Also for the mamas who need to hear this...I actually feel there is so much pressure TO put my LO in daycare. I work from home and take my kid to my family business. Yes it's hard but we are not doing daycare rn. People ask me nonstop if she is in daycare or when I'll be taking her. I guess it can be a sensitive subject like breastfeeding and all the other things people have opinions about. Thank you Nikole & Matt for sharing so candidly. ❤️
So thrilled to hear you talk about daycare! There can be stigma behind it, but it’s also a necessity for so many. My husband and I both work full time. Our lil guy started at an amazing daycare at 6 months old. After 3 months of working and caretaking, I felt so discouraged and distracted. Now that he’s in care, I share your feeling that it is so enriching to pick him up and have both parents be fully present - even if it’s fewer hours of the day, the quality of time has soared ❤
For the longest time I felt ashamed to have help even though for most of Sage's first year it was just Matt and I balancing work with parenting as I didn't have a mat leave. Not only are Matt and I better parents with the help but Sage needs the learning, socializing, etc that daycare brings. She's been thriving since we had her go and its been nice to cherish our evenings and weekends even more.
I wanted to pause the video to say it’s comforting to hear that it’s normal to feel like you and your partner are “roommates”… 😞 We are trying to navigate that with an almost 6 year old and a 20 month old. And is both working. It’s hard to have the energy to give to another person when you are touched out… but I also remind myself that these moments and days are fleeting and to not forget to take care of yourself and your partner… easier said than done but I recognize that and I feel that is half the battle so… ❤️🙏🏽
I use to feel guilty and embarrassed about it but I think it’s a very normal stage. It’s better to recognize that every day, week, etc is different and your romantic relationship may not always be top priority. It doesn’t mean your love for each other has faded it just changes. I do think it’s important to have dates, make time and communicate.
That was my thought process with having baby #2, so we started trying 1 year postpartum. I’m also 35 (not that it should matter) but felt a bit more urgency to try sooner. I’m due in May & I think 2 will be it for us😊 Honestly though, there’s no right or wrong way of going about it, it’s whatever works best for you & your family- which is a very personal decision.❤
So happy for Sage, socializing and learning it is so important, I don’t think I’ve heard Matt talk so much it was great, tyfs it was very interesting and informative I know it’s hard to share things on the internet because of so much judgement, you guys are doing a great job in all aspects from what I got out of the video 😀❤️
Burnout can get in the way of bonding with your child, from someone with an estranged relationship with their mother who worked all the time but close relationship with a father who was able to be around all the time. Me and my mother are reconnecting, and this isn't meant as judgement at all 💞 I didn't learn about burnout indepth until recently, it's been an eye opener, especially with reducing stress, setting healthy boundaries, and compassion
I don’t think that anyone should be shamed for sending or not sending child to a daycare.Everyone has different life circumstances and different mental capacity. However I don’t agree with reasons that you guys have mentioned that daycare offers better opportunities than home such as socialising. Babies have no need to have peer interactions until at least they’re 3 most likely 4. Also you mentioned that Sage shared things with others and developmentally babies cannot grasp this idea until they’re 4/5 years old. Also better behaviour comes from the fact that home and parents is most of the time their safe place hence the tantrums and big feelings are not happening in the nursery but left for parents when they come home. Just my thoughts from early child development research
As a fellow mom of a two year old as well I am with Matt on the one after another… I feel like now that we aren’t in full survival mode I am scared to do it again 😅 as crazy as that sounds there is definitely logic there lol Sleep deprivation is SO HARD.
Absolutely love your videos!❤ thank you both for being so open and honest 🙏 you are both a total inspiration! Wishing you and your beautiful family joy 🥰
Love that you said that a lot of it came naturally to you or felt natural (even with challenging days). I felt the same but sometimes(oddly enough) it feels like it’s not ok to say that. As though it’s only supposed to feel difficult and unnatural.
I hoped people didn’t take that the wrong way so I’m glad you received it the way I intended. Yes a lot of things can be hard but there were also a lot that came naturally and without challenges. Such as breastfeeding has been a great journey and I think it’s important to share positive sides as well.
