It desensitize the individual by building a higher tolerance to stimulation from sexual acts. It causes a person to gain a jaded outlook on relationships later on because of the lack of commitment experienced previously. Some people are built for the streets but they already accepted the fact that deep down they are damaged for relationship, other who just a promiscuous lifestyle and plan to settle later on are just in denial or ignorant of the psychological reprocussions.
@@Cravenn5Real, organic, unadulterated love is something that most people will never be able to hold onto. It’s a messy gamble for most. Might as well strive in other areas.
People want no commitment, they dont keep their word, hell they dont even know what the F they want from their own existence man. Spiritually dead. I gave up on women some time ago. Focus on your light, protect your vibration. These times are gonna get very dark.
Smartphones have destroyed trust in relationships. The expectations online that everything in life is transactional and should be commodotized has destroyed people's naiveté. Finding someone now who's not glued to and influenced by their phone is almost impossible. I despair for the younger generations now.
Men don't wanna try in dating anymore because every chick has a Tinder app and 1000 dudes messaging her and she thinks she has a lot of options. If someone actually believes he has this many options it will also make him arrogant and I don't wanna be around someone like this. Why put all this work in when you know she can get bored of you the next day and jump ship. Financially and time wise is not worth it. When she leaves and ghosts you like you're a nobody you're left with nothing and you'll never be able to get back this lost time.
We have yet to see real men step up to what must happen and push back against the authoritarian centralization of power. Even going off grid will not be a way to hide from what is happening. You have done a wise thing to go off grid, but I worry that something more like D-day level courage will be needed to correct the ills of modern society.
Im a kiwi in my 50s. I must say that you articulate yourself very well and espouse a lot of wisdom. Keep doing qhat you do, mate, you'll find a lovely woman.
Shawn you are SO right. A guy I was dating was in no way what I perceived as a "babe magnet" or what have you but when we went out together random women would be oggling and hitting on him as if I wasn't there. Women can be snakes and it really opened my eyes to how demons will try to ruin what you have. It made me feel insane because I know if he was alone he wouldn't get a second glance from these women.
Keep speaking the truth young man. The anointing upon your life is strong and I pray you continue to walk in the truth God has placed upon your heart. God bless you 🙏🏽
“2 Timothy 3:1 - In those days people will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, proud,abusive disobedient to their parents , ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self control, brutal, not lovers of the good , treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having a fork of godliness but denying its power . Have nothing to do with such people “. And yes , I’ve been saying that about social media for awhile
Dude, I stepped away from dating. People are disconnected as you said. People are to unreliable, unaware, horribly opinionated without any truth, no one lives in reality man. People are too brainwashed to be in a stable relationship where you know the person you're with actually has your best interest in mind. They only ever want something from me. So i said F it all. Ima focus on me. People need to learn themselves before they are capable of being in a real romantic relationship. Most things stem from people that dont know themselves. Or run from themselves. Its remarkably difficult to find people capable of intellectual conversation. Let alone capable of intellectual thought. Most people actually shouldn't be in a relationship. People really dont understand what it takes to even be a decent person. Let alone a decent person for someone else.
Watching your videos is very therapeutical. Thank you for sharing what you think and feel. You are not alone. Many people think and feel the same as you.
You’re going to age with a mind of peace and love my friend, no matter what happens outside. I can tell. Keep God with you and remain unafraid of the truth. Much respect and love to you.
I haven't tried to date since the onset of covid, i had the love of my life since highschool and it went sideways, since then i've been lost. Humans are very complicated and the internet makes it a million times worse.
Pretty much the same here, I’m just hoping the right person walts their way in my life somehow because putting forth effort looking isn’t worth anything
These videos are gold, because I need to know what y'all are going through, for selfish reasons. I'm 43 and have 9 kids, and I teach at a university and hate it. Keep doing what you do. Life is totally unfair for people your age. I was told "go to college or you'll work at micky ds your whole life." Not true
Shit I'm 34 and dating is kinda iffy right now. If you do get to date, it won't go past date 2. People find a reason to walk away lol, people are afraid to commit, be vulnerable, etc... right now. And a lot of people are back in survival mode.
Bro I'm right there with you. 25 going to school for HVAC, I got my own place, like to think I'm moderately attractive, kind and funny. Used to workout hard and be quite fit (still am somewhat) and I can't even get 1 date to even try to see where things go. Its so sad bro. Every women I've tried talking to eventually get bored, stop replying and move on. Met a girl 2 years go and simply told her after a few hangouts I want to dial back the sexual component; (she identified as christian even) and as soon as that was mentioned, she decides to stop talking entirely. Even after she had been head over heels for me when we first met. Got along so well but everything in her eyes just resolved around the sex. Could you imaigine if the roles were reversed? Men would get ridiculed on end for that but as soon as it reversed its considered "normal". I dont know where society is heading with relationships man but over half the population of guys in this day and age are going through this too i gurentee it. Stay strong bro, keep doing you. If it happens great and if ot doesnt...we're already quite used to it....
