It's the WORST! Like if he has a friend over and they stay for HOURS and hours, even if I'm not actively taking part in what they're doing it drains me soo much -__- There are a few people that I consider close enough friends for me not to be drained by their presence but it's far from everyone ^^
its so funny i moved from a 4 hour car drive relationship into a same house relationship last month. the gaming is a big thing here either. i am ok with listening while he s gaming but he is soooo loud suddenly ;) yelling at the screem and the negativity gets me so much but we figure it out ;) I am the person with the own crafting room ;) But because we were so far apart i don t want to be in another room just yet. yay for headphone binge watching things.....
It's so weird to me.. my boyfriend basically said the exact same thing to me a while ago and at first I honestly didn't understand.. because he does like my friends and him saying that he doesn't feel like having people around made me think he simply hates them. It took a lot of arguing and talking for me to understand how he felt. I'm the kind of person that just loves having people around aaall the time (well, probably because I have 6 siblings). So I didn't even consider it possible to not want to hang out with people.. but you guys kinda made me realise that this is more common than I thought.
Miriam Wei yes i understand. I like my boyfriends friends very much and like spending time with them but its a bit of a big step to go there or engage. The before meetings is the worst ;)
THANK YOU for mentioning how quality time means different things to different people. Living together and really spending time together can be one of the hardest things to navigate in a relationship. I'm loving these personal videos :)
Indeed! For Sonny it's spending time together when he cooks and I do the dishes, while I want to actually spend time together AFTER doing chores such as cooking and dishes haha. It's difficult.
Katrin, I really like this video. As an introvert, I can really relate to wanting to be alone but BEING STUCK BEING AROUND OTHER PEOPLE AAAAAAH. I just really like how you spoke so openly about cons about relationships and living together rather than making it all out to be perfect. Also, I LOVE your shirt and pretty much your style in general
I totally agree with everything haha but I loved the mention of learning from the other person. I've learned so much from my partner, not just general knowledge, but we help each other learn to live and be healthier in our personal and "outside" lives. For example, I helped open his mind to the importance of at least knowing whats going on in world politics and he has helped me become more comfortable in my own quirks and how to manage the constant stress and anxiety I have by reinforcing whats healthy as an outlet, and what could use improving on.
I know this video is old but its a huge help. My boyfriend and I have been living together for over a year now in a 467 sqft 1 bedroom in a rinky part of town. We’ve realized that the space and mood of the place has really taken a toll on us. Now we are moving at the end of this month to a bigger and brighter place in hopes to find our spark again.
I love living with my husband. The first year it takes getting used to, especially regarding how both of you do things differently but afterwards it's awesome :)
So I know that this doesn't really have anything to do with the video (although I think it's a great video, A+) but you and Sonny truly seem to be the perfect couple. You seem very mature and so does he and I admire how you two FIX problems TOGETHER instead of calling it quits whenever an issue comes up.
Thanks :) And yes, I mean he is five years older than me and has a lot more relationship experience so I'm glad that it has benefitted us a lot as well. :)
what you said about having people visit drains your energy is exactly what happens to me, it also makes me feel uncomfortable in my own house at time, im the same if i have to go out and socialise, it takes me days to recover, the struggle : (
One of my favorite parts about living with my partner is noticing our growth together overtime as a couple. How we communicate changes and grows, how we naturally start doing chores (like you were talking about) to work together to keep the home clean. As far as storage... oh god that was a struggle at first. I wound up purging half my stuff when I moved in, but he made sure to clean out an entire room for me to do my art/ work in. Thanks for videos lady! I've been watching for a few years and have never ceased to enjoy and appreciate them and your journey!
Relationships are inherently difficult but I consider that you and Sonny are so harmonic. Each point you touched is very important. The main thing in a life shared with someone is the respect. When you have respect to the other person, everything can be addressed. Kat, what beautiful timepiece you are wearing. I have one, two, three things for watches, haha... That mesh bracelet is called Milanese strap. They are named after the Italian city of Milan, where they were first created. They are very in fashion now, very comfortable and durable. I'm loving your series of videos this month.
wow is crazy how much I can relate to this, my boyfriend and I are going to live together in 3 months, we are currently in a long distance relationship, he lives in Denmark right now and I live in Costa Rica, thank you for this vid. He also gave me a Daniel Wellington last year as a gift and I love it so much!!
I quite like living alone but I'm a very social person etc but I like the fact that I can go out and see all the friends with all the noise etc but then come back and enjoy the quiet ❤️
You two are goals as a couple! I love how sometimes Sonny takes over cause you're feeling sick or something like that, and I love how sincere you are in this kind of videos, commenting on the real problems and discussions you have. I appreciate it very very much :) I'm not even in a relationship at the moment but I lived together with my ex bf for a while in the past, and I can relate quite a lot with the topic XD Thank you, Kat, we love you
I absolutely adored this video, I connect so much. Me and my Fiance live 2000 miles apart. We see each other quite often for being in a long distance relationship, but we plan to move in together and I know it's going to be quite the shock to our habits and routines. This really gives me hope that of course it has negatives and can be hard, but ultimately worth it! Thank you for this!
Man I can relate to nearly every single thing you said ! We moved together after a long distance relationship, too ( Europe - Australia). Just today I thought about how I still need to adjust to some things. :D
Haha that would definitely be the dream for both Sonny and I. And trust me! I have TRIED. But I really really hate gaming. ^^ That's just the way it is.
