Ha! Correct, stress is inevitable but avoidable or unnecessary stress, I avoid it or ignore whoever is trying to bring unnecessary stress. I prioritize my mental and emotional well being first, doing this has helped me minimize personal and professional work stress
All facts! Pretty privilege isn't always inherent. It takes maintenance, and lots of it! I'm big into fitness, and I always see the comments on fitness influencers' pages saying they're "lucky", or it's "genetics", whole time, that girl is putting in lots of work at the gym and discipline with her diet. And even after they get their dream body, they still put in lots of hours per week keeping it up. Leaning how to do different makeup looks and figuring out what looks best on you takes hours of studying makeup tutorials, lots of practice, money to buy the makeup, keeping up with makeup trends and techniques, skincare routines etc. People see the final result and automatically assume the person "has it easy". But when presented with that person's maintenance routine, it's "doing too much".
Exactly! Even the small details. For example I noticed I do a better job with an eyeliner pencil or even an eyeliner brush rather than liquid eyeliner. That’s something that can only be learned through practice and experience
Never underestimate the importance of lifestyle choices in looks and good aging. Limit sugar intake and processed foods, exercise regularly and avoid smoking, drinking alcohol and drugs. Stay out of the sun, even with sunscreen on, wear a hat. Use retinol and cleanse your skin before bed.This habits will compound over time and you’ll be looking 10-15 years younger after 40. The younger you start the better. I’m a childfree 39 year old neonatologist who gets told that looks 25-30 almost on a daily basis. I learnt this in med school and I committed to live by those habits, it’s paid off BIG TIME.
I second this! Cultivating good habits early on is key! I’m 39 and turning 40 this year as well and definitely don’t look it - nobody believes my age 🤭 I look better and am fitter now than when I was in my 20s! Eat Clean food, keep up with your HYDRATION, supplements, low to zero alcohol … minimize inflammatory foods. Be VERY selective about who you allow in your circle - decrease stress as much as possible. Exercise. Be joyful! Wear your SPF! Also, expand your mind too, keep your mind active and learn new things. It won’t matter how young you look if your mind is mush 🤣
@@xoxo.daviii I love the sun too, but sunscreen can only buy you a few minutes of safe exposure, eventually it starts to degrade and produce toxic substances to your skin, wearing a wide brim hat extends the lifespan of your sunscreen and prevents the oxidation of your skin by the products of sunscreen’s reaction with sunlight. If you can use sunglasses to protect your eyes’ natural lenses it would be great too. Trust me it has been the greatest discovery of my skincare journey, I’ve seen hundreds of people that rely only on sunscreen to protect their skin and they still exhibit a lot of photoaging and sun damage.
The girl at 0:48 was my high school friend she had a lot of haters as we both did. I would constantly remind her how valuable she was because ppl would chip away at her self esteem. I remember girls hated her for no reason and try to expose her for wearing extensions and wigs (her mom was a hair stylist so her hair was always on point!) and because of that girls would make fun of her. But then about a year or 2 those same ppl who would make fun of her were the same people who were wearing wigs when they became “cool” to wear. She was just ahead of the game. She was also very talented she had a voice of an angel but a lot of women hated her for no reason.
Not one person, but society at large shamed me into thinking that long acrylic nails and nail art were bad and that only shallow women wore them. Then in my late twenties I finally realized, “I’m a well rounded person who reads Gothic literature and can get dirty with rigorous hikes, I’ll wear fake nails if I want to dammit!”
I get monthly facials, bimonthly chemical peels, yearly Botox, wear microlinks, and get laser hair removal all so I can be a bit lazy some days. It’s helped so much because I know for a fact that I ALWAYS look put together, even when I’m not in the mood 😂 My beauty is my hobby and my week is filled with gym five times a week, pole dancing, jewelry making, taking an art history class and training to be a yoga instructor. I’m super busy so I don’t spend much time worrying about other people tbh. It’s really nice.
100% I was ugly growing up lol! My mom was always beautiful and fabulous and so was my grandma. They still are. I just didn’t take care of myself or appear feminine because I was a huge tomboy. I eventually started to run track and field, got great at that, got into shape, and now post undergrad I get to the gym five times a week, am fitter than I’ve ever been, and feel the most beautiful I’ve ever been! People from high school or even early college see me now and are wowed at how fit and beautiful I am, but it’s really hard work! I always wanted to be the pretty girl in any room and I finally feel that way. This channel makes me feel validated in my beauty so much ❤
@@lester2588 Girl you will get there!!! It takes consistency and UE is so right about making it a hobby because then it’s something fun you’re doing for yourself while also leveling up! Start small, start anywhere, and keep it up 💕 you got this.
@@littlemisssunshine5305 Absolutely 💯 I’m currently dealing with issues related to mental illness, which makes it hard for me to keep up with life in general, depending on the day. But I won’t give up. This is my one and only life & I too deserve to level up 👸🏽💅🏽 I’m so grateful for my husband because he basically drags me to the gym with him. Most of the time I want to stay in my room. But once I get there, I always feel much better & motivated to keep going. I really like that we have this channel to encourage us to move forward one day at a time. The best is yet to come 💐
When I wear a small hand bag & certain dresses, new hair style - I get a mental freedom. I was so embarrassed about about my broad shoulders growing up. I’ve entered into a new arena of loving myself & just being! I enjoy my life so much more now. Decentring men have been a huge part of this for me ( this channel). I love being single, I can do exactly what I want when I want. No thoughts of what men think of it! I’m so so so much more happier! Genuinely!! I’m me!