Most in the dating scene have ‘priced themselves out of the market’. You only realize just how bad it is when you try relationships in other countries and realize how suspiciously more smooth and less burdensome it is in comparison. At this point I think most of us just have a responsibility to level up and not enable others delusions of grandeur by trying to appease their unrealistic expectations. Far better flying solo than in bad company, I’d say especially in the U.S. you have heavy incentive to be extremely careful with who you let into your life.
You are wise beyond your years. The games you mentioned of not getting back with each other to pretend you one person doesn't care as much is brutal. Then intentionally not watching each others stories. Then trying to qualify to constantly be getting requalified and tested on the daily. Brutal. Baseline 60 years ago is now this amazing thing. A chick who isn't morbidity obese with 3 baby daddies. It's sad and we should all be looking into places where we actually get some respect.
Seems like we’re living amongst a dystopia society anymore… great video man thx for sharing.. it makes me sad where society in dating is headed… you seem like a real good man Shawn stay cool 🤘✨
This is the kind of friend I want to have in my surroundings...real talks to make you evolve...nothing to do with "clubbing" all nights and chasing boobs...this is the kind of content we need to fix our fallen society...
It’s all very relatable.. I was with my ex for 6 years before it went sideways.. Haven’t put myself out there since. The longer I’m alone the harder it is to connect to people.. I feel it. I want the connection but again putting in the work when you could just focus on yourself.. It’s all just so much. At the end of the day I gotta worry about me right now.
The internet gave birth to the "hookup culture." Online dating offered too many options at the touch of a screen. No one puts in effort or cares. I stopped dating in my 30's and focused on my life and work. I love being alone to be honest. There is strength in being alone and having to deal with all the things on your own. Dating has been dead for a long time IMO. I certainly understand why.....on so many levels. I also understand the ideology of men who are embracing the MGTOW movement. Sad....but I get it. 😔 I do have to add that dating is expensive and most simply don't have the disposable income to put in the effort in dating. Times are tough. It is a risk too. Spend money on dates for someone who may just cheat on you or up and disappear anyway. I hear this from guys a lot. Too broke to date.
Love your channel. So many people are emotionally unavaliable. Mix that with social media and a culture that promotes toxicity and you have modern dating. I believe the only way out is going within and working on yourself so when you do find an emotionally available partner your capable of having a relationship that will work. God wont bless you with something your not ready for.
As a man thats out of the dating market ( by choice ), I will say, it is harder to date these days. Women have too many options, dont know what they want. And we, men, are expected to meet high expectations just for women to even give us the time of day. Best advice I can give is just keep to yourself, go to the gym, stack your money and keep improving. You dont need to be partnered to be fulfilled, or happy.
I think about WW2 and all the young men who died on the beaches of Normandy during D-day. They didn't dream about growing up just to die on some beach in France. Similarly, we are living through the collapse of the US dollar as a financial symbol of the American empire collapsing. Its very difficult to have a normal relationship when inflation is running rampant and you have no control over its purchasing power. The only solution is to take back control of the money from the banks who have been stealing from our purchasing power by printing the dollar into oblivion. You are correct. Throw in all this new technology like social media, porn, and video games, and you can see what modern slavery looks like. Nothing will change until the people put the elites back into their place, or maybe we all just turn back into a 2 tier social system where there's masters and slaves and no middle class/economic mobility. The struggle is to decentralize power away from the currently centralized structures. Until this happens, it will be very difficult to have healthy relationships and start families because we are all just struggling to pay the bills, and nobody owns any property anymore, so the landlords own everything, whether its renting an apartment, paying a 30 year mortgage, renting microsoft office on your computer, renting anything rather than owning it. The French revolution lasted from about 1788 to 1799. 11 years. So it may take about 11 years if history repeats, for the population of the USA to figure out what it wants to look like in the future. Sorry to say, but we are living through historical times and I have no idea how peaceful it will be, or how easy it will be to have healthy relationships while we move thru grappling with all these challenges in modern society. Our economy is being destroyed on purpose so the overlords can reinvent society in their preferred image. Nobody knows yet what will really happen.
