Breaking Up When You Live Together
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- Опубликовано: 2 апр 2015
- Breakups suck, but losing your man and apartment at the same time sucks even more! Watch as “The Real” ladies drop the dos and don’ts for splitting when you live with your boo.
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love loni's white and gold dress
Raqraqxox nah it's a blue and black
Eva S. Solis I've read so many comments about this dress, are people colour-blind?
Sphiwe Mthimunye no it’s a joke referring to the black and blue vs white and gold dress debate
Raqraqxox 😂😂🖕🏽
Blue and black
Honestly this is better than The View.
yes
Not anymore.
It's been trash since tamar got fired
Stephanie Monge 10x
Wayyyy better
I think people in general no matter who you live with Mom, Dad, Boyfriend, Whoever, and even if you are married. Always have a set of emergency funds to be prepared because anything can happen.
Thank u well said
THANK U that is so necessary even as parents if your children move back in with spouse or whatever just make sure there is emergency funds
ConcertJunkie27 this is scary I can’t think 🤔 of that 😬
Going through this right now. Breaking up when living together is messy af. Glad I don’t have children or anything because it would make things 10x harder. Def not moving back in with anyone until we’re married.
Yup. This is my current situation. I hate it.
This is why grandparents and other elders from the old school era always said to marry before you live together.
Mines says the same thing
osimeon00 that was before social media like SnapCheat
Im sure your grandparents are nice but I do not recommend that.
Is divorce not the same thing 😕
Lesson learn for me
Momma taught me to have my name on the lease. So when I got married he moved in with me and when we seperated he was outta there! BYE BOO!!
+AlwaysRemarkable Brooks My daddy told my brothers never move in or live with a woman, because you're basically her bitch and she can kick you out when she wants. Don't live with a woman unless she's your wife and both of your names or on the mortgage preferably, or lease. He said a man is not worth a damn if he can't provide a roof over his woman's and children' head.
Reason for the divorce PatsBooks
lol this is random but when they talked about splitting stuff, all I can think of is the lyrics from Beyonce's Irreplaceable: "To the left, to the left, everything you owe me in the box to the left. In the closet, that's my stuff, so if I bought it, baby please don't touch!" lol
Ca Ka exactly....you aint got anything from me...
+Ca Ka I'm sorry boo, the lyrics are "everything you OWN in a box to the left" not owe me...
E. Khalilah was bout to comment the same thing
Ca Ka uv
A lot of the times, you discover people's best and worst qualities when you live with them, so i rather move in and see if they are a great fit and partner for me and my life and then further develop my relationship.
yess i agree 100%
exactly better sooner than later when your married
popepic0 exactly, people who don't understand that are living in lala-land. I need to know if I'm capable with living with someone before I can just make the decision to marry them and spend the rest of our lives together.
Rene A no , we’re not in Lala land. You’re the one who’s stupid and clueless. Nine times out of ten , you’re marriage won’t even last if you live together before. If you two love each other , “testing the waters” or not , you’ll be together forever. So if you really feel the need to move in with them to see if you want to spend your life with them, you’re gonna end up single.
wft
He's not a real man if he don't let you have the TV or couch? what if it's hard earned money that paid for it? not everybody got money growing on trees and can go out and by another. What's mine is mine and what his is his, anything in between can be split equal.
Right! They didnt have to pull the "real man" card. That's just wrong.
All men are real men, theres no such thing as a fake man.
Amy Carey that's true girl there is a double standard
That's why I don't agree with moving in with someone you're not married to. It gets too messy when it's time to leave, I'd imagine. And no, I don't think the same of a divorce because you don't just up and leave (unless someone decides to literally walk out, but in that case there is no need to figure out what belongs to who)--you have to hire lawyers to get everything straightened out.
It can be messy either way
miley4051 Of course.
I think it has it's advantages and disadvantages. I'd like to get used to living with a person before marrying them
Marriage is not set and stone of you moving in with your fiancee, boyfriend or girlfriend with out a messy situation. People get divorced ALL the time.
I need a 30 Trial if I move in with somebody.
***** Well no I think that it's important to see if you're compatible with living together before marriage. I think it can be a step towards marriage and signifies that a relationship is getting serious and I disagree it's very exciting to move in with your partner. I also think while marriage is a big deal it shouldn't also be all that you're going for when in a relationship. I'd like to be together with a person for at least two years or more before I even think about marrying them rather than jumping into this big commitment and I get your point with withholding intimacy until marriage but me personally marriage isn't as sacred to me.
