No contact really works! I did no contact with my ex for about a month and a little while later after talking again we’re back together now :) your videos helped get me through no contact and I used some of your advice as well too, thank you brad!! 😇
Hey Brad, thanks for making these videos. At this point (reaching 2 months post breakup) I've been watching every video that comes out. And slowly and gradually, I'm finding it easier and easier. I think whoever is reading this should know that it doesn't have to work out for you to be happy. Focus on you, and the better the version of you that you become is the version of you that your next love (ex or not) will fall for. Thanks again Brad, much love.
You're welcome! And yes, you're right. You can only do so much to try to re-attract an ex back and sometimes it works and in other cases, it just doesn't so it really depends. But yes, focusing on yourself as well as playing your cards right when it comes to trying to get an ex back is your best move. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! :-)
God bless you Brad. I was following all your videos and made everything right. No begging, no contact 45 days. And after blocking very slow also with following your advice I made great shift. I am texting like you said and he just can't ignore even when was trying. Now he replyes fast I am waiting sometimes 24 hours but when I am texting again his reply comes fast. Everything works. Just need to make everything very slow. Sometimes I pull back for 2-3 days. From blocking to questions from his side and trying to have conversation took 3 weeks. The best was follow rule there is no past, no single word about breakup just talking like nothing happen and he relaxedThank you is so less what I can say 🥰
@@BradBrowning i am a boy.what should we do when we text our ex by mistakely (i have have unsent & maybe she couldn't see the sms but maybe she got notification)
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
It takes a while for your brain and heart to adjust to the rapid changes. Getting an ex back is a gradual process, so there's no one-action solution for this. Okay? The "no contact" phase is a good start, so do that first if you haven’t yet, for 30 days. If you have, then I'm glad you've completed it. There are two more phases to go with a few other steps in between (in the right order). What I'm trying to say here is it's a 3-phase process, and it's a bit complicated to explain it all on here, but I made an overview in the hopes of making people understand, so watch it here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html or read my guide for the entire process. Good luck!
Hello Alex It's been 6 months since I divorced my ex-wife after 15 years of marriage and 3 children together. Everything was going well until she had an early mid-life crisis. Consequences, more vulgar clothing changes, coldness, belittling and infidelities,. I went radio silent for over 2 months. But I see that she still has the behavior of a teenager. She has relationships with wealthy men who constantly invite her on vacation, leaving our children abandoned. Despite the pain she is causing me, I don't know if it's worth it to win my ex back. I would like to benefit from your expertise
Chances are there are underlying issues other than the ones you know. This has been my experience with many of my coaching clients. They think it's a mid-life crisis but there's often stuff that you might have overlooked and therefore you need a bird's eye view on the situation. Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.marriageguy.com/coaching
No contact worked , not necessarily to get her back directly, but at least she will start connect with you, I finished no contact for 30 days , first text she answered, and we started a nice conversation, and shared her pictures never shared during the relationship when she was young some family pictures, , but never expect they will back the important you make them back to know about your new life. Asking questions about your new life see their curiosity, then after that will be clear for you that you was just killing yourself for an ordinary person, and will help you to move on faster. I'm happy with the results , and thank you coach
That's right! :-) Watch this too for additional reference: ruclips.net/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/видео.html or better yet, get my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 to help guide you in every step of the process, especially if you see there may still be a chance with your ex, at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy Good luck!
I’ve been no contact for nearly 7 weeks now. He and I both have a lot of growth to do. I genuinely want to wait a few months after spending time on myself and getting to a better place - we ended things after an argument but we still loved each other. I’m not sure if he’s still mad but hope time will heal. Is this a bad idea? I feel like we both need time to grow.
What was the fight about? You know, fighting is often unavoidable, but when it becomes too much, it’s time to nip the problem in the bud if you still can. So it's either that or you go on a break and discuss the logistics as well as how it should go and how long it should be. What were you two fighting or arguing about? It's best to consider the relationship overall first, so watch this: ruclips.net/video/XuJFf5Kch5o/видео.html Anyways it's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. This may help: ruclips.net/video/BBEhaY3gLIw/видео.html Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? It could also be you're too incompatible or stubborn to meet each other halfway. If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship, as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral. Here's how it can help you: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw
I don’t want to contact him ever again. He have hurt me so much. I don’t want to be around that him ever again. I really don’t care who he fool around with or date with someone else. I’m all over him since I watch your video for the past year. I can’t crawl back to him.
Good. Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved.
We had a peaceful breakup (after 8 month relationship) and I did no contact until yesterday (50 days no contact). In this time, she never reached out to me so this was the first communication that we have had for 2 months. I said "Hey, I just walked past the art gallery we went to, I still remember when we spent all day taking pics there and had a lot of fun. Made me think of you. I hope you're doing well these days. Btw, happy new year! Hope 2023 will be awesome" She replied within an hour and said "Happy new year John :), I wish you all the best". An hour later I replied saying "Thank you, this year I'm planning to learn Chinese so I've paid for some Chinese classes, looking forward to it! How is your life these days? And what's your plan for this year?" She hasn't responded to that message and it's been nearly a week lol. Did I do something wrong?
Try to keep it simple next time. Asking her for her plan for the year may have been too much. :-) Do simple yet fun text messages that won't require a complicated answer, if that makes sense. Try to apply the texting tips from my other videos. Your situation is also very delicate so once you start to see some progress with your ex, then don’t go at it alone, especially if you're in doubt or don't know what to do next. Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Brad its my been 8th day of no contact may be she is dating some one else but , out of the blues our memories hit me though the positive part is i am slowly healing its getting better as days passes and hope she will come back realising
Hello Brad It's been 6 months since I divorced my ex-wife after 15 years of marriage and 3 children together. Everything was going well until she had an early mid-life crisis. Consequences, more vulgar clothing changes, coldness, belittling and infidelities,. I went radio silent for over 2 months. But I see that she still has the behavior of a teenager. She has relationships with wealthy men who constantly invite her on vacation, leaving our children abandoned. Despite the pain she is causing me, I don't know if it's worth it to win my ex back. I would like to benefit from your expertise
Chances are there are underlying issues other than the ones you know. This has been my experience with many of my coaching clients. They think it's a mid-life crisis but there's often stuff that you might have overlooked and therefore you need a bird's eye view on the situation. Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.marriageguy.com/coaching
My ex dumped me due to pressures in Nov 22 it was out of the blue.He called and said he just wanted space ,I said OK.Then in early Dec he texts saying that I could do better and we should split up...I was devastated but got through Xmas alone and did no contact for 3 weeks and he messaged saying he'd like to be friends but that is all as he could not be in a relationship but missed and loved me still.At this point I felt really confused by his changing mindset..I said I couldn't do friendship and went back into no contact..since then he's drunk text me and I stupidly tried to express that I was open to a relationship only he said he still couldn't but want friends with benefits...I feel disrespected.I don't know what to do anymore? I haven't heard from him in 5 days.
The more recent the breakup is, the more confusing it will be for you if you continue to interact with your ex. That kind of behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a fresh/recent breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
We will now meet Up for a Second time this Weekend. Had almost 6 months of No contact. Then a Long Phone call. Then a Second conversation on the Phone and then we met Up for the First time again shortly before Xmas. She did write me randomly at 3 in the morning this Weekend.
Best of luck! Make sure you check out my other vids for more tips on how to go about this. Here's one that should help: ruclips.net/video/2OfUA9o2Opw/видео.html
@@BradBrowning i guess i have a Happy Ending to report... though Not in a traditional Sense. So this Girl and i used to be best friends - and despite her having a Bf all of a sudden we became more for 8months. So eventually we ended despite Feelings for each other and when she reached Out, i lashed out at her. So we went Into No contact for 6 months. I now came back from seeing her for the Second time since then. And i can happily say - i have my friend back. It was like back in the days. And it truly brings tears of joy into my eyes. I dont know If we ever Go down that road again. but to be honest - i dont feel the need to. We have been Friends longer than anything and i can say - i got her Back. Thanks Brad - your advice helped - even though the Outcome was a completely different one :)
My Ex asked me never to contact him, as he wants to move on. Having taken the quiz, which you suggested, I realised I am in the 'fading fast' zone. I don't know if I should contact my Ex after the No Contact period gets over. Feels like if I will contact him, I will not respect his decision and cross his boundaries. Should I consider an extended period of no contact, like 8 months? The only excuse that I can find to contact him, is his birthday, which is in September. 🙃🙃🙃
Just apply the texting tips on my videos and try not to be too needy or eager. Play it cool...which is why you ought to work on yourself during the no contact period and do it correctly. Take it one step at a time and for now just make sure you don't make the number one mistake here: y2u.be/1cBpNrDDHnw
Hey brad.. my ex contacted me 3 times during no contact and she said are we still friends or what.. but what you are behaving is hurting me more.. i replied a short and sweet message on this and after that i think she became angry and my no contact period is almost over but and recently i messaged her because of some urgent work and she is acting like she doesn't care anymore and she is cold now.. i got selected in the same company in which my ex is doing job and my joining is on 9th jan. I want to know that how to react in this situation when i first go to the office. Thnks in advance..
That's what I call the "validation-seeking" text and your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message, here: ruclips.net/video/VMAHVJ6tvSM/видео.html
He is happy now with the girl he cheated on me... Still wishing him the best but don't want to do anything with him anymore..it hurt so bad but I will go on and focus about myself.
I think that's the best decision too. Sorry to hear you're going through this though. Being cheated on hurts a lot... and I know I can't say anything right now to make you feel better. Healing is a process and everybody has their own journey. They key is to regain confidence and in due time, you WILL feel better. It's important to experience some sense of progress in your life to make things somewhat bearable after a life-altering and excruciatingly painful event such as a breakup. So try as much to set personal life goals and start small to make sure it's attainable, such as going to the gym, planning a healthier diet, etc. You can also get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup at www.beatmybreakup.com to help guide you on what more to do during this grieving process. Take care!
Hello Brad, i just broke up with my boyfriend, this was after complicated poor communication, it has been a long distance.I tried to ask him why the poor communication now and the excuse was he is currently busy.So i decided to get him talk about us.He was like he is currently confused and doesn't know what to really say, whether we end it or not?.So i questioned him "should we end it?" He replied "Never my wish but i wish you all the best and don't forget me in your prayers please".Am confused if i can ever get him back even after the no contact rule😩
Sorry to hear that. A long distance is not easy to maintain, especially if you two had a weak foundation where you don't get to spend time with each other much in person. Not to state the obvious, but the distance is often the main culprit. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ruclips.net/video/GQY4N04uvtA/видео.html and/or ruclips.net/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/видео.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey Brad!! I am new subscriber and your vids are really amazing. I had my breakup 1month ago. We were in a relationship for 2 years. I swear everything was just fine between both of us. Then suddenly one day he asked me for a break. I agreed to it. He assured me that it's not a breakup. Then after 5-6 days he broke up with me. During the break he was not contacting me and was talking to some other girl. Later I got to know he is dating some other girl. I asked him if there's someone but he refused. Now he's saying he will never come back to me and never talk to me. He's just saying that he doesn't loves me anymore and doesn't have any feelings for me anymore. And when I ask if there's any chance of us being together again in future he doesn't refuse but instead he says "idk". We had a small breakup earlier. I asked him to come back that time and he did. Now He is just saying that I am just pulling him to stay with me like earlier. But he came willingly and stayed 8-9 months after that. We were happy. He was happy with me. But now he is just blaming on me everything. I tried for few weeks to contact him and sort things out but now i am not doing that anymore. I even went to a tarot reader out of stress to ask will he ever contact me and she said there's only 40% chance of him to contact me. And i have to manifest that too or else he will not. Should I trust these tarot readers? Is there any chance for us to get back together once again? I don't want to lose him. What should I do to make him come back to me leaving that other girl who he has been dating out of nowhere or contact me and give our relationship a second chance?
Really sorry to hear that. The bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html Now as to your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
Hey Brad!! I scored 65 in the quiz. What do I exactly have to do to gain him back? Will we ever come back together? What steps should I take to make him come back to me?
Brad, I hope you're doing well. I wanted to reach out to you because I could really use your advice and suggestions. About 8 months ago, I went through a tough breakup with my girlfriend. It's been a rough road since then, and I've been trying to move on, but I can't help but feel like I made a huge mistake. I know the situation is a bit different now, and I'm not sure if she's open to reconciliation, but I was wondering if you had any tips on how to approach her and potentially get her back. In the first few months after the breakup, I gave her a lot of mental pressure by constantly trying to contact her and beg for her forgiveness. However, after watching some of your videos on relationships and moving on, I realized that I was making a mistake and needed to give her space and move on myself. I stopped all contact with her and focused on my own healing and growth. I thought I was finally moving on and getting over her, but then out of the blue, she called me a month ago to tell me some stupid things that seemed to come out of nowhere. I'm not sure what to make of it or how to react. Additionally, we are in long distance relationship, and it makes it harder to communicate and understand each other's feelings. I also took the love quiz that you recommended and I got 70 on it. I'm not sure if that's a good or a bad score, but I'm hoping that you might have some advice or suggestions on how to improve my score and how to navigate this long-distance situation in order to win her back. I really miss her and love her so much and would like to know what steps I can take to get her back. Thanks, Brad.
