Dear John: A Short Film about Emotional Abuse
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- Опубликовано: 12 дек 2018
- This video is meant as a short film/PSA about emotional abuse. The film follows Audrey and John as John begins to emotionally abuse Audrey in small controlling ways and eventually moves to full-on yelling and accusing.
Cast:
Allie Scott as Audrey
Garrett Smith as John
Special thanks to Garrett Smith and family for allowing us the use of their apartment.
When they say things like “I’ve done everything for you, I’ve sacrificed this and that for you and you’re not grateful” just because you decide to speak up when they scream and are criticizing everything you do is the ultimate emotional abuse red flag for me.
Agree, but sometimes it is well-intentioned when people say that.
Wait that's my stepmom OoO
When he said “you still don’t care” and walked away and she burst into tears...I’ve been in that position so many times.
As have I, and I was a productive, caring man.
Just curious. Did you?
Wow this happened to me so many times
'when have I ever been mean to you?', while yelling... I swear, everytime I have a moment where I am sad, he takes it as a personal offense that I'm just never happy. Like, lmao, wtf..
Sameeeeeeeeeeee
I know I m in the same boat with my boyfriend I can never be sad or feeling a little down he thinks I m over reaction he's been lazy don't want to go to the store himself I always have to drive I ask him to go to the store for me when I m not feeling well and he just says no you go or you drive and I ll go in for you it's so very frustrating
They know exactly what they are doing. When my abusive boyfriend said the exact same words, I played him back examples I had secretly recorded. I thought maybe if he heard it, he would realize what he was doing and stop. Instead he said it wasn't that bad and he could be even meaner. So escape while you can!
My dad does that! :D
I’m married to this.
I left an emotionally abusive 8-year relationship around 5 months ago. I didn't see the signs because I wanted to believe that everyone has flaws. I got in and out of depression, lost a lot of weight. Gradually over the years of being patient and trying my best, I started doing the same he did to me. I screamed and shouted more towards the end of the relationship. I lost my mother a few months before the break up, found out that whilst I was away to be with family, he was considering one night stands. Started accusing ME of cheating with his friends, friends that we've gamed with for 3 years. All of the controlling, the manipulating, the guild-tripping, over the years, and I still couldn't see the sign. Hear the same thing over and over again and eventually you started thinking that it's true, whatever he said. "I am worthless, I am selfish, etc." over and over in my head. Until one night during an argument in the kitchen, he grabbed a knife and his face twitched with anger, and he slammed it on the kitchen counter. I swore I thought I was going to die that night. And then I left. I didn't look back. Took friends to point out that the relationship was toxic for me to finally analyze things for what they were.
I'm alive, yes, but I didn't get away scot-free. The trauma still lingers. Thank you for the video, it hits close to home.
I understand everything you been through. I’m 5 years free. God bless you! Amen 🙏
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I'm married and my husband is controlling. He can buy what he likes , I'm not allowed to clean the house because his stuff is everywhere and I'm not allowed to touch it. I'm considering suicide right now as he rants at me saying I'm the unreasonable one. I will commit suicide but he thinks I'm just saying it.
If I could talk to my 17 year old self now …….. when they start this way, I assure you it only gets worse 💔 yours truly aged 49, 2 amazing daughters and totally free x
Sorry for what you went through :(
It is so beautiful when we are free and in peace. Thankyou Lord🙏
“You don’t care about my feelings at all”
That was intense
Or u don’t love me
I love that you used a biblical reference for this.
Awe, thank you!
1 Corinthians 13...the love chapter
There is only one way to love and the Bible says it all.
humbly ask for your prayers, tis is what I'm facing, asking for a gracious exit from God with everything provided🙏🙏🙏
Me too...a gentle reminder....
