There are times I despair of humanity, but then I remember that Caitlin Doughty, and her mission to give us options around death, demystifying and removing stigma around death, and the death “process” and the issues with the death “business” exists, IN the public eye, and she has a following and viewers, and I have to love that.......there’s still hope for us as a species in a world where Caitlin is popular
caitlyn loves answering questions and i love that.. we need teachers and healthcare workers like her desperately. no question is stupid. her teaching skills and honestly and love for helping people is . is all the qualities lacking in these professions. i just adore her .
I love caitlin! Been a huge fan of her RUclips channel for quite some time now. Love the idea of breaking the stigma attached to death and helping many lessen their fear of death...plus she'll make ya giggle. Haven't had the pleasure of reading any of her books but it's definitely high on my to do list!! ❤
My family has always been on the look out for death. I guess it was ingrained in us. I had a grave giving to me by my great grandfather. I have buried almost all my family, and I have helped people who didn't know anything about funerals. I also am trained in flower arrangements so I have done plenty of them for lots of funerals. Death positivity for sure, Catlyin has taught me more then I knew.
I think if you are a parent and getting on in years, it is important to have these things written down for your children. My mother had an Advanced Directive, that she had given to me 5 or 6 years prior. I never read it because it was too depressing to even think about and stuck it in a drawer with some papers; and never actually came across it until I needed it, strangely. My mother received a cancer diagnosis and was told she had 6 months; she actually only had three weeks. One week after the diagnosis, she had a stroke and couldn't use her legs. I was called and it took me an hour to convince her to go to the hospital. She was refusing to go because she didn't want to die there. After 3 days, she could no longer eat. Her last meal was a pumpkin muffin I fed her. The hospital wanted to tube feed her, but I knew she had an advanced directive. Where on earth was it? I went home, opened my desk drawer, and there it was!!! On top of everything! I grabbed it and read it, and was able to successfully argue with 5 administrators against radiation, tube feeding, etc. I had her converted to hospice, and brought her home, against the will of the hospital I might add. She was still coherent when we brought her home, so I was able to show her I kept my promise and brought her home, and she could see herself in her own bedroom mirror. We just took her bed out and had a hospital bed and oxygen moved in. This was onn a Thursday. She died on that Saturday morning at 5 am. I am tellin you all of this because, if she had not had a living will, and advanced directive; if she hadn't taken the time to tell me where she wanted to be buried, the hymns she wanted, everything! It would've gone very differently. She would've died in the hospital stuck with tubes, hating it, and I wouldn't have had the power to fight these people. They looked at her as a case, not a person. They had scheduled radiation on Monday for a person that couldn't even eat any longer. When I told her Cancer Doctor that she had passed, she thanked me for doing what I did; she thanked me for going with my own instinct that my mother was out of time and had to come home. She said they get so intent on fighting the cancer they lose sight of the person. Have a funeral plan. Have an advanced directive.
Thank you for sharing your own experience on this! I think you're 100% right - Powers of Attorney, wills, Advanced Directives etc provide hugely valuable information and clarity at a time when we may otherwise be too distracted or grieving to think clearly, and can help a family have much greater confidence that they're respecting their loved one's wishes. I think a lot of us don't prioritize death planning because we're scared to think about the end, or other things feel higher priority, or we just find it too big to tackle? But it's a lot more important than we think... Wish education for young people included some death positivity AND a bit of info about why end of life planning is something you'll want to include in your later "adulting"?
What a wonderful child any parent would be proud to have. The hospital knew she was going to die. My guess is she had good health insurance or owned property. Medicine is a business They see death every day. I doubt her insurance paid for a hospital bed for your home.
@@finalflowerchild well. Actually they did. I was teaching medical billing at the time, and so it wasn't difficult for me to appeal denials, file insurance commission complaints, etc. Plus I made sure she took out good secondary insurance to ensure everything would be covered.
@@wmnoffaith1 I agree with all this. This isn't my post. There are many others that have my name.When I was in grade school the teacher would say "Vickie" and 3 girls would turn their heads.
53:29, I wish the librarian answered this question to at 47:35 too. There were a couple more times i want to hear an answer from the librarian too. They have good chemistry. I like this interview. The librarian is a good interviewer, and Caitlyn is a good death positivity enthusiast.
When I was a teen in the late 60's I wanted to learn about mortuary stuff. What did I find?? Ruth Farner's The High Cost of Dying. No help. Years later I had a mortician friend who answered some of my questions and mimed the use of some of his tools.
You know you are in the right group of friends when you ask one if they have seen this awesome mortician chick's videos but they say no never heard of her but I just got this book sometimes smoke gets in your eyes and you LOL yeah dude that's her!
