"After ___ Happened, I Never Spoke to My BFF Again"
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I found out I had cancer.... When I asked her for some emotional support as I faced this pretty much alone..... She ghosted me until after I had surgery (6 months after first diagnosis).... I've been cancer and BFF free for 18 months.
So, you got rid of two horrible things!💪💪💪
Congrats on both!!!
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Good for you sweetie!
so you lost a tumour and a second tumour
@@safir2241 nah the "fried" isnt a tumor its the whole fucking pandemic
Madea said it best. "If people want to leave, let them go." We've all had best friends who chose to abandon us for their new group.
She called me fake and said she needs space from people. Then, month later, she asks why I'm not messaging her.
She wanted attention from the beginning
She pulled a what we call in french a ''qui m'aime, me suive !".
It means ''to those who love me, follow me out !"
It was a popular expression in theatre.
The premise is when someone who made drama or a conflict and where then confronted/ were being sit down and asked for explaination from a group or experienced downright an intervention and then were too proud to admit their wrong doings, dramatically walked out and yelled this.
Basically, ''i do not need to be questioned or critisized, i'm above it all.
I expect those who care about me and my entourage to walk out in solidarity or follow me out/chase after me to cajole me, to prove they are on my side''
So in modern day ppl who say that out loud and walk out, think they are being poetic and grandiose.
But others see it as cringe and as something an egotistical, dramaqueen would do lol.
Ppl don't akways have to say it, but we use the expression to refer to situations like that.
Even when it's for example just someone who made a problem/drama, then blocked everyone, but is then critisizing ppl whom they've had the conflict to others, telling them they expected an apology or said ppl to come to them.
You'd say ''she tried a 'qui m'aime me suive' and no-one followed lol.''
Your friend tried this and she failed. Miserably I hope.
She was only cool with me when I was struggling and going through drama, like her. When I got my shit together, she hated it! We couldn't relate anymore. One day she just started talking crap about me on Facebook. I blocked her, got my friends and family to block her, and never talked to her again.
I've had the same thing happen to me it's because deep down she was jealous of you and stayed close to see you fail and enjoy it probably even caused some problems , thats why she was so pissed you got your life together she never wanted you to it made her even more envious
@@FrighteningFettuccine Well some people live on missery of others.
I can't understand people like this. She didn't like that you got your shit together because that makes you better than her-(not a judgement, but a statement of fact). She either had to change or drop you and dropping you is easier than bettering herself. Congrats on getting your shit together, whatever that may be, it's a good feeling... You really dodged a bullet tho....
Sad that she couldn't be happy for you.
Okay I completely agree you should have blocked her, but asking your friends to block her is kinda idk unless she did something like trying to tell them you are horrible or whatever
He tried to break my boyfriend and I up because he thought I was his first and only love, while telling two of my friends he liked them. He started to date one of my friends just to make me jealous (I wasn't) and turned her against me, trying to turn all of my friends against me. He kept trying to guilt trip my boyfriend and I, and in the process we realized he has a god-complex and is narcissistic. Blocked him and my friend and only have looked back because I'm worried for her. Since then my boyfriend and I are still happy together, and I have a new best friend who is epic and is very much not narcissistic or in love with me.
Dude I had a friend like that as well except o didn’t have a boyfriend but he wouldn’t take no for and answer, those were some tough times he is no longer my friend because somehow I posed him oof I dunno what I did but I’m glad I did it
God complex? How? (Every sympathy, and I totally believe you... you just don't see people with god complexes often!)
Good for you!
Eclipsinq, yeah it is usually good when your best friend isn’t in love with you Lmao. Well if it’s mutual it’s fine but that’s a tad creep, glad your doing better stranger!
Pretty much all of my "friends" in my youth left me when I developed depressions. They were all potheads, so nothing of worth was lost. Years later the most arrogant of them stated towards me : "You never really belonged to us anyway." And yeah, he is right. I don't want to belong to a bunch of arrogant, superficial people. They still smoked pot and seemed to be stuck in their old mindset from the mid 90s, when I met them again some years ago. I really didn't belong to them.
Hopefully this isn't too late but:
I was once close friends with this one guy in my high school. At that time, I was constantly bullied and harassed by a group of girls, and he would always come to my defence and condemn their actions. He convinced me that I should stand up for myself and demand that they stop, which I garnered the courage to do so.
Soon after that, the girls began targeting him and several of my other friends. He then turned against me and contradicted everything he used to stand for alongside me. He accused me of leaving behind a mess that he and the others were left to clean up. I was bewildered as it was him who encouraged me to defend myself in the first place.
"You're running away from your own mess." Those were the words he said that finally made me snap and cut him out of my life completely. It's been 2 years since, and I've never spoken to him since.
We were best friends since the first grade. We were almost never apart. I'm not sure what changed because it happened gradually but by our last year in high school, she'd gotten heavily into drugs, had a friend group that consisted of losers and dropped out. I went on to university. I'd hear through the grapevine that she was homeless over the years. She ended up dying in a fire.
Awww. That's sad...
@Bitch Pudding That and those people.
@Bitch Pudding We all did our fair share of drugs "back in the day." For some reason though she went batshit crazy for them.
How does your best friend start and die on drugs and you have no clue where it all went wrong/started or with who? I mean it’s possible but not likely
Me: So yeah, turns out my own Mom hates me and regrets ever having me.
So-called friend: "You don't know real pain! I! Have! A! Hangnail! *boohoohoo*
My dad left one day, out of the blue, empty closet. I’d come home to a distraught mother. Eventually I left the house to seek comfort for myself in my BFF. I got to her house and her new bf was there. She wouldn’t talk to me in another room so I had to blurt it out in front of them both. She basically just said “oh” unsympathetically and stared at me as if waiting for me to leave so I would stop interrupting them. I didn’t go back.
Turned out he was a stalker and she was stuck with him for years, over many states. Karma.
She was my best friend, then my girlfriend. She cheated on me with my 33 year old uncle after destroying my relationship with my mom. We were both 15.
What-
Emily Barclay 👏
@Emily Barclay That's what I was thinking!
Woah, I'm 15. Yikes man! Glad your better now
She was wrong for whatever she did to destroy your relationship with your mom and obviously wrong for cheating on you, but as far as cheating with your 33 year old uncle HE should have known better as the ADULT in the situation. He's also wrong as hell because you're his family.
When she sent me numerous texts and pictures of “her ultrasounds” of her twins...and I find out she wasn’t even pregnant. She and her mom were weird, her mom was in on it too. Their family went to our church and there was one other family that my parents and I have always been close with. All of us kids were friends. This girl’s mom told my mom (who is an RN) that her husband was abusing her and my BFF who was 15-16 at the time, which wasn’t even try either, so we helped them leave her husband. Both of them were freaking nuts and I think just wanted the attention. Ran into the husband and one of the sons who was my age the other day when my parents and I went out to eat. Hadn’t thought about them in a really long time. That girl and her mom were insane
I know it's been awhile, but did you ever discover why they did that?!?! I mean, clearly people were going to figure out she wasn't pregnant when she failed to show any sort of baby bump!?!?
Then, as if that wasn't bad enough, they go and lie about the dad being abusive, essentially ruining his life!?!? Because, as well both know, even if the truth finally did came out, there'd still be people questioning his innocence. Seriously, just an all around shitty thing to do, regardless of motivation.
*How exactly did you learn of their deception, how did people respond once it was shown to be bs? Sorry for so many questions, just genuinely interested in this story.