For reasons unknown I got into this video and it's so true. The worst about bring in an emotionally abusive relationship is that escaping is really hard because you don't realize where you are. I couldn't realize I was in one until months after leaving, "he always did so much for me and I never cared", "I was just thinking about myself and never cared about his feelings", he made me feel like a shitty person and was constantly critizing EVERY step I took. In a relationship like this, you are always the monster and he is a victim. Funny how that same Bible verse made me realize how it wasn't love
I recently got out of a toxic and emotionally abuse relationship like 4 months ago and it really does suck
As someone who was married to an emotionally abusive man, who was also unfaithful, this is a beautiful video capturing the differences between love & manipulation. The verse you chose is perfect, thank you for this work of art 💛
This was a very honest and real portrayal ... right down to the exact texts. Thank you
I have been treated this way for years now... completely lost myself and everything that made me happy because of it, but, he doesn't realize it. (and if he does then he is just pure evil...) Its made me change so much where I started to emulate some of the toxic behavior he displays towards me out of anger. Unfortunately he used this verse when he would wrong me and it made me feel like it never applied to me... I thank you for posting this. That verse IS what love should truly be. God Bless.
Omg, I’m going through exactly same thing. I am in the middle of the divorce now after only 6 months of my marriage. This video is exactly the version of him. People can be real ass I realize that.
he probably does realise what he is doing. he just makes it look like he doesnt to hold up the illusion better 😗✌🏻
This video and your comment resonate with me. I was in a relationship for 9 years. I am now 64 and feel I gave what we’re supposed to be the best years of my life and my happiness away. I also question if he realized what he was doing. About 3 years ago, I was so broken, that I packed to move out of state. He sobbed with such heaving sobs, and that haunts me. I did return, but i like you, became the reactive one with behaviors I am ashamed of. I appreciate you sharing that because I can only wonder if after so much abuse, is it common for people to turn it around. He ghosted me 8 months ago and has a new younger girlfriend he is living with. I am devastated, depressed, broken beyond repair. It is a year since you made your comment. I hope that you have found some resolution and peace. I pray for all of us.
This was going to be the verse/theme for our wedding. I had heard it at a fellowship and thought that was what brought us back together.
I was wrong.
His words of love were just words . I was in love with a fake. It has been a little over a month no contact.
@@joycethompson7179 I too feel like I've wasted the last 10 years of my life, with a man who, deep down, I know isn't worth it. I'm 57. We've broken up so many times I've lost count, usually it was about once a month, so 120 times over a 10 year period :-O I've never actually worked that out before and the figure astounds me. I decided to end things last Sunday, and yet I've got to see him tomorrow to collect some of my stuff that's at his house. He moved out of my house 4 years ago, on my insistence, and it wasn't easy to get him to go, or to let him go. We've carried on seeing each other ever since, but as I say, with the constant break-ups and get-back-togethers, it's been a hell of a rollercoaster ride! Things don't ever change, THEY don't ever change, I've come to realise he's a complete narcissist. He's helped me to make a right mess of my life, I've missed so many opportunities because of him, other relationships I've had the chances of; work-related stuff that I've not been able to undertake because he's mashed my head up emotionally; people I've wanted to spend time with and couldn't because of the backlash I'd get from him; things I've wanted us to do in our leisure time and he's point blank refused to accompany me. I could go on and on. I'm watching as many of these videos as I can atm, because I want to stay strong and stay away from him this time. Oh yes, he got physically abusive with me after about a month of us being together, and I was so angry with him and that anger has never really left me, after that it just seemed to give me free rein to get physical right back at him. I turned into a horrible person, trying to turn his own behaviour back on him. I hate to read that you feel you're broken beyond repair, I hope you can heal, and I hope you can get your life back and move forward. I'm hoping and praying that I can do the same. Love & light
My mother and I (also my siblings) were in an emotionally abusive household like this with my father, growing up was just us constantly taking blame for his problems. It was only when we got older we completely realised... He was the real problem.
So sorry to hear! Glad yo were able to realize that it was not your fault!
@@sarahbarnard8362 it's OK but we did realise it MUCH later in our life though, and it all started to make sense when we got older and realised (had a better understanding) of everything that was going on at the time.
Same here. I got older. Then I realized. It was around age 20
@@r011ing_thunder6 still a pretty young age, in fact I'm glad you realised it at that age.
this deserves more attention
Thank you so much!
Sometimes the mental abuse doesn't end when a relationship stop. Especially when there is kids involved. I still go through that out of my relationship and it drains you so much that you don't know what to do of your life anymore. You'll just try to stay strong so your kids don't suffer because of the situation
“you’re yelling at me? why are you yelling?” i started sobbing. I was raised by a grandma and mom who im pretty sure emotionally abused me.