Katrin Berndt same. My husband is a gamer. I am not. I'm ok with that. I'm ok with some gaming conversation. But it's just boring for me. No offense to him.
Thank you! I know sponsored parts can be kinda awkward in videos but I really try to make them relevant and fill the video with interesting things as well ^^
I can relate to being an introvert and my partner being extroverted, but my partner and I are currently looking for a place since neither of us have our own place currently and its pretty tough right now since were are both still getting other things figured out first but I'm still super excited, one tip I have always gotten was if one of you have your own place try staying together for a couple weeks (he and I did this for three weeks while i was in between quarters for schooling) and we got to see how each person is after work and in the mornings, how clean we both are and how we interact after being with each other for that long. And it was good, we learned a lot about each other and have things figured out that could have been a problem.
I wouldn't necessarily consider myself introverted 100%, like if the time calls for it, I can bring out my social side. However, when I'm at home or something I really like that alone time, and prefer it not to be interrupted. That's why I'm iffy when I think about living with another...
Yes, alone time is so very important, I need to have that time to myself just to hear myself think. I am guilty of staying up very late at night just because the house is quiet and I have that time to myself, no talking, no questions, no extra noise or being asked for something. it can be a struggle even when you have a bigger house it is still your sanctuary and the energy changes depending on who is there and what is going on.
I really liked your approach on this video. I sort of moved in with my boyfriend last summer, but it wasn't quite official and we weren't in this flat together everyday since i left to go back to my parent's home more than he did. Last September we actually moved into a flat of our own and it's just wonderful. Of course there were some issues like when we got the furniture and i planned out everything he wouldn't quite trust my judgement and later on lots of chores are left for me to do since I have more time. I am a little scared of our next semester in uni because i will have way less time than before and I really hope we will be able to split up the chores better
hey katrin! my boyfriend and i are a gamer couple, so we don't mind each other gaming at all.. but one thing you can look into is getting a headset for your boyfriend for his birthday (if you guys celebrate birthdays) :) depending on the console he uses or if he games on a PC, you can find some pretty noise cancelling headsets. good luck!
Yesss! I mean they're not $5000 watches so you get what you pay for, but I absolutely recommend them for the price that they are! Beautiful stylish watches that obviously tell the time ^^
Loved this video, Katrin! I can relate to the introvert/liking being alone/sometimes problems with people over thing so much. Looking forward to seeing more personal videos! xoxo
I've watched this before, but I recently moved out with my bf and this was in my recommended videos (coincidence?). I just wanna say how glad I am that both me and my bf love gaming - we have a room dedicated to it where we can both go and play together :) but on another note, I'm glad we have an extra room that I turned into my "office", since I work from home and couldn't ever concentrate with him around.
My boyfriend is moving in at the end of the summer , [24yo, 5years together]. It's been a long time coming (considering I moved to his city 3 damn years ago). He's never lived on his own so I'm nervous about his adjustment, mostly because I'm so set in a routine. He says he's "incredibly clean" and his place and self seem like he's telling the truth, but he leaves a trail of mess behind him every time he comes over. This is going to be my biggest con, but I like cleaning so I'm sure we'll find a compromise. Hearing this has actually made me so much more excited and was yet another reassurance that this is the right move for my relationship :)
Thank you so much for making this video! My boyfriend and I have been considering moving in together and this video helped a lot. My personality is much like yours, and the boyfriend's is like Sonny's, so I know a little of what I can expect if we do decide to live together!
I also lived in a long distance relationship for a bit more than a year with my boyfriend but it got waaay too much for me because I was just crying all the time and missing him so we decided that I shall move to Norway from Finland. The best thing I think has been that we definitely have gone through some super shitty times together but we have grown much closer because of that and our relationship is very loving and we totally deserve each other on our great days. All the other things are just a side problem like cleaning because we both are veery messy BUT we are working through that. Adulting is hard but it will all together!
Awesome video! I think this is true in any kind of living situation whether it's with a romantic partner, friends/roomates, and or family. Thank you for an honest topic, and I love the watch I've been looking for one similar to this one you were wearing gotta give this brand a try! Hoping the best for you Sonny and Rascal!
me & my boyfriend were in a long distance relationship too & he lived 4 hours away, we couldn't handle it anymore so my bf moved to my city and started to live with me and my parents since we have pretty big house & he's been here for like 6 months & we realised that we can live together because neither of us does something that bothers the other so much that we can't live together :D so i relate to this video quite alot😂
most people also say that you should wait like a year or more before moving in, but i think that if you spend a year together, and then move in & realise you can't even live with that person because they're so annoying, is quite pointless. we started living together after 1.5 months 😬
Haha I think everyone should just do what fits them best. I think the reason people say you should wait is 'cause it's more of a hassle to break up if you're living together and if you've manage to make it 1, 2, 5 years together then you're pretty safe to live together as well. But yeah we moved in together after about 6 months ^^
That's crazy I have a very similar story to yours. We were long distance. About 4 hours apart as well. Moved in after 2.5 years and have been living together for 2.5 years
It's really intersting to hear it from introverts perspective. In my country couples do not live together until marriage, and it's not even comon to date more than a year. As an introvert myself, i always think about that, because I really do need my time alone to recharge
completely agree/relate to all points especially the introvert part. maybe because I'm an only child. I think the worst part is being forced to socialize when I'm not in the mood and avoiding seeming rude... ugh
I love this! Moved in with my Swedish partner in November and it has been great 😊 Basically I agree with everything especially the washing machine!!!!!!! Same for me 😂😂 Btw, your hair is gorgeous! Such a beautiful color and so shiny!!! 😍
Thank for sharing your experience. I'm your fan from México. Also... it would be nice if you add some background music it would be nice. Keep posting new videos, it´s always nice to see a new video.