I dont see how people jump into being married without having any idea what its like , wouldnt you rather know if you guys had problems living together before you got married , living together can break people up , thats how you really find out who someone is & id rather go through a messy dating breakup & it being awkward moving somebody's stuff out then a big messy long drawn out divorce with courts , lawyers , all the money involved etc
i agree! I would hate to marry someone and then find out i hated living with them
Amen to that!
imjustsaying If a relationship is meant to be it should be without “testing the waters” and most people who do this before they’re married get divorced. Also if you live together you get too comfortable and men won’t commit to you bc they already “have” you. If you give too much of yourself to someone it only makes it harder when you break up since any relationship can break up. It hurts *100 to leave someone you’ve been so close to marriage with aka living together.
Moral of the story: don't move unless you're absolutely ready to. Whether or not you're engaged and planning your wedding, already married, or just bf/gf. Just be sure that you're ready to take that next step, because if you're not, things could get messy.
There is something I don't like about the idea of living with someone i'm not married to. It looks like two people playing house who are not willing to go through with marriage to give full commitment to each other. Statistics don't lie, most people who live together either don't get married, or separate eventually.
Where did you get that statistic from?
DACNewsNetwork Look it up, that's the case in this country, might be different in Europe. Latest one came out in 2011 by the census bureau.
i agree, for a woman there is no benefit especially legally. For the man, he just want you to move in so he can get everything for free because he knows that women automatically fall into that domestic role of cleaning, cooking and taking care of the home pretending to be the wife. I refuse! I need marriage and all the legal papers signed!
***** LOL, that may be true...everyone is not ready for that 40 year commitment, so if they want to test the waters, that's up to them.
And if they don't want to test the waters and stick to their beliefs, religion or what have you. That's totally up to them also...
In the words of Beyoncé, "I'll leave with what I came with, baby."
Keith P. To the left to the left
Iqra Qaali 😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭😭😭
Except she stayed
In my opinion, whoever does the other person wrong, they can pack their ass up and leave. If it was a mutual agreement, splitting of the property seems more ideal.
If only it were that simple.
Agree, but some people are not that considerate, and usually petty.
Believe it or not what loni said actually happened to me. Me and my ex were living at his moms house & when we broke up, he kicked me out but instead his mom literally kicked him out. She was like "No, he's the one leaving; you're staying here" .. But i was like "no its fine, I don't want to see him, ill be out in a couple of days". That woman loves me, til this day she loves me still & knows I was probably one of the best things that happend to his son.
*her son*
Also i forgot to add, she still calls me and checks up on me.. I feel bad because I honestly don't want anything to do with her son including her even though i love her as a mother figure to me aswell :/
I was stuck in a similar position!! Lol crazy how things happen
God I must come across as real old fashion when I leave comments on here lol.
But seriously though, I never believed in moving in before marriage. I made that very clear to my husband while we were dating. Ladies I hope we can all learn from this video.
Nothing wrong with being yourself (and I feel the same way). Cheers!
maria cummings Why do you believe in not living together before marriage? Don't you think it would be best to see what the other person is like 24/7 before making a life change?
No I do not. That's just an excuse to play house. I've seen too many of my friends doing the living together thing and they wind up not getting married. I'm so glad I listened to my parents and did the right thing and got married before moving it. But if that's your thing, then my opinion shouldn't matter right?
Elizabeth F I completely agree with you.
+scottab140 studies have shown that couples who live together before marriage are much more likely to break up or divorce compared to people who get married before moving in together
I agree with Adrienne!! “You have this time and date to get out my house! “Or I’m calling the police! WILL HELP ME IN THE FUTURE!
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What if you find out things about your partner while living together that you didn't imagine before. What if the person is harder to live with than you think. If you're married, it kinda sucks
very good point!
Is it just me or is loni's white and gold dress really nice
You tried it
lol!
LIES!!!!
nice
LOL,
Once again 😌, Adrienne's talking about Rob.
Ummm did she say his name? Everybody talks about their past relationships. What's your point?
Is that a bad thing? I mean if the situation fits the discussion should she not offer her scenario to the conversation because of who he is?