I want to say thank you for helping us not be afraid to hide our beauty. Your videos have definitely convinced me to privilege stack and increase my pretty privilege. I have literally never worn makeup because of the fact that people have told me that I do not need it and part of me was afraid that I may not like my natural beauty if I try it, but soon I am going to try and experiment with makeup for the first time.
Yes! And you can always do natural looking makeup too! I noticed I prefer more of the natural glowy makeup rather than Smokey eyes and heavy eyeliner etc
I just added getting regular facials to my beauty routine. I’ve been lazy about it in the past because I’ve always had nice skin . Now that I’m 50, I realize that I need to put in more effort to look “ effortlessly “ pretty .
Hard to hear, but necessary. I looked my best in my early 20s. I was in college, did work study, went to extracurricular activities and clubs, exercised 5-6 days a week, walked to classes daily. Found a girl on campus to do my hair, did my face routine every night, etc. When I came home and had to work, I gave up all of that and that’s when my esteem took a further nosedive. I was stressed, tired, and financially insecure. It’s been a struggle to find balance again. Let’s not talk about the fupa! Pray for me y’all. Excellent conversation.
I wished. Early 40s because I have more $ and time to work out 🏋️♂️. My body is still the same just more muscle definition, and a boob job, went from. B to a C. Nobody notice but me. You’ll change your mind once you get to 30, 40 and so on.
@@peacelove7437wow! I feel you. When I was taking care of myself, I had a few guys flirt, but that was it. How do you feel? Are you confident? Are you getting compliments or stares or flirting? Btw, I just turned 50 this past January. I’ve been through the ups and down during my 30s and 40s. Now, at 50, I want to reconnect with my feminine side and commit to it for me. I definitely resonate with the message of repressing myself due to religion, sexual harassment from the guys, attention, etc. I’m tired of hiding now.
I agree!❤️ be the main character of your own life. Your beauty should be for you more than anyone else. Do what makes you feel good no matter what the haters say 😏
omg thats amazing! when I get old I am definitely going to get a face lift. i know one lady in my hometown who got one she is in her late 60s. when she got the facelift she looked 40 again 🤯 i was like omg thats so cool! 😂 and OMG IM OBSESSED WITH BOTOX ! im about to get some botox this week in a new area, it looks so cool! no one notices my botox except me but who cares, i'm doing it for myself anyway and it DOES make me look more like how i did in college 😭
@@ExoticalsUnitedI’m 43 and had my facelift when I was 41. It’s amazing and made me look so refreshed and 25 again. Better to do it younger the first time. I’ll do it again in 10-15 years.
Yes I upped my water I take drastically, I got one of those water bottles with the measurements on it and it helps. Also I started doing the Ethiopian hair butter treatment, which made my hair so soft ❤
If I woke up and was a 10/10, I’d start a bunch of businesses and make myself the face of all of them. Like Kimora, Rihanna and Kim. 💗 and that’s exactly what I’m working on.
If anyone here suffers from hormonal acne and melasma- I asked my dermatologist for and she put me on tretinoin retinol and spironolactone. Please look these up- they worked wonders in 3 months. Nothing has every cleared my skin up like this- acne. Gone. Melasma. Gone. 😊. I was so sad over how my skin was looking and was starting to hide. If this is you, please look this up and make an appointment- prescription only...
OH MY GOSH YES! The only caution I’d give though, spironolactone affects the menstrual cycle so it’s best to try and take it at the same time everyday in order to keep your cycle on track ,DO NOT GET PREGNANT while taking it as it can affect the fetus especially if it’s a male, also limit potassium rich foods ex ripe bananas potatoes etc. Tretinoin is VERY strong so always wear a good sunblock and balance with gentle moisturizers.
this is why when people say psychology and sociology are "pseudosciences" , they can continue thinking that but those that know how society and people work will get further in life 🤣
36:10 I have always found that the most brutal encounters have come from other women who have not taken the time to work on themselves and appreciate their own uniqueness. Not discounting that men carry their own envious nature against women along with being overzealous and entitled but I’ve realized too early in life that there is no one more intent on being dangerous than women who haven’t given themselves the chance to nourish their self perception with positivity. Ugly spirited people are always on the ready to try to be damaging. Whether openly or passive aggressively, they will make remarks about their disdain on looks, hair, clothes, lifestyle, display of high intelligence, and speaking eloquently is usually taken as an invitation to display harshness towards those who show what makes them feel small. It’s wild when those people will use their own lack of self esteem to verbally, mentally, emotionally, and in extreme cases, physically abuse another for what they naturally have and elevated themselves.