I will say this, i started the daying apps when i was say 25 or 27. And your average every day guy was able to get a decent amount of matches and dates with basically no problem. Maybe had to apply yourself if you want real numbers but even passively youd be pretty ok. Maybe you wouldnt get every girl you wanted but you did alright especially in your league. That was 10 years ago. Id say 2019 it started to dip but still action out there. Still seemed like girls were more approachable and friendlier. Even 2020 was ok but i chailk that up to ppl beimg couped up for 3 months. 2021 2022 2023 2024 wtf....wtf. its like it just died. A thing of the past gone. Many reasons for that. And it feels like its that across the board for all age groups. Ppl were so much friendlier and happier. It seems like that time is lomg gone. Its an ego struggle out there of eho can care the least. Bunch of narcissists out there...insane
I’ve been single since my divorce in 06 I’ve gotten quite comfortable with being alone. I no longer desire a relationship. It’s way easier this way for me ❤
there's going to be a point since its still a pandemic with covid more diseases will come like stds and shit like that is why your health mental and physical is top priority do it for your family and yourself staying alive is a must
Hey dude your young so finding connection is a certainty. If he think and feel the way you do then there are many others that would share your perspective and sentiment. Stay true
Generally speaking, traditions are solutions to problems that we've forgotten existed. I'll never understand the flightyness and lack of love and connection in modern relationships. Cheating or flirting with other people has always felt very wrong to me, call me old fashioned.
Met my guy in 2008 in college. Started dating in 2010. Its hard in this time to not feel like a freak for not dating around before I settled down at 20. Love is a choice. We choose each other everyday, and I rather have that than date again in this fake ass world. I'm old school I guess and have zero patience for superficial anything anymore.
So, I am glad I am not dating in this climate. My 10 year marriage anniversary is coming up with a beautiful, faithful, and God-fearing woman who never played these childish dating games (and had a body count of 0 before me). I could not imagine finding a woman in today's climate. It seems like finding such a woman is impossible. I don't know how in the world I was so blessed to find a woman like her, but perhaps she is literally the last of a type of woman that is no longer out there. And men, shoot, men are just so screwed up nowadays. Following the next trending internet personality, lost and directionless, no guidance, like they did not have a father all their lives to teach them what being a man meant. Yeah, I'm happy I found my wife. If, God-forbid, something were to happen to her, and I had the option of dating again, I'd just stay single. Does not seem like it would be worth it.
Lust comes from being covetous in your nature. You need to learn to master your sin or it will destroy you. Keeping the Ten Commandments is good for you. Exodus 20:17 “You shall not covet [that is, selfishly desire and attempt to acquire] your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his male servant, or his female servant, or his ox, or his donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor.”
The issue Otto, is that getting and being in a relationship is satisfying because it's mutual validation and support of personhood. If you know someone will accept you bc you're an atm or status object, than it's like shooting the bottom out of a boat and expecting it to still be a boat.
@@JesusIsKingAndSavior You should definitely not be an atm for any woman, but that doesn't negate the fact that a man should be financially stable in a relationship.
I also have to say that as great and true as these topics are, it’s too little, too late. Yet wonderful to see a few of your younger generation figuring these these out. Too bad it won’t move the generational majority.
Dating doesnt exist to me. Im a single mom with no help. And took myself off all social media. Its just a time waster and the same thing over and over. God will send people to you when its time. If he can part the waves, raise the dead and create all....surely he can bring 2 people together ❤
@@AlterEgoShawn If it happens, great. If not, it's OK. Wasn't ment to be. 😊 Getting too old and tired for this silly world and its silly people anyways...🙃
Dating in western nations like the US isn't worth the risk. Modern society taught that men are inherently bad and it's "toxic masculinity" for a man to be attracted to a woman and then approach her to say hi. Cheating and being promiscuous is encouraged for modern women. Women now proudly boast about their body counts. Marriage is an even larger risk for men in the west; especially for men who built a good net worth prior to marrying. The divorce laws typically favor women. Prenups are expensive and can be challenged. I've found eastern Europe to be better because there is still traditional values in the people there.
Women out here make me mad cause the mentality they have then they like jerks like wth 🤦♂️ but they ignore me make it make sense or they are rude to me it’s Annoying
people ruined it from the beginning by engaging in casual relationships and hooking up. so i think we can judge those people that either started that trend or followed that trend.
I really liked this girl in college but she had a bf on tuesday i was getting to know her and few days later she said she had a bf on a thursday so i walked away from her but i just decided to not talk to her in weeks no point
The balance between feminine and masculine roles has been skewed. Roles use to be clearly defined thus expectations in relationships were unnderstood. Masculines provided and protected while feminines roles were nurturers and caregivers. Now roles are often shared or switched which can be confusing,challenging and lead to ego conflict in relationships. It can also lead to burn out when one partner feels they are taking on more roles than the other or they weren't clear in establishing how roles would go up front and are unwilling to compromise.
It's like a game of poker where everyone bluffs with their hearts and when it's time to reveal our hands, trust is lost in spades. That's why I try to put it all on the table, take it or leave it.
Great advise. Just went through that...twice. With one I opened up, laid the cards on the table and lost 1 month of my time, with the other one, laid cards on first date and she ran away, so only lost 1 date instead of months or more.
@alejandrosod4641 word up man. True live is a diamond in the rough but from what I hear, it's worth it and all the bs games aren't. I've fully accepted it prolly won't happen and have my copes but am still putting my true self out there as much as I can. truth is, I'll prolly end up with a robot tho lol.