I am so sorry no one should have to go through that
I’m sorry! :(
For me it’s my dad that I strongly suspect 😅
And you did not at all deserve what happened ((hugs))
John reacts the way a lot of people being abused lash out.
Though there were some that were dead on.
It was a good little short film.
Thank you!
Just a note.It's a myth that most abusers were abused in childhood, and it engenders pity for the abuser in a way that gets in the way of him getting help with his issue..which is that he is an Abuser. Plain and Simple. Society tends to believe this myth because it's hard to believe that someone who WASNT abused would act this way. We want to excuse the behaviour as a damaged response to childhood unhealed trauma because it's difficult to comprehend that some people would literally choose to hurt another simply because they can or they receive a charge from it or they're controlling, even that they are Evil. By far easier to think they are wounded but usually no. They are Abusers.
@@leahweinberger583 Exactly. There are people who grew up in abusive, toxic homes and realized that was wrong, so they never wanted to abuse others... but became kind and compassionate instead.
@@leahweinberger583 What do you base your comment on (It's a myth that most abusers were abused in childhood)?
@@NarnianLady not always, my husband was abused both physically and emotionally growing up many of his toxic behaviors were indeed learned behaviors ( taking to my sister in law, my brother in law would often use the exact words my husband used, they definitely had heard these things often). Yes there are plenty of abusers who were not abused, and there are people that come out of abusive situations and aren't abusers. And no abuse is not an excuse to abuse someone else.
But it's ok to have empathy for an abuser. They are usually lying to themselves, putting a mask of strength up because they are hurting so much. You can have empathy for them, but you still need to protect yourself.
I … am… floored. I am not alone. I am not crazy. Thank you, Sara.♥️🙏🏼
Currently going throught this but worse.... ty for your video
Sending this to a friend who is in the brink of leaving. Hopefully this is the last straw they need.
a lot of crap behavior stems from insecurity. a lot of toxic people are insecure and it shows in this short film too. be sure to look for the signs and stay safe out there!
Ahhh I've been in an emotionally abusive household for so long now I forgot that these things aren't something i should endure. I walk on eggshells everyday, locked up in my room to avoid any yelling. I even sleep during the day to avoid any contact with them. I know someday i'll escape from here though.
Me too. I'm still dealing with it despite breaking my trauma bond with my family. I keep my distance from them because they get aggressive over the smallest things, and it scares me, leaving me in shock for a few days. I lived with them for 28 years.
I have regularly cried a few times a month and my eyes have been so puffy and my whole mentality plus stress from enormous amounts of school work. I don’t know how to stop this.
Start making plans very quietly to extract yourself from your situation.
I was in an emotional abusive relationship with this guy for a year. He was 25 and I was 17. Whenever I told him I wanted to break up with him he would threaten to kill himself, I felt trap because I thought if I left him and he did anything to himself it would’ve been my fault. We broke up this year after I cheated on him with my ex, I know what I did was wrong but for the first time in a long time I truly felt free from him
You did what you did to escape. Dont blame yourself for "cheating" , congratulate yourself for finding the thing he couldn't tolerate. Freedom is freedom, escaping is escaping. Get some therapy and bless yourself for surviving.
This hit different 😣 thank god im free now
This hit home way too much 😔
My ex is just like this, I know if I didn’t go through this I would think this would be too dramatic but this is exactly how he acted
The “I know you want to leave me “ text and the rest are exactly how my ex is...
Constantly feel like your walking on thin ice..trust me I know
I was told that emotional abuse isn’t a real thing...
I'm so sorry! It definitely is!
Me too, I got ridiculed for feeling like this...
So sorry!
So sorry Jaylene, by who? That person is very out of date with their views. Some countries even have laws against it.
Ah! Yes it is!
I didn’t even know what emotional abuse was until something I found on Instagram today. And golly... I’m disappointed to see that this is my dad🥺
This is amazing! My wife and I founded a domestic abuse ministry 13 years ago that uses a short scenario for each theme on our entitlement compass (based on the Duluth wheels). This is a great tool both for the Overcomers and Beyond Belief groups!
Ever think of shooting the other 9 themes?