I binge listen to your videos at work. I'm not an exoticals but I have some pretty privilege and I was raised by humbling, churchy parents so I have to come to terms with the social power I hold and make sense of the attacks and weird interactions I had because of my looks and the 'be humble' background. I was a people pleaser, cool girl, pick me and overly nice so people would not see me as a mean girl. I love how you aren't gatekeepingand encouraging pretty girls to be all-round powerful. I started my RUclips channel. Not gonna do beauty tutorials but other types of creativity. I'm so excited! Thank you for the encouragement!
I agree with you about the RUclips channels - we need more voices like yours to shift the cultural paradigm and societal standing of women. Since we have the plague of the dusty podcast bros
Thank you for making the slideshow represent all kinds of beautiful women not just the celebrities/models ❤ also thank you for validating the pretty privilege experience.
I came to realization that I love the beauty of Afro Caribbean/ Afro Latin (example, Afro Cuban, Afro Dominican, Afro Brazilian and of course my highest mixture Afro Trinidadian ) I personally believe their beauty lines up to my body type, my face structure and my hair. I invest in my beauty to obtain that type of “island girl” beauty and its working . I’m seeing results at work and whenever I’m out and about. This channel has really help me embrace the beauty I hid for years. Mixed and proud ❤!
@@femdivinemind7777 yup! I honestly believe it’s such a vibe. There are many types of island beauty because each island is different ( Jamaica being one of my favorite btw) and being from Trinidad we have such a beautiful island vibe to us. It’s beautiful, I love us!
Yes, when you adorn yourself you're appreciating yourself! When you take care of yourself and you love yourself that shows and amplifies your pretty privilege.
This video has for real changed my life for the better! I love the way you broke down the different questions to ask myself regarding what privileges I want, what am I jealous of, etc. This could be a whole course because knowing your desires helps drive you on a clear path towards getting them. The past month I've explored these things and took action (not repressing my beauty, being disciplined in my beauty hobbies, analyzing my internal beauty standard and my desired privileges). Amazing video and keep this series going :)
this video is an example of how lipstick alley people don't even watch your videos frfr. you give advice that all people of all races & complexions can benefit from!❤
5:22 this is so true! The best I looked ever was almost a year ago when I started community college. I just came back from a concert the day before which was fun, my hair was done in braids, I started doing my makeup more often too. I was also walking to school so that was my exercise lol, I ate pretty healthy, I lost weight, had a skincare routine, and I started to have good grades again. I’m gonna try and get back to that. 😭
This is too true. It’s work making sure you stay beautiful 🤩 and it’s for myself- and it’s changed my life. Not for everybody it’s a lot of discipline- especially if you have natural Afro textured hair- have a propensity to gain weight- you gotta walk A LOT- taking vitamins - giving yourself hair masks - eating healthier- I listen to a lot of motivational speakers- philosophy- spiritual- affirmations- getting your nails done and pedicures- positivity and good energy and good vibes- great skincare regimen and then we have careers- moms who take care of our family - you name it ❤it’s a way of life . But it’s a labor of love ❤️ to fall in love with yourself - i romanticize myself - big time and it’s awesome 😎
You have no idea how much your videos encourage me! I was feeling a bit low lately but tonight itself, I will do my skincare routine, moisturize my whole body and paint my nails.❤
Hi! I just wanted to say i really enjoy your content, and i agree with almost 100% of what you speak of. I am a believer and follower of Jesus Christ, and there is something that has really been on my heart to say to you. All of the hurt and trauma you experienced in the "church" was not the of the true and living God. God created the earth and everything inside the earth, including BEAUTY. It pleased the Lord to make women beautiful, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be beautiful, so don't equate negative thoughts about beauty taught to you with the Lord Jesus Christ, the Word says that God shines forth perfect in beauty. Beauty is of God. Return to Him, be yourself. God Loves you so much, and he doesn't want to lose you to your pass hurts from people. God loves you, He has rest for you, not what you experienced when you were in the religious spirit, He doesn't need your works, He just wants a relationship with YOU, and everything else will follow.
Beautifully written! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Thank you for the words of encouragement, even though they were not directed towards me specifically. I still appreciate them. God bless you 🙏🏽❤️
I am an east African man and i never used skin care and hair products and when ever I meet west African guy asks me what I use for my hair and they can't believe my answer, and my skin glows everyday, thanks mon and dad
Thank you EU for the beauty tips. I’m taking care of my skin and hair. I’ve really been falling in love with my natural skin without makeup because now I’ve cleared my hyperpigmentation. I can actually just go out without makeup. Also, with my hair since using the mask you suggested , I've noticed my hair starting to grow longer and thicker, so I'm going to start letting it out.
@12:30---Was just talking about this today with some friends, which is why I have started working out regularly. I appreciate pretty dresses, certain fashions and colors and I would like to wear them more often.