I defiantly agree with your saying Aesthetics helping you in your career choices. Was more macabre in my early trash warrior eco freak years, Iv come to grow from there, developing a strong interests in animal conservation, and now want to persue Zoology, which more accompanies my overall vibe these days I think.
I always wanted to be a librarian and my Mother always told be I should be a Mortician. I went to film school, floral design school, and am now working in tech support...
Caitlin doesn't believe in God. I do. So as Genesis explains, we are above all other animals. But I still love her and agree with Death Positivity and Green burials! I found my Daughter dead.😥😪😭 in 2017... I hugged her, talked with her, cried my eyes out. I knew she wasn't there, but I felt better for doing so.
Cypress College, down in Orange County, has an accredited mortuary science major. Google says that there are 15 community colleges around that have this. I can't swear to anything but it might be worth checking out.
Speaking as one who is often told to smile, 1) some of us were born scowling and see no reason to change, 2) some of us are working out in whatever little ways we can, and 3) I don't know about anyone else, but when I do smile a lot, people ask what is wrong with me. It's a big world. If you don't like her face, look somewhere else.
There are times I despair of humanity, but then I remember that Caitlin Doughty, and her mission to give us options around death, demystifying and removing stigma around death, and the death “process” and the issues with the death “business” exists, IN the public eye, and she has a following and viewers, and I have to love that.......there’s still hope for us as a species in a world where Caitlin is popular
Caitlin Doughty is a force of nature. Absolutely inspiring on so very many levels.
caitlyn loves answering questions and i love that.. we need teachers and healthcare workers like her desperately. no question is stupid. her teaching skills and honestly and love for helping people is . is all the qualities lacking in these professions. i just adore her
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Love Caitlin Doughty! It's as if Vincent Price, and Bettie Page had a love child!
Such a fantastic interview! Every Caitlin fan should watch this one.
So glad you had Caitlin on! ❤️
Caitlyn, I LOVE YOUR BOOKS!!!!!
Catlin, your amazing and thank you for not being afraid to educate your viewers. Your a beautiful, talented woman.
Welcome congratulations great work very interesting ones Caitlyn keep up the good work news as well Facebook and Twitter. 😅😇 outstanding
Loved this interview. Love me some Caitlin Doughty. Smoke Gets In Your Eyes is one of my favorite books. Thank you :).
I love caitlin! Been a huge fan of her RUclips channel for quite some time now. Love the idea of breaking the stigma attached to death and helping many lessen their fear of death...plus she'll make ya giggle. Haven't had the pleasure of reading any of her books but it's definitely high on my to do list!! ❤
Hell yes, fellow teen librarian.
Dear miss Doughty I’m 68 and I’m saving my money to hopefully have someone like you to care for my remains you are an angel of our time
My family has always been on the look out for death. I guess it was ingrained in us. I had a grave giving to me by my great grandfather. I have buried almost all my family, and I have helped people who didn't know anything about funerals. I also am trained in flower arrangements so I have done plenty of them for lots of funerals. Death positivity for sure, Catlyin has taught me more then I knew.
I so enjoyed this interview!
Thank you!!
Caitlin's awesome!
I just found this interview...Caitlin is wonderful! I am reading book 3 now.
Thank you for having her.
Really fun interview! Some fantastic questions, not the same old ones. Very refreshing!
I love Caitlin!
Tellement intéressante drôle éducative. So happy to discover Catlin xx thanks
I think if you are a parent and getting on in years, it is important to have these things written down for your children. My mother had an Advanced Directive, that she had given to me 5 or 6 years prior. I never read it because it was too depressing to even think about and stuck it in a drawer with some papers; and never actually came across it until I needed it, strangely. My mother received a cancer diagnosis and was told she had 6 months; she actually only had three weeks. One week after the diagnosis, she had a stroke and couldn't use her legs. I was called and it took me an hour to convince her to go to the hospital. She was refusing to go because she didn't want to die there. After 3 days, she could no longer eat. Her last meal was a pumpkin muffin I fed her. The hospital wanted to tube feed her, but I knew she had an advanced directive. Where on earth was it? I went home, opened my desk drawer, and there it was!!! On top of everything! I grabbed it and read it, and was able to successfully argue with 5 administrators against radiation, tube feeding, etc. I had her converted to hospice, and brought her home, against the will of the hospital I might add. She was still coherent when we brought her home, so I was able to show her I kept my promise and brought her home, and she could see herself in her own bedroom mirror. We just took her bed out and had a hospital bed and oxygen moved in. This was onn a Thursday. She died on that Saturday morning at 5 am.
