After The HONEYMOON | Sex & MARRIAGE... Ep. 8
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“What I thought was my sex drive was my sin drive” SHEESH 😭
hey Jonathan please tell your lovely wife that we need our weekly log. This is vital for our weekly detox and treat for getting through the week. With love Aishe.
LOL i got y'all its coming tomorrow!
Sure 😂😂
Thank you Aishe for speaking on our behalf haha😂👌🏽
I second this lol!!
This right here lol
It's very hilarious that Jonathan was feeling like it was getting weird, but you were ready to keep talking only for you to then 1 minute later be like " okay this is getting weird" 😂😂 y'all are too funny together!
i was like. on second thought maybe this is ODEEEE lolll
Yesss this is what i was waiting for. I was a virgin and my husband was not BUT i grew up very strict Pentecostal. It’s like one day I had to shun the very appearance of sex and the next I’m supposed to be going buckwild swinging from chandeliers?! How sway?That duplicitous view of sex is something i still battle with to this day.
How did you overcome? I don't plan on marrying but think about this
"Who was that, I'm someone's daughter"😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
“Holiness Over Comfortability” would great BTW merch!
Edit: Add some for “Do What Love Requires” merch too❤
We gotta make it happen eventually!
Is comfortability a word? isn't it just comfort?
@@anonymousMistIt is a word. Here’s the definition per my Dictionary app: “the quality of being comfortable or of affording ease or comfort, whether physical or emotional”.
This was a lot of fun. As a married woman of 22 years you gave me something to think about. I feel like within the last 5 years my husband has cracked the code of pleasing me in areas that I didn’t know I needed pleasing. Great Couple, continue to keep God first and ignore any negative feedback.
thank you so much!! especially that last part, have to push past the negativity and focus on the assignment, thank you!
“My sex drive was really my sin drive” my goshhh! You better preach
26:25 Thanks Jonathan!!! Porn is absolutely a sin and if you believe in no sex before marriage and you are watching people just having sex for sport that should be everything that you are against!!
This is so true about having sex before marriage, not only that you don't feel good about yourself afterwards but if you just keep having sex up until you get married, there is nothing to really look forward to with your spouse the night of your wedding if having sex casually. Atleast for me, it wouldn't be all that special. Ive been married for 27 years and im telling you , you really have to put in all effort to keep it going.
The wanting to do it in the dating stage and then after marriage it slows down definetely had me shook! I think it definitely had to do with fleshly desires. Lol still working out the kinks only 3 months married 😭😂
it such a slippery slope, life changes so much after marriage with all the new adjustments, but it gets better!
Jess- “horrifying like W-H-O” 😂😂😂😂
Jonathan you’re such a wise young man and godly. Kudos.
he truly is, i'm so grateful
I Love you guys! I enjoy watching "Between the Walls" podcast. I've been married for 12 years but I feel I'm learning new things to apply/take note of in my marriage. Thank you for your wise and spiritual thoughts of your Marital journey. 🙏🏾❤️
i never knew you guys did not wait for marriage, great insight seeing it from another point of view!
Until that last episode, it subtly disclosed. However, their marriage is still beautiful.
Glad you enjoyed it!
thank you so much!
OMG, I love yall. Church doesn’t talk about this. Some parents don’t either. It’s very important to tell your kids why and the consequences, not just don’t do it. Keep going guys!!!
thank you so much!
I am so happy you guys spoke about this! It's a really important topic that people dont talk about. I honestly thought i alone felt this way .
You are not alone - *MJ voice*
Thanks for watching!
I love y’all… just being so open is a lot and I applaud you guys. Y’all do it with such GRACE. 🙌
I am starting to be mindful of what I entertain, listen to, watch. Because I know how this can affect my mental. Also I am trying to be intentional about Romans 12:2. Transformation starts with renewing of my mind , I have seen good fruit as already ☺️
You too make me laugh so much, the two of you are still shy with each other , that is so loving to see lol
Point blank period agree with Jonathan, its evil and literally is opening the door to sin specifically lust. Thanks for sharing this y'all, I also recovered from an additiction that started in my adolescence after marriage and you can absolutely see how it tries to pull you in and away from the people you actually love, please learn your own boundaries even though its become less taboo and more of a norm its really harmful and harming people in that industry too!