What kind of things did she tell you when she reached out? If they were negative, that may be clue to really consider moving on from this, man. A long distance is not easy to maintain, especially if you two had a weak foundation where you don't get to spend time with each other much in person. Not to state the obvious, but the distance is often the main culprit. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ruclips.net/video/GQY4N04uvtA/видео.html and/or ruclips.net/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/видео.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
When she was really sick she called and i just took care of her by staying with her ever day on video call. We continued all talking about 5 days until she was fine and i got emotional and starts begging then she again left … and I thought its better to move on … 4/5 weeks ago she again called me to tell me that she is working in a new place , its her first time doing a job , and she also mention that your birthday is coming and I can’t give you any present though I wasn’t expecting it at all .. then i show some love hints and she again ran away … is there any possibility? Do you see any thing we cam work with? And all these incidents happened after i gave her the mental pressure
My ex and I broke up in May 2021. We reconnected in April 2022. And we've met on and off around 9 times in all of last year between April to Dec 2022. We have decided to keep our dynamic casual such that we talk but rather infrequently and we've also been intimate without labels. We are yet to go all the way but we've been wanting to. We had a talk on a video call in october of 2022 where he opened up about how getting back into a relationship with me specifically would mean that I know all of his weaknesses and how it would be harder for him to trust me to not use them against him especially after the way things ended. (We had a bad break up. A lot of crying and he felt very guilty. He's avoidant and I'm anxious.) He also had a casual rebound partner after we broke up who messed with him to the point he's sounded unsure of ever feeling things like he once used to.. Anyway, just before Christmas he texted me saying he had a minor back related injury that had happened when he was helping out a cousin at a wedding but he'd still like to meet over the holiday season to catch up. I was happy but he stopped responding to msgs around the time of Christmas. And I tried talking to him on new years again and he was kinda cold and said he was just disconnecting with the world and needed his space. I have backed off since. I think it's either him feeling down during the holiday season or something happened on his end and he's going through something. Either way he has gone kinda cold. Idk if it has anything to do with me or just his own issues.. Idk how to reconnect with him.. We don't text everyday.. and I'm worried he'd ghost me again if I try to reach out and ask to meet if he's still down.. the stagnation is kinda making me frustrated.. I know giving him his space is the best way to approach this till he's ready again.. but how will I know when he's ready? When is it ideal to nudge him? What if I keep waiting for him to reach out to me and that doesn't happen? It just feels like I'm losing control when we made a lot of progress last year. It sucks! Any advice?
Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I suggest to start light. A simple greeting will do! Remember, this is an ex and not your boyfriend anymore so to not put pressure on him whatsoever, keep things light and remember your new boundaries, yeah? Watch this, too, because it's related to what you've asked me: ruclips.net/video/OU0cmyhSxE0/видео.html
2 weeks of no contact and we're classmates... Will no contact still work? Cus it's the first day of our school after Christmas break, we ignored each other the whole time, am I doing it right?...
Me and my ex split up on 02/12/22. My decision when I was angry with her and done by text 😞. I’ve told her I want to get back together and she said she wants to see me as friends only. We’re due to go to the cinema on 15/02/23 to see Avatar 2. What’s my best strategy? I will obviously go but do I go into no contact straight after this?
So that was a year from now? Coming on too strong was the wrong move. I've talked about that here: ruclips.net/video/juhamVEwsxU/видео.html You ought to review this first: ruclips.net/video/L0hxYTCJ2hU/видео.html and in fact, apply the tips here too instead of taking the shortcut: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html In the future, if you're still not sure about what you're doing, I really suggest you sign up for my coaching program so I can assess your situation properly and guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey Brad I scored a 74 on your quiz, am I in a decent position to get my ex back? This is our 3rd breakup though so idk if your quiz accounts for this kind of situation. I'm also on day 4 of no contact. And managed to keep myself from begging or pleading with her bc of our past breakups and watching your videos
That's a good score. However, an on-and-off relationship often signifies underlying issues which have been left unaddressed for quite some time. Read this first to know what to expect when you have this kind of dynamic in your relationship: bit.ly/1HjcagC But if you're interested in making this your last breakup, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching especially if there's an available spot!
Bro. Today I just sent a long sobbing text saying all the how much I miss her and shit etc after she just sent me a low profile text. I was stupid. I will do the no contact strategy from now on. I hope it it's not to late.
Yeah, try not to sabotage yourself, man. Play your cards right and notice the world of difference that this can make. Stick to the "no contact" rule this time for at least 30 days. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ruclips.net/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/видео.html AND the importance of silence after the breakup here: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw and in the meantime, this is the principle you ought to follow: ruclips.net/video/EfbgU7v0Ny4/видео.html A situation with an ex is often fragile, so you'd really want to omit, if not minimize these mistakes. Start with the 30-day straight "no contact rule. It’s one step forward, two steps backward with an ex & there are no unlimited chances with them, so if you can do it right moving forward, then do so. Check out my guide so you won't end up making the same mistakes. Good luck!
Hey Brad, about to finish up no contact, been posting stories pretty regularly mostly gym and some with friends and my ex has viewed all of them, I thought I'd test the waters before I did the first text and posted again... No ball, she'd liked all my posts during the breakup period. I know it's more of a minor thing really but I'll admit that it's made me uncertain about reaching out just yet. Any thoughts?
If you're not confident enough yet, I suggest to give it one to two more weeks before reaching out with one of my texting tips in my other vids. And yes, don't overanalyze stuff, okay? Good luck!
Hi Brad, Im in a similar situation. I met a guy through an online dating app We met. We were intimate during our initial stages. I caught strong feelings for him. Since things went too fast for him he recommended taking a break from dating and get to know each other as friends. I went in denial He genuinely shows care towards me and I can see that in action but when I ask about where we truly stand, he says I dont know or I dont feel anything about me but there is no single time where his actions did not show affection. Now I consciously communicated that well not be in touch for min 30 days. In this case what should I do?
There's really no need to tell him about the no contact rule. Just respect his decision and his feelings for you -- or lack thereof. Also apply the tips here to bail out of the friendzone because trust me, that's the last thing you want to be right now: ruclips.net/video/SWERv_y3c5w/видео.html
Hi Brad. Been watching your videos. My girlfriend and I broke up a week ago, but she won't be moving out for a few weeks until the beginning of February (we've been living together for years). I want to order The Ex Factor and follow it, and I've been watching your videos, but I haven't seen one with our situation. What should I do in the next few weeks while we are still under the same roof? We are being amicable right now, and I'm avoiding being needy or begging her to stay, and being nice, but not too nice. Am I doing that right, or should there be something else I am doing? "No contact" right now is pretty much impossible. Love your videos! I'll be reading Ex Factor cover to cover when I get it. Thanks!
It's a different set of rules if you live together. Do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
Went about 45 days NC and sent a quick Merry Christmas. She barely showed any interest in chatting, so I backed off again. Don't know if I'll reach out again. I've been dating other people, but really wouldn't mind just being friends with her.
It looks like you were on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
Unlikely as dumpers usually enjoy their newfound freedom...until they don't. But if your ex is watching videos on how to get an ex back, that's a very good sign for you, isn't it? But without knowing more, it's hard for me to give real advice. My first suggestion is probably not to change anything and to continue employing my techniques anyway. Here's a quick overview on what to do AFTER the "no contact" rule: ruclips.net/video/xgR03RcU8mw/видео.html and what needs to happen in between so be sure to watch the vid to the end. For specific advice that’s tailored to your situation, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Talk soon!
Hi Brad, I have purchased your "get your ex back" videos and audios but unfortunatly, they are not working for me. Mine is a very specific situation and I have not foud videos that talk about it. I cannot purchase your one one couching because I just went through a divorce and go figure. We were 6 years together, he moved temporaly to our home country, I moved to a renting room, our house is for sale, we have no kids. I tried the modify no contact for 30 days, but every thing is just looking different of what I have heard on videos right now :( He did reach out to me for specific situations, he said all the time he wants to be close to take care of me, but now after 45 days after he left, he is like doesn't care anymore. His words when he left was that I was the best woman he ever had but he had different dreams than mine, he also blame me for the break up, saying that I did not dedicated enough time to him,. Now after more than 30 days, I believe he is spending time with another woman that was his ex years and years ago and I think they were long distance lovers at his convinience..She was always a plate served for him :(
Sorry to hear that. Dumpers will often blame those who they leave, that way they don't have to feel guilty for leaving. This is why it's always best to give each other space to try to get a clear view of the situation yourself. The no contact rule can work for you in the following ways: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html Your ex could be rebounding so no contact is the only choice at this point because the opposite is much more self sabotaging and will make your ex lose respect. This vid is for you as well: ruclips.net/video/MroLZ7XK9gY/видео.html&ab_channel=BradBrowning
Some of my ex's actions made me feel like he is a narcissistic person. Is there any chance for him to come back? I cheated on him out of anger because he also cheated on me a few months ago. I did it out of anger. And he understand my cheating and threatened to leave me. Then I tried to fix everything but couldn't do anything. Now I am being given silent treatment by my ex.
If he's truly a narcissist, you might want to think twice before trying to get him back, because even if you can change his mind, you can't change his personality, especially if he has a narcissistic personality disorder or the traits being shown to you. It's a mental illness that should be looked into by a medical professional. The best you can do is to encourage him to seek help. Now if you aren't sure whether he really is one and/or how to best handle the situation, consider signing up for my coaching program so I can look into this with you and what's really happening that you may be too close to see or have an outside perspective on. Best of luck!
Hi brad, I recently ended a 1 yr relationship with my ex. Reasons for breakup he was a cheater, narcissist, manipulator , controlling and is petty. I do not want him back because ever since dating him i have known no peace but he was the only person i talked to. He made me cut off all my friends male n female and just talk to him alone everyday… it’s been 7 days no contact and I really miss him it’s extremely hard for me bc i have no 1 to talk to especially that he always give me attention n was always there for me .. what should i do? Also if he has nudes of you would you ask him to delete them?
It's a tough case indeed. You can't change his personality, especially if he has a narcissistic personality disorder or the traits being shown to you are similar with someone who has NPD. It's a mental illness that should be looked into by a medical professional. The best you can do is to encourage him to seek help. Also he's a fullgrown adult I supposed? No need to tell him to delete your nudes. Just go straight cold turkey. Best of luck!
Wondering how to adapt this to contacting a guy I dated recently. Things were going well, but he called it off since his Dad was about to die = bad timing. I’m doing no contact.
It does seems like he's under a lot of grief that has nothing to do with you and some men are known to withdraw to their own world when that happens, Give him his space and be his support but don't force yourself into his life and show him you respect his decision to break up as doing the opposite will only make him withdraw further. Use this time to work on yourself Take care!
It could be. It's just awkward and unwanted attention at this point, so please stop doing that, okay? I don't know about your situation but in majority of the cases I've coached and those who commented on here, they really do need to give it a rest for at least 30 days. Watch this free full-length vid presentation to get an idea on what needs to happen first and how you can turn the situation around at www.breakupbrad.com
Brad, I went no contact for about one day! She was very emotional and upset. I have made it clean I will not be around as friends & because we have a son I would just be there for him. She asked me to go around tomorrow, what’s the next step for me? As you can imagine Ita still raw as it’s only been a few days since brake up
If you're hellbent on trying to work things out, let me just set expectations that it's a tough battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible, in addition to my newer vids I've posted: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
@@BradBrowning thanks for your reply Brad! We was sorting things out but she booked to go away for a few days and I lost it. I begged and pleaded. We had a brake in December and she spoke to somebody new. She now reached back out to him, I’ve begged and pleaded again. I am now in no contact as I have realised I’ve made a mistake. We have a kid so I guess I just have to talk about the baby
I broke up with my ex 7 weeks ago this Friday 20th January. I sent her a text in anger with her but regretted my decision to finish things. She left on 2nd Dec 22 (same day). We’ve met a few times since but she said she just wants to be friends. Saw her on Sunday 15th Jan and we went to the cinema and I made the mistake on leaving to try and hold her hand. She said friends don’t do that and today was a test to see if we can go out as friends. We then had a meal after the cinema. I had written her a letter explaining my actions and that I wanted to try again but she refused to read it. We should be seeing each other again on 19th Feb for the cinema again. Don’t know if I’m going to go as I hate just being friends with her. Am going into no contact today to see if it changes her mind. Wasn’t able to do this when we split as we both wanted to exchange Christmas presents then it was her 50th Birthday on 28th Dec so I gave her the gifts I had bought her. Will no contact work for me? 😔
So you ended things with her? She may need more space especially if things had been bad between you two prior to that. Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@@BradBrowning not sure i can afford coaching but will see how much it is in uk money (sterling). Feel the situation is hopeless right now. She did travel 40 minutes to come and see me on Sunday and it was her idea to go to the cinema. Prior to leaving the cinema she was ok with me rubbing her arm to make sure she was comfortable and awake. So confused.
I've been patient enough for 30 days. Then my ex texted me and I was excited. But the text was meaningless. It didn't have a hint of her wanting to get back with me. I read like her wanting to stop feeling guilty for ghosting me. It was also for her to get reassurance that I'm her backup bitch. No thank you. I deserve better. I'm smart, creative, nice, noble, honest, wise, and funny. She's missing on this.
I lied to my ex and her family about stuff and she found out. it was nothing serious about a girl or anything like that, I just lied about to stuff to her in the beginning to make her like me more. she caught on and I kept denying it then finally she said her family noticed stuff didn’t add up. she broke it off but she would tell me she hopes we work out and that she still loves me but she needs time. she would ask me to go over and we’d sit in my truck and talk and eventually start kissing. then one day she was texting me randomly and then finally cut it off because she said she said it hurts too much. we haven’t talked in about a week and i’m still waiting for a text. what do I do? brad help
Respect her decision and give her time. I suggest you heed my advice from this vid, first and foremost: ruclips.net/video/jikW4YYC9yo/видео.html and from my other vid here: ruclips.net/video/PN-07kAtIjw/видео.html but also make sure you aren't being defensive or deflecting the blame because that's as annoying as ever. It may help to apply the tips here first: ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html Be patient and let things play out first. Let time do its job since it's your biggest ally at this point. Good luck!