We need more ministries like that
If you watch this short on abuse and reframe every sentence his character says, as in him as first person…you will understand what this abuse is and just how nutty it is that abusers think they can pull it off~because they do for so long by exploiting the manners, the kindness, the niceness and the logic of their target.
When you reframe the abuser’s dialogue as them speaking about themselves, they tell on themselves.
If you are ever questioning this type of crazy making, try it. Reframe their words…‘ you just don’t care!!!!’ To, ‘I just don’t care!!!’. They don’t care. They are sneaky liars and they target you on purpose because you are bright and offer up the supply they compulsively need.
My best friend and I were talking last night. He told me, "You were not in a physically abusive relationship, but it definitely was very mentally abusive". I know it's hard to accept but I still have nightmares.
Thank you so much for making this ..I hope this reaches many people spreads the sensitivity of the issue because it's not apparent like violence. I was in a relationship for four years and never realized that it was abuse. I am still guilty without reason even after years of break up. Strength to everyone out there to get yourself out , love and faith will find you 💞
I get the point of this short film and what it says speaks volumes. It actually true but I’m my opinion, love no longer exist in this word. People no longer get together to spend the rest of their lives with a significant other. This world is no longer like the world our grandparents grew up in. People only hook up because it’s a matter of convenience for themselves. I used to actually believe in the happily ever after fairytale but people have helped me to wise up to the situation. If you’re actually able to find the fairytale, your one in a billion I’m sure.
Don't believe that, a moment ago I told my bf that I was insecure and damaged from his previous abuse, he told me that I was weak and to "get over it". But I know that not every person is like that and one day I'll gain my confidence back, don't let the abuse get you down. A good healthy, loving relationship does exist, don't lose hope
My parents were happily married for 65 years. Start by gettibg yourself happy and healthy and keep your eyes open for others with similar values. You may or may not find a quality match but be happy either way. To find the needle in the haystack, you have to be open to seeing it.
This is a drop in the bucket of my childhood my mother was a bad parent and still pure evil to this day..she deserve to burn in hell. & some people don't deserve to bring kids into the world..Going to tell you some of what happened in my life as a child and I'm still effected by it today. We were homeless as a child do to poor choices the lady who birth me , she never showed love for her children. I've had a number of conversations/ disagreements with her about how she failed me as a child and her excuses are always telling me it's my fault. she's a very cold hearted monster, with no heart or soul whatsoever. I am the youngest born with SMA ( spinal muscular atrophy) She never been supportive in any situations. She had her older kids saying negative things making , one constantly calling me cripple on different occasions and the lady that birth me smirk as if it was funny. She never cared ever and I got a brother who suffer from autism, she never got him the help he needed. she beat and abused him a lot calling him names like crazy or profanity names very often. She should've given me & him up for adoption because from the age 8, I believe we became homeless hungry going from house to house then vacant apartment to vacant apartments in the projects. I remember she would ask people to borrow money when she had no income to pay it back, sometimes she borrow $15 , 10, or 5, whatever people could afford to give. I remember she were only able to borrow $5 this one time and she bought a pack of cigarettes that cost about $3.35 and this had to be around 1985. I remember asking her to buy some food and she said I am buying me some cigarette because if I buy food once the food gone then what. I said we can't eat cigarettes. she bought the cigarette, then she use the rest which was about $1.75 left to buy some penny candy. she said eat some candy to kill the hungry pain. My brother who suffer from autism , she beat on him a lot she handcuffed him to the chair with handcuffs that my dad son with his ex wife given her, he worked as a security at that time. she wouldn't get him on medication and when she did she trashed a lot of the medication saying she not giving him that. I went to school first grade and I missed 2nd 3rd and 4th grade do to her not being in her business like she should've. she point a finger at everyone but don't accept responsibility for her own action rite now today.I told her that a step brother molested me at age 5 and she said I didn't tell her and I said the other grown ups made me think it was my fault and she told me it's my fault for not telling her. She treat me so bad do to my disability and I'm the only one who try to help help but never again because she don't exist to me. when I did get in school in 5th grade I act out so badly do to what I was going through with and she sat around waiting on people to give. i Remember one of my step brother ask her to watch his sick child about age 3, he had brain tumors, she told me she whip him because he doing all that crying and he was to old to be in pampers. I told her he was sick she didn't care. She is pure evil. one of my other brothers gmjpin the gang living in the projects and he ask her to put him in a different school he was about 14, she said no because he shouldn't be hanging with gangs but that was all he knew because we grew up in that hood. He really had no choice but to join or get picked on but the school was a few blocks away in the rival gang turf. I told her that her old neighbor tried to molest me and I didn't tell her and I told her I shouldn't been outside 2 and 3 am and sleeping in vacant apartments just me in my autism bother most time because she wasn't there. she make up a million excuses. she told it's old stuff I'm bringing up and to get over it. she don't understand the scares are real deep and to make it worst she won't apologize she don't think she's wrong. I told her I was a 8 year old child staying in vacant apartments hungry many days.Has no soap no deodorant no nothing. this story so long so deep and it can go on forever. my dad had custody of him and his ex wife kids and he and they got beat and abused , one of his daughters told that our dad sisters would make them pull they panties down then sniff between they legs to see how they smelled and smirking making fun of and laughing. I plan to write a book and I wish it could be a movie bcuz the world definitely need to know.