She left her husband for the neighbour. She had a four year old son, her ex husband asked me to watch him during the day until he could organise day care. The friend asked if she could see her son, I said I would check with her ex who okayed as long as it was in a public place. (She had been acting nutso) I met her at a large thrift store as per her request. I brought her kid and my kid in and there she was; tounge down the throat of her old neighbour/new boyfriend. They were all over each other against a rack of old coats. I watched her 4 year son break into pieces. She tried to hug him and he just asked if he could go to sit in the car with my older son and ignored her mother. I just said What is wrong with you, you self-centred cow?. And walked out. I had to look after this traumatised child (already not the greatest at processing emotions etc as on the spectrum) until his father picked him up (early because he was a good dad and left work as soon as I told him what had happened) We did talk again once. She was convinced that the real reason that I didn't want to be friends was because I was morally opposed to her leaving her husband. I had to explain it was because she shattered child's heart and dgaf. Just such a terrible person
I had a friend that has a textbook definition case of victim mentality. I stayed with her and supported her for around 7 years, near the end I met a man who’s about 9 years older (we are married now) and we were together all the time. I hadn’t talked to that friend in a while but she had known about the guy and how much I liked him. I later saw a post from her basically calling my relationship, and all relationships like it, toxic (I guess the age gap? He has a couple of kids too). Once I called her out, she attacked me and blamed me for a list of things. In the end I have learned that I am better off without someone like her in my life!
I didn’t cut it cold turkey as I was desperate for a friend, but my bff since 7th grade became more and more judgmental as we got older. I am on the spectrum though I didn’t know it at the time, she would blow me off or shut me down really quickly. She use to go camping with me and my parents a lot and one time I was designing one of my stories worlds in my journal and told her about it, she said in a very condescending tone “you did that in your journal?” and another time which was the moment I realized she wasn’t as good of a friend I thought she was. I got excited when I realized that my short hair was like one of my guy characters, that was it, no hidden layers to it. As soon as I told her that and before I said I thought it was cool she immediately said “you’re not going to tell me you’re a boy inside are you?” it made me realize how little she knew me. (no probs if you are trans though, I just know I am very much not and I felt like she should have known that)
we drifted apart by junior year of highschool, I was tired of being judges for every little quirk and feeling abandoned.
Luckily after I met an amazing girl that has been my beat friend for 7 years! She was my maid of honor at my wedding and we are still very close despite being long distant.
only she missed out on what sounds like an amazing person 😃
I love when it ends with “and ____ was the maid of honor/best man at my wedding”
I'm happy for you and I take no offence as a non-binary who also identifies as trans, its completely fine that you're cis gender, I'm not against cis people as long they're not tansphobic and you seem nice
@Johnathan Barker what?
She did you a favor by showing you what a terrible person she was and you recognized it and broke it off. You're lucky. Just found out I am on the spectrum, as an adult, and think back to all the shitty friends I had when I was a younger adult and how shitty they treated me. Not being happy for anything I achieved that I thought was cool, berated me constantly, and took advantage of me financially. That's awesome you found out what a horrible person she was early in life and have a great best friend now. I wish you all the best. You're worth it!
She was always into herself and was never really that interested in me. It didn't bother me, until my brother commited suicide and I called her because I needed her to be there. I talked for 5 minutes about my brother and then she proceeded to talk for 25 minutes about herself.
After we hung up, I messaged her telling her exactly what she had just done and what I thought of it. She did apologise, but I haven't spoken to her since then. It has been 10 months now since I last spoke to her. We had been best friends for 10 years.
Sounds like something my sister friend from high school my dad died then his brother committed suicide and his mother had a rough time with it felt really bad but then he keep talking about my boobs growing and my body getting bigger even told me about a dream that i was the same size as my sister was really creepy. I had to block i didn't want to but he couldn't take a hint that i didn't like him like that and was grossed out about it too.
@@elizabethgieringer5455 Ew, you did the right thing. He sounded like a right creep. Sorry about your dad though.
@@nothanks1239 I'm sorry about your brother's suicide that's not easy to go through.
I told her I didn't like her talking down at me as if I didn't know anything. Always reminding me to do things and judging my decisions (e.g. don't forget to..do this..do that...make sure you...) At first it was nice I thought she was just looking out for me and all but it was just TOO much. She's become OVERLY critical of every little thing I do. I wanted a friend not a nagging mother. Ever since then, we haven't spoken at all even if we live in the same building.
To me it was setting boundaries but apparently for her I was being prideful and dramatic.
2:16 this kinda happened to me in college. My best friend liked a girl and was trying to get with her, then I met her separately and started dating her. Wasn't a huge deal until another girl he really liked came and lived with me for a couple months. I didnt know. Still feel like shit about it.
he said “at least my boyfriend didn’t abuse me” in a conversation we shouldn’t have been having in the first place bc he was making comments where it absolutely wasn’t his place to 😁
It always felt very one sided but I brushed it off, like I constantly had to be there for her but if I needed support or wanted to talk about my day she was seemed so uninterested, in hindsight it was very toxic. About 9 months before I ghosted her, her grandmother passed away, it was the first time she had ever lost a family member. I had lost my paternal grandfather to cancer 13 years before then so I knew how it felt - to lose that first grandparent. I was always comforting her and giving advice and helping her through her grief. We talked about how it feels to deal with your first deal that. Fast forward 9 months, my maternal grandfather passed away suddenly and I was gutted. She texted me back about 3 days after I told her what happened and proceeded to tell me how the first lost is the worst, it’ll get better, etc. basically everything I had told her. She knew this wasn’t my first lost, she KNEW about losing my first grandpa. That’s the moment I realized she never really cared of payed attention to me or my life. So I deleted her number and haven’t spoken to her since. She did email me a “letter” last year - it was a bunch of gaslighting and shit like that. Saying I “replaced her” with my other best friend before I even stopped talking to her. I read it laughed. And blocked her email. Don’t need that toxic shit in my life.
We met in 1995. We became very close friends. When his wife cheated to him I was his shoulder to cry. He rekindled his relation with his wife and I was overjoyed. They fathered another child and he came asking for counselling and wanted borrowed money. I agreed. We were talking by phone for hours or in reunions but sometime in 2015 he started to change. All of our internal jokes, mutual confidences and friendship got colder and colder. Finally, we met and all he said was he went into a religious cult and his pastor said he had to cut to all of his relationships because we are sinners! I used to send some "hi" messages or wishing him a Merry Christmas or Happy B-Day. He never answered.
Wow, that's awful. I'm always blown away by the fact that, seemingly intelligent people, can so easily be led astray by, and fall victim to, these sorts of things.
I tell myself it could never happen to me, I'm far too independent, but in all honesty, if the circumstances are right, you just don't know. I guess all you can do now, is hope that he eventually comes to his senses, and be there for him when he does, and finally stop mourning for someone who has yet to pass.
You let him go back to a bad person and wondering why he turned out so bad
@@Lili-ey1nd There's only so much one can do , you are not responsible for another adult's actions
best friends from grade for a few years knew i was severely depressed, suicidal, sleep deprived, and lived in an abusive household. i'll be blunt. i wasn't getting fed. i was eating snacks i saved up every day for like, 3 years, that i got from my dad occasionally (he didn't live with us & had no idea what was going on). still got problems with food & stuff. yeah. one day I'm at school, no lunch from home, no money to buy even from a vending machine. friends have full meals from home AND they went to the dollar store for random snack stuff. like, entire things of cookies and chips n stuff. they got two full bags each. I ask if i can have a little bit since i didn't have breakfast, wasn't gonna have lunch, and very likely wasn't gonna have dinner. they refused, like i was being greedy. i haven't talked to them in 8 years. funny thing is, they were extremely christian, and we were going to a very religious school. i'm sure jesus would've loved that
love how this comment section is just people letting it all out
I’m so sorry to hear abt this and I’m glad u stopped talking to them, I hope ur getting fed now and have better friends. I can’t give any money or food but if u ever want to vent I’m here in the comments!
we met at school when we were 12, we have the same name, we would listen to the same music and have the same sense of humor. We did everything together, spent the weekends together, go on vacations together , hang out at school together all day. She's an extrovert and has a leader-type personality, she had a lot of friends and would always be the one who organised things, i'm an introvert and all of my "friends" were actually the people she hung with until one day, when we were 17 i met my first (and current) boyfriend. She didn't like my bf because she once got in an argument with him (about some trivial stuff like music or movies, can't remember) , and since then she would do anything possible to talk trash about him and get me to break up with him. One day i went to a party at one of our mutual friends house, i got drunk and asked my bf to come with me to the bathroom bc i wanted to throw up but didn't wanted to make a mess, when my friends went to see where i was they heard me "moaning" in the bathroom and thought i was doing "it" with my bf ( my "moaning" was actually me trying to catch my breath after puking too much) . After a few days my friend invited me and my bf ( and our other mutual friends) to her house and after making food and drink a little and have a good time she sat all of us down and goes "well, i guess you know why i invited you here right?, i want to know everything about "that" day!" in the most mocking way possible, then she proceeded to make jokes about how "awful" it must have been and how i've "always been such a prude but apparently i just couldn't wait to do it" . At that time it was already 2 am so me and my bf couldn't go back to our houses so we just tried not to make a big deal about it and went to sleep. That was the last time i went to her house. We hung out a couple times after that but she just wanted to mock me about something and then it started to get awkward. We still follow eachother on social media and i don't hate her or anything but i know we could never be the same again, turns out we were always too different , and our lives don't match each other's anymore.