Having kids isn’t a legacy AT ALL imo. What’s left behind for your kids can be part of your legacy though. Procreating is simply creating a lineage, not a legacy
Right. If you need to birth new people to leave YOUR legacy it’s because you never had one in the first place and you’re hoping for a redo with the kids
The problem is there is a whole mess of language not being used correctly when discussing these topics - lineage vs legacy is one that needs to be picked apart. 👏🏾💯
Thank you for your perspectives. I def believe, any woman talking about beauty privilege would cause people wanting to silence it lol. Cuz yea how dare you try to get prettier lol. This helps me to embrace instead of glowing myself down to fit in. i've felt inner jealousy too over a womans look because I wish i looked like her. My dad said my nose rings were ugly. I took them out. Even though they were dainty and cute. Male friends prefer my natural hair so I try not to flat iron. lmao crazy... I'm slim tryna put on mass, so people ask why am i going to gym... lol I'm bout to bust out.
back in HighSchool I had such bad acne it was giving pizza face but I still got lots of attention from people especially boys and a lot of girls didn’t like that…😂 definitely had lots of bullies and haters growing up, even girls I was friends with at some point turned out to be my biggest enemies unfortunately. I always knew I had pretty privilege, I was born beautiful and I’m proud to admit that. On top of pretty privilege I’m naturally beautiful I hate makeup, I’ve only worn it twice in my 21 years of life and the times that I did wear it, it broke out my face smh. Idk how girls wear makeup, I give y’all credit! I am grateful God made me the way that I am. one thing that helped me get rid of my acne completely was I stopped eating MEAT. I haven’t eaten a piece of meat since 2017, which was 7 years ago. Once I stopped eating meat my skin started becoming softer, clearer, more glowy. Growing up, I was very picky about my food especially when it came to meat. So when I stopped eating it all together, I felt relief. I was like this whole time meat was the cause of my bad hormonal acne, smh… I still love my cheese though but don’t eat it as often as I used too. I mainly eat now fish, eggs, potatoes, greens, fruits, bread, pasta, etc. I’ve always had a fast metabolism my whole life and a naturally petite/slim thick body which I’m very grateful for that as well. But great video girl ❤
I feel like we kinda lived the same life - just the part you posted obvs I don't know your whole life lol but I'm older now - I started wearing makeup at 21 so I'm giving you advice (that you didn't ask for and might not need but here goes lol) when it comes to makeup...just don't. Invest in your skin (take supplements, improve diet , drink distilled/ spring water only, get a filter for your shower/taps , get a dermatologist/derm recommended skin care ) ....but keep makeup off your skin and pay attention to keeping your skin barrier healthy. I had teen acne but really could have saved myself if I never started wearing makeup everyday or started using harsh chemicals on my face...❤
@@femdivinemind7777 I don’t wear makeup love. I’ve only worn it twice in my life (for prom and my moms wedding) I hate the way it smells and irritates my skin. I’ve worked too damn hard on my skin to get this clear after years of having acne to ever mess it up by wearing nasty chemically makeup lmao. but thx for the advice. have a blessed day. 🙏🏽
Thankyou for this video it’s really changed my perspective of things and I’ve realised I do need to work on myself to feel at my fullest this was an amazing video and your channel has helped me so much as a darker skinned girl and I’ve learnt lots Thankyou for your videos ❤
53:03 It’s a hard rub to be pretty to those who don’t believe they’re special so they will want you to minimize your own beauty in a way that is digestible for them. I can’t subscribe to that nonsense.
I used to be so ott with things like this now i definitely feel like its laziness thats got the better of me ....🙆🏾♀️ ...the fact i got the same hair as the thumbnail...😂
UAWW here- i adore your content. it's life changing the way you are able to read the fine print!! you definitely have what it takes to shift a lot of people's paradigms. thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom🤍
Stress from family and other humans destroy a woman’s beauty and it takes many years to rise up and heal and fix ones beauty
No joke! I wish I had learned this before.
Facts! Currently experiencing it 😞😞😞
Ha! Correct, stress is inevitable but avoidable or unnecessary stress, I avoid it or ignore whoever is trying to bring unnecessary stress. I prioritize my mental and emotional well being first, doing this has helped me minimize personal and professional work stress
My experience, I’m so much prettier now that I stay away from family.
Ah tell me about it
All facts! Pretty privilege isn't always inherent. It takes maintenance, and lots of it! I'm big into fitness, and I always see the comments on fitness influencers' pages saying they're "lucky", or it's "genetics", whole time, that girl is putting in lots of work at the gym and discipline with her diet. And even after they get their dream body, they still put in lots of hours per week keeping it up. Leaning how to do different makeup looks and figuring out what looks best on you takes hours of studying makeup tutorials, lots of practice, money to buy the makeup, keeping up with makeup trends and techniques, skincare routines etc. People see the final result and automatically assume the person "has it easy". But when presented with that person's maintenance routine, it's "doing too much".
Exactly! Even the small details. For example I noticed I do a better job with an eyeliner pencil or even an eyeliner brush rather than liquid eyeliner. That’s something that can only be learned through practice and experience
Never underestimate the importance of lifestyle choices in looks and good aging. Limit sugar intake and processed foods, exercise regularly and avoid smoking, drinking alcohol and drugs. Stay out of the sun, even with sunscreen on, wear a hat. Use retinol and cleanse your skin before bed.This habits will compound over time and you’ll be looking 10-15 years younger after 40. The younger you start the better. I’m a childfree 39 year old neonatologist who gets told that looks 25-30 almost on a daily basis. I learnt this in med school and I committed to live by those habits, it’s paid off BIG TIME.
Omg I need to get a retinol lotion!