Hey Brad, thanks for all the videos. I got a short question. A bit over 3 months ago my girlfriend of almost 3 years broke up with me. It was a bad break and I begged. I started no contact and she called me 2 weeks later to start over. We tried for more then 2 months. First month was really fun but the second was horrible. I could feel her starting to love less. She broke it up last week and I took it like a champ. She was a bit angry about a little vacation we were going to take. But I stayed calm and didn’t buckle. Her reasoning was that she loved me but wasn’t “in love” (it’s different in Dutch but I hope you get my meaning.) I showed her when we retried that I was definitely a better man but regardless she broke it up. I am thinking about messaging her in a month to wish her happy birthday. after no contact. I am working to be happy for myself and not just for her but what more can I do? I am physically fit and attractive, dress well but maybe I could be a bit more social and adventurous. It’s weird cause she always talked about a future with me and loved me so much. Any tips?
Hi! You're welcome! The "love-but-not-in-love" excuse is very common. This vid is for you, too: ruclips.net/video/wzkKp9rgHJo/видео.html Most likely she pulled back and exes are known to do that too. However, don’t destroy the progress you’ve made up to this point. Watch this to gain some insight on what to do: ruclips.net/video/cC54YU-qU5Q/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/MK7NDfJTbDc/видео.html But if your ex is worth it and as long as you aren't being manipulated, and you still really wanna give it your best shot, then I'll be more than happy to put my focus on your situation. Sign up to my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey brad , we've started talking after a month of no contact(i initiated it ofc) , and its kinda slow for obvious reasons , i am afraid that she will start to see me just as a friend, because that's what she said during the break up "we can still be friends" , how do i avoid that , and how to i make her fall for me ???
Hey man, getting an ex back is a process. When it comes to trying to re-attract an ex, it's best to treat the situation like new. Make her fall in love with you again the same way you did in the beginning with hopefully all the lessons learned and you and your ex are better versions of yourself. This is what my Ex Factor Guide is about but to get an overview, watch this vid: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html
Try not to monitor your ex's activities or whatnot. Try to put your focus elsewhere (best to put focus back to yourself) because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/7KE6nb4-ndA/видео.html Watch this, too: ruclips.net/video/TBtb34gy6zw/видео.html This should hopefully get you back on track with what you ought to be doing during this time: ruclips.net/video/obBIttQSak4/видео.html However, if the relationship lasts for 6 months or more, it's probably best to start moving on from this.
brad my ex has blocked me everywhere on each communication channel , and I tried to contact her several times afyer breakup like with a new sim or through a friend but she blocked everyone and when i reached out to her with a new mail id she said move on now what should i do
You really need to stop all contact for at least 30 days and not push it. Being needy or too forceful for your ex to talk to you will only alienate them further. Here's what may going through your ex's mind and they seem they want nothing to do with you: ruclips.net/video/sd2Lx8uEni8/видео.html
Hey.. I'm currently on no contact with my ex. I cheated on him and admitted later. Should I show him I'm happy or try convincing showing I regret everything that happeend
Do you truthfully regret how you treated him and wanted to give it another try with him? If so then yes try to ask for his forgiveness and show him how sorry you are. However, this puts the ball in your ex's court.
she blocked me practically everywhere and told me not to contact her again, im not too sure if it would be a good idea and she has moved out of my country, any tips to overcome this? or is moving on best?
Sorry but it looks like the odds are against you at this time. I suggest for you to consider moving on from this. I know this may not be what you want to hear and I understand what you're going through. You know moving on is a tricky process and the emotions come in waves. This video is for you: ruclips.net/video/01wvLSaS9_I/видео.html And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: ruclips.net/video/2CakOOSwIiY/видео.html or get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup at www.beatmybreakup.com
Hi Brad, I have been following No contact after begging & pleading for 3 months. Today is the 29th day of no contact period. During this period she attempted to contact me with New Year Wish, I wish her back after 5 hours of her message. I followed your advice and worked on myself and revived my social life. I gave her a hint on social media that I am changed I am enjoying my life (like playing basketball and all) as you suggested in your videos but she is not responding to those social media posts Is it a serious sign or what?
I can't gauge your situation properly but your window of opportunity may have already passed if you've begged for three months straight. For most, that is enough to really sabotage your chances but in other cases it's not. Take time to watch this vid because I discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/e3l5KWEpIpw/видео.html and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc
Hey Brad, my name is Blu-rayDave, I'm also a RUclipsr as well! I've done no contact for a month since December. I finished the challenge last week & asked my ex about a certain food that her & I had months ago that I really loved, & I said that I was gonna cook it for a "friend" this weekend, although I did not use quotation marks when I asked her this. We've gotten together 5 times in the last year. I still love her to pieces, & I REALLY hope for a 6th but final time that we can get back together again. She has a son that's living with her, & I could definitely tell that he didn't like it when we dated. Do u have any advice on that? I'm not ready to move on. Just in case if u make another example video, u can use this comment & my name in a future video. P.S. I did take your quiz the 1st day I started watching u last month. I think it was around 60 I believe, but I really do NEED to act fast! Thx Brad! U da MAN!!!!!😎😎😎
How old is her son? Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@@BradBrowning and I'm sry I can't afford this rn, but I need some advice on this: Valentine's Day is coming up soon & I wanna know if I could ask her out on a simple date? We've been broken up since October so I wanna know IF that's the best option? Thx again!
In this case it's really a needle in the haystack unless I know more about the situation to give advice, so consider hiring me as your coach before things blow over, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad, I have just started the 30 day no contact but I have received a message from her saying something like I may have a customer for me as we are in the same field of work but not in the same office. What should I do?
Do limited contact instead and keep any limited conversation you have strictly work-related. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
Its been 6 months of no contact and i want to break the ice i was planning to call him and meet him as we live very close by ? We have unfollowed each other everywhere on social media and deleted numbers right aftrr the break up so calling him seems right? I remember his number so and chances are more that he'd pick up the call so idk what to do is this right?
You'll want to test the waters first so try to hold off on the meeting part. Since it's been many months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: ruclips.net/video/YVViZmY2x0I/видео.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
Hey I used clean slate in two days after texting her...and she messaged me the next day after sending the clean slate she messaged me that she knows I'm angry with her and she deserves it and she said she knows I won't mess her like bestfriend but if I can see her as a friend then I can mess her...so what should I do?
Don't do it, man. She's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. You ought to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates a rebound in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at ruclips.net/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/видео.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
Hello Brad I need your advice badly.I treated her so badly about 11 months so she broke up with me.She got new boyfriend within 4 days after broke up with me.But she told me she chose him because new boyfriend treats her better.I think she still has feelings for me.. but she is afraid to come back What should I do??
I suggest to make some self improvements and focus on yourself for a while. It's very likely she's rebounding BUT has had enough of being treated badly and wanted to start a journey without you, man. Take this as a lesson learned and do better next time, whether this is with your ex or with someone new, yeah?
Hey Brad, been watching you videos lately, and I wanted to ask. She broke up with me because of what I did, she asked me to leave her alone and I couldn’t do that, her sister told me to leave her alone as well and she will give you another chance and I still couldn’t resist it, and now she says there won’t be any chance at all because I was still a child and annoyed her. Now it’s been almost a week and I haven’t contacted her, I was wondering if the no contact period will still affect it?
What did you do? I suggest you heed my advice from this vid, first and foremost: ruclips.net/video/jikW4YYC9yo/видео.html and from my other vid here: ruclips.net/video/PN-07kAtIjw/видео.html but also make sure you aren't being defensive or deflecting the blame because that's as annoying as ever. It may help to apply the tips here first: ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html
@@BradBrowning Well, for starters, I didn’t respect her at times and were rude at times and mean at times. She said it was just a complete build up of red flags and gave me chances to be better and I never changed so now she said she is done done so idk
Hi, unsure what to do! My ex broke up with me towards the end of November but we stayed in contact until New Years (spoke most days) as he said he would think about trying again but wasn’t 100%. he decided that he didn’t want a relationship and stated I was “too much” (maybe my clinginess at that time pushed him away) so I initiated no contact. This is our first break up (1yr 6mnth relationship). How long should I do NC for without jeopardising anything? Is there any chance we can sort it out?
Wait at least 30 days. Play your cards right and notice the world of difference that this can make. Stick to the "no contact" rule this time for at least 30 days. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ruclips.net/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/видео.html AND the importance of silence after the breakup here: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw and in the meantime, this is the principle you ought to follow: ruclips.net/video/EfbgU7v0Ny4/видео.html A situation with an ex is often fragile, so you'd really want to omit, if not minimize these mistakes. Start with the 30-day straight "no contact rule. It’s one step forward, two steps backward with an ex & there are no unlimited chances with them, so if you can do it right moving forward, then do so. Check out my guide so you won't end up making the same mistakes. Good luck!
hey brad i found my girlfriend hanging out with a guy and in the madness of me finding out i lied and said to her that i slept with a girl from my gym. we broke up yesterday and in my last messages i told her i lied about saying that ad havent spoken to her since. whats your thoughts on what her and i will go through during this time of no contact?
Going through lots of jealousy isn't good, so try to really take some time off to come back to your own sense of self, yeah? Avoid finding her whereabout or what she's doing because you have zero control over that, man, and you're putting unnecessary "torture" on yourself, for lack of better terms. As tough as it may be, it's always best to come to terms with the breakup and the fact that you're both single now. Just have to mention that you doing the "no contact" rule neither prevents nor encourages your ex to go with someone new. In other words there's really nothing you can do to keep your ex from getting with someone new if they want to. This is something I've mentioned here: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html So it boils down to two options, really. 1. Employ no contact and keep your dignity while respecting your ex's decision to breakup (why push yourself to someone who doesn't want you?) or Option 2: Do not do no contact and be pathetic. I always advise people to choose option 1 but really, which option you choose is ultimately up to you.
Hey Brad, my ex broke up with me 2weeks ago because he lost feelings for me. I was going through some sort of depression and he said I ignored him which led to loss of feelings. We have been together for lik one and a half years. So am in no contact for a week now. But am worried he might not come back to me bcoz he said it several times that he lost my feelings and he just wants to focus on his life now. Should I have hope?
I suggest you focus on yourself first and take care of your own issues. As to your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
How they feel after some time apart is not within your control. If your ex has not missed you and/or willing to put in the effort, that is outside your control. It's best to focus on yourself and heal from the situation in the time being so you get back to a place where you're emotionally stable. You both have to process the breakup first and go through all that pain and slowly let go of the bad memories...It is a process, but this is what the "no contact" rule is for, to help both of you move forward from that pain. A reconciliation with an ex means there will be a new (thus the old relationship be considered as over) relationship between you two where the lessons of the past are taken into consideration in order to resolve it to create a better relationship in the future. Does that make sense? Give your ex time to let go of the bad memories, however, this won't happen overnight and for sure takes time, so don't rush. Follow the tips on my other vids, especially this one: ruclips.net/video/FLeP1eRCkCk/видео.html Good luck!
Hello Brad, thank you for everything! You advices worked for me already multiple times and I can only recommend you to everybody! I have just a quick question - how to react, when my ex calls me ,,bro"? To get you in the context, we used to call each other bro and sis before the relationship (cuz I had a gf at the time and we were just friends). Should I ignor that or? Thank you in advance and have a wonderful day!
Yes, just ignore it because technically, you're no longer a couple. Make sure you employ that 30-day no contact rule first and never rush it, okay? Best of luck!
Hey brad, happy new year. Well, me and my ex haven't made contact neither on Xmas or on the new years. But I did try to contact her before xmas about a photo (I'm sure I spoke about this in your previous video), she gave me the ok sign for it (this was on December 16th), and Haven't spoke to her since. I have her Guittar at my place, but I'm not playing it, so I was thinking of giving it back. Should I contact my ex about it, and if so, should I ask her if I can come over to her place to give it back? Was thinking of doing it on a Friday Night, before I go out to a club, maybe have the chance to catch up for a few minutes. Any suggestion is appreciated. Btw, cheers from Portugal.
Hey man, I can't keep track of every comment made on here with tons added daily in a lot of videos. Now I can't remember when you broke up. In general, If you can, try to complete the 30-day no contact rule first and not go out of your way to give back her stuff...unless it's urgent or she requested for them back. It's also NOT a good idea to try to run across her, man. Check out my other videos for more tips. Also if your situation is urgent, consider signing up for my coaching program since I prioritize those, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching thanks!