Loved hearing Mat talk so much. Great video. I had mine back to back because of the reasons Mat was saying... you get into and out of stages together. I don't know that there is a right time to add siblings... the universe sometimes decides for you! Coincidentally i also made banana bread this morning.
Great video. From the moment I had my son, everyone also ask when is number 2 coming. What they dont know is that we can’t 😢 so now I am much more sensitive about asking this to others because for all we know, you guys have been trying. I appreciate the openness and when time comes for you guys to grow your family, it will magical
I also can't have another one and it is kind of funny when people ask if I am going to have another one. I realize it's just a natural inclination at this point for people to ask, nothing personal at all. There are people who judge, but those that do judge are not important at all and have their own issues with following their own desires and not the expectations of society, maybe because how they were raised which formed their biases and keeps them feeling safe and secure idk.
Motherhood is damned if you do, damned if you don’t. I got so much slack for sleep training but no one is in my shoes. Motherhood truly taught me to do me and what’s best for my family. I’m enrolling my kiddos is whatever good preschool type school that accepts 2.5 year olds
25:32 Way to go Matt! So smart in finance/real estate. 🎉 And can definitely agree with baby number two right after the first one. That way their getting raised in the same age group. But it can definitely be challenging. So much to think about. Not as easy as it may sound for some people. 🙋♀️ I had postpartum depression for the first 6 months after my baby. And it was hard. Nicole: I went for business marketing and then became a RUclipsr 😂😂 You go girl! 👏💪👩🍳📔
I currently have two kids under 2 (😵💫) and I think it's a matter of intensity. We are having a very intense time now after having a pretty good routine with just 1 baby. If we had waited a little longer between pregnancies it might have been more years but at a less intense level. Either way the second is easier because it's not a guessing game! You'll be pros!
It’s funny when you two were talking about a 2nd kid because in my head “everything is perfect. We are sleeping. We have a routine” means LETS HAVE ANOTHER NOW! to me. Lol Just like the lack of extreme stress and unpredictability makes me question if now is better vs even later (I have a 19 month old). I don’t think there’s any right answer. I think it genuinely comes down to what you guys know you can handle and where you are in life. And how far you want to put off the inevitable if you do want 2. Lol
I'm in the same boat! Hard to give up the groove we finally got in after our son was born but also want to give him a sibling that will be close in age!
You are just amazing Nick...... Just love the way your cooking.... Lots of love for your parenting.... Very inspiring ans and there is lot more to learn from you
I think that you guys are doing a great job doing what’s best for your family. I love your vlogs and I’m so jealous you guys have a wonderful daycare that you trust and wonderful jobs you’re happy with. Wishing you all the best❤
Not gonna lie, I decided to make banana bread halfway through this video! 😆It reminded me I had some way overripe bananas. I love the realism you both share and the teamwork.
From experience, be prepared that, at that age, they tend to pick up a lot of colds and things and bring them home Toddlers still put hands in mouth a lot and then touch toys and then other kids pick them up. Another option may be to find a sahm that has a couple of toddlers.
After listening to your story, i feel like putting my son to daycare but i am feeling guilty like should I? I have a full time hectic job and a business. Though i work from home, things get so overwhelming on most days. I have deadlines to meet and my 2 yr old continuously asking for attention. We have a nanny too but is of not much help. My son hates her and i end up doing most of the things. So the end result is neither am i able to do work properly, neither being in the moment with my son. And romance with my husband, that's like some historical thing that happened once upon a time.
Part time or half day daycares can be wonderful options to free up some time without committing to full time daycare (5 days a week). It can be less stressful for the little ones as well, and then you can increase the days or time spent as they get older close to 3 or 4 years old. Not sure where you live, but a lot of daycares offer those options. Home daycares with part time slots are also a great option, since they tend to have less children, so each gets more attention from the providers. Just ensure that they are licenced or follow the local laws and standards. If you choose a childcare centre also check if they follow the local ratio of educators to children. In Canada, the ratio is 1 provider for 5 kids for toddlers. Also look for ones that don’t have a high turnover, because children start forming attachments to the educators and it’s not ideal if they change all the time.