I was just talking about this to my husband the other day lol I was like before marriage we was wanting to do it everyday. Then when we got married we don’t do as often, and I agree with you guys. When you aren’t suppose to do it it’s just the enemy trying to temp you, but sense your now able to, because your married it’s now not lust it’s now you have a desire for your spouse in that moment.
yess exactly!! thank you
Jess 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I was laughing at some of the things she was saying throughout, love the realness, but hilarious part was the "I'm someone's daughter" 😅🤣 took me out!
like sir please don't ever forget thattt LOLLL
This was so relatable as a newlywed. Thank you so much for the transparency and keeping it 💯
I just wanna circle back and say after watching this twice, Jess you are the little sister I never knew I needed! It’s the slight ADHD with loads of honesty and laughter, yeah we’re sisters. You can’t convince me otherwise 😂
Jonathan, was ready to stop talking in that mic so he could use his own mic elsewhere!! 🤣🤣🤣 Okay, bye! See y’all next time 😂🥰
LOLLLLL hey sisssss
You guys are caring and patient towards one another. Be equally patient and caring towards yourself. You can sometimes go through a dryspell when attempting to have a baby. I know from experience. God bless you!
Some things mentioned i needed to hear because its things you know but never heard anyone say it out loud. 👏🏾
This was so needed, thank you!
Such a godly young couple. I praise God for you. Holiness is still right.
Thank you so much!
That dream that you mentioned in the beginning sounds like an initiation dream. Pray & ask God for revelation and deliverance.
I tend to stop whatever I'm watching or doing to listen to you guys. You guys bring the vibe all the time. I'm not married yet, but I still take in a few gems.
ah thank youu!!
Finally lol. I’ve been refreshing my feed ever since Jonathan posted on IG that a video was dropping today. Hey y’all 👋🏾
lol we back!! hey friends!
I love that because you know you so don't compromise to make others comfortable. Great job Jonathan.
Yes! Thank you!
As a woman who's going through the change of life, there are a lot of times when I don't feel like it, but because my husband wants it, I give it to him. We've been married coming up on 10 years, and I'm still learning how to love on him.
do you think your upbringing makes it hard to love him? hes an ubeliver?😮
I can completely relate to yall . My husband and i tried not to as well but we still stumbled. After marriage it was definitely different and unfortunately i did feel guilty and had to work on it . We've been marriaged 4 years now .
Thanks for sharing!!
Doing a great job!👏🏽 Giving great advice. Keep up the good work!👏🏽👏🏽
Married 38 years and counting!!🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thank you so much!
U guys are touching on a subject that can be very tough. That said, sex inside a marriage is called, “the marital act”. U guys are ambassadors for Christ. So, yes u have accountability to ur listeners. God made pleasure a part of the marital act so that his creation will actually populate the earth. Can u imagine if it felt bad? There would be no kids😊
However, u guys opened up and allowed us to hear ur points of view. 🙏🏽that God will continue to bless ur marriage.Thank u for ur transparency💯
Not a season finale 😢 ahhh I love this podcast!
ah thank you sis!! but at least the season finale is an hour and a half lol
@BetweenTheWallsPod yay! I'm excited for it!
Such a necessary conversation!! Thank you for your transparency & openness 🫶🏾
YT Niecey and JDub, Good stuff! 👏🏽 Much needed topic! Thank you.
This was so good!! 🙏🏾💓
😂😂😂 not the clapping Jess ilyyy
She’s the best, isn’t she?! 😂
17:14 yep! I’m married and i felt this so much! And when Jonathan said “my sex drive was actually a sin drive” 🎯🎯🎯
I love the transparency. I can't lie, I thought you both waited but had individual sexual experience in the dating scene. However, I love that you both spoke on the decisions you've made and regardless of the circumstance sex in marriage is an entire chapter opened of exploring one another. As mentioned, sex should be a topic that's discussed often because there's so many layers beyond the pleasure of it that some may agree on. I think as it relates to the desires of sex when waiting as Humans we all want what we can't have. Once we get it then it's like "Ohh. Okay", the idea of it is what's enticing the fantasy we create. Great video ! Definitely learned a lot❤
This was a very good episode. Like y’all said, Christians do not openly have these conversations. It was real but also tasteful
I watched this when it was published. Watching it again now with my husband and discussing it with him. Next we watching the anxiety video. We are married for 2 years in September and we can definitely relate! Much love from Cape Town 🇿🇦
A library of things😂😂😂😂😂! You guys are wise beyond your years❤️. Great and tasteful content. Thank you( I hope my previous comment wasn’t misconstrued about Instagram. I thought it was a free app and all we had to do was download it. I meant no disrespect to any.🌷)
Thank you so much! So disrespect taken!