( i don't know how to summarise stuff so if by any chance you read this to the end thank you, and stop procrastinating! )
That person who chose to value their friends' life over their friendship shouldn't ever feel bad about that decision. It's hard to deal with someone who's suicidal if you're not qualified/experienced in that, I know from personal experience. It takes a huge mental toll and OP was quite right to reach out to their mum for help. Is it sad to lose that friendship over such a decision, yes, but in the end it was likely either that or OP went away for the holiday and end up living with the guilt of not helping their friend when she needed that help, and of those two decisions, I would choose to betray their trust to save their life every single time.
My BFF of 6-7 years
Obviously, when you enter middle school, (atleast nowadays.) all of a sudden your social status and image matter and are placed above everything else. She just turned completely cold towards me. The classic "You're not cool enough for me anymore" attitude.
Developed a controlling personality towards me (maybe "controlling" is a bit overkill, but-) and told me to stop doing certain things that would make her look bad or that are apparently "cringy". I felt like I was walking on egg shells talking to her. I feel that her mom kind of influenced her to be this way, as her mom called me "a bad influence" (not to my face, my bff informed me) , as I watch my now ex-bff hanging out with toxic classmates who skip school constantly. I'm tired of having my dreams shattered because she wants to keep her image and reputation high. She developed such a toxic mindset and I miss the person she used to be.
This entire story sounds like your local middle school drama, because, well, it is! Even if you dismiss it as overdramatic or a misunderstanding, it honestly has impacted me negatively if anything.
I've distanced myself from her nowadays and I feel like I can focus on myself more now.
(Sorry about the long comment.)
We were friends for about 6 years, a long distance online friendship but we did meet to go on holiday once! We were like sisters, literally told her everything and we were so close. I don't really know what changed, i think it was around the time she moved in with her boyfriend (although i always liked her boyfriend and he never gave me any bad vibes) but that was when things slowly started to change. She got into all the conspiracy theories and acting like she knew everything. Maybe she was still a bit like that before, but i was younger than her and just believed her automatically. Eventually I just felt like I couldn't even talk to her anymore without some lecture coming out. Got Mcdonalds for lunch? "Mcdonalds is poison you shouldn't eat that crap". Went to the Dentist and got special toothpaste? "Fluoride is poison dont use that" It just got so exhausting and eventually I found like I couldn't talk to her about anything because SOMEHOW it would always end up being an argument about her conspiracy theories- which she stated werent conspiracy theories, they were FACTS. (Anti vaxx stuff too)
It sucks because she was my best friend for so long and we were inseparable, and i hated the idea of cutting out a friend just because i disagreed with their opinions.... but eventually i just felt like i didn't even enjoy talking to her anymore. :( I havent spoken to her in probably 2 years now and I still miss her, I hope she maybe toned down her views and maybe one day we can reconnect.
He said something really stupid, so I was real with him and said “dude, that’s stupid”, so like any reasonable person does, he choked me out for a good 15 seconds. I then realized that he was not only emotionally immature, but mentally as well. He then wondered why I never talked to him until 6 years later when he tried to message me and I revealed why we didn’t talk as a test to see if he’d changed at all. If he had just apologized, I’d’ve forgiven him then and there, but he got pissed and indignant as if I was at fault for being mad that he choked me.
Eff you Brian, I’m glad you got kicked out of school for bringing that knife and that you still live with your mom at 26.
I'm chronically ill, at the time we didn't know what was wrong with me, but lots of abdominal surgery, tests etc.
My best friend called me on my birthday almost screaming that I was faking because the doctors couldn't find anything.
Hung up the phone and never spoke to her again.
Still don't know what the reason for it was.
I have 7 diagnoses now.
He said I had changed and he didn't like it. The truth is I found my strength and no longer thought his opinion about everything was the best. He liked hurt anxious me and hated strong healed me.
Long story short I told her I was learning about some of the real issues men face that no one talks about to try and help. She went off on me, called me a lot of names and outted herself by telling her husband to try and get him on her side, specifically saying that "men are meant to be slaves for women their problems don't matter to me"and now her and her husband are getting a divorce.
Wow she’s sexist af 😳 gross 🤢
@yalive & yalearn I think I'm blocked too because I can't see the other reply
I stayed in a psych ward because of a suicide attempt for a while, and hadn’t spoken to one of my best friends for a long time. I ran into her while I was picking up my meds and I said hi to her, started catching up a little. I didn’t tell her where I had been but she was being really passive aggressive about me not going out anymore and partying like I used to. She then sees the meds in my hand and says “ooo anything good?” I was so embarrassed for her and shocked at her behavior so I just told her it was good to see her (lie) and went home. The worst part is she wasn’t really behaving any differently than she normally does, it just became very clear to me the kind of person she was after not seeing her for so long.
I met my friend in college. We connected over her service dog, out spiritual practices, and our music interests. We both struggled with alcoholism and she helped me get sober the first time around. We lived with each other for a while, and because she was disabled, all the chores fell to me. I ended up taking care of her dog a lot too. One day I found out I was paying 2/3 of the rent. When I confronted her about it she didn't apologize so I moved out. She didn't get a caregiver until I moved out. She had been taking an opiate for pain and when she tried to go off it herself she destroyed all the flower planters on the back porch. She went to rehab to get off the opiate. She fell back into alcoholism. We didn't talk for a while because I went to treatment for mental health reasons. Recently, she visited me and she hasn't changed. If anything, she got worse. She's erratic and irrational. She used to use meth and now takes Adderall for her "ADHD" but she popped those pills like candy. I went to take my medicine one morning while she was staying at my place and found that my antidepressant was missing. I took one from my pill bottle and thought maybe I missed that day. The next day, three more doses were missing. I had to kick her out and to this day she denies taking my pills but I know the truth and I know what I saw. I texted her about it a couple days after she left and she waited two weeks to get back to me.. When we talked last, I said my instincts were telling me there was more she wasn't telling me, she spun it back on me. She started repeating my "accusations" and made it my fault.
My old bestie talked about me behind my back ever since we first met (I was 4). I was a very active child and kinda crazy but after a few years I calmed down. My other bestie (I also met her when I was 4 but I’m closer with her) told me when I was 11-12 about that and that she talked about everyone. After knowing this I started developing fears of making new friends and about the ones I just made and if me and my bestie (the one I still have) has a slight argument I would have a mental breakdown and fear I would be alone for the rest of my life.
I feel bad for not wanting to talk to the girl but I wanna keep myself from any more insulting (even if it was behind my back).
When I was a lot younger my BFF was shoving butterflies into a milk carton and wouldn’t assure me she would let them free when the day was over so I cut contact 🤷♀️
Absolutely as you should.
Had never met my frail mom but wanted to have the opinion that sending my mom off to a psych ward would be best for her after her abusive husband died. My mom is and continues doing great without all that
when we went to minnesota together for a month but last minute decided to invite her bf.
her bf hates me for no reason but she always said it’s cuz i’m closer to her but nooo he doesn’t hate me. so in minnesota he screamed and yelled at me every single day made me cry over stupid stuff. one of the things he screamed at me for was eating a cup of noodle for dinner. i cried almost every night and was so sad. he smacked my ass right in front of her. HE did all of this right in front of her. she wasn’t there for me at all. i defended myself while crying and she blocked me from her snapchat story saying if i don’t like him i need to fuck off.