❤you both are amazing people and Sage is adorable. You both are doing great with her and myself working with children and as a mom myself. Child care benefits the children as well the parents. I couldn’t ask for a better job I LOVE teaching and guiding our future and watching them see how their world comes to life through them. My child is 14 year old boy and he is truly my miracle and where ever I worked he was able to be in the building with me and when I come home to him and my husband aka as my best friend it’s the greatest feeling in the world. 💜☺️
That’s so great to hear you talk about sage starting school. Because I’m about to do the same with my 22 months old son. I’m so nervous but I know it’s the best thing I can do for him and he needs it. I just really hope I find the correct daycare / school and I’m happy when I have the tour next week. What age did sage start. Going ? And did she cru the first time ??
I wish your husband and mine could meet up. We're similar and they're similar lol. We are also into real estate and financial independence. Loved this video!
As a parent who also had a baby during the pandemic (July 2020 haaaayyyy), yes to daycare! I’m actually a stay at home parent but oh man. Preschool has been a GAME CHANGER for us and our son!
They mentioned it a long time ago in an old video that they just ddnt feel the need to get married. I dont know how they feel now but that’s what they had mentioned at that time.
@@keylygar31 there was a “ring” in her vision board for last year I think but they’re planners, so they are probably planning the timing and the financials etc. not that they need to be married but I think given her vision board reel that it’s something she wouldn’t mind
@@dorothys3575 lol and if you think going from 0-1 is harder than that’s discouraging for new parents ;) it’s all about perspective. Going from 1-2 is way harder but it’s also the best thing ever. You get to see them become best friends and your heart expands. Doesn’t mean it isn’t harder :)
Wow Nicole, my family has a lot of similarities as yours ❤ our girl is two and just started nursery school, my husband would have answered a lot of these questions the same as Matt, and we just got a cleaner 😂
Also for the mamas who need to hear this...I actually feel there is so much pressure TO put my LO in daycare. I work from home and take my kid to my family business. Yes it's hard but we are not doing daycare rn. People ask me nonstop if she is in daycare or when I'll be taking her. I guess it can be a sensitive subject like breastfeeding and all the other things people have opinions about.
Thank you Nikole & Matt for sharing so candidly. ❤️
So thrilled to hear you talk about daycare! There can be stigma behind it, but it’s also a necessity for so many. My husband and I both work full time. Our lil guy started at an amazing daycare at 6 months old. After 3 months of working and caretaking, I felt so discouraged and distracted. Now that he’s in care, I share your feeling that it is so enriching to pick him up and have both parents be fully present - even if it’s fewer hours of the day, the quality of time has soared ❤
For the longest time I felt ashamed to have help even though for most of Sage's first year it was just Matt and I balancing work with parenting as I didn't have a mat leave. Not only are Matt and I better parents with the help but Sage needs the learning, socializing, etc that daycare brings. She's been thriving since we had her go and its been nice to cherish our evenings and weekends even more.
@@HealthNutNutrition Thank you for sharing this. I have always felt so guilty. We started my daughter at 15 months. Its actually been amazing!
Oh my goodness! This is the video you shared with him that you were pregnant!! Huge congratulations! Looking forward to part 2 😊
I wanted to pause the video to say it’s comforting to hear that it’s normal to feel like you and your partner are “roommates”… 😞
We are trying to navigate that with an almost 6 year old and a 20 month old. And is both working. It’s hard to have the energy to give to another person when you are touched out… but I also remind myself that these moments and days are fleeting and to not forget to take care of yourself and your partner… easier said than done but I recognize that and I feel that is half the battle so… ❤️🙏🏽
I use to feel guilty and embarrassed about it but I think it’s a very normal stage. It’s better to recognize that every day, week, etc is different and your romantic relationship may not always be top priority. It doesn’t mean your love for each other has faded it just changes. I do think it’s important to have dates, make time and communicate.