@@vvolfflovv True that, better heading to a casino and just randomly hope one of those bets work, it's a loosing game at the end of the day. Same here, decided to embrace celibacy and cut out all the bs and drama, we only have ourselves to love us (and robots lol)
Hey Shawn, I like your vids. Dating has changed drastically is right. I would love to hear more of your thoughts if you would like to jump on a podcast with me. Keep the work bro, dating will get better.
It's not about dating...it's about the end game - can you afford to get married buy house raise kids and highly likely get divorced? That's the right question
I think most guys go for the wrong girls to begin with. Were fixated and bodily features that we throw out every other personal attribute that girl might lack. Men have to understand that dating 9s and 10s comes at a cost. I think it’s better to date 6s and 7s, maybe 8 if they’re more humble and willing to make things work in the long run.
I agree most of the time the down to earth ones and ones with substance are the women who aren’t used to getting the attention others got. So they have more to offer, but I guess each to own. Some men like trophy wives
ive found that the guy will hide who he is in order to keep the relationship together. and keep his mouth shut when i show things about myself that dont align with his values. i guess thats mirroring
Dating is cooked, friendship is cooked, the economy is cooked.
All cooked
Cooking is cooked
Maybe for you
@@MelaninDrip00 You on another planet, bro? Your profile pic is an alien.
@@SeanzatChimalley_MMA be feeling like one listening to men in my age group bitch about women
theres a reason why premarital sex is not allowed in some religions
It desensitize the individual by building a higher tolerance to stimulation from sexual acts. It causes a person to gain a jaded outlook on relationships later on because of the lack of commitment experienced previously. Some people are built for the streets but they already accepted the fact that deep down they are damaged for relationship, other who just a promiscuous lifestyle and plan to settle later on are just in denial or ignorant of the psychological reprocussions.
@@Yggdrasill8well said.
Sex doesn't make happiness. Volunteer at a soup kitchen or homeless shelter. Or get weep the streets for free. Helping the government.
Yep it is dead. Nobody seems to care either. I’ve given up on trying… just focused on making money
Ppl will learn money solves many things but it truly doesn’t buy real organic unadulterated love.
@@Cravenn5Real, organic, unadulterated love is something that most people will never be able to hold onto. It’s a messy gamble for most. Might as well strive in other areas.
Fax I need money more than love @@acardinalconsideration824
@@Siragic I’m one of those people and I’m content with it. It took me years to finally accept the reality of what I was destined with.
People want no commitment, they dont keep their word, hell they dont even know what the F they want from their own existence man. Spiritually dead. I gave up on women some time ago. Focus on your light, protect your vibration. These times are gonna get very dark.
👀 My God 😩
I feel it this It’s crazy people don’t wanna believe it tho they can’t accept it .
Smartphones have destroyed trust in relationships. The expectations online that everything in life is transactional and should be commodotized has destroyed people's naiveté. Finding someone now who's not glued to and influenced by their phone is almost impossible. I despair for the younger generations now.
I agree. Digital addictions is why the All Blacks aren't even really a dominant force anymore.
I'm on the bus to and from work and everybody is buried in their phones
@@antwanwilson7228 Always.
dating is cooked. nobody trusts each other or wants to take the time to get to know each other
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I think this is actually a good thing as dating is a fundamentally flawed system. Dating system needs to end in my opinion.
Men don't wanna try in dating anymore because every chick has a Tinder app and 1000 dudes messaging her and she thinks she has a lot of options. If someone actually believes he has this many options it will also make him arrogant and I don't wanna be around someone like this. Why put all this work in when you know she can get bored of you the next day and jump ship. Financially and time wise is not worth it. When she leaves and ghosts you like you're a nobody you're left with nothing and you'll never be able to get back this lost time.
Agreed bro but get off tinder. Worst app ever
I’m a chick and not on Tinder… why would I? Nothing good on there.
@@Amethyst93xo It will get you more attention, which is what every chick likes.
Yeah im almost 36 and completely gave up on that. Moved off-grid to enjoy nature much more. We're completely toast by 2040.
Definitely not surviving this century . . .
We have yet to see real men step up to what must happen and push back against the authoritarian centralization of power. Even going off grid will not be a way to hide from what is happening. You have done a wise thing to go off grid, but I worry that something more like D-day level courage will be needed to correct the ills of modern society.
@@clintpot8521 Bro women are walking around with underwear on in today's times
End times people need to accept it
Im a kiwi in my 50s. I must say that you articulate yourself very well and espouse a lot of wisdom. Keep doing qhat you do, mate, you'll find a lovely woman.
Shawn you are SO right. A guy I was dating was in no way what I perceived as a "babe magnet" or what have you but when we went out together random women would be oggling and hitting on him as if I wasn't there. Women can be snakes and it really opened my eyes to how demons will try to ruin what you have. It made me feel insane because I know if he was alone he wouldn't get a second glance from these women.