After she confessed her love to me. Now she’s my gf
aw, good for you!
Aw you got me
On the other hand, congratulations!!
Big brain move
here’s a story.
i had this crazy friend who helped me with an eating disorder. she told me all the tips and tricks, what to eat, what not to eat, how to not feel hungry etc. after leaving that toxic friendship my best friend of all time sent me a photo with said crazy ex friend. so after what that crazy friend did to me, my “best friend” decided to be her friend (my best friend knew what happened).
never *noped* out a friendship so quickly
she hacked my friend's insta and used it to stalk the guy who dumped her, then brough bricks into school to throw at this dude too...
Woah. Salute.
She and the entirety of my friend group confessed that they hated me and found me annoying. This was over text, on a group chat. And also that they had been talking crap about me behind my back for the past year.
I was her very first friend when she moved to my school in 4th grade. Other girls hated her, but I kindly welcomed her with open arms. After years of trust, time, and ever loving friendship, she betrayed me in a split second. As soon as I saw the words, my heart split open. It sent me down a spiral of grief and twisted hatred, baffled that she could do this to me. After the years of faith that I put into her and into our friendship, every moment of it collapsed in that moment as if it seemed nothing to her. I still cannot look at her the same way, even if we still go to school together.
I’ve had so many horrible people take advantage of me and my kindness, who emotionally abused me when I was younger, but I thought that was what normal friends did. I believe that I will never truly have a BFF, one that actually loves me and respects me.
Sorry about my rant, it feels a lot better to pour out my words right in front of me then to keep them in my head.
she told me that she was only my friend because I was black and wanted to find out how to date more black men(we were friends for 6 years soo.....)she then told me that i wasnt like other black girls because i was "tamed" and my hair wasnt nappy. Tbh i shouldve seen it coming she was always very...obsessed with trying to look like me to "get more ethnic men". she also mad very isamophobic comments
We live in different time zones. I texted her to say Happy Valentines Day. I forgot about the time difference but her response was 'Dude wtf, you woke us up!' and I never heard from her again. I ended up blocking her on most platforms we both were on.
She broke into my locker trashed it and stole stuff from it, lied about it, talked behind my back numerous times, stole my stuff other times, made me so isolated from all my friends i fell into a depression, was a compulsive liar, made me feel shit, physically and mentally hurt me, made my life a living hell ( considering i was also being body shamed by another girl), destroyed my self worth and made me develop trust issues. So yea i spent 6 years with such a “great friend” pulling me down and making my mental disorders fly thru the roof :)
The very first person I considered my best friend ditched me after I got diagnosed with autism. The next person I thought was my friend talked crap about me behind my back, bragged about being friends with the R-word in school, that she was such an awesome person to give me any attention. Safe to say I dropped her like a brick and then she threw a fit about me leaving her behind. I am quiet, and not sure how to interact with people, sure, and I don't see people their intentions at all, but I ain't dumb enough to not get it when it's spelled out behind my back.
Mine stopped talking to me after I threw her a 21st birthday party.
She was there for 3 days and 2 nights with her then boyfriend and his cousin, with my fiance and I. Another couple was supposed to come but we had no cell service so they couldn't find it even they had the address. We were friends for 10 years. That whole weekend she treated me like I didn't exist and would only speak to my fiance. When she did actually talk to me, it was short, snarky responses. Why? I don't actually know. It got so bad that on the second day I had a breakdown and had to shut myself in my bedroom until I could calm down because I couldn't understand what I did wrong. I still don't know. She treated me worse after that and they got mad because you don't buy firewood where we're from, you get it yourself. The reason we had them come was because they wanted to get drunk and you can't do that where they wanted to.
She hugged me right before driving away and I looked at my fiance and said and I quote "I'll never see her again, will I?" And he said probably not, I'm sorry and hugged me while I cried again.
We had been friends for a decade and when I had to go no contact with my parents at 16, her and her parents took me in and treated me like I mattered and was part of their family.
She was my son's godmother and I considered her parents my other parents. She was going to be my maid of honor and I was supposed to be hers. Even after that day, I still talked to her parents and I never spoke bad about their daughter, I never mentioned how she treated me.
What made me dislike her?
She got married to a different dude and didn't invite or tell me. I was hurt but that still wasn't enough for me to hate her.
Her not telling me when her mom died, that's what made me hate her. I found out nearly a year later when I went to message her mom and saw her profile was changed to a memorial.. that broke my heart even worse.
The day she left and I knew that was the last time I'd ever see or hear from her felt like I got dumped honestly and it still hurts to this day. It hurts even more knowing how little she cares about me, even when her mom died.
Best friend of 30 years actually was amused about my lay-off and unemployed status. Didn't even offer to chip in for the pizza he engulfed. Never even offered to float a resume for me. With a friend like that, realized I didn't need one.
My bff kept sticking up for my bully. And berating me whenever I tried standing up for myself.
Same
21:02 story is EXACTLY how my bff and I had separated. She had expected me to clean up her dogs' accidents so I had packed my things and left because I was no one's maid.
I spiralled mentally and didn't talk to anyone for a week. She then sent me a message saying I'm the shittest friend she has ever had and that I always ignore her and never want to spend time with her. In the 15+ years I was friends with her she probably called/texted me first a max of 10 times. Unless it was endless ranting/bitching and expecting me to agree with every thing or I'm a shit friend.
I lost contact with him after high school because we both had severe depression and it was hard to reach out. I got better after a year and a half so I reached out and asked how he was doing, we hung out a couple times but then he started flirting with the guy I liked, who is straight. My friend kept insisting that my crush is gay and is still in the closet based on the first conversation they had. I told my friend that even if he was gay it's none of our business but he kept flirting and stalking my crush. That's when I realized he's always done this to me but it's the first time I acknowledged it. He's always flirted with my high school boyfriends or tried to steal them but I never noticed. I cut him off completely about 2 years ago.
Also another group of friends in high school, I was dramatic in high school and annoying but my friends loved me anyways. One of them didn't and I always got weird vibes but brushed them off. In the middle of summer break she texts some mean things to me and I brushed it off. I guess she wasn't done arguing so she sends another string of mean texts and we start arguing again. I regret the way I acted, I should have ignored her but instead I went off. Lost 3 of my closest friends in one summer and got depressed for the rest of high school.
Been best friends with this girl since high school. I messaged her and another friend on a chat about my engagement. My "best friend" responded by leaving the chat without saying a word. This just happened days ago.
You should make sure she didn't have a thing with your now fiancé.
I had envited my friend to go church activities with me. After going for awhile apparently she got bored with it and instead of telling me she didn't want to go anymore, which I would have been sad she wouldn't be there anymore but would understand, she told the leaders that I told her she couldn't go anymore unless she joined my church. Had to hear it from my dad who was higher up in the leadership of the church. Never talked to her again. She cornered me at lunch one day with a bunch of other people. I had a panic attack, left and called my mom. School counselor convinced me not to go to the principal but told her I would not be in the same room as her unless we were in class together. Teachers were informed that we were not to be sat near each other and the next year her schedule was worked around mine. I haven't seen her in a while and am glad it was awkward because she would come to church activities with a different one of her friends who was also a member of my church.
TL;DR best friend started making homophobic jokes in front of me, a lesbian
our parents worked together before we were born and we ended up going to the same daycare/elementary school. our birthdays were only 10 days apart and as an only child, i considered her a sister. we had sleepovers almost every day even on school nights, borrowed clothes, and did almost everything together. as we got older though she started doing smaller things that got on my nerves like stealing jokes i said and taking credit for it, dismissing most of my ideas, ignoring me when we were around other people, etc. and we started drifting. eventually, in 6th grade she started making homophobic jokes, especially against lesbians. it was around the same time that i was slowly realizing that i was not straight. the jokes she made rubbed off on me and i struggled a lot with internalized homophobia. i couldn't do it anymore and slowly stopped inviting her over. i haven't seen her in about 5 years and have since come to terms with the fact that i'm a lesbian and i now have a wonderful friend group who loves and supports me. i still miss her a lot though.