Love Alexis my opinion too..if she has a right then y not.pple jst throw hate anyhow
What's your point? lol! Let the girl talk about her experiences in peace..
jodiii122 just added on someone's reply..if you follow the 1st replies..love adrienne btw n she is the reason y i watch this show
I’m currently living with my ex bf. It sucks. It’s barely the second day after the breakup and he’s out already out and about. It hurts seeing him getting home late at night and avoiding each other during the day. It’s miserable. All I’m saying is don’t do it. I know Im only 24 and I still have a lot more people to meet, but he was my person, we were once a happy couple, or so I thought. But everything just changed at the first sign of distrust. He was never sorry and thinks it’s my hormones that’s provoking my “mood swings”. If I had the chance to do it all over again, I would definitely had gotten married first bc that way you are both motivated to solve your problems . When you’re cohabitating, it’s easy to get carried away by the thought that you can easily leave whenever you want.
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I personally need to know everything about a person before we marry each other. Leaving together can change the way you think about someone because you see a completely different side of them. Trust me. I love my boyfriend to death but he's not as clean of a person as I thought he was lol. My relationship is fine but I've seen people break up after leaving together. Js
Living*
You're absolutely right! Why marry someone and THEN realize they're not for you?
Shawnie Jenkins bet you’re single.
@@nhyliab.2391 being single or not doesn't proove anything, you can have experience as a single and you can be in shitty relationships. The fact that you're married/in a relationship doesn't mean you automatically know how to make relationships work
Ain't nobody moving in my crib and I ain't selling it until there has been a ring and we've walked down the isle.
Yes!
I've been watching these vids for 3 hours !! It's OBSESSIVE !!!
I needed this advice months ago but like one of the ladies says if you don't care and don't want to bother with the pettiness of who gets what ! leave it!, I lived with my ex for a year and I bought all the food and household items since he payed for rent but when we broke up I left that same night went back after a few days to completely move out but I just took my things previous to me moving in and even then I left so many things that I bought most recent. I saw all that lost as the bill of a lesson that one should never live with someone unless your engaged
I agree with Jeannie and Tamera, I would never ever move in with anyone unless we were married. I had watch my sister go through such a financial mess when her relationship came to an end, so no thank you!
Also Tamar looks so pretty today!
I agree with that don't move in unless married
I moved out of my mom's house with my daughter two years ago and I was in a relationship. Thank God my ex didn't move in with me even though we split the rent down the middle. Things ended up not working out in the long run and he couldn't leave with anything because I purchased everything in the apartment on my own. Another thing The Real hosts should have mentioned is that, you must always maintain your independence in a relationship. It definitely wasn't easy when my ex broke up with me but thank God it wasn't messy because I took the necessary steps. I am paying the rent on my own now but it doesn't feel much different compared to my original arrangement with my ex.
Independence is so important especially as women. We like to give everything but I've learned that your partner needs to prove himself worthy of it first. Don't give someone your heart who can't give you their time.
Awww thanks ***** :) being strong is a must especially in this day and age.
Tamera is GORGEOUS! She should wear her hair that way more often. This pregnancy is doing her well.
I know right. I know you're never supposed to say this, she's my favorite gal. :). She reminds me of myself. Wholesome, conservative, and classy with a sound mind. Oh did I mentioned, beauty and love. 😙
Tamar seems like her ex's hurt her badly
Well her ex did break her nose before
Loni's advice is the REALEST 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼💯💯💯
I'm glad I came across this. I've heard so many horror stories about this situation. But interestingly enough, my situation happened a lot differently. I don't know if it had to do with our maturity but it was not bad at all for us. There were some awkward moments and some things we had to hash out but at the end of the day, there was no animosity and tension between us. I ended up leaving with a cleared conscience. But this is obviously an exception because this kind of situation should not happen so smoothly lol
Kenny Henry it just happened to me. and it wasn't super messy, but now I'm taking over all the bills that were meant to be split b/c we were both on the lease. don't think I'll move in with somebody again unless I marry them. would u?
I will definitely not make that mistake again. There are too many possible issues to consider and most people don't usually think about them until it's too late. In terms of waiting until I'm married - that's really a whole different story. Personally, I am not in a hurry to get married and I am okay with not ever getting married. Of course, circumstances may change that but for now, I'm not really thinking about that. With that being said, it would depend on how long I am with someone. I believe that it's important to go through certain experiences with a person until you're satisfied that you can in fact co-exist under the same roof.
It’s hard to move on when you live together for the longest time, but if the relationship doesn’t work and you have to give your self-space and time for you to realize all things and have time for your self as well.