My ex didn't pick up my calls and didn't reply my texts after our quarrel after a long gap she ask me to break up ...i apologize her again and again but she didnt expect it ...but one thing she used to view my status that's all... brad please solve my problems
What do you two always bicker about though? Fighting is often unavoidable, but when it becomes too much, it’s time to nip the problem in the bud if you still can. So it's either that or you go on a break and discuss the logistics as well as how it should go and how long it should be. What were you two fighting or arguing about? It's best to consider the relationship overall first, so watch this: ruclips.net/video/XuJFf5Kch5o/видео.html Anyways it's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. This may help: ruclips.net/video/BBEhaY3gLIw/видео.html Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? It could also be you're too incompatible or stubborn to meet each other halfway. If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship, as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral. Here's how it can help you: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw
Hey brad thanks for all your replies man :-). I have a question.. i am going to join the same office in which my ex is doing a job and i dont know she knows about this or not. I have completed my no contact period of 30 days and during this she has reached me 3-4 times. So should i tell her that i got selected in the interview round and the day of joining is from monday.. thanks man
Hey Brad hope you are doing well, so my ex and I broke up soon to be a year and a half ago (she ended things) but I can’t stop thinking about her, she’s the only thing on my mind and I don’t know what to do I took your quiz and I got a 64-100 she blocked me on everything so I have no way of contacting her any tips on what I should do
That's not a good score. If your ex has ghosted you or blocked you everywhere where contact is impossible and you can't text/call/email even though a lot of time has already passed, then I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it may be over for good. It's one of the things I've discussed here: ruclips.net/video/FP8YmErEOW8/видео.html and I know how tough that is to hear but I suggest you use this time as an opportunity for you to know yourself better and be strong and eventually happy being alone for a while, yeah? If you're having a hard time and need some support, consider getting my latest e-book "Beat the Breakup" at www.beatmybreakup.com
I don't see this as a cause for concern really, unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. So give it time. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ruclips.net/video/5UT92IB5ugs/видео.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ruclips.net/video/D1GpR5MApQk/видео.html Good luck!
Me and my boyfriend had breakup and I was literally begging him to be with me but he is not ready to be with me even he was not picking the call he was blocked me everywhere but I need him very badly every single night I will cry for him but he don't care what should I do to get him back 🥺🥺🥺😭
Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
I have take one of your advice 4 years ago then i found someone but now he thinks i cheated on him which i didn't exactly i was emotionally unstable so i found a friend we got close but i didn't had any physical relationship nor i kissed him my current lover didn't break up nor he's with me he's forcing me to accept something i didn't do please please help only you can help me now i feel exhaust
Has he always been that way with you? Give yourselves time first. If he's being paranoid or too jealous, then he needs to calm down so give time and space to think clearly first, okay?
Hello Brad I was in long distance and we had break last month and I applied no contact but she reached out to me and asked how I am doing but my mistake was I replied I am feeling that I ruined my chance and I can't afford your one on one coaching I really need your help in getting her back please reply thank you 🤞
That's what I call the "check-in" text and your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message moving forward, here: ruclips.net/video/VMAHVJ6tvSM/видео.html
It's an uphill battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
As tough as it may be, it's always best to come to terms with the breakup and the fact that you're both single now. You doing the "no contact" rule neither prevents nor encourages your ex to go with someone new. In other words there's really nothing you can do to keep your ex from getting with someone new if they want to. This is something I've mentioned here: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html So it boils down to two options, really. 1. Employ no contact and keep your dignity while respecting your ex's decision to breakup (why push yourself to someone who doesn't want you?) or Option 2: Do not do no contact and be pathetic. I always advise people to choose option 1 but really, which option you choose is ultimately up to you.
Hi Brad. My ex breakup with me before the christmas, after all he send me new year whishes, ofc i didnt replied because i was in no contact strateg, i was posting a post on ig that im working o myself, meeting with friends and all of that and suddenly after Just month, he sent me a message that "IT will be easier for US if i will block you i we wont looking On our fb ans ig, wish you all the Best, im glad that you're doing well" and the he blocked me everywhere... Now i DONT know what to do, IT totally damaged my plan with no contact strategy, i missed to initiate first contact after 30day no contact... Please help we were together 5years, and we were engaged...
He may not be ready to talk yet if he blocked you. I don't see this as a cause for concern really, unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. So give it time. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ruclips.net/video/5UT92IB5ugs/видео.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ruclips.net/video/D1GpR5MApQk/видео.html Good luck!
Really sorry, but your window of opportunity may have already passed if you're trying to get your ex back. However, no contact rule will work to help you heal and get over your ex and learn from the experience. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/e3l5KWEpIpw/видео.html and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc
@@BradBrowning i want her back in my life can i contact her after 30 days and follow all the things which you have suggested , like i didn’t give her chance to miss me in these last 6 months as i was not aware how retraction works, can i contact her after 6 months and then follow your advice and try to build the connection
Really sorry to hear that. Being cheated on is truly one of the biggest heartaches you could ever experience, relating closely and coming second to grieving for the death of a loved one. There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and/or making a solid effort to get back together after giving each other some time and space apart. While the situation is truly painful for you, it gives you the most growth as well so take that time to rediscover yourself and your own strength in getting through this. So really, my suggestion is to heal from this and be open to new possibilities. You ought to apply the tips here but it's really up to your ex to learn: ruclips.net/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/видео.html if you want to find out what your chances are, however, then feel free to take the free quiz on my website at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
Calling is intrusive for most exes. I suggest to take the more subtle texting approach first. Also always assess the risks first if it's all worth it. Remember, meeting up when you're both not ready will only alienate your ex further, and that's best case scenario. Worst case scenario will land you a spot in the dreaded friendzone. Watch this first: ruclips.net/video/Jzb18j7ZMPE/видео.html but if you're both ready, watch this video on how to tell as well as how tips for you on tipping the odds to your favor: ruclips.net/video/eJPGrkuQnm0/видео.html Best of luck!
Hey Brad , my gf behaviour is so weird from last few months so so wanted BK and also at the same time she wants me but in last month we meet at his place nd she told me that she had sex with another guy and that's why she does not want to continue relationship but our relationship is 5 yr relationship nd i don't want to loose him so I take emotionally at that movement and he so begging and crying happen she also cry so much but after 1 day when I talk with him she said that she does not made any mistake it happen becoz of she is satisfied with this relationship becoz she does not get some things when she wants but in reality I did everything that I can I already started no contact from 3 days but it's really hard for me becoz I I'm so addicted to him nd she also said at that movement that I does not have anything about in my mind right now and you will not able to make me happy in life after this also she said that I'm just continue this relationship for that you can't go on wrong path and does not harm you so it will not also harm me but after that conversation I does not talk to him nd she's behaving like she does not give a fuck nd she doesn't even ask me how are you .
Sorry to hear that, man. Chances are your girl has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ruclips.net/video/m27TLeyUmwg/видео.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with her if you can see she no longer wants to try. Take care!
Try to put your focus elsewhere (best to put focus back to yourself) because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/7KE6nb4-ndA/видео.html Watch this, too: ruclips.net/video/TBtb34gy6zw/видео.html This should hopefully get you back on track with what you ought to be doing during this time: ruclips.net/video/obBIttQSak4/видео.html However, if the relationship lasts for 6 months or more, it's probably best to start moving on from this.
That's nice but this really depends on what's really happening and how well you've been playing your cards, or not. If you've only talked recently, I'd say you two are friends or more appropriately, talking terms for now, but don't let that derail you, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. If you've already reconnected for a while though and your ex is pushing you deeper into that friendship hole, then that's a different story. Getting an ex back is a process. Whatever you do, make sure you don’t resort to doing the things here: y2u.be/jikW4YYC9yo
Good day, good people! She contacted me on Christmas. Then she tried to write to me, after she got silent. Later she started to write and is already a week or me as she is doing it. It looks like breadcrumbs. I used no contact 2 years ago to the same girl and we had 2 years of relationships. We are from Ukraine and it is one reason of what happened. The other million are in the avoidancy of that girl. I got general anxiety disorder as I started to date her 2 years ago. She is hard. I know, it is wrong to harm myself. Now, I start to feel anger. It is controlled one and towards myself. I am going through recruitment process to Ukrainian army and it takes time. I have plenty time, so there are too much thoughts. No contact works! Even multiple times! Especially, with dismissive, avoidant, neglected as children people. It also may show hidden things. The question is why do we need it? The ugly truth after this no contact, I think I am too good for the person who can just sent me towards the opposite direction. I have made lots of excuses for her. Blamed myself. I don't say, you should not try to get back your exes through no contact! You should try! But watch out! If you are a good one, you are don't deserve to be with this person. Either go to consult with someone who knows, who can get the worst fears of both of you, or prepare for the next breakup. I proposed my ex after we reconnected the first time. Even she 'thought' to go by herself, but never did that. I am thankful for your videos, Mr.Brad! I'll try to calm down. Again. Though I am not that reactive at all. I am kind of a Buddha. People who know me, would prove that. But anxiety is killing me. Constant pain in the stomach. And I know what people would say. I can't go to get prescription. It is the reality. I don't know what to do now. She is just recording audio messages and all. And records them constantly. Sometimes more than 3. But now I don't know how to make her call.
Go easy on yourself, bud. Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved.
Focus on texting and try not to meet up when one of you or both of you aren't ready yet. The phase you're on (assuming you've done the first phase correctly which is the 30-day no contact rule) is the second phase where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's a quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're both ready. Good luck!
If your ex has ghosted you or blocked you everywhere where contact is impossible and you can't text/call/email even though a lot of time has already passed, then I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it may be over for good. It's one of the things I've discussed here: ruclips.net/video/FP8YmErEOW8/видео.html and I know how tough that is to hear but I suggest you use this time as an opportunity for you to know yourself better and be strong and eventually happy being alone for a while, yeah? If you're having a hard time and need some support, consider getting my latest e-book "Beat the Breakup" at www.beatmybreakup.com
Never wait around for anyone. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/7AgSyWZfWV4/видео.html Give each other space, yes, but put some boundaries up especially as to when and how long you'd try but also don't rush it. It's complicated to explain it all in one go but my Ex Factor Guide should give you a step-by-step process on how to go about it. In the meantime, here's a quick overview: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html
It's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: ruclips.net/video/YVViZmY2x0I/видео.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
Hey Brad! My girlfriend broke up after 3 years relationship, 1,5 of them distance… her reasons were that she misses her family and wants to go back.. She didn‘t even try to find a solution and she ended the relationship. She said she didn‘t want to but she still did it.. i told her i don‘t want friendship.. after 5 days she didn‘t contact me and she was like „i wanted to text you but i didn‘t know how.. I saw her going to a club and told her that it‘s a shame that she goes already to a party.. We were arguing all evening and she said she loves me and loved me like noone else, but she wasn‘t sure what to do.. so we ended it and i deleted her on all apps… after 3 weeks she didn‘t even try to contact me and i am so disappointed of her… she watches my Whatsapp Stories but now i completely stopped posting things… my question is, since she will leave my country and returns back home, what should i do in this short time to get her back or at least make her texting me or not forgetting me? thank you :)
Sorry to hear that, man. Yes, if you two are having a hard time compromising especially something that has to do with physical distance, it's best to give each other time and space. Friendship isn't the best option right now. As to your question, this video may be for you though: ruclips.net/video/lweHvdCbcF4/видео.html Best of luck!
@@BradBrowning thanks! by the way an update.. i posted stories where i was outside and waiting for my best friend and one of me and my best friend… my ex doesn’t know her so she maybe thinks i have a new one.. now my ex blocked me… was it wrong from my side or what should i do now? :-/
I thought that's what my videos have already been doing. :-) Anyway as what so many people here are already doing across my videos, you may also leave a comment detailing your situation (keep it concise, please) and I'll get back to you the soonest I can. So state your situation in a separate comment because I can't backtrack even if I wanted to, got to move on to hundreds of new comments added daily. However, if you need my full attention where I focus in on and prioritize your situation or need a response as soon as possible, feel free to sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
No contact really works! I did no contact with my ex for about a month and a little while later after talking again we’re back together now :) your videos helped get me through no contact and I used some of your advice as well too, thank you brad!! 😇
This is so awesome to hear! I'm happy for you. Congrats! :-)
How long was your relationship?
@@BradBrowning thank you so much!! 🙂
@@mhmaisha302 we dated for about 3 months before we broke up and since getting back together we’ve been together again for about 2 months so far!
@@alyssamarie28 after your no contact who reached out to who first?
Hey Brad, thanks for making these videos. At this point (reaching 2 months post breakup) I've been watching every video that comes out. And slowly and gradually, I'm finding it easier and easier. I think whoever is reading this should know that it doesn't have to work out for you to be happy. Focus on you, and the better the version of you that you become is the version of you that your next love (ex or not) will fall for. Thanks again Brad, much love.
You're welcome! And yes, you're right. You can only do so much to try to re-attract an ex back and sometimes it works and in other cases, it just doesn't so it really depends. But yes, focusing on yourself as well as playing your cards right when it comes to trying to get an ex back is your best move. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! :-)
God bless you Brad. I was following all your videos and made everything right. No begging, no contact 45 days. And after blocking very slow also with following your advice I made great shift. I am texting like you said and he just can't ignore even when was trying. Now he replyes fast I am waiting sometimes 24 hours but when I am texting again his reply comes fast. Everything works. Just need to make everything very slow. Sometimes I pull back for 2-3 days. From blocking to questions from his side and trying to have conversation took 3 weeks. The best was follow rule there is no past, no single word about breakup just talking like nothing happen and he relaxedThank you is so less what I can say 🥰
So far so good, from what it looks like. Good job... Keep it up! :-) And you're welcome!
@@BradBrowning i am a boy.what should we do when we text our ex by mistakely (i have have unsent & maybe she couldn't see the sms but maybe she got notification)
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
It takes a while for your brain and heart to adjust to the rapid changes. Getting an ex back is a gradual process, so there's no one-action solution for this. Okay? The "no contact" phase is a good start, so do that first if you haven’t yet, for 30 days. If you have, then I'm glad you've completed it. There are two more phases to go with a few other steps in between (in the right order). What I'm trying to say here is it's a 3-phase process, and it's a bit complicated to explain it all on here, but I made an overview in the hopes of making people understand, so watch it here: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html or read my guide for the entire process. Good luck!