Over the years she would stick to me like glue when it was just us two, but as soon as others came into play, she'd ditch me by conveniently forgetting to invite me to things, or say that a group thing was cancelled when it wasn't. For fucks sake for the school trip to D.C. when we are supposed to sign the roommate slip, I kept trying to get her to sign so we could room together, and she kept saying we could do it later. So when the deadline passed and I was called to pick a group of 3 to join since rooms were of four, she was nowhere to be seen because apparently already had a full group and was lying to my face about it for a week.
She acted bizarre and weird in public, but I didn't mind one bit because I enjoyed that kind of humor. But as soon as I did something weird/random (which I mean come on we were pre-teens) she'd tell me to stop and act as if I just humiliated her with cringe. She'd frequently ignore me when she and I were with others.
The last straw was over summer during an orchestra camp that was a week long over night trip. Mid-way through, I was frequently being ignored by her and I thought it was because no one heard what I said, so I would repeat myself. And that night she told me "everyone thinks I'm annoying, because I repeat myself over and over again with things that weren't even funny, and that because I'm annoying, a lot of her friends hate me and talk about me behind my back for the past several years." And that she's telling me this because "She wants to help me." All while essentially saying that the reason everyone hates me is all my fault for being annoying (which btw being called annoying is a trigger for me due to years of bullying). Saying that maybe I'd be more popular if I actually dressed nice or straightened or curled my hair because it looked hideous.
She also thought it was childish and embarrassing that I had separation anxiety from my parents (again I was only 13), thinking I should grow up. And if I matured people would start taking me seriously.
I called my parent crying my eyes out, and they picked me up from camp at 2am. That night I decided the friendship was over, but I didn't have the guts at the time to say it. So I just made my way through the rest of the camp pretending to be her friend, and then ghosted her immediately after.
Best part, the next day she said, and I quote "Lol, sorry about last night I was a real bitch." and then changed the topic as if that solved everything. Several months later in high school orchestra class, I was forced to interact with her because I had nowhere to escape. She complimented my hair, and I said "Thanks, yeah it used to look hideous but it looks a lot better now." And she said "Nah, your hair was always beautiful, I was so jealous of it!" I was ready to punch her in the face because I still vividly remember her trying to get me to change my hair because it was hideous. I'm so glad to have that bitch face out of my life now.
Had a conversation with mine via text, and told her that she did something that hurt my feelings. No dramatics or anything, just matter of fact. Went to an event, and not even two hours later I came home to her dragging me on FB. And having all her cronies do the same. Called her out on her shit. Told her I was done with her constantly hurting me every time I let her back in, that she was toxic, and to lose my number. That was probably 10 years ago, my life has been so peaceful and drama free without her BS and antics in it. He mom passed recently, and people said I should reach out. Screw that, not giving that grifter any way into my life.
I was friend with 4 people, one was already gravitating away and never really hung out with us. It had been getting gradually worse, I went home crying many times. I was too scared to leave though, I knew another group of people but I’m pretty shy so I didn’t want to have to integrate myself in. Anyway, things like they would quickly leave if they saw me, gave everyone a bit of food except me, didn’t give many, if any, birthday presents, ect. The last straw was when they actively hid from me. I couldn’t find them and found the crouched against the back of a wall eating their lunch, obviously hiding their faces. I went over to them, said hi, one said hi and nothing else. Silence. One messed around in the dirt, the others ate. I was so hurt. I just got up and left. Went to mu other friend, who was in a pretty bad home and school situation. Didn’t stay long. Quickly I left and went to sitting under a tree, reading. After a week or so though one of the people from the other group I knew and wanted to be friends with came up to me and asked if I wanted to sit with them. Almost 2 years in and life is pretty great, aside from the occasional arguments
Got into drugs due to what was at my time my best friend. We were tight, real tight. LIke, I'd tell him all sorts of things I couldn't tell my parents. I was willing to try weed through him, turns out he was offering me meth. I figured if I was willing to try, I may as well try, and well, initially it was nothing like the dare programs said it was, so I figured it was all lies and what not. A year and a half later, I facing the idea that he's not just a contact, but a dealer and I'm getting used, and while I had suspected as much at times, I chalked most of my suspicion to the drug addled state of mind I was in. But when I was on the verge of sobriety, he "teaches me a lesson" about my accusations and it makes me straight up quit. Been almost 2 years and I"m glad I don't know him anymore. Sobriety has been a blessing.
Ok I know no one will read this but I got a doozy:
We didn’t have the healthiest relationship, she bullied me a lot and took advantage of my kindness but I didn’t have any self esteem so I thought that’s what I was worth. It finally clicked when one day she complained to our uni accommodation saying my depression was so bad she didn’t want to have me living in the same building anymore because “she was scared I would do something” so they kicked me out and I was homeless for a few weeks. When the management of the building told me I had to leave immediately and couldn’t even go back to collect my things because someone complained about me - I knew exactly who that someone was because I only knew one person. I then got a text from her saying “this is what’s best for you, I can’t be bothered being around you anymore” . Yeah I didn’t reply to that and haven’t talked to her since.
Was told he talked shit behind my back, 7 years down the drain lmao
Had my best friend of 25 years leave a voicemail telling me she was in a bad mood and that was the end of our friendship.. going on four years now.. your loss Adele!
Supported her and helped her despite my terrible mental state (it’s still bad) and she would do stuff like say we don’t understand and was like, “OOH I’m DEPRESSED I’m a PSYCOPATH you should just GO 😭😭😭😭😭😭😔😔😰,” and stuff along the lines of that. She was the, “you think that’s bad?” Friend who thought everything about her meant she had it worse than you, which maybe she did and maybe she didn’t but she literally admitted to being “edgy” because of me so apparently it’s my fault. she would complain about her parents being “unsupportive” (her mother was literally a therapist for transgender youth what the fuck was she talking about and she didn’t even end up thinking she was trans in the end it literally was just a phase) and while she’s a lot better now toddling off with her friends here I am, all alone, haven’t slept in a week again, hungry and thirsty and suicidal as always and thinking of injuring myself. Hurray.
Also if it’s Saturday that’s Shabbat. Basically you don’t touch any electronics, preheat the oven the night before, it’s sort of the “rest day,” but I don’t exactly celebrate it as I’m not an “Orthodox Jew.”
I had this ex bff that would constantly hit on my male co-workers/friends. Long story short, she basically sexually assaulted my friend in my own home when I left them alone for a minute to go find something. She grinded on his leg and got pissed when he tried to get her off him when she wouldn't take know for an answer. I came back to them arguing. We settled it, tried to move on, but she was moping and refused to talk to me. So I took her home as I was her ride. Later I get a text from her mother saying I'm a bad influence and that I'm never allowed to hang out with her again (this happened in our early twenties lol. Her mother was super controlling and didn't like me just because I cut my hair short. She had short hair too tho.) So obviously she lied about what happened to her mommy because what psycho would be ok with that kind of behaviour from their daughter. I also resent being called a bad influence because I've always been called a good influence by people and always try my best to be a good friend. Needless to say, I was pretty pissed off. She tried the whole "but I still want to be friends despite what my mom says!" Bullcrap but I was already done at that point. Nobody acts like that in my house and then gets me in trouble for it. Fuck you Lindsay. I will never forgive you for your atrocious behaviour and hope you get all the STDs, you skank.
I was at the other end of it. My girlfriend at the time had a friend, "Sally". She would flirt with me, sometimes in front of my gf. When I asked her about it my gf said Sally was just like that and it didn't bother her. I admit I was part of the problem because I liked the attention.
While my gf was out of town Sally showed up and and made it very clear she wanted me. At one point she almost became insistent. I told her to leave.
A few days later I came home from work to find all my gf's stuff gone. I called around and found her to ask what was going on. She told me Sally had told her everything. Except in her version I had invited her over and tried to have sex with her. My gf then cut off all communication.
A week or so later she showed up at my place, very apologetic. After she told a few friends what had happened they told her that Sally was probably lying. She has a serious thing for other women's boyfriends/husbands. There was a reason they wouldn't let them alone with her and assumed she knew.