Yeah that’s real
You are soo right and it’s absolutely ridiculous! The spiritual warfare is real on all fronts.
Dating is just a free lunch or dinner for most of them. Self improvement is really the only option at this time.
This!
Keep speaking the truth young man. The anointing upon your life is strong and I pray you continue to walk in the truth God has placed upon your heart. God bless you 🙏🏽
@@thisisgodslawwithgodschild thank you! God bless you too🫱🏾🫲🏿
“2 Timothy 3:1 - In those days people will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, proud,abusive disobedient to their parents , ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self control, brutal, not lovers of the good , treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having a fork of godliness but denying its power . Have nothing to do with such people “. And yes , I’ve been saying that about social media for awhile
We’re in those days it feels like
@@AlterEgoShawn wait till you find out who the god of the Bible is ....... Hebrews 12:29 For Our God is a Consuming fire... Jay.
You said it all in that and yes
You're a wise, insightful young man... Keep these "Thinking Out Loud" vids coming!
Dude, I stepped away from dating. People are disconnected as you said. People are to unreliable, unaware, horribly opinionated without any truth, no one lives in reality man. People are too brainwashed to be in a stable relationship where you know the person you're with actually has your best interest in mind. They only ever want something from me. So i said F it all. Ima focus on me. People need to learn themselves before they are capable of being in a real romantic relationship. Most things stem from people that dont know themselves. Or run from themselves.
Its remarkably difficult to find people capable of intellectual conversation. Let alone capable of intellectual thought.
Most people actually shouldn't be in a relationship. People really dont understand what it takes to even be a decent person. Let alone a decent person for someone else.
Damn, this video really spoke to me...
Watching your videos is very therapeutical. Thank you for sharing what you think and feel. You are not alone. Many people think and feel the same as you.
🙏🏾
Everything feels completely dull. Like a masquerade. I only enjoy quiet time for myself
This life is ending slowly but surely
You’re going to age with a mind of peace and love my friend, no matter what happens outside. I can tell. Keep God with you and remain unafraid of the truth. Much respect and love to you.
❤
Morals, ethics, values. The ability to judge is necessary for survival. "If you hang out with pigs you will smell like s***".
I haven't tried to date since the onset of covid, i had the love of my life since highschool and it went sideways, since then i've been lost. Humans are very complicated and the internet makes it a million times worse.
That why I stay to myself nowdays informally if someone come down the road to me I will be fine with that
@@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 If it's meant to be then that is beautiful but I don't wish to wade through minefields. Take care.
@@RamenNoodlePackets okay 👍 wish you love and light
Pretty much the same here, I’m just hoping the right person walts their way in my life somehow because putting forth effort looking isn’t worth anything
@@jasonsellon4270 don’t look start with your purpose in life and start making your money
These videos are gold, because I need to know what y'all are going through, for selfish reasons. I'm 43 and have 9 kids, and I teach at a university and hate it. Keep doing what you do. Life is totally unfair for people your age. I was told "go to college or you'll work at micky ds your whole life." Not true
9 kids! That's impressive boss! Blessings to you and your family 💕
@@TheInnerCastle thank you very much
Shit I'm 34 and dating is kinda iffy right now. If you do get to date, it won't go past date 2. People find a reason to walk away lol, people are afraid to commit, be vulnerable, etc... right now. And a lot of people are back in survival mode.
Going for a bakers dozen?
Yeah! I know what you mean! I did college & question the programming behind it .. props to teaching at a University!!
9 kids 😮 ..
Ive been saying this for years, if you didn’t find a gf before or during the 2020 pandemic, you’re cooked
Ohh yeah, man, definitely. Just gotta focus on yourself and survive and make sure you're taking yourself out for you, not for anyone else.
for me dating has been impossible for the last 20-25 years.
man...
Tbh same every girl ended up leaving after a year or two
Is aquatics a good hobby to get into and I’m being serious
@@viridianhughes219 if you like pets and animals then yes :)
@@kungpaochicken3215 a year or two? Happened only once, the rest left after 1-2 days and that's a record
Yet I can’t even get a hookup in a hookup culture🤦🏽♂️
It’s only for chads and average-hot women 😂
@@andrewevans7992 that’s why I just get high..
Bars🔥
Bro I'm right there with you. 25 going to school for HVAC, I got my own place, like to think I'm moderately attractive, kind and funny. Used to workout hard and be quite fit (still am somewhat) and I can't even get 1 date to even try to see where things go. Its so sad bro. Every women I've tried talking to eventually get bored, stop replying and move on. Met a girl 2 years go and simply told her after a few hangouts I want to dial back the sexual component; (she identified as christian even) and as soon as that was mentioned, she decides to stop talking entirely. Even after she had been head over heels for me when we first met. Got along so well but everything in her eyes just resolved around the sex. Could you imaigine if the roles were reversed? Men would get ridiculed on end for that but as soon as it reversed its considered "normal". I dont know where society is heading with relationships man but over half the population of guys in this day and age are going through this too i gurentee it. Stay strong bro, keep doing you. If it happens great and if ot doesnt...we're already quite used to it....