I know of a spell caster who can help you get your ex back without any stress or delay.. He helped me get mine back... Text Dr William on WhatsApp........
(+1 956-531-2406)..he can also make your ex to listen to what ever you say.Please I advise Message him and be free.....,.
I broke up with an ex while we lived together. There was an extra room in the house, and i moved in there (rent was cheap). About a year later he started bringing a girlfriend around and having sex and stuff, but I was so over him that it didn't bother me at all. As a lady, I never brought a guy top the house though. If i was with someone I would just go to his house.
@@noelletherdesignsllc4840 why the woman and not the man she never owed you any loyalty that's the problem now days everyone always just assume the woman is the Reason who's to say what that man is telling her... Smh We as woman must do better
There's really no sense in moving in unless you're ready to get married, if you're ready to move then you're ready for marriage. lets face it, people only one avoid marriage so because psychologically they see themselves as free and able to meet other people even though they're in a relationship which is sad.
Ahhhh! Loniiiii, I laughed too hard when she was like "INCOGNITO GIIIRL!" 😂😂
nooooooo Jeanie not the KitchenAid Mixer!!!! those things will run you a good $500 unless you catch it on sale
Don't do it!!!! Living with someone you care about (in the moment) sounds great when everything is good and new, but the minute you both move in together (outside of marriage), everything starts to rot.. My personal belief is, that co habitation is for married people or people of the same sex (girl+female friend or guy+male friend etc.) if need be.
I believe that when you live apart from someone you see the best of them at all times.. They have to get dressed and all pretty before they come to see you.. You don't have to be around them when they get in their real bad moods..You don't have to deal with sharing bill/rent payments, groceries and other responsibilities.. You don't have to deal with their ugly bad habits that they are usually able to keep out of site..
So when you decide to move in with this person, who is "everything" right now, remember that when you start seeing who they really are, it may very well shift from an "everything" situation to a deal breaker in a matter of moments. Not everyone is able to deal with this type of thing and the relationship will more then likely start to break down. And sometimes, in the worst and most messy of ways.
You realize, "I don't really like you like I thought I did".. When all it would have taken is a little more dating time (still living apart) for these things to come to light. But now since you merged lives with this person, you have to start ripping things apart.. Hearts and all, when you could have just ended it with a phone call.. Things get messy..
And then, if you plan on getting married, you end up having a stale mundane life.. Nothing new and exciting to look forward to other than somebody's last name. It just messes up everything.. When people actually get married and move in together, they usually already have a realistic expectation of what marriage on all levels will require. So when the pressure starts to mount, the wise ones usually come closer together instead of breaking apart..
Not to mention they have more support for their union in marriage to help keep them together, than a couple who doesn't have the weight of such a serious commitment would have. So if you are not married.. Ladies! Don't do it!!!
Lesson learned. Me and my ex broke up a few weeks ago and our relationship was great until we did that smh. It went downhill after for all the reasons you said. I agree. So many people tried to warm me. Don’t live with someone you’re not married to. It’s a recipe for disaster.
I think its important to live with someone before you get married. If you don’t, you won’t know how your living situation will be after you get married and it might not work out because of that. Living together gives you a chance to experience situations you will have in marriage, and it is a good test of compatibility. You can be committed before being married even though these women don’t believe that.
California has some of the dumbest laws ever 😒. Except their divorce laws.... NY has a dumb divorce law.
Anyway, I was living with my boyfriend while still paying rent at my own place. Many people thought that was a waste of money but let him tell me to get out..... I'd say to him, no problem because I have a place to live. He begged me to live with him but I told him not until I got a ring. The next month, I got a ring lol (he was already planning to propose anyway). And then I moved in. So now we are married. I'm very happy with my order of doing things because u don't really know a person until u live with them.
Can you elaborate on why you think Cali has dumb laws except for divorce and that New York had dumb divorce laws?....
Nicole Nunya OK so in NY (where I'm from), in order to get a divorce, u have to have proof and reason. Like infidelity, deception, etc. And your spouse has to agree to divorce. I had a Co worker that wants to get a divorce but her husband won't agree to it. So she's been stuck with a husband smh. In cali, u can just divorce. It doesn't matter. Which is why celebs are always divorcing and remarrying.
As far as cali's other laws, I can't remember them off hand but I use to do customer service for ecommorce businesses and their laws are ALWAYS different from every other state. Whatever it was I had to deal with, cali was always the most difficult. Even in commercials, if it's about product and sales, there's tiny writing at the bottom of the screen that will say something about *calfifornia law.......