@@HealthNutNutrition I agree and we are still working on that constantly ❤️
Just wanted to pop in and let you know how much I enjoy your videos. Thank you for being real and honest💗
That was my thought process with having baby #2, so we started trying 1 year postpartum. I’m also 35 (not that it should matter) but felt a bit more urgency to try sooner. I’m due in May & I think 2 will be it for us😊 Honestly though, there’s no right or wrong way of going about it, it’s whatever works best for you & your family- which is a very personal decision.❤
“Only” there from 8:30-4 ? lol that’s like 7.5 hours. I thought you were gonna say she’s only there from like 10:30-12 or something
Thank you for this! Not taking the survival mode moments personally is so important for the parents! My husband and I struggle with this! 😢
It’s hard for sure! I think just having a mental reset at the end of the day is important and not going to bed angry
So happy for Sage, socializing and learning it is so important, I don’t think I’ve heard Matt talk so much it was great, tyfs it was very interesting and informative I know it’s hard to share things on the internet because of so much judgement, you guys are doing a great job in all aspects from what I got out of the video 😀❤️
Would love to see a video on how to get ready for daycare. 😊
Burnout can get in the way of bonding with your child, from someone with an estranged relationship with their mother who worked all the time but close relationship with a father who was able to be around all the time. Me and my mother are reconnecting, and this isn't meant as judgement at all 💞 I didn't learn about burnout indepth until recently, it's been an eye opener, especially with reducing stress, setting healthy boundaries, and compassion
I have been binge watching some of your old videos with Mr. Matt and been loving them!! Glad to see Matt back in a video!! 👍🏼👍🏼
I don’t think that anyone should be shamed for sending or not sending child to a daycare.Everyone has different life circumstances and different mental capacity.
However I don’t agree with reasons that you guys have mentioned that daycare offers better opportunities than home such as socialising. Babies have no need to have peer interactions until at least they’re 3 most likely 4. Also you mentioned that Sage shared things with others and developmentally babies cannot grasp this idea until they’re 4/5 years old. Also better behaviour comes from the fact that home and parents is most of the time their safe place hence the tantrums and big feelings are not happening in the nursery but left for parents when they come home. Just my thoughts from early child development research
HOLY CRAPPPP i didn't know Matt did financial stuff?!?!!? Yall need to do more videos like this, together!
Really nice to hear both of your perspectives. Thank you so much for sharing 🤍
Thank you for sharing this, it's interesting to have your intake as a couple about those personal topics! ❤
As a fellow mom of a two year old as well I am with Matt on the one after another… I feel like now that we aren’t in full survival mode I am scared to do it again 😅 as crazy as that sounds there is definitely logic there lol Sleep deprivation is SO HARD.
Absolutely love your videos!❤ thank you both for being so open and honest 🙏 you are both a total inspiration! Wishing you and your beautiful family joy 🥰
Thank you so much Sarah 🤍
Love that you said that a lot of it came naturally to you or felt natural (even with challenging days). I felt the same but sometimes(oddly enough) it feels like it’s not ok to say that. As though it’s only supposed to feel difficult and unnatural.
I hoped people didn’t take that the wrong way so I’m glad you received it the way I intended. Yes a lot of things can be hard but there were also a lot that came naturally and without challenges. Such as breastfeeding has been a great journey and I think it’s important to share positive sides as well.
THANK YOU for making this video! I related to so much of what you guys said. Parenting is rough sometimes, and it's nice to know we're not alone💖
Loved hearing Mat talk so much. Great video. I had mine back to back because of the reasons Mat was saying... you get into and out of stages together. I don't know that there is a right time to add siblings... the universe sometimes decides for you!
Coincidentally i also made banana bread this morning.
Great video. From the moment I had my son, everyone also ask when is number 2 coming. What they dont know is that we can’t 😢 so now I am much more sensitive about asking this to others because for all we know, you guys have been trying. I appreciate the openness and when time comes for you guys to grow your family, it will magical
oh yes its everyones favourite question. Also a lot of people just want one child and it seems that its hard for people to accept.
I also can't have another one and it is kind of funny when people ask if I am going to have another one. I realize it's just a natural inclination at this point for people to ask, nothing personal at all. There are people who judge, but those that do judge are not important at all and have their own issues with following their own desires and not the expectations of society, maybe because how they were raised which formed their biases and keeps them feeling safe and secure idk.