We have entered the group chat❤ I miss yall
yasss lol we missed y'all!
you both are very inspirational Love watching you guys
Thank you so much!!
I think the example around the 40 minute mark, one thing couples should consider as well that you do need that intimate connection to keep the bond strong but if one person is overwhelmed (especially with parental or household duties), I don’t think the burden is only on the denier to name a better time. But their partner should be a true partner and find ways to share in the workload and take some of the burden off so that your spouse can relax and they might be more in the “mood” then. You’re creating the opportunities for connection/intimacy in that case.
The funny thing is I would’ve thought Jess had the higher sex drive but Jess is just naturally more affectionate and an over sharer lol. I can tell Jonathan is more of a private person when it comes to this kinda stuff. Great episode! I really appreciate you guys’ vulnerability💕🫶🏾
This was a great conversation and thank you for sharing. You both had very different perspectives on the pressures or expectations of sex in marriage which I loved. I'm wondering if there is a way to remove the shame aspect of sex all together. Having that level of shame allllll the way leading up to your wedding night and then now you're supposed to have sex all the time now is challenging as you both shared. I believe there is a way to encourage abstinence without making sex a shameful act. There is so much shame wrapped around sex and pleasure prior to marriage that it's almost impossible to switch your brain to be like, "oh okay now it is okay for me to desire pleasure or think about sex at all". That switch is hard regardless if you were practicing abstinence or if you were a virgin. Presenting sex in its entirety as shameful for however many years until you're married can have a lasting impact.
This was a very good discussion. Thanks for sharing guys❤
Please keep up with taking your vitamins!! When I slack off mine... I feel the difference!! I'm tired like I haven't slept in ages and my body is also tired. I'm back on my vitamins now and feel TOTALLY non-tired😍😍😍😍😍
Girl, I almost spit this food out when you said maybe we should do it right after this podcast....😅
I am the same way when it comes to watching a tv show or movie. I cover my eyes quick. I don't want to get triggered by anything. God delivered me from a porn addiction. Guard your eyes! Love yall, love the podcast 10 out of 10 stars.
Those triggers creep in so smooth sometimes too! Thinking we can handle the things that we cant! Glad you have discernment!! thank you so much!!
Amazing podcast. Great job.
Thank you!!
Y’all hit every nail straight on the head
thank you!!
👏👏👏👏👏 great conversation Jonathan and Jess❤
Thank you for sharing and create this safe space. I could relate and i'm not feeling that weird or alone now.😅
thank you!!!!
This was soo fun and had me laughing. Love you guys ❤
I’m here smiling the whole time 😊 this is deep 😊 you’re forgiven 🙏🏾 beautiful topic ❤❤
Jess the jump will come back trust me. The more in sync you become as married people the sex gets better and better and freakier in a healthy way😅
Was waiting for this 🎉
hey heyyy
Lmaooo your dad has me weak. Cause why would you ask that 😭
RIGHT!? LOLLL like can we please enjoy dinner, sir?? My poor mother hahah
Sin is attractive to the flesh. That’s why it’s “better” before marriage
You guys are soo cool, Ty for the video 😀
ah thank youuu!!
Love every episode ❤❤❤ can’t wait for the season finale but also finale 😢😢😢😢😢
I'm here! 😍 Let the party begin🎉
oh we UPPP!!
Watching this while at work to get me through the morning.. 😊
Loved this episode it is very necessary!
Thank you!!
Love your channel ❤
THANK YOU!!
This is my 1st time watching & i normally don’t say anything, but I feel led to assist you with your dream! That is not a random dream, the Lord is revealing to you a trap that the enemy has set for your husband to enter into an adulterous covenant hence the wedding dress. This isn’t a covenant of infidelity in the physical, but in the spiritual! I encourage you all to pray vigorously against this trap & ask for my spiritual discernment & revelation regarding the matter! I pray that the Lord gives you more grace in your ministry!
For me a married woman of over 30 years, sex evolves and matures as the marriage matures. Sex in my opinion serves multiple purposes and those purposes change over time as the marriage evolves. Meaning there is sex for self pleasure, sex for intentional procreation, sex for stress relief, sex to forgive when you disagree or argue about something in another facet of marriage, sex for celebration of special occasions, sex to create a special memory on vacation. I can go on and on. But also, as marriage evolves, the expectation of sex changes too. Enjoy your swinging from the chandelier time!! Once you build a family it gets harder to dedicate time for intimacy.
“Wow my sex drive was really my sin drive “ that was so good!! Spot on
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Great podcast!
Thank you!!!
Yayyyyy 🎉🎉🎉🎉. Love you guys
we love y'all!!