But I want to visit there so bad lol
Anisha Renee ohhh ok, but I thought if someone refuses to grant the divorce it just makes the process longer and more expensive? Yes I would love to visit cali as well
Nicole Nunya if u want a divorce and it has nothing to do with infidelity or deception (u just want a divorce just because u don't want to be married anymore), then no, u can't. I've even heard that the courts will send u to marriage counseling lol. It's ridiculous. People fall out of love. Let people divorce if they want to! I got this info from my friend that studied law and at one point she was contemplating divorce from her husband. But they worked it out now
Yeah I was taught to live with my husband not a boyfriend ☝️ so I'll be sticking with that
Hahaha, I love today's show. All the ladies look so gorgeous today too! Did anyone notice Loni's dress looks similar to the oh so famous dress lol. Blue & white or White &gold
I agree with not shacking "Moving in before marriage" I don't care if people say, " you need to move in, to test each other". That's the point of spending time or the night. Because boy, loving someone it can TESSST YOU!
When it comes to the whole living together situation I actually believe that when your boyfriend and girlfriend you should live by yourselves but when u become engaged you should live with your spouse for the simple fact to see how well u guys actually work together as a unit because I've seen couple so blissfully happy during the engagement stage when there not living together but as soon as they get married and move in to a house together things get rocky and besides an engagement is the time for u to decide whether your really gonna go through with the the wedding and something as simple as living together could help u plan your future
A man has no point of marrying a women that he already being living with, getting all the benefits of sex. Marraige is not a gain for him at this point. The men whom get marry in these kind of situations, you can bet that the women are contributing more of the financial support in house. He doesnt want to lose that
Graciously, a man's view.
Lol. The cops won't (and can't) do anything if the person has been living in your house for over 30 days.
Realize how big Loni was and she’s gotten leaner now. So happy for her!!
Married end in a messy as hell way all the time. Waiting to live with someone until you are married is a *HUGE* mistake in my opinion. No matter how much you hang around someone or how much you love them, you never truly know a person until you've lived with them. You need to get that all out of the way *BEFORE* you talk about marrying.
Girl yess! Or (boy) lol!
I agree
But most failed marriages are couples who were living together before marriage ...... nice reach though.
Nhylia Burl not really
I would never go live with someone Im dating. From my teen years, I decided I will wait to have sex with someone until marriage. I think when you live with your boyfriend before you are married, the magic of getting married is lost. I mean, what is the purpose or diferrence of living together before and after the marriage, it gets boring. I think marriage is kinda a new adventure that both the man and the woman can discover together, a fresh start...
Marriage isn't magic
what's the magic in marriage? please enlighten me.
megan henry its not magic but it is a stronger commitment from both people to make the relationship work.
black4ev3r I think what she means by the magic in marriage. It's the idea of something new. A new thing. A new way of being committed to one another. Some people may live together for so long by the time they do get married. It may not feel any different.
Angie Thanks
I know a lot of people believe living together tells you everything you need to know, but marriage is a SURPRISE of its own. Dating and living together does not necessarily always give you a front seat or sample view of how people are. I know plenty of people who lived with boyfriends for several years then marriage and kids came and it got ugly. You can’t ever be sure. Marriage is looked at as a piece of paper but it is a turning point in a relationship. If it’s not then tell me why so many couples stay together for years unmarried, but as soon as they get married the relationship is in jeopardy?
Loni always come thru with the facts 💯💯💯💯
First of all, I love all you ladies! Secondly, I did, in fact, live with someone. He paid for all bills, etc. Home decor, I bought. It wasn't too much of a problem when we spilt, but it was just annoying having to move all my things out. I would suggest, not necessarily moving in, but just stay at his, or let him stay at yours. Like Jeannie said, keep your place.
Yes, break up is really suck. Especially when you live together. For me if you can fix your problem fix it. Talk to each other listen to each other and try to figure out everything. Think of the good memorize why you love each other. all I just say is try to figure out.
tamar's "real man" comment was so stupid. why do men always have to be the one's to give up stuff? if women want to be treated equally then men don't have to do anything
I agree Loni. .. Men change and they show their true colors at a break up
Love Loni's white and gold dress!
That why u gotta have emergency savings account in case !! When things go wrong not just in relationship but also with other things!
I honestly think it's a good idea to live with a boyfriend or significant other (after you've been together for a while). You NEVER know who a person really is until you live with them.