Everything you say in these videos is what runs through my mind on a daily basis, least I know I’m
not alone 🤦🏽♂️ #25
You're a handsome intelligent man so it's sad that there is such a shortage of quality women.
It took me older to understand that lust and love are not the same thing at all.
Topics on point 🎯
You preaching bro .. keep doing what you doing
Most in the dating scene have ‘priced themselves out of the market’. You only realize just how bad it is when you try relationships in other countries and realize how suspiciously more smooth and less burdensome it is in comparison.
At this point I think most of us just have a responsibility to level up and not enable others delusions of grandeur by trying to appease their unrealistic expectations.
Far better flying solo than in bad company, I’d say especially in the U.S. you have heavy incentive to be extremely careful with who you let into your life.
Praying that you can work things out with your daughter's mother. 🙏
Thank you
Truth spoken.
Im Focused on SR and money
Basically said the same thing. The best way to go.
Amen@@UniVS427
You are wise beyond your years. The games you mentioned of not getting back with each other to pretend you one person doesn't care as much is brutal. Then intentionally not watching each others stories. Then trying to qualify to constantly be getting requalified and tested on the daily. Brutal. Baseline 60 years ago is now this amazing thing. A chick who isn't morbidity obese with 3 baby daddies. It's sad and we should all be looking into places where we actually get some respect.
I can relate to 99% of the things u are saying & I appreciate your videos , makes me realize I am not going crazy in this crazy world
Young man, you are mature beyond your years, great channel, keep this up!!
Seems like we’re living amongst a dystopia society anymore… great video man thx for sharing.. it makes me sad where society in dating is headed… you seem like a real good man Shawn stay cool 🤘✨
Mister, you called it! I've not dated in decades. 😢
Keep your head up brother! I'm here from Legion of Men. You deserve a sub!
I appreciate that
This is the kind of friend I want to have in my surroundings...real talks to make you evolve...nothing to do with "clubbing" all nights and chasing boobs...this is the kind of content we need to fix our fallen society...
Appreciate it🤝
💯
It’s dead dead
Such a gift of wisdom you have. Hopefully your words will be heard by people of all ages.
Women need to feel safe,protected...when they create a world, as they did,this is what happens...I feel
If they want to feel safe and protected why do they get divorced from good stable marriages and men at a shocking rate ?
@allseeingotto2912 good question...Freewill...you got me on that one...We all have Freewill
You was spitting bro💯🔥
It’s all very relatable.. I was with my ex for 6 years before it went sideways.. Haven’t put myself out there since. The longer I’m alone the harder it is to connect to people.. I feel it. I want the connection but again putting in the work when you could just focus on yourself.. It’s all just so much. At the end of the day I gotta worry about me right now.
The internet gave birth to the "hookup culture." Online dating offered too many options at the touch of a screen. No one puts in effort or cares. I stopped dating in my 30's and focused on my life and work. I love being alone to be honest. There is strength in being alone and having to deal with all the things on your own. Dating has been dead for a long time IMO. I certainly understand why.....on so many levels. I also understand the ideology of men who are embracing the MGTOW movement. Sad....but I get it. 😔
I do have to add that dating is expensive and most simply don't have the disposable income to put in the effort in dating. Times are tough. It is a risk too. Spend money on dates for someone who may just cheat on you or up and disappear anyway. I hear this from guys a lot. Too broke to date.
I think you're exactly right, and it's sad.
i have no friends. i thought i should make friends before i even think about dating people. but i cant even do that.
Dating rules of yesteryear no longer apply.
The popular culture of the 2020's have not created meaningful romance.
Case in point: Taylor Swift
What about that dude?
Love your channel. So many people are emotionally unavaliable. Mix that with social media and a culture that promotes toxicity and you have modern dating. I believe the only way out is going within and working on yourself so when you do find an emotionally available partner your capable of having a relationship that will work. God wont bless you with something your not ready for.
Your Channel Gon Blow Up You Hitting The Nail On The Head With This
As a man thats out of the dating market ( by choice ), I will say, it is harder to date these days. Women have too many options, dont know what they want. And we, men, are expected to meet high expectations just for women to even give us the time of day. Best advice I can give is just keep to yourself, go to the gym, stack your money and keep improving. You dont need to be partnered to be fulfilled, or happy.
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haven't been on a dating app since 2019
Psalms 118:5
“I called upon the LORD in distress: the LORD answered me, and set me in a large place.”
King James Version (KJV)
I think about WW2 and all the young men who died on the beaches of Normandy during D-day. They didn't dream about growing up just to die on some beach in France. Similarly, we are living through the collapse of the US dollar as a financial symbol of the American empire collapsing. Its very difficult to have a normal relationship when inflation is running rampant and you have no control over its purchasing power. The only solution is to take back control of the money from the banks who have been stealing from our purchasing power by printing the dollar into oblivion.