I took her back but it always bugged me (possibly more than it should have) that she took Sally's story at face value before even asking me what happened.
I have a story like this too:
We knew each other from school times like elementary school
(another best friend involved)
and where best friends for almost a Decade.
The former Friend who left, was having some other friends, he spent more and more time with, including a Woman he was having something of a romantic flirt going on with.
He also was one of these Persons who used Social Media a lot, since he obviously needed the attention and Validation for his girly Photos and the room for his arrogant, narcissistic personality.
He also viewed at himself to be "very smart" and had a quite obnoxious habit of mentioning „Facts" he read or heard about
In some online Articles or Documentaries, without any Context, so he could feel "smart" by (almost) pontificating Things nobody had asked for, in order to appear "superior" and "sophisticated".
(I also could very clearly sense, that he looked at himself to be far superior to Me, as he mentioned this one "Fact" he had heard about Digestion.
I could just read between the lines that he told Me this random "Fact" to try making Me feel stupid or inferior. It was very obvious by the way how he expressed it, like: "...And how all of us know, eating while watching TV disturbs your Digestion Process."
He also mentioned this, right after pausing RUclips, since we had ordered some Food, we where going to eat at this particular Moment.)
This wasn't the only red Flag anyhow, since he also had a quite pedantic habit of using a inappropriate amount of technical Terms, in order to describe absolutely casual Things and Topics in a very forced, complicated way, so he (again) could appear "smarter" than he was.
(He actually was convincing Me of the complete Opposite with his behavior, because: Smart People, like any other kind of unordinary People, don't tell you how smart they are, they don't waste their Time by making a Point of their Intellect, they just care about the Things they usually care about and move on.)
He on the other Hand, was the complete Opposite of this.
He was a very conceited Person and considered himself to be "something Special", just because he spent his time online reading through the Definition of the prior mentioned "technical Terms", so he could memorize them, in order to use it for the Intentions i have mentioned.
On Top of that, he was partially Portuguese and therefore started getting into Portuguese Culture and even learning the Language. (no problem so far)
The real Issue with this occurred only then, when the football Championships where rolling on and Germany lost a Game due to a own goal.
(i should mention that We come from Germany)
However;
He Proceeded to post on this Topic on his Instagram and would just Talk Shit, by Taunting Germany as a whole, as well as their Football-Players.
(You could really see the Hate in his post and yes, he was really into Football and Portuguese Nationalism.)
Well, how the Turn Tables;
Portugal comes to play against Germany (at least i think it did, if remember correctly.) and loses *brutally!*
They not only got one or two, but a staggering THREE Own Goals in one single Game. (Which was hilarious enough itself, to say the least)
But the best Part of this was, that Me and the other BFF would taunt him back for being so obnoxious about everything. (despite the other two of us not really being into Football)
We just totally fucking lost it and almost died Laughing about this whole Ordeal, since this Dork just got what he had coming to him and he got it big Time.
(We did this when he wasn't present, like we did a thousand times when he was. We would casually pick on each other and brutally insult each other, while laughing our Asses off, like BFF's do. But nonetheless, i told him about that, so he knows and would be aware of this casual Thing going on.
I also taunted him back directly prior, for being such a Dickhead in general, by making fun of his awkward "Proud" about something he didn't do a Shit for.)
Anyways...
After i told him that the other Friend and Me make fun of his whole Portuguese-Charade etc., he was absolutely baffled and later claimed this to be the Reason for ending the Friendship to us, but that was just Bullshit.
The Signs where there Months Prior.
-He would get pissed and sad when we Casually making fun of each other, while going out doing something together.
-He was just call one of his Dork-Friends and proceed to Chat with him on the Phone, while we spent some time in the City together, instead of socializing/interacting with us.
-All the other red Flags like;
Being so narcissistic, arrogant, conceited and also dependent on external Validation, despite claiming that he wasn't. (Probably due to his extensive Social Media use)
When he decided to end the Friendship with this Cheap Excuse, i knew instantly that he only did this, because he thought he was something better than us and wanted to spend more time with his dork Friend and this Girl he met, since the other two of us "weren't good enough anymore" for him.
(I wouldn't be surprised if the Girl/Woman somewhat talked him into that too)
However...
As i received his Message on My Phone (the other friend just got blocked without notification or anything) i just was like:
"Know what? Go and go fuck yourself. I don't care.)
And that's that.
P.S
In the End he developed to be just a very sad and insecure Person that wants to compensate all of his flaws by making himself out to be: " The smartest person around", etc. I really wouldn't be surprised if he severely struggles with Mental Health Today or even attempted/Committed Suicide already.
Wouldn't care anyways, since he brought it to himself. 🤷♂️
My mom was diagnosed with advanced breast cancer and my former bff let's call her D decided to cut down how often we communicated after I shared with her my mum's condition while bawling my eyes out. When D became engaged she never informed me until a slip of the tongue many months later - when I asked why she didn't share with me the great news - she claimed she must have told me but when pressed she had no recollection of ever telling me. She never reached out when my mom died. When D got married I was never informed or invited to the wedding. I contacted her almost 2 yrs after her wedding, when I was getting married - and she acted like it was old times - she never wanted to address why she never reached out & blamed COVID on why I was never invited to the wedding yrs ago... She had no explanation on why I wasn't even informed about the wedding.... She claimed she was going thru unnamed stuff when she got married yrs ago.
I haven't spoken to her since our last WhatsApp text last yr... And she hasn't reached out either....
Dude got me my first ever detention in high school for an incredibly stupid reason. We were hanging out in the art classroom during lunch and decided together that we would move to the auditorium. He had a bunch of lunch things, like more than one could comfortably carry, so since we were both going to the same place I simply picked up a few of his things and carried them to the auditorium for him, where I promptly gave them right back. At the end of lunch period I come to find out that this dude who I considered my best friend had gone running to the teacher saying I stole his lunch?!? He never even said a word to me about it, just took his lunch things back and we carried on our conversation comfortably, then he throws me under the bus over nothing and lands me in detention. Heck you, Lucas. I was just trying to help. Haven't spoken to him since, still salty about that massive overreaction on his part and the fact that he didn't even try to talk to me about it. In hindsight I probably should have offered to carry them instead of just picking them up, but come on, I never even peeked into any of it, let alone eating any.
A much longer friendship was ended by a series of childish, narcissistic behaviour culminating in what seemed like an effort to get away with not paying back a heap of money she owed me(bailed her out of having to tell her parents about a $400+ fine for having two non-relatives under 20 years old in the car on her P plates, technically she would have been fine because I'm her cousin and was on the threshold for the age bracket but the silly b*tch LIED TO THE COP'S FACE about my relation to her, claiming I was her sister, and then swiftly had to eat those words when we handed over our IDs, so the cop changed the warning to a fine to teach her a lesson). Two years of occasional small repayments and much more frequent excuses about not having any money while posting pictures of new bags and dresses on Facebook every other week, and then she randomly ignores just me for an entire month for no apparent reason, though I still saw a lot of Facebook activity from her and nobody else got ignored from what I could see. I'd put up with a hell of a lot of nonsense from her, but ignoring me for no reason and then coming back with barely an apology was the straw that broke the camel's back. So when I finally pointed out that it felt like she was hoping I would forget she still owed me over $200 and she finally came over to repay the rest of the money(which makes me suspicious about how long she'd been holding onto that much with the constant excuses of not having any), and said she'd "understand if I didn't want to be friends anymore", that was my Get Out Of Jail Free card. Friendship over. Pretty sure that was supposed to be rhetorical because she gives me a death glare every time she sees me now, she can barely manage a curt "hi" when I greet her; but the amount of times she'd deliberately done something to provoke me and the others in the friend group, said sorry for it and then promptly done something similar, it honestly felt like she was trying to use a bandaid to fix a broken window. Sometimes I do still miss that friendship, we were BFFs for a good few years and that friendship helped me get through high school. But honestly, it's not worth the mental breakdowns and constant eggshells I had to walk trying to maintain that.
He said his bf and our former roommate, who was a police officer, had been shot and might not make it.