Man, I've been waiting for y'all...lol
hey heyyy
Jess!!!!!!! Listen......i have the same issue! The desire had definitely changed and i feel so bad because i feel like my husband wants it so much and I don't be feeling it, lol. It's not just you friend!!!!!!
You guys are great!
thank you sis!!
“Tinty tinty to see if anything change forms” 😭😂 Jess please lmbo
She’s the best 😂😂
19:02 did it for me 😂 i love y’all
Love this episode
Wow, they do exist! 🙏🏾 🤲🏾
From someone who saved herself, it was weird. I wasn't exactly "pure", I'd done stuff, but full-on intercourse no. It was weird as heck. I remember lying there and I'm like...this dude is literally inside me right now....like a human is inside another human... This is weird. lol. But tbh, after a bit, it was great, it would've been greater if I wasn't dead tired.
That last part is so true Jess. After sex, do NOT speak to me about anything that just happened. I don't want to hear about the positions, the noises, nothing. That last 30 mins no longer exists, that girl has evaporated. Check for her tomorrow same bat time same bat channel.
LOLLLLLL exactlyyyy hahah.
Me and my fiance have stumbled abt 3 times total and left that in 2023.. our wedding date is in December and we havent been doing anything and wont until our honeymoon 🎉❤ we help each other to keep strong 💪 i hope we're still crazy for it after marriage lol 😂😅😅😅😅
The closer I got to my 40’s my sex drive increased greatly. Sex was always good but went up another level after having my 1st child. Also sex is a WANT and not a NEED. Your parents meet your needs your spouse meets your wants
Jess, that is so true. I keep thinking something is wrong, and I need counseling because I don't have that strong desire to have sex with my husband. And I really don't understand why. I do find him attractive, and I love him. I just don't understand why the desire is not there.
I’m going thru this too!
Also get your levels checked! you could **possibly** have low testosterone which can be the cause of a low sex drive in women, if not that then just keep on asking God to help you in this area, trust me I understand, we need to have some girl talk lol
You both have great communication between each other, how do ya’ll deal with miscommunication and arguments in marriage?
First of all , tiredness, vivid dreams.... 👀👀👀 Symptoms!!! Ijs! Lol. Fingers crossed for ya🤞
I was thinking the same! 😁
Great convo
14:11 I agree with Jonathan 💯%. The discovery was great. It took a few attempts but we eventually managed it 😊.
We celebrated out 21st wedding anniversary last May. Sex has changed throughout the years (after children and as we get older) but it has always been beautiful.
The enemies job is to get you to have sex before marriage because sin separates us from God , so in marriage his job is to sow discord because when you come together in marriage you are in unity ! You are more powerful when you come together which is what Gods original design is for marriage unity
I “slipped into something” my wedding night as well and my husband said “what are you wearing?” 🤦🏽♀️ 😂 they really don’t care about lingerie
😂😂❤
they dont care at ALL lol he's like i been waiting for you to get out of your clothes just for you to put more clothes onn?? lollll
Sex Drive ,Sin Drive wheww🔥🔥
Jonathan is so wise!!
Yea Im so low , all I need is a hug and im good. So like when I get married im like Lord , help me to increase it with my hubby.
I agree with what yall are saying. I'm just like Jonathan. I just gotta be true to my boundaries.
Realistic to what will pull me away from God. I, too, seem to be doing too much, but my husband respects me and doesn't get annoyed that i dont wanna watch certain movies. Also, the awkwardness with sex seems to fade with time. At least for me and my husband. The awkwardness decreased, and the comfortably and familiarity with each other increased.
thank you!!
Jess said something briefly and it hit home for me. I am one that waited until marriage to have sex and my husband didn’t but for me my motto was always I can’t miss something I never had (sex). So when we got married and we are having sex consistently it is good but when we go 3 or 4 days without doing it, I am good cause I felt I went so long without out, I don’t really miss it until I really want it
That's why some ministers suggest that you have conversations about what your interests are and what those desires are beforehand so that it's not a surprise to either of you. What you don't want is that both of you are on 2 different levels and 2 different interests, and the two are not gonna come together, very well.
When Jess said 'I went to poop....' Lol.
I had to mention it. Didn't feel like it got the reaction it deserved.
LOLLLLL
Jess, you and Jonathan are fortunate to have found each other and enjoy each other in indifferent settings, but girl!!!!! I can't deal with a small one.....I'm sorry!!!!!! I needed to know!!!!!
lol MAAAAAMMMM im out lol