I think the cleaning parts are the worst. I like to keep things clean and always pick up trash and dishes after myself. My husband doesn't mind if things are messy and he also leaves trash everywhere... So when I clean I have to clean his stuff as well as my own and it sucks big time. But as you said, I only have myself to blame since I'm the one who needs a clean living space... but then again who wants trash laying around?! It would definitely be nice if he got better at cleaning after himself :P I had to laugh about the big bed part because my husband and I have been sleeping on a 1 person/single bed for over 7 years xD We've had two different double beds, but they've all somehow broken...so we decided to just roll with the single bed. We sleep head to toe for comfort! :D haha.
I have a problem that I like when it's clean but my boyfriend is veeeery messy. I still don't know how to solve this problem even though we live together for almost a year now and we talked about it a lot. But still... nothing changed, I clean every day, he mess this up every day... Some advise for that? :P
Ugh sounds like a nightmare! The thing you have to come to terms with is that he will never ever take the initiative to clean FOR HIMSELF. You have to explain to him that this is something he needs to do for you. We struggle a bit with this at home sometimes too, that Sonny needs to understand that it doesn't matter if HE doesn't dislike the mess... if the other person wants things to be clean then cleaning is something you do for them other and not for yourself. And in a relationship you have to do things you might not want to do just to make each other happy. Give and take, compromise and just get him to start helping out a little to start off with. :/ But yeah it's very difficult! Maybe try giving him very specific tasks that he can focus on so he knows exactly WHAT he is expected to do so you don't end up fighting about it all the time.
Stop cleaning up after him, you're not his mom. Just leave his messes there for him to look at. Maybe he will notice that all the mess in the house is his, while all your things are neat and tidy.
UrhG... why is that such big problem? I mean, many many couples have this problem. Me too... the most annoying thing is, when your partner tells you: "Sorry, I haven't the time to keep our home nice and clean, cause I´ve a job... 8 hours a day. After that, cleaning no way!" Yes... thank you. Maybe I´ve got a job to do too!!! Meltdowns may help!!!
I can so relate to this expect that I am diagnosed with OCD and I clean all the time (and my partner doesn't) because mess and dirt makes me anxious and that leads to having anxiety.
I've been living with my partner for almost four years, it's been Great, but I feel that the main problem is that of the bad mood you mentioned. it takes a lot of self control not to attack the other person Just because you are in a shitty state of mind.
I mean every "family" has to have their own rules and ways of doing things. For some people one person goes to work and the other stays home to run the household. For some both work in which case both should carry the load at home as well etc. But it's never a good thing when one feels like the other is not pulling their weight.
We both work, but because he stands up most of the time at his job and I have a desk job, he "works harder" than me. So, I am stuck doing everything even on his off days ugh 🤔😑😣
OrbitalAngel Nebula even so, if you both work similar hours every week then if I were you I would push him to at least do SOMETHING. He can fold clothes while sitting down
OrbitalAngel Nebula Tell him then that you work harder in the house and you're way too tired when he's asking for extras. He might think if it's worth it twice after that.
Jodi Rainey So it is smaller?!?! I couldn't figure it out and thought I just got so used to seeing it, it started to appear smaller 😂 Did she ever say, what diameter it is?
i didn't even notice until you pointed it out but i like it too! I liked the bigger one as well but the smaller one Katrin wears now kind of brightens up her face in a way, or is that just me? haha
I've lived with my partner for almost two years now and while it's mostly nice, I have come to know him in a completely different way. I'm not thankful for all of this new knowledge :P He is not bothered by a lot either, but there are habits of his that really bother me. If he's getting something out of any kind of cabinet, closet, room or drawer he will open it and just leave it open! Almost without fail. Every time! Just...why??? And he can just put the hoover down in the middle of a doorway or a narrow hallway and he won't be bothered by stepping over it for days. Those kinds of things really irk me lol
Ooh yes! This is a video I needed! I've been unofficially living with my boyfriend for quite a while (our apartments are close by and I just stay at his place all the time) and my parents won't let me live with him because they're conservative and think that living with someone before marriage will destroy your relationship. I've definitely noticed pros and cons of living together but I don't know what I'll do when we finish school and have our own income. It's good to get some insight into what it would practically be like because it's not as common to live with your SO before marriage in the US. (Also yes my boyfriend is such a huge gamer and I stay in his room so sometimes it drives me crazy! Ugh but it's his place so I can't complain. And I'm such a slob I feel so bad when I make a mess but I usually don't notice it.)
I mean don't feel like you have to move in together just to "signal" something to the rest of the world. You can definitely stay living in separate apartments if you spend that much time together anyway. I even think some couples would be better off having their own homes rather than just one. :) Just saying that one couple's way of doing it is never the only "right way"! :)
your relationship sounds just like mine! We have the same setup so my bf can game.. he doesn't get bothered by anything.. and i'm bothered by everything haha and I don't enjoy having people over (I have no where to hide either).