I held him while he cried, sobbing, and comforteded him, but thought it seemed weird. There was nothing in the news about it, and later at work, I asked a regular who was mutual friends with former roommate and also an officer, and he was confused, former roommate was fine.
Friend continued to cry, and go visit former roommate at the hospital, aslked to borrow money for the bus ride, etc.
My other roommate and I pieced together that he had been playing us against eachother and taking about $300 from us a month, on top of pawning our stuff.
Also, other friends pointed out every time i had something bad happen to me, or a reason to be upset with him, he had something 10x worse. He took my card and took hundreds out of my savings without asking? Oh no, his account had been hacked, all his money gone, and he needed help with rent and his medical bills! My cat needs emergency surgery? Someone jumped him on his way to work and tried to stab him, so now his multiple personalities are coming out and he lost his job.
I finally moved, and he ghosted me a few weeks ahead of time. Just up and vanished. Left all his stuff and went to live with his new bf.
Maybe. He might have been lieing about that too. No idea. I hope he's ok, but like, I'm also cool to never hear from him again.
Isn’t it painful when you’ve been saying “yes” to them for YEARS and u finally say “no” and they act a plum fool ?!? I hate that but at least I learned to say ‘no’. Don’t forget to tell someone “no” today !!!!!
He was clingy, homophobic (I’m bi), and couldn’t handle his emotions. He had a crush on my older cousin and when she rejected him he messaged me saying he’d have to block me because when he looks at me all he sees is her. I chewed him out, saying how if our friendship revolves around her then we shouldn’t be friends. I ignored him for a few days only to receive another message some weeks later with him threatening suicide if I don’t talk to him again. This wasn’t the first time he threatened suicide but this time I realized how manipulative he was and told him I can’t be friends with him anymore. I haven’t talked to him in months but I check his Instagram every now and then to see how he’s doing. I later found out he was doing the same thing he did to my cousin and I to other girls. I really hope he reflects on all the friends he’s lost due to his behavior and grows out of it. I really miss having him as a friend.
She started becoming friends with an abusive ex boyfriend after she knew how I felt about it and what he did to me
This makes me cry because it’s the only thing I can respond to isn’t he sea of reddit asks. I miss her very much, and I think I had loved her at one point. But here’s the story:
I used to have a BFF whom I met when I was 4. We had the same bike, and stared at each other when riding. We lived right across from each other. We were also in the same kindergarten class. So we became bffs. That was it. Then, when I was 11, I moved away. I still went from her house from time to time, but I didn’t have a phone so she never knew when. I went to her house at the worst time. She was hanging out with her other friends, and I felt left out. I still regret it. We were platonic soulmates. My bike was also breaking down, and I couldn’t get a new one, so I had no transportation. I just.. stopped going to her house. After a week, I thought she hated me. I was naive. We just.. drifted apart. I wish I had tried to contact her more. This is the first year I have ever not spoken to her. At all. Worst thing is, she probably moved on. I haven’t. I’m still naive. ;(((
Sometimes you have to cut the friendship! Toxic is toxic
I told BFF her boyfriend couldn't come to my Birthday party 'cause my parents' house was really small and I wanted to see again some close friends (they never had freetime but confirmed their presence). She got mad and say he considered me a close friend.
I then went to live with my daughter to my now husband's house against my parents will. They called her to know where I was and she told them they should adopt my daughter 'cause I was a danger to her life.... So, yeah
I never had a real one. My actual BFF (idk if I should call her that way) almost finished being another failed friendship. Good that I had the balls to do something.
She just went in on me on my birthday and verbally tore me apart. I have no idea what I did to provoke it. I didn't speak to her for a month, and when I finally did, she attacked me again. Then on Thanksgiving, after a huge family fight, I posted something saying that the holiday seasons can be hard, and if anyone needs to talk, they can talk to me. For some reason, after months of not talking, she sent me a message saying that post was taking things to far, and she was unfriending me. I was feeling petty and just blocked her on every platform the moment I got that message.
My EX BFF took a bite out of a kiwi put it back in my fridge and blamed it on my cat. we all know it was her....
We were friends for about 10 years but the last 2-3 the contact decreased but her attitude grew. She was constantly talking shit about others, esp good friends and sister in law- but hung out 24/7 with them. Told me every deepest secret from them.
Well, it was her wedding and I was chatting a few weeks prior with her sister in law about gift ideas and she told me about 500€ and up is enough. I was shocked, because we weren't that close anymore and grew apart and we had a baby prior. Well, she asked me to be her maid of honor and meanwhile I was not with her but other guests. Later she talked bad about my bf for not wearing a full suit while her uncle was wearing chucks and 7/8 trousers and her cousin rubber boots. Well, I guess 150€ was not enough and she threw everything away. 2yrs later I miss the best friend I once had but I guess she was also talking shit about me with others.
She started doing drugs and ghosted us, leaving me to pay for the amenities and rent in the apartment since I had the job.
This story has to do with 2 of my friends, one whom I met in 2007 (who was my best friend) and the other in 2013.
My best friend and I often hung out anywhere we could get to by foot and public transportation. It wasn’t uncommon for him to have a big enough pair to walk up to a random girl and work his way into flirting or asking for their number or MySpace. By 2011, he asked me if he could date my one of my sisters (one who was 16 and the other was 25 while he was 21). I tried to be cool and chalk it up to him joking around about becoming my brother. Still, I thought it was really weird because he knew how old my younger sister was.
Fast forward to just last year, I was reminiscing on Facebook about how I miss hanging out with him and another friend. The friend I met in 2013 (who’s the same age as my younger sister) messaged me and told me that she knew him and that he would persuade her into skipping school and other things to hang out with him, essentially trying to groom her. This was around the same time he asked me if he could date one of my sisters. He and I were talking less and less over the years but after finding that out, I just decided to ghost him.
I immediately believed her not only because he also wanted to date my sister, but because I had noticed that ever since I met him, he only went of out his way to hit on girls who looked even remotely like they were into goth, punk, metal and scene culture. My sister and my other friend fell into those categories.
15:08 had a flash of panic there for a second thinking he was going to say it was a charazard
BFF since kindergarten. While all of our friends went to a different high school, we decided to stick together and go to a private high school. At the end of first year, we got into a stupid fight for something benign, don't even remember what it was. We didn't talk to each other until graduation year when she got dumped by her boyfriend and didn't had anyone to eat with anymore since we stopped being friends she had no other friends at the school. So when she approached me and ask if she could eat with me and my friends I took pity on her and agreed. We were on friendly terms, but weren't friends anymore. After graduating we never spoke to each other again.
I told her I was pregnant (I'm married and he was planned) she said "oh this is going to be a disaster" and once I stopped initiating contact there was none.
She accused me of stealing to cover the fact that she lost something so her boyfriend wouldn't get onto her for losing said item for the millionth time
ETA: We had been bffs for 17 years
I play the clarinet in band. When we were waiting for our bus (we rode the same bus), my friend decided to take my clarinet in its case, and swing it around. I got anxious, as instruments are not cheap. I told him to stop, he wouldn’t, so I slapped him, as any rational person would do if somebody was swinging around something fragile and expensive (I think). A teacher asked why I was slapping him. I say that he is messing with my clarinet. She gets on to him, and tells his sister (another friend of mine) since that they were moving, that was good, because they would never see me again. Goddamn jerk. Wasn’t my fault you messed with someone that was expensive and not yours.
TLDR: Ex friend fell in love, tried to make me seem like a cheater, and raped a friend
Ohoho this is a STORY, I'm a lesbian woman, he was a bi man and we were best friends, did EVERYTHING together, I had (Still have) a girlfriend and he understood and respected that. But then one day after some weird shit that really wasn't traumatic at all (Literally he made a friend for 3 days and she decided to move away??) He snapped. He fell in love with me, but I tried to ignore it because he kept saying he won't do anything with it. Then he began to try to shove me and my gf aside. He messaged my gf saying I told him me and her were in an open relationship (not true) He tried to take me out to hang out more and more so I didn't have a ton of time with her, and finally became EXTREMELY controlling, saying stuff like "I don't want you staying home. I hate it, we're going to the mall today." and when I explained that no, I am staying home, he'd get mad. The final straw was when he sexually abused a friend of mine, and that friend told me that he said awful things behind my back, such as I was in an open relationship, I fucked anyone I could, me and him fucked daily etc etc etc. I blocked him on everything and haven't seen him in over a year. A lot of people are distancing themselves from him, which I'm so happy about
She stopped talking to me because I invited her crush over because she wanted to talk to him. This was in 8th grade.
