than me
♾️💜♾️
Noted👍👍
♾️🙏🏻♾️
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
But what if my mom who makes me feel that i'm not good enough, im unworthy, im useless ? Please answer me..
syasya tarmizi I feel you too :(
Then its her Problem not yours! Feel happy for every blessing you have! You are loved ❤
women are pretty good at doing that
We are just your toys 🧸 my sweet girls Cleopatra
💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
Someone just told me " you're not good enough to get my respect " i don't know why but I just thinking i don't deserve love from anyone
Believe me,you deserve love & respect. Just start it with accepting yourself. You're great...
You deserve to be loved exactly the way you are ❤️. Hurt PPL only hurt PPL. That soul which said like that to you has something going on inside it which we can't see. They need compassion. Their statement was about them. You deserve to be respected and loved without a doubt.
ya but zy wont leave you
I'm confident in my looks but I feel like im annoying and stupid and that's why Im not enough for him :(
You are enough believe me, some people are so insecure that they make others feel unworthy just to soothe their insecurities.
@@sunitapandey2336 thank you so much, this comment made my day
For such people every other person who they cannot make theirs or want to leave is annoying and stupid...you are enough and unique in your own way... everyone has ups and downs...we are wise...we don't point out at their true colours... they're stupid... they're ugly...tell them that..and being successful, bro, there were others before you and will be after you too...they are stupid and hopeless... u're beautiful and lovely
@@nehaimtiyaz6357 omg this literally made my day, tysm :')
Would be easier for people without children.
Im 45 been married 28 years But im not worth his love,always been compared to others,im not slim,not tall ,got ugly hands and feet, even my kids are ashamed of me , i pray to Allah for death coz they wont miss me and all got Great friends ,Mum and wife is non existant in their lives
The audacity 😡😠😠😠😠😠
First to comment 🌚