Going through and thing. Long distance, due to move into his small apartment till we get our own place. Exactly same scenario. Plus he's into gaming too, lucky for him I support his hobbies etc. Lol
Heey, Katrin! So I've wanted a silver watch for several months now. I just hate wearing my silver earrings with the gold watch I have so yeah.. I just need a silver watch. And after I saw your video yesterday I thought it's time to finally buy it. I tried the code for the DW watch, but it doesn't work? Could you check on it? I just loooove that watch as well!!
i'm in a long distance relationship right now and we're planning on moving in together in a few months, i guess it will be interesting. :D i've lived with another partner before though, so i kinda know how things go.
Dude it sucks I'm currently in a situation where my roommates will legit leave a huge pile of dishes in the sink for daaayyss till it starts stinking and I have to wash them. When they have friends over they also leave behind a mess, and then my roommates leave the apartment for days leaving me stuck in the nasty space. I clean up immediately after myself and I just find this so frustrating. Apart from that we all share one room (it's 3 of us in total) and I find myself stepping and tripping over things at night. They're so messy I feel like pulling my hair out sometimes, I don't even wanna talk about how the bathroom looks 😞
Just get him a good gaming headset, Astro or Turtle Beach, never have to hear his gaming audio again, I mean beside his voice(obviously) if he is gaming with others online, maybe that will help. He has a better audio experience and you do too, good luck
It's great that you had the opportunity of living alone before, but this is definetly not a reality for most people, at least in America :/ People my age (22) generally have at least one roommate to be able to get by financially, and so a lot of those pros and cons were already something we had to get used to, which makes this transition a lot easier.
Hey Katrin, so do you both prefer spending money on tattoos than on travelling? I'd love to do both, but in the end up I always choose tattoos... It might be because my partner isn't into travelling...
when he is gaming why doesn't he use headphones? my bf likes gaming as well, we have a long distance relationship (it's only 2.5 hours away tho), he comes to stay with me at the weekends and I ask him to use headphones when he's gaming :)
Haha he does use headphones. Those are not the sounds I hate. I hate the mouse clicking, the keyboard clicking and him speaking (screaming) at the computer. ^^
To the con with having people around, would it be possible to turn Sonnys game room into a room that you could both use as a refuge so that when he has friends round, you can use the space too? :)
It could be a solution for some people but I have basically turned that room into a "trash room" with Sonny's computer in it. There's not enough space for me to be there and the whole room/space/everything makes me not want to spend more than 1 minute in there when I have to ^^
I don't get why people think Sonny is not using headphones hahaha. There are literally 1000 sounds that come from gaming that are non-headphone related. ^^
pro: you're with them all the time
con: you're with them all the time
Micki Babe hahahaha SO TRUE
Micki Babe Probably the worst part for me
Sitting here and agreeing with you, and then I remember that I still live with my parents, and never have been in a relationship either
Haha! :D
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I'm really loving these "personal" topics. Thanks for opening up and being authentic 💜
oh i can relate to the introvert and inviting people thing soo soo much -
It's the WORST! Like if he has a friend over and they stay for HOURS and hours, even if I'm not actively taking part in what they're doing it drains me soo much -__- There are a few people that I consider close enough friends for me not to be drained by their presence but it's far from everyone ^^
its so funny i moved from a 4 hour car drive relationship into a same house relationship last month. the gaming is a big thing here either. i am ok with listening while he s gaming but he is soooo loud suddenly ;) yelling at the screem and the negativity gets me so much but we figure it out ;) I am the person with the own crafting room ;) But because we were so far apart i don t want to be in another room just yet. yay for headphone binge watching things.....
It's so weird to me.. my boyfriend basically said the exact same thing to me a while ago and at first I honestly didn't understand.. because he does like my friends and him saying that he doesn't feel like having people around made me think he simply hates them. It took a lot of arguing and talking for me to understand how he felt. I'm the kind of person that just loves having people around aaall the time (well, probably because I have 6 siblings). So I didn't even consider it possible to not want to hang out with people.. but you guys kinda made me realise that this is more common than I thought.
Miriam Wei yes i understand. I like my boyfriends friends very much and like spending time with them but its a bit of a big step to go there or engage. The before meetings is the worst ;)
THANK YOU for mentioning how quality time means different things to different people. Living together and really spending time together can be one of the hardest things to navigate in a relationship. I'm loving these personal videos :)
Indeed! For Sonny it's spending time together when he cooks and I do the dishes, while I want to actually spend time together AFTER doing chores such as cooking and dishes haha. It's difficult.
Katrin, I really like this video. As an introvert, I can really relate to wanting to be alone but BEING STUCK BEING AROUND OTHER PEOPLE AAAAAAH. I just really like how you spoke so openly about cons about relationships and living together rather than making it all out to be perfect. Also, I LOVE your shirt and pretty much your style in general
Also! You should do the OG RUclips tag: what's in my bag video 😁
Haha I have done that video twice :D And honestly I don't even have a bag anymore heheh
I love when you wear simple clothes. It really highlights your beauty.
I totally agree with everything haha but I loved the mention of learning from the other person. I've learned so much from my partner, not just general knowledge, but we help each other learn to live and be healthier in our personal and "outside" lives. For example, I helped open his mind to the importance of at least knowing whats going on in world politics and he has helped me become more comfortable in my own quirks and how to manage the constant stress and anxiety I have by reinforcing whats healthy as an outlet, and what could use improving on.
Sounds great! I think we have affected each other in positive ways as well :)
I know this video is old but its a huge help. My boyfriend and I have been living together for over a year now in a 467 sqft 1 bedroom in a rinky part of town. We’ve realized that the space and mood of the place has really taken a toll on us. Now we are moving at the end of this month to a bigger and brighter place in hopes to find our spark again.
