I would absolutely love to show this video to my so called partner, but he would not be honest. He refuses to be honest and that's what initially prompted me to visit this video. But after listening, I realize that I have wasted the last 8 1/2 years of my life. I will never get that time back and I have absolutely nothing to show for it. I am finally ready to walk away. Thank you.
@@FoundSheep-AN Hi. I left him. We attended one final counseling session where he told the mebthat he was not willing to part with the secret "friend" AKA potential back-up. That was all I needed to finally break ties with that pathetic man. Unfortunately we worked in a band together for many years and I had obligations that needed to be honored but this coming August will be my final gig with the band. After that I will make sure he will never see me again. I'm absolutely, 100% done. Never thought I'd get to thus point, honestly. The pain from finally realizing how much damage he brought to the peaceful world I'd rented for myself before meeting him is just devastating, I won't lie. I'm struggling greatly to regain some normalcy because I've been turned into a different person. Still keeping hope alive that I will be able to get to a point of trusting another man, but what a uphill battle. My life will slowly begin to get better as long as I keep far away from him. ❤️
I'd never heard of the term "emotional affair" till a friend mentioned it to me. I now believe a female friend of mine is having an emotional affair with me or at least signs of it are showing. I'm a single guy and didn't really appreciate how far it has gone. Nothing physical obviously, I respect her too much to do anything like that. She's pregnant also now with her partners baby and it caused a near complete ending of communication between us which really confused me. I think that was her realising she needed to end the friendship. Now our friendship is stronger than ever and growing again. I don't know what to do. Obviously I don't want to hurt her but I enjoy the attention and deep conversations and vibe with her immensely. I don't want to end this.
@@Mamaohhh04 Well since posting it has been discussed as directly as we're both comfortable, there's an understanding that feelings are there but can't be acted upon. I am not stupid, I'm aware she's not completely satisfied at home but that's life. She's got a baby on the way and she's made her decision. So we're focusing on being good friends and I made it very clear I have no intentions of trying to cause any issues there with her partner, it's none of my business what she does. I told her I wished things were different but they're not. She basically said in as many words that she found her partner and he's been the best person she was able to find and said she spent a long time thinking she needed someone, anyone and settled for him and alluded to being OK with things "till I met you" but alluding to things and wishing they were different does not change the reality of the situation. I've said to her a number of times I'm glad she's happy with her partner and the baby on the way and not once has she said she is or confirmed it. So she's not happy. Again that's my perception there but I know she's not happy. So, it's a strong friendship then that won't go any further and while I'd like more, that's going to have to be fine. Boundaries have been set and what will be will be. I'm 100% not going to be that guy trying to cause problems and get her to leave her partner. That's not the kind of person I am.
And this is the reason I don’t allow my wife to have male friends. And men quickly find out that they are not welcome in my wife’s circle. Your female friend husband is a weak man, I would have put you in your place at the very beginning, my household is not to be disrespected.
Yes, I won't lie, while your perspective is rather extreme. Her partner is weak. Not married either. If the situation were reversed, I'd have been involved in this. Not at the side lines saying nothing. Not caveman mode though.
People nowadays are so afraid to admit to their own feelings, or admit they picked the wrong partner, so they stick to a flawed relationship where trust and boundaries have been broken anyway, instead of trying to enjoy life with someone they really like and want to be with. Yes, things aren't easy, most of the times there are many things involved, like family, kids, money, peers, but in the end everything, including the affair, is a lie, everyone is betrayed. Instead of going for the truth, people suffer by choosing to play all sort of games in relationships.
I agree! I see a lot of religion & guilt tied in this too... People certainly have to do what makes them truly happy. Even if it means starting over again.
I'm so happy having back my ex fiance back, after bring separated for 3months All thanks to mr Willson whom held me to get back my ex again I will suggest y'all get help from him and it's works within 4days.
I agree, but just own up to your choices. If you're in a wrong relationship, leave. Don't be a coward and cheat, all while having your cake and eat it too. Even if you lose half of your stuff and both your kids. You want to be with Mr soul mate? Okay, go on then. Don't go behind my back and have me provide, all while you're getting the bottom knocked out. By someone else. I'm paying and doing the hard work for someone else to have all the fun? Fk that.
I've recently found your channel by looking for videos regarding emotional invalidation , and I've sort of just kept clicking on your other uploads. They've been very informative and I've learned quite a lot. Your manner of speaking makes it easy for me to process what you mean. I recently subscribed for your vids, thank you very much!
If all of that is going on, the relationship has big problems already, and has for some time...go find someone who would not even want to do any of that...talking runs straight into trust issues for ever on... The counslor must recognize that...right? Things just can not reverse...
I'm so happy having back my ex fiance back, after bring separated for 3months All thanks to mr Willson whom held me to get back my ex again I will suggest y'all get help from him and it's works within 4days.
Sexless marriage for over ten years and after she moved into another bedroom I bought a life like sex doll and now she’s accusing me of cheating on her
She moved into the other room to either sneak her new "friend" naughty pics or is already sexting since you can't see anything. She is projecting on to you. I suggest you really think long and hard as to wether your relationship is worth your sanity?