You are correct. Throw in all this new technology like social media, porn, and video games, and you can see what modern slavery looks like. Nothing will change until the people put the elites back into their place, or maybe we all just turn back into a 2 tier social system where there's masters and slaves and no middle class/economic mobility. The struggle is to decentralize power away from the currently centralized structures. Until this happens, it will be very difficult to have healthy relationships and start families because we are all just struggling to pay the bills, and nobody owns any property anymore, so the landlords own everything, whether its renting an apartment, paying a 30 year mortgage, renting microsoft office on your computer, renting anything rather than owning it.
The French revolution lasted from about 1788 to 1799. 11 years. So it may take about 11 years if history repeats, for the population of the USA to figure out what it wants to look like in the future. Sorry to say, but we are living through historical times and I have no idea how peaceful it will be, or how easy it will be to have healthy relationships while we move thru grappling with all these challenges in modern society. Our economy is being destroyed on purpose so the overlords can reinvent society in their preferred image. Nobody knows yet what will really happen.
I will say this, i started the daying apps when i was say 25 or 27. And your average every day guy was able to get a decent amount of matches and dates with basically no problem. Maybe had to apply yourself if you want real numbers but even passively youd be pretty ok. Maybe you wouldnt get every girl you wanted but you did alright especially in your league. That was 10 years ago.
Id say 2019 it started to dip but still action out there. Still seemed like girls were more approachable and friendlier. Even 2020 was ok but i chailk that up to ppl beimg couped up for 3 months. 2021 2022 2023 2024 wtf....wtf. its like it just died. A thing of the past gone. Many reasons for that. And it feels like its that across the board for all age groups.
Ppl were so much friendlier and happier. It seems like that time is lomg gone.
Its an ego struggle out there of eho can care the least.
Bunch of narcissists out there...insane
Your still young be safe❤ self love ❤ is the best love!
I’ve been single since my divorce in 06
I’ve gotten quite comfortable with being alone. I no longer desire a relationship. It’s way easier this way for me ❤
We all need to take turns talking and listening❤
Love is gone completely. Nobody is willing to do what they need to do honestly
Dating life is sex only now unfortunately. Its long gone.
Social media destroyed morality in the youth
Marriages is horrible as well dumb with no purpose behind the it
Pretty much, people will "date" until they get sex from someone
@@Swingman30 not really
there's going to be a point since its still a pandemic with covid more diseases will come like stds and shit like that is why your health mental and physical is top priority do it for your family and yourself staying alive is a must
Hey dude your young so finding connection is a certainty. If he think and feel the way you do then there are many others that would share your perspective and sentiment. Stay true
I love your videos bro keep going ✝
Generally speaking, traditions are solutions to problems that we've forgotten existed.
I'll never understand the flightyness and lack of love and connection in modern relationships. Cheating or flirting with other people has always felt very wrong to me, call me old fashioned.
Met my guy in 2008 in college. Started dating in 2010. Its hard in this time to not feel like a freak for not dating around before I settled down at 20. Love is a choice. We choose each other everyday, and I rather have that than date again in this fake ass world. I'm old school I guess and have zero patience for superficial anything anymore.
So, I am glad I am not dating in this climate. My 10 year marriage anniversary is coming up with a beautiful, faithful, and God-fearing woman who never played these childish dating games (and had a body count of 0 before me).
I could not imagine finding a woman in today's climate. It seems like finding such a woman is impossible. I don't know how in the world I was so blessed to find a woman like her, but perhaps she is literally the last of a type of woman that is no longer out there.
And men, shoot, men are just so screwed up nowadays. Following the next trending internet personality, lost and directionless, no guidance, like they did not have a father all their lives to teach them what being a man meant.
Yeah, I'm happy I found my wife. If, God-forbid, something were to happen to her, and I had the option of dating again, I'd just stay single. Does not seem like it would be worth it.
Lust comes from being covetous in your nature. You need to learn to master your sin or it will destroy you. Keeping the Ten Commandments is good for you.
Exodus 20:17
“You shall not covet [that is, selfishly desire and attempt to acquire] your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his male servant, or his female servant, or his ox, or his donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor.”
I gave up on it fifteen years ago. Women just want $$$.
Statements like this are part of the problem
@2cut32handle it's accurate in today's world
What are waiting for? Get your money up then
The issue Otto, is that getting and being in a relationship is satisfying because it's mutual validation and support of personhood. If you know someone will accept you bc you're an atm or status object, than it's like shooting the bottom out of a boat and expecting it to still be a boat.
@@JesusIsKingAndSavior You should definitely not be an atm for any woman, but that doesn't negate the fact that a man should be financially stable in a relationship.