The dumper has to be the first one to reach out … have done self-respect!
Generally whoever wants to give the relationship another go should be the one to reach out than be stuck wondering about the what-ifs.
Hello Alex
It's been 6 months since I divorced my ex-wife after 15 years of marriage and 3 children together.
Everything was going well until she had an early mid-life crisis. Consequences, more vulgar clothing changes, coldness, belittling and infidelities,.
I went radio silent for over 2 months. But I see that she still has the behavior of a teenager. She has relationships with wealthy men who constantly invite her on vacation, leaving our children abandoned.
Despite the pain she is causing me, I don't know if it's worth it to win my ex back.
I would like to benefit from your expertise
Chances are there are underlying issues other than the ones you know. This has been my experience with many of my coaching clients. They think it's a mid-life crisis but there's often stuff that you might have overlooked and therefore you need a bird's eye view on the situation. Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.marriageguy.com/coaching
No contact worked , not necessarily to get her back directly, but at least she will start connect with you, I finished no contact for 30 days , first text she answered, and we started a nice conversation, and shared her pictures never shared during the relationship when she was young some family pictures, , but never expect they will back the important you make them back to know about your new life. Asking questions about your new life see their curiosity, then after that will be clear for you that you was just killing yourself for an ordinary person, and will help you to move on faster. I'm happy with the results , and thank you coach
That's right! :-) Watch this too for additional reference: ruclips.net/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/видео.html or better yet, get my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 to help guide you in every step of the process, especially if you see there may still be a chance with your ex, at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy Good luck!
I’ve been no contact for nearly 7 weeks now. He and I both have a lot of growth to do. I genuinely want to wait a few months after spending time on myself and getting to a better place - we ended things after an argument but we still loved each other. I’m not sure if he’s still mad but hope time will heal. Is this a bad idea? I feel like we both need time to grow.
What was the fight about? You know, fighting is often unavoidable, but when it becomes too much, it’s time to nip the problem in the bud if you still can. So it's either that or you go on a break and discuss the logistics as well as how it should go and how long it should be. What were you two fighting or arguing about? It's best to consider the relationship overall first, so watch this: ruclips.net/video/XuJFf5Kch5o/видео.html Anyways it's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. This may help: ruclips.net/video/BBEhaY3gLIw/видео.html Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? It could also be you're too incompatible or stubborn to meet each other halfway. If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship, as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral. Here's how it can help you: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw
This video came out as soon as my no contact ended
Talk about perfect timing! Good luck!
I don’t want to contact him ever again. He have hurt me so much. I don’t want to be around that him ever again. I really don’t care who he fool around with or date with someone else. I’m all over him since I watch your video for the past year. I can’t crawl back to him.
Good. Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved.
We had a peaceful breakup (after 8 month relationship) and I did no contact until yesterday (50 days no contact). In this time, she never reached out to me so this was the first communication that we have had for 2 months. I said "Hey, I just walked past the art gallery we went to, I still remember when we spent all day taking pics there and had a lot of fun. Made me think of you. I hope you're doing well these days. Btw, happy new year! Hope 2023 will be awesome"
She replied within an hour and said "Happy new year John :), I wish you all the best". An hour later I replied saying "Thank you, this year I'm planning to learn Chinese so I've paid for some Chinese classes, looking forward to it! How is your life these days? And what's your plan for this year?"
She hasn't responded to that message and it's been nearly a week lol. Did I do something wrong?
Try to keep it simple next time. Asking her for her plan for the year may have been too much. :-) Do simple yet fun text messages that won't require a complicated answer, if that makes sense. Try to apply the texting tips from my other videos. Your situation is also very delicate so once you start to see some progress with your ex, then don’t go at it alone, especially if you're in doubt or don't know what to do next. Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
1:55 🤣🤣 This One Always Makes Me Laugh Whenever I See This Gif!! 😂😂😂
lol good to hear. You know what they say, laughter is the best medicine! :-)
My girlfriend and I of 7 months broke up about 3 weeks ago and I’ve been in nc but I really want her rn
How is it now??
Brad its my been 8th day of no contact may be she is dating some one else but , out of the blues our memories hit me though the positive part is i am slowly healing its getting better as days passes and hope she will come back realising
Yes, emotions come in waves but stay strong, okay? Do your best to focus on yourself. This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/07jeFGiPXak/видео.html
Hello Brad
It's been 6 months since I divorced my ex-wife after 15 years of marriage and 3 children together.
Everything was going well until she had an early mid-life crisis. Consequences, more vulgar clothing changes, coldness, belittling and infidelities,.
I went radio silent for over 2 months. But I see that she still has the behavior of a teenager. She has relationships with wealthy men who constantly invite her on vacation, leaving our children abandoned.
Despite the pain she is causing me, I don't know if it's worth it to win my ex back.
I would like to benefit from your expertise
Chances are there are underlying issues other than the ones you know. This has been my experience with many of my coaching clients. They think it's a mid-life crisis but there's often stuff that you might have overlooked and therefore you need a bird's eye view on the situation. Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.marriageguy.com/coaching
My ex dumped me due to pressures in Nov 22 it was out of the blue.He called and said he just wanted space ,I said OK.Then in early Dec he texts saying that I could do better and we should split up...I was devastated but got through Xmas alone and did no contact for 3 weeks and he messaged saying he'd like to be friends but that is all as he could not be in a relationship but missed and loved me still.At this point I felt really confused by his changing mindset..I said I couldn't do friendship and went back into no contact..since then he's drunk text me and I stupidly tried to express that I was open to a relationship only he said he still couldn't but want friends with benefits...I feel disrespected.I don't know what to do anymore? I haven't heard from him in 5 days.
The more recent the breakup is, the more confusing it will be for you if you continue to interact with your ex. That kind of behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a fresh/recent breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
We will now meet Up for a Second time this Weekend. Had almost 6 months of No contact. Then a Long Phone call. Then a Second conversation on the Phone and then we met Up for the First time again shortly before Xmas. She did write me randomly at 3 in the morning this Weekend.
Best of luck! Make sure you check out my other vids for more tips on how to go about this. Here's one that should help: ruclips.net/video/2OfUA9o2Opw/видео.html
@@BradBrowning i guess i have a Happy Ending to report... though Not in a traditional Sense. So this Girl and i used to be best friends - and despite her having a Bf all of a sudden we became more for 8months. So eventually we ended despite Feelings for each other and when she reached Out, i lashed out at her. So we went Into No contact for 6 months. I now came back from seeing her for the Second time since then. And i can happily say - i have my friend back. It was like back in the days. And it truly brings tears of joy into my eyes. I dont know If we ever Go down that road again. but to be honest - i dont feel the need to. We have been Friends longer than anything and i can say - i got her Back. Thanks Brad - your advice helped - even though the Outcome was a completely different one :)
My Ex asked me never to contact him, as he wants to move on. Having taken the quiz, which you suggested, I realised I am in the 'fading fast' zone. I don't know if I should contact my Ex after the No Contact period gets over. Feels like if I will contact him, I will not respect his decision and cross his boundaries. Should I consider an extended period of no contact, like 8 months? The only excuse that I can find to contact him, is his birthday, which is in September. 🙃🙃🙃
Just apply the texting tips on my videos and try not to be too needy or eager. Play it cool...which is why you ought to work on yourself during the no contact period and do it correctly. Take it one step at a time and for now just make sure you don't make the number one mistake here: y2u.be/1cBpNrDDHnw
Hey brad.. my ex contacted me 3 times during no contact and she said are we still friends or what.. but what you are behaving is hurting me more.. i replied a short and sweet message on this and after that i think she became angry and my no contact period is almost over but and recently i messaged her because of some urgent work and she is acting like she doesn't care anymore and she is cold now.. i got selected in the same company in which my ex is doing job and my joining is on 9th jan. I want to know that how to react in this situation when i first go to the office. Thnks in advance..
That's what I call the "validation-seeking" text and your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message, here: ruclips.net/video/VMAHVJ6tvSM/видео.html
He is happy now with the girl he cheated on me... Still wishing him the best but don't want to do anything with him anymore..it hurt so bad but I will go on and focus about myself.
I think that's the best decision too. Sorry to hear you're going through this though. Being cheated on hurts a lot... and I know I can't say anything right now to make you feel better. Healing is a process and everybody has their own journey. They key is to regain confidence and in due time, you WILL feel better. It's important to experience some sense of progress in your life to make things somewhat bearable after a life-altering and excruciatingly painful event such as a breakup. So try as much to set personal life goals and start small to make sure it's attainable, such as going to the gym, planning a healthier diet, etc. You can also get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup at www.beatmybreakup.com to help guide you on what more to do during this grieving process. Take care!
Hello Brad, i just broke up with my boyfriend, this was after complicated poor communication, it has been a long distance.I tried to ask him why the poor communication now and the excuse was he is currently busy.So i decided to get him talk about us.He was like he is currently confused and doesn't know what to really say, whether we end it or not?.So i questioned him "should we end it?" He replied "Never my wish but i wish you all the best and don't forget me in your prayers please".Am confused if i can ever get him back even after the no contact rule😩
Sorry to hear that. A long distance is not easy to maintain, especially if you two had a weak foundation where you don't get to spend time with each other much in person. Not to state the obvious, but the distance is often the main culprit. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ruclips.net/video/GQY4N04uvtA/видео.html and/or ruclips.net/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/видео.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
We met up Monday..after no contact.. spent the whole day together.. however we both agreed to take it slow if we get back together
Sounds good!
Hey Brad!! I am new subscriber and your vids are really amazing. I had my breakup 1month ago. We were in a relationship for 2 years. I swear everything was just fine between both of us. Then suddenly one day he asked me for a break. I agreed to it. He assured me that it's not a breakup. Then after 5-6 days he broke up with me. During the break he was not contacting me and was talking to some other girl. Later I got to know he is dating some other girl. I asked him if there's someone but he refused. Now he's saying he will never come back to me and never talk to me. He's just saying that he doesn't loves me anymore and doesn't have any feelings for me anymore. And when I ask if there's any chance of us being together again in future he doesn't refuse but instead he says "idk". We had a small breakup earlier. I asked him to come back that time and he did. Now He is just saying that I am just pulling him to stay with me like earlier. But he came willingly and stayed 8-9 months after that. We were happy. He was happy with me. But now he is just blaming on me everything. I tried for few weeks to contact him and sort things out but now i am not doing that anymore. I even went to a tarot reader out of stress to ask will he ever contact me and she said there's only 40% chance of him to contact me. And i have to manifest that too or else he will not. Should I trust these tarot readers?
Is there any chance for us to get back together once again? I don't want to lose him.
What should I do to make him come back to me leaving that other girl who he has been dating out of nowhere or contact me and give our relationship a second chance?
Really sorry to hear that. The bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html Now as to your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
Hey Brad!! I scored 65 in the quiz. What do I exactly have to do to gain him back? Will we ever come back together? What steps should I take to make him come back to me?
I just got my ex back a hour ago after we broke up a month ago
Congrats!
Brad, I hope you're doing well. I wanted to reach out to you because I could really use your advice and suggestions. About 8 months ago, I went through a tough breakup with my girlfriend. It's been a rough road since then, and I've been trying to move on, but I can't help but feel like I made a huge mistake. I know the situation is a bit different now, and I'm not sure if she's open to reconciliation, but I was wondering if you had any tips on how to approach her and potentially get her back. In the first few months after the breakup, I gave her a lot of mental pressure by constantly trying to contact her and beg for her forgiveness. However, after watching some of your videos on relationships and moving on, I realized that I was making a mistake and needed to give her space and move on myself. I stopped all contact with her and focused on my own healing and growth. I thought I was finally moving on and getting over her, but then out of the blue, she called me a month ago to tell me some stupid things that seemed to come out of nowhere. I'm not sure what to make of it or how to react. Additionally, we are in long distance relationship, and it makes it harder to communicate and understand each other's feelings. I also took the love quiz that you recommended and I got 70 on it. I'm not sure if that's a good or a bad score, but I'm hoping that you might have some advice or suggestions on how to improve my score and how to navigate this long-distance situation in order to win her back. I really miss her and love her so much and would like to know what steps I can take to get her back. Thanks, Brad.
What kind of things did she tell you when she reached out? If they were negative, that may be clue to really consider moving on from this, man. A long distance is not easy to maintain, especially if you two had a weak foundation where you don't get to spend time with each other much in person. Not to state the obvious, but the distance is often the main culprit. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ruclips.net/video/GQY4N04uvtA/видео.html and/or ruclips.net/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/видео.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
When she was really sick she called and i just took care of her by staying with her ever day on video call. We continued all talking about 5 days until she was fine and i got emotional and starts begging then she again left … and I thought its better to move on … 4/5 weeks ago she again called me to tell me that she is working in a new place , its her first time doing a job , and she also mention that your birthday is coming and I can’t give you any present though I wasn’t expecting it at all .. then i show some love hints and she again ran away … is there any possibility?
Do you see any thing we cam work with?
And all these incidents happened after i gave her the mental pressure
My ex and I broke up in May 2021. We reconnected in April 2022. And we've met on and off around 9 times in all of last year between April to Dec 2022. We have decided to keep our dynamic casual such that we talk but rather infrequently and we've also been intimate without labels. We are yet to go all the way but we've been wanting to.