I love living with my husband. The first year it takes getting used to, especially regarding how both of you do things differently but afterwards it's awesome :)
So I know that this doesn't really have anything to do with the video (although I think it's a great video, A+) but you and Sonny truly seem to be the perfect couple. You seem very mature and so does he and I admire how you two FIX problems TOGETHER instead of calling it quits whenever an issue comes up.
Thanks :) And yes, I mean he is five years older than me and has a lot more relationship experience so I'm glad that it has benefitted us a lot as well. :)
what you said about having people visit drains your energy is exactly what happens to me, it also makes me feel uncomfortable in my own house at time, im the same if i have to go out and socialise, it takes me days to recover, the struggle : (
Miss MetalHead same girl.. you not alone.. team hermit crabs
One of my favorite parts about living with my partner is noticing our growth together overtime as a couple. How we communicate changes and grows, how we naturally start doing chores (like you were talking about) to work together to keep the home clean. As far as storage... oh god that was a struggle at first. I wound up purging half my stuff when I moved in, but he made sure to clean out an entire room for me to do my art/ work in. Thanks for videos lady! I've been watching for a few years and have never ceased to enjoy and appreciate them and your journey!
I love how aware of your own faults, yet willing to work through them. Fantastic couple.
Relationships are inherently difficult but I consider that you and Sonny are so harmonic. Each point you touched is very important. The main thing in a life shared with someone is the respect. When you have respect to the other person, everything can be addressed. Kat, what beautiful timepiece you are wearing. I have one, two, three things for watches, haha... That mesh bracelet is called Milanese strap. They are named after the Italian city of Milan, where they were first created. They are very in fashion now, very comfortable and durable. I'm loving your series of videos this month.
This video couldn't have come at a better time!!
Moving in with my boyfriend in August, so this was super helpful! Thank you!!!!
wow is crazy how much I can relate to this, my boyfriend and I are going to live together in 3 months, we are currently in a long distance relationship, he lives in Denmark right now and I live in Costa Rica, thank you for this vid. He also gave me a Daniel Wellington last year as a gift and I love it so much!!
I quite like living alone but I'm a very social person etc but I like the fact that I can go out and see all the friends with all the noise etc but then come back and enjoy the quiet ❤️
You two are goals as a couple! I love how sometimes Sonny takes over cause you're feeling sick or something like that, and I love how sincere you are in this kind of videos, commenting on the real problems and discussions you have. I appreciate it very very much :) I'm not even in a relationship at the moment but I lived together with my ex bf for a while in the past, and I can relate quite a lot with the topic XD Thank you, Kat, we love you
I absolutely adored this video, I connect so much. Me and my Fiance live 2000 miles apart. We see each other quite often for being in a long distance relationship, but we plan to move in together and I know it's going to be quite the shock to our habits and routines. This really gives me hope that of course it has negatives and can be hard, but ultimately worth it! Thank you for this!
Man I can relate to nearly every single thing you said ! We moved together after a long distance relationship, too ( Europe - Australia). Just today I thought about how I still need to adjust to some things. :D
Good thing me and my boyfriend game together❤
Haha that would definitely be the dream for both Sonny and I. And trust me! I have TRIED. But I really really hate gaming. ^^ That's just the way it is.
Katrin Berndt same. My husband is a gamer. I am not. I'm ok with that. I'm ok with some gaming conversation. But it's just boring for me. No offense to him.
hehe same here!!! we dream of a gaming room for BOTH of us!
I really love the way you always make the sponsored videos :D It's always really nice and not the ONLY thing in that video
Thank you! I know sponsored parts can be kinda awkward in videos but I really try to make them relevant and fill the video with interesting things as well ^^
I can relate to being an introvert and my partner being extroverted, but my partner and I are currently looking for a place since neither of us have our own place currently and its pretty tough right now since were are both still getting other things figured out first but I'm still super excited, one tip I have always gotten was if one of you have your own place try staying together for a couple weeks (he and I did this for three weeks while i was in between quarters for schooling) and we got to see how each person is after work and in the mornings, how clean we both are and how we interact after being with each other for that long. And it was good, we learned a lot about each other and have things figured out that could have been a problem.
I wouldn't necessarily consider myself introverted 100%, like if the time calls for it, I can bring out my social side. However, when I'm at home or something I really like that alone time, and prefer it not to be interrupted. That's why I'm iffy when I think about living with another...
Yes, alone time is so very important, I need to have that time to myself just to hear myself think. I am guilty of staying up very late at night just because the house is quiet and I have that time to myself, no talking, no questions, no extra noise or being asked for something. it can be a struggle even when you have a bigger house it is still your sanctuary and the energy changes depending on who is there and what is going on.
This video came at a prefect time as I'm looking to move in with my long distance partner! Thank you for sharing your advice!
Wow, I can relate to about every pro and con you discussed. Thanks for sharing, I don't feel so alone.
I really liked your approach on this video.
I sort of moved in with my boyfriend last summer, but it wasn't quite official and we weren't in this flat together everyday since i left to go back to my parent's home more than he did. Last September we actually moved into a flat of our own and it's just wonderful. Of course there were some issues like when we got the furniture and i planned out everything he wouldn't quite trust my judgement and later on lots of chores are left for me to do since I have more time. I am a little scared of our next semester in uni because i will have way less time than before and I really hope we will be able to split up the chores better
You are seriously one of the most beautiful woman I've ever seen!!!!! I also really like your video!!! Its extremely informative!!! Thank you babe!
hey katrin! my boyfriend and i are a gamer couple, so we don't mind each other gaming at all.. but one thing you can look into is getting a headset for your boyfriend for his birthday (if you guys celebrate birthdays) :) depending on the console he uses or if he games on a PC, you can find some pretty noise cancelling headsets. good luck!