I was treated like that, I suffered humiliation in front of my parents friends who came to visit, they saw how I was treated like so they did the same, they said that I was fat, ugly, worthless, useless, thick, stramp. I was made to wear rags and wear second hand shoes throughout my childhood, at nine years ago I had to mend and make do it was so hard as my brothers were well dressed new shoes etc. I had mend mine by hand. I was beaten, emotionally, mentally abused and starved, I was bullied alot at school as well as home. When I told my parents it caused arguments and I get shouted at, sweared at "stop f##king telling tales you're ten years old next not ten months. Grow up you useless bastard, nearly ten years old the bastard is and she's saying she gets bullied grow up or you will get a good beating!!!" so I never told them anything anymore I was never believed so I suffered in silence as well as being beaten, I was kicked, punched, my hair pulled out, spat at, got called a stramp and I was framed as well as everyone who saw me as a victim. I have written a book about it and it is called in comfort of Mary by Bethany Ford its on amazon and its on RUclips and you can read chapter one on RUclips now. Tell me what you think x. Bethany Ford is my pen name. Parents will need you before you need them but don't feel guilty for not being there for them anymore as they don't deserve you or your time, it hurts them more than it hurts you. When they pass away they will never rest because of regret wishing they treated you better and did more for you, but it's too late for them now and that's their fault.
anyone else go through this as a young child and your grandma is the one tht does this to u n it affects u so much because u would spend literally almost every single day around her . n not just tht she sometimes would emotionally ignore u for a month sometimes a few months so u wonder why you're not close . so you ask your aunt [who was also abused by my grandmother but didn't realize it] only for her to tell you that you're disobedient and that's why but today you know that that doesn't make sense because u did everything possible to make yourself worthy of your grandmother's love but it was still never enough . so now tht your older that and other shit that your grandmother has done [like lie and tell your skool that youre crazy so now the skool treats you differently] makes you feel worthless and not good enough and not worthy of love and you fear rejection and fear abandonment and can't stick up for yourself because you feel like a bad person when you do . just me ?
No, not just you. It is very common. My family did similar things to me. When memories arise I just let them float away and concentrate on being satisfied and appreciate the moment.
I’m living this right now and it’s draining me 😢
“I’m yelling because you don’t care and that’s frustrating” oh my god. Wow. I’ve heard that so many times it’s unreal.
This was absolutely amazing, hit home for me ,its so great ur spreading the truth and creating more awareness about what sadly most people don't understand or think is just normal,...appreciate ur creativity as well ..
This hits too close to home. 5 years of this and I even knew what was happening for 4. I was just too scared to do anything. Luckily it was just a friend and once I graduated high school I got out of that town and hopefully will never see her again.
ATTENTION:
Ask yourself
..
Is it NARCISSISM ?
So manyyyy in the comments experiencing this.
Once you Know it's
Narcissism
LEAVE SAFELY AS FAST AS YOU CAN, THERE'S NO OTHER OPTIONS.
Take time to heal, studying about narcissism EXTENSIVELY for several several month's as if it's your second job.
Narcissist NEVER Change, Narcissist can not change.
Hi. Can we just talk about that by e mail? I jut finished a relationship.