N.B: There are a lot of things missing from this.
My ex best friend. We became really close and I grew feelings for her. I told her and we ended up in a two month long talking stage. First month was amazing; we'd text/talk for hours and at that time, she was a really nice person, though she was going through a lot at home. The second month, we still were talking and we were still close but we began arguing. The arguments began to get worse and she began to hate me, though she'd start some of them. Sometimes she'd ask questions to test me and if I didn't like my answer it'll lead to hostility or a dispute. I am not innocent either as I said some things that hurt her. It was a continuous cycle of talking normal and arguing until 1 day, she just said she doesn't like me and we'll stop talking by the next year. About 3 hours later she asks if I still love her. I said "yes, but it doesn't matter" or something along those lines. She then proceeds to call me immature and I could have just ended it at yes, even though when I ask "does it matter to you?", the answer to that was no. I then said her definition of maturity was fucked up, which led to me being blocked and out of her life ever since. As I said before, we both said things that hurt each other but for the past 3 months of those ties being severed, I'm not as emotionally drained as I used to be. I am doing a much better job of getting my life on track. If you come across this I wish you nothing but success and happiness in life but I have no desire to ever speak to or see you again.
She and I had been having small issues on and off all of our freshman year of college. She hated my boyfriend (who I'm still with 3+ years later) and I liked him enough to not let her opinion ruin my relationship. There were a couple times she mentioned wanting to hang out with me and missing spending time with me, but everytime I would hang around the dorm room waiting for her to come back from classes and studying, she would either come back and go hang out with new friends or get ready to shower and say she was going to bed after. Eventually I gave up trying so hard and I spent a lot of time with my partner and our friends. One day she had one of her new friends find my boyfriend and I when we're were hanging out in the park behind the dorms to give me a letter. It was a page and a half long, tear stained letter that was worded to the effect of "I miss you, I'm so lonely, I can't believe you would let us drift apart like this. I hate (insert boyfriends name), he ruined our friendship. I miss you." I could just feel the rage bubble up inside of me. I had tried so hard to spend more time with her, we had been walking to the coffee shop in the mornings before our chem class, I had been asking her for weeks when she would have a bit of free time to hang out. Not to mention, of all ways to communicate, she chose to write me a letter? Rather than actually talking to me. I seethed for a few hours and then decided that my rage was probably misplaced and I wanted to sort things out with her. I knew she usually came back to the dorm around 9 that night. So I went back to the dorm and waited and waited. At like 11 pm I decided she probably wasn't coming, so I turned off the lights and tried to fall asleep. At about 1 am, I heard the buzz of our dorm door unlocking (we had electronic keys) and the door creaked open ever so slowly. She tiptoed in and collected her stuff as quietly as she could, all the school stuff she would need for the next day and a clean set of clothes. I pretended to be asleep the whole time, being just too tired and upset to deal with it. After she collected her stuff, she crept back out and closed the door as quietly as she could. I then cried for about an hour and called my boyfriend, who then decided we should get cookies to take our minds off of it. She proceeded to avoid me for days, then pretended nothing had ever happened. A few weeks later the covid shutdown happened and we all got sent home. I can count on one hand how many times I've seen her since. It makes me so sad sometimes, I really do miss her. I just don't think I'll ever be able to hang out with her again without thinking of how poorly she handled the situation.
that was a fucking HEAVY one to end on let’s not do that again
we were together for 5+ years and i helped at his every step and even tutored him for his exams(science, social studies and math) but just after that i was never important. we went to the same school and he only talked when he wanted something or wanted money for food and didn't even call me or asked how i was for an entire year. and the worst part he talks to everyone and hangs out with them except me
It pretty much started in 5th/6th grade when my friend ended up dating some guy and ended up ignoring me for the most part to spend time with him every living moment of the god damn day. I knew that I’d probably lose her two times: the first being on Valentine’s in fifth grade. We always spent time together and would play four square together at recess, and exchange gifts, that that year she had just gotten me a card with a duckling on it that said “thanks for being a great friend!” While she gave her boyfriend a whole essay on a card. The second was after she got mad at the plans I had on MY birthday(we were supposed to be going to so something like the aquarium or something?) and she was talking about how she wanted to go bowling, so my mom ended up screaming at her and we had to drop her iff at her house. Needless to say that birthday was a disaster.
Regardless though, in seventh grade we were sitting in history, and I had been trying to reconnect with her, but as the dismissal bell rang, I said “Hey [insert name here]” and she cussed me out and called me a bad friend, claiming that she only stuck around me because she felt bad for me, while the teacher simply sat and stared. I haven’t spoken to her since. I blame myself a lot for what happened, but at the same time she had no right to call me a bad friend because I was her only friend from 2nd to like 5th grade because she had mood swings very over and was overall super aggressive. You know who you are and if you’re reading this, I’m Sorry for trying to be nice. Also, go f yourself. You’ve made me think all my friends are fake and that they all secretly hate me like you did. Hope you’re having fun being single and that you’re happy with your choices.
I was trying to fix my mic and headset on discord because it stopped working for some odd reason.
The instant I got it fixed, I hear her say, "Nobody fucking cares about you bitch!" This wasn't in a joking matter either.
I clicked the block, blocked on facebook, twitter, etc.... and got a final message saying that I will wish to still be her friend when she blows up huge on twitch.
Last I checked, she hasn't streamed in over a month.
She stopped talking to me. She smoked salvia (the synthetic marijuana that causes seizures and strokes) and I told her my concern because I used to be a spice addict.
Few months later I do a micro dose of LSD/acid and she blocked me. Apparently she unblocked me some time ago; wonder what changed her mind.
I was friends with a man named Dante. He implied that my dead girlfriend was in hell, so I punched him and never spoke to him again.
She got mad because I didn’t come to her house while she was on shark week. Mind you after that she came to my house s and threw all bunch of shit infront the door - she even threw her used pads too. Like wtf is wrong with her
The fact that there was a group of people and the evil girl thought that it was okay to slap my other friend for now reason. Could've laid hands on her but I would've gotten detention
I was accused of rape for trolling in a discord. And we never spoke again
17:29 did the right thing, despite ruining the friendship.
I had a best friend since elementary school and when middle school hit, she decided to hang out with a bunch of troublemakers and pretty much ghosted me out of her life, but thankfully I found a new best friend last year 😄
Edit: My ex best friend will occasionally try to speak to me at school or text, she thinks we are still best friends, to me she was pretty much a backstabber at that point🙄
We were friends since kindergarten and my very 1st friend. Her house/family was mine and mine was hers. I spent a week in her dorm and voiced how nice/expensive everything was compared to where I was going to college and she responded with "Maybe you should've stayed home." I was in a new place with no phone/car/money visiting her on my break.1st time she made me legit cry. I told myself it was because her classes where hard and she was stressed. Her grandma died and I wasn't able to be there because I couldn't drive and if I missed any of my classes I was going to be kicked out of college and my dad would've kicked me out of the house. When I was able to be there she ignored me and everything I said/did to try and comfort her. 2 weeks later her and her mom tag teamed bullying me on Facebook. 15 years of friendship gone. Afterwards I realized how toxic her/her mom where but am still really sad about it. I'm still trying to work through it all years later. I commented on a post about how I was sorry her dad passed away but couldn't read her response and the post was removed by the family member. Reoccurring nightmares that I'm stuck in a mall with them both and can do nothing but cry while wake up crying. 🙃
One of my best friends from junior high just straight up stopped talking to me, our group chat died and she started ignoring me. We live in the same neighborhood so we used to meet up and hang out constantly but the last time I saw her she was at my job and didn't even look at me when I waved at her. I'd love to hear this story from her perspective, and I really hope it wasnt something I did