Man save yourself more sexless years and run... I don't wish anybody life like this... If you know your worth and know you didn't cheat... run, heal and be happy again... You deserve that🤗
my wifr had on, always hiding the phone, i found in one year she had 47,000 texts and 250hrs on the phone. i caught on and followed her one daya nd she drove over to the guys apartment. 30 minutes later they came out holding hands and she gave him a kiss...did they do it in that 30 minutes?
but not on the lips in your culture? like if a married woman kisses her "buddy" guy friend in the lips upon greeting, even when her husband is near!? Is that ok?
Thanks for the Helpful channel, Me and my spouse just made a major move to start fresh In our marriage however I just recently learned by checking his phone records he has been having a 2 year affair. He states this relationship started physical but turned into a friendship can you honestly cheat on your spouse then become friends with this same person who is single?
As a rule of thump you can have deep friendships but nor of the opposite sex to keep it safe if you are heterosexual and if you are homosexuql make sure the friendship shall be of the opposite sex
Can a deep, emotional affair, one that where I'm physically ill if I can't be with him. Eventually fade into just being friends? He says his love will never fade but I told him it will and we can be friends. I'm hoping my love for him will fade and while me and my husband go to counseling and it works, that I'll fall back in l9ve with my husband and my other emotional affair partner and I can hang out as friends. Is that possible? And I don't think at this moment that I should disclose my emotional affair in counseling. It will hurt my husband to much I think. I just want the counselor to tell my husband where he went wrong, fix that, and I can fall back in love with him. And my AP and I can just be friends. Any help please.
It will not work because you have two strong a feelings for the outside friend. I suppose the only way it is possible is if you truly left and had no contact for several years. But you would definitely have to keep boundaries
You want your husband to take all the blame? What you’re doing is wrong and if u want it to work and have honesty and openness you need to cut ties with that friend.
I would absolutely love to show this video to my so called partner, but he would not be honest. He refuses to be honest and that's what initially prompted me to visit this video. But after listening, I realize that I have wasted the last 8 1/2 years of my life.
I will never get that time back and I have absolutely nothing to show for it.
I am finally ready to walk away.
Thank you.
What happened?
@@FoundSheep-AN Hi.
I left him. We attended one final counseling session where he told the mebthat he was not willing to part with the secret "friend" AKA potential back-up. That was all I needed to finally break ties with that pathetic man.
Unfortunately we worked in a band together for many years and I had obligations that needed to be honored but this coming August will be my final gig with the band. After that I will make sure he will never see me again. I'm absolutely, 100% done. Never thought I'd get to thus point, honestly. The pain from finally realizing how much damage he brought to the peaceful world I'd rented for myself before meeting him is just devastating, I won't lie. I'm struggling greatly to regain some normalcy because I've been turned into a different person. Still keeping hope alive that I will be able to get to a point of trusting another man, but what a uphill battle. My life will slowly begin to get better as long as I keep far away from him.
❤️
@@she_sings_delightful_things forget about the men for now… Concentrate on yourself❤
I'd never heard of the term "emotional affair" till a friend mentioned it to me. I now believe a female friend of mine is having an emotional affair with me or at least signs of it are showing. I'm a single guy and didn't really appreciate how far it has gone. Nothing physical obviously, I respect her too much to do anything like that.
She's pregnant also now with her partners baby and it caused a near complete ending of communication between us which really confused me. I think that was her realising she needed to end the friendship. Now our friendship is stronger than ever and growing again. I don't know what to do. Obviously I don't want to hurt her but I enjoy the attention and deep conversations and vibe with her immensely. I don't want to end this.
She has a partner u need to have a conversation about that. It’s deceitful if it goes on like this. Not fair to the partner
@@Mamaohhh04 Well since posting it has been discussed as directly as we're both comfortable, there's an understanding that feelings are there but can't be acted upon. I am not stupid, I'm aware she's not completely satisfied at home but that's life. She's got a baby on the way and she's made her decision. So we're focusing on being good friends and I made it very clear I have no intentions of trying to cause any issues there with her partner, it's none of my business what she does. I told her I wished things were different but they're not. She basically said in as many words that she found her partner and he's been the best person she was able to find and said she spent a long time thinking she needed someone, anyone and settled for him and alluded to being OK with things "till I met you" but alluding to things and wishing they were different does not change the reality of the situation.
I've said to her a number of times I'm glad she's happy with her partner and the baby on the way and not once has she said she is or confirmed it. So she's not happy. Again that's my perception there but I know she's not happy.
So, it's a strong friendship then that won't go any further and while I'd like more, that's going to have to be fine. Boundaries have been set and what will be will be. I'm 100% not going to be that guy trying to cause problems and get her to leave her partner. That's not the kind of person I am.
And this is the reason I don’t allow my wife to have male friends. And men quickly find out that they are not welcome in my wife’s circle. Your female friend husband is a weak man, I would have put you in your place at the very beginning, my household is not to be disrespected.
Yes, I won't lie, while your perspective is rather extreme. Her partner is weak.
Not married either.