The ordinary is a good start, love your channel ! ❤
I second this! Cultivating good habits early on is key! I’m 39 and turning 40 this year as well and definitely don’t look it - nobody believes my age 🤭 I look better and am fitter now than when I was in my 20s! Eat Clean food, keep up with your HYDRATION, supplements, low to zero alcohol … minimize inflammatory foods. Be VERY selective about who you allow in your circle - decrease stress as much as possible. Exercise. Be joyful! Wear your SPF! Also, expand your mind too, keep your mind active and learn new things. It won’t matter how young you look if your mind is mush 🤣
i love being in the sun though, it makes me so happy 😢 I always wear tons of sunscreen though so I’m good.
@@xoxo.daviii I love the sun too, but sunscreen can only buy you a few minutes of safe exposure, eventually it starts to degrade and produce toxic substances to your skin, wearing a wide brim hat extends the lifespan of your sunscreen and prevents the oxidation of your skin by the products of sunscreen’s reaction with sunlight. If you can use sunglasses to protect your eyes’ natural lenses it would be great too. Trust me it has been the greatest discovery of my skincare journey, I’ve seen hundreds of people that rely only on sunscreen to protect their skin and they still exhibit a lot of photoaging and sun damage.
The girl at 0:48 was my high school friend she had a lot of haters as we both did. I would constantly remind her how valuable she was because ppl would chip away at her self esteem. I remember girls hated her for no reason and try to expose her for wearing extensions and wigs (her mom was a hair stylist so her hair was always on point!) and because of that girls would make fun of her. But then about a year or 2 those same ppl who would make fun of her were the same people who were wearing wigs when they became “cool” to wear. She was just ahead of the game. She was also very talented she had a voice of an angel but a lot of women hated her for no reason.
She’s a somali tiktoker
She’s Somali ❤ her name is jija right or khadija she’s on TikTok
@@capricornlayanna3828 yeah she is
I can't stress enough how valuable this content is.
Thanks for watching ! ❤️
Not one person, but society at large shamed me into thinking that long acrylic nails and nail art were bad and that only shallow women wore them. Then in my late twenties I finally realized, “I’m a well rounded person who reads Gothic literature and can get dirty with rigorous hikes, I’ll wear fake nails if I want to dammit!”
I get monthly facials, bimonthly chemical peels, yearly Botox, wear microlinks, and get laser hair removal all so I can be a bit lazy some days. It’s helped so much because I know for a fact that I ALWAYS look put together, even when I’m not in the mood 😂
My beauty is my hobby and my week is filled with gym five times a week, pole dancing, jewelry making, taking an art history class and training to be a yoga instructor. I’m super busy so I don’t spend much time worrying about other people tbh. It’s really nice.
Omg that’s amazing ! 😻
Wheww everything she said about cortisol was SO real.
I had to get my priorities right. Job stress was making me ugly
omg when i quit my job i instantly lost 5 lbs 😂
100% I was ugly growing up lol! My mom was always beautiful and fabulous and so was my grandma. They still are. I just didn’t take care of myself or appear feminine because I was a huge tomboy. I eventually started to run track and field, got great at that, got into shape, and now post undergrad I get to the gym five times a week, am fitter than I’ve ever been, and feel the most beautiful I’ve ever been! People from high school or even early college see me now and are wowed at how fit and beautiful I am, but it’s really hard work! I always wanted to be the pretty girl in any room and I finally feel that way. This channel makes me feel validated in my beauty so much ❤
Yasss, sister! That’s where I want to be soon ❤
@@lester2588 Girl you will get there!!! It takes consistency and UE is so right about making it a hobby because then it’s something fun you’re doing for yourself while also leveling up! Start small, start anywhere, and keep it up 💕 you got this.
@@littlemisssunshine5305 Absolutely 💯
I’m currently dealing with issues related to mental illness, which makes it hard for me to keep up with life in general, depending on the day.
But I won’t give up. This is my one and only life & I too deserve to level up 👸🏽💅🏽
I’m so grateful for my husband because he basically drags me to the gym with him. Most of the time I want to stay in my room. But once I get there, I always feel much better & motivated to keep going.
I really like that we have this channel to encourage us to move forward one day at a time. The best is yet to come 💐
When I wear a small hand bag & certain dresses, new hair style - I get a mental freedom. I was so embarrassed about about my broad shoulders growing up. I’ve entered into a new arena of loving myself & just being! I enjoy my life so much more now. Decentring men have been a huge part of this for me ( this channel). I love being single, I can do exactly what I want when I want. No thoughts of what men think of it! I’m so so so much more happier! Genuinely!! I’m me!
I want to say thank you for helping us not be afraid to hide our beauty. Your videos have definitely convinced me to privilege stack and increase my pretty privilege. I have literally never worn makeup because of the fact that people have told me that I do not need it and part of me was afraid that I may not like my natural beauty if I try it, but soon I am going to try and experiment with makeup for the first time.
Yes! And you can always do natural looking makeup too! I noticed I prefer more of the natural glowy makeup rather than Smokey eyes and heavy eyeliner etc
@@ExoticalsUnited I'll definitely be starting with the natural look first!