I seriously love this show ! 😌
Adrienne is so beautiful.
This topic was made for me! Something I'm dealing with currently.
That's right Jeannie! I agree. I wouldn't want to deal with it either. It's too much child!!! Too much!!!!
You showing up in the Real Ones deed what was it ooh yaa Hide!!😂
i agree with jeannie! also, it’s good to have the space
I completely disagree with them. I think it's a good idea to move in with someone before getting married because it's like a trial period. What if you get married and then move in together only to realise your home habits don't work with each other? While dating, everyone will always only show their best side, its only at home where their true selves are revealed, so always move in with someone before getting married, if it doesn't work, just get out, no messy divorce.
Also, in terms of the furniture, if both parties split the cost, then just split the furniture, if you want the TV, let them take the couch, if they want the vaccuum cleaner, take the electric mixer, etc etc.
REALLY disagree with Tamar cause seriously, she belongs in the 1950s. Gender equality please. He doesn't owe her anything if they break up, "invest her feelings" blah blah blah, and what, he didn't? She's is waaaaay too traditional for me.
This episode was really good.
A real man will let you have it because a man can figure it out? What kind of stupid ignorant comment was that. What women cannot figure it out??? They need men to give them stuff to survive?? The amount of double standards in that comment was mind blowing. How about you just take what belongs to you and not what you think you are entitled too because you invested time and feelings. News flash!! Men also invest time and feelings in relationships Taymar. We are in 2015, why are we still imposing concepts of "Real" men and "Real" women. You are a real man by identifying as a man NOT by fulfilling societies standards of how you should act. Same applies to being a real woman.
yeS!!!! married men tend to lose everything when they get divorce, children, house, car etc...how is that fair?
Candy Flores Well my father when he got his divorce form his first wife. He got everything the house and full custody of the kids. Because he first wife was at the time the love of his life. Decided after almost 14 years of marriage. She wanted out of her marriage with my father because she was in love with another man. She called my dad up at work. She told him she was leaving him and wouldn't be there when he got home. When he got home she wasn't there. She just didn't leave him but left their two children too. He tried to save his marriage and wanted to work it out. Because he didn't want the divorce. But she did and in the end my father end up with everything. His ex-wife end up with nothing expect visitation rights to the kids. She then week later married the man she leaved my father for! To this day my dad doesn't care to be around her much. He only does so when my older brother and sister has family gatherings or special events that include both parents. So, it depends on why or how the marriage break up. It not always the men that lose everything it can be the woman too!
jazzman22 your dad is one of few...you speak from experience and so do I. My dad lost everything! She took everything from him and me. So it just comes down to experience. I by no means said it applied to the rest of the world :)
Candy Flores Thanks but this happen way before I was born. I was born from my dad's second marriage to my mother. I guess he found the true love to his heart in my mother. They'll be married 37 years this October. I just was told this story by my father. My older brother and sister are my half-siblings. At first they dislike my mother and their step-father was like most kids of divorce parents. Hopping our dad and their mother would get back together. But they didn't now years later they come to love my mom and think of her as a second mother to them. They told my mother you make our dad happy that all we care about. Is seeing our dad happy and my mother never made my brother and sister feel un love by her. She thought of my older brother and sister as her own kids too. But never over step her bonds as a step-parent. She left the raising to my dad because she didn't want to be the one that made them think she was replacing their mother.
Preach it! It is a double standard and sometimes men invest more feelings and time and women are the ones who don't care. No shade towards Tamar cause she does make some valid points sometimes, but she's very closed minded. She needs to realize times have changed and there is no such thing as real men and women now, the only thing that makes someone a real man or woman is if they are a man or woman or identify as a male or female. I agree with you that the two people in the relationship should take their own things and then they can figure out who gets the t.v and all of those other things later. And I don't think a woman couldn't survive without a t.v, I mean a t.v isn't a necessity so both people in the relationship can live without it.
That’s why cohabiting is a big no no!❌
I say unless you're at least engaged, don't move in together.
Okayyyy! I'm taking notes from Auntie Loni right now!!!!
I took my notes..planning as we speak
Yes i believe its messy to move in with people but you never know someone totally till you move in.
I had this friend who lived with her boyfriend but even though his name was on the lease of their apartment, she paid for everything. Bills, rent, etc. She started to move things, like a couple of clothes here and there, and by the time she dumped him, 98% of her belongs were already gone. He was so busy cheating that he didn't even notice.