I also have to say that as great and true as these topics are, it’s too little, too late. Yet wonderful to see a few of your younger generation figuring these these out. Too bad it won’t move the generational majority.
Facts right here!!💯
Dating doesnt exist to me. Im a single mom with no help. And took myself off all social media. Its just a time waster and the same thing over and over.
God will send people to you when its time.
If he can part the waves, raise the dead and create all....surely he can bring 2 people together ❤
you'll find someone
@@AlterEgoShawn
If it happens, great. If not, it's OK. Wasn't ment to be. 😊
Getting too old and tired for this silly world and its silly people anyways...🙃
I knew I wasn't crazy
Glad I'm a married old man lol
lucky guy! God bless you and your wife
@@alanm6o9 Thanks brother
Lol so am I. So. Am. I!!! 27 years together and I couldn't imagine being out there right now.
As I’ve been saying the past few years, this is the loneliest generation.
Dating in western nations like the US isn't worth the risk. Modern society taught that men are inherently bad and it's "toxic masculinity" for a man to be attracted to a woman and then approach her to say hi. Cheating and being promiscuous is encouraged for modern women. Women now proudly boast about their body counts. Marriage is an even larger risk for men in the west; especially for men who built a good net worth prior to marrying. The divorce laws typically favor women. Prenups are expensive and can be challenged. I've found eastern Europe to be better because there is still traditional values in the people there.
True about people only getting married to people they been dating for year, i got married last month been dating that person for 6 years
-You very young God. 2 each is Own But Locck In With God & Self. The otha yuh will arrive on due tymz . Peace x Prosperity Oasis
I’m done dating 😞
Sadly, this is very true
I’ve been dating the hub since 2020 .
@@diavionmyricks9761 you’re going to cook your existence if you keep that up buddy lol
@@AlterEgoShawn idc
Women out here make me mad cause the mentality they have then they like jerks like wth 🤦♂️ but they ignore me make it make sense or they are rude to me it’s Annoying
It feels like today the devil's in the kitchen.
And we all gettin' cooked. 😔
people ruined it from the beginning by engaging in casual relationships and hooking up. so i think we can judge those people that either started that trend or followed that trend.
I’m invisible to women 👀
But it’s became a good thing
I really liked this girl in college but she had a bf on tuesday i was getting to know her and few days later she said she had a bf on a thursday so i walked away from her but i just decided to not talk to her in weeks no point
My brother my happiness moments are praying and volunteering. Qu'ran: Allaah loves most the people who help others. Peace
It if because nobody have any money to date.
The only genuine relationships I can find are with other men and I’m not gay… so yeah.
I think we expect too much out of other flawed human beings. I put my stock in Jesus and do what I can for others and let it be.
The balance between feminine and masculine roles has been skewed. Roles use to be clearly defined thus expectations in relationships were unnderstood. Masculines provided and protected while feminines roles were nurturers and caregivers. Now roles are often shared or switched which can be confusing,challenging and lead to ego conflict in relationships. It can also lead to burn out when one partner feels they are taking on more roles than the other or they weren't clear in establishing how roles would go up front and are unwilling to compromise.
It's like a game of poker where everyone bluffs with their hearts and when it's time to reveal our hands, trust is lost in spades. That's why I try to put it all on the table, take it or leave it.
Great advise. Just went through that...twice. With one I opened up, laid the cards on the table and lost 1 month of my time, with the other one, laid cards on first date and she ran away, so only lost 1 date instead of months or more.
@alejandrosod4641 word up man. True live is a diamond in the rough but from what I hear, it's worth it and all the bs games aren't. I've fully accepted it prolly won't happen and have my copes but am still putting my true self out there as much as I can. truth is, I'll prolly end up with a robot tho lol.
@@vvolfflovv True that, better heading to a casino and just randomly hope one of those bets work, it's a loosing game at the end of the day. Same here, decided to embrace celibacy and cut out all the bs and drama, we only have ourselves to love us (and robots lol)
@@alejandrosod4641 rofl. u aint wrong.
Hey Shawn, I like your vids. Dating has changed drastically is right. I would love to hear more of your thoughts if you would like to jump on a podcast with me. Keep the work bro, dating will get better.
Dm me on instagram. My @realshawnshell
It's not about dating...it's about the end game - can you afford to get married buy house raise kids and highly likely get divorced? That's the right question
It is.
I think most guys go for the wrong girls to begin with. Were fixated and bodily features that we throw out every other personal attribute that girl might lack. Men have to understand that dating 9s and 10s comes at a cost. I think it’s better to date 6s and 7s, maybe 8 if they’re more humble and willing to make things work in the long run.
I agree most of the time the down to earth ones and ones with substance are the women who aren’t used to getting the attention others got. So they have more to offer, but I guess each to own. Some men like trophy wives
ive found that the guy will hide who he is in order to keep the relationship together. and keep his mouth shut when i show things about myself that dont align with his values. i guess thats mirroring