I just added getting regular facials to my beauty routine. I’ve been lazy about it in the past because I’ve always had nice skin . Now that I’m 50, I realize that I need to put in more effort to look
“ effortlessly “ pretty .
Love this message! Investment in your inner and outer beauty can be so rewarding when you prioritize self - preservation and abundance mindset 💖
exactly. i am all for self preservation
Hard to hear, but necessary. I looked my best in my early 20s. I was in college, did work study, went to extracurricular activities and clubs, exercised 5-6 days a week, walked to classes daily. Found a girl on campus to do my hair, did my face routine every night, etc. When I came home and had to work, I gave up all of that and that’s when my esteem took a further nosedive. I was stressed, tired, and financially insecure. It’s been a struggle to find balance again. Let’s not talk about the fupa! Pray for me y’all. Excellent conversation.
I wished. Early 40s because I have more $ and time to work out 🏋️♂️.
My body is still the same just more muscle definition, and a boob job, went from. B to a C. Nobody notice but me.
You’ll change your mind once you get to 30, 40 and so on.
@@peacelove7437wow! I feel you. When I was taking care of myself, I had a few guys flirt, but that was it. How do you feel? Are you confident? Are you getting compliments or stares or flirting? Btw, I just turned 50 this past January. I’ve been through the ups and down during my 30s and 40s. Now, at 50, I want to reconnect with my feminine side and commit to it for me. I definitely resonate with the message of repressing myself due to religion, sexual harassment from the guys, attention, etc. I’m tired of hiding now.
I agree!❤️ be the main character of your own life. Your beauty should be for you more than anyone else. Do what makes you feel good no matter what the haters say 😏
Exactly !
I’ve had a facelift and nose job. Also, Botox for the last 10 years. Best money I’ve ever spent 🤩🙌❤️
omg thats amazing! when I get old I am definitely going to get a face lift. i know one lady in my hometown who got one she is in her late 60s. when she got the facelift she looked 40 again 🤯 i was like omg thats so cool! 😂 and OMG IM OBSESSED WITH BOTOX ! im about to get some botox this week in a new area, it looks so cool! no one notices my botox except me but who cares, i'm doing it for myself anyway and it DOES make me look more like how i did in college 😭
@@ExoticalsUnitedI’m 43 and had my facelift when I was 41. It’s amazing and made me look so refreshed and 25 again. Better to do it younger the first time. I’ll do it again in 10-15 years.
I am guessing u are white. Facelift at 40 is young but if u are white I can see why.
Yes I upped my water I take drastically, I got one of those water bottles with the measurements on it and it helps. Also I started doing the Ethiopian hair butter treatment, which made my hair so soft ❤
If I woke up and was a 10/10, I’d start a bunch of businesses and make myself the face of all of them. Like Kimora, Rihanna and Kim. 💗 and that’s exactly what I’m working on.
That’s a great goal!
Exactly my goal! I’m even thinking of putting my face on some of the items too😂
If anyone here suffers from hormonal acne and melasma- I asked my dermatologist for and she put me on tretinoin retinol and spironolactone. Please look these up- they worked wonders in 3 months. Nothing has every cleared my skin up like this- acne. Gone. Melasma. Gone. 😊. I was so sad over how my skin was looking and was starting to hide. If this is you, please look this up and make an appointment- prescription only...
OH MY GOSH YES! The only caution I’d give though, spironolactone affects the menstrual cycle so it’s best to try and take it at the same time everyday in order to keep your cycle on track ,DO NOT GET PREGNANT while taking it as it can affect the fetus especially if it’s a male, also limit potassium rich foods ex ripe bananas potatoes etc.
Tretinoin is VERY strong so always wear a good sunblock and balance with gentle moisturizers.
Soooo true!!! Thanks for adding this!!! 😊
This video SERVES!!!! 100% my life experience. Taking my power back and recouping losts (with interest!) each and every single day. Thank you EU!
You're so welcome!
this is why when people say psychology and sociology are "pseudosciences" , they can continue thinking that but those that know how society and people work will get further in life 🤣
36:10 I have always found that the most brutal encounters have come from other women who have not taken the time to work on themselves and appreciate their own uniqueness.
Not discounting that men carry their own envious nature against women along with being overzealous and entitled but I’ve realized too early in life that there is no one more intent on being dangerous than women who haven’t given themselves the chance to nourish their self perception with positivity.
Ugly spirited people are always on the ready to try to be damaging.
Whether openly or passive aggressively, they will make remarks about their disdain on looks, hair, clothes, lifestyle, display of high intelligence, and speaking eloquently is usually taken as an invitation to display harshness towards those who show what makes them feel small.
It’s wild when those people will use their own lack of self esteem to verbally, mentally, emotionally, and in extreme cases, physically abuse another for what they naturally have and elevated themselves.
I love wearing , and dyeing my hair all the shades of 💙 🩵 . Because my favorite color is BLUE 👀
Finding it out that you’re not alone, being scared to look beautiful. Not anymore. Stay pretty ladies ❤
I binge listen to your videos at work. I'm not an exoticals but I have some pretty privilege and I was raised by humbling, churchy parents so I have to come to terms with the social power I hold and make sense of the attacks and weird interactions I had because of my looks and the 'be humble' background. I was a people pleaser, cool girl, pick me and overly nice so people would not see me as a mean girl.