I’m in fucking tears 😢I’ve been running from the truth from day one and I’m such a nice guy I can’t break free and I’m emotionally killing myself this put everything in perspective for me and I think I need to make the leap😢😭😭😭thank you so much for making this video we NEED more people like you spreading awareness
I hope all is well Alejandro. It is hard to leave- but you are better off doing so
Excellent film. Very good writing. I wish it had been there when I was in the situation in 1971.
I wasn't sure earlier but I realize now reading up on abuse ,what my mom has been doing to me for as long as I can remember,is not normal...and is in fact mental and emotional abuse
I never dated anyone, but I would love if I ever find someone to date and be in a relationship with, to see her talking to other men, not in a flirtatious way of course. To me that gets me to show off to other guys how wonderful the woman is that I am in love with. That simple!
Great video Love must come from within for ourselves. Then we SHALL refuse to accept abuse from others.
Definitely hits home to me! It’s a horrible existence!
Oh my good i see now why my girl friend doesn't talk to me anymore
Hope you are able to learn and go on to a healthy relationship. Do you have resources?
I hope you get better. Just try and work on yourself dude. A lot of the time abusers don't know they're abusers.
The narcissist is very dangerous. Run for your life!
Stephanie Dekinger s exactly what I was going to say. Run for your life and don't look back. And don't answer the phone for more than two weeks because there's kind of a two week waiting period and when I figure that you've missed them or you're scared or whatever they start calling you and working on your vulnerability and getting you back to do it agaiRUN!!!!!!!!!
@@cynthiagreske5957 you’re so right it happened to me. It’s always 2 weeks I’m tired I’ve called the police twice on him I hope this time is the last time and he disappears correctly he has threatened me and my family
Excellent acting on conveying something like this.
Me and my girl Have both been abused before. I sometimes worry that she’ll think I’m abusive or I’ll think she’s abusive
thank you so much for this
Well done and so true!
Excellent short film. The use of Grace of Divine Love 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Something my poor mother would angrily state concerning my dad going into one of his signature temper tantrums. If I wasn't around she'd get it. And since I'm no longer around, I know she's getting the full brunt of it.
The ending was great. When dealing with a narc, keep it simple. 3 words and that's it.
Very well done examples!
Sometimes this happens to me,but my parents are nice AND strict,but I still love them. But the thing is,it happens to me sometimes.
Unfortunately people like this are far too common these days.... And if you dont learn that your behavior is toxic and do what you can to make some changes in your life, this is what will happen... you'll end up alone....
This makes it look so easy to just walk out. If only..
Well done..🙇♀️
Very well done 🙏
This was great 👏🏽!
No matter how much I show you i try to love you you still don't care. HEAR THIS EVERYDAY
I enjoyed it, its beautiful💕
Thank you!!
"I'm only yelling because you don't think I care and that's frustrating" It can be frustrating to a lot of people but sometimes you just gotta understand the truth that you take yourself along with other things too seriously
This is literally what I’m going through
How are you doing?
Hope u are fine now, I've myself been there so I can relate 🥺
How is it going?
It's been 5 years that my last relationship ended. He felt unhappy that I retained some of my "protective wall" even after 2+ years. I erroneously opened up to him. He became emotionally and mentally abusive by throwimg my vunerabilities in my face after I opened up to him. I am also to blame. I should have left him as soon as I realized that I fell in love with his "representative".
This is mild compared to my story. So proud she got out
I’ve been in that’s position so many lots times
I think I was emotionally abused when I was 12/13 (I’m 15 now) but idk, it feels weird saying it. It feels like I made it all up in my head and that I was just too sensitive, is this normal?
Totally normal! You are so loved and your feelings are valid!
Always listen to your own truth - people WHO abruse Can denie it - therefore listen to your own truth always
Emotional abuse, gaslighting, verbal abuse, the guy probably doesn't know and want to recognize his issues stemming from his childhood experience
I am in this my is like this: I been with him for 8 years now and I trying to leave. He is very emotionally abusive towards me. I have no will for marriage or any relationship anymore. I trying to move from him: I don’t feel happy with him or around him. I am happier with friends and family other around me
0:35 then 2:04
Subtle hint of changing of the contact pics that your character isn’t happy with him anymore and doesn’t want to see his face when necessary
I’m going through the same ,I’m trying to seek help or help myself to get away from such a monster.Any tips or suggestions would help out ,
Thank you 🙏
Miriam..it's been 2years? Did you find the help you wanted or you are stuck?