Sage is growing so fast!
Motherhood is damned if you do, damned if you don’t. I got so much slack for sleep training but no one is in my shoes. Motherhood truly taught me to do me and what’s best for my family.
I’m enrolling my kiddos is whatever good preschool type school that accepts 2.5 year olds
25:32 Way to go Matt! So smart in finance/real estate. 🎉 And can definitely agree with baby number two right after the first one. That way their getting raised in the same age group. But it can definitely be challenging. So much to think about. Not as easy as it may sound for some people. 🙋♀️ I had postpartum depression for the first 6 months after my baby. And it was hard.
Nicole: I went for business marketing and then became a RUclipsr 😂😂
You go girl! 👏💪👩🍳📔
hahah very grateful for Matt and thank you lady very happy with my decisions as well
I currently have two kids under 2 (😵💫) and I think it's a matter of intensity. We are having a very intense time now after having a pretty good routine with just 1 baby. If we had waited a little longer between pregnancies it might have been more years but at a less intense level. Either way the second is easier because it's not a guessing game! You'll be pros!
Love this advice and yes totally agree
It’s funny when you two were talking about a 2nd kid because in my head “everything is perfect. We are sleeping. We have a routine” means LETS HAVE ANOTHER NOW! to me. Lol
Just like the lack of extreme stress and unpredictability makes me question if now is better vs even later (I have a 19 month old).
I don’t think there’s any right answer. I think it genuinely comes down to what you guys know you can handle and where you are in life. And how far you want to put off the inevitable if you do want 2. Lol
Yes! I had my kids 3 years apart and the transition was easy. It was easier with 2 kids than one. And they are best friends still at 6 and 9.
Loved the video. I just like to know more about u. What u feel like sharing ofcourse. Thank you! Good job on answering Matt.
I'm in the same boat! Hard to give up the groove we finally got in after our son was born but also want to give him a sibling that will be close in age!
can you please make a video about adjustment to kindergarten and essentials and tips?
You guys are the cutest couple! ❤ also great parents that I really look up to! ( I’m a mom of 2 myself)
You are just amazing Nick...... Just love the way your cooking.... Lots of love for your parenting.... Very inspiring ans and there is lot more to learn from you
Thank you so much you’re so sweet 🥹
I think that you guys are doing a great job doing what’s best for your family. I love your vlogs and I’m so jealous you guys have a wonderful daycare that you trust and wonderful jobs you’re happy with. Wishing you all the best❤
Not gonna lie, I decided to make banana bread halfway through this video! 😆It reminded me I had some way overripe bananas. I love the realism you both share and the teamwork.
honestly this is a great video to bake or cook too there so much to listen too 😉
Love that you spoke about daycare about to put my 21 month old in daycare so a tip video would be amazing
ooh yes I should do a dedicated video, love that!
Definitly do a video on what to pack, lunches etc. My son started at 15 months💕
From experience, be prepared that, at that age, they tend to pick up a lot of colds and things and bring them home
Toddlers still put hands in mouth a lot and then touch toys and then other kids pick them up. Another option may be to find a sahm that has a couple of toddlers.
We live in Skandinavia, and he is 22m now. But yes, definitley had our colds!
Marriage question here too
Two kids seems intimidating but it’s so easy with a 2 & 4 yo now. I actually dread just taking one anywhere because they always play together.
I love watching back on this video now knowing this is the video you told Matt that you are pregnant with baby no 2 😅😊
Love from India 🇮🇳
After listening to your story, i feel like putting my son to daycare but i am feeling guilty like should I? I have a full time hectic job and a business. Though i work from home, things get so overwhelming on most days. I have deadlines to meet and my 2 yr old continuously asking for attention. We have a nanny too but is of not much help. My son hates her and i end up doing most of the things. So the end result is neither am i able to do work properly, neither being in the moment with my son. And romance with my husband, that's like some historical thing that happened once upon a time.