I actually think that Daniel Wellington watches are not getting enough attention. They are so good!
Yesss! I mean they're not $5000 watches so you get what you pay for, but I absolutely recommend them for the price that they are! Beautiful stylish watches that obviously tell the time ^^
I know the struggle of making mess and hating mess at the same time!
It's been almost a year living with my man now and I can confirm this is so true
Loved this video, Katrin! I can relate to the introvert/liking being alone/sometimes problems with people over thing so much. Looking forward to seeing more personal videos! xoxo
I've watched this before, but I recently moved out with my bf and this was in my recommended videos (coincidence?). I just wanna say how glad I am that both me and my bf love gaming - we have a room dedicated to it where we can both go and play together :) but on another note, I'm glad we have an extra room that I turned into my "office", since I work from home and couldn't ever concentrate with him around.
Such a helpful video, thank you!❤
My boyfriend is moving in at the end of the summer , [24yo, 5years together]. It's been a long time coming (considering I moved to his city 3 damn years ago). He's never lived on his own so I'm nervous about his adjustment, mostly because I'm so set in a routine. He says he's "incredibly clean" and his place and self seem like he's telling the truth, but he leaves a trail of mess behind him every time he comes over. This is going to be my biggest con, but I like cleaning so I'm sure we'll find a compromise.
Hearing this has actually made me so much more excited and was yet another reassurance that this is the right move for my relationship :)
Thank you so much for making this video! My boyfriend and I have been considering moving in together and this video helped a lot. My personality is much like yours, and the boyfriend's is like Sonny's, so I know a little of what I can expect if we do decide to live together!
I also lived in a long distance relationship for a bit more than a year with my boyfriend but it got waaay too much for me because I was just crying all the time and missing him so we decided that I shall move to Norway from Finland. The best thing I think has been that we definitely have gone through some super shitty times together but we have grown much closer because of that and our relationship is very loving and we totally deserve each other on our great days. All the other things are just a side problem like cleaning because we both are veery messy BUT we are working through that. Adulting is hard but it will all together!
You're such an inspiration, in all aspects.
I really needed this video. Thank you so much for making it.
Awesome video! I think this is true in any kind of living situation whether it's with a romantic partner, friends/roomates, and or family. Thank you for an honest topic, and I love the watch I've been looking for one similar to this one you were wearing gotta give this brand a try! Hoping the best for you Sonny and Rascal!
me & my boyfriend were in a long distance relationship too & he lived 4 hours away, we couldn't handle it anymore so my bf moved to my city and started to live with me and my parents since we have pretty big house & he's been here for like 6 months & we realised that we can live together because neither of us does something that bothers the other so much that we can't live together :D so i relate to this video quite alot😂
Hahah it's good that there are no deal breakers! ^^
most people also say that you should wait like a year or more before moving in, but i think that if you spend a year together, and then move in & realise you can't even live with that person because they're so annoying, is quite pointless. we started living together after 1.5 months 😬
Haha I think everyone should just do what fits them best. I think the reason people say you should wait is 'cause it's more of a hassle to break up if you're living together and if you've manage to make it 1, 2, 5 years together then you're pretty safe to live together as well. But yeah we moved in together after about 6 months ^^
That's crazy I have a very similar story to yours. We were long distance. About 4 hours apart as well. Moved in after 2.5 years and have been living together for 2.5 years
I loved ur video SO much girl.
it helped me alot for my future plans with my boyfriend
Thank you! I'm glad you found it helpful ^^
It's really intersting to hear it from introverts perspective. In my country couples do not live together until marriage, and it's not even comon to date more than a year. As an introvert myself, i always think about that, because I really do need my time alone to recharge
this watch is so much beautiful♡ Great video too Kat! Have a nice day♡
completely agree/relate to all points especially the introvert part. maybe because I'm an only child. I think the worst part is being forced to socialize when I'm not in the mood and avoiding seeming rude... ugh
Your can go to your office now when people are over!
Haha yeah except the wifi is shitty :(((( That's the only negative!
Katrin Berndt WiFi booster! It'll cut through obstructions to give you a better signal!
I love this! Moved in with my Swedish partner in November and it has been great 😊 Basically I agree with everything especially the washing machine!!!!!!! Same for me 😂😂
Btw, your hair is gorgeous! Such a beautiful color and so shiny!!! 😍
Thank for sharing your experience. I'm your fan from México. Also... it would be nice if you add some background music it would be nice. Keep posting new videos, it´s always nice to see a new video.
I think the cleaning parts are the worst. I like to keep things clean and always pick up trash and dishes after myself. My husband doesn't mind if things are messy and he also leaves trash everywhere... So when I clean I have to clean his stuff as well as my own and it sucks big time. But as you said, I only have myself to blame since I'm the one who needs a clean living space... but then again who wants trash laying around?! It would definitely be nice if he got better at cleaning after himself :P
I had to laugh about the big bed part because my husband and I have been sleeping on a 1 person/single bed for over 7 years xD We've had two different double beds, but they've all somehow broken...so we decided to just roll with the single bed. We sleep head to toe for comfort! :D haha.
I love the setting of this video!