I am tellin you all of this because, if she had not had a living will, and advanced directive; if she hadn't taken the time to tell me where she wanted to be buried, the hymns she wanted, everything! It would've gone very differently. She would've died in the hospital stuck with tubes, hating it, and I wouldn't have had the power to fight these people. They looked at her as a case, not a person. They had scheduled radiation on Monday for a person that couldn't even eat any longer. When I told her Cancer Doctor that she had passed, she thanked me for doing what I did; she thanked me for going with my own instinct that my mother was out of time and had to come home. She said they get so intent on fighting the cancer they lose sight of the person.
Have a funeral plan. Have an advanced directive.
Thank you for sharing your own experience on this! I think you're 100% right - Powers of Attorney, wills, Advanced Directives etc provide hugely valuable information and clarity at a time when we may otherwise be too distracted or grieving to think clearly, and can help a family have much greater confidence that they're respecting their loved one's wishes.
I think a lot of us don't prioritize death planning because we're scared to think about the end, or other things feel higher priority, or we just find it too big to tackle? But it's a lot more important than we think... Wish education for young people included some death positivity
AND a bit of info about why end of life planning is something you'll want to include in your later "adulting"?
What a wonderful child any parent would be proud to have. The hospital knew she was going to die. My guess is she had good health insurance or owned property. Medicine is a business They see death every day. I doubt her insurance paid for a hospital bed for your home.
@@finalflowerchild well. Actually they did. I was teaching medical billing at the time, and so it wasn't difficult for me to appeal denials, file insurance commission complaints, etc. Plus I made sure she took out good secondary insurance to ensure everything would be covered.
@@wmnoffaith1 I agree with all this. This isn't my post. There are many others that have my name.When I was in grade school the teacher would say "Vickie" and 3 girls would turn their heads.
Love Caitlin!
53:29, I wish the librarian answered this question to at 47:35 too. There were a couple more times i want to hear an answer from the librarian too. They have good chemistry. I like this interview. The librarian is a good interviewer, and Caitlyn is a good death positivity enthusiast.
Such an awesome interview, thank you!
Caitlin this would be good on the old podcasts if you have not totally abounded that format. Great job both
As always, great info and excitement for the good death!❤️
When I was a teen in the late 60's I wanted to learn about mortuary stuff. What did I find?? Ruth Farner's The High Cost of Dying. No help.
Years later I had a mortician friend who answered some of my questions and mimed the use of some of his tools.
You know you are in the right group of friends when you ask one if they have seen this awesome mortician chick's videos but they say no never heard of her but I just got this book sometimes smoke gets in your eyes and you LOL yeah dude that's her!
Ive been much more content since I started embracing my wierdness. Its never too late to be wierd!
Great interview! Stay safe and have a wonderful New Year. ❤
I defiantly agree with your saying Aesthetics helping you in your career choices. Was more macabre in my early trash warrior eco freak years, Iv come to grow from there, developing a strong interests in animal conservation, and now want to persue Zoology, which more accompanies my overall vibe these days I think.
I love this story
Her smile melts my heart ❤️ 🥹
loved the interview!
I always wanted to be a librarian and my Mother always told be I should be a Mortician. I went to film school, floral design school, and am now working in tech support...
I'm not your Mother, but go for it, be a librarian.
ponytail caitlin is extra charismatic xD
0:33, i like how she looks like a young Lizza Minelli.
Caitlin doesn't believe in God. I do. So as Genesis explains, we are above all other animals. But I still love her and agree with Death Positivity and Green burials! I found my Daughter dead.😥😪😭 in 2017... I hugged her, talked with her, cried my eyes out. I knew she wasn't there, but I felt better for doing so.
Cypress College, down in Orange County, has an accredited mortuary science major. Google says that there are 15 community colleges around that have this. I can't swear to anything but it might be worth checking out.
Cypress is where Caitlin went, I think.
It is my alma mater and was kind of a point of pride.
I already have two Masters degrees but I kind of want to study mortuary sciences.
You adjusted your bangs 1000 times in this video.
5:23, a librarian or librarian assistant?
The interviewer reminds me of a north American robin.
Caitlin is a good speaker yet her host wiggles, squiggles, gesticulates ,bounces etc. It's entertaining.🥴
Wow, the girl in the yellow has "resting disappointed face" ot something lol She definitely needs to smile more often! 🤣
that was an incredibly unnecessary comment mate
What a weird comment.. I was actually thinking how happy she looked both with her nice smile and her yellow sweater.
You want her to distort her natural expression and adopt a fake expression? To me she looks like she is listening and processing what she hears.
Speaking as one who is often told to smile, 1) some of us were born scowling and see no reason to change, 2) some of us are working out in whatever little ways we can, and 3) I don't know about anyone else, but when I do smile a lot, people ask what is wrong with me. It's a big world. If you don't like her face, look somewhere else.