I love how you aren't gatekeepingand encouraging pretty girls to be all-round powerful. I started my RUclips channel. Not gonna do beauty tutorials but other types of creativity. I'm so excited!
Thank you for the encouragement!
I agree with you about the RUclips channels - we need more voices like yours to shift the cultural paradigm and societal standing of women. Since we have the plague of the dusty podcast bros
Yes! Let’s make the RUclips algorithm a little bit classier and a little bit prettier 😻
I love trying new braid styles and investing in skincare and makeup. I'm trying to get back to my fitness goals.
Thank you for making the slideshow represent all kinds of beautiful women not just the celebrities/models ❤ also thank you for validating the pretty privilege experience.
Yes I’m trying to not make celebrities the only beauty standard !
I came to realization that I love the beauty of Afro Caribbean/ Afro Latin (example, Afro Cuban, Afro Dominican, Afro Brazilian and of course my highest mixture Afro Trinidadian ) I personally believe their beauty lines up to my body type, my face structure and my hair. I invest in my beauty to obtain that type of “island girl” beauty and its working . I’m seeing results at work and whenever I’m out and about. This channel has really help me embrace the beauty I hid for years. Mixed and proud ❤!
Yes, I love Afro Carribbeans
"Island Girl Beauty" as an aesthetic is actually a winner...I'm Jamaican (born in the UK) and I never even thought about it in that way...😂
@@femdivinemind7777 yup! I honestly believe it’s such a vibe. There are many types of island beauty because each island is different ( Jamaica being one of my favorite btw) and being from Trinidad we have such a beautiful island vibe to us. It’s beautiful, I love us!
@@Mixedtrini777 I love us too !! 🤗🥰💯💕
Yes, when you adorn yourself you're appreciating yourself! When you take care of yourself and you love yourself that shows and amplifies your pretty privilege.
i wish this video was out when i was in highschool but im glad ive found it now
This video has for real changed my life for the better! I love the way you broke down the different questions to ask myself regarding what privileges I want, what am I jealous of, etc. This could be a whole course because knowing your desires helps drive you on a clear path towards getting them. The past month I've explored these things and took action (not repressing my beauty, being disciplined in my beauty hobbies, analyzing my internal beauty standard and my desired privileges). Amazing video and keep this series going :)
this video is an example of how lipstick alley people don't even watch your videos frfr. you give advice that all people of all races & complexions can benefit from!❤
I'm trying to grow my hair in as well as longer (no weaves for me, thanks). Also slowly losing weight.
5:22 this is so true! The best I looked ever was almost a year ago when I started community college. I just came back from a concert the day before which was fun, my hair was done in braids, I started doing my makeup more often too. I was also walking to school so that was my exercise lol, I ate pretty healthy, I lost weight, had a skincare routine, and I started to have good grades again. I’m gonna try and get back to that. 😭
This is too true. It’s work making sure you stay beautiful 🤩 and it’s for myself- and it’s changed my life. Not for everybody it’s a lot of discipline- especially if you have natural Afro textured hair- have a propensity to gain weight- you gotta walk A LOT- taking vitamins - giving yourself hair masks - eating healthier- I listen to a lot of motivational speakers- philosophy- spiritual- affirmations- getting your nails done and pedicures- positivity and good energy and good vibes- great skincare regimen and then we have careers- moms who take care of our family - you name it ❤it’s a way of life . But it’s a labor of love ❤️ to fall in love with yourself - i romanticize myself - big time and it’s awesome 😎
My beauty hobby is taking good care of my physical and mental health by eating healthy food and doing yoga and pilates.
You have no idea how much your videos encourage me! I was feeling a bit low lately but tonight itself, I will do my skincare routine, moisturize my whole body and paint my nails.❤
You got this! ❤️
I constantly stress out, I'm 20 and have found 2 Grey hairs 😅 I don't mind looking like storm from the x-men though
Hi! I just wanted to say i really enjoy your content, and i agree with almost 100% of what you speak of. I am a believer and follower of Jesus Christ, and there is something that has really been on my heart to say to you. All of the hurt and trauma you experienced in the "church" was not the of the true and living God. God created the earth and everything inside the earth, including BEAUTY. It pleased the Lord to make women beautiful, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be beautiful, so don't equate negative thoughts about beauty taught to you with the Lord Jesus Christ, the Word says that God shines forth perfect in beauty. Beauty is of God. Return to Him, be yourself. God Loves you so much, and he doesn't want to lose you to your pass hurts from people. God loves you, He has rest for you, not what you experienced when you were in the religious spirit, He doesn't need your works, He just wants a relationship with YOU, and everything else will follow.
Beautifully written! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Thank you for the words of encouragement, even though they were not directed towards me specifically.
I still appreciate them.
God bless you 🙏🏽❤️
Wonderfully written words!!!
Thank you for sharing this. It really blessed me and gave me a sense of peace regarding beauty. God bless you!
I'm super lazy..but still pretty, lmao. JK! I do invest in my skincare!