We had a talk on a video call in october of 2022 where he opened up about how getting back into a relationship with me specifically would mean that I know all of his weaknesses and how it would be harder for him to trust me to not use them against him especially after the way things ended. (We had a bad break up. A lot of crying and he felt very guilty. He's avoidant and I'm anxious.) He also had a casual rebound partner after we broke up who messed with him to the point he's sounded unsure of ever feeling things like he once used to..
Anyway, just before Christmas he texted me saying he had a minor back related injury that had happened when he was helping out a cousin at a wedding but he'd still like to meet over the holiday season to catch up. I was happy but he stopped responding to msgs around the time of Christmas. And I tried talking to him on new years again and he was kinda cold and said he was just disconnecting with the world and needed his space. I have backed off since. I think it's either him feeling down during the holiday season or something happened on his end and he's going through something. Either way he has gone kinda cold. Idk if it has anything to do with me or just his own issues..
Idk how to reconnect with him.. We don't text everyday.. and I'm worried he'd ghost me again if I try to reach out and ask to meet if he's still down.. the stagnation is kinda making me frustrated.. I know giving him his space is the best way to approach this till he's ready again.. but how will I know when he's ready? When is it ideal to nudge him? What if I keep waiting for him to reach out to me and that doesn't happen? It just feels like I'm losing control when we made a lot of progress last year. It sucks! Any advice?
Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey Brad ,my ex contacted me after 3 days of no contact and texted me "If you need me I will always be there for you" what does it mean ?
It could be as a friend. Try not to need your ex though as you can easily spiral into downward confusion. Employ the 30-day rule first.
The 'No contact ' period will end in 17th of the next month,and it's his birthday,will gifting him something be great??
I suggest to start light. A simple greeting will do! Remember, this is an ex and not your boyfriend anymore so to not put pressure on him whatsoever, keep things light and remember your new boundaries, yeah? Watch this, too, because it's related to what you've asked me: ruclips.net/video/OU0cmyhSxE0/видео.html
2 weeks of no contact and we're classmates... Will no contact still work? Cus it's the first day of our school after Christmas break, we ignored each other the whole time, am I doing it right?...
If you go to the same class where contact is unavoidable, I suggest you follow the tips here: ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
Me and my ex split up on 02/12/22. My decision when I was angry with her and done by text 😞. I’ve told her I want to get back together and she said she wants to see me as friends only. We’re due to go to the cinema on 15/02/23 to see Avatar 2. What’s my best strategy? I will obviously go but do I go into no contact straight after this?
So that was a year from now? Coming on too strong was the wrong move. I've talked about that here: ruclips.net/video/juhamVEwsxU/видео.html You ought to review this first: ruclips.net/video/L0hxYTCJ2hU/видео.html and in fact, apply the tips here too instead of taking the shortcut: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html In the future, if you're still not sure about what you're doing, I really suggest you sign up for my coaching program so I can assess your situation properly and guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey Brad I scored a 74 on your quiz, am I in a decent position to get my ex back? This is our 3rd breakup though so idk if your quiz accounts for this kind of situation. I'm also on day 4 of no contact. And managed to keep myself from begging or pleading with her bc of our past breakups and watching your videos
That's a good score. However, an on-and-off relationship often signifies underlying issues which have been left unaddressed for quite some time. Read this first to know what to expect when you have this kind of dynamic in your relationship: bit.ly/1HjcagC But if you're interested in making this your last breakup, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching especially if there's an available spot!
Bro. Today I just sent a long sobbing text saying all the how much I miss her and shit etc after she just sent me a low profile text. I was stupid. I will do the no contact strategy from now on. I hope it it's not to late.
Yeah, try not to sabotage yourself, man. Play your cards right and notice the world of difference that this can make. Stick to the "no contact" rule this time for at least 30 days. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ruclips.net/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/видео.html AND the importance of silence after the breakup here: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw and in the meantime, this is the principle you ought to follow: ruclips.net/video/EfbgU7v0Ny4/видео.html A situation with an ex is often fragile, so you'd really want to omit, if not minimize these mistakes. Start with the 30-day straight "no contact rule. It’s one step forward, two steps backward with an ex & there are no unlimited chances with them, so if you can do it right moving forward, then do so. Check out my guide so you won't end up making the same mistakes. Good luck!
Hey Brad, about to finish up no contact, been posting stories pretty regularly mostly gym and some with friends and my ex has viewed all of them, I thought I'd test the waters before I did the first text and posted again... No ball, she'd liked all my posts during the breakup period. I know it's more of a minor thing really but I'll admit that it's made me uncertain about reaching out just yet. Any thoughts?
If you're not confident enough yet, I suggest to give it one to two more weeks before reaching out with one of my texting tips in my other vids. And yes, don't overanalyze stuff, okay? Good luck!
Hi Brad, Im in a similar situation. I met a guy through an online dating app
We met. We were intimate during our initial stages. I caught strong feelings for him. Since things went too fast for him he recommended taking a break from dating and get to know each other as friends. I went in denial
He genuinely shows care towards me and I can see that in action but when I ask about where we truly stand, he says I dont know or I dont feel anything about me but there is no single time where his actions did not show affection. Now I consciously communicated that well not be in touch for min 30 days. In this case what should I do?
There's really no need to tell him about the no contact rule. Just respect his decision and his feelings for you -- or lack thereof. Also apply the tips here to bail out of the friendzone because trust me, that's the last thing you want to be right now: ruclips.net/video/SWERv_y3c5w/видео.html
Hi Brad. Been watching your videos. My girlfriend and I broke up a week ago, but she won't be moving out for a few weeks until the beginning of February (we've been living together for years). I want to order The Ex Factor and follow it, and I've been watching your videos, but I haven't seen one with our situation. What should I do in the next few weeks while we are still under the same roof? We are being amicable right now, and I'm avoiding being needy or begging her to stay, and being nice, but not too nice. Am I doing that right, or should there be something else I am doing? "No contact" right now is pretty much impossible. Love your videos! I'll be reading Ex Factor cover to cover when I get it. Thanks!
It's a different set of rules if you live together. Do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
Went about 45 days NC and sent a quick Merry Christmas. She barely showed any interest in chatting, so I backed off again. Don't know if I'll reach out again. I've been dating other people, but really wouldn't mind just being friends with her.
It looks like you were on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
Brad what to do if my ex also watches your videos and follow your advice??
Unlikely as dumpers usually enjoy their newfound freedom...until they don't. But if your ex is watching videos on how to get an ex back, that's a very good sign for you, isn't it? But without knowing more, it's hard for me to give real advice. My first suggestion is probably not to change anything and to continue employing my techniques anyway. Here's a quick overview on what to do AFTER the "no contact" rule: ruclips.net/video/xgR03RcU8mw/видео.html and what needs to happen in between so be sure to watch the vid to the end. For specific advice that’s tailored to your situation, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Talk soon!
Hi Brad, I have purchased your "get your ex back" videos and audios but unfortunatly, they are not working for me. Mine is a very specific situation and I have not foud videos that talk about it. I cannot purchase your one one couching because I just went through a divorce and go figure. We were 6 years together, he moved temporaly to our home country, I moved to a renting room, our house is for sale, we have no kids. I tried the modify no contact for 30 days, but every thing is just looking different of what I have heard on videos right now :(
He did reach out to me for specific situations, he said all the time he wants to be close to take care of me, but now after 45 days after he left, he is like doesn't care anymore. His words when he left was that I was the best woman he ever had but he had different dreams than mine, he also blame me for the break up, saying that I did not dedicated enough time to him,. Now after more than 30 days, I believe he is spending time with another woman that was his ex years and years ago and I think they were long distance lovers at his convinience..She was always a plate served for him :(
Sorry to hear that. Dumpers will often blame those who they leave, that way they don't have to feel guilty for leaving. This is why it's always best to give each other space to try to get a clear view of the situation yourself. The no contact rule can work for you in the following ways: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html Your ex could be rebounding so no contact is the only choice at this point because the opposite is much more self sabotaging and will make your ex lose respect. This vid is for you as well:
ruclips.net/video/MroLZ7XK9gY/видео.html&ab_channel=BradBrowning
Some of my ex's actions made me feel like he is a narcissistic person. Is there any chance for him to come back? I cheated on him out of anger because he also cheated on me a few months ago. I did it out of anger. And he understand my cheating and threatened to leave me. Then I tried to fix everything but couldn't do anything. Now I am being given silent treatment by my ex.
If he's truly a narcissist, you might want to think twice before trying to get him back, because even if you can change his mind, you can't change his personality, especially if he has a narcissistic personality disorder or the traits being shown to you. It's a mental illness that should be looked into by a medical professional. The best you can do is to encourage him to seek help. Now if you aren't sure whether he really is one and/or how to best handle the situation, consider signing up for my coaching program so I can look into this with you and what's really happening that you may be too close to see or have an outside perspective on. Best of luck!
Hi brad,
I recently ended a 1 yr relationship with my ex. Reasons for breakup he was a cheater, narcissist, manipulator , controlling and is petty. I do not want him back because ever since dating him i have known no peace but he was the only person i talked to. He made me cut off all my friends male n female and just talk to him alone everyday… it’s been 7 days no contact and I really miss him it’s extremely hard for me bc i have no 1 to talk to especially that he always give me attention n was always there for me .. what should i do? Also if he has nudes of you would you ask him to delete them?
It's a tough case indeed. You can't change his personality, especially if he has a narcissistic personality disorder or the traits being shown to you are similar with someone who has NPD. It's a mental illness that should be looked into by a medical professional. The best you can do is to encourage him to seek help. Also he's a fullgrown adult I supposed? No need to tell him to delete your nudes. Just go straight cold turkey. Best of luck!
@@BradBrowning thanks🥰🥰
Wondering how to adapt this to contacting a guy I dated recently. Things were going well, but he called it off since his Dad was about to die = bad timing. I’m doing no contact.
It does seems like he's under a lot of grief that has nothing to do with you and some men are known to withdraw to their own world when that happens, Give him his space and be his support but don't force yourself into his life and show him you respect his decision to break up as doing the opposite will only make him withdraw further. Use this time to work on yourself Take care!
How can I contact you personally?
You can also reach me via the contact info on my website at www.breakupbrad.com or send me a message via my Facebook fan page: facebook.com/bbrowning
Why does my ex completely avoid me? Is it because i begged and apologize?
It could be. It's just awkward and unwanted attention at this point, so please stop doing that, okay? I don't know about your situation but in majority of the cases I've coached and those who commented on here, they really do need to give it a rest for at least 30 days. Watch this free full-length vid presentation to get an idea on what needs to happen first and how you can turn the situation around at www.breakupbrad.com
Brad, I went no contact for about one day! She was very emotional and upset. I have made it clean I will not be around as friends & because we have a son I would just be there for him. She asked me to go around tomorrow, what’s the next step for me? As you can imagine Ita still raw as it’s only been a few days since brake up
If you're hellbent on trying to work things out, let me just set expectations that it's a tough battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible, in addition to my newer vids I've posted: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
@@BradBrowning thanks for your reply Brad! We was sorting things out but she booked to go away for a few days and I lost it. I begged and pleaded. We had a brake in December and she spoke to somebody new. She now reached back out to him, I’ve begged and pleaded again. I am now in no contact as I have realised I’ve made a mistake. We have a kid so I guess I just have to talk about the baby
I broke up with my ex 7 weeks ago this Friday 20th January. I sent her a text in anger with her but regretted my decision to finish things. She left on 2nd Dec 22 (same day).
We’ve met a few times since but she said she just wants to be friends. Saw her on Sunday 15th Jan and we went to the cinema and I made the mistake on leaving to try and hold her hand. She said friends don’t do that and today was a test to see if we can go out as friends. We then had a meal after the cinema. I had written her a letter explaining my actions and that I wanted to try again but she refused to read it.
We should be seeing each other again on 19th Feb for the cinema again. Don’t know if I’m going to go as I hate just being friends with her. Am going into no contact today to see if it changes her mind. Wasn’t able to do this when we split as we both wanted to exchange Christmas presents then it was her 50th Birthday on 28th Dec so I gave her the gifts I had bought her.
Will no contact work for me? 😔
So you ended things with her? She may need more space especially if things had been bad between you two prior to that. Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@@BradBrowning not sure i can afford coaching but will see how much it is in uk money (sterling). Feel the situation is hopeless right now. She did travel 40 minutes to come and see me on Sunday and it was her idea to go to the cinema. Prior to leaving the cinema she was ok with me rubbing her arm to make sure she was comfortable and awake. So confused.
I've been patient enough for 30 days. Then my ex texted me and I was excited. But the text was meaningless. It didn't have a hint of her wanting to get back with me. I read like her wanting to stop feeling guilty for ghosting me. It was also for her to get reassurance that I'm her backup bitch. No thank you. I deserve better. I'm smart, creative, nice, noble, honest, wise, and funny. She's missing on this.
Glad you finally got it, man! Loving yourself first is key and yes, never be the backup plan. Keep it up! :-)
I lied to my ex and her family about stuff and she found out. it was nothing serious about a girl or anything like that, I just lied about to stuff to her in the beginning to make her like me more. she caught on and I kept denying it then finally she said her family noticed stuff didn’t add up. she broke it off but she would tell me she hopes we work out and that she still loves me but she needs time. she would ask me to go over and we’d sit in my truck and talk and eventually start kissing. then one day she was texting me randomly and then finally cut it off because she said she said it hurts too much. we haven’t talked in about a week and i’m still waiting for a text. what do I do? brad help
Respect her decision and give her time. I suggest you heed my advice from this vid, first and foremost: ruclips.net/video/jikW4YYC9yo/видео.html and from my other vid here: ruclips.net/video/PN-07kAtIjw/видео.html but also make sure you aren't being defensive or deflecting the blame because that's as annoying as ever. It may help to apply the tips here first: ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html
Be patient and let things play out first. Let time do its job since it's your biggest ally at this point. Good luck!