Girl, I feel your struggle with visitors over and they ALWAYS want my attention, I just can't. Too draining 😭
I have a problem that I like when it's clean but my boyfriend is veeeery messy. I still don't know how to solve this problem even though we live together for almost a year now and we talked about it a lot. But still... nothing changed, I clean every day, he mess this up every day... Some advise for that? :P
Ugh sounds like a nightmare! The thing you have to come to terms with is that he will never ever take the initiative to clean FOR HIMSELF. You have to explain to him that this is something he needs to do for you. We struggle a bit with this at home sometimes too, that Sonny needs to understand that it doesn't matter if HE doesn't dislike the mess... if the other person wants things to be clean then cleaning is something you do for them other and not for yourself. And in a relationship you have to do things you might not want to do just to make each other happy. Give and take, compromise and just get him to start helping out a little to start off with. :/ But yeah it's very difficult! Maybe try giving him very specific tasks that he can focus on so he knows exactly WHAT he is expected to do so you don't end up fighting about it all the time.
MsMoami me and my husband are the same way. It didnt get better till I had a melt down but now he helps.
Hahah honestly it seems like meltdowns are what's needed for them to take us seriously..........
Stop cleaning up after him, you're not his mom. Just leave his messes there for him to look at. Maybe he will notice that all the mess in the house is his, while all your things are neat and tidy.
UrhG... why is that such big problem? I mean, many many couples have this problem. Me too... the most annoying thing is, when your partner tells you: "Sorry, I haven't the time to keep our home nice and clean, cause I´ve a job... 8 hours a day. After that, cleaning no way!" Yes... thank you. Maybe I´ve got a job to do too!!!
Meltdowns may help!!!
what lashes are you wearing? they're gorgeous! and great video by the way!
+Zaraura Chantell Duff Lashes! Love them!
I can so relate to this expect that I am diagnosed with OCD and I clean all the time (and my partner doesn't) because mess and dirt makes me anxious and that leads to having anxiety.
I thought you said you don't like sonnys gay men 😂 but good you said gaming.
Same hahaha
bahaha Sonny needs an extra room for all his gay men because they make too much noise.
OMG that's what I heard,,, phew
There is some really good information in that video, thank you very much.
I'm the most alonesy person you'll ever meet but I wish I could find a partner who'd be okay with living separate.
I've been living with my partner for almost four years, it's been Great, but I feel that the main problem is that of the bad mood you mentioned. it takes a lot of self control not to attack the other person Just because you are in a shitty state of mind.
split the chores? tell that to my husband!
I mean every "family" has to have their own rules and ways of doing things. For some people one person goes to work and the other stays home to run the household. For some both work in which case both should carry the load at home as well etc. But it's never a good thing when one feels like the other is not pulling their weight.
We both work, but because he stands up most of the time at his job and I have a desk job, he "works harder" than me. So, I am stuck doing everything even on his off days ugh 🤔😑😣
OrbitalAngel Nebula even so, if you both work similar hours every week then if I were you I would push him to at least do SOMETHING. He can fold clothes while sitting down
OrbitalAngel Nebula hmmmmm is he saying he works harder? I think he's being a bit lazy and using that as an excuse
OrbitalAngel Nebula Tell him then that you work harder in the house and you're way too tired when he's asking for extras. He might think if it's worth it twice after that.
Haha I'm the same way! I love cleaning when I have time to do so, and I am SO messy!
I like your opinions on your topics and I like the smaller septum ring.
Jodi Rainey So it is smaller?!?! I couldn't figure it out and thought I just got so used to seeing it, it started to appear smaller 😂 Did she ever say, what diameter it is?
Jodi Rainey Nevermind, its in the description box :)
i didn't even notice until you pointed it out but i like it too! I liked the bigger one as well but the smaller one Katrin wears now kind of brightens up her face in a way, or is that just me? haha
I've lived with my partner for almost two years now and while it's mostly nice, I have come to know him in a completely different way. I'm not thankful for all of this new knowledge :P He is not bothered by a lot either, but there are habits of his that really bother me. If he's getting something out of any kind of cabinet, closet, room or drawer he will open it and just leave it open! Almost without fail. Every time! Just...why??? And he can just put the hoover down in the middle of a doorway or a narrow hallway and he won't be bothered by stepping over it for days. Those kinds of things really irk me lol
Ooh yes! This is a video I needed! I've been unofficially living with my boyfriend for quite a while (our apartments are close by and I just stay at his place all the time) and my parents won't let me live with him because they're conservative and think that living with someone before marriage will destroy your relationship. I've definitely noticed pros and cons of living together but I don't know what I'll do when we finish school and have our own income. It's good to get some insight into what it would practically be like because it's not as common to live with your SO before marriage in the US. (Also yes my boyfriend is such a huge gamer and I stay in his room so sometimes it drives me crazy! Ugh but it's his place so I can't complain. And I'm such a slob I feel so bad when I make a mess but I usually don't notice it.)
I mean don't feel like you have to move in together just to "signal" something to the rest of the world. You can definitely stay living in separate apartments if you spend that much time together anyway. I even think some couples would be better off having their own homes rather than just one. :) Just saying that one couple's way of doing it is never the only "right way"! :)
Serious question: How do you get over the "fear" of pooping at their house?! LOL
+Briana Denae Lozano Hahah just get over it. There's nothing weird about it. ^^
Briana Denae Lozano sit down together and read, "Everybody Poops." 😀
your relationship sounds just like mine! We have the same setup so my bf can game.. he doesn't get bothered by anything.. and i'm bothered by everything haha and I don't enjoy having people over (I have no where to hide either).