Part time or half day daycares can be wonderful options to free up some time without committing to full time daycare (5 days a week). It can be less stressful for the little ones as well, and then you can increase the days or time spent as they get older close to 3 or 4 years old. Not sure where you live, but a lot of daycares offer those options. Home daycares with part time slots are also a great option, since they tend to have less children, so each gets more attention from the providers. Just ensure that they are licenced or follow the local laws and standards. If you choose a childcare centre also check if they follow the local ratio of educators to children. In Canada, the ratio is 1 provider for 5 kids for toddlers. Also look for ones that don’t have a high turnover, because children start forming attachments to the educators and it’s not ideal if they change all the time.
❤you both are amazing people and Sage is adorable. You both are doing great with her and myself working with children and as a mom myself. Child care benefits the children as well the parents. I couldn’t ask for a better job I LOVE teaching and guiding our future and watching them see how their world comes to life through them. My child is 14 year old boy and he is truly my miracle and where ever I worked he was able to be in the building with me and when I come home to him and my husband aka as my best friend it’s the greatest feeling in the world. 💜☺️
Yeah I have an almost 2 year old and I’m nervous about the slept deprivation for baby #2 ( if my husband decide to have baby #2)
That’s so great to hear you talk about sage starting school. Because I’m about to do the same with my 22 months old son. I’m so nervous but I know it’s the best thing I can do for him and he needs it. I just really hope I find the correct daycare / school and I’m happy when I have the tour next week.
What age did sage start. Going ? And did she cru the first time ??
I wish your husband and mine could meet up. We're similar and they're similar lol. We are also into real estate and financial independence. Loved this video!
I know the feeling when I watch people online and i think "we would be such good friends!" haha. Thank you for the love
Love this video 😍
Matt has HUGE hands!!
I love you guys !❤
Great point May had there about having the second one back to back Hahahhaha never thought about it that way thanks lol
As a parent who also had a baby during the pandemic (July 2020 haaaayyyy), yes to daycare! I’m actually a stay at home parent but oh man. Preschool has been a GAME CHANGER for us and our son!
cant agree with this more!
I hope your marriage is blessed! Let Jesus be first in your lives! He loves y’all! It’s the greatest thing you will ever do!
Would also choose an inhome day care but maybe a mom who has 2 or 3 similar age kids rather than kids from a lot of families
Why are you not married? Just curious.
I keep seeing people refer to Matt as 'husband' and I'm like 'did I miss something?!' 😅
@@gracex592 they are not married that I know of. I’ve asked before but no one answers.
I just want to see her plan a wedding and style dress! Lol
They mentioned it a long time ago in an old video that they just ddnt feel the need to get married. I dont know how they feel now but that’s what they had mentioned at that time.
@@keylygar31 there was a “ring” in her vision board for last year I think but they’re planners, so they are probably planning the timing and the financials etc. not that they need to be married but I think given her vision board reel that it’s something she wouldn’t mind
Wow I never knew you two weren't married! Ok
I will tell you for me it was WAY harder going from 1-2. 0-1 was easy for me ❤
Quite discouraging opinion for parents thinking about a second baby. Sometimes it's better to keep things to yourself ❤
@@dorothys3575 lol and if you think going from 0-1 is harder than that’s discouraging for new parents ;) it’s all about perspective. Going from 1-2 is way harder but it’s also the best thing ever. You get to see them become best friends and your heart expands. Doesn’t mean it isn’t harder :)
I’m just gonna say it, and it’s out of love, love y’all….BUT, Come on Matt, marry her!!!! 😀 man up bub 😜
Wow Nicole, my family has a lot of similarities as yours ❤ our girl is two and just started nursery school, my husband would have answered a lot of these questions the same as Matt, and we just got a cleaner 😂
What would be the ideal age gap for children spacing?
I reckon 3 to 4 good as the older ones can give you more help.
I saw the title and I had to click lol
It’s not often I can drag Matt on my channel these days haha it was fun to have a real chat video
Funny Video Both Of Y'all! ;) ❤❤❤
How old are they?
You need to discipline her. You should be ashamed of sending her to daycare. She should be your number one priority.
Beautiful
Don’t have anymore kids