Hey Brad, thanks for all the videos. I got a short question. A bit over 3 months ago my girlfriend of almost 3 years broke up with me. It was a bad break and I begged. I started no contact and she called me 2 weeks later to start over. We tried for more then 2 months. First month was really fun but the second was horrible. I could feel her starting to love less. She broke it up last week and I took it like a champ. She was a bit angry about a little vacation we were going to take. But I stayed calm and didn’t buckle. Her reasoning was that she loved me but wasn’t “in love” (it’s different in Dutch but I hope you get my meaning.) I showed her when we retried that I was definitely a better man but regardless she broke it up. I am thinking about messaging her in a month to wish her happy birthday. after no contact. I am working to be happy for myself and not just for her but what more can I do? I am physically fit and attractive, dress well but maybe I could be a bit more social and adventurous. It’s weird cause she always talked about a future with me and loved me so much. Any tips?
Hi! You're welcome! The "love-but-not-in-love" excuse is very common. This vid is for you, too: ruclips.net/video/wzkKp9rgHJo/видео.html Most likely she pulled back and exes are known to do that too. However, don’t destroy the progress you’ve made up to this point. Watch this to gain some insight on what to do: ruclips.net/video/cC54YU-qU5Q/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/MK7NDfJTbDc/видео.html But if your ex is worth it and as long as you aren't being manipulated, and you still really wanna give it your best shot, then I'll be more than happy to put my focus on your situation. Sign up to my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey brad , we've started talking after a month of no contact(i initiated it ofc) , and its kinda slow for obvious reasons , i am afraid that she will start to see me just as a friend, because that's what she said during the break up "we can still be friends" , how do i avoid that , and how to i make her fall for me ???
Hey man, getting an ex back is a process. When it comes to trying to re-attract an ex, it's best to treat the situation like new. Make her fall in love with you again the same way you did in the beginning with hopefully all the lessons learned and you and your ex are better versions of yourself. This is what my Ex Factor Guide is about but to get an overview, watch this vid: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html
My ex unblocked me after a week of no contact, after he unblocked me he followed a girl, I’m scared he’s moving on, what should I do?
Try not to monitor your ex's activities or whatnot. Try to put your focus elsewhere (best to put focus back to yourself) because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/7KE6nb4-ndA/видео.html Watch this, too: ruclips.net/video/TBtb34gy6zw/видео.html This should hopefully get you back on track with what you ought to be doing during this time: ruclips.net/video/obBIttQSak4/видео.html However, if the relationship lasts for 6 months or more, it's probably best to start moving on from this.
brad my ex has blocked me everywhere on each communication channel , and I tried to contact her several times afyer breakup like with a new sim or through a friend but she blocked everyone and when i reached out to her with a new mail id she said move on now what should i do
You really need to stop all contact for at least 30 days and not push it. Being needy or too forceful for your ex to talk to you will only alienate them further. Here's what may going through your ex's mind and they seem they want nothing to do with you: ruclips.net/video/sd2Lx8uEni8/видео.html
Hey.. I'm currently on no contact with my ex. I cheated on him and admitted later. Should I show him I'm happy or try convincing showing I regret everything that happeend
Do you truthfully regret how you treated him and wanted to give it another try with him? If so then yes try to ask for his forgiveness and show him how sorry you are. However, this puts the ball in your ex's court.
she blocked me practically everywhere and told me not to contact her again, im not too sure if it would be a good idea and she has moved out of my country, any tips to overcome this? or is moving on best?
Sorry but it looks like the odds are against you at this time. I suggest for you to consider moving on from this. I know this may not be what you want to hear and I understand what you're going through. You know moving on is a tricky process and the emotions come in waves. This video is for you: ruclips.net/video/01wvLSaS9_I/видео.html And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: ruclips.net/video/2CakOOSwIiY/видео.html or get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup at www.beatmybreakup.com
Hi Brad,
I have been following No contact after begging & pleading for 3 months. Today is the 29th day of no contact period. During this period she attempted to contact me with New Year Wish, I wish her back after 5 hours of her message. I followed your advice and worked on myself and revived my social life. I gave her a hint on social media that I am changed I am enjoying my life (like playing basketball and all) as you suggested in your videos but she is not responding to those social media posts Is it a serious sign or what?
I can't gauge your situation properly but your window of opportunity may have already passed if you've begged for three months straight. For most, that is enough to really sabotage your chances but in other cases it's not. Take time to watch this vid because I discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/e3l5KWEpIpw/видео.html and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc
@@BradBrowning FUCK! I’m screwed. 🤐
Hey Brad, my name is Blu-rayDave, I'm also a RUclipsr as well! I've done no contact for a month since December. I finished the challenge last week & asked my ex about a certain food that her & I had months ago that I really loved, & I said that I was gonna cook it for a "friend" this weekend, although I did not use quotation marks when I asked her this. We've gotten together 5 times in the last year. I still love her to pieces, & I REALLY hope for a 6th but final time that we can get back together again. She has a son that's living with her, & I could definitely tell that he didn't like it when we dated. Do u have any advice on that? I'm not ready to move on. Just in case if u make another example video, u can use this comment & my name in a future video. P.S. I did take your quiz the 1st day I started watching u last month. I think it was around 60 I believe, but I really do NEED to act fast! Thx Brad! U da MAN!!!!!😎😎😎
How old is her son? Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@@BradBrowning he's 12. And thx for getting back to me!😎😎😎👊👊👊👍👍👍
@@BradBrowning and I'm sry I can't afford this rn, but I need some advice on this: Valentine's Day is coming up soon & I wanna know if I could ask her out on a simple date? We've been broken up since October so I wanna know IF that's the best option? Thx again!
Happy New Year brad 💟
Hey happy 2023 to you too!
Hey can you make a video for people who still haven't broken up but are close to breaking up.
In this case it's really a needle in the haystack unless I know more about the situation to give advice, so consider hiring me as your coach before things blow over, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad, I have just started the 30 day no contact but I have received a message from her saying something like I may have a customer for me as we are in the same field of work but not in the same office. What should I do?
Do limited contact instead and keep any limited conversation you have strictly work-related. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
@Brad Browning Cheers Brad, after replying should I start the no contact again from scratch or wait the remainder of time?
Its been 6 months of no contact and i want to break the ice i was planning to call him and meet him as we live very close by ? We have unfollowed each other everywhere on social media and deleted numbers right aftrr the break up so calling him seems right? I remember his number so and chances are more that he'd pick up the call so idk what to do is this right?
You'll want to test the waters first so try to hold off on the meeting part. Since it's been many months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: ruclips.net/video/YVViZmY2x0I/видео.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
Hey I used clean slate in two days after texting her...and she messaged me the next day after sending the clean slate she messaged me that she knows I'm angry with her and she deserves it and she said she knows I won't mess her like bestfriend but if I can see her as a friend then I can mess her...so what should I do?
Don't do it, man. She's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. You ought to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates a rebound in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at ruclips.net/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/видео.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
I tried to talk to my ex after one year of no contact. And she was so mean and rude to me. What does it mean?
This vid may be for you: ruclips.net/video/4A5FQbtPBsM/видео.html
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Not if you deal with the right folks. Let the pain be a lesson learned and perhaps do something different, yeah?
Hello Brad I need your advice badly.I treated her so badly about 11 months so she broke up with me.She got new boyfriend within 4 days after broke up with me.But she told me she chose him because new boyfriend treats her better.I think she still has feelings for me.. but she is afraid to come back
What should I do??
I suggest to make some self improvements and focus on yourself for a while. It's very likely she's rebounding BUT has had enough of being treated badly and wanted to start a journey without you, man. Take this as a lesson learned and do better next time, whether this is with your ex or with someone new, yeah?
@@BradBrowning thx man I will do what you told
Hey Brad, been watching you videos lately, and I wanted to ask. She broke up with me because of what I did, she asked me to leave her alone and I couldn’t do that, her sister told me to leave her alone as well and she will give you another chance and I still couldn’t resist it, and now she says there won’t be any chance at all because I was still a child and annoyed her. Now it’s been almost a week and I haven’t contacted her, I was wondering if the no contact period will still affect it?
What did you do? I suggest you heed my advice from this vid, first and foremost: ruclips.net/video/jikW4YYC9yo/видео.html and from my other vid here: ruclips.net/video/PN-07kAtIjw/видео.html but also make sure you aren't being defensive or deflecting the blame because that's as annoying as ever. It may help to apply the tips here first: ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html
@@BradBrowning Well, for starters, I didn’t respect her at times and were rude at times and mean at times. She said it was just a complete build up of red flags and gave me chances to be better and I never changed so now she said she is done done so idk
Hi, unsure what to do! My ex broke up with me towards the end of November but we stayed in contact until New Years (spoke most days) as he said he would think about trying again but wasn’t 100%. he decided that he didn’t want a relationship and stated I was “too much” (maybe my clinginess at that time pushed him away) so I initiated no contact. This is our first break up (1yr 6mnth relationship). How long should I do NC for without jeopardising anything? Is there any chance we can sort it out?
Wait at least 30 days. Play your cards right and notice the world of difference that this can make. Stick to the "no contact" rule this time for at least 30 days. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ruclips.net/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/видео.html AND the importance of silence after the breakup here: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw and in the meantime, this is the principle you ought to follow: ruclips.net/video/EfbgU7v0Ny4/видео.html A situation with an ex is often fragile, so you'd really want to omit, if not minimize these mistakes. Start with the 30-day straight "no contact rule. It’s one step forward, two steps backward with an ex & there are no unlimited chances with them, so if you can do it right moving forward, then do so. Check out my guide so you won't end up making the same mistakes. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning Do they have to reach out to me after 30 days or can I reach out to them?
hey brad i found my girlfriend hanging out with a guy and in the madness of me finding out i lied and said to her that i slept with a girl from my gym. we broke up yesterday and in my last messages i told her i lied about saying that ad havent spoken to her since. whats your thoughts on what her and i will go through during this time of no contact?
Going through lots of jealousy isn't good, so try to really take some time off to come back to your own sense of self, yeah? Avoid finding her whereabout or what she's doing because you have zero control over that, man, and you're putting unnecessary "torture" on yourself, for lack of better terms. As tough as it may be, it's always best to come to terms with the breakup and the fact that you're both single now. Just have to mention that you doing the "no contact" rule neither prevents nor encourages your ex to go with someone new. In other words there's really nothing you can do to keep your ex from getting with someone new if they want to. This is something I've mentioned here: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html So it boils down to two options, really. 1. Employ no contact and keep your dignity while respecting your ex's decision to breakup (why push yourself to someone who doesn't want you?) or Option 2: Do not do no contact and be pathetic. I always advise people to choose option 1 but really, which option you choose is ultimately up to you.
Hey Brad, my ex broke up with me 2weeks ago because he lost feelings for me. I was going through some sort of depression and he said I ignored him which led to loss of feelings. We have been together for lik one and a half years. So am in no contact for a week now. But am worried he might not come back to me bcoz he said it several times that he lost my feelings and he just wants to focus on his life now. Should I have hope?
I suggest you focus on yourself first and take care of your own issues. As to your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
What if I’m too scared to contact after 30 days or so because they might not feel the same whatsoever 😕
How they feel after some time apart is not within your control. If your ex has not missed you and/or willing to put in the effort, that is outside your control. It's best to focus on yourself and heal from the situation in the time being so you get back to a place where you're emotionally stable. You both have to process the breakup first and go through all that pain and slowly let go of the bad memories...It is a process, but this is what the "no contact" rule is for, to help both of you move forward from that pain. A reconciliation with an ex means there will be a new (thus the old relationship be considered as over) relationship between you two where the lessons of the past are taken into consideration in order to resolve it to create a better relationship in the future. Does that make sense? Give your ex time to let go of the bad memories, however, this won't happen overnight and for sure takes time, so don't rush. Follow the tips on my other vids, especially this one: ruclips.net/video/FLeP1eRCkCk/видео.html Good luck!
Hello Brad, thank you for everything! You advices worked for me already multiple times and I can only recommend you to everybody!
I have just a quick question - how to react, when my ex calls me ,,bro"? To get you in the context, we used to call each other bro and sis before the relationship (cuz I had a gf at the time and we were just friends). Should I ignor that or?
Thank you in advance and have a wonderful day!
Yes, just ignore it because technically, you're no longer a couple. Make sure you employ that 30-day no contact rule first and never rush it, okay? Best of luck!
Hey brad, happy new year.
Well, me and my ex haven't made contact neither on Xmas or on the new years. But I did try to contact her before xmas about a photo (I'm sure I spoke about this in your previous video), she gave me the ok sign for it (this was on December 16th), and Haven't spoke to her since.
I have her Guittar at my place, but I'm not playing it, so I was thinking of giving it back. Should I contact my ex about it, and if so, should I ask her if I can come over to her place to give it back?
Was thinking of doing it on a Friday Night, before I go out to a club, maybe have the chance to catch up for a few minutes.
Any suggestion is appreciated.
Btw, cheers from Portugal.
Hey man, I can't keep track of every comment made on here with tons added daily in a lot of videos. Now I can't remember when you broke up. In general, If you can, try to complete the 30-day no contact rule first and not go out of your way to give back her stuff...unless it's urgent or she requested for them back. It's also NOT a good idea to try to run across her, man. Check out my other videos for more tips. Also if your situation is urgent, consider signing up for my coaching program since I prioritize those, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching thanks!