Going through and thing. Long distance, due to move into his small apartment till we get our own place. Exactly same scenario. Plus he's into gaming too, lucky for him I support his hobbies etc. Lol
Oh, and he's the introvert one. Have to work around him. Lol
Hahaha me toooo!!!! I just leave things EVERYWHERE!!! Ugh, and my boyfriend gets Soooo annoyed! You inspire me to try. Le sigh 🙄😂
that hiccup at the end killed me :D
Haha I was too lazy to edit it out!
Denna video borde ses av alla som ska/funderar på att flytta ihop med sin partner haha! Btw, du är galet vacker! :)
Åh tack så mycket! x
I'm the opposite with the dishes, I could never stand loading the washer omg
Haha I was talking about the washing machine. In regards to dishes I hate all of it ^^
Oh! haha
I feel you . I'm pretty the same
really loved this video :)
Heey, Katrin! So I've wanted a silver watch for several months now. I just hate wearing my silver earrings with the gold watch I have so yeah.. I just need a silver watch. And after I saw your video yesterday I thought it's time to finally buy it. I tried the code for the DW watch, but it doesn't work? Could you check on it? I just loooove that watch as well!!
I posted the wrong code I'm sorry!! The correct one is KATRIN_DW :D
Yep, it works. Thanks!
new vid yas kat yas
Looks pretty similar how me and my wife share the "house work" re cooking etc., but I wonder does Sonny heard of earphones to use them for gaming?
Haha he does wear headphones. It’s not the game sounds that bother me 😅
Oh, I see! Swearing is part of gaming :)
i'm in a long distance relationship right now and we're planning on moving in together in a few months, i guess it will be interesting. :D i've lived with another partner before though, so i kinda know how things go.
What about moving in together because you can't live with your roommate anymore but you've never lived with each other before
you are a really cool youtuber..thx for making great content :) weiter so!
Great Video!
I just wanted to tell you that you are awesome.
Why thank you!
You're so pretty!
i feeeeeel you girl :D
that gaming thing...
Dude it sucks I'm currently in a situation where my roommates will legit leave a huge pile of dishes in the sink for daaayyss till it starts stinking and I have to wash them. When they have friends over they also leave behind a mess, and then my roommates leave the apartment for days leaving me stuck in the nasty space. I clean up immediately after myself and I just find this so frustrating. Apart from that we all share one room (it's 3 of us in total) and I find myself stepping and tripping over things at night. They're so messy I feel like pulling my hair out sometimes, I don't even wanna talk about how the bathroom looks 😞
Ugh! Nightmare!!! -__- Work hard and one day you can get your own place! Let that motivate you!
dayy11609 I'm guessing you have talked to them cordially about making an effort to clean up?
I love this video! I wish I had seen this video when I was 19....
Erinn Envy What happened when you were 19?
I had to learn all these lessons myself and it was a 3 year long DISASTER. hahaha xx
If I was going to buy a watch it definitely would be a Daniel Wellington watch. I'll try to see if I could buy one before April 15th :3.
If not I'm sure there are loads of other people who have a discount code :) And if not I will deffo have another on in the future ^^
why are you so beautiful
Ryan Mochrie Sweden is full of very beautiful people
Just get him a good gaming headset, Astro or Turtle Beach, never have to hear his gaming audio again, I mean beside his voice(obviously) if he is gaming with others online, maybe that will help. He has a better audio experience and you do too, good luck
It's great that you had the opportunity of living alone before, but this is definetly not a reality for most people, at least in America :/ People my age (22) generally have at least one roommate to be able to get by financially, and so a lot of those pros and cons were already something we had to get used to, which makes this transition a lot easier.
Well great for you then haha! ^^ Makes it easier.
Hey Katrin, so do you both prefer spending money on tattoos than on travelling?
I'd love to do both, but in the end up I always choose tattoos... It might be because my partner isn't into travelling...
Yeah definitely :) But now we don't spend our money on anything but bills ^^
I feel ya... same same
At what age did you move in together?
Når jeg ser på videoene innser jeg hvor like vi er 🙈
omg the gaming part I didn't even think about this... my boyfriend is a born child of Hyrule, I'm so fucked.
when he is gaming why doesn't he use headphones? my bf likes gaming as well, we have a long distance relationship (it's only 2.5 hours away tho), he comes to stay with me at the weekends and I ask him to use headphones when he's gaming :)
Haha he does use headphones. Those are not the sounds I hate. I hate the mouse clicking, the keyboard clicking and him speaking (screaming) at the computer. ^^
To the con with having people around, would it be possible to turn Sonnys game room into a room that you could both use as a refuge so that when he has friends round, you can use the space too? :)
It could be a solution for some people but I have basically turned that room into a "trash room" with Sonny's computer in it. There's not enough space for me to be there and the whole room/space/everything makes me not want to spend more than 1 minute in there when I have to ^^
Katrin Berndt Ok that makes things more difficult :D
Headphones saved my marriage. :)
I don't get why people think Sonny is not using headphones hahaha. There are literally 1000 sounds that come from gaming that are non-headphone related. ^^
I meant I wore them. lol
When I move in with my bf I already plan to buy him Gaming headphones coz no way can I deal with gaming noise when I have my final year work
+Alice Gale Haha my boyfriend has always had headphones! Doesn't end the sounds!