If the situation were reversed, I'd have been involved in this. Not at the side lines saying nothing. Not caveman mode though.
People nowadays are so afraid to admit to their own feelings, or admit they picked the wrong partner, so they stick to a flawed relationship where trust and boundaries have been broken anyway, instead of trying to enjoy life with someone they really like and want to be with. Yes, things aren't easy, most of the times there are many things involved, like family, kids, money, peers, but in the end everything, including the affair, is a lie, everyone is betrayed. Instead of going for the truth, people suffer by choosing to play all sort of games in relationships.
I agree! I see a lot of religion & guilt tied in this too...
People certainly have to do what makes them truly happy. Even if it means starting over again.
I'm so happy having back my ex fiance back, after bring separated for 3months All thanks to mr Willson whom held me to get back my ex again I will suggest y'all get help from him and it's works within 4days.
I was in the same difficulties before he helped me few days ago.He will definitely help you he have solutions to all problem... 🏃♂🏃♂🏃♂
I agree, but just own up to your choices. If you're in a wrong relationship, leave. Don't be a coward and cheat, all while having your cake and eat it too. Even if you lose half of your stuff and both your kids. You want to be with Mr soul mate? Okay, go on then. Don't go behind my back and have me provide, all while you're getting the bottom knocked out. By someone else. I'm paying and doing the hard work for someone else to have all the fun? Fk that.
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more painful the guy knows she’s with someone, he knows he got her already!
Excellent clarifications! This video is a true life saver!
Brilliant video👏 thank you for all the information
If all of that is going on, the relationship has big problems already, and has for some time...go find someone who would not even want to do any of that...talking runs straight into trust issues for ever on... The counslor must recognize that...right?
Things just can not reverse...
I'm so happy having back my ex fiance back, after bring separated for 3months All thanks to mr Willson whom held me to get back my ex again I will suggest y'all get help from him and it's works within 4days.
I was in the same difficulties before he helped me few days ago.He will definitely help you he have solutions to all problem... 🏃♂🏃♂🏃♂
Is it possible for woman who is involved in emotional cheating to change
Sexless marriage for over ten years and after she moved into another bedroom I bought a life like sex doll and now she’s accusing me of cheating on her
She moved into the other room to either sneak her new "friend" naughty pics or is already sexting since you can't see anything.
She is projecting on to you.
I suggest you really think long and hard as to wether your relationship is worth your sanity?
@@devintompkins9626 I think you’re right she’s had a history of multiple men in her life and she had three kids when I met her
Man save yourself more sexless years and run... I don't wish anybody life like this... If you know your worth and know you didn't cheat... run, heal and be happy again... You deserve that🤗
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my wifr had on, always hiding the phone, i found in one year she had 47,000 texts and 250hrs on the phone. i caught on and followed her one daya nd she drove over to the guys apartment. 30 minutes later they came out holding hands and she gave him a kiss...did they do it in that 30 minutes?
The kiss on a cheek is an important one for me and my culture is normal but for other non latin cultures it can really be an issue
but not on the lips in your culture? like if a married woman kisses her "buddy" guy friend in the lips upon greeting, even when her husband is near!? Is that ok?
Thanks for the Helpful channel, Me and my spouse just made a major move to start fresh In our marriage however I just recently learned by checking his phone records he has been having a 2 year affair. He states this relationship started physical but turned into a friendship can you honestly cheat on your spouse then become friends with this same person who is single?
He truly thinks you are an idiot!
OMG... Run
There is no difference
Western law on friendship and relationship
I sent this to my husband, I will update what he says!
So?
and what is he saying ???
He won’t want to watch this trust me
As a rule of thump you can have deep friendships but nor of the opposite sex to keep it safe if you are heterosexual and if you are homosexuql make sure the friendship shall be of the opposite sex
Nah, you're just immature
She blocked every thing but can unblock it later
I don't trust any guy. Always a motive..
Childish and egocentric
Sounds like modern women. Are you certain that you are not projecting?
That's an absolutely ridiculous statement...I'm a gentleman who would open the door for you as well as give you my coat if you were cold......
What the hell, bet 90% of people watching this are blokes
Just say that you are a misandrist and be done with it.
None. Same. Wake up.
Can a deep, emotional affair, one that where I'm physically ill if I can't be with him. Eventually fade into just being friends? He says his love will never fade but I told him it will and we can be friends. I'm hoping my love for him will fade and while me and my husband go to counseling and it works, that I'll fall back in l9ve with my husband and my other emotional affair partner and I can hang out as friends. Is that possible? And I don't think at this moment that I should disclose my emotional affair in counseling. It will hurt my husband to much I think. I just want the counselor to tell my husband where he went wrong, fix that, and I can fall back in love with him. And my AP and I can just be friends. Any help please.
This will never work. You need to cut the cord and THEN you can start falling back in love with your husband.
It will not work because you have two strong a feelings for the outside friend. I suppose the only way it is possible is if you truly left and had no contact for several years. But you would definitely have to keep boundaries
You want your husband to take all the blame? What you’re doing is wrong and if u want it to work and have honesty and openness you need to cut ties with that friend.