I am an east African man and i never used skin care and hair products and when ever I meet west African guy asks me what I use for my hair and they can't believe my answer, and my skin glows everyday, thanks mon and dad
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Thank you EU for the beauty tips. I’m taking care of my skin and hair. I’ve really been falling in love with my natural skin without makeup because now I’ve cleared my hyperpigmentation. I can actually just go out without makeup. Also, with my hair since using the mask you suggested , I've noticed my hair starting to grow longer and thicker, so I'm going to start letting it out.
Next topic can u talk about the hatred of the upper class and aiming to that
I love my self care routine .
@12:30---Was just talking about this today with some friends, which is why I have started working out regularly. I appreciate pretty dresses, certain fashions and colors and I would like to wear them more often.
Having kids isn’t a legacy AT ALL imo. What’s left behind for your kids can be part of your legacy though. Procreating is simply creating a lineage, not a legacy
Right. If you need to birth new people to leave YOUR legacy it’s because you never had one in the first place and you’re hoping for a redo with the kids
The problem is there is a whole mess of language not being used correctly when discussing these topics - lineage vs legacy is one that needs to be picked apart. 👏🏾💯
Thank you for your perspectives. I def believe, any woman talking about beauty privilege would cause people wanting to silence it lol. Cuz yea how dare you try to get prettier lol. This helps me to embrace instead of glowing myself down to fit in. i've felt inner jealousy too over a womans look because I wish i looked like her. My dad said my nose rings were ugly. I took them out. Even though they were dainty and cute. Male friends prefer my natural hair so I try not to flat iron. lmao crazy... I'm slim tryna put on mass, so people ask why am i going to gym... lol I'm bout to bust out.
Exactly !
back in HighSchool I had such bad acne it was giving pizza face but I still got lots of attention from people especially boys and a lot of girls didn’t like that…😂 definitely had lots of bullies and haters growing up, even girls I was friends with at some point turned out to be my biggest enemies unfortunately. I always knew I had pretty privilege, I was born beautiful and I’m proud to admit that. On top of pretty privilege I’m naturally beautiful I hate makeup, I’ve only worn it twice in my 21 years of life and the times that I did wear it, it broke out my face smh. Idk how girls wear makeup, I give y’all credit! I am grateful God made me the way that I am. one thing that helped me get rid of my acne completely was I stopped eating MEAT. I haven’t eaten a piece of meat since 2017, which was 7 years ago. Once I stopped eating meat my skin started becoming softer, clearer, more glowy. Growing up, I was very picky about my food especially when it came to meat. So when I stopped eating it all together, I felt relief. I was like this whole time meat was the cause of my bad hormonal acne, smh… I still love my cheese though but don’t eat it as often as I used too. I mainly eat now fish, eggs, potatoes, greens, fruits, bread, pasta, etc. I’ve always had a fast metabolism my whole life and a naturally petite/slim thick body which I’m very grateful for that as well. But great video girl ❤
I feel like we kinda lived the same life - just the part you posted obvs I don't know your whole life lol but I'm older now - I started wearing makeup at 21 so I'm giving you advice (that you didn't ask for and might not need but here goes lol) when it comes to makeup...just don't. Invest in your skin (take supplements, improve diet , drink distilled/ spring water only, get a filter for your shower/taps , get a dermatologist/derm recommended skin care ) ....but keep makeup off your skin and pay attention to keeping your skin barrier healthy. I had teen acne but really could have saved myself if I never started wearing makeup everyday or started using harsh chemicals on my face...❤
@@femdivinemind7777 I don’t wear makeup love. I’ve only worn it twice in my life (for prom and my moms wedding) I hate the way it smells and irritates my skin. I’ve worked too damn hard on my skin to get this clear after years of having acne to ever mess it up by wearing nasty chemically makeup lmao. but thx for the advice. have a blessed day. 🙏🏽
Thankyou for this video it’s really changed my perspective of things and I’ve realised I do need to work on myself to feel at my fullest this was an amazing video and your channel has helped me so much as a darker skinned girl and I’ve learnt lots Thankyou for your videos ❤
I'm so happy I found this channel!!!! I love it!!!! ❤❤❤
53:03 It’s a hard rub to be pretty to those who don’t believe they’re special so they will want you to minimize your own beauty in a way that is digestible for them.
I can’t subscribe to that nonsense.
I used to be so ott with things like this now i definitely feel like its laziness thats got the better of me ....🙆🏾♀️ ...the fact i got the same hair as the thumbnail...😂
Thanks Exoticals your content has been a real blessing for so many of us.❤
Glad you enjoy it!
Love the title 😂❤
another banger 🩷💕
Beautifully said, thanks 🤍
Powerful video!!❤
I wondee how pretty privilege is viewed in the LGBT community?
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25:00 Speak on it!
National hair nazis 😂😂😂
But for real I have a looser hair texture and they assume it’s damaged or I have a relaxer like I’m natural too ?😂
omg yes!
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Maybe if you didn’t judge people your video would have gotten likes.
You probably lazy too.
UAWW here- i adore your content. it's life changing the way you are able to read the fine print!! you definitely have what it takes to shift a lot of people's paradigms. thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom🤍
Thank you so much!!
You are such a queen