That is the Sad appreciation 😢! .
Adriennes lip gloss... omg. what is it?! It's so gorgeous! Every time she spoke I just looked at her lips hahaha
YOOO, Tamars makeup and hair is ONPOINT ..GOAAAALS!
Where are the new videos ?? :o , I'm in need of the real , no joke :o
already8use We will be back with new episodes on Monday!
They have posted new videos
What Men REАLLY Waant => twitter.com/5b6fa1152bbf721c2/status/804693412402241537 Breeeaaking Up When You Live Toоgether
It takes 3 months tops to evict someone in California. 30 day notice if they've been there a year or less, 60 day notice for a year or more. If it goes to court add another 30 days.
I don't believe in cohabitation and I don't think it is right for a couple to live with together when they are not married. If you are struggling that badly just move in with a family friend or cousins until you can get back on your feet.
All the ladies look gorgeous their hairstyles were on fleek
Sometime it's good to live together for at least a years to know the person a little better before getting marry. It's much better than just paying a visit for few hours or weekend. I'm sure every state does the 30 days rule and the person becomes a tenant which mean you have to evict them thru the proper way instead of just changing locks and throwing stuff out
Well I don't kno what the laws are like in Canada but if I tell you to get out now, I MEAN NOW AND NOT IN 6 MONTHS! They are right if it belongs to me, I'm not going anywhere
Yassssss! I need to hear this im going through this exact same situation right now. The place where i live and my bf is awful he has cheated snuck people in my place by trespassing like unlocking and climbing through my windows. He will not leave. He's actually trying to take over my place.
T Marie Johnson-Hudgins That all sounds so illegal, get him out! call the police or something
Thank You so much your post really helped me. God Bless You!
***** preach it!!
Lonnie, I love you. You're so intelligent beautiful and witty, you remind me of my mother she's always like "Listen! Did you hear me? Alright now don't make me say it four times!" Lol.
All 4 times I left my husband, I just left. a couple times, I took my stuff while he was at work. But this last time, I just left. I hadn't moved back in technically from the last time. But I don't have the option to coordinate getting my stuff because he's emotionally abusive, which is why I had to leave. He still has my 2 computer hard drives full of irreplaceable files and my Christmas decorations, including my ornaments from childhood, the one from my cat's first Christmas, and the one from my other cat's first Christmas in Heaven after we had to put him down. REALLY sentimental things that I'll probably never get back because I just had to leave. Also, when we got the apartment, both of our names were on the lease, but he and the landlord illegally took me off before it was up and then after it expired, I guess he signed it again without me. At this point, we're NOT getting back together and my mom and I moved 1,600 miles away to protect me and my unborn baby.
Nice talk 👏
Loni is absolutely correct - 30 plus days someone is living w you, you just can’t tell them to leave your apt. They have acquired time and is by law a resident in that apt as well! So don’t live w anyone! To get rid of them is a huge huge pain in the ass...
in situations like this unfortunately it's the women that feel like they can't leave bc they depened on the guy so much.
Unless we engaged to be married or already married... You stay in your space & leave me to my own. I don't need to be seeing you, smelling you, sharing with you all day & everyday that's team too much.
Dee M wow you make people wants to marry you with that statement!
oh man this is so true i know this for real when i lived with an ex the lease was split it was hell and things got crazy like loni said
***** honestly that the way it should be according to these people or atleast two of them the man should be stuck with the bill an the woman would get every thing.
NATIONALCOMMUNISM666 no way
Loni with the facts lol helping us all out
Its like that in GA to. You can't just kick someone out, by law u gotta give them 30days so they can find a place.
This hair colour on Tamera!!! Love it!!
I love Adrienne's hair color
I'm about to move in with my boyfriend this summer lol different strokes for different folks. We'll see how it goes.
DisneyStarsTube how did it go?
S Videos ikr I’m interested in the story as well 🙃
Hey how did it go??
Tamar seems so irrational. She seems to just want things her way or am I reading it wrong?
It's true men change and they show their true colors once you've live together.
So I guess the lesson learned of this is that don't live in together if you're still not married or don't have any plans that you'll gonna live with that person in your whole life.
Tamar's makeup is too light as usual.
Loni!! 😆😆
Sometimes you don't get real men, but you find out who they really are !"..oh my god 😂
You have to issue an eviction notice in NYC as well 😂😂