Funny how people think it’s unacceptable in a romantic relationship but necessary in a parent-child relationship.
When he says he does everything for you yet you have no family and friends or healthcare job near because he wanted you to move
Now with a new baby and no family friends or job
wheres the version where its reversed?
This hits home, sadly. This is a great video i love the bible verses in between.
Going through this shit right now…
I have lived this life for years, but I finally escaped in February.
I have delt with this for a while myself. My mother is a meth user. And my grandparents keep bringing her back into the house after all the hell she put me through since I was 8. When me and my brother both say we dont want her back, they guilt me and my brother to allow her back in. I'm through. I'm gonna save myself soon.
Who else is here to understand because they’re afraid of picking a bad partner?
Story of my life but with my family .
I wish I knew about this sooner.
narcissistic abuse - run away "dear john, good bye"
Have standards and boundaries, and if someone doesn’t respect them, speak up and let them know you don’t like that and tell them what you like. If they don’t adjust their behavior, find people who will treat you how you want to be treated. But if they’re physically dangerous, just get away.
Although this video is a year old. This has been my life for years along with the physical abuse. My child with my abuser was 1 month old when it clicked in my brain that he's never going to change and I left him. We shared a child and that makes it difficult to completely go separate ways. Every day is a battle of wanting my family together and remaining apart because I know we're not safe around him. It's been just over 2 years now.
the accuracy.
Manipulaters will make an apology without meaning it, turn around and do the same shit you kindly asked them to stop doing cos they just can't seem to get it through their head that they need to change and you deserve better
Very good video!! Where the characters supposed to be college aged?
Not necessarily. They just were because I did this for a school project.
People do not like coming home to see their partner going all like "WELCOME TO INTERROGAAAAAAAAAAAAAAATION!!"
This is the perfect example of what do when you are getting physical and mental abuse . LEAVE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Listen to the COUNTLESS testimonies of survivors on this. They left. Do not tell the person you are leaving . Just leave.
The message that Audrey finally got is correct - that’s not love.
But, here’s the thing: she shouldn’t have been living with a guy she wasn’t married to, in the first place.
People these days, especially young people, jump into relationships and go from zero to sixty in a heartbeat. Setting aside my personal view that it’s morally wrong, it’s practically unwise, as well. A good relationship takes time to build. You have to get to know the other person and they have to get to know you. People who are abusers, particularly guys, come across as very attractive, at first. They seem like Prince Charming but it’s an act. You have to be around a guy long enough for that mask to slip and it always does, eventually.
What I said may seem like victim-blaming but I’m not because Audrey didn’t deserve the way she was treated. I’m just saying that if you walk around a bad neighborhood at night with a Gucci bag, you’re a lot more likely to get mugged than if you don’t do those things. It’s about making wise choices.
I grew up in the 70’s and 80’s when it seemed like women were on an unstoppable forward path towards equality in all areas. But, the young women I see now seem so insecure. I went to an all girls school and I can’t imagine even the most timid classmate of mine taking crap like that from a man past the first time he yelled at her.
I don’t know what’s going with how girls are raised these days. We have to teach girls to have respect for themselves and not to be afraid to cut things off if their gut is telling them something is wrong.
2:38 that moment breaks my heart. I have Been there litteraly been there done that. But just for her to gaslight me.
Here’s what I am hearing. People say I should have been with a model, I’m not saying that you’re not pretty just that people expected me to be with a model. Let’s see, also was praying for my boyfriend before his surgery and he proceeded to say, thanks for praying for me but you pray to long and I really didn’t want that because I had gotten myself calmed down and I didn’t need you to pray to make me go back to make me anxious oh and if you said Heavenly Father one more time, I think He knows what His name is. Tired of crying and tired of these type of comments.
Omg i found my boyfriend. 💔😢
That breaks my heart. If you need someone to talk to, don't be afraid to call the number provided at the end of the video or reach out to a trusted friend!
Izzy Herring, you deserve better
Yup
i couldnt leave