My ex didn't pick up my calls and didn't reply my texts after our quarrel after a long gap she ask me to break up ...i apologize her again and again but she didnt expect it ...but one thing she used to view my status that's all... brad please solve my problems
What do you two always bicker about though? Fighting is often unavoidable, but when it becomes too much, it’s time to nip the problem in the bud if you still can. So it's either that or you go on a break and discuss the logistics as well as how it should go and how long it should be. What were you two fighting or arguing about? It's best to consider the relationship overall first, so watch this: ruclips.net/video/XuJFf5Kch5o/видео.html Anyways it's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. This may help: ruclips.net/video/BBEhaY3gLIw/видео.html Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? It could also be you're too incompatible or stubborn to meet each other halfway. If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship, as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral. Here's how it can help you: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw
@@BradBrowning bro brad...she said she is not interested in me anymore ...as i heard from her friend and tired too
Is reaching out after no contact the same for guys and girls?
Yes, it is.
Hey brad thanks for all your replies man :-). I have a question.. i am going to join the same office in which my ex is doing a job and i dont know she knows about this or not. I have completed my no contact period of 30 days and during this she has reached me 3-4 times. So should i tell her that i got selected in the interview round and the day of joining is from monday.. thanks man
Yeah, you can do light, fun talks. Make sure you apply my texting tips from my other vids though if you're not getting the guide. Good luck!
Hey Brad hope you are doing well, so my ex and I broke up soon to be a year and a half ago (she ended things) but I can’t stop thinking about her, she’s the only thing on my mind and I don’t know what to do I took your quiz and I got a 64-100 she blocked me on everything so I have no way of contacting her any tips on what I should do
That's not a good score. If your ex has ghosted you or blocked you everywhere where contact is impossible and you can't text/call/email even though a lot of time has already passed, then I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it may be over for good. It's one of the things I've discussed here: ruclips.net/video/FP8YmErEOW8/видео.html and I know how tough that is to hear but I suggest you use this time as an opportunity for you to know yourself better and be strong and eventually happy being alone for a while, yeah? If you're having a hard time and need some support, consider getting my latest e-book "Beat the Breakup" at www.beatmybreakup.com
@@BradBrowning yeah it’s done, just sucks because I thought we had something good. Appreciate it and love the content!
I am in 26 days no conduct he blocked me all social media what can I do I truly love him want him🥺
I don't see this as a cause for concern really, unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. So give it time. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ruclips.net/video/5UT92IB5ugs/видео.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ruclips.net/video/D1GpR5MApQk/видео.html Good luck!
Me and my boyfriend had breakup and I was literally begging him to be with me but he is not ready to be with me even he was not picking the call he was blocked me everywhere but I need him very badly every single night I will cry for him but he don't care what should I do to get him back 🥺🥺🥺😭
Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
I have take one of your advice 4 years ago then i found someone but now he thinks i cheated on him which i didn't exactly i was emotionally unstable so i found a friend we got close but i didn't had any physical relationship nor i kissed him my current lover didn't break up nor he's with me he's forcing me to accept something i didn't do please please help only you can help me now i feel exhaust
Has he always been that way with you? Give yourselves time first. If he's being paranoid or too jealous, then he needs to calm down so give time and space to think clearly first, okay?
Hello Brad I was in long distance and we had break last month and I applied no contact but she reached out to me and asked how I am doing but my mistake was I replied I am feeling that I ruined my chance and I can't afford your one on one coaching I really need your help in getting her back please reply thank you 🤞
That's what I call the "check-in" text and your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message moving forward, here: ruclips.net/video/VMAHVJ6tvSM/видео.html
@@BradBrowning I want to ask that I ruined my chances ? Please reply I am gonna meet her on 25 Jan
Brad please how do I get my ex back but we have kids how do I do no contact if I can’t please make a vid on this topic specifically
It's an uphill battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
Hi Brad. I'm quite worry that if I have no contact on him he might find someone else.😢
As tough as it may be, it's always best to come to terms with the breakup and the fact that you're both single now. You doing the "no contact" rule neither prevents nor encourages your ex to go with someone new. In other words there's really nothing you can do to keep your ex from getting with someone new if they want to. This is something I've mentioned here: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html So it boils down to two options, really. 1. Employ no contact and keep your dignity while respecting your ex's decision to breakup (why push yourself to someone who doesn't want you?) or Option 2: Do not do no contact and be pathetic. I always advise people to choose option 1 but really, which option you choose is ultimately up to you.
Hi Brad. My ex breakup with me before the christmas, after all he send me new year whishes, ofc i didnt replied because i was in no contact strateg, i was posting a post on ig that im working o myself, meeting with friends and all of that and suddenly after Just month, he sent me a message that "IT will be easier for US if i will block you i we wont looking On our fb ans ig, wish you all the Best, im glad that you're doing well" and the he blocked me everywhere... Now i DONT know what to do, IT totally damaged my plan with no contact strategy, i missed to initiate first contact after 30day no contact... Please help we were together 5years, and we were engaged...
He may not be ready to talk yet if he blocked you. I don't see this as a cause for concern really, unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. So give it time. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ruclips.net/video/5UT92IB5ugs/видео.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ruclips.net/video/D1GpR5MApQk/видео.html Good luck!
will no contact work after months of begging and pleading
Really sorry, but your window of opportunity may have already passed if you're trying to get your ex back. However, no contact rule will work to help you heal and get over your ex and learn from the experience. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/e3l5KWEpIpw/видео.html and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc
@@BradBrowning i want her back in my life can i contact her after 30 days and follow all the things which you have suggested , like i didn’t give her chance to miss me in these last 6 months as i was not aware how retraction works, can i contact her after 6 months and then follow your advice and try to build the connection
What if he has a 3rd party ? The new girl ?
Really sorry to hear that. Being cheated on is truly one of the biggest heartaches you could ever experience, relating closely and coming second to grieving for the death of a loved one. There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and/or making a solid effort to get back together after giving each other some time and space apart. While the situation is truly painful for you, it gives you the most growth as well so take that time to rediscover yourself and your own strength in getting through this. So really, my suggestion is to heal from this and be open to new possibilities. You ought to apply the tips here but it's really up to your ex to learn: ruclips.net/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/видео.html if you want to find out what your chances are, however, then feel free to take the free quiz on my website at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
Does It Work Everytime
Like all things in life, nothing is an absolute guarantee. But it works in most cases.
Uh what if i call him to catch up and possibly meet him?
Calling is intrusive for most exes. I suggest to take the more subtle texting approach first. Also always assess the risks first if it's all worth it. Remember, meeting up when you're both not ready will only alienate your ex further, and that's best case scenario. Worst case scenario will land you a spot in the dreaded friendzone. Watch this first: ruclips.net/video/Jzb18j7ZMPE/видео.html but if you're both ready, watch this video on how to tell as well as how tips for you on tipping the odds to your favor: ruclips.net/video/eJPGrkuQnm0/видео.html Best of luck!
Hey Brad , my gf behaviour is so weird from last few months so so wanted BK and also at the same time she wants me but in last month we meet at his place nd she told me that she had sex with another guy and that's why she does not want to continue relationship but our relationship is 5 yr relationship nd i don't want to loose him so I take emotionally at that movement and he so begging and crying happen she also cry so much but after 1 day when I talk with him she said that she does not made any mistake it happen becoz of she is satisfied with this relationship becoz she does not get some things when she wants but in reality I did everything that I can I already started no contact from 3 days but it's really hard for me becoz I I'm so addicted to him nd she also said at that movement that I does not have anything about in my mind right now and you will not able to make me happy in life after this also she said that I'm just continue this relationship for that you can't go on wrong path and does not harm you so it will not also harm me but after that conversation I does not talk to him nd she's behaving like she does not give a fuck nd she doesn't even ask me how are you .
Sorry to hear that, man. Chances are your girl has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ruclips.net/video/m27TLeyUmwg/видео.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with her if you can see she no longer wants to try. Take care!
What if she finds someone else after No Contact
Try to put your focus elsewhere (best to put focus back to yourself) because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/7KE6nb4-ndA/видео.html Watch this, too: ruclips.net/video/TBtb34gy6zw/видео.html This should hopefully get you back on track with what you ought to be doing during this time: ruclips.net/video/obBIttQSak4/видео.html However, if the relationship lasts for 6 months or more, it's probably best to start moving on from this.
@@BradBrowning Thank you brad, always loved you since 2019, Thanks for advice ❤️
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Brad how if after weeks we are good what next step
That's nice but this really depends on what's really happening and how well you've been playing your cards, or not. If you've only talked recently, I'd say you two are friends or more appropriately, talking terms for now, but don't let that derail you, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. If you've already reconnected for a while though and your ex is pushing you deeper into that friendship hole, then that's a different story. Getting an ex back is a process. Whatever you do, make sure you don’t resort to doing the things here: y2u.be/jikW4YYC9yo
Good day, good people! She contacted me on Christmas. Then she tried to write to me, after she got silent. Later she started to write and is already a week or me as she is doing it. It looks like breadcrumbs. I used no contact 2 years ago to the same girl and we had 2 years of relationships. We are from Ukraine and it is one reason of what happened. The other million are in the avoidancy of that girl. I got general anxiety disorder as I started to date her 2 years ago. She is hard. I know, it is wrong to harm myself. Now, I start to feel anger. It is controlled one and towards myself. I am going through recruitment process to Ukrainian army and it takes time. I have plenty time, so there are too much thoughts. No contact works! Even multiple times! Especially, with dismissive, avoidant, neglected as children people. It also may show hidden things. The question is why do we need it? The ugly truth after this no contact, I think I am too good for the person who can just sent me towards the opposite direction. I have made lots of excuses for her. Blamed myself. I don't say, you should not try to get back your exes through no contact! You should try! But watch out! If you are a good one, you are don't deserve to be with this person. Either go to consult with someone who knows, who can get the worst fears of both of you, or prepare for the next breakup. I proposed my ex after we reconnected the first time. Even she 'thought' to go by herself, but never did that.
I am thankful for your videos, Mr.Brad! I'll try to calm down. Again. Though I am not that reactive at all. I am kind of a Buddha. People who know me, would prove that. But anxiety is killing me. Constant pain in the stomach. And I know what people would say. I can't go to get prescription. It is the reality.
I don't know what to do now. She is just recording audio messages and all. And records them constantly. Sometimes more than 3. But now I don't know how to make her call.
Go easy on yourself, bud. Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I don't want mine back
Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved.
What if she don’t want to meet up
Focus on texting and try not to meet up when one of you or both of you aren't ready yet. The phase you're on (assuming you've done the first phase correctly which is the 30-day no contact rule) is the second phase where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's a quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're both ready. Good luck!
what if my ex blocked me everywhere?
If your ex has ghosted you or blocked you everywhere where contact is impossible and you can't text/call/email even though a lot of time has already passed, then I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it may be over for good. It's one of the things I've discussed here: ruclips.net/video/FP8YmErEOW8/видео.html and I know how tough that is to hear but I suggest you use this time as an opportunity for you to know yourself better and be strong and eventually happy being alone for a while, yeah? If you're having a hard time and need some support, consider getting my latest e-book "Beat the Breakup" at www.beatmybreakup.com
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What do I do with its been a year and a bit and she has a new partner?
Never wait around for anyone. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/7AgSyWZfWV4/видео.html Give each other space, yes, but put some boundaries up especially as to when and how long you'd try but also don't rush it. It's complicated to explain it all in one go but my Ex Factor Guide should give you a step-by-step process on how to go about it. In the meantime, here's a quick overview: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html
What if it's been a year?
It's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: ruclips.net/video/YVViZmY2x0I/видео.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
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Hey Brad! My girlfriend broke up after 3 years relationship, 1,5 of them distance… her reasons were that she misses her family and wants to go back.. She didn‘t even try to find a solution and she ended the relationship. She said she didn‘t want to but she still did it.. i told her i don‘t want friendship.. after 5 days she didn‘t contact me and she was like „i wanted to text you but i didn‘t know how.. I saw her going to a club and told her that it‘s a shame that she goes already to a party.. We were arguing all evening and she said she loves me and loved me like noone else, but she wasn‘t sure what to do.. so we ended it and i deleted her on all apps… after 3 weeks she didn‘t even try to contact me and i am so disappointed of her… she watches my Whatsapp Stories but now i completely stopped posting things… my question is, since she will leave my country and returns back home, what should i do in this short time to get her back or at least make her texting me or not forgetting me? thank you :)
Sorry to hear that, man. Yes, if you two are having a hard time compromising especially something that has to do with physical distance, it's best to give each other time and space. Friendship isn't the best option right now. As to your question, this video may be for you though: ruclips.net/video/lweHvdCbcF4/видео.html Best of luck!
@@BradBrowning thanks! by the way an update.. i posted stories where i was outside and waiting for my best friend and one of me and my best friend… my ex doesn’t know her so she maybe thinks i have a new one.. now my ex blocked me… was it wrong from my side or what should i do now? :-/
Please help me sir
I thought that's what my videos have already been doing. :-) Anyway as what so many people here are already doing across my videos, you may also leave a comment detailing your situation (keep it concise, please) and I'll get back to you the soonest I can. So state your situation in a separate comment because I can't backtrack even if I wanted to, got to move on to hundreds of new comments added daily. However, if you need my full attention where I focus in on and prioritize your situation or need a response as soon as possible, feel free to sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
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